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I Am a Husband and Father of 3

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    The Father ...

    i need to realize my children are not oblivious to these happening of the last 2 weeks. although they may not know what is going on they definatly are aware of something. it is tremendously difficult to maintain a dad persona while feeling like your wife is finished with this...
    grogorthox grogorthox 31-35, M 1 Response Feb 21, 2010

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    What Next ?

    it is a day to day passing of time here. once again, as long as i remain silent about the nature of our relationship all goes quietly. right now, i feel for the sake of the boys i need to remain silent for a bit. i do not know how long i will be able to maintain this patience...
    grogorthox grogorthox 31-35, M 2 Responses Feb 25, 2010

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    Patience Is A Virtue

    this morning was not very good. i decided to once again against better judgement let her know how i am feeling. this only induces anger now. no compassion no empathy, only anger. there is no way to understand how loyalty and commitment can be thrown out so fast. it is like the...
    grogorthox grogorthox 31-35, M 1 Response Feb 23, 2010

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    Each Day Is A Milestone

    today was actually pleasant. although i tortured myself with thought all day while my wife was at work, when she arrived home we actually were able to communicate on a human level. i am learning to deal with this new situation and am hoping it will pass soon and things may...
    grogorthox grogorthox 31-35, M Feb 22, 2010

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    Too Much All At Once

    16 years and now i am being told it was all pretend. just a foolish attempt to be the wife i always wanted. now there is zero intimacy and almost no eye contact. she says i do not want her. she says i want something she cannot be anymore. i do not understand this, i have only...
    grogorthox grogorthox 31-35, M Feb 20, 2010

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    Anger ?

    all i get now is anger from her. there is no consolation prize at the end of this road, i am afraid. the way it has always been now ticks her off so bad i have to adjust my way of thinking. i have always felt close to her and liked to be close to her. now if i even attempt to...
    grogorthox grogorthox 31-35, M 1 Response Feb 21, 2010

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    It Has Been A Week

    a week has passed since i brought to my wife's attention i thought she was avoiding me. since then it has been true hell here. by Sunday afternoon she had told me there were plans in the works for an apartment with her 20 year old sister, my wife is 34. the discussions became...
    grogorthox grogorthox 31-35, M 2 Responses Feb 12, 2010

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    How Much Longer ?

    my wife of 16 years recently decided to inform me she has been faking our relationship for years. she has cut me off from all physical contact and has said she wants to move out so she may have a "peace place" to retreat to. i am going crazy here waiting for the day she will no...
    grogorthox grogorthox 31-35, M 4 Responses Feb 10, 2010

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    Am I Still A Husband ?

    she has been gone for 18 days now. she moved out after i told her she was torturing me with herself. husband and wife should not live as room mates with zero privilages. i do not play that way i guess. there are just some things i can not tolerate and one of those is for my...
    grogorthox grogorthox 31-35, M 2 Responses Mar 18, 2010

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    48 Hours Later ...

    two full days and i have not seen or talked to her. unbelievable, 16 years and this is the first i have been able to say that. we have always seen and talked to each other at least some everyday. i know not what to say. i miss her. i wish this were not true. i would take her...
    grogorthox grogorthox 31-35, M 2 Responses Mar 3, 2010

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    It Just Gets More Insane...

    today i awoke to the sounds of packing. she started getting her effects together and began to seperate what was her's and mine. there has only ever been " our " stuff. i am still in complete opposition to this move, but she assures me she cannot stay here with me having to talk...
    grogorthox grogorthox 31-35, M 1 Response Feb 27, 2010

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    Close To The End ?

    it has been an incredibly long weekend. too many conversations and to many revelations. it will not be fixed, she says. there is nothing i can say or do to continue as husband and wife. she is convinced we will still get along and be able to hang out, but i really do not see...
    grogorthox grogorthox 31-35, M Mar 1, 2010

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    Not Waiting Anymore...

    tonight happened to be the night. i came home from school, after having a rather pleasant day there, to the realization of my wife and our problem. trying to convinve myself everything would be back to normal upon arrival only brought about the difficult reality of how grim...
    grogorthox grogorthox 31-35, M 4 Responses Mar 2, 2010

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    Revelation ...

    today i found a list of all the things she intends to take with her. i also found two different budgets, one for her and her apartment and one for me and this house we have lived in for 15 years. on top of all that there was also a custody arrangement, handwritten by her, that...
    grogorthox grogorthox 31-35, M 3 Responses Feb 26, 2010

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    March 11 ...

    it has been 11 days since she moved out. the boys and i are trying to adjust to the NEW arrangement. everyday is a battle against all we know as family. her tone and attutude toward this relationship have not changed. she wants to be gone. i have been wrestling with the next...
    grogorthox grogorthox 31-35, M 2 Responses Mar 11, 2010

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    I have Written about my experiance.s with my husband over the last 14 years, It seemed the more we tried to compromise the worse things became. Now its no holds bared in keeping...
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    I miss my husband so much,it's so hard to see him go every Sunday. But every Friday he gets home we get so happy <3 I'm in love with my two boys,my baby and my beloved husband...
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    I feel like Im in a "long distance relationship" with my husband
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    My husband wont stand up to his family when they are rude to me. He gives me the lame excuse that it's hard to stand up to his sister. my response was you took vows with me not...
    notinmydeck notinmydeck 31-35, F 2 Responses 4 hrs ago

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    My husband says he knows I only love him and I do. But he always get jealous when any guy talk to me even if is about anything (all the time is about nothing important). Is he...
    HappyWife16 HappyWife16 18-21, F 4 hrs ago

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    Give Me Back My Children!-In November 1999 I arrived back in the United States after 10 years abroad first in the Army then married. I was back for my father's funeral but I didn't...
    Cherokeebelle Cherokeebelle 41-45, F Apr 11

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    He is a good provider but a mean man. We have a lot of kids and he gets so angry that they come behind him and mess up what he just cleaned. When he gets mad, he has no control. He...
    heavenlyrose118 heavenlyrose118 41-45, F Apr 25

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    I always kiss my Husband goodnight before i fall asleep to show him that i love him,i do the same each morning and before he leaves for his work,then i tell him i love him.He means...
    coastiewife36 coastiewife36 26-30, F 1 Response Apr 19

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    im kind of considering it. but again i love my husband so much. but i just dont wanna cry anymore. plus i dont want donnie not being able to do daddy things with his father...
    AiymaSnikies AiymaSnikies 22-25, F 2 Responses Apr 16

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    My husband is a great provider, loves me and takes care of me as much as I love and take care of him, and lastly he is a wonderful father. He is a veteran and I am very proud of...
    mominoffice mominoffice 26-30, F 3 Responses 3 days ago

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    How i wish someday i will find one or if God permits, my husband will change to be a better and responsible father and partner. For now, i am happy and contented with my only child...
    mas4074 mas4074 36-40, F 1 day ago

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    I'm reeling from my past and how it's affected my present and destroyed my future. I was a horrible person and partied it up for so long. Then I just decided to change. I didn't go...
    CatTH63 CatTH63 22-25, F Apr 16

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    Maybe you guys can help me sort out what's happening with my family. I'm not really sure if my father is narcissistic, or if he has some other problem, but I know that he...
    Cocoona Cocoona 22-25, F a week ago

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    We've been married for fewer than 5 years and don't sleep in the same bed nor share the same blanket. He is always downstairs watching TV all day and night. Today his elderly...
    jennytressler jennytressler 41-45 3 days ago

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    Never Have And Never Will-Ask my mother to describe me and she will say only good things like loving,sweet, smart, funny,handsome,respectful, never gave me any trouble. Ask my...
    ShahirAnkara ShahirAnkara 22-25, M Apr 11

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    I got in the habit of reading as a child. My mother read and she would take my brother and I to the library every couple weeks. We'd get books and we'd read them. my mother read...
    chaekowski chaekowski 26-30, M Apr 24

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    My father drank a lot and was physically abusive to my mother and sexually abused my little sis when we were younger and would insult all of us... so me, my mother and sisters...
    CustardGirl CustardGirl 13-15, F Apr 28

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    Let me first say that I and my father don't have a close relationship. He has controlled my whole life ever since I was born and treats me like some slave. This happened a few...
    KatieLynn13 KatieLynn13 18-21, F 6 days ago

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    I thought my father was annoying. He just quickly got on my nerves and he sometimes did it on purpose. My mother was more relaxed. She had a sense of humor but she knows my level...
    ComplicatedGirl18 ComplicatedGirl18 18-21, F 8 Responses Apr 7

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    So I actually so have two people who are basically fathers to me. But neither are my biological father. Basically my mom was knocked up in high school and had me a week before she...
    FurryChickenNuggets FurryChickenNuggets 22-25, M Apr 7

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    I get along with my husband, but something happened yesterday that kind of made me feel bad about maybe giving him less credit than he deserves. I'm 6 months pregnant as of...
    JaxyBaine JaxyBaine 26-30, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    Some search for love and acceptance, others for silver and gold. I found all that and so much more in the outstretched hands of small children and it touched me, made me the single...
    whitepine1 whitepine1 51-55, M 2 Responses Apr 7

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    bad father is an understament. my father abandoned. me when i was 5. i had a horrible father. he is dead to me.
    Ang012685 Ang012685 26-30, F 1 Response Apr 9

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