Post
Experience Project iOS Android Apps | Download EP for your Mobile Device

I Am a Husband and Father of 3

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 12 People

    What Next ?

    it is a day to day passing of time here. once again, as long as i remain silent about the nature of our relationship all goes quietly. right now, i feel for the sake of the boys i need to remain silent for a bit. i do not know how long i will be able to maintain this patience...
    grogorthox grogorthox 31-35, M 2 Responses Feb 25, 2010

    Your Response

    Cancel

    The Father ...

    i need to realize my children are not oblivious to these happening of the last 2 weeks. although they may not know what is going on they definatly are aware of something. it is tremendously difficult to maintain a dad persona while feeling like your wife is finished with this...
    grogorthox grogorthox 31-35, M 1 Response Feb 21, 2010

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Revelation ...

    today i found a list of all the things she intends to take with her. i also found two different budgets, one for her and her apartment and one for me and this house we have lived in for 15 years. on top of all that there was also a custody arrangement, handwritten by her, that...
    grogorthox grogorthox 31-35, M 3 Responses Feb 26, 2010

    Your Response

    Cancel

    It Just Gets More Insane...

    today i awoke to the sounds of packing. she started getting her effects together and began to seperate what was her's and mine. there has only ever been " our " stuff. i am still in complete opposition to this move, but she assures me she cannot stay here with me having to talk...
    grogorthox grogorthox 31-35, M 1 Response Feb 27, 2010

    Your Response

    Cancel

    It Has Been A Week

    a week has passed since i brought to my wife's attention i thought she was avoiding me. since then it has been true hell here. by Sunday afternoon she had told me there were plans in the works for an apartment with her 20 year old sister, my wife is 34. the discussions became...
    grogorthox grogorthox 31-35, M 2 Responses Feb 12, 2010

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Am I Still A Husband ?

    she has been gone for 18 days now. she moved out after i told her she was torturing me with herself. husband and wife should not live as room mates with zero privilages. i do not play that way i guess. there are just some things i can not tolerate and one of those is for my...
    grogorthox grogorthox 31-35, M 2 Responses Mar 18, 2010

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Close To The End ?

    it has been an incredibly long weekend. too many conversations and to many revelations. it will not be fixed, she says. there is nothing i can say or do to continue as husband and wife. she is convinced we will still get along and be able to hang out, but i really do not see...
    grogorthox grogorthox 31-35, M Mar 1, 2010

    Your Response

    Cancel

    March 11 ...

    it has been 11 days since she moved out. the boys and i are trying to adjust to the NEW arrangement. everyday is a battle against all we know as family. her tone and attutude toward this relationship have not changed. she wants to be gone. i have been wrestling with the next...
    grogorthox grogorthox 31-35, M 2 Responses Mar 11, 2010

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Too Much All At Once

    16 years and now i am being told it was all pretend. just a foolish attempt to be the wife i always wanted. now there is zero intimacy and almost no eye contact. she says i do not want her. she says i want something she cannot be anymore. i do not understand this, i have only...
    grogorthox grogorthox 31-35, M Feb 20, 2010

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Anger ?

    all i get now is anger from her. there is no consolation prize at the end of this road, i am afraid. the way it has always been now ticks her off so bad i have to adjust my way of thinking. i have always felt close to her and liked to be close to her. now if i even attempt to...
    grogorthox grogorthox 31-35, M 1 Response Feb 21, 2010

    Your Response

    Cancel

    How Much Longer ?

    my wife of 16 years recently decided to inform me she has been faking our relationship for years. she has cut me off from all physical contact and has said she wants to move out so she may have a "peace place" to retreat to. i am going crazy here waiting for the day she will no...
    grogorthox grogorthox 31-35, M 4 Responses Feb 10, 2010

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Patience Is A Virtue

    this morning was not very good. i decided to once again against better judgement let her know how i am feeling. this only induces anger now. no compassion no empathy, only anger. there is no way to understand how loyalty and commitment can be thrown out so fast. it is like the...
    grogorthox grogorthox 31-35, M 1 Response Feb 23, 2010

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Each Day Is A Milestone

    today was actually pleasant. although i tortured myself with thought all day while my wife was at work, when she arrived home we actually were able to communicate on a human level. i am learning to deal with this new situation and am hoping it will pass soon and things may...
    grogorthox grogorthox 31-35, M Feb 22, 2010

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Not Waiting Anymore...

    tonight happened to be the night. i came home from school, after having a rather pleasant day there, to the realization of my wife and our problem. trying to convinve myself everything would be back to normal upon arrival only brought about the difficult reality of how grim...
    grogorthox grogorthox 31-35, M 4 Responses Mar 2, 2010

    Your Response

    Cancel

    48 Hours Later ...

    two full days and i have not seen or talked to her. unbelievable, 16 years and this is the first i have been able to say that. we have always seen and talked to each other at least some everyday. i know not what to say. i miss her. i wish this were not true. i would take her...
    grogorthox grogorthox 31-35, M 2 Responses Mar 3, 2010

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Related Experiences

    My husbands kids want to eat all day long. I know they are young and growing but every five minutes I hear I want nummies coming from a five yr old daughter and a two yr old little...
    hart1012 hart1012 31-35, M 1 Response 7 hrs ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    Part 1: A good friend of my husband and myself is a avid mountainbiker. A while ago he asked my husband and me to join him on his daily trip. My husband is not keen on cycling but...
    adventure12 adventure12 41-45, F 2 Responses 4 hrs ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    And Never Will Unless It's To Dance On His Grave!- I was in the United States,my (Black) mother's homeland in late 1992 during a time she was not living with her husband of nearly...
    AlphahatesOmega AlphahatesOmega 18-21, M 6 days ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    Had A Chance To-When I was around 15 or 16, about 4 years after I overheard a drunken argument thst revealed the truth, my parents handed over a shoebox containing letters and at...
    AlphahatesOmega AlphahatesOmega 18-21, M 4 days ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    It is more or less an open secret in my family that my mother's husband of 26 years is NOT the biological father of my sister or myself. That honor belongs to her former lover whom...
    AlphahatesOmega AlphahatesOmega 18-21, M Sep 21

    Your Response

    Cancel
    Wow there are other people out there like me. Thank God - I'm not stupid or crazy. I hate this man and yet my heart hurts when I think about walking away after 17 years. But my...
    Cflo Cflo 41-45, F 2 Responses 15 hrs ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    Two Days ago on my Birthday I received several texts from my Father stating that how disappointed he was in my real sister and I and that it was disrespectful of me and my sister...
    tipadee1 tipadee1 46-50, F 2 Responses 5 days ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    The long and short of it, I was married 7 years to my alcoholic husband, divorced from him for 6 years and we recently remarried after he seemed to be clean and sober and dedicated...
    tracylpiatt tracylpiatt 41-45, F 2 Responses Sep 14

    Your Response

    Cancel
    I would like to tell my story and see what you think of it. Been married for 7 years. My husband is an expat living in my country. My father gave us an apartment free to live in so...
    Gretasun Gretasun 36-40, F 3 Responses Sep 17

    Your Response

    Cancel
    I have been having an affair with a man from out of state and now I'm pregnant. My husband found out about the affair and I told him I stopped seeing him but I did not. Now I am...
    nlast321 nlast321 31-35, F 1 Response Sep 22

    Your Response

    Cancel
    Well I wouldn't say hate but, I thought they were really weird alot different from what I am used to I remember walking into his house and noone that past by me ever said hello I...
    pink26 pink26 41-45, F Sep 9

    Your Response

    Cancel
    I have three little kids , I go to school part time , I am stay-at- home mom. He has an addiction to drugs (prescription meds) or women online, **** , prostitutes. He likes the...
    lilyroberts14 lilyroberts14 31-35 Sep 22

    Your Response

    Cancel
    Without Him Who Knows Where I'd Be-Papá has taken care of me from day one, even before my mother decided they were to be reconciled, because my ***** donor was a dead broke...
    AlphahatesOmega AlphahatesOmega 18-21, M 5 days ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    I am an only child to a strong willed and beautiful mother who has endured many hardships throughout her life. Almost from Day 1, my mom has played both parental roles, and with a...
    olinor olinor 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 7

    Your Response

    Cancel
    My mother claims she doesn't know how to find him. She said after I was born she ran into him in the mall. He said "Cute baby" and she told him it was his and he denied it. Then...
    SashaAmazon SashaAmazon 31-35, F Sep 13

    Your Response

    Cancel
    Not that i want a relationship with the piece of Sh1t ...but i really wish i could have a father...Any kind of figure that is like a father to me...I have always been without a...
    EmoNekoNiki EmoNekoNiki 18-21, F Sep 23

    Your Response

    Cancel
    I really try to not ber over emotional and try to see things from the big picture. My finace and me have been together for almost 4 1/2 years, and living together for aprox. three...
    HeatherM1988 HeatherM1988 26-30, F 1 day ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    I seriously need a father figure in my life. It's a void that has been in my heart for a very long time, and I seriously can't take the pain. I've lived my entire life up to this...
    GrandGizzard GrandGizzard 18-21, M 4 days ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    He is my teacher and I don't think he knows I look up to him in this way, but some other teachers know and the counselor. I do have a biological father living- but he left when I...
    LittleBlackSubmarine LittleBlackSubmarine 16-17, M 2 days ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    I have never been terribly close with my father, though it probably doesn't help that even my earliest memories I have are bad ones. When I was very very young, maybe three, my...
    DemonFeyLove DemonFeyLove 18-21, F Sep 4

    Your Response

    Cancel
    My father's friend lives apart from his wife and his children. He criticises him much for that, that he doesn't appreciate his family. My dad also says that his friend has to have...
    sandcaip sandcaip 13-15, M Sep 14

    Your Response

    Cancel
    Last night, I got home from work and had picked up a weekly publication for job seekers, which quite often (but not always) includes an article relevant to the needs of those...
    Dreamboy12 Dreamboy12 56-60, M Sep 19

    Your Response

    Cancel
    ...but my father is a coward. He made mistakes as we all do, but instead of trying his best to protect his own from these mistakes, he blamed the very ones that loved him. He has...
    PricelessLegacy PricelessLegacy 31-35, F Sep 7

    Your Response

    Cancel
    I am lucky to have a father who knows how to be a father. He worked all his life to provide for us. He paid for our education, food and needs. My father made everything to make...
    pinklipstick pinklipstick 31-35, F Sep 13

    Your Response

    Cancel
    I do because my father decidedly ISN'T, nor ever will be. In fact, if I ever adopt kids, they will never, ever be allowed to be alone with him. If my mom wants to see her grandkids...
    notthis78 notthis78 36-40, F 1 Response Sep 14

    Your Response

    Cancel
    i've always been angry how my father raised me and i found it very hard to forgive him and our relationship has never been that good, but when i think about it now .. the way he...
    antoneli antoneli 18-21, M 1 Response Sep 15

    Your Response

    Cancel
    I have always wanted to be a father since I was a child. My father was very abusive and made sure that we always doubted ourselves and our worth to the point of attempted suicide...
    shadowpaw88 shadowpaw88 26-30, M 1 Response 6 days ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    My husband booked a room to take me on a sex filled romantic getaway. When we arrived at the lodge it was really nice and very quiet. No one around. After we checked in we headed...
    glittergirl19 glittergirl19 36-40, F 3 Responses Sep 21

    Your Response

    Cancel
    He was never really in my life and now that we live closer to each other, whenever we hang out it's incredibly awkward. We don't really say much. I try to ask him questions about...
    lookingtovent lookingtovent 18-21, F 3 Responses Sep 5

    Your Response

    Cancel
    I Lost my father 7 month ago, I still feel that Life is Not the same as before, I lost the person who loves me the most in this earth, he was always talking care for me, advising...
    chakibmhiri chakibmhiri 31-35, M 2 Responses Sep 14

    Your Response

    Cancel
    I don't have a mother. I haven't spoken to my mother in years. She's a heroin addict who, no matter what, never seems to get better. I just recently found out that my dad is no...
    amychristineee amychristineee 16-17, F Sep 16

    Your Response

    Cancel
    A few years ago my dad celebrated his 80th birthday. It was a very moving experience and it has made a lasting memory, a cherished memory. Beyond meeting relatives, that I havent...
    Soniador1963 Soniador1963 46-50, M 2 Responses Sep 17

    Your Response

    Cancel
    Society tends to talk about, acknowledge and admire mothers as they are totally awesome (!!) but what about the dads? I don't think we acknowledge them enough. There are many good...
    ThisIsMe83 ThisIsMe83 31-35, F 3 Responses Sep 20

    Your Response

    Cancel
    I wish I could run away and