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I Am a Husband and Father of 3

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    Anger ?

    all i get now is anger from her. there is no consolation prize at the end of this road, i am afraid. the way it has always been now ticks her off so bad i have to adjust my way of thinking. i have always felt close to her and liked to be close to her. now if i even attempt to...
    grogorthox grogorthox 31-35, M 1 Response Feb 21, 2010

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    It Has Been A Week

    a week has passed since i brought to my wife's attention i thought she was avoiding me. since then it has been true hell here. by Sunday afternoon she had told me there were plans in the works for an apartment with her 20 year old sister, my wife is 34. the discussions became...
    grogorthox grogorthox 31-35, M 2 Responses Feb 12, 2010

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    Revelation ...

    today i found a list of all the things she intends to take with her. i also found two different budgets, one for her and her apartment and one for me and this house we have lived in for 15 years. on top of all that there was also a custody arrangement, handwritten by her, that...
    grogorthox grogorthox 31-35, M 3 Responses Feb 26, 2010

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    Am I Still A Husband ?

    she has been gone for 18 days now. she moved out after i told her she was torturing me with herself. husband and wife should not live as room mates with zero privilages. i do not play that way i guess. there are just some things i can not tolerate and one of those is for my...
    grogorthox grogorthox 31-35, M 2 Responses Mar 18, 2010

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    How Much Longer ?

    my wife of 16 years recently decided to inform me she has been faking our relationship for years. she has cut me off from all physical contact and has said she wants to move out so she may have a "peace place" to retreat to. i am going crazy here waiting for the day she will no...
    grogorthox grogorthox 31-35, M 4 Responses Feb 10, 2010

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    Close To The End ?

    it has been an incredibly long weekend. too many conversations and to many revelations. it will not be fixed, she says. there is nothing i can say or do to continue as husband and wife. she is convinced we will still get along and be able to hang out, but i really do not see...
    grogorthox grogorthox 31-35, M Mar 1, 2010

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    What Next ?

    it is a day to day passing of time here. once again, as long as i remain silent about the nature of our relationship all goes quietly. right now, i feel for the sake of the boys i need to remain silent for a bit. i do not know how long i will be able to maintain this patience...
    grogorthox grogorthox 31-35, M 2 Responses Feb 25, 2010

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    48 Hours Later ...

    two full days and i have not seen or talked to her. unbelievable, 16 years and this is the first i have been able to say that. we have always seen and talked to each other at least some everyday. i know not what to say. i miss her. i wish this were not true. i would take her...
    grogorthox grogorthox 31-35, M 2 Responses Mar 3, 2010

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    Patience Is A Virtue

    this morning was not very good. i decided to once again against better judgement let her know how i am feeling. this only induces anger now. no compassion no empathy, only anger. there is no way to understand how loyalty and commitment can be thrown out so fast. it is like the...
    grogorthox grogorthox 31-35, M 1 Response Feb 23, 2010

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    Too Much All At Once

    16 years and now i am being told it was all pretend. just a foolish attempt to be the wife i always wanted. now there is zero intimacy and almost no eye contact. she says i do not want her. she says i want something she cannot be anymore. i do not understand this, i have only...
    grogorthox grogorthox 31-35, M Feb 20, 2010

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    Each Day Is A Milestone

    today was actually pleasant. although i tortured myself with thought all day while my wife was at work, when she arrived home we actually were able to communicate on a human level. i am learning to deal with this new situation and am hoping it will pass soon and things may...
    grogorthox grogorthox 31-35, M Feb 22, 2010

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    March 11 ...

    it has been 11 days since she moved out. the boys and i are trying to adjust to the NEW arrangement. everyday is a battle against all we know as family. her tone and attutude toward this relationship have not changed. she wants to be gone. i have been wrestling with the next...
    grogorthox grogorthox 31-35, M 2 Responses Mar 11, 2010

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    Not Waiting Anymore...

    tonight happened to be the night. i came home from school, after having a rather pleasant day there, to the realization of my wife and our problem. trying to convinve myself everything would be back to normal upon arrival only brought about the difficult reality of how grim...
    grogorthox grogorthox 31-35, M 4 Responses Mar 2, 2010

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    It Just Gets More Insane...

    today i awoke to the sounds of packing. she started getting her effects together and began to seperate what was her's and mine. there has only ever been " our " stuff. i am still in complete opposition to this move, but she assures me she cannot stay here with me having to talk...
    grogorthox grogorthox 31-35, M 1 Response Feb 27, 2010

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    The Father ...

    i need to realize my children are not oblivious to these happening of the last 2 weeks. although they may not know what is going on they definatly are aware of something. it is tremendously difficult to maintain a dad persona while feeling like your wife is finished with this...
    grogorthox grogorthox 31-35, M 1 Response Feb 21, 2010

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