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I Am a Husband In a Sexless Marriage

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 4,704 People

    I had a couple of concerned comments from two

    nice people here regarding my last posting. Perhaps I should just do what I really want to do and have a sensual massage every month or so. The girl who did me last time said that most of her customers are older married men whose wives have gotten too old for sex, or have just...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Oct 22

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    CoralineKing CoralineKing 18-21, F 5 Responses Nov 1

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    Sexless Christian Marriage Part 2

    Christian Sexless marriage Part 2 1 Corinthians 7:4-6 King James Version (KJV) 4The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife. 5Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a...
    NMBtruth1 NMBtruth1 41-45, M 6 Responses Jul 1, 2011

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    What am I doing? I have a beautiful wife,

    two lovely boys, a nice home etc, and all I think about is sex ! How stupid and foolish. Wish I could turn this desire right off - chemical castration or something. I've looked into surgical castration but you can't get it in the UK. There is another method which involves a...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Oct 22

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    Yes - one full day without looking at internet

    **** or sexual images on TV. Here goes the second day.
    deleted deleted 26-30 5 Responses Oct 12

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    Why Me..

    I ask myself the same questions over and over again why me. My wife she does not like me looking at her naked. We dont even kiss anymore. WShe does want me to touch her anymore. I miss that so much. It is killing our marriage.
    apittsburghguy apittsburghguy 36-40, M 23 Responses Aug 23, 2009

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    I Fear For The Future Of My Marriage

    Almost every story is the same. A child comes into the picture, the spouses get comfortable, the sex virtually stops. This is mine as well. I give my wife the benefit of the doubt. She is exhausted (for good reason!), she does so much for me and our son, gave up her career for...
    LoveMyWifeForever LoveMyWifeForever 31-35 11 Responses Nov 4, 2013

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    Hi everyone. I have a beautiful wife

    and two lovely teenaged boys, have been married for 20 years now, and am very happy and grateful for my family. There is only one thing that I miss, and that is sex. We haven't done it for 15 years, through nobody's fault, and there is zero chance of ever doing it again. I...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Oct 11

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    I went to confession today

    and will try again. At least I didn't look at any ****, ********** fully or have any physical contact with any women.
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Oct 18

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    I keep thinking about the Chinese girl at the

    massage parlour, and the sex I had with the woman from the dating site, and the sexual contact with another woman from the dating site I had last Thursday.
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Oct 14

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    A Type Of Freedom

    Through 22 years of marriage, including that last nine that were almost completely sexless, I have never "cheated" (although I honestly don't consider it cheating, that's the common term). Until last week that is. The relieve I feel from a single night of sex has led me to do...
    stackscampbell stackscampbell 51-55, M 6 Responses Mar 15, 2013

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    I Love Giving Married Men Sex

    It's such a turn on to sleep with a married man Giving them all the sex that they want Knowing I'm giving them what there wife's don't any more I love A married **** in my tight ***** ;-)
    Ilovetoshag Ilovetoshag 18-21, F 3 Responses Sep 13, 2013

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    I've decided that I'm going to **********

    tonight, but without the ****. Have to release the sexual tension.
    deleted deleted 26-30 Oct 21

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    Ten years ago my wife came to me

    and said she was going thru the change in life and wanted to do it without drugs, so would I please put up with her moodiness. We agree. We also agreed to have sex, but that went from twice a week to twice a month, to twice a year. Now she says she is no longer interested in...
    sadbutmad sadbutmad 56-60, M 10 Responses May 15

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    I've been in a sexless marriage

    for most of 30 years. While it has always bothered me greatly it has gotten much worse the past year. For financial reasons, I can't see getting out. My wife will no longer touch me in any way, or respond to a touch. She says medical reasons, I don't believe it (yes, trust...
    beachguy1056 beachguy1056 56-60, M 12 Responses Sep 3

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    Yes I've deleted my dating site account.

    So - no ****, no ************, no dating sites, no sex. For the rest of my life. Mmmmm. It's a tough one, but it can't be more difficult than quitting smoking was for me - I haven't had a cigarette for 6 years now, and I don't miss them at all. Hopefully it will be the same for...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Oct 18

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    Unfortunately, there is always "gray".

    I was in a sexless marriage for years and didn't even really know it, until I finally spoke up and looked up what the condition of my marriage was. Sure enough, when you wife only does it every 10 months out of obligation, never giving any kind of *cough* assistance like bj or...
    FiremanforYou FiremanforYou 31-35, M 6 Responses Jan 29

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    I don't know how much longer i can make it.

    I want to leave but can't bear the thought of not putting my kids to bed at night. I love my wife dearly. In fact, i adore her. She is the object of my desire both emotionally and physically. Soon we will be living in a new house where i will have the option to have my own room...
    98fxstc1 98fxstc1 31-35, M 4 Responses Oct 3

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    Are You A Victim Of Sexual Boredom ??

    In a bid to lead the ideal life, it's rather easy, and a common occurrence, too, for couples to lose focus of the sexual side of their relationship. Sex, which is supposed to be all about fun and spontaneous action, then becomes a tried and tested, and consequently, boring...
    smartlove007 smartlove007 41-45, M 10 Responses Mar 24, 2011

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    From all the sexless marriage stories I've been

    reading over the past year, by far the majority are by husbands not wives. They all state how much they would like to have sex with their wives, but is that really true ? My wife is beautiful, 11 years younger than me, and nice and slim, but if she, after 15 years of no sex...
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Oct 22

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    Day 12 is going well

    so far, apart from the thought that I might give in and chat to the woman I chatted with last night. The idea of flirting with her on webcam, and perhaps even watching her ********** is so tempting.
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Oct 22

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    I would like to be part of a skype support group

    where ladies in a similar relationship and I can meet online and work through our frustrations. If you would be interested in participating please send me a message.
    nick00888 nick00888 51-55, M Oct 21

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    Day 11 - I haven't looked at ****,

    I haven't had physical contact with any women, and I haven't ***********. I did book a non-sexual massage but cancelled, as my real reason for the massage was to experience the sexual excitement of a woman's hands all over my body. I went to the street the masseur's flat is in...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Oct 21

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    The Game Women Can Play That Men Can't

    I'm not sure if I can say more than has already been said other than how pissed off I am.  I have tried my whole life to do the right thing, instead of staying single getting married, putting up with all the excuses why there's no sex and all the other bullshit.  I don't care...
    jb02157 jb02157 46-50, M 11 Responses Mar 1, 2011

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    Almost at the end of day 2 with no internet

    **** / dating sites / sexual images on TV. Off to bed now thankfully. It's almost as difficult as giving up smoking was.
    deleted deleted 26-30 Oct 12

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    I also began to mas----bate last night,

    not looking at **** though, just using my imagination. I will not look at **** as it is the work of the devil - most internet **** is controlled by criminal gangs who abuse women and make them engage in sex scenes.
    deleted deleted 26-30 Oct 16

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    I've been sexless for a couple of decades now.

    Looking back at the various stages I went through and wondering why the desire for sex doesn't just fade away after awhile. At first ************ did the trick but that only lasted a couple of years. The internet had just started up so I found out about cybersex and tried that...
    Elcoman115 Elcoman115 51-55, M Oct 30

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    14 years sexless and I give up.

    I have tried talking, threatening her with divorce and living apart for periods of time. She will not go to counseling with me. It is a control thing with her. She is a classic control freak. With a control freak it is always someone else's fault. Control freaks never...
    Greem Greem 61-65, M 3 Responses Oct 5

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    Hi all. I bought a viberator

    while on holidays from work. And it's been amazing I've literally spent my whole day using it. Not sure what to do when I have to return to work when I have the need to fulfill. My boss and I had a thing before I went on holidays however we ended it quickly. Any ideas ok what I...
    kiara1994 kiara1994 18-21, F 19 Responses Jan 24

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    My Sexless Marriage

    M y wife and I have no sex life. Well not entirely but 3-4 times per year does not count as a sex life to me. I don't think that it counts as a sex life to her either. We have discussed it and she admits that is not healthy but refuses to do anything about it. She claims that...
    nolust nolust 36-40 66 Responses Aug 15, 2008

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    Day 4 without internet ****

    or dating sites is two thirds through now. Feel as if I'm on the verge of going onto a **** site or dating site all the time. Keeping busy does help.
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Oct 14

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    I'm having trouble keeping to my vow - all I

    want to do is look at internet **** and pleasure myself. I'm going for a hard swim this evening so hopefully it will knock me out and remove these urges.
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Oct 13

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    It has been so long since I have been with a

    woman. my wife has no interest in me at all. I am so lonely and just want to be with a woman that will love me.
    budkelly budkelly 41-45, M 3 Responses Oct 14

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    And I'm coming off the dating site today.

    Am tempted to stay on it to chat with one or two women who understand me and I like to chat with, but to do this could lead to more.
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Oct 18

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    I didn't ********** last night,

    but I did exchange sexual words with a woman (also in a sexless marriage) on EP last night. We were just about to video chat when her husband came in so she had to quickly turn it off. I am ashamed and wish I could break this awful cycle of temptation.
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Oct 22

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    I'm a wife in a sexless marriage… Anybody

    mid-thrities out there? I'm fit, attractive and looking…
    scyllas scyllas 36-40, F 12 Responses Dec 29, 2013

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    I wouldn't want to be in a sexless marriage,

    I'd make it a priority to have that alone time with my husband if I was to ever get married, especially with kids. & I sure as Hell wouldn't make it boring & lifeless, I feel the older you get with a person the closer you become & more open which should only bring positive...
    alizex7x alizex7x 18-21, F 7 Responses Apr 1

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    This is the first time i have posted an

    experience after reading stories and chatting to others about our issues over a number of years Please excuse my way of writing this as its not a novel but written from the heart. I will start from 2 days ago and work my way backwards . 2 days ago i was answering a question...
    john818 john818 46-50, M 4 Responses Oct 3

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    It's no good - I'm slipping.

    Emailed the woman who wants to have sex with me to say that I would like to. Hopefully I can stop myself actually meeting her for sex. But I need it so much.
    deleted deleted 26-30 Oct 16

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    This is all a bit weird telling strangers about

    my intimate secrets but here goes. I love my wife but she has not had sex with me for nearly 10 years. She just has no interest in it and says she is too old (she's not). I have tried everything I can think off from romantic nights out to weekends away. Last night I tried doing...
    zak24 zak24 56-60, M 1 Response Oct 25

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    I see you laying there soft sensuous beautiful

    I slide in bed next to you and whisper I love you I gently kiss your shoulder sliding my hand under your shirt and you spas out and say leave me alone. Rejection hurt pain loneliness will it ever end
    october004 october004 31-35, M 3 Responses Nov 2

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    I feel like my life is a complete mess

    and I have no one that I can talk to about it. I have been married for over two decades and until recently I was happy. My wife and I have a son who I love more than words can describe. Our marriage has been good except for our sex life which has become almost non-existent...
    VidTomsic VidTomsic 41-45, M 3 Responses Mar 7

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    Last night I met a women in a bar I don't know

    how but some how we got talking then that's when it started. I live in a sexless marriage for the past year now, I've had offers from women when I go out into my town on a night out but last night I was away and so was she! She too lives in a sexless marriage she has 2 children...
    andy8669 andy8669 26-30, M 2 Responses Dec 1, 2013

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    It's Not Just About The Sex....

    I don't think its about the sex anymore. Not that our sex life has improved dramatically or anything, it really hasn't. It is top of mind in our relationship but that hasn't equated into any lasting change...in our case it only changes for a week or so and then it runs out of...
    TTBM TTBM 31-35, M 7 Responses Apr 14, 2012

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    Just so frustrating fighting a loosing battle

    with a partner who won't talk, won't answer and won't commit, just keeps you hanging on with the same promises she's made before, promises you know she'll never keep. You know its just delaying tactics but you want to believe in spit of the truth you know just keep holding on...
    1RedKing 1RedKing 41-45, M 5 Responses Apr 21

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    One Handed Man Looking For More

    I have been in a sexless marriage for years, no passion, no cuddling no nothing. My wife tolerates me. If there is any touching it is me doing the touching. I turn in the bed to just snuggle, just touch the warmth of her body, which misewell be like the ice queen, it is not...
    flirtwithme flirtwithme 46-50, M 34 Responses Mar 7, 2009

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    Same Story

    I live for my kids because my wife treats me like.. Well I don't even know. I am trapped in a sexless marriage and trapped good. I make a good wage, and with kids, there is no way to extricate myself. I love my kids so much it hurts when I think about them in a situation like...
    RedVancouver RedVancouver 36-40, M 9 Responses Sep 18, 2013

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    I'm the Daughter That Saw Her Parents Grow Apart From a Sexless Marriage

    Growning up as a kid was great! I had a lot of love and saw a lot of love in my home. My dad worked all the time, up to 3 jobs at any given time, but always 2. He was a mechanic and a Banjo Man. Mom was a stay at home mom with 4 kids by her side and she was excellent at it...
    SilverMoon58 SilverMoon58 46-50, F 22 Responses Aug 29, 2009

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    Welcome to Hell!

    If you're a man who wants to see his kids everyday, but you live in a sexless marriage with a gorgeous woman who you used to have regular amazing sex with... is there really anything closer to hell on earth? You get divorced she gets the house, the kids, and you get... screwed...
    Shoreboy Shoreboy 41-45, M 82 Responses Jun 18, 2009

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    Day 5 over. I looked briefly at a massage

    parlour advert on the internet. Have been wanting a woman's body / touch all day. Lots of exercise helped though. Off to bed now.
    deleted deleted 26-30 Oct 15

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    I love my wife and I know she is my soulmate.

    She's a wonderful wife, mother, friend, and partner in my life; of course less the sex. I can say that she made me a better man, more responsible, and more driven. The question I constantly ask myself: Should I let my need for affection, intimacy, or sex make me bitter? I...
    TheWorks TheWorks 36-40, M 4 Responses Apr 19

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