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I Am a Husband In a Sexless Marriage

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 4,687 People

    My wife and me, we have sex like

    once in a Quarter, if it works out. I provide for her comfort and luxury. I don't know why these women have to feel that they don't have to contribute in a marriage, and that the husband has to be present at their beck and call. My wife's a pretty woman: curvy and busty. But...
    bluegreensalad bluegreensalad 41-45 59 mins ago

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    I also began to mas----bate last night,

    not looking at **** though, just using my imagination. I will not look at **** as it is the work of the devil - most internet **** is controlled by criminal gangs who abuse women and make them engage in sex scenes.
    deleted deleted 26-30 Oct 16, 2014

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    Why Me..

    I ask myself the same questions over and over again why me. My wife she does not like me looking at her naked. We dont even kiss anymore. WShe does want me to touch her anymore. I miss that so much. It is killing our marriage.
    apittsburghguy apittsburghguy 36-40, M 23 Responses Aug 23, 2009

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    I'm a wife in a sexless marriage… Anybody

    mid-thrities out there? I'm fit, attractive and looking…
    scyllas scyllas 36-40, F 10 Responses Dec 29, 2013

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    I went to confession today

    and will try again. At least I didn't look at any ****, ********** fully or have any physical contact with any women.
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Oct 18, 2014

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    Day 4 without internet ****

    or dating sites is two thirds through now. Feel as if I'm on the verge of going onto a **** site or dating site all the time. Keeping busy does help.
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Oct 14, 2014

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    A Type Of Freedom

    Through 22 years of marriage, including that last nine that were almost completely sexless, I have never "cheated" (although I honestly don't consider it cheating, that's the common term). Until last week that is. The relieve I feel from a single night of sex has led me to do...
    stackscampbell stackscampbell 51-55, M 6 Responses Mar 15, 2013

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    ohya1613 ohya1613 18-21 1 Response Dec 4, 2014

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    Yesterday I had a good heart-to-heart,

    face-to-face discussion with my wife about our s_x life. I explained that I can't keep facing her rejection (the emotional roller coaster caused me to get angry or upset and that threatened our happiness) so I was withdrawing entirely from that part of our relationship -- I won...
    oneinawillian oneinawillian 41-45, M 11 Responses Aug 29, 2014

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    Just so frustrating fighting a loosing battle

    with a partner who won't talk, won't answer and won't commit, just keeps you hanging on with the same promises she's made before, promises you know she'll never keep. You know its just delaying tactics but you want to believe in spit of the truth you know just keep holding on...
    1RedKing 1RedKing 41-45, M 5 Responses Apr 21, 2014

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    Day 11 - I haven't looked at ****,

    I haven't had physical contact with any women, and I haven't ***********. I did book a non-sexual massage but cancelled, as my real reason for the massage was to experience the sexual excitement of a woman's hands all over my body. I went to the street the masseur's flat is in...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Oct 21, 2014

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    Hi all. I bought a viberator

    while on holidays from work. And it's been amazing I've literally spent my whole day using it. Not sure what to do when I have to return to work when I have the need to fulfill. My boss and I had a thing before I went on holidays however we ended it quickly. Any ideas ok what I...
    kiara1994 kiara1994 18-21, F 17 Responses Jan 24, 2014

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    I had a couple of concerned comments from two

    nice people here regarding my last posting. Perhaps I should just do what I really want to do and have a sensual massage every month or so. The girl who did me last time said that most of her customers are older married men whose wives have gotten too old for sex, or have just...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Oct 22, 2014

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    I've been in a sexless marriage

    for most of 30 years. While it has always bothered me greatly it has gotten much worse the past year. For financial reasons, I can't see getting out. My wife will no longer touch me in any way, or respond to a touch. She says medical reasons, I don't believe it (yes, trust...
    beachguy1056 beachguy1056 56-60, M 14 Responses Sep 3, 2014

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    Ok it's day 7 and I've done the following - 1.

    Began to ********** over past sexual experiences but managed to stop myself. 2. Contacted the woman from the dating site I had sexual contact with, but didn't meet her, thankfully. 3. Re-registered on the dating site last night and sent kisses to lots of women in the hope of...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Oct 17, 2014

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    CoralineKing CoralineKing 18-21, F 4 Responses Nov 1, 2014

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    Day 5 over. I looked briefly at a massage

    parlour advert on the internet. Have been wanting a woman's body / touch all day. Lots of exercise helped though. Off to bed now.
    deleted deleted 26-30 Oct 15, 2014

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    I see you laying there soft sensuous beautiful

    I slide in bed next to you and whisper I love you I gently kiss your shoulder sliding my hand under your shirt and you spas out and say leave me alone. Rejection hurt pain loneliness will it ever end
    october004 october004 31-35, M 3 Responses Nov 2, 2014

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    A Sexless Marriage From A Female View...

    So you're in a sexless marriage..now what?? I have found there are more complaints from men being in a sexless marriage than women. Have you ever wondered why? I've read many stories, including those in this group and I find that most are missing some very important aspects of...
    NobodyKnowsWhoIam NobodyKnowsWhoIam 26-30, F 83 Responses Jul 28, 2011

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    This is all a bit weird telling strangers about

    my intimate secrets but here goes. I love my wife but she has not had sex with me for nearly 10 years. She just has no interest in it and says she is too old (she's not). I have tried everything I can think off from romantic nights out to weekends away. Last night I tried doing...
    zak24 zak24 56-60, M 1 Response Oct 25, 2014

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    One Handed Man Looking For More

    I have been in a sexless marriage for years, no passion, no cuddling no nothing. My wife tolerates me. If there is any touching it is me doing the touching. I turn in the bed to just snuggle, just touch the warmth of her body, which misewell be like the ice queen, it is not...
    flirtwithme flirtwithme 46-50, M 34 Responses Mar 7, 2009

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    Are You A Victim Of Sexual Boredom ??

    In a bid to lead the ideal life, it's rather easy, and a common occurrence, too, for couples to lose focus of the sexual side of their relationship. Sex, which is supposed to be all about fun and spontaneous action, then becomes a tried and tested, and consequently, boring...
    smartlove007 smartlove007 41-45, M 10 Responses Mar 24, 2011

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    For all of us whose spouses have used back pain

    as an excuse for no sex, there is hope! University of Waterloo study suggests best positions to spare your spine CBC.ca "In what they believe is the first biomechanical study of its kind, researchers at the University of Waterloo have found that certain positions are better...
    oneinawillian oneinawillian 41-45, M 3 Responses Sep 9, 2014

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    I've decided that I'm going to **********

    tonight, but without the ****. Have to release the sexual tension.
    deleted deleted 26-30 Oct 21, 2014

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    Unfortunately, there is always "gray".

    I was in a sexless marriage for years and didn't even really know it, until I finally spoke up and looked up what the condition of my marriage was. Sure enough, when you wife only does it every 10 months out of obligation, never giving any kind of *cough* assistance like bj or...
    FiremanforYou FiremanforYou 31-35, M 5 Responses Jan 29, 2014

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    It has been so long since I have been with a

    woman. my wife has no interest in me at all. I am so lonely and just want to be with a woman that will love me.
    budkelly budkelly 41-45, M 2 Responses Oct 14, 2014

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    My Sexless Marriage

    M y wife and I have no sex life. Well not entirely but 3-4 times per year does not count as a sex life to me. I don't think that it counts as a sex life to her either. We have discussed it and she admits that is not healthy but refuses to do anything about it. She claims that...
    nolust nolust 36-40 65 Responses Aug 15, 2008

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    I love my wife dearly.

    We are a great match in most things, except when it comes to sex. I'm much more kinky than her, but have learned that she doesn't want to explore much in the way of sexuality. I can live with it, and she brings so much good to my life that I really can't complain, but it's still...
    sinfulfrank sinfulfrank 41-45, M 3 Responses May 1, 2014

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    Same Story

    I live for my kids because my wife treats me like.. Well I don't even know. I am trapped in a sexless marriage and trapped good. I make a good wage, and with kids, there is no way to extricate myself. I love my kids so much it hurts when I think about them in a situation like...
    RedVancouver RedVancouver 36-40, M 9 Responses Sep 18, 2013

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    Last night I met a women in a bar I don't know

    how but some how we got talking then that's when it started. I live in a sexless marriage for the past year now, I've had offers from women when I go out into my town on a night out but last night I was away and so was she! She too lives in a sexless marriage she has 2 children...
    andy8669 andy8669 26-30, M 2 Responses Dec 1, 2013

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    It's no good - I'm slipping.

    Emailed the woman who wants to have sex with me to say that I would like to. Hopefully I can stop myself actually meeting her for sex. But I need it so much.
    deleted deleted 26-30 Oct 16, 2014

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    Yes - one full day without looking at internet

    **** or sexual images on TV. Here goes the second day.
    deleted deleted 26-30 5 Responses Oct 12, 2014

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    I keep thinking about the Chinese girl at the

    massage parlour, and the sex I had with the woman from the dating site, and the sexual contact with another woman from the dating site I had last Thursday.
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Oct 14, 2014

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    14 years sexless and I give up.

    I have tried talking, threatening her with divorce and living apart for periods of time. She will not go to counseling with me. It is a control thing with her. She is a classic control freak. With a control freak it is always someone else's fault. Control freaks never...
    Greem Greem 61-65, M 3 Responses Oct 5, 2014

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    It's Not Just About The Sex....

    I don't think its about the sex anymore. Not that our sex life has improved dramatically or anything, it really hasn't. It is top of mind in our relationship but that hasn't equated into any lasting change...in our case it only changes for a week or so and then it runs out of...
    TTBM TTBM 31-35, M 7 Responses Apr 14, 2012

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    The End Is Near, Direction Unknown.

    I registered for this site last week, found it to be fantastic is a very short time. Found some very intuitive thoughts and stories and some advice. I have tried for a very long time to fix this sexless marriage, to again attain a level of intimacy and to hold a hand, get a hug...
    JackFlirts JackFlirts 51-55, M 13 Responses Mar 20, 2012

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    Ten years ago my wife came to me

    and said she was going thru the change in life and wanted to do it without drugs, so would I please put up with her moodiness. We agree. We also agreed to have sex, but that went from twice a week to twice a month, to twice a year. Now she says she is no longer interested in...
    sadbutmad sadbutmad 56-60, M 11 Responses May 15, 2014

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    Yes I've deleted my dating site account.

    So - no ****, no ************, no dating sites, no sex. For the rest of my life. Mmmmm. It's a tough one, but it can't be more difficult than quitting smoking was for me - I haven't had a cigarette for 6 years now, and I don't miss them at all. Hopefully it will be the same for...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Oct 18, 2014

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    I feel like my life is a complete mess

    and I have no one that I can talk to about it. I have been married for over two decades and until recently I was happy. My wife and I have a son who I love more than words can describe. Our marriage has been good except for our sex life which has become almost non-existent...
    VidTomsic VidTomsic 41-45, M 3 Responses Mar 7, 2014

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    From all the sexless marriage stories I've been

    reading over the past year, by far the majority are by husbands not wives. They all state how much they would like to have sex with their wives, but is that really true ? My wife is beautiful, 11 years younger than me, and nice and slim, but if she, after 15 years of no sex...
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Oct 22, 2014

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    I would like to be part of a skype support group

    where ladies in a similar relationship and I can meet online and work through our frustrations. If you would be interested in participating please send me a message.
    nick00888 nick00888 51-55, M Oct 21, 2014

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    I love my wife and I know she is my soulmate.

    She's a wonderful wife, mother, friend, and partner in my life; of course less the sex. I can say that she made me a better man, more responsible, and more driven. The question I constantly ask myself: Should I let my need for affection, intimacy, or sex make me bitter? I...
    TheWorks TheWorks 36-40, M 4 Responses Apr 19, 2014

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    Almost at the end of day 2 with no internet

    **** / dating sites / sexual images on TV. Off to bed now thankfully. It's almost as difficult as giving up smoking was.
    deleted deleted 26-30 Oct 12, 2014

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    I didn't ********** last night,

    but I did exchange sexual words with a woman (also in a sexless marriage) on EP last night. We were just about to video chat when her husband came in so she had to quickly turn it off. I am ashamed and wish I could break this awful cycle of temptation.
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Oct 22, 2014

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    What am I doing? I have a beautiful wife,

    two lovely boys, a nice home etc, and all I think about is sex ! How stupid and foolish. Wish I could turn this desire right off - chemical castration or something. I've looked into surgical castration but you can't get it in the UK. There is another method which involves a...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Oct 22, 2014

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    I'm having trouble keeping to my vow - all I

    want to do is look at internet **** and pleasure myself. I'm going for a hard swim this evening so hopefully it will knock me out and remove these urges.
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Oct 13, 2014

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