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I Am a Husband In a Sexless Marriage

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 4,695 People

    I would like to be part of a skype support group

    where ladies in a similar relationship and I can meet online and work through our frustrations. If you would be interested in participating please send me a message.
    nick00888 nick00888 51-55, M Oct 21, 2014

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    Welcome to Hell!

    If you're a man who wants to see his kids everyday, but you live in a sexless marriage with a gorgeous woman who you used to have regular amazing sex with... is there really anything closer to hell on earth? You get divorced she gets the house, the kids, and you get... screwed...
    Shoreboy Shoreboy 41-45, M 82 Responses Jun 18, 2009

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    I had a couple of concerned comments from two

    nice people here regarding my last posting. Perhaps I should just do what I really want to do and have a sensual massage every month or so. The girl who did me last time said that most of her customers are older married men whose wives have gotten too old for sex, or have just...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Oct 22, 2014

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    Yes I've deleted my dating site account.

    So - no ****, no ************, no dating sites, no sex. For the rest of my life. Mmmmm. It's a tough one, but it can't be more difficult than quitting smoking was for me - I haven't had a cigarette for 6 years now, and I don't miss them at all. Hopefully it will be the same for...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Oct 18, 2014

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    I see you laying there soft sensuous beautiful

    I slide in bed next to you and whisper I love you I gently kiss your shoulder sliding my hand under your shirt and you spas out and say leave me alone. Rejection hurt pain loneliness will it ever end
    october004 october004 31-35, M 3 Responses Nov 2, 2014

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    It has been so long since I have been with a

    woman. my wife has no interest in me at all. I am so lonely and just want to be with a woman that will love me.
    budkelly budkelly 41-45, M 2 Responses Oct 14, 2014

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    This is all a bit weird telling strangers about

    my intimate secrets but here goes. I love my wife but she has not had sex with me for nearly 10 years. She just has no interest in it and says she is too old (she's not). I have tried everything I can think off from romantic nights out to weekends away. Last night I tried doing...
    zak24 zak24 56-60, M 1 Response Oct 25, 2014

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    I'm a wife in a sexless marriage… Anybody

    mid-thrities out there? I'm fit, attractive and looking…
    scyllas scyllas 36-40, F 11 Responses Dec 29, 2013

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    I'm having trouble keeping to my vow - all I

    want to do is look at internet **** and pleasure myself. I'm going for a hard swim this evening so hopefully it will knock me out and remove these urges.
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Oct 13, 2014

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    14 years sexless and I give up.

    I have tried talking, threatening her with divorce and living apart for periods of time. She will not go to counseling with me. It is a control thing with her. She is a classic control freak. With a control freak it is always someone else's fault. Control freaks never...
    Greem Greem 61-65, M 3 Responses Oct 5, 2014

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    I Love Giving Married Men Sex

    It's such a turn on to sleep with a married man Giving them all the sex that they want Knowing I'm giving them what there wife's don't any more I love A married **** in my tight ***** ;-)
    Ilovetoshag Ilovetoshag 18-21, F 5 Responses Sep 13, 2013

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    The Game Women Can Play That Men Can't

    I'm not sure if I can say more than has already been said other than how pissed off I am.  I have tried my whole life to do the right thing, instead of staying single getting married, putting up with all the excuses why there's no sex and all the other bullshit.  I don't care...
    jb02157 jb02157 46-50, M 12 Responses Mar 1, 2011

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    I also began to mas----bate last night,

    not looking at **** though, just using my imagination. I will not look at **** as it is the work of the devil - most internet **** is controlled by criminal gangs who abuse women and make them engage in sex scenes.
    deleted deleted 26-30 Oct 16, 2014

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    Day 12 is going well

    so far, apart from the thought that I might give in and chat to the woman I chatted with last night. The idea of flirting with her on webcam, and perhaps even watching her ********** is so tempting.
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Oct 22, 2014

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    It's been a year since I last posted.

    I had an online affair with a woman I met on EP. I fell in love with her. My wife found out and I broke it off. I haven't spoken to her in a year, and I miss her. She was in a sexless marriage as well. We clicked in so many ways. Talking to her was the highlight of my day. I've...
    aaw7395 aaw7395 41-45, M 4 Responses Nov 28, 2014

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    CoralineKing CoralineKing 18-21, F 5 Responses Nov 1, 2014

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    Hi everyone. I have a beautiful wife

    and two lovely teenaged boys, have been married for 20 years now, and am very happy and grateful for my family. There is only one thing that I miss, and that is sex. We haven't done it for 15 years, through nobody's fault, and there is zero chance of ever doing it again. I...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Oct 11, 2014

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    This Is Me

    Hi not sure what to write ,,never been much good at writ tying lol but here goes , This is hard for me to write , I am a 53 yr old retired now paramedic due to PTSD , But seem to have that under control .. The job was great but after 33 yrs became hard due to the stress and...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Apr 26, 2013

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    For all of us whose spouses have used back pain

    as an excuse for no sex, there is hope! University of Waterloo study suggests best positions to spare your spine CBC.ca "In what they believe is the first biomechanical study of its kind, researchers at the University of Waterloo have found that certain positions are better...
    oneinawillian oneinawillian 41-45, M 3 Responses Sep 9, 2014

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    Same Story

    I live for my kids because my wife treats me like.. Well I don't even know. I am trapped in a sexless marriage and trapped good. I make a good wage, and with kids, there is no way to extricate myself. I love my kids so much it hurts when I think about them in a situation like...
    RedVancouver RedVancouver 36-40, M 9 Responses Sep 18, 2013

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    Day 11 - I haven't looked at ****,

    I haven't had physical contact with any women, and I haven't ***********. I did book a non-sexual massage but cancelled, as my real reason for the massage was to experience the sexual excitement of a woman's hands all over my body. I went to the street the masseur's flat is in...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Oct 21, 2014

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    One Handed Man Looking For More

    I have been in a sexless marriage for years, no passion, no cuddling no nothing. My wife tolerates me. If there is any touching it is me doing the touching. I turn in the bed to just snuggle, just touch the warmth of her body, which misewell be like the ice queen, it is not...
    flirtwithme flirtwithme 46-50, M 34 Responses Mar 7, 2009

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    I keep thinking about the Chinese girl at the

    massage parlour, and the sex I had with the woman from the dating site, and the sexual contact with another woman from the dating site I had last Thursday.
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Oct 14, 2014

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    I love my wife and I know she is my soulmate.

    She's a wonderful wife, mother, friend, and partner in my life; of course less the sex. I can say that she made me a better man, more responsible, and more driven. The question I constantly ask myself: Should I let my need for affection, intimacy, or sex make me bitter? I...
    TheWorks TheWorks 36-40, M 4 Responses Apr 19, 2014

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    Yesterday I had a good heart-to-heart,

    face-to-face discussion with my wife about our s_x life. I explained that I can't keep facing her rejection (the emotional roller coaster caused me to get angry or upset and that threatened our happiness) so I was withdrawing entirely from that part of our relationship -- I won...
    oneinawillian oneinawillian 41-45, M 11 Responses Aug 29, 2014

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    The End Is Near, Direction Unknown.

    I registered for this site last week, found it to be fantastic is a very short time. Found some very intuitive thoughts and stories and some advice. I have tried for a very long time to fix this sexless marriage, to again attain a level of intimacy and to hold a hand, get a hug...
    JackFlirts JackFlirts 51-55, M 13 Responses Mar 20, 2012

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    Day 5 over. I looked briefly at a massage

    parlour advert on the internet. Have been wanting a woman's body / touch all day. Lots of exercise helped though. Off to bed now.
    deleted deleted 26-30 Oct 15, 2014

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    Day 4 without internet ****

    or dating sites is two thirds through now. Feel as if I'm on the verge of going onto a **** site or dating site all the time. Keeping busy does help.
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Oct 14, 2014

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    It's Not Just About The Sex....

    I don't think its about the sex anymore. Not that our sex life has improved dramatically or anything, it really hasn't. It is top of mind in our relationship but that hasn't equated into any lasting change...in our case it only changes for a week or so and then it runs out of...
    TTBM TTBM 31-35, M 7 Responses Apr 14, 2012

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    Are You A Victim Of Sexual Boredom ??

    In a bid to lead the ideal life, it's rather easy, and a common occurrence, too, for couples to lose focus of the sexual side of their relationship. Sex, which is supposed to be all about fun and spontaneous action, then becomes a tried and tested, and consequently, boring...
    smartlove007 smartlove007 41-45, M 10 Responses Mar 24, 2011

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    Looking back over my time at EP (going back to

    when I was Alex0302) I realized that most of my posts have been pretty depressing. And while life in a sexless marriage is a struggle it doesn’t hurt to reflect on something positive. So I’ve decided to go a different direction today. My hope is that in some small way this...
    aaw7395 aaw7395 41-45, M 1 Response Dec 13, 2014

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    And I'm coming off the dating site today.

    Am tempted to stay on it to chat with one or two women who understand me and I like to chat with, but to do this could lead to more.
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Oct 18, 2014

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    Hi all. I bought a viberator

    while on holidays from work. And it's been amazing I've literally spent my whole day using it. Not sure what to do when I have to return to work when I have the need to fulfill. My boss and I had a thing before I went on holidays however we ended it quickly. Any ideas ok what I...
    kiara1994 kiara1994 18-21, F 18 Responses Jan 24, 2014

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    Almost at the end of day 2 with no internet

    **** / dating sites / sexual images on TV. Off to bed now thankfully. It's almost as difficult as giving up smoking was.
    deleted deleted 26-30 Oct 12, 2014

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    I feel like my life is a complete mess

    and I have no one that I can talk to about it. I have been married for over two decades and until recently I was happy. My wife and I have a son who I love more than words can describe. Our marriage has been good except for our sex life which has become almost non-existent...
    VidTomsic VidTomsic 41-45, M 3 Responses Mar 7, 2014

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    It's no good - I'm slipping.

    Emailed the woman who wants to have sex with me to say that I would like to. Hopefully I can stop myself actually meeting her for sex. But I need it so much.
    deleted deleted 26-30 Oct 16, 2014

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    What am I doing? I have a beautiful wife,

    two lovely boys, a nice home etc, and all I think about is sex ! How stupid and foolish. Wish I could turn this desire right off - chemical castration or something. I've looked into surgical castration but you can't get it in the UK. There is another method which involves a...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Oct 22, 2014

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    Why Me..

    I ask myself the same questions over and over again why me. My wife she does not like me looking at her naked. We dont even kiss anymore. WShe does want me to touch her anymore. I miss that so much. It is killing our marriage.
    apittsburghguy apittsburghguy 36-40, M 23 Responses Aug 23, 2009

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    From all the sexless marriage stories I've been

    reading over the past year, by far the majority are by husbands not wives. They all state how much they would like to have sex with their wives, but is that really true ? My wife is beautiful, 11 years younger than me, and nice and slim, but if she, after 15 years of no sex...
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Oct 22, 2014

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    In bed next to my wife.

    Wide awake on my phone staring at the ceiling. I tried to initiate, which as usual ended in a series of excuses capped off by her snoring. So I'm laying here, on EP, trying to decide whether to head to the bathroom and dial up some p-rntube, head to the couch in protest or...
    aaw7395 aaw7395 41-45, M 6 Responses Dec 6, 2014

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    Unfortunately, there is always "gray".

    I was in a sexless marriage for years and didn't even really know it, until I finally spoke up and looked up what the condition of my marriage was. Sure enough, when you wife only does it every 10 months out of obligation, never giving any kind of *cough* assistance like bj or...
    FiremanforYou FiremanforYou 31-35, M 5 Responses Jan 29, 2014

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    I Fear For The Future Of My Marriage

    Almost every story is the same. A child comes into the picture, the spouses get comfortable, the sex virtually stops. This is mine as well. I give my wife the benefit of the doubt. She is exhausted (for good reason!), she does so much for me and our son, gave up her career for...
    LoveMyWifeForever LoveMyWifeForever 31-35 11 Responses Nov 4, 2013

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    My Sexless Marriage

    M y wife and I have no sex life. Well not entirely but 3-4 times per year does not count as a sex life to me. I don't think that it counts as a sex life to her either. We have discussed it and she admits that is not healthy but refuses to do anything about it. She claims that...
    nolust nolust 36-40 65 Responses Aug 15, 2008

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    A Sexless Marriage From A Female View...

    So you're in a sexless marriage..now what?? I have found there are more complaints from men being in a sexless marriage than women. Have you ever wondered why? I've read many stories, including those in this group and I find that most are missing some very important aspects of...
    NobodyKnowsWhoIam NobodyKnowsWhoIam 26-30, F 83 Responses Jul 28, 2011

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    Sexless Christian Marriage Part 2

    Christian Sexless marriage Part 2 1 Corinthians 7:4-6 King James Version (KJV) 4The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife. 5Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a...
    NMBtruth1 NMBtruth1 41-45, M 6 Responses Jul 1, 2011

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    I didn't ********** last night,

    but I did exchange sexual words with a woman (also in a sexless marriage) on EP last night. We were just about to video chat when her husband came in so she had to quickly turn it off. I am ashamed and wish I could break this awful cycle of temptation.
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Oct 22, 2014

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    Ok it's day 7 and I've done the following - 1.

    Began to ********** over past sexual experiences but managed to stop myself. 2. Contacted the woman from the dating site I had sexual contact with, but didn't meet her, thankfully. 3. Re-registered on the dating site last night and sent kisses to lots of women in the hope of...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Oct 17, 2014