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I Am a Husband In a Sexless Marriage

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    My wife accuses me of treating her like a sex

    doll whenever I push the issue of us not having sex. She says she is always too tired, except those rare occasions when she isn't and then she gets too tired as soon as she reaches ******. I take longer than normal and she is never interested in foreplay of any sort unless it is...
    themyth1981 themyth1981 31-35, M 2 Responses Jul 10

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    budkelly budkelly 41-45, M 1 Response Jun 18

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    I do everything around the house to make life

    easier for her. We both work full time with kids but I feel there's time for sex and she does not. I feel like I have a room mate with kids.
    fire3026 fire3026 41-45, M 4 Responses Aug 25

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    My wife and I love each other

    but we have not been physically intimate in five years. It began when my wife gave birth to our only son. She had preeclampsia and was very ill; our son came at only 28 weeks. He is a happy and healthy five year old now, so no worries there (thankfully!). After the birth, I...
    AshInOakland AshInOakland 41-45, M 4 Responses Aug 13

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    My Sexless Marriage

    M y wife and I have no sex life. Well not entirely but 3-4 times per year does not count as a sex life to me. I don't think that it counts as a sex life to her either. We have discussed it and she admits that is not healthy but refuses to do anything about it. She claims that...
    nolust nolust 36-40 67 Responses Aug 15, 2008

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    I have been denied sex by my wife

    for the past 24 years. I acknowledge that in the beginning I was responsible for most of the problems in the relationship. I was an alcoholic and was just nor there for my wife or children. At one point her other does, we had our last baby and her grandmother died all within a...
    davejgj davejgj 66-70, M 2 Responses Aug 25

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    I wouldn't want to be in a sexless marriage I

    think that even if the relationship included kids I'd make sure I'd have the "alone" time with my man. I wouldn't want it so planed out either .. I'd have sex with him or give him bj's all at random times.
    aaaxaaa aaaxaaa 18-21, F 20 Responses Jun 5

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    A Sexless Marriage From A Female View...

    So you're in a sexless marriage..now what?? I have found there are more complaints from men being in a sexless marriage than women. Have you ever wondered why? I've read many stories, including those in this group and I find that most are missing some very important aspects of...
    NobodyKnowsWhoIam NobodyKnowsWhoIam 26-30, F 88 Responses Jul 28, 2011

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    I've been married over 15 years

    and in the beginning the sex was great but about after three years it just went down hill. I have three children and that is the only reason I stayed in the marriage 15 yrs is a long time I just couldn't leave my baby's. They are old enough now to understand what's going on so...
    bozilla bozilla 36-40, M 4 Responses Jun 10

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    I wouldn't want to be in a sexless marriage,

    I'd make it a priority to have that alone time with my husband if I was to ever get married, especially with kids. & I sure as Hell wouldn't make it boring & lifeless, I feel the older you get with a person the closer you become & more open which should only bring positive...
    alizex7x alizex7x 18-21, F 8 Responses Apr 1

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    Hi I'm a Christian husband in a sexless

    marriage. the problem im running into is my wife has been giving me excuses for years now. She has the same excuses like, tired, headache, stomach ache, later, not now. we have two kids and been married for about 7years, we both work. One of the problems im running is that im...
    qonfused qonfused 31-35, M 3 Responses Aug 6

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    WANTED! - Female for friendship

    and sexual chats. I live in a sex bored marriage even when we do have sex it's dull (and yes I have talked about it before anyone says "have you tried talking to her" gee why didn't I think of that!) I'm sure there are females in the same position wanting some excitement - Apply...
    andy8669 andy8669 26-30, M 2 Responses Jun 22

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    Same Story

    I live for my kids because my wife treats me like.. Well I don't even know. I am trapped in a sexless marriage and trapped good. I make a good wage, and with kids, there is no way to extricate myself. I love my kids so much it hurts when I think about them in a situation like...
    RedVancouver RedVancouver 36-40, M 9 Responses Sep 18, 2013

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    I'm in Panama City Beach this week

    and everything is wonderful except for my wife. She is always so preoccupied with EVERYTHING else, that her and I just can't have a good time. This should be a time to enjoy family AND each other. To me a great vacation certainly should include having some romance with your...
    BoredHusbandGeorgia BoredHusbandGeorgia 51-55, M 1 Response Aug 20

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    Just so frustrating fighting a loosing battle

    with a partner who won't talk, won't answer and won't commit, just keeps you hanging on with the same promises she's made before, promises you know she'll never keep. You know its just delaying tactics but you want to believe in spit of the truth you know just keep holding on...
    1RedKing 1RedKing 41-45, M 5 Responses Apr 21

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    This Is Me

    Hi not sure what to write ,,never been much good at writ tying lol but here goes , This is hard for me to write , I am a 53 yr old retired now paramedic due to PTSD , But seem to have that under control .. The job was great but after 33 yrs became hard due to the stress and...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Apr 26, 2013

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    One Handed Man Looking For More

    I have been in a sexless marriage for years, no passion, no cuddling no nothing. My wife tolerates me. If there is any touching it is me doing the touching. I turn in the bed to just snuggle, just touch the warmth of her body, which misewell be like the ice queen, it is not...
    flirtwithme flirtwithme 46-50, M 34 Responses Mar 7, 2009

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    I love my wife but we haven't had sex

    for nearly two years. Is it wrong that I feel so angry and bitter? She never ever touches me and almost always pulls away whenever I try to initiate even the most basic forms of any kinds of physical intimacy - even holding hands or having a cuddle is totally out of the...
    showspotential showspotential 36-40, M 4 Responses Jun 17

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    This marriage of ours has been teetering on the

    brink of failure for some time now and I am really struggling to cope with the absence of sex. My wife is an alcoholic / pain pill addict who's shame and guilt consumes her days. Although she currently has 90+ days sobriety she has no desire for me at all. I can't hug her, I can...
    007jeep 007jeep 41-45, M 2 Responses Aug 2

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    I Fear For The Future Of My Marriage

    Almost every story is the same. A child comes into the picture, the spouses get comfortable, the sex virtually stops. This is mine as well. I give my wife the benefit of the doubt. She is exhausted (for good reason!), she does so much for me and our son, gave up her career for...
    LoveMyWifeForever LoveMyWifeForever 31-35 11 Responses Nov 4, 2013

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    I love my wife and I know she is my soulmate.

    She's a wonderful wife, mother, friend, and partner in my life; of course less the sex. I can say that she made me a better man, more responsible, and more driven. The question I constantly ask myself: Should I let my need for affection, intimacy, or sex make me bitter? I...
    TheWorks TheWorks 36-40, M 4 Responses Apr 19

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    It Is My Fault

    i like and need attention, I don't need your approval ,just your attention. My wife doesn't get that. I have been waiting 28 years for her to get into her prime.It ain't here yet ,so I guess she won't now.don't remember the last kiss, or the last hug.so I have looked else where...
    bquick bquick 51-55, M 25 Responses Jan 16, 2008

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    Why Me..

    I ask myself the same questions over and over again why me. My wife she does not like me looking at her naked. We dont even kiss anymore. WShe does want me to touch her anymore. I miss that so much. It is killing our marriage.
    apittsburghguy apittsburghguy 36-40, M 25 Responses Aug 23, 2009

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    I've been in a sexless marriage

    for most of 30 years. While it has always bothered me greatly it has gotten much worse the past year. For financial reasons, I can't see getting out. My wife will no longer touch me in any way, or respond to a touch. She says medical reasons, I don't believe it (yes, trust...
    beachguy1056 beachguy1056 56-60, M 6 Responses Sep 3

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    Hi all. I bought a viberator

    while on holidays from work. And it's been amazing I've literally spent my whole day using it. Not sure what to do when I have to return to work when I have the need to fulfill. My boss and I had a thing before I went on holidays however we ended it quickly. Any ideas ok what I...
    kiara1994 kiara1994 18-21, F 19 Responses Jan 24

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    Hi looking for someone to chat to in the same

    position as me. If your interested please pm me
    andy8669 andy8669 26-30, M 2 Responses Aug 24

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    Are there any women here

    who live in Israel ?
    boxersoff4u boxersoff4u 51-55, M 1 Response Jul 15

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    When Your Wife Won't Pay Attention Just Remember I Will (:

    She is old news and I'm young and fun. Don't you wanna come along for the ride (:
    Prettylittlesugarbaby Prettylittlesugarbaby 18-21, F 4 Responses Jul 28, 2012

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    Welcome to Hell!

    If you're a man who wants to see his kids everyday, but you live in a sexless marriage with a gorgeous woman who you used to have regular amazing sex with... is there really anything closer to hell on earth? You get divorced she gets the house, the kids, and you get... screwed...
    Shoreboy Shoreboy 41-45, M 85 Responses Jun 18, 2009

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    Third try, not sure why it is being removed.

    See above, my situation is almost. More mechanical than anything.
    sexlss sexlss 41-45, M 1 Response Jul 11

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    I love my wife to death

    but I have to admit that after 5 years of no intimacy I am ready to give up. I didn't think it was all that important but being wired as a man I have no choice. I am not sure what to do but hang in there.
    powerful1 powerful1 51-55, M 6 Responses Jul 16

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    My name is Ryan, i love in a sexless marrage.

    If you havent guessed I'm gay and been arried for ruffly 5 months now and I have had sex just a gathering of 5 times since Feb 28th 2014. My husband does suffer from many things that prevent him leading a normal life. I feel as for my age I became a "house wife" doing nothing...
    RY0RY RY0RY 18-21, M 3 Responses Jul 2

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    No matter how open and honestly I speak to my

    wife about the lack of any and all intimacy in our relationship she refuses to care to do anything about it. She says she has no desire and I make her feel guilty about not ever having sex. It has been a very rough and trying past 18 monthes with her alcoholism and having an...
    007jeep 007jeep 41-45, M 3 Responses Aug 4

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    The End Is Near, Direction Unknown.

    I registered for this site last week, found it to be fantastic is a very short time. Found some very intuitive thoughts and stories and some advice. I have tried for a very long time to fix this sexless marriage, to again attain a level of intimacy and to hold a hand, get a hug...
    JRD22 JRD22 51-55, M 13 Responses Mar 20, 2012

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    I Too Am A Husband In A Sexless Marriage

     I have been amazed to see the amount of web sites, blogs and entries on this subject – and let me say to everyone, ‘Thank you ‘ for your open-ness, perspective, input and guidance ! It is somewhat re-assuring to see all of this; that others are going...
    usac42 usac42 46-50, M 15 Responses Jan 10, 2010

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    I been marred allmost 20years andi csay the sex

    has all most came to a stop if we do i start most of the time she don't won't to i was out and i met some one and she was flerting so was i and now she won't to go out with me i don't no what to do i may go out and be friends but if i do and she won't more like. a kiss thin what...
    1974sam 1974sam 36-40, M Jun 18

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    The Game Women Can Play That Men Can't

    I'm not sure if I can say more than has already been said other than how pissed off I am.  I have tried my whole life to do the right thing, instead of staying single getting married, putting up with all the excuses why there's no sex and all the other bullshit.  I don't care...
    jb02157 jb02157 46-50, M 11 Responses Mar 1, 2011

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    Are You A Victim Of Sexual Boredom ??

    In a bid to lead the ideal life, it's rather easy, and a common occurrence, too, for couples to lose focus of the sexual side of their relationship. Sex, which is supposed to be all about fun and spontaneous action, then becomes a tried and tested, and consequently, boring...
    smartlove007 smartlove007 41-45, M 10 Responses Mar 24, 2011

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    I love my wife dearly.

    We are a great match in most things, except when it comes to sex. I'm much more kinky than her, but have learned that she doesn't want to explore much in the way of sexuality. I can live with it, and she brings so much good to my life that I really can't complain, but it's still...
    sinfulfrank sinfulfrank 41-45, M 5 Responses May 1

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    Sexless Christian Marriage Part 2

    Christian Sexless marriage Part 2 1 Corinthians 7:4-6 King James Version (KJV) 4The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife. 5Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a...
    NMBtruth1 NMBtruth1 41-45, M 6 Responses Jul 1, 2011

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    Last night I met a women in a bar I don't know

    how but some how we got talking then that's when it started. I live in a sexless marriage for the past year now, I've had offers from women when I go out into my town on a night out but last night I was away and so was she! She too lives in a sexless marriage she has 2 children...
    andy8669 andy8669 26-30, M 2 Responses Dec 1, 2013

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    Ten years ago my wife came to me

    and said she was going thru the change in life and wanted to do it without drugs, so would I please put up with her moodiness. We agree. We also agreed to have sex, but that went from twice a week to twice a month, to twice a year. Now she says she is no longer interested in...
    sadbutmad sadbutmad 56-60, M 11 Responses May 15

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    alreadyfalling alreadyfalling 26-30, M 7 Responses Jul 18

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    As a man in a sexless marriage I want to do ALL

    the things I know I'll regret later.
    1RedKing 1RedKing 41-45, M 5 Responses Jun 7

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    Awww Guys!!

    It breaks this daddy's girls heart all these good guys going to waste x
    ShyBiButterfly ShyBiButterfly 31-35, F 2 Responses Oct 10, 2013

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    Unfortunately, there is always "gray".

    I was in a sexless marriage for years and didn't even really know it, until I finally spoke up and looked up what the condition of my marriage was. Sure enough, when you wife only does it every 10 months out of obligation, never giving any kind of *cough* assistance like bj or...
    FiremanforYou FiremanforYou 31-35, M 6 Responses Jan 29

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    It started over 2 years ago.

    We remained friends but the lake dried up. The sparks gone and now, all that is left is a platonic relation of living together as room mates. We have talked about it and agreed it is just not going to work in bed. Now that energy is all bottled up...very frustrating.
    curiousnycguy curiousnycguy 41-45, M 4 Responses Aug 5

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    We unfortunately are probably not an atypical

    couple, but here's our experience anyway. We met online in 2001, back when it was still a rarity, she was still in school doing her masters (22) and I had been in the workforce already for six years (28). Despite being from two totally different worlds (I'm an IT Consultant...
    HopefulDude HopefulDude 36-40, M 4 Responses Aug 14

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    It's Not Just About The Sex....

    I don't think its about the sex anymore. Not that our sex life has improved dramatically or anything, it really hasn't. It is top of mind in our relationship but that hasn't equated into any lasting change...in our case it only changes for a week or so and then it runs out of...
    TTBM TTBM 31-35, M 7 Responses Apr 14, 2012

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    Can't even kiss my wife!

    Sit down next to my wife, trying to hug and hold her and then move in for a kiss and all she can think of is our daughter walking in on us. Wasn't trying to get naked, just a kiss and I get nothing. Just another excuse, I'm tired of having a roommate instead of a wife. Why do I...
    meme111111 meme111111 36-40, M 17 Responses Jun 7

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    I am in a loveless, sexless marriage with a

    woman I love very much - she will not return the favor...
    Artcoo Artcoo 51-55, M 2 Responses Jun 25

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    Is it wrong to, have a cyber relationship,

    with a likewise lady, no physics just horny chat?
    piddly piddly 51-55, M 13 Responses Sep 2

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    Gents, I read your stories

    and it pains me. I too am one of your wolf pack! 29, 5 years into the marriage and its a struggle. It used to be she was too tired at night, but id get a pity **** in the morning. Remember those? Even then it was rare, still once ever 3-4 weeks. It then went to 4-6 weeks but she...
    incognito21 incognito21 26-30, M 4 Responses Jul 12

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