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I Am a Husband In a Sexless Marriage

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    Unfortunately, there is always "gray".

    I was in a sexless marriage for years and didn't even really know it, until I finally spoke up and looked up what the condition of my marriage was. Sure enough, when you wife only does it every 10 months out of obligation, never giving any kind of *cough* assistance like bj or...
    FiremanforYou FiremanforYou
    31-35, M
    5 Responses Jan 29, 2014

    Ok it's day 7 and I've done the following - 1.

    Began to ********** over past sexual experiences but managed to stop myself. 2. Contacted the woman from the dating site I had sexual contact with, but didn't meet her, thankfully. 3. Re-registered on the dating site last night and sent kisses to lots of women in the hope of...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Oct 17, 2014

    Ten years ago my wife came to me

    and said she was going thru the change in life and wanted to do it without drugs, so would I please put up with her moodiness. We agree. We also agreed to have sex, but that went from twice a week to twice a month, to twice a year. Now she says she is no longer interested in...
    sadbutmad sadbutmad
    56-60, M
    10 Responses May 15, 2014

    It's no good - I'm slipping.

    Emailed the woman who wants to have sex with me to say that I would like to. Hopefully I can stop myself actually meeting her for sex. But I need it so much.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Oct 16, 2014

    I Fear For The Future Of My Marriage

    Almost every story is the same. A child comes into the picture, the spouses get comfortable, the sex virtually stops. This is mine as well. I give my wife the benefit of the doubt. She is exhausted (for good reason!), she does so much for me and our son, gave up her career for...
    LoveMyWifeForever LoveMyWifeForever
    31-35
    10 Responses Nov 4, 2013

    I would like to be part of a skype support group

    where ladies in a similar relationship and I can meet online and work through our frustrations. If you would be interested in participating please send me a message.
    nick00888 nick00888
    51-55, M
    Oct 21, 2014

    Hi all. I bought a viberator

    while on holidays from work. And it's been amazing I've literally spent my whole day using it. Not sure what to do when I have to return to work when I have the need to fulfill. My boss and I had a thing before I went on holidays however we ended it quickly. Any ideas ok what I...
    kiara1994 kiara1994
    22-25, F
    16 Responses Jan 24, 2014

    My Sexless Marriage

    M y wife and I have no sex life. Well not entirely but 3-4 times per year does not count as a sex life to me. I don't think that it counts as a sex life to her either. We have discussed it and she admits that is not healthy but refuses to do anything about it. She claims that...
    nolust nolust
    36-40
    64 Responses Aug 15, 2008

    I've been in a sexless marriage

    for most of 30 years. While it has always bothered me greatly it has gotten much worse the past year. For financial reasons, I can't see getting out. My wife will no longer touch me in any way, or respond to a touch. She says medical reasons, I don't believe it (yes, trust...
    beachguy1056 beachguy1056
    56-60, M
    14 Responses Sep 3, 2014

    I went to confession today

    and will try again. At least I didn't look at any ****, ********** fully or have any physical contact with any women.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Oct 18, 2014

    This is all a bit weird telling strangers about

    my intimate secrets but here goes. I love my wife but she has not had sex with me for nearly 10 years. She just has no interest in it and says she is too old (she's not). I have tried everything I can think off from romantic nights out to weekends away. Last night I tried doing...
    zak24 zak24
    56-60, M
    2 Responses Oct 25, 2014

    Sexless In Paradise

    For various reasons some my fault we have drifted apart we went 9 months then a year then 14 months with no sex.....Not because I didn't want it we had a young child..there were health reasons we just fell out of routine....then last year we seemed to catch fire and had sex...
    damagedgoods42 damagedgoods42
    41-45, M
    1 Response Mar 29, 2013

    I had a couple of concerned comments from two

    nice people here regarding my last posting. Perhaps I should just do what I really want to do and have a sensual massage every month or so. The girl who did me last time said that most of her customers are older married men whose wives have gotten too old for sex, or have just...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Oct 22, 2014

    Welcome to Hell!

    If you're a man who wants to see his kids everyday, but you live in a sexless marriage with a gorgeous woman who you used to have regular amazing sex with... is there really anything closer to hell on earth? You get divorced she gets the house, the kids, and you get... screwed...
    Shoreboy Shoreboy
    46-50, M
    81 Responses Jun 18, 2009
    ohya1613 ohya1613
    18-21
    Dec 4, 2014

    I feel like my life is a complete mess

    and I have no one that I can talk to about it. I have been married for over two decades and until recently I was happy. My wife and I have a son who I love more than words can describe. Our marriage has been good except for our sex life which has become almost non-existent...
    VidTomsic VidTomsic
    46-50, M
    3 Responses Mar 7, 2014

    Same Story

    I live for my kids because my wife treats me like.. Well I don't even know. I am trapped in a sexless marriage and trapped good. I make a good wage, and with kids, there is no way to extricate myself. I love my kids so much it hurts when I think about them in a situation like...
    RedVancouver RedVancouver
    36-40, M
    9 Responses Sep 18, 2013

    I've been married for almost 36 years to the

    most wonderful woman and best friend a buy could have. The only problem is our sex life, or rather lack of one. Early on, it was intermittent at best, then she developed a medical problem that required a hormone medication, so it became medically necessary to be inactive for 5...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Apr 30, 2015

    I wouldn't want to be in a sexless marriage,

    I'd make it a priority to have that alone time with my husband if I was to ever get married, especially with kids. & I sure as Hell wouldn't make it boring & lifeless, I feel the older you get with a person the closer you become & more open which should only bring positive...
    alizex7x alizex7x
    18-21, F
    6 Responses Apr 1, 2014

    My wife and me, we have sex like

    once in a Quarter, if it works out. I provide for her comfort and luxury. I don't know why these women have to feel that they don't have to contribute in a marriage, and that the husband has to be present at their beck and call. My wife's a pretty woman: curvy and busty. But...
    bluegreensalad bluegreensalad
    41-45
    3 Responses Apr 21, 2015

    I've decided that I'm going to **********

    tonight, but without the ****. Have to release the sexual tension.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Oct 21, 2014
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    3 Responses Apr 30, 2015

    Out of all of you men in a sexless marriage

    or serious relationship are cuckolded by your spouse/lover ?
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Jul 28, 2015

    From all the sexless marriage stories I've been

    reading over the past year, by far the majority are by husbands not wives. They all state how much they would like to have sex with their wives, but is that really true ? My wife is beautiful, 11 years younger than me, and nice and slim, but if she, after 15 years of no sex...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    3 Responses Oct 22, 2014

    I see you laying there soft sensuous beautiful

    I slide in bed next to you and whisper I love you I gently kiss your shoulder sliding my hand under your shirt and you spas out and say leave me alone. Rejection hurt pain loneliness will it ever end
    october004 october004
    31-35, M
    2 Responses Nov 2, 2014

    I've been married for almost 36 years to the

    most wonderful woman and best friend a buy could have. The only problem is our sex life, or rather lack of one. Early on, it was intermittent at best, then she developed a medical problem that required a hormone medication, so it became medically necessary to be inactive for 5...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Apr 30, 2015

    You know, it's really strange,

    sometimes being in a sexless marriage bothers me greatly and I teeter on the brink of depression, other times, especially when I get involved in a family crisis (my 80 year old dad, and his difficulties), it just seems totally unimportant. What is even more difficult is that I...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    3 Responses May 4, 2015

    One Handed Man Looking For More

    I have been in a sexless marriage for years, no passion, no cuddling no nothing. My wife tolerates me. If there is any touching it is me doing the touching. I turn in the bed to just snuggle, just touch the warmth of her body, which misewell be like the ice queen, it is not...
    flirtwithme flirtwithme
    46-50, M
    33 Responses Mar 7, 2009

    I'm a wife in a sexless marriage… Anybody

    mid-thrities out there? I'm fit, attractive and looking…
    scyllas scyllas
    36-40, F
    8 Responses Dec 29, 2013

    Day 4 without internet ****

    or dating sites is two thirds through now. Feel as if I'm on the verge of going onto a **** site or dating site all the time. Keeping busy does help.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Oct 14, 2014

    I also began to mas----bate last night,

    not looking at **** though, just using my imagination. I will not look at **** as it is the work of the devil - most internet **** is controlled by criminal gangs who abuse women and make them engage in sex scenes.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Oct 16, 2014

    I love my wife dearly.

    We are a great match in most things, except when it comes to sex. I'm much more kinky than her, but have learned that she doesn't want to explore much in the way of sexuality. I can live with it, and she brings so much good to my life that I really can't complain, but it's still...
    sinfulfrank sinfulfrank
    46-50, M
    2 Responses May 1, 2014

    Wife cheats on you do you get the image inside

    your head of her being dirty with that other man. You see her face from it getting good to her.. Ya we all been there
    semiman semiman
    46-50, M
    1 Response Mar 19

    Day 11 - I haven't looked at ****,

    I haven't had physical contact with any women, and I haven't ***********. I did book a non-sexual massage but cancelled, as my real reason for the massage was to experience the sexual excitement of a woman's hands all over my body. I went to the street the masseur's flat is in...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    2 Responses Oct 21, 2014

    This Is Me

    Hi not sure what to write ,,never been much good at writ tying lol but here goes , This is hard for me to write , I am a 53 yr old retired now paramedic due to PTSD , But seem to have that under control .. The job was great but after 33 yrs became hard due to the stress and...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    2 Responses Apr 26, 2013

    I'm the Daughter That Saw Her Parents Grow Apart From a Sexless Marriage

    Growning up as a kid was great! I had a lot of love and saw a lot of love in my home. My dad worked all the time, up to 3 jobs at any given time, but always 2. He was a mechanic and a Banjo Man. Mom was a stay at home mom with 4 kids by her side and she was excellent at it...
    SilverMoon58 SilverMoon58
    46-50, F
    20 Responses Aug 29, 2009

    And I'm coming off the dating site today.

    Am tempted to stay on it to chat with one or two women who understand me and I like to chat with, but to do this could lead to more.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Oct 18, 2014

    Just so frustrating fighting a loosing battle

    with a partner who won't talk, won't answer and won't commit, just keeps you hanging on with the same promises she's made before, promises you know she'll never keep. You know its just delaying tactics but you want to believe in spit of the truth you know just keep holding on...
    1RedKing 1RedKing
    41-45, M
    5 Responses Apr 21, 2014

    I didn't ********** last night,

    but I did exchange sexual words with a woman (also in a sexless marriage) on EP last night. We were just about to video chat when her husband came in so she had to quickly turn it off. I am ashamed and wish I could break this awful cycle of temptation.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Oct 22, 2014

    I keep thinking about the Chinese girl at the

    massage parlour, and the sex I had with the woman from the dating site, and the sexual contact with another woman from the dating site I had last Thursday.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    3 Responses Oct 14, 2014

    Why Me..

    I ask myself the same questions over and over again why me. My wife she does not like me looking at her naked. We dont even kiss anymore. WShe does want me to touch her anymore. I miss that so much. It is killing our marriage.
    apittsburghguy apittsburghguy
    36-40, M
    21 Responses Aug 23, 2009

    I've been married for 20 years to a wonderful

    women, caring, giving, compassionate, intelligent and beautiful. Perhaps I'm somehow stuck in adolescence in perpetuity, but she is also amazingly sexy to me. So, like others here, the problem is lack of sex, like no sex whatsoever for nearly a year at this point. We used to...
    wisurf wisurf
    51-55, M
    May 13, 2015

    Are You A Victim Of Sexual Boredom ??

    In a bid to lead the ideal life, it's rather easy, and a common occurrence, too, for couples to lose focus of the sexual side of their relationship. Sex, which is supposed to be all about fun and spontaneous action, then becomes a tried and tested, and consequently, boring...
    smartlove007 smartlove007
    41-45, M
    9 Responses Mar 24, 2011

    What am I doing? I have a beautiful wife,

    two lovely boys, a nice home etc, and all I think about is sex ! How stupid and foolish. Wish I could turn this desire right off - chemical castration or something. I've looked into surgical castration but you can't get it in the UK. There is another method which involves a...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    3 Responses Oct 22, 2014

    Looking back over my time at EP (going back to

    when I was Alex0302) I realized that most of my posts have been pretty depressing. And while life in a sexless marriage is a struggle it doesn’t hurt to reflect on something positive. So I’ve decided to go a different direction today. My hope is that in some small way this...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Dec 13, 2014

    I love my wife and I know she is my soulmate.

    She's a wonderful wife, mother, friend, and partner in my life; of course less the sex. I can say that she made me a better man, more responsible, and more driven. The question I constantly ask myself: Should I let my need for affection, intimacy, or sex make me bitter? I...
    TheWorks TheWorks
    36-40, M
    3 Responses Apr 19, 2014

    3400 + Members To This Group

    Is this a ****** up world or what ? 3400+ members have found their way into this group and I'll be there are a bunch more groups like this because EP is so fragmented it sucks. Now most of these members are not sitting home and doing nothing. Guys are beating their meet and...
    love26t9 love26t9
    70+, M
    2 Responses Jun 14, 2013

    A Type Of Freedom

    Through 22 years of marriage, including that last nine that were almost completely sexless, I have never "cheated" (although I honestly don't consider it cheating, that's the common term). Until last week that is. The relieve I feel from a single night of sex has led me to do...
    stackscampbell stackscampbell
    51-55, M
    5 Responses Mar 15, 2013

    Yes I've deleted my dating site account.

    So - no ****, no ************, no dating sites, no sex. For the rest of my life. Mmmmm. It's a tough one, but it can't be more difficult than quitting smoking was for me - I haven't had a cigarette for 6 years now, and I don't miss them at all. Hopefully it will be the same for...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Oct 18, 2014

    Sexless Christian Marriage Part 2

    Christian Sexless marriage Part 2 1 Corinthians 7:4-6 King James Version (KJV) 4The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife. 5Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a...
    NMBtruth1 NMBtruth1
    41-45, M
    5 Responses Jul 1, 2011

    Day 12 is going well

    so far, apart from the thought that I might give in and chat to the woman I chatted with last night. The idea of flirting with her on webcam, and perhaps even watching her ********** is so tempting.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Oct 22, 2014
    CoralineKing CoralineKing
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Nov 1, 2014

    The Game Women Can Play That Men Can't

    I'm not sure if I can say more than has already been said other than how pissed off I am.  I have tried my whole life to do the right thing, instead of staying single getting married, putting up with all the excuses why there's no sex and all the other bullshit.  I don't care...
    jb02157 jb02157
    51-55, M
    12 Responses Mar 1, 2011

    Last night I met a women in a bar I don't know

    how but some how we got talking then that's when it started. I live in a sexless marriage for the past year now, I've had offers from women when I go out into my town on a night out but last night I was away and so was she! She too lives in a sexless marriage she has 2 children...
    andy8669 andy8669
    26-30, M
    2 Responses Dec 1, 2013

    Day 5 over. I looked briefly at a massage

    parlour advert on the internet. Have been wanting a woman's body / touch all day. Lots of exercise helped though. Off to bed now.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Oct 15, 2014

    It's Not Just About The Sex....

    I don't think its about the sex anymore. Not that our sex life has improved dramatically or anything, it really hasn't. It is top of mind in our relationship but that hasn't equated into any lasting change...in our case it only changes for a week or so and then it runs out of...
    TTBM TTBM
    31-35, M
    6 Responses Apr 14, 2012

    A Sexless Marriage From A Female View...

    So you're in a sexless marriage..now what?? I have found there are more complaints from men being in a sexless marriage than women. Have you ever wondered why? I've read many stories, including those in this group and I find that most are missing some very important aspects of...
    NobodyKnowsWhoIam NobodyKnowsWhoIam
    26-30, F
    77 Responses Jul 28, 2011
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