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I Am a Husband In a Sexless Marriage

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    When Your Wife Won't Pay Attention Just Remember I Will (:

    She is old news and I'm young and fun. Don't you wanna come along for the ride (:
    Prettylittlesugarbaby Prettylittlesugarbaby 18-21, F 4 Responses Jul 28, 2012

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    Awww Guys!!

    It breaks this daddy's girls heart all these good guys going to waste x
    ShyBiButterfly ShyBiButterfly 31-35, F 2 Responses Oct 10, 2013

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    Hi I'm a Christian husband in a sexless

    marriage. the problem im running into is my wife has been giving me excuses for years now. She has the same excuses like, tired, headache, stomach ache, later, not now. we have two kids and been married for about 7years, we both work. One of the problems im running is that im...
    qonfused qonfused 31-35, M 3 Responses Aug 6

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    I'm the Daughter That Saw Her Parents Grow Apart From a Sexless Marriage

    Growning up as a kid was great! I had a lot of love and saw a lot of love in my home. My dad worked all the time, up to 3 jobs at any given time, but always 2. He was a mechanic and a Banjo Man. Mom was a stay at home mom with 4 kids by her side and she was excellent at it...
    SilverMoon58 SilverMoon58 46-50, F 23 Responses Aug 29, 2009

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    Sexless Christian Marriage Part 2

    Christian Sexless marriage Part 2 1 Corinthians 7:4-6 King James Version (KJV) 4The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife. 5Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a...
    NMBtruth1 NMBtruth1 41-45, M 6 Responses Jul 1, 2011

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    It started over 2 years ago.

    We remained friends but the lake dried up. The sparks gone and now, all that is left is a platonic relation of living together as room mates. We have talked about it and agreed it is just not going to work in bed. Now that energy is all bottled up...very frustrating.
    curiousnycguy curiousnycguy 41-45, M 3 Responses Aug 5

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    alreadyfalling alreadyfalling 26-30, M 7 Responses Jul 18

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    The Game Women Can Play That Men Can't

    I'm not sure if I can say more than has already been said other than how pissed off I am.  I have tried my whole life to do the right thing, instead of staying single getting married, putting up with all the excuses why there's no sex and all the other bullshit.  I don't care...
    jb02157 jb02157 46-50, M 11 Responses Mar 1, 2011

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    Yes - one full day without looking at internet

    **** or sexual images on TV. Here goes the second day.
    JamesPople JamesPople 51-55, M 5 Responses Oct 12

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    A Sexless Marriage From A Female View...

    So you're in a sexless marriage..now what?? I have found there are more complaints from men being in a sexless marriage than women. Have you ever wondered why? I've read many stories, including those in this group and I find that most are missing some very important aspects of...
    NobodyKnowsWhoIam NobodyKnowsWhoIam 26-30, F 91 Responses Jul 28, 2011

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    Welcome to Hell!

    If you're a man who wants to see his kids everyday, but you live in a sexless marriage with a gorgeous woman who you used to have regular amazing sex with... is there really anything closer to hell on earth? You get divorced she gets the house, the kids, and you get... screwed...
    Shoreboy Shoreboy 41-45, M 82 Responses Jun 18, 2009

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    Just so frustrating fighting a loosing battle

    with a partner who won't talk, won't answer and won't commit, just keeps you hanging on with the same promises she's made before, promises you know she'll never keep. You know its just delaying tactics but you want to believe in spit of the truth you know just keep holding on...
    1RedKing 1RedKing 41-45, M 5 Responses Apr 21

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    Ten years ago my wife came to me

    and said she was going thru the change in life and wanted to do it without drugs, so would I please put up with her moodiness. We agree. We also agreed to have sex, but that went from twice a week to twice a month, to twice a year. Now she says she is no longer interested in...
    sadbutmad sadbutmad 56-60, M 11 Responses May 15

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    I keep thinking about the Chinese girl at the

    massage parlour, and the sex I had with the woman from the dating site, and the sexual contact with another woman from the dating site I had last Thursday.
    JamesPople JamesPople 51-55, M 4 Responses 6 days ago

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    I love my wife dearly.

    We are a great match in most things, except when it comes to sex. I'm much more kinky than her, but have learned that she doesn't want to explore much in the way of sexuality. I can live with it, and she brings so much good to my life that I really can't complain, but it's still...
    sinfulfrank sinfulfrank 41-45, M 5 Responses May 1

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    I also began to mas----bate last night,

    not looking at **** though, just using my imagination. I will not look at **** as it is the work of the devil - most internet **** is controlled by criminal gangs who abuse women and make them engage in sex scenes.
    JamesPople JamesPople 51-55, M 4 days ago

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    I've been in a sexless marriage

    for most of 30 years. While it has always bothered me greatly it has gotten much worse the past year. For financial reasons, I can't see getting out. My wife will no longer touch me in any way, or respond to a touch. She says medical reasons, I don't believe it (yes, trust...
    beachguy1056 beachguy1056 56-60, M 10 Responses Sep 3

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    I don't know how much longer i can make it.

    I want to leave but can't bear the thought of not putting my kids to bed at night. I love my wife dearly. In fact, i adore her. She is the object of my desire both emotionally and physically. Soon we will be living in a new house where i will have the option to have my own room...
    98fxstc1 98fxstc1 31-35, M 4 Responses Oct 3

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    Maybe We Need A New Title.. I Live In A Passionless Marriage Without Intimacy

    I have written and replied to many of the sexless marriage stories on EP, and when I think about all of it, it has little to do with just sex for me. To me the ideal way to fill the current void in this marriage, would be to find a woman married, single or involved who wanted ro...
    mandown mandown 61-65, M 13 Responses Jan 20, 2013

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    I have been denied sex by my wife

    for the past 24 years. I acknowledge that in the beginning I was responsible for most of the problems in the relationship. I was an alcoholic and was just nor there for my wife or children. At one point her other does, we had our last baby and her grandmother died all within a...
    davejgj davejgj 66-70, M 3 Responses Aug 25

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    I Fear For The Future Of My Marriage

    Almost every story is the same. A child comes into the picture, the spouses get comfortable, the sex virtually stops. This is mine as well. I give my wife the benefit of the doubt. She is exhausted (for good reason!), she does so much for me and our son, gave up her career for...
    LoveMyWifeForever LoveMyWifeForever 31-35 11 Responses Nov 4, 2013

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    14 years sexless and I give up.

    I have tried talking, threatening her with divorce and living apart for periods of time. She will not go to counseling with me. It is a control thing with her. She is a classic control freak. With a control freak it is always someone else's fault. Control freaks never...
    Greem Greem 61-65, M 3 Responses Oct 5

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    Why Me..

    I ask myself the same questions over and over again why me. My wife she does not like me looking at her naked. We dont even kiss anymore. WShe does want me to touch her anymore. I miss that so much. It is killing our marriage.
    apittsburghguy apittsburghguy 36-40, M 25 Responses Aug 23, 2009

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    Hi all. I bought a viberator

    while on holidays from work. And it's been amazing I've literally spent my whole day using it. Not sure what to do when I have to return to work when I have the need to fulfill. My boss and I had a thing before I went on holidays however we ended it quickly. Any ideas ok what I...
    kiara1994 kiara1994 18-21, F 19 Responses Jan 24

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    I do everything around the house to make life

    easier for her. We both work full time with kids but I feel there's time for sex and she does not. I feel like I have a room mate with kids.
    fire3026 fire3026 41-45, M 4 Responses Aug 25

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    And I'm coming off the dating site today.

    Am tempted to stay on it to chat with one or two women who understand me and I like to chat with, but to do this could lead to more.
    JamesPople JamesPople 51-55, M 2 days ago

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    This is the first time i have posted an

    experience after reading stories and chatting to others about our issues over a number of years Please excuse my way of writing this as its not a novel but written from the heart. I will start from 2 days ago and work my way backwards . 2 days ago i was answering a question...
    john818 john818 46-50, M 4 Responses Oct 3

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    A Type Of Freedom

    Through 22 years of marriage, including that last nine that were almost completely sexless, I have never "cheated" (although I honestly don't consider it cheating, that's the common term). Until last week that is. The relieve I feel from a single night of sex has led me to do...
    stackscampbell stackscampbell 51-55, M 6 Responses Mar 15, 2013

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    Same Story

    I live for my kids because my wife treats me like.. Well I don't even know. I am trapped in a sexless marriage and trapped good. I make a good wage, and with kids, there is no way to extricate myself. I love my kids so much it hurts when I think about them in a situation like...
    RedVancouver RedVancouver 36-40, M 9 Responses Sep 18, 2013

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    I went to confession today

    and will try again. At least I didn't look at any ****, ********** fully or have any physical contact with any women.
    JamesPople JamesPople 51-55, M 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    My wife accuses me of treating her like a sex

    doll whenever I push the issue of us not having sex. She says she is always too tired, except those rare occasions when she isn't and then she gets too tired as soon as she reaches ******. I take longer than normal and she is never interested in foreplay of any sort unless it is...
    themyth1981 themyth1981 31-35, M 2 Responses Jul 10

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    This marriage of ours has been teetering on the

    brink of failure for some time now and I am really struggling to cope with the absence of sex. My wife is an alcoholic / pain pill addict who's shame and guilt consumes her days. Although she currently has 90+ days sobriety she has no desire for me at all. I can't hug her, I can...
    007jeep 007jeep 41-45, M 2 Responses Aug 2

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    My wife and I love each other

    but we have not been physically intimate in five years. It began when my wife gave birth to our only son. She had preeclampsia and was very ill; our son came at only 28 weeks. He is a happy and healthy five year old now, so no worries there (thankfully!). After the birth, I...
    AshInOakland AshInOakland 41-45, M 4 Responses Aug 13

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    Third try, not sure why it is being removed.

    See above, my situation is almost. More mechanical than anything.
    sexlss sexlss 41-45, M 1 Response Jul 11

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    It has been so long since I have been with a

    woman. my wife has no interest in me at all. I am so lonely and just want to be with a woman that will love me.
    budkelly budkelly 41-45, M 1 Response 6 days ago

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    Are You A Victim Of Sexual Boredom ??

    In a bid to lead the ideal life, it's rather easy, and a common occurrence, too, for couples to lose focus of the sexual side of their relationship. Sex, which is supposed to be all about fun and spontaneous action, then becomes a tried and tested, and consequently, boring...
    smartlove007 smartlove007 41-45, M 10 Responses Mar 24, 2011

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    I Too Am A Husband In A Sexless Marriage

     I have been amazed to see the amount of web sites, blogs and entries on this subject – and let me say to everyone, ‘Thank you ‘ for your open-ness, perspective, input and guidance ! It is somewhat re-assuring to see all of this; that others are going...
    usac42 usac42 46-50, M 15 Responses Jan 10, 2010

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    One Handed Man Looking For More

    I have been in a sexless marriage for years, no passion, no cuddling no nothing. My wife tolerates me. If there is any touching it is me doing the touching. I turn in the bed to just snuggle, just touch the warmth of her body, which misewell be like the ice queen, it is not...
    flirtwithme flirtwithme 46-50, M 34 Responses Mar 7, 2009

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    I'm having trouble keeping to my vow - all I

    want to do is look at internet **** and pleasure myself. I'm going for a hard swim this evening so hopefully it will knock me out and remove these urges.
    JamesPople JamesPople 51-55, M 3 Responses a week ago

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    Last night I met a women in a bar I don't know

    how but some how we got talking then that's when it started. I live in a sexless marriage for the past year now, I've had offers from women when I go out into my town on a night out but last night I was away and so was she! She too lives in a sexless marriage she has 2 children...
    andy8669 andy8669 26-30, M 2 Responses Dec 1, 2013

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    Hi looking for someone to chat to in the same

    position as me. If your interested please pm me
    andy8669 andy8669 26-30, M 2 Responses Aug 24

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    My Sexless Marriage

    M y wife and I have no sex life. Well not entirely but 3-4 times per year does not count as a sex life to me. I don't think that it counts as a sex life to her either. We have discussed it and she admits that is not healthy but refuses to do anything about it. She claims that...
    nolust nolust 36-40 69 Responses Aug 15, 2008

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    Taking Matters Into My Own Hands.

    My wife and I are in our 60s and we have long since ceased to be intimate. This does not appear to bother her but i am extremely frustrated and I ********** frequently. I chat online and manage to share my fantasies with strangers but if I had my time over again I would think...
    wanderlust201143 wanderlust201143 61-65, M 7 Responses Nov 16, 2011

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    I love my wife and I know she is my soulmate.

    She's a wonderful wife, mother, friend, and partner in my life; of course less the sex. I can say that she made me a better man, more responsible, and more driven. The question I constantly ask myself: Should I let my need for affection, intimacy, or sex make me bitter? I...
    TheWorks TheWorks 36-40, M 4 Responses Apr 19

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    No matter how open and honestly I speak to my

    wife about the lack of any and all intimacy in our relationship she refuses to care to do anything about it. She says she has no desire and I make her feel guilty about not ever having sex. It has been a very rough and trying past 18 monthes with her alcoholism and having an...
    007jeep 007jeep 41-45, M 3 Responses Aug 4

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    Hi I am a 28year old woman married to a 50 year

    old man that I do not love or have sex with neither does he have any feelings for me. I was a good girl when we got married while he had an inmoral life before which I did not find out until after I married him. He convinced me to marry him somehow and after we got married he...
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Sep 16

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    Gents, I read your stories

    and it pains me. I too am one of your wolf pack! 29, 5 years into the marriage and its a struggle. It used to be she was too tired at night, but id get a pity **** in the morning. Remember those? Even then it was rare, still once ever 3-4 weeks. It then went to 4-6 weeks but she...
    incognito21 incognito21 26-30, M 4 Responses Jul 12

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    The End Is Near, Direction Unknown.

    I registered for this site last week, found it to be fantastic is a very short time. Found some very intuitive thoughts and stories and some advice. I have tried for a very long time to fix this sexless marriage, to again attain a level of intimacy and to hold a hand, get a hug...
    JackFlirts JackFlirts 51-55, M 13 Responses Mar 20, 2012

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    This Is Me

    Hi not sure what to write ,,never been much good at writ tying lol but here goes , This is hard for me to write , I am a 53 yr old retired now paramedic due to PTSD , But seem to have that under control .. The job was great but after 33 yrs became hard due to the stress and...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Apr 26, 2013

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    I feel like my life is a complete mess

    and I have no one that I can talk to about it. I have been married for over two decades and until recently I was happy. My wife and I have a son who I love more than words can describe. Our marriage has been good except for our sex life which has become almost non-existent...
    VidTomsic VidTomsic 41-45, M 3 Responses Mar 7

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    It Is My Fault

    i like and need attention, I don't need your approval ,just your attention. My wife doesn't get that. I have been waiting 28 years for her to get into her prime.It ain't here yet ,so I guess she won't now.don't remember the last kiss, or the last hug.so I have looked else where...
    bquick bquick 51-55, M 25 Responses Jan 16, 2008

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    I wouldn't want to be in a sexless marriage,

    I'd make it a priority to have that alone time with my husband if I was to ever get married, especially with kids. & I sure as Hell wouldn't make it boring & lifeless, I feel the older you get with a person the closer you become & more open which should only bring positive...
    alizex7x alizex7x 18-21, F 8 Responses Apr 1

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    It's Not Just About The Sex....

    I don't think its about the sex anymore. Not that our sex life has improved dramatically or anything, it really hasn't. It is top of mind in our relationship but that hasn't equated into any lasting change...in our case it only changes for a week or so and then it runs out of...
    TTBM TTBM 31-35, M 7 Responses Apr 14, 2012

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