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I Am a Husband In a Sexless Marriage

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    deleted deleted 26-30 5 Responses 2 days ago

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    Day 4 without internet ****

    or dating sites is two thirds through now. Feel as if I'm on the verge of going onto a **** site or dating site all the time. Keeping busy does help.
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Oct 14, 2014

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    The Game Women Can Play That Men Can't

    I'm not sure if I can say more than has already been said other than how pissed off I am.  I have tried my whole life to do the right thing, instead of staying single getting married, putting up with all the excuses why there's no sex and all the other bullshit.  I don't care...
    jb02157 jb02157 46-50, M 12 Responses Mar 1, 2011

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    I've been married for almost 36 years to the

    most wonderful woman and best friend a buy could have. The only problem is our sex life, or rather lack of one. Early on, it was intermittent at best, then she developed a medical problem that required a hormone medication, so it became medically necessary to be inactive for 5...
    Looking4AnswrsinNJ Looking4AnswrsinNJ 56-60, M 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    This is all a bit weird telling strangers about

    my intimate secrets but here goes. I love my wife but she has not had sex with me for nearly 10 years. She just has no interest in it and says she is too old (she's not). I have tried everything I can think off from romantic nights out to weekends away. Last night I tried doing...
    zak24 zak24 56-60, M 1 Response Oct 25, 2014

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    I went to confession today

    and will try again. At least I didn't look at any ****, ********** fully or have any physical contact with any women.
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Oct 18, 2014

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    Same Story

    I live for my kids because my wife treats me like.. Well I don't even know. I am trapped in a sexless marriage and trapped good. I make a good wage, and with kids, there is no way to extricate myself. I love my kids so much it hurts when I think about them in a situation like...
    RedVancouver RedVancouver 36-40, M 9 Responses Sep 18, 2013

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    A Type Of Freedom

    Through 22 years of marriage, including that last nine that were almost completely sexless, I have never "cheated" (although I honestly don't consider it cheating, that's the common term). Until last week that is. The relieve I feel from a single night of sex has led me to do...
    stackscampbell stackscampbell 51-55, M 6 Responses Mar 15, 2013

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    Ok it's day 7 and I've done the following - 1.

    Began to ********** over past sexual experiences but managed to stop myself. 2. Contacted the woman from the dating site I had sexual contact with, but didn't meet her, thankfully. 3. Re-registered on the dating site last night and sent kisses to lots of women in the hope of...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Oct 17, 2014

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    I would like to be part of a skype support group

    where ladies in a similar relationship and I can meet online and work through our frustrations. If you would be interested in participating please send me a message.
    nick00888 nick00888 51-55, M Oct 21, 2014

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    Yesterday I had a good heart-to-heart,

    face-to-face discussion with my wife about our s_x life. I explained that I can't keep facing her rejection (the emotional roller coaster caused me to get angry or upset and that threatened our happiness) so I was withdrawing entirely from that part of our relationship -- I won...
    oneinawillian oneinawillian 41-45, M 11 Responses Aug 29, 2014

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    My Sexless Marriage

    M y wife and I have no sex life. Well not entirely but 3-4 times per year does not count as a sex life to me. I don't think that it counts as a sex life to her either. We have discussed it and she admits that is not healthy but refuses to do anything about it. She claims that...
    nolust nolust 36-40 65 Responses Aug 15, 2008

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    Welcome to Hell!

    If you're a man who wants to see his kids everyday, but you live in a sexless marriage with a gorgeous woman who you used to have regular amazing sex with... is there really anything closer to hell on earth? You get divorced she gets the house, the kids, and you get... screwed...
    Shoreboy Shoreboy 41-45, M 83 Responses Jun 18, 2009

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    I Fear For The Future Of My Marriage

    Almost every story is the same. A child comes into the picture, the spouses get comfortable, the sex virtually stops. This is mine as well. I give my wife the benefit of the doubt. She is exhausted (for good reason!), she does so much for me and our son, gave up her career for...
    LoveMyWifeForever LoveMyWifeForever 31-35 11 Responses Nov 4, 2013

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    Almost at the end of day 2 with no internet

    **** / dating sites / sexual images on TV. Off to bed now thankfully. It's almost as difficult as giving up smoking was.
    deleted deleted 26-30 Oct 12, 2014

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    For all of us whose spouses have used back pain

    as an excuse for no sex, there is hope! University of Waterloo study suggests best positions to spare your spine CBC.ca "In what they believe is the first biomechanical study of its kind, researchers at the University of Waterloo have found that certain positions are better...
    oneinawillian oneinawillian 41-45, M 3 Responses Sep 9, 2014

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    A Sexless Marriage From A Female View...

    So you're in a sexless marriage..now what?? I have found there are more complaints from men being in a sexless marriage than women. Have you ever wondered why? I've read many stories, including those in this group and I find that most are missing some very important aspects of...
    NobodyKnowsWhoIam NobodyKnowsWhoIam 26-30, F 83 Responses Jul 28, 2011

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    Unfortunately, there is always "gray".

    I was in a sexless marriage for years and didn't even really know it, until I finally spoke up and looked up what the condition of my marriage was. Sure enough, when you wife only does it every 10 months out of obligation, never giving any kind of *cough* assistance like bj or...
    FiremanforYou FiremanforYou 31-35, M 5 Responses Jan 29, 2014

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    3400 + Members To This Group

    Is this a ****** up world or what ? 3400+ members have found their way into this group and I'll be there are a bunch more groups like this because EP is so fragmented it sucks. Now most of these members are not sitting home and doing nothing. Guys are beating their meet and...
    love26t9 love26t9 66-70, M 2 Responses Jun 14, 2013

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    Just so frustrating fighting a loosing battle

    with a partner who won't talk, won't answer and won't commit, just keeps you hanging on with the same promises she's made before, promises you know she'll never keep. You know its just delaying tactics but you want to believe in spit of the truth you know just keep holding on...
    1RedKing 1RedKing 41-45, M 5 Responses Apr 21, 2014

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    I've decided that I'm going to **********

    tonight, but without the ****. Have to release the sexual tension.
    deleted deleted 26-30 Oct 21, 2014

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    I also began to mas----bate last night,

    not looking at **** though, just using my imagination. I will not look at **** as it is the work of the devil - most internet **** is controlled by criminal gangs who abuse women and make them engage in sex scenes.
    deleted deleted 26-30 Oct 16, 2014

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    CoralineKing CoralineKing 18-21, F 4 Responses Nov 1, 2014

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    Ten years ago my wife came to me

    and said she was going thru the change in life and wanted to do it without drugs, so would I please put up with her moodiness. We agree. We also agreed to have sex, but that went from twice a week to twice a month, to twice a year. Now she says she is no longer interested in...
    sadbutmad sadbutmad 56-60, M 11 Responses May 15, 2014

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    Sexless Christian Marriage Part 2

    Christian Sexless marriage Part 2 1 Corinthians 7:4-6 King James Version (KJV) 4The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife. 5Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a...
    NMBtruth1 NMBtruth1 41-45, M 6 Responses Jul 1, 2011

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    I love my wife dearly.

    We are a great match in most things, except when it comes to sex. I'm much more kinky than her, but have learned that she doesn't want to explore much in the way of sexuality. I can live with it, and she brings so much good to my life that I really can't complain, but it's still...
    sinfulfrank sinfulfrank 41-45, M 2 Responses May 1, 2014

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    It's no good - I'm slipping.

    Emailed the woman who wants to have sex with me to say that I would like to. Hopefully I can stop myself actually meeting her for sex. But I need it so much.
    deleted deleted 26-30 Oct 16, 2014

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    ohya1613 ohya1613 18-21 1 Response Dec 4, 2014

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    And I'm coming off the dating site today.

    Am tempted to stay on it to chat with one or two women who understand me and I like to chat with, but to do this could lead to more.
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Oct 18, 2014

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    What am I doing? I have a beautiful wife,

    two lovely boys, a nice home etc, and all I think about is sex ! How stupid and foolish. Wish I could turn this desire right off - chemical castration or something. I've looked into surgical castration but you can't get it in the UK. There is another method which involves a...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Oct 22, 2014

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    I didn't ********** last night,

    but I did exchange sexual words with a woman (also in a sexless marriage) on EP last night. We were just about to video chat when her husband came in so she had to quickly turn it off. I am ashamed and wish I could break this awful cycle of temptation.
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Oct 22, 2014

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    I'm the Daughter That Saw Her Parents Grow Apart From a Sexless Marriage

    Growning up as a kid was great! I had a lot of love and saw a lot of love in my home. My dad worked all the time, up to 3 jobs at any given time, but always 2. He was a mechanic and a Banjo Man. Mom was a stay at home mom with 4 kids by her side and she was excellent at it...
    SilverMoon58 SilverMoon58 46-50, F 22 Responses Aug 29, 2009

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    This Is Me

    Hi not sure what to write ,,never been much good at writ tying lol but here goes , This is hard for me to write , I am a 53 yr old retired now paramedic due to PTSD , But seem to have that under control .. The job was great but after 33 yrs became hard due to the stress and...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Apr 26, 2013

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    I keep thinking about the Chinese girl at the

    massage parlour, and the sex I had with the woman from the dating site, and the sexual contact with another woman from the dating site I had last Thursday.
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Oct 14, 2014

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    Yes I've deleted my dating site account.

    So - no ****, no ************, no dating sites, no sex. For the rest of my life. Mmmmm. It's a tough one, but it can't be more difficult than quitting smoking was for me - I haven't had a cigarette for 6 years now, and I don't miss them at all. Hopefully it will be the same for...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Oct 18, 2014

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    Last night I met a women in a bar I don't know

    how but some how we got talking then that's when it started. I live in a sexless marriage for the past year now, I've had offers from women when I go out into my town on a night out but last night I was away and so was she! She too lives in a sexless marriage she has 2 children...
    andy8669 andy8669 26-30, M 2 Responses Dec 1, 2013

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    Day 5 over. I looked briefly at a massage

    parlour advert on the internet. Have been wanting a woman's body / touch all day. Lots of exercise helped though. Off to bed now.
    deleted deleted 26-30 Oct 15, 2014

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    I've been married for almost 36 years to the

    most wonderful woman and best friend a buy could have. The only problem is our sex life, or rather lack of one. Early on, it was intermittent at best, then she developed a medical problem that required a hormone medication, so it became medically necessary to be inactive for 5...
    Looking4AnswrsinNJ Looking4AnswrsinNJ 56-60, M 2 days ago

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    Are You A Victim Of Sexual Boredom ??

    In a bid to lead the ideal life, it's rather easy, and a common occurrence, too, for couples to lose focus of the sexual side of their relationship. Sex, which is supposed to be all about fun and spontaneous action, then becomes a tried and tested, and consequently, boring...
    smartlove007 smartlove007 41-45, M 10 Responses Mar 24, 2011

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    Day 11 - I haven't looked at ****,

    I haven't had physical contact with any women, and I haven't ***********. I did book a non-sexual massage but cancelled, as my real reason for the massage was to experience the sexual excitement of a woman's hands all over my body. I went to the street the masseur's flat is in...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Oct 21, 2014

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    Day 12 is going well

    so far, apart from the thought that I might give in and chat to the woman I chatted with last night. The idea of flirting with her on webcam, and perhaps even watching her ********** is so tempting.
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Oct 22, 2014

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    My wife and me, we have sex like

    once in a Quarter, if it works out. I provide for her comfort and luxury. I don't know why these women have to feel that they don't have to contribute in a marriage, and that the husband has to be present at their beck and call. My wife's a pretty woman: curvy and busty. But...
    bluegreensalad bluegreensalad 41-45 2 Responses Apr 21

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    Hi all. I bought a viberator

    while on holidays from work. And it's been amazing I've literally spent my whole day using it. Not sure what to do when I have to return to work when I have the need to fulfill. My boss and I had a thing before I went on holidays however we ended it quickly. Any ideas ok what I...
    kiara1994 kiara1994 18-21, F 17 Responses Jan 24, 2014

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    Looking back over my time at EP (going back to

    when I was Alex0302) I realized that most of my posts have been pretty depressing. And while life in a sexless marriage is a struggle it doesn’t hurt to reflect on something positive. So I’ve decided to go a different direction today. My hope is that in some small way this...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Dec 13, 2014

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    It has been so long since I have been with a

    woman. my wife has no interest in me at all. I am so lonely and just want to be with a woman that will love me.
    budkelly budkelly 41-45, M 2 Responses Oct 14, 2014

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    I see you laying there soft sensuous beautiful

    I slide in bed next to you and whisper I love you I gently kiss your shoulder sliding my hand under your shirt and you spas out and say leave me alone. Rejection hurt pain loneliness will it ever end
    october004 october004 31-35, M 3 Responses Nov 2, 2014

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