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I Am a Husband In a Sexless Marriage

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    The End Is Near, Direction Unknown.

    I registered for this site last week, found it to be fantastic is a very short time. Found some very intuitive thoughts and stories and some advice. I have tried for a very long time to fix this sexless marriage, to again attain a level of intimacy and to hold a hand, get a hug...
    JRD22 JRD22 51-55, M 13 Responses Mar 20, 2012

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    Not a whole lot to tell.

    My wife announced over 10 years ago that there would be no more sex. She has hip and shoulder joint pain from being a hairdresser, so I don't blame her for doing that. The problem is that she will not even talk about it. My unanswered question(and it may not need to be answered...
    greyeagle45 greyeagle45 66-70, M 5 Responses 3 days ago

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    I love my wife to death

    but I have to admit that after 5 years of no intimacy I am ready to give up. I didn't think it was all that important but being wired as a man I have no choice. I am not sure what to do but hang in there.
    powerful1 powerful1 51-55, M 5 Responses a week ago

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    WANTED! - Female for friendship

    and sexual chats. I live in a sex bored marriage even when we do have sex it's dull (and yes I have talked about it before anyone says "have you tried talking to her" gee why didn't I think of that!) I'm sure there are females in the same position wanting some excitement - Apply...
    andy8669 andy8669 26-30, M 2 Responses Jun 22

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    As a man in a sexless marriage I want to do ALL

    the things I know I'll regret later.
    havensuppy havensuppy 41-45, M 4 Responses Jun 7

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    Last night I met a women in a bar I don't know

    how but some how we got talking then that's when it started. I live in a sexless marriage for the past year now, I've had offers from women when I go out into my town on a night out but last night I was away and so was she! She too lives in a sexless marriage she has 2 children...
    andy8669 andy8669 26-30, M 2 Responses Dec 1, 2013

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    This Is Me

    Hi not sure what to write ,,never been much good at writ tying lol but here goes , This is hard for me to write , I am a 53 yr old retired now paramedic due to PTSD , But seem to have that under control .. The job was great but after 33 yrs became hard due to the stress and...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Apr 26, 2013

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    I been marred allmost 20years andi csay the sex

    has all most came to a stop if we do i start most of the time she don't won't to i was out and i met some one and she was flerting so was i and now she won't to go out with me i don't no what to do i may go out and be friends but if i do and she won't more like. a kiss thin what...
    1974sam 1974sam 36-40, M Jun 18

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    I love my wife dearly.

    We are a great match in most things, except when it comes to sex. I'm much more kinky than her, but have learned that she doesn't want to explore much in the way of sexuality. I can live with it, and she brings so much good to my life that I really can't complain, but it's still...
    sinfulfrank sinfulfrank 41-45, M 5 Responses May 1

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    Why Me..

    I ask myself the same questions over and over again why me. My wife she does not like me looking at her naked. We dont even kiss anymore. WShe does want me to touch her anymore. I miss that so much. It is killing our marriage.
    apittsburghguy apittsburghguy 36-40, M 24 Responses Aug 23, 2009

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    Gents, I read your stories

    and it pains me. I too am one of your wolf pack! 29, 5 years into the marriage and its a struggle. It used to be she was too tired at night, but id get a pity **** in the morning. Remember those? Even then it was rare, still once ever 3-4 weeks. It then went to 4-6 weeks but she...
    incognito21 incognito21 26-30, M 4 Responses Jul 12

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    I feel like my life is a complete mess

    and I have no one that I can talk to about it. I have been married for over two decades and until recently I was happy. My wife and I have a son who I love more than words can describe. Our marriage has been good except for our sex life which has become almost non-existent...
    VidTomsic VidTomsic 41-45, M 3 Responses Mar 7

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    Hi all. I bought a viberator

    while on holidays from work. And it's been amazing I've literally spent my whole day using it. Not sure what to do when I have to return to work when I have the need to fulfill. My boss and I had a thing before I went on holidays however we ended it quickly. Any ideas ok what I...
    kiara1994 kiara1994 18-21, F 19 Responses Jan 24

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    Awww Guys!!

    It breaks this daddy's girls heart all these good guys going to waste x
    ShyBiButterfly ShyBiButterfly 31-35, F 2 Responses Oct 10, 2013

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    Are You A Victim Of Sexual Boredom ??

    In a bid to lead the ideal life, it's rather easy, and a common occurrence, too, for couples to lose focus of the sexual side of their relationship. Sex, which is supposed to be all about fun and spontaneous action, then becomes a tried and tested, and consequently, boring...
    smartlove007 smartlove007 41-45, M 11 Responses Mar 24, 2011

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    I Too Am A Husband In A Sexless Marriage

     I have been amazed to see the amount of web sites, blogs and entries on this subject – and let me say to everyone, ‘Thank you ‘ for your open-ness, perspective, input and guidance ! It is somewhat re-assuring to see all of this; that others are going...
    usac42 usac42 46-50, M 15 Responses Jan 10, 2010

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    Same Story

    I live for my kids because my wife treats me like.. Well I don't even know. I am trapped in a sexless marriage and trapped good. I make a good wage, and with kids, there is no way to extricate myself. I love my kids so much it hurts when I think about them in a situation like...
    RedVancouver RedVancouver 36-40, M 9 Responses Sep 18, 2013

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    I have been married to my wife now

    for 9 yrs and been with her for 14. I've the past 6 years this have gotten worse. From sex one a month now it is down to maybe 1-2 a year. I have had some health problems but nothing that would stop sex for that time period. When I ask my wife she immediately complains about the...
    zeek96 zeek96 41-45, M 1 Response Jun 20

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    Third try, not sure why it is being removed.

    See above, my situation is almost. More mechanical than anything.
    sexlss sexlss 41-45, M 1 Response Jul 11

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    I've been married over 15 years

    and in the beginning the sex was great but about after three years it just went down hill. I have three children and that is the only reason I stayed in the marriage 15 yrs is a long time I just couldn't leave my baby's. They are old enough now to understand what's going on so...
    bozilla bozilla 36-40, M 4 Responses Jun 10

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    A Type Of Freedom

    Through 22 years of marriage, including that last nine that were almost completely sexless, I have never "cheated" (although I honestly don't consider it cheating, that's the common term). Until last week that is. The relieve I feel from a single night of sex has led me to do...
    stackscampbell stackscampbell 51-55, M 6 Responses Mar 15, 2013

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    Unfortunately, there is always "gray".

    I was in a sexless marriage for years and didn't even really know it, until I finally spoke up and looked up what the condition of my marriage was. Sure enough, when you wife only does it every 10 months out of obligation, never giving any kind of *cough* assistance like bj or...
    FiremanforYou FiremanforYou 31-35, M 6 Responses Jan 29

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    One Handed Man Looking For More

    I have been in a sexless marriage for years, no passion, no cuddling no nothing. My wife tolerates me. If there is any touching it is me doing the touching. I turn in the bed to just snuggle, just touch the warmth of her body, which misewell be like the ice queen, it is not...
    flirtwithme flirtwithme 46-50, M 34 Responses Mar 7, 2009

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    I love my wife and I know she is my soulmate.

    She's a wonderful wife, mother, friend, and partner in my life; of course less the sex. I can say that she made me a better man, more responsible, and more driven. The question I constantly ask myself: Should I let my need for affection, intimacy, or sex make me bitter? I...
    TheWorks TheWorks 36-40, M 4 Responses Apr 19

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    I love my wife but we haven't had sex

    for nearly two years. Is it wrong that I feel so angry and bitter? She never ever touches me and almost always pulls away whenever I try to initiate even the most basic forms of any kinds of physical intimacy - even holding hands or having a cuddle is totally out of the...
    showspotential showspotential 36-40, M 4 Responses Jun 17

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    Just so frustrating fighting a loosing battle

    with a partner who won't talk, won't answer and won't commit, just keeps you hanging on with the same promises she's made before, promises you know she'll never keep. You know its just delaying tactics but you want to believe in spit of the truth you know just keep holding on...
    havensuppy havensuppy 41-45, M 5 Responses Apr 21

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    My wife accuses me of treating her like a sex

    doll whenever I push the issue of us not having sex. She says she is always too tired, except those rare occasions when she isn't and then she gets too tired as soon as she reaches ******. I take longer than normal and she is never interested in foreplay of any sort unless it is...
    themyth1981 themyth1981 31-35, M 2 Responses Jul 10

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    I Fear For The Future Of My Marriage

    Almost every story is the same. A child comes into the picture, the spouses get comfortable, the sex virtually stops. This is mine as well. I give my wife the benefit of the doubt. She is exhausted (for good reason!), she does so much for me and our son, gave up her career for...
    LoveMyWifeForever LoveMyWifeForever 31-35 11 Responses Nov 4, 2013

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    Are there any women here

    who live in Israel ?
    boxersoff4u boxersoff4u 51-55, M 1 Response Jul 15

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    I won't say my marriage is sexless just not any

    where close to where I want it. No intimacy just sex. Talk to your blue in the face. Won't change nothing
    october004 october004 31-35, M 1 Response Apr 5

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    It's Not Just About The Sex....

    I don't think its about the sex anymore. Not that our sex life has improved dramatically or anything, it really hasn't. It is top of mind in our relationship but that hasn't equated into any lasting change...in our case it only changes for a week or so and then it runs out of...
    TTBM TTBM 31-35, M 7 Responses Apr 14, 2012

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    Sexless Christian Marriage Part 2

    Christian Sexless marriage Part 2 1 Corinthians 7:4-6 King James Version (KJV) 4The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife. 5Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a...
    NMBtruth1 NMBtruth1 41-45, M 6 Responses Jul 1, 2011

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    I am about 31 y/o, married

    for about 2 years. My wife is 2 years older than me. And it was a downhill battle for me after the marriage. Sex indeed brought us back, at least for me. But it was going to be a rare occasion over time. To her, sex is a reward of some sort if I did something right or I suppose...
    yhzell yhzell 26-30, M 7 Responses May 14

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    I am in a loveless, sexless marriage with a

    woman I love very much - she will not return the favor...
    Artcoo Artcoo 51-55, M 2 Responses Jun 25

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    Hiii i m new in EP wanna make some unknown

    friends from diffrent places & share some feelings & emotions with them can u be my frnd??
    kunal87 kunal87 26-30, M 2 Responses May 4

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    Welcome to Hell!

    If you're a man who wants to see his kids everyday, but you live in a sexless marriage with a gorgeous woman who you used to have regular amazing sex with... is there really anything closer to hell on earth? You get divorced she gets the house, the kids, and you get... screwed...
    Shoreboy Shoreboy 41-45, M 85 Responses Jun 18, 2009

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    Ten years ago my wife came to me

    and said she was going thru the change in life and wanted to do it without drugs, so would I please put up with her moodiness. We agree. We also agreed to have sex, but that went from twice a week to twice a month, to twice a year. Now she says she is no longer interested in...
    sadbutmad sadbutmad 56-60, M 11 Responses May 15

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    It Is My Fault

    i like and need attention, I don't need your approval ,just your attention. My wife doesn't get that. I have been waiting 28 years for her to get into her prime.It ain't here yet ,so I guess she won't now.don't remember the last kiss, or the last hug.so I have looked else where...
    bquick bquick 51-55, M 25 Responses Jan 16, 2008

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    Hi Gentlemen

    Is there a lonely husband, who wants to talk to a lonely wife? I will talk about anything. I am isolated I have not friends.  I have my young children and a husband who seems to hate me.  Watching Mickey Mouse Club House, Dora, Chugington is driving me looney.  I need adult...
    CuteHuggieBear CuteHuggieBear 36-40, F 22 Responses Mar 5, 2013

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    Ok I think I am ready to write this down.

    I got married to my wife when I was 19...she was 21....she was the only real girlfriend I had ever had and she was very....clingy....I think that I just kind of went along with whatever she said and that is how I ended up married. Our sex life was ok for a while....I am not...
    MrStupe MrStupe 41-45, M 5 Responses May 3

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    The Game Women Can Play That Men Can't

    I'm not sure if I can say more than has already been said other than how pissed off I am.  I have tried my whole life to do the right thing, instead of staying single getting married, putting up with all the excuses why there's no sex and all the other bullshit.  I don't care...
    jb02157 jb02157 46-50, M 12 Responses Mar 1, 2011

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    budkelly budkelly 41-45, M 1 Response Jun 18

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    I wouldn't want to be in a sexless marriage I

    think that even if the relationship included kids I'd make sure I'd have the "alone" time with my man. I wouldn't want it so planed out either .. I'd have sex with him or give him bj's all at random times.
    aaaxaaa aaaxaaa 18-21, F 14 Responses Jun 5

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    Taking Matters Into My Own Hands.

    My wife and I are in our 60s and we have long since ceased to be intimate. This does not appear to bother her but i am extremely frustrated and I ********** frequently. I chat online and manage to share my fantasies with strangers but if I had my time over again I would think...
    wanderlust201143 wanderlust201143 61-65, M 7 Responses Nov 16, 2011

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    Can't even kiss my wife!

    Sit down next to my wife, trying to hug and hold her and then move in for a kiss and all she can think of is our daughter walking in on us. Wasn't trying to get naked, just a kiss and I get nothing. Just another excuse, I'm tired of having a roommate instead of a wife. Why do I...
    meme111111 meme111111 36-40, M 13 Responses Jun 7

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    Here I am, Just like all of you husbands,

    sexless marriage, WTF, what to do about it. Who am I: been married for 20 years, one child, in college (Doing great !!). So now its a empty nest. I am employed, BUT I DO ALL the cooking, cleaning, laundry, grocery shopping, vacuuming, toilets, cleaning the shower, etc. Being...
    Larsimages Larsimages 51-55, M 10 Responses Mar 25

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    I wouldn't want to be in a sexless marriage,

    I'd make it a priority to have that alone time with my husband if I was to ever get married, especially with kids. & I sure as Hell wouldn't make it boring & lifeless, I feel the older you get with a person the closer you become & more open which should only bring positive...
    alizex7x alizex7x 18-21, F 8 Responses Apr 1

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    Maybe We Need A New Title.. I Live In A Passionless Marriage Without Intimacy

    I have written and replied to many of the sexless marriage stories on EP, and when I think about all of it, it has little to do with just sex for me. To me the ideal way to fill the current void in this marriage, would be to find a woman married, single or involved who wanted ro...
    mandown mandown 61-65, M 13 Responses Jan 20, 2013

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    I'm the Daughter That Saw Her Parents Grow Apart From a Sexless Marriage

    Growning up as a kid was great! I had a lot of love and saw a lot of love in my home. My dad worked all the time, up to 3 jobs at any given time, but always 2. He was a mechanic and a Banjo Man. Mom was a stay at home mom with 4 kids by her side and she was excellent at it...
    SilverMoon58 SilverMoon58 46-50, F 23 Responses Aug 29, 2009

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    My name is Ryan, i love in a sexless marrage.

    If you havent guessed I'm gay and been arried for ruffly 5 months now and I have had sex just a gathering of 5 times since Feb 28th 2014. My husband does suffer from many things that prevent him leading a normal life. I feel as for my age I became a "house wife" doing nothing...
    RY0RY RY0RY 18-21, M 2 Responses Jul 2

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    I don't know how to update my age listing

    associated with my name and picture . I am 71 and so could be fitted into the category of "you are so old, what difference does your set of problems make ...just be thankful to wake up..." But I still want whatever sexual closeness we could have in the time we have left.
    Joshua1942 Joshua1942 66-70, M 2 Responses May 28

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    A Sexless Marriage From A Female View...

    So you're in a sexless marriage..now what?? I have found there are more complaints from men being in a sexless marriage than women. Have you ever wondered why? I've read many stories, including those in this group and I find that most are missing some very important aspects of...
    NobodyKnowsWhoIam NobodyKnowsWhoIam 26-30, F 90 Responses Jul 28, 2011

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    My Sexless Marriage

    M y wife and I have no sex life. Well not entirely but 3-4 times per year does not count as a sex life to me. I don't think that it counts as a sex life to her either. We have discussed it and she admits that is not healthy but refuses to do anything about it. She claims that...
    nolust nolust 36-40 64 Responses Aug 15, 2008

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