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I Am a Lesbian Married to a Man

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    I want to start by saying I love my husband

    very much. I am the only person that is in his life that he trusts. It's killing me inside to know that I want so badly to be with a woman. Let me say that he is very familiar with my past. He knows that I have been with women before. He also knows that right at this moment that...
    Lanet809 Lanet809 26-30, F 2 Responses Mar 30

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    I am thinking it might be nice to connect with

    another woman about my age (47) who has decided to stay in her marriage, for the kids, the security, the financial stability, but understands that it isn't always the easiest path.
    denisepeace denisepeace 41-45, F 2 Responses Apr 12

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    I think I'm in the right place;

    so right that I'm probably about to write the same thing as most in this group. I have been married to a wonderful man for 10 years and we have 3 beautiful daughters. My husband has always been aware that I am (at least) bisexual, and that I have been with a couple of girls...
    deleted deleted 26-30 8 Responses Dec 21, 2013

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    Intimate Question For You Ladies

    Hello ladies, Like many of you, it took me a while to figure out I was gay.  Partly because I was in denial and partly because I have almost always lived in a sexless marriage.  We had sex here and there, but the problem was always present.  He was never interested in...
    daisydelacruz daisydelacruz 36-40, F 7 Responses Oct 3, 2012

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    No I'm not married but I would love to be

    married to man and have a girlfriend. I think that would make me so happy. She can have a husband too but we will still be girlfriends. I'll treat her to places and take her out. Get rooms and stuff. Eventually we would have a commitment ceremony and she would be my wife :) Ahhh...
    Addictivethickness Addictivethickness 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 13

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    I have been married for over a year now,

    I love my husband but I cant help but feel an emptiness. My enire life I have not had the greatest luck with men. I lost my virtinty at a young age, and was in an abusive relatioship all throughout high school. I never imagined myself being with a woman but when I would think...
    notsostraight notsostraight 22-25 3 Responses Jan 31

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    And I Just Came Out To My Husband..

    and to two of my close friends. At first, I thought it was a matter of being bi, and my hubby was ok with me meeting and dating other women. This was a few months ago. I've been dating a girl for almost two of those months now, and have been completely/bluntly honest with her...
    bluemajolica bluemajolica 31-35, F 8 Responses Nov 22, 2013

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    Being Lesbian Is Not Without Reality

    When I read the stories posted here I right away can relate because I lived that lie and longed to be free to be me for many years. I did find the courage to break away and do the right thing. I read everyone's post about their dreams of being able to be totally passionate and...
    giayesim12 giayesim12 46-50, F 7 Responses Sep 15, 2013

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    I feel I no longer need to find any answers.

    It is clear to me that I am in love with a woman. That I will make her mine . All the questions have been answered. She is everything to me! I don't feel I need anyone but her. I have not posted a single thing on here in some time. I know there are other people afraid to...
    Grandiflora Grandiflora 41-45, F 11 hrs ago

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    I'm happily married and love my husband

    but sometimes I keep wondering what it be like to experience things with a woman
    TexasKindaGal TexasKindaGal 26-30, F 4 Responses Jan 20

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    My husband and I finally had the talk.

    He says he just wants me to be happy and we will always be close, but I am terrified I am going to lose him from my life. We have decided to try a separation to see what works for us. I am so scared about the future, but I know I cannot go back to living lie.
    Onlyifyoucanguess Onlyifyoucanguess 26-30, F 3 Responses Feb 19

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    One Small Step For A Married Woman, One Giant Leap For A Lesbian!

    A few days ago, I finally admitted to my husband that I'm gay. We were having a heart to heart and he told me how lonely he was in our marriage. I told him I was feeling the same way and that the distance we've been experiencing is a result of the lack of intimacy in our...
    daisydelacruz daisydelacruz 36-40, F 15 Responses Sep 13, 2012

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    Evangelical, Married But Know I Am Still Drawn To Women

    Hi Everyone, Im going to share my story, and I would love to connect with any of you who would like to (ny email etc) and make some new friends. I am 38 years old, currently living in Whyalla, South Australia. I am Mum to 4 kids, all 7 and under. I love them dearly. I love my...
    jelpick jelpick 36-40, F 14 Responses Dec 12, 2012

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    I Am Bisexual And Married To A Great Man.

    I'm a bisexual and happily married to a wonderful an understanding man, but a true and strong connection with a woman is missing from my life and it makes me feel like something is missing - not from us, but from me. I wonder if there are other married women staring out a window...
    onegirltwohearts onegirltwohearts 22-25, F 7 Responses Nov 10, 2013

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    I Am Married But Secretly Am Attracted To Women

    I am 41 and have been married for almost 17 years.  We have two children, ages 7 and 11.  I guess I have always known I was attracted to girls and knew something was different at a young age.  I never dated in high school but had a very close relationship with my...
    wendysgirl wendysgirl 36-40, F 19 Responses Mar 23, 2010

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    Im 26, Ive been with a man

    for 7 years, not even married for a full year yet and ive finally come to terms with the fact that im a lesbian. I came out to my parents at age 17 but it was the end of the world and i was basically pushed back into a closet because i so badly wanted to not disappoint. I wish i...
    azulu azulu 26-30, F 4 Responses Feb 25

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      I'm lesbian (or should I say Bi)

    and I'm not married. I'm 37 and still think I'll find someone to get married too. I'm just saying this to get you familiar with my short story, it's not that important. My point is (what actually brought me here) that I'm very very attracted to a woman which is married. She is...
    zuzzi zuzzi 36-40, F 6 Responses Feb 26

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    I Think I Am Figuring This Out

    Listening to Hole and I believe Courtney Love summed up my life before I came out with this line, "do you fake it for me like I fake it for you?" And it is so much more thatn sexual. I am wondering how many people walk around faking it and I can understand so much more about...
    gestshoup gestshoup 46-50, F 2 Responses Oct 13, 2012

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    I Cant Wait For My Chance

    I cant wait for my chance to love a women from head to toe...to make her crawl the ceiling.... i cant wait for someone to do the same with me.....
    EEYORE6 EEYORE6 36-40, F 26 Responses Oct 3, 2008

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    Same situation here. Im.

    married with kids and have a strong sexual and sometimes emtional.pull towards women. I didnt tell.my husband for a long time, but when i did, he was happy i told him and encourages me to do what makes me happy, which makes me love him.more!
    AnJSeagle3329 AnJSeagle3329 31-35, F 2 Responses Dec 20, 2013

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    Sigh. I seem to sigh a lot lately.

    It's the only thing I can do besides cry and wallow in self hatred/pity because my life isn't what I want it to be. Due to my unwillingness to believe in myself and have confidence in who I am. I am a lesbian, engaged to an abusive man, trapped in a repressive relationship, in...
    LovesDeceit LovesDeceit 18-21, F 2 Responses Feb 18

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    How Long Can I Lie To Everyone Around Me?

    I was quite the tomboy growing up. Most of my friends were boys because girls were too girly. I couldn't understand why they would want to wear dresses or have done up hair and why they would pretend to run at recess when the boys chased them. I didn't ever think that I was gay...
    LiltingNinny LiltingNinny 36-40, F 13 Responses Dec 1, 2011

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    Coming out with my family isn't easy!

    At Least not with our 16yr old daughter! She's so mad that I'm not in love with her father. How could I want to b with a women and leave him and do that to her. She asked why couldn't I have stayed in the closet and b with who I wanted and basically show a fake life to others.i...
    cronin43 cronin43 46-50, F 2 Responses Dec 14, 2013

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    This weekend I finally came out to my husband

    and kids about me being a lesbian.... He took if rough but for the sake of the girls accepts I stay home....my girls took,it pretty well in fact... We got separated but share the house for their sake.... God it feels good to be out!!!!!
    ilovewoman1602 ilovewoman1602 36-40, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    I want to start by saying

    that I am truly in love with my husband and he knows my preference ever since we were younger. We have been together for 3 years and I wouldn't trade him for anyone. But, I still find myself fantasizing about other women and think about the experiences I had a few years ago. I...
    ShaylaCutie ShaylaCutie 22-25, F 4 Responses Mar 19

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    I've been married for 12 years

    and I have three children. I am just now coming to terms with the fact that I am definitely attracted to women. I have been aware of my attraction since I was 11 yrs old but growing up in a religious family, I was taught that it was wrong and so for years I have tried to ignore...
    mamatiger36 mamatiger36 36-40, F 8 Responses Mar 6

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    I'm not for sure if I'm lesbian

    or bi, but I am attracted to females even though I'm married. We never have sex.. Maybe twice a year. I never come onto him and when he does I always make excuses.
    pfarley pfarley 26-30, F 5 Responses Jan 3

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    I have been married for 9 yrs in this

    relationship for over 20yrs, 3 kids... but I am in total love with woman.......
    ilovewoman1602 ilovewoman1602 36-40, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    Confused Lesbian

    I am married to a very good man.  I too have always considered myself a good person.  I have 2 sons whom I love with all my heart.  I love my husband, but the attraction is just not there.  I dont think that it is not there for just him but for any man. ...
    DiBa DiBa 46-50 66 Responses Nov 2, 2008

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    Wow so glad I joined this forum reading other

    experiences of married women attracted to women is helping me realise I'm not alone in feeling this way.
    Mariarainy Mariarainy 46-50, F 3 Responses Apr 6

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    First off, I really don't know

    whether I am a lesbian. I'm 50 years old, had a relatively sheltered childhood. I didn't start dating until college and met my husband of 25 years at age 19. I've always found men attractive. And still do. But, here's the thing... I've also always felt butch, have been attracted...
    confusedboomer confusedboomer 51-55, F 5 Responses Feb 4

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    My One Time And My Fantasy

    I grew up in a very conservative and closed minded Christian home. Through my teenage years and as an adult I went through a lot of pain trying to get rid of the negative and frankly rather disgusting conditioning that I underwent regarding sexuality. I have gone through...
    ET1234 ET1234 26-30, F 82 Responses Mar 31, 2012

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    What Type of Lesbian Are You?

    This group seems to be for women who are confused about their sexuality.  My guess is you don't want to claim the title of bisexual even though you fell in love and married a man.  So what type of lesbian does that make you?  Here are a few categories you may fall...
    ichooselife ichooselife 36-40, F 49 Responses May 27, 2009

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    I'M Not Into That...

    So awhile back I told my husband about my feelings, he always thought I was just Bi. I wanted to force myself to be Bi because, like many of you I was raised with the expectations of the husband kids and white picket fence. It just seemed like the only option. But I've learned...
    kinkyrainbow kinkyrainbow 31-35, F 5 Responses Nov 9, 2013

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    I will wait. I will stand on the bank of this

    river and wait. My feet firmly grounded in the soft green moss. Gentle breeze tickling my closed eyelids and cleansing my lungs. I breathe deeply as I listen to the sound of that raging river. It sounds so scary, as if it could take over, swallow you whole. My heart picks up and...
    mistletoe41 mistletoe41 41-45, F 5 Responses Jan 7

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    I'm not sure what to do.

    My husband is my life, my best friend, my soul mate, my intellectual match, my everything. I enjoy sex with him but I usually imagine being with a woman and am so rarely present. I hate looking at all men below the waist. My husband knows I am bisexual and we sometimes joke...
    OrchidQueen OrchidQueen 26-30, F 8 Responses Dec 10, 2013

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    My Life Up To Now...

    Deep breath…here I go! The stories I've read here so far have been such a comfort and relief. They have given me the courage to share my own. I apologize for the length of my story. It was very difficult to share my journey without casting a light on all the big events in my...
    daisydelacruz daisydelacruz 36-40, F 11 Responses Aug 29, 2012

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    I met a guy when I was 19 years old

    and fell in love. It didn't matter that I had always had some mixed feelings about my sexuality. I ended up deciding I was bi-sexual and had just met a man first. And when he asked me to marry him I told him about my attraction to women. It didn't bother him and now he's my...
    EllBowler EllBowler 26-30, F 7 Responses Jan 1

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    I am 32 and educated.

    Married for eight years with a son. I am not afraid to speak my mind and I always tried to follow my heart. But following ones heart can be tricky. I know I would tremendously hurt my husband if we divorced and I know that if I continue to live life this way (finding women...
    deleted deleted 26-30 5 Responses Feb 17

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    All of you. I want all of you.

    Your deepest secrets, your most tender places. Your dark, your light. Give me all of you. Expose your fears. Let your tears fall on my fingertips. Let your head rest on my breast. Look me deep in the eyes and open the windows of your soul. Fall apart. Let down the walls. Let...
    mistletoe41 mistletoe41 41-45, F 4 Responses Dec 16, 2013

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    Triad Trials

    Her eyes, her lies,  chains on my heart, pains on my face, Attempt in my wake, failure in my future Tears in a clear bottle.  Hope in my step, caution in the approach, Takeoff on the verge of reality, choking on the fumes, He appears through the fog, fingers on a greased hog...
    WingedUnicorn WingedUnicorn 26-30, F 4 Responses Feb 9, 2013

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    The Struggle

    What am I doing, what have I done? Who am I becoming, what have I become? Betrayer of hearts, destroyer of lives Sometimes I feel I am someone to despise. Look at what you're doing! Oh my God! Who are you kidding! What a fascade! Unsettled, anxious, lost and alone Soul hollow...
    mistletoe41 mistletoe41 41-45, F 8 Responses Sep 28, 2013

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    I Am A Married To A Man Butwant To Be With Woman.

    I am a 39 women who wants to leave my husband. I am afraid to leave baced on the fear. I am depressed & feeling alone. I don't hve sex or injoy it with him. I don't like when he forces himself on me when I say no. I just want to run away from my marriage . Pls someone help me.
    1331jean 1331jean 36-40, F 60 Responses Aug 19, 2012

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    I am through trying to do the whole dating/

    relationship thing anymore. Turns out I have a penchant for women who are either closeted sexually and/or emotionally. I get so tired of being the honest one, the open one who gets her heart trampled on! Why is it that these women are SO afraid of being themselves and letting go...
    Indigolesbian70 Indigolesbian70 41-45, F 4 Responses Feb 16

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    I am a married man to a woman of 33+years

    and we also were high school sweet hearts.Wife ,now tells me that within 2 months of a sexual expierence and because of the numerous issues within our marriage . She has decided to be with this lesbian and become partners. I asked her nicely to step back from the relationship...
    PaladinZeth PaladinZeth 51-55, M 2 Responses Jan 4

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    I have two children. I love my husband

    but do not feel the intense attraction I do to women. My husband knows the truth. We have decided to remain married for the sake of the children. It is a hard life. It is a tough place to be. To wake up beside someone who does not make my heart beat faster or take my breath...
    Grandiflora Grandiflora 41-45, F 6 Responses Dec 28, 2013

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    I Am a Lesbian Married to a Straight Man

    Where do I begin? Well, I will just start from where I think I had my first inclination. When I was about 11 years old, I felt an attraction to girls when most of my friends were feeling an attraction to boys...you know 11 year old girls, all about the "boy bands"...
    sarahsinwithme sarahsinwithme 22-25, F 75 Responses Aug 30, 2008

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    Question: After years (let's say 10 years later

    when I'm 45 or so) will I be relieved since the sex drive will be less (or gone ;)) or will I regret it to my end of my life?????
    MichelleMichael MichelleMichael 31-35, F 3 Responses Jan 29

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    I am married, I have kids,

    and I am a Christian .. But I feel in love with a woman recently. She doesn't know. I miss her so much.. What can I do???
    love126 love126 31-35, F 8 Responses Feb 7

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    He knows. He's known

    since early on in our marriage and we have been married for seventeen years now. He is the guy who thinks lipstick lesbians are hot, and is ok with me playing around. But I am not happy with him. I've never been happy with him. It's not just because I am attracted to other...
    TakeThisLonging TakeThisLonging 36-40, F 5 Responses Jan 25

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    It's Torture

    I long to be swept away madly in love with a woman so I can have the guts the man that's by my side. I do not know what to do anymore. This struggle is real and I do not know what stops me. Am I scared? Do I just care about him and his feelings more then I do my own? Am I scared...
    BlueCurrent BlueCurrent 26-30, F 3 Responses Nov 11, 2013

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