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I Am a Lesbian Married to a Man

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    I Am a Lesbian Married to a Straight Man - Where do I begin? Well, I will just start from where I think I had my first inclination. When I was about 11 years old, I felt an...
    sarahsinwithme sarahsinwithme 22-25, F 75 Responses Aug 30, 2008

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    I am a married man to a woman of 33+years and we also were high school sweet hearts.Wife ,now tells me that within 2 months of a sexual expierence and because of the numerous...
    PaladinZeth PaladinZeth 51-55, M 2 Responses Jan 4

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    No I'm not married but I would love to be married to man and have a girlfriend. I think that would make me so happy. She can have a husband too but we will still be girlfriends. I...
    Addictivethickness Addictivethickness 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 13

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    Intimate Question For You Ladies - Hello ladies, Like many of you, it took me a while to figure out I was gay.  Partly because I was in denial and partly because I have almost...
    daisydelacruz daisydelacruz 36-40, F 7 Responses Oct 3, 2012

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    I am thinking it might be nice to connect with another woman about my age (47) who has decided to stay in her marriage, for the kids, the security, the financial stability, but...
    denisepeace denisepeace 41-45, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    The Struggle - What am I doing, what have I done? Who am I becoming, what have I become? Betrayer of hearts, destroyer of lives Sometimes I feel I am someone to despise. Look at...
    mistletoe41 mistletoe41 41-45, F 8 Responses Sep 28, 2013

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    I'm happily married and love my husband but sometimes I keep wondering what it be like to experience things with a woman
    TexasKindaGal TexasKindaGal 26-30, F 4 Responses Jan 20

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    Wow so glad I joined this forum reading other experiences of married women attracted to women is helping me realise I'm not alone in feeling this way.
    Mariarainy Mariarainy 46-50, F 3 Responses Apr 6

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    I Am A Married To A Man Butwant To Be With Woman. - I am a 39 women who wants to leave my husband. I am afraid to leave baced on the fear. I am depressed & feeling alone. I don't...
    1331jean 1331jean 36-40, F 60 Responses Aug 19, 2012

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    Same situation here. Im.married with kids and have a strong sexual and sometimes emtional.pull towards women. I didnt tell.my husband for a long time, but when i did, he was happy...
    AnJSeagle3329 AnJSeagle3329 31-35, F 2 Responses Dec 20, 2013

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    What Type of Lesbian Are You? - This group seems to be for women who are confused about their sexuality.  My guess is you don't want to claim the title of bisexual even though...
    ichooselife ichooselife 36-40, F 49 Responses May 27, 2009

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    Sigh. I seem to sigh a lot lately. It's the only thing I can do besides cry and wallow in self hatred/pity because my life isn't what I want it to be. Due to my unwillingness to...
    LovesDeceit LovesDeceit 18-21, F 2 Responses Feb 18

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    Triad Trials - Her eyes, her lies,  chains on my heart, pains on my face, Attempt in my wake, failure in my future Tears in a clear bottle.  Hope in my step, caution in the...
    WingedUnicorn WingedUnicorn 26-30, F 4 Responses Feb 9, 2013

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    My Story.. - I don't even know where to begin, but i guess i have to start somewhere. I relate to so many of these stories its crazy. I'm newly married to my best friend in the...
    Malcp88 Malcp88 18-21 6 Responses Dec 1, 2013

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    My Life...Without Solution.. - hi , I feel like confessing ... But before that i wanna share wats on my mind... Iam a girl/lesbian ,now 25 years... At the age of 15 i started my...
    Snowyqueen Snowyqueen 22-25, F Nov 30, 2013

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    He knows. He's known since early on in our marriage and we have been married for seventeen years now. He is the guy who thinks lipstick lesbians are hot, and is ok with me playing...
    TakeThisLonging TakeThisLonging 36-40, F 5 Responses Jan 25

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    All of you. I want all of you. Your deepest secrets, your most tender places. Your dark, your light. Give me all of you. Expose your fears. Let your tears fall on my fingertips...
    mistletoe41 mistletoe41 41-45, F 4 Responses Dec 16, 2013

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    My husband and I finally had the talk. He says he just wants me to be happy and we will always be close, but I am terrified I am going to lose him from my life. We have decided to...
    Onlyifyoucanguess Onlyifyoucanguess 26-30, F 3 Responses Feb 19

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      I'm lesbian (or should I say Bi) and I'm not married. I'm 37 and still think I'll find someone to get married too. I'm just saying this to get you familiar with my short...
    zuzzi zuzzi 36-40, F 6 Responses Feb 26

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    I am married, I have kids, and I am a Christian .. But I feel in love with a woman recently. She doesn't know. I miss her so much.. What can I do???
    love126 love126 31-35, F 7 Responses Feb 7

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    First off, I really don't know whether I am a lesbian. I'm 50 years old, had a relatively sheltered childhood. I didn't start dating until college and met my husband of 25 years at...
    confusedboomer confusedboomer 51-55, F 5 Responses Feb 4

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    And I Just Came Out To My Husband.. - and to two of my close friends. At first, I thought it was a matter of being bi, and my hubby was ok with me meeting and dating other women...
    bluemajolica bluemajolica 31-35, F 8 Responses Nov 22, 2013

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    I Cant Wait For My Chance - I cant wait for my chance to love a women from head to toe...to make her crawl the ceiling.... i cant wait for someone to do the same with me.....
    EEYORE6 EEYORE6 36-40, F 26 Responses Oct 3, 2008

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    Question: After years (let's say 10 years later when I'm 45 or so) will I be relieved since the sex drive will be less (or gone ;)) or will I regret it to my end of my life?????
    MichelleMichael MichelleMichael 31-35, F 3 Responses Jan 29

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    I Am Married But Secretly Am Attracted To Women - I am 41 and have been married for almost 17 years.  We have two children, ages 7 and 11.  I guess I have always known...
    wendysgirl wendysgirl 36-40, F 18 Responses Mar 23, 2010

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    My Life Up To Now... - Deep breath…here I go! The stories I've read here so far have been such a comfort and relief. They have given me the courage to share my own. I apologize...
    daisydelacruz daisydelacruz 36-40, F 11 Responses Aug 29, 2012

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    Coming out with my family isn't easy! At Least not with our 16yr old daughter! She's so mad that I'm not in love with her father. How could I want to b with a women and leave him...
    cronin43 cronin43 46-50 2 Responses Dec 14, 2013

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    Im 26, Ive been with a man for 7 years, not even married for a full year yet and ive finally come to terms with the fact that im a lesbian. I came out to my parents at age 17 but...
    azulu azulu 26-30, F 4 Responses Feb 25

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    Evangelical, Married But Know I Am Still Drawn To Women - Hi Everyone, Im going to share my story, and I would love to connect with any of you who would like to (ny email etc) and...
    jelpick jelpick 36-40, F 14 Responses Dec 12, 2012

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    I have two children. I love my husband but do not feel the intense attraction I do to women. My husband knows the truth. We have decided to remain married for the sake of the...
    Grandiflora Grandiflora 41-45, F 6 Responses Dec 28, 2013

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    I met a guy when I was 19 years old and fell in love. It didn't matter that I had always had some mixed feelings about my sexuality. I ended up deciding I was bi-sexual and had...
    EllBowler EllBowler 26-30, F 7 Responses Jan 1

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    I've been married for 12 years and I have three children. I am just now coming to terms with the fact that I am definitely attracted to women. I have been aware of my attraction...
    mamatiger36 mamatiger36 36-40, F 8 Responses Mar 6

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    I will wait. I will stand on the bank of this river and wait. My feet firmly grounded in the soft green moss. Gentle breeze tickling my closed eyelids and cleansing my lungs. I...
    mistletoe41 mistletoe41 41-45, F 5 Responses Jan 7

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    I am through trying to do the whole dating/ relationship thing anymore. Turns out I have a penchant for women who are either closeted sexually and/or emotionally. I get so tired of...
    Indigolesbian70 Indigolesbian70 41-45, F 4 Responses Feb 16

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    I'm not sure what to do. My husband is my life, my best friend, my soul mate, my intellectual match, my everything. I enjoy sex with him but I usually imagine being with a woman...
    OrchidQueen OrchidQueen 26-30, F 8 Responses Dec 10, 2013

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    I Am Bisexual And Married To A Great Man. - I'm a bisexual and happily married to a wonderful an understanding man, but a true and strong connection with a woman is missing from my...
    onegirltwohearts onegirltwohearts 22-25, F 7 Responses Nov 10, 2013

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    I Think I Am Figuring This Out - Listening to Hole and I believe Courtney Love summed up my life before I came out with this line, "do you fake it for me like I fake it for you...
    gestshoup gestshoup 46-50, F 2 Responses Oct 13, 2012

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    How Long Can I Lie To Everyone Around Me? - I was quite the tomboy growing up. Most of my friends were boys because girls were too girly. I couldn't understand why they would want...
    LiltingNinny LiltingNinny 36-40, F 13 Responses Dec 1, 2011

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    I am 32 and educated. Married for eight years with a son. I am not afraid to speak my mind and I always tried to follow my heart. But following ones heart can be tricky. I know...
    deleted deleted 26-30 5 Responses Feb 17

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    One Small Step For A Married Woman, One Giant Leap For A Lesbian! - A few days ago, I finally admitted to my husband that I'm gay. We were having a heart to heart and he told me...
    daisydelacruz daisydelacruz 36-40, F 15 Responses Sep 13, 2012

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    Confused Lesbian - I am married to a very good man.  I too have always considered myself a good person.  I have 2 sons whom I love with all my heart.  I love my...
    DiBa DiBa 46-50 66 Responses Nov 2, 2008

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    My One Time And My Fantasy - I grew up in a very conservative and closed minded Christian home. Through my teenage years and as an adult I went through a lot of pain trying to get...
    ET1234 ET1234 26-30, F 82 Responses Mar 31, 2012

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    I'm not for sure if I'm lesbian or bi, but I am attracted to females even though I'm married. We never have sex.. Maybe twice a year. I never come onto him and when he does I...
    pfarley pfarley 26-30, F 5 Responses Jan 3

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    I want to start by saying I love my husband very much. I am the only person that is in his life that he trusts. It's killing me inside to know that I want so badly to be with a...
    Lanet809 Lanet809 26-30, F 2 Responses Mar 30

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    I have been married for over a year now, I love my husband but I cant help but feel an emptiness. My enire life I have not had the greatest luck with men. I lost my virtinty at a...
    notsostraight notsostraight 22-25 3 Responses Jan 31

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    It's Torture - I long to be swept away madly in love with a woman so I can have the guts the man that's by my side. I do not know what to do anymore. This struggle is real and I do...
    BlueCurrent BlueCurrent 26-30, F 3 Responses Nov 11, 2013

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    Being Lesbian Is Not Without Reality - When I read the stories posted here I right away can relate because I lived that lie and longed to be free to be me for many years. I did...
    giayesim12 giayesim12 46-50, F 7 Responses Sep 15, 2013

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    I think I'm in the right place; so right that I'm probably about to write the same thing as most in this group. I have been married to a wonderful man for 10 years and we have 3...
    deleted deleted 26-30 8 Responses Dec 21, 2013

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    I'M Not Into That... - So awhile back I told my husband about my feelings, he always thought I was just Bi. I wanted to force myself to be Bi because, like many of you I was raised...
    kinkyrainbow kinkyrainbow 31-35, F 5 Responses Nov 9, 2013

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    I want to start by saying that I am truly in love with my husband and he knows my preference ever since we were younger. We have been together for 3 years and I wouldn't trade him...
    ShaylaCutie ShaylaCutie 22-25, F 4 Responses Mar 19

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