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I Am a Loner

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    I tend to be alone, but not always by choice,

    unfortunately. I mean, I get along with most people and people don't mind having me around, but I often inadvertently prevent myself from interacting with others. I'm just so quiet and awkward that I don't usually initiate conversation and/or get involved; I keep my distance...
    Blue707 Blue707 16-17, M 4 Responses Mar 1

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    No matter what I do, I'm alone.

    If I'm out with a giant group of friends, I just feel alone. I enjoy being in my room by myself most of the time. I often times distance myself from people.
    WhisperingGrass WhisperingGrass 16-17, F Mar 16

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    I'm working on being fully content to be a

    loner. The majority of time it is reasonably easy, but there's still those occasions where I envy other people hanging out with other people, which I guess is just human nature.
    everyotherusernamewastaken everyotherusernamewastaken 26-30, M 4 Responses Apr 3

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    These are supposed to be the best tears of my

    life, but I feel like I'm in prison
    CBlaze22 CBlaze22 18-21 1 Response Feb 17

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    I like being alone. When I'm alone I don't

    have to be anybody, I can just be happy.
    chaekowski chaekowski 26-30, M 1 Response Jan 9

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    Since being promoted at my job,

    I'm having to deal with a lot more people than I did before. Naturally, this leads to more social interactions. What really upsets me about the whole thing is that now more people are trying to be friendly with me. I know most won't be able to relate to this, and I don't expect...
    GiantKaiju GiantKaiju 22-25, M 3 Responses Feb 18

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    epilepsy restricts you from

    so many things lately got this thing of undergoing hypnosis and past life regression but can't go why because i have epilepsy..overweight..short-heighted and to top it all i have epilepsy now...why am i in the bad books of god..don't know what i have done or suffering for...
    Isabella1994 Isabella1994 18-21, F 2 Responses Feb 4

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    There's Nothing Wrong With Wanting to Be Alone...is There?

    I am a very introverted person and simply don't like to have too much company. Sure there are people I talk to, some of them I consider to be friends, but after all I'm rather alone. I can feel rather drained if too many people are around me. i spend most of my free time to...
    ittooktoolong ittooktoolong 22-25, F 31 Responses Jul 9, 2007

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    And I love being one,

    there is no better friend than myself.
    MysteryAbove MysteryAbove 70+ 5 Responses Feb 27

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    So I'm so not a comedian in class I had no idea

    I told a pretty funny joke. Teacher asked what is alcohol and I answered a bottle of fun. Everyone started laughing and I had no idea why. It took a minute to realize I did something funny.
    Untrustworthy117 Untrustworthy117 16-17, M 1 Response Jun 1, 2014

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    Lone - Not Lonely.

    I can't remember if I posted a story in this group yet but I believe I have. In fact, it may have been one of the first stories I posted on EP after becoming a member and finally beginning to contribute. This morning, I'm surrounded by the beautiful silence that accompanies the...
    Intelligently Intelligently 31-35, F 10 Responses Jul 10, 2012

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    coraimaal coraimaal 18-21, F 5 Responses 5 days ago

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    imdifferent97 imdifferent97 18-21, F 2 Responses Mar 7

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    I was in a group of three

    but then the two started dating and no I'm alone. They were my closest friends and I trusted them but not I have no one to trust. Yes there are people around but they all scare me. I'm afraid of being hurt again.
    achantal achantal 18-21, F 2 Responses Mar 8

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    Loner For Life, Proud And With No Regrets

    Right now I am in the middle of a vacation from my job, 26 straight days off with pay.  What is the best part of this, besides free money of course? The fact that I can spend many days hibernating at home, not having to lay eyes on any human being. Yes, I am a loner, it may...
    deepintheheart deepintheheart 41-45, M 20 Responses Aug 12, 2011

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    I have very little or no friends in real life

    circles. Most are just acquaintances. I am a loner. I Walk alone, eat alone, have fun times alone. And this situation is beyond my control. It has come to be a natural occurrence. I seem to have this invincible wall around me. It seems I built it gradually, brick by brick, over...
    Significant Significant 26-30, F 9 Responses a week ago

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    Best Vacation

    My favorite vacation is to drive away, find a cheap-but-decent motel with some shopping & restaurants nearby, and enjoy being alone.  Some of my friends can't understand this.  For example, last year I drove upstate to a small town.  I told my friends and co...
    Rusj Rusj 56-60 27 Responses Jul 11, 2010

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    jellyrolls34 jellyrolls34 18-21, F Mar 23

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    "I hate "fun" people.

    I hate group work, because it makes me feel out of place. I hate break time because it emphasizes how isolated I am from everyone else. And I hate people in cliques because it feels like they're advertently rejecting me."
    illiy illiy 18-21, F 5 Responses Sep 6, 2014

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    Isolated from the crowd,

    Is this my life? A pain I bare, this world and it's cruelty, will I blend into the background once again? Unnoticed, transparent, people pass me one by one. Left in thee open, by those who put me there. Face to face, eye to eye, still unable to see me. Is this my fate for...
    Cooper802 Cooper802 18-21, M 4 Responses Feb 5

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    nomnommings nomnommings 16-17, F 4 Responses Feb 28

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    I am 18 and I've never had a best friend

    or a boyfriend. It gets really lonely not having someone close sometimes. I really thought I would've been used to it by now.
    theloveofmylife2 theloveofmylife2 18-21, F 8 Responses Feb 13

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    I've always been a loner.

    I think that's just the way I am and no amount of trying to be different will ever change the real me. I've tried to be outgoing and socialize but I'm not being true to myself. I have a few friends, I love them and I respect them. They also know that I like my own space and do...
    AnAngelSmile AnAngelSmile 36-40, F 8 Responses Mar 10

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    Here's what drives me crazy: It is a

    dog-eat-dog society, yet mainstream society is at the same time relentlessly social. I have for the most part given up on people. Most people do not have my best interests in mind, and even well-meaning people can be rather annoying. I'm aware that human interaction is a...
    atpeacewithme atpeacewithme 31-35 7 Responses Feb 28

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    Some people just are

    and there is nothing wrong in the fact. Dont we all like our own company at times. It takes strength to be a 'loner' as you have to be happy with yourself in order to do it. The problem can arise when you are a loner for emotional reasons such as being hurt too much by...
    AX5625 AX5625 31-35, M 2 Responses Mar 3, 2014

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    Life is just boring as hell

    and it's been like this for years. I don't understand why some people flourish socially and others completely sink.
    IllusionaryGentleman39 IllusionaryGentleman39 18-21, M 1 Response Mar 28

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    Why do you think people look down on loners?

    I was working on some calculations in my Bio lab, and didn't realise that I was the only one working alone until the T.A. came over to check on me. Ordinarily, she doesn't even look in my direction, so it seemed strange, then I realised, and every time I looked up there was...
    theloveofmylife2 theloveofmylife2 18-21, F 2 Responses Mar 28

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    Man Of Stone, Walks Alone

    I should really stop doing this, because it doesn't really make me feel any better about anything going on in my life; but at the same time, I find myself addicted. I enjoy viewing people's photos on Facebook, or trolling through Photobucket for public albums. I see all these...
    TheDarkTower TheDarkTower 31-35, M 10 Responses Jan 25, 2012

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    Why I Am a Loner--as Much As I Understand It

    Update, November 1, 2007: While all of what I wrote is true, a few things happened recently that have me rethinking it.  I have good reason to think there is a lot to like in some people, and maybe a little to like in just about everyone.  So I'm giving people another...
    freeeedom freeeedom 51-55, F 6 Responses Aug 4, 2007

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    “As a child I felt myself to be alone,

    and I am still, because I know things and must hint at things which others apparently know nothing of, and for the most part do not want to know.” ― C.G. Jung, The famous Swiss psychiatrist, I have my answer, I am in good company! As an introvert I love living inside my...
    venusdi venusdi 70+, F 8 Responses Feb 11, 2014

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    Today i went walking,

    didn't care where my feet lead me. Was having a bad day. Wind up in some neighborhood with cute little houses. Sat on the sidewalk, and just watched these leaves fall from this tree. It was beautiful, they just kept falling. It's cloudy outside, had my iPod going. I was...
    Salute2MyFlaws Salute2MyFlaws 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 11, 2014

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    ayiraartistf ayiraartistf 22-25, F 7 Responses Jan 29

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    It's like I do things

    for everybody else then once I put myself first (without hurting anybody) I become too self absorbed. Is there no middle? Being self absorbed does not mean cutting the negative things/people out of your life. Sorry I'm changing for the better and you're in the exact same...
    achantal achantal 18-21, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    Loner Stoner!

    Well, due to a lot of past problems and bad problem management (due to my age), my brain was a big hay wired mess. I did things that i now realize that i shouldn't have done only because I myself would find them a little messed up later on. Well..... Im a loner now. Its not like...
    billz270 billz270 18-21, M 3 Responses Oct 4, 2012

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    Perks of being a loner?

    1) Don't have to exercise my lips (that's tiring too ya know) 2) I can dance all I want with no one watching 3) I can walk in my house naked all day everyday :D 4) A combination of 2 and 3 ^_^ Hello everyone, I'm The Lone Turtle :D
    ThatGuyEveryoneHates ThatGuyEveryoneHates 18-21, M 5 Responses Dec 8, 2014

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    Not much to say... I was considered someone

    'normal' time ago. But things got messed up, parents didn't care, friends weren't there and i got betrayed several times...It hurted back in the days, till i became what i am today.Today, loneliness is my friend, I feel more relaxed and in peace alone than in a group being...
    TheLonelySoul12 TheLonelySoul12 18-21, M Mar 4, 2014

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    Why I'M Proud Of Being A Loner ...

    We're psychotics, serial killers, child molesters, disturbed neurotics .... at least according to society. People disrespect what they don't understand, and most people don't understand the loner's love for solitude. I'm proud of being a loner because I don't need other people to...
    LunaAle LunaAle 22-25, F 4 Responses Feb 8, 2013

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    I dint like many people,

    most I find annoying and boring. When I do find someone I like, they always leave. So Ive given up on people.
    TheLoneHowl96 TheLoneHowl96 18-21, M 5 Responses Feb 28

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    I think I'm a loner by default.

    When enough people **** you over just enough to make you hit your breaking point becoming a loner seems like the only option until I'm ready enough to face reality again
    niceintrovertedwoman niceintrovertedwoman 26-30, F 3 Responses Apr 9

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    Its really hard for me to make group of friends

    especially in college..am in my third year"almost" but still am always alone it sucks cuz i like some company someone who cares
    leen94 leen94 18-21, F 2 Responses Feb 15

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    Finding Myself

    When I was in my early 20s, I had a period where I was confused about everything. Life, love, you name it, I was confused. So I packed a few things in my pickup and headed to the mountains. I lived in Utah at the time and knew of a great place. There was a mountain road that...
    stankadiddlehopper stankadiddlehopper 51-55, M 19 Responses Apr 10, 2012

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    Sometimes I want to be away from the noise

    and chaos. I can actually have a good time watching a movie alone. I love my family, but I love "me" time too
    jbm1984 jbm1984 31-35, F 1 Response Dec 13, 2014

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    It's who I am. No matter how many times I try

    to be outgoing and make a lot of friends. Deep down I enjoy being around very few people if not just myself. I have ALWAYS been a loner and it's helped me be successful in school and be myself. I've never been one to follow a crowd or try and be someone I am not.
    IllusionaryGentleman39 IllusionaryGentleman39 18-21, M 4 Responses Mar 9

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    Being Alone In Peace Is Seventh Heaven!

    I have always been a private person, but also a caretaking type and the kind of friend who likes a close relationship and not much of the going-out-in-groups stuff. I know a lot of people but don't think of myself as having a lot of friends because I am not in touch with people...
    girlcapitol girlcapitol 51-55, F 20 Responses Jul 12, 2010

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    I seriously have no friends

    and what lil family I do have, we don't socialize with each other. I enjoy being a loner. I can go out and have a whole conversation with a homeless person, a kid or a total stranger and I'm good. I don't need friends.
    Salute2MyFlaws Salute2MyFlaws 18-21, F 5 Responses Sep 6, 2014

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    I'm not a loner by choice

    but by society...it's not fun when you ever day going to school being made fun of because you weak and weird and no one liked you....no one care for the loners not even the loners themselves
    Tiffany654300 Tiffany654300 16-17, F 1 Response Apr 10

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