I Am a Loner

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    Days like these, feeling like something is

    missing, like there's something I should be doing when I actually have no obligations no plans nothing so I'm just procrastinating getting out of bed because what they hey why not. I think it may be people that's missing.
    GraceIsGone2 GraceIsGone2
    22-25, F
    4 Responses Apr 7

    I just realized that I dont really have any

    close friends.. I have friends but I hardly talk to them and I have a few online but we usaully stop talking. I can make friends easily and enjoy talking/being with them but they never last long. At times i feel sad that I dont have any but at the same time I feel proud because...
    58maria85 58maria85
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Jan 14

    Not much to say... I was considered someone

    'normal' time ago. But things got messed up, parents didn't care, friends weren't there and i got betrayed several times...It hurted back in the days, till i became what i am today.Today, loneliness is my friend, I feel more relaxed and in peace alone than in a group being...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Mar 4, 2014

    Life seems so much better

    and peaceful when you don't have to deal with people or their issues. Let my problems be my problems and no one else's. Everything that goes on in my little loner world is everything of mine. I'm trying to let people in, but it's hard. I really just want to be left alone. I'm...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    3 Responses Apr 9

    Period. I really am. Some people may not

    understand, and I guess they mean well with all the advice to go out more - but to me, they are just like birds attempting to advise a fish to leave that cold water and try flying for once. We are simply too different... I've always enjoyed doing things on my own. And I really...
    AndSto AndSto
    31-35, M
    5 Responses Jun 26, 2015

    “As a child I felt myself to be alone,

    and I am still, because I know things and must hint at things which others apparently know nothing of, and for the most part do not want to know.” ― C.G. Jung, The famous Swiss psychiatrist, I have my answer, I am in good company! As an introvert I love living inside my...
    venusdi venusdi
    70+, F
    7 Responses Feb 11, 2014

    Last night, I jumped in my car,

    and just drove around. I went to a random apartment complex, and having to drive slow over the little speed bump things, I was able to take a glance inside people's apt windows that they had open. Some people were cooking, some were watching tv, and one lady was mopping the crap...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    6 Responses May 13, 2015

    I Enjoy My Time Alone

    I don't feel like I have to be someone else. I don't have to talk. I don't have to pay attention to what someone else is saying. I can wear my pj's all day. I don't have to answer silly questions or laugh at corny jokes. When I am alone I no longer feel lonely. I feel relieved.
    nicoleal20 nicoleal20
    46-50, F
    14 Responses Apr 24, 2008

    I have been a loner my entire life.

    From childhood, through adulthood - though I do have (and have had) a handful of friends. I don't make new friends on my own easily, if at all. I definitely cherish (and am grateful for) the few, close friends that I do have. -They have helped me so much, & are such amazing...
    carriewolf12 carriewolf12
    26-30, T
    Jan 23

    I am not a people person,

    nor do I like people. I like being around close family in bursts but not others. I prefer to be alone. I love cats, in whom I'm very close to. I can sleep with my cat beside me and feel completely comfortable. For people, I'll respect them and be polite, but I don't want to be...
    lovecatsnothumans lovecatsnothumans
    22-25, F
    Jan 14

    I'm perfectly capable of being social.

    I love to go out and have fun, but there are those days when all I want to do is hide in a small room and just think.
    Alessadae Alessadae
    18-21
    1 Response Dec 23, 2015
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    6 Responses Aug 12, 2015

    I'm a loner in the sense

    that I don't have any friends or family. I have 4 kids but I'm estranged from the wider family & my ex husband. I hated my life with them around & people think being a loner is lonely but it isn't. It just means you don't have to deal with conditional love.
    selina1986 selina1986
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Jan 17

    i maybe a loner but not lonely just love to

    spend quality time with myself...sound weird but that's who I AM.
    alx99 alx99
    36-40, F
    4 Responses Jun 9, 2015

    Loner For Life, Proud And With No Regrets

    Right now I am in the middle of a vacation from my job, 26 straight days off with pay.  What is the best part of this, besides free money of course? The fact that I can spend many days hibernating at home, not having to lay eyes on any human being. Yes, I am a loner, it may...
    deepintheheart deepintheheart
    41-45, M
    22 Responses Aug 12, 2011

    Just up bored looking at the posts on here.

    I'm usually a loner now and as recently as last year I felt like I'd never find a true friend because there's just not many trustworthy people left in the world and most people are selfish. But I actually found one that's been here for me while it's been hard and I really needed...
    TedInstead TedInstead
    22-25, M
    Jan 13

    I push people away when they get too close.

    I sabotage my relationships and then end up getting depressed about it later on. I hate being alone but for some reason I can't stand being around people either and this contradiction within myself is driving me crazy.
    ramblerhyme ramblerhyme
    26-30, M
    2 Responses Feb 26

    Tonight, I'm thinking: My bedroom,

    my awesomeness bed, candles, spaghetti and watching The Lord of The Rings. Oh, and fortune cookies for dessert! The Life and Times of A Loner.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    10 Responses Oct 17, 2015

    Somehow I'm good at being friends with people

    for about a span of one month or less, then we don't hang out after that. I'm thinking that it's me since it has happened with every person I have met at college so far. Now, I don't even try to make friends.
    chataolauj chataolauj
    18-21, M
    2 Responses Apr 7

    At least I get to drown myself in loud music

    without anyone trying to talk to me. Lol.
    CyanideY CyanideY
    70+, F
    Feb 19

    I am I a messed up situation I know something

    about someone that's close to me be I want to ask them about it for it's gotta probably hurt their pride but i need to know the truth I've hinted around the subject for even got to the point I really don't know how to ask it I don't know what to do do I continue to act like it...
    QueenBri1 QueenBri1
    22-25, F
    1 Response Jan 20
    CyanideY CyanideY
    70+, F
    2 Responses Jan 15

    I don't know why I prefer to be alone.

    It is comforting. It is not lonely at all. I enjoy the silence. A lot of noise is uncomfortable and I get away from it after some time. I prefer the sounds of waves reaching the shore than the mindless words people often speak. The waves make more sense. Nature wants nothing of...
    WearOutKyd WearOutKyd
    26-30, M
    3 Responses Feb 5

    My roommates have over their drunk friends

    and they are so loud, rude and obnoxious. My roommates aren't any better. I can't even go downstairs cause like always, I'll get verbal sexual harassment. So I just stay in my room till they leave or pass out. As long as I live, I NEVER want to live with people AGAIN. This is...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    6 Responses Oct 25, 2015

    If i register myself

    as an organ donor will somebody come for my heart? :)
    JennaRee JennaRee
    13-15, F
    15 Responses Jul 1, 2015

    Why I'M Proud Of Being A Loner ...

    We're psychotics, serial killers, child molesters, disturbed neurotics .... at least according to society. People disrespect what they don't understand, and most people don't understand the loner's love for solitude. I'm proud of being a loner because I don't need other people to...
    LunaAle LunaAle
    22-25, F
    7 Responses Feb 8, 2013
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    2 Responses Jan 16

    I seriously couldn't sleep last night,

    a lot of stuff on my mind, so I've been up all night and morning. All 7 of my roommates are home this morning which is unusual, so I get up and get dressed and leave. I can only deal with my roommates all at once in doses and if I had stayed there, I would had over dosed. So I...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    6 Responses Aug 29, 2015

    I love and hate being alone.

    Sometimes it's so peaceful and I wish it could be like this always. But other times when I'm alone no one hears my screams and no one sees me cry. People always ask me why I'm alone and quiet but it's because I chose who I talk to very precisely. If I have narrowed you out of...
    GarasaurausRex GarasaurausRex
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Aug 6, 2015

    I've always been a loner.

    I think that's just the way I am and no amount of trying to be different will ever change the real me. I've tried to be outgoing and socialize but I'm not being true to myself. I have a few friends, I love them and I respect them. They also know that I like my own space and do...
    AnAngelSmile AnAngelSmile
    36-40, F
    7 Responses Mar 10, 2015

    and I am about sick of being alone.

    I drove home slow today. Walking into an empty house yields only the echos of my own footsteps. The cackles of my kids that once filled the room, are but a memory filling the silence of my mind.
    deadpoetzombiedude deadpoetzombiedude
    41-45, M
    3 Responses Jan 21

    Ever since I was in elementary I've been a

    Loner, tried having "friends" haha yeah right, didn't work out No such thing as friends.......not going to even ask the question "Is it me or could I have done something, you know why Im not going to ask...BECAUSE I DON'T Care.... Recently I have been trying to do things...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Jan 11

    Hi guys! So I am 28 and i've been always a

    loner. At first when I was a teen I would try to make friends and its not that I can make friends but I long for real friendship, the life time kind of friendship, time passed and I still look for it in people but it is very rare to find I wander why. Today I kind of got used to...
    Camehashi Camehashi
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Jan 5

    It's so hard to relate to people,

    I wish I had friends..😔
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    5 Responses May 15, 2015

    its soooo much fun i dont have to deal with

    drama and other stuff that doesnt help me get my college degree faster
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    2 Responses Jun 3, 2015
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Jan 5

    There's Nothing Wrong With Wanting to Be Alone...is There?

    I am a very introverted person and simply don't like to have too much company. Sure there are people I talk to, some of them I consider to be friends, but after all I'm rather alone. I can feel rather drained if too many people are around me. i spend most of my free time to...
    ittooktoolong ittooktoolong
    22-25, F
    31 Responses Jul 9, 2007

    I feel so out of place,

    everywhere I go. I'm always that person left out or just there. It's like I don't belong. Today I went to go watch avengers with my friends and it was 5 of us. 2 of my friends sat together, and the other 2 sat together, and me? I was in the middle like alone. Like I enjoyed the...
    PreparedForHell PreparedForHell
    18-21, M
    1 Response May 4, 2015

    And it's ok to be a loner.

    Not everyone is alike and everyone doesn't need special social skills or to fit in. I like being alone. I find the more people im around or whenever I let to many people into my "proverbial" circle...all hell breaks loose. It's good to be alone.
    myreality1 myreality1
    36-40, M
    1 Response Feb 1
    ayiraartistf ayiraartistf
    22-25, F
    5 Responses Jan 29, 2015

    I feel more comfortable to spend most the time

    alone, I like people but it gets tiring after awhile. :/
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    5 Responses Jun 8, 2015

    Some people just are

    and there is nothing wrong in the fact. Dont we all like our own company at times. It takes strength to be a 'loner' as you have to be happy with yourself in order to do it. The problem can arise when you are a loner for emotional reasons such as being hurt too much by...
    AX5625 AX5625
    36-40, M
    2 Responses Mar 3, 2014

    Today i went walking,

    didn't care where my feet lead me. Was having a bad day. Wind up in some neighborhood with cute little houses. Sat on the sidewalk, and just watched these leaves fall from this tree. It was beautiful, they just kept falling. It's cloudy outside, had my iPod going. I was...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Sep 11, 2014

    I have no one. I have no friends in real life

    where I live. My mom and grandma told me so many times that if I just join a group or get a job, or go to school, I will make friends. Guess there is something wrong with me because I was in a group that wasn't for me, I didn't like how it was set up. I got a job and there was...
    sillysweetgirl9 sillysweetgirl9
    18-21, F
    7 Responses Jan 22

    Seriously, I can't wait till the day I'm

    sitting in my own house, living alone with my own car, a little money in my pockets and in the bank. Come and go as I please. Come home to nothing but my pets, my peace, quietness and freedom and then look around and smile and actually say to myself, "I made it."
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    8 Responses Oct 28, 2015

    I've never had a friend,

    or friends, that I constantly hang out with. I don't wish to be a loner, but I'm used to it and it has been the norm most of my life. I've made several attempts, but I always end up being alone again. I'm fairly quiet so I do understand why I'm alone most of the time.
    chataolauj chataolauj
    18-21, M
    2 Responses Feb 17
    ellystardudt ellystardudt
    16-17, F
    4 Responses Apr 21

    A distinct lack of social skills has rendered

    me an outcast in the social strata. An (apparent) short temper and fiery personality has elevated me beyond bottom-feeding, and I'm sort of around the middle in the social hierarchy - upper-middle-class, confident, intelligent - but I'm no social butterfly. If anyting, I'm...
    AsYetNameless AsYetNameless
    16-17, T
    1 Response Apr 13
    violet1698 violet1698
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Jun 1, 2015

    In the past I didn't like being a loner.

    For some time now I love that I'm a loner. I'm comfortable being a loner. I'm independent and I like my privacy. I'm happy with not having friends. My ideas, opinions, thoughts, values, and beliefs can be different from others because I formulate my own without receiving...
    joahola98wj joahola98wj
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Feb 12

    So while my roomates are out being little

    social extrovert butterflies ( rolling my eyes ) I have the whole place to myself, and I just cooked me up a fat, awesome Brazilian burger that I'm going to enjoy with a 72 inch flat screen TV all to myself and chop it up with some of you awesome EP people! This is the life...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    4 Responses Aug 15, 2015

    I barely have any friends.

    .. I have 10 friends... It is kinda sad... But I'm always happy
    Lala188 Lala188
    18-21, F
    7 Responses May 28, 2014

    Disclaimer: This is all opinion.

    Take it with a grain of salt. _____________________________ I spend lots of time in the forests alone, or just anywhere. I find it hard to change.. I like people, but I'm always alone. It's odd, a choice. I used to think being a loner was cool. But I wasn't one at that time...
    ecofox ecofox
    22-25, M
    2 Responses May 13, 2015

    "I'm laying in my bed,

    in my house and all I wish for is to go home.."
    371lucy 371lucy
    16-17, F
    4 Responses Feb 18

    Honestly, I've never "fit in" anywhere.

    However, I'm no longer apologetic about my lack of a social circle. I'm intelligent, decent, and my family understands me. At this point, that's good enough.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    5 Responses Jan 12

    I stay to myself so I don't get hurt.

    I keep my problems to myself as well. And when I find someone I think I can confide in, they quickly remind me why I stick to myself. I hate myself for getting close to people. I know better. You really meant a lot to me.
    lovesthenightsky lovesthenightsky
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Feb 15

    It's who I am. No matter how many times I try

    to be outgoing and make a lot of friends. Deep down I enjoy being around very few people if not just myself. I have ALWAYS been a loner and it's helped me be successful in school and be myself. I've never been one to follow a crowd or try and be someone I am not.
    IllusionaryGentleman39 IllusionaryGentleman39
    22-25, M
    4 Responses Mar 9, 2015

    In my chaotic lonelines there is no place

    for liars fakes jealousy hypocrisy selfishness or any wrong filthy thing only the absolute beauty of chaos THIS IS THE REAL WORLD OF THE ONLY REAL ONE KING FROM THE GREY ANGELS WITH NO RULES NO SUPERIORS NO LIMITS NO ADJUSTMENTS JUST BE THE ONE WHO I WANNA BE AS A RE-BORN...
    Egolikeme69 Egolikeme69
    46-50, M
    1 Response Jan 21

    I spent one day so extremely extroverted

    that I had lost all energy by the end of the day. I slept like a drunk person, didn't go to college, woke up after midday with a stirring head. So after a couple of hours I went to sleep again for 4 hours straight. I don't know why it's like that. I don't want to be a loner. I...
    stabbedtoceasersalad stabbedtoceasersalad
    18-21, F
    6 Responses Feb 27
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