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I Am a Loner

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    All loners are different in their own ways.

    That's what makes it so interesting for a loner to be a loner. Some just read books. Some just watch movies and tv shows, and ask why their lives weren't like that. Some just play crosswords. Some just wander alone in the city. Some do all of the above. I am one of the latter...
    ashfaaqb ashfaaqb 18-21, M 4 days ago

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    I sometimes feel as if there are two kinds of

    people in the world: me and everybody else. I'm certainly not saying that I'm smarter or better. I've always just been different in a way that I can't describe, explain, or define. I feel like an alien among other people. I am as different as if I've come from another planet. I...
    atpeacewithme atpeacewithme 31-35 3 Responses Oct 15

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    Finding Myself

    When I was in my early 20s, I had a period where I was confused about everything. Life, love, you name it, I was confused. So I packed a few things in my pickup and headed to the mountains. I lived in Utah at the time and knew of a great place. There was a mountain road that...
    stankadiddlehopper stankadiddlehopper 51-55, M 19 Responses Apr 10, 2012

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    I don't really mind it most of the time,

    but sometimes, like now, I feel extremely lonely and I wish I had some friends or a gf.
    gomega98 gomega98 16-17, M 1 Response Oct 22

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    Or as Aristotle would articulate,

    my natural motion is away from everyone else.
    Philonous Philonous 18-21, M Nov 2

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    The Story Of My Life, How I Became A Loner. Period.

    Disclaimer:- If you don't like long stories,  save yourself by not reading mine.  I am very descriptive and am long winded.  LOL! I was the geek with bad grades in high school.  Coming from a financially below average (dad's a blue collar worker and mom's a housewife...
    1Alexander 1Alexander 26-30 4 Responses Mar 1, 2011

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    I barely have any friends.

    .. I have 10 friends... It is kinda sad... But I'm always happy
    Lala188 Lala188 16-17, F 7 Responses May 28

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    I Shouldn't Have To Pretend I'm Like Everyone Else

    I'm a loner.....thats just me.....it's the way i've always been. Since joining EP i've come to terms with it more and i'm not as embarressed to admit now that i keep myself to myself and have only one friend (who i don't see alot of). I've made friends with people on here who are...
    Evernight Evernight 31-35, F 18 Responses Jan 24, 2010

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    I don't really fit in with any group

    so I have grown up an outsider or a loner and have come to were IM better on my own
    luke401 luke401 16-17, M Nov 9

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    This time of year is the worst.

    I have not one, but two Thanksgivings to attend (one to cook!), then a month of Christmas-related social obligations, then New Year's. I can't wait for January to come so I can be alone and recharge.
    howie79 howie79 31-35, M 4 days ago

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    I could be surrounded by millions of people

    and still feel so alone. I think it's because no matter how hard I try to fit in I just don't. Many people have told me that the problem is that I haven't found myself yet and I listened. But after an extensive, inwardly search, I came to the conclusion that I am already myself...
    loneintrvrt loneintrvrt 22-25, F 2 Responses Oct 18

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    MOST of the girls my age are annoying,

    so that's why I choose to be a loner.
    Jovanite Jovanite 13-15, M 2 Responses Oct 24

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    Why I Am a Loner--as Much As I Understand It

    Update, November 1, 2007: While all of what I wrote is true, a few things happened recently that have me rethinking it.  I have good reason to think there is a lot to like in some people, and maybe a little to like in just about everyone.  So I'm giving people another...
    freeeedom freeeedom 51-55, F 6 Responses Aug 4, 2007

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    I'm a weird kind of loner.

    I've managed to create a persona at school, in which I am a totally indifferent, closed off loner, who speaks only when I know it will be both really funny and ambivalent about my true emotions. So, this has made me a weirdly attractive loner; a kind of strange oddity that...
    someoneandstuff someoneandstuff 18-21, M 3 Responses Dec 26, 2013

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    I'm tired. I feel like I'm just not meant to

    have friends. So many people in this world, and the only people who actually want to be around me is my family. I'm grateful for their love, but it would be nice to diversify beyond that too. I feel like my roommates go out of their way to avoid me. I hardly ever see my...
    ShadowHowl ShadowHowl 18-21 2 Responses Nov 2

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    A lot of people don't believe females can be

    loners, but I am one. A lot of people think loners are psycho, weird or maladjusted, but I'm not. Therefore, a lot of people fail to realize I am a loner. I've gotten everything from "shy" to "antisocial" and "stuck-up." The one thing people never think is "she likes to be left...
    chickiebos chickiebos 31-35, F Oct 21

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    I Enjoy My Time Alone

    I don't feel like I have to be someone else. I don't have to talk. I don't have to pay attention to what someone else is saying. I can wear my pj's all day. I don't have to answer silly questions or laugh at corny jokes. When I am alone I no longer feel lonely. I feel relieved.
    nicoleal20 nicoleal20 46-50, F 14 Responses Apr 24, 2008

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    I have a natural inclination to avoid large

    crowds; I'm most tranquil, in public, when there are no or few people around me. Recently, I've been stopping and questioning myself every time I want to leave an area that has become crowded, to deliberate on the opportunity cost of constantly avoiding large groups and/or...
    Philonous Philonous 18-21, M 1 Response Oct 30

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    So.... Yeah, a lot of bad experience in "love".

    It looks like I'll never have a boyfriend, I don't know what i have to do to make a boy like me for more than my physical features. I think I'll give up on men and stick to women.... Naaah, just kidding, I can't judge every guy for something that others did, even if it has...
    Amusec Amusec 22-25, F 3 Responses 3 days ago

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    I Like It

    My perfect life would be to live in a log cabin in the woods, on a lake. With a husband or without. IDC. For work, I would do something with telecommunications and just work from home. It would be legal to have my car windows completely blacked out all over so that no one could...
    looklife looklife 18-21, F 10 Responses Jun 14, 2012

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    some of the best times i ever had is to be

    alone and watch my favorite tv shows or a beautiful movie alone ,, igonring the world for a little while .. its like i get charged from those moments
    Camouflage Camouflage 18-21, M 6 days ago

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    Man Of Stone, Walks Alone

    I should really stop doing this, because it doesn't really make me feel any better about anything going on in my life; but at the same time, I find myself addicted. I enjoy viewing people's photos on Facebook, or trolling through Photobucket for public albums. I see all these...
    TheDarkTower TheDarkTower 31-35, M 10 Responses Jan 25, 2012

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    Currently seeking that connection on a deeper

    level with someone, and almost have it, but damn it seems that it's as far as the moon right now...
    RedMarcher RedMarcher 16-17, M Oct 23

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    I was a late bloomer,

    I experienced puberty when I was 18 going on 19, so in High School I was an ugly duckling. I always wished to have good attributes, a pretty face, be admired by men, but no matter how much make up I used, how much I ate to get curves (where I live being curve is what most people...
    Amusec Amusec 22-25, F 3 Responses Oct 20

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    I don't mind being a loner.

    I enjoyed my own company. I like to think through stuff throughly and being alone give you that opportunity. I trust myself a lot. I find it hard to expect anything out of anyone, other than yourself.
    masmelo masmelo 16-17, F 1 Response Nov 9

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    I could have went out tonight

    but instead I decided to stay home and watch movies by myself. I think I'm more of a loner because most kids my age are immature and annoy the **** out of me within ten minutes. Even some of my closest friends get on my nerves sometimes... None of them really understand me :P
    LivviyLove LivviyLove 16-17, F 2 Responses Jun 25

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    Being Alone In Peace Is Seventh Heaven!

    I have always been a private person, but also a caretaking type and the kind of friend who likes a close relationship and not much of the going-out-in-groups stuff. I know a lot of people but don't think of myself as having a lot of friends because I am not in touch with people...
    girlcapitol girlcapitol 51-55, F 20 Responses Jul 12, 2010

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    I am a true and blue loner.

    I only hang around my family members. Those are the only people that I feel truly connected with. As far as I can tell, I have always been aloof around most people. I remember this one experience in high school when I was sitting in the hallway drawing a picture for my...
    bloomingheart bloomingheart 18-21, F 1 Response Nov 2

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    I am by choice. It makes me less vulnerable.

    Yes, it is not ideal. It is sad and often times lonely but it is less complicated. I don't like complications. I hate responsibilities and I hate expectations. If you are with someone, you can't really avoid responsibility, expectations and complications. So I decided to...
    iwantnoone iwantnoone 26-30, F 14 Responses May 20

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    I'm so alone. No family

    or friends. I don't mean to complain but gosh it would be nice to be surrounded by positive people who love me.
    AmericanPie91 AmericanPie91 22-25, F 3 Responses Mar 31

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    Not much to say... I was considered someone

    'normal' time ago. But things got messed up, parents didn't care, friends weren't there and i got betrayed several times...It hurted back in the days, till i became what i am today.Today, loneliness is my friend, I feel more relaxed and in peace alone than in a group being...
    SoulDesu SoulDesu 18-21, M 1 Response Mar 4

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    I think that monotony is really the culprit

    for making people lonely and depressed. However, it seems that our current lifestyle is made to make our lives monotonous. It also equals boredom. I think 'to make money' is the main reason why we live in a routine. Do you think there will still be depression if one day...
    aureatea aureatea 26-30, F 4 Responses Oct 13

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    But , not alone, I like to Party

    once in awhile, but, I like to be Home, I have a very Nice Condo, and I love spending time in it. I like to meet new People , and often have Friends over to visit. But, there are times when Its just nice to be alone. :-}
    Tanyalife2 Tanyalife2 22-25, F 6 Responses Nov 6

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    Lone - Not Lonely.

    I can't remember if I posted a story in this group yet but I believe I have. In fact, it may have been one of the first stories I posted on EP after becoming a member and finally beginning to contribute. This morning, I'm surrounded by the beautiful silence that accompanies the...
    Intelligently Intelligently 31-35, F 10 Responses Jul 10, 2012

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    Why I'M Proud Of Being A Loner ...

    We're psychotics, serial killers, child molesters, disturbed neurotics .... at least according to society. People disrespect what they don't understand, and most people don't understand the loner's love for solitude. I'm proud of being a loner because I don't need other people to...
    LunaAle LunaAle 22-25, F 3 Responses Feb 8, 2013

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    DatArcherDude DatArcherDude 18-21, M 1 Response Oct 23

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    The things that people in general are concerned

    about like food, romance, sex, etc. do not interest me in an obsessive way. I am seeking more meaningful and deeper conversations about the mysteries of life, spirituality, truth, meditation, the mind, etc. but it is extremely difficult to find people with a similar take on life...
    harmony612 harmony612 26-30, M 3 Responses 4 days ago

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    “As a child I felt myself to be alone,

    and I am still, because I know things and must hint at things which others apparently know nothing of, and for the most part do not want to know.” ― C.G. Jung, The famous Swiss psychiatrist, I have my answer, I am in good company! As an introvert I love living inside my...
    venusdi venusdi 70+, F 7 Responses Feb 11

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    can somebody please talk to me?

    i'm dying inside :( idk, maybe i deserve to suffer like this, i don't want to waste your time
    vitmark vitmark 16-17, M 7 Responses Nov 13

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    "I hate "fun" people.

    I hate group work, because it makes me feel out of place. I hate break time because it emphasizes how isolated I am from everyone else. And I hate people in cliques because it feels like they're advertently rejecting me."
    illiy illiy 16-17, F 5 Responses Sep 6

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    Be a loner that gives you time ,

    To search for the truth . Have holy curiosity . Make your life worth living .
    Kraverine Kraverine 18-21, M Nov 8

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    Today i went walking,

    didn't care where my feet lead me. Was having a bad day. Wind up in some neighborhood with cute little houses. Sat on the sidewalk, and just watched these leaves fall from this tree. It was beautiful, they just kept falling. It's cloudy outside, had my iPod going. I was...
    Salute2MyFlaws Salute2MyFlaws 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 11

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    Best Vacation

    My favorite vacation is to drive away, find a cheap-but-decent motel with some shopping & restaurants nearby, and enjoy being alone.  Some of my friends can't understand this.  For example, last year I drove upstate to a small town.  I told my friends and co...
    Rusj Rusj 56-60 27 Responses Jul 11, 2010

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    Bloodwolf Bloodwolf 18-21, M 2 Responses Nov 3

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    Just really sick and tired of how things always

    turned out in life. Everything that listed just so temporary. Learned a lot, been hurting by others, lost myself a little bit everytime, lost myself even more tried to find my way back, emotionally roller-coaster from cloud 9 and down to the deepest depression, and still trying...
    masmelo masmelo 16-17, F 5 Responses Nov 19

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    OwlWolf OwlWolf 22-25, F 3 Responses 3 days ago

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    ...but, I am tired of being alone.

    I don't know how to reach out to others without scaring them away... I was abused by my mother as a child and witnessed her abusing my father, and it has left me afraid of other people. Her lies, manipulation, and mental instability led to a number of prison terms. I have...
    HollyGolightly93 HollyGolightly93 18-21, F 1 Response Oct 16

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    I am invisible, though I walk around in class

    and try to start off a conversation but now as soon as I have stopped starting the conversation myself nobody talks to me as if they can't actually see me standing. People walk away as if they don't even know me, just before getting into class nobody says hi or hey to me. though...
    pulkitkhare46 pulkitkhare46 18-21, M 3 Responses Oct 20

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    Loner Stoner!

    Well, due to a lot of past problems and bad problem management (due to my age), my brain was a big hay wired mess. I did things that i now realize that i shouldn't have done only because I myself would find them a little messed up later on. Well..... Im a loner now. Its not like...
    billz270 billz270 18-21, M 3 Responses Oct 4, 2012

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    Loner For Life, Proud And With No Regrets

    Right now I am in the middle of a vacation from my job, 26 straight days off with pay.  What is the best part of this, besides free money of course? The fact that I can spend many days hibernating at home, not having to lay eyes on any human being. Yes, I am a loner, it may...
    deepintheheart deepintheheart 41-45, M 19 Responses Aug 12, 2011

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    Camouflage Camouflage 18-21, M 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    Loners,

    Why is it that people who have been rejected, chewed up and spit out, gutted by "friends", "family" and the world make the best and most loyal friends? I had a crappy childhood. Friends, they came and went. I'm an introvert and just could never keep up with social games, the...