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I Am a Love Addict

Are you still in love even after it's over? Are you afraid you'll always be alone? Do you feel unworthy of love and have been behaving like a stalker? If yes, you are a love addict. 1,114 People

    I need it. To feel it.

    Believe it. Understand that I'm worth it.
    dsuzy dsuzy 36-40, F 1 Response Jan 17

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    Are All Love Addicts As Scared Of Rejection As I Am?

    One of the traits of love addiction is a holy terror of being rejected or abandoned. So we stick to one person for a bit, then get disillusioned by their negative points, and run away before they see our negative points...I want to be in a healthy loving relationship like...
    clouds4208 clouds4208 36-40, F 3 Responses Jan 27, 2013

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    there's a guy that keeps calling me

    and I don't know he who he is because he puts his number on private. He called me so many times today. What does he want from me ???
    Mslovely12 Mslovely12 13-15, F 2 Responses Sep 10

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    September 18. Letting the Good Stuff Happen.

    "Before recovery, my relationships were lousy. I didn't do very well on my job. I was enmeshed in my dysfunctional family. But at least I knew what to expect!" —Anonymous I want the second half of my life to be as good as the first half was miserable. Sometimes, I'm afraid...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Sep 18

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    Feb. 13. Trusting Ourselves.

    What a great gift we've been given - ourselves. To listen to ourselves, to trust instinct and intuition, is to pay tribute to that gift. What a disservice not to heed the leadings and leanings that so naturally arise from within. When will we learn that these leadings and...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 2 Responses Feb 13

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    Loving him was like trying to change your mind

    once you are already flying through the free fall......Memorizing him was as easy as remembering every word of your favorite song.
    Blackangel4u Blackangel4u 22-25, F Dec 17, 2013

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    I've never been kissed,

    I want to be kissed so bad
    Mslovely12 Mslovely12 13-15, F 2 Responses Sep 5

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    September 24. Allowing Ourselves to be Needy.

    We can accept ourselves as people who have needs - the need for comfort, love, understanding, friendship, and healthy touch. We need positive reinforcement, someone to listen to us, someone to give to us. We are not weak for needing these things. These needs make us human and...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F a week ago

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    Imprisoned By My Own Thoughts

    I am a love addict. There is always someone I am obsessed with. At any given time in my life, if you come up to me and ask me who I’m obsessed with, I will always have an answer. My whole life revolves around that person. Everything- my thoughts, my work schedule, my free...
    Maydove Maydove 26-30, F 7 Responses Aug 4, 2009

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    September 12. Healing.

    "We should learn not to grow impatient with the slow healing process of time. We should discipline ourselves to recognize that there are many steps to be taken along the highway leading from sorrow to renewed serenity... We should anticipate these stages in our emotional...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Sep 12

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    September 22. Trusting Ourselves.

    Many of us believed that heeding the words of God or our Higher Power meant following rigid rules, an instruction booklet for life. Many of us now believe differently. The rigid rules, the endless instructions, the exhortation to perfection, are not the words our Higher Power...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Sep 22

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    March 6. Peace. Anxiety is often our first

    reaction to conflict, problems, or even our own fears. In those moments, detaching and getting peaceful may seem disloyal or apathetic. We think: If I really care, I'll worry; if this is really important to me, I must stay upset. We convince ourselves that outcomes will be...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 1 Response Mar 6

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    And she tried to find the words .

    . Mixing them together like a powerful potion .. To her words were things of beauty , She was trying to spell magic . How could she ever explain , just what she was trying to say .. So she closed her eyes and spoke in a thousand silent ways .
    birdblu birdblu 31-35, F 6 Responses Mar 12

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    Clouds4208'S List Of 41 Relationship Red Flags To Avoid

    So with my long relationship history and from stories I have heard, I have gathered up a list of Red Flags to be wary of when you are dating or have met a new Special Someone. Red Flags don't mean you shouldn't date or care for a person - just that you need to be careful. This...
    clouds4208 clouds4208 36-40, F 4 Responses Jan 31, 2013

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    September 15. Getting Through Hard Times.

    "We are sturdy beings. But in many ways, we are fragile. We can accept change and loss, but this comes at our own pace and in our own way. And only God and we can determine the timing." —Codependent No More Hard times, stressful times, are not all there is to life, but...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 1 Response Sep 15

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    September 16. Revenge.

    No matter how long we've been recovering, no matter how solid our spiritual ground, we may still feel an overwhelming desire at times to punish, or get even, with another person. We want revenge. We want to see the other person hurt the way he or she has hurt us. We want to...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Sep 16

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    I've been on the journey

    for just under two years. Before that I didn't know 'what' the problem was. I discovered first that I'm codependent, then a psychologist mentioned love addiction and it fit like a glove. From the time I was a little girl, I was terrified of never finding love. I have been...
    toolatetoapologise toolatetoapologise 51-55, F Jun 23

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    September 13. Times of Reprogramming.

    Recovery is not all-tiresome, unrewarded work. There are times of joy and rest, times when we comfortably practice what we have learned. There are times of change, times when we struggle to learn something new or overcome a particular problem. These are the times when what we...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Sep 13

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    September 9. Perspective.

    Too often, we try to gain a clear perspective before it is time. That will make us crazy. We do not always know why things are happening the way they are. We do not always know how a particular relationship will work out. We do not always understand the source of our feelings...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Sep 9

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    I just realized I had this problem.

    Very frightening but hopeful at the same time. Someone once told me that people don't change because they don't want to change. They want to stay stuck, I totally disagree... People don't change because of FEAR.
    MeJennyYup MeJennyYup 41-45, F 2 Responses a week ago

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    September 25. Peace with the Past.

    "Even God cannot change the past." —Agathon Holding on to the past, either through guilt, longing, denial, or resentment, is a waste of valuable energy - energy that can be used to transform today and tomorrow. "I used to live in my past," said one recovering woman. "I was...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 6 days ago

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    September 30. Not a Victim.

    You are not a victim. How deeply ingrained our self-image as a victim can be! How habitual our feelings of misery and helplessness! Victimization can be like a gray cloak that surrounds us, both attracting that which will victimize us and causing us to generate the feelings of...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 1 day ago

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    Two Weeks Sober

    I started SLAA meetings knowing I was about to fly across country to meet a woman I'd fallen in love with online.  It was scary because I love to tell stories, but if I told this story about how unsober I was going to be, what would happen?  Would they kidnap me and...
    wundayatta wundayatta 56-60, M 4 Responses May 11, 2010

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    September 21. Letting Go of Urgency.

    One thing at a time. That's all we have to do. Not two things at once, but one thing done in peace. One task at a time. One feeling at a time. One day at a time. One problem at a time. One step at a time. One pleasure at a time. Relax. Let go of urgency. Begin calmly now...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Sep 21

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    Withdrawl From My Love ...Day 2

    im sitting here trying to stop the thoughts what if i wait, what is he doing, is he thinking of me , why isnt he texting me , he usually txts me goodnight at this time .... It is 2 full days i dont talk to my drug of choice the 5 years we know each other seem to have withered...
    kikixox kikixox 26-30 Jul 30, 2013

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    cjohnson1983 cjohnson1983 31-35, F 2 Responses Sep 8

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    My goal: to be the person I want to be with in

    more ways then one... With this in mind I find myself getting anxiety from a place of self perfectionism, but then I take a step back and breath and remind myself that this isn't a path to self perfectionism rather it is a path to ultimate self love. It is cliche but it is so...
    OhGK OhGK 26-30, F 1 Response Aug 31

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    I did it again. I wanted to believe.

    I NEEDED to believe. It ends like it ALWAYS does. He gets what he wants and now he is not the sweet, loving guy anymore...the hunt is over. What is wrong with ME?? I'm not pretty enough? Smart enough? Why can't I be wanted? Loved? I want to die.
    Ifeelhopeless21 Ifeelhopeless21 41-45, F 2 Responses Sep 22

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    September 26. Feeling Protected.

    Our task is not a naive one of feeling safe, of living and loving in a utopian world. One woman commented that our task is making ourselves feel safe while learning to live and love in a world that is unsafe. We do not want to dwell on the danger for that gives power to the...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 5 days ago

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    Crop Circles. Take A Closer Look.

       I havn't noticed much being written about this phenomenon. I have heard slightly about them over the years but always with ideas of some body is playing a prank accompanying the awareness.  However in the past 1 - 5years, it appears that this occurrence has increased...
    lafsnack lafsnack 51-55, M 3 Responses May 14, 2011

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    September 29. The Importance of Money.

    We cannot afford to allow our focus in life to be money. That will not lead us into the abundance we're seeking. Usually, it will not even lead to financial stability. Money is important. We deserve to be paid what we're worth. We will be paid what we're worth when we believe...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 2 days ago

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    September 23. Tolerance.

    Practice tolerance. Tolerate our quirks, our feelings, our reactions, our peculiarities, and our humanness. Tolerate our ups and downs, our resistance to change, and our struggling and sometimes awkward nature. Tolerate our fears, our mistakes, our natural tendency to duck...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 1 Response Sep 23

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    Confessions of a Love Addict

    I have a very serious problem with love and sex. I am a love addict. I am addicted to the attention and love of others. I cannot live this way anymore.  I am married, yet I still pursue relationships, whether virtual or realistic to hang on to. My husband's love is...
    addictoflove addictoflove 31-35 8 Responses Sep 19, 2009

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    March 18. Safety. One of the long-term effects

    of living in a dysfunctional family - as children or adults - is that we don't feel safe. Much of what we call codependency happens because we don't feel safe in relationships. This can cause us to control, obsess, or focus on the other person, while neglecting ourselves or...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Mar 18

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    September 10. Self-approval.

    Most of us want to be liked. We want other people to think of us as nice, friendly, kind, and loving. Most of us want the approval of others. Since childhood, some of us have been trying to get approval, trying to get people to like us and think highly of us. We may be afraid...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 1 Response Sep 10

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    March 2. Feelings on the Job.

    "I'm furious about my job. Another man got a promotion that I believe I deserve. I'm so mad I feel like quitting. Now my wife says I should deal with my feelings. What good will that do? He still got the promotion." —Anonymous Our feelings at work are as important as our...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Mar 2

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    September 11. Conflict

    and Detachment. In a relationship, there are those wonderful times when things go smoothly for both people, and neither person needs to focus too heavily on the concept of detachment. But there are those challenging times when one person is in crisis or changing - and we need...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Sep 11

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    OhGK OhGK 26-30, F 1 Response Sep 2

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    September 19. Apologies.

    Sometimes, we act in a manner with which we are less than comfortable. That's human. That's why we have the words: "I'm sorry." They heal and bridge the gap. But we don't have to say, "I'm sorry" if we didn't do anything wrong. A sense of shame can keep us apologizing for...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Sep 19

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    October 1. Be Who You Are.

    In recovery; we're learning a new behavior. It's called Be Who You Are. For some of us, this can be frightening. What would happen if we felt what we felt, said what we wanted, became firm about our beliefs, and valued what we needed? What would happen if we let go of our...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 10 hrs ago

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    I fall hard and after a few months,

    I start going crazy. Jealousy, codependency, loss of self. I don't know what to do anymore. Too many amazing people that I've lost to this.
    copernicus623 copernicus623 31-35, M 1 Response May 12

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    September 14. What's Good

    for Me? When we are soul searching, be it for the smaller or larger decisions we face during the day, we can learn to ask, is this good for me?... Is this what I really want?... Is this what I need?...Does this direction feel right for me?...or am I succumbing to the control...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Sep 14

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    Did'nt Know I Did'nt Know

    I am a love addict.I did'nt know this is what I am until recently.I have been working on the co-dependency side of me for A LONG time.I recently discovered I am a "LOVE ADDICT".It hurts.I believe because I come from a broken home & had little to no...
    ladycroft39 ladycroft39 36-40, F 5 Responses Nov 25, 2009

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    I Make Myself Sick.

    I don't know how to stop getting involved with men i have no business getting involved with, breaking people's hearts because i am too terrified to get too close...well let's see... i was married once for a few years, then left him for another guy, but he wasn't as great as I...
    clouds4208 clouds4208 36-40, F 4 Responses Jan 26, 2013

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    April 20. Deadlines. "I don't know

    whether I want in or out of this relationship. I've been struggling with it for months now. It's not appropriate to let it hang indefinitely. I will give myself two months to make a decision." —Anonymous Sometimes, it helps to set a deadline. This can be true when we face...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Apr 20

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    All guys my age want is to just "mess around" i

    dont see no future in a bond that has just sex! And im annoyed that all dudes my age have to offer is that.
    epipfhani epipfhani 18-21, F 4 Responses May 25

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    September 27. Temporary Setbacks.

    Sometimes, after we begin recovery, things in our life seem to get worse for a time. Our finances, our relationships, or our health may seem to deteriorate. This is temporary; this is a normal part of recovery and healing. It may be the way things will be for a time, but not...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 4 days ago

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    September 28. Prayer.

    Here are some of my favorite prayers: Help. Please. Don't. Show me. Guide me. Change me. Are you there? Why'd you do that? Oh. Thank you. Today, I will tell God what I want to tell God, and listen for God's answer. I will remember that I can trust God. From The Language of...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 3 days ago

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    Mslovely12 Mslovely12 13-15, F Sep 17

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    Ifeelhopeless21 Ifeelhopeless21 41-45, F Sep 22

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    "People accept the love they think they

    deserve" People are so self critical. There are so many times in life I've been confused about others relationships. I've asked myself or others, why is she with him or why is he with her? There are people who put up with being cheated on, being physically, mentally, or...
    OhGK OhGK 26-30, F 1 Response Feb 21

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    I have a huge problem.

    I'm addicted to love and my OM. When we aren't in contact I go into major withdrawal. Painful. I'm a disaster. Its not friggin normal. Yes I'm madly in love but my behaviour and thoughts are irrational and obsessive Its destroying me from the inside out. suddenly today...
    mysecretworld mysecretworld 36-40, F 3 Responses Jan 17

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    Mslovely12 Mslovely12 13-15, F 3 Responses Sep 17

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