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I Am a Love Addict

Are you still in love even after it's over? Are you afraid you'll always be alone? Do you feel unworthy of love and have been behaving like a stalker? If yes, you are a love addict. 607 People

    Are All Love Addicts As Scared Of Rejection As I Am?

    One of the traits of love addiction is a holy terror of being rejected or abandoned. So we stick to one person for a bit, then get disillusioned by their negative points, and run away before they see our negative points...I want to be in a healthy loving relationship like...
    clouds4208 clouds4208 36-40, F 3 Responses Jan 27, 2013

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    Withdrawl From My Love ...Day 2

    im sitting here trying to stop the thoughts what if i wait, what is he doing, is he thinking of me , why isnt he texting me , he usually txts me goodnight at this time .... It is 2 full days i dont talk to my drug of choice the 5 years we know each other seem to have withered...
    kikixox kikixox 26-30 Jul 30, 2013

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    March 25. Letting Go of Worry.

    What if we knew for certain that everything we're worried about today will work out fine? What if . . . we had a guarantee that the problem bothering us would be worked out in the most perfect way, and at the best possible time? Furthermore, what if we knew that three years...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Mar 25

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    Feb. 13. Trusting Ourselves.

    What a great gift we've been given - ourselves. To listen to ourselves, to trust instinct and intuition, is to pay tribute to that gift. What a disservice not to heed the leadings and leanings that so naturally arise from within. When will we learn that these leadings and...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 2 Responses Feb 13

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    Clouds4208'S List Of 41 Relationship Red Flags To Avoid

    So with my long relationship history and from stories I have heard, I have gathered up a list of Red Flags to be wary of when you are dating or have met a new Special Someone. Red Flags don't mean you shouldn't date or care for a person - just that you need to be careful. This...
    clouds4208 clouds4208 36-40, F 4 Responses Jan 31, 2013

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    We Will Persevere

    far far away =( Distance may cause many tears And it may also bring fear But if our love is clear It will never disappear Whether we are far or near We will persevere For with a love deep and sincere We will always be each other's dear
    KaylaPetrova92 KaylaPetrova92 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 3, 2013

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    Love Addict

    I am addicted to falling in love. I love the emotional high that comes with finding someone who is attracted to me and likes who i am or who I seem to be. The feeling never lasts though. I am married and seperated and i feel extremly alone.
    wareagle1974 wareagle1974 36-40, M 1 Response Aug 18, 2012

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    April 16. Letting Things Happen.

    We do not have to work so hard at gaining our insights. Yes, we're learning that painful and disappointing things happen, often for a reason and a higher purpose. Yes, these things often work out for good. But we don't have to spend so much time and energy figuring out the...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 3 days ago

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    March 30. Experiment.

    Experiment. Try something new. Try stepping out. We have been held back too long. We have held ourselves back too long. As children, many of us were deprived of the right to experiment. Many of us are depriving ourselves of the right to experiment and learn as adults. Now is...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Mar 30

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    April 10. Using Others to Stop Our Pain.

    Our happiness is not a present someone else holds in his or her hands. Our well-being is not held by another to be given or withheld at whim. If we reach out and try to force someone to give us what we believe he or she holds, we will be disappointed. We will discover that it...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Apr 10

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    April 12. Letting Go of Fear.

    Picture yourself swimming floating - peacefully down a gentle stream. All you need to do is breathe, relax, and go with the flow. Suddenly, you become conscious of your situation. Frightened, overwhelmed with "what if's?" your body tenses. You begin to thrash around...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F a week ago

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    April 13. Enjoyment. One of the prohibitions

    many of us learned in childhood is the unspoken rule — don't have fun and enjoy life. This rule creates martyrs — people who will not let themselves embrace the pleasures of day-to-day living. Many of us associated suffering with some sort of sainthood. . Now, we associate...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F a week ago

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    April 5. Detaching in Love.

    Detachment is a key to recovery from codependency. It strengthens our healthy relationships - the ones that we want to grow and flourish. It benefits our difficult relationships - the ones that are teaching us to cope. It helps us! Detachment is not something we do once. It's...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Apr 5

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    Two Weeks Sober

    I started SLAA meetings knowing I was about to fly across country to meet a woman I'd fallen in love with online.  It was scary because I love to tell stories, but if I told this story about how unsober I was going to be, what would happen?  Would they kidnap me and...
    wundayatta wundayatta 56-60, M 4 Responses May 11, 2010

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    March 29. Getting Needs Met.

    Picture yourself walking through a meadow. There is a path opening before you. As you walk, you feel hungry. Look to your left. There's a fruit tree in full ripe. Pick what you need. Steps later, you notice you're thirsty. On your right, there's a fresh water spring. When you...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Mar 29

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    April 2. Facing Our Darker Side.

    Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves. —Step Four of Al-Anon By the time we get to the Fourth of the Twelve Steps, we are ready to face our darker side, the side that prevents us from loving others, from letting others love us, and from enjoying life and...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Apr 2

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    "Hold On" Colbie Caillat ☁️💞 I'm

    feeling further, feeling further from you every day You're in the stars, in the stars, yeah, you're worlds away I'm moving on, moving on, then I hear you say Hold on, hold on We're losing light, losing light, yeah, we're fading fast We had a fire, need a spark, or we'll never...
    KortneeAnne KortneeAnne 22-25, F 1 Response Feb 25

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    April 11. Financial Goals.

    Taking responsibility for our financial affairs will improve our self-esteem and lessen anxiety. Each of us, today, has a present set of financial circumstances. We have a certain amount of money in hand, and money due to us. We have a pile of bills that we owe. We have taxes...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Apr 11

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    March 31. Finances. Taking financial

    responsibility for ourselves is part of recovery. Some of us may find ourselves in hard financial times for a variety of reasons. Our recovery concepts, including the Steps, work on money issues and restoring manageability to that area of our life. Make appropriate amends...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Mar 31

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    I have a huge problem.

    I'm addicted to love and my OM. When we aren't in contact I go into major withdrawal. Painful. I'm a disaster. Its not friggin normal. Yes I'm madly in love but my behaviour and thoughts are irrational and obsessive Its destroying me from the inside out. suddenly today...
    mysecretworld mysecretworld 36-40, F 3 Responses Jan 17

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    April 15. Communication.

    Part of owning our power is learning to communicate clearly, directly, and assertively. We don't have to beat around the bush in our conversations to control the reactions of others. Guilt-producing comments only produce guilt. We don't have to fix or take care of people with...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 5 days ago

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    March 26. Gifts, Not Burdens.

    "Children are gifts, if we accept them." —Kathleen Turner Crilly Children are gifts. Our children, if we have children, are a gift to us. We, as children, were gifts to our parents. Sadly, many of us did not receive the message from our parents that we were gifts to them...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Mar 26

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    My Love Story

    I am a love addict. I've probably been a love addict since my childhood. Since I've been working the LAA program, I've had the opportunity to look back at my past relationships and see that I was addicted to all of them in one way or another. Today I'm not in a "love...
    Rubeng Rubeng 26-30 2 Responses Feb 8, 2013

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    March 6. Peace. Anxiety is often our first

    reaction to conflict, problems, or even our own fears. In those moments, detaching and getting peaceful may seem disloyal or apathetic. We think: If I really care, I'll worry; if this is really important to me, I must stay upset. We convince ourselves that outcomes will be...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 1 Response Mar 6

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    Loving him was like trying to change your mind

    once you are already flying through the free fall......Memorizing him was as easy as remembering every word of your favorite song.
    Blackangel4u Blackangel4u 22-25, F Dec 17, 2013

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    April 6. Patience. How sick

    and tired we may become of people telling us to be patient or to learn patience. How frustrating it can be to want to finally have something, or to move forward, and then not have that happen. How irritating to have someone tell us to wait while our needs have not been met and...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Apr 6

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    I Make Myself Sick.

    I don't know how to stop getting involved with men i have no business getting involved with, breaking people's hearts because i am too terrified to get too close...well let's see... i was married once for a few years, then left him for another guy, but he wasn't as great as I...
    clouds4208 clouds4208 36-40, F 4 Responses Jan 26, 2013

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    April 9. Giving. Learning to be a healthy

    giver can be a challenge. Many of us got caught up in compulsive giving - charitable acts motivated by uncharitable feelings of guilt, shame, obligations, pity, and moral superiority. We now understand that catering and compulsive giving don't work. They backfire. Caretaking...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 1 Response Apr 9

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    Did'nt Know I Did'nt Know

    I am a love addict.I did'nt know this is what I am until recently.I have been working on the co-dependency side of me for A LONG time.I recently discovered I am a "LOVE ADDICT".It hurts.I believe because I come from a broken home & had little to no...
    ladycroft39 ladycroft39 36-40, F 5 Responses Nov 25, 2009

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    March 2. Feelings on the Job.

    "I'm furious about my job. Another man got a promotion that I believe I deserve. I'm so mad I feel like quitting. Now my wife says I should deal with my feelings. What good will that do? He still got the promotion." —Anonymous Our feelings at work are as important as our...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Mar 2

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    April 4. Negotiating Conflicts.

    Recovery is about more than walking away. Sometimes it means learning to stay and deal. It's about building and maintaining relationships that work. —Beyond Codependency Problems and conflicts are part of life and relationships - with friends, family, loved ones, and at work...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 1 Response Apr 4

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    Confusing Other Things With Love.

    Here is a very incomplete list of things that I confuse with real love... physical intimacy (with or without sexual intimacy) dependency obsession neediness premature emotional or physical attachment being "in a relationship" romantic intrigue taking care of someone no matter...
    deleted deleted 26-30 5 Responses Mar 13, 2013

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    "People accept the love they think they

    deserve" People are so self critical. There are so many times in life I've been confused about others relationships. I've asked myself or others, why is she with him or why is he with her? There are people who put up with being cheated on, being physically, mentally, or...
    mzwhat mzwhat 26-30, F 1 Response Feb 21

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    I need love like the air

    that I breathe in. I can't stay without love. I need to love and be loved. I have fallen in love many times and was heartbroken but I always managed to get over it and fall in love again. I don't believe that love happens only once.I have an ocean of love to give. I know I won't...
    PorcelainRose85 PorcelainRose85 26-30, F 5 days ago

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    March 23. Flack from Setting Boundaries.

    We need to know how far we'll go, and how far we'll allow others to go with us. Once we understand this, we can go anywhere. —Beyond Codependency When we own our power to take care of ourselves - set a boundary, say no, and change an old pattern - we may get flack from some...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Mar 23

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    April 19. Accepting Change.

    The winds of change blow through our life, sometimes gently, sometimes like a tropical storm. Yes, we have resting places - time to adjust to another level of living, time to get our balance, time to enjoy the rewards. We have time to catch our breath. But change is inevitable...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 1 day ago

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    Imprisoned By My Own Thoughts

    I am a love addict. There is always someone I am obsessed with. At any given time in my life, if you come up to me and ask me who I’m obsessed with, I will always have an answer. My whole life revolves around that person. Everything- my thoughts, my work schedule, my free...
    Maydove Maydove 26-30, F 7 Responses Aug 4, 2009

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    Lost In Love Addiction.

    As I am in my late twenties, nearing 30, I look back at my life. All I know and have known is this need to be loved and accepted. Endlessly searching for the person who will end my pain, my loneliness.. put worth in me. For a hand that won't let go, for eyes that won't betray...
    OoiTsumi OoiTsumi 26-30, F 3 Responses Jun 21, 2011

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    March 24. Appreciating Ourselves.

    We are the greatest things that will ever happen to us. Believe it. It makes life much easier. —Codependent No More It is time to stop this nonsense of running around picking on ourselves. We may have walked through much of our life apologizing for ourselves either directly...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Mar 24

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    April 18. Freedom. Many of us were oppressed

    and victimized as children. As adults, we may continue to keep ourselves oppressed. Some of us don't recognize that caretaking and not setting boundaries will leave us feeling victimized. Some of us don't understand that thinking of ourselves as victims will leave us feeling...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    March 22. Letting Go of Being a Victim.

    It's okay to have a good day. Really. It's okay to be doing okay and to feel like our life is manageable and on track. Many of us have learned, as part of our survival behaviors, that the way to get the attention and approval we want is to be victims. If life is awful, too...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Mar 22

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    And she tried to find the words .

    . Mixing them together like a powerful potion .. To her words were things of beauty , She was trying to spell magic . How could she ever explain , just what she was trying to say .. So she closed her eyes and spoke in a thousand silent ways .
    birdblu birdblu 31-35, F 6 Responses Mar 12

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    The Huntress

    Night owl soaring lonely and perching on each new yellow bird Where are you going to lie tonight? Love costs more than your willing to spare Your soul belongs to the universe but feathers and soft flesh you'll easily share.
    anotherinnocent anotherinnocent 22-25, F 9 Responses Apr 8, 2013

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    Well me and my boyfriend are doing a lot better

    but today he called me and my phone was off because I fell asleep I wish I would haw charged my phone maybe we could be hanging out. He also goes to the gym where he used to talk to so many girls and I'm afraid he will do it again I'm not working this whole week so we get to go...
    Danielle1995195 Danielle1995195 18-21, F Mar 27

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    I like to hurt people ,

    killing them, the sound of their screams yummy<3 Lol and when one of them beg for his life oh man it makes me lmao xD
    Zoce Zoce 18-21, M 2 Responses Feb 14

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    April 1. Going Easy. Go easy.

    You may have to push forward, but you don't have to push so hard. Go in gentleness - go in peace. Do not be in so much of a hurry. At no day, no hour, no time are you required to do more than you can do in peace. Frantic behaviors and urgency are not the foundation for our new...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Apr 1

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    I need it. To feel it.

    Believe it. Understand that I'm worth it.
    dsuzy dsuzy 36-40, F 1 Response Jan 17

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    April 3. Acceptance. Surrender to the moment.

    Ride it out and through, for all it's worth. Throw yourself into it. Stop resisting. So much of our anguish is created when we are in resistance. So much relief, release, and change are possible when we accept, simply accept. We waste our time, expend our energy, and make...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Apr 3

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    April 7. Those Old Time Feelings.

    "I still have bad days. But that's okay. I used to have bad years." —Anonymous Sometimes, the old feelings creep back in. We may feel fearful, ashamed, and hopeless. We may feel not good enough, unlovable, victimized, helpless, and resentful about it all. This is...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Apr 7

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    seriously !!! i lovvvve love XD ,

    i love romantic movies , i love hearing my friends telling me about their love stories ,, how they met ,, what happened next , with all it's part , be it bitter or sweet but honestly , when it comes to love , i like it mutual ,, i hate one-sided love ,, cuz i was in one of...
    tinathefreak tinathefreak 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 28

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    April 17. Taking Care of Ourselves.

    We often refer to recovery from codependency and adult child issues as self-care. Self-care is not, as some may think, a spin off of the Me generation. It isn't self-indulgence. It isn't selfishness - in the negative interpretation of that word. We're learning to take care of...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 3 days ago

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    Jan. 31. Asking for What We Need.

    One evening, I was alone, weary, and exhausted. I was in the midst of extensive traveling, disconnected from friends and family. I had flown home for the evening, but it seemed like nobody noticed. People were used to me being gone. It was late at night, and I began arguing...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Jan 31

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    March 28. Balance. Seek balance.

    Balance emotions with reason. Combine detachment with doing our part. Balance giving with receiving. Alternate work with play, business with personal activities. Balance tending to our spiritual needs with tending to our other needs. Juggle responsibilities to others with...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Mar 28

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    March 27. After-Burn.

    How could I do it? How could I say it? Even though I meant it, I still feel ashamed, guilty, and afraid. This is common reaction to new, exciting recovery behaviors. Anything to do with owning our power and taking care of ourselves can trigger feelings of shame, guilt, and...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 1 Response Mar 27

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    Confessions of a Love Addict

    I have a very serious problem with love and sex. I am a love addict. I am addicted to the attention and love of others. I cannot live this way anymore.  I am married, yet I still pursue relationships, whether virtual or realistic to hang on to. My husband's love is...
    addictoflove addictoflove 31-35 8 Responses Sep 19, 2009

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    Feb. 28. Letting Go of Denial.

    We are slow to believe that which, if believed, would hurt our feelings. —Ovid Most of us in recovery have engaged in denial from time to time. Some of us relied on this tool. We may have denied events or feelings from our past. We may have denied other people's problems...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Feb 28

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    March 18. Safety. One of the long-term effects

    of living in a dysfunctional family - as children or adults - is that we don't feel safe. Much of what we call codependency happens because we don't feel safe in relationships. This can cause us to control, obsess, or focus on the other person, while neglecting ourselves or...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Mar 18

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