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I Am a Love Addict

Are you still in love even after it's over? Are you afraid you'll always be alone? Do you feel unworthy of love and have been behaving like a stalker? If yes, you are a love addict. 1,273 People

    My goal: to be the person I want to be with in

    more ways then one... With this in mind I find myself getting anxiety from a place of self perfectionism, but then I take a step back and breath and remind myself that this isn't a path to self perfectionism rather it is a path to ultimate self love. It is cliche but it is so...
    OhGK OhGK 26-30, F 1 Response Aug 31, 2014

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    I'm not totally sure

    if I am or not. I know that I idealize love. I know that I continuously crave daily hugs at the very least. or talk once a day. Two months ago, ended a relationship with a detached type and it has left me drained and confused. All I want to do now is find comfort. I'm trying to...
    Aj03 Aj03 36-40, M 2 Responses Mar 24, 2015

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    I just figured out today my problem is I am

    addicted to love and been in love with a love avoider for the past 6 years. I am looking to recover from this with help from this site and to meet people who are in the same boat as me.
    klware klware 41-45, F 1 Response Jan 17, 2015

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    March 18. Safety. One of the long-term effects

    of living in a dysfunctional family - as children or adults - is that we don't feel safe. Much of what we call codependency happens because we don't feel safe in relationships. This can cause us to control, obsess, or focus on the other person, while neglecting ourselves or...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Mar 18, 2014

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    It's like the most exquisite form of self

    destruction. An addiction that hurts to have and hurts to detox from.
    thenymphomanic thenymphomanic 26-30, F 2 Responses Jan 3

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    Feb. 28. Letting Go of Denial.

    We are slow to believe that which, if believed, would hurt our feelings. —Ovid Most of us in recovery have engaged in denial from time to time. Some of us relied on this tool. We may have denied events or feelings from our past. We may have denied other people's problems...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Feb 28, 2014

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    December 29. Moving On.

    "Learn the art of acceptance. It's a lot of grief." —Codependent No More Sometimes, as part of taking care of ourselves, it becomes time to end certain relationships. Sometimes, it comes time to change the parameters of a particular relationship. This is true in love, in...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Dec 28, 2014

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    I've been on the journey

    for just under two years. Before that I didn't know 'what' the problem was. I discovered first that I'm codependent, then a psychologist mentioned love addiction and it fit like a glove. From the time I was a little girl, I was terrified of never finding love. I have been...
    toolatetoapologise toolatetoapologise 51-55, F Jun 23, 2014

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    "Mirror of Intimacy: Daily Reflections on

    Emotional and Erotic Intelligence" - www.centerforhealthysex.com
    Q2013 Q2013 46-50, F Jan 24

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    I fall in love to quickly.

    I'm so ready to give love and affection and compassion. In the end it drives them away or I get used. I need to stop or go to a place where others are like me
    blacksoldier43 blacksoldier43 26-30, M Jul 25, 2015

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    THE SIGN OF A BEAUTIFUL PERSON IS THAT THEY

    ALWAYS SEE BEAUTY IN OTHERS.
    mario111 mario111 41-45, M Jan 22, 2015

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    If you can answer yes to more

    than a few of the following questions, you are probably a love addict. Remember that love addiction comes in many forms, so even if you don’t answer yes to all of the questions you may still be a love addict. You are very needy when it comes to relationships. You fall in love...
    Q2013 Q2013 46-50, F 1 Response Jan 24

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    I have always felt I have never had an

    addictive personality I mean cigarettes alcohol,drugs like real hard drugs- when it got boring I just said well I think I'll stop now. And I did. However, I think I may be addicted to love. The events surrounding lust and love induce endorphins. There is something about falling...
    brileytallis brileytallis 26-30 1 Response May 17, 2015

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    Loving him was like trying to change your mind

    once you are already flying through the free fall......Memorizing him was as easy as remembering every word of your favorite song.
    Blackangel4u Blackangel4u 26-30, F Dec 17, 2013

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    Feb. 13. Trusting Ourselves.

    What a great gift we've been given - ourselves. To listen to ourselves, to trust instinct and intuition, is to pay tribute to that gift. What a disservice not to heed the leadings and leanings that so naturally arise from within. When will we learn that these leadings and...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 2 Responses Feb 13, 2014

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    So I was reading psychology blogs

    for borderline and I found this for love addiction.I scored YES on all 40 hahaha.Oh dear.Where do I get therapy for this. Check out the links , if you want to . http://loveaddicts.org/40questions.html http://www.loveaddictiontreatment.com/loveaddiction/ http://www.nhs.uk...
    aquabunny aquabunny 22-25, F 1 Response Feb 26, 2015

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    December 28. Panic. Don't panic!

    If panic strikes, we do not have to allow it to control our behaviors. Behaviors controlled by panic tend to be self-defeating. No matter what the situation or circumstance, panic is usually not a good foundation. No matter what the situation or circumstance, we usually have at...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Dec 28, 2014

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    And she tried to find the words .

    . Mixing them together like a powerful potion .. To her words were things of beauty , She was trying to spell magic . How could she ever explain , just what she was trying to say .. So she closed her eyes and spoke in a thousand silent ways .
    birdblu birdblu 31-35, F 4 Responses Mar 12, 2014

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    OhGK OhGK 26-30, F 2 Responses Sep 2, 2014

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    But it's good there ain't all

    that many of us too. Makes us more special ;)
    NewEra0916 NewEra0916 26-30, M 2 Responses Mar 28, 2015

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    I was doing so good! I was finally getting over

    him and getting used to not being with him anymore. He texts me yesterday and he's got my earring. I left it at his house. I don't really need or want it per se. I really want to see him. I'm going to stop by his house and look amazing. I'm going to try to kiss him deeply and...
    bossvixen bossvixen 31-35, F 2 Responses Dec 22, 2014

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    bigdavo85 bigdavo85 26-30, M Jan 17

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    Everybody's like he's no item; Please don't

    like em; He don't wife em; He one nights em;....... I never listened Courtesy of Jay-z and Jhene aiko -I'm trying to avoid those types but they seem to be everywhere
    littlemissdazed littlemissdazed 22-25, F 1 Response Oct 6, 2015

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    "People accept the love they think they

    deserve" People are so self critical. There are so many times in life I've been confused about others relationships. I've asked myself or others, why is she with him or why is he with her? There are people who put up with being cheated on, being physically, mentally, or...
    OhGK OhGK 26-30, F 1 Response Feb 21, 2014

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    I Make Myself Sick.

    I don't know how to stop getting involved with men i have no business getting involved with, breaking people's hearts because i am too terrified to get too close...well let's see... i was married once for a few years, then left him for another guy, but he wasn't as great as I...
    clouds4208 clouds4208 36-40, F 4 Responses Jan 26, 2013

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    Crop Circles. Take A Closer Look.

       I havn't noticed much being written about this phenomenon. I have heard slightly about them over the years but always with ideas of some body is playing a prank accompanying the awareness.  However in the past 1 - 5years, it appears that this occurrence has increased...
    lafsnack lafsnack 51-55, M 3 Responses May 14, 2011

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    Are All Love Addicts As Scared Of Rejection As I Am?

    One of the traits of love addiction is a holy terror of being rejected or abandoned. So we stick to one person for a bit, then get disillusioned by their negative points, and run away before they see our negative points...I want to be in a healthy loving relationship like...
    clouds4208 clouds4208 36-40, F 3 Responses Jan 27, 2013

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    "When your happiness starts to rely on any

    person, achievement or outcome (or a fragile combination of these) then you may start to realize that you’re emotionally dependent." This is why love addicts need to learn how to be emotionally independent in order to be free. You have to constantly tell yourself...
    SundayGlory33 SundayGlory33 31-35, F 1 Response Jul 15, 2015

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    I'm a single guy,on my own now

    for 6 years,really miss the intimacy of a true companion,ready to meet my soulmate,Just love cuddling,kissing,holding hands .
    Joey61345 Joey61345 70+, M Nov 30, 2015

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    Well I don't know where to begin

    so here it goes. I made a mistake all because I really like the feeling of attention and that feeling of falling in love. I have some huge trust issues though, so I like the feeling but I haven't put in my love into any of the relationships that revolved around my addiction. I...
    Anadiir Anadiir 26-30, F 1 Response Jul 18, 2015

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    I love, love! I am a relationship person

    and I want to be loved the way I love... I give my all in relationships. I have read one to many romance novels and I know that they are fake and not real but that's what I want to be swept off my feet have that knight and shining armour put all my pieces back together, start a...
    Gaffa1234 Gaffa1234 22-25, F 1 Response Oct 27, 2014

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    Just want to share this with everyone

    who is going through recovery from Love Addiction. I'm currently working on 2 & 3. Love Addicts Anonymous: The Twelve Steps 1. We admitted we were powerless over love, romance, fantasies and relationships—that our lives had become unmanageable. 2. Came to believe that a...
    SundayGlory33 SundayGlory33 31-35, F 4 Responses Jul 15, 2015

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    I'm so anxious. I hope it's all I've been

    thinking that it will be. I've been dreaming of it for so long. A dark ominous cloud hangs over me and forces me to believe that this won't go well. I'm searching for the silver lining.
    bossvixen bossvixen 31-35, F Jun 30, 2015

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    Started reading a book about love addiction.

    .... Sounds a lot like me ... I don't know how I'll fix it, but I'm tired if my crazy obsessiveness about somebody
    Orangerocket Orangerocket 36-40, F 2 days ago

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    Another of you added to my list.

    What does that mean for you? You'll be pulled and spun into a whirlwind of passion and emotions. No sooner than you give in and allow yourself to be swallowed whole, I'll become bored of you. I'll wait until I know that I'm all you can think of and then I'll simply move on...
    bossvixen bossvixen 31-35, F 2 Responses Oct 17, 2015

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    December 31. Affirming the Good.

    "Fun becomes fun, love becomes love, life becomes worth living. And we become grateful." —Beyond Codependency Wait, and expect good things - for yourself and your loved ones. When you wonder what is coming, tell yourself the best is coming, the very best life and love...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Dec 31, 2014

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    I'm a serial monogamist.

    I hate being alone. I hate being single. I feel so empty and scared. Ever since I started dating around age 13, I've only gone three months being single. Even if I know a guy isn't good for me, I'll date him because that beats being alone. There's comfort in having a...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jun 8, 2015

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    Withdrawl From My Love ...Day 2

    im sitting here trying to stop the thoughts what if i wait, what is he doing, is he thinking of me , why isnt he texting me , he usually txts me goodnight at this time .... It is 2 full days i dont talk to my drug of choice the 5 years we know each other seem to have withered...
    kikixox kikixox 26-30 Jul 30, 2013

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    Two Weeks Sober

    I started SLAA meetings knowing I was about to fly across country to meet a woman I'd fallen in love with online.  It was scary because I love to tell stories, but if I told this story about how unsober I was going to be, what would happen?  Would they kidnap me and...
    wundayatta wundayatta 56-60, M 4 Responses May 11, 2010

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    Imprisoned By My Own Thoughts

    I am a love addict. There is always someone I am obsessed with. At any given time in my life, if you come up to me and ask me who I’m obsessed with, I will always have an answer. My whole life revolves around that person. Everything- my thoughts, my work schedule, my free...
    Maydove Maydove 26-30, F 7 Responses Aug 4, 2009

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    kingaroo kingaroo 66-70, M Aug 23, 2015

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    Confessions of a Love Addict

    I have a very serious problem with love and sex. I am a love addict. I am addicted to the attention and love of others. I cannot live this way anymore.  I am married, yet I still pursue relationships, whether virtual or realistic to hang on to. My husband's love is...
    addictoflove addictoflove 31-35 8 Responses Sep 19, 2009

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    I need it. To feel it.

    Believe it. Understand that I'm worth it.
    dsuzy dsuzy 36-40, F 1 Response Jan 17, 2014

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    The Huntress

    Night owl soaring lonely and perching on each new yellow bird Where are you going to lie tonight? Love costs more than your willing to spare Your soul belongs to the universe but feathers and soft flesh you'll easily share.
    anotherinnocent anotherinnocent 26-30, F 6 Responses Apr 8, 2013

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