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I Am a Love Addict

Are you still in love even after it's over? Are you afraid you'll always be alone? Do you feel unworthy of love and have been behaving like a stalker? If yes, you are a love addict. 1,212 People

    I've been on the journey

    for just under two years. Before that I didn't know 'what' the problem was. I discovered first that I'm codependent, then a psychologist mentioned love addiction and it fit like a glove. From the time I was a little girl, I was terrified of never finding love. I have been...
    toolatetoapologise toolatetoapologise 51-55, F Jun 23, 2014

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    But it's good there ain't all

    that many of us too. Makes us more special ;)
    NewEra0916 NewEra0916 26-30, M 3 Responses Mar 28

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    December 27. Near the Top.

    I know you're tired. I know you feel overwhelmed. You may feel as though this crisis, this problem, this hard time will last forever. It won't. You are almost through. You don't just think it has been hard; it has been hard. You have been tested, tried, and retested on what...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 1 Response Dec 27, 2014

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    December 17. Nurturing Ourselves.

    Many of us have been so deprived of nurturing that we think it's silly or self-indulgent. Nurturing is neither silly nor self-indulgent; it's how we show love for ourselves. That's what we're striving for in recovery - a loving relationship with ourselves that works, so we can...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Dec 17, 2014

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    THE SIGN OF A BEAUTIFUL PERSON IS THAT THEY

    ALWAYS SEE BEAUTY IN OTHERS.
    mario111 mario111 41-45, M Jan 22

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    December 16. Taking Care of Ourselves

    Emotionally. What does it mean to take care of myself emotionally? I recognize when I'm feeling angry, and I accept that feeling without shame or blame. I recognize when I'm feeling hurt, and I accept those feelings without attempting to punish the source of my pain. I...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 1 Response Dec 16, 2014

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    Loving him was like trying to change your mind

    once you are already flying through the free fall......Memorizing him was as easy as remembering every word of your favorite song.
    Blackangel4u Blackangel4u 26-30, F Dec 17, 2013

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    Are All Love Addicts As Scared Of Rejection As I Am?

    One of the traits of love addiction is a holy terror of being rejected or abandoned. So we stick to one person for a bit, then get disillusioned by their negative points, and run away before they see our negative points...I want to be in a healthy loving relationship like...
    clouds4208 clouds4208 36-40, F 3 Responses Jan 27, 2013

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    December 23. Holiday Triggers.

    "One year, when I was a child, my father got drunk and violent at Christmas. I had just unwrapped a present, a bottle of hand lotion, when he exploded in an alcoholic rage. Our Christmas was disrupted. It was terrible. It was frightening for the whole family. Now, thirty-five...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Dec 23, 2014

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    March 18. Safety. One of the long-term effects

    of living in a dysfunctional family - as children or adults - is that we don't feel safe. Much of what we call codependency happens because we don't feel safe in relationships. This can cause us to control, obsess, or focus on the other person, while neglecting ourselves or...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Mar 18, 2014

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    December 11. Affirmations.

    One of our choices in recovery is choosing what we want to think - using our mental energy positively. Positive mental energy, positive thinking, does not mean we think unrealistically or revert to denial. If we don't like something, we respect our own opinion. If we spot a...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Dec 11, 2014

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    December 31. Affirming the Good.

    "Fun becomes fun, love becomes love, life becomes worth living. And we become grateful." —Beyond Codependency Wait, and expect good things - for yourself and your loved ones. When you wonder what is coming, tell yourself the best is coming, the very best life and love...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Dec 31, 2014

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    December 21. Balance.

    Strive for balanced expectations of others. Strive for healthy tolerance. In the past, we may have tolerated too much or too little. We may have expected too much or too little. We may swing from tolerating abuse, mistreatment, and deception to refusing to tolerate normal...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Dec 21, 2014

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    Circle’s complete. 365 days.

    Thank you all for reading my daily posts from Melody Beattie’s book, “The Language of Letting Go.” Wishing you and yours an amazing New Year filled with infinite good, love and light.
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Jan 1

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    I need it. To feel it.

    Believe it. Understand that I'm worth it.
    dsuzy dsuzy 36-40, F 1 Response Jan 17, 2014

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    Imprisoned By My Own Thoughts

    I am a love addict. There is always someone I am obsessed with. At any given time in my life, if you come up to me and ask me who I’m obsessed with, I will always have an answer. My whole life revolves around that person. Everything- my thoughts, my work schedule, my free...
    Maydove Maydove 26-30, F 7 Responses Aug 4, 2009

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    December 29. Moving On.

    "Learn the art of acceptance. It's a lot of grief." —Codependent No More Sometimes, as part of taking care of ourselves, it becomes time to end certain relationships. Sometimes, it comes time to change the parameters of a particular relationship. This is true in love, in...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Dec 28, 2014

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    December 22. Good Things Coming.

    Do not worry about how the good that has been planned for you will come. It will come. Do not worry, obsess, and think you have to control it, go out hunting for it, or tangle your mind trying to figure out how and when it will find you. It will find you. Surrender to your...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Dec 22, 2014

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    December 15. Feelings.

    It's okay to have and feel our feelings - all of them. Years into recovery, we may still be battling with ourselves about this issue. Of all the prohibitions we've lived with, this one is potentially the most damaging and the most long-lived. Many of us needed to shut down...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Dec 15, 2014

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    December 13. Giving. Don't be afraid of giving.

    For a while, we may need to back off from giving as we learn to discern the difference between healthy giving and caretaking, which leave us feeling victimized and others feeling resentful. This is a temporary spot. To be healthy, to do our part in this spiritual way of life...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Dec 13, 2014

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    I was doing so good! I was finally getting over

    him and getting used to not being with him anymore. He texts me yesterday and he's got my earring. I left it at his house. I don't really need or want it per se. I really want to see him. I'm going to stop by his house and look amazing. I'm going to try to kiss him deeply and...
    bossvixen bossvixen 26-30, F 2 Responses Dec 22, 2014

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    Withdrawl From My Love ...Day 2

    im sitting here trying to stop the thoughts what if i wait, what is he doing, is he thinking of me , why isnt he texting me , he usually txts me goodnight at this time .... It is 2 full days i dont talk to my drug of choice the 5 years we know each other seem to have withered...
    kikixox kikixox 26-30 Jul 30, 2013

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    December 24. Getting Through the Holidays.

    For some, the sights, signs, and smells of the holidays bring joy and a warm feeling. But, while others are joyously diving into the season, some of us are dipping into conflict, guilt, and a sense of loss. We read articles on how to enjoy the holidays, we read about the...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Dec 24, 2014

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    December 18. Staying Open to Our Feelings.

    Many of us have gotten so good at following the "don't feel" rule that we can try to talk ourselves out of having feelings, even in recovery. "If I was really working a good program, I wouldn't feel angry." "I don't get angry. I'm a Christian. I forgive and forget." "I'm not...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Dec 18, 2014

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    "People accept the love they think they

    deserve" People are so self critical. There are so many times in life I've been confused about others relationships. I've asked myself or others, why is she with him or why is he with her? There are people who put up with being cheated on, being physically, mentally, or...
    OhGK OhGK 26-30, F 1 Response Feb 21, 2014

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    Two Weeks Sober

    I started SLAA meetings knowing I was about to fly across country to meet a woman I'd fallen in love with online.  It was scary because I love to tell stories, but if I told this story about how unsober I was going to be, what would happen?  Would they kidnap me and...
    wundayatta wundayatta 56-60, M 4 Responses May 11, 2010

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    I Make Myself Sick.

    I don't know how to stop getting involved with men i have no business getting involved with, breaking people's hearts because i am too terrified to get too close...well let's see... i was married once for a few years, then left him for another guy, but he wasn't as great as I...
    clouds4208 clouds4208 36-40, F 4 Responses Jan 26, 2013

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    And she tried to find the words .

    . Mixing them together like a powerful potion .. To her words were things of beauty , She was trying to spell magic . How could she ever explain , just what she was trying to say .. So she closed her eyes and spoke in a thousand silent ways .
    birdblu birdblu 31-35, F 5 Responses Mar 12, 2014

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    All guys my age want is to just "mess around" i

    dont see no future in a bond that has just sex! And im annoyed that all dudes my age have to offer is that.
    epipfhani epipfhani 18-21, F 3 Responses May 25, 2014

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    I just figured out today my problem is I am

    addicted to love and been in love with a love avoider for the past 6 years. I am looking to recover from this with help from this site and to meet people who are in the same boat as me.
    klware klware 41-45, F 1 Response Jan 17

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    I fall hard and after a few months,

    I start going crazy. Jealousy, codependency, loss of self. I don't know what to do anymore. Too many amazing people that I've lost to this.
    copernicus623 copernicus623 31-35, M 1 Response May 12, 2014

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    My goal: to be the person I want to be with in

    more ways then one... With this in mind I find myself getting anxiety from a place of self perfectionism, but then I take a step back and breath and remind myself that this isn't a path to self perfectionism rather it is a path to ultimate self love. It is cliche but it is so...
    OhGK OhGK 26-30, F 1 Response Aug 31, 2014

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    December 12. God's Will.

    Each day, ask God what God wants us to do today; then ask God to help. A simple request, but so profound and far reaching it can take us anywhere we need to go. Listen: all that we want, all that we need, all the answers, all the help, all the good, all the love, all the...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Dec 12, 2014

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    Feb. 13. Trusting Ourselves.

    What a great gift we've been given - ourselves. To listen to ourselves, to trust instinct and intuition, is to pay tribute to that gift. What a disservice not to heed the leadings and leanings that so naturally arise from within. When will we learn that these leadings and...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 2 Responses Feb 13, 2014

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    Dec. 25. The Holidays.

    Sometimes, the holidays are filled with the joy we associate with that time of year. The season flows. Magic is in the air. Sometimes, the holidays can be difficult and lonely. Here are some ideas I've learned through personal experience, and practice, to help us get through...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Dec 24, 2014

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    When love is an addiction,

    then the absence of the drug means withdrawal. I know this now; didn't have the words to describe it before. Today is a withdrawal day. I know the only way to heal completely is to stop communicating with him. And doing so would quite possibly rip my heart out. But I suppose...
    Prisoner111 Prisoner111 31-35, F 4 days ago

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    OhGK OhGK 26-30, F 2 Responses Sep 2, 2014

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    I'm not totally sure

    if I am or not. I know that I idealize love. I know that I continuously crave daily hugs at the very least. or talk once a day. Two months ago, ended a relationship with a detached type and it has left me drained and confused. All I want to do now is find comfort. I'm trying to...
    Aj03 Aj03 36-40, M 3 Responses Mar 24

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    I've never been kissed,

    I want to be kissed so bad
    Ilovesomeonespecial Ilovesomeonespecial 13-15, F 2 Responses Sep 5, 2014

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    I love being in love.

    Being in love is emotionally uplifting. My love cannot be hidden it is in plane sight for all to see. It fills me until it gushes forth and flows freely to the one I love. I don't know many things but one thing I do know is how to love and how to show and share my love. I am a...
    bornfem bornfem 56-60 1 Response Mar 3

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    December 28. Panic. Don't panic!

    If panic strikes, we do not have to allow it to control our behaviors. Behaviors controlled by panic tend to be self-defeating. No matter what the situation or circumstance, panic is usually not a good foundation. No matter what the situation or circumstance, we usually have at...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Dec 28, 2014

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    So I was reading psychology blogs

    for borderline and I found this for love addiction.I scored YES on all 40 hahaha.Oh dear.Where do I get therapy for this. Check out the links , if you want to . http://loveaddicts.org/40questions.html http://www.loveaddictiontreatment.com/loveaddiction/ http://www.nhs.uk...
    aquabunny aquabunny 22-25, F 1 Response Feb 26

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    Confessions of a Love Addict

    I have a very serious problem with love and sex. I am a love addict. I am addicted to the attention and love of others. I cannot live this way anymore.  I am married, yet I still pursue relationships, whether virtual or realistic to hang on to. My husband's love is...
    addictoflove addictoflove 31-35 8 Responses Sep 19, 2009

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    December 20. Expectations of Others.

    It is our job to identify our needs, and then determine a balanced way of getting those needs met. We ultimately expect our Higher Power and the Universe - not one particular person - to be our source. It is unreasonable to expect anyone to be able or willing to meet our every...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Dec 20, 2014

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    March 6. Peace. Anxiety is often our first

    reaction to conflict, problems, or even our own fears. In those moments, detaching and getting peaceful may seem disloyal or apathetic. We think: If I really care, I'll worry; if this is really important to me, I must stay upset. We convince ourselves that outcomes will be...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 1 Response Mar 6, 2014

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    March 2. Feelings on the Job.

    "I'm furious about my job. Another man got a promotion that I believe I deserve. I'm so mad I feel like quitting. Now my wife says I should deal with my feelings. What good will that do? He still got the promotion." —Anonymous Our feelings at work are as important as our...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Mar 2, 2014

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