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I Am a Love Addict

Are you still in love even after it's over? Are you afraid you'll always be alone? Do you feel unworthy of love and have been behaving like a stalker? If yes, you are a love addict. 1,127 People

    October 12. During Times of Grief.

    The process of adapting to change and loss takes energy. Grief is draining, sometimes exhausting. Some people need to "cocoon for transformation," in Pat Carnes's words, while going through grief. We may feel more tired than usual. Our ability to function well in other areas...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Oct 12

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    I need it. To feel it.

    Believe it. Understand that I'm worth it.
    dsuzy dsuzy 36-40, F 1 Response Jan 17

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    Are All Love Addicts As Scared Of Rejection As I Am?

    One of the traits of love addiction is a holy terror of being rejected or abandoned. So we stick to one person for a bit, then get disillusioned by their negative points, and run away before they see our negative points...I want to be in a healthy loving relationship like...
    clouds4208 clouds4208 36-40, F 3 Responses Jan 27, 2013

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    I Make Myself Sick.

    I don't know how to stop getting involved with men i have no business getting involved with, breaking people's hearts because i am too terrified to get too close...well let's see... i was married once for a few years, then left him for another guy, but he wasn't as great as I...
    clouds4208 clouds4208 36-40, F 4 Responses Jan 26, 2013

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    October 3. Getting Through the Discomfort.

    "Surrender to the pain. Then learn to surrender to the good. It's there and more is on the way." —Beyond Codependency Our goal in recovery is to make us feel comfortable, peaceful, and content. Happy. We want to be at peace with our environment and ourselves. Sometimes, to...
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    Feb. 13. Trusting Ourselves.

    What a great gift we've been given - ourselves. To listen to ourselves, to trust instinct and intuition, is to pay tribute to that gift. What a disservice not to heed the leadings and leanings that so naturally arise from within. When will we learn that these leadings and...
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    Two Weeks Sober

    I started SLAA meetings knowing I was about to fly across country to meet a woman I'd fallen in love with online.  It was scary because I love to tell stories, but if I told this story about how unsober I was going to be, what would happen?  Would they kidnap me and...
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    October 17. Feelings

    and Surrender. Surrendering is a highly personal and spiritual experience. Surrender is not something we can do in our heads. It is not something we can force or control by willpower. It is something we experience. Acceptance, or surrender, is not a tidy package. Often, it is...
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    Lost In Love Addiction.

    As I am in my late twenties, nearing 30, I look back at my life. All I know and have known is this need to be loved and accepted. Endlessly searching for the person who will end my pain, my loneliness.. put worth in me. For a hand that won't let go, for eyes that won't betray...
    OoiTsumi OoiTsumi 31-35, F 4 Responses Jun 21, 2011

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    I've never been kissed,

    I want to be kissed so bad
    yourbeautifulValerie yourbeautifulValerie 13-15, F 2 Responses Sep 5

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    October 7. Letting Go of Naivete.

    We can be loving, trusting people and still not allow ourselves to be used or abused. We don't have to let people do whatever they want to us. Not all requests are legitimate! Not all requests require a yes! Life may test us. People may seek out our weak spots. We may see a...
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    October 21. Financial Responsibility.

    "When I began recovery from chemical dependency, I had to face my money mess stone cold sober, and I really had a mess," said one woman. "I wasn't able to earn much at first, and it was important to me to make amends. I had past due bills from years before. I needed to try to...
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    Loving him was like trying to change your mind

    once you are already flying through the free fall......Memorizing him was as easy as remembering every word of your favorite song.
    Blackangel4u Blackangel4u 22-25, F Dec 17, 2013

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    I want to know who the guy

    that called me on September 10 is !
    yourbeautifulValerie yourbeautifulValerie 13-15, F Oct 11

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    October 22. Holding Your Own.

    Trust yourself. Trust what you know. Sometimes, it is hard to stand in our own truth and trust what we know, especially when others would try to convince us otherwise. In these cases, others may be dealing with issues of guilt and shame. They may have their own agenda. They...
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    March 18. Safety. One of the long-term effects

    of living in a dysfunctional family - as children or adults - is that we don't feel safe. Much of what we call codependency happens because we don't feel safe in relationships. This can cause us to control, obsess, or focus on the other person, while neglecting ourselves or...
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    October 4. Faith and Money.

    Sometimes, there is not enough money to make ends meet, much less afford any luxuries. People may tell us to do a budget, and we chuckle. The expenses we need to pay for survival surpass the income. We look at the situation; shake our heads, and say, "No way." Many of us...
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    All guys my age want is to just "mess around" i

    dont see no future in a bond that has just sex! And im annoyed that all dudes my age have to offer is that.
    epipfhani epipfhani 18-21, F 4 Responses May 25

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    Clouds4208'S List Of 41 Relationship Red Flags To Avoid

    So with my long relationship history and from stories I have heard, I have gathered up a list of Red Flags to be wary of when you are dating or have met a new Special Someone. Red Flags don't mean you shouldn't date or care for a person - just that you need to be careful. This...
    clouds4208 clouds4208 36-40, F 4 Responses Jan 31, 2013

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    Write about your experienceOctober 8.

    Learning to Wait. "I've started to realize that waiting is an art, that waiting achieves things. Waiting can be very, very powerful. Time is a valuable thing. If you can wait two years, you can sometimes achieve something that you could not achieve today, however hard you...
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    Imprisoned By My Own Thoughts

    I am a love addict. There is always someone I am obsessed with. At any given time in my life, if you come up to me and ask me who I’m obsessed with, I will always have an answer. My whole life revolves around that person. Everything- my thoughts, my work schedule, my free...
    Maydove Maydove 26-30, F 7 Responses Aug 4, 2009

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    "People accept the love they think they

    deserve" People are so self critical. There are so many times in life I've been confused about others relationships. I've asked myself or others, why is she with him or why is he with her? There are people who put up with being cheated on, being physically, mentally, or...
    OhGK OhGK 26-30, F 1 Response Feb 21

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    September 30. Not a Victim.

    You are not a victim. How deeply ingrained our self-image as a victim can be! How habitual our feelings of misery and helplessness! Victimization can be like a gray cloak that surrounds us, both attracting that which will victimize us and causing us to generate the feelings of...
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    October 11. Recovery.

    How easy it is to blame our problems on others. "Look at what he's doing." . . . "Look how long I've waited." . . . "Why doesn't she call?" . . . "If only he'd change then I'd be happy." . . . Often, our accusations are justified. We probably are feeling hurt and frustrated...
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    March 6. Peace. Anxiety is often our first

    reaction to conflict, problems, or even our own fears. In those moments, detaching and getting peaceful may seem disloyal or apathetic. We think: If I really care, I'll worry; if this is really important to me, I must stay upset. We convince ourselves that outcomes will be...
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    Confessions of a Love Addict

    I have a very serious problem with love and sex. I am a love addict. I am addicted to the attention and love of others. I cannot live this way anymore.  I am married, yet I still pursue relationships, whether virtual or realistic to hang on to. My husband's love is...
    addictoflove addictoflove 31-35 8 Responses Sep 19, 2009

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    April 20. Deadlines. "I don't know

    whether I want in or out of this relationship. I've been struggling with it for months now. It's not appropriate to let it hang indefinitely. I will give myself two months to make a decision." —Anonymous Sometimes, it helps to set a deadline. This can be true when we face...
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    And she tried to find the words .

    . Mixing them together like a powerful potion .. To her words were things of beauty , She was trying to spell magic . How could she ever explain , just what she was trying to say .. So she closed her eyes and spoke in a thousand silent ways .
    birdblu birdblu 31-35, F 5 Responses Mar 12

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    Crop Circles. Take A Closer Look.

       I havn't noticed much being written about this phenomenon. I have heard slightly about them over the years but always with ideas of some body is playing a prank accompanying the awareness.  However in the past 1 - 5years, it appears that this occurrence has increased...
    lafsnack lafsnack 51-55, M 3 Responses May 14, 2011

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    I want to know who the guy is.

    the one that called me on September 10 2014
    yourbeautifulValerie yourbeautifulValerie 13-15, F Oct 11

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    October 15. Letting Go of Chaos.

    No good work comes from unrest. Unrest, fear, anger, or sadness may motivate us. These feelings are sometimes intended to compel action. But our best work emerges after these feelings have been replaced by peace. We will not accomplish our task any sooner, or any better, by...
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    October 5. Knowledge.

    Learn to let yourself be guided into truth. We will know what we need to know, when we need to know that. We don't have to feel badly about taking our own time to reach our insights. We don't have to force insight or awareness before it's time. Yes! Maybe the whole world saw...
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    October 20. Detaching with Love.

    Sometimes people we love do things we don't like or approve of. We react. They react. Before long, we're all reacting to each other, and the problem escalates. When do we detach? When we're hooked into a reaction of anger, fear, guilt, or shame. When we get hooked into a power...
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    October 16. Being Honest with Ourselves.

    Our relationship with ourselves is the most important relationship we need to maintain. The quality of that relationship will determine the quality of our other relationships. When we can tell ourselves how we feel, and accept our feelings, we can tell others. When we can...
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    I fall hard and after a few months,

    I start going crazy. Jealousy, codependency, loss of self. I don't know what to do anymore. Too many amazing people that I've lost to this.
    copernicus623 copernicus623 31-35, M 1 Response May 12

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    The Huntress

    Night owl soaring lonely and perching on each new yellow bird Where are you going to lie tonight? Love costs more than your willing to spare Your soul belongs to the universe but feathers and soft flesh you'll easily share.
    anotherinnocent anotherinnocent 22-25, F 9 Responses Apr 8, 2013

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    Did'nt Know I Did'nt Know

    I am a love addict.I did'nt know this is what I am until recently.I have been working on the co-dependency side of me for A LONG time.I recently discovered I am a "LOVE ADDICT".It hurts.I believe because I come from a broken home & had little to no...
    ladycroft39 ladycroft39 36-40, F 5 Responses Nov 25, 2009

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    October 2. Coping with Families.

    There are many paths to self-care with families. Some people choose to sever connections with family members for a period of time. Some people choose to stay connected with family members and learn different behaviors. Some disconnect for a time, and then return slowly on a...
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    I have a huge problem.

    I'm addicted to love and my OM. When we aren't in contact I go into major withdrawal. Painful. I'm a disaster. Its not friggin normal. Yes I'm madly in love but my behaviour and thoughts are irrational and obsessive Its destroying me from the inside out. suddenly today...
    mysecretworld mysecretworld 36-40, F 3 Responses Jan 17

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    October 18. Throwing Out the Rule Book.

    Many of us feel like we need a rulebook, a microscope, and a warranty to get through life. We feel uncertain, frightened. We want the security of knowing what's going to happen, and how we shall act. We don't trust life or ourselves. We don't trust the Plan. We want to be in...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 6 days ago

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    October 23. Morning Cues.

    There is an important message for us first thing every day. Often, once we get started with the day, we may not listen as closely to life and ourselves as we do in those still moments when we first awaken. An ideal time to listen to ourselves is when we are laying quietly...
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    October 19. Our Good Points.

    "What's a codependent? The answer's easy. They're some of the most loving, caring people I know." —Beyond Codependency We don't need to limit an inventory of ourselves to the negatives. Focusing only on what's wrong is a core issue in our codependency. Honestly...
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    October 6. Taking Care of Ourselves.

    It's healthy, wise, and loving to be considerate and responsive to the feelings and needs of others. That's different from caretaking. Caretaking is a self defeating and, certainly, a relationship defeating behavior - a behavior that backfires and can cause us to feel resentful...
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    Feb. 28. Letting Go of Denial.

    We are slow to believe that which, if believed, would hurt our feelings. —Ovid Most of us in recovery have engaged in denial from time to time. Some of us relied on this tool. We may have denied events or feelings from our past. We may have denied other people's problems...
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    March 2. Feelings on the Job.

    "I'm furious about my job. Another man got a promotion that I believe I deserve. I'm so mad I feel like quitting. Now my wife says I should deal with my feelings. What good will that do? He still got the promotion." —Anonymous Our feelings at work are as important as our...
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    Withdrawl From My Love ...Day 2

    im sitting here trying to stop the thoughts what if i wait, what is he doing, is he thinking of me , why isnt he texting me , he usually txts me goodnight at this time .... It is 2 full days i dont talk to my drug of choice the 5 years we know each other seem to have withered...
    kikixox kikixox 26-30 Jul 30, 2013

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    October 24. Opening Ourselves to Love.

    Open ourselves to the love that is available to us. We do not have to limit our sources of love. God and the Universe have an unlimited supply of what we need, including love. When we are open to receiving love, we will begin to receive it. It may come from the most...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 14 hrs ago

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    Confusing Other Things With Love.

    Here is a very incomplete list of things that I confuse with real love... physical intimacy (with or without sexual intimacy) dependency obsession neediness premature emotional or physical attachment being "in a relationship" romantic intrigue taking care of someone no matter...
    deleted deleted 26-30 5 Responses Mar 13, 2013

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    I've been on the journey

    for just under two years. Before that I didn't know 'what' the problem was. I discovered first that I'm codependent, then a psychologist mentioned love addiction and it fit like a glove. From the time I was a little girl, I was terrified of never finding love. I have been...
    toolatetoapologise toolatetoapologise 51-55, F Jun 23

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    October 10. Payoffs from Destructive

    Relationships. Sometimes it helps to understand that we may be receiving a payoff from relationships that cause us distress. The relationship may be feeding into our helplessness or our martyr role. Maybe the relationships feeds our need to be needed, enhancing our self...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Oct 10

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    September 29. The Importance of Money.

    We cannot afford to allow our focus in life to be money. That will not lead us into the abundance we're seeking. Usually, it will not even lead to financial stability. Money is important. We deserve to be paid what we're worth. We will be paid what we're worth when we believe...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Sep 29

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