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I Am a Love Addict

Are you still in love even after it's over? Are you afraid you'll always be alone? Do you feel unworthy of love and have been behaving like a stalker? If yes, you are a love addict. 966 People

    April 20. Deadlines. "I don't know

    whether I want in or out of this relationship. I've been struggling with it for months now. It's not appropriate to let it hang indefinitely. I will give myself two months to make a decision." —Anonymous Sometimes, it helps to set a deadline. This can be true when we face...
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    July 13. God as We Understand God.

    "God is subtle, but he is not malicious." —Albert Einstein Recovery is an intensely spiritual process that asks us to grow in our understanding of God. Our understanding may have been shaped by early religious experiences or the beliefs of those around us. We may wonder if...
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    July 9. Overspending

    and Underspending. "I used to beat my husband to death with my credit card. It made me feel like I had some control, some way to get even with him." —Anonymous "I spent ten years buying everything for myself at garage sales. I didn't even buy myself a new pair of shoes...
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    Love Addict

    I am addicted to falling in love. I love the emotional high that comes with finding someone who is attracted to me and likes who i am or who I seem to be. The feeling never lasts though. I am married and seperated and i feel extremly alone.
    wareagle1974 wareagle1974 36-40, M 1 Response Aug 18, 2012

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    July 24. Denial. Denial is a powerful tool.

    Never underestimate its ability to cloud your vision. Be aware that, for many reasons, we have become experts at using this tool to make reality more tolerable. We have learned well how to stop the pain caused by reality - not by changing our circumstances, but by pretending...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 18 hrs ago

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    All guys my age want is to just "mess around" i

    dont see no future in a bond that has just sex! And im annoyed that all dudes my age have to offer is that.
    epipfhani epipfhani 18-21, F 4 Responses May 25

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    July 22. Learning to Trust Again.

    Many of us have trust issues. Some of us tried long and hard to trust untrustworthy people. Over and again, we believed lies and promises never to be kept. Some of us tried to trust people for the impossible; for instance, trusting a practicing alcoholic not to drink again...
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    July 4. Celebrate. Take time to celebrate.

    Celebrate your successes, your growth, and your accomplishments. Celebrate you and who you are. For too long you have been too hard on yourself. Others have spilled their negative energy - their attitudes, beliefs, and pain - on you. It had nothing to do with you! All along...
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    March 2. Feelings on the Job.

    "I'm furious about my job. Another man got a promotion that I believe I deserve. I'm so mad I feel like quitting. Now my wife says I should deal with my feelings. What good will that do? He still got the promotion." —Anonymous Our feelings at work are as important as our...
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    Withdrawl From My Love ...Day 2

    im sitting here trying to stop the thoughts what if i wait, what is he doing, is he thinking of me , why isnt he texting me , he usually txts me goodnight at this time .... It is 2 full days i dont talk to my drug of choice the 5 years we know each other seem to have withered...
    kikixox kikixox 26-30 Jul 30, 2013

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    If silence is golden,

    is the first one to speak really a leader or is it just the end of game...
    badhabitrabbit badhabitrabbit 26-30, M 1 Response Jun 29

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    I've been on the journey

    for just under two years. Before that I didn't know 'what' the problem was. I discovered first that I'm codependent, then a psychologist mentioned love addiction and it fit like a glove. From the time I was a little girl, I was terrified of never finding love. I have been...
    toolatetoapologise toolatetoapologise 51-55, F Jun 23

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    July 18. Time to Get Angry.

    It's about time you got angry - yes, that angry. Anger can be such a potent, frightening emotion. It can also be a feeling that guides us to important decisions, sometimes decisions difficult to make. It can signal other people's problems, our problems, or simply problems we...
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    July 21. Being Is Enough.

    We are not always clear about what we are experiencing, or why. In the midst of grief, transition, transformation, learning, healing, or discipline - it's difficult to have perspective. That's because we have not learned the lesson yet. We are in the midst of it. The gift of...
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    July 11. Bring Any Request to God.

    Bring any request you have to God. No request is too large; none too small or insignificant. How often we limit God by not bringing to God everything we want and need. Do we need help getting our balance? Getting through the day? Do we need help in a particular relationship...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Jul 11

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    Clouds4208'S List Of 41 Relationship Red Flags To Avoid

    So with my long relationship history and from stories I have heard, I have gathered up a list of Red Flags to be wary of when you are dating or have met a new Special Someone. Red Flags don't mean you shouldn't date or care for a person - just that you need to be careful. This...
    clouds4208 clouds4208 36-40, F 4 Responses Jan 31, 2013

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    July 10. Ending Relationships.

    It takes courage and honesty to end a relationship - with friends, loved ones, or a work relationship. Sometimes, it may appear easier to let the relationship die from lack of attention rather than risk ending it. Sometimes, it may appear easier to let the other person take...
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    July 1. Receiving. Here is an exercise.

    Today let someone give to you. Let someone do something nice for you. Let someone give you a compliment or tell you something good about yourself. Let someone help you. Then, stand there and take it. Take it in. Feel it. Know that you are worthy and deserving. Do not apologize...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Jul 1

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    July 7. Getting It All Out.

    "Let yourself have a good gripe session." From: " Woman, Sex, and Addiction" —Charlotte Davis Kasl, Ph.D. Get it out. Go ahead. Get it all out. Once we begin recovery, we may feel like it's not okay to gripe and complain. We may tell ourselves that if we were really...
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    July 2. Who Knows Best?

    Others do not know what's best for us. We do not know what's best for others. It is our job to determine what's best for ourselves. "I know what you need." . . . "I know what you should do." . . . "Now listen, this is what I think you should be working on right now." These...
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    The Huntress

    Night owl soaring lonely and perching on each new yellow bird Where are you going to lie tonight? Love costs more than your willing to spare Your soul belongs to the universe but feathers and soft flesh you'll easily share.
    anotherinnocent anotherinnocent 22-25, F 9 Responses Apr 8, 2013

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    July 17. Love, in Words

    and Actions. Many of us have confused notions about what it means to be loved and cared about. Many of us were loved and cared for by people who had discrepancies between what they said and did. We may have had a mother or father who said, "I love you" to us, and then...
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    July 12. Letting Go of Fear of Abandonment.

    "Where are you, God? Where did you go?" So many people have gone away. We may have felt so alone so much. In the midst of our struggles and lessons, we may wonder if God has gone away too. There are wondrous days when we feel God's protection and presence, leading and guiding...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Jul 12

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    July 20. Letting Go of Resistance.

    Do not be in such a hurry to move on. Relax. Breathe deeply. Be. Be in harmony today. Be open. There is beauty around and in us today. There is purpose and meaning in today. There is importance in today - not so much in what happens to us, but in how we respond. Let today...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 4 days ago

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    Did'nt Know I Did'nt Know

    I am a love addict.I did'nt know this is what I am until recently.I have been working on the co-dependency side of me for A LONG time.I recently discovered I am a "LOVE ADDICT".It hurts.I believe because I come from a broken home & had little to no...
    ladycroft39 ladycroft39 36-40, F 5 Responses Nov 25, 2009

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    June 29. God's Will. God's will most often

    happens in spite of us, not because of us. We may try to second guess what God has in mind for us, looking, searching, hypervigilant to seek God's will as though it were a buried treasure, hidden beyond our reach. If we find it, we win the prize. But if we're not careful, we...
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    July 3. Directness. So much of our

    communication can reflect our need to control. We say what we think others want to hear. We try to keep others from getting angry, feeling afraid, going away, or disliking us. But our need to control traps us into feeling like victims and martyrs. Freedom is just a few words...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Jul 3

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    Loving him was like trying to change your mind

    once you are already flying through the free fall......Memorizing him was as easy as remembering every word of your favorite song.
    Blackangel4u Blackangel4u 22-25, F Dec 17, 2013

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    March 18. Safety. One of the long-term effects

    of living in a dysfunctional family - as children or adults - is that we don't feel safe. Much of what we call codependency happens because we don't feel safe in relationships. This can cause us to control, obsess, or focus on the other person, while neglecting ourselves or...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Mar 18

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    "People accept the love they think they

    deserve" People are so self critical. There are so many times in life I've been confused about others relationships. I've asked myself or others, why is she with him or why is he with her? There are people who put up with being cheated on, being physically, mentally, or...
    mzwhat mzwhat 26-30, F 1 Response Feb 21

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    My Love Story

    I am a love addict. I've probably been a love addict since my childhood. Since I've been working the LAA program, I've had the opportunity to look back at my past relationships and see that I was addicted to all of them in one way or another. Today I'm not in a "love...
    Rubeng Rubeng 26-30 2 Responses Feb 8, 2013

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    charliemageewood charliemageewood 16-17, M 1 Response Jun 27

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    Crop Circles. Take A Closer Look.

       I havn't noticed much being written about this phenomenon. I have heard slightly about them over the years but always with ideas of some body is playing a prank accompanying the awareness.  However in the past 1 - 5years, it appears that this occurrence has increased...
    lafsnack lafsnack 51-55, M 3 Responses May 14, 2011

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    We Will Persevere

    far far away =( Distance may cause many tears And it may also bring fear But if our love is clear It will never disappear Whether we are far or near We will persevere For with a love deep and sincere We will always be each other's dear
    KaylaPetrova92 KaylaPetrova92 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 3, 2013

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    Feb. 28. Letting Go of Denial.

    We are slow to believe that which, if believed, would hurt our feelings. —Ovid Most of us in recovery have engaged in denial from time to time. Some of us relied on this tool. We may have denied events or feelings from our past. We may have denied other people's problems...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Feb 28

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    Are All Love Addicts As Scared Of Rejection As I Am?

    One of the traits of love addiction is a holy terror of being rejected or abandoned. So we stick to one person for a bit, then get disillusioned by their negative points, and run away before they see our negative points...I want to be in a healthy loving relationship like...
    clouds4208 clouds4208 36-40, F 3 Responses Jan 27, 2013

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    Meet a girl today who looks like a small built

    school teacher , dark hair glasses very shy , omg drove me nuts , I couldn't even think lol I had to force myself away , I so luv the girls who seem a little withheld HOWEVER they are all married wtf when do I get my perfect girl ?
    jmichaels65 jmichaels65 46-50, M 2 Responses Jun 27

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    July 16. Insisting on the Best.

    We deserve the best life and love has to offer, but we are each faced with the challenge of learning to identify what that means in our life. We must each come to grips with our own understanding of what we believe we deserve, what we want, and whether we are receiving it...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Jul 16

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    Lost In Love Addiction.

    As I am in my late twenties, nearing 30, I look back at my life. All I know and have known is this need to be loved and accepted. Endlessly searching for the person who will end my pain, my loneliness.. put worth in me. For a hand that won't let go, for eyes that won't betray...
    OoiTsumi OoiTsumi 31-35, F 4 Responses Jun 21, 2011

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    I Make Myself Sick.

    I don't know how to stop getting involved with men i have no business getting involved with, breaking people's hearts because i am too terrified to get too close...well let's see... i was married once for a few years, then left him for another guy, but he wasn't as great as I...
    clouds4208 clouds4208 36-40, F 4 Responses Jan 26, 2013

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    June 30. Accepting Change.

    One day, my mother and I were working together in the garden. We were transplanting some plant for the third time. Grown from seed in a small container, the plants had been transferred to a larger container; then transplanted into the garden. Now, because I was moving, we were...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Jun 30

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    I need it. To feel it.

    Believe it. Understand that I'm worth it.
    dsuzy dsuzy 36-40, F 1 Response Jan 17

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    July 8. Going with the Flow.

    Go with the flow. Let go of fear and your need to control. Relinquish anxiety. Let it slip away, as you dive into the river of the present moment, the river of your life, your place in the universe. Stop trying to force the direction. Try not to swim against the current...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Jul 8

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    Confessions of a Love Addict

    I have a very serious problem with love and sex. I am a love addict. I am addicted to the attention and love of others. I cannot live this way anymore.  I am married, yet I still pursue relationships, whether virtual or realistic to hang on to. My husband's love is...
    addictoflove addictoflove 31-35 8 Responses Sep 19, 2009

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    March 6. Peace. Anxiety is often our first

    reaction to conflict, problems, or even our own fears. In those moments, detaching and getting peaceful may seem disloyal or apathetic. We think: If I really care, I'll worry; if this is really important to me, I must stay upset. We convince ourselves that outcomes will be...
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    And she tried to find the words .

    . Mixing them together like a powerful potion .. To her words were things of beauty , She was trying to spell magic . How could she ever explain , just what she was trying to say .. So she closed her eyes and spoke in a thousand silent ways .
    birdblu birdblu 31-35, F 5 Responses Mar 12

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    Two Weeks Sober

    I started SLAA meetings knowing I was about to fly across country to meet a woman I'd fallen in love with online.  It was scary because I love to tell stories, but if I told this story about how unsober I was going to be, what would happen?  Would they kidnap me and...
    wundayatta wundayatta 56-60, M 4 Responses May 11, 2010

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    The Postoffice Hotel

       I found a pretty girl to fall in love with from a country tobacco growing town.  Non of these pictures are of her, but, i can tell u that the aroma of the drying sheds was never far away picastinateing the air. I was in good with Rudi and Ginny, in fact i was living with...
    lafsnack lafsnack 51-55, M May 20, 2011

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    July 6. Step Seven. Humbly asked God to remove

    our shortcomings. —Step Seven of Al-Anon In the Sixth and Seventh Steps of the program, we become willing to let go of our defects of character - issues, behaviors, old feelings, unresolved grief, and beliefs that are blocking us from the joy that is ours. Then we ask God...
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    June 28. When Things Don't Work.

    Frequently, when faced with a problem, we may attempt to solve it in a particular way. When that way doesn't work, we may continue trying to solve the problem in that same way. We may get frustrated, try harder, get more frustrated, and then exert more energy and influence...
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    July 19. Proving It to Ourselves.

    "I spent a year trying to prove to my husband how much his drinking was hurting me. When I began to recover, I realized I was the one who needed to realize how much his drinking was hurting me." —Anonymous "I spent months trying to prove to a man I was dating how...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 5 days ago

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    I have a huge problem.

    I'm addicted to love and my OM. When we aren't in contact I go into major withdrawal. Painful. I'm a disaster. Its not friggin normal. Yes I'm madly in love but my behaviour and thoughts are irrational and obsessive Its destroying me from the inside out. suddenly today...
    mysecretworld mysecretworld 36-40, F 3 Responses Jan 17

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    Confusing Other Things With Love.

    Here is a very incomplete list of things that I confuse with real love... physical intimacy (with or without sexual intimacy) dependency obsession neediness premature emotional or physical attachment being "in a relationship" romantic intrigue taking care of someone no matter...
    deleted deleted 26-30 5 Responses Mar 13, 2013

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