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I Am a Lover Not a Fighter

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    Go With the Flow

    This group's name says it all about my current state of mind. I don't have a problem speaking my mind about things, but it makes much more sense to me to talk things out in a way that prevents raised voices and angry words.  I'll use my ex-boyfriend as an example since...
    anadolu anadolu 36-40, F 5 Responses Jan 21, 2009

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    Yeah =/

    I'm too nice for my own good. I can't argue, fight or stand up for myself. I don't think I'm cowardly, but I just don't like confrontations. I don't like egging on my 'opponent' to make it worse. I prefer being silent, letting them calm down and sorting things out responsibly...
    DarkAngel123 DarkAngel123 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 2, 2010

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    Always the Lover Never the Fighter

    I have never been in a fight before I believe if  you can just  respect each other  even if you dont agree and  step away cool down then try to talk things out  everything will  be just fine violence never  really  solves anything it just...
    whitelighter212009 whitelighter212009 18-21, M 2 Responses Jul 11, 2009

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    I Will, Though

    Though I prefer not to fight, I will. Should they need it, I willingly defend my friends.  I don't hesitate to tell bullies to lay off...whether I know the victim or not.  When teasing crosses the line from "all in fun" to "deliberately malicious" I step in.I choose my moments...
    Plaid Plaid 31-35, F 1 Response Nov 5, 2012

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    I Love People I Don't Want To Fight.

    It used to be the other way round, I used to be fighter, Kickboxer, bouncer football hooligan, didn't have time to love but since I became a christian I have completely turned my life around, I would defend myself but no longer am who I used to be life is so much easier...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Oct 29, 2009

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    I will always try to calm the situation down

    so it will not escalate... However if you endanger my friends or family things will change. In extremely protective
    kdx45 kdx45 22-25, M Jun 22

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    Forced Into What I Despise

    Together for 18 years, married for 13, and now seperated since May 1st, 2011 on our way to a divorce that she "needs". I will admit that I was not the best husband, and that there were times when I was right down lousy, not showing her the love she deserved and ignoring the...
    Falcran Falcran 41-45, M 2 Responses Dec 20, 2011

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    I Will Love When I Can

    But I will NOT backdown anymore. I will stand up for myself and my friends. I will love myself before others, and I WILL SUCCEED.
    EntrepGuy EntrepGuy 22-25, M 7 Responses Dec 1, 2007

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    You Can Get Bruised In Both So I Choose Love

     Even though my heart may be bruised, taking a chance on love seems much more satisfying than taking a chance on winning a fight.  Any day!  Any way!  Sharing love is wonderful.  Sharing fists is stupid.  I was told by a Karate instructor that the...
    dorobo dorobo 70+, M 4 Responses Feb 26, 2009

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    Me Too

    i feel exactly the same as little lady. but also for me, a lot of people expect me to be fighter because i have been swimming since i was little and i'm pretty muscular. i hate it when people make jokes about me being able to beat people up because i never would. i don't even...
    snowboard4life snowboard4life 16-18, F Dec 9, 2007

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    True

    The group name says it all; I am a lover not a fighter. I would sooo rather love someone that fight; I have tons of love and hugs to give.
    TiPoupon TiPoupon 18-21, F Jun 18, 2008

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    Just Found Out

    GA_googleCreateDomiframe('google_ads_div_Blogthings_Personality_TopCenter_300x250' ,'Blogthings_Personality_TopCenter_300x250'); You Are a Lover You think that there's no use in fighting, even if you...
    RopinTexan RopinTexan 22-25, M May 6, 2009

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    Omg

    ok so i am kinda a fighter only when it comes down to it but peace and love is my goal.. like if a person comes up to me and starts talking **** i am so going to kick some *** but other than that i am like dude love can be done
    sneeky sneeky 16-18, F Dec 2, 2007

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    Give Everyone Love

    I would much rather hug the person than bet them up. I have known (and still know) many people who have hurt my feelings or made me mad. But I find it easier to forgive and love than to be bitter and mean. I think, if they want to hate you, let them, but you don't need to be on...
    LHCrisman LHCrisman 18-21, F Oct 12, 2013

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    Confrontation? I'll Pass.

    I hate fighting. I try to avoid it at all costs. i could never cope with being yelled at, I just break down. I am not weak, it is just not worth it to me to get all heated. I think of it as a talent to be able to work through situations without fighting.
    LittleLady LittleLady 19-21, F Dec 3, 2007

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    Really Starting To Realize This

    My other story in this group is about a quiz I took that said I was a lover.  I have just started realizing the truth of this cliche statement though.  If you've been keeping up with my stories, you know that my girlfriend and my ex-affair-person (I don't know what this...
    RopinTexan RopinTexan 22-25, M Oct 1, 2010

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    I Hate Fighting

    I just don't understand why people feel the need to fight. The same goes for war, I don't understand that either. I feel that fighting can only make problems worse whether it's between two people or two countries. Personally, I haven't had a fight since elementary school; since...
    Bloo Bloo 22-25, F Feb 20, 2011

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    i was asked to fight a fellow high school

    student lol noo thank you
    deleted deleted 26-30 Apr 10

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    Don't Fight

    I'm a lover not a fighter but doesn't a lover fight for love? should I resign thoughts that aren't sane Then what should I shall then become? I'm a man of decency, I love the thought of love and everything in between that leads to love and more or less the fact it can exist try...
    CMA1234 CMA1234 46-50, F Dec 20, 2011

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    I'm a Lover!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

     I've always been a lover... Never a fighter... I could never fight anything.. Unless I had to then I would... But I'm a loved threw and threw.. Always have been always will be..
    XLunaXLovegoodX XLunaXLovegoodX 22-25, F Sep 4, 2008

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    I Just Don't See The Point

    i've worked at bars and events where once you add drinks some people think they are he-man or wonder woman and at the end of thew night i've spent to much time mopping up blood throwing away broken glass and furniture so what the **** is the point to fighting it never solves...
    wotaloser wotaloser 36-40, M 3 Responses Aug 4, 2011

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    I want a lover, a beloved, a sweet heart. I want a lover who is my best friend, a lover who i can trust, a lover who will always be there through thick and thin. I want a lover who...
    shadow2233 shadow2233 18-21, M 5 Responses 3 days ago

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    I'm a passionate lover.. I'm looking for that woman that wants to enjoy being my lover :)
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    Are you a screen lover?The same ppl in real life aren't even looked at twice till they have a lot of viewers on youtube or become success or famous, then you're sharing their...
    m33lad m33lad 31-35, M 1 Response Dec 11

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    I am really a music lover, I love every types of music actually. When I play different types of Rock music in my room with my friends or family, they said it's like 'Satanic' cause...
    xxBoyishGirlxx xxBoyishGirlxx 13-15, F 3 Responses Nov 22

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    To my other half: What I hate about you ( What hurts me): 1. I didn't see you laugh (anymore) everytime you are with me. I really wat to see you smile/happy/less serious when we...
    crimoholic24 crimoholic24 22-25, F 6 Responses Nov 25

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    or a best friend who is a lover. lol
    regalshewolf regalshewolf 41-45, F 1 Response Nov 26

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    It's 4:06 a.m. and here I am barely making sense on Ep. Why? Because I am an inveterate coffee-lover. I've cut way back from the ten cups of perked coffee I used to drink. That it...
    paulie138 paulie138 66-70, M Nov 28

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    I am the type that would only need one really awesome friend. A super funny, smart, beautiful lady that can make me laugh. I am jealous of people who have lovers like that. I wish...
    ofskies ofskies 18-21, M 1 Response Nov 28

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    I have had a few serious relationships and At the time I thought oh I'm in love. But until I find the woman who is my best friend and lover I will be in search of love. So any...
    BigBrainTheory BigBrainTheory 31-35, M 1 Response Nov 30

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    having a lover who is also my best friend is the best thing I could have right now. <3
    MeowOnMe MeowOnMe 18-21, F 8 Responses Dec 4

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    Me hears past lovers thinking this. And now needs one from each gender. Why when me feels this way. Hmmm. Maybe need triage staff to cure me. Lmao.
    OddlyScintilating OddlyScintilating 46-50, M 1 Response Dec 4

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    I'm a dog lover. My dog name is gizmo. He is my four legged son.
    MrShecter MrShecter 36-40, M 2 Responses Dec 6

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    groundcraze groundcraze 22-25, F 3 Responses Dec 9

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    Coffee is my fuel!!!What could possibly be better than fresh ground dark roast coffee freshly brewed??? second mug with a carmel coffee cake!!!The best way to make the best of...
    LadyGypsy LadyGypsy 36-40, F 1 Response Dec 11

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    "I don't want wedding vows... But yes, I do want a man who will never let me sleep with tears in my eyes. I do want a man who would care about my feelings and never hurt me, let me...
    SensualPassionbbw SensualPassionbbw 31-35, F 7 Responses a week ago

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    Is there anybody out there who can help me achieve this? We don't have to be "lovers" I'm fine with being friends. I like formal dresses the most.
    notuh notuh 31-35, M 4 days ago

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    I want a lover who is also my bestfriend! Please? Anyone ? 😊
    Nathalia04 Nathalia04 18-21, F 34 Responses 3 days ago

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    I want a lover who is also my best friend!! Please ? Anyone ? 🙈
    fucklovee fucklovee 18-21, F 10 Responses 3 days ago

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    THE REASON I WANT A LOVER TO BE ALSO MY BEST FRIENDS BCOZ I WANT TO KNOW HER FROM THE DEPTH AND CAN TRUST HER AND CAN BELIEVE HER
    waris1 waris1 16-17, M 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    How come society makes us feel bad for thinking out the box when all the time it's made up to control us. Come play at secreterotica . com it's sexy, fun the groups and library are...
    YouKnowItMakesSense YouKnowItMakesSense 31-35, M Nov 28

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    I will always fight for what I believe in. No matter what.
    MeowOnMe MeowOnMe 18-21, F 1 Response Nov 28