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I Am A Married Woman But Having An Affair

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 213 People

    My Personal Story

    i have been w/the same man for 29 years married 28, we have four children together i love my husband he is a great provider he has worked so long but we have a non passional relationship, he wants to be in control all the time, i want to do some courses for myself to maybe get a...
    cheech107 cheech107
    7 Responses Feb 1, 2012

    I Always Thought I Would Never Go There

    When I was 26 years old I met this woman through work, she was 37 years old married attractive woman without children. first dinner we had together she was dressed up with a short dress, high heels, make up ...etc, she looked really attractive, Our dinner took longer than...
    herlover999 herlover999
    36-40, M
    2 Responses Aug 30, 2013

    Its with my pastor. We are Jehovah witnesses.

    He is a very strong man full of self control It's not a full blown affair. We've not kissed on the lips but have Hugged passionately, and out of control. We talk for hours on the phone. He tells me he has never opened up to anyone since his wife went a little insane and...
    Titziana Titziana
    4 Responses Feb 1, 2014

    Back To Reality, After A Beautiful Weekend.....

    Here I am, at my desk on Monday. Needing to work, wanting to write. This is the first time I've had the chance to return here in weeks. I am finding that navigating this site is a little overwhelming and confusing, seems it could be organized better, but I am easily confused and...
    Veeva Veeva
    46-50, F
    2 Responses Aug 20, 2012

    Ok ...So What Now?

    What do I do when I think I am starting to have feelings for my lover? How can I just keep it cool? I cant be with him and I know that. How do I put things back into perspective? He makes me happy. He drives me crazy. I my heart I want to feel like this all the time. So I...
    likeaprayerxo likeaprayerxo
    31-35, F
    3 Responses Aug 21, 2013

    So Confused !!

    I am married over 10 years, have kids but I am bored in my marraige. I met a man who excites me, who I feel like I have known forever and its been not even a month. My husband is a good guy, wonderful father, I just dont know if I am in love with him. I care for him deeply and...
    confused2013 confused2013
    31-35, F
    11 Responses Jun 14, 2012 One To Talk To..

    I have been married for 4 years. My husband is a good guy, has always taken good care of me, but we have no sexual relationship for a majority of our marriage bc he takes a medication that is made him have no sexual desire (he has no medical insurance so no getting anything to...
    MisshimM1428 MisshimM1428
    31-35, F
    4 Responses Sep 11, 2012

    My Choice

    I've had a couple affairs (more than one night) and lots of intimate encounters (one night only) throughout my entire marriage. I got married just out of college to my best friend, we connected then and are still tight today. Sometime during our second year of marriage while out...
    Kissweeterthanwine Kissweeterthanwine
    41-45, F
    10 Responses Sep 20, 2013

    Need Advice

    I wrote that I was havng an afair after being married for 15 years. I do not know the rules of this and how to go about it. We obvously are connected to each other for reasons sex, maybe good conversation. We spent the morning togehter the other day. I have not heard from him...
    akd77 akd77
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Nov 6, 2012

    I'm In Love With My Bestfriend But I'm Marriage To A Cheater..smt

    Hello, I've been married for about 4 1/2 yrs now and we have one son that is 11 months. During my marriage I have dealt with a decade of troubles in my time frame of 4 1/2 yrs. My husband has cheated on me 7 times before the final affair which makes 8 times in total. I have...
    HazelBrown HazelBrown
    26-30, F
    1 Response Oct 28, 2012

    Confused.Torn. Hurt

    In may of this year i purchased a brand new car from a dealership which is right down the.street from me. My husband and i go in and get this car. And i cant help but notice one of the.sales men noticing me., im not going to lie it made me feel good. Well now i have been talking...
    sadsamantha311 sadsamantha311
    22-25, F
    Aug 28, 2013

    What Should I Do?

    I had a brief affair with a guy who ended the relationship some 3 months ago now, claiming it was too intense for him and he had cold feet and therefore just wanted to remain friends. I have been devastated and struggled to get on with daily life. I feel really in love with him...
    edwina38 edwina38
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Jan 9, 2013

    I Am Happy! Imagine That

    I don't necessarily feel good about the space I am in or share with my lover BUT I have never felt so free, so beautiful, or feminine in my life. I don't even recall feeling like this with my husband. It's a different feeling. One, that is both liberating and scary at the same...
    007love 007love
    31-35, F
    4 Responses May 30, 2013

    Still Love My Husband, But A Different Kind Of Love.

    I married my high school sweatheart. We married when I was 20 and had our first child when I was 21, our second at 22 and our third at 27. We have been married now for 33 years. Like most couple we have had our ups and down, but we loved each other and had a great relationship...
    susie504 susie504
    Sep 1, 2012

    My Wife Dates Others

    Whether it is right or wrong, I admit that allowing her to date other men is arousing to me.....some of her "dates" are planned....a couple with friends of hers from her is a PhD and she has enjoyed a weekend or two with him...coming home simply exhausted from their...
    longknife73 longknife73
    56-60, M
    2 Responses Aug 19, 2012

    5 Months Ago I Met This Beautiful Woman Who Happened To Be Married.

    Hi met this beautiful woman who I new is married. It started slowly, but after 5 months I fell in love with this woman. We did everything together, parks, breakfast, and lunches. There were 3 times she was in the hospital and I was there. Her husband is a long haul truck driver...
    gross17671 gross17671
    Jun 9, 2013

    Passive Aggressive Bullshit!

    My husband knows that I am sleeping with someone else. He is mostly ok with it. Anyway, a couple of weeks ago picked up on the fact that I had a packet of unopened condoms in the car. Fast forward to yesterday. I had been for my weekly theraphy session and knew that on the way...
    MaryIsMyHomeGirl MaryIsMyHomeGirl
    26-30, F
    4 Responses Jun 14, 2012

    No Longer Married....but Still May Have An Affair!

    Although I am no longer married; yet I still may have an affair. So at this time I will be leaving this group. It has been helpful to have a place to VOICE my worries, concerns, and feelings with this group. I truly sense a place of belonging each and every time I blog my...
    chie5189 chie5189
    2 Responses Jul 19, 2012


    Well I have really screwed up with my "friend" I sent him a text by accident that was meant for my son while Giving him trouble. But with the recent chain of events made me look like a psycho. I have sent him an apology and explained that I really am not crazy and was not meant...
    akd77 akd77
    31-35, F
    Jan 8, 2013

    Confused ....

    So I have been seeing this man for about 3 months now. I still am not divorced but will hopefully be soon. My marriage is over! Things were going really well with me and this man for quite some time. We really enjoy being togehter when the time allows, and we always seem to...
    akd77 akd77
    31-35, F
    Jan 3, 2013

    I Am Married But I Want To Have Sex With A Fireman

    I have been married for 3 years and I am almost 24. For the past 2 years I have been flirting and have really bad sexual graphic conversations with a married 45 year old fireman. My husband has found out twice, and just recently told me if he found out again, he would leave. I...
    LaceyH LaceyH
    3 Responses Sep 17, 2012

    I have been in an affair

    since since September of 2007....Your assumptions that  I am a soul sucking seductresses or a desperate woman-child that needs his love or; I shall die could not be farther from the truth. I am that woman you talked to at the coffee shop one morning as we compared the taste of...
    Kelki Kelki
    46-50, F
    6 Responses Dec 30, 2013

    I am having an affair with a married man from

    work, often AT work. Stupid on so many levels-I am well aware of the moral and marriage affecting issues plus very honest with myself about all consequences if it falls through. But so thrilling! And I am the happiest I have ever been. I love the freedom and choice and...
    TrixxieBell TrixxieBell
    41-45, F
    2 Responses Feb 12, 2014

    I'm Lost On The Long & Winding Road..

    It has been such a long and exhausting journey...   Started out as a secretly blissful emotional and physical discovery and reawakening,  and has been painfully going downhill ever since...   I have never cheated on anyone before this, ever..... but -  his wife, then him...
    marmelade marmelade
    51-55, F
    3 Responses Nov 16, 2012

    This Is What I've Been Missing In My Life!!

    I'm not afraid to say what's on my mind, because he listens carefully to understand what I'm really saying! Although we are like-minded, he accepts my point of view as valid, even when it differs from his own. I'm not afraid to show him my weaknesses, because he loves me, and...
    FraidNot FraidNot
    41-45, F
    1 Response Aug 2, 2013

    Broken Vixen

    I was sort of a vixen in high school. Blond hair, blue eyes and pretty well put together--and I knew it. Early on, I had the normal teenage infatuation at 14 and he eventually broke my heart at 16. But it was there that I turned a corner. I don't think I wanted a fixed broken...
    fence0sitting fence0sitting
    41-45, F
    2 Responses Sep 5, 2013

    Amazing Sex With A Black Man

    My first few experiences being with a black man.....a bucket list of sorts....accomplished, but will keep returning for more! I will start by saying I am a thick, curvy woman in a sexually unsatisfied marriage, who has had some changes in my life the last year. I have lost...
    Ojitoslatinos Ojitoslatinos
    26-30, F
    Oct 27, 2012

    Three Months Later, Here I Am.....

    My husband and I haven't had anything for years. Been married 7 but nothing for at least the last 4. I was resigned to this is how it was going to be forever. I felt ugly, insecure because he would say things to blame and belittle me. I don't want to be married anymore but he won...
    lost2727 lost2727
    Jun 29, 2013

    Too Good To Leave, Too Bad To Stay

    Some years ago I read a line in a book called “Spiritual Fitness” that has stayed with me very lucidly ” Everything we do in this life is an attempt to heal ourselves”. We may not always go about this the right way, like break sacred marriage vows. But even an affair is a...
    Ihabi Ihabi
    46-50, F
    4 Responses Sep 24, 2012

    Lies Or A True Connection?

    Together with my husband for 19 years, many ups and downs over the years. 15 years ago i met a married guy through work, he made it clear he was interested in me and whilst there was definately sexual chemistry and friendship there for me i made it clear i was married and not...
    edwina38 edwina38
    36-40, F
    Dec 22, 2012

    Married One Year, Together For 6.5

    It all started about 3 years ago. I was in an on again-off again relationship (which was on at the time) with a man who I loved but was not in love with. We were very much opposite, but both of us could not really tolerate anyone else, haha. Anyway, I was working at a school and...
    tiddlywink222 tiddlywink222
    22-25, F
    1 Response Sep 18, 2012

    My Experience.

    I'm on here to talk about my experience. I'm not here to be judged ( I get enough of that) or hated on, so leave negative comments to yourself. I've only been married for 11 months, and live in a sexless marriage already. I am also ignored. Here's the background. I've been...
    Gaffa1234 Gaffa1234
    26-30, F
    8 Responses Oct 9, 2013

    Is It Wrong?????

    I got married when I was 20 and Its been four years I got married to the person I love. Everything was ok in the beginning but after some months the true colors of my husband came out. He changed, he would get angry for silly matters, he would slap me sometimes.. after marriage...
    cryst24 cryst24
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Oct 24, 2013

    I Am Married But Having An Affair

    Its weird I dont see it as an affair, it most definately is and im not trying to say its not or justify it in any way but heres how the story goes... I have been with my now husband since I was 13 on and off, I can remember seeing him and thinking one day you will be mine (and...
    envyme101 envyme101
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Jun 13, 2012

    How do you stop loving someone you shouldn't be

    loving anyway? I've been seeing another man ( who is also married) for almost 6 years now. I love him to death and no matter how I try or how he treats me cannot get him out of my head or my heart. I admit I am obsessed with him. Things have changed over the past 18 months tho...
    ilonajack ilonajack
    41-45, F
    2 Responses Aug 28, 2015

    Married To A Great Man But Met My Soulmate.

    I have been married for 15 years and we have 4 wonderful kids. My marriage has always been solid and strong. My first marriage failed because he was disrespectfuland didn't really like women. My husband now is just the opposite and has always treated me well. I married him for...
    btmomto4 btmomto4
    13 Responses Mar 26, 2012
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