I Am a Military Spouse

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 236 People

    I'm not trying to be preachy,

    but milspouses are not military members/personnel! I understand the pride in our spouses, I really do. However, we are still civilians. Don't call yourself a service member unless you're ready to sign the line and enlist yourself. I am in no way trying to discredit the...
    7onii 7onii
    22-25, F
    4 Responses Jan 4, 2015

    Love Jo's blog! This entry- things you say to a

    military spouse/girlfriend other than "you knew what you were getting into." Encourage :) http://jomygosh.com/2016/02/things-to-say-to-a-milspouse-instead-of-you-knew-what-you-were-getting-into/
    mymilsobeginning mymilsobeginning
    22-25, F
    Mar 9

    I Was a Military Spouse For 15...

    I was a military spouse for 15yrs. I loved moving to different states and meeting new people. I loved how my husband looked in his uniform (cute and sexy). I loved having base housing. I hated war and never knowing if he would have to go. I hated taking care of the kids alone...
    sweetd sweetd
    56-60, F
    1 Response Nov 2, 2007

    So many delightful Milso blogs out there.

    I found some one liners about deployments that I find true and hysterical.. "Deployment is inconveniently the most effective way to find out if you really love each other" "This to shall pass. Painfully,like a kidney stone, but it will pass" "When all else fails, hug a dog...
    mymilsobeginning mymilsobeginning
    22-25, F
    1 Response Mar 5
    mymilsobeginning mymilsobeginning
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Mar 1

    well day 2 in my lonely life.

    I have been out job hunting all day. That was a bust. Its so hard to find a job when they all want experience. Kinda sucks for me when the only experience i have is in coaching cheerleading. Got an email from my husband, but it wasn't even a nice one. Never said i love or miss...
    rabrady31 rabrady31
    31-35, F
    1 Response Dec 11, 2013

    It's Odd Being Me

    it feels so weird writing this as i am both a military spouse and a military service member too.  i am inthe army and sois my wife, we are both currently deployed to iraq and are eagerly waiting our return to eachothers arms as over 20 months in total are going to be hell...
    Blade21408 Blade21408
    22-25, M
    1 Response Jul 19, 2008

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    carinaccaa carinaccaa
    26-30, F
    Mar 1

    so today has been terrible

    and I do mean terrible. My husband decided to inform via email that he no longer loves me. i am beyond crushed and devastated, he is my life. I love this man so much. How can he tell me 2 days ago that he loves me with all his heart and today tell me that he wants to love me but...
    rabrady31 rabrady31
    31-35, F
    1 Response Dec 22, 2013

    I will soon become a military spouse.

    Any advice? We're engaged and he just shipped out. The distance isn't a hard thing because we've dealt with distance before. Any advice on being a wife to a man in the army?
    Kiayamj Kiayamj
    18-21, F
    1 Response Mar 2

    well today has been good.

    I got to Skype my husband and he was so sweet. i miss him so much. On top of that I GOT A JOB!!! yay. i was feeling hopeful and it paid off. I will leave this as i miss you babe and can't wait till you're home safe. day 7
    rabrady31 rabrady31
    31-35, F
    Dec 16, 2013

    I am really happy I found this group .

    I am not married yet but soon will be .I was in another group on here for girlfriend but felt like I could not relate to any of them because most are not going to make dating a military guy and because I feel like most only date and only see the uniform they put on .I am proud of...
    kellner27 kellner27
    18-21, F
    Feb 23

    I Truly Hate My Husband

    Been married for 14 years. Husband decided he needed attention and decided to have an affair with someone he met in school, and also hook back up with an ex-girlfriend. When confronted, he tried to make it out to be my fault, like what he did was really not that bad. Are you...
    rdwife rdwife
    36-40
    2 Responses Nov 30, 2011

    Today is really hard all I want to do is cry

    but I try to stay strong for my baby and because I know my family does not know what I'm going through and I am spending the day with them.
    xflordiagirlx xflordiagirlx
    22-25, F
    Apr 15, 2014

    I need some serious advice.

    Sorry this is long I just need a lot of help! Please help me out!! My ex and I were together for almost two years and we were madly in love. It was a perfect relationship, but it didn't start or end that way. In the beginning we were rocky, on and off, dating in secret...
    ArisDiCicco ArisDiCicco
    18-21, F
    1 Response Oct 6, 2014

    Reminder : this group has moved to Facebook.

    Link below, stay in contact with everyone! Facebook: https://m.facebook.com/groups/978517905517602/ Instagram: EPMILSOS
    mymilsobeginning mymilsobeginning
    22-25, F
    Mar 28

    My sweet husband is TDY in a day,

    I'm just a little nervous, my eye has continued to twitch. I'm praying for safe travels for him. I'll be flying to NC to see my family for a couple weeks :) I'm looking forward seeing familiar faces!
    mymilsobeginning mymilsobeginning
    22-25, F
    Mar 2

    Marriage Is Falling Apart

    i met my husband when i was in jr high didn't really get to know him then but i had this big crush on him. Then came my senior year in high school and boom there he was! It was a sat. night in a local club and everyone was out to have fun. One of his boys were talking to me and...
    browneyegirl89 browneyegirl89
    18-21, F
    6 Responses Jun 2, 2009

    I need advice. my husband is having a hard time

    dealing with our Miscarriage, coming home from deployment and his father's death. he's drinking heavily and he even admits he is. how should I calmly talk and help? I will not run I want to stay and help. he always treats me like gold he is just struggling with all the stress...
    Zoeykb Zoeykb
    22-25, F
    1 Response Nov 14, 2015

    New Military Wife

    I am 22 years old my husband was in the army reserves and he is now going in full time!! We've been married for almost 2 years now and we've been together for 7 years. I'm really excited but so scared for the things to come. Any advise and support would help!! Thank you Michele
    johnsonspouse johnsonspouse
    22-25
    Apr 3, 2008

    No I'm Not a Marine...she Is!.

    I spent about 13 years on active duty when I made a decision.  My decision was to find another job and allow my wife the opportunity to achieve her goals to receive a commission.  The experience has been daunting.  Constantly, I am referenced as the active duty...
    tmass tmass
    31-35, M
    2 Responses Jun 3, 2009

    This group has moved to Facebook ,

    join us ! Facebook: https://m.facebook.com/groups/978517905517602/ Instagram: EPMILSOS
    mymilsobeginning mymilsobeginning
    22-25, F
    Apr 19

    Marriage

    I was married right before I turned 19, we were best friends in high school,  with some of the high school drama (I dated his best friend before him,   etc...)  stupid stuff, but we were always good friends. This february we will be married for 6...
    star4nessa star4nessa
    22-25, F
    1 Response Jan 14, 2009

    I Need Your Help.

    I am a songwriter. I am writing a song about the experience of being a military spouse who's mate is stationed away from you. I want the lyrics to speak to you and from you. I am not a military spouse and I can't remotely pretend to know how you feel. I have made a few attempts...
    Christy1225 Christy1225
    46-50
    1 Response Oct 20, 2010

    HI, Is the Military Right For a Young Couple With Kids?

    My husband is thinking about joining the military (air force) We have 2 kids and we have a really strong relationship. I just don't know what military life is like. My dad was military but got out when I was really young.
    shaynafl shaynafl
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Sep 20, 2007

    So i haven't been writing

    for a few days. wow has so much gone on. Well my job is going really well. I am doing really good at it. My husband is still being really really mean to me. I try to just ignore it and pretend that he is saying he loves me and misses me. It is so very painful and so very hard. I...
    rabrady31 rabrady31
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Dec 28, 2013

    well i am back from the job hunt.

    I put applications in everywhere, and i do mean everywhere. had a couple interviews. Now its just the waiting home. I feel like i live my life in waiting. waiting on everything. It sucks. hopefully one will pull through and i will be able to get a job and make this time go by...
    rabrady31 rabrady31
    31-35, F
    Dec 12, 2013

    IT Is Amazing What a Woman and Man Will Sacrifice For the Person They Love!!!

      TODAY WHEN I WENT DOWNTOWN BROOKLYN IN NYC I REALIZE THAT I AM ALONE WHAT I MEAN BY THAT I AM MY SON MOTHER AND FATHER FOR THE NEXT COUPE OF YEARS BECUASE MY HUSBAND IS ALWAYS ON UNDERWAYS, TRAINING EXCERSIZES, AND THE BIG ONE DEPLOYMENTS. WELL IT TOOK ME TIME TO REALIZE...
    michellemtjpjt michellemtjpjt
    31-35, F
    8 Responses Jun 8, 2008

    How To Support Your Military Member

    Hello all, I am a fellow military significant other, and I wanted to share a nifty little Etsy shop I found that has cute military support bracelets and clothing that you can customize. Go to Etsy and search for the shop "MilitaryHearttees". They have great prices too. www.etsy...
    marie1284 marie1284
    22-25, F
    Oct 11, 2013

    New Military Spouse

    Hello! I'm Stephanie, and my boyfriend of 3 1/2 years has recently sworn into the AF. We are very much in love, and I am nervous about him being gone for so long at Basic and tech school. Right now I live in Oregon going to school, until I transfer home to Tennessee in December...
    stephanie324 stephanie324
    18-21, F
    1 Response Oct 28, 2010

    So yesterday and today have been really bad.

    I spoke with my husband, which should make me happy right? Wrong. He was so emotionally abusive to me. I am completely crushed and heart broken now. I wait wait wait to hear an i love and miss you. just to be replaced with how horrible i am. I am done trying in life. My life...
    rabrady31 rabrady31
    31-35, F
    1 Response Dec 15, 2013

    Military Spouse

    Hello everyone, I am a military spouse and I make unique military support bracelets and clothing that you can customize. Everything in my shop is on sale right now for a limited time. Go to Etsy.com and search for the shop "MilitaryHearttees". My prices start at $8. www.etsy...
    marie1284 marie1284
    22-25, F
    Nov 1, 2013

    Missing My Best Friend / Husband

    my husband left two days ago and i feel lost already.This is his first deployment.We have been togthere for five years but only married for 2 months now.he is my husband but also my best friend.  We have a four year old son who doesn't understand fully yet. He wont...
    sunflowern4u2 sunflowern4u2
    22-25, F
    5 Responses Sep 22, 2008

    April 21 is fast approaching.

    This group has moved to Facebook, join us for support, encouragement, and advice! Facebook: https://m.facebook.com/groups/978517905517602/ Instagram: EPMILSOS
    mymilsobeginning mymilsobeginning
    22-25, F
    Apr 21

    Hello all ! I hope we can bring this forum back

    to life! I haven't been on in a while. Life keeps going. I would love to hear about your life! What are you doing day to day? What's your aspiration for your Milso journey? Let's talk!
    mymilsobeginning mymilsobeginning
    22-25, F
    Feb 29

    My Boyfriend Is In Balad

    I need support while my boyfriend is in Balad till August or September. I thought I would be fine but its taking a toll on my health, sleepless nights and my work ability.  I just want to speak to others in my situation and involved with whatever it is that will ease the...
    cheinen710 cheinen710
    22-25
    May 21, 2010

    Well day 3 for me. I am getting ready to go job

    hunting for the 5th day in a row. hopefully something positive will come out of this day. I need something positive after yesterday. Well i will keep my readers. ( if i have any posted). Wish me luck guys. Day 3 of to conquer the world. feeling somewhat hopeful. Miss you babe...
    rabrady31 rabrady31
    31-35, F
    1 Response Dec 12, 2013

    * IMPORTANT* Since the EP is closing- Hey

    ladies the Facebook group and Instagram account is up and running. Please be patient as we navigate our way through the kinks! Facebook : https://m.facebook.com/groups/978517905517602/ Instagram : EPMILSOS If there is any problems message me!
    mymilsobeginning mymilsobeginning
    22-25, F
    Mar 23

    "So far you have survived 100% of your worst

    days. Keep going. You're doing great."
    mymilsobeginning mymilsobeginning
    22-25, F
    Mar 18

    I Am Really Miss My Husband

    I AM A MILITARY SPOUSE FOR A YEAR NOW AND IT IS A DIFFERENT EXPERIENCE FOR ME HAS BEEN DIFFERENT I AM STILL GETTING USE TO NOT SEEING MY HUSBAND AT ALL AND ALL THE UNDERWAYS AND DEPLOYMENTS HE IS GOING TO BE GOING ON AND HE IS ON ONE NOW. IF I CAN HAVE ANY THING ELSE IN...
    michellemtjpjt michellemtjpjt
    31-35, F
    2 Responses May 7, 2008

    Not Looking Forward to It!!

    I have been married for four years to a wonderful man. Hes in the Air Force (and he does tattoos on the side lol). in the four years we've been together we've had 1 christmas together. He's missed two anniversaries and two of my birthdays.  He has never gone to iraq and i am...
    mzbogart mzbogart
    22-25, F
    1 Response Sep 19, 2008

    I am a brand new military spouse

    as of yesterday(: Everything is completely new to me and I'm looking for those with experience that can share their stories(: my husband is stationed overseas in England and we are trying to figure everything out! Just wondering if there's any things that I should absolutely...
    JennaThiel JennaThiel
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Dec 4, 2014

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    facebook.com/groups/978517905517602/ Instagram; EPMILSOS
    mymilsobeginning mymilsobeginning
    22-25, F
    Apr 7

    Austin, Texas Military Spouses Group

    I am the wife of a soldier and have found that support from other military spouses is essential to this crazy life!  I am starting a Military Spouses Group in Austin, Texas.  If you or anyone you know lives in Austin and is a military spouse, please join our group...
    saraandtracey saraandtracey
    26-30, F
    1 Response Nov 12, 2009

    I Am A Military Spouse.

    I have been a navy wife for over two years. The majority of that time was spent separated from my husband while he was stationed overseas. But he came home three weeks ago. I am so happy to finally have him back. It's nice not to have to take care of our ten month old alone...
    Summersmommy2 Summersmommy2
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Oct 27, 2013

    Missing

    missing my husband during this deployment...
    nlovmarco nlovmarco
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Oct 21, 2010

    Making Friends In The Military

    I am a military spouse and I have had the hardest time making friends. I am not very outgoing but I am a mother and my daughter needs to socialize with other kiddos her age. It is going to be very difficult for me to come out of my comfort zone but it is needed. Any ideas or...
    AriesPisces89 AriesPisces89
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Oct 25, 2012

    Well i didn't get to write yesterday.

    i was super busy. first day of work went really well. a little overwhelming but i think Ill catch on. Well i ended up at the hospital last night with severe stomach pains. It turns out I am a high risk pregnancy. (whatever that means). I guess i almost miscarried. It was really...
    rabrady31 rabrady31
    31-35, F
    Dec 18, 2013

    Related Experiences

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    mymilsobeginning mymilsobeginning
    22-25, F
    Apr 21
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    mymilsobeginning mymilsobeginning
    22-25, F
    Apr 21
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    mymilsobeginning mymilsobeginning
    22-25, F
    Apr 21
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    mymilsobeginning mymilsobeginning
    22-25, F
    Apr 21
    I feel the need to drop a little truth on y'all. So buckle up...I'm about to be politically incorrect.We don't need to take America back. No one stole it. It's right here...you're...
    heybro heybro
    56-60, M
    Apr 20
    Think long and hard. Most that are thinking of having an affair only think of whether they could get away with it and how exciting it could be. Most never dream of just how...
    kpitup kpitup
    56-60, F
    2 Responses Apr 20
    These are stories left I am leaving in the archives that might be helpful to the betrayed spouses. Should you confront the affair partner? This is just my opinion, but the short...
    kpitup kpitup
    56-60, F
    1 Response Apr 20
    The flags are used for a number of purposes and they enable you to show your love, respect and support toward your nation or the association. There are number of categories of...
    Onlinestore12 Onlinestore12
    31-35, M
    Apr 19
    My boyfriend of 4 years got orders overseas. We have a baby together and he is leaving for 2 years this summer. We aren't going because we aren't married and because he will deploy...
    Mishelly81 Mishelly81
    31-35, F
    Apr 19
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    22-25, F
    Apr 19
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    22-25, F
    Apr 19
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    22-25, F
    Apr 19
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