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I Am a Mother and Stepmother

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    I have 3 step kids and one of my own.

    I am writing to get stuff off my chest so please keep your negative comments to yourselves. You see I am battling one of the hardest things i have ever had to deal with. I am hard enough on myself. So please if you have something negative to say I'm sure I've already felt guilty...
    Distressedwife33 Distressedwife33 18-21 2 Responses Jan 30

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    I have been a step mother

    for six years now and really enjoy that so much. I am a step mom to three adorable kids by my second husband and his ex. They are boys ages 13 and 15 and a girl age 17. These are great kids with great parental love and care by their original parents. I love them as my own...
    olderandmaturefemale olderandmaturefemale 46-50, F 2 Responses Oct 7, 2014

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    What to Do?

    i am a mom of 2 and stepmom of 1.  9 year old stepson came to live with my husband and our 2 boys about 5 months ago and it has not been easy.  i knew upfront that the stepmom/stepchild relationship is not gonna be a smooth ride but what do i do when i'm caught between...
    whyintheworld whyintheworld 22-25 Sep 15, 2008

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    Understanding The Feelings

    I don't understand why stepmother are confussed about how children work. Even if their "real" or "birth" mother is horrible, they show more to them on Mother's day, etc. It is because it is their mother. They want their "real" or "birth" mother to be that one. Yes, we as...
    issa04 issa04 22-25, F Aug 17, 2011

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    What Is a Mother?

    I am mother to an 11 yo daughter who is phenomenal!  She is beautiful inside and out.  That makes me feel good because it lets me know that I have done something right in my life.  I am also Step-Mother to two children an 18 yo young man who I have raised since he...
    RHill371 RHill371 31-35, F 1 Response Apr 16, 2008

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    A Stepmothers Anguish

    i am a mother to a wonderful boy and have a step son who lives with his  mom.  i uesed to be very close to my stepson when he was younger as i have had him since he was 1 and now is 14years old.  things hit crisis point when my stepson was found to abusing a person in my...
    katthy katthy 26-30, F Oct 7, 2011

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    August 15th 2013 holds special significance

    for me. That is the day I finally went on a date with the man who would become my other half, and who would bring into my life 4 more children to love with all my heart. I have my own son, and it was me and him against the world for a few years. Now he is a middle child. It is a...
    tearmedown tearmedown 18-21, F 5 days ago

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    A Lesson

    A mother is one role I always knew I wanted to fill. I never considered not having children and knew I would from the time I was very small. I wanted sons, and I have two beautiful little boys. They take a considerable amount of my time and energy but are certainly the largest...
    autimom autimom 26-30, F 4 Responses Jul 11, 2008

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    My Life With 3 Stepkids

      My name is Trish I am a mother of two and a stepmother of 3. I ran into my husband 2 yrs ago but have known him pretty much my whole life. Along with him came 3 beautiful children who are my stepchildren K 10, M who is 9, and L who is 7. We have had them three times due to...
    Tawags Tawags 22-25, F 2 Responses Aug 11, 2012

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    The Mom Thing

    Sometimes I feel like I'm in over my head. I am a 25 year old, full time, stay at home mom of a 15 month old, pregnant 7 months, and I am also stepmother to two children, five year old girl and 10 year old boy. They are amazing kids, who love me and I know that I...
    momandahalf momandahalf 18-21, F 1 Response Oct 23, 2008

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    Private Stepmom Support Group! :)

    MISSION: The Enlightened Stepmothers' Group is here to help alleviate pain, reduce stress, and help you better relate and understand your situation and role as a Stepmother. We work towards having a healthy, well-functioning stepfamily! :) We are The Sisterhood of Stepmothers...
    EnlightenedStepmoms EnlightenedStepmoms 36-40, F Aug 28, 2009

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    Related Experiences

    This is a big part of my life. If you ask my friends they'll tell you I'm a happy person, charismatic and have an evil Stepmother. That's because I basically tell anyone how will...
    cajainbox cajainbox 18-21, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    I haven't been open to discussing this until recently - I realized that there are so many young kids going through what I went through and sharing my story and offering my advice...
    Kerryn2508 Kerryn2508 22-25, F Feb 16

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    Step parenting kids whose mother is your exact opposite is so frustrating. She lived off of my husband and I for the first five years of our relationship. We had to pay her house...
    janeeyrelover janeeyrelover 41-45, F Feb 7

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    Who can remember all the horrible things your Mother warned you about ? Like... Put that down before you poke your eye out ,put that fog down you'll get warts lol
    Billypuffnstuff Billypuffnstuff 46-50, M 11 hrs ago

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    My mother in law has been staying with UA going on 4 years now. I had a big falling out with her last year around this same time. Ahw sneaks and have private cobveraation a with...
    dropjones dropjones 41-45, F 9 hrs ago

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    I am in a biracial marriage. My MIL doesn't like me. She lives with us and almost every encounter with her is hell. I am beyond uncomfortable in my own house. Here's the kicker...
    Mexicangirl2003 Mexicangirl2003 31-35, F 5 hrs ago

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    I had moved out from my country and lived with my husband now in he's country. I don't know anyone rand I have no friends here. I feel lonely frustrated and no help at all. My...
    fatsebral fatsebral 26-30, F Feb 9

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    I've been with my husband for over 10 years. When we first started dating I was 24 and his daughter from a previous relationship was 5. At first I was very hesitant about dating a...
    myblumoon myblumoon 31-35, F 1 Response Feb 13

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    I was always jealous of all those people who said they loved their mom's and embarrassed that I despised mine. she is an inconsiderate b.... she only cares about herself and No one...
    jetaime96 jetaime96 18-21, F 4 Responses Feb 18

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    here I am. I have landed here like you all before me because I am seeking answers and advise about my evil step mother. The Story is classic and unique all in the same, I will try...
    glorygrl563 glorygrl563 26-30, F 1 Response Feb 24

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    There are daughters of narcissistic mothers who have barely survived psychologically. In the extreme, there are daughters who starved themselves to death by anorexia as the only...
    rescueme99 rescueme99 41-45 1 Response 2 days ago

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    I dont know why I am writing this, I just need to get things off my chest. I don't hate my mother. And that's the worst part because I despise the person she is, yet I feel...
    Bizarree Bizarree 18-21, F 4 Responses Feb 7

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    The feeling im feeling people will never understand . . The feeling of no comfort ... The feeling of no open hands ... Or the feeling of a mother that just doesn't have a word to...
    Nayaaa Nayaaa 16-17, F Feb 8

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    I hate my mother! And even more I hate myself for everything I am. I believe that, no, I know that our environment, our parents shape our personalities in our childhood. I was...
    OlgaTs OlgaTs 26-30, F 2 Responses 23 hrs ago

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    12 things I observed about my in laws: 1. Inability to recognize and accept change in family relations and dynamics. Your son/brother has new priorities; his wife has taken the...
    ZolaJam ZolaJam 26-30, F 4 Responses Feb 9

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    Hi, I hope others have some advice or comments. Hi, I hope others have comments or advice for me. Okay so let me give a general picture of my life. I’m in college I do online...
    Newmommy24 Newmommy24 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 12

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    I'm the youngest of my parents' children; a little bit of the Irish-Catholic "Unanticipated Joy". My brother and sisters are in excess of ten years older than I am. We were a loud...
    petergavin69 petergavin69 41-45, M Feb 7

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    So I wonder if it's possible for a stepfather to be the "golden child" in a situation? I think he acts very childish at times. She has even called him a child. She has often said...
    1lonelydaisy 1lonelydaisy 41-45 2 Responses Feb 24

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    It's been two years now that I've hated my mother. We were never really close to begin with but it also hasn't been like this before. Now I avoid interacting with her as much as...
    jkc0 jkc0 26-30, F 2 Responses Feb 23

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    You have no idea how much I have cried today. I have so much pain and she only concerns herself with that abuser and expects me to as well. Except she's mad at him, I should too...
    1lonelydaisy 1lonelydaisy 41-45 Feb 23

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    I'm from India and my husband is from America and we have been married 18 years now. In the beginning she told my husband not to marry me because 'you never know where she comes...
    yellowrose2015 yellowrose2015 41-45, F 5 Responses 6 days ago

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    I'm from India and my husband is from America and we have been married 18 years now. In the beginning she told my husband not to marry me because 'you never know where she comes...
    yellowrose2015 yellowrose2015 41-45, F 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    My mother had a brief psychotic episode 2 years ago. She went to the ward and was put on haldol. She came back and was fine. A few weeks ago I noticed she was acting odd. She wasn...
    theraeahgogo theraeahgogo 26-30, F 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    My mother has never really been a mother. She had me when she was 17 and i was pretty much raised by my grandparents. We act like friends most of the time and joke around. It's fun...
    littlebird88 littlebird88 13-15, F 1 Response Feb 6

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    My mother is slowly losing her once impressive command of language. Commonplace items are now routinely referred to as "whatitsname" or "that...you know". But two words that still...
    talkinaftermidnight talkinaftermidnight 31-35, M 5 Responses Feb 7

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    I tend to have a dislike for step mothers because the story is always the same with them. They get into this new relationship and think well I have kids by this man, this is my...
    prettybombie prettybombie 18-21, F Feb 7

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    Being smarter and more mature than your own mother is stressful. No one should have to act as a mother to their own mother. Like I said in a previous post, we are conditioned to...
    Rosaalie Rosaalie 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 8

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    http://thenarcissisticlife.com/do-i-have-a-narcissistic-mother-21-signs-of-a-narcissistic-mother/ many but not all of these apply to my mother. Some are slightly different. I am 99...
    1lonelydaisy 1lonelydaisy 41-45 2 Responses Feb 8

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    I am a single mother and my battle right now is real. my ex who wasn't around durng my pregnancy and did not pay child support or bring gifts of any kind for almost 2 years now is...
    Peeps82 Peeps82 31-35, F Feb 14

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    My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 3 years now and this past year I have started to see more and more of his mothers shady ways. See his mother is a meth addict and I...
    kaylaleean kaylaleean 18-21, F Feb 14

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    Well not my mother in law, my boyfriends mother. I'm 19 and he's 21. I've been dating her son for 3 years now and she has not bothered to get to know me once. I've seen her...
    christinazulon christinazulon 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 15