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I Am a Mother and Stepmother

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 51 People

    Understanding The Feelings

    I don't understand why stepmother are confussed about how children work. Even if their "real" or "birth" mother is horrible, they show more to them on Mother's day, etc. It is because it is their mother. They want their "real" or "birth" mother to be that one. Yes, we as...
    issa04 issa04 26-30, F Aug 17, 2011

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    What to Do?

    i am a mom of 2 and stepmom of 1.  9 year old stepson came to live with my husband and our 2 boys about 5 months ago and it has not been easy.  i knew upfront that the stepmom/stepchild relationship is not gonna be a smooth ride but what do i do when i'm caught between...
    whyintheworld whyintheworld 26-30 Sep 15, 2008

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    A Stepmothers Anguish

    i am a mother to a wonderful boy and have a step son who lives with his  mom.  i uesed to be very close to my stepson when he was younger as i have had him since he was 1 and now is 14years old.  things hit crisis point when my stepson was found to abusing a person in my...
    katthy katthy 31-35, F Oct 7, 2011

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    My Life With 3 Stepkids

      My name is Trish I am a mother of two and a stepmother of 3. I ran into my husband 2 yrs ago but have known him pretty much my whole life. Along with him came 3 beautiful children who are my stepchildren K 10, M who is 9, and L who is 7. We have had them three times due to...
    Tawags Tawags 26-30, F 2 Responses Aug 11, 2012

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    Private Stepmom Support Group! :)

    MISSION: The Enlightened Stepmothers' Group is here to help alleviate pain, reduce stress, and help you better relate and understand your situation and role as a Stepmother. We work towards having a healthy, well-functioning stepfamily! :) We are The Sisterhood of Stepmothers...
    EnlightenedStepmoms EnlightenedStepmoms 41-45, F Aug 28, 2009

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    What Is a Mother?

    I am mother to an 11 yo daughter who is phenomenal!  She is beautiful inside and out.  That makes me feel good because it lets me know that I have done something right in my life.  I am also Step-Mother to two children an 18 yo young man who I have raised since he...
    RHill371 RHill371 36-40, F 1 Response Apr 16, 2008

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    The Mom Thing

    Sometimes I feel like I'm in over my head. I am a 25 year old, full time, stay at home mom of a 15 month old, pregnant 7 months, and I am also stepmother to two children, five year old girl and 10 year old boy. They are amazing kids, who love me and I know that I...
    momandahalf momandahalf 22-25, F 1 Response Oct 23, 2008

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    A Lesson

    A mother is one role I always knew I wanted to fill. I never considered not having children and knew I would from the time I was very small. I wanted sons, and I have two beautiful little boys. They take a considerable amount of my time and energy but are certainly the largest...
    autimom autimom 31-35, F 4 Responses Jul 11, 2008

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    Related Experiences

    "Need I remind you I am his MOTHER" -- A phrase that makes almost every stepmother grind her teeth. And so continues this warped power struggle. Personally, I have never felt in...
    FindingHerWay22 FindingHerWay22 22-25, F 2 Responses Sep 3

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    Growing up seeing either my mother or father nude was not odd or unexpected. They did not hang out nude but never showed any inhibition about be nude in front of us kids. Me and my...
    seechuckstuff seechuckstuff 66-70, M 1 Response 10 hrs ago

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    I don't have a stepmother... I have a stepmonster.
    picses2222 picses2222 13-15, F Sep 13

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    As a person who is absolutely proud of being able to deal with difficult or unpleasant people with grace, I have hit the wall with dealing with my mother in law. Here is a woman...
    Xiramat Xiramat 26-30, F 14 hrs ago

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    I am a mother of three kids. I have a daughter and two sons. They are all great kids and not much a problem when they were growing up.
    familyatresort familyatresort 36-40, F 5 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    Mothers are next to God ❤️
    lemongrass09 lemongrass09 46-50, F 1 Response 6 hrs ago

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    I ADORE my mother still called Mommy by me. When asked how she feels about me in return she said, "I carried you for 9 months, brought you in to this world, and I am the ONLY one...
    AlphahatesOmega AlphahatesOmega 18-21, M 5 hrs ago

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    I am a single mother of an 8 yr old boy and a 2 yr old girl. I have been doing this alone for a while. I try to encourage their father yo have a relationship with them but it's...
    cjohnson1983 cjohnson1983 31-35, F 1 Response 5 hrs ago

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    She ****** me off to the extreme. It's always about her, she always brags about 'how perfect her family is' but behind closed doors she is an absolute *****. Ever since I was a...
    nebulla123 nebulla123 13-15, F 1 Response 4 hrs ago

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    Hi everyone; I have posted a couple responses here, I am very familiar with PA Mothers now. I decided to share my story and see if anyone can relate to mine. For a brief...
    XXwoundedXX XXwoundedXX 51-55, F Sep 14

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    Married for a few months. Now expecting a baby (5 months preg yay!) everything was perfect until.... My OWN mother became bitter. I found out she's been complaining about me to...
    lightpetals lightpetals 26-30, F Aug 26

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    I came across the term NM a few months ago, and now I can't deny it...my mother fits it perfectly, down to the general causes of it. My mother was severely abused by a...
    UnicornSpirit UnicornSpirit 22-25, F 5 Responses Aug 28

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    An update & advice for those with crazy MILs Hi there, I posted some time back (possibly several years ago now) regarding my absolutely terrible mother-in-law who singlehandedly...
    DustMite DustMite 18-21, F 4 Responses Aug 28

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    Thinking back the other day about my childhood, I admit that I was a handful and needed some of the "whoopings" that I got, other times I needed a parent to talk to me. My...
    Cryingcorner Cryingcorner 26-30, F 1 Response Sep 1

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    No contact with my mother for a week now. I prefer when there is no contact. She only contacts me when she wants to take one of my children out. I am considering stopping this...
    paliglass paliglass 31-35, F 3 Responses Sep 2

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    Throughout most of my life, I've been closer to my mother then to my father, for various reasons, we don't get along. My mother has been the overprotective and controlling type...
    Gregory1990 Gregory1990 22-25, M 1 Response Sep 8

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    Four days straight of crying because of my mothers death. My father remarried rather quickly after her death. He has done so many things to hurt me and my sister . Everyone around...
    Juiceyangel333 Juiceyangel333 22-25, F 3 Responses 2 days ago

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    My mother's name was Margaret Mandarinka Simza. Her middle name was the Slovak word for "tangerine" because when she was born, her parents had no food in the house except a basket...
    BlueMetalChick BlueMetalChick 18-21, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    I'm the oldest of the 4 children and as you can tell its never good. Many people claim that the oldest child is always the favourite and has respect. Well no , its not true , the...
    alice2456 alice2456 13-15, F 1 Response Aug 23

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    I'm the oldest of the 4 children and as you can tell its never good. Many people claim that the oldest child is always the favourite and has respect. Well no , its not true , the...
    alice2456 alice2456 13-15, F 1 Response Aug 23

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    As it was told to me, when I was around 2-3 yrs old my dad and my mother broke up. She moved to California and originally took me with her. Months later, she called my father and...
    SukYoung SukYoung 26-30, F Aug 31

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    You know what really bothers me, and my husband reminds of this periodically, is that I am showing my kids how they should treat me when they get older by the way I engage with and...
    nkmnovember nkmnovember 36-40 Sep 1

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    one sided phone conversation have you ever has those? where you pick the phone and mother seems to have a conversation on her own, despite whatever you said? example: mother...
    fien fien 26-30, F 3 Responses Sep 9

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    I am living in Northern England, rapidly approaching the age of 35, depressed that I've never been able to have a real social life. The problem is that I'm still living with my...
    CodemonkeyNE CodemonkeyNE 31-35, M 1 Response Sep 10

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    My mother is a narcissist. My dad is her faithful enabler. They have been married for 52 years and to this day he does what she says. My mother was never home growing up. When...
    pistacchia pistacchia 46-50, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    My first post about my passive aggressive mother, an explanation: EP Link I've been doing some research on passive aggressiveness and found that it's an actual personality...
    Cupcakes95 Cupcakes95 36-40, F Aug 28

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    I got a call the other day from my birth mom. The DNA was wrong she stated. The director of VS told her "although I can not release any identifying info to you, I'm looking at your...
    Back2Sue Back2Sue 46-50, F 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    "I don't understand you always get what you want so why are you like this." But what I said in my head made it hard to breathe because it was the truth. "I want him to stay, but...
    Augustends Augustends 16-17, F Aug 26

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    My mother has always been a vile and vicous woman. She lives to make everyones life a living hell. When I was a kid my parents would always fight. When I was 9 years old my...
    nexus321 nexus321 22-25, M Aug 27

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    I lost my birth mother in many ways. I was about 5 or 6 when I lost her. She was very depressed, and her way to solving the problem was drinking. That was the first way I lost her...
    Young2Wise Young2Wise 18-21, F Aug 29

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    My mother lies to create conflict between me, my sister and our dad. Her and my dad are separated but she still does it. Her family blame my dad but it has become obvious to me in...
    paliglass paliglass 31-35, F 3 Responses Aug 30

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    On one hand she is a caring, supportive individual to all her loved ones, friends, and extended family. Almost a doormat. She always had a stable career, although we moved a lot...
    beauty1000 beauty1000 41-45 Sep 7

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    I never knew her; she took off when I was just a few weeks old, and she never came back into my life. Heck, I didn't even know what a mother was until I was 4 or 5, and then 'mom...
    MissKatalogue MissKatalogue 22-25 1 Response Sep 9

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    This is going to be a bit long winded, so if you do take the time to read it all; thank you. My son is 13 months old. His dad and I were together for five years and he asked me...
    SarcasticCommentLoading SarcasticCommentLoading 22-25, F 8 Responses Sep 10

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    Next week, September 23rd will mark the 1 year anniversary of my Mother's passing. I can't believe it. The pain I feel is still so real, so new, so raw. I actually lost her a few...
    AnnaCrystal AnnaCrystal 31-35, F 3 Responses 2 days ago

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    My mother has slapped me, called me numerous, belittling names, and abusive curses. When she is angry, she will hit me and she will have that look in her eye that will make you...
    sienabrowns sienabrowns 16-17 5 Responses Aug 22

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    One day when I was about 4 my step brother who's 17 years old and I where going to cut a cake to see what gender was my moms and step dads baby (My step dad loves my step brother...
    catlover031 catlover031 13-15, F Aug 24

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    Sometimes when people say oh but she's a mother, it is often addressed to women who are at home and don't have another job apart from being a mother. I can say that a mother is a...
    natdes natdes 41-45, F Aug 26

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    My mother died almost nine years ago, the day before I turned 14. It's been a long time but I never stopped missing her. She was a wonderful mother and a wonderful woman. I'm glad...
    Troianne Troianne 22-25, F 1 Response Aug 26

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