I Am A Mother First, All Else Second

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    My Mother's Selflessness

    I think my mother put herself on hold as she was raising us. She put us first, always; and she was second. I remember one time when I was little, we were having dinner and there was one small succulent piece of chicken left, and we both reached for it, then she gave...
    Fallflower Fallflower
    36-40, F
    35 Responses Feb 9, 2010

    So hard doing this by myself:-( hard with no

    mother around to help at all. Hard in general. I'm trying for my daughter no matter what with a job and everything else. I hope she knows I am trying my hardest for her. She's my world wouldn't change it for a second. :-)
    skipper02 skipper02
    26-30, F
    Dec 7, 2013

    My Child:)

    There is one thing in this life that I am very sure about,is to always put my child first.
    angelwithoutwings angelwithoutwings
    26-30, F
    1 Response May 25, 2011

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