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I Am A Mother First, All Else Second

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    I am the original person

    who created this group a few years ago when I used a different name. I realize now what a mistaken ideal this was and will be removing myself from the group. When you completely devote yourself to a person or job or hobby, you lose part of yourself in the process. This includes...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 1 Response May 28, 2014

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    My Child:)

    There is one thing in this life that I am very sure about,is to always put my child first.
    angelwithoutwings angelwithoutwings 26-30, F 1 Response May 25, 2011

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    My Mother's Selflessness

    I think my mother put herself on hold as she was raising us. She put us first, always; and she was second. I remember one time when I was little, we were having dinner and there was one small succulent piece of chicken left, and we both reached for it, then she gave...
    Fallflower Fallflower 36-40, F 36 Responses Feb 9, 2010

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    My Most Important Role

    Becoming a mother was all I ever dreamed of.   Its what I love about me the most.  That I am my child's mother.  Often times you'll hear me ask, what was I thinking?  I've said that quite too often these past few years as they have been very trying for us. As a divorced...
    Mahal1023 Mahal1023 46-50, F 2 Responses Sep 5, 2011

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    So hard doing this by myself:-( hard with no

    mother around to help at all. Hard in general. I'm trying for my daughter no matter what with a job and everything else. I hope she knows I am trying my hardest for her. She's my world wouldn't change it for a second. :-)
    skipper02 skipper02 26-30, F Dec 7, 2013

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    Related Experiences

    In the years since I researched and wrote Mean Mothers, I’ve talked to women about our shared experiences. Every woman’s story is different, of course; perhaps the greatest...
    rescueme99 rescueme99 41-45 4 Responses Apr 11

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    Where to begin. First off let me say I appreciate each and every comment and opinion, whether you believe it's best for me to move on which I've already heard a million times or I...
    Wantingtofixthepast Wantingtofixthepast 18-21, M 2 Responses Apr 13

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    I am sorely, deeply in need of guidance. I have four children, two beautiful daughters and two magnificent sons. After years of a crumbling marriage (loss of homes, security...
    Caroline1229 Caroline1229 51-55 3 Responses Apr 9

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    I'll never be loved by my narcissistic mother she is all the family I have. Fun! She talks about the love she has for her dead family members and all the pain. And how she doesn't...
    1lonelydaisy 1lonelydaisy 41-45 1 Response Apr 2

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    Thank you for clicking on my experience. I just wanted to say... I feel like I'm all alone. I feel like I have no one here to help me. Let's just carry on. First of all, I am a...
    TheBloodySerenity474 TheBloodySerenity474 13-15, F 2 Responses Mar 27

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    I am a recently turned 23 yr old girl and i would sincerely request all the moms here to genuinely tell me if i did indeed grew up emotionally abused by my mother or are all moms...
    Peacefulwarior Peacefulwarior 22-25, F 5 Responses Apr 2

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    I'm wondering if I should give up ? I've had allot of issues with my boyfriends mother. She speaks a different language so it's hard to talk to her. I feel as if I'm getting in the...
    llivan llivan 22-25, F 13 hrs ago

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    I was 13, in 7th grade which is the first year of middle school. I had my eye on an 8th grader. She had long brown hair almost the same color as her skin. Her hair was just a...
    AmbersSuicidalLife AmbersSuicidalLife 16-17, F 1 hr ago

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    This happened when I was in the fourth grade. We had our traditional new year festival. It was a only boys school and I was one of those in my class chosen to dress as a girl for...
    Nilooshi Nilooshi 26-30 1 Response 4 hrs ago

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    I haven't seen her since she left when I was 12. I know where she lives but I don't have the strength to go to her. She left us when all of us + my mother moved out of L.A. I know...
    AmbersSuicidalLife AmbersSuicidalLife 16-17, F 11 hrs ago

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    GRANDMOTHER. My grandmother obviously had some issues. I'm going to start with the mild things first. Normally you spill something, you clean it up that's the end of it, right...
    DeluxedEdition DeluxedEdition 18-21, F 3 Responses Mar 31

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    Download nicki minaj tape education is a lie at a person's most. What it absolutely meant in a Nicki minaj shaking meaning of serpent. Nicki minaj photos s, you are able to...
    stubagmalno stubagmalno 36-40, M 8 hrs ago

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    So Mother's Day is around the corner and I am going to take this time to vent. Ever since I was 12 years old I knew I didn't have a mother. The woman I was forced to live with...
    Cranksta Cranksta 18-21, F 3 Responses 5 days ago

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    My guilt tears me apart for saying this. Now, as I'm approaching adulthood and is a full time student in college, my mother can't seem to comprehend what is happening to me. She...
    LoveSoLife LoveSoLife 18-21, F 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    i just joined this site today because I was looking online for information about narcissistic personality disorder and found this site. I do not know much about this disorder but...
    lacyworkman lacyworkman 31-35, F 5 Responses Apr 10

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    I can't remember exactly how old I was during this time, but I was in my second year of kindergarten. My mom met this man. I don't know how old he was at the time, he was black...
    moose73630 moose73630 16-17, M 2 Responses Apr 12

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    Thumbing through the pages of my fantasies. Pushing all the mercy down down down. I hate my mother in law. The first day I met her, she and her sister were screaming in my face...
    individualfreedom individualfreedom 26-30 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    In just 11 days I will no longer be engulfed in a sea of debilitating negativity and hatred spewed from my MIL. The first time I met her she gave me this awful uncomfortable and...
    LGLlove LGLlove 31-35, F Apr 5

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    I was not just emotionally abused by my mother. I was physically and emotionally abused. My mother would scream and yell at me when I cried. She would tell me to stop crying, OR...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Apr 18

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    A couple weeks ago I got together with an old friend of mine whom was kicked out of our school for being caught with weed. I was great friends with her before all of that and I had...
    ali1200 ali1200 16-17, F 4 days ago

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    First of al thanks! So i dropped out of college 2 years after getting unsatisfactory grades. Being at home for the last 1 year made me realize dat all my ideas of having really...
    Peacefulwarior Peacefulwarior 22-25, F Apr 3

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    Today, my sister and I started our first job ever, working at Mcdonald's. It wasn't a horrible experience, but one thing did make both me and my sister want to quit on our first...
    BrinkofDawn BrinkofDawn 18-21, F Apr 11

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    First post. Hello. I am 22 and I'm a uni student with an over-zealous mother. And by over-zealous I mean 'constantly interfering with my life and making me feel worse about myself...
    iNeedSpace iNeedSpace 18-21, M Mar 28

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    Perfection We had been playing, a common occurrence for us since our mothers were best friends. He and I were almost never apart, even sleeping was held in the company of one...
    Socalsunset Socalsunset 22-25, F 1 Response Apr 2

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    I feel as though I retaliated against my step Mother when she loved me more than anything else... When my step Mother and father got together, my fake Mother drugged me so badly...
    ONESTARRYSTARRYNIGHT ONESTARRYSTARRYNIGHT 26-30, F Apr 14

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    I'm 15 years old now and I have been aware that my mom is an alcoholic since I was 9-10. so I'll start from the beginning I remember the first time I realized something was wrong...
    anonymous347 anonymous347 13-15, F 6 days ago

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    I wasn't at the age of 19, ready to be a mother. My son is important to me and the bond we share is growing by the day but this is a gift that could have waited to be unwrapped. I...
    justasia justasia 18-21, F Apr 1

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    I felt wrong when I looked at my mother's phone and viewed her internet history, but she had been acting suspicious and private about her cellphone for months and I needed to know...
    StellaClammy StellaClammy 18-21, F 5 days ago

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    I want to tell you all that at least one person in this sad world loves you, unconditionally and completely! I have received my share of help here and now I want to help you! I...
    CardboardBoxBoy CardboardBoxBoy 51-55, M 3 hrs ago

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    I had the opportunity to run her over once when I was driving out of our driveway. Would've barely been a bump to my Jeep. But alas, I did not. Nice to think about but never really...
    Alexz72 Alexz72 22-25, F 1 Response Apr 18

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    She gets worse and worse every single day. I'm so tired of rolling my eyes. She comes home and I'm out of sight and then he is no longer he one she was verbally abusing when I was...
    1lonelydaisy 1lonelydaisy 41-45 6 Responses 5 days ago

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    I was in love with this woman who fell in love with me we work together at the library she was a janitor and I was the security guard it's a bad town that needs a security guard...
    dfries63 dfries63 46-50, M 3 Responses 4 days ago

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    In my senior year of high school our senior government project was to write a letter to the family of a fallen soldier, find the families address, and mail it to them. Being a...
    tbotset tbotset 18-21, M 3 Responses Apr 1

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    UPDATE: ugh, I should've just listened to everyone on here telling me to leave the situation alone. one of my BIL's came to visit Sunday afternoon. we get along great. in the midst...
    audamom audamom 26-30, F 4 Responses Apr 15

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    I am just coming to the realization that I am the adult daughter of a narcissistic mother. It is only now that I have found an interest in psychology and have done some reading...
    n2385 n2385 22-25, F 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    One of thing that I really like while growing up was the opportunity to dress up. At home was OK, but it was nice to get out in the real world. I had done a local womanless pageant...
    sandybrandy70 sandybrandy70 41-45, T Apr 3

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