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I Am A Mother First, All Else Second

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    So hard doing this by myself:-( hard with no

    mother around to help at all. Hard in general. I'm trying for my daughter no matter what with a job and everything else. I hope she knows I am trying my hardest for her. She's my world wouldn't change it for a second. :-)
    skipper02 skipper02 26-30, F Dec 7, 2013

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    My Mother's Selflessness

    I think my mother put herself on hold as she was raising us. She put us first, always; and she was second. I remember one time when I was little, we were having dinner and there was one small succulent piece of chicken left, and we both reached for it, then she gave...
    Fallflower Fallflower 36-40, F 35 Responses Feb 9, 2010

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    My Child:)

    There is one thing in this life that I am very sure about,is to always put my child first.
    angelwithoutwings angelwithoutwings 26-30, F 1 Response May 25, 2011

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    My Most Important Role

    Becoming a mother was all I ever dreamed of.   Its what I love about me the most.  That I am my child's mother.  Often times you'll hear me ask, what was I thinking?  I've said that quite too often these past few years as they have been very trying for us. As a divorced...
    Mahal1023 Mahal1023 46-50, F 2 Responses Sep 5, 2011

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    I am the original person

    who created this group a few years ago when I used a different name. I realize now what a mistaken ideal this was and will be removing myself from the group. When you completely devote yourself to a person or job or hobby, you lose part of yourself in the process. This includes...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 2 Responses May 28

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    I'm the oldest of the 4 children and as you can tell its never good. Many people claim that the oldest child is always the favourite and has respect. Well no , its not true , the...
    alice2456 alice2456 13-15, F 1 Response Aug 23

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    I'm the oldest of the 4 children and as you can tell its never good. Many people claim that the oldest child is always the favourite and has respect. Well no , its not true , the...
    alice2456 alice2456 13-15, F 1 Response Aug 23

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    First time posting! So happy I've found this haven! My MIL is the epitome of evil and just today she pulled the most evil stunt of our 10 years of dealing with each other. First...
    blopez24 blopez24 22-25, F 2 Responses Sep 8

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    If there is any accomplishment that I would like to be known for in my life is that I have done a good job as a mother. My children's interests and needs come first before...
    ladybug1234 ladybug1234 46-50, F Aug 25

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    An update & advice for those with crazy MILs Hi there, I posted some time back (possibly several years ago now) regarding my absolutely terrible mother-in-law who singlehandedly...
    DustMite DustMite 18-21, F 4 Responses Aug 28

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    I was alone that day got bored at home I was watching from window on road one girl was walking I saw her in salwar she was so feminine there was no one on road suddenly she makes...
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    I was in an abusive relationship about 3 and a half years ago. It was my first boyfriend and I feel head over heels in love. I was 17 years old, a senior in high school; 4 months...
    kayp1993 kayp1993 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 12

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    I was in an abusive relationship about 3 and a half years ago. It was my first boyfriend and I feel head over heels in love. I was 17 years old, a senior in high school; 4 months...
    kaytothep93 kaytothep93 18-21, F 9 Responses Sep 12

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    First of all I'm a night owl, and my mind always starts to wonder about that time. I love just sharing random thoughts memories or beliefs with someone and I always hope they will...
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    As a person who is absolutely proud of being able to deal with difficult or unpleasant people with grace, I have hit the wall with dealing with my mother in law. Here is a woman...
    Xiramat Xiramat 26-30, F 7 hrs ago

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    I feel like I'm walking on eggshells. She can go between happy/sad/angry in seconds. And the angry part of her is resurfacing more and more often, to the point that she is rarely...
    indigostory indigostory 13-15, F 9 mins ago

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    The hotel was established in wonderful location around the beach which was swept early morning . The sea was fairly rough rather than for swimming ,also the beach shelved away...
    Augustina97sy Augustina97sy 31-35, M 1 Response 5 hrs ago

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    I'm having a very difficult time with my MIL. Mind you she is 75 and we are living with her for the time being. She drives me nuts and it almost seems as if she does it purposely...
    determinedwife determinedwife 18-21, F 3 Responses 4 hrs ago

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    Hi everyone; I have posted a couple responses here, I am very familiar with PA Mothers now. I decided to share my story and see if anyone can relate to mine. For a brief...
    XXwoundedXX XXwoundedXX 51-55, F Sep 14

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    Love at First Sight A Strange Love Story, but True (Part 3) As unbelievable as this sounds, all my experiences are true. At this time, I was standing alone in the dining room...
    RiverBedView RiverBedView 56-60, M 5 days ago

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    This happened at my 16th birthday party back in early march. I remember how excited I was, turning 16 finally!!! My party was on the Saturday after my birthday, a Friday. I talked...
    Animecrazyluv Animecrazyluv 16-17, F 3 Responses Aug 27

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    Throughout most of my life, I've been closer to my mother then to my father, for various reasons, we don't get along. My mother has been the overprotective and controlling type...
    Gregory1990 Gregory1990 22-25, M 1 Response Sep 8

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    Married for a few months. Now expecting a baby (5 months preg yay!) everything was perfect until.... My OWN mother became bitter. I found out she's been complaining about me to...
    lightpetals lightpetals 26-30, F Aug 26

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    I am a mother of three kids. I have a daughter and two sons. They are all great kids and not much a problem when they were growing up.
    familyatresort familyatresort 36-40, F 2 Responses 22 mins ago

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    I want to begin this by saying that I was once a completely normal girl. I grew up in a house with a yard, two parents who were hard workers and a lazy pet dog. I never got into...
    Naivegirl0963 Naivegirl0963 26-30, F 6 Responses Sep 2

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    The curtain first lifted for the venerable outdated theatre on August three, 1778, featuring an obscure get the job done from the composer finest often known as a rival to Mozart...
    Jacksonpj05 Jacksonpj05 31-35, M 1 Response 7 hrs ago

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    Missing My Mother There was one point in my life when I did not get along with my mother. Most of it was because I was very angry at her for not being there for me. I didn’t...
    Bokohoyo2 Bokohoyo2 51-55, F 3 Responses 2 days ago

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    After this I don't remember much, I don't even remember what happened after that day. But I do remember living in another town in an actual house. I remember my first friend ever...
    Sheismybestfriend Sheismybestfriend 26-30, M 3 Responses Sep 14

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    Our stories are unbelievably similar. My first love and I met online when I was 17 and he was 21. My dad finally agreed he could come visit me and I've loved him since. He moved...
    cosmocolors cosmocolors 26-30, F 4 Responses Aug 22

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    I lost my birth mother in many ways. I was about 5 or 6 when I lost her. She was very depressed, and her way to solving the problem was drinking. That was the first way I lost her...
    Young2Wise Young2Wise 18-21, F Aug 29

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    My story is up on my profile under "I am me, I am you, I am them". This one is for something I witnessed and decided to stop, there are several incidences like this, but this was...
    CongratulationS CongratulationS 22-25, M 2 Responses Sep 13

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    BlueMetalChick BlueMetalChick 18-21, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    SisteroftheNight SisteroftheNight 18-21, F Aug 22

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    Hi Guys, I am new to this space and really am anxious on sharing my experience with you buddies on my first day here. So to begin with I would like to give you guys a background...
    troubledDIL2012 troubledDIL2012 22-25, F 7 Responses Aug 27

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    Love at First Sight A Strange Love Story, but True (Part 1) As unbelievable as this sounds, all my experiences are true. As a young boy, I believed in things just like anyone...
    RiverBedView RiverBedView 56-60, M 5 days ago

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    Love at First Sight A Strange Love Story, but True (Part 2) As unbelievable as this sounds, all my experiences are true. After asking several students in my math class if I was...
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    I do not hate her. I'm at the point where I've accepted that I've allowed her behaviour to continue without setting clear boundaries. I've done this to balance other family...
    notbuyingintoit1 notbuyingintoit1 41-45, F 2 Responses 9 hrs ago

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    It feels stupid to do this, considering I'm only 18 and probably many people will just tell me I'm going through a teen phase or something... but I wanted help, and this site...
    calliope95 calliope95 18-21, M 1 Response 6 hrs ago

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    Lillafyq Lillafyq 31-35, M 1 Response Aug 24

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    You know what really bothers me, and my husband reminds of this periodically, is that I am showing my kids how they should treat me when they get older by the way I engage with and...
    nkmnovember nkmnovember 36-40 Sep 1

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    Thinking back the other day about my childhood, I admit that I was a handful and needed some of the "whoopings" that I got, other times I needed a parent to talk to me. My...
    Cryingcorner Cryingcorner 26-30, F 1 Response Sep 1

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    I want to love my mom but I just don't. It hurts me to say it and I wouldn't tell her that because I care about her as a person, just as I care about anyone else's feelings. When I...
    lynnieruns lynnieruns 41-45, F Sep 1

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    Four days straight of crying because of my mothers death. My father remarried rather quickly after her death. He has done so many things to hurt me and my sister . Everyone around...
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    UnicornSpirit UnicornSpirit 22-25, F 5 Responses Aug 28

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    I think the reason I cry so much when my mum says horrible and filthy things to me is because I love her so much. She will verbally abuse me daily and it will effect me because I...
    Aishcc Aishcc 18-21, F 7 Responses Sep 2

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    This is going to be a bit long winded, so if you do take the time to read it all; thank you. My son is 13 months old. His dad and I were together for five years and he asked me...
    SarcasticCommentLoading SarcasticCommentLoading 22-25, F 8 Responses Sep 10

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    She whined for years that none of the 4 boys wanted to take over the family farm. She wanted to retire with a nice chunk of change and listed it for over $400,000. 5 years later...
    delisi1007 delisi1007 41-45 3 Responses 6 days ago

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