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I Am A Mother First, All Else Second

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    I am the original person

    who created this group a few years ago when I used a different name. I realize now what a mistaken ideal this was and will be removing myself from the group. When you completely devote yourself to a person or job or hobby, you lose part of yourself in the process. This includes...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 2 Responses May 28, 2014

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    So hard doing this by myself:-( hard with no

    mother around to help at all. Hard in general. I'm trying for my daughter no matter what with a job and everything else. I hope she knows I am trying my hardest for her. She's my world wouldn't change it for a second. :-)
    skipper02 skipper02 26-30, F Dec 7, 2013

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    My Most Important Role

    Becoming a mother was all I ever dreamed of.   Its what I love about me the most.  That I am my child's mother.  Often times you'll hear me ask, what was I thinking?  I've said that quite too often these past few years as they have been very trying for us. As a divorced...
    Mahal1023 Mahal1023 46-50, F 2 Responses Sep 5, 2011

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    My Mother's Selflessness

    I think my mother put herself on hold as she was raising us. She put us first, always; and she was second. I remember one time when I was little, we were having dinner and there was one small succulent piece of chicken left, and we both reached for it, then she gave...
    Fallflower Fallflower 36-40, F 35 Responses Feb 9, 2010

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    My Child:)

    There is one thing in this life that I am very sure about,is to always put my child first.
    angelwithoutwings angelwithoutwings 26-30, F 1 Response May 25, 2011

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    well first of all I feel really sad to even join a group like this... but my mother gives me no choice. I am a 19 year old girl who studying on uni never touched a sigarette in my...
    agirlinlove44 agirlinlove44 18-21, F 6 Responses Dec 29, 2014

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    I really hate my mother .... she is a very idiot person who cares for none ... if anything happens like my mother told me come to big bazzar and if i told " sorry mom.. i cant...
    kattynair kattynair 13-15, F 1 Response Dec 28, 2014

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    On June 7th, 1789, the night before James Madison proposed the Bill of Rights before the House of Representatives, he sat down to pen the first draft of the second amendment. The...
    countrylivinggal countrylivinggal 31-35, F 1 Response Jan 15

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    I was applying for college summer schools. I had managed to get into Stanford for a course in Physics, something which was a very big deal for me and I was super excited. The day I...
    NebulaNix NebulaNix 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 18

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    Younger women dating older men mainly because younger women are attracted older men. older men mature, confident, stable .Mature guys always know how to treat their women.These...
    keliscc11 keliscc11 26-30, F Dec 30, 2014

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    Younger women dating older men mainly because younger women are attracted older men. older men mature, confident, stable .Mature guys always know how to treat their women.These...
    keliscc11 keliscc11 26-30, F Dec 30, 2014

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    A cruise ship met with an accident at sea, on the ship was a couple. After having made their way to the lifeboat, they realized that there was only space for one person left. At...
    maubunt maubunt 26-30, M 2 Responses 8 hrs ago

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    Hello everyone. I never wanted to resort to this, but I feel I am out of other options. Let me start from the beginning. When my mother, Dee, was 9, her father was shot in the head...
    NikkiNINTR NikkiNINTR 18-21, F 4 days ago

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    When I think back on life, remembering all the turmoils, the struggles Of working two jobs and going to school for massage therapy, the doomed relationship after My sons father...
    Ayaime7 Ayaime7 26-30, F Jan 8

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    Ugh everyone tells me it's not ok to slap my kid, but they're idiots!! How else is a kid gonna learn to obey and follow rules? Any good parent hits their kids from birth to teach...
    EffervescantBabe11 EffervescantBabe11 18-21, F 7 Responses 1 hr ago

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    Cant stand the things he did for her!!! i have been with my fiance for a year. we have a baby on the way our first child together but third for us both. my problem is i resent that...
    srnyers srnyers 26-30, F Jan 3

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    I haven't written anything in the past few months but today is the last day before we start a new year. Let's see...it's been more than a year and seven months since I moved into...
    destinii3 destinii3 31-35, F Dec 31, 2014

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    The second anniversary of my mom’s passing is coming up soon, January 30th. Had she of lived just a few more weeks she would have turned 89 on February 10, 2013. My mother had...
    miryam57 miryam57 56-60, F 2 Responses Jan 12

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    Some of My friends don't understand me. For good reason. I have been honest about how hard it's been. One of my really good friends is no longer in my life by my choosing. She had...
    tlee5001 tlee5001 22-25, F Jan 1

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    It was the summer before my senior year and I was seventeen. I didn't have any friends at the time besides people I may have shared small talk with in class or at lunch at school...
    cocoagirl95 cocoagirl95 18-21, F 6 days ago

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    Sometimes I hate being a second wife. I know for a fact that his mother likes his first wife better, she has told me that his first wife is beautiful and I'm ugly. She even...
    jbm1984 jbm1984 31-35, F 8 Responses Jan 14

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    I cannot make amends with family members who do not see my motivations as sincere. They believe I'm playing some kind of sophisticated con game to get them to give me something...
    AggiePride15 AggiePride15 22-25, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    Got up this morning, mom barges in with this smirk on her face ...... I smile a fake smile knowing she has something up her sleeve. So I dont ask I just wait for her to make the...
    MzPhoenix MzPhoenix 31-35, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    Okay so last morning my eleven year old son burst my little bubble. I suffer from insomnia and had a really bad bout with it recently. I actually got some sleep the night before...
    Nyx1978 Nyx1978 36-40, F 3 Responses 5 days ago

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    Both my mother and grandmother, who's now deceased, bullied me around until I left the family for good. I decided not to have toxic people in my life because life is much too...
    AggiePride15 AggiePride15 22-25, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    Recent events demand a new perspective to my experience with my mil. Everything we lived through with her somehow settled into familiar reactions from her, but with our changed...
    stellera stellera 51-55, F 5 Responses 2 days ago

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    I have no idea what to do!!! My now husband have been together for 5 years. We just got married in October. I have had problems with my MIL off/on the whole time we've been...
    redhead8 redhead8 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 30, 2014

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    My mother angers me. She's almost impossible for me to talk to. Most everything I say "is a lie." If you can't speak quickly and straight to her, you're "making up a story." She'll...
    DarkwingGoslyn DarkwingGoslyn 31-35 1 Response Jan 15

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    On November 14, 2014 I got my first DU and LAST dui I. I am 50 and I never even had a moving violation in my entire life. What an expensive and stupid way to end my streak of...
    NotDefined176 NotDefined176 46-50, M 1 Response Jan 17

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    Here we go, AGAIN !! I ever wonder if she would run out of her ideas to kill my self esteem and destroy my ego !! Shes been doing a damn fine job in maintaining those 2 holy goals...
    TheLeftBehind TheLeftBehind 16-17, M 3 Responses Dec 31, 2014

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    I grew up, like most of you, not knowing that my "normal" was not normal. I was really raised by my grandmother, who taught me what real love and affection was. She died when I...
    languedocienne languedocienne 26-30, F Jan 13

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    She manipulates me, makes me feel guilty when I am not guilty, she says everything I do is disgusting, she looks at me with disgust, she talks crap about me and twists stories to...
    hollyissad hollyissad 18-21, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    I am SO BEYOND annoyed with doctors. On October 30th Brayden got his chicken pox vaccine. (Spare yourself the speech in NY state child must be all caught up on shots in order to...
    mommycrystal mommycrystal 16-17, F 6 Responses Dec 27, 2014

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    I am SO BEYOND annoyed with doctors. On October 30th Brayden got his chicken pox vaccine. (Spare yourself the speech in NY state child must be all caught up on shots in order to...
    mommycrystal mommycrystal 16-17, F 1 Response Dec 27, 2014

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    Fate has been very cruel to both my husband and me. I lost my two precious angels to a lethal lung disorder called alveolar capillary dysplasia. We have an elder daughter named...
    catherinesingh15 catherinesingh15 31-35, F 1 Response Jan 12

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    if you dont accept crossdressers or transgender ppl read on cause this could become your son/daughter unless you stop it dont become a murderer this childs death solely lies in the...
    guyindresses1991 guyindresses1991 22-25, T 2 Responses Jan 15

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    JOIN the CPA affiliate program that pays $300 fixed rate per qualified $9.99 sale! First payout takes one month (30 days) then after qualifying for commissions (making your 1st...
    agconnors agconnors 26-30, F 8 hrs ago

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    Well, I skirted having to spend Thanksgiving holiday with MIL. Unfortunately, reluctantly agreeing to my spouse's request to spend christmas with his mom made up for that. We...
    lolasmama lolasmama 31-35, F 2 Responses Dec 27, 2014

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    I feel really alone. I have no one really to talk to. I received a disturbing phone call from my recently estranged mother saying between hysterics and sobs on my voicemail that...
    jaxpdx jaxpdx 41-45, F 3 Responses Jan 4

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    There is no handbook on how to raise a child, some are born with the natural ability others it might take some time. It's not so much how we were raised but rather the life lessons...
    JustAGirLinAbaR JustAGirLinAbaR 22-25, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    Hi, all. I don't have a PA mother but I DO HAVE a PA Father. Wow! The devil IS a liar. Reading these posts gives me a sense of relief that I'm not overreacting, but simply...
    RWilson77 RWilson77 51-55 1 Response Dec 29, 2014

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    First: My roommate I'm not sure if she really likes me over winter break she texted me Merry Christmas and Happy New Year but sometimes things are awkward when were in school. She...
    aly125 aly125 18-21, F Jan 2

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    ((graphic suicide description warning for this)) I lost my mom yesterday. The morning was normal, I said hey and we told each other we loved each other before I left. Recently she...
    KadarKun KadarKun 16-17, F 3 Responses Jan 13

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    Is there really any ''Real Mother(jender is female)here????? I don't need sugar daddy. All i want now is normal female-Mom. ※This guy said ''i am a 40's woman'' since i...
    juryandrews juryandrews 31-35, F a week ago

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    I've tried a hundred separate times to type this story out, because I wanted it to be great. I think this is the type of thing romance movies are made of, but until they do put...
    invisibol invisibol 26-30, F 1 Response Dec 30, 2014

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    Well, I have issues with BOTH of my Mother In Laws. I like one just a little more than the other, but besides that 2 Mother Inlaws are just double the trouble. I have two because...
    galaxygurl galaxygurl 26-30, F Jan 3