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I Am A Mother First, All Else Second

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    So hard doing this by myself:-( hard with no

    mother around to help at all. Hard in general. I'm trying for my daughter no matter what with a job and everything else. I hope she knows I am trying my hardest for her. She's my world wouldn't change it for a second. :-)
    skipper02 skipper02 26-30, F Dec 7, 2013

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    My Child:)

    There is one thing in this life that I am very sure about,is to always put my child first.
    angelwithoutwings angelwithoutwings 26-30, F 1 Response May 25, 2011

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    My Most Important Role

    Becoming a mother was all I ever dreamed of.   Its what I love about me the most.  That I am my child's mother.  Often times you'll hear me ask, what was I thinking?  I've said that quite too often these past few years as they have been very trying for us. As a divorced...
    Mahal1023 Mahal1023 46-50, F 2 Responses Sep 5, 2011

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    My Mother's Selflessness

    I think my mother put herself on hold as she was raising us. She put us first, always; and she was second. I remember one time when I was little, we were having dinner and there was one small succulent piece of chicken left, and we both reached for it, then she gave...
    Fallflower Fallflower 36-40, F 35 Responses Feb 9, 2010

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    I am the original person

    who created this group a few years ago when I used a different name. I realize now what a mistaken ideal this was and will be removing myself from the group. When you completely devote yourself to a person or job or hobby, you lose part of yourself in the process. This includes...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 1 Response May 28, 2014

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