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I Am a Mother In Law With a Difficult Daughter In Law

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    Daughters-In-Law

    I am mother-in-law to two very different women; the youngest is warm, family-oriented and inclusive. They have a new baby and I get pictures, videos daily as well as regular invitations to visit. The oldest is distant, uncommunicative, has never invited us to their home even...
    srbelle1 srbelle1 61-65, F 3 Responses Feb 28, 2013

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    What Is My Next Move, If Anything?

    I am so disappointed in how my relationship with DIL of 19 years has turned out.  I really liked her and thought she was good for my son, but for the past 7 or so years things have definitely chilled.  I have not meddled in their lives that I can think of nor have I ever...
    C52227 C52227 61-65, F 1 Response Oct 10, 2011

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    Disrespectful D.l.

    We have been blessed with 3 sons and a beautiful daughter. We have three daughter-in-laws that are difficult. We have bent over backwards to be supporative. the jealousy, lies, and out right total disrespect. we have stepped back. our sons wife has a 50k car because he makes a...
    farmerandhiswife farmerandhiswife 61-65 4 Responses Mar 1, 2012

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    Need Advice Regarding Difficult Daughter In Law

    My only son married 4 years ago. I was soo happy that I gained a daughter I never had. I helped them a great deal to get settled down in life. As days went by, I saw a side of her I did not like. She does not consider husband's family as her own and do not want to...
    daughterless daughterless 56-60 17 Responses Jun 4, 2009

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    Where Do I Go From Here?

    Both my sons married a few years ago . I was thrilled for both and felt I had good relationships with the girls. Two years ago my grandson was born to my one son & suddenly my daughter-in-law turned into a different person . It was as if a wall was put up. I was...
    Amhuman Amhuman 56-60 4 Responses Jun 6, 2012

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    Help I Need Advice

    My son has been with this girl for 3 years, they have a two year old daughter, my granddaughter which I love very much, they have never married  but i still call her my daughter in law, The problem is that she tells lies on me for no reason, I use to call her on the phone just...
    borolady borolady 46-50 6 Responses Jul 8, 2011

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    Sad

    Hello, my son has been married to my daughter inlaw for 7 yrs,everything was good until we decided to buy proprety together,she is very controling of my son & the two grandkids.she doesn't like him to drink but she can. He has quit drinking for the sake of saving his marriage...
    tinytot2010 tinytot2010 46-50 1 Response Jun 28, 2011

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    My husband and I are invisible to our dil.

    Married 20+ years with 2 daughters. Her parents live close as well (as we do). We definately get left overs. It could be worse (as I've read some of the posts on this site). Son is slightly attentive to us, BUT he is constantly in a loser's seat. I've never said anything...
    dogpoo dogpoo 61-65, F 2 Responses Sep 25

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    My husband and I have three grown sons.

    Two are currently married. Our oldest married a woman about 5yrs. older with three children from a previous marriage. I will start there, as that situation has gone on the longest. 8 yrs. At one time I felt as if our relationship was good and could turn out to be very loving and...
    dazyaday dazyaday 51-55, F Feb 15

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    Nice to have a place to share this struggle.

    My DIL has lived with us since she was 15. She came into my son's life at a very difficult time and was very loyal yo him over the 6 years they have been together. Her own mother was not nice to her and was verbally abusive to her I sure causing huge self esteem issues and I...
    wendy72 wendy72 41-45, F 4 Responses Feb 17

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    About a year ago our middle son (divorced with

    a young son), started dating a nice girl. Or so we all thought. After three months they were engaged. She seemed to enjoy our family and was always pleasant and friendly to everyone, especially my other grandchildren. They planned a nice wedding on a beach in Florida. Sent out...
    dazyaday dazyaday 51-55, F 2 Responses Feb 15

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    Difficult Daughter-in-law

    My stepson got married a little over a year ago to a woman who called and said I could not come to the wedding because she was afraid the grooms biological mother would get upset. The relationship from that point on has been cordial at best. I simply do ot want to be around...
    needapaddle needapaddle 61-65, F 1 Response Jul 3, 2013

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    Mother Of Sons

    I basically am very lucky to have a nice DIL.   The only problem is it's always her way.  Her thinking is "black and white" with no diverting from her plan.  My youngest son and his wife have to come to town for an event and live several hours away...
    ladyskier ladyskier 51-55 3 Responses Jul 26, 2010

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    Unresponsive Daughter-in-law Who Is Polite But Ignores Us

    My only daughter-in-law, who is extremely close to her own family, avoids me and her father-in-law. She is the mother of my only grandchild of 4 years and lives 3,000 miles away from us on the West Coast, so I rarely get to see my grandson. Her own mother, sister, father, and...
    knittingnana knittingnana 56-60, F 9 Responses Jun 26, 2012

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    I Have A Daughter In Law From Hell

    This started 15 yrs ago, I have tried to stay out of their lives and now I will keep a log of my thoughts. She con my son to married her in Las Vegas and thought it was a fake wedding. She con 18000 dollars from us for her honeymoon. She waited until we moved 1200 miles away...
    chris6753 chris6753 56-60 Dec 3, 2013

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    Bang61

    Having a difficult time with my dil.  My son is an only child and he and I have always been very close in the past.  That is before he married his wife in 2009 When they were dating she thought I interfered too much and made sure that i did not call him too much and also did...
    Bang61 Bang61 41-45 3 Responses May 9, 2011

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    Need Help...she Is Not Even An Official Dil Yet

    For the past 15 months our son has lived with his girlfriend. They got engaged in December and since then she has turned into a rude and demanding/controlling person. She moved here from up north with 1/2 trailer full of nothing and a family who seems they cannot stand her. We...
    MILTOB MILTOB 51-55 4 Responses May 6, 2012

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    I have two daughters in law

    that are gems, and one soon to be daughter in law, who is probably the worst girl I've ever met in my life. Rude rude, keeps me out of 'their' life, and all of that. I don't feel she 'stole' my son away from me, I feel she is a shrewd manipulator and the stakes have been very...
    anothermiltobe anothermiltobe 56-60, F 4 Responses Aug 26

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    Over the past 7 years I have tried to be a good

    mother in law. For the sake of my son I treated my daughter in law as a daughter. I only offered advice if asked and kept my mouth shut if not. We got along ok as long as I agreed with her. Red flags went up when not long after the wedding she asked what chores were. As I tried...
    unme1 unme1 56-60, F 2 Responses Aug 6

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    Dealing With A Difficult Daughter In Law

    I HAD NO IDEAL so many people have DIL'S that are difficult.  My DIL has 2 sons and someday, well they say "what goes around comes around".
    plhuff55 plhuff55 56-60 1 Response Jan 19, 2011

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    My Son And Daughter In Law Are Living With Me...

    Over a year ago my son and daughter in law and three grand kids were about to be homeless because my son lost his job. I couldn't allow this to happen so I took them in. I live in government housing and am on a fixed income due to a back injury so I have nothing to offer them...
    salbug63 salbug63 51-55, F Aug 16, 2013

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    On Again...off Again...

    I have known my daughter-in-law for 16 years.  She has been married to my son for 12 years.  I have 3 grandchildren.  My son has recently expressed to my DIL that he wants a divorce.  My DIL sent me a text five days ago calling me a liar, telling me to not bother her or the...
    chita43 chita43 51-55 4 Responses Dec 27, 2010

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    Don't Expect Her To Change.

    My only child (my son) married a nice girl who is very sweet as long as she gets her way. She has control issues which I have become to recognize and accept in order to save my sanity. My advise to all mother in laws is...accept her the way she is, stay away from her as much as...
    monican1 monican1 61-65 8 Responses Feb 6, 2012

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    My Terrrible Daughter In Law

    I have tried to like and be the best mother in law I can be for the last 13 years and nothing seems to get better. My daughter in law is extremely manipulative and narcissistic. She is ruining my sons life and I am concerned for my grandchildren. Over the years, she has...
    RebekahW RebekahW 56-60, F 3 Responses Sep 2, 2013

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    DIL's Can Change!

    As a DIL I can see myself in many of these stories sadly. I was diagnosed with being Bi-Polar. It took along time but I am now on medication that lifted my depression, anxiety and manic episodes which caused hell for the whole family. Since I started taking Latuda (which works...
    salbug63 salbug63 51-55, F 2 Responses Aug 16, 2013

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    My daughter in law from hell is just that!

    She's a vicious conniving *****!
    Star53 Star53 61-65, F Jan 10

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    I Don't Hate Her...but It's Getting Reeeeeally Weird

    I just gotta vent here. I've been keeping my mouth shut about this stuff, trying to be a nice mother-in-law and mind my own business, but for the past three years things have been getting worse, not better, and I'm thinking that it's about time I said something. LOUDLY. My...
    RedPeril21 RedPeril21 46-50 8 Responses Mar 26, 2011

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    My spouse and I raised four respectful,

    hard working, educated, caring young men. This men are now 27-32. I have two daughter in laws that appear to truly love and care for my sons. Out third son, at the age of 19, following high school graduation went to Las Vegas to spend the Summer with his grandmother and uncle...
    Tinalou Tinalou 46-50, F 2 Responses Jun 4

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    Confused About What To Do

    my son age 30 has been married 2 years as of september he has 2 kids from a previous relationship, his wife age 24 has a child as well. here is the rub.... his wife has been having an affair for the last year with my son's cousin. the affair was discovered a few months ago. my...
    osaka95 osaka95 46-50 1 Response Oct 27, 2011

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    I just recently joined EP,

    i am new to all of this, so bear with me..i do not care for social media, have never had a facebook page etc...having said that, I am desperate for advice i recently posted something under " i hate my mnl" not because i really hate her, i dont, but again I am desperate, so when...
    Neuronurse Neuronurse 41-45, F Nov 8

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    Nightmare

    I am so glad to have found a support group for the much maligned mothers-in-law! While I know there are some truly awful, meddlesome MIL's, there are also kind hearted, supportive and loving ones. I have always tried to be that kind of MIL; I know I am far from perfect, but I am...
    barbararose barbararose 56-60, F 3 Responses Oct 2, 2012

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    I've read alot about women

    who have to deal with a difficult daughter in law. It has helped to know I am not alone. I just need someplace to vent alittle. When my son first told us he was dating her, he told my husband & I that she was not a nice person, but that he liked her anyway. First red flag...
    grandmanot grandmanot 56-60, F 3 Responses Jan 31

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    And Life Seems to Come Full Circle

    I have only one child (by choice) -- a son. We (my husband and I) have a great relationship with him. He calls us, sends us emails, always lets us know what’s going on in his life. He married at age 32 to a young woman who is almost three years older than him. From the...
    whenfamilyfails whenfamilyfails 61-65 7 Responses Aug 26, 2009

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    Problems With Daughter In Law

    I too have a difficult daughter in law.  She is a power freak.  She always finds fault with everything I do and say.  After a few fights over the years we "made up" four years ago in time for their wedding.  During the wedding she went out of her way to make...
    eyag eyag 56-60 5 Responses Oct 19, 2010

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    I should start out by saying

    that I have never, ever had an argument with my daughter(s) in law. I was determined to be the strong supportive mother-in-law who respects her daughter(s) in law and who would be there for them whenever and however they needed me. I suppose that the geographical distance...
    ChantyWife ChantyWife 66-70, F 1 Response Oct 22

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