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I Am a Musician's Wife

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    I have been with my husband

    for almost seven years and he is a musician through and through. I have always wanted him to be able to pursue his dreams, we now have three kids together. I have such a hard time not making him the bad guy while he is following his dreams. I hate being alone especially being...
    faithjanette1 faithjanette1 26-30, F 1 Response Mar 4

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    His Happiness And My Stress

    When my husband and I started dating several years ago I knew he was a drummer. He had been playing for years and I had even been to some of his shows. I used to go to his shows and we would drink and have a good time together. Now we are married and have 2 small children. I...
    drummerwife drummerwife 31-35, F 3 Responses Mar 8, 2013

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    It's Now Or Never.

    My husband and I have been married for going on 15 years. He has played music for 13 of them. We met in collage got married young and had two boys by the time we were 22. After working hard for 13 years Mark felt and I agreed it was now or never with his music career. He plays...
    Tcoryell Tcoryell 31-35, F Apr 9, 2012

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    My Life With A Guitar Guy + Kids

    My husband and I met eight years ago. We got pregnant right away, and had to choose quickly whether or not to to through with it. I was 28, and I had always wanted to be a mother so it seemed like the only logical choice. He played guitar, and he was so hansome and loving! I...
    monardella monardella 36-40, F 1 Response Aug 19, 2012

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    Aww...birds Chirpin, Bells Ringin....or What The Heck Am I Getting Into??!

    Hi all, First time on this site and I am so glad I found it. I am engaged to a musician. All his life he has wanted to be a rock star and play on the big stage. He had a pretty successful band before they split and he moved to Los Angeles, where he bumped into me. He has...
    serendipity887 serendipity887 31-35, F 1 Response Dec 13, 2012

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    I Have Been Married To A Musician For Almost 5 Years Now

    I saw this website a couple of days ago and read some of the stories.  A lot the experiences and feelings many of you are feeling are exactly how I feel sometimes.  It is always nice to know that you are not alone.  To cope with some of the struggles I have had and still have...
    christymland christymland 26-30 2 Responses May 29, 2012

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    Married To The Music.

    I married my husband in December 2011. We have been friends for many years, and hit it off great when we decided to be together. I struggle with the musings of a musician everyday, just like any other musician's wife. I support his band all the way, and believe in them like no...
    YouCantFightFate YouCantFightFate 22-25, F 6 Responses Aug 28, 2012

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    Thanks To The Ladies

    If it weren't for the fact that I am a mother of 3 working full time and married to a guitar player / lead singer of a fulltime working band...I would write more! However, wanted to thank all the awesome committed girls who posted on here and saved my sanity
    candisschildress candisschildress 31-35 Jul 28, 2013

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    On The Playground

    Yep, that's where we met, on the playground... third grade recess. Favorite time of day! In a heated game of tag-your-it, i pushed him down and planted one on his chubby cheek. Fast Forward, my third year in college (still a sophomore by credit hours) I'm at a party, Hula...
    stephanie04g stephanie04g 22-25, F 7 Responses Feb 25, 2010

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    Engaged To A Musician #2

    Just checking in:   He is on day 6 of his 10 day tour in colorado....I am watching him play live online. This is the only show that is streaming live, and that I actually get to see while he is out of town. I thought I missed him a lot without watching this live streaming...
    joyride383 joyride383 26-30 Mar 27, 2012

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    Engaged To A Musician

    Hey ladies!!! I'm marrying a musician this coming summer.....We have been together almost 10 years, and are finally putting it in ink....Very excited and in love, we are. That being said, his career is just taking flight...Tours are becoming more frequent, Shows are selling out...
    joyride383 joyride383 26-30 Mar 19, 2012

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    Check This Out On You Tube

    You poor dear sweet things I love and admire you all. I am a female musician and I have seen first hand how cool you are and what you go through. I just thought you might get a kick out of this: check out Pat Donahue's "Would You Like to Play the Guitar" on you tube. it's...
    zeniachardin zeniachardin 41-45, F Apr 30, 2012

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    Still Together After 38 Years!

      I am new to this site but I am not new to living with and being married to a musician.  My husband and I have been married for almost 35 years, and we still struggle with the "music" thing.  We have raised two absolutely beautiful, smart, independent...
    daveswife daveswife 51-55, F 4 Responses Jun 30, 2009

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    Old Joke: What Do You Call a Musician Without a Wife Or Girlfriend?

    Answer: "homeless".     Having said that ... it's a hard living but rewarding if you can pull it off and I have a lot of respect for people who can pay the bills with their musical skills.
    JohnJay60 JohnJay60 51-55 3 Responses Apr 11, 2009

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    I Am A Dead Musician's Wife

    I miss him more than words can say. He died from cancer just 6 months ago. His music was part of my life just as he was and I doubt if I will ever find another man to relate to in the same way unless he also happens to be a musician. It's just that once the music gets in your...
    lostoneormore lostoneormore 56-60, F 3 Responses Jul 28, 2011

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    Married to a Musician

    I have been married to a musician for ten years. We were practically kids ourselves when we got married, and neither of us knew what we were getting into. Our marriage is solid, and generally good, but the band is certainly the one thing we have fought about throughout...
    alm81 alm81 31-35 16 Responses Sep 11, 2009

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    To All The Musician's Wives - From The Other Side......

    A little story from the inside. Not as a wife but as a musician. I don't know how to say this and much of this may end up being rambling since I just happened to stumble on this group and it struck a nerve... Believe me, this is a disease that is very hard to control. It's as...
    dontknow0123 dontknow0123 46-50 3 Responses Aug 28, 2012

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    Related Experiences

    We were friend for 10 years prior. He is 25 years older than me. It just gets more and more difficult. He is the only person I have truly loved. I am still very young and I am also...
    BarbieAnna BarbieAnna 26-30, F Jul 21

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    Both of my parents were music teachers. Strange, as I never once saw either play at home...Ever. In 4th grade I started on cello and by 5th I was competing in the State finals...
    Beaver318 Beaver318 41-45, M 1 Response Aug 5

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       My current boyfriend is a drummer for a local band around my area. I have dated musicians before but nothing is like dating a metal-head drummer. I have been and...
    LuckieCharmz93 LuckieCharmz93 18-21, F Jul 28

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    I am a multi-instrumentalist who lives a double life with multiple personalities all of which are part of my music Lyrics, guitars, bass and drums are all done by different sides...
    Jade128 Jade128 18-21, T 1 Response Jul 30

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    I love composing but it's mostly comes out of my emotions. Been stuck lately, lacking the proper motivation.
    KA4689 KA4689 22-25, M Aug 10

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    I love jamming in the garage or performing for the public!! It's always a rush.
    SCJohnny SCJohnny 61-65, M a week ago

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    Anyone else suffer from toxic perfectionism? I started at Berklee college of music and when I got here I realize I am in my head constantly when I play. I always thought that I...
    lydiandom lydiandom 18-21, M 1 Response 6 days ago

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    Early Chicago was so much better than the later Chicago. While Terry Kath was alive, their music was phenomenal! The Jazz influenced Rock was the best around. "Beginnings", "25 or...
    RockinPop60 RockinPop60 56-60, M 2 Responses Aug 10

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    From classical all the way through to techno and trance. Though I can only listen to repetitive music so long. I have a musician's brain and can't handle it when it's on repeat for...
    KA4689 KA4689 22-25, M Aug 11

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    I actually really don't know what to do guys. Being a natural-musician isn't what it's cut out to be. Being a musician will **** you up in the head, all natural musicians are...
    jared2enlightenment jared2enlightenment 18-21, M 3 Responses 4 hrs ago

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    Had an interesting experience today with the wife...wanted some opinions on it. As some background, it's quite clear that we have issues with our relationship - we've had a...
    MelancholyDude MelancholyDude 36-40, M 7 Responses 4 days ago

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    My father, who lived to be 83 years old and had traveled all over the country and had known countless people (some famous, he was a jazz musician) told me a few years back that I...
    NoHeartButMyOwn NoHeartButMyOwn 51-55, F 1 Response Aug 6

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    We unfortunately are probably not an atypical couple, but here's our experience anyway. We met online in 2001, back when it was still a rarity, she was still in school doing her...
    MelancholyDude MelancholyDude 36-40, M 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    We unfortunately are probably not an atypical couple, but here's our experience anyway. We met online in 2001, back when it was still a rarity, she was still in school doing her...
    MelancholyDude MelancholyDude 36-40, M 19 Responses 5 days ago

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    As of now, I wanted to become a famous musician... But it feels that I won't be accomplishing it... First, I took piano lessons at the age of 6-8 and I completely suck... And I...
    DarkAngel483 DarkAngel483 13-15, F 1 Response Jul 26

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    So thanks to some of the great advice here on the SM forum of EP, I decided not to wait and talk to my wife about my ongoing concerns. We did this two nights ago, after she had...
    MelancholyDude MelancholyDude 36-40, M 13 Responses 2 days ago

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    As a teenager I left my rainy home in northern england and followed my heart to travel the world and become successful in the entertainment and fashion business. Initially I was...
    thelotuslifecoach thelotuslifecoach 46-50, M Jul 28

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    I won't go in about how John Lennon was a saint because he never was. He was mean to his first wife and his son Julian. He was jealous, insensitive, a tempestuous personality. But...
    emiveritas emiveritas 18-21, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    I'm a married man, musician, lover above all and very passionate. Yet my wife just doesn't get the whole passion thing. She is very cold at times and admits to not quite feeling...
    sledgerockstar sledgerockstar 41-45, M 4 Responses Jul 24

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    It started with me getting these high pitch squeals. Like a surge up my spine and unless I concentrated hard, it would come out. Usually when I was most peaceful it would suddenly...
    Skywalker1979 Skywalker1979 31-35, M 1 Response Jul 22

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    I consider myself a lover of music and this leads to an element of snobbery on my part, although others are just as guilty as I. As with many aspects of my life, I don't like the...
    ForeverInDarkness22 ForeverInDarkness22 22-25, M 1 Response Jul 25

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    50things shouldn't be that hard, right? 1. My name's Trine. 2. I'm 19 year old. (born 1995) 3. I have a younger brother. 4. He's aa head taller than me. 5. My parents are divorced...
    leejoonnieoppa leejoonnieoppa 18-21, F 2 Responses Aug 1

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    If your walls could talk what would they say? The walls of my childhood bedrooms would tell a story of a seemingly normal boy, regular life, loving family, but he partook in an odd...
    drpepper666 drpepper666 26-30, M Aug 4

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      There are no excursions with the island over the summer months months due to the warmth and bugs, nevertheless the refuge will be offering a Unique 7 days of island tours...
    Temple2516ja Temple2516ja 31-35, M Aug 8

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    I'm a classically trained violinist, so loving classical music is logical. I've played since age 8 and I'm 35 now. Studied at the Conservatory of Music and I am a instrumental...
    Skywalker1979 Skywalker1979 31-35, M 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    So, there's this guy. He's everything I have ever dreamed about, despite the fact that he's nothing at all like the boys that most girls my age are into. He's funny, kind, sweet...
    LeavesOfSunshine LeavesOfSunshine 13-15, F 1 day ago

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    Roll Over Beethoven These days nobody’s got any sympathy. On the rare-ish occasion when I might mention that I’m having a few problems making music because my hearing is poor...
    CrookedMan CrookedMan 46-50 Aug 1

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    I don't usually imagine myself as myself. Sometimes, when I remember the particulars of my actual flesh-and-blood self, I'm surprised. "Oh, yeah. I look like that. Weird...
    Gwynevere Gwynevere 26-30, F Aug 11

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    A few reasons for adoring Joseph. 1. There are people Joseph does not love, but he doesn't hate anyone, he is simply indifferent to those he does not love. Of anyone I have ever...
    Irishglen6 Irishglen6 51-55, M 7 Responses a week ago

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    I think Bob Seger is a gifted songwriter and musician. I don't know if this song was meant to be a dedication to a long term partner, or someone who has passed away. Either way...
    shellseagirl shellseagirl 41-45, F 2 Responses Jul 20

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    I performed in front of 2 friends of yours in Paramus who said they knew you skumbag debra...that's why the musician plot You were hacked into that call skumbag debra
    Debjusnotes50 Debjusnotes50 46-50, F Jul 21

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    Aaaaaahhhh!! He said to let him know if I need anything recorded. That it would be 'cool to do'. I've been wanting to message him for such a long time. And was too scared incase...
    TearsAlwaysWin TearsAlwaysWin 26-30, F Jul 21