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I Am a Musician's Wife

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    Check This Out On You Tube

    You poor dear sweet things I love and admire you all. I am a female musician and I have seen first hand how cool you are and what you go through. I just thought you might get a kick out of this: check out Pat Donahue's "Would You Like to Play the Guitar" on you tube. it's...
    zeniachardin zeniachardin 41-45, F Apr 30, 2012

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    Aww...birds Chirpin, Bells Ringin....or What The Heck Am I Getting Into??!

    Hi all, First time on this site and I am so glad I found it. I am engaged to a musician. All his life he has wanted to be a rock star and play on the big stage. He had a pretty successful band before they split and he moved to Los Angeles, where he bumped into me. He has...
    serendipity887 serendipity887 31-35, F 1 Response Dec 13, 2012

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    Married for 3 years now.

    Known each other for ten. I am gyming alone as I type even though this was supposed to be a group activity. If not at gigs, he is at home learning 'techniques' . I left my steady well paying job to this place where I now work as an intern in a place where there is no respect. I...
    danpam14 danpam14 26-30, F 1 Response Mar 12

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    Engaged To A Musician #2

    Just checking in:   He is on day 6 of his 10 day tour in colorado....I am watching him play live online. This is the only show that is streaming live, and that I actually get to see while he is out of town. I thought I missed him a lot without watching this live streaming...
    joyride383 joyride383 26-30 Mar 27, 2012

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    Married To The Music.

    I married my husband in December 2011. We have been friends for many years, and hit it off great when we decided to be together. I struggle with the musings of a musician everyday, just like any other musician's wife. I support his band all the way, and believe in them like no...
    YouCantFightFate YouCantFightFate 22-25, F 6 Responses Aug 28, 2012

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    I have been with my husband

    for almost seven years and he is a musician through and through. I have always wanted him to be able to pursue his dreams, we now have three kids together. I have such a hard time not making him the bad guy while he is following his dreams. I hate being alone especially being...
    faithjanette1 faithjanette1 26-30, F 1 Response Mar 4, 2014

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    To All The Musician's Wives - From The Other Side......

    A little story from the inside. Not as a wife but as a musician. I don't know how to say this and much of this may end up being rambling since I just happened to stumble on this group and it struck a nerve... Believe me, this is a disease that is very hard to control. It's as...
    dontknow0123 dontknow0123 46-50 3 Responses Aug 28, 2012

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    I Am A Dead Musician's Wife

    I miss him more than words can say. He died from cancer just 6 months ago. His music was part of my life just as he was and I doubt if I will ever find another man to relate to in the same way unless he also happens to be a musician. It's just that once the music gets in your...
    lostoneormore lostoneormore 56-60, F 3 Responses Jul 28, 2011

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    We met a couple years ago

    but started dating last January and in June 2014 he asked me to marry him. We will be getting married August 2016 and I'm so worried about us being married, because I don't want to end in divorce. In the beginning of our relationship he had started to move himself into my house...
    brittany12309 brittany12309 26-30, F Apr 19

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    On The Playground

    Yep, that's where we met, on the playground... third grade recess. Favorite time of day! In a heated game of tag-your-it, i pushed him down and planted one on his chubby cheek. Fast Forward, my third year in college (still a sophomore by credit hours) I'm at a party, Hula...
    stephanie04g stephanie04g 22-25, F 7 Responses Feb 25, 2010

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    I Have Been Married To A Musician For Almost 5 Years Now

    I saw this website a couple of days ago and read some of the stories.  A lot the experiences and feelings many of you are feeling are exactly how I feel sometimes.  It is always nice to know that you are not alone.  To cope with some of the struggles I have had and still have...
    christymland christymland 26-30 2 Responses May 29, 2012

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    My Life With A Guitar Guy + Kids

    My husband and I met eight years ago. We got pregnant right away, and had to choose quickly whether or not to to through with it. I was 28, and I had always wanted to be a mother so it seemed like the only logical choice. He played guitar, and he was so hansome and loving! I...
    monardella monardella 36-40, F 1 Response Aug 19, 2012

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    Old Joke: What Do You Call a Musician Without a Wife Or Girlfriend?

    Answer: "homeless".     Having said that ... it's a hard living but rewarding if you can pull it off and I have a lot of respect for people who can pay the bills with their musical skills.
    JohnJay60 JohnJay60 51-55 3 Responses Apr 11, 2009

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    It's Now Or Never.

    My husband and I have been married for going on 15 years. He has played music for 13 of them. We met in collage got married young and had two boys by the time we were 22. After working hard for 13 years Mark felt and I agreed it was now or never with his music career. He plays...
    Tcoryell Tcoryell 31-35, F Apr 9, 2012

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    Thanks To The Ladies

    If it weren't for the fact that I am a mother of 3 working full time and married to a guitar player / lead singer of a fulltime working band...I would write more! However, wanted to thank all the awesome committed girls who posted on here and saved my sanity
    candisschildress candisschildress 31-35 Jul 28, 2013

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    His Happiness And My Stress

    When my husband and I started dating several years ago I knew he was a drummer. He had been playing for years and I had even been to some of his shows. I used to go to his shows and we would drink and have a good time together. Now we are married and have 2 small children. I...
    drummerwife drummerwife 31-35, F 3 Responses Mar 8, 2013

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    Still Together After 38 Years!

      I am new to this site but I am not new to living with and being married to a musician.  My husband and I have been married for almost 35 years, and we still struggle with the "music" thing.  We have raised two absolutely beautiful, smart, independent...
    daveswife daveswife 51-55, F 4 Responses Jun 30, 2009

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    Married to a Musician

    I have been married to a musician for ten years. We were practically kids ourselves when we got married, and neither of us knew what we were getting into. Our marriage is solid, and generally good, but the band is certainly the one thing we have fought about throughout...
    alm81 alm81 31-35 16 Responses Sep 11, 2009

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    Engaged To A Musician

    Hey ladies!!! I'm marrying a musician this coming summer.....We have been together almost 10 years, and are finally putting it in ink....Very excited and in love, we are. That being said, his career is just taking flight...Tours are becoming more frequent, Shows are selling out...
    joyride383 joyride383 26-30 Mar 19, 2012

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    Although I've only been married

    for a year, my husband and I have been together for almost 14, we're high-school sweethearts. He's the drummer and back up vocalist of the band which he formed with his brothers at the age of 13. Needless to say music has and continues to be a life long struggle and pursuit...
    Schmoolie Schmoolie 31-35, F 2 Responses Aug 25, 2014

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    Related Experiences

    So my wife and I have been married for 2 years in june, and lived together for a total of 8 years. We have a 3 year old son and just purchased our first home. Things are great to...
    wheelman82 wheelman82 31-35, M 4 Responses Apr 16

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    I thought it would be fun to arrange a cover song, so I did, lol. It's called "True", a tune by Spandau Ballet in 1983. I don't really do music anymore and put it on my dad's...
    TammyTamTam TammyTamTam 18-21, F Apr 24

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    Well today was symphonic band's last performance for the semester until we go to Europe. Not everyone is going though because several are graduating. 1 friend in particular is...
    mstenorsaxplayer mstenorsaxplayer 18-21, F 2 Responses Apr 26

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    It's been a year since I gigged last. couple years ago I was in four bands and gigged all the time. I miss it. jonesing to gig again.
    jpchaney jpchaney 46-50, M 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    I've only been playing for a couple of years, but I've decided to try to make it as a musician. My father always listened to ACDC, Metallica, and Journey while my mother listened...
    Mutent92 Mutent92 16-17, M 3 Responses Apr 27

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    How to Quiet the Mind - By Gina Lake The mind is a wonderful tool for thinking, but it has a dark side. There is an aspect of the mind that is not useful but pretends to be...
    imurfriend imurfriend 26-30, F 4 days ago

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    Hi guys, here’s my (rather lengthy) tale of woe. I lost someone to suicide. And I feel as if I will shortly go the same way. Early 2014, I was a 16 year old Junior (uh-oh). I had...
    sallyscallop sallyscallop 18-21, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    Sometimes, I feel like music has been the only real friend in my life. I've realized that I've never had the experience of a friend or just a person being there for me when I'm in...
    TheAnonymousINFx TheAnonymousINFx 18-21, F Apr 7

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    This is a long story that sort of has to do with more than laziness, alone, but does contribute to it, possibly: I started dating a lineman a year ago. (A lineman is a person who...
    Danichal Danichal 36-40, F Apr 14

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    I'm no success story. I've been a squanderer , drifter, and even a bum, but I am a fortunate person. I had an insane childhood; a few years as a prince who was doted upon, and...
    puck61 puck61 51-55, M 11 Responses Apr 17

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    I am a Christian and I am sensitive. I love family-friendly entertainment such as Disney, Hallmark, Game Show Network, Sonic Tap: Be-Tween, Pandora Radio and Radio Disney. I love...
    blankcheck4urhart blankcheck4urhart 36-40, F 6 days ago

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    Robin Trower About to Begin If you stand in the light You get the feel of the night And the music that plays in your ears In your head you can hear A voice so sweet and clear And...
    BreastLoverInNM BreastLoverInNM 56-60, M 1 Response 5 days ago

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    Can't say I done everything, but, have traveled many roads in my life as a musician! It's been a great 40 years. If you wanna hang out, talk music or whatever YOU want, it's cool...
    fucking1565 fucking1565 36-40, M Apr 6

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    I am very self conscious and i always have been. It can be so hard sometimes especially when the anxiety kicks in. I'v had times when i'v been walking in public and i felt like i...
    Iseeitall Iseeitall 18-21, M 1 Response Apr 7

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    I don't give a **** what he's "Been Through" it's not an excuse to be misogynistic and homophobic. He is literally profiting off writing multiple songs about killing and raping...
    clarantino clarantino 16-17, F Apr 16

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    In fact I know it is. I have seen love triumph over hate time and time again. The only time we see hate victorious is when those who are present are afraid to operate in love. We...
    stupendusdude stupendusdude 46-50 4 Responses Apr 18

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    I keep on tryin n tryin. When will she finally notice me. 18 years of marriage. Beautiful young kids. I have a hard tone focusing on my studies. Actually, everything. I try to be...
    miraquepasa miraquepasa 36-40, M 2 Responses Apr 16

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    Today is the anniversary of the due date of the baby I never allowed to be. I doubt "he" (just a hunch) would've actually been born on this day, but Iy was his anticipated...
    jade1276 jade1276 36-40, F 1 Response Apr 18

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    As a musician, I find it fascinating that the brain's neurons fire at the same frequency as the pitch played. The nerves of the ear are connected to the facial muscles, and when...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Apr 19

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    I love Metal and I love Elton John. This is true. I've been a huge fan since I was a teenager. He's a great musician and Bernie is a great song writer. Beautiful combination...
    greeneyz83 greeneyz83 31-35, F 4 Responses Apr 23

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    Mon ame~ My soul. Maestro~ Your Love is the symphony of my lonely hearts sorrow in repose, the unwitting precociousness of a child's innocence I see in the reflection of your...
    PrettyOldSoul PrettyOldSoul 41-45, F Apr 25

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    I never realized how intuitive I was until today. I thought it was something everyone had the capability to do. I did some slight reading about it because I'm a curious person. But...
    Sayybriana Sayybriana 18-21, F 2 Responses Apr 27

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    He's not married, and neither am I, but this still seems an appropriate place to get out my feelings. We were both in relationships. Mine for almost 5 years, and his for slightly...
    arocken1 arocken1 26-30, F 8 Responses 2 days ago

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