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I Am a Musician's Wife

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    Although I've only been married

    for a year, my husband and I have been together for almost 14, we're high-school sweethearts. He's the drummer and back up vocalist of the band which he formed with his brothers at the age of 13. Needless to say music has and continues to be a life long struggle and pursuit...
    Schmoolie Schmoolie 31-35, F 1 Response Aug 25, 2014

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    Check This Out On You Tube

    You poor dear sweet things I love and admire you all. I am a female musician and I have seen first hand how cool you are and what you go through. I just thought you might get a kick out of this: check out Pat Donahue's "Would You Like to Play the Guitar" on you tube. it's...
    zeniachardin zeniachardin 41-45, F Apr 30, 2012

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    Engaged To A Musician

    Hey ladies!!! I'm marrying a musician this coming summer.....We have been together almost 10 years, and are finally putting it in ink....Very excited and in love, we are. That being said, his career is just taking flight...Tours are becoming more frequent, Shows are selling out...
    joyride383 joyride383 26-30 Mar 19, 2012

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    Still Together After 38 Years!

      I am new to this site but I am not new to living with and being married to a musician.  My husband and I have been married for almost 35 years, and we still struggle with the "music" thing.  We have raised two absolutely beautiful, smart, independent...
    daveswife daveswife 51-55, F 4 Responses Jun 30, 2009

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    It's Now Or Never.

    My husband and I have been married for going on 15 years. He has played music for 13 of them. We met in collage got married young and had two boys by the time we were 22. After working hard for 13 years Mark felt and I agreed it was now or never with his music career. He plays...
    Tcoryell Tcoryell 31-35, F Apr 9, 2012

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    Engaged To A Musician #2

    Just checking in:   He is on day 6 of his 10 day tour in colorado....I am watching him play live online. This is the only show that is streaming live, and that I actually get to see while he is out of town. I thought I missed him a lot without watching this live streaming...
    joyride383 joyride383 26-30 Mar 27, 2012

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    I have been married to my husband almost 20

    years now.I have watched his career go full circle. My husband is visually impaired so for the last 15 years I have been in the sideline.Until Feb 2014 I ended up with breast cancer. I have had to pass my duties onto our son,who himself is an amazing musician.When I got sick my...
    1oldbandwife 1oldbandwife 51-55, F 1 Response Jul 20, 2015

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    On The Playground

    Yep, that's where we met, on the playground... third grade recess. Favorite time of day! In a heated game of tag-your-it, i pushed him down and planted one on his chubby cheek. Fast Forward, my third year in college (still a sophomore by credit hours) I'm at a party, Hula...
    stephanie04g stephanie04g 22-25, F 7 Responses Feb 25, 2010

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    Married to a Musician

    I have been married to a musician for ten years. We were practically kids ourselves when we got married, and neither of us knew what we were getting into. Our marriage is solid, and generally good, but the band is certainly the one thing we have fought about throughout...
    alm81 alm81 31-35 18 Responses Sep 11, 2009

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    We met a couple years ago

    but started dating last January and in June 2014 he asked me to marry him. We will be getting married August 2016 and I'm so worried about us being married, because I don't want to end in divorce. In the beginning of our relationship he had started to move himself into my house...
    brittany12309 brittany12309 26-30, F Apr 19, 2015

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    Married for 3 years now.

    Known each other for ten. I am gyming alone as I type even though this was supposed to be a group activity. If not at gigs, he is at home learning 'techniques' . I left my steady well paying job to this place where I now work as an intern in a place where there is no respect. I...
    danpam14 danpam14 26-30, F 1 Response Mar 12, 2015

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    His Happiness And My Stress

    When my husband and I started dating several years ago I knew he was a drummer. He had been playing for years and I had even been to some of his shows. I used to go to his shows and we would drink and have a good time together. Now we are married and have 2 small children. I...
    drummerwife drummerwife 31-35, F 3 Responses Mar 8, 2013

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    I Am A Dead Musician's Wife

    I miss him more than words can say. He died from cancer just 6 months ago. His music was part of my life just as he was and I doubt if I will ever find another man to relate to in the same way unless he also happens to be a musician. It's just that once the music gets in your...
    lostoneormore lostoneormore 56-60, F 3 Responses Jul 28, 2011

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    I have been with my husband

    for almost seven years and he is a musician through and through. I have always wanted him to be able to pursue his dreams, we now have three kids together. I have such a hard time not making him the bad guy while he is following his dreams. I hate being alone especially being...
    faithjanette1 faithjanette1 26-30, F 1 Response Mar 4, 2014

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    Married To The Music.

    I married my husband in December 2011. We have been friends for many years, and hit it off great when we decided to be together. I struggle with the musings of a musician everyday, just like any other musician's wife. I support his band all the way, and believe in them like no...
    YouCantFightFate YouCantFightFate 22-25, F 4 Responses Aug 28, 2012

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    I Have Been Married To A Musician For Almost 5 Years Now

    I saw this website a couple of days ago and read some of the stories.  A lot the experiences and feelings many of you are feeling are exactly how I feel sometimes.  It is always nice to know that you are not alone.  To cope with some of the struggles I have had and still have...
    christymland christymland 26-30 2 Responses May 29, 2012

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    As I'm writing this post,

    I am in tears because while I am not a musician's wife, I am the girlfriend of a musician (we are very committed to each other and we currently live together) and I NEVER thought I would be going through all these emotions and feelings that everyone else seems to be feeling as...
    deexlee deexlee 22-25, F 1 day ago

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    Old Joke: What Do You Call a Musician Without a Wife Or Girlfriend?

    Answer: "homeless".     Having said that ... it's a hard living but rewarding if you can pull it off and I have a lot of respect for people who can pay the bills with their musical skills.
    JohnJay60 JohnJay60 51-55 3 Responses Apr 11, 2009

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    Aww...birds Chirpin, Bells Ringin....or What The Heck Am I Getting Into??!

    Hi all, First time on this site and I am so glad I found it. I am engaged to a musician. All his life he has wanted to be a rock star and play on the big stage. He had a pretty successful band before they split and he moved to Los Angeles, where he bumped into me. He has...
    serendipity887 serendipity887 31-35, F 1 Response Dec 13, 2012

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    To All The Musician's Wives - From The Other Side......

    A little story from the inside. Not as a wife but as a musician. I don't know how to say this and much of this may end up being rambling since I just happened to stumble on this group and it struck a nerve... Believe me, this is a disease that is very hard to control. It's as...
    dontknow0123 dontknow0123 46-50 4 Responses Aug 28, 2012

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    Thanks To The Ladies

    If it weren't for the fact that I am a mother of 3 working full time and married to a guitar player / lead singer of a fulltime working band...I would write more! However, wanted to thank all the awesome committed girls who posted on here and saved my sanity
    candisschildress candisschildress 31-35 Jul 28, 2013

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    My Life With A Guitar Guy + Kids

    My husband and I met eight years ago. We got pregnant right away, and had to choose quickly whether or not to to through with it. I was 28, and I had always wanted to be a mother so it seemed like the only logical choice. He played guitar, and he was so hansome and loving! I...
    monardella monardella 36-40, F 1 Response Aug 19, 2012

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    Related Experiences

    and he constantly gets me in trouble. he wants me to keep being his bff and wingman but I'm engaged now. and he's having trouble adjusting. when we hang out I regress into the...
    ShannieB ShannieB 26-30, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    As I'm writing this post, I am in tears because while I am not a musician's wife, I am the girlfriend of a musician (we are very committed to each other and we currently live...
    deexlee deexlee 22-25, F 1 day ago

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    Ever since the day David Bowie died, I've been playing my kids one song of his per day. I don't want his music to be lost by the next generation. I want them to experience a man...
    rottenrobi rottenrobi 46-50, F 6 Responses 3 days ago

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    I have learned a lot about myself and other people and have enjoyed sharing stories. i came here after looking up bicuriosity articles or forums on google, or the like...and a...
    sunriseinmyeyes sunriseinmyeyes 31-35, F 5 days ago

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    Made a breakthrough of sorts today. Apparently, I have an "inferiority complex." At first I didn't really see it, but the more I thought about it, the more it made sense. I used to...
    CloseButNoGuitar CloseButNoGuitar 26-30, M 1 Response 5 days ago

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    so I'm a year and a half into a serious long distance relationship with a musician. I'm sure you're all laughing now but I've known this man for 18 years and trust him with my...
    JessUndercover JessUndercover 31-35, F a week ago

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    9 months ago, I fell in love with you. 6 months ago, you left me without a goodbye. 5 months ago, you went back to visit, yet I never chose to see you. 2 months ago, I saw you once...
    HeartsBlossoms HeartsBlossoms 13-15, F Feb 3

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    I spent the day practicing music between my guitar and my flute. I'm finally getting somewhere with Albert Perilhou's Ballade. I will make it to Juilliard someday.
    AngelEyes907 AngelEyes907 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 24

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    At 13 i met this a musician at church that was 4 years older, Oh my did i have the hardest crush on him, everyone knew and he approached me and gave me his number. When i would...
    Quietinside Quietinside 26-30, F Jan 23

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    I've always thought it was silly how people criticized athletes, entertainers, or actor/actresses for making too much money, or comparing them to soldiers, teachers, or police...
    brownowleyes brownowleyes 31-35, F 1 Response Jan 20

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    Hey! I'm 16 (turning 17 soon), my name's Ellis. I am absolute Neko Atsume trash (pro-Tubbs but it's ok if you're not), and Enya (the musician) is basically my Queen. I am...
    kerm27 kerm27 16-17, T Jan 17

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    1. I am an intelligent fool. 2. I am an anomaly in the education system of my country. 3. I've been hurt in more ways than I can count but I fear hurting others more than anything...
    Sunsh1ny Sunsh1ny 18-21, M Jan 15

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    Everytime I watch tv I see news about who whatever got engaged with whatever or how does a musician dress at a party or how a celebrity feels and such... Why should I care? It's...
    Potchii Potchii 22-25, M 2 Responses Jan 15

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    A hymn that apparently came to us from India was accompanied by a legend about a man who became a Christian and was given an ultimaum by a tribe of head hunters: either renounce...
    kayblue kayblue 36-40, F 1 Response Jan 14

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    Everything in alternative music that I have enjoyed in my lifetime began with David Bowie. He was a pioneer of the glam rock movement in the early 70's, along with artists such...
    mikelovesashley mikelovesashley 56-60, M Jan 11

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    We Can Be Heroes Like David  Bowie"The Man Who Fell to Earth"When I read that the musician, actor and artist, David Bowie, had passed away, I felt this profound sadness and...
    vector8 vector8 46-50, F 1 Response Jan 11

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    I have an adopted daughter, she's my only child, whom I love very much. She does however suffer with problems that are due to the time she spent in her birth mother's womb, and...
    Momamoo Momamoo 51-55, F 2 Responses Jan 11

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