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I Am a Narcissist

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    people ask why cant they just change.

    . anyone with a personality disorder.. think of it like this .. can u imagine ... taking who u are right now?! and just completely changing your personality.. it is almost impossible to do. it takes years of therepy and a willingness to change. so next time u ask why ?! think of...
    nikeboy488 nikeboy488 22-25, M 3 Responses Jan 20

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    Awareness Helps.

    I have sought therapy for it and it is not nearly as bad as it used to be, but I am aware of it, and contain it every day. Thankfully, it is controllable, it does not control me.  I can feel it pull on strings of jealousy, not getting what I want and secretly feel I deserve...
    Amoruss Amoruss 41-45, M 4 Responses Dec 2, 2011

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    Although perhaps not in the classical

    definition of the word; as I am apt to say, I am not a vain, self-aggrandizing seeker of attention. I do not love myself -- quite the opposite in fact: I find myself disdainful and worthless. No, I am a narcissist because I, like Narcissus, am in love with my reflection. There...
    SisterCyanide SisterCyanide 26-30, T 2 Responses Mar 20

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    =)

    There's nothing wrong with being a narcissist and it shouldn't be called a disorder! wtf! if that's the case every personality should be a disorder lol! Embrace your inner beast people!!!
    ladykagome06 ladykagome06 26-30, F 2 Responses Oct 2, 2013

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    I heard a lot about Narcissists being cold

    and uncaring, so I was surprised when my shrink told me I had some narcissist qualities. I don't have the disorder, just a big shift towards it. I depend on other's approval and admiration. Other's opinions are contradictory, that's why I can't understand who I really am. I don...
    ordinator169 ordinator169 18-21, F 3 Responses Mar 25

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    i was unaware of what i was doing .

    i knew i was unique and better then other people but i never thought it was because of a personality disorder . i just thought this is and was who i am. i actually read about npd before and never made the connection to myself . wierd? yes. i always made it ok in my mind for...
    nikeboy488 nikeboy488 22-25, M 1 Response Jan 14

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    i have a difficulty in understanding people.

    .i always make a good first impression but cant sustain..it is very difficult for me understand why people fall in love..all i am attracted is to their physical appearance...
    seacod911 seacod911 16-17, M Jan 21

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    I am most likely a covert NPD.

    I am in a relationship and I broke it up 7 times in 6 months. Just as something I don't like happens I pick on it, I make an issues of if and take it to the extreme of break up. I called my girlfriend names in front of her family blaming alcohol for it in a response to an...
    fakeidholder fakeidholder 41-45, M 2 Responses Jan 7

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    Randomly Thinking.

    As stated somewhere else in this group I have narcissistic tendencies. I've been running over this in my head for some time. I do not fit the stereotypical definition of a narcissist. I certainly do not love myself. In fact I can list the things I wouldn't change on two hands...
    BeteNoire BeteNoire 26-30, F 5 Responses Nov 20, 2011

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    I Use People

    I think I use people. I used to think I had a lot of very good friendships, but now I am starting to think that no one ever really liked me that much. My parents paid too much attention to me as a child, and I think I was spoiled. I never worked as hard as I could have in many...
    deleted deleted 26-30 9 Responses Jan 10, 2011

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    Frankly, I'M Disappointed.

    Lets start this off with a couple questions. Why in the hell would a narcissist try to not be a narcissist? Do people not realize that narcissism is a gift? I've read a lot of articles claiming people with NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder) who want help to suppress it...
    Demerviose Demerviose 22-25, M 7 Responses Apr 15, 2013

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    Discovering Npd At 61!

    My second life crisis in 7-years has finally revealed a shameful fact.  After hours of internet research I have concluded that I have narcissistic personality disorder.  I hate myself because of this.  There is so much written about the victims of the N, and so...
    TomHil TomHil 61-65 5 Responses Jun 5, 2010

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    I Just Recently Came Into Terms With Myself.

    When I'm right, I'm right, no doubt. And when I'm wrong, I usually accept that I'm wrong. Am I a narcissist? So it seems. My father is the biggest narcissist I know, and according to my cousin on his side, it runs in his side of the family. It makes sense. My dad could never...
    PresumptuousLittleAngel PresumptuousLittleAngel 18-21 2 Responses Nov 11, 2011

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    A correct post - first of all,

    I am NOT a narcissist BUT... an Egotism! AND NO! I do not find it important to write this elsewhere. Where ever Sazzio's post is that is THEE correct place for it, like if one man stands in a queue that's where the queue starts. No questions asked. Anyways, Sazzio declares...
    Sazzio Sazzio 22-25, M Feb 6

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    #12 I Look

    I look in the mirror and what do I see? I see me looking back at me. I wonder, why am I  the only me I am good enough, there should be At least three. Of me.
    DragonBlue DragonBlue 66-70 2 Responses Nov 5, 2010

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    You All Really Are Disposable.

    Don't get me wrong, I'm not excluded. Think of all the names that have come and gone. You can't be so naive to think this will stop happening. Your co-workers and siblings and friends and yes your spouse and children will be gone. It's only a matter of time. You will lose them...
    aponymous aponymous 41-45, M 1 Response Oct 7, 2013

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    I Hate Myself

    so much that I'm convinced I'm a narcissist.
    aponymous aponymous 41-45, M 1 Response Sep 24, 2013

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    We Are Good People.

    Narcissists have troubled pasts and in a way, it enriches the future. I've known a couple narcissists in my time on this planet and we all have been helpers. We help the lady across the street, we open doors for people we hangout with, we are very aware to other's emotions and...
    Demerviose Demerviose 22-25, M 13 Responses Jun 25, 2013

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    I am living with a narcissist

    and it's ruining my life!
    summerfest summerfest 41-45, F 3 Responses Mar 23

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    Tedium Of Life Only Broken By Own Brilliance

    I'm a perfectionist, to the extent that I redo work if my pen splodges three pages in. Other peoples' limitations frustrate me - for example, in class, when we're doing a translation, and other people take ten minutes, I will be done in two and I get irritated. People getting...
    tartansheep tartansheep 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 11, 2013

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    My intelligence level puts me in the top 0.

    5% of the population. I also beautiful. I get constant attention and compliments, and if I don't, I'll seek it out. I surround myself with men who adore me and then complain when they want more from me. It's ironic, because I believe this need to be constantly adored comes...
    LostSoulFreeSpirit LostSoulFreeSpirit 22-25, F 1 Response Jan 3

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    That's My Clinical Diagnosis!

    What the hell???  That's what our marriage therapist told me today.  I was shocked and dejected, and then angry, but when I got home and looked it up on the internet, I realized that it's an accurate diagnosis!  Yikes.  Well, I suppose that the upside (the...
    deleted deleted 26-30 11 Responses Nov 7, 2007

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    Troubled Narcissist.

    So, I'm 23 going on 5, and altho my steps have been tiny i am slowly coming to the realisation that i am a narcissist and i need serious help.  Up untill about 3 days ago i could not of even told you what a narcissist is. I probably still cant all tho i honestly feel that i am...
    Deanisstilltrying Deanisstilltrying 22-25, M 20 Responses Mar 11, 2011

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    22 Years As The Narcissit

    Part of this comes from a comment I made to another post, but I thought I would expand on it a bit. For some people, just hearing the word Narcissist paints the picture of a soulless evil person with absolutely no conscience. For those, there is likely very little I could say to...
    scrambledheart scrambledheart 36-40, M 4 Responses Jan 31, 2013

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    I Am A Narcissist

    And I wish I could fix it or just fully accept it and make it work. If I just tell everyone then it won't matter if I am right?
    Johnls Johnls 31-35, M 1 Response Sep 25, 2013

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    these are my honest behaviours.

    1. I think I can be anything in life by being better than others. 2. Its my way or else 3.I have selfish ambitions 4. I think I'm better than people 5.I don't treat people right by having lack of empathy and no heart 6.I have selfish prioritization. I lift weights as my ultimate...
    kevindp kevindp 18-21, M 1 Response Jan 7

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    I Have A Vanity Issue...

    I had a heart to heart last night with a g/f right before we got off work and she suggested that I have NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder) This morning I looked at several definitions and I wonder if its just a vanity problem??? Because I am a humble person, very humble...
    HotBoxDatRocks HotBoxDatRocks 22-25, F 5 Responses Aug 22, 2013

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    Ignorance on borderline personality disorder.

    I would like to cut out your brain and stomp on it because it would not even be worth studying something so insignificant and uneducated. If you wanted to change You would change, **** you sir! Go into my head for an hour and you will kill yourself. Thank God I have BPD with...
    frozenFire6767 frozenFire6767 26-30, F 2 Responses Dec 2, 2013

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    I am not sure if im a narcissist

    so I want a second opinion on the matter. Ive always had a grand desire for power wealth control etc and always had a grand image of myself as perfect and better than everyone else and if people dont realize it then theres something wrong with them, I can take compliments but...
    Joshrtty Joshrtty 22-25, M 1 Response 1 day ago

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    Malignant Narcissism...

    I have traveled from diagnosis to diagnosis... Being power-hungry, murderous, calculated... Lying for the hell of it, controlling others, manipulating because I just happened to be good at it... My parents often told me, when they got mad at me, that I didn't have one empathic...
    Quantumphysica Quantumphysica 18-21, F 11 Responses Dec 28, 2012

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    The Double Standard The That Really Is A 2-Way Street.

    So, I work in a male dominated industry and report to a female who's about 10 yrs younger than me. I have no problem either one of those aspect, but it is very relevant to this situation - well, maybe not her but definitely the gender. She has occaissonaly expressed (valid...
    aponymous aponymous 41-45, M Sep 26, 2013

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    This Is What I'Ve Done My Whole Life

    I LIE to make myself look good (partially because I'm anti social and I feel like I don't have much to offer so I lie if someone ever asks me personal questions) I hate and am ashamed of my dad...so I lie about him to not look like a total loser. I can see when someone is...
    PaperSky PaperSky 22-25, F 3 Responses Jun 2, 2013

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    The Things I Enjoy About My Narcissism #3

    My view of things. In reality (outside of EP), one of my hobbies is drawing. Ever since I was young, I could pick up on things like colours, textures, and different lighting. As my narcissism grew, my ability to construct my world became easier because I know what I want to see...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jun 22, 2012

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    The days I differentiate myself from others such

    as today are the best of days. For I understand my narcissism as mere confidence of superiority. While my sociopathy is prevalent most days, it shows itself during little everyday maneuvers such as my ride on an elevator earlier. I witnessed a girl my age get onto the elevator...
    DarkVessel DarkVessel 18-21, F Mar 19

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    i actually have no feelings

    when i leave a relationship even 7 years worth i can up and leave with no feeling at all . but if my spouse leaves me i will beg her to stay i cannot fathem being left or rejected. ihave to fix it make it right . i need attention. i look for it everywhere i go. i always feel all...
    nikeboy488 nikeboy488 22-25, M 2 Responses Jan 14

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    # 140 Be Nice Now

    Narcissits of the world, unite. Make someone's dreams come true tonight. Smile and wink and flirt a little. Give them a flutter in their middle. Then turn around and walk away. And leave them happy for one more day.
    DragonBlue DragonBlue 66-70 Dec 16, 2010

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    I have no emotions. When my Father left our

    family to fend for ourselves, I felt nothing. When my Grandmother died, I felt nothing. When I witnessed my roommate seriously injure his neck, I felt nothing at all. These events were only slightly negative, as if someone had dropped and broken a dish.I have no social skills...
    nikeboy488 nikeboy488 22-25, M 4 Responses Jan 15

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    I'm Obsessed With Myself

    I have always had a very strong sense of self. I will shamelessly admit to having a wonderfully unique personality. I know I some people might consider me annoying, even abrasive. But I sort of don't care. I am not a particularly happy person. I am mind-blowingly ambitious and...
    brusselss brusselss 22-25, F 9 Responses Feb 2, 2010

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    Every Day Battle - I Am Losing

    I too have been diagnosed as a narcissist.  I try to control it but honestly lose more than I win.  It's all about what I want and there is little consideration for what others want in most cases.  What does it look like in my life?  Well, I am married but...
    cincychillin cincychillin 36-40, M 3 Responses Nov 12, 2008

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    I Feel Perfect

    Everyday I wake up and see myself and think, I am such an amazing person. The world would be a better place if everyone was like me. I laugh while reading this because this is exactly how I think. I hate to admit it but my ego is huge. And I really, honestly can't help being this...
    oog1129 oog1129 13-15, F 2 Responses Dec 4, 2013

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    Paranoia And Suspicion

    It's been a month. Maybe. More like a month and a half. The utter realization that I maybe am a narcissist. **** is absolutely scary. The realization came when I asked my best friend out to homecoming and I got defensive. My ego hurt and I wasn't afraid to make a comeback, saying...
    PotatoBread PotatoBread 13-15, M 1 Response Dec 1, 2013

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    I Have This Lovely Particular Need To Hurt

    To hurt the ones that I love I feel joy and warm whenever I see them cry . I wonder why ?
    lucepixy lucepixy 18-21, F 4 Responses Oct 22, 2013

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    Unforgiven

    Last year 2007 i realized at the end of the year that i am a narcissist. I have hurt a lot of people and lost a lot of valuable friends because of my behavior. Sometimes i wish i could turn back time and undo everything i have done. I have only thought of myself the whole time...
    SomethingNew SomethingNew 21-25, F 16 Responses Jan 3, 2008

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    BobbyEShields BobbyEShields 31-35, M 3 Responses Feb 20

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    I am 32 year old female whos Narcissism is

    getting more invasive each day. I am extremely good looking...and friendly. I am praised by several people a day, at least. Because of this, I become very hateful towards people who do not compliment me. I know this is not normal, but that doesn't change the way I feel. How can...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Jan 22

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    Not Conceited, Just Narcissistic

    I love to talk about myself. For Christ sakes, I write stories on this website about myself multiple times a day. I think that I have faults, definitely. I also have a deep desire to be better than other people at things. I think I am beautiful, funny, interesting, smart...
    Cutecolleen Cutecolleen 18-21, F 3 Responses Dec 30, 2012

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    Advice On Marriage And Narcissism....

    Hi there...very new, but bear with me.  I recently discovered I have highly narcisstic tendancies.  My wife of 12 years is threatening divorce as she is really just starting to uncover all the pain I have caused her most of our marriage.  She has hidden her...
    verysorryinohio verysorryinohio 36-40 3 Responses Nov 2, 2010

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    My Story

    I was a child and I had the perfect life going on. My mom catered to my every need and denied me nothing. She made it seem as if the world had no wrong or injustice, and prior to junior high school, I had believed her. Junior high came along and my world was CRUSHED. People were...
    MikeToTheLaw MikeToTheLaw 26-30, M 2 Responses Oct 22, 2013

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    I love to read articles about NPD,

    especially in relationships. They always point out how charming, etc I am. I know they say what they think is bad stuff too, but they're only pointing out yet more stuff I can do that they can't. Does anyone else like to read stuff like that?
    WeezyF92 WeezyF92 18-21, M 1 Response Dec 21, 2013

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    If I Am A Narcissist.....

    ...carrying around an eternal wound, much like Amfortas, it is because I eternally seek healing. I search over and over for safety, a place to put the hurt shards back together.  I carry my wound so I may find wholeness.I have been fortunate to know a handful of safe moments...
    theremustbeawayout theremustbeawayout 51-55 3 Responses Oct 3, 2013

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    My narcissism is a little different

    or maybe mild. I don't seek attention ever. The only attention I will ever need is mine. When I meet new people, I am so concentrated on telling them my name that I don't hear there name. At least my psychiatrist said I'm narcissistic.
    AFARASHLEY AFARASHLEY 18-21, M 2 Responses Jan 4

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    My narcissism cuts through my being like a

    double-edged sword. My perpetual idealism fills my empty void with dreams, enthusiasm, delusions of grandoise that mercilessly mocks my ineptitude, mediocrity, and insecurities once I fall short of my power-hungry aspirations. My endless list of goals is backed by an inevitable...
    Snatch17 Snatch17 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 6

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    Related Experiences

    Psychology says: The narcissist needs money to maintain the false image and keep them on the pedestal they put their selves on. Money is the enabler that allows them to surround...
    rcp10 rcp10 31-35, F Apr 8

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    Psychology says: Due to their magical thinking, the narcissist False Self utterly believes that they are unique, omnipotent (all powerful), omniscient (all knowing), in short...
    rcp10 rcp10 31-35, F 1 Response Apr 8

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    Psychology says: Ego Psychology uses the term “Narcissism” to describe someone who is self-centered, and in love with their own image (as in the myth of Narcissus...
    rcp10 rcp10 31-35, F 1 Response Apr 8

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    Hello...... I am hoping somebody could give me some advice, I'll explain my situation and I'll try to keep it short.... I think I have a narcissistic mother. In fact I am pretty...
    blueberry36 blueberry36 36-40, F 2 Responses a week ago

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