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I Am a Non Custodial Mom

This group is for all non custodial mothers who have lost there children through the family court systems 104 People

    June 15th 2012, The Day My Heart Died.

    I will try to sum up my story in as few words as I possibly can...but it won't be easy. In May 2012 I lost my 2 precious boys to their father who lives in Sweden. He won residential custody based on "fraud". My ex said I moved our family back to America simply to divorce him...
    MomPom MomPom 36-40, F Dec 3, 2012

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    Easter without all my kids

    and as unbelievable as this may sound I'm being denied time with them for "non cooperation"
    alexakisfan1997 alexakisfan1997 31-35, F Apr 18, 2014

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    Every Moment Is Like Living Hell

    I want to share my story. I came across the ep because I was researching info and it lead me here. This group is the most important to me but I have been avoiding looking at this page. The pain never stops. At times I cannot believe I can contain this amount of pain inside of my...
    psychomagnet psychomagnet 31-35, F 16 Responses Jul 11, 2013

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    How did I become a non custodial mom?

    About 6 years ago my ex kicked me out of our house with nowhere to go and no money.this wasn't the first time he had done this but that's a whole different experience.Anyway I had been a stay at home mom/homemaker for the last 6 years of our relationship, we never married.That...
    strikeout3 strikeout3 36-40, F 3 Responses Mar 6, 2014

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    Half Mom Half God Knows What

      i am also dealing with an unusual parenting experience..(very unusual!) i have a child , a beautiful child! from an unwanted pregnancy. yes it was unwanted and i was forced into having this little angel. i wanted to die..i didnt want neither the child nor the father. didnt...
    loveislifeislove loveislifeislove 26-30 2 Responses Aug 4, 2012

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    Yes, I Too, Am a Non Custodial Mother

    And it sucks. I left my "marriage" 2.5 years ago, and have been ducking ever since. The guilt I feel is overwhelming at times. I miss my little girls so much, the pain is unbearable. Mostly, I guess I just beat myself up all the time, which is dangerous to do...
    unknownlegend763 unknownlegend763 41-45 8 Responses Feb 8, 2009

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    I Need To Know Im Not Alone!

    my oldest son is 3 yrs old, his dad and i split when he was 7 months old, (jan. of '09) we went to court and i agreed to do joint custody, week on week off, everything 50/50 to be "fair" and not feel guilty as well as to help me finish high school and start college (i know super...
    wifenmomof2 wifenmomof2 18-21 2 Responses Aug 2, 2011

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    A Vindictive Ex- I filed

    for divorce in November 1999 in my native United States after 8 years of marriage. My children then 5 and 7 years old were back in Baku, Azerbaijan and my ex immediately vowed that I would NEVER have them and he wouldn't pay me Alimony or Child Support. He let me see them in...
    Cherokeebelle Cherokeebelle 41-45, F 3 Responses Apr 11

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    Non-custodial Mom For 7 Years; Sometimes The Longing Becomes Overwhelming

    I have been a non-custodial mom for seven years, live in another state, and see my 14 year old son during summers and holiday breaks. The fall is the hardest when I have to go four months without seeing him, and needless to say, he's not much of a phone caller. Seven years ago...
    hkelley hkelley 46-50 1 Response Oct 10, 2011

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    My heart is broken. I miss my son

    so much. It had always been he and I for 7 years. I don't know how to not have him in my life. He lives 2000 miles away. I can't work, i cry everyday.
    jacksmomma2000 jacksmomma2000 46-50, F 1 Response Jun 20

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    My Story

    My heart has been empty since my ex called me and told me he was taking me to court for our 3 children , his parents have money so they got him a lawyer... I on the other hand , had to rely on legal aid... Which I got declined cause it was a QLD matter , I applied for legal aid...
    Shonny29 Shonny29 31-35, F 2 Responses Nov 3, 2013

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    Thinking About Giving Custody Of My Son To His Father

    I currently have full custody of my 7 year old son. His father has been fighting me for custody since we split up when he was 2 years old. He will not stop fighting me and he has money, which I do not. My son has a range of behavioral disorders and I have tried to cope and...
    serenabelle54 serenabelle54 22-25 1 Response Oct 4, 2012

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    Non-custodial Mom With Autistic Kids

    I was married to a controlling, psychologically abusive man for 16 years. During that time, I had to endure guilt over talking to friends and family, belittlement, and head games. Two beautiful children came out of that marriage, and my oldest from my first marriage had siblings...
    rainmom rainmom 41-45, F 2 Responses Sep 15, 2012

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    Years Of Pain

    I am a non custodial mother living in Connecticut. My children have been in Michigan with their father for the past 4 years. The relationship was abusive and controlling, and thankfully the divorce was finalized in 2011. One problem I have ( among many) is my ex-husbands...
    IntoEther IntoEther 31-35, F 1 Response Sep 26, 2013

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    How I Became A Noncustodial Mom

    my exhusband and i split up. he moved in with his mother in his hometown and i got an apartment for myself and our 3 kids in the town we lived in at the time.my mother had just passed away from cancer and i had guardianship of my 2 younger brothers. the apartment i had was large...
    j050103 j050103 26-30 May 16, 2012

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    My Angels Are So Missed

    My ex and I battled for years..he cheated on me when I was pregnant with our second son.  Nine months after I delivered we seperated and it was myself and the boys until he moved in with his new girlfriend.  At that time they had a lot of money to burn on attorneys and...
    ldegilio ldegilio 36-40 2 Responses Jan 19, 2012

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    A Love So Strong...a Pain So Deep!

    I'm a non custodial mom of 3 beautiful children aged 8, 12 and 14 as well as a custodial mom of a 6 year old bundle of joy. I divorced my ex 5 years ago after 10 years of marriage. Nine of those years I worked and ran the home but I wasn't allowed access to my own money. He...
    Alwaysemptymom Alwaysemptymom 36-40 1 Response Dec 12, 2012

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    I Am Preparing For Battle.

    I am preparing for my second time around with the family courts. I hope to find others here who have been through it or who are going through it. Unfortunately, my first experience with the family courts lasted over 13 years. It came to an end in a violent and awful way...
    Teger Teger 41-45 6 Responses Dec 1, 2010

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    From Stay-at-home-mom To Non-custodial Mom

    I lost custody of my children to the court system and a very abusive and manipulating man who is the father of my children because he has a lawyer who is just relentless. It has been a heartwrenching experience after being a stay-at-home-mom to four for almost fourteen years. Its...
    mamabutterfly mamabutterfly 36-40, F 3 Responses Sep 17, 2012

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    When my kids got a little older their father

    talked them into living with him. I let them go because I didn't want them to have to choose a parent to live with. Things have gone downhill sense, he alienates them from me. When you tell people this, they look at you like you did something wrong to get your kids taken away.
    japcookie3 japcookie3 31-35, F 2 Responses Mar 26

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    My Custody Battle, My Nightmare!

    I found a site where moms alike could share their story and being a member of this site, I thought I would share with you what I wrote on the other site. Its called noncustodialmoms.com I began to write this in response to another post on that site, and well I just figured I...
    mamabutterfly mamabutterfly 36-40, F 8 Responses Jul 19, 2013

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    Free Bellar

    I haven't been to court, yet. We have had mediation and as of now I stick to the agreement I made with Isabella's father. Which is every other Sunday thru Tuesday. at the time i thought it was best for her to stay at her Grandmother's with her father while I was in a one...
    elle2l elle2l 22-25, F Feb 9, 2010

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    I am dealing with not having my 6 year old son

    with me. My ex husband and I were married in one state and had my son. We divorced, I remarried. Me & my husband had to move away because of my husbands work. My ex & I have joint custody, him being the custodial parent because I live across the country. I want my son to be here...
    AFK1029 AFK1029 36-40, F 1 Response Aug 15, 2014

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    Neieve

    who was victimized by .....the Court system. I'm not sure how to start all of this ---there is A LOT!!!--my husband was arrested for domestic violence call made by neighbors ---(official arrest was for warrant,traffic violation) I went to my mothers house, a few towns away, after...
    devastamom devastamom 26-30 1 Response Nov 10, 2009

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    When Abuser Gets Custody

    I am a Non Custodial Mom and I love my daughter as much as any custodial mother. At the age of twenty two I met my second abusive partner but I had no idea how much he would change my life. He became abusive very soon in the relationship. It was actually right after I gave up my...
    KristyLanae KristyLanae 26-30 6 Responses Aug 14, 2008

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    How Do You Move On?

    How do you get over this? Or at the very least come to terms with it? It has been two years since I have seen my children...yes I have a visitation order, but since my ex gave physical custody to his mom...my court order has no effect and I have no way of going to court to fight...
    mrsbrightside1978 mrsbrightside1978 31-35, F 3 Responses May 30, 2012

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    17 Years Without-In 1997 I was preparing to be

    transferred from Yokohama Japan back to a base in the United States(I was in the Army) when my lover of the last 6 years a half Asian/half White local guy vanished taking our 3 and 5 year olds with him. His mother had never approved of our relationship and she had been demanding...
    45ChocNFab 45ChocNFab 41-45, F 1 Response Feb 8

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    littleONEE littleONEE 16-17, F 14 hrs ago

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    lizardking22 lizardking22 46-50, M 1 Response 1 day ago

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    duckyluck duckyluck 18-21, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    TheBMASTER90 TheBMASTER90 22-25, M 1 Response 5 days ago

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    I played with my mom's hair in the middle of the store, she asked me if I was playing with her hair,then I said yes. we talked about it and now she just lets me touch her hair. on...
    mhzbaby mhzbaby 16-17, M 6 days ago

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    RileyRed RileyRed 18-21, F 6 days ago

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