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I Am a Non Custodial Mom

This group is for all non custodial mothers who have lost there children through the family court systems 78 People

    I Haven't Had My Son Since He Was 9 Months Old

    When I had my son I was 17 years old still living with my mother. My mother didn't know how to step back and let me be a mom, and I didn't know how to step up to my mother so she would let me be a mother. She basically took over about a week after he was born and never let go...
    ForbiddenLove2356 ForbiddenLove2356 22-25, F Nov 12, 2012

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    How Do You Move On?

    How do you get over this? Or at the very least come to terms with it? It has been two years since I have seen my children...yes I have a visitation order, but since my ex gave physical custody to his mom...my court order has no effect and I have no way of going to court to fight...
    mrsbrightside1978 mrsbrightside1978 31-35, F 3 Responses May 30, 2012

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    Easter without all my kids

    and as unbelievable as this may sound I'm being denied time with them for "non cooperation"
    alexakisfan1997 alexakisfan1997 31-35, F Apr 18

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    I Am Preparing For Battle.

    I am preparing for my second time around with the family courts. I hope to find others here who have been through it or who are going through it. Unfortunately, my first experience with the family courts lasted over 13 years. It came to an end in a violent and awful way...
    Teger Teger 41-45 7 Responses Dec 1, 2010

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    I Need To Know Im Not Alone!

    my oldest son is 3 yrs old, his dad and i split when he was 7 months old, (jan. of '09) we went to court and i agreed to do joint custody, week on week off, everything 50/50 to be "fair" and not feel guilty as well as to help me finish high school and start college (i know super...
    wifenmomof2 wifenmomof2 18-21 1 Response Aug 2, 2011

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    How I Became A Noncustodial Mom

    my exhusband and i split up. he moved in with his mother in his hometown and i got an apartment for myself and our 3 kids in the town we lived in at the time.my mother had just passed away from cancer and i had guardianship of my 2 younger brothers. the apartment i had was large...
    j050103 j050103 26-30 May 16, 2012

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    My Angels Are So Missed

    My ex and I battled for years..he cheated on me when I was pregnant with our second son.  Nine months after I delivered we seperated and it was myself and the boys until he moved in with his new girlfriend.  At that time they had a lot of money to burn on attorneys and...
    ldegilio ldegilio 36-40 2 Responses Jan 19, 2012

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    How did I become a non custodial mom?

    About 6 years ago my ex kicked me out of our house with nowhere to go and no money.this wasn't the first time he had done this but that's a whole different experience.Anyway I had been a stay at home mom/homemaker for the last 6 years of our relationship, we never married.That...
    strikeout3 strikeout3 36-40, F 2 Responses Mar 6

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    Thinking About Giving Custody Of My Son To His Father

    I currently have full custody of my 7 year old son. His father has been fighting me for custody since we split up when he was 2 years old. He will not stop fighting me and he has money, which I do not. My son has a range of behavioral disorders and I have tried to cope and...
    serenabelle54 serenabelle54 22-25 1 Response Oct 4, 2012

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    Non-custodial Mom With Autistic Kids

    I was married to a controlling, psychologically abusive man for 16 years. During that time, I had to endure guilt over talking to friends and family, belittlement, and head games. Two beautiful children came out of that marriage, and my oldest from my first marriage had siblings...
    rainmom rainmom 41-45, F 1 Response Sep 15, 2012

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    From Stay-at-home-mom To Non-custodial Mom

    I lost custody of my children to the court system and a very abusive and manipulating man who is the father of my children because he has a lawyer who is just relentless. It has been a heartwrenching experience after being a stay-at-home-mom to four for almost fourteen years. Its...
    mamabutterfly mamabutterfly 36-40, F 2 Responses Sep 17, 2012

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    Half Mom Half God Knows What

      i am also dealing with an unusual parenting experience..(very unusual!) i have a child , a beautiful child! from an unwanted pregnancy. yes it was unwanted and i was forced into having this little angel. i wanted to die..i didnt want neither the child nor the father. didnt...
    loveislifeislove loveislifeislove 26-30 2 Responses Aug 4, 2012

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    Yes, I Too, Am a Non Custodial Mother

    And it sucks. I left my "marriage" 2.5 years ago, and have been ducking ever since. The guilt I feel is overwhelming at times. I miss my little girls so much, the pain is unbearable. Mostly, I guess I just beat myself up all the time, which is dangerous to do...
    unknownlegend763 unknownlegend763 41-45 7 Responses Feb 8, 2009

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    My Parents Don't Think I Have The Right

    I am 22 have a 5 year old son, who my mother has custody of but sent him 3000 miles away to live with my dad. I had no say in the matter. I have always been in my son's life, I just had issues I needed to take care of for myself before I could be the kind of mother my son needed...
    ForbiddenLove2356 ForbiddenLove2356 22-25, F 3 Responses Nov 20, 2012

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    My Story

    My heart has been empty since my ex called me and told me he was taking me to court for our 3 children , his parents have money so they got him a lawyer... I on the other hand , had to rely on legal aid... Which I got declined cause it was a QLD matter , I applied for legal aid...
    Shonny29 Shonny29 31-35, F 2 Responses Nov 3, 2013

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    Years Of Pain

    I am a non custodial mother living in Connecticut. My children have been in Michigan with their father for the past 4 years. The relationship was abusive and controlling, and thankfully the divorce was finalized in 2011. One problem I have ( among many) is my ex-husbands...
    IntoEther IntoEther 31-35, F 1 Response Sep 26, 2013

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    June 15th 2012, The Day My Heart Died.

    I will try to sum up my story in as few words as I possibly can...but it won't be easy. In May 2012 I lost my 2 precious boys to their father who lives in Sweden. He won residential custody based on "fraud". My ex said I moved our family back to America simply to divorce him...
    MomPom MomPom 36-40, F Dec 3, 2012

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    Free Bellar

    I haven't been to court, yet. We have had mediation and as of now I stick to the agreement I made with Isabella's father. Which is every other Sunday thru Tuesday. at the time i thought it was best for her to stay at her Grandmother's with her father while I was in a one...
    elle2l elle2l 23, F Feb 9, 2010

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    My Custody Battle, My Nightmare!

    I found a site where moms alike could share their story and being a member of this site, I thought I would share with you what I wrote on the other site. Its called noncustodialmoms.com I began to write this in response to another post on that site, and well I just figured I...
    mamabutterfly mamabutterfly 36-40, F 6 Responses Jul 19, 2013

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    Every Moment Is Like Living Hell

    I want to share my story. I came across the ep because I was researching info and it lead me here. This group is the most important to me but I have been avoiding looking at this page. The pain never stops. At times I cannot believe I can contain this amount of pain inside of my...
    psychomagnet psychomagnet 31-35, F 15 Responses Jul 11, 2013

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    A Love So Strong...a Pain So Deep!

    I'm a non custodial mom of 3 beautiful children aged 8, 12 and 14 as well as a custodial mom of a 6 year old bundle of joy. I divorced my ex 5 years ago after 10 years of marriage. Nine of those years I worked and ran the home but I wasn't allowed access to my own money. He...
    Alwaysemptymom Alwaysemptymom 36-40 1 Response Dec 12, 2012

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    Non-custodial Mom For 7 Years; Sometimes The Longing Becomes Overwhelming

    I have been a non-custodial mom for seven years, live in another state, and see my 14 year old son during summers and holiday breaks. The fall is the hardest when I have to go four months without seeing him, and needless to say, he's not much of a phone caller. Seven years ago...
    hkelley hkelley 46-50 1 Response Oct 10, 2011

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    When Abuser Gets Custody

    I am a Non Custodial Mom and I love my daughter as much as any custodial mother. At the age of twenty two I met my second abusive partner but I had no idea how much he would change my life. He became abusive very soon in the relationship. It was actually right after I gave up my...
    KristyLanae KristyLanae 26-30 6 Responses Aug 14, 2008

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    Neieve

    who was victimized by .....the Court system. I'm not sure how to start all of this ---there is A LOT!!!--my husband was arrested for domestic violence call made by neighbors ---(official arrest was for warrant,traffic violation) I went to my mothers house, a few towns away, after...
    devastamom devastamom 26-30 1 Response Nov 10, 2009

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    sugarrmagnolia sugarrmagnolia 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 1

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