I Am a Non Custodial Mom

This group is for all non custodial mothers who have lost there children through the family court systems 119 People

    I left for a job opportunity 200 miles away,

    in the middle of my divorce, with the understanding that my kids would join me at school year end. That didn't happen and my divorce took on a hold other side. I was awarded every other weekend/half of summer visitation rights and joint legal custody. That was 3 years ago, and...
    TKnox0925 TKnox0925
    46-50, F
    1 Response Mar 17, 2016

    My Story

    My heart has been empty since my ex called me and told me he was taking me to court for our 3 children , his parents have money so they got him a lawyer... I on the other hand , had to rely on legal aid... Which I got declined cause it was a QLD matter , I applied for legal aid...
    Shonny29 Shonny29
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Nov 3, 2013

    June 15th 2012, The Day My Heart Died.

    I will try to sum up my story in as few words as I possibly can...but it won't be easy. In May 2012 I lost my 2 precious boys to their father who lives in Sweden. He won residential custody based on "fraud". My ex said I moved our family back to America simply to divorce him...
    MomPom MomPom
    36-40, F
    1 Response Dec 3, 2012

    My Angels Are So Missed

    My ex and I battled for years..he cheated on me when I was pregnant with our second son.  Nine months after I delivered we seperated and it was myself and the boys until he moved in with his new girlfriend.  At that time they had a lot of money to burn on attorneys and...
    ldegilio ldegilio
    2 Responses Jan 19, 2012

    How I Became A Noncustodial Mom

    my exhusband and i split up. he moved in with his mother in his hometown and i got an apartment for myself and our 3 kids in the town we lived in at the time.my mother had just passed away from cancer and i had guardianship of my 2 younger brothers. the apartment i had was large...
    j050103 j050103
    May 16, 2012

    Non-custodial Mom With Autistic Kids

    I was married to a controlling, psychologically abusive man for 16 years. During that time, I had to endure guilt over talking to friends and family, belittlement, and head games. Two beautiful children came out of that marriage, and my oldest from my first marriage had siblings...
    rainmom rainmom
    41-45, F
    2 Responses Sep 15, 2012

    A Love So Strong...a Pain So Deep!

    I'm a non custodial mom of 3 beautiful children aged 8, 12 and 14 as well as a custodial mom of a 6 year old bundle of joy. I divorced my ex 5 years ago after 10 years of marriage. Nine of those years I worked and ran the home but I wasn't allowed access to my own money. He...
    Alwaysemptymom Alwaysemptymom
    1 Response Dec 12, 2012


    who was victimized by .....the Court system. I'm not sure how to start all of this ---there is A LOT!!!--my husband was arrested for domestic violence call made by neighbors ---(official arrest was for warrant,traffic violation) I went to my mothers house, a few towns away, after...
    devastamom devastamom
    1 Response Nov 10, 2009

    I Am Preparing For Battle.

    I am preparing for my second time around with the family courts. I hope to find others here who have been through it or who are going through it. Unfortunately, my first experience with the family courts lasted over 13 years. It came to an end in a violent and awful way...
    Teger Teger
    6 Responses Dec 1, 2010

    I haven't seen my sweet 12 year old in over a

    year. my ex accomplished this with harrasment restraining orders. I feel so alone
    hanik hanik
    41-45, F
    1 Response Mar 11, 2016

    I'm a mom. I want to be a mom,

    I try so hard to be a mom. Only thing is, my two amazing boys are with their father. A father who has chosen to deliberately eliminate me from their lives. Ironically, the same father who left me while I was 3 months pregnant with our second son for 6 years. He completely...
    solaces solaces
    36-40, F
    4 Responses Feb 4, 2016

    Every Moment Is Like Living Hell

    I want to share my story. I came across the ep because I was researching info and it lead me here. This group is the most important to me but I have been avoiding looking at this page. The pain never stops. At times I cannot believe I can contain this amount of pain inside of my...
    psychomagnet psychomagnet
    36-40, F
    15 Responses Jul 11, 2013

    When Abuser Gets Custody

    I am a Non Custodial Mom and I love my daughter as much as any custodial mother. At the age of twenty two I met my second abusive partner but I had no idea how much he would change my life. He became abusive very soon in the relationship. It was actually right after I gave up my...
    KristyLanae KristyLanae
    6 Responses Aug 14, 2008

    From Stay-at-home-mom To Non-custodial Mom

    I lost custody of my children to the court system and a very abusive and manipulating man who is the father of my children because he has a lawyer who is just relentless. It has been a heartwrenching experience after being a stay-at-home-mom to four for almost fourteen years. Its...
    mamabutterfly mamabutterfly
    36-40, F
    3 Responses Sep 17, 2012

    When my kids got a little older their father

    talked them into living with him. I let them go because I didn't want them to have to choose a parent to live with. Things have gone downhill sense, he alienates them from me. When you tell people this, they look at you like you did something wrong to get your kids taken away.
    japcookie3 japcookie3
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Mar 26, 2015

    How Do You Move On?

    How do you get over this? Or at the very least come to terms with it? It has been two years since I have seen my children...yes I have a visitation order, but since my ex gave physical custody to his mom...my court order has no effect and I have no way of going to court to fight...
    mrsbrightside1978 mrsbrightside1978
    31-35, F
    3 Responses May 30, 2012

    How did I become a non custodial mom?

    About 6 years ago my ex kicked me out of our house with nowhere to go and no money.this wasn't the first time he had done this but that's a whole different experience.Anyway I had been a stay at home mom/homemaker for the last 6 years of our relationship, we never married.That...
    strikeout3 strikeout3
    41-45, F
    4 Responses Mar 6, 2014

    Free Bellar

    I haven't been to court, yet. We have had mediation and as of now I stick to the agreement I made with Isabella's father. Which is every other Sunday thru Tuesday. at the time i thought it was best for her to stay at her Grandmother's with her father while I was in a one...
    elle2l elle2l
    22-25, F
    Feb 9, 2010

    Hi everyone. My names Liz

    and I am a non custodial mom in CT. I have a 4 yr old and an 8yr old one whom I don't have custody of, and the other I do have custody of but she does not live with me. Both my daughters live with their dads. My youngest daughter was about 8 months old when I ended up homeless...
    CTMama CTMama
    31-35, F
    1 Response Oct 10, 2015

    I am a non-custodial mom of two young daughters.

    Every time I say goodbye it's like chopping off a piece of my heart. Does anyone live in CT that would want to start a support group for non custodial moms. I would be willing to organize it.
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Aug 29, 2015

    My Custody Battle, My Nightmare!

    I found a site where moms alike could share their story and being a member of this site, I thought I would share with you what I wrote on the other site. Its called noncustodialmoms.com I began to write this in response to another post on that site, and well I just figured I...
    mamabutterfly mamabutterfly
    36-40, F
    10 Responses Jul 19, 2013

    Half Mom Half God Knows What

      i am also dealing with an unusual parenting experience..(very unusual!) i have a child , a beautiful child! from an unwanted pregnancy. yes it was unwanted and i was forced into having this little angel. i wanted to die..i didnt want neither the child nor the father. didnt...
    loveislifeislove loveislifeislove
    1 Response Aug 4, 2012

    Yes, I Too, Am a Non Custodial Mother

    And it sucks. I left my "marriage" 2.5 years ago, and have been ducking ever since. The guilt I feel is overwhelming at times. I miss my little girls so much, the pain is unbearable. Mostly, I guess I just beat myself up all the time, which is dangerous to do...
    unknownlegend763 unknownlegend763
    8 Responses Feb 8, 2009

    I Need To Know Im Not Alone!

    my oldest son is 3 yrs old, his dad and i split when he was 7 months old, (jan. of '09) we went to court and i agreed to do joint custody, week on week off, everything 50/50 to be "fair" and not feel guilty as well as to help me finish high school and start college (i know super...
    wifenmomof2 wifenmomof2
    2 Responses Aug 2, 2011

    Easter without all my kids

    and as unbelievable as this may sound I'm being denied time with them for "non cooperation"
    alexakisfan1997 alexakisfan1997
    31-35, F
    Apr 18, 2014

    Thinking About Giving Custody Of My Son To His Father

    I currently have full custody of my 7 year old son. His father has been fighting me for custody since we split up when he was 2 years old. He will not stop fighting me and he has money, which I do not. My son has a range of behavioral disorders and I have tried to cope and...
    serenabelle54 serenabelle54
    1 Response Oct 4, 2012

    Years Of Pain

    I am a non custodial mother living in Connecticut. My children have been in Michigan with their father for the past 4 years. The relationship was abusive and controlling, and thankfully the divorce was finalized in 2011. One problem I have ( among many) is my ex-husbands...
    IntoEther IntoEther
    31-35, F
    3 Responses Sep 26, 2013

    I'm the dad. It took me ten years to realize

    it. My ex and I divorced ten years ago, and he got primary physical custody (we have joint legal custody, not that that means much). I didn't let my child go, nor did the judge order it - I was coerced, plain and simple. I was young and naive, and my ex and his attorney...
    mutecalliope mutecalliope
    31-35, F
    Jan 20, 2016

    A Vindictive Ex- I filed

    for divorce in November 1999 in my native United States after 8 years of marriage. My children then 5 and 7 years old were back in Baku, Azerbaijan and my ex immediately vowed that I would NEVER have them and he wouldn't pay me Alimony or Child Support. He let me see them in...
    Cherokeebelle Cherokeebelle
    46-50, F
    3 Responses Apr 11, 2015

    17 Years Without-In 1997 I was preparing to be

    transferred from Yokohama Japan back to a base in the United States(I was in the Army) when my lover of the last 6 years a half Asian/half White local guy vanished taking our 3 and 5 year olds with him. His mother had never approved of our relationship and she had been demanding...
    45ChocNFab 45ChocNFab
    46-50, F
    1 Response Feb 8, 2015

    Non-custodial Mom For 7 Years; Sometimes The Longing Becomes Overwhelming

    I have been a non-custodial mom for seven years, live in another state, and see my 14 year old son during summers and holiday breaks. The fall is the hardest when I have to go four months without seeing him, and needless to say, he's not much of a phone caller. Seven years ago...
    hkelley hkelley
    1 Response Oct 10, 2011

    I am dealing with not having my 6 year old son

    with me. My ex husband and I were married in one state and had my son. We divorced, I remarried. Me & my husband had to move away because of my husbands work. My ex & I have joint custody, him being the custodial parent because I live across the country. I want my son to be here...
    AFK1029 AFK1029
    41-45, F
    1 Response Aug 15, 2014

    My heart is broken. I miss my son

    so much. It had always been he and I for 7 years. I don't know how to not have him in my life. He lives 2000 miles away. I can't work, i cry everyday.
    jacksmomma2000 jacksmomma2000
    46-50, F
    1 Response Jun 20, 2015
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