I Am A Non-traditional Gay Male

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    "i Am A Non-traditional Gay Male"

    I am a 43 year old gay man who is a non-traditional gay.  I have never had a three-way, been in an open relationship, had group sex, or been to a sex party!  Why is this so acceptable amongst gay men?!  I find it very sad that it feels like the normal...
    aar225213 aar225213
    3 Responses Apr 3, 2010

    Non-traditional Is Just The Tip Of The Iceburg

    I was raised in a Christian home, by two parents that were present in my life, and have been married for 20 years now and are very happy. I have never seen them fight once. I have a half-brother that is 5 years older than me, and we don't get along and never have. I have a step...
    jennings2012 jennings2012
    18-21, M
    10 Responses Aug 9, 2012

    I'm A Christian

    For me it's about love, respect and commitment. Experimenting something bigger than me that would come from the best in me, giving myself completely fearless and enjoying the sense of caring.
    lenovah lenovah
    36-40, M
    1 Response Oct 24, 2013

    I have always admired cornrow braids on men.

    I have been thinking about having them put in my hair for years, I finally did it. I am a white man wearing cornrow braids & have to wear a durag to bed. I did not make it out of the parking lot of the salon without turning heads and people asking me why. Driving my car...
    Saltycracker Saltycracker
    36-40, M
    2 Responses Mar 16, 2014

    The more gay men I have met in my life,

    the more I realize that once you get to know a gay man, you realize most are non-traditional. I do think "non-traditional" is code for "straight-acting" and I know "straight-acting" is a very polarizing term. For some, it comes with judgment, implying that straight-acting is...
    shygrant shygrant
    36-40, M
    Sep 19, 2014

    Is that hetrosexual man

    or male lesbian?
    gypa gypa
    31-35, M
    Aug 6, 2014

    I Refuse To Allow Society To Control How I Express My Sexuality

    So, I like the beautiful creation of the male human being. As well as the opposite sex. However I have been dating men for a couple of years and really have my mind wrapped around this being in the 'closet' thing. I opened up and informed my mother around eighteen years of age...
    Ameliorate Ameliorate
    26-30, M
    3 Responses May 13, 2012

    A Non-Traditional Gay Man?

    I'm so confused as to what a non-traditional gay man is? Is there a traditional side?. is it like a tradition at Christmas? having our family's around and all pull crackers, or I'm not in the gay scene, and sleep with a lot of men? Can anyone help I'm confused?
    ReeceyRoo ReeceyRoo
    26-30, M
    2 Responses Sep 15, 2013

    It's Tough

    I am a very Christian orientated gay man. I am in my early 30's and am still hoping one day soon; The Lord blesses me with someone who was worth every second to wait for. Of course it was hard for me to accept being gay. I even tried counseling to try and change. We know that...
    BrightIrish BrightIrish
    31-35, M
    9 Responses Nov 14, 2012

    Not Your Everyday Gay Man...

    Being gay in this cultural climate is hard enough for some men. Try adding trans* to the top of that cake: voila, DaemonSoul!
    DaemonSoul DaemonSoul
    36-40, M
    1 Response Sep 13, 2013
    PrinceAkeem PrinceAkeem
    18-21, M
    Aug 6, 2014

    Well, lets seeeee. Im a not traditional gay guy

    in more than one way, as i think i have stated in other stories, i do not look gay or act gay in public. But u get me in a room with a cute guy and im just a big teddy bear. But any way, some of the things that make me stand out from other gays other than size is choice of...
    Stillmisseshim Stillmisseshim
    22-25, M
    1 Response Jan 10, 2015

    I am not a stereotypical gay man,

    which is probably one of my worst enemies. I wish I could be more feminine so people could know that I'm gay instead of having to come out all the time to people I meet. So that I don't have to worry if they would continue to being my friend. I hate the feeling of "having to...
    lorsive lorsive
    22-25, M
    4 Responses Dec 12, 2013

    I Am Bi .i...

    I am a 25 year old bisexual woman from US. I discovered that I was bi-curious when I was 17. I went out looking for one thing and found another. It took me a long time to come to terms with the fact that I am bi. After one experience with a woman (she was hot, passionate and...
    bisexuallucy bisexuallucy
    26-30, F
    1 Response Jul 4, 2012

    I'm a 22 year old gay man.

    I play rugby for my college. Nobody knows that I am gay except my boyfriend and a few of his friends. Here is the non-traditional part: I am 22 and my boyfriend is 56. He's a hell of a guy and I love him a lot. We are both very masculine guys, hairy, with tattoos, not the...
    26-30, M
    8 Responses Dec 28, 2013

    Hey, I'm looking for a friend.

    I'm posting this here because things always get awkward with straight guys. Hope someone will respond :) I really need someone to talk to
    anwalker154 anwalker154
    26-30, F
    1 Response Nov 8, 2015
    MichaelMyers1 MichaelMyers1
    22-25, M
    1 Response Nov 9, 2015

    I Am Bi. I...

    I am a 25 year old bisexual woman from US. I discovered that I was bi-curious when I was 17. I went out looking for one thing and found another. It took me a long time to come to terms with the fact that I am bi. After one experience with a woman (she was hot, passionate and...
    bisexuallucy bisexuallucy
    26-30, F
    Jul 4, 2012

    I am a feminine sissy boy

    who is wondering if any masculine men are interested in treating me like a Disney princess?
    FemGayBottom FemGayBottom
    31-35, T
    3 Responses Apr 3, 2014

    Not The Expected Breed Here.....

    Hi,I am non-traditional because I do not speak the 'gay lingo', utilize my sexuality more than what it is; because it is one part of me and shouldn't be exerted ostentatiously, conceited, too concerned with sex,  and too concerned with superficial aspects of...
    Ameliorate Ameliorate
    26-30, M
    4 Responses Jan 12, 2010

    Many First Times

    Ive been in a relationship now for about 2.5 years. I was married . . .twice before trying to do what I thought was right. Also I was in the ministry working as a music minister. I had never set foot into a bar of any kind let alone a gay bar. Never had seen a drag show. I pretty...
    tobeyray tobeyray
    46-50, M
    2 Responses Aug 24, 2010

    Normal Joe

    i am not the flaming queen type and don't care to be with that kind. i am mascline; but i am not into sports. maybe tis is traditional; but i do like to see the male form well displayed. that is swimmers, divers or gymnists. none of my friends know or will say that i am gay. they...
    sfrancisk sfrancisk
    61-65, M
    Oct 2, 2012

    Typically Gay, But Not Your Typical Gay.

    I guess anyone who knows me would say that it was expected that I would grow up to be a gay man; but along with my runway model walk, inflected voice, and outrageous attitude, i am also a very typical man of my generation. By that I mean I am very much a nerdy fratboy. Video...
    mattyg2k6 mattyg2k6
    31-35, M
    Nov 11, 2013
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