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I Am a Pastor's Wife

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    New Minister'S Wife

    My husband has been in ministry for some time, but has just been ordained as a minister 2years ago. I have longed for guidance on what the expectations are for me as his wife, but have yet to receive this from the First Lady or the Pastor. It seems they have focused all of their...
    Barbie1979 Barbie1979 31-35, F 7 Responses Mar 14, 2013

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    So Alone.... I Have Nobody To Communiate With And Ready To Leave

    If are a Pastor's wife and you think you are lonely you have no idea what loneliness is. My wife is Methodist Pastor and any help out there is for Pastor's wives, not Pastor's husbands. Pastor's wives can get together can support one another. Forr me to develope a relationship...
    veryluckyduck veryluckyduck 46-50, M 4 Responses Jun 30, 2013

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    Need Friends

    I am in need of fellow pastor wifes for friendship. I feel so alone in this with no one i can trust or that could understand what i am going through and yet i also have questions . I sometimes get discouraged and depressed by not having anyone to talk to about these issues, I'm...
    JensPaws JensPaws 31-35 7 Responses Jun 13, 2013

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    Pastor's Wife

    I have been a pastor's wife for 4 years now.  It hasn't gotten any easier but my husband now sees the pressures and the tolls it lays on the family.  We currently worked as a team in the youth ministry for nearly 15 years and then he took his first job as a pastor in a small...
    IcecallJesus IcecallJesus 46-50 5 Responses Jan 27, 2012

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    Can a Pastor's Wife Get a Little Help!

    Well I am a pastor's wife, I didn't think it would be this hard it is just like your life has been changed around in just seconds. Sometimes I get angry because I feel  like I'm alone and nobody really understands. People get counseling but what about the pastor's wife...
    holdon holdon 36-40, F 16 Responses Jun 26, 2008

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    The Love/Hate Realtionship Of Being A Pastor's Wife

    Yes. The love/hate relationship. That is what a lot of us would call it. My username means I have been a preacher's wife since 2002, when I married my love. I fought my feelings for him for a long time, because I didn't want to be a Pastor's wife. I had been close to my associate...
    since2002 since2002 36-40, F 8 Responses Sep 3, 2013

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    Young Senior Pastor's Wife

    I never thought I would be a senior pastor's wife someday. Not in my wildest dreams. I felt called to missions at a young age, and went on every missions trip available until I entered Bible college. I married my best friend and we dreamed of serving overseas together. Instead we...
    javamamma javamamma 26-30, F 2 Responses Mar 30, 2013

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    Loving The Unlovable

    I am a pastor's wife now for 8 months. My husband just started pastoring the a church in Las Cruces New Mexico. We left all our friends and family in San Francisco California to following my husbands heart. I am happy here, but very lonely. Not that my husband doesn't spend time...
    michellevestal michellevestal 36-40, F 3 Responses Aug 24, 2012

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    I have been a pw for almost 20 years.

    My husband surrendered to the ministry late in life, so we are older. We pastor a small church, and it has been a successful pastorate for him. I feel as though I am losing my mind! I felt called and worked very hard to establish a strong women's ministry. God blessed those...
    Smallchurchpw Smallchurchpw 61-65, F 2 Responses Mar 31

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    (:

    I'm not a pastor's wife yet...but I am happily engaged to a preacher:) so Lord willing, I will be one day. I am very excited about this incredible journey! I feel so blessed that He has placed that calling on my life. I know it takes a lot to be a pastor's wife, and not just any...
    hisnaughtygirl69 hisnaughtygirl69 16-17, F 1 Response Aug 17, 2013

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    Afraid.

    My husband  and I struggled financially for years. Things finally started to look up for us when he got a promotion at work. We bought a beautiful house, took vacations, went out to dinner... a lot and shopped... a lot.  Though we had more money coming in, we still had hardly...
    MrsWhit07 MrsWhit07 26-30 3 Responses May 27, 2012

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    Starting A Church

    My husband and I are young (25) and we went to a town in the US that has very few churches. The area needs Christ and evangelism very bad! We saved money for a long time so we could start this church. Finally we did it. It took so much work! However, we are one month in having...
    marlalee86 marlalee86 22-25, F 6 Responses Sep 8, 2012

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    Feeling So Lonely

    Been married four years to a pastor but these have been the loneliest years of my whole life.
    beckylyn beckylyn 31-35, F 12 Responses Oct 16, 2013

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    Disappointed

    I shared my story but got a nasty reply calling me a sissy so I deleted my story. I came here for support, not to be put down.
    Dizzydee33 Dizzydee33 36-40, F 3 Responses Jan 18, 2013

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    My life is a living hell.

    My husband and I have no communication skills when it comes to us but you should see him at church. He;s has all the answers treat women in the church like they are somebody. Even call and text them telling them to have a great day and that he loves them. It's to bad I don't get...
    pat315 pat315 51-55, F 6 Responses Apr 15

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    Lonely In a Crowd

    My husband recently took an associate position in a very large church.  He is one of 12 pastors.  It's a good thing for him but not for me.  We've been there since January and I've yet to even be able to identify most of the other pastoral wives.  Women are...
    Hope2live862 Hope2live862 46-50, F 6 Responses Sep 6, 2009

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    Public Vs. Private Life

    I joined this forum because I needed a place to vent and reach out. I was raised Christian and still am, but my faith and that of my husband's seems very different. While I was more conservative and more concerned with feelings and experiences of God, my husband is more...
    justanotherpastorswife justanotherpastorswife 26-30, F 6 Responses Nov 10, 2013

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    We Are The Apple Of His Eyes.

    I am a Pastor's wife, I have been in the ministry for twenty years alongside my husband,we have been through it all, we have paid the price for the ministry, we have three grown children , my son beaten in the church by an elders son, and my daughter molested by an evangelists...
    Mgg3421 Mgg3421 51-55, F May 22, 2010

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    Lonely?

    I have been a pastor's wife for many years now.  I am surrounded by people in church and on a daily basis and yet I am lonely.  Of course I have my husband but he has the burden of the church and is busy most of the time.  
    morningsideway morningsideway 41-45, F 15 Responses Jan 28, 2009

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    Lesson From Tonight

    I don't have a word to describe how I feel tonight as we prepare for Easter. My heart has had such anger and bitterness for so long. I find I have not been able to worship and listen in church as my husband gives the sermon. All I do is sit and think what a hypocrite he can be...
    pamelamc pamelamc 41-45, F 3 Responses Mar 27, 2013

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    I Am Drowning

    I am so thankful that I found this site tonight. I feel like I am drowning. My husband has been a youth pastor for five years. We are at our third church. I loved this church until six months ago and we have been here for over three years. Until this summer this church just felt...
    aguzman142 aguzman142 31-35, F 12 Responses Jan 31, 2012

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    Drowning In Misery

    I have been a pastor's wife for over 16 years and a pastor's daughter for over 30 years. I have seen too much. I am totally burned out. We just moved to our current church a little over a year ago. I have never met such evil, hypocritical, back-biting people in my life!!! I have...
    totallyburnedout totallyburnedout 31-35, F 10 Responses Nov 4, 2013

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    When The Tide Changes

    My husband went into FT ministry one year after we got married 14 yrs ago. In the early yrs we both were serving and agreed to sacrifice in order to help reach the lost. He serves as one of the associate pastors. Our Sr pastors have a heavy burden to see people change which has...
    Pw2000 Pw2000 46-50, F 3 Responses Oct 17, 2012

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    Shes Running Me Over!

    I am a young pastors wife of a small church that my husband and I started recently. Things are going good so far. However, I do have this situation that I just dont know what to do with. Any help would be appreciated! There is a family of 5 in our church. The lady has a set of...
    marlalee86 marlalee86 22-25, F 3 Responses Sep 22, 2012

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    This Is Me

    My husband has been a pastor for 17 years. When I married him, I believed I was marrying a shy teacher. A few years into our marriage showed me this was probably not to be as he took different employment. When I was a young freshman in college I made the naive request of God...
    protective protective 66-70, F 1 Response Sep 22, 2012

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    Discouraged

    I've been in ministry with my husband 15 years. I too am awfully lonely. The entire experience of being a Pastor's Wife has changed my personality dramatically. I've become extremely reclusive, sometimes it really scares me. I think about the fact that in this big wide world I...
    2 Responses Jan 26, 2013

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    God created woman as the answer to the 1st

    problem-it is not good for man to be alone. (Gen 2:18) Your femininity is not a weakness. It is a God-crafted answer. Therefore you have been granted the divine right & responsibility to be all you were originally created to be. This invitation & challenge is extended to...
    LynnLee828 LynnLee828 46-50, F 1 Response Mar 8

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    Im A Pastors Wife

    I have been a pastors wife for seven years now and before my husband was the pastor of a church he was a youth pastor for two years. I really do love being a pastors wife I love our congregation and just about everything about it. I am younger than normal pastors wives that have...
    gtaj03 gtaj03 26-30, F 6 Responses Sep 7, 2012

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    Feeling Alone In A Crowd Of People

    I've been a pastor's wife for several years. I met my husband in college while he was a Theology major and we were married within one year. I didn't feel like I really knew what to expect as a pastor's wife so I went into it with zeal and a little nervousness. While there have...
    Cali2Tdot Cali2Tdot 31-35, F 4 Responses Feb 19, 2013

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    What Goes Around Comes Around

    Church is better than any soap opera. Tune in tomorrow when Sister Busybody gets caught with someone else's pants down. I know the Bible says not to rejoice over our enemy's downfall, but can I grin just a little?
    pamelamc pamelamc 41-45, F 7 Responses Jul 3, 2013

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    I have been a PW for almost 2years.

    I am on the fence about how I feel about it.. but mostly I resent it I have been with my husband for almost 20 years, so this is a drastic change to our life and I am not liking the change at all
    Loveonly12 Loveonly12 31-35, F 1 Response Feb 26

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    Drowning In Busyness

    I have been a pastor's wife for 13 years. My hubby was a youth pastor until 3 years ago. Now he is a senior pastor. In the 3 years we've been here God has truly blessed our church and it's tripled in size and we've added a children's director and youth director.(both had teaching...
    homesick4heaven homesick4heaven 36-40, F 3 Responses Oct 30, 2013

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    We Both Love God And We Love Each Other

    When we first got married we did not think much about religion but as time went by my husband began to focus more on faith and spirituality. I myself began to go down a spiritual path but mine was very different from his. I am Jewish and he is a Christian. We have had many ups...
    Bethsalomon Bethsalomon 41-45, F Feb 8, 2012

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    So Alone

    I am a pastor's wife.  My husband and I were married a year before I felt a call on my life, but when it finally came I felt fulfilled.  I no longer had to live in the shadow of my husband's ministry.  We were able to build our ministries together.  However, now I need help...
    serabella15 serabella15 22-25 5 Responses Aug 3, 2011

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    In the Valley of Decisions

    Hello, I guess I dont know where to start.  I have been married for 4 1/2 years and have been in ministry for 4 years.  It has been a VERY hard JOURNEY.  My marriage at first was ok, but then the CHURCH became the other woman. I say that to say, all my husbands...
    LadyCW2008 LadyCW2008 26-30 10 Responses Jan 10, 2008

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    Some People Need To Mind Their Own Business

    This has been brewing in me for a while, but I have to be careful what I say around a lot of people.  Seems like much of my life is spent biting my tongue. Ugh. I'm tired of being judged and people freely giving their opinions of what I should do as a pastor's wife or mother...
    pamelamc pamelamc 41-45, F 2 Responses May 30, 2013

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    Out Of Control Anger

    My husband is a Pastor & we've been married for over 2yrs. He has slapped me across my face several times & has even chocked me. I'm 39wks pregnant now & he's slapped me 2x today because I told him that he turned the tap off & he swears I did it. I didn't back down, but, I didn't...
    Hopey40 Hopey40 36-40 11 Responses May 20, 2012

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    Missing My Privacy

    I have been a pastor's wife for 6 years and married for 21 years. I have always been a private person, who has been described as "in my own little world". I don't get involved in drama nor do I like conflict. The pressures of constant criticism from the congregation and the...
    FullGospelGirl FullGospelGirl 41-45, F 2 Responses Sep 4, 2012

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    Dont Judge Me

    I have been married to my husband for a little over a year now, and we have really been through some rough times. I am only 21 years old, and so is he.We are both juggling school, work, and having a church. I am not judged by the people in the ministry, but by his family more...
    ladyancrum ladyancrum 18-21, F 3 Responses Apr 5, 2010

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    I have been a youth pastor's wife

    for 3 years. (We've been married far longer than that though)I had always believed that this is a role I would one day be in. I also believed that I would love it. On the contrary, I have struggled and quite dislike it. I would almost say I hate it. I have made a few friends...
    YPWife YPWife 31-35, F 1 Response Apr 5

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    I Don't Know If I'm Cut Out For This. I'm Too Sensitive.

    I am a pastor's wife, and the stress is getting to me. I was already married to my husband before he joined the ministry, so it's not like I came prepared! My husband keeps the same point of view his dad, also a minister, has had throughout his many, many years of service: my...
    SophieLee SophieLee 31-35, F 1 Response Sep 29, 2013

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    Help!

    I thought I could handle this since I am coming into my own ministry as well.  I feel like I'm beginning to break due to being criticized by him much of the time.  He is a good teacher but seems to favor beating me down with the Word much of the time when I am...
    IC215 IC215 31-35, F 4 Responses May 19, 2010

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    Pastor's Wife Wanting To Get A Divorce

    I have been married to a preacher for 8 yrs. but he has been pastoring for 4 yrs. I hate every waking minute of being a pastor's wife because of what comes along with the territory. When he first started pastoring, I was glad to be a pw but then rumors circulated in the church...
    sacred15 sacred15 31-35, F 1 Response Sep 29, 2013

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    Related Experiences

    My husband recently took a job as a youth pastor. He is excellent at his job, and the middle & high school kids love him. He has received a lot of affirmation from his mentors and...
    MrsMamaLindy MrsMamaLindy 22-25, F Jul 29

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    Actually, I used to pastor an entire church, not just the youth. But I am posting this experience from the EP app, and for the life of me, I cannot figure out how to add an...
    YourFriendRyan YourFriendRyan 36-40 6 days ago

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    A big, burly man visited the pastor's home and asked to see the minister's wife, a woman well known for her charitable impulses. "Madam," he said in a broken voice, "I wish to...
    jml2000 jml2000 56-60, M 5 Responses Aug 4

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    I started hallucinating when I was 12. Diagnosed and medicated when I was 15. And I'm scared to tell the people around me because of what happened when I was 18. I had spent the...
    tearsoakedwhiskeymemory tearsoakedwhiskeymemory 18-21, F 3 days ago

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    1. My name is the first book of the bible. 2. I am mixed with black and white. 3. I am 5'7" 4. My birthday is in August. 5. I will be a sophomore in HS this year. 6. I play...
    itsgennylee itsgennylee 16-17, F Jul 29

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    I guess I just felt like going to church.. so I said "I think I might go to church sunday" And she said. She would be so happy if I went. I thought she didnt care if I went or not...
    KovusShame KovusShame 13-15, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    Efforts for My Spiritual Education along with Works for God Towards Humanities Benefit on Hearing Truths Never Taught in the Religions of Man Worldwide. http://timesofroubles.webs...
    timesoftrouble timesoftrouble 56-60, M 1 Response Jul 26

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    Efforts for My Spiritual Education along with Works for God Towards Humanities Benefit on Hearing Truths Never Taught in the Religions of Man Worldwide. http://timesofroubles.webs...
    timesoftrouble timesoftrouble 56-60, M Jul 26

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    i am a spiritual person and i read the bible. i believe that one day Jesus will come back here to end this all, but i do not know if being in a church group is necessary to be...
    nonsensee nonsensee 18-21, M 2 Responses 1 day ago

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