I Am a Pastor's Wife

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 195 People

    What Goes Around Comes Around

    Church is better than any soap opera. Tune in tomorrow when Sister Busybody gets caught with someone else's pants down. I know the Bible says not to rejoice over our enemy's downfall, but can I grin just a little?
    pamelamc pamelamc
    41-45, F
    5 Responses Jul 3, 2013

    I am a pastor's wife,

    in the mission field. It is my husband's home but for me it is a foreign land - different language, culture, traditions. So I am completely isolated, alone. I have no friends, no one to talk to, no one I can trust. My husband has alienated us from any other pastors or...
    spiritisbroken spiritisbroken
    46-50, F
    4 Responses Dec 17, 2014

    I have been a PW for almost 2years.

    I am on the fence about how I feel about it.. but mostly I resent it I have been with my husband for almost 20 years, so this is a drastic change to our life and I am not liking the change at all
    Loveonly12 Loveonly12
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Feb 26, 2014

    Young Senior Pastor's Wife

    I never thought I would be a senior pastor's wife someday. Not in my wildest dreams. I felt called to missions at a young age, and went on every missions trip available until I entered Bible college. I married my best friend and we dreamed of serving overseas together. Instead we...
    javamamma javamamma
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Mar 30, 2013


    My husband  and I struggled financially for years. Things finally started to look up for us when he got a promotion at work. We bought a beautiful house, took vacations, went out to dinner... a lot and shopped... a lot.  Though we had more money coming in, we still had hardly...
    MrsWhit07 MrsWhit07
    3 Responses May 27, 2012

    Feeling So Lonely

    Been married four years to a pastor but these have been the loneliest years of my whole life.
    beckylyn beckylyn
    36-40, F
    10 Responses Oct 16, 2013

    Can a Pastor's Wife Get a Little Help!

    Well I am a pastor's wife, I didn't think it would be this hard it is just like your life has been changed around in just seconds. Sometimes I get angry because I feel  like I'm alone and nobody really understands. People get counseling but what about the pastor's wife...
    holdon holdon
    36-40, F
    15 Responses Jun 26, 2008

    Some People Need To Mind Their Own Business

    This has been brewing in me for a while, but I have to be careful what I say around a lot of people.  Seems like much of my life is spent biting my tongue. Ugh. I'm tired of being judged and people freely giving their opinions of what I should do as a pastor's wife or mother...
    pamelamc pamelamc
    41-45, F
    3 Responses May 30, 2013

    I Am Drowning

    I am so thankful that I found this site tonight. I feel like I am drowning. My husband has been a youth pastor for five years. We are at our third church. I loved this church until six months ago and we have been here for over three years. Until this summer this church just felt...
    aguzman142 aguzman142
    31-35, F
    12 Responses Jan 31, 2012

    Lonely In a Crowd

    My husband recently took an associate position in a very large church.  He is one of 12 pastors.  It's a good thing for him but not for me.  We've been there since January and I've yet to even be able to identify most of the other pastoral wives.  Women are...
    Hope2live862 Hope2live862
    46-50, F
    6 Responses Sep 6, 2009

    Pastor's Wife

    I have been a pastor's wife for 4 years now.  It hasn't gotten any easier but my husband now sees the pressures and the tolls it lays on the family.  We currently worked as a team in the youth ministry for nearly 15 years and then he took his first job as a pastor in a small...
    IcecallJesus IcecallJesus
    5 Responses Jan 27, 2012

    In the Valley of Decisions

    Hello, I guess I dont know where to start.  I have been married for 4 1/2 years and have been in ministry for 4 years.  It has been a VERY hard JOURNEY.  My marriage at first was ok, but then the CHURCH became the other woman. I say that to say, all my husbands...
    LadyCW2008 LadyCW2008
    14 Responses Jan 10, 2008

    Feeling Alone In A Crowd Of People

    I've been a pastor's wife for several years. I met my husband in college while he was a Theology major and we were married within one year. I didn't feel like I really knew what to expect as a pastor's wife so I went into it with zeal and a little nervousness. While there have...
    Cali2Tdot Cali2Tdot
    31-35, F
    4 Responses Feb 19, 2013

    When The Tide Changes

    My husband went into FT ministry one year after we got married 14 yrs ago. In the early yrs we both were serving and agreed to sacrifice in order to help reach the lost. He serves as one of the associate pastors. Our Sr pastors have a heavy burden to see people change which has...
    Pw2000 Pw2000
    46-50, F
    4 Responses Oct 17, 2012

    I have been a pw for almost 20 years.

    My husband surrendered to the ministry late in life, so we are older. We pastor a small church, and it has been a successful pastorate for him. I feel as though I am losing my mind! I felt called and worked very hard to establish a strong women's ministry. God blessed those...
    Smallchurchpw Smallchurchpw
    61-65, F
    3 Responses Mar 31, 2014

    About To Explode

    Where do I start? My husband has been pastor for one year and I am about to explode. Dealing with " church folks" is unreal. Everything was going good at first as long as my husband makes the decisions that the board wants to hear. It seems like every time my husband says or does...
    Psalmist77 Psalmist77
    31-35, F
    7 Responses Apr 28, 2012

    Lesson From Tonight

    I don't have a word to describe how I feel tonight as we prepare for Easter. My heart has had such anger and bitterness for so long. I find I have not been able to worship and listen in church as my husband gives the sermon. All I do is sit and think what a hypocrite he can be...
    pamelamc pamelamc
    41-45, F
    4 Responses Mar 27, 2013

    Drowning In Misery

    I have been a pastor's wife for over 16 years and a pastor's daughter for over 30 years. I have seen too much. I am totally burned out. We just moved to our current church a little over a year ago. I have never met such evil, hypocritical, back-biting people in my life!!! I have...
    totallyburnedout totallyburnedout
    36-40, F
    10 Responses Nov 4, 2013

    I am writing this because I am

    so tired of being in my life. My husband is consumed with the church and his position. He talks about the church ALL THE TIME. He even gets into bed talking about the church and the members and the governing board. I really shoulder most of the responsibility of caring for our...
    jamaaw jamaaw
    3 Responses Nov 10, 2014

    Drowning In Busyness

    I have been a pastor's wife for 13 years. My hubby was a youth pastor until 3 years ago. Now he is a senior pastor. In the 3 years we've been here God has truly blessed our church and it's tripled in size and we've added a children's director and youth director.(both had teaching...
    homesick4heaven homesick4heaven
    36-40, F
    3 Responses Oct 30, 2013

    My husband started seminary a few months

    after we were married and started serving his first charge (3 churches) 3 weeks before our first child was born. We moved to a parsonage when our daughter was 3 months old. We then moved to another church when I was 7 months pregnant with our son. (We joke that if we want a...
    patricialeigh patricialeigh
    36-40, M
    1 Response Nov 14, 2014

    Need Friends

    I am in need of fellow pastor wifes for friendship. I feel so alone in this with no one i can trust or that could understand what i am going through and yet i also have questions . I sometimes get discouraged and depressed by not having anyone to talk to about these issues, I'm...
    JensPaws JensPaws
    8 Responses Jun 13, 2013

    This Is Me

    My husband has been a pastor for 17 years. When I married him, I believed I was marrying a shy teacher. A few years into our marriage showed me this was probably not to be as he took different employment. When I was a young freshman in college I made the naive request of God...
    protective protective
    66-70, F
    1 Response Sep 22, 2012

    Pastor's Wife Wanting To Get A Divorce

    I have been married to a preacher for 8 yrs. but he has been pastoring for 4 yrs. I hate every waking minute of being a pastor's wife because of what comes along with the territory. When he first started pastoring, I was glad to be a pw but then rumors circulated in the church...
    sacred15 sacred15
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Sep 29, 2013

    Missing My Privacy

    I have been a pastor's wife for 6 years and married for 21 years. I have always been a private person, who has been described as "in my own little world". I don't get involved in drama nor do I like conflict. The pressures of constant criticism from the congregation and the...
    FullGospelGirl FullGospelGirl
    41-45, F
    2 Responses Sep 4, 2012

    My husband is a new pastor.

    God threw us into a vipers den. He was pastor for a month and had a major heart attack. Then sister busy body came to him two weeks afterwards telling him all the stuff going on in the church. She wanted him to kick out two people. The only two people in the church that do...
    Newpw Newpw
    46-50, F
    4 Responses Jan 27, 2016

    We Both Love God And We Love Each Other

    When we first got married we did not think much about religion but as time went by my husband began to focus more on faith and spirituality. I myself began to go down a spiritual path but mine was very different from his. I am Jewish and he is a Christian. We have had many ups...
    Bethsalomon Bethsalomon
    41-45, F
    Feb 8, 2012


    I thought I could handle this since I am coming into my own ministry as well.  I feel like I'm beginning to break due to being criticized by him much of the time.  He is a good teacher but seems to favor beating me down with the Word much of the time when I am...
    IC215 IC215
    31-35, F
    5 Responses May 19, 2010

    The Love/Hate Realtionship Of Being A Pastor's Wife

    Yes. The love/hate relationship. That is what a lot of us would call it. My username means I have been a preacher's wife since 2002, when I married my love. I fought my feelings for him for a long time, because I didn't want to be a Pastor's wife. I had been close to my associate...
    since2002 since2002
    41-45, F
    8 Responses Sep 3, 2013

    New Minister'S Wife

    My husband has been in ministry for some time, but has just been ordained as a minister 2years ago. I have longed for guidance on what the expectations are for me as his wife, but have yet to receive this from the First Lady or the Pastor. It seems they have focused all of their...
    Barbie1979 Barbie1979
    36-40, F
    7 Responses Mar 14, 2013

    I grew up in a American Baptist

    and I ended up marrying a wonderful African man. Eleven years ago we joined this African based ministry. Six years ago my husband was ordained and we have been in our own branch of this ministry for almost 3 yrs. My biggest problem is that I have no support. As I have read from...
    africanpw africanpw
    36-40, F
    1 Response Feb 2, 2015

    Loving The Unlovable

    I am a pastor's wife now for 8 months. My husband just started pastoring the a church in Las Cruces New Mexico. We left all our friends and family in San Francisco California to following my husbands heart. I am happy here, but very lonely. Not that my husband doesn't spend time...
    michellevestal michellevestal
    36-40, F
    4 Responses Aug 24, 2012

    Public Vs. Private Life

    I joined this forum because I needed a place to vent and reach out. I was raised Christian and still am, but my faith and that of my husband's seems very different. While I was more conservative and more concerned with feelings and experiences of God, my husband is more...
    justanotherpastorswife justanotherpastorswife
    26-30, F
    8 Responses Nov 10, 2013

    Husband is a workaholic,

    early morning till middle of the night. I help our secretary and do all of the online stuff . Sick of everything around the subject of our center. Yes, we head and call the shots yet come on- need a break. Three little kids need their parents to create experiences for them, not...
    lifeoffaith lifeoffaith
    31-35, F
    Dec 16, 2015

    I have been a youth pastor's wife

    for 3 years. (We've been married far longer than that though)I had always believed that this is a role I would one day be in. I also believed that I would love it. On the contrary, I have struggled and quite dislike it. I would almost say I hate it. I have made a few friends...
    YPWife YPWife
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Apr 5, 2014


    I shared my story but got a nasty reply calling me a sissy so I deleted my story. I came here for support, not to be put down.
    Dizzydee33 Dizzydee33
    36-40, F
    3 Responses Jan 18, 2013


    I'm not a pastor's wife yet...but I am happily engaged to a preacher:) so Lord willing, I will be one day. I am very excited about this incredible journey! I feel so blessed that He has placed that calling on my life. I know it takes a lot to be a pastor's wife, and not just any...
    hisnaughtygirl69 hisnaughtygirl69
    18-21, F
    1 Response Aug 17, 2013

    God created woman as the answer to the 1st

    problem-it is not good for man to be alone. (Gen 2:18) Your femininity is not a weakness. It is a God-crafted answer. Therefore you have been granted the divine right & responsibility to be all you were originally created to be. This invitation & challenge is extended to...
    LynnLee828 LynnLee828
    46-50, F
    1 Response Mar 8, 2014

    My life is a living hell.

    My husband and I have no communication skills when it comes to us but you should see him at church. He;s has all the answers treat women in the church like they are somebody. Even call and text them telling them to have a great day and that he loves them. It's to bad I don't get...
    pat315 pat315
    56-60, F
    8 Responses Apr 15, 2014

    So Alone.... I Have Nobody To Communiate With And Ready To Leave

    If are a Pastor's wife and you think you are lonely you have no idea what loneliness is. My wife is Methodist Pastor and any help out there is for Pastor's wives, not Pastor's husbands. Pastor's wives can get together can support one another. Forr me to develope a relationship...
    veryluckyduck veryluckyduck
    51-55, M
    5 Responses Jun 30, 2013

    I Don't Know If I'm Cut Out For This. I'm Too Sensitive.

    I am a pastor's wife, and the stress is getting to me. I was already married to my husband before he joined the ministry, so it's not like I came prepared! My husband keeps the same point of view his dad, also a minister, has had throughout his many, many years of service: my...
    SophieLee SophieLee
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Sep 29, 2013

    Im A Pastors Wife

    I have been a pastors wife for seven years now and before my husband was the pastor of a church he was a youth pastor for two years. I really do love being a pastors wife I love our congregation and just about everything about it. I am younger than normal pastors wives that have...
    gtaj03 gtaj03
    26-30, F
    7 Responses Sep 7, 2012


    I've been in ministry with my husband 15 years. I too am awfully lonely. The entire experience of being a Pastor's Wife has changed my personality dramatically. I've become extremely reclusive, sometimes it really scares me. I think about the fact that in this big wide world I...
    2 Responses Jan 26, 2013

    I'm a pastor's wife. Just recently a woman came

    to our church, who just recently received her ministers lic. She is very sweet, loves the Lord, and has a burning passion to help woman who have been abused. She is single and in her 60's. My husband gave her permission to begin and oversee the womans ministry at our church. I...
    DAJ1 DAJ1
    56-60, F
    3 Responses May 5, 2015
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