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    I Am A Perfectionist

    My life has been clouded by a series of negative events that were the result of me getting frustrated because things weren't done to my satisfaction. I've learned to not trust others to do things correctly/accurately.
    stuckinacorner stuckinacorner 46-50, M 2 Responses Nov 12, 2013

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    Perfection must be planned

    but seem spontaneous.
    erikaninetyseven erikaninetyseven 16-17, F 1 Response Nov 10, 2014

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    I think I've got a mixture of perfectionist

    and OCD. I just want everything to be perfect. Perfect student, perfect friend and perfect daughter and all. For instance, I've paid my life for being a perfect daughter, choosing the career my parents want so that I could be a perfect daughter. I can't correlate with changes...
    FinnyFunny FinnyFunny 22-25, F 1 Response May 16

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    It's been a rough week.

    I feel like every time I gain back my confidence, something happens where someone's not happy with me, & I freak out about it. I actually felt like I handled everything quite well today, & now, at 1 AM, I've woken up after having been asleep & I'm fretting about one of the...
    SaundraMae SaundraMae 26-30, F 4 Responses Aug 20

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    Not So Perfect.

    I feel that if I can't do something perfectly, there's no point doing it at all. There's no medium of something being "good enough".
    anythingbutordinaryy anythingbutordinaryy 18-21, F 4 Responses Apr 7, 2012

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    Everything I do has to be the best,

    or else its not even worth trying. Nothing can go wrong and everything must be perfect. Even though I know that problems are apart of life, I can't help wanting to quit after knowing that my work won't meet my own harsh standards. Despite trying to be the best, and trying to...
    Guest4111 Guest4111 13-15, M Aug 13

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    I am a perfectionist.

    I find that while it is anonymous in my life, sometimes, it annoys me. I find that sometimes I take people personally if they criticise or if they find something negative about me or something I do. I tend to be defensive of myself in such a situation. I usually talk back to...
    Delphi111 Delphi111 13-15, M Apr 24

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    What?!!? Im Perfect?

    I have a pencil and my eraser is completely Used up.. Do you know why? Because im not perfect but i try to fix my mistakes to make them as perfect as it can be..
    HeartAndWings HeartAndWings 16-17, F Jan 21, 2013

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    I have unbelievably high standards

    for people that I don't have any people I would truly consider friends. I used to have acquaintances at college, but I wouldn't let them in because I was afraid they'd disappoint me by making a silly remark. It's not the remark that bothered me as much as me not being able to...
    amp351 amp351 22-25, M 3 Responses Mar 27

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    Someone on my feed posted

    that quote where the guy says that a loser is someone who is so afraid of not winning that they don't even try. I just wanted to say that, for people like me, that's not true. I'm not a loser, I'm a perfectionist, and I need encouragement too. Shame just makes it worse because...
    permakitten permakitten 31-35, F 1 Response Jan 13, 2014

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    I can't leave something

    until it is completed, its just how I am. Everything must be perfect and when it is..... It feels amazing.
    Although Although 16-17 Aug 25, 2014

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    I absolutely hate this about me,

    it causes nothing but stress and depression.
    Mesmicdoll Mesmicdoll 16-17, F 1 Response Dec 26, 2014

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    I didn't choose to be a perfectionist.

    I was always expected to be the best
    PricelessPerfection PricelessPerfection 16-17, F Mar 24, 2014

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    I don't know about you

    but I personally hate when people are not able to write properly. By that I don't mean those people who might misspell something by accident or don't know the correct use of the word because they are not native in whatever language we talk about, I just mean the general people...
    Loquesoy Loquesoy 18-21, F 3 Responses Aug 22

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    I have always sort out the approval of my mum

    as she was so hard on me, drumming into me I must not fail, often very critical of my behaviour, my ambitions. Ive always felt very under pressure. I spent a lot of time with my grandparents and they too given me an insight of life and how it can be without a good education. But...
    justlilyg justlilyg 22-25, F 3 Responses Oct 30, 2014

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    I wish I could wake up

    and be someone different. If only I didn't care as much as I do. It's such a burden to care this much and to be so rejected by those around me. So no matter what I'm doing I'm still alone. I'm so tormented by my own life that if there was a pill I could take to numb my mental...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Feb 13

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    I often come up getting the short end of a lot

    of things so after seeing my parents (also perfectionists) work for what they want to achieve, and get it, I ended up following suit. I wanted to become the perfect son, get perfect grades, get the perfect body, etc. but because of this mindset, I'm never satisfied. Although my...
    bvv1995 bvv1995 18-21, M 1 Response Jun 7

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    I'm all or nothing. I never seem to match my

    expectations and am prone to self-sabotage (rebelling against myself?). Ran myself into the ground over a period of weeks for an assignment worth 20%. I got full marks but it felt hollow. The briefest of praises from a couple of coveted letters symbolising achievement...
    3naturespice3 3naturespice3 22-25 Aug 15

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    I was pretty compulsive with my perfectionism

    in high school. I realized it was a problem when I was in 11th grade. I was really sick and I had a PICC (peripherally inserted central catheter – basically a large IV tube that entered via an artery in my upper arm and went into my heart) for two months. It was late June and...
    IndigoOwl IndigoOwl 22-25, F Mar 16

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    I'm such a perfectionist.

    It's a blessing as well as a curse
    ErikaT5 ErikaT5 18-21, F Mar 18

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    I've always grown up feeling pressured to be

    the best, because I've always been told how smart I am and how successful I'm going to be. I've always known I was smart and now I just feel the pressure to be the smartest, get into the best schools, get the best job, get the best grades, etc. I hate being this way though. I...
    helloo12121 helloo12121 13-15, F 1 Response Jul 24

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    I drive people around me crazy by striving to

    be perfect. I can try convince myself that it doesn't exist when people tell me but there's always that we voice in my head that tells me the other person is a fool and how can they go about their business disorganised. It is however causing me a lot of stress and anxiety in my...
    missneuro missneuro 26-30, F 1 Response Feb 7, 2014

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    It is my daily struggle,

    trying not to think if I could do things better, if I could give more, trying to focus on the good instead of the better. Also forgiving myself for things I have done wrong in the past, moments when I could have acted in a different, better way (or at least I think so...
    Cierzo Cierzo 41-45, M 2 Responses Aug 10

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    Because I am employed in a professional career

    field, I am a perfectionist. I work in my family's law firm as a senior paralegal and office manager. All legal documents must be perfectly submitted. I take pride in my work by proofreading all documents and other materials before they are given to the attorneys that I am...
    jillpeterson jillpeterson 46-50, F 4 Responses Apr 22

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    a perfectionist Well

    when evver I do these projects for biology, I always want to make t the best I can. My teacher told me that I dont need to add any thing because Its really good. Shes the one who brought it to my attention that i am a perfectionist, because she told me that. I feel like If it...
    regulare05 regulare05 16-17, F 1 Response Jan 7, 2014

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    As annoying as it can be to some people,

    I find this to be one of my greatest traits. Yes, I understand why I can appear as 'difficult', but I simply like things to be a certain way and to be as close to perfect as possible. Is this a problem?
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Aug 18, 2014

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    I realize, more and more

    who my real friends are (aka just one person), but I'm happier about it. I know who is important, and who matters the most to me. So, for now, I have one true friend (without counting myself lol) and my family. To be honest, some days, I just feel so hopeless about society...
    TheAnonymousINFx TheAnonymousINFx 18-21, F Apr 15

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    I am perfect so they say.

    I say perfection is an illusion. They say you are thin and beautiful. I say it garners unwanted attention. They say you are motivational. I say it covers my insecurities. They say keep working. I say I'm tired. They say you'll get there. I say I'm trying. They say get better. I...
    HotMessExpress101 HotMessExpress101 31-35, F 3 Responses Dec 20, 2014

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    Sometimes

    In particular things, I am a perfectionist. I used to be obsessed with perfection; with being the perfect daughter, the perfect student, the perfect friend, the perfect person. Needless to say, that was a lot of pressure. Fortunately, I didn't buckle under the pressure I put upon...
    vinividivici21 vinividivici21 22-25, F 4 Responses Aug 2, 2008

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    I know it's impossible to be perfect,

    but I strive to be perfect, or at least 99% so.
    usernameinneed usernameinneed 26-30, M 2 Responses Jul 27

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    It drives me crazy when things...

    It drives me crazy when things are out of place.  I'm disabled and can no longer clean my own home.  I have to rely on my family to do it for me and since I am a perfectionist it's making me feel triple the craziness then before.  On top of that, my name Tammy...
    tamsin35 tamsin35 31-35, F 1 Response Jun 19, 2007

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    People tell me, "It doesn't have to be perfect.

    " But oh, yes, it does need to be.
    Solfeggio Solfeggio 36-40, F 2 Responses Jun 24, 2014

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    This Describes Me To A T

    Traits of a perfectionist: Fear of failure. Perfectionists often equate failure to achieve their goals with a lack of personal worth or value. (I value myself based on how perfect I seem) Fear of making mistakes. Perfectionists often equate mistakes with failure. In orienting...
    livelively22 livelively22 18-21, F 1 Response Jun 11, 2013

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    You know what I hate?

    That American culture praises perfectionism. I'm a perfectionist and it is my deepest weakness. Anyone who is one knows that it isn't a blessing, it's a curse. I am my own worst enemy. The slightest mistake and I tear myself apart like a hungry lion. I overthink every word that...
    addyd addyd 18-21, F 2 Responses Apr 26

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    I am flawless and methodical

    where my career is concerned. If there is something I dont understand, I make it my mission to understand it better than the average person. This quality have rubbed onto my personal life. Though it costs me many a two friendships, there is no off switch. I'm wired this way.
    RogueLogic RogueLogic 26-30, F 1 Response Apr 6

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    How Its Defined

    a disposition to feel that anything less than perfect is unacceptable; a tendency to expect perfection in everything one does, with little tolerance for mistakes those definitions doesn sound good to me..coz i do want everythin ido to b ok,not wrong,everythin..but im not...
    amysangels amysangels 22-25, F 7 Responses Feb 18, 2011

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    Work In Progress

    When your a kid being a perfectionist seems to get positive remarks from everyone. No one really tells you that it can become a problem if your not careful. I know that I have pushed people away by being too much of a perfectionist. I can't seem to trust anyone else to do...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Oct 28, 2011

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    So I'm a perfectionist I'm sorry

    but I can't help it, that's all what people want nowadays. You can't make it big as a singer and get your song heard by millions, so others can hear everything that makes yourself you, unless everything in your voice is perfect... I'm such a dream killer... Now wishing there...
    bribrinique bribrinique 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 31, 2014

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    I received an 89.5 percent more

    than 4 years ago in a class and it makes me never want to attend college again. I dropped out of a class because I was not prepared for a project. I refuse to date unless I'm at a weight I feel comfortable at. I do not put myself out there in life because I'm afraid of failure...
    honestlyanonymouslyme honestlyanonymouslyme 22-25, F 2 Responses Apr 12

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    There are no limits to my perfection – a

    monkey was thinking while looking at a human.
    seniordingdong seniordingdong 26-30, M 4 days ago

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    I have this idea in my head about how it all

    supposed to me and I act as if I'm supposed to be superwoman it's infuriating
    honestlyanonymouslyme honestlyanonymouslyme 22-25, F Jul 26

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    Not Good Enough

    I always have been. I can't stop unless I feel that everything is just right. For example, back in my senior year of high school. It was in Anatomy class and we were getting our tests back over the skeletal system. The test included naming bones, locating them, classifying them...
    JesusKravitz JesusKravitz 18-21, M 2 Responses Oct 6, 2013

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    Perfectionist Or Procrastinator?

    Where do you draw the line? And how does self-defeatism play into this?
    laynemeyer laynemeyer 36-40, M 2 Responses Apr 21, 2013

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    I suposse is a way to control what surround us,

    and feel safer knowing all is perfect for whatever thing we care a lot for.
    4biandu 4biandu 31-35, F Oct 31, 2014

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    I am the opposite. I am an industrious worker

    but I'm perfectly fine with what I complete.
    ValhallaAwaits ValhallaAwaits 22-25, M Mar 2

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    " i am a perfectionist

    but i know how to live life when i'm working , it's 100%. When i'm with my Friends, i put everything away and enjoy life. When i come home to my kids, pure joy and everything's worth it. Every time , i really focus 100 percent on one thing. I 've learned how to juggle my life...
    Zelaleme Zelaleme 51-55, F Jun 24