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I Am a Perfectionist

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    Perfectionist Or Procrastinator? - Where do you draw the line? And how does self-defeatism play into this?
    laynemeyer laynemeyer 36-40, M 4 Responses Apr 21, 2013

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    Perfectionist - Being a Perfectionist is really hard. I feel sad when I don't meet my impossible goals. It's so disappointing and saddening. I'm happy a lot though. I want to be...
    BlurredClarity BlurredClarity 16-17 Jul 18, 2013

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    My Anxiety About Being Perfect - People always tell me I'm a perfectionist. I would have to agree with them though. I'm an artist. If it's not exactly the way I want it to be, I...
    KayKay12497 KayKay12497 13-15, F 3 Responses May 20, 2012

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    I think it goes along with my social anxiety. I don't want to mess up and make a fool out of myself.
    kels789 kels789 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 21

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    Tortured Perfectionist - My perfectionism keeps me from living life. I avoid things if I don't feel like I can do them perfectly. It's killing me!
    bluepepper bluepepper 22-25, F 7 Responses May 6, 2008

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    Work In Progress - When your a kid being a perfectionist seems to get positive remarks from everyone. No one really tells you that it can become a problem if your not careful. I...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Oct 28, 2011

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    I don't have many other things to be good at. I have played the saxophone for 3 years almost. But sometimes I just get so frustrated. I stomp my feet on the floor and yell at...
    LaurenHarris LaurenHarris 13-15, F Jan 27

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    I Am Told That I Am a Perfectionist!! - My husband and son tell me that I'm a perfectionist.I don't see it that way.I was raised with my stepdad,he always said when you do...
    TexasLily TexasLily 51-55, F 3 Responses Feb 22, 2009

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    Help With Perfectionist Tendencies - I came across this video; it has a lot of great ideas. God Bless!
    DustToAshes DustToAshes 22-25, F Mar 1, 2013

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    It's pretty hard, viewing the world in a pessimistic way. I couldn't be more annoyed when I see that I've done something so well that it couldn't be better no matter how hard I...
    GroovySimmons2k GroovySimmons2k 16-17, M Dec 5, 2013

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    "perfection Kills All It's Seekers" Or At Least Their Eyes :/ -  I still remember everyone of these + I was one of those girls on some pro ana sites that most girls...
    BloodOnLace BloodOnLace 18-21, F 3 Responses Mar 20, 2012

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    I drive people around me crazy by striving to be perfect. I can try convince myself that it doesn't exist when people tell me but there's always that we voice in my head that tells...
    missneuro missneuro 26-30, F 2 Responses Feb 7

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    A Not Too Perfect Perfectionist - I hate being a perfectionist. It drives me mad sometimes. And sometimes I'm nervous my relationship with my husband of 10yrs may suffer a little...
    NeedInput1 NeedInput1 26-30, F 1 Response Oct 21, 2011

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    Not So Perfect. - I feel that if I can't do something perfectly, there's no point doing it at all. There's no medium of something being "good enough".
    anythingbutordinaryy anythingbutordinaryy 18-21, F 4 Responses Apr 7, 2012

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    What Else Is There To Say? - I am a perfectionists. Getting B's in school make me cry sometimes, and letting people down is the worst. I just can't handle being less than the best...
    occasionallyconfused occasionallyconfused 16-17 Apr 14, 2013

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    Too Far - I do not consider myself a perfectionist like the rest of the world sees it. I do not view myself as perfect. I do not like being a leader. I do not like giving orders. I...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Sep 1, 2012

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    Sometimes - In particular things, I am a perfectionist. I used to be obsessed with perfection; with being the perfect daughter, the perfect student, the perfect friend, the perfect...
    vinividivici21 vinividivici21 22-25, F 4 Responses Aug 2, 2008

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    No I Want It Perfect!! - Yep i am defiantly a perfectionist, everything has to be done my way or no way. If my husband does the hoovering i watch him carefully and he does not do...
    BrokenAngel35 BrokenAngel35 31-35, F Sep 28, 2013

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    Someone on my feed posted that quote where the guy says that a loser is someone who is so afraid of not winning that they don't even try. I just wanted to say that, for people...
    permakitten permakitten 26-30, F 1 Response Jan 13

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    How Its Defined - a disposition to feel that anything less than perfect is unacceptable; a tendency to expect perfection in everything one does, with little tolerance for...
    amysangels amysangels 22-25, F 7 Responses Feb 18, 2011

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    Bad Kid - I learned early that if you were a bad kid your parents would love you less. That's what my mom said about my brother who she doesn't like. Problem is I've always been...
    Kirit3 Kirit3 22-25, F Jul 28, 2013

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    It drives me crazy when things... - It drives me crazy when things are out of place.  I'm disabled and can no longer clean my own home.  I have to rely on my family to do...
    tamsin35 tamsin35 31-35, F 1 Response Jun 19, 2007

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    It'S Not The Right Time For You To Leave Me - Ya it's not the right time for me also I need you ..ya she is my neighbor she is 46 years old she is my sister my mother my father and...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Feb 16, 2013

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    Watch Out - I get so caught up in perfection.  I’ve learned to back off in the last 30 years or so.  I guess that comes with marriage and kids. ...
    Myonis108 Myonis108 56-60, F 37 Responses Jul 13, 2009

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    Absolute - I just realized what I want to achieve in this life – Perfection. I will practice, repeat as much as needed to achieve it in everything I’m doing, that I Love to do...
    Dan193 Dan193 18-21, M 2 Responses Dec 19, 2012

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    I Am A Perfectionist - My life has been clouded by a series of negative events that were the result of me getting frustrated because things weren't done to my satisfaction. I've...
    stuckinacorner stuckinacorner 46-50, M 2 Responses Nov 12, 2013

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    Not Good Enough - I always have been. I can't stop unless I feel that everything is just right. For example, back in my senior year of high school. It was in Anatomy class and we...
    JesusKravitz JesusKravitz 18-21, M 2 Responses Oct 6, 2013

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    I follow instructs as often as I can. I do everything with creativity and as perfect as I think it can be. I develop my personality and understanding.
    Aristocratic Aristocratic 16-17, M Mar 2

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    It Stops Me In My Tracks - Everything I do must be perfect. Perfectly aligned, clean, clear, beautiful. But of course it's not. Especially new things, for which I don't have enough...
    Mapping Mapping 26-30, F 2 Responses Sep 3, 2013

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    Rien N'est Parfait - No one is perfectNothing is perfect, but each second of bliss gives you the taste of life..    The taste of pleasure, euphoria, perfection..What is...
    converselyblue converselyblue 18-21, F Jul 24, 2013

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    Relationships - My relationship is always suffering because I can't control my issues. How do you all deal? Here's an example... we have a keurig coffee maker, and I like all the...
    sjballet sjballet 26-30, F 1 Response Apr 24, 2013

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    What?!!? Im Perfect? - I have a pencil and my eraser is completely Used up.. Do you know why? Because im not perfect but i try to fix my mistakes to make them as perfect as it can...
    HeartAndWings HeartAndWings 16-17, F Jan 21, 2013

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    My Poor Wife - my wife comes from the school of "so long as it passes the 5 foot test", whereas I need to know it's done right.  If it isn't right from the start it...
    Brit247 Brit247 31-35, M 3 Responses Jul 1, 2008

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    You Can't Rush Perfection - Being a perfectionist is both my blessing and curse. I don't know if it's part of OCD but I cringe a little when things aren't done right. By all means...
    tessa4ever tessa4ever 31-35, F Jun 4, 2013

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    At Some Things, I Do Tend to B... - At some things, I do tend to be a Perfectionist.  Sometimes to the point I really annoy my family.  Oh well...
    silvermystics silvermystics 51-55, F Jul 6, 2007

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    Kinda, it depends on what I am doing if I one or not lol
    1LilLefty 1LilLefty 13-15, M 1 Response Jan 14

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    a perfectionist Well when evver I do these projects for biology, I always want to make t the best I can. My teacher told me that I dont need to add any thing because Its really...
    regulare05 regulare05 13-15, F 2 Responses Jan 7

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    I didn't choose to be a perfectionist. I was always expected to be the best
    PricelessPerfection PricelessPerfection 13-15, F Mar 24

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    Dear God - its not a good thing trust me. Its why i hate drawing. Mainly because EVERYTHING i draw has to be perfect. D: if its not i feel like it looks like crap.and i never draw...
    kittycat101303 kittycat101303 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 8, 2010

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    That awkward moment when you're mentally beating yourself up over a 96% on a test and then you have to be all excited for your friend's 83%.
    Skirefly Skirefly 13-15, F 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    Especially When It Comes To A Clean House - I find carpet gross and people who wear their shoes in the house gross. Imagine what you are tracking in and is staying in your carpet...
    Kindal Kindal 46-50, F 5 Responses Feb 24, 2010

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    Disorganized Perfectionist - Not really sure if those words go together but I am constantly striving for perfection because I am so imperfect.
    akt238 akt238 31-35, F 1 Response Feb 25, 2013

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    Performing - I'm dreadful. It's never right. That sounded terrible! I'm rubbish. These and many others are phrases I use, when I am performing or playing violin in front of...
    IamcalledS IamcalledS 18-21, F Apr 25, 2013

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    It'S Bad - My English teacher get really frustrated when I start roping pages out of my book because the writing isn't neat or I'm not happy with the grade standard Its so bad...
    FRancis13 FRancis13 13-15, F Nov 9, 2013

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    Also An Artist - Artist and perfectionists go hand in hand. because usually an artist is a perfectionist because they always want to do the best they can do. I am like that, I will...
    battlefighter battlefighter 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 1, 2013

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    I hate making mistakes. I always feel like such an idiot after making a mistake. If I didn't make mistakes my life would be 100% better. I'd probably have the life I want if I didn...
    BleuGirl83 BleuGirl83 26-30, F 1 Response Mar 3

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    Imperfection - I've recently come to the realization that I'm a bit of a perfectionist, and because of this, I never stop feeling like I'm not good enough. I've convinced myself...
    Havenn Havenn 18-21, F 2 Responses May 22, 2013

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    This Describes Me To A T - Traits of a perfectionist: Fear of failure. Perfectionists often equate failure to achieve their goals with a lack of personal worth or value. (I value...
    livelively22 livelively22 18-21, F 2 Responses Jun 11, 2013

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    I was born in 1999, and am currently 14 years old. I have always been a talkative and kind person, but a few years ago my step dad and mom got divorce, and I haven't talked to my...
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    I never have found a man that I find physically attractive enough. There's always something wrong with him physically in my perfectionist in mind. I too will never and have never...
    gogogirl7 gogogirl7 36-40, F 13 Responses Mar 16

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    I've been feeling very distant from God for a period of time, I've been going through a series of emotional ups and downs, and recently I had academic tests. Being a perfectionist...
    nerdylizz nerdylizz 18-21, F 5 Responses Mar 18

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