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I Am a Perfectionist

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    This Describes Me To A T

    Traits of a perfectionist: Fear of failure. Perfectionists often equate failure to achieve their goals with a lack of personal worth or value. (I value myself based on how perfect I seem) Fear of making mistakes. Perfectionists often equate mistakes with failure. In orienting...
    livelively22 livelively22 18-21, F 1 Response Jun 11, 2013

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    I'm all or nothing. I never seem to match my

    expectations and am prone to self-sabotage (rebelling against myself?). Ran myself into the ground over a period of weeks for an assignment worth 20%. I got full marks but it felt hollow. The briefest of praises from a couple of coveted letters symbolising achievement...
    3naturespice3 3naturespice3 22-25 Aug 15, 2015

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    I know it's impossible to be perfect,

    but I strive to be perfect, or at least 99% so.
    theotherusernamesweretaken theotherusernamesweretaken 26-30, M 1 Response Jul 27, 2015

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    It drives me crazy when things...

    It drives me crazy when things are out of place.  I'm disabled and can no longer clean my own home.  I have to rely on my family to do it for me and since I am a perfectionist it's making me feel triple the craziness then before.  On top of that, my name Tammy...
    tamsin35 tamsin35 31-35, F 1 Response Jun 19, 2007

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    Tortured Perfectionist

    My perfectionism keeps me from living life. I avoid things if I don't feel like I can do them perfectly. It's killing me!
    bluepepper bluepepper 22-25, F 8 Responses May 6, 2008

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    I like things well organized

    but some coworkers think I'm OCD. How do you define the difference? Does it really matter? Find it confusing.
    teknerd teknerd 66-70, M 2 Responses Dec 5, 2015

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    I didn't choose to be a perfectionist.

    I was always expected to be the best
    PricelessPerfection PricelessPerfection 16-17, F Mar 24, 2014

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    People always say and inform others about how

    you have to fail first in order to succeed. But you have no idea how much it hurts when we fail. It's just in my nature, I guess. I never do anything that has a chance of me failing. This perfectionism resulted in me having a fear for failure, and it kinda sucks.
    nebulaebb nebulaebb 13-15, F 2 Responses Dec 3, 2015

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    I grew up with a father

    who believed anything less than 100% might as well be 0%. That requiring assistance was a sign of weakness. That asking questions conveyed stupidity and laziness. I've never felt good enough...always just shy of it - almost but not quite. And now I'm trying to figure out how...
    Kettei Kettei 31-35, F 3 Responses Sep 14, 2015

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    And this is killing me

    or at least tirening me a lot....
    dgddi1 dgddi1 51-55, M Dec 31, 2015

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    And here is what I've learned about

    perfectionists: We aren't perfect, for one. And because life is rarely perfect, we are rarely satisfied. This has been both the blessing and the curse of my life so far. At its ugliest, it causes me to never quite feel successful enough, attractive enough, smart enough...
    ashadams244 ashadams244 26-30, F Nov 18, 2015

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    Why people on this page say

    that being a perfectionist is a disadvantage, well it's beyond me. It isn't a disadvantage, in fact it's a beautiful thing. Rehearsing everything so it's perfected and giving one hundred percent like it is an art. I myself do not get everything done perfectly but I'll try my...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Oct 30, 2015

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    Wow. I can't believe how much perfection is

    portrayed as a bad thing nowadays. People look down on perfection! It doesn't make any sense! They call it boring if everyone were to be perfect. They say that no one is perfect then double back on themselves and say they are perfect just as themselves. Goons! Obviously you are...
    NameIsMailbox NameIsMailbox 16-17, M 5 days ago

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    The thing about being "perfect" is

    that it's not just impossible, but unnatural. If human error is what is natural and tangible, then I cannot be perfect or do something perfectly. This reasoning leads me to believe that this is why I am so insecure and self-discriminating. I hate myself, because I cannot meet my...
    metr0p0lis metr0p0lis 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 12, 2015

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    People say it almost gets annoying sometimes.

    . . well its not my fault. . . I can't help thinking that I could've done it better.
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Sep 3, 2015

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    I am perfect so they say.

    I say perfection is an illusion. They say you are thin and beautiful. I say it garners unwanted attention. They say you are motivational. I say it covers my insecurities. They say keep working. I say I'm tired. They say you'll get there. I say I'm trying. They say get better. I...
    HearMyEscape HearMyEscape 31-35, F 3 Responses Dec 20, 2014

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    Dear God. It's frustrating knowing

    that perfection isn't possible, and then still striving for it. It's like trying to walk through a wall even though you know damn well it's not possible. You feel like an effing idiot, yet you back up, take a running start and try again (and make a fool of yourself, again).
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Sep 17, 2015

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    Also An Artist

    Artist and perfectionists go hand in hand. because usually an artist is a perfectionist because they always want to do the best they can do. I am like that, I will erase the exact same line 4 times to make sure it is perfect. I never have an eraser on my pencils because i use it...
    battlefighter battlefighter 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 1, 2013

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    Someone on my feed posted

    that quote where the guy says that a loser is someone who is so afraid of not winning that they don't even try. I just wanted to say that, for people like me, that's not true. I'm not a loser, I'm a perfectionist, and I need encouragement too. Shame just makes it worse because...
    permakitten permakitten 31-35, F 1 Response Jan 13, 2014

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    Work In Progress

    When your a kid being a perfectionist seems to get positive remarks from everyone. No one really tells you that it can become a problem if your not careful. I know that I have pushed people away by being too much of a perfectionist. I can't seem to trust anyone else to do...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Oct 28, 2011

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    I have this idea in my head about how it all

    supposed to me and I act as if I'm supposed to be superwoman it's infuriating
    honestlyanonymouslyme honestlyanonymouslyme 22-25, F Jul 26, 2015

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    a perfectionist Well

    when evver I do these projects for biology, I always want to make t the best I can. My teacher told me that I dont need to add any thing because Its really good. Shes the one who brought it to my attention that i am a perfectionist, because she told me that. I feel like If it...
    regulare05 regulare05 16-17, F 1 Response Jan 7, 2014

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    Sometimes I feel that I want to be absolutely

    the best in almost every single thing in this world .... I am trying, but I haven't got the time, for every single thing in the world, you know. What an annoying cocky attitude, quit it, you idiot.
    MissGaga MissGaga 22-25, F 1 Response Nov 6, 2015

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    I suposse is a way to control what surround us,

    and feel safer knowing all is perfect for whatever thing we care a lot for.
    4biandu 4biandu 31-35, F Oct 31, 2014

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    How Its Defined

    a disposition to feel that anything less than perfect is unacceptable; a tendency to expect perfection in everything one does, with little tolerance for mistakes those definitions doesn sound good to me..coz i do want everythin ido to b ok,not wrong,everythin..but im not...
    amysangels amysangels 22-25, F 7 Responses Feb 18, 2011

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    Absolute

    I just realized what I want to achieve in this life – Perfection. I will practice, repeat as much as needed to achieve it in everything I’m doing, that I Love to do. Everything is Possible =j http://youtu.be/j31Wf-R7RM0
    Dan193 Dan193 22-25, M 2 Responses Dec 19, 2012

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    The perfectionist in me has her hands wringing

    and can't wait to straighten out these lines. My recovering perfectionist self is trying to focus on the beautiful colors. I must be perfect or no-one will love me. I must be perfect or I'm a complete failure. I must be perfect or I'll lose my job. I must be perfect or what...
    MissQueenB MissQueenB 18-21, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    Can anyone help? This f***ing perfectionism is

    holding me back. I'm scared people won't like me if I do something wrong. I fear beeing criticised. I fear beeing rejected. I fear to disappoint the people I love and know, people I've just met, and people I've never seen. I often don't even start doing the things I would love...
    INFJRyan INFJRyan 16-17, M 4 Responses Sep 7, 2015

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    I can't leave something

    until it is completed, its just how I am. Everything must be perfect and when it is..... It feels amazing.
    Although Although 16-17 Aug 25, 2014

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    Heartheocean Heartheocean 61-65, M 1 Response Jan 1

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    Perfectionist

    Being a Perfectionist is really hard. I feel sad when I don't meet my impossible goals. It's so disappointing and saddening. I'm happy a lot though. I want to be happy, but I want to be perfect too. I often make sacrifices of what I want in order to achieve my idea of perfection...
    BlurredClarity BlurredClarity 18-21 Jul 18, 2013

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    i rub my socks on my face to see how soft they

    are. if they don't feel soft enough i throw them away.
    sludgefeast sludgefeast 26-30, F 2 Responses Nov 30, 2015

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    I think I've got a mixture of perfectionist

    and OCD. I just want everything to be perfect. Perfect student, perfect friend and perfect daughter and all. For instance, I've paid my life for being a perfect daughter, choosing the career my parents want so that I could be a perfect daughter. I can't correlate with changes...
    FinnyFunny FinnyFunny 22-25, F May 16, 2015

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    Everything I do has to be the best,

    or else its not even worth trying. Nothing can go wrong and everything must be perfect. Even though I know that problems are apart of life, I can't help wanting to quit after knowing that my work won't meet my own harsh standards. Despite trying to be the best, and trying to...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Aug 13, 2015

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    As annoying as it can be to some people,

    I find this to be one of my greatest traits. Yes, I understand why I can appear as 'difficult', but I simply like things to be a certain way and to be as close to perfect as possible. Is this a problem?
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Aug 18, 2014

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    I've always grown up feeling pressured to be

    the best, because I've always been told how smart I am and how successful I'm going to be. I've always known I was smart and now I just feel the pressure to be the smartest, get into the best schools, get the best job, get the best grades, etc. I hate being this way though. I...
    helloo12121 helloo12121 13-15, F 3 Responses Jul 24, 2015

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    wedgieshurtalot wedgieshurtalot 18-21, F 2 Responses Dec 1, 2015

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    When I RP online with friends,

    I have an established set of rules to keep everything in order and one of my pet peeves is characters who are overpowered or ones that keep changing storylines and species every few seconds. It would be understandable if the person portraying the character was bi-polar or...
    Monstermaster13 Monstermaster13 22-25, M Nov 30, 2015

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    So I'm a perfectionist I'm sorry

    but I can't help it, that's all what people want nowadays. You can't make it big as a singer and get your song heard by millions, so others can hear everything that makes yourself you, unless everything in your voice is perfect... I'm such a dream killer... Now wishing there...
    bribrinique bribrinique 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 31, 2014

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    I have my makeup finished

    for today's shoot with Artistry Academy.
    HalcyonPacific HalcyonPacific 16-17, F Dec 1, 2015

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    It's been a rough week.

    I feel like every time I gain back my confidence, something happens where someone's not happy with me, & I freak out about it. I actually felt like I handled everything quite well today, & now, at 1 AM, I've woken up after having been asleep & I'm fretting about one of the...
    SaundraMae SaundraMae 26-30, F 4 Responses Aug 20, 2015

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    And before I always quit

    before I failed, I was the perfect failure! But now that I grew up- I am ready to succeed. And it's hard, when every little thing I do NEEDS to be perfect. I set the bar way to high! My art needs to look like a photo, my Jewlery has to look perfect. :p I'm getting better....but...
    glitternglamxo glitternglamxo 22-25, F 1 Response Jan 14

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    Sometimes

    In particular things, I am a perfectionist. I used to be obsessed with perfection; with being the perfect daughter, the perfect student, the perfect friend, the perfect person. Needless to say, that was a lot of pressure. Fortunately, I didn't buckle under the pressure I put upon...
    vinividivici21 vinividivici21 22-25, F 4 Responses Aug 2, 2008

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    You know what I hate?

    That American culture praises perfectionism. I'm a perfectionist and it is my deepest weakness. Anyone who is one knows that it isn't a blessing, it's a curse. I am my own worst enemy. The slightest mistake and I tear myself apart like a hungry lion. I overthink every word that...
    addyd addyd 18-21, F 3 Responses Apr 26, 2015

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    It is my daily struggle,

    trying not to think if I could do things better, if I could give more, trying to focus on the good instead of the better. Also forgiving myself for things I have done wrong in the past, moments when I could have acted in a different, better way (or at least I think so...
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