I Am a Perfectionist

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    The perfectionist in me has her hands wringing

    and can't wait to straighten out these lines. My recovering perfectionist self is trying to focus on the beautiful colors. I must be perfect or no-one will love me. I must be perfect or I'm a complete failure. I must be perfect or I'll lose my job. I must be perfect or what...
    MissQueenB MissQueenB
    18-21, F
    1 Response Feb 8

    i rub my socks on my face to see how soft they

    are. if they don't feel soft enough i throw them away.
    sludgefeast sludgefeast
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Nov 30, 2015

    I grew up with a father

    who believed anything less than 100% might as well be 0%. That requiring assistance was a sign of weakness. That asking questions conveyed stupidity and laziness. I've never felt good enough...always just shy of it - almost but not quite. And now I'm trying to figure out how...
    Kettei Kettei
    31-35, F
    1 Response Sep 14, 2015
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Jan 1
    wedgieshurtalot wedgieshurtalot
    18-21, F
    1 Response Dec 1, 2015

    Sometimes

    In particular things, I am a perfectionist. I used to be obsessed with perfection; with being the perfect daughter, the perfect student, the perfect friend, the perfect person. Needless to say, that was a lot of pressure. Fortunately, I didn't buckle under the pressure I put upon...
    vinividivici21 vinividivici21
    22-25, F
    4 Responses Aug 2, 2008

    People tell me, "It doesn't have to be perfect.

    " But oh, yes, it does need to be.
    Solfeggio Solfeggio
    36-40, F
    1 Response Jun 24, 2014

    Can anyone help? This f***ing perfectionism is

    holding me back. I'm scared people won't like me if I do something wrong. I fear beeing criticised. I fear beeing rejected. I fear to disappoint the people I love and know, people I've just met, and people I've never seen. I often don't even start doing the things I would love...
    INFJRyan INFJRyan
    16-17, M
    4 Responses Sep 7, 2015
    kpl2014 kpl2014
    26-30, F
    1 Response Jan 12

    And here is what I've learned about

    perfectionists: We aren't perfect, for one. And because life is rarely perfect, we are rarely satisfied. This has been both the blessing and the curse of my life so far. At its ugliest, it causes me to never quite feel successful enough, attractive enough, smart enough...
    ashadams244 ashadams244
    26-30, F
    Nov 18, 2015

    But that being said, cognitive distortion

    creates self-doubt, performance anxiety and ultimately procrastination - within some areas this is a common problem with me, seems to be attached to more unhealthy perfectionist attributes.
    DavidG1986i DavidG1986i
    26-30, M
    1 Response Mar 16

    So I'm a perfectionist I'm sorry

    but I can't help it, that's all what people want nowadays. You can't make it big as a singer and get your song heard by millions, so others can hear everything that makes yourself you, unless everything in your voice is perfect... I'm such a dream killer... Now wishing there...
    bribrinique bribrinique
    18-21, F
    1 Response Jul 31, 2014

    People always say and inform others about how

    you have to fail first in order to succeed. But you have no idea how much it hurts when we fail. It's just in my nature, I guess. I never do anything that has a chance of me failing. This perfectionism resulted in me having a fear for failure, and it kinda sucks.
    nebulaebb nebulaebb
    13-15, F
    2 Responses Dec 3, 2015

    Wow. I can't believe how much perfection is

    portrayed as a bad thing nowadays. People look down on perfection! It doesn't make any sense! They call it boring if everyone were to be perfect. They say that no one is perfect then double back on themselves and say they are perfect just as themselves. Goons! Obviously you are...
    NameIsMailbox NameIsMailbox
    16-17, M
    Feb 5

    It drives me crazy when things...

    It drives me crazy when things are out of place.  I'm disabled and can no longer clean my own home.  I have to rely on my family to do it for me and since I am a perfectionist it's making me feel triple the craziness then before.  On top of that, my name Tammy...
    tamsin35 tamsin35
    31-35, F
    1 Response Jun 19, 2007

    It is my daily struggle,

    trying not to think if I could do things better, if I could give more, trying to focus on the good instead of the better. Also forgiving myself for things I have done wrong in the past, moments when I could have acted in a different, better way (or at least I think so...
    Cierzo Cierzo
    41-45, M
    Aug 10, 2015

    I'm a sort of perfectionist.

    When it comes to the state of my room, I usually don't care. When it comes to crooked pencils on my desk, I can tolerate it. However when it comes to other things, I am absolutely terrible. When I talk to people, I inwardly cringe whenever I feel that I should have worded my...
    BellaGrace1 BellaGrace1
    16-17, F
    Apr 16

    I like things well organized

    but some coworkers think I'm OCD. How do you define the difference? Does it really matter? Find it confusing.
    teknerd teknerd
    66-70, M
    2 Responses Dec 5, 2015

    I think I've got a mixture of perfectionist

    and OCD. I just want everything to be perfect. Perfect student, perfect friend and perfect daughter and all. For instance, I've paid my life for being a perfect daughter, choosing the career my parents want so that I could be a perfect daughter. I can't correlate with changes...
    FinnyFunny FinnyFunny
    22-25, F
    May 16, 2015

    Dear God. It's frustrating knowing

    that perfection isn't possible, and then still striving for it. It's like trying to walk through a wall even though you know damn well it's not possible. You feel like an effing idiot, yet you back up, take a running start and try again (and make a fool of yourself, again).
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    2 Responses Sep 17, 2015

    I'm obsessive about perfectionism.

    It may take me a little longer to do some things, but it'll be done right. I'm obsessive about many things, and it's not always bad. There's a bright side to it.
    Jononymous Jononymous
    26-30, M
    1 Response Mar 19

    Sometimes I feel that I want to be absolutely

    the best in almost every single thing in this world .... I am trying, but I haven't got the time, for every single thing in the world, you know. What an annoying cocky attitude, quit it, you idiot.
    MissGaga MissGaga
    22-25, F
    1 Response Nov 6, 2015

    When I RP online with friends,

    I have an established set of rules to keep everything in order and one of my pet peeves is characters who are overpowered or ones that keep changing storylines and species every few seconds. It would be understandable if the person portraying the character was bi-polar or...
    Monstermaster13 Monstermaster13
    22-25, M
    Nov 30, 2015

    I'm all or nothing. I never seem to match my

    expectations and am prone to self-sabotage (rebelling against myself?). Ran myself into the ground over a period of weeks for an assignment worth 20%. I got full marks but it felt hollow. The briefest of praises from a couple of coveted letters symbolising achievement...
    3naturespice3 3naturespice3
    22-25
    Aug 15, 2015

    I received an 89.5 percent more

    than 4 years ago in a class and it makes me never want to attend college again. I dropped out of a class because I was not prepared for a project. I refuse to date unless I'm at a weight I feel comfortable at. I do not put myself out there in life because I'm afraid of failure...
    honestlyanonymouslyme honestlyanonymouslyme
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Apr 12, 2015

    It's been a rough week.

    I feel like every time I gain back my confidence, something happens where someone's not happy with me, & I freak out about it. I actually felt like I handled everything quite well today, & now, at 1 AM, I've woken up after having been asleep & I'm fretting about one of the...
    SaundraMae SaundraMae
    26-30, F
    4 Responses Aug 20, 2015

    Someone on my feed posted

    that quote where the guy says that a loser is someone who is so afraid of not winning that they don't even try. I just wanted to say that, for people like me, that's not true. I'm not a loser, I'm a perfectionist, and I need encouragement too. Shame just makes it worse because...
    permakitten permakitten
    31-35, F
    1 Response Jan 13, 2014

    I didn't choose to be a perfectionist.

    I was always expected to be the best
    PricelessPerfection PricelessPerfection
    16-17, F
    Mar 24, 2014

    Not So Perfect.

    I feel that if I can't do something perfectly, there's no point doing it at all. There's no medium of something being "good enough".
    anythingbutordinaryy anythingbutordinaryy
    18-21, F
    4 Responses Apr 7, 2012

    Tortured Perfectionist

    My perfectionism keeps me from living life. I avoid things if I don't feel like I can do them perfectly. It's killing me!
    bluepepper bluepepper
    22-25, F
    8 Responses May 6, 2008

    I have my makeup finished

    for today's shoot with Artistry Academy.
    HalcyonPacific HalcyonPacific
    16-17, F
    Dec 1, 2015

    I've always grown up feeling pressured to be

    the best, because I've always been told how smart I am and how successful I'm going to be. I've always known I was smart and now I just feel the pressure to be the smartest, get into the best schools, get the best job, get the best grades, etc. I hate being this way though. I...
    helloo12121 helloo12121
    16-17, F
    3 Responses Jul 24, 2015

    This Describes Me To A T

    Traits of a perfectionist: Fear of failure. Perfectionists often equate failure to achieve their goals with a lack of personal worth or value. (I value myself based on how perfect I seem) Fear of making mistakes. Perfectionists often equate mistakes with failure. In orienting...
    livelively22 livelively22
    18-21, F
    1 Response Jun 11, 2013

    Also An Artist

    Artist and perfectionists go hand in hand. because usually an artist is a perfectionist because they always want to do the best they can do. I am like that, I will erase the exact same line 4 times to make sure it is perfect. I never have an eraser on my pencils because i use it...
    battlefighter battlefighter
    18-21, F
    1 Response Dec 1, 2013

    Mainly when it comes to organizing.

    For example, my profile is really bugging me right now because I can't arrange the order in which my groups are so that all the similar groups are close together! I almost want to leave and then rejoin all of my groups so it's all perfectly organized. Ugh... T_T
    CarverReturns CarverReturns
    22-25, F
    1 Response Mar 27

    You know what I hate?

    That American culture praises perfectionism. I'm a perfectionist and it is my deepest weakness. Anyone who is one knows that it isn't a blessing, it's a curse. I am my own worst enemy. The slightest mistake and I tear myself apart like a hungry lion. I overthink every word that...
    addyd addyd
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Apr 26, 2015

    I can't leave something

    until it is completed, its just how I am. Everything must be perfect and when it is..... It feels amazing.
    Although Although
    16-17
    Aug 25, 2014

    And before I always quit

    before I failed, I was the perfect failure! But now that I grew up- I am ready to succeed. And it's hard, when every little thing I do NEEDS to be perfect. I set the bar way to high! My art needs to look like a photo, my Jewlery has to look perfect. :p I'm getting better....but...
    glitternglamxo glitternglamxo
    22-25, F
    1 Response Jan 14

    Absolute

    I just realized what I want to achieve in this life – Perfection. I will practice, repeat as much as needed to achieve it in everything I’m doing, that I Love to do. Everything is Possible =j http://youtu.be/j31Wf-R7RM0
    Dan193 Dan193
    22-25, M
    1 Response Dec 19, 2012

    a perfectionist Well

    when evver I do these projects for biology, I always want to make t the best I can. My teacher told me that I dont need to add any thing because Its really good. Shes the one who brought it to my attention that i am a perfectionist, because she told me that. I feel like If it...
    regulare05 regulare05
    16-17, F
    1 Response Jan 7, 2014

    People say it almost gets annoying sometimes.

    . . well its not my fault. . . I can't help thinking that I could've done it better.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Sep 3, 2015

    Perfectionist

    Being a Perfectionist is really hard. I feel sad when I don't meet my impossible goals. It's so disappointing and saddening. I'm happy a lot though. I want to be happy, but I want to be perfect too. I often make sacrifices of what I want in order to achieve my idea of perfection...
    BlurredClarity BlurredClarity
    18-21
    Jul 18, 2013

    I was a perfectionist.

    (I still I'm sometimes) In my head everything I had to be perfect. The problem is that not matter how I was trying nothing seem (to me) near the perfection. Most of time, I was late to school just because I didn't like the way I did my ponytail. -_- I'm way much better now.
    Care2Love Care2Love
    13-15, F
    1 Response Mar 18

    As annoying as it can be to some people,

    I find this to be one of my greatest traits. Yes, I understand why I can appear as 'difficult', but I simply like things to be a certain way and to be as close to perfect as possible. Is this a problem?
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    2 Responses Aug 18, 2014

    Why people on this page say

    that being a perfectionist is a disadvantage, well it's beyond me. It isn't a disadvantage, in fact it's a beautiful thing. Rehearsing everything so it's perfected and giving one hundred percent like it is an art. I myself do not get everything done perfectly but I'll try my...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    3 Responses Oct 30, 2015

    Everything I do has to be the best,

    or else its not even worth trying. Nothing can go wrong and everything must be perfect. Even though I know that problems are apart of life, I can't help wanting to quit after knowing that my work won't meet my own harsh standards. Despite trying to be the best, and trying to...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Aug 13, 2015

    I suposse is a way to control what surround us,

    and feel safer knowing all is perfect for whatever thing we care a lot for.
    4biandu 4biandu
    31-35, F
    Oct 31, 2014

    In the not so healthy way,

    I'm obsessive and if something is not up to my standards it might as well go straight in the trash. Sometimes I really hate myself for this.
    LikeICare13 LikeICare13
    13-15, F
    Mar 18

    I have this idea in my head about how it all

    supposed to me and I act as if I'm supposed to be superwoman it's infuriating
    honestlyanonymouslyme honestlyanonymouslyme
    22-25, F
    Jul 26, 2015

    The thing about being "perfect" is

    that it's not just impossible, but unnatural. If human error is what is natural and tangible, then I cannot be perfect or do something perfectly. This reasoning leads me to believe that this is why I am so insecure and self-discriminating. I hate myself, because I cannot meet my...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Dec 12, 2015
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