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I Am a Perfectionist

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    I Am Told That I Am a Perfectionist!!

    My husband and son tell me that I'm a perfectionist.I don't see it that way.I was raised with my stepdad,he always said when you do something,do it right.That has always stuck in my head.I happen to think that my husband and son who I love dearly are a little on the lazy side...
    TexasLily TexasLily 51-55, F 3 Responses Feb 22, 2009

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    My Anxiety About Being Perfect

    People always tell me I'm a perfectionist. I would have to agree with them though. I'm an artist. If it's not exactly the way I want it to be, I will stress out and MAKE it be perfect no matter what it takes. I could be drawing a simple line, if it's not perfect, I will keep...
    KayKay12497 KayKay12497 13-15, F 3 Responses May 20, 2012

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    I don't have many other things to be good at.

    I have played the saxophone for 3 years almost. But sometimes I just get so frustrated. I stomp my feet on the floor and yell at myself for messing up even a single note. I scream "idiot" at myself and today my mom yelled at me for doing so. She said I was acting like my dad...
    bandfreak26 bandfreak26 13-15, F 1 Response Jan 27

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    How Its Defined

    a disposition to feel that anything less than perfect is unacceptable; a tendency to expect perfection in everything one does, with little tolerance for mistakes those definitions doesn sound good to me..coz i do want everythin ido to b ok,not wrong,everythin..but im not...
    amysangels amysangels 22-25, F 7 Responses Feb 18, 2011

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    Absolute

    I just realized what I want to achieve in this life – Perfection. I will practice, repeat as much as needed to achieve it in everything I’m doing, that I Love to do. Everything is Possible =j http://youtu.be/j31Wf-R7RM0
    FitsMyLife FitsMyLife 18-21, M 3 Responses Dec 19, 2012

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    What?!!? Im Perfect?

    I have a pencil and my eraser is completely Used up.. Do you know why? Because im not perfect but i try to fix my mistakes to make them as perfect as it can be..
    HeartAndWings HeartAndWings 16-17, F Jan 21, 2013

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    What about y'all? Do you feel irritated by

    even only slightly imperfect stuff?
    DarkLoser DarkLoser 13-15, F 2 Responses Sep 3

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    People tell me, "It doesn't have to be perfect.

    " But oh, yes, it does need to be.
    Solfeggio Solfeggio 36-40, F 4 Responses Jun 24

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    My Poor Wife

    my wife comes from the school of "so long as it passes the 5 foot test", whereas I need to know it's done right.  If it isn't right from the start it just bugs me until i just end up fixing it anyway.  She's never understood why it takes me so long to buy...
    Brit247 Brit247 31-35, M 3 Responses Jul 1, 2008

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    I didn't choose to be a perfectionist.

    I was always expected to be the best
    PricelessPerfection PricelessPerfection 13-15, F Mar 24

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    I do things properly,

    I don't have time to waste on doing something half-heartedly. People always tell me to calm down and take some time to have fun and not concentrate so hard on my grades, but none of that sounds fun to me it just sounds like a whole lot of anxiety and feeling like I'm lazy. I...
    bridgetdarcy998 bridgetdarcy998 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 24

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    Also An Artist

    Artist and perfectionists go hand in hand. because usually an artist is a perfectionist because they always want to do the best they can do. I am like that, I will erase the exact same line 4 times to make sure it is perfect. I never have an eraser on my pencils because i use it...
    battlefighter battlefighter 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 1, 2013

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    I drive people around me crazy by striving to

    be perfect. I can try convince myself that it doesn't exist when people tell me but there's always that we voice in my head that tells me the other person is a fool and how can they go about their business disorganised. It is however causing me a lot of stress and anxiety in my...
    missneuro missneuro 26-30, F 2 Responses Feb 7

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    It's pretty hard, viewing the world in a

    pessimistic way. I couldn't be more annoyed when I see that I've done something so well that it couldn't be better no matter how hard I tried, because no matter what I do it's imperfect. I've tried so hard to make myself presentable in society but can never be happy with how my...
    GroovySimmons2k GroovySimmons2k 16-17, M Dec 5, 2013

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    I just got a filling today

    and now I'm p!ssed because it's half a shade different than my tooth colour.
    ChortlesOfDoom ChortlesOfDoom 13-15, F Jun 24

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    This Describes Me To A T

    Traits of a perfectionist: Fear of failure. Perfectionists often equate failure to achieve their goals with a lack of personal worth or value. (I value myself based on how perfect I seem) Fear of making mistakes. Perfectionists often equate mistakes with failure. In orienting...
    livelively22 livelively22 18-21, F 2 Responses Jun 11, 2013

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    Someone on my feed posted

    that quote where the guy says that a loser is someone who is so afraid of not winning that they don't even try. I just wanted to say that, for people like me, that's not true. I'm not a loser, I'm a perfectionist, and I need encouragement too. Shame just makes it worse because...
    permakitten permakitten 26-30, F 1 Response Jan 13

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    I can't leave something

    until it is completed, its just how I am. Everything must be perfect and when it is..... It feels amazing.
    Although Although 13-15 Aug 25

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    Dear God

    its not a good thing trust me. Its why i hate drawing. Mainly because EVERYTHING i draw has to be perfect. D: if its not i feel like it looks like crap.and i never draw anything perfectly, theres always a flaw or two so im never satisfied.Sometimes though i can ignore the...
    kittycat101303 kittycat101303 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 8, 2010

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    I know that i have a good body

    but i cant settle for average. I hate my body issues.
    A10371232 A10371232 18-21, F Jun 16

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    Perfectionist

    Being a Perfectionist is really hard. I feel sad when I don't meet my impossible goals. It's so disappointing and saddening. I'm happy a lot though. I want to be happy, but I want to be perfect too. I often make sacrifices of what I want in order to achieve my idea of perfection...
    BlurredClarity BlurredClarity 18-21 Jul 18, 2013

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    It bothers me that I strive to be perfect in

    every way I know it's impossible I don't know why I try so hard
    BabyDuchanne BabyDuchanne 16-17, F 2 Responses Jul 11

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    As annoying as it can be to some people,

    I find this to be one of my greatest traits. Yes, I understand why I can appear as 'difficult', but I simply like things to be a certain way and to be as close to perfect as possible. Is this a problem?
    JaidIsAWildflower JaidIsAWildflower 18-21, F 2 Responses Aug 18

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    Trying Notto Panic

    I am 26 years old. I graduated from college one year late in may 2008. It's almost like i've lived all my life without any real conscious thought or effort. I woke up and started a quest to redefine myself. I wanted to study medicine and had studied biology in college. I have...
    ylwdaisy ylwdaisy 26-30, F 2 Responses Dec 11, 2010

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    I want to do everything write.

    Especially when I study ministry, this is God's work for me so there is no time for mistakes.
    gardengirl17 gardengirl17 22-25, F 1 Response Aug 5

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    I follow instructs as often

    as I can. I do everything with creativity and as perfect as I think it can be. I develop my personality and understanding.
    Aristocratic Aristocratic 16-17, M Mar 2

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    NeeverForget NeeverForget 18-21, F Aug 18

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    It'S Bad

    My English teacher get really frustrated when I start roping pages out of my book because the writing isn't neat or I'm not happy with the grade standard Its so bad that everything I'm my room is colour coordinated
    FRancis13 FRancis13 16-17, F Nov 9, 2013

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    Livyn4pals Livyn4pals 46-50, M Aug 5

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    I hate making mistakes.

    I always feel like such an idiot after making a mistake. If I didn't make mistakes my life would be 100% better. I'd probably have the life I want if I didn't make mistakes.
    BleuGirl83 BleuGirl83 31-35, F 1 Response Mar 3

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    I think my husband would love me.

    I'm the type of person that cleans as i go. i really HATE to see things out of place especially if i just put everything in place. My house will always stay clean
    luvabl3 luvabl3 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 18

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    I'm never happy with anything I do

    because I believe it can always be better, neater, closer to perfection. I waste hours on stupid things, needlessly making tiny alterations until I think it's the closet to perfect that it's going to get.
    Nojji Nojji 13-15, F 1 Response May 8

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    a perfectionist Well

    when evver I do these projects for biology, I always want to make t the best I can. My teacher told me that I dont need to add any thing because Its really good. Shes the one who brought it to my attention that i am a perfectionist, because she told me that. I feel like If it...
    regulare05 regulare05 13-15, F 2 Responses Jan 7

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    Everything about me has to be perfect.

    Not like looks or clothes or anything I lack so much in those. Well my parents push me to be a straight A student who never gets into trouble and every one has to like me if not they make me do everything to make them like me. If I get anything less than a A I get in trouble and...
    AlonaEnchanted AlonaEnchanted 16-17, F Jul 17

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    Especially When It Comes To A Clean House

    I find carpet gross and people who wear their shoes in the house gross. Imagine what you are tracking in and is staying in your carpet. I have carpet in my rental but wish I had hard wood floors. I like a clean house and the towels in the bathroom lined up perfectly. I'm not...
    Kindal Kindal 46-50, F 5 Responses Feb 24, 2010

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    Watch Out

    I get so caught up in perfection.  I’ve learned to back off in the last 30 years or so.  I guess that comes with marriage and kids.  I was desperately outnumbered so I came up with the perfect strategy.  I would learn survival skills...
    Myonis108 Myonis108 56-60, F 37 Responses Jul 13, 2009

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    So I'm a perfectionist I'm sorry

    but I can't help it, that's all what people want nowadays. You can't make it big as a singer and get your song heard by millions, so others can hear everything that makes yourself you, unless everything in your voice is perfect... I'm such a dream killer... Now wishing there...
    bribrinique bribrinique 18-21, F Jul 31

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    ErikaT5 ErikaT5 16-17, F May 8

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    I need some advice, because I feel like I can do

    so much more than I really can,I really overestimate myself and when I don't reach my standards I get really frustrated. I am at the top of my class at dance and school but I still expect more. When I get a 94% or less I get really discouraged, and when I don't nail my fouett...
    Swagaliciousk Swagaliciousk 13-15, F 1 Response Aug 5

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    It drives me crazy when things...

    It drives me crazy when things are out of place.  I'm disabled and can no longer clean my own home.  I have to rely on my family to do it for me and since I am a perfectionist it's making me feel triple the craziness then before.  On top of that, my name Tammy...
    tamsin35 tamsin35 31-35, F 1 Response Jun 19, 2007

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    Not So Perfect.

    I feel that if I can't do something perfectly, there's no point doing it at all. There's no medium of something being "good enough".
    anythingbutordinaryy anythingbutordinaryy 18-21, F 4 Responses Apr 7, 2012

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    At Some Things, I Do Tend to B...

    At some things, I do tend to be a Perfectionist.  Sometimes to the point I really annoy my family.  Oh well...
    silvermystics silvermystics 51-55, F Jul 6, 2007

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    Storylines Must Be In Perfect Order - If there

    is one thing I cannot stand when i'm taking part in an RP session or writing a story, it's when people mess up the continuity in them. Like for example if one of the characters in it has a curse that is incurable and then according to another character in another story-line...
    Monstermaster13 Monstermaster13 22-25, M Apr 21

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    Perfectionist Or Procrastinator?

    Where do you draw the line? And how does self-defeatism play into this?
    laynemeyer laynemeyer 36-40, M 3 Responses Apr 21, 2013

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    Work In Progress

    When your a kid being a perfectionist seems to get positive remarks from everyone. No one really tells you that it can become a problem if your not careful. I know that I have pushed people away by being too much of a perfectionist. I can't seem to trust anyone else to do...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Oct 28, 2011

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    Sometimes

    In particular things, I am a perfectionist. I used to be obsessed with perfection; with being the perfect daughter, the perfect student, the perfect friend, the perfect person. Needless to say, that was a lot of pressure. Fortunately, I didn't buckle under the pressure I put upon...
    vinividivici21 vinividivici21 22-25, F 4 Responses Aug 2, 2008

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    A Not Too Perfect Perfectionist

    I hate being a perfectionist. It drives me mad sometimes. And sometimes I'm nervous my relationship with my husband of 10yrs may suffer a little due to it. Now I am not perfect. But I am the type of person who is forever looking for self improvement. I read (well browse til...
    NeedInput1 NeedInput1 26-30, F 1 Response Oct 21, 2011

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    Tortured Perfectionist

    My perfectionism keeps me from living life. I avoid things if I don't feel like I can do them perfectly. It's killing me!
    bluepepper bluepepper 22-25, F 7 Responses May 6, 2008

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    I Am A Perfectionist

    My life has been clouded by a series of negative events that were the result of me getting frustrated because things weren't done to my satisfaction. I've learned to not trust others to do things correctly/accurately.
    stuckinacorner stuckinacorner 46-50, M 2 Responses Nov 12, 2013

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    Not Good Enough

    I always have been. I can't stop unless I feel that everything is just right. For example, back in my senior year of high school. It was in Anatomy class and we were getting our tests back over the skeletal system. The test included naming bones, locating them, classifying them...
    JesusKravitz JesusKravitz 18-21, M 2 Responses Oct 6, 2013

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    1LilLefty 1LilLefty 13-15, F 1 Response Jan 14

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