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I Am a Recovering Co-dependent

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    Our Good Points - Oct.19 - What's a codependent? The answer's easy. They're some of the most loving, caring people I know. —Beyond CodependencyWe don't need to limit an...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 1 Response Oct 19, 2013

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    Codependant Problem - I want to write something but I am not sure how it will be taken as I am a male with codepency problems and worried i will be laughed at. My life is a...
    GRAHAM2109 GRAHAM2109 36-40 1 Response Jul 28, 2009

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    Long Road Ahead Of Me - Well to begin, I'm a codependent, changing my ways to not be, but I still notice to codepent tendencies in myself.  My mother is an alcoholic, and I...
    Greeneyedandcurious Greeneyedandcurious 22-25, F Sep 19, 2010

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    Explaining To My Ex - I had to come to grips with my co-dependency last night.  Since my separation and almost completed divorce my ex has wondered why I needed to move on...
    GoodMan67 GoodMan67 41-45, M 4 Responses Feb 19, 2010

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    Just Starting My Recovery - Hi just realised that I am codependent - wow what a nightmare - anyway I am the youngest child of an abusive relationship, father drank and workaholic...
    freckle66 freckle66 41-45, F 3 Responses Dec 21, 2008

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    A Poem By Marilyn De Pinto - Searching eyes, Questioning all corners of the room. in split seconds - Brows which aspire to the heights of the forehead; darting, cool and...
    tylrhere tylrhere 46-50, F Apr 19, 2009

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    Recovery - Oct. 11 - How easy it is to blame our problems on others. "Look at what he's doing." . . . "Look how long I've waited." . . . "Why doesn't she call?" . . . "If only...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Oct 11, 2013

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    Co-dependent Anonymous- Does It Work? -  I acknowledge that I am very co-dependent. I am in therapy for it. My therapist has urged my to go to a meeting. Should I? For some...
    ECGH ECGH 31-35, F 2 Responses Nov 18, 2009

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    I Love Codependents! - I know that codependency can, if out of control, hurt, and even kill people, but, codependents, in general, are wonderful caring, compassionate people...
    vibrante vibrante 41-45, F 1 Response Dec 18, 2012

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    Afraid To Lose Her - Rule number one in childhood: Be perfect.  Two: Everyone else comes before you, and you'd better make them happy. Three: If women are mad at you, pain is on...
    Jubal1 Jubal1 51-55, M 1 Response Jul 15, 2011

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    Working On Myself - I have been married to an addict for 11 years. I totally lost myself in this relationship and I am now working to reclaim my life so that we can either move on...
    husbandofanaddict husbandofanaddict 36-40, M Oct 15, 2009

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    Single And Codependent Maybe Love Addict? - Hi everyone- So i am a 31 year old female who has been codependent my whole life whether it be with friends or boyfriends - I finally...
    julybaby954 julybaby954 31-35, F 1 Response Oct 7, 2012

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    I have lost myself over and over again, but each time a little less. This last breakup was my own initiative, and I am still so confident in that decision. Almost two and a half...
    exodusses exodusses 22-25, F Feb 7

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    Never Ending - Three years ago I met robert, he was the bad boy. He drank a lot, smoked everything, and did whatever he wanted. For some reason I wanted to help him, I thought that...
    Hawaii2015 Hawaii2015 18-21, F Jun 8, 2012

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    After 14 Yrs Of Co-dependency.... - My co-dependency has led me to loose everything and everybody I use to have around me. My husband has always battled with substance abuse and I...
    sandylo sandylo 26-30, F 2 Responses Jul 2, 2010

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    First Steps - I'm freaking out right now. I can't focus on work. I feel like this is going to get me fired. My 7 year relationship is ending and it feels like the whole world...
    JeanieLynn JeanieLynn 22-25, F 1 Response Apr 21, 2011

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    When Our Vices Desert Us, We Flatter Ourselves That We Are Deserting Our Vices. - When I first found out about my husband’s infidelity and betrayal, I was completely destroyed...
    TypicalPisces TypicalPisces 31-35, F 3 Responses Feb 10, 2011

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    26 Year Marriage Ending / 22 Yr Old Still Not Employed And An Addict - I am just now entering into a divorce after 26 years of marriage.  I am codependent and have made many...
    afterwoz afterwoz 46-50 2 Responses Nov 12, 2011

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    I Had a Relapse!!! - In the fall of 2008 I found myself in a situation that I did not know how to handle. My upbringing taught me that I should back off, be quiet and not...
    tylrhere tylrhere 46-50, F 1 Response Mar 29, 2009

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    Codependent And Didn't Even Realize It! - I am reading alot of information about codependency. Man all those characteristics describe me perfectly. It all started with my alcoholic...
    iamsomeonespecial iamsomeonespecial 46-50, F 1 Response Oct 15, 2012

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    I Am a Recovering Co-dependent - I was adopted into a family where there was alcohol...my father is an alcoholic. We spend years moving from one place to another because he would...
    tylrhere tylrhere 46-50, F 2 Responses Apr 7, 2007

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    Found Myself Feeding Into It Again... - I found myself feeding into my codependency about 20 minutes ago. This time her words over the phone made me aware that i was doing it...
    justaSeeker justaSeeker 56-60, M 1 Response May 5, 2010

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    When I Was Married -  i developed a co dependent nature because my husband knocked me down ....  then when i left i continued the pattern ..  i HAD to have a...
    starstruck2xtrme starstruck2xtrme 26-30, F 4 Responses Aug 23, 2007

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    Sometimes It Takes A While For Awareness To Turn Into Actual Change - I have an old friend who disagrees with my parenting style and doesn't like my spirited son. This really hurt...
    lsm007 lsm007 41-45 Mar 19, 2012

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    How Are You? - One of the most difficult questions for me to answer is “how are you?” As a co-dependent, I don’t know – I’ve gotta check other people first. This began...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 4 Responses Oct 5, 2013

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    I Can Not Change Anybody But Me - I have to repeat this to myself frequently. I wish I had magical powers to fix others problems. I feel other people pain, and I want them to be...
    vibrante vibrante 41-45, F Dec 18, 2012

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    I'm Just Too Damn Nice!! - Hi, I am a fifty nine year old divorced female living in central New York. I have 2 adult children living in MA. I have known my whole life that I am...
    dleone1216 dleone1216 56-60 2 Responses Dec 29, 2012

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    Getting Out Is Just The Beginning! - I did not suspect I was codependent. My partner did not abuse any substances, unless you count coffee. I did not know why I was so angry all...
    instar instar 41-45 3 Responses Jul 12, 2010

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    Help! I Am Co-dependent, They Say! - Gosh! Where to start... I grew up in a household that consisted of a father who was a drunk and abusive to my mother. I have two younger...
    berlylouc berlylouc 46-50, F Apr 12, 2012

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    I Miss Her. Tues 5/11/10) -      She comes into my life about once a month. This last time she stayed around about 2 weeks. No, she doesn't actually stay with...
    justaSeeker justaSeeker 56-60, M 1 Response May 11, 2010

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    Patience - I have found giving up manipulating very difficult as I recover. I think I know how things should go, and life doesn't agree with me often. It is difficult to have a...
    vibrante vibrante 41-45, F Dec 19, 2012

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    What I'm Working On.... - I have had a time working on the responding versus reacting part of my recovery. I have been especially awareof it for at least a few months. Being...
    emeraldskies emeraldskies 41-45, F 2 Responses Aug 19, 2011

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    We were first coworkers and became friends. Both married and became emotionally co - dependent on each other. Talking numerous times a day. We became best friends and eventually...
    dali718 dali718 31-35, F 6 Responses Mar 25

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    I was raised by a feminist to be a strong and independent female. I just don't want to be. I like being a vulnerable, soft, co- dependent lady from time time. I can open my own...
    xMissTix xMissTix 26-30, F 2 Responses Mar 31

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    My in-laws suck. They are manipulative, co-dependent, pathological liars who were all raised by a dysfunctional psycho. This family is what happens when a personality disorder...
    sheyshey12 sheyshey12 26-30 Apr 1

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    Both my parents are career driven individuals who made me more because they had a social obligation to at least produce a child then anything else. By the age of 6 months I was in...
    soliloque soliloque 22-25, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    I Need Not Want Have you noticed how people in emergency situations are given priority over others? If it's a medical situation the person receives lots of attention and care from...
    vector8 vector8 46-50, F Apr 4

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