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I Am a Sapiosexual

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 959 People

    After many years of battling with my sexuality,

    I've come to the conclusion that gender doesn't matter. If you click with another person there's no reason why you should't connect with them. After all we're all just souls in borrowed bodies :)                   
    KaeDeville KaeDeville
    22-25, F
    1 Response Apr 10, 2015

    All Three

      Feed me the narrative of ancient ruins.....and my hunger for you grows more. Quench my yearning with the works of  Monet, Rembrandt, Titian, and Bernini.....and my thirst for you is insatiable. Nourish me with rousing animation.....and my weakness for you...
    Sylphy Sylphy
    41-45, F
    45 Responses Mar 16, 2010

    I Wanna Fu** Your Brains!

    I date more so than have serious relationships. I've recently been dating a pretty intelligent guy however his personality ruined his chances in getting with me. Although I've been dating for so long, I've noticed a pattern. I didn't know how to describe it until a friend of mine...
    lafarfalla lafarfalla
    1 Response Sep 8, 2011

    Sapiosexuality, My Definition:

    It is one who finds intelligence the most sexually attractive feature.  Any woman, no matter how good looking she is, must be capable of offering stimulating conversation. She must be capable of defending her stances in rhetorical battles when challenged. I cannot, and will...
    Zasurith Zasurith
    5 Responses Oct 13, 2011

    I stumbled upon this post,

    written by Zasurith, 4 years ago. For a young person, I'd say his ideals are pretty lofty, though there is no doubt that what he wrote is so spot on. Interestingly, I could have written something similar to this. It defines, with utmost clarity, what I find attractive in a man...
    iCuriousBabe iCuriousBabe
    41-45, F
    1 Response Aug 6, 2015

    My Description From Long Ago

    I wrote the following many years ago on EP. Since then I have seen it copied in many places on the web: I want an incisive, inquisitive, insightful, irreverent mind. I want someone for whom philosophical discussion is foreplay. I want someone who sometimes makes me go ouch due...
    deleted deleted
    2 Responses Apr 23, 2012

    Hotness Owoww

    Sure, a good smile is a good quality for a guy, but I'd prefer a mischievous grin. One of those smiles that tells you, "oh he's planning something. there's something going on in that mind of his.." A beautiful pair of eyes are a plus but I'd much rather a guy who's eyes have been...
    Girlonwire Girlonwire
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Aug 10, 2011


    There is nothing more arousing than a man that can articulate, argue and clarify.
    Mdear Mdear
    18-21, F
    9 Responses Dec 8, 2010

    We fell in love when I told him I taught myself

    to read cuneiform in the sixth grade.
    ledali ledali
    Mar 29

    The Sexiest

    While this is only pure opinion , I think that nothing is more attractive or sexy than intelligence. This doesn't mean that one necessarily has to have multiple advanced degrees. Intelligence is more than book-learning. It is a combination of mental acuity, endless curiosity...
    Vikers Vikers
    56-60, M
    10 Responses Jul 11, 2013

    Oh Yeah

     dude theres nothing sexier than wit and humor, and i love a woman who keeps me on my toes both in tlhe bedroom and everywhere else.
    alsorolo alsorolo
    36-40, M
    5 Responses Jan 5, 2010

    the space in~between the cranium to finger tips.

    .... proves a long distance relationship can work *in accordance*
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Sep 21, 2015

    “knowing Others Is Intelligence; Knowing Yourself Is True Wisdom. Mastering Others Is Strength; Mastering Yourself Is True Power.”

    I recently discovered I am a sapiosexual... thanks to an EP friend! You have enlightened me!!!! As a note of thank you to all those that have been appreciating my simple writing, I wanted to add this Note for the Day: Today was a positive day. Full of positive feedback and...
    46-50, F
    11 Responses Dec 6, 2011

    I Love The Female Curves

    I love the female curves of your grey matter. What a beautiful thing! What else did you think? *winks*
    deleted deleted
    Oct 11, 2012

    My Biochemical Story With You!

    The first thing I noticed was an urge that my lame Y had to X. Then on that special day, receptors in my nose alarmed of a pheromone coming: my intuition told me it is YOU! Then surges og oxytocin and vasopressin in my brain oh we had sexualintimacy! next came infatuation and my...
    Yomigatana Yomigatana
    51-55, M
    3 Responses Feb 5, 2013

    A Good Book

    I love to read books where the plot is good, but the use of language is better. I love it when the sentence structure and the wording have me captivated even when there is little or no action in the story. Does that indicate that I'm odd?
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Nov 14, 2012

    I Find Intelligence Alluring In A World That Seems To Be Getting Less And Less Intelligent

    i am afraid to say that the world is progressively becoming a shallower, more ignorant and generally stupider place. It is partially because of this that when i find someone that shows some sentience, particularly in the face of what i've just mentioned, that i am drawn to them...
    biker2bfemmed biker2bfemmed
    51-55, M
    2 Responses May 21, 2013

    Mental Desire

    I have finally discovered what I have been missing and why I am so lonely inside. It isn't the touch of skin I crave, nor sex, or even just to have a body near me. I ache for mental stimulation. Nothing more than that. The only thing that turns me on is a mans (intelligent...
    twistedgemini twistedgemini
    31-35, F
    5 Responses Aug 3, 2012

    I Dig Brainy-folk.

    Theres just something insanely alluring about a man (or woman for that matter) that can communicate in a clear concise manner and actually know what they're talking about.I've always felt somewhat drawn to people who're so intelligent they intimidate me a little. I'm unsure why...
    sinflower sinflower
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Apr 22, 2012
    RedDust RedDust
    41-45, F
    2 Responses Nov 26, 2012

    Size Matters

    I know there are others out there like me but I don’t meet them frequently. I knew there had to be a word for this but I had never found one before.  A word for someone who finds intelligence extremely important when considering the sexual attractiveness of a partner...
    infiniteheart infiniteheart
    31-35, F
    72 Responses Jan 4, 2010

    Just Another Day....

    I sit with my workmates in silence. The still of the flat ocean in the harbor harmonized us. When our little break is over, the talk is abrupt, and disconnected about the work and about their lives. I sit, stand and work in silence, I've learned over the the years that when I...
    islander2012 islander2012
    Oct 13, 2012

    I Am Attracted To Men Who Act. . .evolved

    What an interesting day I was thinking on the story idea I found yesterday at the zoo. A lion and lioness were sun bathing when a young male lion walked into the habitat and the male jumpedup and growled at the lion and marked his territory. The look on the lioness face was like...
    Lenina1 Lenina1
    18-21, F
    4 Responses Apr 25, 2012


    I had a fabulous vivid sexual fantasy climbing up my ascending sensory pathways all the way up tp thalamus and ended in a sudden surge of *********** a load of dopamin into my limbic systema dn hypothalamus! wow! such a shocking wet pleasure in my brain!
    Yomigatana Yomigatana
    51-55, M
    1 Response Feb 3, 2013

    His Intelligence Turns Me On...

    My boyfriend is amazingly intelligent... the first time I ever spoke to him I was in awe of him... I listened intently and couldn't take my eyes off of him... I can't lie... when he goes on his rants about social or political issues I just listen and smile at him... it's so sexy...
    phidget phidget
    31-35, F
    8 Responses May 23, 2008

    Mind Over Body

    Throughout my life, my choice of intellectual men and women as partners and romantic partners has been criticized. Although I am an extremely sexual person, I find nothing sexier than a person of higher intelligence. I love having an educated discussion about politics, science...
    takeurpowder takeurpowder
    22-25, F
    26 Responses Dec 28, 2010

    Heard something funny from a friend lately.

    He initially thought that sapiosexual meant it had something to do with monkeys!
    iCuriousBabe iCuriousBabe
    41-45, F
    3 Responses May 12, 2015

    As a Matter of Fact, It's Required.

    I admit to being attracted to a cute face, or a sexy body, or a winning smile.  But those things simply catch my eye.  For someone to keep my attention requires the ability to uphold their side of a conversation. I think that's one thing kinda nice about EP; it's an...
    EBunbury EBunbury
    46-50, M
    15 Responses Sep 21, 2008

    Are You Looking For A Clear, Meaningful Understanding Of The Concept Of Sapiosexuality?

    Hi there, my name is Damian and I am Sapiosexual. Not to say that I do not have an orientation towards gender, or physical appearances, but to me a person's mind is of prime importance when considering partnership. There is a bit of contention over the proper meaning or use of...
    damianzapian damianzapian
    Oct 28, 2012

    Intelligence With Introspection Is The Key

    I need someone to teach me things, to help me improve myself. I have a constant need for self-improvement. Also I want people to be open to learn from me, a constant dinamic relationship is how things should be. Usually when I find not-intelligent people there can't even be...
    Gestaltdesschattens Gestaltdesschattens
    22-25, M
    1 Response Feb 12, 2013

    Interesting Word, Sapiosexual

    Sapiosexual is a neologism word (recently constructed word) that has come into common usage;, especially on social networking sites where some people are self-identifying as sapiosexual. Origins: From Latin root sapien, wise or intelligent, and Latin sexualis, relating to the...
    Bootydude Bootydude
    56-60, M
    Sep 5, 2013

    Brain is my biggest and most valued sexual Organ

    stimulate it using fantasy, words, images, stories ... and the rest will happen easily. Body will follow if the brain receives appropriate stimuli.
    MrQ MrQ
    31-35, M
    Jul 17, 2012

    Sexy Mind

    i used to complement my girls- you got a sexy mind and never really knew that there was a word to describe my inclination. it would surprise others that i would be paying more attention to what she was saying rather than looking at her physical assets and responding accordingly...
    casualsin casualsin
    36-40, M
    Aug 10, 2012

    If I Think, She Burns (Literally?)

    I think of an attractive, but dumb lady. Then, I think of an average, intelligent lady. In comparison, it feels like the attractive lady is superior except one aspect: the eyes. It is not the shape of the eyes that matter here. It is how they move and what they react to. It is so...
    Slysmile Slysmile
    22-25, M
    1 Response Jul 16, 2013


    Reflecting back to a point within the recent past,  My mind washes upon shores of fractured intentions.  ....Intelligence , I now realize is what turns me on the most, and also connects me the deepest to someone I intend to try to create a relationship with. 
    Underwatermellon Underwatermellon
    22-25, M
    3 Responses May 30, 2011

    Like A Moth To A Flame

    Non exhibitionist intellectual prowess is among the most tantalizing of qualities to me. I delight in extensive and depth -filled exchanges with an interesting person. It matter not how attractive an individual is; if they cannot offer stimulating conversation, they will be...
    RedRubies RedRubies
    36-40, F
    19 Responses Dec 1, 2012


    Playful banter. Deep insights. Someone who gets when I'm joking and knows when I'm serious. Someone who wows me with his knowledge, teaches me something new. Makes a list of books I need to read, movies I need to see. Shows me the notes he took in a Shakespeare class. Points...
    Fallflower Fallflower
    36-40, F
    19 Responses Jan 5, 2010

    Mind Lust

    I thought I was asexual for the longest time before I figured out that I fell for people's minds, not their bodies.
    spookym spookym
    Jan 29, 2013

    Cerebral Exchange - The Ultimate Sexual Stimulant

    There is nothing like intelligent banter and discourse laced with innuendo and suggestiveness. It targets the brain so that the body can enjoy.Indeed, sex is a very physical act, but there is no doubt that it is experienced mentally. 
    MaxV MaxV
    56-60, M
    2 Responses May 30, 2013

    Aroused By A Battle Of Wits

    I once knew a guy who could make me wet by merely speaking a sentence. His cogent analysis of any issue would regularly bring me to my knees . . . before his zipper. A man with whom I can argue passionately, but logically, about issues on which we are diametrically and...
    Colormevibrant Colormevibrant
    46-50, F
    15 Responses Jul 29, 2010

    For Me, Love Is Wholly Soluble With Intelligence

    I would love to have a girlfriend who could converse with me about all sorts of intellectual phenomena. Chemistry, philosophy, Neuroscience, psychology, Robotics, Genetic Engineering, etc. I find intelligence to be one of the primary attributes I am attracted to.
    Radon123 Radon123
    Aug 28, 2013

    Psssst! Your Brain Is Showing!

    I remember having lunch with a friend of mine in Boston a number of years ago and sitting to the right of us were two models (a man and a woman) who epitomized the type of physical beauty that so many aspire to. My friend (who happens to be a gay man) was so distracted by our...
    WannaBeWet4U WannaBeWet4U
    22-25, F
    13 Responses Sep 15, 2010

    Come & Think With Me...

    When I was growing up, my uptight family behaved as though there was no such thing as sex, and I was certainly not guided into intellectual pursuits. Judging mostly from popular media and other superficial influences around me, success in life seemed based primarily on...
    AnythngIsPossibl AnythngIsPossibl
    41-45, M
    1 Response Aug 8, 2013

    The Devil's Advocate

    A busy street in summer. A conversation about truth. Does objective truth exist? Is truth a lie? Plato was the mid-wife of other people's ideas. I, in my arrogance, like to pretend I am conducting this symphony of thought. The reality? She is strong, she is...
    waterlooSunset waterlooSunset
    36-40, M
    4 Responses Apr 17, 2012

    I Didn't Think It Mattered...

    When I met my husband, I liked his sense of humor, and his work ethic. I didn't think I would mind not being able to carry on even a half-way intelligent conversation with him. His work ethic has disappeared, his sense of humor has now turned into scathing sarcasm, and I am...
    edansgarden edansgarden
    31-35, F
    1 Response Mar 19, 2012

    Brains Over Beauty Any Time

    In my mind, an intelligent person will always be much more beautiful than a simple or close minded person.  Of course I appreciate someone with an attractive body, but I get much more excited about finding someone with a well formed mind any time.
    colt1969 colt1969
    41-45, M
    3 Responses May 29, 2012

    Being beautiful and dumber

    than a box of rocks will only get you so far.. I want interest, I want challenge, I want conversation that you can sink your teeth into, then roll on the floor laughing with tears streaming down your face, succumbing to it all.'s not too much to ask in today's world is...
    Littlemisssomebody Littlemisssomebody
    31-35, F
    1 Response Dec 17, 2014
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