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I Am a Sex Starved Sexless Spouse

This group is for married individuals that are being deprived of a sex life because of an unwanting spouse. 621 People

    My Husband Is Tired Of Me...

    ...because he's known me too long (we've been married for 22 years), I am too familiar, and he "needs a 'professional' who is young and exciting." Really. I am supposed to be okay with this. The truth of the matter is that I have a job and he doesn't and he knows that he cannot...
    elmajackson elmajackson
    6 Responses Mar 4, 2011

    Thought For The Day

    Being sexless is hell, but it helps if you can get support for others... and it seems like only the sexually deprived understand each other.
    JRSK007 JRSK007
    51-55, M
    10 Responses Mar 28, 2010

    Want More Than Friendship From My Wife

    I am a 64 year old man who has been in a sex starved marriage for 40 years. I’m in good health. I’m not overweight and have taken good care of my health. 30 years ago I changed jobs that moved me from a job that required lots of physical activity to one that was working at a...
    JackCharles JackCharles
    66-70, M
    Nov 14, 2013

    I Am a Sex Starve Sexless Spouse

    I am married, I love sex, and I have none. My mate is totally against sex... anti-sex, asexual, whatever you want to call it. So because she doesn't want a sex life, I am condemned to not have one either...   and it is killing me.   I am looking for a solution. I...
    JRSK007 JRSK007
    51-55, M
    18 Responses Apr 10, 2009

    She Tricked Me....

    Before we got engaged she would have sex anytime, any place any position...then once she got the ring on her finger it immediately decreased to 3-4 times a month and ONLY missionary position (!?!!). We went to Italy for our honeymoon for 8 days and we had sex twice! The most...
    tbtom345 tbtom345
    46-50, M
    2 Responses Nov 4, 2012

    I Have A Wife Who Has No Use For Sex

    and so I have been left twisting in the wind... I would like to find a woman who has been left deprived by her husband.
    ReluctantLothario ReluctantLothario
    51-55, M
    5 Responses Mar 26, 2010

    I Am A Sex Starved Spouse

    I am 58 years old and have not had sex in 5 years my husband refuses to have sex with me he's always to tired. Iam at the point off exploding now I can't stand it any longer.I have faniacies about having sex and making mad love with a real nice man all the time but never do for...
    Pollywally Pollywally
    56-60, F
    3 Responses Aug 26, 2010

    I'M Turning Into An Obnoxious *******

    After 13 years of living in the desert, I've had enough. I thought I could get by with my weekly self-pleasure session in the shower, but that's becoming utterly boring. I don't want to do that anymore, and besides, I'm married, why should I? I would have to be crazy. I've tried...
    uuugh uuugh
    46-50, M
    2 Responses Feb 24, 2013

    I waxed everything today.

    Maybe I have an overactive imagination but I could just picture him freaking out and dreaming up excuses to not put out on our trip already. In my mind I'm saying, "fück you, I did it so I can wear a swimsuit at the Scandinavian baths. You're off the hook."
    CountessDawn CountessDawn
    26-30, F
    4 Responses Dec 22, 2013

    Please Give Me Your Opinion

    I'm not sure I really belong here and I don't mean to offend anyone with serious problems but I feel like I am sex starved while not completely starved my problem lies in not being sexually compatible with my gf so my question is would you say sexual incompatibility is enough of...
    Fascinated1000 Fascinated1000
    22-25, M
    3 Responses Sep 14, 2011

    4 Years Going On 5 - A Hostage To Fidelity

    It has been 4+ years that I last remember any reasonable semblance of sex in my marriage.  As I said last year, I never would have thought I could last this long, but I have.  I have not taken advantage of opportunities, because I just cannot bring myself to cross the...
    MaxV MaxV
    56-60, M
    4 Responses Sep 13, 2010

    Good Luck

    Try looking at what you are eating that truly may be a large part of the problem. People often don’t realize buy having a pore diet you affect more than just things like your hart. When people are talking about clogged arteries there also talking about the penis and the vagina...
    deleted deleted
    Aug 25, 2013

    I have always had a bigger sexual appetite

    than my husband but we still had sex regularly so it didn't bother me. But ever since we got married the only time we have sex is if I initiate it and I literally have to give him a BJ just to get things going. He's so lucky, I love oral sex, but there comes a point where now I...
    30shadesofblue 30shadesofblue
    26-30, F
    Mar 18, 2016

    My wife is addicted to gambling

    and refuses to get help. I need someone to talk to.
    showme72 showme72
    70+, F
    Apr 23, 2014

    Having The "conversation"...

    I am new to EP and this is my first story. I was surprised to find a group of like-minded individuals here. I have been searching “sexless marriage” to find an answer to my dilemma. I spent way too much time on a site that basically said, “since you’re the one who is...
    IntEncGuy IntEncGuy
    41-45, M
    1 Response Jun 17, 2011

    It's like I'm walking the Sahara

    and every few miles is a shot glass of water. My spouse gives me just enough to keep me alive. The rest of the time I'm dying:(
    AlbuquerqueJay AlbuquerqueJay
    36-40, M
    1 Response Jul 18, 2014

    Looking For Others In This Boat to Join This Group

    over in the sexless marriage group it occurred to me that there are two distinct groups of members... those that don't have sex in their marriage, but aren't missing it... and then those who don't have but wished they would. This group is for those that are living a forced...
    JRSK007 JRSK007
    51-55, M
    7 Responses Jul 15, 2009

    He hinted that his new years resolution is to

    try harder. I didn't even blink. I'll believe it when I see it. But I'm not waiting for long. My new years resolution is to move on by the end of the year. I went all of 2013 without sex. It won't happen again - whether he changes or not (which he won't).
    CountessDawn CountessDawn
    26-30, F
    5 Responses Jan 2, 2014

    There Is An Upside!

    Married 11 years now, somewhere after kid #1, careers, whatever.... I found out I had a sex-starved marriage. Only I didn't know that yet. I thought I was just supposed to be a cliched sitcom dad??? "Sex? No! I'm married!!!" Screw that... after about 3-4 years of feeling...
    AlmostHadEnough AlmostHadEnough
    31-35, M
    2 Responses Feb 23, 2012

    Damned If You, Damned If You Don'T.

    If you stay faithful you're miserable. If you cheat and get caught, you're wrong. The person withholding sex never gets the blame, it's the victim that suffers. I wouldn't wish this existence on my worst enemy.
    deleted deleted
    4 Responses Aug 22, 2013

    She Calls Me A Sex Addict

    I do everything..EVERYTHING for her. I work full time while I am in school full time to allow her to attend medical school without worrying about finances. She goes without anything. I cook, I clean, I do the laundry, the yard work, give her massages, take care of all the bills...
    Dreamscape82 Dreamscape82
    26-30, M
    2 Responses Feb 28, 2012

    Sound Familiar?

      The next morning was like all of Lee's mornings, her first thought was that of abject disheartenment. It was another beginning of yet another day in her sexless marriage. Next to her naked body, was her sleeping husband, an attractive, sexy, hunk of a...
    JRSK007 JRSK007
    51-55, M
    4 Responses Aug 3, 2009

    Sexless And Sad

    Ive been in my relationship for 7 years now. The first year was great.7 years later, we dont go anywhere, and sex is the last thing on his mind,which is odd, because other women constantly chase him, he doesnt bragabout sex like most men do, believe me Ive herad it all.It has...
    rozee rozee
    46-50, F
    7 Responses Feb 17, 2011

    Thank You..

    i wanted to thank everybody on this sight. it makes me feel better that im not alone in this mess. and all the support i have received here, its just what i need. thanx :)
    stephybear stephybear
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Apr 6, 2011

    Looking back over my time at EP (going back to

    when I was Alex0302) I realized that most of my posts have been pretty depressing. And while life in a sexless marriage is a struggle it doesn’t hurt to reflect on something positive. So I’ve decided to go a different direction today. My hope is that in some small way this...
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Dec 13, 2014

    Don't Make Me Beg For It

    Seems like since my husband started a new job he hasn't been wanting to have sex..he gets home, eats dinner, showers and lays down for the night and ends up falling asleep...but I have noticed that lately he is nit picking at stupid to pick an argument with me just...
    Sasha0218 Sasha0218
    31-35, F
    1 Response Oct 1, 2012

    I Need Sex!!

    I married my husband because I loved him... and I still do. But we rarely have sex anymore and it has only been 2 years of marriage. I used to have sex every day or every other day with my ex. It was a thrilling sex life and I loved that but, he was an *******. Now with my...
    Lillith13 Lillith13
    26-30, F
    13 Responses May 7, 2011
    Koiponder Koiponder
    46-50, F
    16 Responses Jul 31, 2009

    In bed next to my wife.

    Wide awake on my phone staring at the ceiling. I tried to initiate, which as usual ended in a series of excuses capped off by her snoring. So I'm laying here, on EP, trying to decide whether to head to the bathroom and dial up some p-rntube, head to the couch in protest or...
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Dec 6, 2014

    This does sound just like me.

    I just want to have it as often as I can and then some more... but yet.. it been over 3 years without any.. :(
    marriedguy67 marriedguy67
    46-50, M
    Feb 12, 2016

    Now What??

    So, I just wrote a lengthy update over on ILIASM about where I’ve been and what’s been going on with me and my marriage over the last couple of years since I was last on the board. The upshot being that after years of wondering and searching for an answer, I finally...
    aamater aamater
    46-50, F
    Sep 19, 2012

    Sexless In San Diego

    I've been with my spouse 24 years, and I love her deeply. However, she shows no interest in sex. We talk about it, but nothing seems to change. I do romantic things, but nothing seems to change. I urge her to go to the doctor, but nothing seems to change. I still have a vigorous...
    murphysd2004 murphysd2004
    66-70, M
    1 Response Mar 12, 2013

    I have been in this relationship a very long

    time. It started years ago but came to a head recently . By that I mean I had enough and took her at her word and cheated ......something I am not proud of but her words were if I don't like how things are then get it somewhere else. We have been to numerous counselors over the...
    wicked8 wicked8
    41-45, M
    Jan 13, 2014

    I Don't Want To Fix My Marriage.

    After 26 years of reluctant sex capped by 5.5 years of complete sexlessness I have decided I don't want my wife any more.To all my well meaning friend who tell me to give my wife some more time... I say For What?There is no way she is going to turn into an enthusiastic...
    JRSK007 JRSK007
    51-55, M
    9 Responses Jan 17, 2010

    Here Comes Christmas

    And six days of being off work... six days of having to be with my sex denier/refuser... and I am suppose to act like I am having a great time. Are you like me? Is it harder when you have to spend more time in your sexless marriage, due to your asexual partner's neglect or...
    JRSK007 JRSK007
    51-55, M
    4 Responses Dec 23, 2009

    i told her early on that she is getting

    involved with a monogomous sex addict. and in the beginning, i truly thought I had finally found my sexual equal!! all the firsts that we had experienced together, the boundaries we pushed for each other, the connection, the passion, the wanting, the needing. Despite all the...
    deleted deleted
    Jul 29, 2015

    I've been in a sexless marriage

    for just over 16 years. In that time I've been through the counseling sessions, countless fights, nights on the couch, online trysts, real life near misses, promises things will get better and the emptiness of ***********. After 16 years, I'm still here. I stay to protect my...
    deleted deleted
    2 Responses Dec 1, 2014

    I love sex! I want it!

    I need it! I crave it! I love all the feelings it invokes. I love being turned on. I love exploring things that turn me on, and finding new things that do, too. I need to have it. It helps with so many things. Makes me feel better. Makes a relationship better. Promotes intimacy...
    Itsmytime2be Itsmytime2be
    41-45, F
    32 Responses Jan 8, 2014

    Sexless Relationship Turned To Sexless Spouse

    My story seems to be unique according to the postings. I had a relationship before my current one, it was with a man who wanted sexual congress, to be part of making a good home, and who loved me incredibly. Unfortunately, at that time I was sexless. I tried hard. I let him use...
    lorienrm lorienrm
    36-40, F
    Jan 6, 2013

    How Sad

    thinking about all these people in sexless marriages , myself included, and nearly all my friends divorced , makes me wonder about marriage - is it an outdated concept?
    tamarisk1 tamarisk1
    46-50, F
    8 Responses Sep 21, 2009

    Here Comes The Father-In-Law

    The hits just keep on coming. 15 years in a sexless marriage and now my dying father in law is moving in. He isn't a pleasant man. He and my wife don't get along (he doesn't get along with anyone). The little bit of bliss I have in life is about to get blown up. But what can I...
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Aug 22, 2013

    Me Too

    Sex starved... Can't get much more accurate. I haven't been on EP in a long time. I was thinking about the long, lonely, sexless winter ahead of me and decided its time to check in. Funny, looking at my old stories I see that nothing has changed, except my thoughts. I'm...
    lovemylife lovemylife
    3 Responses Oct 25, 2010

    I miss her. The rules

    that govern social convention say I shouldn't. I never met her in person, but I know her. I know her in ways her husband doesn't (or doesn't care to know). And she knows me, in ways my wife chose to forget a long time ago. I think about her, even though I know I shouldn't. I...
    deleted deleted
    9 Responses Dec 2, 2014

    I Am A Good Person... Why Is This Happening To Me

    Just as I said why me... The story is the same and there is nothing new here... I am a good guy and she well she just does not want to have sex or any intimacy at all... So if you have the answer or want the details shoot me a note
    woodlands77380 woodlands77380
    46-50, M
    1 Response Apr 9, 2012

    Sex Staved Wife

    Its been so long since I have had sex that I can't remember when the last time was but it's been years. Iam 60 years old and this week I have found my self on the internet looking for sex toys to help my hurting body. I have a husband who is a TV addition. He never looks at me...
    Pollywally Pollywally
    56-60, F
    6 Responses Aug 26, 2010
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