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I Am a Shut-in

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    New Shut-In

    I'm a new shut in. Just recently diagnosed with schizo affective and bi-polar II. Currently waiting for doctor to fill out disability forms, and anxious and uncertain about life. Now that I'm diagnosed it fits with problems I've had throughout my life. There's very few people I...
    benslost benslost 36-40, M 1 Response May 6, 2013

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    In the Truest Meaning of the Word.

    I haven't been out in society in over a month, before that it was close to 6 years. I get my groceries, meds, and anything else I may need delivered. I have 4 people in my life at this point and none of them have any true relationship to me, well my therapist does.... kinda. It...
    Sylverwynd Sylverwynd 31-35, F 8 Responses Apr 7, 2008

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    Ive Never Had A Friend.

    I'm 15. right now I'm sitting in my room alone with my laptop. this is my life.when i was little it was the same its not like I'm all of a sudden alone... in primary school i didn't have any friends, i would pace around the play ground with my chin firmly planted on my chest and...
    HikikomoriJani HikikomoriJani 13-15 2 Responses Nov 20, 2011

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    Need to Find People Who Understand Me.

    I am a shut-in by choice. I am very disappointed in my choice of being one. I know that there are people who have no choice in being one because of medical reasons and I understand how they wish they could break out of their world of solitude and can't or it's too difficult. I...
    Carlos0418 Carlos0418 31-35, M 4 Responses May 30, 2009

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    Don't Go Outside!

    it's funny how sensitive to light and colors i have become from staying inside my brown house. once when i had no choice but to go to hell-mart i became quite ill. i had a headache within five minutes. it's too bright in there. the smells were horrible. sensory over load. plus i...
    fatgirl fatgirl 36-40, F 5 Responses May 10, 2007

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    Shut-Ins Helping Shut-Ins

    Let's just be honest....The place I feel most secure is in a small room in a house or other home dwelling. I recently decided to venture back into the "professional" world after 4 years. I still wonder if I will earn enough to financially support myself without having to get...
    wm3797 wm3797 26-30, F 1 Response Jun 10, 2013

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    I Have Been For A Long Time.

    I am 55 and I am shut in . Can not walk to well and get out . And get tired. Have mental illness. And noise is to bad for me. So I come home and have to rest for the rest of the day. And then I have care giver . And 2 lady for companion so I won't get lonely. And then feel...
    bronica bronica 51-55, F May 12, 2013

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    Not Sure Where I'm Going With My Life

    I'm not really sure where to start with this, the only reason I'm writing this is because I want to get it off my chest I suppose. Though perhaps not a complete shut-in, I can safely say if it weren't for my family chances are highly likely I would hardly ever see sunlight.It's...
    QuestionableExistance QuestionableExistance 18-21, M 4 Responses Aug 20, 2012

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    Such A Bore

    Teenagers are supposed to be outgoing, right? They are supposed to go out with their friends every weekend and have thriving social lives. That is not my case. I'm 16 and a junior. I have only two good friends at school. One lives far away and the other has annoying mood swings...
    LizGama77 LizGama77 16-17 4 Responses Dec 21, 2010

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    This Is My Story And I'm Sticking To It

    I guess you could say that I am considered a shut in some of it is my choice I guess I was and am born with a disability I have CP if you know what that is and I do have an organization of people that come over here once in a while and help me with stuff like going grocery...
    topdog1109 topdog1109 46-50, M 1 Response Dec 15, 2011

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    I Live In One Constan Day

    Hello I'm Daniel I'm 23. My story starts at the age of 7. I was never like the other kids i'd rather play by myself it wasn't the fact i was scared of the kids they did not just interest me. So i stayed mostly to myself through out school. I have met a few people who became my...
    DanielGolden DanielGolden 22-25, M Jul 19, 2013

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    Trying To Reach Out But Misunderstood

    Im a 29 your old single mom of one son (11) and a poodle. Almost 2 years ago I decided I wanted to live a life with little to no drama so slowly I started cutting people out of my life that I felt were inviting it in not because of one or two or even three situations but just by...
    ufcgurl34480 ufcgurl34480 26-30, F 1 Response Mar 11, 2013

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    Im Boring

    i used to spend everyday at the skatepark where i had a lot of aquitances i thought were friends. but now that i can no longer partake in skateboarding I (body got old) I have not seen those people since. i now find myself doing nothing all day but surfing the net. im not a good...
    dogbuttcat dogbuttcat 26-30 1 Response May 12, 2013

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    I Just Prefer To Be Alone

    I rarely feel lonely I have the telephone to speak to my closest friends: a small circle of women that I have known a very, very long time and who I know don't judge me or put prefer on me to leave my flat I also speak to my Mum and Oldest Sister on the phone but these...
    TenaciousT TenaciousT 46-50 1 Response Oct 15, 2012

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    In The World At Home

    This is new and I never thought I would actually tell anyone. I hope that I am not making a mistake. 14 years ago I found out about my first time through cancer. After radiation, chemo and 7 surgeries later, including full hysterectomy, I was back on my feet. I fought hard...
    Kaywhy01 Kaywhy01 41-45, F 2 Responses Jun 3, 2012

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    I once felt my intuition would lead me to my

    dreams. I once felt the noble goal of understanding my self would entail a positive existence. I once felt an awareness of how my mind shapes my reality would guarantee success. I have not experienced my dreams. My existence is not positive. I no longer feel I am on a path...
    novalucas novalucas 31-35, M Mar 2

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    I Feel Like Im Going Crazy From My Agoriphobia But Cant Overcome My Social Anxiety.

    I have been basicly cut off from the rest of the world for the most part of 16 months,i hate doing the same things day in and day out and i hate the fact that i have become a shut in,ive always been introverted but this is rediculous...I would like to get out and enjoy life and...
    sizzahands86 sizzahands86 26-30, M 2 Responses Jun 13, 2012

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    I Am A Shut-In And Very Lonely

    I'm home day in and day out. I dont really care for people very much. I'v very introverted. I use d to work in a lab but hurt my neck. So I dont work anymore. even when I did work i felt a lone. Like invisible. People make me very nervous. I like being at home but I'm very...
    kimlabtech kimlabtech 36-40, F 1 Response Mar 16, 2013

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    Descending

    I've slowly started to shut myself away. both by choice and fear. i still venture out time to time, but it's slowly turning into a lifeless bore that feels exhausting. i'm best going out late at night with one other person. I'm avoiding people one by one. there's still more i...
    burrowbunni burrowbunni 18-21, F 3 Responses Mar 16, 2013

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    Prozac Isn't Supposed To Do This, But I Recently Started Taking It

    I've read people aren't supposed to do this to people in my age group (+30) but i've never been sucidal before.  I recently tried and that was a complete fail.  I got drunk and downed all my pills.  I've got plenty of pills too.  I have ms and am disabled...
    winky419 winky419 31-35 3 Responses Dec 3, 2010

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    I Have Become A Recluse And Am Having Trouble Connecting With People.

    Hello, I'm a 26 year old college student. I've always been a little bit of a loner but 4 years ago I had a few friends and a job. Life was pretty good.Today I'm unemployed, and have an apartment on my parents property to live in. My day consists of going to school then coming...
    Fastrin Fastrin 26-30, M 2 Responses Sep 16, 2011

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    Where Am I

    In my apartment, I get stuff delivered sometimes. The shop is within walking distance but I don't really talk to anyone. I have two cats. I work from home. Sometimes I have no feeling for others. I skype with my parents and brother who live far away. I am married though and my...
    cathead72 cathead72 36-40 3 Responses Dec 3, 2010

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    The Shut In

    its true i can be a bit of a shut in.i should go out more but i have no interests in places like bars but i do like eating out.its always good to lock the front door & feel secure in my safe happy place that is home
    clayantony clayantony 41-45, M 2 Responses Sep 29, 2013

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    I Always Wanted To Kill My Classmates.

    My story. http://youtu.be/2_YTIOvzY2g -Big Mike. BigMikeRadioProgram.com
    TheBMRP TheBMRP 26-30, M Jan 27, 2012

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    I Am

    I have been a shut in because of my social fears but possibly that has become a fear of the world it self. I leave the house when I have to but when I am out I feel that anxiety that voice sayng get home now. I hate that I am unable to go out and enjoy myself only I can help...
    Natemares Natemares 22-25, M 2 Responses Feb 28, 2010

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    Hi Everyone

    My partner and I are shut ins. My partner can not even go anywhere where there is a lot of people. She just gets tight and claustraphobic around people. I can handle going to some places but not all. My partner has a rare nerve desease that makes it nearly impossible to go...
    jrosenau jrosenau 41-45, M 1 Response Jan 16, 2011

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    How Did This Begin?

    All my life I have felt just a little off. Afraid of not being accepted. Afraid of being left alone. Afraid of gaining weight, getting sick, bad relationships. I think what you dwell on you become. Besides the fact that I have been very blessed. I have become a shut-in. I would...
    sherrydf sherrydf 51-55, F 2 Responses Nov 7, 2013

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    I never know what to write,

    so I guess I'll just start with that. I have a tendency to overthink and have been dealing with depression for quite sometime. My life is pretty complicated, I got an arranged marriage when I was in my early 20s and I have a child. Communication is unbearable and the fact that...
    invisiblemask invisiblemask 22-25, M Feb 21

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    Ashamed

    I am 36 years old.  I have 3 children and hate leaving the house.  It all seemed to happen gradually, over years I mean.  I had always been overweight, however, since my divorce and a few other bad choices in my life I have ballooned out to a huge size.   I...
    noodelsgranny noodelsgranny 36-40, F 5 Responses Jun 7, 2010

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    Today was painful I thought too much about

    every action of each individual while on the bus. I don't even know what else to say, but it psychically made me sick. I just want to stay inside. I don't want anyone to bother me. I'm fine talking to you all through here because its just words on a screen. You don't see the...
    burrowbunni burrowbunni 18-21, F 3 Responses Mar 5

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    Lost

    Hi, my name is Patricia. But people call me Trish. I have become a shut in. I am to the point now I don't even want to leave my bedroom. I ended up in Florida in 1999. I was recovering from a very bad car accident. I found work and slowly got on my feet. I was a rocky bad road to...
    Trisha67 Trisha67 46-50, F 1 Response Sep 25, 2013

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    Well, Not Quite...

    ...but I'm getting there. Maybe I should read more of the other stories here first, but I immediately picked up on the trust issue that others have expressed.  The world seems increasingly untrustworthy these days. I've stopped answering the phone for the most part...
    TerminalNewEnglander TerminalNewEnglander 51-55 1 Response Jun 16, 2009

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    Just Tired.

    Like my family's lies, my father's disapproval, and the pain of never truly belonging. For as long as I could remember, I never truly felt loved uncoditionally. I'm sure my problems arent the most extreme, I'm very aware of that. I know that locking myself inside my room or my...
    pastelpalette pastelpalette 18-21 3 Responses Aug 9, 2011

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    Need to Find People Who Understand Me.

    I am a shut-in by choice. I am very disappointed in my choice of being one. I know that there are people who have no choice in being one because of medical reasons and I understand how they wish they could break out of their world of solitude and can't or it's too difficult. I...
    Carlos0418 Carlos0418 31-35, M 3 Responses May 30, 2009

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    Shut In, Recluse Or Crazy Cat Guy On The Block?

    I guess you could say I am a Shut In. I don't know if that is truly what I am. I avoid going out at all costs. I venture to Walmart to stock up on supplies, but I do it in the middle of the night, to keep from dealing with the human element as much as possible. I am not anti...
    CygnusXII CygnusXII 46-50, M 1 Response May 10, 2012

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    Yup. When I was a kid i had a bad experience

    with fellow kids. Never had a close friend my whole life. Today it's snowing like crazy so I have an excuse to stay inside but if I'm going to fulfill my goals I'll need to get out more.
    Raptorpsychologist Raptorpsychologist 18-21, M Feb 5

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    :d

    But I like it! Occasionally I'll want someone to be alone with. Someone that can sit quietly with me, sip coffee and suddenly burst out laughing at the pretention.
    Mdear Mdear 18-21, F 1 Response Oct 20, 2010

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    Sophi's Choice

    Home is my sanctuary. My day dreams are spent on visions of my dream home. It is not a mansion or luxurious, but it has all the conveniences I want, and it is laid out and decorated the way I want it to be. It has quaint garden areas and patios surrounding it, and it is close...
    Sophora Sophora 46-50 May 14, 2012

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    How I Became A Shut-In And Where I Am Now

    When i was 17 i dropped out of high school and cut off all social ties (threw away phone, deleted facebook). During the glory days of elementary and middle school i used to have a group of close friends but when i entered high school things changed. My first year of highschool...
    gettingstuffoffmychestiguess gettingstuffoffmychestiguess 18-21 1 Response Jun 25, 2013

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    Hikkikomori

    I've felt at times that I'm becoming a solitary people-fearing pale slug of a humanoid, but then I remember how much I like talking to people, despite how terrifying it is. I like people, I like going places, but I just don't like where I am, and have no money! I make a...
    Geza Geza 26-30, M 1 Response Dec 1, 2007

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    Scared Of Family

    I am 36, married and have 3 kids. I also live in my in-laws basement because I am legally disabled due to mental issues and instability. I cannot mentally or emotionally be responsible for running a home. I have shut myself into my basement bedroom because I can't trust any of my...
    Untrusting2 Untrusting2 36-40 1 Response Aug 27, 2012

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    I Don'T Know Where I Belong

    I am a part time shut in. I had to run away and hide for my life on a regular basis since I was only two years old. I spent hours and sometimes days locked in my closet/room not knowing if it was safe to come out. I did this until the day I moved away from home in my senior year...
    ladybug347 ladybug347 36-40, F 4 Responses May 13, 2013

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    Trying To Get Out More

    I've kind of backed myself into my apartment.  My personal and physical life kind of crashed at around the same time about three years ago .  Then I got a cancer diagnosis.  Neck area, like Michael D.  Went through chemo, radiation, then surgery to remove some lymph nodes...
    Hal3 Hal3 61-65 3 Responses Aug 20, 2011

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    Terrified To Leave The House

    i have been inside the house for nearly two years and now i have to go and get a job i have no income coming in so i really have to get out i have my lisince but havent driven for nearly 2 yrs i am so terrified of driving and unfimiliar surroundings and people that...
    taurus71 taurus71 36-40, F 2 Responses Feb 28, 2010

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    Shut In

    I used to get invited to a lot of parties, until people realized I would never show up. I'm quiet and shy, but I do my best to be very polite. I'm too quiet though, sometimes too polite. People often can't hear me. In the past I've had room mates on trips think I was asleep and...
    AwkwardLady AwkwardLady 18-21 1 Response Aug 25, 2012

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    Three years ago i was living with my parents after a brutal split with my fiance. I spent the next year of my life going to work and not speaking to anyone, then coming home and...
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    I'm going to start this off by saying: i don't think he's in love with me. He has a girlfriend. But this experience group was probably the closest to what experience I'm having...
    Epaestimated Epaestimated 16-17, F 1 Response 8 hrs ago

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    People judge you by your image ..... When you meet someone you don't judge by image you look at personality but some Sticks can't seem to get that through their skinny little heads...
    musicdance814 musicdance814 13-15, F 1 Response Mar 24

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    Case#1 Part two: I am lying bound and gagged on a bed in my schoolgirl outfit. I can’t see or hear anything in this quiet room. The cloth tied around my eyes is real tight...
    schoolgyrlKaren schoolgyrlKaren 41-45 1 Response 5 days ago

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    Case #1 Part two: I am lying bound and gagged on a bed in my schoolgirl outfit. I can’t see or hear anything in this quiet room. The cloth tied around my eyes is real tight...
    schoolgyrlKaren schoolgyrlKaren 41-45 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    I want to leave my fiancé of 6 yrs. I feel as though we are not progressing. When I try to talk to him about my needs his males them sound trivial. He always promises things will...
    reasonseasonlifetime reasonseasonlifetime 26-30, F Mar 22

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    I was Angel Myers/boo to my brother mike I was a baby when my brother was a kid we were insuted like always I was always told to shut the *** up and stop crying mike defened me...
    Angelmyers11 Angelmyers11 18-21, M Mar 25

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    Not so much when someone "hurts" me, just in general. I think it's more of a defense mechanism for not letting someone close enough to hurt me, having realized that, I don't really...
    OneSizeFitzpatrick OneSizeFitzpatrick 18-21, M 1 Response Apr 3

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    I have kids they are my life They make me so happy But when I I put them to bed give them kisses and shut the door I walk to my room crawl into bed and over come with loneliness I...
    raiiosdelsol raiiosdelsol 22-25, F Mar 23

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    At my worst time, and when I needed someone most in my life, he shut me out. I later learned he had begun dating my best friend. I felt outraged, humiliated, completely alone, and...
    captaintera captaintera 22-25, F 4 Responses Mar 23

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    I walked into my bedroom to get a dvd to watch downstairs I shut my door to stop my brother from walking in and when i got the dvd I tried to open my door and it was stuck I called...
    janet56 janet56 13-15, F