I Am a Sociopath Forum & Chat Board | Loneliness of sociopaths?

Why do sociopaths feel lonely even though they can't really love someone? Is there a way to get away from that loneliness? Are there people who can love you although your way of thinking is so different from theirs?

 

I would consider myself a moderately high functioning sociopath. Here's my two cents. We lack the ability to empathize, not to feel. The death of my grandfather when I was seven is a perfect example. In all respects he was a great man, he positively impacted many around him. It comes as no suprise that at his funeral everyone mourned his loss. However, despite my best efforts I felt nothing. Finally, beginning to sense the tension my demeanor was causing in those around me I found a way to cry. While I couldn't care less that he had passed on I did care that he would no longer be there to give to me, to help me, to care about me. Selfish to be certain but focusing on that allowed me to cry, to blend in with them. It wasn't that I wasn't upset at his loss, merely that I did not feel the impact that had on anyone but myself. Lonliness is much the same way and I too have been searching for one who could accept one of us. The issue isn't whether you can escape the feeling or find someone. It is whether you can find someone before the lonliness errodes your resolve leaving you jaded and enraged. It's a matter of willpower to me, the only thing that separates us from our more notorious and infamous brethren.

 

I have read on many sites such as this that sociopaths are incapable of love and have recently written a story about it on this website. I have no idea if that is true or not because I am currently in love. I did/do not want to be in love. and perhaps it is only infatuation. But ssb725 put it wonderfully. We can feel certain things. I believe love is one of those things. It's just that our love is strange. It is a different love, but it is passionate and full because we put so much into it. Although our "love" fades faster than most. 

 

“The lack of emotional connection with other people has the odd effect of making you feel separate and alien—as if you were observing the human race from somewhere else, unattached and unwelcome. I’ve felt like that for years, long before I met Dr. Neblin and long before Mr. Crowley sent ridiculous love notes on his cell phone. People scurry around, doing their little jobs and raising their little families and shouting their meaningless emotions to the world, and all the while you just watch from the sidelines, bewildered. This drives some sociopaths to feel superior, as if the whole of humanity were simply animals to be hunted or put down; others feel a hot, jealous rage, desperate to have what they cannot. I simply felt alone, one leaf sitting miles away from a giant, communal pile.”

Excerpt From: Wells, Dan. “I Am Not A Serial Killer.”