I Am a Step Mom

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 146 People

    I am so frustrated. I went on some sites to

    find out some tips and techniques for being happier with having step kids, but all I seem to find are women who feel exactly as I do.. So maybe we can all vent together, huh? I have 2 step kids, 7 and 9, and they are for the most part good kids. The problem? They are spoiled to...
    jasminelyse jasminelyse
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Jul 12, 2014

    6 Year Old Step Daughter Won't Sleep Alone

    My 6 year old step daughter sleeps with her mom when she's @ home and with my husbands mom when she's @ her house, the only time she's to sleep alone is when she's with me and her dad. There are soo many issues with this so bare with me, I'm going to do my best to explain. She is...
    lmh1632 lmh1632
    2 Responses May 22, 2011


    i am what you might call a crunchy mom. im not like completely nuts with it, but i buy local foods, dont eat fast food, recycle, all that fun stuff. I care alot about being healthy, and i  want to pass that on to my family. My step daughters mother doesnt care about the same...
    serenity94 serenity94
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Mar 17, 2012

    I sure never expected to be the "mom" of a

    teenager this soon! But when you meet the right guy, sometimes you have to adjust your expectations!
    gjessica gjessica
    22-25, F
    5 Responses Jan 22, 2015

    Hi I am a step mom to a 12 year old boy.

    I have been in a relationship with his father for 3 yrs now. About a year and a half ago we bought a brand new home together. I am very blessed. We have Austin every other week. We really don't have too much contact with his mother. We drop him off at school on Monday...
    Dharma49 Dharma49
    51-55, F
    1 Response Jan 4, 2015

    I'm in a relationship with a Man with a 12 year

    old son from a previous relationship. At first, it was great(besides having to deal with his ex, and having to listen to her calls on speaker phone from both of them), but it's 8 months in now and I'm starting to feel very alone in the relationship. His son stays with us 99% of...
    Sammy489 Sammy489
    31-35, F
    3 Responses Aug 21, 2014

    My 16 year old stepdaughter actually used her

    own babysitting money to buy me a present on Saturday. She gave it to me and said happy belated Mothers Day. I thanked her and gave her a hug and a kiss on the cheek and she told me she loved me . There are some good moments to being a stepmom too. It's nice to see that she...
    Februarychic Februarychic
    36-40, F
    1 Response May 18, 2014

    It Comes With The Territory...

    I am engaged and recently turned 21. I have been with my fiancee for two years, and in that time I've watched his daughter go from crawling and drinking bottles to running and talking, and almost using the potty by herself. She is so adorable, and I love her with all my heart...
    breathethestars breathethestars
    18-21, F
    Apr 25, 2012

    I Know a Two Sided Story of the Step Mom...

    I'm a step Mom of 3 young ladies. One 14, one 17 and the oldest is 21.There is a whole lot a irony to my story, I had my experience of a stepmom when my Dad remarried when is was 12. My Mother died when I was 9....My sis and I didn't addapt too easily.....My oldest sister. now is...
    chuckieyt chuckieyt
    2 Responses Dec 31, 2008

    Ok. I am not a step-mom YET.

    However it is in the plans of my boyfriend and I. We plan to get married and build our life together and have a child together. Unfortunately his ex fits into the mentally-unstable-psycho-b*tch category. (This is not just my opinion... it's pretty much known by everyone who has...
    YoungStrongSassy YoungStrongSassy
    26-30, F
    1 Response Feb 7, 2014

    Child Caught In the Middle

    My boyfriend and I have been together for over a year. We live together and have his two daughters part time. His daughters are 11 and 8 and are from 2 different marriages. His oldest is 11 and for me is the most challenging daughter. I feel as though she is grilled every time...
    lyndsayp lyndsayp
    3 Responses Nov 8, 2008

    Step Mother With Baby Momma Drama...

    I am 19 turning 20 this october. I have a fiance who is 25 and he has 2 daughters by two different moms. The catch? THEY ARE 2 MONTHS APART. Talk about holy hell when they are together sometimes. Anyway... I get along GREAT with the one daughter's mom and we see her basically...
    stressedoutstep stressedoutstep
    18-21, F
    Jul 13, 2012

    I have tried reading about step-parenting

    but nothing seems to fit my family dynamics. I'm hoping people on this site can help us, or me understand, or do thing differently. My boyfriend and I have been dating for a year and a half, and have been now living together for 7 months. We live together because we both have...
    InstaMom InstaMom
    3 Responses Feb 7, 2014

    In Need For Help!

    Ok so here it goes. I met a man almost 6 years ago at work. He was married however seperated. Him and I continued to see each other, and he has 2 children. NOW- 7 year old girl turning 8 shortly and 14  year old turning 15 Boy.Well the father slowly brought them...
    awaide01 awaide01
    26-30, F
    5 Responses Nov 16, 2009

    I just moved in with my boyfriend

    who is a little older than me and his children! I really do love them for they are a part of him, but this past month I feel like a servant! I literally clean all day everyday, I'll just finish cleaning the kitchen and then they will use it and leave a mess that they will NOT...
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Jun 22, 2014

    My Boss And My Sd

    My boss is facebook friends with my 18 year old SD. They met through my boss's daughter who went to high school with my SD. My SD has hated me for the entire 9 years her dad and I have been together. (We've been married for 8). I know my SD has spoken poorly about me because...
    StepMom2003 StepMom2003
    41-45, F
    Jul 4, 2012

    Hey fellow stepmoms..

    . I recently subscribed to Stepmom Magazine. It's only $5 a month and the articles are legit advice. They cover a range of topics and offer some real solutions to help us as stepmoms. The articles are written by professional counselors who are mostly stepmoms themselves. Let me...
    Februarychic Februarychic
    36-40, F
    Sep 2, 2015

    I have adult Step Children.

    When my daughter and I were welcomed into the family of my new Husband I became a stepmom to a 24 year old son and a 22 year old daughter. Being only 40 myself this was a little bit of an adjustment but my steps are wonderful. My step son is a strong, good Christian Man who is...
    deleted deleted
    2 Responses Jun 22, 2014

    I'm Not the Wicked Step-mother!

    I am fortunate enough to have a lovely fifteen-year-old step daughter whom I adore.  She recently moved nearby and I am enjoying having her around every weekend! She is a teen mom.  She had her baby in June of this year.  She is a very good mommy and I am proud of...
    angeleyes2009 angeleyes2009
    41-45, F
    8 Responses Nov 29, 2008

    My Step Mom Experience

    I am 25 years old who happens to be a step mother, my boyfriends daughter. I had gotten her about a month or two after her dad and I were more involved with each other. I love her to death and woudn't trade it for the world. Both; her father and I, are full time college students...
    Spinderella Spinderella
    Feb 23, 2009

    Never Thought I Would Be

    Last year if someone was to tell me that I would get married and be a step mom I would've laughed in their face. But I'm married now and a step mom to two beautiful little girls named Anna and Courtney. The first time I got to meet them was in June before me and my husband got...
    tngurl25 tngurl25
    26-30, F
    Jan 10, 2013

    It's Tough Being A Stepmother!

    I'm a step mom of a 6 year old. She's been living with my fiancé since he and her mom separated.... She was 2 years old. They've been living at his parents house ever since. We've been together for 2 years now and are engaged, and I now live with them at his parents!!! My...
    Stepmom2 Stepmom2
    22-25, F
    Apr 6, 2012

    Stepmother of 6 and Then Some.

         Hi I am new here. You can find out a great deal more about me by looking at my other stories. I will try not to make this one as long but it may be longer. Ha ha! Wow where to start.  I couldn't have kids which destroyed my first marriage to my high...
    75Angels 75Angels
    36-40, F
    Sep 26, 2008

    Being A Step Mom Is Difficult.

    Ok… This is my story. I'm a step mom every other week… or more. My husband has two kids… a boy 7 and a girl 8. It's not all that bad most the time. I love my husband and I love the kids. I've been living with them… or them with me, since the kids were 2 and 3. But...
    JustMyExperience JustMyExperience
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Jul 10, 2012

    Am I Wrong

    I have two children from my first marriage they are 13 and 11 I also have a 10 year old step son. All three children live with us full time. The two oldest see their dad only a few times a year but talk to him when ever they want. My youngest has only seen his bm once in the 4...
    mdepoortere mdepoortere
    36-40, F
    1 Response Sep 9, 2013

    I don't want to share the love of my life with

    a "bastard child", no the child didn't ask to be here I understand that but choices were made and now I'm stuck dealing with it. Why not leave? Because he's the one I want and I can't be without this man anymore, therefore we're getting married next year. Why complain? Because I...
    curlsandall curlsandall
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Sep 7, 2014

    I have two twin stepsons they are 14 now

    but I have been a part of their lives since they were 8. I don't get along with their mother, as instead of sharing her concerns she flies off the handle and fails to communicate. In the last argument we had I expressed that she call me if she is starting to get frustrated with...
    sugarplumsandgumdrops sugarplumsandgumdrops
    31-35, F
    Jul 16, 2014

    I Love This Guy And The Kids

    I love this guy and his kids so much that I'm breaking out of my depression and selfishness. I'm working on getting a good job with benefits so that one day I could be a good wife and step mom.
    Feb 15, 2013

    The Outsider Looking In

    I met her at the age of 9 still into playing with dolls and barbies and riding her bike playing outside and climbing in trees...Thinking how lucky of a man to have a daughter like this. Where could her mother be why is she in in an out of her life. Here a daughter a friend and a...
    K31278 K31278
    1 Response Nov 11, 2008

    Failing At Step Momhood

    I married 3 years ago a man with 2 daughters.  I also have 2 daughters.  I have sole custody of mine, we have his most weekends and one night a week.   I moved to be with him, into his house, his life.  The sd's live a few miles away with bm...
    jonescathj jonescathj
    2 Responses Feb 18, 2009

    I Am A Step Mom No Matter What People Say!

    I am 26 years old and I have been with my boyfriend for three years. I love him but after two failed marriages he doesn't take love to easily. I dont blame him at all. He has two kids. His son is graduating high school this year and I am so very proud! His daughter is a pre teen...
    Cridihalgh Cridihalgh
    26-30, F
    1 Response May 19, 2012

    Just Call Me The Bonus Parent.

    I started dating my fiance when his son was about 5 months old.  He's ten now. *grin*   For most of his life, his dad and I were weekend parents, and I'll be the first to admit that it was sometimes very tough on me.  The boyo's mom likes to feel that...
    Ashirin Ashirin
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Oct 22, 2009

    Love/hate Step Mom Experience...

    While being a step mom for me is going ... o.k ... and there are no problems in my relationship with my husband there are small things that irritate me. I wonder sometimes if I'm over reacting. The main thing is my step son feels the need to take over every room in the house. It...
    VirgoMom87 VirgoMom87
    22-25, F
    1 Response Sep 1, 2012

    I will soon officially be the step-mom of a

    beautiful 5 year old girl. I love her very much even though I am aware that she is not my own. She also reciprocates, always letting me know that she loves me. Her biological mom disappeared when she was only 2 years old and all of a sudden she now wants to be a part of her...
    s533 s533
    22-25, F
    Jun 14, 2014


    Well, everyone here seems to have such a positive view, about their role as a step mom. Im not sure, then, if iam posting this in the correct spot. I would like to be more positive about this situation and am seeking some advice, i suppose. Iam a step mom, well technically, Iam...
    temptedlikeve temptedlikeve
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Nov 4, 2009

    My Money Tree

    I am glad I found this site because possibly others here may understand.I have 2 step children, and 3 of my own. They are all adults.My Step son was in prison for 7 yrs. He was released in August.I spent approximately $5,000 helping him re establish. A place to live with the...
    kimb24 kimb24
    51-55, F
    1 Response Jan 20, 2013

    Not traditionally speaking...

    My guy and I are not married, we live together. As I've said many times before, he and I have an age-difference of 21 years. He being the older of us. He has two grown children. Yes, they are close in age to myself. His son, was nearly 15 when his father and I started...
    TopazSkye TopazSkye
    26-30, F
    9 Responses May 23, 2009

    Step Mothers Deserve Equality!

    I am a step mother to a beautiful five and a half year old little girl. I have no children of my own. (I lost my own in 2006) Me and my husband have been married almost a year now but I have been a step mother to her for almost three years. We have joint custody so we have her...
    StepMomBlues StepMomBlues
    26-30, F
    5 Responses Aug 19, 2011

    I Hate The Step Mom Title. Sad And Hard To Admit To Otherz Who Don't Understand My Heart Itz True.

    HEY, I KNOW ..... YOU CAN'T BELIEVE THIS IS MY HEADING RIGHT? BUT ITZ TRUE I HATE THAT LABEL, OR EVEN THAT WORD "STEP" , or "STEP KIDS" or "STEP MOM"or.... "THE OTHER WOMAN"or even ~ "OH... HER?'' Some people can be sooo insensitive to our role in the family. Like we are less...
    mrsrose mrsrose
    22-25, F
    Jul 30, 2010
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