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I Am a Step-mother

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    Something is not sinking in with me.

    I'm a 39 year old mother of four children; two sons 18 & 15--and two daughters 14 & 7. I had tubal ligation 7 years ago...the same day my 7 year old daughter was born. I don't want to be bother with any more children----With Good reason. None of my children resided with me...
    ChiTownLady76 ChiTownLady76 36-40, F 1 Response Mar 24

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    I have just got into a new relationship with my

    boyfriend and we have been together 6 months but we have known each other since we were little. We used to go round to each other's houses when we were children as his mum and dad were really good friends with my mum and dad. We hadn't seen each other for years and years but met...
    xMySecretx xMySecretx 22-25, F 1 Response Sep 25, 2014

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    Frustrated

    I have been in a relationship for about 11 yrs now.  My husband has a son who is now 17.  He has been in trouble with the law.  Has a mother who never accepted me and has made it very hard for us to bond.  I've known his son since he was 5 years old. ...
    sunnysidedown22 sunnysidedown22 36-40, F 1 Response Dec 8, 2010

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    Step Mom

    Hi, my husband and I have been in a relationship for four years and married going on two. I have four children of which are grown and have started families of their own. My husband has a daughter(now 14) and shares custody with his ex. In the beginning of our relationship his...
    LPANDOLFINO1 LPANDOLFINO1 46-50, F 2 Responses Oct 7, 2013

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    Sudden Motherhood

    back in july i went back to uk thinking could be happier there but found i was even more depressed and i soon wanted to come back to my marriage but his ex who had a 5 year old by him decided to come over to get  from certain authorities who were after her to take child away...
    sweetcutie sweetcutie 36-40, F Dec 20, 2008

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    Joint Custody In Texas; Stepmother's Perspective

    4 1/2 years ago...When I met my husband, his ex decided to keep his son, then only 2, away from him. They had a verbal agreement to share time with their son 50/50. Then one day she decides to just keep him and says my now husband cannot see him anymore. I encouraged my husband...
    0therM0ther72 0therM0ther72 36-40, F 3 Responses Dec 8, 2010

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    So here's the deal, I just need some advice

    or something. Maybe just to talk to someone that's been through or going through the same thing or something similar anyway. I'm absolutely head over heals in love with this man, were perfect together. We have the same sense of humor, were best friends we constantly want to be...
    kay5262 kay5262 18-21, F Mar 5

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    Third In Line

    hi everyone! i am so glad to have found this forum! i feel very secluded in my new adventure as a young stepmother and have recently had mild anxiety about the whole idea. nobody i talk to can really relate and so i don't talk to anyone about it anymore. i hope this cyber...
    ladywulf ladywulf 22-25, F 3 Responses Aug 19, 2010

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    Adult Step Son

    Here we go How to start without sounding like some demented unreasonable woman Am married to a fantastic bloke - love him dearly However, fantastic husband came with attachments - both sons. Married for 3 years One son, 27, has left home, is lovely, thoughtful and hard...
    Tuska Tuska 41-45 1 Response Aug 21, 2009

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    I Am Astep-mother

            I AM A MOTHER OF ONE A STEPMOTHER OF FOUR AND IM REALLY LOOKING FOR A HEALTHY RESOLUTION TO MY ISSUES.I HAVE A SEVENTEEN  YEAR OLD STEPSON WHO IS POSING A GREAT CHALLENGE FOR ME . I SEE HIM GOING IN THE WRONG DIRECTIN AND I DONT...
    pinkcube pinkcube 26-30, F 2 Responses Feb 11, 2008

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    I To Am A Step Mom

     I am glad that I found this here, I to am a step Mom, and yes, struggles, oh yes!! I am a step Mom to 2 teenagers whom not had a mother in  their lives for several years, or no female interaction in a parental way, it has been just Dad for many years. The oldest was...
    SassyBabe39 SassyBabe39 41-45, F 6 Responses Feb 23, 2010

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    I Have A Step Daughter

    She is 5. It actually took me a while to get used to it and love her, I am shamed to say. But now I gave grown to love her. And she needs it because it seems like her mother doesn't care one bit.. so I will be a mother to her just as I am for my own.
    deleted deleted 26-30 Feb 14, 2012

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    A Young Stepmom

    Hi,   I am so excited to have found all of you! I have been a stepmom for 10 years and have struggled, like all of you have, but on my own and now I feel great relief in finding others who can resonate with my experiences, and I with yours.   I recently started an...
    happymama3 happymama3 26-30, F 1 Response Feb 4, 2010

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    Overwhelmed Young Step Mom

    I recently moved in with my bf and his son and I am a struggling step mom! I feel overwhelmed...as if I never have time for myself anymore. I get him ready for school , iron, make breakfast, make lunch, go to work full time, and still have no help cleaning up around the house so...
    Monica2518 Monica2518 22-25 1 Response Sep 25, 2013

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    Related Experiences

    I feel as though I retaliated against my step Mother when she loved me more than anything else... When my step Mother and father got together, my fake Mother drugged me so badly...
    ONESTARRYSTARRYNIGHT ONESTARRYSTARRYNIGHT 26-30, F Apr 14

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    In the years since I researched and wrote Mean Mothers, I’ve talked to women about our shared experiences. Every woman’s story is different, of course; perhaps the greatest...
    rescueme99 rescueme99 41-45 4 Responses Apr 11

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    My fiancé, we shall call him N, and I plan on getting married soon. I love him so much and enjoy our time together. Having said that, I am apprehensive about the step daughter I...
    Nasyla Nasyla 31-35, F Apr 10

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    I’ve always put so much of my anger onto my dad and how he treated me, but sometimes I think that is misplaced. First, I don’t have a pity party for myself most of the time...
    EverlyAnn EverlyAnn 31-35, F Apr 27

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    He has to take a dementia test. Doctor is worried about him. It hurts a lot my doctor really likes him and my mother but hates me. He won't take me seriously or see how bad I am...
    1lonelydaisy 1lonelydaisy 41-45 1 Response 1 day ago

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    I can't remember exactly how old I was during this time, but I was in my second year of kindergarten. My mom met this man. I don't know how old he was at the time, he was black...
    moose73630 moose73630 16-17, M 2 Responses Apr 12

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    I am trying to prepare myself for my mother's death. I am not ready for my mother's death. She is 91 years old and my relationship with her is complicated one. Like Luke Skywalker...
    tryingagainII tryingagainII 56-60, M 4 Responses Apr 24

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    I'm 15 years old now and I have been aware that my mom is an alcoholic since I was 9-10. so I'll start from the beginning I remember the first time I realized something was wrong...
    anonymous347 anonymous347 13-15, F Apr 20

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    She always makes fun of my weight.... When she's not yelling at me she is usually talking bad about me to my step father. She always sides with him on everything....
    caitwebb1221 caitwebb1221 13-15, F 4 Responses Apr 14

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    I hate him. I can't even explain all of the things he's done, or hasn't done. Yes a terrible person who hates me, neglects me and I'd always rude and degrading. He can't walk by me...
    EssSmith EssSmith 16-17, F 1 Response Apr 16

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    On June 14, 2013, I found out my daughter who was 10 at the time had been molested for about 3 or 4 years by a very close family friend who was like an uncle to her. I immediately...
    mwilder1982 mwilder1982 31-35, F Apr 25

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    Over the last 10 months the children have blossomed after a bitter senseless custody battle was resolved. They are so much happier having their father in their lives, My step...
    stormmistress stormmistress 31-35, F 2 days ago

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    I'm a step mom of 3 girls aged 5,8,10 and I don't know how I will cope even though we see the girls every second week :(
    stormmistress stormmistress 31-35, F 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    My heart, my mind, my soul, and everything else is aching me. Today, of course, was another fight with my fake Mother. She told me that though I am receiving unemployment money, I...
    ONESTARRYSTARRYNIGHT ONESTARRYSTARRYNIGHT 26-30, F Apr 12

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    it's funny...growing up I didn't like my step mother very much. It didn't even much have anything to do with the way she treated me, I disliked her for the role she played in my...
    Wisdomswisdom Wisdomswisdom 36-40, F 1 Response Apr 23

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    I've been a stepmom now for about 2 years to a now 4 year old. When I first met my now husband, things were great between me and the child. However as he and I got more involved...
    tcap422 tcap422 26-30, F 6 Responses Apr 19

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    (1980) I was born while my parents were getting divorced. I saw my dad a handful of times. (1983) my mom remarries a man who likes little girls. My mom knew what was going on but...
    wingedvalkyrie7 wingedvalkyrie7 31-35, F 1 Response Apr 24

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    I was coerced and pressured by my father to pursue a degree I thought I could do well in and make him, and the rest of my family, proud. I struggled during the time I did the...
    survivor1994 survivor1994 18-21, F 2 Responses Apr 16

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    My therapist encouraged me to file for bankruptcy at 23 years old. Meanwhile, I felt deeply that he had a thing for Indian women... Every time my fake Mother joined in for my...
    ONESTARRYSTARRYNIGHT ONESTARRYSTARRYNIGHT 26-30, F Apr 12

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    I'm My Own Grandpawby Dwight Latham and Moe JaffeMany, many years ago when I was twenty-threeI was married to a widow who was pretty as could be.This widow had a grown-up daughter...
    izzypie izzypie 36-40, F 2 Responses Apr 8

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    So my biology teacher gave the class a quiz on pedigrees and threw us a HUGE curveball that he didn't prepare us for. We were supposed to make a pedigree based on this song: Many...
    punicorn1 punicorn1 13-15, F 3 Responses Apr 22

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    I've been trying to find stories similar to mine. I just can't seem to find one. So, I decided to write my story. It's sometimes hard for me to write about this. I think my mind...
    DemitriaGoddess3 DemitriaGoddess3 16-17, F Apr 15

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    Does anybody else have an evil step mother like a really horrible jealous one that doesn't allow you to see your other siblings 😡
    ameliah1 ameliah1 16-17, F 2 Responses Apr 10

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    In August 1960, three months after I was born, I was adopted by a very rich oil family living in Dallas, Texas. My father was an oil rig superintendent. He always made enough...
    oldernudistfemale oldernudistfemale 51-55, F 1 Response Apr 11

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    I am my Stepdaughter's scapegoat. She's almost 21 & I've been in her life since she was 9. She has had everything handed to her by her paternal grandparents & mom. Her dad (my...
    var122 var122 41-45, F 3 Responses Apr 14

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    When I met my wife she managed to make me a nicer person. I became more compassionate and less angry. She inspired me to have a relationship with my step mother an some siblings...
    Widower1 Widower1 31-35 1 Response Apr 16

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    Evil step mother! Did not like that I refuse to put up with her going from best friend to mom! No, I will not obey you!
    teadiva teadiva 31-35, F 1 Response Apr 23

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    Movie addict here indeed...... Movies that make you think, get right inside of you where you can feel the movie...."We Were Soldiers....Brave Heart...My Sister's Keeper Step...
    SassyBabe39 SassyBabe39 41-45, F 4 Responses 2 days ago

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