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I Am a Step-mother

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    Adult Step Son

    Here we go How to start without sounding like some demented unreasonable woman Am married to a fantastic bloke - love him dearly However, fantastic husband came with attachments - both sons. Married for 3 years One son, 27, has left home, is lovely, thoughtful and hard...
    Tuska Tuska 41-45 2 Responses Aug 21, 2009

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    I Have A Step Daughter

    She is 5. It actually took me a while to get used to it and love her, I am shamed to say. But now I gave grown to love her. And she needs it because it seems like her mother doesn't care one bit.. so I will be a mother to her just as I am for my own.
    deleted deleted 26-30 Feb 14, 2012

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    Sudden Motherhood

    back in july i went back to uk thinking could be happier there but found i was even more depressed and i soon wanted to come back to my marriage but his ex who had a 5 year old by him decided to come over to get  from certain authorities who were after her to take child away...
    sweetcutie sweetcutie 36-40, F Dec 20, 2008

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    Step Mom

    Hi, my husband and I have been in a relationship for four years and married going on two. I have four children of which are grown and have started families of their own. My husband has a daughter(now 14) and shares custody with his ex. In the beginning of our relationship his...
    LPANDOLFINO1 LPANDOLFINO1 46-50, F 2 Responses Oct 7, 2013

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    Joint Custody In Texas; Stepmother's Perspective

    4 1/2 years ago...When I met my husband, his ex decided to keep his son, then only 2, away from him. They had a verbal agreement to share time with their son 50/50. Then one day she decides to just keep him and says my now husband cannot see him anymore. I encouraged my husband...
    0therM0ther72 0therM0ther72 36-40, F 3 Responses Dec 8, 2010

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    I Am Astep-mother

            I AM A MOTHER OF ONE A STEPMOTHER OF FOUR AND IM REALLY LOOKING FOR A HEALTHY RESOLUTION TO MY ISSUES.I HAVE A SEVENTEEN  YEAR OLD STEPSON WHO IS POSING A GREAT CHALLENGE FOR ME . I SEE HIM GOING IN THE WRONG DIRECTIN AND I DONT...
    pinkcube pinkcube 26-30, F 3 Responses Feb 11, 2008

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    My Ever Changing Step Daughter

    My step daughter is growing up so fast.  She has changed so much in the last year, I do not know if she feels so much more stable in her home environment, knowing that I am permanent, her father is going no where...   All of a sudden she runs to hug & kiss me...
    redflame redflame 31-35, F Mar 3, 2010

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    Wicked Ex Wife !!

    I wish my step daughter didnt have such an uncaring, selfish mother.  I know it sounds harsh, but her own mother doesnt really give a damn about her eldest daughter, whom is 5 years old. Her Mother has another 2yr old daughter from her now boyfriend.  She doesnt...
    redflame redflame 31-35, F 1 Response Aug 18, 2009

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    Definately a Daily Challenge

    Im a step mom to a little 5yr old girl, I dont have any children of my own yet.  Id say having the "Instant" family has been very challenging on my side, i've found it extremely difficult to accept my step daughter. Every one keeps telling me to love her as if she...
    redflame redflame 31-35, F 3 Responses Jul 28, 2009

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    Third In Line

    hi everyone! i am so glad to have found this forum! i feel very secluded in my new adventure as a young stepmother and have recently had mild anxiety about the whole idea. nobody i talk to can really relate and so i don't talk to anyone about it anymore. i hope this cyber...
    ladywulf ladywulf 22-25, F 3 Responses Aug 19, 2010

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    Frustrated

    I have been in a relationship for about 11 yrs now.  My husband has a son who is now 17.  He has been in trouble with the law.  Has a mother who never accepted me and has made it very hard for us to bond.  I've known his son since he was 5 years old. ...
    sunnysidedown22 sunnysidedown22 36-40, F 1 Response Dec 8, 2010

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    Things Are Better

    Having prayed about my step daughter, for strength (hallelujah!!) a whole ton full of patience and understanding, the last couple months have been better.   I still get agro with her, but I dont feel my blood boiling anymore.  I've found myself even calling...
    redflame redflame 31-35, F 1 Response Oct 14, 2009

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    A Young Stepmom

    Hi,   I am so excited to have found all of you! I have been a stepmom for 10 years and have struggled, like all of you have, but on my own and now I feel great relief in finding others who can resonate with my experiences, and I with yours.   I recently started an...
    happymama3 happymama3 26-30, F 1 Response Feb 4, 2010

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    Feel Sorry For My Step Daughter

    We have my step daughter for the week and had her the whole of last weekend.  Im tending to believe that her mother doesnt feed her healthy and correctly at home. She moans when she has to eat the food we give her which is vegetables and meat.  All she wants is bread...
    redflame redflame 31-35, F 1 Response Nov 24, 2009

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    Overwhelmed Young Step Mom

    I recently moved in with my bf and his son and I am a struggling step mom! I feel overwhelmed...as if I never have time for myself anymore. I get him ready for school , iron, make breakfast, make lunch, go to work full time, and still have no help cleaning up around the house so...
    Monica2518 Monica2518 22-25 1 Response Sep 25, 2013

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    I To Am A Step Mom

     I am glad that I found this here, I to am a step Mom, and yes, struggles, oh yes!! I am a step Mom to 2 teenagers whom not had a mother in  their lives for several years, or no female interaction in a parental way, it has been just Dad for many years. The oldest was...
    SassyBabe39 SassyBabe39 41-45, F 6 Responses Feb 23, 2010

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    Related Experiences

    i remember this as it was yesterday.when I was 5-6 years old, me my brother and my step brother. we were at the playground and I really had a bad stomach. I ran home to use the...
    siskrista siskrista 22-25, M 1 Response Mar 23

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    I have a step mother but I secretly call her the step *****. She's so horrible, she has my dad obsessed with her and all his love and attention goes to her when he has 6 kids. She...
    carolinehart carolinehart 16-17, F 19 hrs ago

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    I was born with a normal family,. A mother, father, older brother and older sister. However, once I turned the age of 3, my mother decided to undergo gender reassignment surgery...
    Mzamigo Mzamigo 18-21, F Mar 24

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    Even though you are my step mother, you have cared for me more than someone who is supposed to love me from birth. Appreciate the people who will love and nurture you, out of the...
    katrinapaytonxo katrinapaytonxo 22-25, F Apr 9

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    My mother lied to me my whole youth about who my father was. I was told my father was my mother’s first husband. Meanwhile my mother married my step father when I was just 20...
    dwc294 dwc294 46-50, M 1 Response Apr 13

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    I hate my step dad. He is literally poisoning my mom. She used to be so nice before she got married to him. It was an arranged marriage, so she didn't even get a say in the...
    agentunicorn agentunicorn 16-17, F 4 days ago

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    I need advice I am in a VERY tough position and do you think I should walk away or what must I do ... My step son is 4 and he lives with us as his mother is a drunk and she cannot...
    HamergalSA HamergalSA 31-35, F 2 Responses 23 hrs ago

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    My mother and I grew apart after she had my sister which is only natural but the bridge grew and grew over the years. I was to fat, I liked weird things, I was stupid, dramatic, I...
    Cerci575 Cerci575 18-21, F Mar 25

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    Isn't it strange how society projects an image of mothers as selfless and sacrificing living saints? Mine was anything but. Without warning she could become outraged about...
    Fyrefox Fyrefox 56-60, M 1 Response Mar 31

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    I have recently learned to adapt to my mother's subtle abuse with either a quick retort back or simply not giving her any ammunition to use behind my back. I wrote an earlier...
    amazingyou amazingyou 31-35, F 1 Response Apr 14

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    Before I was adopted for a short time I lived with my biological mother and her Fiancé. Well he was so close to me i called him dad for a while. his name was brian and I adored...
    KenzR KenzR 16-17, F 2 Responses Mar 26

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    I think fathers need to step up. My ex I string to push me out of the kids lives out of spite but I stay true and dedicated to my children. Three weeks ago the mother of my...
    Readytorun567 Readytorun567 26-30, M 1 Response Mar 29

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    My first impression of her was a when she dropped my step daughter off at our apartment and asked me whether he and I share a room , she stated that my step daughter said she doesn...
    HisAngelof222 HisAngelof222 31-35, F 3 Responses Apr 5

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    She insists I did not hug her when she came to visit about a month and a half ago. I remember this specifically because I thought, "do I have to hug her? If I don't, she'll make a...
    greencoffeecup greencoffeecup 26-30, F Apr 3

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    It all started when I started dating my now husband about 15years ago. My sister in law didn't want her brother with anyone unless she had say in who it was. Well when she didn't...
    laidbackgirl laidbackgirl 31-35, F 1 Response Apr 11

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      my step-brother committed suicide a few years ago, and last night and several other nights i have dreamed (nightmares truly) because he was so abusive to me and my...
    jdn86 jdn86 26-30, M Mar 26

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    My inspirational daughter in law. One of seven children abandoned by her mother at an early age when her mother took off on her hippie dream and then placed in a foster home when...
    Rusham Rusham 66-70, M 1 Response 3 days ago

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    WILLIE NELSON "I'm My Own Grandpa" Now, many many years ago When I was twenty three I was married to a widow Who was pretty as could be This widow had a grown-up daughter Had...
    sherrianna sherrianna 18-21, F 2 Responses Apr 8

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    I love my family. Even when they annoy me to death, though there are parts of my family I would rather not count. My biological mother's family hate my father. For moving us to a...
    DeJeKlu DeJeKlu 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 29

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    I hear rumors that your leaving. It's been six months since we actually talked, not counting the one sentence you spoke to me in court, which looking back I'm not sure was spoken...
    ophelia379 ophelia379 26-30, F 4 Responses 6 days ago

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    This is hilarious to me may not be too funny to others who do not get it but a few weeks ago I was out with my step mom and we were just having lunch and talking, I have my son...
    funsnowgal funsnowgal 22-25, F 4 Responses 6 days ago

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    I know life is a journey and that you get rid of people who make fun of you or don’t fit with you. Well that’s what I have been doing since I moved to Sweden. It’s not hard...
    DemonDm DemonDm 16-17, F 5 days ago

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    I have this one dream. It's never exactly the same, but it's always along the same lines. In these dreams, my mom absolutely hates me. She's like the evil step mother in any...
    3milyFaye 3milyFaye 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 23

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    I am step mother to 4 kids my husband has from his previous marriage. I am struggling he keeps things from me to do with the kids, but expects me to be apart of their lives
    anniemct anniemct 31-35, F 2 Responses Mar 28

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    Came to realize a few things but I still feel lost; like I'm living through the motions of life just to live. For so long I've held on to the baggage of my past. Too many times I...
    halfdead25 halfdead25 26-30, F 1 Response Apr 4

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    My parents never got married but they did date as teenagers but my dad was a player bad lived with my now step mother And dated more than one chick at a time my mom got tired of...
    Reynastaxx Reynastaxx 26-30, F Apr 6

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    I've noticed a lot of friends becoming gluten free, vegan, or going on juice fasts. It's so extreme, and as far as I'm concerned this is a modern luxury, even though my...
    UpsideTown UpsideTown 22-25, F 1 day ago

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    I find people utterly fascinating. I have been thinking about my youngest step cousin a lot lately. Watching her grow up in leaps and bounds because I only saw them once a year...
    xSCARx xSCARx 26-30, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    Hello. My name is Kaitlynn. I'm 18 years old, and have lost my parents to addiction. I was born illegitimate to a young couple in their mid-twenties. My dad was in a band he was...
    Erealia Erealia 18-21, F 1 Response Apr 14

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    My mother passed away 2 weeks ago after battling cancer for about 8 years. It all happened so quickly. She fought it so well and after all these years, it felt like she wasn't even...
    butterflies57 butterflies57 22-25, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    IF IT'S NOT TOO LATE....SAVE YOURSELF!!!!! Things I've experienced as a Step. *Any material item I ever cared for broken or stolen. *Beloved pets killed or tormented. *Toothbrushes...
    beingastepsucks beingastepsucks 41-45, F 2 Responses Mar 29

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    the day before yesterday, my step uncle passed away. and I never know anything about it till my sister told me as she was told by my other step uncle. by that time we were at home...
    rsddhj rsddhj 13-15, F Apr 2

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    I have a step kid who is 16 that doesn't know how to communicate and doesn't really know how to handle her own emotions. She and I had a good relationship until her mother and I...
    702stepmom 702stepmom 26-30, F 3 Responses Mar 28

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    I am a young mother. I have made many, many mistakes in my past, true. I was a wild teen who came from a broken home. Both of my parents were/are drug addicts. My father was in and...
    shoxic shoxic 22-25, F Mar 31

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    literally because, anyone who have connections with me passes away. first, my great grandma, my mother, my grandpa, my step grandpa, and the newest is today.. my step uncle but its...
    rsddhj rsddhj 13-15, F Mar 31

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    When I was about 4 years old, almost 5 my mother had met this man, who was about to be in our lives for a very long time. When I just got into kindergarten he had fallen off a...
    JustALittleGirl123 JustALittleGirl123 13-15, F 1 Response Apr 3

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