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I Am a Stepfather

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    Being A Stepdad

    After raising my stepson with my girlfriend for the last 16 yrs which has been fantastic until he wanted to see his real dad,he has become a different person since he started to see him again,he doesnt call me dad anymore and i feel betrayed after all these years bringing him up...
    Daddave9 Daddave9 31-35, M 2 Responses Jul 31, 2012

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    Dad Vs Step-dad (new To This Site)

    I've been in a relationship with my fiance now for 4 years, I have two Step-son's (9 & 11) a step-daughter (17) and a biological daughter (9 months). At first things were awesome but as time goes on I find that I make more and more compromises with less and less thanks...
    WellasWallace WellasWallace 26-30, M Dec 2, 2012

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    How To Keep Your Cool?

    I have been with this woman for over a year now. When we first stated dating, she was not technically divorced. Anyway, relationship progressed quite quickly and within two months, I was spending the night at her place multiple nights a week. She is the mother of twin toddler...
    hokie2010 hokie2010 22-25 1 Response Jul 27, 2012

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    3 Year Old Step-daughter

    I have been with my girlfriend for a little over 2 years. She has a 3 year old daughter. The kids father is still in the picture. Every one always says that it is good for him to be close to the daughter but honestly he is a piece of **** and is just messing up her life. I think...
    whome92 whome92 18-21, M 1 Response Dec 22, 2012

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    A Pseudo Haiku

    I never worriedwhat is was to be a parenttil I am one
    deleted deleted 26-30 Mar 4, 2012

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    Potential Stepfather

    I'm dating a great girl with a toddler son. So far the relationship is great, and her son and I get along. Lately I've been struggling with thoughts about the future. I'm getting kinda bummed that I won't be able to share any "firsts" with her as it relates to kids. No matter...
    jensenblue jensenblue 26-30, M 5 Responses Oct 11, 2013

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    Love

    I have a 13 year old step daughter and a 12 year old step son. Let's talk about John. John is very bright he looks up to me and sometimes I let him down. Last night we worked out and I was so proud and that put a smile on my face. My April on the other hand just walked around...
    ral10798 ral10798 31-35, M Dec 20, 2012

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    Need Advise

    hi i am stepfather from 3 years now my stepson is 4 years old we all came from poland mother of son as well and we wont take married after that i woudlike to adopt my stepson in england his biological father live in england as well and  he dont care about him he not even...
    medyk2ooo medyk2ooo 26-30 Aug 30, 2010

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    Stepfather Difficulties

    Hello, I've been raising my stepson for 10 years now. I met my wife and we got married. At the time she had a 5 year old son. We have definitely strugged throughout the years. We now have two daughters under 9 that are biologically mine. I have been having these feelings...
    sf10 sf10 31-35, M 19 Responses Sep 16, 2009

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    Catch 22 For Almost 20 Years!

    I met my wife almost 20 years ago. She had two small children by two different men before I met her. The boy was age three and the girl was age one.  Both fathers were out of the picture and she never married either. My wife was 22 and I was 23 years old. I'd be lying if I...
    wally2162 wally2162 41-45 5 Responses Oct 31, 2012

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    New Wife Hates My Kids

    I have been married for about 14 months and to make the story short I recently found a website my wife has been going on where she was looking for support cause she hates when my kids come over and dreads coming home when they are here. She has one daughter 10 who I can honestly...
    StepDad73 StepDad73 36-40, M 2 Responses May 4, 2013

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    Kids, Who Would Have Them!

    I met my wife about 7 years ago. Her two kids, a boy and a girl aged 11 and 9 then seemed to adjust well to their new stepfather. Their dad hardly ever saw them and it became obvious that he would only see them once or twice a year but They would always come back saying how great...
    Jes53 Jes53 51-55 2 Responses Jan 11, 2011

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    Aaaaaaaaaaaahhhhhhhhhhh....stepdaughters

    ok, a very long story short......im recently married with two stepdaughters, seven and twelve years old.  mother had an abusive first marriage, mentally not physically.  claims ptsd. anyways.....they all hate the original father, fine, whatever, but......they have not the...
    phoenixrisingfromtheashes phoenixrisingfromtheashes 41-45, M 2 Responses Jan 26, 2012

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    3 Stepmen And No Respect......

    I want to share my experience so anyone else who is currently involved or thinking of being serious with a woman who will not give you authority to raise her children as the head of the household will think twice. I met my wife 10 years ago, she has 3 boys, two being twins and...
    norespectD norespectD 36-40, M 2 Responses Nov 26, 2010

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    I recently became a stepfather of two girls 5

    and 8 years old. My wife is pregnant to our biological girl at the moment. She agreed with me taking over the discipline of her girls too , and this includes spanking . The girls are doing ok, still shocked by the new life changes . What is your opinion? any questions are...
    Jim30 Jim30 26-30, M 1 Response Jan 23

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    I Cant Win

    i am in a 3 year old relationnship with my fiancee who has a 15 yr old boy and a twelve yr old girl...they used to see their father every fortnight but that has stopped due to some problems...the girl is usually quite loving towards me but the boy,although usually polite to my...
    melbdays8 melbdays8 36-40 1 Response Oct 14, 2012

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    3 Teens In H.s. God Help Me

    I am a fire fighter / medic. At the end of my rope.
    ffdown ffdown 46-50 1 Response Sep 30, 2012

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    She Doesn't Understand That Its Difficult To Love Her Child

    I met my fiance when her son was 2 years old (now almost 6), and I can tell you that it hasn't been easy for me. Let me just first say that he is not a naughty child, he is well mannered, he listens to me when I tell him to do something and does not talk back, he doesn't sulk...
    jpvh01 jpvh01 31-35, M 3 Responses Oct 23, 2013

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    Iam A Mum Looking For Good Stories From Stepdads!!

    Step parenting! I have two boys 7 & 8 gorgeous well behaved/polite/ respectful boys. Iam dating a Man with no kids for the last year. We are very much in love, he gets on well with my two and they think he is great. We have no other issues with X partners or anything it's all...
    Lovedsomuch Lovedsomuch 36-40 4 Responses Jun 20, 2012

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    I really feel gypped by marrying a woman with

    kids. I feel like I settled for a go kart when I deserve a Ferrari. I know many will say I should love her kids like mine. I can't do it. I don't feel bad or guilty. I missed so much by marrying later in life. I missed the firsts. I'm going to have this with someone. So...
    gonzogeek gonzogeek 56-60, M 1 Response May 31

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    Kward Kward 51-55, M 3 Responses Jan 4

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    Recycled Dad

    Hi, I am 36 and remarried. I'm married to my a girl I grew up since we were 10 yrs old. We both have kids of our own. Mine my boys are 11 and 7, and my daughter is 5. Her kids are 12 and 10. We've been married for a little over four years. We went through a very of 2 yrs that...
    jgpicazo jgpicazo 36-40, M 1 Response Feb 13, 2011

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    Being A Good Stepdad

    Hello, My name is Chris Williams. I've written a short article that details what I believe makes a "stepfather" I will be honest, I don't think there is a magic formula, but this is merely a journey into my experiences. I encourage you to read it, and aif you want, discuss. Take...
    willic22 willic22 26-30, M Jun 27, 2012

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    Stepfather Equality

    I'm in a great relationship and get along great girlfriend and a stepfather to her children, daughter 15, son 11, son 6. The daughter sees her biological dad once every 2 weekends and the boys are with us 1 week on 2. We are having issues concerning how much I should pay for...
    Dany1970 Dany1970 36-40, M 3 Responses Apr 29, 2011

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    Screaming and Still Silent

    I  don't know how to handle this situation. I have eight people in my house. From a elderly inlaw to children. Everyone one of them are very loud people. It almost seems they try to out-yell each other. They are screaming right now which I  find kind of funny as I...
    akweaver akweaver 41-45, M 4 Responses Oct 3, 2009

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    I Am Having So Much Trouble With My Stepson

    I met my stepson when he was seven years old. His father declined to be part of his life after one year of age. However, he does see his biological father maybe once a month since then. This would be for a few hour visit, or a rarer overnight trip. (even though his BF lives only...
    DDEV40 DDEV40 36-40 8 Responses May 8, 2011

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    It's the most empty feeling

    and lackluster experience I've ever had . I don't care what anyone says, you can't love stepchildren like your own. I've tried and can't. If that's ****** so be it . I will never marry a woman with kids again. That is set in stone.
    gonzogeek gonzogeek 56-60, M 3 Responses Apr 3

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    I guess these things can work.

    In many ways I feel like I settled for a lot less than I should have. They're more work than I want to do.
    gonzogeek gonzogeek 56-60, M Apr 20

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    Thinking Of Becoming A Stepdad...

    Hey everyone, I am in a 2 year relationship with a woman that has a six year old son. She shares custody (50/50) with the biological father, who has unfortunately put her through the wringer since their son was born, especially over the last eight months. The biological father...
    ridgessp ridgessp 26-30 6 Responses Dec 4, 2010

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    Hiding The Hurt... But I'M Dealing With It

    I've been married for 2 years now. My wife already had a 14 year old girl and 6 year old boy. Both children have different fathers. Before we married I fell in love with her and she with me. And when I met the children I fell in love with them and they with me, so much they were...
    oakstep oakstep 26-30, M 5 Responses Feb 12, 2013

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    Harmony

    Hello, I have come here seeking simply guidance, and perhaps a cup of wisdom for the tale I will share. First; a little of myself. I am 42, I am the father of 4 beautiful children, the first of which was born while I was on a month shy of my 18th birthday, I had difficulties...
    PapaJay PapaJay 41-45, M May 25, 2013

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    Step Father Of Two

    I been in a relationship with my wife for 4 years been married for 2. I have a step daughter that is 10stepdaughter and that is 6. The 10 year old in me get along quite well however the 6 year old is very abusive towards me and her mother does nothing about it. this is putting...
    easton5 easton5 26-30, M 1 Response Oct 25, 2012

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    I Have Kids

    Four years ago I feel in love with my soul mate and she had two kids a 9 year old at the time and a 8 year old. We dated for a year before marriage but when we did the problems started. Now were been married for 3 years this past October and things are still rocky but everybody...
    ral10798 ral10798 31-35, M 1 Response Dec 18, 2012

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    Being A Good Stepdad

    Hello, My name is Chris Williams. I've written a short article that details what I believe makes a "stepfather" I will be honest, I don't think there is a magic formula, but this is merely a journey into my experiences. I encourage you to read it, and aif you want, discuss. Take...
    willic22 willic22 26-30, M Jun 27, 2012

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    My 5 year old stpdau hates taking baths.

    The other day she defused to come in to take a bath and ran away from me. When I got to her told her was going to be spanked. As I was carrying her upstairs she used a curse word so I spanked her right there. I then went to the bathroom and got a hairbrush to spank her with. I...
    Jim30 Jim30 26-30, M 2 Responses Jan 25

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    I'm Almost A Stepfather!

    Well, I'm getting married to the greatest,smartest, most beautiful person that I've met in all my 37 years of life. She's a 28 year old mother of a wonderful 4 year old little girl. Her husband and the little girls dad passed away from a drug overdose about two years ago. I've...
    father2b father2b 36-40, M 1 Response Oct 24, 2012

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    Please Help This Stepfather With A Headache!

    To begin, my wife and I knew one another in High School back in 1998 and 1999. She moved away and returned closer to where I was living and she found me on Myspace. At the time, I was recently back home as well returning from a bad engagement. We already knew one another from...
    TXStepDad TXStepDad 26-30, M 1 Response Oct 15, 2012

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    I Feel Like An Interloper

    I am 42 years old. I have a 14 year old stepson. I'm still getting used to saying that. I also have no idea what a stepfather is or does. His father is still in his life but I feel is not a model of how to live by ethical principles. My wife and his father have been divorce for...
    enigmadaddy enigmadaddy 41-45 1 Response Dec 3, 2012

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    I will be for maybe a year longer.

    Good bye Allyson, I love you. We made it you are 18 and never molested, well not by me. I protected you. I cared for you more then you ever knew. You will never read this, and because of what happened between your mother an I you probably hate me now. Such is life. I love...
    xxorama xxorama 46-50, M 1 Response Jan 22

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    I read where 75% of second marriages in the US

    fail. The reason is because of kids. Either the wife's or the husbands. Frankly I don't care what those snotty little bastards think ! **** them ! If they don't like what you provide, send them back to live with tier biological father. Good ******* riddance !
    gonzogeek gonzogeek 56-60, M 1 Response Jun 1

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    I Need of Help

    I have two stepsons and we don't get along at all. When their mom and I got together 14 years ago they were both young now that they are 22 and 19 I have had to put each one out of the house due to the fact that I get no respect from them. When they were younger I had very little...
    blackstar12 blackstar12 51-55, M 5 Responses Sep 20, 2009

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    16 Yr Old Step Daughter Violent Tantrum

    There had been previous tension between my 16 yr old step daughter and I from the beginning. And the wife always blames me for not being an adult and ignoring the insulting behavior. She needed us to drive with her one sunny Saturday to satisfy the driving education requirement...
    Fedupbutovr40 Fedupbutovr40 36-40, M 20 Responses Mar 26, 2009

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    I was in an abusive relationship as a teenager. We met in high school, he was a few years older than me, and for the first 4 months it was wonderful, then he moved away, and slowly...
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    She was a wonderful mother. I will not lie and say she mistreated me,though she had every right to. My birth came as a result of her rape by a White man(she's Korean) and I was...
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    My mother was never physically abusive, but she certainly emotionally abused and neglected us. If I would write down everything that she did, then I would have one unbelievable...
    LostMittens LostMittens 31-35, F Jul 14

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    I was around 7 - 8 years of age when I was tooken from my mother my mother and stepfather were very cruel to me as I can remember. My mother and father divorced in 1972 my father...
    Tweetybird2012 Tweetybird2012 41-45, F 3 Responses 18 hrs ago

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    I have lived with my parents basically since was eight years old. Actually, let me back up. My biological parents have been divorced since I was only three. After that, I lived...
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