I Am a Stepfather

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 146 People

    I have 4 children. I married a woman with 4

    children. We have been married 7 years now. The three oldest are mine. One is married, one lives with my first wife, the next is going to get married soon. My youngest is 12. Her's are 17, 15, 13, and 10. There have been some good family times over the years, but mostly it's...
    FutileFather FutileFather
    46-50, M
    Dec 17, 2014

    I will be for maybe a year longer.

    Good bye Allyson, I love you. We made it you are 18 and never molested, well not by me. I protected you. I cared for you more then you ever knew. You will never read this, and because of what happened between your mother an I you probably hate me now. Such is life. I love...
    xxorama xxorama
    46-50, M
    2 Responses Jan 22, 2014

    Dad Vs Step-dad (new To This Site)

    I've been in a relationship with my fiance now for 4 years, I have two Step-son's (9 & 11) a step-daughter (17) and a biological daughter (9 months). At first things were awesome but as time goes on I find that I make more and more compromises with less and less thanks...
    WellasWallace WellasWallace
    26-30, M
    Dec 2, 2012


    I have a 13 year old step daughter and a 12 year old step son. Let's talk about John. John is very bright he looks up to me and sometimes I let him down. Last night we worked out and I was so proud and that put a smile on my face. My April on the other hand just walked around...
    ral10798 ral10798
    31-35, M
    Dec 20, 2012

    Growing up with only a mother,

    Father's Day really never meant anything to me. This is the first Father's Day that will mean anything to me and I don't know if anything will take place or not. The kids are with their real dad for his part of the summer. And I don't know if my wife has anything planned or not
    pdm01215 pdm01215
    31-35, M
    1 Response Jun 20, 2015

    It's the most empty feeling

    and lackluster experience I've ever had . I don't care what anyone says, you can't love stepchildren like your own. I've tried and can't. If that's ****** so be it . I will never marry a woman with kids again. That is set in stone.
    deleted deleted
    3 Responses Apr 3, 2014

    Thinking Of Becoming A Stepdad...

    Hey everyone, I am in a 2 year relationship with a woman that has a six year old son. She shares custody (50/50) with the biological father, who has unfortunately put her through the wringer since their son was born, especially over the last eight months. The biological father...
    ridgessp ridgessp
    6 Responses Dec 4, 2010

    I try and try and try to be the best husband

    and stepdad but my wife refuses to accept my presence sometimes. She says the most hurtful things and its created contempt on both sides. She is early and outwardly resentful of my (seeming) freedom, plus my work takes me to fun places which creates bad feelings. She says the...
    mikeyp516 mikeyp516
    41-45, M
    Mar 22, 2015

    16 Yr Old Step Daughter Violent Tantrum

    There had been previous tension between my 16 yr old step daughter and I from the beginning. And the wife always blames me for not being an adult and ignoring the insulting behavior. She needed us to drive with her one sunny Saturday to satisfy the driving education requirement...
    Fedupbutovr40 Fedupbutovr40
    36-40, M
    20 Responses Mar 26, 2009

    I Am Having So Much Trouble With My Stepson

    I met my stepson when he was seven years old. His father declined to be part of his life after one year of age. However, he does see his biological father maybe once a month since then. This would be for a few hour visit, or a rarer overnight trip. (even though his BF lives only...
    DDEV40 DDEV40
    11 Responses May 8, 2011

    I read where 75% of second marriages in the US

    fail. The reason is because of kids. Either the wife's or the husbands. Frankly I don't care what those snotty little bastards think ! **** them ! If they don't like what you provide, send them back to live with tier biological father. Good ******* riddance !
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Jun 1, 2014

    Potential Stepfather

    I'm dating a great girl with a toddler son. So far the relationship is great, and her son and I get along. Lately I've been struggling with thoughts about the future. I'm getting kinda bummed that I won't be able to share any "firsts" with her as it relates to kids. No matter...
    jensenblue jensenblue
    31-35, M
    2 Responses Oct 11, 2013

    New Wife Hates My Kids

    I have been married for about 14 months and to make the story short I recently found a website my wife has been going on where she was looking for support cause she hates when my kids come over and dreads coming home when they are here. She has one daughter 10 who I can honestly...
    StepDad73 StepDad73
    41-45, M
    1 Response May 4, 2013

    I Feel Like An Interloper

    I am 42 years old. I have a 14 year old stepson. I'm still getting used to saying that. I also have no idea what a stepfather is or does. His father is still in his life but I feel is not a model of how to live by ethical principles. My wife and his father have been divorce for...
    enigmadaddy enigmadaddy
    1 Response Dec 3, 2012

    3 Stepmen And No Respect......

    I want to share my experience so anyone else who is currently involved or thinking of being serious with a woman who will not give you authority to raise her children as the head of the household will think twice. I met my wife 10 years ago, she has 3 boys, two being twins and...
    norespectD norespectD
    36-40, M
    2 Responses Nov 26, 2010

    3 Year Old Step-daughter

    I have been with my girlfriend for a little over 2 years. She has a 3 year old daughter. The kids father is still in the picture. Every one always says that it is good for him to be close to the daughter but honestly he is a piece of **** and is just messing up her life. I think...
    whome92 whome92
    18-21, M
    1 Response Dec 22, 2012

    So I have a question.

    What extent do you all think is necessary for your wife to go out her way to make things easy for the biological father. mind you this guy has been off and on in my daughter's life for 7 years and now he's all of a sudden had a change of heart since he's been in the service. now...
    justdatcalloway justdatcalloway
    26-30, M
    3 Responses May 30, 2015

    I really feel gypped by marrying a woman with

    kids. I feel like I settled for a go kart when I deserve a Ferrari. I know many will say I should love her kids like mine. I can't do it. I don't feel bad or guilty. I missed so much by marrying later in life. I missed the firsts. I'm going to have this with someone. So...
    deleted deleted
    1 Response May 31, 2014

    I Have Kids

    Four years ago I feel in love with my soul mate and she had two kids a 9 year old at the time and a 8 year old. We dated for a year before marriage but when we did the problems started. Now were been married for 3 years this past October and things are still rocky but everybody...
    ral10798 ral10798
    31-35, M
    1 Response Dec 18, 2012

    I guess these things can work.

    In many ways I feel like I settled for a lot less than I should have. They're more work than I want to do.
    deleted deleted
    Apr 20, 2014

    This is going to sound bad.

    But I am a stepdad of girls 3 and 6 and I cant stand it! I cant stand it or them. I know its bad to say but its true. Can anyone relate
    StepDadLife StepDadLife
    31-35, M
    1 Response Nov 7, 2015

    She Doesn't Understand That Its Difficult To Love Her Child

    I met my fiance when her son was 2 years old (now almost 6), and I can tell you that it hasn't been easy for me. Let me just first say that he is not a naughty child, he is well mannered, he listens to me when I tell him to do something and does not talk back, he doesn't sulk...
    jpvh01 jpvh01
    31-35, M
    3 Responses Oct 23, 2013

    I recently became a stepfather of two girls 5

    and 8 years old. My wife is pregnant to our biological girl at the moment. She agreed with me taking over the discipline of her girls too , and this includes spanking . The girls are doing ok, still shocked by the new life changes . What is your opinion? any questions are...
    Jim30 Jim30
    31-35, M
    1 Response Jan 23, 2014

    Looking for advice, My soon to be wife had a

    son as a teenager, the boys father was never in the picture and passed away a few years after he was born. I came into the picture a few years ago, her son was 5 and we got along very well. She is currently working around 40 hours a week and going to school full time which...
    bjr89 bjr89
    26-30, M
    1 Response Apr 4, 2016

    Catch 22 For Almost 20 Years!

    I met my wife almost 20 years ago. She had two small children by two different men before I met her. The boy was age three and the girl was age one.  Both fathers were out of the picture and she never married either. My wife was 22 and I was 23 years old. I'd be lying if I...
    wally2162 wally2162
    4 Responses Oct 31, 2012

    I Need of Help

    I have two stepsons and we don't get along at all. When their mom and I got together 14 years ago they were both young now that they are 22 and 19 I have had to put each one out of the house due to the fact that I get no respect from them. When they were younger I had very little...
    blackstar12 blackstar12
    51-55, M
    5 Responses Sep 20, 2009


    ok, a very long story short......im recently married with two stepdaughters, seven and twelve years old.  mother had an abusive first marriage, mentally not physically.  claims ptsd. anyways.....they all hate the original father, fine, whatever, but......they have not the...
    phoenixrisingfromtheashes phoenixrisingfromtheashes
    41-45, M
    2 Responses Jan 26, 2012

    I'm Almost A Stepfather!

    Well, I'm getting married to the greatest,smartest, most beautiful person that I've met in all my 37 years of life. She's a 28 year old mother of a wonderful 4 year old little girl. Her husband and the little girls dad passed away from a drug overdose about two years ago. I've...
    father2b father2b
    36-40, M
    1 Response Oct 24, 2012

    My 5 year old stpdau hates taking baths.

    The other day she defused to come in to take a bath and ran away from me. When I got to her told her was going to be spanked. As I was carrying her upstairs she used a curse word so I spanked her right there. I then went to the bathroom and got a hairbrush to spank her with. I...
    Jim30 Jim30
    31-35, M
    1 Response Jan 25, 2014

    Stepfather Difficulties

    Hello, I've been raising my stepson for 10 years now. I met my wife and we got married. At the time she had a 5 year old son. We have definitely strugged throughout the years. We now have two daughters under 9 that are biologically mine. I have been having these feelings...
    sf10 sf10
    31-35, M
    26 Responses Sep 16, 2009

    When I married my wife out of wedlock (thought

    I was doing the "right" thing)... there were several things I never thought of, even though I had read a couple of books on being a stepfather. Things like my biological son would inherent the many characteristics of his stepbrother that I found annoying and portions of my wife...
    afranzan afranzan
    41-45, M
    1 Response Jul 22, 2015

    Stepfather Equality

    I'm in a great relationship and get along great girlfriend and a stepfather to her children, daughter 15, son 11, son 6. The daughter sees her biological dad once every 2 weekends and the boys are with us 1 week on 2. We are having issues concerning how much I should pay for...
    Dany1970 Dany1970
    36-40, M
    3 Responses Apr 29, 2011

    Step Father Of Two

    I been in a relationship with my wife for 4 years been married for 2. I have a step daughter that is 10stepdaughter and that is 6. The 10 year old in me get along quite well however the 6 year old is very abusive towards me and her mother does nothing about it. this is putting...
    easton5 easton5
    26-30, M
    1 Response Oct 25, 2012

    Being A Stepdad

    After raising my stepson with my girlfriend for the last 16 yrs which has been fantastic until he wanted to see his real dad,he has become a different person since he started to see him again,he doesnt call me dad anymore and i feel betrayed after all these years bringing him up...
    Daddave9 Daddave9
    31-35, M
    2 Responses Jul 31, 2012


    Hello, I have come here seeking simply guidance, and perhaps a cup of wisdom for the tale I will share. First; a little of myself. I am 42, I am the father of 4 beautiful children, the first of which was born while I was on a month shy of my 18th birthday, I had difficulties...
    PapaJay PapaJay
    46-50, M
    May 25, 2013

    Iam A Mum Looking For Good Stories From Stepdads!!

    Step parenting! I have two boys 7 & 8 gorgeous well behaved/polite/ respectful boys. Iam dating a Man with no kids for the last year. We are very much in love, he gets on well with my two and they think he is great. We have no other issues with X partners or anything it's all...
    Lovedsomuch Lovedsomuch
    4 Responses Jun 20, 2012

    I wanted to write an update to my last post.

    I have been thinking about my relationship to my step children. The oldest has been the most difficult. As a family, we have a family discussion with scriptures, current events, thought about life every night at 9PM. At times these discussions go well and other nights not so...
    FutileFather FutileFather
    46-50, M
    Dec 20, 2014

    Please Help This Stepfather With A Headache!

    To begin, my wife and I knew one another in High School back in 1998 and 1999. She moved away and returned closer to where I was living and she found me on Myspace. At the time, I was recently back home as well returning from a bad engagement. We already knew one another from...
    TXStepDad TXStepDad
    26-30, M
    1 Response Oct 15, 2012

    Recycled Dad

    Hi, I am 36 and remarried. I'm married to my a girl I grew up since we were 10 yrs old. We both have kids of our own. Mine my boys are 11 and 7, and my daughter is 5. Her kids are 12 and 10. We've been married for a little over four years. We went through a very of 2 yrs that...
    jgpicazo jgpicazo
    36-40, M
    1 Response Feb 13, 2011
    Kward Kward
    56-60, M
    4 Responses Jan 4, 2014

    Being A Good Stepdad

    Hello, My name is Chris Williams. I've written a short article that details what I believe makes a "stepfather" I will be honest, I don't think there is a magic formula, but this is merely a journey into my experiences. I encourage you to read it, and aif you want, discuss. Take...
    willic22 willic22
    26-30, M
    Jun 27, 2012

    Hiding The Hurt... But I'M Dealing With It

    I've been married for 2 years now. My wife already had a 14 year old girl and 6 year old boy. Both children have different fathers. Before we married I fell in love with her and she with me. And when I met the children I fell in love with them and they with me, so much they were...
    oakstep oakstep
    26-30, M
    3 Responses Feb 12, 2013
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