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I Am a Stepmom to Be

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    Two Beautiful Little Girls

    i am soon to be the step mom of two beautiful little girls, i didn't know that it was possible to feel a love this strong.  I see them as my children, but i am not there mother, nor will i try to be, they already have one. I am their friend, and their teacher.  I am...
    zeeham zeeham 19-21, F 3 Responses Mar 25, 2008

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    What Do They Call You?

    Another post brought up an interesting question. What do your stepkids (to be) call you? Will that change when you get married? I do not want mine to call me mom. Or step mom. They have called me by my first name (and a few other choice adjectives) since day one. And I see no...
    Secondmrs Secondmrs 41-45, F 1 Response Sep 21, 2012

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    Not-so-evil Stepmom

      I am a soon to be step-mother to two beautiful identical twin 5 year old girls. They are spunky, sociable and best of all, they like me! My fiance and I just moved in together 2 months ago. We have the girls twice a week. Their BM absolutely hates me. She has verbalized...
    chantb3535 chantb3535 22-25 3 Responses Jan 30, 2011

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    Teenage Girls...and All That Entails

    I find myself in an interesting position - an almost step-mom to two young teenage girls, and I'm not even a decade out of the teens myself.  I met a man that I fell absolutely in love with, and he just happens to be 10 years older than me.  I don't see it as...
    LittleBirdie LittleBirdie 26-30, F 2 Responses Aug 14, 2009

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    Soon To Be A Stepmom

    My bestfriend and I are in love. We have been a great together we laugh, joke, tell each other things when things are on our minds, sometimes we can make a face & we know what the other is actually thinking. The thing is he has kids and him & his baby mama are working out the...
    ShocKed91 ShocKed91 18-21, F 2 Responses Aug 31, 2012

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    Stepmom Support! :)

    MISSION: The Enlightened Stepmothers' Group is here to help alleviate pain, reduce stress, and help you better relate and understand your situation and role as a Stepmother. We work towards having a healthy, well-functioning stepfamily! :) We are The Sisterhood of Stepmothers...
    EnlightenedStepmoms EnlightenedStepmoms 41-45, F 1 Response Aug 27, 2009

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    I Have to Bite My Tongue, and It Hurts

    I am a stepmom to be and I'm worried about my reactions to my fiance's daughter's temper tantrums.  She is now 7 and she and I have come a long way, we get along, we have fun together, and to me she says please, thank you, etc.  We go shopping together and play games...
    Ellymae Ellymae 36-40, F 1 Response Mar 12, 2009

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    A Place In My Heart

    Things have been getting better. When I first posted my story it was nearly 8 months ago when I had just moved in with my fiance and his twin daughters. They are now six and have become so much more in tune and aware of our family situation and it has created quite a unique...
    chantb3535 chantb3535 22-25 2 Responses Aug 2, 2011

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    I Don't Know If This Is For Me!

    I left my town to come to Argentina to study. I had to come back home for a year because I ran out of money and during that year off I met a drummer who now is my boyfriend. When we first met nothing happend and later I found out he was married (he is 37 and I'm 23). A month...
    samanthav72 samanthav72 22-25, F 1 Response Nov 12, 2012

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    This Weekend

    we had the child this weekend.  i was just short w/ him all weekend. i fought w/ my boyfriend all weekend. for no good reason. i just get so ******* resentful when the kid intrudes upon us when we are touching. like, if we are in the pool hugging or just standing close by or...
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Jul 16, 2007

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    To Be Or Not to Be (again) That Is the Question?

    I need to have this off my chest. I just came from Miami, with my hopes all gone to get along with my boyfriend's (husband to be) ex-wife, her family and concerned that this would affect my great relationship with his daughter.   We all live outside USA, but my boyfriend's...
    mistela mistela 36-40 1 Response Apr 8, 2008

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    A Young Step Mom!

    Hey im Rachal im 17 and my fiance is 22 his name is Bradley.. he has two kids one is 3 his name is Thomas and the other Karlee she is 6. An i am deff new to the whole step mom thing Thomas dosent really understand the whole step mom thing but his relationship with Bradley is a...
    RachalKristine RachalKristine 16-17, F Jan 1, 2013

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    This Weekend

    We have the child again this weekend. I'm very nervous, anxious, resentful, worried but happy. I'm glad to see him bc I do love him but sometimes I resent his intrusion into my neat little life / schedule. Not that my life is all that neat...but I still feel intruded upon. ...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Jul 9, 2007

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    My stepchildren to be really dislike me they

    are jealous of the time their dad spends with me and the attention he gives me and the 2 older girls 9 and 12 have become very rude to me judging me telling me i don't look nice etc.. on top of that their mom is not helping at all she is negative about my engagement and their...
    13Letter 13Letter 26-30, F 5 Responses Jul 14

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    New To Being A Stepmom

    Ok So My soon to be husband has this 2 year old son that I just love. He is soo smart for being just 2. His mother died last year it was really hard for Shawn. So he moved to the US which is where he and i meet. I felt so bad for the little guy. We became best friends (Shawn and...
    CherryChan CherryChan 26-30, F Aug 11, 2013

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    Is It Normal To Feel Competitive For His Attention??

    I feel like a complete brat and awful for even asking this but, this would be the only place I could even feel comfortable asking!!!! The step-daughters (to be) are 13 and 10 and I LOVE LOVE LOVE that my fiance is such a wonderful and loving father but I definitely feel a little...
    earlymomjess earlymomjess 22-25, F 2 Responses Jan 13, 2012

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    I Want

    I want to tell my boyfriend's child that I love him. It slammed into me the other day. I was just driving along...all of a sudden I'm like, "Holy hell, I love The Kid." It was one of the strangest, most wonderful thing. If you don't know, it's not been easy w/ this...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Dec 18, 2007

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    My Stepson Has Adhd!

    I am getting married to my fiance on August 15th, 2009.  We have been together for a little over a year now.  This past year has been a huge change for my fiance and I.  We got engaged two months after we met eachother and I moved in right away.  He has a 9...
    Jkstock Jkstock 22-25, F 4 Responses Apr 22, 2009

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    It's Hard & Complicated & Confusing...

    my boyfriend's son is here this weekend. he's 12 but he's sooooo immature.  when i was 12 i was doing chores, staying at home by myself, looking after my 7 yr old sister occasionally, etc. granted girls supposedly mature faster than boys but jeez.  he makes these...
    deleted deleted 26-30 5 Responses Jul 3, 2007

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    I Am Terrified

    Aside from our 14 year age gap, I am definately in love with my boyfriend, AND his two kids. They are still very young, 4 years and 18 months. I just don't want to make any mistakes or become "hated". I'm scared. This is a whole new challenge for me. I just started...
    aknarab aknarab 19-21, F 3 Responses Nov 12, 2007

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    Kid Weekend

    It's only Wed and I am already dreading Friday. She will walk in the door. Throw her bag down (she doesnt like the clothes we bought for her that are here). Wants to know what's for dinner and then complain she doesn't like it. If anyone tries to watch tv she will have a fit...
    Secondmrs Secondmrs 41-45, F 1 Response Sep 19, 2012

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    Someone Told Me I'm Not a Mother Today

    I'm getting married in 7 weeks but I have lived with my fiance and his oldest son for almost a year. Things are going well but today a girl at work implied that I am not a mother and that my stepson and newphew that also lives with us are pratice. I was so hurt and angry. I would...
    babydollkkg babydollkkg 26-30, F 2 Responses Apr 15, 2008

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    New Step-mom

    I am a new step mom. I love my step son and I want to get along with his bio mom because it is what is best for him. The little boy is two years old and my husband has full custody. I've tried several times since I started dating his father to get along with his mother. I've...
    whovian21 whovian21 22-25, F 3 Responses May 8, 2011

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    The Idea Of Becoming A Stepmom Is Frightening...

    ...but I guess I'm already there... My family has always been close.  My parents were one of the few that stayed together.  I've never had to deal with a stepparent or step siblings, etc.  The idea of the role itself has so many negative connotations that I...
    unahermosamujer unahermosamujer 22-25, F 2 Responses Mar 3, 2010

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    I'm 22 years old and just got engaged to my bf

    of almost 2yrs. He is 32 and has 2 girls, 7 and 13 who live in another country (4hrs flight) with their mother. She is still in love with my fiance and tries to get him to come back to her all the time. She despises me, even though their relationship had been over for 2years...
    jellybeanie22 jellybeanie22 22-25, F 2 Responses Aug 11

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    Related Experiences

    I have a stepmom who wants to sue my dad because of our wrongdoings towards her and her kids. We never did anything bad to her and her family. But she's using us(my siblings and I...
    DaniyelHaazik DaniyelHaazik 18-21, M Aug 18

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    Most of my friends that are stepmoms do nothing but complain about their steps. In my case the bio mom passed away so she is not in their lives, so I do think it's easier than...
    Redneckmom1992 Redneckmom1992 22-25, F Aug 18

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    My stepmom works very hard for our family. I appreciate the things she does. I just don't think she appreciates the things I do. I understand I mess up a lot, but I'm 18 and I'm...
    kbell18 kbell18 18-21, F 1 Response a week ago

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    I think my marriage is over. I have been married to my husband for three years, but we have been together almost 11 years. His son is 10 years old, and honestly I have never tried...
    tjones44 tjones44 31-35, F 5 Responses Jul 31

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    She has made it real clear
    celiy celiy 13-15, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    Stepmom: -throws some of her crap into my bedroom- (before my room was my room, they used it as a room to store/hoard things that had no place, and up until today I had all of...
    WhoAmI613 WhoAmI613 22-25, F Aug 13

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    I distance myself and I don't know why. Me and my stepmom used to be real close but Me and my mom moved hours away. I only visited my dad on Christmas and summers. I don't know...
    SincerelyMYlife SincerelyMYlife 13-15, F Jul 29

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    Today I found out that my dad was having an affair with my stepmom who I like before my parents got divorced. I was 8 when my parents got divorced and in my stepmoms old picture...
    boba729 boba729 16-17, M 3 Responses Aug 3

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    And I feel like she's trying to control me... I know that we all have things we like and dislike, but we shouldn't shove it down each other's throats. I like manga, and I like...
    melodicnoodles melodicnoodles 16-17, F 1 Response Aug 16

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    This stepmother thing never gets easier. I appreciate that there is a place for me to vent without someone invalidating my feelings. I have been a childless stepmom for 12 years...
    ellieedge ellieedge 46-50, F 1 Response Aug 18

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    I've been estranged from my father 8 of the past 10 years. My parents divorced before my first birthday and my mother raised my older sister and I. When I was 3 my father...
    SomedayHeWillBeMine SomedayHeWillBeMine 22-25, F 5 days ago

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    I just can't stand his presence. Because of him, I actually love school since I can get away from him and just have 8 hours a day with just my friends. In 7 years of knowing him, I...
    EvanTheWeatherKid EvanTheWeatherKid 13-15, M 1 Response Aug 2

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    We already have an old kitty in the house (my stepmom's) but after 16 years my childhood dream is coming true. My first kitten will be able to come home on Tuesday and I'm so...
    UnderworldNymph UnderworldNymph 16-17, F 5 Responses Aug 4

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    My family and relations are huge on their own. First things, first: I am from Hawaii and I am half Chinese (Cantonese), three-eighths Black (African) and one-eighths Native...
    blossomingbeauti blossomingbeauti 36-40, F Aug 4

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    So I rarely go to my dad's house but when I do.. My stepmom yells at me nonstop. I told him she's the reason i don't go over there - but he doesn't care. He has two kids with her...
    loneGmusic3 loneGmusic3 13-15, F Aug 4

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    My stepmother wanted me to tell my counsellor that my father was hitting me. She wouldn't leave me alone, and out of pressure, i did. The lady promised me that she wouldn't tell my...
    Atraxiella Atraxiella 13-15, F 1 Response Aug 7

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    My sister. She's probably the biggest addition to my depression. (Well I call it depression. Its not like I'm being treated by a doctor or taking meds or anything.) I don't even...
    Kissmeback Kissmeback 13-15, F 2 Responses Aug 8

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    Normally I don't hate but when somebody messes with my three favorite people (mom, big sis, and my wonderful girlfriend) I will never forgive them. And somebody who in the past...
    YLIhououin YLIhououin 18-21, M 1 Response Aug 14

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    I had a tumultuous childhood and probably should have not even survived several times except by some sort of miracle, or paranormal influence. Every home I went to, there always...
    dannygirl89 dannygirl89 22-25, F 4 Responses Aug 16

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    Today i think i'm having a depression mood swing. I have this summer assignment that i basically have to get done in 1 day or else i have go to the lake with my step-mom where i...
    a1uM1nuM448 a1uM1nuM448 13-15, F 1 Response Aug 17

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    I got married at 16 and my husband was 26, and there were a lot of people that said it would never last. Although most of my family were supportive I know behind my back there...
    Redneckmom1992 Redneckmom1992 22-25, F Aug 18

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    I told my stepmom I want boxers bcuz tws are uncomfortable. She said no. I asked why she said so I could do this then she gave me a wedgue up to my neck and ducktaped it. I was in...
    nerdiestguyever nerdiestguyever 16-17 1 Response Aug 18

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    Most straight men that I know don't get skinny jeans, but I love them! I got my first pair with my stepmom. ever since then I was hooked on skinny's!
    thongboy222 thongboy222 26-30, M Aug 20

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    I lost my mom to suicide in May 2014. She had made several attempts in the last ten years and made threats every couple of months. I always assumed they were cries for attention...
    heatherash1204 heatherash1204 22-25, F 2 Responses a week ago

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