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I Am a Stepmom to Be

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    Two Beautiful Little Girls

    i am soon to be the step mom of two beautiful little girls, i didn't know that it was possible to feel a love this strong.  I see them as my children, but i am not there mother, nor will i try to be, they already have one. I am their friend, and their teacher.  I am...
    zeeham zeeham 19-21, F 3 Responses Mar 25, 2008

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    This Weekend

    We have the child again this weekend. I'm very nervous, anxious, resentful, worried but happy. I'm glad to see him bc I do love him but sometimes I resent his intrusion into my neat little life / schedule. Not that my life is all that neat...but I still feel intruded upon. ...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Jul 9, 2007

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    I Want

    I want to tell my boyfriend's child that I love him. It slammed into me the other day. I was just driving along...all of a sudden I'm like, "Holy hell, I love The Kid." It was one of the strangest, most wonderful thing. If you don't know, it's not been easy w/ this...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Dec 18, 2007

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    I Am Terrified

    Aside from our 14 year age gap, I am definately in love with my boyfriend, AND his two kids. They are still very young, 4 years and 18 months. I just don't want to make any mistakes or become "hated". I'm scared. This is a whole new challenge for me. I just started...
    aknarab aknarab 19-21, F 3 Responses Nov 12, 2007

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    To Be Or Not to Be (again) That Is the Question?

    I need to have this off my chest. I just came from Miami, with my hopes all gone to get along with my boyfriend's (husband to be) ex-wife, her family and concerned that this would affect my great relationship with his daughter.   We all live outside USA, but my boyfriend's...
    mistela mistela 36-40 1 Response Apr 8, 2008

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    I Have to Bite My Tongue, and It Hurts

    I am a stepmom to be and I'm worried about my reactions to my fiance's daughter's temper tantrums.  She is now 7 and she and I have come a long way, we get along, we have fun together, and to me she says please, thank you, etc.  We go shopping together and play games...
    Ellymae Ellymae 36-40, F 1 Response Mar 12, 2009

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    Teenage Girls...and All That Entails

    I find myself in an interesting position - an almost step-mom to two young teenage girls, and I'm not even a decade out of the teens myself.  I met a man that I fell absolutely in love with, and he just happens to be 10 years older than me.  I don't see it as...
    LittleBirdie LittleBirdie 26-30, F 2 Responses Aug 14, 2009

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    New Step-mom

    I am a new step mom. I love my step son and I want to get along with his bio mom because it is what is best for him. The little boy is two years old and my husband has full custody. I've tried several times since I started dating his father to get along with his mother. I've...
    whovian21 whovian21 22-25, F 3 Responses May 8, 2011

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    Not-so-evil Stepmom

      I am a soon to be step-mother to two beautiful identical twin 5 year old girls. They are spunky, sociable and best of all, they like me! My fiance and I just moved in together 2 months ago. We have the girls twice a week. Their BM absolutely hates me. She has verbalized...
    chantb3535 chantb3535 22-25 3 Responses Jan 30, 2011

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    This Weekend

    we had the child this weekend.  i was just short w/ him all weekend. i fought w/ my boyfriend all weekend. for no good reason. i just get so ******* resentful when the kid intrudes upon us when we are touching. like, if we are in the pool hugging or just standing close by or...
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Jul 16, 2007

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    My Stepson Has Adhd!

    I am getting married to my fiance on August 15th, 2009.  We have been together for a little over a year now.  This past year has been a huge change for my fiance and I.  We got engaged two months after we met eachother and I moved in right away.  He has a 9...
    Jkstock Jkstock 22-25, F 4 Responses Apr 22, 2009

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    What Do They Call You?

    Another post brought up an interesting question. What do your stepkids (to be) call you? Will that change when you get married? I do not want mine to call me mom. Or step mom. They have called me by my first name (and a few other choice adjectives) since day one. And I see no...
    Secondmrs Secondmrs 41-45, F 1 Response Sep 21, 2012

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    A Place In My Heart

    Things have been getting better. When I first posted my story it was nearly 8 months ago when I had just moved in with my fiance and his twin daughters. They are now six and have become so much more in tune and aware of our family situation and it has created quite a unique...
    chantb3535 chantb3535 22-25 2 Responses Aug 2, 2011

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    A Young Step Mom!

    Hey im Rachal im 17 and my fiance is 22 his name is Bradley.. he has two kids one is 3 his name is Thomas and the other Karlee she is 6. An i am deff new to the whole step mom thing Thomas dosent really understand the whole step mom thing but his relationship with Bradley is a...
    RachalKristine RachalKristine 16-17, F Jan 1, 2013

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    Stepmom Support! :)

    MISSION: The Enlightened Stepmothers' Group is here to help alleviate pain, reduce stress, and help you better relate and understand your situation and role as a Stepmother. We work towards having a healthy, well-functioning stepfamily! :) We are The Sisterhood of Stepmothers...
    EnlightenedStepmoms EnlightenedStepmoms 41-45, F 1 Response Aug 27, 2009

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    Is It Normal To Feel Competitive For His Attention??

    I feel like a complete brat and awful for even asking this but, this would be the only place I could even feel comfortable asking!!!! The step-daughters (to be) are 13 and 10 and I LOVE LOVE LOVE that my fiance is such a wonderful and loving father but I definitely feel a little...
    earlymomjess earlymomjess 22-25, F 2 Responses Jan 13, 2012

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    New To Being A Stepmom

    Ok So My soon to be husband has this 2 year old son that I just love. He is soo smart for being just 2. His mother died last year it was really hard for Shawn. So he moved to the US which is where he and i meet. I felt so bad for the little guy. We became best friends (Shawn and...
    CherryChan CherryChan 22-25, F Aug 11, 2013

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    My stepchildren to be really dislike me they

    are jealous of the time their dad spends with me and the attention he gives me and the 2 older girls 9 and 12 have become very rude to me judging me telling me i don't look nice etc.. on top of that their mom is not helping at all she is negative about my engagement and their...
    13Letter 13Letter 26-30, F 5 Responses Jul 14

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    Soon To Be A Stepmom

    My bestfriend and I are in love. We have been a great together we laugh, joke, tell each other things when things are on our minds, sometimes we can make a face & we know what the other is actually thinking. The thing is he has kids and him & his baby mama are working out the...
    ShocKed91 ShocKed91 18-21, F 2 Responses Aug 31, 2012

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    The Idea Of Becoming A Stepmom Is Frightening...

    ...but I guess I'm already there... My family has always been close.  My parents were one of the few that stayed together.  I've never had to deal with a stepparent or step siblings, etc.  The idea of the role itself has so many negative connotations that I...
    unahermosamujer unahermosamujer 22-25, F 2 Responses Mar 3, 2010

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    I Don't Know If This Is For Me!

    I left my town to come to Argentina to study. I had to come back home for a year because I ran out of money and during that year off I met a drummer who now is my boyfriend. When we first met nothing happend and later I found out he was married (he is 37 and I'm 23). A month...
    samanthav72 samanthav72 22-25, F Nov 12, 2012

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    It's Hard & Complicated & Confusing...

    my boyfriend's son is here this weekend. he's 12 but he's sooooo immature.  when i was 12 i was doing chores, staying at home by myself, looking after my 7 yr old sister occasionally, etc. granted girls supposedly mature faster than boys but jeez.  he makes these...
    deleted deleted 26-30 5 Responses Jul 3, 2007

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    Someone Told Me I'm Not a Mother Today

    I'm getting married in 7 weeks but I have lived with my fiance and his oldest son for almost a year. Things are going well but today a girl at work implied that I am not a mother and that my stepson and newphew that also lives with us are pratice. I was so hurt and angry. I would...
    babydollkkg babydollkkg 26-30, F 2 Responses Apr 15, 2008

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    Kid Weekend

    It's only Wed and I am already dreading Friday. She will walk in the door. Throw her bag down (she doesnt like the clothes we bought for her that are here). Wants to know what's for dinner and then complain she doesn't like it. If anyone tries to watch tv she will have a fit...
    Secondmrs Secondmrs 41-45, F 1 Response Sep 19, 2012

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    Related Experiences

    I am my parents only child and they divorced when, I was 5 years old. My mother never remarried and until this day has always been single. My father remarried after my mother, and...
    Gray24 Gray24 22-25 Jul 10

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    So I just really need to get this off my chest as it is taboo to mention such things anywhere else! I hate being a stepmom!! Yes I hate it... I didn't say I hate my step kids... I...
    Unleashedmind Unleashedmind 22-25, F 5 Responses Jul 6

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    Childless stepmom to a 9, almost 10, year old boy. My boyfriend and I started dating at 14. We were on/off for 17 years. At 22, he had a fling, and ended up with a child. His mom...
    CBradio0903 CBradio0903 31-35, F 2 Responses Jul 12

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    I'm a stepmom to 2 teenage girls and a bio mom to a 10 yo, 8 yo boy and an almost 2 yo baby girl. We are a blended family and at first everything was great. Now I'm finding that my...
    gr8csufan gr8csufan 36-40, F 5 days ago

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    Sweet Baby Jesus are they boring!!!! My stepmom is neurotic and passive-aggressive and self-absorbed. She has mental breakdowns every day, snaps over the smallest things, and can't...
    SundanceKid3 SundanceKid3 18-21, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    I just can't stand her sometimes man! Like **** man. My dad probably doesn't even love her, he's probably married her for the money. Sometimes I wish I had my own place and my own...
    TheGuy147 TheGuy147 16-17, M Jul 11

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    Ok so my step brother and I don't get along very well, and I know that I don't start the fights because even my dad has told me that he gets in his nerves and he is a very...
    geneticgeorge geneticgeorge 13-15, M 1 Response Jul 17

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    My mom died when I was 7. A few years after my dad married a great woman. I get along great with her and love her so much. She has two kids with my dad twin girls that are 3. I...
    boba729 boba729 16-17, M 6 days ago

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    I'm 32, my mom and dad divorced when I was 2, he remarried, mom didn't right away.. Dad ended up having 4 children with his new wife.. I feel like my entire life I've been forced...
    kourtneysligh kourtneysligh 31-35, F Jul 8

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    . I came home late from school it was cuz the bus came late my stepmom was gonna kill me . I ran as fast as I could . When I got home there was dad sitting on the couch looking...
    MJsgirl MJsgirl 13-15, F 3 Responses Jul 6

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    So, I already posted this story before but in another Teen Mom comunity, but I decided to post it here too. Just saying because maybe you've read it before? haha idk When I was 15...
    VioletandCaleb VioletandCaleb 16-17, F Jul 11

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    I'm 16 with a 4 months old daughter So, I already posted this story before but in another Teen Mom comunity, but I decided to post it here too. Just saying because maybe you've...
    VioletandCaleb VioletandCaleb 16-17, F Jul 11

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    Being 16 and having a daughter, this is how my life is now. I already posted an experience a few minutes ago saying how I found out I was pregnant, how everyone found out and...
    VioletandCaleb VioletandCaleb 16-17, F 5 Responses Jul 11

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    When I was eleven I went to boarding school, leaving my three year old stepsister, Molly, at home. I had always been short for my age, and she had been rather tall but she was 3 so...
    betsy92 betsy92 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 13

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    I come from a broken home. I didn't lose family. I gained a stepdad. I gained another grandmother through my stepdad. I gained a stepmom when my dad got remarried before they...
    blossomingbeauti blossomingbeauti 36-40, F Jul 16

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    My evil stepmom ruined my life since I was eight. She ensured I wasn't allowed to have friends or money. I was made to sit at home and study all day and never allowed to go...
    cooloften cooloften 31-35, M 3 days ago

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    I distance myself and I don't know why. Me and my stepmom used to be real close but Me and my mom moved hours away. I only visited my dad on Christmas and summers. I don't know...
    SincerelyMYlife SincerelyMYlife 13-15, F 14 hrs ago

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    Hi, i need someone to talk to. About my stepmom. Please.
    chrisco15 chrisco15 16-17, M 4 Responses Jun 29

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    I'm socially awkward. I can't do anything without freaking out. I can't go downstairs and get a glass of water without thinking that my parents or siblings might see me and make...
    baeily baeily 13-15, F Jun 30

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    me and my dad were super close growing up until he divorced my stepmom. I think he kinda changed like he had a couple of gf's lately and there all ugly and fat but he is just using...
    TaylorsierraWilson TaylorsierraWilson 16-17, F 1 Response Jul 3

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    I married when i was really young. I was too young and when I look back now, I married for all the wrong reasons. I married my husband to get away from all the abuse I was getting...
    ayamoiyah ayamoiyah 22-25, F 1 Response Jul 3

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    I just had this epiphany that I really wish I wouldn't have had. Ever since I was little people have been leaving me. At 4, my mom and older brother and sister moved away. My mom...
    Jgil99 Jgil99 13-15, F 1 Response Jul 6

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    It completely dictates my life... Even doing the simplest things will make my anxiety start up, something as simple a bending down to pick up a pencil will cause thoughts like "I...
    BulletForMyBlackVeil BulletForMyBlackVeil 13-15, F Jul 10

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    When i was 6 years old my mum sent me to england for a better education. to live with my dad & stepmom,four half sisters and two half brothers, none of them treated me like a...
    maat123 maat123 18-21, F 5 Responses Jul 10

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    My mom is... An interesting woman, I guess. When it comes to parenting people are quick to point out what's wrong and write, why their parents are so bad or whatever. I'm gonna be...
    QuadrupleM QuadrupleM 13-15, M Jul 12

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    I'm 16 and I have a 4 months old daughter, her name is Zoey. I've been dating her father since 2010, when I was 12 and he was 13. We're still together and he's an amazing father...
    VioletandCaleb VioletandCaleb 16-17, F 2 Responses Jul 12