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I Am a Stepmom to Be

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    Soon To Be A Stepmom

    My bestfriend and I are in love. We have been a great together we laugh, joke, tell each other things when things are on our minds, sometimes we can make a face & we know what the other is actually thinking. The thing is he has kids and him & his baby mama are working out the...
    ShocKed91 ShocKed91 18-21, F 2 Responses Aug 31, 2012

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    I'm 22 years old and just got engaged to my bf

    of almost 2yrs. He is 32 and has 2 girls, 7 and 13 who live in another country (4hrs flight) with their mother. She is still in love with my fiance and tries to get him to come back to her all the time. She despises me, even though their relationship had been over for 2years...
    jellybeanie22 jellybeanie22 22-25, F 2 Responses Aug 11

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    New To Being A Stepmom

    Ok So My soon to be husband has this 2 year old son that I just love. He is soo smart for being just 2. His mother died last year it was really hard for Shawn. So he moved to the US which is where he and i meet. I felt so bad for the little guy. We became best friends (Shawn and...
    CherryChan CherryChan 26-30, F Aug 11, 2013

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    It's Hard & Complicated & Confusing...

    my boyfriend's son is here this weekend. he's 12 but he's sooooo immature.  when i was 12 i was doing chores, staying at home by myself, looking after my 7 yr old sister occasionally, etc. granted girls supposedly mature faster than boys but jeez.  he makes these...
    deleted deleted 26-30 5 Responses Jul 3, 2007

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    To Be Or Not to Be (again) That Is the Question?

    I need to have this off my chest. I just came from Miami, with my hopes all gone to get along with my boyfriend's (husband to be) ex-wife, her family and concerned that this would affect my great relationship with his daughter.   We all live outside USA, but my boyfriend's...
    mistela mistela 36-40 1 Response Apr 8, 2008

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    New Step-mom

    I am a new step mom. I love my step son and I want to get along with his bio mom because it is what is best for him. The little boy is two years old and my husband has full custody. I've tried several times since I started dating his father to get along with his mother. I've...
    whovian21 whovian21 22-25, F 3 Responses May 8, 2011

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    This Weekend

    We have the child again this weekend. I'm very nervous, anxious, resentful, worried but happy. I'm glad to see him bc I do love him but sometimes I resent his intrusion into my neat little life / schedule. Not that my life is all that neat...but I still feel intruded upon. ...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Jul 9, 2007

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    I Am Terrified

    Aside from our 14 year age gap, I am definately in love with my boyfriend, AND his two kids. They are still very young, 4 years and 18 months. I just don't want to make any mistakes or become "hated". I'm scared. This is a whole new challenge for me. I just started...
    aknarab aknarab 19-21, F 3 Responses Nov 12, 2007

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    What Do They Call You?

    Another post brought up an interesting question. What do your stepkids (to be) call you? Will that change when you get married? I do not want mine to call me mom. Or step mom. They have called me by my first name (and a few other choice adjectives) since day one. And I see no...
    Secondmrs Secondmrs 41-45, F 1 Response Sep 21, 2012

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    My stepchildren to be really dislike me they

    are jealous of the time their dad spends with me and the attention he gives me and the 2 older girls 9 and 12 have become very rude to me judging me telling me i don't look nice etc.. on top of that their mom is not helping at all she is negative about my engagement and their...
    13Letter 13Letter 26-30, F 5 Responses Jul 14

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    Teenage Girls...and All That Entails

    I find myself in an interesting position - an almost step-mom to two young teenage girls, and I'm not even a decade out of the teens myself.  I met a man that I fell absolutely in love with, and he just happens to be 10 years older than me.  I don't see it as...
    LittleBirdie LittleBirdie 26-30, F 2 Responses Aug 14, 2009

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    Kid Weekend

    It's only Wed and I am already dreading Friday. She will walk in the door. Throw her bag down (she doesnt like the clothes we bought for her that are here). Wants to know what's for dinner and then complain she doesn't like it. If anyone tries to watch tv she will have a fit...
    Secondmrs Secondmrs 41-45, F 1 Response Sep 19, 2012

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    Is it normal that my fiancé's ex partner

    doesn't want to ever meet me? They have two girls, 7 and 14yrs that live with her but we visit and they come to see us often. I would like to meet her, I have to share the rest of my life with her and I think we should be on speaking terms, for the kids sake. She has stated...
    jellybeanie22 jellybeanie22 22-25, F 1 Response Sep 7

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    The Idea Of Becoming A Stepmom Is Frightening...

    ...but I guess I'm already there... My family has always been close.  My parents were one of the few that stayed together.  I've never had to deal with a stepparent or step siblings, etc.  The idea of the role itself has so many negative connotations that I...
    unahermosamujer unahermosamujer 22-25, F 2 Responses Mar 3, 2010

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    I Have to Bite My Tongue, and It Hurts

    I am a stepmom to be and I'm worried about my reactions to my fiance's daughter's temper tantrums.  She is now 7 and she and I have come a long way, we get along, we have fun together, and to me she says please, thank you, etc.  We go shopping together and play games...
    Ellymae Ellymae 36-40, F 1 Response Mar 12, 2009

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    Someone Told Me I'm Not a Mother Today

    I'm getting married in 7 weeks but I have lived with my fiance and his oldest son for almost a year. Things are going well but today a girl at work implied that I am not a mother and that my stepson and newphew that also lives with us are pratice. I was so hurt and angry. I would...
    babydollkkg babydollkkg 26-30, F 2 Responses Apr 15, 2008

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    I Don't Know If This Is For Me!

    I left my town to come to Argentina to study. I had to come back home for a year because I ran out of money and during that year off I met a drummer who now is my boyfriend. When we first met nothing happend and later I found out he was married (he is 37 and I'm 23). A month...
    samanthav72 samanthav72 22-25, F 1 Response Nov 12, 2012

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    A Place In My Heart

    Things have been getting better. When I first posted my story it was nearly 8 months ago when I had just moved in with my fiance and his twin daughters. They are now six and have become so much more in tune and aware of our family situation and it has created quite a unique...
    chantb3535 chantb3535 22-25 2 Responses Aug 2, 2011

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    A Young Step Mom!

    Hey im Rachal im 17 and my fiance is 22 his name is Bradley.. he has two kids one is 3 his name is Thomas and the other Karlee she is 6. An i am deff new to the whole step mom thing Thomas dosent really understand the whole step mom thing but his relationship with Bradley is a...
    RachalKristine RachalKristine 16-17, F Jan 1, 2013

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    Two Beautiful Little Girls

    i am soon to be the step mom of two beautiful little girls, i didn't know that it was possible to feel a love this strong.  I see them as my children, but i am not there mother, nor will i try to be, they already have one. I am their friend, and their teacher.  I am...
    zeeham zeeham 19-21, F 3 Responses Mar 25, 2008

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    I Want

    I want to tell my boyfriend's child that I love him. It slammed into me the other day. I was just driving along...all of a sudden I'm like, "Holy hell, I love The Kid." It was one of the strangest, most wonderful thing. If you don't know, it's not been easy w/ this...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Dec 18, 2007

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    My Stepson Has Adhd!

    I am getting married to my fiance on August 15th, 2009.  We have been together for a little over a year now.  This past year has been a huge change for my fiance and I.  We got engaged two months after we met eachother and I moved in right away.  He has a 9...
    Jkstock Jkstock 22-25, F 4 Responses Apr 22, 2009

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    Is It Normal To Feel Competitive For His Attention??

    I feel like a complete brat and awful for even asking this but, this would be the only place I could even feel comfortable asking!!!! The step-daughters (to be) are 13 and 10 and I LOVE LOVE LOVE that my fiance is such a wonderful and loving father but I definitely feel a little...
    earlymomjess earlymomjess 22-25, F 2 Responses Jan 13, 2012

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    This Weekend

    we had the child this weekend.  i was just short w/ him all weekend. i fought w/ my boyfriend all weekend. for no good reason. i just get so ******* resentful when the kid intrudes upon us when we are touching. like, if we are in the pool hugging or just standing close by or...
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Jul 16, 2007

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    Stepmom Support! :)

    MISSION: The Enlightened Stepmothers' Group is here to help alleviate pain, reduce stress, and help you better relate and understand your situation and role as a Stepmother. We work towards having a healthy, well-functioning stepfamily! :) We are The Sisterhood of Stepmothers...
    EnlightenedStepmoms EnlightenedStepmoms 41-45, F 1 Response Aug 27, 2009

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    Not-so-evil Stepmom

      I am a soon to be step-mother to two beautiful identical twin 5 year old girls. They are spunky, sociable and best of all, they like me! My fiance and I just moved in together 2 months ago. We have the girls twice a week. Their BM absolutely hates me. She has verbalized...
    chantb3535 chantb3535 22-25 3 Responses Jan 30, 2011

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    Related Experiences

    I really shouldnt hate it, but it is the hardest most hurtful thing in the world. Especially when the stepkids have a bio mom like the one i deal with. I really need some...
    Kcmomof5 Kcmomof5 31-35, F 3 Responses Oct 13

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    2 hours ago i caught my step sisters messing around in my room and they attempted to steal like 50 dollars and i said you are f*****g little spoiled rotten brats of course my...
    basketballloverstepsisterhater basketballloverstepsisterhater 22-25, F Oct 6

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    I have known my stepmom since I was 2. She was twelve when I first met her. She is only 10 years older then me and my dad is 27 years older then me. The age difference is huge!! In...
    ashprincess ashprincess 13-15, F 2 days ago

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    Story in thecomments................
    nerdiestguyever nerdiestguyever 18-21 2 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    I woke up to see my step mom laying in my bed next to me in nothing but a skanky bra and tight underwear. I asked her what's up being very confused. She said just wanted some...
    Carsonisthedawg1025 Carsonisthedawg1025 18-21, M 3 Responses Oct 6

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    I met my boyfriend in High School fast forward 22 years we met up again. We fell for each other immediately. After a few months we decided to move in together. He lives in another...
    happybutnot happybutnot 36-40, F 1 Response Oct 15

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    Well almost my step mom. My dad doesn't know when they're getting married. I'm sure he wouldnt tell me anyway. He texted me about the engagement in July and that was basically the...
    wheretogo98 wheretogo98 16-17, M 6 days ago

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    Well yeah, I do know my stepmum hates me, cause only last night I was over at my dad and stepmums house, and I was having dinner with them. I didn't really eat much, as I'm not an...
    Amity77 Amity77 13-15, F 5 days ago

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    So my step mom gave me some clothes and now we're going to the other end of London to go shopping. I'm wearing a cute short skirt and a crop top (im the same height of my steepmom...
    19Mark19 19Mark19 26-30, T 1 Response 4 days ago

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    Becoming an ex-stepparent is the gift that keeps giving! I never wanted kids and never thought much of them, but I didn't realize the true misery of them until I became a stepmom...
    lillydontcare lillydontcare 26-30 6 hrs ago

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    I've never understood how anyone could look at people with kids or babies and say to themselves, "Yeah, that looks like fun. That would make my life better." How HIGH would you...
    lillydontcare lillydontcare 26-30 6 hrs ago

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    well at least according to some of your posts. I found this site because I was looking for advice on how to get along with my stepmom, and this made me even more hopeless. The...
    evilstepdaughter evilstepdaughter 22-25 Oct 7

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    I Am An Evil Stepdaughter well at least according to some of your posts. I found this site because I was looking for advice on how to get along with my stepmom, and this made me...
    evilstepdaughter evilstepdaughter 22-25 1 Response Oct 7

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    My dad's cousin, an aunt to me was baby sitter taking care of me. I was a boy 6yrs. In fact she was with us on her long vacation to help my step mom. She delivered my half brother...
    peetboy peetboy 51-55, M 2 Responses Oct 9

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    I feel like I may have a kidney infection. :/ like, earlier in the week I had to go to the nurse because I was having low stomach pains. She was going to send me to the health...
    brookledsome brookledsome 13-15, F 3 Responses Oct 4

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    I do indeed. I have a brother who is nine years younger than me and massively taller than me with a height of 5'11 to my 4'10.5. My ex-brother-in-law and my sister's boyfriend are...
    blossomingbeauti blossomingbeauti 36-40, F Oct 5

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    I remember when I was little and I didn't care about how I looked, but then again we were all like like that when we were little, right? I've always been thin, I still am. I'm sick...
    secretsleftuntold secretsleftuntold 16-17, F 2 Responses Oct 5

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    I haven't bee getting spanked for that long, but my stepmom already bought a wooden brush to use on my bottom. And now she might be investing in a implement tool to correct my...
    SkylartheGreat SkylartheGreat 13-15, F 7 Responses Oct 5

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    Fall is my most favorite and most hated season. It's like I can remember every memory I've had during fall. It triggers my depression instantly. I guess it reminds me of when I was...
    LockRobster LockRobster 26-30, F 1 Response Oct 5

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    1/I am married 2/ I am a stepmom 3/ I am a teacher 4/I love chocolate 5/ I love holidays 6/ I have had 9 lovers 7/ my stepson steals my undies 8/ my ex bf's have contacted me on...
    valishere valishere 36-40, F 3 Responses Oct 6

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    Owww ya ******* my stepmom feels so good
    pkrathik pkrathik 18-21 2 Responses Oct 8

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    I was actually diagnosed 3 weeks ago, but the first time I had any problems was about 2 months ago. The first time I was sitting in the passenger seat of my stepmom's car running...
    Kmferg0415 Kmferg0415 18-21, F 1 Response Oct 10

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    My parents. Through the course of my life they have accused me of many things. They have accused me of everything from being a drug dealer to being the anti christ himself. All of...
    Lullacus Lullacus 22-25, F 1 Response Oct 11

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    I think it's so pathetic that my parents are doing absolutely nothing to help me get married. I'm currently living at my fiances parents house and they've already bought me...