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I Am a Stepmom to Be

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    MISSION: The Enlightened Stepmothers' Group is here to help alleviate pain, reduce stress, and help you better relate and understand your situation and role as a Stepmother. We work towards having a healthy, well-functioning stepfamily! :) We are The Sisterhood of Stepmothers...
    EnlightenedStepmoms EnlightenedStepmoms 41-45, F 1 Response Aug 27, 2009

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    What Do They Call You?

    Another post brought up an interesting question. What do your stepkids (to be) call you? Will that change when you get married? I do not want mine to call me mom. Or step mom. They have called me by my first name (and a few other choice adjectives) since day one. And I see no...
    Secondmrs Secondmrs 41-45, F 1 Response Sep 21, 2012

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    Is it normal that my fiancé's ex partner

    doesn't want to ever meet me? They have two girls, 7 and 14yrs that live with her but we visit and they come to see us often. I would like to meet her, I have to share the rest of my life with her and I think we should be on speaking terms, for the kids sake. She has stated...
    jellybeanie22 jellybeanie22 22-25, F 1 Response Sep 7

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    I Am Terrified

    Aside from our 14 year age gap, I am definately in love with my boyfriend, AND his two kids. They are still very young, 4 years and 18 months. I just don't want to make any mistakes or become "hated". I'm scared. This is a whole new challenge for me. I just started...
    aknarab aknarab 19-21, F 3 Responses Nov 12, 2007

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    This Weekend

    we had the child this weekend.  i was just short w/ him all weekend. i fought w/ my boyfriend all weekend. for no good reason. i just get so ******* resentful when the kid intrudes upon us when we are touching. like, if we are in the pool hugging or just standing close by or...
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Jul 16, 2007

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    New Step-mom

    I am a new step mom. I love my step son and I want to get along with his bio mom because it is what is best for him. The little boy is two years old and my husband has full custody. I've tried several times since I started dating his father to get along with his mother. I've...
    whovian21 whovian21 22-25, F 3 Responses May 8, 2011

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    I'm 22 years old and just got engaged to my bf

    of almost 2yrs. He is 32 and has 2 girls, 7 and 13 who live in another country (4hrs flight) with their mother. She is still in love with my fiance and tries to get him to come back to her all the time. She despises me, even though their relationship had been over for 2years...
    jellybeanie22 jellybeanie22 22-25, F 2 Responses Aug 11

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    I Have to Bite My Tongue, and It Hurts

    I am a stepmom to be and I'm worried about my reactions to my fiance's daughter's temper tantrums.  She is now 7 and she and I have come a long way, we get along, we have fun together, and to me she says please, thank you, etc.  We go shopping together and play games...
    Ellymae Ellymae 36-40, F 1 Response Mar 12, 2009

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    My stepchildren to be really dislike me they

    are jealous of the time their dad spends with me and the attention he gives me and the 2 older girls 9 and 12 have become very rude to me judging me telling me i don't look nice etc.. on top of that their mom is not helping at all she is negative about my engagement and their...
    13Letter 13Letter 26-30, F 5 Responses Jul 14

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    Two Beautiful Little Girls

    i am soon to be the step mom of two beautiful little girls, i didn't know that it was possible to feel a love this strong.  I see them as my children, but i am not there mother, nor will i try to be, they already have one. I am their friend, and their teacher.  I am...
    zeeham zeeham 19-21, F 3 Responses Mar 25, 2008

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    Soon To Be A Stepmom

    My bestfriend and I are in love. We have been a great together we laugh, joke, tell each other things when things are on our minds, sometimes we can make a face & we know what the other is actually thinking. The thing is he has kids and him & his baby mama are working out the...
    ShocKed91 ShocKed91 18-21, F 2 Responses Aug 31, 2012

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    I Want

    I want to tell my boyfriend's child that I love him. It slammed into me the other day. I was just driving along...all of a sudden I'm like, "Holy hell, I love The Kid." It was one of the strangest, most wonderful thing. If you don't know, it's not been easy w/ this...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Dec 18, 2007

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    My Stepson Has Adhd!

    I am getting married to my fiance on August 15th, 2009.  We have been together for a little over a year now.  This past year has been a huge change for my fiance and I.  We got engaged two months after we met eachother and I moved in right away.  He has a 9...
    Jkstock Jkstock 22-25, F 4 Responses Apr 22, 2009

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    Is It Normal To Feel Competitive For His Attention??

    I feel like a complete brat and awful for even asking this but, this would be the only place I could even feel comfortable asking!!!! The step-daughters (to be) are 13 and 10 and I LOVE LOVE LOVE that my fiance is such a wonderful and loving father but I definitely feel a little...
    earlymomjess earlymomjess 22-25, F 2 Responses Jan 13, 2012

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    Kid Weekend

    It's only Wed and I am already dreading Friday. She will walk in the door. Throw her bag down (she doesnt like the clothes we bought for her that are here). Wants to know what's for dinner and then complain she doesn't like it. If anyone tries to watch tv she will have a fit...
    Secondmrs Secondmrs 41-45, F 1 Response Sep 19, 2012

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    The Idea Of Becoming A Stepmom Is Frightening...

    ...but I guess I'm already there... My family has always been close.  My parents were one of the few that stayed together.  I've never had to deal with a stepparent or step siblings, etc.  The idea of the role itself has so many negative connotations that I...
    unahermosamujer unahermosamujer 22-25, F 2 Responses Mar 3, 2010

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    I Don't Know If This Is For Me!

    I left my town to come to Argentina to study. I had to come back home for a year because I ran out of money and during that year off I met a drummer who now is my boyfriend. When we first met nothing happend and later I found out he was married (he is 37 and I'm 23). A month...
    samanthav72 samanthav72 22-25, F 1 Response Nov 12, 2012

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    A Young Step Mom!

    Hey im Rachal im 17 and my fiance is 22 his name is Bradley.. he has two kids one is 3 his name is Thomas and the other Karlee she is 6. An i am deff new to the whole step mom thing Thomas dosent really understand the whole step mom thing but his relationship with Bradley is a...
    RachalKristine RachalKristine 16-17, F Jan 1, 2013

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    New To Being A Stepmom

    Ok So My soon to be husband has this 2 year old son that I just love. He is soo smart for being just 2. His mother died last year it was really hard for Shawn. So he moved to the US which is where he and i meet. I felt so bad for the little guy. We became best friends (Shawn and...
    CherryChan CherryChan 26-30, F Aug 11, 2013

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    Not-so-evil Stepmom

      I am a soon to be step-mother to two beautiful identical twin 5 year old girls. They are spunky, sociable and best of all, they like me! My fiance and I just moved in together 2 months ago. We have the girls twice a week. Their BM absolutely hates me. She has verbalized...
    chantb3535 chantb3535 22-25 3 Responses Jan 30, 2011

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    Teenage Girls...and All That Entails

    I find myself in an interesting position - an almost step-mom to two young teenage girls, and I'm not even a decade out of the teens myself.  I met a man that I fell absolutely in love with, and he just happens to be 10 years older than me.  I don't see it as...
    LittleBirdie LittleBirdie 26-30, F 2 Responses Aug 14, 2009

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    It's Hard & Complicated & Confusing...

    my boyfriend's son is here this weekend. he's 12 but he's sooooo immature.  when i was 12 i was doing chores, staying at home by myself, looking after my 7 yr old sister occasionally, etc. granted girls supposedly mature faster than boys but jeez.  he makes these...
    deleted deleted 26-30 5 Responses Jul 3, 2007

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    A Place In My Heart

    Things have been getting better. When I first posted my story it was nearly 8 months ago when I had just moved in with my fiance and his twin daughters. They are now six and have become so much more in tune and aware of our family situation and it has created quite a unique...
    chantb3535 chantb3535 22-25 2 Responses Aug 2, 2011

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    This Weekend

    We have the child again this weekend. I'm very nervous, anxious, resentful, worried but happy. I'm glad to see him bc I do love him but sometimes I resent his intrusion into my neat little life / schedule. Not that my life is all that neat...but I still feel intruded upon. ...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Jul 9, 2007

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    To Be Or Not to Be (again) That Is the Question?

    I need to have this off my chest. I just came from Miami, with my hopes all gone to get along with my boyfriend's (husband to be) ex-wife, her family and concerned that this would affect my great relationship with his daughter.   We all live outside USA, but my boyfriend's...
    mistela mistela 36-40 1 Response Apr 8, 2008

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    Someone Told Me I'm Not a Mother Today

    I'm getting married in 7 weeks but I have lived with my fiance and his oldest son for almost a year. Things are going well but today a girl at work implied that I am not a mother and that my stepson and newphew that also lives with us are pratice. I was so hurt and angry. I would...
    babydollkkg babydollkkg 26-30, F 2 Responses Apr 15, 2008

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    Related Experiences

    I guess this should say it hurts to be a stepmom. Stepdaughter is talking to her bio Mom on the phone and telling her everything about school, boys and her first job. Her biomom...
    Februarychic Februarychic 31-35, F 2 Responses Sep 7

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    My stepmom works very hard for our family. I appreciate the things she does. I just don't think she appreciates the things I do. I understand I mess up a lot, but I'm 18 and I'm...
    kbell18 kbell18 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 21

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    She has made it real clear
    celiy celiy 13-15, F 1 Response Aug 25

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    I'm going to try to make this story short if I can. I'm now 26 years old I met my boyfriend two years ago at my job. 4 months after starting there him and I started dating on our...
    lifeisnotasiexpected lifeisnotasiexpected 26-30, F 2 Responses Sep 2

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    I am a young, childless stepmother to a beautiful little boy who is wrought with issues due to years of neglect and emotional abuse by his mother, who suffers from narcissistic...
    FindingHerWay22 FindingHerWay22 22-25, F Sep 3

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    I feel like my step-mother hates me as clearly as I feel pain if I poke my own eyes. Its an almost tangible, clear feeling that was at the center of my childhood experience. Now...
    whitemut whitemut 13-15, M Sep 5

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    As I've written before, I got married at 16 and immediately became Mom to two fantastic girls who were 10 and 6 at the time. And to make it even more challenging my husband was an...
    Redneckmom1992 Redneckmom1992 22-25, F 5 Responses Sep 6

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    We have my SD 5 days a week and every other weekend during the school year. Summer we do one week on and one week off. I am frustrated with BM and her choices when it comes to SD10...
    Pebbles1971 Pebbles1971 41-45, F Sep 9

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    She's super sweet and she always hangs around us and acts like one of our friends. My two other siblings don't like her so I get to go shopping with her and talk to her and hang...
    daisymarie12 daisymarie12 16-17, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    I do have a dysfunctional family...and I guess thats why I'm always nervous. I'm guilty if im happy. I have a wonderful husband and even in-laws...which is so rare, but I'm always...
    setmefree287 setmefree287 26-30, F Sep 4

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    I've been estranged from my father 8 of the past 10 years. My parents divorced before my first birthday and my mother raised my older sister and I. When I was 3 my father...
    SomedayHeWillBeMine SomedayHeWillBeMine 22-25, F Aug 23

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    I've lived with my step-mother, father, and brother for most of my life. Unfortunately my father worked a lot and was hardly ever home. This left my step mother to verbally and...
    americanhoney91 americanhoney91 22-25, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    Most straight men that I know don't get skinny jeans, but I love them! I got my first pair with my stepmom. ever since then I was hooked on skinny's!
    thongboy222 thongboy222 26-30, M Aug 20

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    I lost my mom to suicide in May 2014. She had made several attempts in the last ten years and made threats every couple of months. I always assumed they were cries for attention...
    heatherash1204 heatherash1204 22-25, F 2 Responses Aug 21

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    1. Im 18 years old 2. Bisexual 3. I have a boyfriend, we been together for 4 years 4. I love cats but have 4 dogs and 1 cat 5. Im Irish, German, Russian 6. My eyes are Blue, Green...
    AirSlice AirSlice 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 25

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    I'm new to this but here it goes. I've been married to a man that takes everything from me and is always unhappy about something! I don't even know where to start. I have 3 kids...
    worthlessinlove worthlessinlove 31-35, F Aug 25

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    My therapist wants me to be okay, my stepmom wants me to be perfect, my dad wants me to go away, and my teachers want me to try harder. It's had to be yourself when people are...
    celiy celiy 13-15, F 2 Responses Aug 25

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    I cannot stand my girlfriend's mom. I have been through a lot with her and now she is sick , I am supposed to sympathized and forgive her. I wanna be there for my girlfriend but...
    jacquesjvital jacquesjvital 26-30, M 2 Responses Aug 30

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    So I have an older sister that moved to the other side of the country a few years ago.. She's a year older than me and it's because our family decided to split up. She lives with...
    ravenzewolf ravenzewolf 13-15, F Sep 8

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    I am so lucky that she is my best friend. We met just by luck, as she moved into the same area I moved into at the same time (it's still a ten min car ride to her house though) we...
    unicornbeliever123 unicornbeliever123 18-21, F Sep 9

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    My oldest stepdaughter is a sophomore in high school this year and I volunteered to work on the PTA fund raiser for the school. Being at the school this week, some of the teachers...
    Redneckmom1992 Redneckmom1992 22-25, F 5 Responses Sep 10

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    So things haven't gotten better yet. I try to talk to my mom but she's hopelessly depressed. And blaming it on me. She is my stepmom and I was ten when my dad remarried. I stayed...
    setmefree287 setmefree287 26-30, F 1 Response Sep 10

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    I get told it's my fault :/ my dad and stepmom keep telling me that I put myself in situations that can be avoided especially when it came to the rape..... They tell me that it was...
    danielle18 danielle18 18-21, F 4 Responses 2 days ago

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