I Am a Stepmother

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    Unconditional Love

    My husband and I met back in 2002. He was currently recovering from a nearly lethal bout of Epstein Barr induced meningitis and encephalitis. He had met one of the girls I went to school w. really bad girl- promiscuous and a drug user. She leeched onto him and invaded his life...
    Safka9973 Safka9973
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Jun 5, 2013

    Love Being a Stepmom

    Yes i do love being a step mom but it is not always easy and anyone who thinks it is is just foolish.  when I met my husband his two boys were very young so I guess that made it some what easier to become part of thier lives, but make no mistakes you are not thier real...
    denise6214 denise6214
    41-45
    3 Responses Oct 3, 2008

    I have to sweet step children

    and I love them as if they were mine! I even nurse them!
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Dec 26, 2015

    my step mom and I have sex often.

    ..it has been that way since I was 13. I love it
    mistressvioletsummer mistressvioletsummer
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Nov 22, 2015

    I found this on social media

    and thought it was funny yet true. I bet lots of us stepmoms have had the BM try to poison their kids heads and get them to dislike the stepmom. What do you all think?
    Februarychic Februarychic
    36-40, F
    1 Response Jan 30

    I'm going crazy. Wish I could say more

    but no time. I need a break.
    Morrgin Morrgin
    31-35, F
    3 Responses Jul 2, 2015

    Stepparenting is like working at a late-night

    convenience store...all of the responsibility and none of the authority. The role of the stepmother is the most difficult of all, because you can't ever just be. You're constantly being tested, by the children, the neighbors, your husband, the relatives, old friends who knew...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    6 Responses Dec 2, 2013

    I have 14 and 16 yr old step daughters.

    I've been married to their dad for 9 years. I have a 19yr old son who is across the county in college. We have a 6yr old daughter together. When I'm asked about being a stepparent I wish I never would've done it. I am the bread winner in the house hold. I'm also the only one who...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Jan 16

    I'm torn between wanting to leave

    for someone with no kids and staying in my otherwise brilliant relationship and marrying this man
    lnicolem lnicolem
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Jun 27, 2015

    Plz help... my SS has very disturbing behavior

    and I don't know what to do. My bf has 3 kids from a previous, very turbulent relationship. Their mother is despicable. In all honesty, from a parental aspect, they are BOTH despicable. In their household there was always anger, fighting, chaos, no structure/discipline, and no...
    FrauleinAsh FrauleinAsh
    31-35, F
    1 Response Aug 20, 2015

    Christmas is coming!!

    ! I asked my SD's BM what I should get her for Christmas this year (I always do all the Christmas and birthday shopping). Mind you, my SD is not even 9 1/2 years old. This is the response I received- shoes, clothes, iTunes gift card, and iPod accessories. I feel like I'm buying...
    BronzeMedal BronzeMedal
    26-30
    3 Responses Dec 11, 2015

    My fiance has 4 daughters.

    His wife died giving birth to the baby.
    redneckwoman33 redneckwoman33
    31-35, F
    1 Response Dec 10, 2015

    I am a 20 yr old soon to be stepmom

    and wife. I love my husband-to-be and my 4 year old stepdaughter but I don't know if I can handle his ex-wife or his mom any longer... My husband and I met a year ago this coming April. We're getting married on leap day. When we first met, he had an anger issue... He's manic...
    gbilly5225 gbilly5225
    18-21, F
    Feb 11

    I'm feeling like I'm drowining.

    I'm married to a man who has 2 kids from a previous relationship and we have 2 of our own. I thought when we have kids of our own being a stepmom would be a lot easier but it's not. It's harder. I'm frustrated because my husband makes more of an effort to be a 'great dad' for my...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Sep 19, 2015

    He just accused me of running his daughter off.

    Why? Because I was watching a movie with my three year old and his daughter had gone downstairs. Did I tell her to or make her? No. Here is a sixteen year old who never goes out with friends but sits around every weekend. At home. Wants to cook for her dad and sits upstairs...
    NotSoPerfect777 NotSoPerfect777
    41-45, F
    8 Responses Nov 14, 2014

    Alright here is quick,

    as quick as I can make it, story of how my life as a stepmother is. When I met my husband I honestly had no idea of his past, I didn't even know he had kids till our first official date. I played it as perfect as I could, I learned quickly that they had just separated and I...
    btrflybelle btrflybelle
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Feb 6

    Any Good Stories?

    I am currently in a position where my husband's daughter of six years may be coming to live with us. We have no children of our own, the daughter is coming to us from a neglectful situation (her biological mother is now in jail), and I care about her very much. However...
    siren1971 siren1971
    36-40, F
    81 Responses Jan 17, 2008

    I started to panic thinking about him going to

    work the next day. I told him I didn't want him to go. I said I would only watch her if these rules are followed with no exceptions... 1. No intimidating others by yelling at them. 2. No tattling - Yes Reporting Tattling is when you tell on someone to get them in trouble...
    Morrgin Morrgin
    31-35, F
    1 Response Aug 17, 2015

    I'm 24 and married to a wonderful hubby.

    He's much older than I am so I'm also stepmother of his 3 children. Two girls 10 and 13 and a boy 11 who are wonderful but can be a handful :-) We have been a family for almost 2 years so I'm still learning about being a parent and fitting-in with them all. I know I can...
    Rachelly3 Rachelly3
    26-30, F
    50 Responses Jul 31, 2014

    Vindictive Ex Wives And Ineffective Fathering

    I've posted this basically elsewhere, but I've come to the conclusion that the main problems are created when you have a vile, vindictive BM and a Father who does not expect respect and set boundaries. If the bio mum is normal, then a neutral tone, or even better, can be set...
    Kimski44 Kimski44
    56-60, F
    3 Responses Dec 2, 2013

    Do any of you stepmoms ever want to get

    intimate with your step children? my step mom loves getting in with me...don't think its normal but I love it!
    mistressvioletsummer mistressvioletsummer
    18-21, F
    4 Responses Oct 4, 2015

    Hi,i am from new York.

    I am getting married to an italian guy,Vincent. He has like 24 girls. Here are there names and ages. Antonia (20),Benedetta (19),Concetta and Conchetta (18),Donata,Donatella and Dorotea (17),Elisabetta (16),Filomena (15),Guillelmina (14),Helena (13),Isabella (12),Julietta (11...
    Mamaof8 Mamaof8
    70+
    2 Responses Oct 19, 2015

    I have a son and two stepdaughters.

    I love my children and like this important fulltimejob.
    czechmommy czechmommy
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Nov 3, 2015

    There is a meme going around… I think it

    originated on whisper… that says, “If you married someone who has kids from a previous relationship they are now your kids and should be regarded as such." Ladies and Gentlemen, I am sorry to say that this piece of advice is bunk. This is yet another meme from somebody who...
    thistledown thistledown
    31-35
    1 Response Apr 3

    Ma-bell Reaches Out

    Warning: Extreme Rage Release Area Grrr... my heart still hurts. Mommy finally called- it's only been, what? Six months since my babies last heard their bio-mother's voice? Why bother? Why even pick up the stupid cell phone that stays in your pocket every single day and call...
    sitizen sitizen
    26-30
    1 Response Dec 26, 2012

    Teenage Stepdaughter Tried To Break Up My Marriage To Her Father

    I met my husband 5 years ago we have been married for 3 years he came with baggage from his past as I did also, I have 2 children from my previouse marriage, and have done my upmost for my children to accept him as a stepdad, they love and respect him more than their own dad, who...
    Imamum2 Imamum2
    41-45
    23 Responses Sep 10, 2010

    I recently became a stepmother to a beautiful 9

    year old girl. I'm in love with both her and her father. The problem lies in getting some me time, and more significantly, us time for my husband and me. He runs a business and has to be out late marketing (aka going to bars and making friends with the bartenders who bring him...
    Vagablondie Vagablondie
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Nov 3, 2015

    I am so tired. I wish I hadn't of gotten

    married. We were sooo good together when we lived separately. Right now him and his x-wife are in a custody battle over the youngest, a 12 year old girl. This little girl keeps lashing out at my 14 year old daughter. We took her phone away after she took a pen to my daughter's...
    Sagittarius77 Sagittarius77
    36-40, F
    Jan 28

    My youngest stepson (3) drives me batshit crazy.

    I'm sorry but it's true. Any day that I am stuck in the house with him ALL DAY LONG absolutely fills me with despair. He's leaving in about an hour and hallelujah! It's another year before he can go to preschool- and sometimes the thought that he will be in school soon is the...
    thistledown thistledown
    31-35
    1 Response Apr 6

    I am the step mother to a wonderful little boy.

    I have been married to my husband a year and a half. My husband has primary custody of his little boy. We are constantly having trouble with his biological mother. Here is a little background. During their marriage (the result of getting pregnant after 4 weeks of fooling around...
    tootlebug84 tootlebug84
    31-35, F
    Aug 20, 2015

    Snapshot of a Stepmother

    I don't know any little girls who dream of becoming stepmothers.  I have regrets of my past but I still look forward to the future as hopefully as I can muster.  Being a stepmom for over 5 years has been both a thankless and awesome experience.  At...
    wickedstepmother wickedstepmother
    26-30, F
    31 Responses Apr 5, 2007

    I wish I could have a traditional family.

    I want to marry my boyfriend in future and have his kids but the fact he's already got kids from his past relationship kills me. I never know to follow my head or heart and stay with the man I love or leave him and find someone without kids. anyone else feel the same?
    lnicolem lnicolem
    18-21, F
    4 Responses Mar 16, 2015

    Okay, so I'm not actually a stepmother yet,

    but the way things are going in the relationship, I will be at some point in the future. I am an 18 year old girl who is in a stable relationship with a 25 year old man who has a young daughter and an ex wife. They were married for over a little over a year, but the whole...
    slt465 slt465
    18-21, F
    Jan 13

    Well, it's that one out of the year

    where Mothers are celebrated and loved. What about Stepmom's who help raise their partners children and some whose step kids live with them full time? How does Mothers Day feel to you? Are you happy or wishing the step kids to be grown and gone? Maybe even sad that they forget...
    Februarychic Februarychic
    36-40, F
    2 Responses May 10, 2015

    my stepdaughter is the same age

    as my bio daughter but she behaves much better I luv her to the moon
    bananna225 bananna225
    31-35, F
    1 Response Dec 28, 2015

    A couple of months ago my longtime boyfriend

    and I moved in together. I have a 14yo son and he has a 6 soon to be 7 yo daughter. I never thought I would enjoy having a little girl so much! Don't get me wrong I love my son to pieces but the shopping and playing are so much more fun. The merging of households has been...
    RoosMom RoosMom
    36-40, F
    3 Responses Aug 28, 2014

    My 13 year old step-daughter was sitting down

    here talking and she talks so dang fast, I could barely understand her. She was telling me about how all she wants to do is go have fun, get a car, be with her friends, which I assume is normal for her age, but then she called me old and said I'm lame! I'm 26! I am not old lol...
    MzKtlyn MzKtlyn
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Oct 27, 2014

    Helppppp ! I'm really struggling with my step

    son this morning .. He's been hitting his younger sister (my daughter) and answering back when he's asked to do somthing . I've was told at 6am this morning I'm not his mummy and he won't listen to me . His dad will not support me on anything when it comes to Corey . He's afraid...
    123Tinkerbelle 123Tinkerbelle
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Oct 10, 2015

    not yet... and not with the way things have

    been going. so tired of my sd. there's always something wrong with her, she and her dad and I are living in my mothers house atm, my mom works odd hours and she is so loud and disrespectful, it's pretty freaking hard to ask someone to do something nicely when you've already...
    babyythree3 babyythree3
    26-30, F
    Jan 17

    I can't believe it but I'm a stepmom!

    I have twin step kids. A boy and a girl. They're both so awesome!
    newmomlisa newmomlisa
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Oct 20, 2015

    I have an 11 year old step son,

    in addition to a 14 month old biological daughter. I'm one of the lucky ones. My husband has always given me the full authority of a parent, and has always backed me up, so I do not have to worry about my step son disrespecting me. His biological mother is completely out of the...
    Bluebutterflywings Bluebutterflywings
    31-35, F
    1 Response Jun 15, 2014

    Hello fellow step moms!

    I recently subscribed to Stepmom Magazine. It's an online subscription for only $5 a month. I really like the articles and sound advice from experienced counselors and other stepmoms. There's also an online forum where you can vent and get advice. I recommend this.
    Februarychic Februarychic
    36-40, F
    Aug 23, 2015

    I just love it when my 3 kids call just to say

    "I love you", and their scattered all over the states. Put a smile on my face!!! I love you Logan, Lindsey, Sue...with all my heart!!! I'm very VERY very thankful to have y'all in my life... Y'all are truly the BEST!!!
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Dec 9, 2014

    I am a stepmother to a beautiful 21month old

    baby girl. i have been in her life since she was born and she lives with me and my husband 5 days of the week. I do love her but i am starting to see her backing away from me and i find myself getting frustrated and nervous that she is starting to resent me as she is beginning...
    js90015p js90015p
    26-30, F
    1 Response Apr 17

    So SD was visiting us

    for the weekend and even though she didn't have school on Monday because it was President's Day, her dad still had to work. (I can't stand it when people say to leave all the discipline to the bio parent. I would love to leave it all to them but what are you supposed to do when...
    Morrgin Morrgin
    31-35, F
    1 Response Feb 17

    Wow the stupidity continues.

    .... My 14 SD ordered a puppy off the Internet! We live in a tiny *** apartment and already have one dog and one cat. I was so freaking pissed off. Luckily after me telling her that i would take it to the pound, she supposedly texted the guy to tell him that she couldn't buy the...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Mar 16

    From A Stepson: I'm So Sorry.

    My stepmom married my Dad when I was pretty young. My earliest memory of my stepmother was booby-trapping a door to make something fall on her head. I was a MEAN, spoiled little boy. When I was a teenager, I gave my stepmom attitude all the time. I was disrespectful and...
    mistercrayon mistercrayon
    36-40
    9 Responses Nov 21, 2011

    hi - I married a man

    who has a 14 year old son from a previous marriage. He had a estranged relationship with his son for about 3 years and its only now that he has started communication with him. His ex wife and son are not aware that he has married me now. My husband is hiding our marriage for...
    tanyak270 tanyak270
    41-45, F
    2 Responses Aug 15, 2015

    I'm done step parenting.

    I give up. I understand it's a thankless job but I shouldn't have to tolerate this. Why on earth should I watch his daughter while he is at work if she explodes in anger when she is caught in a lie or told she can't do something? When he gets home he gives her sympathy and I'm...
    Morrgin Morrgin
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Aug 15, 2015
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