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I Am a Stepmother

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    Being a step mum is hard

    and has split my marriage up
    jlt4 jlt4 46-50, F 2 Responses Jun 4, 2014

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    Transgendergirl01 Transgendergirl01 13-15, M May 18

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    I've never seen a teenager post

    as often as my SD does about how much she loves her mom. I think love between a mom and daughter is a special thing and it's great she lets her mom know she loves her for all to see but posting it all the time? The reason I'm wondering about this is because she is acting out and...
    Morrgin Morrgin 31-35, F Jun 16

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    Stepparenting is like working at a late-night

    convenience store...all of the responsibility and none of the authority. The role of the stepmother is the most difficult of all, because you can't ever just be. You're constantly being tested, by the children, the neighbors, your husband, the relatives, old friends who knew...
    Beautifulnlost22 Beautifulnlost22 31-35, F 7 Responses Dec 2, 2013

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    Unconditional Love

    My husband and I met back in 2002. He was currently recovering from a nearly lethal bout of Epstein Barr induced meningitis and encephalitis. He had met one of the girls I went to school w. really bad girl- promiscuous and a drug user. She leeched onto him and invaded his life...
    Safka9973 Safka9973 26-30, F 2 Responses Jun 5, 2013

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    Any Good Stories?

    I am currently in a position where my husband's daughter of six years may be coming to live with us. We have no children of our own, the daughter is coming to us from a neglectful situation (her biological mother is now in jail), and I care about her very much. However...
    siren1971 siren1971 36-40, F 81 Responses Jan 17, 2008

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    Well, after trying to write my experience twice

    and having something weird happen where it all got deleted, I figure I might as well just say I need some advice
    amb3rxo amb3rxo 22-25, F 1 Response Jun 1

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    I have been a step mom to two boys

    for the past four years. My hubby is great provider but not so good at disciplining the kids. I care about the boys so constantly worry about their schoolwork and other things. All their responsibility is on me even though hubby had said we will share the load of raising them. I...
    notmomyet notmomyet 31-35, F 1 Response Apr 23, 2014

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    hi - I married a man

    who has a 14 year old son from a previous marriage. He had a estranged relationship with his son for about 3 years and its only now that he has started communication with him. His ex wife and son are not aware that he has married me now. My husband is hiding our marriage for...
    tanyak270 tanyak270 36-40, F 2 Responses Aug 15

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    Well, I'm engaged but it has been a rough road.

    I have 2 sons, one is 21 and lives 12 hours away where his father is. My other son lives with me and I have been the only real constant in his life. He is 20 and has severe autism. I had become comfortable with the idea that I may meet men who are attracted to me but not one...
    jenniferthibodeaux jenniferthibodeaux 41-45, F Apr 24

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    Ma-bell Reaches Out

    Warning: Extreme Rage Release Area Grrr... my heart still hurts. Mommy finally called- it's only been, what? Six months since my babies last heard their bio-mother's voice? Why bother? Why even pick up the stupid cell phone that stays in your pocket every single day and call...
    sitizen sitizen 26-30 1 Response Dec 26, 2012

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    Things Have Changed!

    So a month or so ago,I wrote about my stepmother experience. After a little communication and me backing off a bit. I've found that the stepmother thing really isn't all that bad. At the end of the day,some kids just don't want another motherly figure nagging and telling them...
    Ttbaby23 Ttbaby23 31-35, F 1 Response Oct 28, 2013

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    I'm going crazy. Wish I could say more

    but no time. I need a break.
    Morrgin Morrgin 31-35, F 3 Responses Jul 2

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    Young Soon-To-Be Stepmom

    Hey all! I am 22 years old, getting married to my partner who I have been with for two years and I'm going to be a stepmom. It is literally a situation that jumped out at us from nowhere. We had been contacted by his Ex recently after we got engaged and notified that he had a...
    cheazyniff339 cheazyniff339 22-25 2 Responses Nov 11, 2013

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    I'm 24 and married to a wonderful hubby.

    He's much older than I am so I'm also stepmother of his 3 children. Two girls 10 and 13 and a boy 11 who are wonderful but can be a handful :-) We have been a family for almost 2 years so I'm still learning about being a parent and fitting-in with them all. I know I can...
    Rachelly3 Rachelly3 22-25, F 50 Responses Jul 31, 2014

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    Teenage Stepdaughter Tried To Break Up My Marriage To Her Father

    I met my husband 5 years ago we have been married for 3 years he came with baggage from his past as I did also, I have 2 children from my previouse marriage, and have done my upmost for my children to accept him as a stepdad, they love and respect him more than their own dad, who...
    Imamum2 Imamum2 41-45 22 Responses Sep 10, 2010

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    We may call off the wedding due to the

    visitation schedule fights We are engaged to be married in 30 days after being together over 4 years. I have a great relationship with his 15 year old daughter and 9 year old daughter. I feel a strong bond as if the girls were my own, which should be great....My Fiance and I...
    stepmomplan stepmomplan 31-35, F 2 Responses Apr 14

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    Stepdaughter is coming

    for a visit in a few weeks (she lives out of state with her mom). We don't have much contact with her (my husband and his ex had a pretty bad break up and even all these years later there is hostility on both sides) A few years ago when she was graduating HS, I told her I had...
    been2 been2 36-40, F 5 Responses Mar 14

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    Hello fellow step moms!

    I recently subscribed to Stepmom Magazine. It's an online subscription for only $5 a month. I really like the articles and sound advice from experienced counselors and other stepmoms. There's also an online forum where you can vent and get advice. I recommend this.
    Februarychic Februarychic 31-35, F 6 days ago

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    Open Letter To My Husband's Ex-You are a very

    cunning manipulator. You have told lies for 17 years in a childish attempt to hurt your ex but the ONLY person you have hurt was your OWN daughter. I am a mother also as you know and NEVER would I post my child’s picture and name, even a fake name(her true and recognized name...
    KwiteMama KwiteMama 36-40, F 1 Response May 2

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    Snapshot of a Stepmother

    I don't know any little girls who dream of becoming stepmothers.  I have regrets of my past but I still look forward to the future as hopefully as I can muster.  Being a stepmom for over 5 years has been both a thankless and awesome experience.  At...
    wickedstepmother wickedstepmother 26-30, F 31 Responses Apr 5, 2007

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    I am the step mother to a wonderful little boy.

    I have been married to my husband a year and a half. My husband has primary custody of his little boy. We are constantly having trouble with his biological mother. Here is a little background. During their marriage (the result of getting pregnant after 4 weeks of fooling around...
    tootlebug84 tootlebug84 31-35, F Aug 20

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    Does anyone post on Steptalk.

    org? Their stories are so real (like ours) but their quotes are hilarious! Has anyone read the book Stepmonster by Wednesday Martin? I'm thinking about getting it and starting discussions about how it relates to us as Stepmom's.
    Februarychic Februarychic 31-35, F 2 Responses May 17

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    My 13 year old step-daughter was sitting down

    here talking and she talks so dang fast, I could barely understand her. She was telling me about how all she wants to do is go have fun, get a car, be with her friends, which I assume is normal for her age, but then she called me old and said I'm lame! I'm 26! I am not old lol...
    MzKtlyn MzKtlyn 26-30, F 2 Responses Oct 27, 2014

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    A couple of months ago my longtime boyfriend

    and I moved in together. I have a 14yo son and he has a 6 soon to be 7 yo daughter. I never thought I would enjoy having a little girl so much! Don't get me wrong I love my son to pieces but the shopping and playing are so much more fun. The merging of households has been...
    RoosMom RoosMom 36-40, F 4 Responses Aug 28, 2014

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    I wish I could have a traditional family.

    I want to marry my boyfriend in future and have his kids but the fact he's already got kids from his past relationship kills me. I never know to follow my head or heart and stay with the man I love or leave him and find someone without kids. anyone else feel the same?
    lnicolem lnicolem 18-21, F 5 Responses Mar 16

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    I'm done step parenting.

    I give up. I understand it's a thankless job but I shouldn't have to tolerate this. Why on earth should I watch his daughter while he is at work if she explodes in anger when she is caught in a lie or told she can't do something? When he gets home he gives her sympathy and I'm...
    Morrgin Morrgin 31-35, F 3 Responses Aug 15

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    I have an 11 year old step son,

    in addition to a 14 month old biological daughter. I'm one of the lucky ones. My husband has always given me the full authority of a parent, and has always backed me up, so I do not have to worry about my step son disrespecting me. His biological mother is completely out of the...
    Bluebutterflywings Bluebutterflywings 26-30, F 1 Response Jun 15, 2014

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    My stepdaughter gets on my nerves.

    She hates life, me everything. She is so hard to love. But she is only 14. I feel bad not liking her.
    rj2015 rj2015 31-35, F 5 Responses Mar 20

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    SKDel SKDel 26-30, F 5 Responses Mar 20

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    I am a stepmother. My stepdaughter is almost 8

    and I have been around for half of her life. I don't have children of my own but we certainly have been trying (sadly no luck), so I do treat B as if she were my own. I work full-time, and proud to say that in 2 months I will be graduating with my bachelor's. I am very loving...
    MomAtHeart13 MomAtHeart13 31-35, F 2 Responses Jul 1

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    He just accused me of running his daughter off.

    Why? Because I was watching a movie with my three year old and his daughter had gone downstairs. Did I tell her to or make her? No. Here is a sixteen year old who never goes out with friends but sits around every weekend. At home. Wants to cook for her dad and sits upstairs...
    NotSoPerfect777 NotSoPerfect777 41-45, F 8 Responses Nov 14, 2014

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    I Am A Mother.

    I am the non-biological mother of my 9yo son, Jacob. I am, technically, his stepmother. But when I look at him, I don't see 'stepkid'. I see my son. He has been in my life since he was 8 months old and when he said 'mummy' for the first time, he said it to me- copying his...
    KaemiRae KaemiRae 31-35, F Jul 14, 2013

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    "Do I Have To Call You Mom?"

    26 years ago that was the question my 9 year old stepson asked. My response.... "No, you don't have to call me mom - you can call me anything you like as long as it's respectful." Was I wise beyond my years back then? Perhaps, but I think it had more to do with the fact that I...
    StepCommunicator StepCommunicator 51-55, F Jul 31, 2013

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    My stepsons birthday dinner is coming up

    and he wants to invite his mother who causes dramas and gives me anxiety. What can I say if my fiancé agrees to let her come? It will be with my family and fiancés family and she will go out of her way to make me feel uncomfortable. I don't want to have to say I'm not going if...
    troubled8283 troubled8283 31-35, F 6 Responses Aug 4

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    I'm torn between wanting to leave

    for someone with no kids and staying in my otherwise brilliant relationship and marrying this man
    lnicolem lnicolem 18-21, F 3 Responses Jun 27

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    I just love it when my 3 kids call just to say

    "I love you", and their scattered all over the states. Put a smile on my face!!! I love you Logan, Lindsey, Sue...with all my heart!!! I'm very VERY very thankful to have y'all in my life... Y'all are truly the BEST!!!
    deleted deleted 26-30 Dec 9, 2014

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    Love Being a Stepmom

    Yes i do love being a step mom but it is not always easy and anyone who thinks it is is just foolish.  when I met my husband his two boys were very young so I guess that made it some what easier to become part of thier lives, but make no mistakes you are not thier real...
    denise6214 denise6214 41-45 3 Responses Oct 3, 2008

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    I have a complex situation.

    I have a son who is now 22 and a step daughter who moved in at the age of 12. she was a nightmare and no discipline from her dad my husband. when my son and her reached 17 I found out they were in a relationship. I was devastated. they both went to different universities and...
    michelleg68 michelleg68 46-50, F 1 Response Mar 12

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    Please give me advise 🙈🙈 Hi there,

    I am a mother of two and stepmother of one I have a son 9yrs and a daughter 1, my step son is also 9yrs. I would love for there to be a place where we could go for advise being the step mum. It can be so difficult! In my situation, I don't have any problems with my step...
    mumsy3 mumsy3 26-30, F 2 Responses May 1

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    From A Stepson: I'm So Sorry.

    My stepmom married my Dad when I was pretty young. My earliest memory of my stepmother was booby-trapping a door to make something fall on her head. I was a MEAN, spoiled little boy. When I was a teenager, I gave my stepmom attitude all the time. I was disrespectful and...
    mistercrayon mistercrayon 36-40 10 Responses Nov 21, 2011

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    My husband has had an estranged relationship

    with his daughter. She's 19 now. Her parents broke up before she was born, but dated a couple times before I met her father around her 2nd birthday. Anyways, when we got married, her mom went nuts. She made it impossible for my husband & their daughter to have a relationship...
    2confused4u 2confused4u 36-40, F 4 Responses Aug 4

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    I have a 19 year old stepdaughter

    that hasn't been a part of our family since she was 5 yrs old, BC of her mom & her maternal grandparents. They basically made every visit so miserable that they drove a wedge between my DH & his DD. They taught her from the time she was 3 to call me a ****, and by five she was...
    2confused4u 2confused4u 36-40, F Aug 4

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    Plz help... my SS has very disturbing behavior

    and I don't know what to do. My bf has 3 kids from a previous, very turbulent relationship. Their mother is despicable. In all honesty, from a parental aspect, they are BOTH despicable. In their household there was always anger, fighting, chaos, no structure/discipline, and no...
    FrauleinAsh FrauleinAsh 31-35, F 2 Responses Aug 20

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    I need advice! My husband works from

    8am-4:30pm M-F and school from 5pm-10pm M-Th (all year, he takes courses every semester even in the summer now). He is also gone 1 weekend a month for drill. He has three children from a previous marriage (ages 9,8,3). I'm a sahm (only since the baby arrived, I was an accountant...
    Amnjourney Amnjourney 26-30, F 3 Responses Apr 25

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    Well, it's that one out of the year

    where Mothers are celebrated and loved. What about Stepmom's who help raise their partners children and some whose step kids live with them full time? How does Mothers Day feel to you? Are you happy or wishing the step kids to be grown and gone? Maybe even sad that they forget...
    Februarychic Februarychic 31-35, F 2 Responses May 10