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I Am a Stepmother

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    I am currently in a position where my husband's daughter of six years may be coming to live with us. We have no children of our own, the daughter is coming to us from a neglectful situation (her biological mother is now in jail), and I care about her very much. However...
    siren1971 siren1971 36-40, F 81 Responses Jan 17, 2008

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    Being a step mum is hard

    and has split my marriage up
    jlt4 jlt4 46-50, F 2 Responses Jun 4, 2014

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    I have an 11 year old step son,

    in addition to a 14 month old biological daughter. I'm one of the lucky ones. My husband has always given me the full authority of a parent, and has always backed me up, so I do not have to worry about my step son disrespecting me. His biological mother is completely out of the...
    Bluebutterflywings Bluebutterflywings 26-30, F 1 Response Jun 15, 2014

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    We may call off the wedding due to the

    visitation schedule fights We are engaged to be married in 30 days after being together over 4 years. I have a great relationship with his 15 year old daughter and 9 year old daughter. I feel a strong bond as if the girls were my own, which should be great....My Fiance and I...
    stepmomplan stepmomplan 31-35, F 2 Responses Apr 14

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    I am my Stepdaughter's scapegoat.

    She's almost 21 & I've been in her life since she was 9. She has had everything handed to her by her paternal grandparents & mom. Her dad (my husband) has not handed her anything. She has not ever held a"real job" (worked at McDonald's for 2 weeks & decided she didn't like that...
    var122 var122 41-45, F 3 Responses Apr 14

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    Here's the story. Today is our family's first

    time getting professional photos taken. So while husband was at work last night I took the kids shopping for holiday outfits. He wanted me to grab his son (my step-son) a white button up with a red tie so I grabbed two white button ups for my son and step-son. There were only a...
    VT100712 VT100712 26-30, F 1 Response Dec 13, 2014

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    I have always wanted to be a stepmother

    and a mom to grown up kids.. My partner has teenage kids and his eldest is just nearby. I was scared of how she will react to my relationship with his dad before so I tried to avoid her on so many ocassions.. But now that we know each other everything is almost perfect.. I will...
    SugarK SugarK 31-35, F Aug 5, 2014

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    I need advice! My husband works from

    8am-4:30pm M-F and school from 5pm-10pm M-Th (all year, he takes courses every semester even in the summer now). He is also gone 1 weekend a month for drill. He has three children from a previous marriage (ages 9,8,3). I'm a sahm (only since the baby arrived, I was an accountant...
    Amnjourney Amnjourney 26-30, F 3 Responses Apr 25

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    He just accused me of running his daughter off.

    Why? Because I was watching a movie with my three year old and his daughter had gone downstairs. Did I tell her to or make her? No. Here is a sixteen year old who never goes out with friends but sits around every weekend. At home. Wants to cook for her dad and sits upstairs...
    NotSoPerfect777 NotSoPerfect777 41-45, F 8 Responses Nov 14, 2014

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    Stepparenting is like working at a late-night

    convenience store...all of the responsibility and none of the authority. The role of the stepmother is the most difficult of all, because you can't ever just be. You're constantly being tested, by the children, the neighbors, your husband, the relatives, old friends who knew...
    Beautifulnlost22 Beautifulnlost22 31-35, F 7 Responses Dec 2, 2013

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    Heartbroken

    I have been in the childrens life for about 10 years now. I don't think I could have loved them more if they had been my own. But I find that no matter what I have done for my stepdaughter I will always be the evil one. And I am heart broken, and running on empty
    empty empty 51-55, F 7 Responses Nov 13, 2007

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    My stepdaughter gets on my nerves.

    She hates life, me everything. She is so hard to love. But she is only 14. I feel bad not liking her.
    rj2015 rj2015 31-35, F 5 Responses Mar 20

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    I'm going crazy. Wish I could say more

    but no time. I need a break.
    Morrgin Morrgin 31-35, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    My 13 year old step-daughter was sitting down

    here talking and she talks so dang fast, I could barely understand her. She was telling me about how all she wants to do is go have fun, get a car, be with her friends, which I assume is normal for her age, but then she called me old and said I'm lame! I'm 26! I am not old lol...
    MzKtlyn MzKtlyn 26-30, F 2 Responses Oct 27, 2014

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    Please give me advise 🙈🙈 Hi there,

    I am a mother of two and stepmother of one I have a son 9yrs and a daughter 1, my step son is also 9yrs. I would love for there to be a place where we could go for advise being the step mum. It can be so difficult! In my situation, I don't have any problems with my step...
    mumsy3 mumsy3 26-30, F 2 Responses May 1

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    I have been a step mom to two boys

    for the past four years. My hubby is great provider but not so good at disciplining the kids. I care about the boys so constantly worry about their schoolwork and other things. All their responsibility is on me even though hubby had said we will share the load of raising them. I...
    notmomyet notmomyet 31-35, F 1 Response Apr 23, 2014

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    Things Have Changed!

    So a month or so ago,I wrote about my stepmother experience. After a little communication and me backing off a bit. I've found that the stepmother thing really isn't all that bad. At the end of the day,some kids just don't want another motherly figure nagging and telling them...
    Ttbaby23 Ttbaby23 31-35, F 1 Response Oct 28, 2013

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    Stepdaughter is coming

    for a visit in a few weeks (she lives out of state with her mom). We don't have much contact with her (my husband and his ex had a pretty bad break up and even all these years later there is hostility on both sides) A few years ago when she was graduating HS, I told her I had...
    been2 been2 36-40, F 6 Responses Mar 14

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    Unconditional Love

    My husband and I met back in 2002. He was currently recovering from a nearly lethal bout of Epstein Barr induced meningitis and encephalitis. He had met one of the girls I went to school w. really bad girl- promiscuous and a drug user. She leeched onto him and invaded his life...
    Safka9973 Safka9973 26-30, F 2 Responses Jun 5, 2013

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    Well, after trying to write my experience twice

    and having something weird happen where it all got deleted, I figure I might as well just say I need some advice
    amb3rxo amb3rxo 22-25, F 1 Response Jun 1

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    Love Being a Stepmom

    Yes i do love being a step mom but it is not always easy and anyone who thinks it is is just foolish.  when I met my husband his two boys were very young so I guess that made it some what easier to become part of thier lives, but make no mistakes you are not thier real...
    denise6214 denise6214 41-45 3 Responses Oct 3, 2008

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    I have a complex situation.

    I have a son who is now 22 and a step daughter who moved in at the age of 12. she was a nightmare and no discipline from her dad my husband. when my son and her reached 17 I found out they were in a relationship. I was devastated. they both went to different universities and...
    michelleg68 michelleg68 46-50, F 1 Response Mar 12

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    A couple of months ago my longtime boyfriend

    and I moved in together. I have a 14yo son and he has a 6 soon to be 7 yo daughter. I never thought I would enjoy having a little girl so much! Don't get me wrong I love my son to pieces but the shopping and playing are so much more fun. The merging of households has been...
    RoosMom RoosMom 36-40, F 4 Responses Aug 28, 2014

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    I Am A Mother.

    I am the non-biological mother of my 9yo son, Jacob. I am, technically, his stepmother. But when I look at him, I don't see 'stepkid'. I see my son. He has been in my life since he was 8 months old and when he said 'mummy' for the first time, he said it to me- copying his...
    KaemiRae KaemiRae 31-35, F Jul 14, 2013

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    I am a stepmother. My stepdaughter is almost 8

    and I have been around for half of her life. I don't have children of my own but we certainly have been trying (sadly no luck), so I do treat B as if she were my own. I work full-time, and proud to say that in 2 months I will be graduating with my bachelor's. I am very loving...
    MomAtHeart13 MomAtHeart13 31-35, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    Where to start.... I am a girlfriend stepmom.

    I have been with my boyfriend for a year, but have been in his life for longer. He has a beautiful daughter, who is 7 and we get along great. When he gets his daughter every other weekend and on Wednesdays (weird set up I know) we take her brother, David and he is 5. I have no...
    addily addily 26-30, F 3 Responses Dec 31, 2014

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    Open Letter To My Husband's Ex-You are a very

    cunning manipulator. You have told lies for 17 years in a childish attempt to hurt your ex but the ONLY person you have hurt was your OWN daughter. I am a mother also as you know and NEVER would I post my child’s picture and name, even a fake name(her true and recognized name...
    KwiteMama KwiteMama 36-40, F 1 Response May 2

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    I had moved out from my country

    and lived with my husband now in he's country. I don't know anyone rand I have no friends here. I feel lonely frustrated and no help at all. My husband has two kids one is 9 and one is 14 and they're both lazy, spoilt kids. I don't blame them cause that's how they're brought up...
    fatsebral fatsebral 26-30, F Feb 9

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    So this is more of a vent

    and could possibly be long. I became a step mom all in the same year as I became a mom myself as well as got married. When I decided to marry my husband and take on the role of a step parent I never in my wildest dreams thought I would hate it so bad. I myself grew up a step...
    sgriff66 sgriff66 26-30, F 8 Responses Feb 3

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    Transgendergirl01 Transgendergirl01 13-15, M 1 Response May 18

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    I've been with my husband

    for over 10 years. When we first started dating I was 24 and his daughter from a previous relationship was 5. At first I was very hesitant about dating a man with children. I've never even wanted children of my own, and still don't to this day. However, when I finally met her...
    myblumoon myblumoon 31-35, F 2 Responses Feb 13

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    My 16 year old stepdaughter is a night mare!

    She hates me and emotionally drains my family. She's lives with us ... I can barely take her rudeness.
    johanssh johanssh 41-45, F 1 Response Dec 7, 2014

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    Teenage Stepdaughter Tried To Break Up My Marriage To Her Father

    I met my husband 5 years ago we have been married for 3 years he came with baggage from his past as I did also, I have 2 children from my previouse marriage, and have done my upmost for my children to accept him as a stepdad, they love and respect him more than their own dad, who...
    Imamum2 Imamum2 41-45 22 Responses Sep 10, 2010

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    I'm struggling with my 15yr old stepson.

    He feels like he comes to me even though his dad and I make sure he is important and sacrifice a lot for him. I'm not sure what to do or how to fix the situation.
    lindsayt84 lindsayt84 31-35 1 Response Mar 11

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    Vindictive Ex Wives And Ineffective Fathering

    I've posted this basically elsewhere, but I've come to the conclusion that the main problems are created when you have a vile, vindictive BM and a Father who does not expect respect and set boundaries. If the bio mum is normal, then a neutral tone, or even better, can be set...
    Kimski44 Kimski44 51-55, F 3 Responses Dec 2, 2013

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    I don't understand why problems between the

    bio-mom and step-mom are so common. As parents shouldn't the well being and benefits of our children go before our own conflicts? I am a birth mother to three children and a step mother to one. My older two children's bio-dad isn't yet remarried but he's been in a new...
    VT100712 VT100712 26-30, F 2 Responses Dec 9, 2014

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    Does anyone post on Steptalk.

    org? Their stories are so real (like ours) but their quotes are hilarious! Has anyone read the book Stepmonster by Wednesday Martin? I'm thinking about getting it and starting discussions about how it relates to us as Stepmom's.
    Februarychic Februarychic 31-35, F 1 Response May 17

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    I am not married but me

    and my boyfriend have been living together for almost two years, his son who is 5 (we will call him Bob haha) has lived with us for a year now and his daughter who is 4 lives with her mom. I'm not sure if that really considers me to be a step mom but if you ask his son what i...
    newstepmom92 newstepmom92 22-25, F 3 Responses May 11, 2014

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    I'm torn between wanting to leave

    for someone with no kids and staying in my otherwise brilliant relationship and marrying this man
    lnicolem lnicolem 18-21, F 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    I wish I could have a traditional family.

    I want to marry my boyfriend in future and have his kids but the fact he's already got kids from his past relationship kills me. I never know to follow my head or heart and stay with the man I love or leave him and find someone without kids. anyone else feel the same?
    lnicolem lnicolem 18-21, F 5 Responses Mar 16

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    The girls are 6 and 10

    and their Father is very laid back and doesn't set boundaries. It's so frustrating to be the bad guy all the time for the little stuff (bed time, schedules, showers) and then being dismissed when i voice my concerns on the big issues. (Internet safety/monitoring, one of the...
    shayrae585 shayrae585 26-30, F 2 Responses Dec 21, 2014

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    Young Soon-To-Be Stepmom

    Hey all! I am 22 years old, getting married to my partner who I have been with for two years and I'm going to be a stepmom. It is literally a situation that jumped out at us from nowhere. We had been contacted by his Ex recently after we got engaged and notified that he had a...
    cheazyniff339 cheazyniff339 22-25 2 Responses Nov 11, 2013

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    Well, it's that one out of the year

    where Mothers are celebrated and loved. What about Stepmom's who help raise their partners children and some whose step kids live with them full time? How does Mothers Day feel to you? Are you happy or wishing the step kids to be grown and gone? Maybe even sad that they forget...
    Februarychic Februarychic 31-35, F 2 Responses May 10

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    From A Stepson: I'm So Sorry.

    My stepmom married my Dad when I was pretty young. My earliest memory of my stepmother was booby-trapping a door to make something fall on her head. I was a MEAN, spoiled little boy. When I was a teenager, I gave my stepmom attitude all the time. I was disrespectful and...
    mistercrayon mistercrayon 36-40 10 Responses Nov 21, 2011

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    While I usually have nothing

    but good thoughts when it comes to the sentence, "I am a Stepmother" -- I unfortunately feel fairly annoyed with it today. Not on my stepdaughters part, she is anything but an annoyance.... her mother, however, has only proven that she will never change. She is still the exact...
    thejoneses thejoneses 26-30, F 2 Responses Mar 11

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    My fiancé is the primary custodian of his

    daughter Baylee. Her Mom lives one state over and is supposed to visit Baylee once a month and then has her 2 months of the summer, they trade holidays. It always seems that when Baylee comes home after being with her Mom she is a little terror. Shawn’s ex tends to give...
    RoosMom RoosMom 36-40, F 1 Response Aug 30, 2014

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