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I Am a Stepmother

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    I found this on social media

    and thought it was funny yet true. I bet lots of us stepmoms have had the BM try to poison their kids heads and get them to dislike the stepmom. What do you all think?
    Februarychic Februarychic 31-35, F 1 Response Jan 30

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    A failed one really. When I met my husband he

    told me he had one child, never married, that he was called something else and younger than he was. Anyway, turns out he had 3 children, and was separated but still married. I secretly hope to find out the divorce was not finalised so that we are not actually married. Anyway...
    Listening80 Listening80 31-35, F 1 Response Sep 3, 2015

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    my step mom and I have sex often.

    ..it has been that way since I was 13. I love it
    mistressvioletsummer mistressvioletsummer 18-21, F 3 Responses Nov 22, 2015

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    I have 14 and 16 yr old step daughters.

    I've been married to their dad for 9 years. I have a 19yr old son who is across the county in college. We have a 6yr old daughter together. When I'm asked about being a stepparent I wish I never would've done it. I am the bread winner in the house hold. I'm also the only one who...
    serenaraquelle serenaraquelle 36-40, F 1 Response Jan 16

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    I recently became a stepmother to a beautiful 9

    year old girl. I'm in love with both her and her father. The problem lies in getting some me time, and more significantly, us time for my husband and me. He runs a business and has to be out late marketing (aka going to bars and making friends with the bartenders who bring him...
    Vagablondie Vagablondie 22-25, F 2 Responses Nov 3, 2015

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    I'm feeling like I'm drowining.

    I'm married to a man who has 2 kids from a previous relationship and we have 2 of our own. I thought when we have kids of our own being a stepmom would be a lot easier but it's not. It's harder. I'm frustrated because my husband makes more of an effort to be a 'great dad' for my...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Sep 19, 2015

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    Well, it's that one out of the year

    where Mothers are celebrated and loved. What about Stepmom's who help raise their partners children and some whose step kids live with them full time? How does Mothers Day feel to you? Are you happy or wishing the step kids to be grown and gone? Maybe even sad that they forget...
    Februarychic Februarychic 31-35, F 2 Responses May 10, 2015

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    My 13 year old step-daughter was sitting down

    here talking and she talks so dang fast, I could barely understand her. She was telling me about how all she wants to do is go have fun, get a car, be with her friends, which I assume is normal for her age, but then she called me old and said I'm lame! I'm 26! I am not old lol...
    MzKtlyn MzKtlyn 26-30, F 2 Responses Oct 27, 2014

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    hi - I married a man

    who has a 14 year old son from a previous marriage. He had a estranged relationship with his son for about 3 years and its only now that he has started communication with him. His ex wife and son are not aware that he has married me now. My husband is hiding our marriage for...
    tanyak270 tanyak270 41-45, F 2 Responses Aug 15, 2015

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    Alright here is quick,

    as quick as I can make it, story of how my life as a stepmother is. When I met my husband I honestly had no idea of his past, I didn't even know he had kids till our first official date. I played it as perfect as I could, I learned quickly that they had just separated and I...
    btrflybelle btrflybelle 22-25, F 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    I am a 20 yr old soon to be stepmom

    and wife. I love my husband-to-be and my 4 year old stepdaughter but I don't know if I can handle his ex-wife or his mom any longer... My husband and I met a year ago this coming April. We're getting married on leap day. When we first met, he had an anger issue... He's manic...
    gbilly5225 gbilly5225 18-21, F 4 hrs ago

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    Hi,i am from new York.

    I am getting married to an italian guy,Vincent. He has like 24 girls. Here are there names and ages. Antonia (20),Benedetta (19),Concetta and Conchetta (18),Donata,Donatella and Dorotea (17),Elisabetta (16),Filomena (15),Guillelmina (14),Helena (13),Isabella (12),Julietta (11...
    Mamaof8 Mamaof8 70+ 2 Responses Oct 19, 2015

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    I have an 11 year old step son,

    in addition to a 14 month old biological daughter. I'm one of the lucky ones. My husband has always given me the full authority of a parent, and has always backed me up, so I do not have to worry about my step son disrespecting me. His biological mother is completely out of the...
    Bluebutterflywings Bluebutterflywings 31-35, F 1 Response Jun 15, 2014

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    Ma-bell Reaches Out

    Warning: Extreme Rage Release Area Grrr... my heart still hurts. Mommy finally called- it's only been, what? Six months since my babies last heard their bio-mother's voice? Why bother? Why even pick up the stupid cell phone that stays in your pocket every single day and call...
    sitizen sitizen 26-30 1 Response Dec 26, 2012

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    From A Stepson: I'm So Sorry.

    My stepmom married my Dad when I was pretty young. My earliest memory of my stepmother was booby-trapping a door to make something fall on her head. I was a MEAN, spoiled little boy. When I was a teenager, I gave my stepmom attitude all the time. I was disrespectful and...
    mistercrayon mistercrayon 36-40 10 Responses Nov 21, 2011

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    My fiance has 4 daughters.

    His wife died giving birth to the baby.
    redneckwoman33 redneckwoman33 31-35, F 1 Response Dec 10, 2015

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    I don't begrudge my husband any time with his

    kids and I care for them a lot.. The only thing I begrudge is being last on the list to know when we are having them to stay..or if their mother extends their time with us I never know til it's all been agreed. I don't mind the actual time but I hate being last on the list to...
    GalateaSpheres GalateaSpheres 36-40, F 11 Responses Dec 31, 2015

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    Unconditional Love

    My husband and I met back in 2002. He was currently recovering from a nearly lethal bout of Epstein Barr induced meningitis and encephalitis. He had met one of the girls I went to school w. really bad girl- promiscuous and a drug user. She leeched onto him and invaded his life...
    Safka9973 Safka9973 31-35, F 2 Responses Jun 5, 2013

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    my stepdaughter is the same age

    as my bio daughter but she behaves much better I luv her to the moon
    bananna225 bananna225 31-35, F 2 Responses Dec 28, 2015

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    Do any of you stepmoms ever want to get

    intimate with your step children? my step mom loves getting in with me...don't think its normal but I love it!
    mistressvioletsummer mistressvioletsummer 18-21, F 6 Responses Oct 4, 2015

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    I am so tired. I wish I hadn't of gotten

    married. We were sooo good together when we lived separately. Right now him and his x-wife are in a custody battle over the youngest, a 12 year old girl. This little girl keeps lashing out at my 14 year old daughter. We took her phone away after she took a pen to my daughter's...
    Sagittarius77 Sagittarius77 36-40, F Jan 28

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    Plz help... my SS has very disturbing behavior

    and I don't know what to do. My bf has 3 kids from a previous, very turbulent relationship. Their mother is despicable. In all honesty, from a parental aspect, they are BOTH despicable. In their household there was always anger, fighting, chaos, no structure/discipline, and no...
    FrauleinAsh FrauleinAsh 31-35, F 2 Responses Aug 20, 2015

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    I'm done step parenting.

    I give up. I understand it's a thankless job but I shouldn't have to tolerate this. Why on earth should I watch his daughter while he is at work if she explodes in anger when she is caught in a lie or told she can't do something? When he gets home he gives her sympathy and I'm...
    Morrgin Morrgin 31-35, F 3 Responses Aug 15, 2015

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    not yet... and not with the way things have

    been going. so tired of my sd. there's always something wrong with her, she and her dad and I are living in my mothers house atm, my mom works odd hours and she is so loud and disrespectful, it's pretty freaking hard to ask someone to do something nicely when you've already...
    babyythree3 babyythree3 26-30, F 2 Responses Jan 17

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    Any Good Stories?

    I am currently in a position where my husband's daughter of six years may be coming to live with us. We have no children of our own, the daughter is coming to us from a neglectful situation (her biological mother is now in jail), and I care about her very much. However...
    siren1971 siren1971 36-40, F 81 Responses Jan 17, 2008

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    A couple of months ago my longtime boyfriend

    and I moved in together. I have a 14yo son and he has a 6 soon to be 7 yo daughter. I never thought I would enjoy having a little girl so much! Don't get me wrong I love my son to pieces but the shopping and playing are so much more fun. The merging of households has been...
    RoosMom RoosMom 36-40, F 4 Responses Aug 28, 2014

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    Hello fellow step moms!

    I recently subscribed to Stepmom Magazine. It's an online subscription for only $5 a month. I really like the articles and sound advice from experienced counselors and other stepmoms. There's also an online forum where you can vent and get advice. I recommend this.
    Februarychic Februarychic 31-35, F Aug 23, 2015

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    Love Being a Stepmom

    Yes i do love being a step mom but it is not always easy and anyone who thinks it is is just foolish.  when I met my husband his two boys were very young so I guess that made it some what easier to become part of thier lives, but make no mistakes you are not thier real...
    denise6214 denise6214 41-45 3 Responses Oct 3, 2008

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    I just love it when my 3 kids call just to say

    "I love you", and their scattered all over the states. Put a smile on my face!!! I love you Logan, Lindsey, Sue...with all my heart!!! I'm very VERY very thankful to have y'all in my life... Y'all are truly the BEST!!!
    deleted deleted 26-30 Dec 9, 2014

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    Stepparenting is like working at a late-night

    convenience store...all of the responsibility and none of the authority. The role of the stepmother is the most difficult of all, because you can't ever just be. You're constantly being tested, by the children, the neighbors, your husband, the relatives, old friends who knew...
    Beautifulnlost22 Beautifulnlost22 31-35, F 6 Responses Dec 2, 2013

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    I have to sweet step children

    and I love them as if they were mine! I even nurse them!
    deleted deleted 26-30 Dec 26, 2015

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    Snapshot of a Stepmother

    I don't know any little girls who dream of becoming stepmothers.  I have regrets of my past but I still look forward to the future as hopefully as I can muster.  Being a stepmom for over 5 years has been both a thankless and awesome experience.  At...
    wickedstepmother wickedstepmother 26-30, F 31 Responses Apr 5, 2007

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    I'm 24 and married to a wonderful hubby.

    He's much older than I am so I'm also stepmother of his 3 children. Two girls 10 and 13 and a boy 11 who are wonderful but can be a handful :-) We have been a family for almost 2 years so I'm still learning about being a parent and fitting-in with them all. I know I can...
    Rachelly3 Rachelly3 26-30, F 57 Responses Jul 31, 2014

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    I started to panic thinking about him going to

    work the next day. I told him I didn't want him to go. I said I would only watch her if these rules are followed with no exceptions... 1. No intimidating others by yelling at them. 2. No tattling - Yes Reporting Tattling is when you tell on someone to get them in trouble...
    Morrgin Morrgin 31-35, F 2 Responses Aug 17, 2015

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    He just accused me of running his daughter off.

    Why? Because I was watching a movie with my three year old and his daughter had gone downstairs. Did I tell her to or make her? No. Here is a sixteen year old who never goes out with friends but sits around every weekend. At home. Wants to cook for her dad and sits upstairs...
    NotSoPerfect777 NotSoPerfect777 41-45, F 8 Responses Nov 14, 2014

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    Vindictive Ex Wives And Ineffective Fathering

    I've posted this basically elsewhere, but I've come to the conclusion that the main problems are created when you have a vile, vindictive BM and a Father who does not expect respect and set boundaries. If the bio mum is normal, then a neutral tone, or even better, can be set...
    Kimski44 Kimski44 56-60, F 3 Responses Dec 2, 2013

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    I can't believe it but I'm a stepmom!

    I have twin step kids. A boy and a girl. They're both so awesome!
    newmomlisa newmomlisa 22-25, F 2 Responses Oct 20, 2015

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    I wish I could have a traditional family.

    I want to marry my boyfriend in future and have his kids but the fact he's already got kids from his past relationship kills me. I never know to follow my head or heart and stay with the man I love or leave him and find someone without kids. anyone else feel the same?
    lnicolem lnicolem 18-21, F 5 Responses Mar 16, 2015

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    Helppppp ! I'm really struggling with my step

    son this morning .. He's been hitting his younger sister (my daughter) and answering back when he's asked to do somthing . I've was told at 6am this morning I'm not his mummy and he won't listen to me . His dad will not support me on anything when it comes to Corey . He's afraid...
    123Tinkerbelle 123Tinkerbelle 26-30, F 3 Responses Oct 10, 2015

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    Okay, so I'm not actually a stepmother yet,

    but the way things are going in the relationship, I will be at some point in the future. I am an 18 year old girl who is in a stable relationship with a 25 year old man who has a young daughter and an ex wife. They were married for over a little over a year, but the whole...
    slt465 slt465 18-21, F Jan 13

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    I am the step mother to a wonderful little boy.

    I have been married to my husband a year and a half. My husband has primary custody of his little boy. We are constantly having trouble with his biological mother. Here is a little background. During their marriage (the result of getting pregnant after 4 weeks of fooling around...
    tootlebug84 tootlebug84 31-35, F Aug 20, 2015

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    My husband has had an estranged relationship

    with his daughter. She's 19 now. Her parents broke up before she was born, but dated a couple times before I met her father around her 2nd birthday. Anyways, when we got married, her mom went nuts. She made it impossible for my husband & their daughter to have a relationship...
    2confused4u 2confused4u 36-40, F 4 Responses Aug 4, 2015

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    I'm going crazy. Wish I could say more

    but no time. I need a break.
    Morrgin Morrgin 31-35, F 3 Responses Jul 2, 2015

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    Teenage Stepdaughter Tried To Break Up My Marriage To Her Father

    I met my husband 5 years ago we have been married for 3 years he came with baggage from his past as I did also, I have 2 children from my previouse marriage, and have done my upmost for my children to accept him as a stepdad, they love and respect him more than their own dad, who...
    Imamum2 Imamum2 41-45 24 Responses Sep 10, 2010

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