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I Am a Surrendered Wife

For Wifes who Challenge Feminist Propaganda and Respect their Husbands in Support of Happy, Healthy and Loving Marriages. 392 People

    What We Don'T Talk About. To You Wives And Girlfriends Who Need To Know.

    I have been reading some things from a few gals that worry me. So I wanted to put this out there for those of you who need it. You also have all of our support ladies.This is from The Book The Surrendered Wife.1. Do not surrender to a man who is physically abusive to you.Where...
    JennaR JennaR 46-50, F 13 Responses May 25, 2013

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    It's Transpiring To The Outside World

    People suddenly seem to notice: My husband and I are touching and embracing each other in front of others. We kiss before we separate or when we meet.We lock eyes to let the other one know, what we want and need and there is not a word necessary for communication. We don't argue...
    IQplusfun IQplusfun 51-55, F 4 Responses Jun 17, 2012

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    Am I The Only One Struggling?

    I have been with my husband now for 15 years. I would say that for most of the time we are happy. I started trying to surrender after seeing a documentary about the book many years ago and thought it described me to a tee!!! I bought myself a copy and slowly started following the...
    laila95 laila95 36-40 4 Responses Jun 6, 2011

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    Unlikely Surrendering Success: a Feminist Perspective

    After years of trying to "fix" my husband and our marriage, I stumbled upon this book, misshelved in the aromatherapy section of a tiny bookstore.  I knew it was waiting for me to find it.  I read it immediately and began to "surrender", which I...
    Shamaal Shamaal 41-45 4 Responses Jul 21, 2009

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    My Husband Is The Boss

    I have always wanted a dominate husband. I met my husband two years ago and we instantly connected. He is 16 years older than me, and he is my world. We got married April 2010 and we are expecting our first baby (a girl) on April.3rd. I love being surrendered to him. He makes all...
    subwife88 subwife88 22-25, F 4 Responses Feb 7, 2011

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    New - Learning To Surrender But Having Trouble With One Lil Thing...advice?

    Hi everyone, I have been reading this marvelous book and am learning that I am certainly the controller in this relationship. We aren't married - we are commonlaw and together for two years in a blended family. I have no problem surrendering in all things to my man. He is...
    toohard2handle toohard2handle 31-35 2 Responses Aug 31, 2012

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    Basic Principles...

    A  surrendered Wife: Relinquishes inappropriate control of her husband. Respects her husbands thinking. Receives his gifts thankfully Expresses what she wants without trying to control Relies on her husband to handle household finances Focusses on her...
    RobertaSunset RobertaSunset 36-40, F 36 Responses Apr 17, 2008

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    Probably Similar To So Many.

    Facing nearly 27 years married, I wanted to find a way to strengthen our relationship. We've certainly been through it: Met on blind date, married three months later. Met our in-laws three months after that. We have two college-age children who are nearly graduates. He's nearly...
    goingon27 goingon27 46-50, F Apr 8, 2013

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    Surrendering One Step At A Time

    I am a 29yr old mother of 2 toddlers who just moved to a new city with my awesome, supportive and loving (most of the time) husband. I've always had very definite ideas about what kind of a wife and mother i wanted to be, i want to be the mom that is at home with a nice meal and...
    DesWP DesWP 26-30, F 2 Responses May 31, 2012

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    I Surrendered ... For Better Or Worse

    Had a relationship where I surrendered, it didn't end as happily or as fairy takes as it could be, but i dun now why, i enjoyed it. Guess some will just say I'm a fool, n its proof that what this book is saying is falsehood. But e truth is, i enjoyed it. Of cos there r mixed...
    clargal clargal 26-30, F 2 Responses Dec 24, 2011

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    More Than 50 Shades... But Still One Basic Lifestyle Choice!

    I owe a lot of happiness to the book 'A surrendered wife', it also gave me a lot of insight into my shortcomings as a wife, which I tackled head on and it changed my life, my marriage, my attitude. What I however can't grasp is the fact, that we women, who are devoted to our...
    IQplusfun IQplusfun 51-55, F 3 Responses Sep 29, 2012

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    Loving Life As A New Surrendered Wife

    I was raised to believe men and women were equal in every way. No man should ever tell me what to do, Every decision about my life was mine to make and no man was to ever have control of me. I married a man I fell in love with. That was 11 years ago. We had a great time together...
    thatmandygrl thatmandygrl 31-35, F 3 Responses Sep 15, 2011

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    Evening Routine

    *Greet at the door. *Take jacket/briefcase etc. *Dinner ready on the table. *Serve him his meal. *Talk when spoken to. *Anything he needs, get up and get it for him. *Do not touch food til he has began to eat. *Set him up in the livingroom. *Leave him alone while you wash...
    cwred523 cwred523 31-35, F 19 Responses Sep 18, 2011

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    Surrendering Is Saving My Marriage

    I've been "surrendering" for about six weeks. I accidentally stumbled across The Surrendered Wife in the "comments" section of a submissive's blog a few weeks ago. Someone suggested reading it if you want your husband to be more dominant. I was looking for advice to improve my...
    frogflowers03 frogflowers03 31-35, F 1 Response Jan 8, 2013

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    I Have Surrendered

    i am so glad i have found this site, i surrendered 3 months ago, things cant be better i cant tell people how happy i am, this change is the best thing that has happened to me, i have children i needed a way to feel a lot happier in my life i heard about this after watching a t.v...
    mel321 mel321 36-40 Oct 3, 2012

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    Surrendering Myself

    Though I've never read this book, I am in the process of becoming a surrendered wife. For the past 3 years since we've been married I've very much been bossy and b*tchy to my husband who absolutely does nothing to deserve it. He has worked night and day for the past 3 years to...
    girvingtree girvingtree 18-21, F 2 Responses Mar 4, 2013

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    Tribute

    To all wives, girlfriends and those seeking their HOH: As a HOH myself I want to say to all who have the Courage to stand up for what you believe: You are fighting a battle against misconceptions, lies, bigotry/prejudice and intolerance in an appeal to have the right to be who...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jun 25, 2011

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    "It Works", Said the Control Freak

    My husband and I have been married for 4 years (together for 8, total) and we have 2 children together.  Oddly (or maybe not so much so), I first noticed that there was an issue between us in the bedroom.  Where our sex life was fulfilling and fun, it had become a chore...
    AlleyOOPsies AlleyOOPsies 26-30, F 8 Responses Jun 4, 2008

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    I Am Learning To Surrender

    First day reading the book, I love it...Anything that can help me in my marriage is all worth it.I have read alot of stories and it all seems like my life.Now that I know it's help out here, I'm willing to do something about it. I want fire back in my marriage...
    ladyof4 ladyof4 36-40 Dec 19, 2012

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    I Surrender To His Will

    I love and adore my husband, giving him worshipful respect and admiration. I treat all men with respect and honor but above all men is my husband. He is the most magnificent man I have ever met, a man among men, a leader of men, masterful and dominant. I submit to his will...
    outofbiz outofbiz 36-40, F 3 Responses Nov 20, 2011

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    My Journey to Being a Surrendered Wife.

    When I first married, I was, I'm ashamed to admit, too controlling over my Husband. I wanted to know every detail about what he was doing, why and when. I supervised him like he was an incompetent idiot and I was his mother, I criticized him if things were not done the way I...
    RobertaSunset RobertaSunset 36-40, F 35 Responses Apr 17, 2008

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    So Wish I Would Have Obeyed

    I am usually a very good submissive wife. I get my fair share of beatings (usually deserved) but I learn from them and try harder. Obedience is something my husband (daddy) insists on and I am mostly good at it. Then this happened... The other day I lost my wedding ring. This...
    JosesBabyGirl JosesBabyGirl 41-45, F 1 Response Nov 18, 2012

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    1 Week In....

    Today I was catching my closest childhood friend up on our weekend and I mentioned to her a conversation that my hubby and I had.....It was spurred by the topic of his sister and her (soon to be ex) husband getting a divorce. Their pending divorce has really made things for our...
    PHelen PHelen 31-35, F 3 Responses Sep 12, 2012

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    Newly Surrendered

    I reluctantly picked up the book "The Surrendered Wife" at the library and honestly didn't even think I would open it up, let alone find it to be the best information yet in my search for help with my marriage. I read about 10 different books, desperately seeking answers to my...
    PHelen PHelen 31-35, F 5 Responses Sep 11, 2012

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    He Makes The Money, He Makes The Decisions

    I've completely surrendered myself to my hubby since he's the one making the money and putting food on our table. My hubby not only makes sure we're financially but also spoils me with nice clothes, jewelry, and a very nice car. To keep my hubby happy and secure about our...
    Jennyxoxo Jennyxoxo 26-30, F 4 Responses May 15, 2012

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    Two Steps Forward, One Step Back...

    I am cringing at my stupidity! What a lousy set back! Just when I thought, I had my behavior completely under control and had become the prime example of a surrendered and submissive wife, I managed to ruin it all in one single sentence! I had been bathing in the success of my...
    IQplusfun IQplusfun 51-55, F 5 Responses Jun 13, 2012

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    Trying To Surrender - Advice Needed

    Sorry for the length of this post. Appreciate anyone who can read and give me suggestions. I have been married for 5 years. We have 2 young children. I work part time (3 days a week), my husband works full time. We've been together for a total of 8 years. I have always been a...
    Katielsummer Katielsummer 31-35, F 4 Responses Sep 10, 2012

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    Open Letter To A Friend

    Dear Marie-France,we have known each other for more than twenty years, we come from completely opposite ends of the globe, our skin is of different color and we speak different languages, live 1200 km apart and sometimes don't see each other for a couple of years. But...
    IQplusfun IQplusfun 51-55, F 2 Responses Jun 6, 2012

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    The First Day!

    I had the book in my bookshelf for about a year now. I've been listening to Dr. Laura for a while and just slowly applying her advice as well. Now I finally opened "The Surrendered Wife" yesterday and started reading it. Wow, did I feel like I hit my head against a brick wall! My...
    squeakee squeakee 26-30, F 3 Responses Jul 3, 2012

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    Newly Surrendered Wife

    I'm very strong willed and like my own way, always thinking I know the answer. My mother brought me up immersed in the principles of feminism so I spent many years being angry and feircely fighting for my independence and for control. Relationships have always been...
    tashminda tashminda 31-35 8 Responses Dec 2, 2008

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    Hello

    I am sooooooooooooooooooo happy to have found you. I have read the surrendered wife many times. I struggle in this area and am so glad to have found you and I look forward to learning and sharing. :) st
    SiTed SiTed 46-50, F 3 Responses Oct 23, 2012

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    I Need To Step It Up

    I 100% agree with the surrendered wife book. But, at the moment I am home with a 1 year old and am just feeling lonely and want to feel more satisfied with what I am doing. How do I go from bored houswife to Martha Stewart. Is it laziness or just attitude?
    Kristabelle Kristabelle 31-35, F 7 Responses Nov 25, 2011

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    I Am Trying To Be A Surrendered Girlfriend,,,,anyone Else Out There?

    I have been seeing a gentleman for over a year now.  His goal is to marry a "pious, beautiful, and obedient woman".  I have read "the surrendered wife" once before when I was married.  I am now divorced and want to make sure I am doing the right thing this time around...
    javangela javangela 41-45 5 Responses Jul 17, 2011

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    My Lists.

    Morning: I will not nag. I will not control. I will give him my attention. I will listen when he talks to me. I am on his side. I will assist him. I will back him. I will complete him, not compete with him. I will respect him. I will honour him. I will be available to him. I will...
    IQplusfun IQplusfun 51-55, F 3 Responses Oct 26, 2013

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    Successful Businesswoman, Yet Surrendered Wife. Never Been So Happy!

    People see me as an independent, successful international female business owner and most would be shocked to know that as I have recently married, I've surrendered to my husband. Being an older first-time bride I, a research freak, insisted that my marriage would not be a...
    sandra007 sandra007 41-45, F 5 Responses Jul 24, 2012

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    How Do You Care For Yourself?

    I've noticed lately that my hubby has been a little annoyed with me. To his credit, I've been nagging and complaining a lot of the time. I've been trying to stop doing that for the past few days, but unfortunately he still seems to feel a little suffocated. I realized I need to...
    squeakee squeakee 26-30, F 2 Responses Nov 6, 2012

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    A Day In The Life Of A Surrendered Wife.

    i am 36 being a surrendered wife myself i would just like to ask how you spend your day??? it would be nice to hear from other people how they spend there days. i joined a page/ site the other day and i spent the night getting trolled but lots of people calling me a slave, among...
    mel321 mel321 36-40 1 Response Oct 4, 2012

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    Almost Finished Reading The Book For The Second Time - My Second Marriage.

    I love this book. I am trying really hard to implement it in my marriage. I was married for 21 years to a man who pretty much "surrendered" to me. It wasn't what I wanted at all, but I guess looking back I might have caused some of it, but he's just a really laid back guy. My...
    sewfurlong sewfurlong 41-45 2 Responses Jan 6, 2012

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    What a Man Wants and Needs In Marriage.

    This is a list of basic points supporting the concept of a surrendered wife and what she does for her husband:   1) A Man needs to feel strong and needed as protector for women, basically to conquer the beast and rescue the fair maiden.   2) He wants to feel that he is...
    RobertaSunset RobertaSunset 36-40, F 99 Responses Apr 19, 2008

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    Obedience And Apology...

    Posted this in a couple other submissive experiences too... Apologizing stems from a realization of wrong-doing. This has not always been obvious to me. In all seriousness, it has only been in the past four years or so where I realized that deflecting criticism or disharmony by...
    laserx laserx 46-50, F 5 Responses Feb 20, 2011

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    Surrendering.

    I have never read the book (where the term "surrendered" comes from), but it doesn't take rocket science to realize when one has found a kindred spirit, or that I don't find some value in the concept. I have always been submissive by nature, but only recently did I find a man...
    AmericanLeanings AmericanLeanings 31-35, F 2 Responses Aug 18, 2011

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    I Give to My Man

    women r meant to be loved not understood i wish that my man understood me but i really don't understand him all i no is i love him and he loves me we have a weird life but its r family at the end of the day
    MomaLibra MomaLibra 22-25, F 2 Responses Sep 6, 2008

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    Excited!

    I have just started reading this book and I love it! It amazes me how much control you get by letting a man be a man. Because of attitude changes on my part, he will want to please me more to shownis appreciation of my effort to bring harmony back to our marriage. I am so excited...
    Klt3shottie Klt3shottie 31-35, F 4 Responses Dec 15, 2010

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    6 Months... And Still Not Perfect!

    I realized a few days ago that it's now exactly half a year since I changed my lifestyle to become a respectful and devoted wife, who doesn't criticize, nag or control her husband. I was proud of my achievements and deliriously happy about how things have flourished in our...
    IQplusfun IQplusfun 51-55, F 5 Responses Oct 7, 2012

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    The necklace My wife my 6 yr. old son and I went on vacation to Miami as we are leaving the beach one day we see a street vendor selling necklaces of sharks tooth. My six year old...
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    I have fond memories of previous years with my wife, but in the last few months she doesn't want to help me with the simplest thing and we don't go have fun together either. We...
    wakeupdead wakeupdead 26-30, M 6 Responses Aug 17

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    My wife isn't really getting fat at the moment but rather has always been plump. She was only 5'0 tall and 190 pounds when graduating from highschool in 1993. By the time we met in...
    hsnpman hsnpman 46-50, M 4 Responses Aug 18

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    My wife Do you know my wife? Of course not I keep her in secret because she is special All men who lay eyes on her Will try to steal her but they will failed My wife is not like...
    broskidude broskidude 22-25, M 1 Response 3 days ago

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    "If in the dark we loose sight of love hold my hand and have no fear I will be here...as sure as seasons are made for change our lifetimes are made for years...I will be true to...
    rockypoly rockypoly 31-35, M Aug 13

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    Yes it all started five years ago when doing some shopings, i entered into a shoe shop and i saw a pair of red ballet flats in number 12! Of course i looked for an empty people...
    Bisbix Bisbix 41-45, M 2 Responses Aug 14

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    I don't really hate my wife. It's just that I don't love her like a wife any longer. She's just a roommate and we have a great division of labor. In our relationship, there's me...
    RoniHo RoniHo 51-55, M 3 Responses 5 days ago