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I Am a Surrendered Wife

For Wifes who Challenge Feminist Propaganda and Respect their Husbands in Support of Happy, Healthy and Loving Marriages. 439 People

    As the site is sadly closing do any of the

    members of this group want to start an email support circle outside EP ? If so please send me your email address with a brief introduction to: & I will start a list. If you prefer to maintain anonymity use a generic email address. Genuine Surrendered...
    namastelady namastelady
    51-55, F
    2 Responses Apr 1

    I am still in the process of reading The

    Surrendered Wife and have been implementing things as I go. There is one thing that I have some problems with though and that's the financial part. My husband is a wonderful man but when it comes to money he isn't so great, mostly because he wants to give me everything I want...
    tracy1976 tracy1976
    36-40, F
    Aug 1, 2015


    I have never read the book (where the term "surrendered" comes from), but it doesn't take rocket science to realize when one has found a kindred spirit, or that I don't find some value in the concept. I have always been submissive by nature, but only recently did I find a man...
    AmericanLeanings AmericanLeanings
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Aug 18, 2011

    My Lists.

    Morning: I will not nag. I will not control. I will give him my attention. I will listen when he talks to me. I am on his side. I will assist him. I will back him. I will complete him, not compete with him. I will respect him. I will honour him. I will be available to him. I will...
    IQplusfun IQplusfun
    51-55, F
    3 Responses Oct 26, 2013

    Am I The Only One Struggling?

    I have been with my husband now for 15 years. I would say that for most of the time we are happy. I started trying to surrender after seeing a documentary about the book many years ago and thought it described me to a tee!!! I bought myself a copy and slowly started following the...
    laila95 laila95
    4 Responses Jun 6, 2011

    I have newly surrendered (3 weeks).

    The thing is, I can't get over what my husband did before this surrendering process. So I want to share this and hear your opinions. We have been married for 14 months (lived together for 2 years before wedding). Before he proposed, I was mostly a relaxed and enjoyable person...
    Zeybi Zeybi
    31-35, F
    1 Response Feb 16

    Two Steps Forward, One Step Back...

    I am cringing at my stupidity! What a lousy set back! Just when I thought, I had my behavior completely under control and had become the prime example of a surrendered and submissive wife, I managed to ruin it all in one single sentence! I had been bathing in the success of my...
    IQplusfun IQplusfun
    51-55, F
    5 Responses Jun 13, 2012

    More Than 50 Shades... But Still One Basic Lifestyle Choice!

    I owe a lot of happiness to the book 'A surrendered wife', it also gave me a lot of insight into my shortcomings as a wife, which I tackled head on and it changed my life, my marriage, my attitude. What I however can't grasp is the fact, that we women, who are devoted to our...
    IQplusfun IQplusfun
    51-55, F
    2 Responses Sep 29, 2012

    So Wish I Would Have Obeyed

    I am usually a very good submissive wife. I get my fair share of beatings (usually deserved) but I learn from them and try harder. Obedience is something my husband (daddy) insists on and I am mostly good at it. Then this happened... The other day I lost my wedding ring. This...
    JosesBabyGirl JosesBabyGirl
    41-45, F
    1 Response Nov 18, 2012

    I am currently reading the surrendered wife,

    I've implemented some of the ideas leading to a happy relationship going from strength to strength. This book has good advice but i still get my husband's opinion on it before trying anything but it really is a game changer for the better.
    sweetangel20 sweetangel20
    22-25, F
    Aug 26, 2015

    I Have Surrendered

    i am so glad i have found this site, i surrendered 3 months ago, things cant be better i cant tell people how happy i am, this change is the best thing that has happened to me, i have children i needed a way to feel a lot happier in my life i heard about this after watching a t.v...
    mel321 mel321
    Oct 3, 2012

    Newly Surrendered

    I reluctantly picked up the book "The Surrendered Wife" at the library and honestly didn't even think I would open it up, let alone find it to be the best information yet in my search for help with my marriage. I read about 10 different books, desperately seeking answers to my...
    PHelen PHelen
    31-35, F
    4 Responses Sep 11, 2012

    I have just read the book.

    The surrendered wife. But how do i do this i dont know. Im a swedish woman with 7 kids. Living i a very small village. I have allways been tought by ny mom and friends to be strong and independent. So i run ny home by my iron hand. I have recently married the man of my life. He...
    Tuttan72 Tuttan72
    41-45, F
    1 Response Jan 18, 2015

    I Am Trying To Be A Surrendered Girlfriend,,,,anyone Else Out There?

    I have been seeing a gentleman for over a year now.  His goal is to marry a "pious, beautiful, and obedient woman".  I have read "the surrendered wife" once before when I was married.  I am now divorced and want to make sure I am doing the right thing this time around...
    javangela javangela
    3 Responses Jul 17, 2011

    Newly Surrendered Wife

    I'm very strong willed and like my own way, always thinking I know the answer. My mother brought me up immersed in the principles of feminism so I spent many years being angry and feircely fighting for my independence and for control. Relationships have always been...
    tashminda tashminda
    8 Responses Dec 2, 2008

    I Am Learning To Surrender

    First day reading the book, I love it...Anything that can help me in my marriage is all worth it.I have read alot of stories and it all seems like my life.Now that I know it's help out here, I'm willing to do something about it. I want fire back in my marriage...
    ladyof4 ladyof4
    Dec 19, 2012

    Hello Ladies, Just started reading the book

    and am excited ! A friend recommended it because of a financial situation we are in . With just a few pages of reading I already started feeling a relief of stress. nice group,hope to get to b part of it. Ali
    Alijofiny Alijofiny
    36-40, F
    Mar 31

    1 Week In....

    Today I was catching my closest childhood friend up on our weekend and I mentioned to her a conversation that my hubby and I had.....It was spurred by the topic of his sister and her (soon to be ex) husband getting a divorce. Their pending divorce has really made things for our...
    PHelen PHelen
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Sep 12, 2012

    6 Months... And Still Not Perfect!

    I realized a few days ago that it's now exactly half a year since I changed my lifestyle to become a respectful and devoted wife, who doesn't criticize, nag or control her husband. I was proud of my achievements and deliriously happy about how things have flourished in our...
    IQplusfun IQplusfun
    51-55, F
    4 Responses Oct 7, 2012

    success, power and happiness flowing to create

    a great relationship. not to be confused with subservience or submission - surrender has brought our relationship back to the place of "butterfly's in the tummy" when i think of him - we've 5 kids and plenty of stress, but this has been an A-HA! for me and Im so happy about it...
    emu1973 emu1973
    41-45, F
    1 Response Jan 2

    Good Day! I hope the weekend was good

    for everyone. My wife and I are just starting CDD, and so far we are seeing very positive results, and we have barely begun. We are jumping in with both feet this weekend with our modified "boot camp". I love, adore, and cherish my wife. However, see both want to glorify God by...
    Captkirkk Captkirkk
    31-35, M
    Aug 10, 2015


    I have just started reading this book and I love it! It amazes me how much control you get by letting a man be a man. Because of attitude changes on my part, he will want to please me more to shownis appreciation of my effort to bring harmony back to our marriage. I am so excited...
    Klt3shottie Klt3shottie
    31-35, F
    4 Responses Dec 15, 2010

    I am trying to figure out this book

    and implement these practices in my currently failing marriage. At the present my marriage is literally on life support and barely. My husband wants out because he feels our marriage is just not fixable. I'm a control freak who needs everything my way, as he has told me, but he...
    jeames jeames
    31-35, F
    6 Responses Aug 11, 2015

    A Day In The Life Of A Surrendered Wife.

    i am 36 being a surrendered wife myself i would just like to ask how you spend your day??? it would be nice to hear from other people how they spend there days. i joined a page/ site the other day and i spent the night getting trolled but lots of people calling me a slave, among...
    mel321 mel321
    1 Response Oct 4, 2012

    Surrendering Myself

    Though I've never read this book, I am in the process of becoming a surrendered wife. For the past 3 years since we've been married I've very much been bossy and b*tchy to my husband who absolutely does nothing to deserve it. He has worked night and day for the past 3 years to...
    girvingtree girvingtree
    22-25, F
    1 Response Mar 4, 2013

    Open Letter To A Friend

    Dear Marie-France,we have known each other for more than twenty years, we come from completely opposite ends of the globe, our skin is of different color and we speak different languages, live 1200 km apart and sometimes don't see each other for a couple of years. But...
    IQplusfun IQplusfun
    51-55, F
    2 Responses Jun 6, 2012

    What We Don'T Talk About. To You Wives And Girlfriends Who Need To Know.

    I have been reading some things from a few gals that worry me. So I wanted to put this out there for those of you who need it. You also have all of our support ladies.This is from The Book The Surrendered Wife.1. Do not surrender to a man who is physically abusive to you.Where...
    JennaR JennaR
    51-55, F
    9 Responses May 25, 2013


    I am sooooooooooooooooooo happy to have found you. I have read the surrendered wife many times. I struggle in this area and am so glad to have found you and I look forward to learning and sharing. :) st
    SiTed SiTed
    46-50, F
    2 Responses Oct 23, 2012
    namastelady namastelady
    51-55, F
    1 Response Mar 16

    He Makes The Money, He Makes The Decisions

    I've completely surrendered myself to my hubby since he's the one making the money and putting food on our table. My hubby not only makes sure we're financially but also spoils me with nice clothes, jewelry, and a very nice car. To keep my hubby happy and secure about our...
    Jennyxoxo Jennyxoxo
    26-30, F
    4 Responses May 15, 2012

    It's Transpiring To The Outside World

    People suddenly seem to notice: My husband and I are touching and embracing each other in front of others. We kiss before we separate or when we meet.We lock eyes to let the other one know, what we want and need and there is not a word necessary for communication. We don't argue...
    IQplusfun IQplusfun
    51-55, F
    2 Responses Jun 17, 2012

    Trying To Surrender - Advice Needed

    Sorry for the length of this post. Appreciate anyone who can read and give me suggestions. I have been married for 5 years. We have 2 young children. I work part time (3 days a week), my husband works full time. We've been together for a total of 8 years. I have always been a...
    Katielsummer Katielsummer
    31-35, F
    3 Responses Sep 10, 2012

    I recently read the book

    and am looking for a surrendered wives circle to give and receive support, talk through how we are doing etc
    namastelady namastelady
    51-55, F
    2 Responses Mar 16

    My Journey to Being a Surrendered Wife.

    When I first married, I was, I'm ashamed to admit, too controlling over my Husband. I wanted to know every detail about what he was doing, why and when. I supervised him like he was an incompetent idiot and I was his mother, I criticized him if things were not done the way I...
    RobertaSunset RobertaSunset
    36-40, F
    32 Responses Apr 17, 2008

    "It Works", Said the Control Freak

    My husband and I have been married for 4 years (together for 8, total) and we have 2 children together.  Oddly (or maybe not so much so), I first noticed that there was an issue between us in the bedroom.  Where our sex life was fulfilling and fun, it had become a chore...
    AlleyOOPsies AlleyOOPsies
    26-30, F
    8 Responses Jun 4, 2008

    Surrendering Is Saving My Marriage

    I've been "surrendering" for about six weeks. I accidentally stumbled across The Surrendered Wife in the "comments" section of a submissive's blog a few weeks ago. Someone suggested reading it if you want your husband to be more dominant. I was looking for advice to improve my...
    frogflowers03 frogflowers03
    31-35, F
    Jan 8, 2013

    Loving Life As A New Surrendered Wife

    I was raised to believe men and women were equal in every way. No man should ever tell me what to do, Every decision about my life was mine to make and no man was to ever have control of me. I married a man I fell in love with. That was 11 years ago. We had a great time together...
    thatmandygrl thatmandygrl
    31-35, F
    3 Responses Sep 15, 2011

    I Surrendered ... For Better Or Worse

    Had a relationship where I surrendered, it didn't end as happily or as fairy takes as it could be, but i dun now why, i enjoyed it. Guess some will just say I'm a fool, n its proof that what this book is saying is falsehood. But e truth is, i enjoyed it. Of cos there r mixed...
    clargal clargal
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Dec 24, 2011

    What a Man Wants and Needs In Marriage.

    This is a list of basic points supporting the concept of a surrendered wife and what she does for her husband:   1) A Man needs to feel strong and needed as protector for women, basically to conquer the beast and rescue the fair maiden.   2) He wants to feel that he is...
    RobertaSunset RobertaSunset
    36-40, F
    90 Responses Apr 19, 2008


    To all wives, girlfriends and those seeking their HOH: As a HOH myself I want to say to all who have the Courage to stand up for what you believe: You are fighting a battle against misconceptions, lies, bigotry/prejudice and intolerance in an appeal to have the right to be who...
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Jun 25, 2011

    My Husband Is The Boss

    I have always wanted a dominate husband. I met my husband two years ago and we instantly connected. He is 16 years older than me, and he is my world. We got married April 2010 and we are expecting our first baby (a girl) on April.3rd. I love being surrendered to him. He makes all...
    subwife88 subwife88
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Feb 7, 2011

    Unlikely Surrendering Success: a Feminist Perspective

    After years of trying to "fix" my husband and our marriage, I stumbled upon this book, misshelved in the aromatherapy section of a tiny bookstore.  I knew it was waiting for me to find it.  I read it immediately and began to "surrender", which I...
    Shamaal Shamaal
    4 Responses Jul 21, 2009

    How Do You Care For Yourself?

    I've noticed lately that my hubby has been a little annoyed with me. To his credit, I've been nagging and complaining a lot of the time. I've been trying to stop doing that for the past few days, but unfortunately he still seems to feel a little suffocated. I realized I need to...
    squeakee squeakee
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Nov 6, 2012

    Probably Similar To So Many.

    Facing nearly 27 years married, I wanted to find a way to strengthen our relationship. We've certainly been through it: Met on blind date, married three months later. Met our in-laws three months after that. We have two college-age children who are nearly graduates. He's nearly...
    goingon27 goingon27
    46-50, F
    Apr 8, 2013

    Working on surrendering

    after husband's affair. He's a good man and I didn't realize how badly my behavior was affecting us. Yet I'm having a hard time letting go of the affair. Any suggestions, encouragement, or advice? Thank you so much; don't know where else to turn.
    Ann5856 Ann5856
    26-30, F
    1 Response Jan 4

    New - Learning To Surrender But Having Trouble With One Lil Thing...advice?

    Hi everyone, I have been reading this marvelous book and am learning that I am certainly the controller in this relationship. We aren't married - we are commonlaw and together for two years in a blended family. I have no problem surrendering in all things to my man. He is...
    toohard2handle toohard2handle
    1 Response Aug 31, 2012

    I'm an unmarried man,

    but have read the Surrendered Wife book and it is a fantastic primer for women seeking to understand men, whether or not they are already married. I would love nothing more than to be married a wonderful woman who understands that male and female dynamics are different, but...
    TheRedTie TheRedTie
    31-35, M
    1 Response Jan 15

    Basic Principles...

    A  surrendered Wife: Relinquishes inappropriate control of her husband. Respects her husbands thinking. Receives his gifts thankfully Expresses what she wants without trying to control Relies on her husband to handle household finances Focusses on her...
    RobertaSunset RobertaSunset
    36-40, F
    34 Responses Apr 17, 2008
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