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I Am A Survivor Not A Victim

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    Is It

    I believe when can turn into victims only if we allow ourselves to. Everyone has "survived" something. I am who I am from the experiences, scars and all. I'm not going to change.
    random1581 random1581 41-45, F 2 Responses Jun 15, 2013

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    I Am A Survivor.

    I endured a very weak immune system throughout my childhood and teenage.My physical growth was effected because of that.I have seen my family abandon me.I was bullied for the majority of my life till now.I lost my father when I was 14 years old.I have seen people around me...
    Macrajat Macrajat 22-25, M 2 Responses Jul 6, 2012

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    Refuse To Be

    I've survived many things. I've survived domestic abuse, physical abuse, sexual abuse, verbal abuse, and many other things, but I refuse to be a victim. I am a survivor. I refuse to give those who have done things to harm me power by calling myself a victim.I am in control of my...
    RhombusInTheSquare RhombusInTheSquare 36-40, F 10 Responses Jan 18, 2013

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    No More Victim Card.

    i was reading this website by melanie tonia evans about N and i comes across the concept, where i need to take responsibility and accountability of my life, my feeling , my emotions, rather being the victim of my life problem. and today, i told myself, i am a survivor, not a...
    fien fien 26-30, F Sep 10, 2013

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    A Broken Puzzle, Slowly Being Put Back Together

    My name is Cassidy and I am a rape victim. Until recently I couldn't say that let alone say it to thousands of people online. I'm 17, and I was 16 when I was raped by my ex-boyfriend. Though its only been a year I am nowhere near the same person I was. I guess I'll start from the...
    CassidySuburia CassidySuburia 16-17, F Oct 20, 2013

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    I'm still putting myself back together; Slowly

    picking up the pen and the pencil. I'm wary of my own sketchbooks, after all, art is what led me to this failure. Why did I have to fall so breathlessly in love with science? Why did I pour all my passion into neuroscience? Why didn't I just do what everyone expect me to? Why...
    LisaLuxuria LisaLuxuria 26-30, F 2 Responses Jan 8

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    How I Almost Became A Murder Statistic But Survived

    Life has a way of molding and reinventing us as trauma, crisis and drama infuse our lives. But, underneath, at the core, is who we are. It's that short timeline from birth through school age. The beginning of our journey is when we form our preferences; learn faith, battle our...
    McCannT12 McCannT12 41-45, F 2 Responses Nov 26, 2013

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    Related Experiences

    Heart Cries and Feels the Pain I am sorry for the all the people who lost thr life in the plane crashes recently and in past. I hope the almighty gives enough strength and...
    wintersecret wintersecret 31-35, M 6 days ago

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    Remember When Taylor Swift Was The Victim? In many of her hits, she was the victim in her relationships. Nobody said anything about it at first. Then she went through so many...
    deadmoon deadmoon 18-21, F a week ago

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    I love survivor it's super cool and I would love to go on survivor but I'm Canadian :(
    ngoodfellow1799 ngoodfellow1799 13-15, M 6 days ago

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    Im now 9 years using the internet. I was trying to put my feelings on EP, other forums online, but i met rarelly any victims of abuse.Either they have shame to come out and talk...
    angel8i angel8i 31-35, F 1 Response Jul 8

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    I have survived many types of abuse through life physical, sexual, mental and emotional.... I believe these things have made me who I am today.. And I am truly stronger for it... I...
    mssst mssst 36-40, F 1 Response Jul 8

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    My mom had an abortion when I was 8 or 9. She told me how I was going to have a sister and then she got rid of it. It took me years until it finally hit me and I had survivors...
    Xander8905 Xander8905 18-21, M Jul 13

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    June 2002 - my cousin, who I grew up with and was close to, was suddenly shot one time in the chest at 4 AM... He was 26 and it was labeled suicide... He had spoke to his aunt that...
    DarkwingGoslyn DarkwingGoslyn 31-35 1 Response Jul 14

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    Starting at the 7th grade and lasting until the late 9th grade yearly 10th grade I suffered with depression and several suicide attempts. I thought I was alone..because you know...
    MacKenzie31113 MacKenzie31113 16-17, F 1 Response Jul 14

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    Or am i. Explored knives twice. Watched beetlejuice inbetween. Aborted both times. Why. Why. Hope maybe. Maybe. But society got worse. So why still hope...
    converted converted 46-50, M Jul 14

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    At the age of 4 my mother abandon my sibblings and I , my father did the best he could . He worked and he was an alcoholic . At the age of 4 I was sexually assaulted by to...
    sara75 sara75 56-60, F 1 Response Jul 16

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    I wish she instead asked, " Are a Child Abuse Survivor". It is a Statement. How she made it a choice for all. I was never ABUSED as a Child. My Abuse began when I was 35.
    paradisequeen paradisequeen 41-45, F 2 Responses a week ago

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    I was a sophomore in college and he was a senior. Something about him being older made it feel so right…he was charming, mature, and the life of the party type of guy. Not to...
    EmmaCollins EmmaCollins 22-25, F 1 Response 2 hrs ago

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    I was a victim of domestic abuse I was abused by my boyfriend would love to talk to some of you guys to ease the pain
    Prettybirds Prettybirds 13-15, F 5 Responses Jul 11

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    Never in my life would I have imagined myself being a victim of domestic violence. My boyfriend & I were perfect once upon a time, & things went so wrong so fast. I loved him, & a...
    HeartbrokenHeroine HeartbrokenHeroine 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 11

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    Part 2: Well it's now been 6 years. I am the crazy one and he is mr perfect to his friends and family! A few times we went out with friends and he was mr chatty to everyone but me...
    snw1980 snw1980 31-35, F 2 Responses Jul 18

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    It's unfortunate but these more often than not go unreported. I often think it's because of the stigma, and victim blaming. It's ridiculous how people are treated when reporting...
    merrygentry merrygentry 31-35, F 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    I was being raped for 4 years and this last time I had a rape kit done and my rapist is currently serving 900years in prison but I'm 12 weeks pregnant with his baby and I don't...
    rablst rablst 16-17, F 2 Responses Jul 20

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    I have survived alot abusive mother, sexual abuse in care homes, I have a back problem,my ex I found in bed with another woman and I'm still here. Nothing going to beat me.
    vampirish vampirish 46-50, F 2 Responses a week ago

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    I'm facing domestic violence since 5 yrs. My Mom was housewife and after sad demise of her it was my duty to do all domestic chores (being only lady in house) and study at the same...
    sad1hana sad1hana 22-25, F 1 Response Jul 1

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    It's going to be 7 years this year since it all ended after 3 and a half years.
    vanivoo vanivoo 16-17, F 1 Response Jul 1

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    My whole family is dysfunctional, My mums side you had... My mum bless her was an alcoholic, My brother was a druggie and alcoholic, Three of my mums brothers were druggies and...
    Gentleandlovingsoul Gentleandlovingsoul 36-40, F 1 Response Jul 1

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    I tried to take my own life a few times and each time something or someone stopped me. I don't regret it but sometimes the idea of not being like this is tempting. Sometimes I...
    Ninja20 Ninja20 18-21, F Jul 2

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    Done it too many times to count :/
    lonelinessneverfades lonelinessneverfades 13-15, F 4 Responses Jul 2

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    I woke up in a panic from my alarm because I haven't used one in a while and when I looked up I thought I saw a man standing in my room again :/ It was my blanket that is hanging...
    jackjack600 jackjack600 18-21, F 3 Responses Jul 3

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    Mom is still married to stepdad who molested and attempted to rape you(thank god Viagra hadn't come out)how do you handle? Do you see mom?
    graygrace graygrace 31-35, F 1 Response Jul 3

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    As I live in the midst of chaos. I understand that I must stay composed. I must not allow the sheer amount of idiots, and fools-THESE THINGS WHO CLAIM THEMSELVES TO BE INTELLIGENT...
    adamfducas adamfducas 22-25, M 4 Responses Jul 4

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    I left my abuser after 2 short years of marriage. He wasn't like this before we married, and I was widowed for 7 years prior to meeting him. He broke my nose in 2 places and it was...
    Marie1958 Marie1958 51-55, F 1 Response Jul 5

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    When I was about 5 years old I was rape by my cousin he was 13 at the time I was just playing when he told me to come here and o said ok he said do you want to play a game and I...
    prettykeke prettykeke 26-30, F 1 Response Jul 6

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    Three days ago, I came from that ******* hospital. I'd slashed arm, I was so close, I could feel my body starting to shut down, and my life throb away. I was so close to leaving...
    sadnessisbeauty sadnessisbeauty 16-17, M 3 Responses Jul 6

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    When I was 14, I was just walking around my neighborhood. Where I live is pretty safe and I walk around all the time. Nothing ever happens. I was with my neighbor, let's say his...
    jujubee16 jujubee16 16-17, F 4 Responses Jul 8

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    Well, I usually don't share much of my sob stories because I am beyond them. They do however define who I am today, because they have shaped who I am, and I am proud and happy all...
    Atelierdearte Atelierdearte 36-40, M Jul 8

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    It was last year, and it was the last day of school. I walked into my class, and it was crazy in there, and my former teacher singled me out of the class, and told me that I needed...
    HazelZoey HazelZoey 16-17, M 2 Responses Jul 9

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    Right after I was raped, the police kept asking me questions, and I was completely zoned out. In awe of what happened. And I can't emphasis enough how when people who haven't been...
    HazelZoey HazelZoey 16-17, M 1 Response Jul 9

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    Question: Have any of you discovered you had problems with intimacy now that you're older? For me, anything intimate is just.. Awkward, and uncomfortable and always has been for...
    n0ceur n0ceur 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 10

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    So here is my story all my life I seeked attention I wanted to be the cemter of attention : talking loud .acting dramaticly .fighting with teacher to make them noticing me born in...
    aryela aryela 18-21, F Jul 10

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    On 31 May 1989 I married a 19 year old handsome blue eyed hockey player I thought was my soul mate. My son was not quite 1. We were going to be together for eternity. There was a...
    IStillGotIt IStillGotIt 41-45, F 1 Response Jul 10

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    When I was 15 I was sent to a treatment center for teens. I was there for many reasons. First I had been raped and struggled with PTSD. I was drinking and doing pills to forget. I...
    jujubee16 jujubee16 16-17, F Jul 11

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    I'm beating Brain Cancer!!
    Bja1282 Bja1282 31-35, M 5 Responses Jul 12

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    I tried again a few weeks ago. I feel so weak.
    Crazydoctordunes Crazydoctordunes 22-25, M 1 Response Jul 13

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    I am still struggling to come to accept my scars. I was burned in a house fire when i was only a year old so teasing is all ive ever known.. I go to a burn camp where its me and...
    BurnVictor BurnVictor 13-15, F 1 Response Jul 13

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    Tonight I cant go to sleep because Im thinking about what happened four months ago... He grabbed my neck and threw me to the floor because I said I didnt wanna be with him anymore...