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I Am A Survivor Not A Victim

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 198 People

    How I Almost Became A Murder Statistic But Survived

    Life has a way of molding and reinventing us as trauma, crisis and drama infuse our lives. But, underneath, at the core, is who we are. It's that short timeline from birth through school age. The beginning of our journey is when we form our preferences; learn faith, battle our...
    McCannT12 McCannT12 41-45, F 1 Response Nov 26, 2013

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    I Am A Survivor.

    I endured a very weak immune system throughout my childhood and teenage.My physical growth was effected because of that.I have seen my family abandon me.I was bullied for the majority of my life till now.I lost my father when I was 14 years old.I have seen people around me...
    Macrajat Macrajat 22-25, M 2 Responses Jul 6, 2012

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    Refuse To Be

    I've survived many things. I've survived domestic abuse, physical abuse, sexual abuse, verbal abuse, and many other things, but I refuse to be a victim. I am a survivor. I refuse to give those who have done things to harm me power by calling myself a victim.I am in control of my...
    RhombusInTheSquare RhombusInTheSquare 36-40, F 10 Responses Jan 18, 2013

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    I have to say this is a story I have never told

    to anyone expect the one person I share this tale with. It is a hard story for me to tell and before you continue u must know it doesn't end in justice and over there is no happy ending. I was 12 when my mother became friends with a woman called Lucy, she had met her at the pub...
    DreamsOfALife DreamsOfALife 18-21, F Aug 13

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    A Broken Puzzle, Slowly Being Put Back Together

    My name is Cassidy and I am a rape victim. Until recently I couldn't say that let alone say it to thousands of people online. I'm 17, and I was 16 when I was raped by my ex-boyfriend. Though its only been a year I am nowhere near the same person I was. I guess I'll start from the...
    CassidySuburia CassidySuburia 16-17, F Oct 20, 2013

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    I'm still putting myself back together; Slowly

    picking up the pen and the pencil. I'm wary of my own sketchbooks, after all, art is what led me to this failure. Why did I have to fall so breathlessly in love with science? Why did I pour all my passion into neuroscience? Why didn't I just do what everyone expect me to? Why...
    LisaLuxuria LisaLuxuria 26-30, F 2 Responses Jan 8

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    Is It

    I believe when can turn into victims only if we allow ourselves to. Everyone has "survived" something. I am who I am from the experiences, scars and all. I'm not going to change.
    random1581 random1581 41-45, F 2 Responses Jun 15, 2013

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    No More Victim Card.

    i was reading this website by melanie tonia evans about N and i comes across the concept, where i need to take responsibility and accountability of my life, my feeling , my emotions, rather being the victim of my life problem. and today, i told myself, i am a survivor, not a...
    fien fien 26-30, F Sep 10, 2013

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    Related Experiences

    Victim"...I hate that word. We are not "victims". We are some of the strongest, bravest women to walk the earth. We are survivors.  We are not stray helpless animals, we are the...
    TriciaFL TriciaFL 36-40, F 1 Response Aug 29

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    I am an abuse victim survivor. And I think people need know that an abuser can be anybody. They can be black or white, male or female, mother or father. And anybody can be a victim...
    Inherownwords Inherownwords 31-35, F 2 Responses a week ago

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    I am a survivor of rape. I was a victim of an ex-boyfriend and he raped me in January of 2014. I need some support and all of that to get through this. It would be nice if someone...
    momoshep142 momoshep142 18-21, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    Its never love when he calls you a ***** or a *****. Because no respectable man would ever call his woman names, especially ***** or *****. Is he truly sorry for leaving scars on...
    Inherownwords Inherownwords 31-35, F 2 Responses Aug 20

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    Basically, recently, there has been a lot of interest in child abuse victims in my area. Outside my family, no-one knows about what my step-father did to me. I mean, the whole...
    gigglesounds gigglesounds 13-15, F 3 Responses Aug 26

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    My mom was really nice at first until we moved back to Florida from Georgia. Her and my dad were trying to work things out but she had a mental illness and bipolar. They say that...
    amersonjazzy amersonjazzy 26-30, F 2 Responses Sep 6

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    I still remember the time I tried, 5 years ago when I was 12. I popped 60 over pills into my mouth and tried to swallow them, of course eventually I did. I remember feeling sick...
    Verasayshi Verasayshi 18-21, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    I lost 2 members of my family while we r struggling to get out of our burning house , it was horrible .. It hurts that they didn't make it .. It's true we took them out of the...
    farnoush farnoush 26-30, F 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    Nobody is powerless. “Be not the slave of your own past - plunge into the sublime seas, dive deep, and swim far, so you shall come back with new self-respect, with new power...
    PurpleGlassPalace PurpleGlassPalace 26-30 1 Response Sep 5

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    I went back around the same time it's brought the side back the awful angry nasty side why for what? That place holds what scares me the most my nightmare It holds what should of...
    cailowe cailowe 16-17, F 1 Response Aug 25

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    2 years ago I was raped by a stranger while backpacking in Europe--I was alone at the time because I was en route to meet up my cousin that night. After a terrible night of doctors...
    imasurvivor411 imasurvivor411 22-25, F 4 Responses Aug 31

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    If anyone out there is survivor or going through domestic abuse and would like to talk or be listened to by some one who understands. Looking for understanding people who have had...
    tazygirl tazygirl 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 31

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    If you are reading this message, you too are a survivor. If you are not reading it, then you may or may not be dead.
    adianoeta adianoeta 26-30, F 2 Responses Sep 10

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    By the time I was 24 years old, I long ago passed that line between social drinking and alcoholism and, in that nebulous alcoholic fog and exaggerated egoism, smirked at relatives...
    cmmacneil cmmacneil 51-55, M 1 day ago

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    I. Am. I also want to state right here that not just Woman are victims of Rape. There are men, chidlren of both genders, and yes women. Please don't sterotype this as a thing that...
    Cassadilla1822 Cassadilla1822 18-21, F 2 Responses Aug 24

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    I feel like I have a sign on my head that says "hurt me". hurt my feelings, hurt my heart ,do whatever you want to me because it doesn't matter.I wish I could stand up for myself...
    ALEYXI ALEYXI 13-15, F 4 days ago

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    Hello, my name is Diane and I am a junior at Rutgers. After the recent news concerning Mike Brown/Ferguson and police brutality, and reading about the protests occurring in NJ, I...
    deekayyy deekayyy 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 18

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    I think about Janay Rice. I pray I'll have the strength to leave any abuser ... whether emotional, physical or sexual. I've done it before and know I am stronger because of what I...
    easynuh easynuh 26-30, F 1 Response Sep 9

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    In 39 years of living so far, I survived.... An abusive mother Broken left arm caused by my mother Rape Abusive relationship 2 surgeries 2 lumps removed Pulmonary embolus (thanks...
    EyeDontGiveAHoot EyeDontGiveAHoot 36-40, F 5 Responses Sep 7

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    My mother literally hates me and we are not close at all . I don't know how to tell her that I'm pregnant . The "sex" I had that resulted in this pregnancy didn't happen in a good...
    Unbelievable244 Unbelievable244 22-25, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    I haven't really figured out how this works but i guess i just have to write about it. Well. I remember being abused by my mother. I haven't really talked about it with anyone...
    leaskyy leaskyy 18-21, F 3 Responses 3 hrs ago

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    School started today and I'm scared i'll get bullied this year again...
    Naginion Naginion 13-15, F 1 Response Aug 19

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    The first time I attempted suicide was at 10, my ***** doner turns out had like 5 other familys and women on the side, and beating me and my mom. I broke a Christmas ball ornament...
    UnstableSammi UnstableSammi 22-25, F 2 Responses Aug 20

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    When my single mother couldn't make ends meet, I would pay for it in anguish. There was nothing scarier to me than the end of the month. I felt as though 'something wicked this way...
    cleartext cleartext 41-45, M 1 Response Aug 20

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    I have been raped 3 times by different guys. One was my dad when I was 3, then the other two were ***** guys. I didn't even know them. They drugged me and had their way. Only 3...
    UnstableSammi UnstableSammi 22-25, F 3 Responses Aug 20

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    No matter how much it pours - I will dance in that rain , at the end of the day , it's up to me to live to fight for another , for I believe , I can and will , I try , become...
    stephenrko stephenrko 31-35, M Aug 20

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    Two weeks ago I OD on my meds, not a very high dose, I hadn't been taking my meds for sometime and should have began at a low dose, but began at 600mg plus my other meds which lead...
    Lily449 Lily449 18-21, F 3 Responses Aug 21

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    Thankful I got out. If anyone has or had a similar experience you can message me. We can share our stories about how we got safe.
    Shermer Shermer 36-40, F Aug 22

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    I have always felt alone and i have never been able to share my story for many reasons ...the main one being severe trust issues... I hope that in time i will be able to share bits...
    cheekygirl21 cheekygirl21 31-35, F 1 Response Aug 22

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    I am 33. I met a woman online and we talked as friends for 3 or 4 years without ever meeting. Even though she lived only 30 miles from me. She had been diagnosed with "bipolar" and...
    bentsurvivor bentsurvivor 31-35, M Aug 22

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    I wrote a book that's being published: "Once The Storm is Over: From Grieving To Healing After The Suicide of My Daughter." I'm interested in connecting with those who have been...
    ninabingham ninabingham 46-50, F Aug 23

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    But I feel like it might win tonight...
    panikki panikki 18-21, F 2 Responses Aug 24

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    My dad started abusing me around 9. I never want to have sex. It's not something I ever want to experience with someone. How can I ever have a relationship that's more than...
    wanderinggrl wanderinggrl 26-30, T 3 Responses Aug 24

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    I was 12. Painfully shy,bullied at school,and the unfortunate child of indulgent yet narcissistic parents. Something sent me over the edge. Maybe I anticipated less than perfect...
    Joha0505 Joha0505 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 24

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    If you are upset or down or what ever this will make you laugh How girls fart Conceal don't feel How boys fart Let the storm rage on It's funnier if you look at the added...
    ameliapond999 ameliapond999 13-15, F Aug 24

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    I feel like I have more problems now that I've admitted to myself I've been abused, than when I was actually being abused. I'm in therapy but it's been a year already. I've made...
    wanderinggrl wanderinggrl 26-30, T 3 Responses Aug 26

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    I'm going to do this, ok. And I'm NOT going to cry, no. When I was 7 my father left us. I am a child of 7, the youngest, and the only girl. It was tough on most of us when my...
    gigglesounds gigglesounds 13-15, F 7 Responses Aug 26

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    Well, I can't remember when I was told that I had a twin. I can't even remember how I felt at that moment. All I know is that now, I get lonely quickly. Maybe it's because my...
    IslandGirlNae IslandGirlNae 16-17, F Aug 26

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    Today was the first day of school and i was really scared that the bullies would start today as they do every year. And my friend that lives far away told me it was going to be...
    Naginion Naginion 13-15, F 3 Responses Aug 27

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    i survived another day who knows what will happen tomorrow
    calimaro calimaro 18-21, M 1 Response Aug 28