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I Am A Survivor Not A Victim

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 220 People

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    I believe when can turn into victims only if we allow ourselves to. Everyone has "survived" something. I am who I am from the experiences, scars and all. I'm not going to change.
    random1581 random1581 41-45, F 2 Responses Jun 15, 2013

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    I have to say this is a story I have never told

    to anyone expect the one person I share this tale with. It is a hard story for me to tell and before you continue u must know it doesn't end in justice and over there is no happy ending. I was 12 when my mother became friends with a woman called Lucy, she had met her at the pub...
    DreamsOfALife DreamsOfALife 18-21, F Aug 13, 2014

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    I'm still putting myself back together; Slowly

    picking up the pen and the pencil. I'm wary of my own sketchbooks, after all, art is what led me to this failure. Why did I have to fall so breathlessly in love with science? Why did I pour all my passion into neuroscience? Why didn't I just do what everyone expect me to? Why...
    LisaLuxuria LisaLuxuria 26-30, F 2 Responses Jan 8, 2014

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    I Am A Survivor.

    I endured a very weak immune system throughout my childhood and teenage.My physical growth was effected because of that.I have seen my family abandon me.I was bullied for the majority of my life till now.I lost my father when I was 14 years old.I have seen people around me...
    Macrajat Macrajat 22-25, M 2 Responses Jul 6, 2012

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    No More Victim Card.

    i was reading this website by melanie tonia evans about N and i comes across the concept, where i need to take responsibility and accountability of my life, my feeling , my emotions, rather being the victim of my life problem. and today, i told myself, i am a survivor, not a...
    fien fien 26-30, F Sep 10, 2013

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    Refuse To Be

    I've survived many things. I've survived domestic abuse, physical abuse, sexual abuse, verbal abuse, and many other things, but I refuse to be a victim. I am a survivor. I refuse to give those who have done things to harm me power by calling myself a victim.I am in control of my...
    RhombusInTheSquare RhombusInTheSquare 36-40, F 10 Responses Jan 18, 2013

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    A Broken Puzzle, Slowly Being Put Back Together

    My name is Cassidy and I am a rape victim. Until recently I couldn't say that let alone say it to thousands of people online. I'm 17, and I was 16 when I was raped by my ex-boyfriend. Though its only been a year I am nowhere near the same person I was. I guess I'll start from the...
    CassidySuburia CassidySuburia 18-21, F Oct 20, 2013

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    How I Almost Became A Murder Statistic But Survived

    Life has a way of molding and reinventing us as trauma, crisis and drama infuse our lives. But, underneath, at the core, is who we are. It's that short timeline from birth through school age. The beginning of our journey is when we form our preferences; learn faith, battle our...
    McCannT12 McCannT12 41-45, F 1 Response Nov 26, 2013

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    I didn't understand that what was happening wasn't normal. It was part of my daily life, being touched, being forced to do disgusting things to him. The first time I was raped, I...
    NotSoAngelic NotSoAngelic 18-21, F 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    I was told by my uncle's friend that I should give this guy, I've known since I was 12 and didn't really like, Ilan "Reipie" Shane a chance to be friends. So I contacted him and...
    JessiAimee JessiAimee 22-25, F 3 Responses Jan 17

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    It's been 3 years since I left him. I am currently in a new wonderful relationship, but my past haunts me every single day. I've never reached out for support, and I worry that...
    Erika88o Erika88o 26-30 Jan 6

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    It's been 3 years since I left him. I am currently in a new wonderful relationship, but my past haunts me every single day. I've never reached out for support, and I worry that...
    Erika88o Erika88o 26-30 Jan 6

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    It's been 3 years since I left him. I am currently in a new wonderful relationship, but my past haunts me every single day. I've never reached out for support, and I worry that...
    Erika88o Erika88o 26-30 2 Responses Jan 6

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    So, as I wrote before I am in relational group trauma therapy for women who have survived childhood abuse. It is an intense program that I attend four days a week for three hours a...
    Etheros Etheros 46-50, F 2 Responses Jan 13

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    I Survived. I was never a typical male child, outgoing, adventurous, active in sports. I was more quiet, curious and sensitive. I didn't have a strong bond with my father. He was...
    bcvegas4u2 bcvegas4u2 66-70, M Jan 20

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    I am not a recent survivor. I left my husband a little over three years ago. In some ways I am coping much better than three years ago. In other ways I am not. The euphoria of...
    strongerwiser34 strongerwiser34 31-35, F 2 Responses Dec 30, 2014

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    I am not a recent survivor. I left my husband a little over three years ago. In some ways I am coping much better than three years ago. In other ways I am not. The euphoria of...
    strongerwiser34 strongerwiser34 31-35, F 1 Response Dec 30, 2014

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    I am not a recent survivor. I left my husband a little over three years ago. In some ways I am coping much better than three years ago. In other ways I am not. The euphoria of...
    strongerwiser34 strongerwiser34 31-35, F Dec 30, 2014

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    I am not a recent survivor. I left my husband a little over three years ago. In some ways I am coping much better than three years ago. In other ways I am not. The euphoria of...
    strongerwiser34 strongerwiser34 31-35, F Dec 30, 2014

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    I will not be a victim of my past relationships.... I will not be a victim of my childhood... I will not allow myself to be a victim of emotional abuse.... I'm trying to overcome...
    Orangerocket Orangerocket 31-35, F 7 Responses 3 days ago

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    ~THE ART OF EMOTIONAL ABUSE~ THE CANVAS How do you become the victim of emotional abuse? Why don’t you just get out? I've been asked “What did he do to you?” BRUSH STROKES...
    Breeziiee Breeziiee 41-45, F 1 Response Jan 4

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    Yes i am a very proud survivor of rape because i have been rape by three different men in my life. One is my own step father that my mother choose to married without talking and...
    Kelbug Kelbug 26-30, F 7 Responses Jan 3

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    Just a heads up, don't watch the new episode of Criminal Minds. I thought I was fine until JJ confronts her demon and he tells her he will always be there in the back of her mind...
    irongirl135 irongirl135 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 15

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    This story is my own, I’m not telling it to get pity but cause it helps to talk about it and I know it can help others in the same situation or who have been there…. This is...
    ocecas ocecas 41-45, F 3 Responses Jan 16

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    Being a survivor is something I embrace in myself. I could ponder endlessly as to why I experienced the trauma... and believe me, I have. But honestly, I've fought hard to put it...
    WithGracefulness WithGracefulness 46-50, F 10 Responses 4 days ago

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    I am a victim of physical and emotional abuse, I am 25 and met him when I was 19. As many people say, they are charming at first and seemed very clever and manipulative with his...
    Brightheart89 Brightheart89 22-25, F 4 Responses Jan 16

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    I have read story after story of people violated by transsexuals whom misrepresented themselves and became involved with members of their same actual sex. These victims became...
    PixieCutLover PixieCutLover 41-45, M 3 days ago

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    It's been 3 years since I left him. I am currently in a new wonderful relationship, but my past haunts me every single day. I've never reached out for support, and I worry that...
    Erika88o Erika88o 26-30 Jan 6

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    To put it simply, I'm a 19 year old suffering from anxiety and depression, I have an older brother who has been physically abusive, a younger brother who is autistic and I am a...
    CPJS CPJS 18-21, F 5 Responses Jan 9

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    Always the victim, and always turning me around. Glad I managed to get out and make peace, but boy was it tough...the guilt, the tears, the pain was all too much.
    Sophilu Sophilu 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 12

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    it's easy to blame the victim. Mainly because we have a tendency to blame ourselves. Also because to think of such an act is too much. Then there is "But we know him/her. they...
    littlesadone littlesadone 41-45, F 1 Response Jan 21

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    He hit me again. No he grabbed me by my shirt threw me on the ground kicked me punched me in my head flicked my nose drug me across the floor picked me up about 3 more times threw...
    lis924 lis924 22-25, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    I'M A VICTIM OF DV, AND I JUST REALIZED THAT HISTORY REPEATED ITSELF I'M LIVING MY MOTHER NIGHTMARE, RIP .
    shela61 shela61 46-50, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    I am a victim of child molestation, I was 11 or 12 years of age. My mother had remarried a nameless s.o.b. when I was 10. I never liked him, I always got a creepy vibe from him. My...
    breakingfree88 breakingfree88 26-30 4 days ago

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    I've been a victim for 3 years and I couldn't let go of him until last month... I've been too scared to bring up the subject of breaking up but I did it last month. I felt proud...
    tristful tristful 18-21, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    part 1: Almost 3 months ago I was held captive for 10 days in my ex boyfriends apartment. Ten days does not seem long but to me it felt like a lifetime. My ex boyfriend drugged...
    survivedoct20 survivedoct20 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 18

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    Just writing that title fills me with trepidation! Does anyone else have difficulty just talking about what happened? It is very difficult to find the courage to talk about it...
    brokenat5 brokenat5 61-65, M 1 Response Dec 30, 2014

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    My high school had a high proportion of Jewish kids, who seemed to be just like the rest of us, except that they got extra holidays in honour of their religious festivals. Jeff...
    amberdextrous amberdextrous 51-55, M 1 Response Dec 30, 2014

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    It's been 25 years ago I left the man who abused me. It took a while to become strong but I built a good life raised my son the best I could and had a successful business. My son...
    Truthsetsmefree Truthsetsmefree 61-65 1 Response Jan 2

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    a Girl with 40 small brain tumors has touched my heart. I want to know how long she has to live she's 16 and I want to know how much life she will be able to experience. I don't...
    matrixwolf matrixwolf 16-17, M Jan 2

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    My step brother raped me as a child. I just finally told my dad about two years ago. My mom always knew and never did anything about it. My grandmother who is dead asked if I was...
    hellokittysr hellokittysr 22-25, F 2 Responses Jan 3

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    I never thought that it would happen to me but it did. I was raped (i was unconscious at the time) by one of the staff members at a hospital that i was staying at (he was arrested...
    Horse10202 Horse10202 18-21, F 5 Responses Jan 3

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    I still remember an elder person in ma neighborhood using me for sexual pleasure. He used to keep ma hands on his d**k and made me jerk it.. I guess I was 4 or so at that time. I...
    a090109 a090109 18-21, M Jan 4

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    Poverty, rape, discrimination, bullying, you name it. Whatever life throws at me, I'm ready. Everyone is fighting a battle you don't know about, so be kind.
    takoyakisuki takoyakisuki 22-25, F 1 Response Jan 4

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    It stops with me. Yes, I was abused. Still am, and I'm 65 years old. I was watching an episode of Law and Order SVU, and one of the characters said it poignantly said that she...
    casualwear casualwear 61-65, M 4 Responses Jan 4

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    I was drunk and I hate it. My friends left the room abandoning me and the only sober guy was in my friends room comforting her because she was drunk crying no one was comforting...
    Forgottenflower Forgottenflower 18-21 1 Response Jan 5

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