I Am A Survivor Not A Victim

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 349 People

    No More Victim Card.

    i was reading this website by melanie tonia evans about N and i comes across the concept, where i need to take responsibility and accountability of my life, my feeling , my emotions, rather being the victim of my life problem. and today, i told myself, i am a survivor, not a...
    fien fien
    26-30, F
    Sep 10, 2013

    I'm still putting myself back together; Slowly

    picking up the pen and the pencil. I'm wary of my own sketchbooks, after all, art is what led me to this failure. Why did I have to fall so breathlessly in love with science? Why did I pour all my passion into neuroscience? Why didn't I just do what everyone expect me to? Why...
    LisaLuxuria LisaLuxuria
    31-35, F
    1 Response Jan 8, 2014

    I have to say this is a story I have never told

    to anyone expect the one person I share this tale with. It is a hard story for me to tell and before you continue u must know it doesn't end in justice and over there is no happy ending. I was 12 when my mother became friends with a woman called Lucy, she had met her at the pub...
    DreamsOfALife DreamsOfALife
    18-21, F
    Aug 13, 2014

    Is It

    I believe when can turn into victims only if we allow ourselves to. Everyone has "survived" something. I am who I am from the experiences, scars and all. I'm not going to change.
    random1581 random1581
    41-45, F
    2 Responses Jun 15, 2013

    How I Almost Became A Murder Statistic But Survived

    Life has a way of molding and reinventing us as trauma, crisis and drama infuse our lives. But, underneath, at the core, is who we are. It's that short timeline from birth through school age. The beginning of our journey is when we form our preferences; learn faith, battle our...
    Mcinacann Mcinacann
    41-45, F
    1 Response Nov 26, 2013

    Most of the time it feels like all I do is

    survive from one day to the next.
    savoy2 savoy2
    46-50, M
    Dec 1, 2015

    See a shark coming at you.

    ..stab your buddy then swim like hell.
    savoy2 savoy2
    46-50, M
    3 Responses Nov 7, 2015

    I like to this k of myself

    as a survivor and not a victim. the power of positivity : )
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Aug 29, 2015

    I Am A Survivor.

    I endured a very weak immune system throughout my childhood and teenage.My physical growth was effected because of that.I have seen my family abandon me.I was bullied for the majority of my life till now.I lost my father when I was 14 years old.I have seen people around me...
    Macrajat Macrajat
    22-25, M
    2 Responses Jul 6, 2012

    A Broken Puzzle, Slowly Being Put Back Together

    My name is Cassidy and I am a rape victim. Until recently I couldn't say that let alone say it to thousands of people online. I'm 17, and I was 16 when I was raped by my ex-boyfriend. Though its only been a year I am nowhere near the same person I was. I guess I'll start from the...
    CassidySuburia CassidySuburia
    18-21, F
    Oct 20, 2013

    We've all got our own ****,

    you, me and everyone else. The only way to make it better is to take responsibility, don't be a victim and fix your ****.
    savoy2 savoy2
    46-50, M
    1 Response Feb 17

    This is cross posted Many years ago,

    I was given an incredible gift. I had the honor to be a part of an event that was, for me, one of the most empowering, compassionate, healing outpouring of pure love that I could possibly image. Near the end of it, I was held in The Mother's arms while I sobbed, in a way I was...
    TruthSpeaks71 TruthSpeaks71
    41-45
    1 Response Nov 7, 2015

    Refuse To Be

    I've survived many things. I've survived domestic abuse, physical abuse, sexual abuse, verbal abuse, and many other things, but I refuse to be a victim. I am a survivor. I refuse to give those who have done things to harm me power by calling myself a victim.I am in control of my...
    RhombusInTheSquare RhombusInTheSquare
    36-40, F
    5 Responses Jan 18, 2013

    It's good to be brave.

    It's better to be smart.
    savoy2 savoy2
    46-50, M
    Nov 10, 2015
    savoy2 savoy2
    46-50, M
    Nov 19, 2015

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    HappinessBreathes HappinessBreathes
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    I'm a sexual assault survivor of many years ago it has now beginning to bother me why did I let him do it to me ?
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    randycham randycham
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    Oh, I'm a survivor. My whole life has been surviving.
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