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I Am A Survivor Not A Victim

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    A Broken Puzzle, Slowly Being Put Back Together

    My name is Cassidy and I am a rape victim. Until recently I couldn't say that let alone say it to thousands of people online. I'm 17, and I was 16 when I was raped by my ex-boyfriend. Though its only been a year I am nowhere near the same person I was. I guess I'll start from the...
    CassidySuburia CassidySuburia 16-17, F Oct 20, 2013

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    No More Victim Card.

    i was reading this website by melanie tonia evans about N and i comes across the concept, where i need to take responsibility and accountability of my life, my feeling , my emotions, rather being the victim of my life problem. and today, i told myself, i am a survivor, not a...
    fien fien 26-30, F Sep 10, 2013

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    Refuse To Be

    I've survived many things. I've survived domestic abuse, physical abuse, sexual abuse, verbal abuse, and many other things, but I refuse to be a victim. I am a survivor. I refuse to give those who have done things to harm me power by calling myself a victim.I am in control of my...
    RhombusInTheSquare RhombusInTheSquare 36-40, F 10 Responses Jan 18, 2013

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    How I Almost Became A Murder Statistic But Survived

    Life has a way of molding and reinventing us as trauma, crisis and drama infuse our lives. But, underneath, at the core, is who we are. It's that short timeline from birth through school age. The beginning of our journey is when we form our preferences; learn faith, battle our...
    McCannT12 McCannT12 41-45, F 2 Responses Nov 26, 2013

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    I'm still putting myself back together; Slowly

    picking up the pen and the pencil. I'm wary of my own sketchbooks, after all, art is what led me to this failure. Why did I have to fall so breathlessly in love with science? Why did I pour all my passion into neuroscience? Why didn't I just do what everyone expect me to? Why...
    LisaLuxuria LisaLuxuria 26-30, F 2 Responses Jan 8

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    I Am A Survivor.

    I endured a very weak immune system throughout my childhood and teenage.My physical growth was effected because of that.I have seen my family abandon me.I was bullied for the majority of my life till now.I lost my father when I was 14 years old.I have seen people around me...
    Macrajat Macrajat 22-25, M 2 Responses Jul 6, 2012

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    Is It

    I believe when can turn into victims only if we allow ourselves to. Everyone has "survived" something. I am who I am from the experiences, scars and all. I'm not going to change.
    random1581 random1581 41-45, F 2 Responses Jun 15, 2013

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    Related Experiences

    Heart Cries and Feels the Pain I am sorry for the all the people who lost thr life in the plane crashes recently and in past. I hope the almighty gives enough strength and...
    wintersecret wintersecret 31-35, M 8 hrs ago

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    I wish she instead asked, " Are a Child Abuse Survivor". It is a Statement. How she made it a choice for all. I was never ABUSED as a Child. My Abuse began when I was 35.
    paradisequeen paradisequeen 41-45, F 2 Responses 14 hrs ago

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    Remember When Taylor Swift Was The Victim? In many of her hits, she was the victim in her relationships. Nobody said anything about it at first. Then she went through so many...
    deadmoon deadmoon 18-21, F 15 hrs ago

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    Dont you think its strange as survivor to trust people after being abused? I know one naive woman who was abused all her life (i know her from videos) and she still has hope and...
    angel8i angel8i 31-35, F 1 Response Jun 26

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    Im now 9 years using the internet. I was trying to put my feelings on EP, other forums online, but i met rarelly any victims of abuse.Either they have shame to come out and talk...
    angel8i angel8i 31-35, F 1 Response Jul 8

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    I was abandoned and neglected. I was physically, emotionally and sexually abused throughout my whole childhood from ages 0-17. I was in Foster care and lived in 5 different house...
    katcard katcard 18-21, F 5 Responses Jun 28

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    I have survived many types of abuse through life physical, sexual, mental and emotional.... I believe these things have made me who I am today.. And I am truly stronger for it... I...
    mssst mssst 36-40, F 1 Response Jul 8

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    My mom had an abortion when I was 8 or 9. She told me how I was going to have a sister and then she got rid of it. It took me years until it finally hit me and I had survivors...
    Xander8905 Xander8905 18-21, M Jul 13

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    June 2002 - my cousin, who I grew up with and was close to, was suddenly shot one time in the chest at 4 AM... He was 26 and it was labeled suicide... He had spoke to his aunt that...
    DarkwingGoslyn DarkwingGoslyn 31-35 1 Response Jul 14

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    Starting at the 7th grade and lasting until the late 9th grade yearly 10th grade I suffered with depression and several suicide attempts. I thought I was alone..because you know...
    MacKenzie31113 MacKenzie31113 16-17, F 1 Response Jul 14

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    Or am i. Explored knives twice. Watched beetlejuice inbetween. Aborted both times. Why. Why. Hope maybe. Maybe. But society got worse. So why still hope...
    converted converted 46-50, M Jul 14

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    At the age of 4 my mother abandon my sibblings and I , my father did the best he could . He worked and he was an alcoholic . At the age of 4 I was sexually assaulted by to...
    sara75 sara75 56-60, F 1 Response Jul 16

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    I was a victim of domestic abuse I was abused by my boyfriend would love to talk to some of you guys to ease the pain
    Prettybirds Prettybirds 13-15, F 5 Responses Jul 11

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    Never in my life would I have imagined myself being a victim of domestic violence. My boyfriend & I were perfect once upon a time, & things went so wrong so fast. I loved him, & a...
    HeartbrokenHeroine HeartbrokenHeroine 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 11

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    Part 2: Well it's now been 6 years. I am the crazy one and he is mr perfect to his friends and family! A few times we went out with friends and he was mr chatty to everyone but me...
    snw1980 snw1980 31-35, F 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    8065 members in this group. And i thought i was unique.
    discovery5 discovery5 41-45, F 2 Responses 13 hrs ago

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    I always imagine what my life would have been and how I would be if what happen didn't happen..
    freedom16 freedom16 16-17, F 1 Response 13 hrs ago

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    My mom has 9 kids I'm the oldest I take care of them she went out one night and I was putting the baby's to sleep everyone was sleeping and me and my best friend was up talking...
    tamaraiwannaknow tamaraiwannaknow 16-17, F 1 Response 12 hrs ago

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    When I was a kid like 8, I was abused by a family member. I can recall the events of a few of the times of him doing the things he did to me. The feeling I felt during that time, I...
    boypanties boypanties 36-40, M 32 mins ago

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    I was being raped for 4 years and this last time I had a rape kit done and my rapist is currently serving 900years in prison but I'm 12 weeks pregnant with his baby and I don't...
    rablst rablst 16-17, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    I have survived alot abusive mother, sexual abuse in care homes, I have a back problem,my ex I found in bed with another woman and I'm still here. Nothing going to beat me.
    vampirish vampirish 46-50, F 1 Response 18 hrs ago

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    I was born with a brain cancer called medualloblatoma . At around three old I had the cancer removed followed by chemotherapy . Later the cancer came back . The doctors did full...
    ballboy24 ballboy24 18-21, M Jun 24

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    I have been through a lot, yet I smile a lot just so I don't make others worry.
    Pettraner Pettraner 13-15, F 1 Response Jun 25

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    42 years ago in 1971 I had a NDE due to an accident. I know we all have heard stories about what it was like, going through the light, seeing our bodies as we left. Taking a...
    LoveWillKeepUsTogether LoveWillKeepUsTogether 56-60 Jun 26

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    Still trying to survive despite more illness. I have conquered before and can do it again. It took a friend to realize again that even though my strength is waning like the moon it...
    CandleDancer39 CandleDancer39 36-40, F 2 Responses Jun 27

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    A singer pointed it out. Viet nam was bad. But so are local events. Events carry us through emotions. Society gave them all brownie points. Nam was legal. As is...
    converted converted 46-50, M 1 Response Jun 27

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    When I was 5 and then 7 I was raped by to different men I knew. It hurts me still. Sometimes I wake up thinking about it and cry randomly. I have so much built up anger and sadness...
    phoeb3778 phoeb3778 16-17, F 1 Response Jun 27

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    3 times now. skin, thyroid, and esophageal + 2 different other cancerous cysts on vocal chords discovered upon thyroid removal!!!!!!
    hotstuff08755 hotstuff08755 46-50, M 1 Response Jun 27

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    Nothing will ever stop me from going after my dreams. Life is too short to think "I should've" or "I could've". I truly do think that the sky's the limit, and will always try 99x...
    Islndgirl Islndgirl 36-40, F Jun 28

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    I was molested four times by my friends dad. Two people know. I never reported him. I don't want to. My decision. Please respect it.
    naturalnobody naturalnobody 18-21, F Jun 28

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    After I was molested I hid my pain , I buried it. I moved on. I have a boyfriend but I realized I focus on him on making him happy sexually and emotionally. I used to talk about...
    naturalnobody naturalnobody 18-21, F Jun 28

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    Just wondering, did you have an orga­sm? I am absolutely not trying to be insensitive. I'm just curious because statistics say that women or­gasm about as often from ra­pe as...
    DeadHeretic DeadHeretic 26-30, M 3 Responses Jun 28

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    Ok well it's wasn't rape. It was close. Four years ago ( I was 11 years old) my adoptive dad sexually assaulted me. I tried telling on him, but no one believed me. I was moved back...
    Bugs99 Bugs99 13-15, F 3 Responses Jun 28

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    I still think about it sometimes - and although I do, it doesn't mean I am not over it. I survived. It stayed with me but I survived. :)
    EmmaBrun EmmaBrun 13-15, F 1 Response Jun 28

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    Before I start my story I want it to be known I am a strong and capable woman, mother and everything else I am supposed to be. It took me a long time to be able to say that. From...
    cmdaniels74 cmdaniels74 36-40, F 2 Responses Jun 29

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    Almost two years in remission! Uterine cancer stage 1 B
    DanielleHolmes DanielleHolmes 22-25, F 1 Response Jun 29

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    I'm facing domestic violence since 5 yrs. My Mom was housewife and after sad demise of her it was my duty to do all domestic chores (being only lady in house) and study at the same...
    sad1hana sad1hana 22-25, F 1 Response Jul 1

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    It's going to be 7 years this year since it all ended after 3 and a half years.
    vanivoo vanivoo 16-17, F 1 Response Jul 1

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    My whole family is dysfunctional, My mums side you had... My mum bless her was an alcoholic, My brother was a druggie and alcoholic, Three of my mums brothers were druggies and...
    Gentleandlovingsoul Gentleandlovingsoul 36-40, F 1 Response Jul 1

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    I tried to take my own life a few times and each time something or someone stopped me. I don't regret it but sometimes the idea of not being like this is tempting. Sometimes I...
    Ninja20 Ninja20 18-21, F Jul 2

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    Done it too many times to count :/