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I Am A Survivor Not A Victim

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    I'm still putting myself back together; Slowly picking up the pen and the pencil. I'm wary of my own sketchbooks, after all, art is what led me to this failure. Why did I have to...
    LisaLuxuria LisaLuxuria 26-30, F 2 Responses Jan 8

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    A Broken Puzzle, Slowly Being Put Back Together - My name is Cassidy and I am a rape victim. Until recently I couldn't say that let alone say it to thousands of people online. I'm...
    CassidySuburia CassidySuburia 16-17, F Oct 20, 2013

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    Refuse To Be - I've survived many things. I've survived domestic abuse, physical abuse, sexual abuse, verbal abuse, and many other things, but I refuse to be a victim. I am a...
    RhombusInTheSquare RhombusInTheSquare 36-40, F 10 Responses Jan 18, 2013

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    Yesterday I heard my biological father, who I do not recognize as my father, sued me. For telling the truth. Every narcissist out there I know you don't see what you really are but...
    BloodOnLace BloodOnLace 18-21, F Feb 7

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    I always look for ways to be a good little survivor, because it's a jungle out their. You play the victim and you'll be eaten alive.
    KawaiiBoy KawaiiBoy 18-21, M Mar 7

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    No More Victim Card. - i was reading this website by melanie tonia evans about N and i comes across the concept, where i need to take responsibility and accountability of my life...
    fien fien 26-30, F Sep 10, 2013

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    Is It - I believe when can turn into victims only if we allow ourselves to. Everyone has "survived" something. I am who I am from the experiences, scars and all. I'm not going...
    random1581 random1581 41-45, F 2 Responses Jun 15, 2013

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    I Am A Survivor. - I endured a very weak immune system throughout my childhood and teenage.My physical growth was effected because of that.I have seen my family abandon me.I was...
    Macrajat Macrajat 22-25, M 2 Responses Jul 6, 2012

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    seitanist seitanist 22-25, F 40 mins ago

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    7 Years. Of those 7 years I was only happy for about 3 years. 7 years with a man who gave me so much joy in the beginning. Now it's like he lives to tear me down. To humiliate me...
    bmichelleb bmichelleb 26-30, F 6 Responses 5 days ago

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    Why did he take it all? I was not smart. I knew I was not smart because I was told that every day. Sometimes with words and sometimes it was said with a look or a certain shrug...
    NoDavid NoDavid 46-50 3 days ago

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    I am a survivor, after being in a relationship for 10 years with it turning violent after almost 3 years, I can say that I'm finally leaving. It's scary and I know its going to be...
    lavendershade lavendershade 31-35, F 4 Responses Mar 20

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    My story I keep asking myself when it all started. If there was a specific day or a specific event to be able to pinpoint when I started to loose myself. There is no day or...
    NoDavid NoDavid 46-50 1 Response Mar 22

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    Ode to My mother Calmly committing evil, impervious to the screams of her victim Methodical, business like, as though this is a task that must be completed At times smiling...
    Smilenbhappy Smilenbhappy 46-50, F 1 Response Apr 2

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    My dad is my abuser and I didn't know why I felt so dysfunctional until recently. My mom is amazing, and she is a survivor of horrible abuse herself so I never knew that emotional...
    katieowl katieowl 18-21, F 3 Responses 20 hrs ago

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    I am a survivor and will continue to be so. Robbed of my peace of mind and treated like crap, I lived through it. I can live through almost anything now. I would rather it had not...
    Thatredheadchick Thatredheadchick 46-50, F 2 Responses Apr 7

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    If you want to have some context as to where I am coming from with this post, please read my last entry here: EP Link … I can’t take it anymore. I really can’t. I think...
    UsernameEntered UsernameEntered 22-25, M 1 Response Apr 6

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    It was amazing! On the last night, it was perhaps the best night of my life!! Everyone was just praising Jesus, and then we were healing people. They asked someone who had back...
    daveislost daveislost 16-17, M Mar 16

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    Stage 4 melanoma survivor :)
    Ilovemykids77 Ilovemykids77 36-40, F 3 Responses Mar 20

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    I have deep hatred for the MAN abused me sexually when I was just a little kid. I was only 4-5 years old when this guy, this so called relatives sexually abused me. I din't know...
    nobodyn234 nobodyn234 26-30, M 3 Responses Mar 25

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    If by 'survivor' you mean that I'm alive and now an adult. It's a betrayal. The one person who is supposed to do everything but hurt you, inflicting harsh, ongoing, wanton pain...
    HumanKnownAsVictor HumanKnownAsVictor 18-21, M 8 Responses Apr 4

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    I was 26 years old when I got GBS. I was a new mom of a four month old baby girl. Before she was born I had taught 1st grade. The plan was to take a year off from teaching then go...
    mommabrick5 mommabrick5 46-50, F 1 Response Apr 7

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    Can kids or adult survivors of child abuse sue thier parents? The answer is complicated. The short answer is no. http://whatprivilege.com/abused-kids-cant-really-sue-their...
    Ishtaria Ishtaria 41-45, F 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    Unfortunately, the act of "emailing" him was further participation of the abusive cycle. Part 1 Destroying Healthy Communication My emails came about very early in the game, I...
    authenticexistence authenticexistence 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 20

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    Amen. I am a victim of it from BOTH ends. I was abused as a child and THEN abused my multiple partners. I survived though. And I live to tell about it so, Gods good.
    pinkkcotton pinkkcotton 26-30, F 1 Response Mar 20

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    Since I turned nine years old, I feel as if my parents started to get a lot angrier and more aggressive towards life, people, and at just about everything. I was one of those kids...
    ImagineA ImagineA 16-17 1 Response Mar 22

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    I am I victim of physical, emotional, and sexual abuse.
    Wishingtobegone Wishingtobegone 13-15, F 3 Responses Mar 23

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    I don't like to go back to this era & I chose to forget it all. I am 31 now but when I was 12-13 my older sister moved back into the house I grew up in & brought her boyfriend to...
    BlueEyes3182 BlueEyes3182 31-35, F 2 Responses Mar 28

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    I'm joining this group, not to take on a 'victim mentality' as the psychology folk would call it, but to share with others who have similar experiences. This is all for the sake...
    Buckley4U Buckley4U 36-40, F 1 Response Mar 31

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    I grew up with a mother who had a hatred for men. I was her only son out of 4 kids and I was the recipient of her anguish. I now suffer from PTSD and struggle with it every single...
    kpax81 kpax81 31-35, M 4 Responses Apr 5

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    I have PTSD because of it (well one of the reasons...). My father is the one who abused me and my family. He would beat my mom and sister. But he saved the worst for me. He would...
    dacraww dacraww 22-25, M 6 Responses Mar 16

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    My boyfriend died tragically on December 17th 2013. I didn't know how to go on living after that. I did not want to live without him. He was my soulmate. We were together for an 5...
    pinkmeyer15 pinkmeyer15 22-25, F 1 Response Mar 16

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    Time, time. Her mind stops time. During a beating, her mind stops time. Knowing she could count on time is what she held onto. Ability to stay composed, only his full strength...
    FreyjaInBattle FreyjaInBattle 26-30, F 2 Responses Mar 17

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    I have survived sexual abuse. It is as if my life was stolen from me. And now I want it back. I am determined to have it back. I know that the past can't change, but I don't plan...
    elenix elenix 31-35, F 2 Responses Mar 17

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    I once hit rock bottom where I was going to end it all. I couldn't take anymore I couldn't cry anymore I couldn't cut anymore I was so tired. No one can possibly understand that...
    nottheaveragegirl nottheaveragegirl 16-17, F 2 Responses Mar 17

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    When I was 19 I got married to a man I thought loved me. Two weeks after getting married he began verbally and physically abusing me. I tried everything to save our marriage...
    jencrock jencrock 26-30, F Mar 18

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    All right then. If I'm alive there's clearly still something left for me to do. I don't know what it is or how I'm going to do it given that every bone in my lower body are broken...
    sammyfallback sammyfallback 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 18

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    Part III i look at my past GBS stories... although brutally honest... which i tend to reserve for justme... so grateful to report the love of a few close, dear friends... of family...
    clgsassy clgsassy 56-60, F 1 Response Mar 19

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    I still love you dad, for some reason.
    shannonigin shannonigin 22-25, F 3 Responses Mar 19

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    My mom was going to abort me when I was 8 months in the womb. But the doctor told her it was too late. And now she still wants to abort me. :(
    KaitlynUchiha KaitlynUchiha 22-25, F 1 Response Mar 20

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    When I was 12 years old I tried to kill myself three times and almost died 2 out of the three times. When I was 13 I tried to kill myself multiple times and loss count. I am now 14...
    allytoledo allytoledo 13-15, F 2 Responses Mar 21

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    My step father beat me and my sisters and brother regularly as a parenting technique. I've held onto these horrific memories most of my life and it's affected my parenting...
    lonelyCPA lonelyCPA 36-40, F 4 Responses Mar 22

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    I was with "him" for almost 30 years. In the beginning I did notice that he was somewhat controlling. Also he could be manipulative. However in those times these actions were...
    Freedom425 Freedom425 46-50, F 1 Response Mar 23

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    Hey I need help. it's URGENT! My doctor was concerned in the past because my last blood test my thyroid was on the line. Not bad not good but she was worried it was getting worse...
    shybutkindd shybutkindd 13-15, F 1 Response Mar 23

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    It started when my mom married my stepfather. He would use any mistake I made as an excuse to punish me. The punishment was always sadistic compared to the silly mistakes a 4 year...
    Zacarabear Zacarabear 18-21, F 2 Responses Mar 24

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    I think that most of the things I allow sexually had to do with me being sexually abuse when I was younger I need professional help
    Reynastaxx Reynastaxx 26-30, F 3 Responses Mar 24

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    I was 15. I trusted someone I should not have and will have to live with the consequences forever. I was raped and became pregnant, but only found out when I miscarried after a...
    Astro314159 Astro314159 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 25

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    My story is not as bad as some of the others I have read. I was bullied through the ages of 6-12. For the most ridiculous reasons too. First: I have a big nose. : ) I'm sure you...
    hellcat88 hellcat88 41-45, F 2 Responses Mar 25

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    THE JOURNEY THROUGH THE LAND OF THE “UNIMAGINABLE STARTING OVER” If someone would have told me that I was going to lose my children a year ago I would have laughed. If...
    NoDavid NoDavid 46-50 Mar 26

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    Abandoned as a toddler, foster care, abuse of ALL kinds, growing learning, finding God, and true love, getting stronger all the time....life is now good.
    MaryB7 MaryB7 51-55, F Mar 26

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    Okay this very rare virus I contacted just over 26 years ago. Now I still can't get up from the ground in the sitting position without help. Do more exercise to strengthen your...
    JohnCrighton JohnCrighton 51-55, M 2 Responses Mar 27

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    I was raped several times by my stepmom's bf. But it was a bleassing in disguise of sorts. I don't like what happened to me, but it did get me out of that house and I was adopted...
    sadsarahg sadsarahg 18-21, F Mar 27