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I Am a Survivor of Domestic Violence

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    My husband of 19 years became depressed.

    I tried to get him medical help for 3 years to no avail. On my daughters 21st birthday he tried to kill himself by slashing his wrists the wrong way an drinking weed killer. When he went to the holding area for suicidal people, I took out an order of protecting. I changed the...
    crazygirl58 crazygirl58 51-55, F 2 Responses Jan 24

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    Escape From Abuse

    My story was front page news. You can read it at: http://www.newsregister.com/news/results.cfm?story_no=199195   I am AWESOME! Awesome stands for: Abused Women Everywhere Speaking Out Making Examples
    oinvu4uraqt oinvu4uraqt 31-35 5 Responses Jul 3, 2008

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    It has been almost 3 years

    now since I ran away with my kids from my abusive husband. The first year being free was the worst. It gradually got better but the memories are always there. I still think about it and suffer from it. The best thing I did do was get away. It is not easy but worth it. Freedom is...
    30STMJL 30STMJL 36-40, F 1 Response Feb 22

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    Broken Inside

    I sit here broken inside. Putting together the pieces of my life. Trying to cope with all of the pain Trying not to feel like I’m going insane All the blows to the face and mean words you said Made me wish with my whole heart that I was dead you broke me down and destroyed...
    breesusrocksmysocks breesusrocksmysocks 26-30, F 3 Responses Sep 10, 2013

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    What Is Fear?

    What is fear? It is not a stranger, for I have once played Fear in a game of chess. Fear harassed my 'knights' of will and 'pawns' of dignity. For each move Fear made, his sinister voice, whispering in my ear, "I will not stop hunting you," became louder and louder. Fear was...
    SelflessSheikah SelflessSheikah 22-25, F 2 Responses Oct 14, 2013

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    We grew up together. I met my husband

    when we were 6. We were married when we were 21... and when I was 22 and pregnant with our daughter, he started pushing me around. Shortly after we were married, I discovered that my husband had a pretty severe *********** addiction. It wasn't so much the content that bothered...
    Sizzlebizzlebear Sizzlebizzlebear 26-30, F 3 Responses Jan 31

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    Because (1) In (3) Is One Too Many... Help Me Put Something On the "Endangered Experience List"

    My name is EPJake.  Many of you know me.  Many of you do not. I am sharing a story with a very specific purpose.  I have been doing some research around domestic violence and abusive relationships.  I found a very frightening and very real statistic...
    EPjake EPjake 26-30, M 1 Response Mar 5, 2009

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    There Is A Tomorrow

    Hi Everybody i am a survivor of domestic abuse and i am now doing more than just surviving. I was a victim for 33years of physical (most of the bones in my body have been broken) mental, sexual and emotional abuse. I am asked "why didnt you leave" this comment makes me angry...
    sunrise58 sunrise58 61-65 3 Responses Feb 25, 2013

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    Please Read!

    Hi I am Miranda. I am making a presentation about abuse all abuse. To let people know they are not alone. If you would like to share your story please message me. You do not have to tell your name. Just your story. again if you want to help message me please. Thank you!:) You...
    NorthDakotagirl1997 NorthDakotagirl1997 18-21 Oct 4, 2013

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    Survior For Sure

    I was abused by someone that i loved so much. He and i had this relationship that burned so hot. I fell for him and we seemed to really be heading in the right direction.During the time of the abuse i fell into the pattern i did when i was  a child. Withdrawing into myself and...
    moonstar312 moonstar312 36-40, F 5 Responses Oct 7, 2011

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    I Am A Survivor Of Domestic Violece

    "I wasn't very excited at the thought of sharing my past with the world. I always hid behind my pain and acted as if life was great. My biggest accomplishment was getting out of my abusive relationship after 12 years. The downside was that relationship still haunted me and I...
    mytytyty3 mytytyty3 31-35, F 2 Responses Nov 22, 2013

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    hi to everyone is reading this.

    I don't know what is wrong with me at the moment but feel like I just need to tell what is happening to me and how I feel and maybe someone can relate to me and tell me that it is normal because I really dont feel normal at the moment. Im 19 and im in a relationship with a man...
    xhannahmuskax xhannahmuskax 18-21, F 4 Responses Apr 9

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    Surprisingly enough, I've never bothered

    writing about this. I met him, and I stopped writing, I stopped drawing, I stopped enjoying my life.. He gave me one great gift, one whom I love dearly. So, it started in 2007. I had just graduated, moved out, started college.. He was different, probably the stereotype of a...
    StrayMouse StrayMouse 22-25, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    I'm A Survivor Of Domestic Violence

    I lived with my ex partner and our kids age 3 and 2 at the time, he never was aggressive towards me, then 1 day he changed after we got engaged he started telling me I was fat and I didn't look good, but I'm a confident person I took no notice, then he started accusing me of...
    marjorie21 marjorie21 31-35, F 1 Response Sep 28, 2013

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    I Survive I feel again No longer numb

    or broken inside I feel again Wanting to live, no longer wishing to die I feel again I sing again A simple song of freedom and happiness I sing again Loud and clear for everyone to hear I sing again I smile again My son, my friends, my life gives me joy I smile...
    breesusrocksmysocks breesusrocksmysocks 26-30, F 3 Responses Mar 9

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    A few weeks ago I came to the realization

    that my ex-husband is on drugs and has been since the beginning of our marraige. Now that I have been out of my abusive relationship for almost three years, I am finally able to think so clearly and wonder how I never figured this out for over 10 years. I feel like the dumbest...
    strongerwiser34 strongerwiser34 31-35, F 2 Responses Apr 4

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    As a survivor of domestic violence from my

    father and an ex-boyfriend, I have become passionate about helping others who have had trauma experiences. Now, I'm doing research on how abuse/or no abuse may impact someone's attachment style. If you are African American and 18 years or older, I would greatly appreciate you...
    GooseOTL GooseOTL 26-30, F Mar 8

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    Love Hurts

    Tempers start to flare, two voices start to yell Insults fly this way and that way They have both had to many shots of scotch on the rocks She starts to cry she tells him its over because he has never Loved her, he could never grasp what it would take to love her because its...
    zen404 zen404 22-25 4 Responses Nov 25, 2013

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    I am. I've been known

    as a **** my whole life. I moved to Italy to get a new identity. I fell inlove with a great guy at that time. After a year of our marriage i was being slapped for looking to pretty to other men. He raped me and left me in the street that night with just my bra on. People just...
    MissMckenzie MissMckenzie 36-40, F 4 Responses Dec 24, 2013

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    Am I A Survior?

    My personal fan club. Always there to cheer me on, make it look like he was cheering me on. Everyone thought my relationship was fine. My husband worked two jobs, attended school functions, bought the kids gifts and willingly spent time with the kids. Everyone wants this...
    09Normal 09Normal 36-40 1 Response Nov 25, 2013

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    Domestic Violence

    My article on Helium.com Running into the bathroom slamming the door and pushing my body close to it so he won't get in. His fist pound the door like a drum demanding me to let him in. As the room falls silent, I slide to the floor in tears waiting for a sign that he has left...
    lija30 lija30 31-35, F 5 Responses Mar 14, 2013

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    Domestic Violence

    i was abused by my kids father during my pregnancy it has left me traumatized in the sense i will never built that type of relationship with a man again. When my baby was born i couldnt show my aggection i love my baby but it was so hard i dont know if it was normal or not now we...
    confusedgirl619 confusedgirl619 22-25, F 5 Responses Oct 2, 2013

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    How Do I Recover While Im Still With My Spouse?

    Its been years since the last beating i took at the hands of my spouse. Please read my abuse story to fully understand what im talking about. The memories of the hits from the belts and punches nd kicks and slaps are fresh in my memory like they happened yesterday. We are still...
    Wifey0904 Wifey0904 31-35, F 1 Response Sep 16, 2013

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    The Sign On the Bathroom Wall

    A few weeks ago, I would have said that my husband was a little crazy, maybe a little over aggressive, somewhat of a control freak. But I would have never said I am a victim of Domestic Violence. Years ago we attended a formal gathering at an event hall, and in...
    neverunderestimate neverunderestimate 26-30, F 4 Responses Sep 3, 2009

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    Lucky Escape

    When I met my husband he was so loving and gentle I never thought he could ever hurt me. After three years of marriage and the birth of our son he hit me for the first time, it was a slap across the face literally and shocked me to complete tears. I believed he was sorry and...
    Monkeynut1 Monkeynut1 22-25 Jun 19, 2013

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    My Bad Experience Made Me Stronger

    I have been seperated for nearing 2 yrs now have been married for 12 yrs and have 2 beautiful children.We had a very bad experience espescially me risking my life with an abusive and violent person. I helped my kids after i did my best to rid of the source of the problem to live...
    alikayley alikayley 36-40, F Sep 22, 2013

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    I am a Survivor Of Domestic Violence .

    . Yes I am a warrior living one day at a time .... Yes I have endured 8 years of Slaps punchs an bruises and sexual abuse .. I know through Gods grace he has given me another day to survive .. I looked for years for an answer of why would I love someone who would hurt me the way...
    jennz98 jennz98 36-40 4 Responses Feb 8

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    I Survived 20 Years of Domestic Violence

    I survived 20 years of domestic violence . i got the courage to leave in 2001 , it wasnt easy becalse he controled my every move i felted traped . and now 2005 i married my best friend and love of my life and iam very happyly married to my best friend donald he was my...
    lunnas lunnas 41-45, F 10 Responses Sep 3, 2009

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    No More Abuse

    I was in a relationship for 7 years with what I thought was a great man, until one day!! He had done everything right (in my eyes) up until that point. I had noticed certain signs before, but refused to acknowledge it. Like the jealously became to be too much. See I was an...
    completenwhole completenwhole 31-35, F 2 Responses Oct 14, 2013

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    Stayed To Long.

    I was abused by my parents. My dad molested me at a young age. After I told my mom he started raping me. He told me he was teaching how to love a man. Back then you didn't talk about it. I told several people they went to my parents and I would get beat. Then I married my first...
    bobbysgirl398 bobbysgirl398 51-55, F 2 Responses Jan 27, 2010

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    My Life Has Changed

    My life has changed so much in the past 4 years.... there where ups and downs, sometimes I was happen and it seemed everything was going to be ok. Then there was dark times, sometimes so dark I couldn't see and end. Now I'm getting better, I have a son who will be 3 in a month, I...
    M2bx M2bx 22-25, F 1 Response Oct 13, 2013

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    its crazy how growing up with abuse makes you

    think its ok....i watched my mom and dad treat eachother like enemies and the physical abuse i never understood it ...the hitting all the anger....when i got into my first relationship i had no idea what love meant .......i tried so hard to make my babies father happy but i was...
    warriormom89 warriormom89 22-25, F 1 Response Feb 19

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    Will You Be The Next Silent Witness

    A Silent Witness is a woman who has been killed due to domestic violence.  The Silent Witness organization presents life-sized red silhouettes of five women who died the previous year as a victim of domestic violence, and they are presented on the steps of our...
    silentwitness silentwitness 46-50 6 Responses Mar 4, 2010

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    I am not where I was yesterday .

    . Yes I still have a long road ahead of me being a survivor of domestic violence .. I pray and hope that I will never turn down that road again .. Staying strong prayed up an knowing there is a brighter future for myself ..
    jennz98 jennz98 36-40 Feb 21

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    Another Scream From The Silence

    Fool me once is on you, fool me twice is on me, fool me three times ...I am just a donkey.   It happened to me not only once, but twice: When I was 20 years old, I fall in love with a man 14+ years older than me.  We not only have the age difference, but also a cultural...
    deleted deleted 26-30 7 Responses Feb 26, 2011

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    Local Escapes Domestic Violence, Becomes Entrepreneur

    This is MY Story. Standing Her Ground... (reprinted from WNY Women in Business; December 2009) By Nicole Gawel Twenty-two years. That was the length of time Suzanne Perry was abused, isolated and estranged from her family, friends and the world around...
    SuzannePerry SuzannePerry 41-45, F 6 Responses Aug 28, 2010

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    A Childs Perspective.

    I saw my dad beat my mom once and that was enough to make me hate him. I was about 12 and I can remember it like it was yesterday. I kicked the door to their bedroom open and it hit him in the head as he tried to close it. He started shouting at my older brothers asking who...
    Scorpio1987 Scorpio1987 22-25, M 3 Responses Jun 5, 2012

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    Never again!!!!!!!!!!

    ! if he has a drinking or drug problem stay clear.
    torn2014 torn2014 31-35, F 2 Responses Feb 7

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    Hatred With A Passion

       When I was a little boy all I ever wanted from my dad was a hug and to be told that he loved me. Instead all I ever got was beaten and for most of the time I never knew why I was being beaten with a belt he would remove from his waist. I'll never forget one specific time...
    michaelraybaker michaelraybaker 46-50, M 12 Responses Apr 12, 2012

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    i moved to the state of nevada from my home in

    california for my fiance of seven years.. he once in a while would beat me up, but i never left, i was in love with him,.. november 23,2013 while i was sleeping he attacked me with a metal frying pan, he hit me with it several times in the head and face,,and then continued...
    DorthyMontes DorthyMontes 41-45, F Feb 9

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    I can truly say that domestic violence is more

    than physical. I can say that a husband can rape a wife. And I can say that I am a survivor. I am just getting out of a ten year marriage where the verbal and emotional abuse started almost immediately. And the sexual abuse soon followed. But it came on so gradually that I was...
    elizzy8 elizzy8 31-35, F 4 Responses Dec 30, 2013

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    My Dad

    I didn't attend the funeral, but I sent a nice letter saying I approved of it. - Mark Twain   And that's all i have to say about that!
    1Babe 1Babe 46-50, F 1 Response Aug 2, 2009

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    My Abuse Story

    well i have struggled with my worth since i can remember never feeling good enough. i met a man, got married to him at a young age, at first he seemed amazing , gentle man and than he changed . the fighting , it started off with name calling , verbal abuse than mental than the...
    Aweir23 Aweir23 26-30, F 2 Responses Mar 8, 2013

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    On The Other Side..

    As much as I had to share my nightmare story, my gradual climb back up, then the acceptance and step forward, I now feel the need to share my victory, I am now in a place in my life where: I am happy with who I am, can't remember ever having thought let alone said that... I am...
    simplylee simplylee 46-50, F 2 Responses Oct 5, 2011

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    After my family moved back to Diyarbakir in

    Turkish Kurdistan when I was 10 life went to Hell in a handbasket FAST. We moved from Cape Town,South Africa and we moved because we were being stalked by my alleged biological father.I was adopted off a black woman in Cyprus and yrs later the guy showed up claiming to be my...
    PaleEyedColored PaleEyedColored 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 19, 2013

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    Survivor!

    If my story could help even one person then I would be happy.I was 17 when I met the man met the of my dreams or so I thought....He was 19 and he was cute, shy and he seemed really sweet.I had a difficult childhood and I desired to belong so much and when he showed interest in...
    Survivor88 Survivor88 22-25 3 Responses Mar 11, 2012

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    Unwilling Witness

    I am an adult child of extreme domestic violence. My father was a mentally unstable person who should have been locked up. Instead my family endured his abuse. My parents divorced when I was in teens to everybody's relief but the scars will never heal. I now have a family of...
    goodegirl goodegirl 41-45 Dec 24, 2010

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    So this is an experience experiment,

    is it not? Have you ever been strangled in & out of consiousness with a 357 revolver loaded with hallow point rounds pressed against your temple? How was that? Did you call 911? Did they come or never come at all? Did no one come to help you? Did you survive? Are you a survivor...
    nikahole nikahole 31-35, F Jan 5

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    Its Not So Easy to Leave

    Twenty one years ago, I thought I met the man of my dreams.  He was handsome, worldly & very charismatic.  Our relationship was intense, exciting & passionate.  So when he asked me to marry him, I didn't even think for a second before I accepted. ...
    smileyone0329 smileyone0329 36-40, F 30 Responses Jun 27, 2008

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    I don't like to call myself a survivor,

    because I'm still trying to get out. I just know that I know what its called. When I feel like Im losing my mind I know the reality is I am , I'm suffering mental illness now due to 46 years of one for of dv or another. I just want a memory or flashback that could make me smile...
    vdm1966 vdm1966 46-50, F 1 Response Jan 14

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    Moving On And Feel Like Deer In Headlights: What'S A Survivor Do??

    I was in my relationship for approximately six years. No one can ever imagine what that time did to me unless you've lived through a similar situation yourself. I was lucky enough to get out approximately 2+ years ago and worked incredibly hard to manifest a brand new life for...
    hopeful61180 hopeful61180 31-35, F 3 Responses Apr 22, 2013

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    Related Experiences

    I am a survivor, after being in a relationship for 10 years with it turning violent after almost 3 years, I can say that I'm finally leaving. It's scary and I know its going to be...
    lavendershade lavendershade 31-35, F 4 Responses Mar 20

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    Violence against women is a crime... Men... We need to stand up and be real men... These women are our sisters, daughters, wives and friends... Take the pledge at White Ribbon...
    yeronlyman yeronlyman 41-45, M 1 Response 12 hrs ago

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    He was perfect from the beginning kind patient sweet. He moved in with me and I was totally in love he was my first true love. I ended up falling pregnant and it all started just...
    leeleelou leeleelou 26-30, F 5 Responses Mar 28

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    When I was little, my parents physically fought. And one day my dad beat me with a red plastic chair. I've had black eyes and bruises bc of him
    raykay1998 raykay1998 13-15, F 3 Responses Mar 20

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    Amen. I am a victim of it from BOTH ends. I was abused as a child and THEN abused my multiple partners. I survived though. And I live to tell about it so, Gods good.
    pinkkcotton pinkkcotton 26-30, F 1 Response Mar 20

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