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I Am a Survivor of Domestic Violence

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    Domestic Violence

    My article on Helium.com Running into the bathroom slamming the door and pushing my body close to it so he won't get in. His fist pound the door like a drum demanding me to let him in. As the room falls silent, I slide to the floor in tears waiting for a sign that he has left...
    lija30 lija30 31-35, F 6 Responses Mar 14, 2013

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    I'm A Survivor Of Domestic Violence

    I lived with my ex partner and our kids age 3 and 2 at the time, he never was aggressive towards me, then 1 day he changed after we got engaged he started telling me I was fat and I didn't look good, but I'm a confident person I took no notice, then he started accusing me of...
    marjorie21 marjorie21 36-40, F 1 Response Sep 28, 2013

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    He had gotten into my face

    and called me a b**ch for the last time. He had pointed his fingers in my face and, shoved me for the last time. He had told me to shut the **** up and, threatened that one day, I would meet someone who really wouldn't like what comes out of my mouth and beat my a** for the last...
    Mfudgie Mfudgie 31-35, F 2 Responses Jul 10

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    After only 1 month out of my abusive

    relationship with my ex-boyfriend, why do I care how he is doing? I want him to be well. To be helped with whatever issues that drove him to mistreating me to such extremes. I suppose I want him to be sorry for what he did - to be held responsible for his conduct and, most...
    lotusabloom lotusabloom 36-40, F 2 Responses Jan 19

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    Hi there, I was hoping some one could help me

    out with a situation so I can better support my partner. My fiancée in her last relationship was subject to domestic violence for several years. She has suggested that I could better understand what she went through if I was to talk to other people who have been through...
    tryingtohelpfiancee tryingtohelpfiancee 22-25, M 2 Responses Apr 26

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    On The Other Side..

    As much as I had to share my nightmare story, my gradual climb back up, then the acceptance and step forward, I now feel the need to share my victory, I am now in a place in my life where: I am happy with who I am, can't remember ever having thought let alone said that... I am...
    simplylee simplylee 46-50, F 2 Responses Oct 5, 2011

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    Hi there. Almost three months

    since we split. I am back to my home country (I had moved to his country to be with him). My family and friends are awesome. They support me a lot. But somehow it is not enough. I miss my ex-bf so bad I feel I wouldn't mind if he killed me, as long as I could just spend some...
    LilMinn LilMinn 22-25, F 1 Response Mar 3

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    I was in a abusive relationship

    for 2 years. I moved in with him and then the abuse started. He checked my phone, clothes every minute of the day. He was a cheater, liar and addicted to drugs. I was hit in public, infront of his friends and went to the police. No one helped. I knew if I stayed any longer, he...
    AbusedByYou AbusedByYou 22-25, F 6 Responses May 28, 2014

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    10 days ago is when I got my freedom.

    When I had first met M, I knew he had a history of violent crimes and a short temper, but being a spitfire myself, I thought it was exciting. I had always been the jealous type, so when we established rules of always being able to look at each other's phones, monitor...
    Adayatatime23 Adayatatime23 22-25, F 1 Response May 26, 2014

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    I did what I had to do.

    anything to avoid it. I guess I just got tired of it and saw no other way out. I could never leave you, I loved you too much. I was too weak for you. so I guess I set up this situation where you would hate me and leave me for good. I cheated. but it's hard to say I did because I...
    somegirl117 somegirl117 18-21 1 Response Dec 5, 2014

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    One memory in particular stands out to me.

    I’m not even sure why we were arguing. It’s actually pretty rare that I remember the cause of a fight. It could be over something as simple as how to properly load the dishwasher. We were yelling at each other. I can’t remember what he was saying, but he was smoking. I...
    emilyflys26 emilyflys26 31-35 Jun 24

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    It has been almost 3 years

    now since I ran away with my kids from my abusive husband. The first year being free was the worst. It gradually got better but the memories are always there. I still think about it and suffer from it. The best thing I did do was get away. It is not easy but worth it. Freedom is...
    30STMJL 30STMJL 36-40, F 1 Response Feb 22, 2014

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    Lucky Escape

    When I met my husband he was so loving and gentle I never thought he could ever hurt me. After three years of marriage and the birth of our son he hit me for the first time, it was a slap across the face literally and shocked me to complete tears. I believed he was sorry and...
    Monkeynut1 Monkeynut1 26-30 Jun 19, 2013

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    http://www.byui.edu/counseling-center/self-help/abusive-relationships
    amtired amtired 22-25, F Nov 25, 2014

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    From one relationship to the next.

    .. Almost everyone I've been with has been abusive, either mentally or physically... It's difficult to trust people. I guess that's why I'm on here. When it comes down to it, I'm looking at a screen, but I'm still interacting with people. It's easier this way to really connect.
    EmeraldDreams12 EmeraldDreams12 18-21 1 Response Dec 20, 2014

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    hello everyone, i hope you're all having a

    lovely day (: i'm not a survivor of domestic violence nor have i been in a domestic violence relationship, but i didn't no where else to post/ask for advice on this subject, i don't want to bring back any memories or upset anyone, i was just wondering what the first signs of...
    vikiii vikiii 22-25, F 7 Responses Feb 5

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    I am not a recent survivor.

    I left my husband a little over three years ago. In some ways I am coping much better than three years ago. In other ways I am not. The euphoria of being free and finally getting out has worn off. About a year after I left, I felt the entire world was open to me. Now I...
    strongerwiser34 strongerwiser34 31-35, F Dec 30, 2014

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    I'm going through a custody battle.

    But unfortunately I have very little evidence of abuse. Just a couple of people who saw the bruises. Has anyone gone through this? I'm in need of advice.
    taq1992 taq1992 22-25, F 2 Responses Mar 4

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    It's been 3 years since I left him.

    I am currently in a new wonderful relationship, but my past haunts me every single day. I've never reached out for support, and I worry that because I am still in the "victim closet" that my relationship will eventually suffer. So here I am. My new boyfriend knows of my past and...
    Erika88o Erika88o 26-30 2 Responses Jan 6

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    I can truly say that domestic violence is more

    than physical. I can say that a husband can rape a wife. And I can say that I am a survivor. I am just getting out of a ten year marriage where the verbal and emotional abuse started almost immediately. And the sexual abuse soon followed. But it came on so gradually that I was...
    elizzy8 elizzy8 31-35, F 4 Responses Dec 30, 2013

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    im alive and im grateful.

    but i went though hell broken bones, bruises, nasty remarks. i was so broken. 2 yrs later im finally able to start talking about it. i used to feel shame and it was my fault but now i know it wasnt my fault and i didnt deserve it. my mom beat me so abuse to me is normal. but...
    cooper3366 cooper3366 31-35, F 2 Responses Apr 4

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    My son's father beat me up

    because he believes my family called CPS after he dropped our infant son. He said I deserved it. 2 years later he still claims to "love" me but when I bring up being afraid of him beating me up again he says I need to let it go.. (we are not together by the wag)
    BlackSheep613 BlackSheep613 22-25, F 1 Response Jun 28

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    Hatred With A Passion

       When I was a little boy all I ever wanted from my dad was a hug and to be told that he loved me. Instead all I ever got was beaten and for most of the time I never knew why I was being beaten with a belt he would remove from his waist. I'll never forget one specific time...
    michaelraybaker michaelraybaker 46-50, M 12 Responses Apr 12, 2012

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    I am not a recent survivor.

    I left my husband a little over three years ago. In some ways I am coping much better than three years ago. In other ways I am not. The euphoria of being free and finally getting out has worn off. About a year after I left, I felt the entire world was open to me. Now I...
    strongerwiser34 strongerwiser34 31-35, F 1 Response Dec 30, 2014

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    Its Not So Easy to Leave

    Twenty one years ago, I thought I met the man of my dreams.  He was handsome, worldly & very charismatic.  Our relationship was intense, exciting & passionate.  So when he asked me to marry him, I didn't even think for a second before I accepted. ...
    smileyone0329 smileyone0329 36-40, F 32 Responses Jun 27, 2008

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    i was literally dying pasted out to wake up

    and c that the man i love so much punching and stomping me. once our baby cried i ran out the apartment while he had the baby. i held on to the car at a red light and begged for them to help me and the car took me to the police station and the station called me an ambulance.
    MedinaAbdul MedinaAbdul 22-25, F 1 Response Mar 28

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    A Childs Perspective.

    I saw my dad beat my mom once and that was enough to make me hate him. I was about 12 and I can remember it like it was yesterday. I kicked the door to their bedroom open and it hit him in the head as he tried to close it. He started shouting at my older brothers asking who...
    Scorpio1987 Scorpio1987 22-25, M 4 Responses Jun 5, 2012

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    Its never really over.

    Once you get strength & courage to leave theres still this unexplainable fear you have then you feel anxiety overcome your body. You feel like you cant breathe, struggling. Only time & prayer can heal you.
    rachelmg rachelmg 31-35, F 1 Response Mar 8

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    I am not where I was yesterday .

    . Yes I still have a long road ahead of me being a survivor of domestic violence .. I pray and hope that I will never turn down that road again .. Staying strong prayed up an knowing there is a brighter future for myself ..
    jennz98 jennz98 36-40 Feb 21, 2014

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    Local Escapes Domestic Violence, Becomes Entrepreneur

    This is MY Story. Standing Her Ground... (reprinted from WNY Women in Business; December 2009) By Nicole Gawel Twenty-two years. That was the length of time Suzanne Perry was abused, isolated and estranged from her family, friends and the world around...
    SuzannePerry SuzannePerry 41-45, F 6 Responses Aug 28, 2010

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    This story is part of my healing process.

    I thought I had beaten this years ago. I never thought about how much damage was caused by the men in my life. From the age of 4 things have been broken. Every abuse you can think of unfortunately I have experienced. But I thought I was OK. Then one day I started to take...
    valfree8121 valfree8121 41-45, F Feb 24

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    Will You Be The Next Silent Witness

    A Silent Witness is a woman who has been killed due to domestic violence.  The Silent Witness organization presents life-sized red silhouettes of five women who died the previous year as a victim of domestic violence, and they are presented on the steps of our...
    silentwitness silentwitness 46-50 5 Responses Mar 4, 2010

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    I am. I've been known

    as a **** my whole life. I moved to Italy to get a new identity. I fell inlove with a great guy at that time. After a year of our marriage i was being slapped for looking to pretty to other men. He raped me and left me in the street that night with just my bra on. People just...
    MissMckenzie MissMckenzie 36-40, F 3 Responses Dec 24, 2013

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    Another Scream From The Silence

    Fool me once is on you, fool me twice is on me, fool me three times ...I am just a donkey.   It happened to me not only once, but twice: When I was 20 years old, I fall in love with a man 14+ years older than me.  We not only have the age difference, but also a cultural...
    deleted deleted 26-30 7 Responses Feb 26, 2011

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    I'm actually scared to see the man face 2 face

    i need some men in my life i wont think about it as much..
    MedinaAbdul MedinaAbdul 22-25, F 2 Responses Apr 7

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    If you were to see me walking down the street,

    or in the grocery store, you would never realize that I am a survivor. The physical scars have healed, yet the mental and emotional scars remain. You see, I am a lucky woman. I am one of the fortunate ones, for I am survivor of 6 years of domestic violence. Those who have never...
    nuwbnprincess nuwbnprincess 36-40, F 1 Response Dec 16, 2014

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    CULT SURVIVOR I grew up in a evangelical

    fundamentalist group that was ran by my "Family". I escaped child abuse, neglect and the rise of a religious cult. I am finally willing to share my story. The more it gets out there- The safer I am. PLEASE HELP.
    DestinyChangesC DestinyChangesC 22-25, F Jul 9

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    I've always struggled with accepting

    that I have been abused. My mother was abusive and I cut her out of my life 5 years ago. My husband was also abusive. I never ended up in the hospital from being abused though. Barely had any bruises. I see images and read stories all the time from survivors that really suffered...
    littlegiraffe13 littlegiraffe13 26-30, F 1 Response Nov 19, 2014

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    Victim"...I hate that word.

    We are not "victims". We are some of the strongest, bravest women to walk the earth. We are survivors.  We are not stray helpless animals, we are the brave lioness. We endured the worst, we suffered, we hurt..yet we risked everything for freedom. We are survivors, not victims...
    TriciaFL TriciaFL 36-40, F 2 Responses Aug 29, 2014

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    We grew up together. I met my husband

    when we were 6. We were married when we were 21... and when I was 22 and pregnant with our daughter, he started pushing me around. Shortly after we were married, I discovered that my husband had a pretty severe *********** addiction. It wasn't so much the content that bothered...
    Sizzlebizzlebear Sizzlebizzlebear 31-35, F 3 Responses Jan 31, 2014

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    No More Abuse

    I was in a relationship for 7 years with what I thought was a great man, until one day!! He had done everything right (in my eyes) up until that point. I had noticed certain signs before, but refused to acknowledge it. Like the jealously became to be too much. See I was an...
    completenwhole completenwhole 36-40, F 2 Responses Oct 14, 2013

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    Love Hurts

    Tempers start to flare, two voices start to yell Insults fly this way and that way They have both had to many shots of scotch on the rocks She starts to cry she tells him its over because he has never Loved her, he could never grasp what it would take to love her because its...
    zen404 zen404 22-25 3 Responses Nov 25, 2013

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    Oh, by the way, I read this great book on

    Domestic Violence the other day "Beneath Dreary" (got it on google books).... Anyway if anyone knows of any good reads on the topic please share. Thanks
    AramatLynn AramatLynn 46-50, F Jan 25

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    There Is A Tomorrow

    Hi Everybody i am a survivor of domestic abuse and i am now doing more than just surviving. I was a victim for 33years of physical (most of the bones in my body have been broken) mental, sexual and emotional abuse. I am asked "why didnt you leave" this comment makes me angry...
    sunrise58 sunrise58 61-65 3 Responses Feb 25, 2013

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    I Survive I feel again No longer numb

    or broken inside I feel again Wanting to live, no longer wishing to die I feel again I sing again A simple song of freedom and happiness I sing again Loud and clear for everyone to hear I sing again I smile again My son, my friends, my life gives me joy I smile...
    breesusrocksmysocks breesusrocksmysocks 26-30, F 3 Responses Mar 9, 2014

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    I was a sophomore in college

    and he was a senior. Something about him being older made it feel so right…he was charming, mature, and the life of the party type of guy. Not to mention he was tall dark and handsome, everyone called him “Big Ben” because he was 6’5. I was a biology major, always...
    EmmaCollins EmmaCollins 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 31, 2014

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