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I Am a Survivor of Domestic Violence

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    20 Years On The Run-My late mother wanted to be

    absolute certain my brother&me would NEVER fall into the hands of our father. She gave us over to a friend who watched us for little of nothing when I was about 2&my brother 4 just in case our father found her he would not find us. In Germany at the time if parents were...
    IllusionWithGrayEyes IllusionWithGrayEyes 18-21, F 2 Responses May 6

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    m still here still breathing

    but I have been on the run from my husband since 2011. We were together for 12yrs since I was 16yrs old. We separated since 2010 we had 3kids. He was abusive to us all. He still tries to locate us I have had to move 5 times since 2011. its hard watching my kids adapt every time...
    LeeleXoxo LeeleXoxo 31-35, F 2 Responses Apr 29

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    Victim"...I hate that word.

    We are not "victims". We are some of the strongest, bravest women to walk the earth. We are survivors.  We are not stray helpless animals, we are the brave lioness. We endured the worst, we suffered, we hurt..yet we risked everything for freedom. We are survivors, not victims...
    TriciaFL TriciaFL 36-40, F 2 Responses Aug 29

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    The Sign On the Bathroom Wall

    A few weeks ago, I would have said that my husband was a little crazy, maybe a little over aggressive, somewhat of a control freak. But I would have never said I am a victim of Domestic Violence. Years ago we attended a formal gathering at an event hall, and in...
    neverunderestimate neverunderestimate 26-30, F 4 Responses Sep 3, 2009

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    A few weeks ago I came to the realization

    that my ex-husband is on drugs and has been since the beginning of our marraige. Now that I have been out of my abusive relationship for almost three years, I am finally able to think so clearly and wonder how I never figured this out for over 10 years. I feel like the dumbest...
    strongerwiser34 strongerwiser34 31-35, F 3 Responses Apr 4

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    You never get over it,

    you learn to cope then rebuild.. You never forget.. I will never foreget the feeling of sheer terror when his hands were around my neck.. The exact moment I began to panic as I tried to pull his hands away.. The day my sense of trust and safety were completely obliterated.. And...
    Memoriesremain Memoriesremain 26-30, F 1 Response Oct 7

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    Surprisingly enough, I've never bothered

    writing about this. I met him, and I stopped writing, I stopped drawing, I stopped enjoying my life.. He gave me one great gift, one whom I love dearly. So, it started in 2007. I had just graduated, moved out, started college.. He was different, probably the stereotype of a...
    StrayMouse StrayMouse 22-25, F 1 Response Apr 13

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    Its Not So Easy to Leave

    Twenty one years ago, I thought I met the man of my dreams.  He was handsome, worldly & very charismatic.  Our relationship was intense, exciting & passionate.  So when he asked me to marry him, I didn't even think for a second before I accepted. ...
    smileyone0329 smileyone0329 36-40, F 32 Responses Jun 27, 2008

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    I can truly say that domestic violence is more

    than physical. I can say that a husband can rape a wife. And I can say that I am a survivor. I am just getting out of a ten year marriage where the verbal and emotional abuse started almost immediately. And the sexual abuse soon followed. But it came on so gradually that I was...
    elizzy8 elizzy8 31-35, F 4 Responses Dec 30, 2013

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    I Survive I feel again No longer numb

    or broken inside I feel again Wanting to live, no longer wishing to die I feel again I sing again A simple song of freedom and happiness I sing again Loud and clear for everyone to hear I sing again I smile again My son, my friends, my life gives me joy I smile...
    breesusrocksmysocks breesusrocksmysocks 26-30, F 3 Responses Mar 9

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    I used to see myself

    as a victim but I know I'm a survivor but still feel trapped my ex abused me for 4 years physically mentally emotionally and financially cut me off from friends family I weighed a poxy 6 stone never had anything nice he constantly made me feel like I was nothing best feeling...
    MeganLouise1990 MeganLouise1990 22-25, F 1 Response Jun 17

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    I'm A Survivor Of Domestic Violence

    I lived with my ex partner and our kids age 3 and 2 at the time, he never was aggressive towards me, then 1 day he changed after we got engaged he started telling me I was fat and I didn't look good, but I'm a confident person I took no notice, then he started accusing me of...
    marjorie21 marjorie21 31-35, F 1 Response Sep 28, 2013

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    I was a sophomore in college

    and he was a senior. Something about him being older made it feel so right…he was charming, mature, and the life of the party type of guy. Not to mention he was tall dark and handsome, everyone called him “Big Ben” because he was 6’5. I was a biology major, always...
    EmmaCollins EmmaCollins 18-21, F 3 Responses Jul 31

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    Escaping My Insane Father-While mother was

    still pregnant with me she fled for her life and my brother's wellbeing from our father. Over two meters tall he had battered her, belittled,and intimidated her repeatedly over their three year relationship.With one baby in her arms and the other in her belly she walked out the...
    IllusionWithGrayEyes IllusionWithGrayEyes 18-21, F 1 Response Apr 29

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    Will You Be The Next Silent Witness

    A Silent Witness is a woman who has been killed due to domestic violence.  The Silent Witness organization presents life-sized red silhouettes of five women who died the previous year as a victim of domestic violence, and they are presented on the steps of our...
    silentwitness silentwitness 46-50 6 Responses Mar 4, 2010

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    My Dad

    I didn't attend the funeral, but I sent a nice letter saying I approved of it. - Mark Twain   And that's all i have to say about that!
    1Babe 1Babe 46-50, F 1 Response Aug 2, 2009

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    Escape From Abuse

    My story was front page news. You can read it at: http://www.newsregister.com/news/results.cfm?story_no=199195   I am AWESOME! Awesome stands for: Abused Women Everywhere Speaking Out Making Examples
    oinvu4uraqt oinvu4uraqt 31-35 5 Responses Jul 3, 2008

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    Want to share a bit of my story with Domestic

    violence: Well I had joined a dating website and met a guy in April 2011 and the first time we met we drank all night smoking marijuana and it proceeded to sex. He was going through a struggle with prescription pills and when we woke up he was pressuring me to go to the clinic...
    jlam123 jlam123 22-25, F 1 Response Sep 1

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    its crazy how growing up with abuse makes you

    think its ok....i watched my mom and dad treat eachother like enemies and the physical abuse i never understood it ...the hitting all the anger....when i got into my first relationship i had no idea what love meant .......i tried so hard to make my babies father happy but i was...
    warriormom89 warriormom89 22-25, F 1 Response Feb 19

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    Domestic Violence

    My article on Helium.com Running into the bathroom slamming the door and pushing my body close to it so he won't get in. His fist pound the door like a drum demanding me to let him in. As the room falls silent, I slide to the floor in tears waiting for a sign that he has left...
    lija30 lija30 31-35, F 6 Responses Mar 14, 2013

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    I'm facing domestic violence

    since 5 yrs. My Mom was housewife and after sad demise of her it was my duty to do all domestic chores (being only lady in house) and study at the same time as I was in 12th std then. Dad and brother always taking me as granted for getting done all the work inside the home...
    sad1hana sad1hana 22-25, F 1 Response Jul 1

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    It has been almost 3 years

    now since I ran away with my kids from my abusive husband. The first year being free was the worst. It gradually got better but the memories are always there. I still think about it and suffer from it. The best thing I did do was get away. It is not easy but worth it. Freedom is...
    30STMJL 30STMJL 36-40, F 1 Response Feb 22

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    I left my abuser after 2 short years of

    marriage. He wasn't like this before we married, and I was widowed for 7 years prior to meeting him. He broke my nose in 2 places and it was the final blow, I am in treatment for a brain tumor and he would hit me in the head saying he doesn't care and wanted no part of my...
    Marie1958 Marie1958 56-60, F 1 Response Jul 5

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    If anyone out there is survivor

    or going through domestic abuse and would like to talk or be listened to by some one who understands. Looking for understanding people who have had similar experiences and how they learned to cope. X
    tazygirl tazygirl 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 31

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    Lucky Escape

    When I met my husband he was so loving and gentle I never thought he could ever hurt me. After three years of marriage and the birth of our son he hit me for the first time, it was a slap across the face literally and shocked me to complete tears. I believed he was sorry and...
    Monkeynut1 Monkeynut1 22-25 Jun 19, 2013

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    10 days ago is when I got my freedom.

    When I had first met M, I knew he had a history of violent crimes and a short temper, but being a spitfire myself, I thought it was exciting. I had always been the jealous type, so when we established rules of always being able to look at each other's phones, monitor...
    Adayatatime23 Adayatatime23 22-25, F 1 Response May 26

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    Hatred With A Passion

       When I was a little boy all I ever wanted from my dad was a hug and to be told that he loved me. Instead all I ever got was beaten and for most of the time I never knew why I was being beaten with a belt he would remove from his waist. I'll never forget one specific time...
    michaelraybaker michaelraybaker 46-50, M 11 Responses Apr 12, 2012

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    I was in an abusive relationship

    for two years. I stayed because I moved across the country to be with a boyfriend and the only people I knew were his friends. When I finally tried to tell others about the abuse, my boyfriend said I was lying and overreacting. I became the bad guy. He told others that I was...
    jlkelly01 jlkelly01 31-35, F 2 Responses Sep 17

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    i moved to the state of nevada from my home in

    california for my fiance of seven years.. he once in a while would beat me up, but i never left, i was in love with him,.. november 23,2013 while i was sleeping he attacked me with a metal frying pan, he hit me with it several times in the head and face,,and then continued...
    DorthyMontes DorthyMontes 41-45, F Feb 9

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    No More Abuse

    I was in a relationship for 7 years with what I thought was a great man, until one day!! He had done everything right (in my eyes) up until that point. I had noticed certain signs before, but refused to acknowledge it. Like the jealously became to be too much. See I was an...
    completenwhole completenwhole 36-40, F 2 Responses Oct 14, 2013

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    I am proud to say that I am a survivor of

    domestic violence, but what most people don't understand that your battle is still not over. It's been approximately three years since I left my ex who would abuse me mentally and physically. The scenario replays in my head all the time. It even has affected me in my recent...
    yessika23 yessika23 22-25, F 2 Responses Oct 9

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    Another Scream From The Silence

    Fool me once is on you, fool me twice is on me, fool me three times ...I am just a donkey.   It happened to me not only once, but twice: When I was 20 years old, I fall in love with a man 14+ years older than me.  We not only have the age difference, but also a cultural...
    deleted deleted 26-30 7 Responses Feb 26, 2011

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    Because (1) In (3) Is One Too Many... Help Me Put Something On the "Endangered Experience List"

    My name is EPJake.  Many of you know me.  Many of you do not. I am sharing a story with a very specific purpose.  I have been doing some research around domestic violence and abusive relationships.  I found a very frightening and very real statistic...
    EPjake EPjake 26-30, M 1 Response Mar 5, 2009

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    My ex, in the past couple years.

    .. Has choked me. Slapped me, fractured my ribs.. Threw me across the room. . kicked me. And that was only the physical violence part of it all.... He was EXTREMELY emotionally abusive. Cuz he knows it has no evidence in a police report to just verbally assault someone.
    amtired amtired 22-25 13 Responses Jul 27

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    I am not where I was yesterday .

    . Yes I still have a long road ahead of me being a survivor of domestic violence .. I pray and hope that I will never turn down that road again .. Staying strong prayed up an knowing there is a brighter future for myself ..
    jennz98 jennz98 36-40 Feb 21

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    We grew up together. I met my husband

    when we were 6. We were married when we were 21... and when I was 22 and pregnant with our daughter, he started pushing me around. Shortly after we were married, I discovered that my husband had a pretty severe *********** addiction. It wasn't so much the content that bothered...
    Sizzlebizzlebear Sizzlebizzlebear 26-30, F 3 Responses Jan 31

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    What Is Fear?

    What is fear? It is not a stranger, for I have once played Fear in a game of chess. Fear harassed my 'knights' of will and 'pawns' of dignity. For each move Fear made, his sinister voice, whispering in my ear, "I will not stop hunting you," became louder and louder. Fear was...
    SelflessSheikah SelflessSheikah 22-25, F 1 Response Oct 14, 2013

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    I was in a abusive relationship

    for 2 years. I moved in with him and then the abuse started. He checked my phone, clothes every minute of the day. He was a cheater, liar and addicted to drugs. I was hit in public, infront of his friends and went to the police. No one helped. I knew if I stayed any longer, he...
    AbusedByYou AbusedByYou 22-25, F 6 Responses May 28

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    On The Other Side..

    As much as I had to share my nightmare story, my gradual climb back up, then the acceptance and step forward, I now feel the need to share my victory, I am now in a place in my life where: I am happy with who I am, can't remember ever having thought let alone said that... I am...
    simplylee simplylee 46-50, F 2 Responses Oct 5, 2011

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    There Is A Tomorrow

    Hi Everybody i am a survivor of domestic abuse and i am now doing more than just surviving. I was a victim for 33years of physical (most of the bones in my body have been broken) mental, sexual and emotional abuse. I am asked "why didnt you leave" this comment makes me angry...
    sunrise58 sunrise58 61-65 3 Responses Feb 25, 2013

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    My Abuse Story

    well i have struggled with my worth since i can remember never feeling good enough. i met a man, got married to him at a young age, at first he seemed amazing , gentle man and than he changed . the fighting , it started off with name calling , verbal abuse than mental than the...
    Aweir23 Aweir23 26-30, F 2 Responses Mar 8, 2013

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    Love Hurts

    Tempers start to flare, two voices start to yell Insults fly this way and that way They have both had to many shots of scotch on the rocks She starts to cry she tells him its over because he has never Loved her, he could never grasp what it would take to love her because its...
    zen404 zen404 22-25 3 Responses Nov 25, 2013

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    15 Years of Hell Part 2- We were flown to Texas

    where we had lived previously,but I knew that was the 1st place my husband would look! Through a group that helps battered women and children abroad we quickly moved on to Nebraska. Settled there in late January 2001 I had retained an attorney February 1 to serve my husband with...
    SexiestChocolate SexiestChocolate 41-45, F Oct 9

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    As a survivor of domestic violence from my

    father and an ex-boyfriend, I have become passionate about helping others who have had trauma experiences. Now, I'm doing research on how abuse/or no abuse may impact someone's attachment style. If you are African American and 18 years or older, I would greatly appreciate you...
    GooseOTL GooseOTL 26-30, F Mar 8

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    I can relate this experience to the saying,

    "If you can only feel the pain you've caused!"
    iEPeace iEPeace 26-30, F 1 Response May 2

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    A Childs Perspective.

    I saw my dad beat my mom once and that was enough to make me hate him. I was about 12 and I can remember it like it was yesterday. I kicked the door to their bedroom open and it hit him in the head as he tried to close it. He started shouting at my older brothers asking who...
    Scorpio1987 Scorpio1987 22-25, M 4 Responses Jun 5, 2012

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    Local Escapes Domestic Violence, Becomes Entrepreneur

    This is MY Story. Standing Her Ground... (reprinted from WNY Women in Business; December 2009) By Nicole Gawel Twenty-two years. That was the length of time Suzanne Perry was abused, isolated and estranged from her family, friends and the world around...
    SuzannePerry SuzannePerry 41-45, F 6 Responses Aug 28, 2010

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    hi to everyone is reading this.

    I don't know what is wrong with me at the moment but feel like I just need to tell what is happening to me and how I feel and maybe someone can relate to me and tell me that it is normal because I really dont feel normal at the moment. Im 19 and im in a relationship with a man...
    xhannahmuskax xhannahmuskax 18-21, F 6 Responses Apr 9

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    I am. I've been known

    as a **** my whole life. I moved to Italy to get a new identity. I fell inlove with a great guy at that time. After a year of our marriage i was being slapped for looking to pretty to other men. He raped me and left me in the street that night with just my bra on. People just...
    MissMckenzie MissMckenzie 36-40, F 3 Responses Dec 24, 2013

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    I am a Survivor Of Domestic Violence .

    . Yes I am a warrior living one day at a time .... Yes I have endured 8 years of Slaps punchs an bruises and sexual abuse .. I know through Gods grace he has given me another day to survive .. I looked for years for an answer of why would I love someone who would hurt me the way...
    jennz98 jennz98 36-40 4 Responses Feb 8

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    15 Years of Hell Part 1-I divorced my husband

    for good 11 years ago next March and left him 14 years ago in January after 12 years of marriage. I only took myself,my three children,and the clothes on our backs away from it, but at least we were alive. The signs were there right from the beginning and I feel so stupid now as...
    SexiestChocolate SexiestChocolate 41-45, F Oct 9

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    1 year without the abuse

    and without him in my life! I'm starting to find my real self again
    alimarie1 alimarie1 22-25, F 2 Responses May 22

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    Physically Survived- Mentally Unsure

    I was 13 when I met him. I was a 'wild child' I'll admit and pursued him relentlessly until he gave in. He was 23 years old. My father whom I lived with worked nights and slept all day- so basically I did whatever I wanted to do, whenever I wanted to do it. He had a very high...
    shadow83 shadow83 26-30, F 4 Responses Nov 8, 2009

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