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I Am A Survivor Of Emotional Abuse

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 171 People

    There is life after abuse

    and no one has to suffer! The cruelty that anyone endures from an abusive relationship should not be underestimated at all. I would like to invite people to follow my blog as I go through to eventually publish my book, "From Control & Fear to Success and Freedom"! Keep on...
    LindaMabelle LindaMabelle 36-40, F 3 Responses Nov 19, 2014

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    I was with "him" for almost 30 years.

    In the beginning I did notice that he was somewhat controlling. Also he could be manipulative. However in those times these actions were subtle. That is how the cycle of verbal abuse, control, manipulation and emotional abuse begins. During the latter years of our marriage...
    Freedom425 Freedom425 46-50, F 1 Response Mar 23, 2014

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    Its a very sad reality

    when you actually discover you are a victim of emotional abuse. I was the same, I didn't even know I was made to believe I was the crazy one. One of the things my partner would do is this: He would ask me where something is and I would respond normally, oh it's in the...
    LindaMabelle LindaMabelle 36-40, F 2 Responses Nov 17, 2014

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    There is life after abuse

    and no one has to suffer! The cruelty that anyone endures from an abusive relationship should not be underestimated at all. I would like to invite people to follow my blog as I go through to eventually publish my book, "From Control & Fear to Success and Freedom"! Keep on...
    LindaMabelle LindaMabelle 36-40, F Nov 19, 2014

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    6 weeks on and this is how I am feeling now!

    And I am surviving and coming back stronger. I must be honest and say that it still hurts, like any wounds but it’s turned from complete constant agony to an occasional annoying niggle. All the words he said to me I am fighting back and totally disagreeing because lets face...
    LindaMabelle LindaMabelle 36-40, F Nov 25, 2014

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    SO I survivedd it. Buut I still am suffering.

    I wish hed die. He manipulated me.. said he wanted my child and get married. etc etc. but he had a dark side. Towards the end all I saw was his dark side. He threatened me.. called me names, and lied . he kicked me and all this physical crap too. he called me names i wont...
    amtired amtired 22-25, F 2 Responses Feb 8

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    I guess I can't quite say

    that I'm a survivor of emotional abuse since I am still in the relationship. By the time I knew what emotional abuse was or that it even existed I already had two children a felt compelled to stay. A bit over a year ago she came in the house screaming and swearing at me to get...
    LOMD LOMD 31-35, M 3 Responses Nov 22, 2014

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    So I am still recovering.

    And also I think his dumbass can see this. but oh well. I dont care anymore. I just could use someone to talk to? My ex treated me like ****. So I am gone from him. But I am still recovring from all the **** he put me through. This isnt right. He treated me worse than an enemy...
    amtired amtired 22-25, F 1 Response Feb 22

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    My Struggle Overcoming Emotional Abuse

    I've been free almost six years now. Still battling the after effects of being so very controlled and being verbally and emotionally abused. Sometimes it felt like torture to me - for instance, I would simply request something (like please clean up the basement) and be met with...
    stark7 stark7 46-50, F 2 Responses Jan 19, 2012

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    So I ran away a couple of days ago,

    and they made me come back (they= police and family). They said they were gonna change and so far that's bullshit. I am leaving when I turn 17 whether they like it or not, they cannot make me stay. I am done with my mother telling me that I am a mean and ugly ***** . She says...
    nomnommings nomnommings 16-17, F 2 Responses Feb 18

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    You're not alone and you're not worthless.

    If you ever need someone to vent to, talk to, or be there for you I'm here. Feel free to message me whenever, I love helping others and I love being there for you. Yes you, whoever is reading this.
    Michaelyourguardianangel Michaelyourguardianangel 18-21, M Nov 19, 2014

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    I am a high school student in a large school in

    New England. I was emotionally abused for a few years by a girl I thought was my friend. I have trouble talking to people about it, because no one really takes my experiences seriously because of the fact that the girl and I weren't dating, there was no "domestic" anything...
    OrionO OrionO 16-17, T Jan 19

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    I am a survivor, I left just over a month ago

    and I have fought hard to get myself back on top, I know it will take longer than this but already things are getting better and I am getting my life back. I am writing a book called "From Fear & Control to Success & Freedom" which tells my personal story of the cruel abuse I...
    LindaMabelle LindaMabelle 36-40, F 1 Response Nov 18, 2014

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    diegosauns diegosauns 18-21, M Nov 17, 2014

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    Survivor ? You Decide

    Like most of us who start on of these stories, I can tell you how the abuse started  I can tell you what the facial expression on his face when he did what he did or said what he said . I can tell you how distant and cold he was when He showed no emotion while I was there...
    missyg4643 missyg4643 31-35 1 Response Jun 22, 2010

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    Survivor Now Not A Victim

    This is a choice I wish to identify myself with now. I have not had the strength to see myself for what I had been through.  I was a victim for years and wasn't even aware of it.  The emotional toll it took for me to actually identify what I had been living through was...
    flodials flodials 41-45, F 3 Responses May 15, 2013

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    There is life after abuse

    and no one has to suffer! The cruelty that anyone endures from an abusive relationship should not be underestimated at all. I would like to invite people to follow my blog as I go through to eventually publish my book, "From Control & Fear to Success and Freedom"! Keep on...
    LindaMabelle LindaMabelle 36-40, F Nov 19, 2014

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    survivor! NOT a victim,

    but in fact a survivor! If you are reading this and are being abused, you CAN get out.theres always a way out. dont let the abuser cut you down to believe u cant leave. Thats the name of their game. And thats all it is to the abuser. a game. a childish stupid little game.
    amtired amtired 22-25, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    It does get better in time,

    the emotional bruises repair but it takes time and effort. Be kind to yourself and hold your head up high.
    LindaMabelle LindaMabelle 36-40, F 1 Response Dec 1, 2014

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    So I really could use someone to talk to . I am still recovering from abuse. I am sorry I keep posting about this. Its just extrememly difficult. I hate this. He called me names...
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    Sometimes I still wish he had just hit me. So much easier that way. "See- I was abused, I can show you the bruises! " I thought I was strong- I left, I am in a new, healthy...
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    I have a boyfriend I'm not supposed 2 have and at my school I'm bullied but only my 4 friends will stick up 4 me. I'm so happy 2 have them in my life. I love them.
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