I Am A Survivor Of Emotional Abuse

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 331 People

    My Struggle Overcoming Emotional Abuse

    I've been free almost six years now. Still battling the after effects of being so very controlled and being verbally and emotionally abused. Sometimes it felt like torture to me - for instance, I would simply request something (like please clean up the basement) and be met with...
    stark7 stark7
    46-50, F
    2 Responses Jan 19, 2012

    So I ran away a couple of days ago,

    and they made me come back (they= police and family). They said they were gonna change and so far that's bullshit. I am leaving when I turn 17 whether they like it or not, they cannot make me stay. I am done with my mother telling me that I am a mean and ugly ***** . She says...
    nomnommings nomnommings
    16-17, F
    2 Responses Feb 18, 2015

    I was with "him" for almost 30 years.

    In the beginning I did notice that he was somewhat controlling. Also he could be manipulative. However in those times these actions were subtle. That is how the cycle of verbal abuse, control, manipulation and emotional abuse begins. During the latter years of our marriage...
    Freedom425 Freedom425
    46-50, F
    1 Response Mar 23, 2014

    You're not alone and you're not worthless.

    If you ever need someone to vent to, talk to, or be there for you I'm here. Feel free to message me whenever, I love helping others and I love being there for you. Yes you, whoever is reading this.
    Michaelyourguardianangel Michaelyourguardianangel
    18-21, M
    Nov 19, 2014

    Its a very sad reality

    when you actually discover you are a victim of emotional abuse. I was the same, I didn't even know I was made to believe I was the crazy one. One of the things my partner would do is this: He would ask me where something is and I would respond normally, oh it's in the...
    LindaMabelle LindaMabelle
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Nov 17, 2014

    It does get better in time,

    the emotional bruises repair but it takes time and effort. Be kind to yourself and hold your head up high.
    LindaMabelle LindaMabelle
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Dec 1, 2014

    Survivor Now Not A Victim

    This is a choice I wish to identify myself with now. I have not had the strength to see myself for what I had been through.  I was a victim for years and wasn't even aware of it.  The emotional toll it took for me to actually identify what I had been living through was...
    flodials flodials
    41-45, F
    3 Responses May 15, 2013

    Survivor ? You Decide

    Like most of us who start on of these stories, I can tell you how the abuse started  I can tell you what the facial expression on his face when he did what he did or said what he said . I can tell you how distant and cold he was when He showed no emotion while I was there...
    missyg4643 missyg4643
    31-35
    1 Response Jun 22, 2010

    There is life after abuse

    and no one has to suffer! The cruelty that anyone endures from an abusive relationship should not be underestimated at all. I would like to invite people to follow my blog as I go through to eventually publish my book, "From Control & Fear to Success and Freedom"! Keep on...
    LindaMabelle LindaMabelle
    36-40, F
    Nov 19, 2014

    I am a survivor, I left just over a month ago

    and I have fought hard to get myself back on top, I know it will take longer than this but already things are getting better and I am getting my life back. I am writing a book called "From Fear & Control to Success & Freedom" which tells my personal story of the cruel abuse I...
    LindaMabelle LindaMabelle
    36-40, F
    1 Response Nov 18, 2014

    There is life after abuse

    and no one has to suffer! The cruelty that anyone endures from an abusive relationship should not be underestimated at all. I would like to invite people to follow my blog as I go through to eventually publish my book, "From Control & Fear to Success and Freedom"! Keep on...
    LindaMabelle LindaMabelle
    36-40, F
    3 Responses Nov 19, 2014

    Can anyone relate to the following?

    your thoughts please! The Real Charmer - The Cycle of Abuse! Just how easy is it to become wrapped up in an abusive relationship? Every girl wants to feel loved and wants to feel special and be swept off your feet, trust me there are many men out there who will do just that...
    LindaMabelle LindaMabelle
    36-40, F
    1 Response Jun 13, 2015

    Change is so difficult

    but so necessary. It makes it's an easier process with people who understand
    Jens0132 Jens0132
    56-60, F
    1 Response Jun 28, 2015

    I will forever be scarred by the emotional abuse

    that I have endured. How can a relationship that started off so great take such a drastic turn? How can the man you love turn into the man you hate? When someone you love more than anything says hurtful things to you constantly, how will you ever forget them? "You will never...
    kait52 kait52
    18-21, F
    Jun 29, 2015

    6 weeks on and this is how I am feeling now!

    And I am surviving and coming back stronger. I must be honest and say that it still hurts, like any wounds but it’s turned from complete constant agony to an occasional annoying niggle. All the words he said to me I am fighting back and totally disagreeing because lets face...
    LindaMabelle LindaMabelle
    36-40, F
    Nov 25, 2014

    There is life after abuse

    and no one has to suffer! The cruelty that anyone endures from an abusive relationship should not be underestimated at all. I would like to invite people to follow my blog as I go through to eventually publish my book, "From Control & Fear to Success and Freedom"! Keep on...
    LindaMabelle LindaMabelle
    36-40, F
    Nov 19, 2014
    diegosauns diegosauns
    18-21, M
    Nov 17, 2014

    I am a high school student in a large school in

    New England. I was emotionally abused for a few years by a girl I thought was my friend. I have trouble talking to people about it, because no one really takes my experiences seriously because of the fact that the girl and I weren't dating, there was no "domestic" anything...
    OrionO OrionO
    18-21, T
    Jan 19, 2015

    I guess I can't quite say

    that I'm a survivor of emotional abuse since I am still in the relationship. By the time I knew what emotional abuse was or that it even existed I already had two children a felt compelled to stay. A bit over a year ago she came in the house screaming and swearing at me to get...
    LOMD LOMD
    36-40, M
    3 Responses Nov 22, 2014

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