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I Am A Survivor Of Emotional Abuse

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    My Struggle Overcoming Emotional Abuse

    I've been free almost six years now. Still battling the after effects of being so very controlled and being verbally and emotionally abused. Sometimes it felt like torture to me - for instance, I would simply request something (like please clean up the basement) and be met with...
    stark7 stark7 46-50, F 1 Response Jan 19, 2012

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    I was with "him" for almost 30 years.

    In the beginning I did notice that he was somewhat controlling. Also he could be manipulative. However in those times these actions were subtle. That is how the cycle of verbal abuse, control, manipulation and emotional abuse begins. During the latter years of our marriage...
    Freedom425 Freedom425 46-50, F 1 Response Mar 23

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    Survivor ? You Decide

    Like most of us who start on of these stories, I can tell you how the abuse started  I can tell you what the facial expression on his face when he did what he did or said what he said . I can tell you how distant and cold he was when He showed no emotion while I was there...
    missyg4643 missyg4643 31-35 1 Response Jun 22, 2010

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    Survivor Now Not A Victim

    This is a choice I wish to identify myself with now. I have not had the strength to see myself for what I had been through.  I was a victim for years and wasn't even aware of it.  The emotional toll it took for me to actually identify what I had been living through was...
    flodials flodials 41-45, F 3 Responses May 15, 2013

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    Or am i???? My mind wants revenge.

    Can barely sleep. Hate any who act like him. So did i survive???
    Livyn4pals Livyn4pals 46-50, M Jul 26

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    It sounds silly, because I'm a guy. I just broke free from an emotional abusive relationship, but I don't know if I've really broken free. I find myself sad at night, I wake up...
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    I wonder, how it would have been if I was raised in a normal family. My mother is a narcissistic person (NPD) and my dad was and is her enabler. I was raised with the burden of...
    pistacchia pistacchia 46-50, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    I thinks it's worst than physical. Although I have not experienced the physical. Sounds heal. Harsh words stick with you for a lifetime. My question is why do I find who are...
    Prettygirl8726 Prettygirl8726 26-30, F 4 Responses Aug 26

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    I need to get away from the abuse I wish some one would help me I need someone to love me and give me a place to call home
    Mallexx Mallexx 18-21, F 3 Responses Aug 27

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    Right now I'm like sobbing my eyes out as I write this. My dad and I don't get along too well. All he does is complain, yell at me, threaten to hit/abuse me ALL THE TIME. (Even In...
    Hipstercatlover Hipstercatlover 16-17, F 2 Responses Aug 30

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    Imgoin insane. I'm still recovering from abuse.sTILL. Its frustrating. And some people (only a few,) tell me crap that just makes me feel worse. But I HAVE found a lot of nice...
    amtired amtired 22-25 5 Responses Sep 9

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    Again. I really could use someone to talk to..yet again? : I'm sorry people...I just could really use support rite now. I am recovering. But not as quick as I had...
    amtired amtired 22-25 1 Response Sep 10

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    Mother at it again today. Sick of crying, sick of being her emotional and psychological punching bag. And she LOVES me? Yeah right
    1lonelydaisy 1lonelydaisy 70+, F 2 Responses a week ago

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    Over the past six months I've been going through tons of emitional abuse. My BFF used to insult me, make me feel worthless and weak. I overlooked it because I never really had a...
    Kornisone Kornisone 26-30, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    Mjkittycass1985 Mjkittycass1985 26-30, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    I haven't really figured out how this works but i guess i just have to write about it. Well. I remember being abused by my mother. I haven't really talked about it with anyone...
    leaskyy leaskyy 18-21, F 5 Responses 1 day ago

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    He told me to kill myself..over and over and over.....and over....
    amtired amtired 22-25 10 Responses Aug 21

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    Maybe I should kill myself..I....I. Don't know how to handle this..,.. I.... AAaaaaaaaaaaaAAAAAAH. Going crazy.I can't let psycho people get to me... :/ I dno...
    amtired amtired 22-25 6 Responses Aug 22

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    I was once alone... I was isolated from the outside world, my family, my friends. He wanted that to be. I did not want them to see. I was filled with shame, shame on me. I was...
    Mm8335 Mm8335 31-35, F 3 Responses Aug 25

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    Don't let them brainwash you into making you feel guilty. You have every right to pursue that which you call freedom. You are not who they define you to be. You are who you know...
    honestyreality honestyreality 22-25, F 3 Responses Aug 25

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    About maybe four years ago it started, I had really gave my love to a guy of my dreams, but I was so young and foolish, and he went out with me for a couple years and then just...
    Zoex3 Zoex3 13-15, F 1 Response Aug 26

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    My mother is the most evil person I ever met! No one have treated me worse in my whole life. My mom is a total ***** who is trying to destroy my life every day, her biggest fear...
    afreespirit afreespirit 16-17, M 4 Responses Sep 2

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    Nobody is powerless. “Be not the slave of your own past - plunge into the sublime seas, dive deep, and swim far, so you shall come back with new self-respect, with new power...
    PurpleGlassPalace PurpleGlassPalace 26-30, M 1 Response Sep 5

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    I am not really sure if anyone is going to read this, but I need to get this off my chest. I started dating my now ex-boyfriend my freshman year of college. We exchanged numbers...
    kburrs kburrs 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 10

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    So I'm losing my full respect for my family. My dad and brother are extremely verbally abusive towards me. My sister and mother are always on their side. Look, I really am...
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    I HATE U MASON!!!!!!!!!!!!!
    Strangerdanger47 Strangerdanger47 16-17, F 3 days ago

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    Everyday is a balancing act. I try as hard as I can to not drown in my own bitterness. I begin and end each day with the same thought, how can I get away from this man. I've been...
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    poorwhitetrash poorwhitetrash 46-50, F 2 days ago

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    If someone could talk that'd be great. I recently left a guy who made me feel like dirt. He called me names. Kicked me.slapped me. Threw me. Hurt my ribs, choked me... Etc... He...
    amtired amtired 22-25 1 Response 2 days ago

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    I am beyond mad at my mother right now. Right now I am in an amazing relationship with an amazing United States sailor. And my mom just keeps attacking my relationship. But with my...
    BabyGrasshopper BabyGrasshopper 18-21, F 1 Response 9 hrs ago

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    So, how to start? I got married 2 years ago last weekend to a nice boy, a good Christian boy, or so I thought, so he led me to believe. Turns out he was lying. About all of it...
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    wanderinggrl wanderinggrl 26-30, T 3 Responses Aug 26

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    gigglesounds gigglesounds 13-15, F 3 Responses Aug 26

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    I am 33. I met a woman online and we talked as friends for 3 or 4 years without ever meeting. Even though she lived only 30 miles from me. She had been diagnosed with "bipolar" and...
    bentsurvivor bentsurvivor 31-35, M Aug 22

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    Victim"...I hate that word. We are not "victims". We are some of the strongest, bravest women to walk the earth. We are survivors.  We are not stray helpless animals, we are the...
    TriciaFL TriciaFL 36-40, F 1 Response Aug 29

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