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I Am A Survivor Of Emotional Abuse

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    I was with "him" for almost 30 years.

    In the beginning I did notice that he was somewhat controlling. Also he could be manipulative. However in those times these actions were subtle. That is how the cycle of verbal abuse, control, manipulation and emotional abuse begins. During the latter years of our marriage...
    Freedom425 Freedom425 46-50, F 1 Response Mar 23

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    Or am i???? My mind wants revenge.

    Can barely sleep. Hate any who act like him. So did i survive???
    Livyn4pals Livyn4pals 46-50, M Jul 26

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    Survivor ? You Decide

    Like most of us who start on of these stories, I can tell you how the abuse started  I can tell you what the facial expression on his face when he did what he did or said what he said . I can tell you how distant and cold he was when He showed no emotion while I was there...
    missyg4643 missyg4643 31-35 1 Response Jun 22, 2010

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    Survivor Now Not A Victim

    This is a choice I wish to identify myself with now. I have not had the strength to see myself for what I had been through.  I was a victim for years and wasn't even aware of it.  The emotional toll it took for me to actually identify what I had been living through was...
    flodials flodials 41-45, F 3 Responses May 15, 2013

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    My Struggle Overcoming Emotional Abuse

    I've been free almost six years now. Still battling the after effects of being so very controlled and being verbally and emotionally abused. Sometimes it felt like torture to me - for instance, I would simply request something (like please clean up the basement) and be met with...
    stark7 stark7 46-50, F 1 Response Jan 19, 2012

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    Related Experiences

    I need help so bad. I don't know how my life could end up so destroyed. I am 34. I have been emotionally abused since I was 17. I was raped at 16. The same person I met at 17...
    dolly454 dolly454 31-35, F 2 Responses Jul 28

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    For sexual, I was at a party and I remember feeling really sick from drinking too much and then I woke up alone in a bad in the house naked. And I went to the bathroom and there...
    newaccountquinnmac newaccountquinnmac 13-15, F 3 Responses Aug 2

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    I cheated on my husband, then i left him. He was mean, and I'm tired of repeating the details, but by mean I intend to say that he fits into many of the descriptors of an...
    Regrets472 Regrets472 26-30, F 2 Responses Jul 21

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    I cheated on my husband, then i left him. He was mean, and I'm tired of repeating the details, but by mean I intend to say that he fits into many of the descriptors of an...
    Regrets472 Regrets472 26-30, F Jul 21

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    Is someone please available to talk? I really could use someone to talk to. I had a recent breakup with an abuser. I feel shattered. I feel weak. I feel so alone. He beat me...
    amtired amtired 22-25 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    Physical aggression by a man toward his partner is abuse, even if it happens only once. If he raises a fist; punches a hole in the wall; throws things at you; blocks your way...
    Lostnalone22 Lostnalone22 31-35, F 1 Response Jul 31

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    I recently learned that domestic abuse isn't limited to couples , I would never guessed it was also roommates as well. I did a lot of research into this before I figured out that I...
    Lunnaku Lunnaku 26-30 1 Response Aug 3

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    Is hate a strong word? Possibly. It doesn't matter though. He doesn't respect me. He uses me emotionally when he feels alone. When he finally has what he wants elsewhere, let's say...
    NoMoreTearsToni NoMoreTearsToni 18-21, F 4 Responses Jul 24

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    Has anyone had experience being abused by their teenager daughter.
    Robyn64 Robyn64 46-50, F 2 Responses Jul 20

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    My dad has been emotionally abusing me for as long as I can remember. I want to move out but I have younger siblings who love me. I can't leave them. He doesn't do those things to...
    atmarie atmarie 18-21, F Jul 25

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    I had recently gotten out of a three year relationship when I met my current husband. He was an old friend, well liked by a lot of people. I thought I knew him. We wound up...
    breakingout2014 breakingout2014 26-30, F 5 days ago

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    Found a picture of my dog today. He died last year. I grew up with him ever since I was 2. He reminds me of every single happy memory I had. Now I can't stop crying. Lovely.
    AnthonyTonyWhat AnthonyTonyWhat 16-17, M 4 Responses Jul 20

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    I say this out loud several times in my stories. I didnt choose my mother and father being like this to me. They put all the hate towards me. My mother had moral that a daughter...
    angel8i angel8i 31-35, F 1 Response Jul 22

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    Person.... H gets mad easily, calls me names, makes fun of me.
    lilixis lilixis 26-30, F 1 Response Jul 22

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    I do everything for my family to help out and make things easier for my stressed out mom. I do all her errands, I take care of her 12,000 sqft house while she lives with her mom to...
    thatgirlkay thatgirlkay 22-25, F 1 Response Jul 24

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    People who really know me know that I have a big heart underneath a tough shell. All of my life, I have felt the burden of emotions that I did not want. The primary offender is...
    MaunaLani13 MaunaLani13 46-50, M Jul 24

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    Many times, so I've turned it off and I feel nothing
    EvaSFenty EvaSFenty 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 25

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    Can my dad be abusing me and not know it? I mean...is it possible he has no clue?
    atmarie atmarie 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 25

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    Or did i ?????? Data says no yet i breathe for pals. The debate continues. More data sought.
    Livyn4pals Livyn4pals 46-50, M Jul 30

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    I'd say it has affected the way I maintain intimate relationships in my adult life. I have severe trust issues due to certain boundaries being broken and certain obligations that...
    JackP94 JackP94 18-21, M Jul 30

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    I'm conditioned like an animal to watch my phone. If I ever miss her call, all hell breaks loose. If I don't respond to a message in less than three minutes, "you don't care about...
    petitambition petitambition 26-30, M 3 Responses Aug 7

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    I still don't quite understand this but if you ask my ex psychologists they'll vouch for me
    Alylovespuppies Alylovespuppies 16-17, F 1 Response Aug 7

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    Nothing like waking up and being called lazy and useless. I don't recall those being words of affirmation :(
    TheCunylinguist TheCunylinguist 41-45, F 3 Responses Aug 8

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    i let myselg let some one take advantage he would buy me things then i had to slleep with him but i also used didnt mean to like a father figure but hate myselg getting involed...
    hannahabbie hannahabbie 46-50, F Aug 9

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    I need someone to talk to. Just to know some one is listening. He can be so sweet at times, but the things he says when he's mad..... I don't know why I stay. I'm so sad all the...
    person411 person411 18-21, F 2 Responses Aug 9

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    she was 19 and I was 8, at a party for new year as I was asleep in bed, she come into my bed and started to cuddle me. This felt very nice, and the smell of alcohol from her...
    robforyou robforyou 46-50, M 1 Response Aug 10

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    And learned bad news. All who have power are posing as good. But acting like him. How sick society became. Is due to them.
    Livyn4pals Livyn4pals 46-50, M Aug 10

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    I was with my ex for 6 years. At first it was great even though i got pregnant very quickly. We moved into our own place and planned to be a family. Once the baby was born, it was...
    soontobeexwife soontobeexwife 26-30, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    im feeling down about my life i feel very ill inside in such a dak lomely place eat to much not sociab;e no hope sorry to feel negative but a[art of me just doesnt care anymore...
    hannahabbie hannahabbie 46-50, F 5 days ago

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    Yes, not a pretty thing this, at all. Nor is it something I can look back at and laugh, though I've made a big effort to put it where it belongs, long long in the past.
    sometimeslonelytoo sometimeslonelytoo 41-45, M 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    My abuse was that of neglect and emotional abuse. There was some physical abuse but not enough to be scared from it. I was bullied all through school. I was even bullied in my...
    lonesojourner lonesojourner 46-50, M 1 Response Aug 1

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    I sometimes feel I grew up without a father. And I sometimes think I would've been better off without one. Growing up, I could never understand the 'daddy's little girl concept...
    JacqtheRipper JacqtheRipper 22-25, F 6 days ago

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      My grandmother told me she would be willing to disown me for falling in love with a black man. This is the most extreme and traumatic example of how she treats me on a...
    twiztedrune twiztedrune 18-21, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    I wish she instead asked, " Are a Child Abuse Survivor". It is a Statement. How she made it a choice for all. I was never ABUSED as a Child. My Abuse began when I was 35.
    paradisequeen paradisequeen 41-45, F 2 Responses Jul 24

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    Once u was abused, i tell u honestly- u will never get over it. Never. You can do a therapy , it will help you to bring all the repressed hurt out but it wouldnt make the abuse...
    angel8i angel8i 31-35, F Jul 22

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    It has been a while since I have posted here. I've restarted the videos on Survivors of Child Abuse and Maladaptive daydreaming. My latest video is about flashbacks and tips on how...
    Ishtaria Ishtaria 41-45, F Aug 7

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    Survivor means I lived to tell the story. I will tell the story even though the ones who hurt me made me sure that no-one would ever believe me. I will tell the story even though...
    dispossessed dispossessed 46-50, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    Where do I go from here, everytime I try to begin I start to cry. I`ve been told to let it all out, why is it so easy to say something like that when you aren`t the one who lived...
    0utlander 0utlander 56-60, M 12 hrs ago

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    I cheated on my husband, then i left him. He was mean, and I'm tired of repeating the details, but by mean I intend to say that he fits into many of the descriptors of an...
    Regrets472 Regrets472 26-30, F 2 Responses Jul 21

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    i don't know if me and my siblings are being abused but it seems like we might be i never thought about it before because we are homeschooled and this is my first phone and i got...
    valbunny valbunny 13-15, F 4 Responses Jul 23

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    When I was a kid like 8, I was abused by a family member. I can recall the events of a few of the times of him doing the things he did to me. The feeling I felt during that time, I...
    Bluescrub Bluescrub 36-40, M 1 Response Jul 24

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    Im 13, the abuse for about 3, since I was 10. Well I learn something, I hated him for so long, I plan all these way to see his demise, but then I had a dream, were I found out he...
    nekokitty13 nekokitty13 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 24

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