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I Am a Survivor of Spousal Abuse

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 92 People

    Spousal Addictions and What It Can Do to You

    I've often thought about writing a book to help others to regain their confidence and self-worth because of what I went through.  However, I feel it would really hurt my children and they have been through so much.  I thought about (still thinking) about witnessing to...
    Betterforleaving Betterforleaving 51-55 6 Responses Jun 3, 2009

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    What Doesn't Kill You Makes You Stronger..

    I was married to a man who I thought was a loving, caring, sensitive person, until about 5 months into the marriage. He had always been a funny, witty person who had a southern charm and accent that would make anyone melt. we had been dating for about 2 yrs when he...
    singlnurs singlnurs 46-50, F 6 Responses Mar 11, 2009

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    Well, I Was Just a Girlfriend

    But I couldn't find "Abusive boyfriend" so I figured this would do. I fell for a guy 12 years older than I when I was 18. I knew that the odds against the relationship were high, but I was really committed to making it work. I dated this guy for a few months and...
    Voodoolou Voodoolou 22-25, F 4 Responses Jul 18, 2009

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    I'm Hoping To Call Myself A Survivor...

    I have been married for 4 years to a man I thought I know. We have been together for 14 years. Over the years, he has verbally, amotionally, and physically abused me. For some stupid reason, I have always let it go. I think it's because I never felt likte I could be loved by...
    Lovingmommy Lovingmommy 29, F 4 Responses Jul 21, 2010

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    I Am Not One Yet, But Hope To Be

    Hello, I need some help. I am married to my husband for the second time. He is currently incarcerated for domestic battery, and I am the victim. I fought for him to get work release because he is the sole supporter of our family. I am the only one able to drive him back and forth...
    kimberlyanngray kimberlyanngray 46-50 3 Responses Oct 29, 2011

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    How I've Turned Into Everything I Hated About You.

    We started talking on a social networking site for a short while before we decided to meet in person. On our first date things went good, and I thought we had really hit it off pretty well. To this day, I still regret how fast things moved along. Immediately after our first date...
    AnywhereButHome AnywhereButHome 18-21 4 Responses May 24, 2011

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    The Dragons Roar

    I am a survivor! You can soon purchase my book under the title: When The Dragons Roar. There are thousands of proclaimed survivors of spousal abuse every year, for that I am so thankful. However, it is my estimation that there are tens of thousands of victims at any given moment...
    whenthedragonsroar whenthedragonsroar 46-50, F Sep 26, 2013

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    Oh God Help Me, Still Waiting

    i got pregnant to my first boyfriend when he took me to a picnic and said that the only way back home was to sleep with him.  I hated him but i couldnt tell anyone. the prgnancy caused my parents to demand marriage. he beat me really bad the night before the wedding, i was...
    elliepenelly elliepenelly 51-55 3 Responses Sep 29, 2010

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    What Makes Me A Survivor

    I am a survivor. I have gotten out. I found help and used it. I don't think about the past as much as I used to. I have moved on with my life. I have found a great support group. I have found happiness. I am healthy again in my mind. I can say that its not my fault...
    jcue1976 jcue1976 31-35, F 7 Responses Sep 16, 2011

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    I Got Out

    After two years, I got out. I am still trying to make sense of it all. I finally realized that there was no making him understand, I was a professional, just out of really bad marriage, fell for guy that wanted to get married right then. I still can't talk about much of it...
    lakeside2 lakeside2 46-50, F 2 Responses Mar 11, 2012

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    Just Stressed

    I grew up in a house with an alcoholic mother. One of five, we faced violence, threats to be killed, lack of food, electricity, just the basics I suppose. I was not looked after, constantly had nits, holes in my clothes. etc These experiences have really messed me up. Now as a 3...
    TheSpectral TheSpectral 31-35, F 1 Response Apr 3, 2012

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    No One Deserves to Be Put Down

    My marriage lasted for over 16 years, but it wasn't happy.  It was full of mood swings, ups and downs, with usually the downs lasting longest.  There were probably 25 incidents of pushing, grabbing, lifting and dropping, punching in the arm, throwing across the driveway...
    dancingonthehill dancingonthehill 51-55, F 14 Responses Apr 8, 2009

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    Sad But True

    I was with a man I loved more than anything for 5 years. We had our ups and downs....over all it "seemed" like a good relationship and it wasn’t until the end that I really realized it was the worst mistake of my life. He came from a bad family background....and I always...
    melmel22 melmel22 26-30, F 1 Response Feb 21, 2011

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    Important To Love Yourself

    God Loves you, with undeserved Grace - unconditionally. He promised to never leave nor forsake you. The Word also tells us to love thy neighbor as thyself. You should put as much energy into loving yourself as much as you do into trying to make someone else love you the right...
    Zerich Zerich 66-70, M Apr 10, 2012

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    So Many Times..........

     I can't, won't go into them now.    Too much pain involved, but needless to say, if you are in one now... get out.  Never look back, they don't know the meaning of love if they beat you and in the next breath say it's cause they love you.  There...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Mar 12, 2009

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    No One Knows

    I get asked all the time why I stayed. I married him because I love him. I told a friend today it was like boiling a frog. I ve heard that if you drop a frog in boiling water he immediately jumps out but if you put him water normal temperature and gradually increase the...
    lakeside2 lakeside2 46-50, F 4 Responses Mar 12, 2012

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    I Survived

    I am a 56 year old woman. I spent over 20 years in an abusive relationship. Although I left many times, I seemed to always return, until I finally was able to escape. During my relationship with my abuser, I was isolated, alone, and scared. Before I married my abuser, I had had...
    Gingerlilypad Gingerlilypad 56-60, F 9 Responses Dec 29, 2010

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    Related Experiences

    I have been seeing a woman with borderline personality traits for about 10 months now. When I first met her I had recently broken up with my partner whom we were together for 7...
    lethealgia lethealgia 31-35, M 2 Responses 10 hrs ago

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    I have deep hatred for the MAN abused me sexually when I was just a little kid. I was only 4-5 years old when this guy, this so called relatives sexually abused me. I din't know...
    nobodyn234 nobodyn234 26-30, M 3 Responses Mar 25

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    When I was a little boy my mother took all her problems out on me. She blamed me for her "stress" and when other things were going bad she'd find something to get mad at me about...
    CharlesFosterKane CharlesFosterKane 22-25, M 3 Responses 3 hrs ago

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    Can kids or adult survivors of child abuse sue thier parents? The answer is complicated. The short answer is no. http://whatprivilege.com/abused-kids-cant-really-sue-their...
    Ishtaria Ishtaria 41-45, F 2 Responses Apr 11

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    Why did he take it all? I was not smart. I knew I was not smart because I was told that every day. Sometimes with words and sometimes it was said with a look or a certain shrug...
    NoDavid NoDavid 46-50 a week ago

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    Why did he take it all? I was not smart. I knew I was not smart because I was told that every day. Sometimes with words and sometimes it was said with a look or a certain shrug...
    NoDavid NoDavid 46-50 1 Response 6 days ago

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    If by 'survivor' you mean that I'm alive and now an adult. It's a betrayal. The one person who is supposed to do everything but hurt you, inflicting harsh, ongoing, wanton pain...
    HumanKnownAsVictor HumanKnownAsVictor 18-21, M 8 Responses Apr 4

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    I am a survivor and will continue to be so. Robbed of my peace of mind and treated like crap, I lived through it. I can live through almost anything now. I would rather it had not...
    Thatredheadchick Thatredheadchick 46-50, F 2 Responses Apr 7

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    I was with "him" for almost 30 years. In the beginning I did notice that he was somewhat controlling. Also he could be manipulative. However in those times these actions were...
    Freedom425 Freedom425 46-50, F 1 Response Mar 23

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    My dad is my abuser and I didn't know why I felt so dysfunctional until recently. My mom is amazing, and she is a survivor of horrible abuse herself so I never knew that emotional...
    katieowl katieowl 18-21, F 3 Responses 4 days ago

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    I am 20 soon and I don't know why it took me so long to realize that I could be (or am) a victim of emotional abuse by my mom. She had 6 children and out of all of them I feel like...
    teeohfancy teeohfancy 18-21, F 2 hrs ago

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    7 Years. Of those 7 years I was only happy for about 3 years. 7 years with a man who gave me so much joy in the beginning. Now it's like he lives to tear me down. To humiliate me...
    bmichelleb bmichelleb 26-30, F 6 Responses Apr 10

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    Surprisingly enough, I've never bothered writing about this. I met him, and I stopped writing, I stopped drawing, I stopped enjoying my life.. He gave me one great gift, one whom I...
    StrayMouse StrayMouse 22-25, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    It started when my mom married my stepfather. He would use any mistake I made as an excuse to punish me. The punishment was always sadistic compared to the silly mistakes a 4 year...
    Zacarabear Zacarabear 18-21, F 2 Responses Mar 24

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    I think that most of the things I allow sexually had to do with me being sexually abuse when I was younger I need professional help
    Reynastaxx Reynastaxx 26-30, F 3 Responses Mar 24

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    For 10 years I was sexually abused by the man who I thought to be my father. When I found out that he wasn't my real dad, it made me feel better.
    Wanderlust7 Wanderlust7 16-17, F Mar 27

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    Going through all those memories really hurts .The pain they cost made me creat a world inside my head which made me really happy .. Yes I was abused as a child ,both emotionally...
    ludee94 ludee94 18-21, F 2 Responses Apr 1

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    I am back in my home town for the first time after I started my therapy. Right now I am missing it alot. Here I am again amongst those I hide so much from and I have no one to...
    lostinit lostinit 31-35 1 Response Apr 2

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    When I was about 4 years old, almost 5 my mother had met this man, who was about to be in our lives for a very long time. When I just got into kindergarten he had fallen off a...
    JustALittleGirl123 JustALittleGirl123 13-15, F 1 Response Apr 3

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    Abandoned as a toddler, foster care, abuse of ALL kinds, growing learning, finding God, and true love, getting stronger all the time....life is now good.
    MaryB7 MaryB7 51-55, F Mar 26

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    A few weeks ago I came to the realization that my ex-husband is on drugs and has been since the beginning of our marraige. Now that I have been out of my abusive relationship for...
    strongerwiser34 strongerwiser34 31-35, F 2 Responses Apr 4

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    Stage 4 melanoma survivor :)
    Ilovemykids77 Ilovemykids77 36-40, F 3 Responses Mar 20

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    I was 26 years old when I got GBS. I was a new mom of a four month old baby girl. Before she was born I had taught 1st grade. The plan was to take a year off from teaching then go...
    mommabrick5 mommabrick5 46-50, F 1 Response Apr 7

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    Among them family who were in concentration camps, mostly Treblinka, but I know at least a few went to Dachau and Stutthof. I have seen only Treblinka and Dachau. Also, various...
    seitanist seitanist 22-25, F 3 days ago

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    Everybody who I've told what she does to me says that she is abusive, but I'm still not sure. I know that she's narcissistic because in all the articles I read about it almost all...
    jules401 jules401 13-15, F 3 Responses Mar 29

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    April 3. I think we often forget the little boys affected by child abuse. We only really think about the boys when there are big cases like Michael Jackson or Jerry Sandusky are in...
    RuthieAnja RuthieAnja 18-21, F 4 Responses Apr 3

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    It's honestly the worst thing ever and I would never wish abuse upon my worst enemy. I can't take back this past year and a half and I regret it every day. It truly does suck. I...
    cak22 cak22 18-21, F Mar 31

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    This is something I have a hard time admitting and even though I have talked about the abuse to people I trust, I never let them know it was him. 10 years after the last incident...
    shierahawke88 shierahawke88 36-40, F 3 Responses Mar 31

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    I'm against all abuse, but I think verbal abuse can be very damaging to a person. If someone were to hit me, I would instantly know that it was wrong. Maybe I would hit them back...
    couldbeheaven couldbeheaven 26-30, F 3 Responses Apr 1

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    Many people ask why do you stay in an abusive relationship the answer to that is simple many times with emotional abuse you do not realize you're being abused because the abuser...
    jadelaoch jadelaoch 36-40, F 1 Response Apr 9

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    April is Child Abuse Awareness Month (at least it is here in the USA). I've made a plan to post a status every day this month on Facebook with information about child abuse. I hate...
    RuthieAnja RuthieAnja 18-21, F 2 Responses Apr 2

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    Happy April! April is Child Abuse Awareness Month. Today, I was reminded of a status I wanted to make while on Spring Break but never got around to. You'll get the connection to...
    RuthieAnja RuthieAnja 18-21, F Apr 2

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    My mom just told me the other day that I might have been sexually abused when I was 4. I was like, "What do you mean, "might" ? " She would drop me off at daycare when she went to...
    innerself000 innerself000 18-21 1 Response Apr 7

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    I was sexually abused by my grandfather and his dog. I have looked on a lot of abuse sites but have never been able to find anyone else who was abuse by using an animal to do the...
    Veraspain Veraspain 16-17, F 5 Responses Apr 10

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    I am against abuse of any kind. Anyone who hurts, and abuses someone else makes me really mad. I can not stand to hear about people being abused, and hurt. I think abusers of any...
    NYSlilAngel NYSlilAngel 26-30, F 2 Responses 6 days ago

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