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I Am a Survivor of Spousal Abuse

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    The Dragons Roar

    I am a survivor! You can soon purchase my book under the title: When The Dragons Roar. There are thousands of proclaimed survivors of spousal abuse every year, for that I am so thankful. However, it is my estimation that there are tens of thousands of victims at any given moment...
    whenthedragonsroar whenthedragonsroar 51-55, F Sep 26, 2013

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    #WhyIStayed #WhyILeft is it

    just me or are there any others, that while finding relatable experiences being put forth under both hashtags (in light of the Rice case).... also find that it triggers some really difficult emotions to deal with? Maybe (not maybe) it's PTSD rearing its ugly head with me of...
    VerveMum VerveMum 36-40, F 1 Response Sep 9, 2014

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    Sad But True

    I was with a man I loved more than anything for 5 years. We had our ups and downs....over all it "seemed" like a good relationship and it wasn’t until the end that I really realized it was the worst mistake of my life. He came from a bad family background....and I always...
    melmel22 melmel22 26-30, F 1 Response Feb 21, 2011

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    Well, I Was Just a Girlfriend

    But I couldn't find "Abusive boyfriend" so I figured this would do. I fell for a guy 12 years older than I when I was 18. I knew that the odds against the relationship were high, but I was really committed to making it work. I dated this guy for a few months and...
    Voodoolou Voodoolou 22-25, F 4 Responses Jul 18, 2009

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    I Am Not One Yet, But Hope To Be

    Hello, I need some help. I am married to my husband for the second time. He is currently incarcerated for domestic battery, and I am the victim. I fought for him to get work release because he is the sole supporter of our family. I am the only one able to drive him back and forth...
    kimberlyanngray kimberlyanngray 46-50 3 Responses Oct 29, 2011

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    What Doesn't Kill You Makes You Stronger..

    I was married to a man who I thought was a loving, caring, sensitive person, until about 5 months into the marriage. He had always been a funny, witty person who had a southern charm and accent that would make anyone melt. we had been dating for about 2 yrs when he...
    singlnurs singlnurs 46-50, F 6 Responses Mar 11, 2009

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    I Was Abused By My Boyfriend And His Best Friend

    I am 14 years old and I have been dating this boy on and off since I was 11 and he was 14. Things were all just great back then. "Dan" was just as sweet as could be and I loved him. Last year we didn't date at all and I became close friends with his best buddy "Dyl" Dyl is two...
    aloneandafraid2 aloneandafraid2 13-15 5 Responses Mar 21, 2011

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    Important To Love Yourself

    God Loves you, with undeserved Grace - unconditionally. He promised to never leave nor forsake you. The Word also tells us to love thy neighbor as thyself. You should put as much energy into loving yourself as much as you do into trying to make someone else love you the right...
    Zerich Zerich 66-70, M Apr 10, 2012

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    Younger women dating older men mainly

    because younger women are attracted older men. older men mature, confident, stable .Mature guys always know how to treat their women.These younger women are looking for their age gap love romance.For older men, Younger women older men relationships will surely make an older man...
    adeleccaa adeleccaa 26-30, F Dec 21, 2014

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    I could get into the whole story behind

    why I feel what I feel now though I think that would defeat the purpose of my goal. I'm trying to live both in the present and look towards the future. Every day is a struggle even three months after we broke up. I ask myself "Why me?" every day I ask myself "Would things have...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Dec 21, 2014

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    How I've Turned Into Everything I Hated About You.

    We started talking on a social networking site for a short while before we decided to meet in person. On our first date things went good, and I thought we had really hit it off pretty well. To this day, I still regret how fast things moved along. Immediately after our first date...
    AnywhereButHome AnywhereButHome 18-21 4 Responses May 24, 2011

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    Does This Count?

     I am just his friend. We aren't even dating. I couldn't find anything like this one so here goes. I have a crush on my best guy friend. He's 15 and I'm 14. The first time he hit me when it wasn't just horseplay it wasn't really a hit. He put me in a head lock. He held me...
    aloneandafraid2 aloneandafraid2 13-15 4 Responses Jul 26, 2010

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    No One Knows

    I get asked all the time why I stayed. I married him because I love him. I told a friend today it was like boiling a frog. I ve heard that if you drop a frog in boiling water he immediately jumps out but if you put him water normal temperature and gradually increase the...
    lakeside2 lakeside2 46-50, F 4 Responses Mar 12, 2012

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    No One Deserves to Be Put Down

    My marriage lasted for over 16 years, but it wasn't happy.  It was full of mood swings, ups and downs, with usually the downs lasting longest.  There were probably 25 incidents of pushing, grabbing, lifting and dropping, punching in the arm, throwing across the driveway...
    dancingonthehill dancingonthehill 51-55, F 14 Responses Apr 8, 2009

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    Oh God Help Me, Still Waiting

    i got pregnant to my first boyfriend when he took me to a picnic and said that the only way back home was to sleep with him.  I hated him but i couldnt tell anyone. the prgnancy caused my parents to demand marriage. he beat me really bad the night before the wedding, i was...
    elliepenelly elliepenelly 51-55 3 Responses Sep 29, 2010

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    I Survived

    I am a 56 year old woman. I spent over 20 years in an abusive relationship. Although I left many times, I seemed to always return, until I finally was able to escape. During my relationship with my abuser, I was isolated, alone, and scared. Before I married my abuser, I had had...
    Gingerlilypad Gingerlilypad 56-60, F 9 Responses Dec 29, 2010

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    What Makes Me A Survivor

    I am a survivor. I have gotten out. I found help and used it. I don't think about the past as much as I used to. I have moved on with my life. I have found a great support group. I have found happiness. I am healthy again in my mind. I can say that its not my fault...
    jcue1976 jcue1976 31-35, F 7 Responses Sep 16, 2011

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    I Got Out

    After two years, I got out. I am still trying to make sense of it all. I finally realized that there was no making him understand, I was a professional, just out of really bad marriage, fell for guy that wanted to get married right then. I still can't talk about much of it...
    lakeside2 lakeside2 46-50, F 2 Responses Mar 11, 2012

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    Spousal Addictions and What It Can Do to You

    I've often thought about writing a book to help others to regain their confidence and self-worth because of what I went through.  However, I feel it would really hurt my children and they have been through so much.  I thought about (still thinking) about witnessing to...
    Betterforleaving Betterforleaving 51-55 6 Responses Jun 3, 2009

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    Just Stressed

    I grew up in a house with an alcoholic mother. One of five, we faced violence, threats to be killed, lack of food, electricity, just the basics I suppose. I was not looked after, constantly had nits, holes in my clothes. etc These experiences have really messed me up. Now as a 3...
    TheSpectral TheSpectral 31-35, F 1 Response Apr 3, 2012

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    So Many Times..........

     I can't, won't go into them now.    Too much pain involved, but needless to say, if you are in one now... get out.  Never look back, they don't know the meaning of love if they beat you and in the next breath say it's cause they love you.  There...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Mar 12, 2009

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    I'm Hoping To Call Myself A Survivor...

    I have been married for 4 years to a man I thought I know. We have been together for 14 years. Over the years, he has verbally, amotionally, and physically abused me. For some stupid reason, I have always let it go. I think it's because I never felt likte I could be loved by...
    Lovingmommy Lovingmommy 26-30, F 4 Responses Jul 21, 2010

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    Should I Trust This Guy?

    i started talkin to this guy on the computer and me and him were playin around and jokein and stff and he ask me to send him a pic of me and he would send one of himself.i asked how old he was he said 18 i told him i didnt know that i had sent a pic o myself and it turned out...
    concernedchick94 concernedchick94 13-15, F 1 Response Sep 4, 2009

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    I was made to smell,kiss and then lick my fathers feet as discipline. He said it was to keep me in check. It went from once.....to every night when he came in from work. He says it...
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    "That my body is all that I am", how well I know the feeling. I just read about another woman that was sexually abused growing up and the quote is from her story. Reading it made...
    CaningCaregiver CaningCaregiver 26-30, F 2 Responses May 4

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    I am triggered every time someone tells a man that having been sexually abused by a woman is something to be proud of, happy about, etc. Abuse is abuse, not a rite of passage. We...
    lovevolves8 lovevolves8 36-40, F 1 Response May 7

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    Such a sensitive topic with me....... I will never understand child abuse in a way...but I do in other ways.....I am a survivor myself of harsh child abuse for great deal of...
    SassyBabe39 SassyBabe39 41-45, F 3 Responses May 3

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    You know those moments when you just want to be rescued, to be taken out of the situation you've been put in? Everytime I feel I am getting somewhere in life, I come tumbling back...
    AmnesiaPlease AmnesiaPlease 18-21, M 2 Responses May 19

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    I was physically abused ever since I was 3 years old by both of my parents. I never got out until I was 20 years old. I ran away 3 times. I was molested when I was 7-9 years old...
    dancinglawn dancinglawn 18-21, F 6 Responses Apr 30

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    I'm a 13 year old girl, I was born on 9/11/2001 the exact day and time the first plane hit the World Trade Center in NY city. When my parents found out I was born on the same day...
    Ellie1dale Ellie1dale 22-25, F 8 Responses May 16

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    okay here goes, my first memory i remember is when i was 3 and my dad bought me a play house castle i had so much fun with it. i walk out my room and see my dad beating my naked...
    IamTheReject IamTheReject 18-21, M a week ago

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    My dad would hit us in a way that wouldn't be acceptable today, but was acceptable then. My mom, on the other hand, would get mad at the drop of a hat, hit my brother or me (or...
    karlmartink karlmartink 36-40, M 1 Response May 2

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    My babysitters husband and son use to molest me and my younger sister. I want to die every time I think of what they did to my sister. I was in the third grade and she was in the...
    PandaLoves PandaLoves 26-30, F 1 Response May 18

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    I don't remember allot about my childhood. but I remember the abuse more clearly. I really wish I could get mental help. it's like my hart has shattered into shards of glass .
    flowergirl1997 flowergirl1997 18-21, F 19 Responses 6 days ago

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    What do you guys think about all the groups here who support corporal punishment? Is spanking/hitting kids ok in any circumstance? Do you consider this child abuse?
    StellaNoir StellaNoir 31-35, F 4 Responses 6 days ago

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    When my sisters and I were in foster care we were abused. One example is that my sis Karen and I were put outside in the middle of the night for whispering in bed, although my...
    sara75 sara75 56-60 1 Response 5 days ago

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    I have been sexually abuses and raped.
    summer1357 summer1357 26-30, F 1 Response May 2

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    I wrote this on someone's page earlier because of how mad I got from what they posted. A victim is not just the one who died. Many victims live. Their fight to survive is a daily...
    neverendingfairytale2 neverendingfairytale2 36-40, F May 3

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    Men can be raped too and there are fewer resources for men survivors. If you are one of those men, know that the rape is not your fault. Never is rape your fault no matter what...
    TheBlessedOne TheBlessedOne 51-55, F 23 hrs ago

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    Gloriavale nz are you a Survivor if so what you story
    1234cardiff 1234cardiff 46-50, M Apr 30

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