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I Am a Survivor of Spousal Abuse

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 95 People

    Sad But True

    I was with a man I loved more than anything for 5 years. We had our ups and downs....over all it "seemed" like a good relationship and it wasn’t until the end that I really realized it was the worst mistake of my life. He came from a bad family background....and I always...
    melmel22 melmel22 26-30, F 1 Response Feb 21, 2011

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    Spousal Addictions and What It Can Do to You

    I've often thought about writing a book to help others to regain their confidence and self-worth because of what I went through.  However, I feel it would really hurt my children and they have been through so much.  I thought about (still thinking) about witnessing to...
    Betterforleaving Betterforleaving 51-55 6 Responses Jun 3, 2009

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    Should I Trust This Guy?

    i started talkin to this guy on the computer and me and him were playin around and jokein and stff and he ask me to send him a pic of me and he would send one of himself.i asked how old he was he said 18 i told him i didnt know that i had sent a pic o myself and it turned out...
    concernedchick94 concernedchick94 13-15, F 1 Response Sep 4, 2009

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    So Many Times..........

     I can't, won't go into them now.    Too much pain involved, but needless to say, if you are in one now... get out.  Never look back, they don't know the meaning of love if they beat you and in the next breath say it's cause they love you.  There...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Mar 12, 2009

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    No One Knows

    I get asked all the time why I stayed. I married him because I love him. I told a friend today it was like boiling a frog. I ve heard that if you drop a frog in boiling water he immediately jumps out but if you put him water normal temperature and gradually increase the...
    lakeside2 lakeside2 46-50, F 4 Responses Mar 12, 2012

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    What Makes Me A Survivor

    I am a survivor. I have gotten out. I found help and used it. I don't think about the past as much as I used to. I have moved on with my life. I have found a great support group. I have found happiness. I am healthy again in my mind. I can say that its not my fault...
    jcue1976 jcue1976 31-35, F 7 Responses Sep 16, 2011

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    Just Stressed

    I grew up in a house with an alcoholic mother. One of five, we faced violence, threats to be killed, lack of food, electricity, just the basics I suppose. I was not looked after, constantly had nits, holes in my clothes. etc These experiences have really messed me up. Now as a 3...
    TheSpectral TheSpectral 31-35, F 1 Response Apr 3, 2012

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    Oh God Help Me, Still Waiting

    i got pregnant to my first boyfriend when he took me to a picnic and said that the only way back home was to sleep with him.  I hated him but i couldnt tell anyone. the prgnancy caused my parents to demand marriage. he beat me really bad the night before the wedding, i was...
    elliepenelly elliepenelly 51-55 3 Responses Sep 29, 2010

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    Does This Count?

     I am just his friend. We aren't even dating. I couldn't find anything like this one so here goes. I have a crush on my best guy friend. He's 15 and I'm 14. The first time he hit me when it wasn't just horseplay it wasn't really a hit. He put me in a head lock. He held me...
    aloneandafraid2 aloneandafraid2 13-15 4 Responses Jul 26, 2010

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    I Got Out

    After two years, I got out. I am still trying to make sense of it all. I finally realized that there was no making him understand, I was a professional, just out of really bad marriage, fell for guy that wanted to get married right then. I still can't talk about much of it...
    lakeside2 lakeside2 46-50, F 2 Responses Mar 11, 2012

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    I Survived

    I am a 56 year old woman. I spent over 20 years in an abusive relationship. Although I left many times, I seemed to always return, until I finally was able to escape. During my relationship with my abuser, I was isolated, alone, and scared. Before I married my abuser, I had had...
    Gingerlilypad Gingerlilypad 56-60, F 9 Responses Dec 29, 2010

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    The Dragons Roar

    I am a survivor! You can soon purchase my book under the title: When The Dragons Roar. There are thousands of proclaimed survivors of spousal abuse every year, for that I am so thankful. However, it is my estimation that there are tens of thousands of victims at any given moment...
    whenthedragonsroar whenthedragonsroar 51-55, F Sep 26, 2013

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    Well, I Was Just a Girlfriend

    But I couldn't find "Abusive boyfriend" so I figured this would do. I fell for a guy 12 years older than I when I was 18. I knew that the odds against the relationship were high, but I was really committed to making it work. I dated this guy for a few months and...
    Voodoolou Voodoolou 22-25, F 4 Responses Jul 18, 2009

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    No One Deserves to Be Put Down

    My marriage lasted for over 16 years, but it wasn't happy.  It was full of mood swings, ups and downs, with usually the downs lasting longest.  There were probably 25 incidents of pushing, grabbing, lifting and dropping, punching in the arm, throwing across the driveway...
    dancingonthehill dancingonthehill 51-55, F 14 Responses Apr 8, 2009

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    I'm Hoping To Call Myself A Survivor...

    I have been married for 4 years to a man I thought I know. We have been together for 14 years. Over the years, he has verbally, amotionally, and physically abused me. For some stupid reason, I have always let it go. I think it's because I never felt likte I could be loved by...
    Lovingmommy Lovingmommy 29, F 4 Responses Jul 21, 2010

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    Important To Love Yourself

    God Loves you, with undeserved Grace - unconditionally. He promised to never leave nor forsake you. The Word also tells us to love thy neighbor as thyself. You should put as much energy into loving yourself as much as you do into trying to make someone else love you the right...
    Zerich Zerich 66-70, M Apr 10, 2012

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    #WhyIStayed #WhyILeft is it

    just me or are there any others, that while finding relatable experiences being put forth under both hashtags (in light of the Rice case).... also find that it triggers some really difficult emotions to deal with? Maybe (not maybe) it's PTSD rearing its ugly head with me of...
    VerveMum VerveMum 36-40, F 1 Response Sep 9

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    I Am Not One Yet, But Hope To Be

    Hello, I need some help. I am married to my husband for the second time. He is currently incarcerated for domestic battery, and I am the victim. I fought for him to get work release because he is the sole supporter of our family. I am the only one able to drive him back and forth...
    kimberlyanngray kimberlyanngray 46-50 3 Responses Oct 29, 2011

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    How I've Turned Into Everything I Hated About You.

    We started talking on a social networking site for a short while before we decided to meet in person. On our first date things went good, and I thought we had really hit it off pretty well. To this day, I still regret how fast things moved along. Immediately after our first date...
    AnywhereButHome AnywhereButHome 18-21 4 Responses May 24, 2011

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    What Doesn't Kill You Makes You Stronger..

    I was married to a man who I thought was a loving, caring, sensitive person, until about 5 months into the marriage. He had always been a funny, witty person who had a southern charm and accent that would make anyone melt. we had been dating for about 2 yrs when he...
    singlnurs singlnurs 46-50, F 6 Responses Mar 11, 2009

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    I Was Abused By My Boyfriend And His Best Friend

    I am 14 years old and I have been dating this boy on and off since I was 11 and he was 14. Things were all just great back then. "Dan" was just as sweet as could be and I loved him. Last year we didn't date at all and I became close friends with his best buddy "Dyl" Dyl is two...
    aloneandafraid2 aloneandafraid2 13-15 5 Responses Mar 21, 2011

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    LindaMabelle LindaMabelle 36-40, F 1 Response Nov 18

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    As a child abuse survivor, I am completely conscious of how I discipline my son. As a little one, all I had to do was put him in time out. Now that he is twelve, things do not...
    sweetandspicy1 sweetandspicy1 41-45, F 3 Responses Oct 30

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    I've always struggled with accepting that I have been abused. My mother was abusive and I cut her out of my life 5 years ago. My husband was also abusive. I never ended up in the...
    littlegiraffe13 littlegiraffe13 26-30, F 1 Response a week ago

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    I was sexually abused for several years when I was a child. My psychological problems followed me for many years . Because I did allow it to happen even though I understood it was...
    EmmaHansson EmmaHansson 46-50, F 5 Responses Nov 2

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    Tonight I'm having random body aches. Lower back especially. I've read somewhere this isn't unusual for survivors of child abuse. Phantom pains plaguing me. This is new. The pain...
    scarecrow71 scarecrow71 41-45, M 4 Responses Nov 16

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    I had a difficult time accepting that I had been abused as a child. Part of the reason for that is because growing up in that environment one tends to normalize what happened...
    scarecrow71 scarecrow71 41-45, M 1 Response 6 days ago

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    I've been struggling with these memories for years. The memories come and go. I'm not angry anymore, now that I'm older. It doesn't help and the abuser doesn't care. (mine is...
    justme7654 justme7654 46-50, F Oct 29

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    I had a major flashback to childhood today. I finally decided to tell someone that my boyfriend has been very abusive to me for the past two years. I sat down next to my mom and...
    SkullRoseInsignia SkullRoseInsignia 16-17, T 4 Responses Nov 1

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    I never really saw it as abuse. In fact I thought it was normal. I thought getting the **** beat out of you until you had trouble walking and being constantly belittled and...
    chaoshead chaoshead 13-15, M 1 Response Nov 12

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    Its a very sad reality when you actually discover you are a victim of emotional abuse. I was the same, I didn't even know I was made to believe I was the crazy one. One of the...
    LindaMabelle LindaMabelle 36-40, F 2 Responses Nov 17

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    Or not. What is survivor. Do they hold jobs. Do they avoid applying for disability pay. Do they cheer up. If so then me didnt survive.
    OddlyScintilating OddlyScintilating 46-50, M 1 Response Nov 17

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    This story is my own, I’m not telling it to get pity but cause it helps to talk about it and I know it can help others in the same situation or who have been there…. This is...
    chanjen chanjen 41-45, F 3 Responses Nov 18

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    My cousin molested me since i was to young to remember. I started to realize it was wrong around the ages of 7-8. He slept over all the time practically lived with me. I started to...
    Prettygurl234 Prettygurl234 16-17, F 8 Responses 4 days ago

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    Tomorrow I start an intense 8 week program at a local hospital. The program is for adult women who survived childhood trauma and abuse. I was sexually abused when I was 6 - 9 years...
    Etheros Etheros 46-50, F 5 Responses 3 days ago

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    I was abused by my father as a child. We were Jehovahs Witnesses at the time and I told a family friend what was happening. He went and told the elders of the congregation who told...
    meemaw2011 meemaw2011 41-45, F 3 Responses Nov 3

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    I was sexually abused by someone i still see every day. It affected my life greatly, and I still have flashbacks of it. It happened for a while before she was caught. And in my own...
    mugzib mugzib 13-15, F Nov 3

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    It just makes me so mad. How could someone hurt a child intentionally? Reading stories of child abuse just makes me angry at the person who hurt the child, especially when I read...
    RuthieAnja RuthieAnja 18-21, F 5 Responses Nov 14

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    There is life after abuse and no one has to suffer! The cruelty that anyone endures from an abusive relationship should not be underestimated at all. I would like to invite...
    LindaMabelle LindaMabelle 36-40, F a week ago

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    There is life after abuse and no one has to suffer! The cruelty that anyone endures from an abusive relationship should not be underestimated at all. I would like to invite...
    LindaMabelle LindaMabelle 36-40, F a week ago

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    There is life after abuse and no one has to suffer! The cruelty that anyone endures from an abusive relationship should not be underestimated at all. I would like to invite...
    LindaMabelle LindaMabelle 36-40, F 2 Responses a week ago

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    Today is am abuser's birthday. This could possibly be the worst day of the year. Even after all he did to me, he still gets so much support and love from friends and family. I hate...
    jackjack600 jackjack600 18-21, F 3 Responses a week ago

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    just kids experimenting or abuse?? boy 2.5 years older than sister engages her is sex play on landing while dad at pub and mum watching tv. too young to penetrate her. multuple...
    Movingon45 Movingon45 41-45, F 2 Responses 6 days ago

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