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I Am a Survivor of Spousal Abuse

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    I Was Abused By My Boyfriend And His Best Friend

    I am 14 years old and I have been dating this boy on and off since I was 11 and he was 14. Things were all just great back then. "Dan" was just as sweet as could be and I loved him. Last year we didn't date at all and I became close friends with his best buddy "Dyl" Dyl is two...
    aloneandafraid2 aloneandafraid2 13-15 5 Responses Mar 21, 2011

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    What Doesn't Kill You Makes You Stronger..

    I was married to a man who I thought was a loving, caring, sensitive person, until about 5 months into the marriage. He had always been a funny, witty person who had a southern charm and accent that would make anyone melt. we had been dating for about 2 yrs when he...
    singlnurs singlnurs 46-50, F 6 Responses Mar 11, 2009

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    Spousal Addictions and What It Can Do to You

    I've often thought about writing a book to help others to regain their confidence and self-worth because of what I went through.  However, I feel it would really hurt my children and they have been through so much.  I thought about (still thinking) about witnessing to...
    Betterforleaving Betterforleaving 51-55 6 Responses Jun 3, 2009

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    Should I Trust This Guy?

    i started talkin to this guy on the computer and me and him were playin around and jokein and stff and he ask me to send him a pic of me and he would send one of himself.i asked how old he was he said 18 i told him i didnt know that i had sent a pic o myself and it turned out...
    concernedchick94 concernedchick94 13-15, F 1 Response Sep 4, 2009

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    No One Knows

    I get asked all the time why I stayed. I married him because I love him. I told a friend today it was like boiling a frog. I ve heard that if you drop a frog in boiling water he immediately jumps out but if you put him water normal temperature and gradually increase the...
    lakeside2 lakeside2 46-50, F 4 Responses Mar 12, 2012

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    Important To Love Yourself

    God Loves you, with undeserved Grace - unconditionally. He promised to never leave nor forsake you. The Word also tells us to love thy neighbor as thyself. You should put as much energy into loving yourself as much as you do into trying to make someone else love you the right...
    Zerich Zerich 66-70, M Apr 10, 2012

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    I'm Hoping To Call Myself A Survivor...

    I have been married for 4 years to a man I thought I know. We have been together for 14 years. Over the years, he has verbally, amotionally, and physically abused me. For some stupid reason, I have always let it go. I think it's because I never felt likte I could be loved by...
    Lovingmommy Lovingmommy 29, F 4 Responses Jul 21, 2010

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    So Many Times..........

     I can't, won't go into them now.    Too much pain involved, but needless to say, if you are in one now... get out.  Never look back, they don't know the meaning of love if they beat you and in the next breath say it's cause they love you.  There...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Mar 12, 2009

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    I Survived

    I am a 56 year old woman. I spent over 20 years in an abusive relationship. Although I left many times, I seemed to always return, until I finally was able to escape. During my relationship with my abuser, I was isolated, alone, and scared. Before I married my abuser, I had had...
    Gingerlilypad Gingerlilypad 56-60, F 9 Responses Dec 29, 2010

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    How I've Turned Into Everything I Hated About You.

    We started talking on a social networking site for a short while before we decided to meet in person. On our first date things went good, and I thought we had really hit it off pretty well. To this day, I still regret how fast things moved along. Immediately after our first date...
    AnywhereButHome AnywhereButHome 18-21 4 Responses May 24, 2011

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    The Dragons Roar

    I am a survivor! You can soon purchase my book under the title: When The Dragons Roar. There are thousands of proclaimed survivors of spousal abuse every year, for that I am so thankful. However, it is my estimation that there are tens of thousands of victims at any given moment...
    whenthedragonsroar whenthedragonsroar 46-50, F Sep 26, 2013

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    Just Stressed

    I grew up in a house with an alcoholic mother. One of five, we faced violence, threats to be killed, lack of food, electricity, just the basics I suppose. I was not looked after, constantly had nits, holes in my clothes. etc These experiences have really messed me up. Now as a 3...
    TheSpectral TheSpectral 31-35, F 1 Response Apr 3, 2012

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    Oh God Help Me, Still Waiting

    i got pregnant to my first boyfriend when he took me to a picnic and said that the only way back home was to sleep with him.  I hated him but i couldnt tell anyone. the prgnancy caused my parents to demand marriage. he beat me really bad the night before the wedding, i was...
    elliepenelly elliepenelly 51-55 3 Responses Sep 29, 2010

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    I Got Out

    After two years, I got out. I am still trying to make sense of it all. I finally realized that there was no making him understand, I was a professional, just out of really bad marriage, fell for guy that wanted to get married right then. I still can't talk about much of it...
    lakeside2 lakeside2 46-50, F 2 Responses Mar 11, 2012

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    I Am Not One Yet, But Hope To Be

    Hello, I need some help. I am married to my husband for the second time. He is currently incarcerated for domestic battery, and I am the victim. I fought for him to get work release because he is the sole supporter of our family. I am the only one able to drive him back and forth...
    kimberlyanngray kimberlyanngray 46-50 3 Responses Oct 29, 2011

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    Does This Count?

     I am just his friend. We aren't even dating. I couldn't find anything like this one so here goes. I have a crush on my best guy friend. He's 15 and I'm 14. The first time he hit me when it wasn't just horseplay it wasn't really a hit. He put me in a head lock. He held me...
    aloneandafraid2 aloneandafraid2 13-15 4 Responses Jul 26, 2010

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    No One Deserves to Be Put Down

    My marriage lasted for over 16 years, but it wasn't happy.  It was full of mood swings, ups and downs, with usually the downs lasting longest.  There were probably 25 incidents of pushing, grabbing, lifting and dropping, punching in the arm, throwing across the driveway...
    dancingonthehill dancingonthehill 51-55, F 14 Responses Apr 8, 2009

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    Sad But True

    I was with a man I loved more than anything for 5 years. We had our ups and downs....over all it "seemed" like a good relationship and it wasn’t until the end that I really realized it was the worst mistake of my life. He came from a bad family background....and I always...
    melmel22 melmel22 26-30, F 1 Response Feb 21, 2011

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    What Makes Me A Survivor

    I am a survivor. I have gotten out. I found help and used it. I don't think about the past as much as I used to. I have moved on with my life. I have found a great support group. I have found happiness. I am healthy again in my mind. I can say that its not my fault...
    jcue1976 jcue1976 31-35, F 7 Responses Sep 16, 2011

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    Well, I Was Just a Girlfriend

    But I couldn't find "Abusive boyfriend" so I figured this would do. I fell for a guy 12 years older than I when I was 18. I knew that the odds against the relationship were high, but I was really committed to making it work. I dated this guy for a few months and...
    Voodoolou Voodoolou 22-25, F 4 Responses Jul 18, 2009

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    Related Experiences

    ask me questions. i'm trying to recover as we speak, I've been working on it for about 4 months now. I am not afraid of people's judgement because I'm not going to defend my past...
    DrkHrse DrkHrse 22-25 1 Response Jul 1

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    I wish she instead asked, " Are a Child Abuse Survivor". It is a Statement. How she made it a choice for all. I was never ABUSED as a Child. My Abuse began when I was 35.
    paradisequeen paradisequeen 41-45, F 2 Responses 9 hrs ago

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    Dont you think its strange as survivor to trust people after being abused? I know one naive woman who was abused all her life (i know her from videos) and she still has hope and...
    angel8i angel8i 31-35, F 1 Response Jun 26

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    Once u was abused, i tell u honestly- u will never get over it. Never. You can do a therapy , it will help you to bring all the repressed hurt out but it wouldnt make the abuse...
    angel8i angel8i 31-35, F 2 days ago

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    So here is my story all my life I seeked attention I wanted to be the cemter of attention : talking loud .acting dramaticly .fighting with teacher to make them noticing me born in...
    aryela aryela 18-21, F Jul 10

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    I left my abuser after 2 short years of marriage. He wasn't like this before we married, and I was widowed for 7 years prior to meeting him. He broke my nose in 2 places and it was...
    Marie1958 Marie1958 51-55, F 1 Response Jul 5

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    Before I start my story I want it to be known I am a strong and capable woman, mother and everything else I am supposed to be. It took me a long time to be able to say that. From...
    cmdaniels74 cmdaniels74 36-40, F 2 Responses Jun 29

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    I was abandoned and neglected. I was physically, emotionally and sexually abused throughout my whole childhood from ages 0-17. I was in Foster care and lived in 5 different house...
    katcard katcard 18-21, F 5 Responses Jun 28

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    I have survived many types of abuse through life physical, sexual, mental and emotional.... I believe these things have made me who I am today.. And I am truly stronger for it... I...
    mssst mssst 36-40, F 1 Response Jul 8

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    At the age of 4 my mother abandon my sibblings and I , my father did the best he could . He worked and he was an alcoholic . At the age of 4 I was sexually assaulted by to...
    sara75 sara75 56-60, F 1 Response a week ago

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    I ran into an old friend I grew up with. We weren't really that close but were from the same neighborhood. Been at least ten years. We met at Starbucks, since both of us are clean...
    Airmech Airmech 46-50, M 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    It was one of the nails that sealed my coffin, damning me to a short lived life of isolation. My life has been one wreck after another, but I suppose it starts here at the gateway...
    Yearsgoby Yearsgoby 18-21, M 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    i don't know if me and my siblings are being abused but it seems like we might be i never thought about it before because we are homeschooled and this is my first phone and i got...
    valbunny valbunny 13-15, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    My whole family is dysfunctional, My mums side you had... My mum bless her was an alcoholic, My brother was a druggie and alcoholic, Three of my mums brothers were druggies and...
    Gentleandlovingsoul Gentleandlovingsoul 36-40, F 1 Response Jul 1

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    I have survived alot abusive mother, sexual abuse in care homes, I have a back problem,my ex I found in bed with another woman and I'm still here. Nothing going to beat me.
    vampirish vampirish 46-50, F 1 Response 14 hrs ago

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    My mom had an abortion when I was 8 or 9. She told me how I was going to have a sister and then she got rid of it. It took me years until it finally hit me and I had survivors...
    Xander8905 Xander8905 18-21, M Jul 13

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    June 2002 - my cousin, who I grew up with and was close to, was suddenly shot one time in the chest at 4 AM... He was 26 and it was labeled suicide... He had spoke to his aunt that...
    DarkwingGoslyn DarkwingGoslyn 31-35 1 Response Jul 14

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    Starting at the 7th grade and lasting until the late 9th grade yearly 10th grade I suffered with depression and several suicide attempts. I thought I was alone..because you know...
    MacKenzie31113 MacKenzie31113 16-17, F 1 Response Jul 14

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    Or am i. Explored knives twice. Watched beetlejuice inbetween. Aborted both times. Why. Why. Hope maybe. Maybe. But society got worse. So why still hope...
    converted converted 46-50, M Jul 14

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    I was emotionally abused by my mother all of my life. The abuse started as i was 9 and continued till last year. As i lived with my parents in my mother country i was hurt every...
    angel8i angel8i 31-35, F 1 Response Jul 8

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    I don't know whats worse; the physical or emotional abuse.. Physical signs of abuse go away, well most of mine did; a couple scars and such here and there but nothing a little...
    softballgirl3 softballgirl3 16-17, F 1 Response Jun 26

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    Finding out that someone else within the family was abused by the same person as I was as a child breaks my ******* heart. I would never wish abuse of any sort on my worst enemy...
    herebutinvisible herebutinvisible 16-17, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    I cheated on my husband, then i left him. He was mean, and I'm tired of repeating the details, but by mean I intend to say that he fits into many of the descriptors of an...
    Regrets472 Regrets472 26-30, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    I cheated on my husband, then i left him. He was mean, and I'm tired of repeating the details, but by mean I intend to say that he fits into many of the descriptors of an...
    Regrets472 Regrets472 26-30, F 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    I cheated on my husband, then i left him. He was mean, and I'm tired of repeating the details, but by mean I intend to say that he fits into many of the descriptors of an...
    Regrets472 Regrets472 26-30, F 2 days ago

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    I'm only 14. I've had depression, technically, since I was about 8 or 9 (when I realized just how big of an a**hole my dad was), but it's only been a problem for about a year or so...
    LaurenHarris LaurenHarris 13-15, F 3 Responses Jun 28

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    Boy everyone here is really taking a stand. Ooooh you are against child abuse! So edgy! How can you stand to be so daring?? Does this even need to be said? Does anyone like child...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Jul 3

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    Im now 9 years using the internet. I was trying to put my feelings on EP, other forums online, but i met rarelly any victims of abuse.Either they have shame to come out and talk...
    angel8i angel8i 31-35, F 1 Response Jul 8

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    My body has become a symbol for who I am. I'm so small showing my deepest desire to slip away into nothingness. I have cut my arms to mar the skin as if to be a constant reminder...
    PoetGirl97 PoetGirl97 13-15, F 1 Response Jul 8

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