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I Am a Survivor of Spousal Abuse

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 114 People

    ... And then he said "now we are married,

    and I can do anything I want with you." ... And then he did.
    PKFM30 PKFM30 26-30, F Jun 8

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    How I've Turned Into Everything I Hated About You.

    We started talking on a social networking site for a short while before we decided to meet in person. On our first date things went good, and I thought we had really hit it off pretty well. To this day, I still regret how fast things moved along. Immediately after our first date...
    AnywhereButHome AnywhereButHome 18-21 4 Responses May 24, 2011

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    What Doesn't Kill You Makes You Stronger..

    I was married to a man who I thought was a loving, caring, sensitive person, until about 5 months into the marriage. He had always been a funny, witty person who had a southern charm and accent that would make anyone melt. we had been dating for about 2 yrs when he...
    singlnurs singlnurs 46-50, F 6 Responses Mar 11, 2009

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    Younger women dating older men mainly

    because younger women are attracted older men. older men mature, confident, stable .Mature guys always know how to treat their women.These younger women are looking for their age gap love romance.For older men, Younger women older men relationships will surely make an older man...
    adeleccaa adeleccaa 26-30, F Dec 21, 2014

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    Important To Love Yourself

    God Loves you, with undeserved Grace - unconditionally. He promised to never leave nor forsake you. The Word also tells us to love thy neighbor as thyself. You should put as much energy into loving yourself as much as you do into trying to make someone else love you the right...
    Zerich Zerich 66-70, M Apr 10, 2012

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    Just Stressed

    I grew up in a house with an alcoholic mother. One of five, we faced violence, threats to be killed, lack of food, electricity, just the basics I suppose. I was not looked after, constantly had nits, holes in my clothes. etc These experiences have really messed me up. Now as a 3...
    TheSpectral TheSpectral 31-35, F 1 Response Apr 3, 2012

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    Spousal Addictions and What It Can Do to You

    I've often thought about writing a book to help others to regain their confidence and self-worth because of what I went through.  However, I feel it would really hurt my children and they have been through so much.  I thought about (still thinking) about witnessing to...
    Betterforleaving Betterforleaving 51-55 6 Responses Jun 3, 2009

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    I Got Out

    After two years, I got out. I am still trying to make sense of it all. I finally realized that there was no making him understand, I was a professional, just out of really bad marriage, fell for guy that wanted to get married right then. I still can't talk about much of it...
    lakeside2 lakeside2 46-50, F 2 Responses Mar 11, 2012

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    #WhyIStayed #WhyILeft is it

    just me or are there any others, that while finding relatable experiences being put forth under both hashtags (in light of the Rice case).... also find that it triggers some really difficult emotions to deal with? Maybe (not maybe) it's PTSD rearing its ugly head with me of...
    VerveMum VerveMum 36-40, F 1 Response Sep 9, 2014

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    I'm Hoping To Call Myself A Survivor...

    I have been married for 4 years to a man I thought I know. We have been together for 14 years. Over the years, he has verbally, amotionally, and physically abused me. For some stupid reason, I have always let it go. I think it's because I never felt likte I could be loved by...
    Lovingmommy Lovingmommy 26-30, F 4 Responses Jul 21, 2010

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    I could get into the whole story behind

    why I feel what I feel now though I think that would defeat the purpose of my goal. I'm trying to live both in the present and look towards the future. Every day is a struggle even three months after we broke up. I ask myself "Why me?" every day I ask myself "Would things have...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Dec 21, 2014

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    Well, I Was Just a Girlfriend

    But I couldn't find "Abusive boyfriend" so I figured this would do. I fell for a guy 12 years older than I when I was 18. I knew that the odds against the relationship were high, but I was really committed to making it work. I dated this guy for a few months and...
    Voodoolou Voodoolou 22-25, F 4 Responses Jul 18, 2009

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    Should I Trust This Guy?

    i started talkin to this guy on the computer and me and him were playin around and jokein and stff and he ask me to send him a pic of me and he would send one of himself.i asked how old he was he said 18 i told him i didnt know that i had sent a pic o myself and it turned out...
    concernedchick94 concernedchick94 13-15, F 1 Response Sep 4, 2009

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    No One Knows

    I get asked all the time why I stayed. I married him because I love him. I told a friend today it was like boiling a frog. I ve heard that if you drop a frog in boiling water he immediately jumps out but if you put him water normal temperature and gradually increase the...
    lakeside2 lakeside2 46-50, F 4 Responses Mar 12, 2012

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    Oh God Help Me, Still Waiting

    i got pregnant to my first boyfriend when he took me to a picnic and said that the only way back home was to sleep with him.  I hated him but i couldnt tell anyone. the prgnancy caused my parents to demand marriage. he beat me really bad the night before the wedding, i was...
    elliepenelly elliepenelly 51-55 3 Responses Sep 29, 2010

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    I Survived

    I am a 56 year old woman. I spent over 20 years in an abusive relationship. Although I left many times, I seemed to always return, until I finally was able to escape. During my relationship with my abuser, I was isolated, alone, and scared. Before I married my abuser, I had had...
    Gingerlilypad Gingerlilypad 56-60, F 9 Responses Dec 29, 2010

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    What Makes Me A Survivor

    I am a survivor. I have gotten out. I found help and used it. I don't think about the past as much as I used to. I have moved on with my life. I have found a great support group. I have found happiness. I am healthy again in my mind. I can say that its not my fault...
    jcue1976 jcue1976 31-35, F 7 Responses Sep 16, 2011

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    Does This Count?

     I am just his friend. We aren't even dating. I couldn't find anything like this one so here goes. I have a crush on my best guy friend. He's 15 and I'm 14. The first time he hit me when it wasn't just horseplay it wasn't really a hit. He put me in a head lock. He held me...
    aloneandafraid2 aloneandafraid2 13-15 4 Responses Jul 26, 2010

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    No One Deserves to Be Put Down

    My marriage lasted for over 16 years, but it wasn't happy.  It was full of mood swings, ups and downs, with usually the downs lasting longest.  There were probably 25 incidents of pushing, grabbing, lifting and dropping, punching in the arm, throwing across the driveway...
    dancingonthehill dancingonthehill 51-55, F 14 Responses Apr 8, 2009

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    I Am Not One Yet, But Hope To Be

    Hello, I need some help. I am married to my husband for the second time. He is currently incarcerated for domestic battery, and I am the victim. I fought for him to get work release because he is the sole supporter of our family. I am the only one able to drive him back and forth...
    kimberlyanngray kimberlyanngray 46-50 3 Responses Oct 29, 2011

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    I Was Abused By My Boyfriend And His Best Friend

    I am 14 years old and I have been dating this boy on and off since I was 11 and he was 14. Things were all just great back then. "Dan" was just as sweet as could be and I loved him. Last year we didn't date at all and I became close friends with his best buddy "Dyl" Dyl is two...
    aloneandafraid2 aloneandafraid2 13-15 5 Responses Mar 21, 2011

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    The Dragons Roar

    I am a survivor! You can soon purchase my book under the title: When The Dragons Roar. There are thousands of proclaimed survivors of spousal abuse every year, for that I am so thankful. However, it is my estimation that there are tens of thousands of victims at any given moment...
    whenthedragonsroar whenthedragonsroar 51-55, F Sep 26, 2013

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    Sad But True

    I was with a man I loved more than anything for 5 years. We had our ups and downs....over all it "seemed" like a good relationship and it wasn’t until the end that I really realized it was the worst mistake of my life. He came from a bad family background....and I always...
    melmel22 melmel22 26-30, F 1 Response Feb 21, 2011

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    So Many Times..........

     I can't, won't go into them now.    Too much pain involved, but needless to say, if you are in one now... get out.  Never look back, they don't know the meaning of love if they beat you and in the next breath say it's cause they love you.  There...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Mar 12, 2009

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    Related Experiences

    I was physically abused by my dad growing up because of his closed head injury... it somethings that makes him do things and he's not able to control them. So every time I did even...
    Grande8 Grande8 13-15, M 3 Responses 2 days ago

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    https://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=a2d5gvpNatAI hate Child abuse very much. its the Worst thing that someone can do to a Child. no Child should ever hurt, or...
    BroknGirl89 BroknGirl89 26-30, F 2 days ago

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    I don't know if I am a survivor...Yes I have a heartbeat, but am I really alive?? My first abuser was my father. He then created a ring of people. I don't know how I survived...
    CRPSsurviving CRPSsurviving 26-30, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    A friend sparked an enormous soul searching the other day when she asked me if I was a bug to be picked up and eaten? If you know me at all you'll realise how much pride I have in...
    Faerylight Faerylight 41-45, F 7 Responses 2 days ago

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    When i was about 3, my sister came to get me and told me that Sandy, an Indian man who lived with us, almost constantly since birth, until my parents separated in year 10, when i...
    PixieGrin108 PixieGrin108 22-25, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    I've come to learn that one of the hardest things about being a survivor is not going back. People who aren't survivors and who don't know one have no idea that one of their "jokes...
    cheerdiva cheerdiva 16-17, F 3 Responses 3 days ago

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    Am I a survivor I don't know I don't feel like one well I am living but that doesn't mean I am alive
    innocentsoul innocentsoul 18-21 3 Responses 3 days ago

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    To my father, my abuser for 25 years: I am writing to inform you that I know exactly who and what you are. Additionally, despite your many years of bullying & brainwashing...
    wowodeals wowodeals 26-30, F 3 days ago

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    Hi. My friends MOM physically and emotionally abused him.....but that's ok right? My own mom was an *** often and i have several friends whos moms physically and/or emotionally...
    Shonronrep Shonronrep 18-21, M 1 Response 3 days ago

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    It shouldn't hurt to be a child, yet most abuse cases, are from parents. You would never think that someone who is suppose to Love and protect you, to hurt you, yet it is happenin...
    BroknGirl89 BroknGirl89 26-30, F 4 days ago

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    I hate men that abuse woman and children. I don't think that someone who abuses can even call themselves a man. I think someone who abuses woman and children is a worthless piece...
    BroknGirl89 BroknGirl89 26-30, F 4 days ago

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    Child abuse is the worst thing that someone could do to a child. No child deserves to be hurt in any kind of way. Child abuse effects you for your entire life. It leaves you with a...
    BroknGirl89 BroknGirl89 26-30, F 3 Responses 4 days ago

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    I feel so much pain for all the abused children out there, maybe it was because I was one of them, I was in their shoes, and I know what they are feeling, and the paint that they...
    BroknGirl89 BroknGirl89 26-30, F 4 days ago

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    I don't understand why some people look away.I truly hated my neighbor for not intervening.My mother physically,emotional,and sexually abused my siblings and I.Finally we had...
    Duckygirl2 Duckygirl2 46-50, F 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    I have made two major attempts on my life, once at 17 and another at 27. (background: I have borderline personality disorder and PTSD. I started self harming at 13. I'm a survivor...
    BigBaddaBoom BigBaddaBoom 26-30, F 6 days ago

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    I will forever be scarred by the emotional abuse that I have endured. How can a relationship that started off so great take such a drastic turn? How can the man you love turn into...
    kait52 kait52 18-21, F 1 Response a week ago

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    I am twenty and I am still haunted on what my parents did to me when I was little. They have done everything from emotional manipulation to mental abuse; they even have gotten...
    icanonlydeterminemyhappiness icanonlydeterminemyhappiness 18-21, F 3 Responses a week ago

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    In the past few years I have been shamed blamed and ridiculed for a decision to choose myself and my health over my own child. I had an abortion. Since then I have been diagnosed...
    MoonFlowerCloud MoonFlowerCloud 31-35, F a week ago

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    This divorce is taking far too long. It's ridiculous. Every time there seems to be some glimmer of hope, it's fake. Court dates get postponed multiple times. There's a new law for...
    newchick11 newchick11 26-30, F 3 Responses Jun 28

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