I Am a Survivor of Spousal Abuse

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 112 People

    I Was Abused By My Boyfriend And His Best Friend

    I am 14 years old and I have been dating this boy on and off since I was 11 and he was 14. Things were all just great back then. "Dan" was just as sweet as could be and I loved him. Last year we didn't date at all and I became close friends with his best buddy "Dyl" Dyl is two...
    aloneandafraid2 aloneandafraid2
    13-15
    5 Responses Mar 21, 2011

    ... And then he said "now we are married,

    and I can do anything I want with you." ... And then he did.
    PKFM30 PKFM30
    26-30, F
    Jun 8, 2015

    So Many Times..........

     I can't, won't go into them now.    Too much pain involved, but needless to say, if you are in one now... get out.  Never look back, they don't know the meaning of love if they beat you and in the next breath say it's cause they love you.  There...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    2 Responses Mar 12, 2009

    Should I Trust This Guy?

    i started talkin to this guy on the computer and me and him were playin around and jokein and stff and he ask me to send him a pic of me and he would send one of himself.i asked how old he was he said 18 i told him i didnt know that i had sent a pic o myself and it turned out...
    concernedchick94 concernedchick94
    13-15, F
    1 Response Sep 4, 2009

    No One Knows

    I get asked all the time why I stayed. I married him because I love him. I told a friend today it was like boiling a frog. I ve heard that if you drop a frog in boiling water he immediately jumps out but if you put him water normal temperature and gradually increase the...
    lakeside2 lakeside2
    46-50, F
    4 Responses Mar 12, 2012

    How I've Turned Into Everything I Hated About You.

    We started talking on a social networking site for a short while before we decided to meet in person. On our first date things went good, and I thought we had really hit it off pretty well. To this day, I still regret how fast things moved along. Immediately after our first date...
    AnywhereButHome AnywhereButHome
    18-21
    4 Responses May 24, 2011

    I'm Hoping To Call Myself A Survivor...

    I have been married for 4 years to a man I thought I know. We have been together for 14 years. Over the years, he has verbally, amotionally, and physically abused me. For some stupid reason, I have always let it go. I think it's because I never felt likte I could be loved by...
    Lovingmommy Lovingmommy
    26-30, F
    4 Responses Jul 21, 2010

    No One Deserves to Be Put Down

    My marriage lasted for over 16 years, but it wasn't happy.  It was full of mood swings, ups and downs, with usually the downs lasting longest.  There were probably 25 incidents of pushing, grabbing, lifting and dropping, punching in the arm, throwing across the driveway...
    dancingonthehill dancingonthehill
    51-55, F
    14 Responses Apr 8, 2009

    The Dragons Roar

    I am a survivor! You can soon purchase my book under the title: When The Dragons Roar. There are thousands of proclaimed survivors of spousal abuse every year, for that I am so thankful. However, it is my estimation that there are tens of thousands of victims at any given moment...
    whenthedragonsroar whenthedragonsroar
    51-55, F
    Sep 26, 2013

    Younger women dating older men mainly

    because younger women are attracted older men. older men mature, confident, stable .Mature guys always know how to treat their women.These younger women are looking for their age gap love romance.For older men, Younger women older men relationships will surely make an older man...
    adeleccaa adeleccaa
    26-30, F
    Dec 21, 2014

    #WhyIStayed #WhyILeft is it

    just me or are there any others, that while finding relatable experiences being put forth under both hashtags (in light of the Rice case).... also find that it triggers some really difficult emotions to deal with? Maybe (not maybe) it's PTSD rearing its ugly head with me of...
    VerveMum VerveMum
    36-40, F
    1 Response Sep 9, 2014

    Just Stressed

    I grew up in a house with an alcoholic mother. One of five, we faced violence, threats to be killed, lack of food, electricity, just the basics I suppose. I was not looked after, constantly had nits, holes in my clothes. etc These experiences have really messed me up. Now as a 3...
    TheSpectral TheSpectral
    31-35, F
    1 Response Apr 3, 2012

    Sad But True

    I was with a man I loved more than anything for 5 years. We had our ups and downs....over all it "seemed" like a good relationship and it wasn’t until the end that I really realized it was the worst mistake of my life. He came from a bad family background....and I always...
    melmel22 melmel22
    26-30, F
    1 Response Feb 21, 2011

    What Doesn't Kill You Makes You Stronger..

    I was married to a man who I thought was a loving, caring, sensitive person, until about 5 months into the marriage. He had always been a funny, witty person who had a southern charm and accent that would make anyone melt. we had been dating for about 2 yrs when he...
    singlnurs singlnurs
    46-50, F
    6 Responses Mar 11, 2009

    Well, I Was Just a Girlfriend

    But I couldn't find "Abusive boyfriend" so I figured this would do. I fell for a guy 12 years older than I when I was 18. I knew that the odds against the relationship were high, but I was really committed to making it work. I dated this guy for a few months and...
    Voodoolou Voodoolou
    22-25, F
    4 Responses Jul 18, 2009

    I Got Out

    After two years, I got out. I am still trying to make sense of it all. I finally realized that there was no making him understand, I was a professional, just out of really bad marriage, fell for guy that wanted to get married right then. I still can't talk about much of it...
    lakeside2 lakeside2
    46-50, F
    2 Responses Mar 11, 2012

    its been forever since i left.

    .will i always feel broken
    Smiletoday33 Smiletoday33
    31-35, F
    Sep 10, 2015

    Spousal Addictions and What It Can Do to You

    I've often thought about writing a book to help others to regain their confidence and self-worth because of what I went through.  However, I feel it would really hurt my children and they have been through so much.  I thought about (still thinking) about witnessing to...
    Betterforleaving Betterforleaving
    51-55
    6 Responses Jun 3, 2009

    What Makes Me A Survivor

    I am a survivor. I have gotten out. I found help and used it. I don't think about the past as much as I used to. I have moved on with my life. I have found a great support group. I have found happiness. I am healthy again in my mind. I can say that its not my fault...
    jcue1976 jcue1976
    31-35, F
    7 Responses Sep 16, 2011

    Does This Count?

     I am just his friend. We aren't even dating. I couldn't find anything like this one so here goes. I have a crush on my best guy friend. He's 15 and I'm 14. The first time he hit me when it wasn't just horseplay it wasn't really a hit. He put me in a head lock. He held me...
    aloneandafraid2 aloneandafraid2
    13-15
    4 Responses Jul 26, 2010

    I Am Not One Yet, But Hope To Be

    Hello, I need some help. I am married to my husband for the second time. He is currently incarcerated for domestic battery, and I am the victim. I fought for him to get work release because he is the sole supporter of our family. I am the only one able to drive him back and forth...
    kimberlyanngray kimberlyanngray
    46-50
    3 Responses Oct 29, 2011

    I Survived

    I am a 56 year old woman. I spent over 20 years in an abusive relationship. Although I left many times, I seemed to always return, until I finally was able to escape. During my relationship with my abuser, I was isolated, alone, and scared. Before I married my abuser, I had had...
    Gingerlilypad Gingerlilypad
    56-60, F
    9 Responses Dec 29, 2010

    I could get into the whole story behind

    why I feel what I feel now though I think that would defeat the purpose of my goal. I'm trying to live both in the present and look towards the future. Every day is a struggle even three months after we broke up. I ask myself "Why me?" every day I ask myself "Would things have...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Dec 21, 2014

    Important To Love Yourself

    God Loves you, with undeserved Grace - unconditionally. He promised to never leave nor forsake you. The Word also tells us to love thy neighbor as thyself. You should put as much energy into loving yourself as much as you do into trying to make someone else love you the right...
    Zerich Zerich
    66-70, M
    Apr 10, 2012

    Oh God Help Me, Still Waiting

    i got pregnant to my first boyfriend when he took me to a picnic and said that the only way back home was to sleep with him.  I hated him but i couldnt tell anyone. the prgnancy caused my parents to demand marriage. he beat me really bad the night before the wedding, i was...
    elliepenelly elliepenelly
    51-55
    3 Responses Sep 29, 2010

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