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I Am a Survivor of Spousal Abuse

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 108 People

    So Many Times..........

     I can't, won't go into them now.    Too much pain involved, but needless to say, if you are in one now... get out.  Never look back, they don't know the meaning of love if they beat you and in the next breath say it's cause they love you.  There...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Mar 12, 2009

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    Younger women dating older men mainly

    because younger women are attracted older men. older men mature, confident, stable .Mature guys always know how to treat their women.These younger women are looking for their age gap love romance.For older men, Younger women older men relationships will surely make an older man...
    adeleccaa adeleccaa 26-30, F Dec 21, 2014

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    Should I Trust This Guy?

    i started talkin to this guy on the computer and me and him were playin around and jokein and stff and he ask me to send him a pic of me and he would send one of himself.i asked how old he was he said 18 i told him i didnt know that i had sent a pic o myself and it turned out...
    concernedchick94 concernedchick94 13-15, F 1 Response Sep 4, 2009

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    Well, I Was Just a Girlfriend

    But I couldn't find "Abusive boyfriend" so I figured this would do. I fell for a guy 12 years older than I when I was 18. I knew that the odds against the relationship were high, but I was really committed to making it work. I dated this guy for a few months and...
    Voodoolou Voodoolou 22-25, F 4 Responses Jul 18, 2009

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    No One Deserves to Be Put Down

    My marriage lasted for over 16 years, but it wasn't happy.  It was full of mood swings, ups and downs, with usually the downs lasting longest.  There were probably 25 incidents of pushing, grabbing, lifting and dropping, punching in the arm, throwing across the driveway...
    dancingonthehill dancingonthehill 51-55, F 14 Responses Apr 8, 2009

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    I Was Abused By My Boyfriend And His Best Friend

    I am 14 years old and I have been dating this boy on and off since I was 11 and he was 14. Things were all just great back then. "Dan" was just as sweet as could be and I loved him. Last year we didn't date at all and I became close friends with his best buddy "Dyl" Dyl is two...
    aloneandafraid2 aloneandafraid2 13-15 5 Responses Mar 21, 2011

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    The Dragons Roar

    I am a survivor! You can soon purchase my book under the title: When The Dragons Roar. There are thousands of proclaimed survivors of spousal abuse every year, for that I am so thankful. However, it is my estimation that there are tens of thousands of victims at any given moment...
    whenthedragonsroar whenthedragonsroar 51-55, F Sep 26, 2013

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    I Survived

    I am a 56 year old woman. I spent over 20 years in an abusive relationship. Although I left many times, I seemed to always return, until I finally was able to escape. During my relationship with my abuser, I was isolated, alone, and scared. Before I married my abuser, I had had...
    Gingerlilypad Gingerlilypad 56-60, F 9 Responses Dec 29, 2010

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    What Doesn't Kill You Makes You Stronger..

    I was married to a man who I thought was a loving, caring, sensitive person, until about 5 months into the marriage. He had always been a funny, witty person who had a southern charm and accent that would make anyone melt. we had been dating for about 2 yrs when he...
    singlnurs singlnurs 46-50, F 6 Responses Mar 11, 2009

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    I'm Hoping To Call Myself A Survivor...

    I have been married for 4 years to a man I thought I know. We have been together for 14 years. Over the years, he has verbally, amotionally, and physically abused me. For some stupid reason, I have always let it go. I think it's because I never felt likte I could be loved by...
    Lovingmommy Lovingmommy 29, F 4 Responses Jul 21, 2010

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    How I've Turned Into Everything I Hated About You.

    We started talking on a social networking site for a short while before we decided to meet in person. On our first date things went good, and I thought we had really hit it off pretty well. To this day, I still regret how fast things moved along. Immediately after our first date...
    AnywhereButHome AnywhereButHome 18-21 4 Responses May 24, 2011

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    I Am Not One Yet, But Hope To Be

    Hello, I need some help. I am married to my husband for the second time. He is currently incarcerated for domestic battery, and I am the victim. I fought for him to get work release because he is the sole supporter of our family. I am the only one able to drive him back and forth...
    kimberlyanngray kimberlyanngray 46-50 3 Responses Oct 29, 2011

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    #WhyIStayed #WhyILeft is it

    just me or are there any others, that while finding relatable experiences being put forth under both hashtags (in light of the Rice case).... also find that it triggers some really difficult emotions to deal with? Maybe (not maybe) it's PTSD rearing its ugly head with me of...
    VerveMum VerveMum 36-40, F 1 Response Sep 9, 2014

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    Sad But True

    I was with a man I loved more than anything for 5 years. We had our ups and downs....over all it "seemed" like a good relationship and it wasn’t until the end that I really realized it was the worst mistake of my life. He came from a bad family background....and I always...
    melmel22 melmel22 26-30, F 1 Response Feb 21, 2011

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    Important To Love Yourself

    God Loves you, with undeserved Grace - unconditionally. He promised to never leave nor forsake you. The Word also tells us to love thy neighbor as thyself. You should put as much energy into loving yourself as much as you do into trying to make someone else love you the right...
    Zerich Zerich 66-70, M Apr 10, 2012

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    I could get into the whole story behind

    why I feel what I feel now though I think that would defeat the purpose of my goal. I'm trying to live both in the present and look towards the future. Every day is a struggle even three months after we broke up. I ask myself "Why me?" every day I ask myself "Would things have...
    TheWicked TheWicked 26-30, F 1 Response Dec 21, 2014

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    Oh God Help Me, Still Waiting

    i got pregnant to my first boyfriend when he took me to a picnic and said that the only way back home was to sleep with him.  I hated him but i couldnt tell anyone. the prgnancy caused my parents to demand marriage. he beat me really bad the night before the wedding, i was...
    elliepenelly elliepenelly 51-55 3 Responses Sep 29, 2010

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    Does This Count?

     I am just his friend. We aren't even dating. I couldn't find anything like this one so here goes. I have a crush on my best guy friend. He's 15 and I'm 14. The first time he hit me when it wasn't just horseplay it wasn't really a hit. He put me in a head lock. He held me...
    aloneandafraid2 aloneandafraid2 13-15 4 Responses Jul 26, 2010

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    Spousal Addictions and What It Can Do to You

    I've often thought about writing a book to help others to regain their confidence and self-worth because of what I went through.  However, I feel it would really hurt my children and they have been through so much.  I thought about (still thinking) about witnessing to...
    Betterforleaving Betterforleaving 51-55 6 Responses Jun 3, 2009

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    What Makes Me A Survivor

    I am a survivor. I have gotten out. I found help and used it. I don't think about the past as much as I used to. I have moved on with my life. I have found a great support group. I have found happiness. I am healthy again in my mind. I can say that its not my fault...
    jcue1976 jcue1976 31-35, F 7 Responses Sep 16, 2011

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    No One Knows

    I get asked all the time why I stayed. I married him because I love him. I told a friend today it was like boiling a frog. I ve heard that if you drop a frog in boiling water he immediately jumps out but if you put him water normal temperature and gradually increase the...
    lakeside2 lakeside2 46-50, F 4 Responses Mar 12, 2012

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    Just Stressed

    I grew up in a house with an alcoholic mother. One of five, we faced violence, threats to be killed, lack of food, electricity, just the basics I suppose. I was not looked after, constantly had nits, holes in my clothes. etc These experiences have really messed me up. Now as a 3...
    TheSpectral TheSpectral 31-35, F 1 Response Apr 3, 2012

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    I Got Out

    After two years, I got out. I am still trying to make sense of it all. I finally realized that there was no making him understand, I was a professional, just out of really bad marriage, fell for guy that wanted to get married right then. I still can't talk about much of it...
    lakeside2 lakeside2 46-50, F 2 Responses Mar 11, 2012

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    My brother from so long ago physically sexually verbally abused me I was a frightened little girl who was always hiding n running away but was always found Very very violent n...
    LATEENO79 LATEENO79 31-35, F 4 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    It's been 25 years ago I left the man who abused me. It took a while to become strong but I built a good life raised my son the best I could and had a successful business. My son...
    Truthsetsmefree Truthsetsmefree 61-65 1 Response Jan 2

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    It stops with me. Yes, I was abused. Still am, and I'm 65 years old. I was watching an episode of Law and Order SVU, and one of the characters said it poignantly said that she...
    casualwear casualwear 61-65, M 4 Responses Jan 4

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    It's funny how kids/teens these day say they were abused mentally/physically/emotionally over little things that are meaningless like a spank or their dad being an alcoholic, or...
    MrHypothetical MrHypothetical 18-21, M 5 Responses Jan 9

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    So, as I wrote before I am in relational group trauma therapy for women who have survived childhood abuse. It is an intense program that I attend four days a week for three hours a...
    Etheros Etheros 46-50, F 2 Responses Jan 13

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    This story is my own, I’m not telling it to get pity but cause it helps to talk about it and I know it can help others in the same situation or who have been there…. This is...
    ocecas ocecas 41-45, F 3 Responses Jan 16

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    Being a survivor is something I embrace in myself. I could ponder endlessly as to why I experienced the trauma... and believe me, I have. But honestly, I've fought hard to put it...
    WithGracefulness WithGracefulness 46-50, F 10 Responses 3 days ago

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    I didn't understand that what was happening wasn't normal. It was part of my daily life, being touched, being forced to do disgusting things to him. The first time I was raped, I...
    NotSoAngelic NotSoAngelic 18-21, F 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    I'm a childhood trauma survivor, have worked in the prevention field. Child abuse and sexual abuse are hidden epidemics that affect us all.
    CultivatingPurpose CultivatingPurpose 36-40, M 1 Response 1 day ago

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    Everyone has a darker side they don't allow anyone to see. Wether it's drinking, drugs, self harm or mental abuse. Growing up I was a good kid. Listened, respected my elders and...
    MermaidTripp MermaidTripp 18-21, F 1 Response 18 hrs ago

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    My stepfather abused me for 8 years. My mom and I moved in when I was 15. It started within months and lasted util 2 months before I was married. It has changed my attitude to men...
    lindaishere lindaishere 36-40, F 1 Response 7 hrs ago

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    It's been ten years today since she made sure with her abuse that I would forever live in pain, that I would never be normal and carefree no matter how far I ran and moved on. I...
    ScarredScared ScarredScared 22-25, F 3 Responses Jan 5

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    It's been 3 years since I left him. I am currently in a new wonderful relationship, but my past haunts me every single day. I've never reached out for support, and I worry that...
    Erika88o Erika88o 26-30 Jan 6

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    It's been 3 years since I left him. I am currently in a new wonderful relationship, but my past haunts me every single day. I've never reached out for support, and I worry that...
    Erika88o Erika88o 26-30 Jan 6

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    I am a high school student in a large school in New England. I was emotionally abused for a few years by a girl I thought was my friend. I have trouble talking to people about it...
    OrionO OrionO 16-17, T Jan 19

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    It's been 3 years since I left him. I am currently in a new wonderful relationship, but my past haunts me every single day. I've never reached out for support, and I worry that...
    Erika88o Erika88o 26-30 2 Responses Jan 6

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    I was told by my uncle's friend that I should give this guy, I've known since I was 12 and didn't really like, Ilan "Reipie" Shane a chance to be friends. So I contacted him and...
    JessiAimee JessiAimee 22-25, F 3 Responses Jan 17

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    I am not a recent survivor. I left my husband a little over three years ago. In some ways I am coping much better than three years ago. In other ways I am not. The euphoria of...
    strongerwiser34 strongerwiser34 31-35, F 2 Responses Dec 30, 2014

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    I am not a recent survivor. I left my husband a little over three years ago. In some ways I am coping much better than three years ago. In other ways I am not. The euphoria of...
    strongerwiser34 strongerwiser34 31-35, F 1 Response Dec 30, 2014

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    I am not a recent survivor. I left my husband a little over three years ago. In some ways I am coping much better than three years ago. In other ways I am not. The euphoria of...
    strongerwiser34 strongerwiser34 31-35, F Dec 30, 2014

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    I am not a recent survivor. I left my husband a little over three years ago. In some ways I am coping much better than three years ago. In other ways I am not. The euphoria of...
    strongerwiser34 strongerwiser34 31-35, F Dec 30, 2014

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    Yes i am a very proud survivor of rape because i have been rape by three different men in my life. One is my own step father that my mother choose to married without talking and...
    Kelbug Kelbug 26-30, F 7 Responses Jan 3

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    Just a heads up, don't watch the new episode of Criminal Minds. I thought I was fine until JJ confronts her demon and he tells her he will always be there in the back of her mind...
    irongirl135 irongirl135 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 15

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    Never Tolerate Bring Hit!!! Does the abuser your with call it domestic discipline or refer to themselves as the head of the household? Are they using any church or social group...
    LadyGypsy LadyGypsy 36-40, F 4 Responses 4 days ago

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    ~THE ART OF EMOTIONAL ABUSE~ THE CANVAS How do you become the victim of emotional abuse? Why don’t you just get out? I've been asked “What did he do to you?” BRUSH STROKES...
    Breeziiee Breeziiee 41-45, F 1 Response Jan 4

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