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I Am a Survivor of Spousal Abuse

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    Important To Love Yourself

    God Loves you, with undeserved Grace - unconditionally. He promised to never leave nor forsake you. The Word also tells us to love thy neighbor as thyself. You should put as much energy into loving yourself as much as you do into trying to make someone else love you the right...
    Zerich Zerich 66-70, M Apr 10, 2012

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    Sad But True

    I was with a man I loved more than anything for 5 years. We had our ups and downs....over all it "seemed" like a good relationship and it wasn’t until the end that I really realized it was the worst mistake of my life. He came from a bad family background....and I always...
    melmel22 melmel22 26-30, F 1 Response Feb 21, 2011

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    The Dragons Roar

    I am a survivor! You can soon purchase my book under the title: When The Dragons Roar. There are thousands of proclaimed survivors of spousal abuse every year, for that I am so thankful. However, it is my estimation that there are tens of thousands of victims at any given moment...
    whenthedragonsroar whenthedragonsroar 51-55, F Sep 26, 2013

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    Spousal Addictions and What It Can Do to You

    I've often thought about writing a book to help others to regain their confidence and self-worth because of what I went through.  However, I feel it would really hurt my children and they have been through so much.  I thought about (still thinking) about witnessing to...
    Betterforleaving Betterforleaving 51-55 6 Responses Jun 3, 2009

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    What Doesn't Kill You Makes You Stronger..

    I was married to a man who I thought was a loving, caring, sensitive person, until about 5 months into the marriage. He had always been a funny, witty person who had a southern charm and accent that would make anyone melt. we had been dating for about 2 yrs when he...
    singlnurs singlnurs 46-50, F 6 Responses Mar 11, 2009

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    How I've Turned Into Everything I Hated About You.

    We started talking on a social networking site for a short while before we decided to meet in person. On our first date things went good, and I thought we had really hit it off pretty well. To this day, I still regret how fast things moved along. Immediately after our first date...
    AnywhereButHome AnywhereButHome 18-21 4 Responses May 24, 2011

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    Well, I Was Just a Girlfriend

    But I couldn't find "Abusive boyfriend" so I figured this would do. I fell for a guy 12 years older than I when I was 18. I knew that the odds against the relationship were high, but I was really committed to making it work. I dated this guy for a few months and...
    Voodoolou Voodoolou 22-25, F 4 Responses Jul 18, 2009

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    Does This Count?

     I am just his friend. We aren't even dating. I couldn't find anything like this one so here goes. I have a crush on my best guy friend. He's 15 and I'm 14. The first time he hit me when it wasn't just horseplay it wasn't really a hit. He put me in a head lock. He held me...
    aloneandafraid2 aloneandafraid2 13-15 4 Responses Jul 26, 2010

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    I Got Out

    After two years, I got out. I am still trying to make sense of it all. I finally realized that there was no making him understand, I was a professional, just out of really bad marriage, fell for guy that wanted to get married right then. I still can't talk about much of it...
    lakeside2 lakeside2 46-50, F 2 Responses Mar 11, 2012

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    I Am Not One Yet, But Hope To Be

    Hello, I need some help. I am married to my husband for the second time. He is currently incarcerated for domestic battery, and I am the victim. I fought for him to get work release because he is the sole supporter of our family. I am the only one able to drive him back and forth...
    kimberlyanngray kimberlyanngray 46-50 3 Responses Oct 29, 2011

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    Just Stressed

    I grew up in a house with an alcoholic mother. One of five, we faced violence, threats to be killed, lack of food, electricity, just the basics I suppose. I was not looked after, constantly had nits, holes in my clothes. etc These experiences have really messed me up. Now as a 3...
    TheSpectral TheSpectral 31-35, F 1 Response Apr 3, 2012

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    No One Knows

    I get asked all the time why I stayed. I married him because I love him. I told a friend today it was like boiling a frog. I ve heard that if you drop a frog in boiling water he immediately jumps out but if you put him water normal temperature and gradually increase the...
    lakeside2 lakeside2 46-50, F 4 Responses Mar 12, 2012

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    I Was Abused By My Boyfriend And His Best Friend

    I am 14 years old and I have been dating this boy on and off since I was 11 and he was 14. Things were all just great back then. "Dan" was just as sweet as could be and I loved him. Last year we didn't date at all and I became close friends with his best buddy "Dyl" Dyl is two...
    aloneandafraid2 aloneandafraid2 13-15 5 Responses Mar 21, 2011

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    What Makes Me A Survivor

    I am a survivor. I have gotten out. I found help and used it. I don't think about the past as much as I used to. I have moved on with my life. I have found a great support group. I have found happiness. I am healthy again in my mind. I can say that its not my fault...
    jcue1976 jcue1976 31-35, F 7 Responses Sep 16, 2011

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    I Survived

    I am a 56 year old woman. I spent over 20 years in an abusive relationship. Although I left many times, I seemed to always return, until I finally was able to escape. During my relationship with my abuser, I was isolated, alone, and scared. Before I married my abuser, I had had...
    Gingerlilypad Gingerlilypad 56-60, F 9 Responses Dec 29, 2010

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    Should I Trust This Guy?

    i started talkin to this guy on the computer and me and him were playin around and jokein and stff and he ask me to send him a pic of me and he would send one of himself.i asked how old he was he said 18 i told him i didnt know that i had sent a pic o myself and it turned out...
    concernedchick94 concernedchick94 13-15, F 1 Response Sep 4, 2009

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    I'm Hoping To Call Myself A Survivor...

    I have been married for 4 years to a man I thought I know. We have been together for 14 years. Over the years, he has verbally, amotionally, and physically abused me. For some stupid reason, I have always let it go. I think it's because I never felt likte I could be loved by...
    Lovingmommy Lovingmommy 29, F 4 Responses Jul 21, 2010

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    So Many Times..........

     I can't, won't go into them now.    Too much pain involved, but needless to say, if you are in one now... get out.  Never look back, they don't know the meaning of love if they beat you and in the next breath say it's cause they love you.  There...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Mar 12, 2009

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    Oh God Help Me, Still Waiting

    i got pregnant to my first boyfriend when he took me to a picnic and said that the only way back home was to sleep with him.  I hated him but i couldnt tell anyone. the prgnancy caused my parents to demand marriage. he beat me really bad the night before the wedding, i was...
    elliepenelly elliepenelly 51-55 3 Responses Sep 29, 2010

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    No One Deserves to Be Put Down

    My marriage lasted for over 16 years, but it wasn't happy.  It was full of mood swings, ups and downs, with usually the downs lasting longest.  There were probably 25 incidents of pushing, grabbing, lifting and dropping, punching in the arm, throwing across the driveway...
    dancingonthehill dancingonthehill 51-55, F 14 Responses Apr 8, 2009

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    Related Experiences

    I wish she instead asked, " Are a Child Abuse Survivor". It is a Statement. How she made it a choice for all. I was never ABUSED as a Child. My Abuse began when I was 35.
    paradisequeen paradisequeen 41-45, F 2 Responses Jul 24

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    Once u was abused, i tell u honestly- u will never get over it. Never. You can do a therapy , it will help you to bring all the repressed hurt out but it wouldnt make the abuse...
    angel8i angel8i 31-35, F Jul 22

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    It has been a while since I have posted here. I've restarted the videos on Survivors of Child Abuse and Maladaptive daydreaming. My latest video is about flashbacks and tips on how...
    Ishtaria Ishtaria 41-45, F Aug 7

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    My abuse was that of neglect and emotional abuse. There was some physical abuse but not enough to be scared from it. I was bullied all through school. I was even bullied in my...
    lonesojourner lonesojourner 46-50, M 1 Response Aug 1

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    Survivor means I lived to tell the story. I will tell the story even though the ones who hurt me made me sure that no-one would ever believe me. I will tell the story even though...
    dispossessed dispossessed 46-50, F 3 Responses 2 days ago

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    Where do I go from here, everytime I try to begin I start to cry. I`ve been told to let it all out, why is it so easy to say something like that when you aren`t the one who lived...
    0utlander 0utlander 56-60, M 1 day ago

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    i don't know if me and my siblings are being abused but it seems like we might be i never thought about it before because we are homeschooled and this is my first phone and i got...
    valbunny valbunny 13-15, F 4 Responses Jul 23

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    When I was a kid like 8, I was abused by a family member. I can recall the events of a few of the times of him doing the things he did to me. The feeling I felt during that time, I...
    Bluescrub Bluescrub 36-40, M 1 Response Jul 24

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    Im 13, the abuse for about 3, since I was 10. Well I learn something, I hated him for so long, I plan all these way to see his demise, but then I had a dream, were I found out he...
    nekokitty13 nekokitty13 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 24

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    I was sleeping, out cold. My mum came in my room to attend to my little brother and let the dog in with her. My dog started to lick my hand and I heard rustling from my mum. I...
    jackjack600 jackjack600 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 30

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    It shouldn't hurt to be a child. No child should feel like they are alone in the world, and nothing that they can do is right, but so many do, and the ones who do, feel like they...
    LostAriel LostAriel 22-25, F 2 Responses Jul 31

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    I was abused by the ONE person you'd never expect to do it. MY MOTHER. I was 12 when it happened & I'm 20 now. It still haunts me. I've forgiven her but yet I miss her so much at...
    ForeverYoung09 ForeverYoung09 18-21, F 7 Responses Aug 1

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    This is my first time posting, I wasn't really sure about doing this but I feel like I need to. The first 5 years if my life I lived with my grandparents and my mom. My bio dad...
    swan88 swan88 31-35, M 5 Responses 6 days ago

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    I was sexually abused by my step father from age 6 to age 17 :(
    timjsmiles0016 timjsmiles0016 18-21, M 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    I have survived alot abusive mother, sexual abuse in care homes, I have a back problem,my ex I found in bed with another woman and I'm still here. Nothing going to beat me.
    vampirish vampirish 46-50, F 2 Responses Jul 23

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    'Come to my bedroom' he said, 'I just need to talk to you' he said. Them words I will never forget. But he didn't. He pushed me down on his bed and pinned me, forcing me to do...
    BethHawkins BethHawkins 13-15, F 2 Responses Jul 30

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    I was a child slave from six to ten then was abused from ten to twelve and last year they attempted to make me a slave again but God was with me the entire time and rescued me when...
    gardengirl17 gardengirl17 22-25, F 1 Response Aug 2

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    I was rape for a couple of years when I was younger. My parents were divorcing and it was a sad time. So many sad things I saw then do to each other. I was neglected. No one ever...
    ponycupcake ponycupcake 18-21, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    I love survivor it's super cool and I would love to go on survivor but I'm Canadian :(
    ngoodfellow1799 ngoodfellow1799 13-15, M Jul 24

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    I was a sophomore in college and he was a senior. Something about him being older made it feel so right…he was charming, mature, and the life of the party type of guy. Not to...
    EmmaCollins EmmaCollins 18-21, F 4 Responses Jul 31

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    When I was 15 I was sent to a treatment center for teens. It was I Maine, a place called Ironwood I was there for many reasons. First I had been raped the year before. It was very...
    jujubee16 jujubee16 16-17, F 1 Response Aug 2

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    So I'm 13 and this guy I was with at the time was 18 I wasn't dating him just hanging out and I wasn't high or anything but we were chilling and he asked me a lot if times before...
    ryry009 ryry009 13-15, F 2 Responses Aug 5

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    In my first "experience" I told you that you and I are different. This experience will just be peeling back one of the layers so you can see in more detail. I was diagnosed with...
    AshTheShade AshTheShade 31-35, M Aug 10

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    Finding out that someone else within the family was abused by the same person as I was as a child breaks my ******* heart. I would never wish abuse of any sort on my worst enemy...
    herebutinvisible herebutinvisible 16-17, F 2 Responses Jul 21

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    I cheated on my husband, then i left him. He was mean, and I'm tired of repeating the details, but by mean I intend to say that he fits into many of the descriptors of an...
    Regrets472 Regrets472 26-30, F 2 Responses Jul 21

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    I cheated on my husband, then i left him. He was mean, and I'm tired of repeating the details, but by mean I intend to say that he fits into many of the descriptors of an...
    Regrets472 Regrets472 26-30, F 2 Responses Jul 21

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    I cheated on my husband, then i left him. He was mean, and I'm tired of repeating the details, but by mean I intend to say that he fits into many of the descriptors of an...
    Regrets472 Regrets472 26-30, F Jul 21

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    I want nothing more than to forget it... Sometimes I have nightmares of what happened in my childhood on the outside everything seemed perfect most people looked at my household...
    Forbiddenkisses Forbiddenkisses 22-25, F 3 Responses Aug 10

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    My sister (3 yrs older) sexually abused me when I was 11. She was abused by my grandfather. I get flashes of her holding me down kissing and touching me - I felt guilty, sick and...
    lulumonta lulumonta 13-15, F 3 Responses 3 days ago

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