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I Am a Survivor of Spousal Abuse

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 113 People

    Should I Trust This Guy?

    i started talkin to this guy on the computer and me and him were playin around and jokein and stff and he ask me to send him a pic of me and he would send one of himself.i asked how old he was he said 18 i told him i didnt know that i had sent a pic o myself and it turned out...
    concernedchick94 concernedchick94 13-15, F 1 Response Sep 4, 2009

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    What Makes Me A Survivor

    I am a survivor. I have gotten out. I found help and used it. I don't think about the past as much as I used to. I have moved on with my life. I have found a great support group. I have found happiness. I am healthy again in my mind. I can say that its not my fault...
    jcue1976 jcue1976 31-35, F 7 Responses Sep 16, 2011

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    So Many Times..........

     I can't, won't go into them now.    Too much pain involved, but needless to say, if you are in one now... get out.  Never look back, they don't know the meaning of love if they beat you and in the next breath say it's cause they love you.  There...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Mar 12, 2009

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    Important To Love Yourself

    God Loves you, with undeserved Grace - unconditionally. He promised to never leave nor forsake you. The Word also tells us to love thy neighbor as thyself. You should put as much energy into loving yourself as much as you do into trying to make someone else love you the right...
    Zerich Zerich 66-70, M Apr 10, 2012

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    Just Stressed

    I grew up in a house with an alcoholic mother. One of five, we faced violence, threats to be killed, lack of food, electricity, just the basics I suppose. I was not looked after, constantly had nits, holes in my clothes. etc These experiences have really messed me up. Now as a 3...
    TheSpectral TheSpectral 31-35, F 1 Response Apr 3, 2012

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    Younger women dating older men mainly

    because younger women are attracted older men. older men mature, confident, stable .Mature guys always know how to treat their women.These younger women are looking for their age gap love romance.For older men, Younger women older men relationships will surely make an older man...
    adeleccaa adeleccaa 26-30, F Dec 21, 2014

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    I Survived

    I am a 56 year old woman. I spent over 20 years in an abusive relationship. Although I left many times, I seemed to always return, until I finally was able to escape. During my relationship with my abuser, I was isolated, alone, and scared. Before I married my abuser, I had had...
    Gingerlilypad Gingerlilypad 56-60, F 9 Responses Dec 29, 2010

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    Does This Count?

     I am just his friend. We aren't even dating. I couldn't find anything like this one so here goes. I have a crush on my best guy friend. He's 15 and I'm 14. The first time he hit me when it wasn't just horseplay it wasn't really a hit. He put me in a head lock. He held me...
    aloneandafraid2 aloneandafraid2 13-15 4 Responses Jul 26, 2010

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    No One Deserves to Be Put Down

    My marriage lasted for over 16 years, but it wasn't happy.  It was full of mood swings, ups and downs, with usually the downs lasting longest.  There were probably 25 incidents of pushing, grabbing, lifting and dropping, punching in the arm, throwing across the driveway...
    dancingonthehill dancingonthehill 51-55, F 14 Responses Apr 8, 2009

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    I'm Hoping To Call Myself A Survivor...

    I have been married for 4 years to a man I thought I know. We have been together for 14 years. Over the years, he has verbally, amotionally, and physically abused me. For some stupid reason, I have always let it go. I think it's because I never felt likte I could be loved by...
    Lovingmommy Lovingmommy 26-30, F 4 Responses Jul 21, 2010

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    ... And then he said "now we are married,

    and I can do anything I want with you." ... And then he did.
    PKFM30 PKFM30 26-30, F Jun 8

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    I could get into the whole story behind

    why I feel what I feel now though I think that would defeat the purpose of my goal. I'm trying to live both in the present and look towards the future. Every day is a struggle even three months after we broke up. I ask myself "Why me?" every day I ask myself "Would things have...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Dec 21, 2014

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    #WhyIStayed #WhyILeft is it

    just me or are there any others, that while finding relatable experiences being put forth under both hashtags (in light of the Rice case).... also find that it triggers some really difficult emotions to deal with? Maybe (not maybe) it's PTSD rearing its ugly head with me of...
    VerveMum VerveMum 36-40, F 1 Response Sep 9, 2014

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    Well, I Was Just a Girlfriend

    But I couldn't find "Abusive boyfriend" so I figured this would do. I fell for a guy 12 years older than I when I was 18. I knew that the odds against the relationship were high, but I was really committed to making it work. I dated this guy for a few months and...
    Voodoolou Voodoolou 22-25, F 4 Responses Jul 18, 2009

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    The Dragons Roar

    I am a survivor! You can soon purchase my book under the title: When The Dragons Roar. There are thousands of proclaimed survivors of spousal abuse every year, for that I am so thankful. However, it is my estimation that there are tens of thousands of victims at any given moment...
    whenthedragonsroar whenthedragonsroar 51-55, F Sep 26, 2013

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    I Was Abused By My Boyfriend And His Best Friend

    I am 14 years old and I have been dating this boy on and off since I was 11 and he was 14. Things were all just great back then. "Dan" was just as sweet as could be and I loved him. Last year we didn't date at all and I became close friends with his best buddy "Dyl" Dyl is two...
    aloneandafraid2 aloneandafraid2 13-15 5 Responses Mar 21, 2011

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    What Doesn't Kill You Makes You Stronger..

    I was married to a man who I thought was a loving, caring, sensitive person, until about 5 months into the marriage. He had always been a funny, witty person who had a southern charm and accent that would make anyone melt. we had been dating for about 2 yrs when he...
    singlnurs singlnurs 46-50, F 6 Responses Mar 11, 2009

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    I Am Not One Yet, But Hope To Be

    Hello, I need some help. I am married to my husband for the second time. He is currently incarcerated for domestic battery, and I am the victim. I fought for him to get work release because he is the sole supporter of our family. I am the only one able to drive him back and forth...
    kimberlyanngray kimberlyanngray 46-50 3 Responses Oct 29, 2011

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    No One Knows

    I get asked all the time why I stayed. I married him because I love him. I told a friend today it was like boiling a frog. I ve heard that if you drop a frog in boiling water he immediately jumps out but if you put him water normal temperature and gradually increase the...
    lakeside2 lakeside2 46-50, F 4 Responses Mar 12, 2012

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    How I've Turned Into Everything I Hated About You.

    We started talking on a social networking site for a short while before we decided to meet in person. On our first date things went good, and I thought we had really hit it off pretty well. To this day, I still regret how fast things moved along. Immediately after our first date...
    AnywhereButHome AnywhereButHome 18-21 4 Responses May 24, 2011

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    Spousal Addictions and What It Can Do to You

    I've often thought about writing a book to help others to regain their confidence and self-worth because of what I went through.  However, I feel it would really hurt my children and they have been through so much.  I thought about (still thinking) about witnessing to...
    Betterforleaving Betterforleaving 51-55 6 Responses Jun 3, 2009

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    Oh God Help Me, Still Waiting

    i got pregnant to my first boyfriend when he took me to a picnic and said that the only way back home was to sleep with him.  I hated him but i couldnt tell anyone. the prgnancy caused my parents to demand marriage. he beat me really bad the night before the wedding, i was...
    elliepenelly elliepenelly 51-55 3 Responses Sep 29, 2010

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    Sad But True

    I was with a man I loved more than anything for 5 years. We had our ups and downs....over all it "seemed" like a good relationship and it wasn’t until the end that I really realized it was the worst mistake of my life. He came from a bad family background....and I always...
    melmel22 melmel22 26-30, F 1 Response Feb 21, 2011

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    I Got Out

    After two years, I got out. I am still trying to make sense of it all. I finally realized that there was no making him understand, I was a professional, just out of really bad marriage, fell for guy that wanted to get married right then. I still can't talk about much of it...
    lakeside2 lakeside2 46-50, F 2 Responses Mar 11, 2012

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    i wana be kidnaped and used and abused like a slave idk why i think it was just be nice tbh
    lavinder128 lavinder128 16-17, F 2 Responses 9 hrs ago

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    I was abused in a foster home. Males who have been raped and sexually abused, you're not alone. I'm not comfortable sharing my story so publicly but I'm here for anyone who needs...
    lubesh lubesh 16-17, M 1 Response 1 day ago

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    We almost always hear people talk about when men abuse women, but it goes both ways. I used to live in a foster home where the women would abuse the man, and I saw the effect it...
    Falum Falum 16-17, F 1 day ago

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    I've been abused all my life. I've been emotionally abused and neglected since day 1. I've suffered 12 years of bullying and 9 years of sexual abuse and hitting from my father. I...
    DexterMalloween DexterMalloween 13-15, M 5 Responses 2 days ago

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    I've been plagued by contempt for my father for many years, and I'm trying to figure out if it's just an issue with my brain, with me as a person, or if I was actually emotionally...
    expandingforward expandingforward 36-40, M 2 days ago

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    Hi, I'm Gianna and I'm currently 15. I'm sorry if anything I say offends you in any way, but I tend to be very blunt because that's the way I've been talked to. I have been...
    CagedBird1778 CagedBird1778 13-15, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    I was with a man for 2 1/2 years, married him and took his last name. After we were married everything changed. About a month into our marriage the physical abuse started, first it...
    roughweather roughweather 22-25, F 1 Response Jul 20

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    I love to learn and I am a knowledge seeker. I didn't know how much I was going to learn when I got married. The hard way. Learning the hard way though, is very effective. You gain...
    sartur sartur 36-40, F 12 Responses Jul 20

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    Age 4 to 12 I was sexually abused by my brother who is 7 years older then me. There's two main factors as to what caused this. One, my family was in a strict Christian church. Two...
    winterbugs winterbugs 22-25, F 1 Response Jul 20

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    I think verbal abuse is just as bad as physical abuse, because it really does a number on you, not so much on the outside, but on the inside, the hateful words, the way you are put...
    BroknGirl89 BroknGirl89 26-30, F 10 Responses Jul 18

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    And the wealthy promote it. Conquest is promoted. And king of the hill. And luxury. Not quality Not equality Unless slaves. Not health Unless paid for fake fixes...
    Converted Converted 46-50, M 1 Response Jul 16

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    Yes I was emotionally abused emotionally and physically when I was 8 until 19 by my mother and brother and emotionally by my ex husband. My mother had me write letters ( i have...
    meg2014 meg2014 41-45, F 1 Response Jul 16

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    Hello Im a 31 year old Female...Married with Children. .I was Molested by my Dad...I remember I was about 8 years old...My dad would turn on *********** soo I can watch with him...
    Charitee Charitee 31-35, F 6 Responses Jul 15

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    I was abused until the age of 24 (almost 25), and when I left the house my mom was finally able to have the courage to divorce my dad. She tried to get custody of my younger sister...
    LyraAlluse LyraAlluse 26-30, F 1 Response Jul 15

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    In my childhood, l was physically abused.......as in kicked, punched, slapped. I don't want to go into details at this time, though, don't know if l ever will. Writing this has...
    MistyGoddess MistyGoddess 41-45, F 17 Responses Jul 14

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    I mean, I guess it depends on your opinions on abuse. Everyone is bound to see that differently. Psychologically speaking, I have the signs of abuse - but my childhood had very...
    PersonalApocalypse PersonalApocalypse 22-25, M Jul 11

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    My mother used to drop me off with family members who she knew were child predators. Some of them had even sexually abused her as a child. Sexual abuse is such a normal part of my...
    ThreeRedFeathers ThreeRedFeathers 22-25, F 1 Response Jul 10

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    I love survivor I can't wait for second chance go joe
    deleted deleted 26-30 Jul 10

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    I've been having more flashbacks than usual lately. They vary with intensity but never really go away. I have been living with it for so long that I've come to accept they will...
    ashamedofmyfamily ashamedofmyfamily 41-45, F 2 Responses Jul 10

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    I am not a victim any longer but a survivor of child abuse and sexual abuse as a teenager and as an adult.
    susanbornin1969 susanbornin1969 41-45, F 1 Response Jul 10