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I Am a Survivor of Spousal Abuse

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    I Was Abused By My Boyfriend And His Best Friend

    I am 14 years old and I have been dating this boy on and off since I was 11 and he was 14. Things were all just great back then. "Dan" was just as sweet as could be and I loved him. Last year we didn't date at all and I became close friends with his best buddy "Dyl" Dyl is two...
    aloneandafraid2 aloneandafraid2 13-15 5 Responses Mar 21, 2011

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    So Many Times..........

     I can't, won't go into them now.    Too much pain involved, but needless to say, if you are in one now... get out.  Never look back, they don't know the meaning of love if they beat you and in the next breath say it's cause they love you.  There...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Mar 12, 2009

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    I Survived

    I am a 56 year old woman. I spent over 20 years in an abusive relationship. Although I left many times, I seemed to always return, until I finally was able to escape. During my relationship with my abuser, I was isolated, alone, and scared. Before I married my abuser, I had had...
    Gingerlilypad Gingerlilypad 56-60, F 9 Responses Dec 29, 2010

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    Well, I Was Just a Girlfriend

    But I couldn't find "Abusive boyfriend" so I figured this would do. I fell for a guy 12 years older than I when I was 18. I knew that the odds against the relationship were high, but I was really committed to making it work. I dated this guy for a few months and...
    Voodoolou Voodoolou 22-25, F 4 Responses Jul 18, 2009

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    What Doesn't Kill You Makes You Stronger..

    I was married to a man who I thought was a loving, caring, sensitive person, until about 5 months into the marriage. He had always been a funny, witty person who had a southern charm and accent that would make anyone melt. we had been dating for about 2 yrs when he...
    singlnurs singlnurs 46-50, F 6 Responses Mar 11, 2009

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    Important To Love Yourself

    God Loves you, with undeserved Grace - unconditionally. He promised to never leave nor forsake you. The Word also tells us to love thy neighbor as thyself. You should put as much energy into loving yourself as much as you do into trying to make someone else love you the right...
    Zerich Zerich 66-70, M Apr 10, 2012

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    Does This Count?

     I am just his friend. We aren't even dating. I couldn't find anything like this one so here goes. I have a crush on my best guy friend. He's 15 and I'm 14. The first time he hit me when it wasn't just horseplay it wasn't really a hit. He put me in a head lock. He held me...
    aloneandafraid2 aloneandafraid2 13-15 4 Responses Jul 26, 2010

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    Sad But True

    I was with a man I loved more than anything for 5 years. We had our ups and downs....over all it "seemed" like a good relationship and it wasn’t until the end that I really realized it was the worst mistake of my life. He came from a bad family background....and I always...
    melmel22 melmel22 26-30, F 1 Response Feb 21, 2011

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    #WhyIStayed #WhyILeft is it

    just me or are there any others, that while finding relatable experiences being put forth under both hashtags (in light of the Rice case).... also find that it triggers some really difficult emotions to deal with? Maybe (not maybe) it's PTSD rearing its ugly head with me of...
    VerveMum VerveMum 36-40, F 1 Response Sep 9

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    I Got Out

    After two years, I got out. I am still trying to make sense of it all. I finally realized that there was no making him understand, I was a professional, just out of really bad marriage, fell for guy that wanted to get married right then. I still can't talk about much of it...
    lakeside2 lakeside2 46-50, F 2 Responses Mar 11, 2012

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    No One Knows

    I get asked all the time why I stayed. I married him because I love him. I told a friend today it was like boiling a frog. I ve heard that if you drop a frog in boiling water he immediately jumps out but if you put him water normal temperature and gradually increase the...
    lakeside2 lakeside2 46-50, F 4 Responses Mar 12, 2012

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    The Dragons Roar

    I am a survivor! You can soon purchase my book under the title: When The Dragons Roar. There are thousands of proclaimed survivors of spousal abuse every year, for that I am so thankful. However, it is my estimation that there are tens of thousands of victims at any given moment...
    whenthedragonsroar whenthedragonsroar 51-55, F Sep 26, 2013

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    No One Deserves to Be Put Down

    My marriage lasted for over 16 years, but it wasn't happy.  It was full of mood swings, ups and downs, with usually the downs lasting longest.  There were probably 25 incidents of pushing, grabbing, lifting and dropping, punching in the arm, throwing across the driveway...
    dancingonthehill dancingonthehill 51-55, F 14 Responses Apr 8, 2009

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    I'm Hoping To Call Myself A Survivor...

    I have been married for 4 years to a man I thought I know. We have been together for 14 years. Over the years, he has verbally, amotionally, and physically abused me. For some stupid reason, I have always let it go. I think it's because I never felt likte I could be loved by...
    Lovingmommy Lovingmommy 29, F 4 Responses Jul 21, 2010

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    Spousal Addictions and What It Can Do to You

    I've often thought about writing a book to help others to regain their confidence and self-worth because of what I went through.  However, I feel it would really hurt my children and they have been through so much.  I thought about (still thinking) about witnessing to...
    Betterforleaving Betterforleaving 51-55 6 Responses Jun 3, 2009

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    What Makes Me A Survivor

    I am a survivor. I have gotten out. I found help and used it. I don't think about the past as much as I used to. I have moved on with my life. I have found a great support group. I have found happiness. I am healthy again in my mind. I can say that its not my fault...
    jcue1976 jcue1976 31-35, F 7 Responses Sep 16, 2011

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    I Am Not One Yet, But Hope To Be

    Hello, I need some help. I am married to my husband for the second time. He is currently incarcerated for domestic battery, and I am the victim. I fought for him to get work release because he is the sole supporter of our family. I am the only one able to drive him back and forth...
    kimberlyanngray kimberlyanngray 46-50 3 Responses Oct 29, 2011

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    Just Stressed

    I grew up in a house with an alcoholic mother. One of five, we faced violence, threats to be killed, lack of food, electricity, just the basics I suppose. I was not looked after, constantly had nits, holes in my clothes. etc These experiences have really messed me up. Now as a 3...
    TheSpectral TheSpectral 31-35, F 1 Response Apr 3, 2012

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    How I've Turned Into Everything I Hated About You.

    We started talking on a social networking site for a short while before we decided to meet in person. On our first date things went good, and I thought we had really hit it off pretty well. To this day, I still regret how fast things moved along. Immediately after our first date...
    AnywhereButHome AnywhereButHome 18-21 4 Responses May 24, 2011

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    Oh God Help Me, Still Waiting

    i got pregnant to my first boyfriend when he took me to a picnic and said that the only way back home was to sleep with him.  I hated him but i couldnt tell anyone. the prgnancy caused my parents to demand marriage. he beat me really bad the night before the wedding, i was...
    elliepenelly elliepenelly 51-55 3 Responses Sep 29, 2010

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    Should I Trust This Guy?

    i started talkin to this guy on the computer and me and him were playin around and jokein and stff and he ask me to send him a pic of me and he would send one of himself.i asked how old he was he said 18 i told him i didnt know that i had sent a pic o myself and it turned out...
    concernedchick94 concernedchick94 13-15, F 1 Response Sep 4, 2009

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    Related Experiences

    Used to be sexual...then father died at age 7....mother fell apart for a year or so...never got out of bed...5 year old lil brother...couldn't trust her with him...missed a lotta...
    cherryjar cherryjar 26-30, F 6 hrs ago

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    I feel like I have more problems now that I've admitted to myself I've been abused, than when I was actually being abused. I'm in therapy but it's been a year already. I've made...
    wanderinggrl wanderinggrl 26-30, T 3 Responses Aug 26

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    I`m sorry, so sorry for this but yet again I can`t get passed being seven. Things get worse and I have tried to put onto screen what I have kept in my head for 52yrs. I can`t, it`s...
    0utlander 0utlander 56-60, M Aug 27

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    If anyone out there is survivor or going through domestic abuse and would like to talk or be listened to by some one who understands. Looking for understanding people who have had...
    tazygirl tazygirl 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 31

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    Want to share a bit of my story with Domestic violence: Well I had joined a dating website and met a guy in April 2011 and the first time we met we drank all night smoking...
    jlam123 jlam123 22-25, F 1 Response Sep 1

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    Basically, recently, there has been a lot of interest in child abuse victims in my area. Outside my family, no-one knows about what my step-father did to me. I mean, the whole...
    gigglesounds gigglesounds 13-15, F 3 Responses Aug 26

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    Victim"...I hate that word. We are not "victims". We are some of the strongest, bravest women to walk the earth. We are survivors.  We are not stray helpless animals, we are the...
    TriciaFL TriciaFL 36-40, F 1 Response Aug 29

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    My mom was really nice at first until we moved back to Florida from Georgia. Her and my dad were trying to work things out but she had a mental illness and bipolar. They say that...
    amersonjazzy amersonjazzy 26-30, F 2 Responses Sep 6

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    I was in an abusive relationship for two years. I stayed because I moved across the country to be with a boyfriend and the only people I knew were his friends. When I finally tried...
    jlkelly01 jlkelly01 31-35, F 2 days ago

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    I lost 2 members of my family while we r struggling to get out of our burning house , it was horrible .. It hurts that they didn't make it .. It's true we took them out of the...
    farnoush farnoush 26-30, F 3 Responses 4 days ago

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    I went back around the same time it's brought the side back the awful angry nasty side why for what? That place holds what scares me the most my nightmare It holds what should of...
    cailowe cailowe 16-17, F 1 Response Aug 25

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    2 years ago I was raped by a stranger while backpacking in Europe--I was alone at the time because I was en route to meet up my cousin that night. After a terrible night of doctors...
    imasurvivor411 imasurvivor411 22-25, F 4 Responses Aug 31

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    If you are reading this message, you too are a survivor. If you are not reading it, then you may or may not be dead.
    adianoeta adianoeta 26-30, F 2 Responses Sep 10

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    I am a survivor of rape. I was a victim of an ex-boyfriend and he raped me in January of 2014. I need some support and all of that to get through this. It would be nice if someone...
    momoshep142 momoshep142 18-21, F 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    By the time I was 24 years old, I long ago passed that line between social drinking and alcoholism and, in that nebulous alcoholic fog and exaggerated egoism, smirked at relatives...
    cmmacneil cmmacneil 51-55, M 2 days ago

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    My best friend was abused as a child and from the stories he told me, I am still really distraught over what his Dad did to him. It was physical and emotional abuse. People always...
    Gemz2411 Gemz2411 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 27

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    where do you start... at the beginning I guess. It all started when I was 4, I can remember trying to tell my mother about it,, She either didn't want to except it or didn't...
    wnme wnme 51-55, F 1 Response Aug 31

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    Anyone knowing my own personal experiences won't be supprised that I'm against it, but what is "it" exactly? Child abuse. It's not always sexual, not even physical... it's taking...
    ValR ValR 41-45, F 2 Responses Aug 23

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    When I was 4 years old my parents were divorced. I remember 2 police cars driving up the road while my mother and dad were yelling at each other. My mother got custody of me and my...
    mymindhurts mymindhurts 18-21, F Sep 4

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    On Sexual Abuse I will go, with the reason I am composing this letter, this is I'm sending this missive, because my daughter who is 8, was sexually assaulted, By my 22 year old...
    IrmaH IrmaH 36-40 Aug 21

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    On Sexual Abuse I will go, with the reason I am composing this letter, this is I'm sending this missive, because my daughter who is 8, was sexually assaulted, By my 22 year old...
    IrmaH IrmaH 36-40 2 Responses Aug 21

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    Never talked about it more then two or three times in my life and yesterday I just said it to my best friend and I saw his reaction then I knew I never told him that I was abused...
    Dengel85 Dengel85 26-30, M 1 Response Aug 26

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    I'm 100% to support animal. Animal can't speak for them self and I'm sure they do not do any harm to anyone. I'm sick how people in this world treating the animal. God created...
    colonaileen colonaileen 26-30, F 1 Response Aug 20

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    So, how to start? I got married 2 years ago last weekend to a nice boy, a good Christian boy, or so I thought, so he led me to believe. Turns out he was lying. About all of it...
    geolbt geolbt 31-35, F 1 Response Aug 25

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    There's protests going off in my area of the UK where they are demanding social workers and police to get sacked because of the 1,400 sexual abuse cases and which they failed to...
    Gemz2411 Gemz2411 18-21, F 2 Responses Aug 27

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    Where do I start? My dads an alcoholic My older brother hates me My mum doesn't even talk to me I was sexually abused by my grandad from the age of 6 to 12/13. I may write more...
    tltlc tltlc 18-21, F 2 Responses Sep 1

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    my new baby girl was the result of long term sexual abuse... im scared she will look like my abuser or be violent or something... she's also had cystic fibrosis and there is so...
    ana097 ana097 16-17, F 2 Responses Sep 8

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    I wonder, how it would have been if I was raised in a normal family. My mother is a narcissistic person (NPD) and my dad was and is her enabler. I was raised with the burden of...
    pistacchia pistacchia 46-50, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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