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I Am a Survivor of Spousal Abuse

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 114 People

    Spousal Addictions and What It Can Do to You

    I've often thought about writing a book to help others to regain their confidence and self-worth because of what I went through.  However, I feel it would really hurt my children and they have been through so much.  I thought about (still thinking) about witnessing to...
    Betterforleaving Betterforleaving 51-55 6 Responses Jun 3, 2009

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    Oh God Help Me, Still Waiting

    i got pregnant to my first boyfriend when he took me to a picnic and said that the only way back home was to sleep with him.  I hated him but i couldnt tell anyone. the prgnancy caused my parents to demand marriage. he beat me really bad the night before the wedding, i was...
    elliepenelly elliepenelly 51-55 3 Responses Sep 29, 2010

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    Should I Trust This Guy?

    i started talkin to this guy on the computer and me and him were playin around and jokein and stff and he ask me to send him a pic of me and he would send one of himself.i asked how old he was he said 18 i told him i didnt know that i had sent a pic o myself and it turned out...
    concernedchick94 concernedchick94 13-15, F 1 Response Sep 4, 2009

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    So Many Times..........

     I can't, won't go into them now.    Too much pain involved, but needless to say, if you are in one now... get out.  Never look back, they don't know the meaning of love if they beat you and in the next breath say it's cause they love you.  There...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Mar 12, 2009

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    Well, I Was Just a Girlfriend

    But I couldn't find "Abusive boyfriend" so I figured this would do. I fell for a guy 12 years older than I when I was 18. I knew that the odds against the relationship were high, but I was really committed to making it work. I dated this guy for a few months and...
    Voodoolou Voodoolou 22-25, F 4 Responses Jul 18, 2009

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    I Am Not One Yet, But Hope To Be

    Hello, I need some help. I am married to my husband for the second time. He is currently incarcerated for domestic battery, and I am the victim. I fought for him to get work release because he is the sole supporter of our family. I am the only one able to drive him back and forth...
    kimberlyanngray kimberlyanngray 46-50 3 Responses Oct 29, 2011

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    No One Knows

    I get asked all the time why I stayed. I married him because I love him. I told a friend today it was like boiling a frog. I ve heard that if you drop a frog in boiling water he immediately jumps out but if you put him water normal temperature and gradually increase the...
    lakeside2 lakeside2 46-50, F 4 Responses Mar 12, 2012

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    What Makes Me A Survivor

    I am a survivor. I have gotten out. I found help and used it. I don't think about the past as much as I used to. I have moved on with my life. I have found a great support group. I have found happiness. I am healthy again in my mind. I can say that its not my fault...
    jcue1976 jcue1976 31-35, F 7 Responses Sep 16, 2011

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    Just Stressed

    I grew up in a house with an alcoholic mother. One of five, we faced violence, threats to be killed, lack of food, electricity, just the basics I suppose. I was not looked after, constantly had nits, holes in my clothes. etc These experiences have really messed me up. Now as a 3...
    TheSpectral TheSpectral 31-35, F 1 Response Apr 3, 2012

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    Sad But True

    I was with a man I loved more than anything for 5 years. We had our ups and downs....over all it "seemed" like a good relationship and it wasn’t until the end that I really realized it was the worst mistake of my life. He came from a bad family background....and I always...
    melmel22 melmel22 26-30, F 1 Response Feb 21, 2011

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    My brother is being seriously abused by his

    fiance. No doubt, she is plotting to divorce him so that he will not be able to feel secure ever again - not being allowed to have his dearly beloved child and not being financially secure. My brother has kept such a strong spirit that he liked this girl, so I thought it was...
    ResidentGoddessAstraea ResidentGoddessAstraea 18-21 Feb 22

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    Does This Count?

     I am just his friend. We aren't even dating. I couldn't find anything like this one so here goes. I have a crush on my best guy friend. He's 15 and I'm 14. The first time he hit me when it wasn't just horseplay it wasn't really a hit. He put me in a head lock. He held me...
    aloneandafraid2 aloneandafraid2 13-15 4 Responses Jul 26, 2010

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    Important To Love Yourself

    God Loves you, with undeserved Grace - unconditionally. He promised to never leave nor forsake you. The Word also tells us to love thy neighbor as thyself. You should put as much energy into loving yourself as much as you do into trying to make someone else love you the right...
    Zerich Zerich 66-70, M Apr 10, 2012

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    I Got Out

    After two years, I got out. I am still trying to make sense of it all. I finally realized that there was no making him understand, I was a professional, just out of really bad marriage, fell for guy that wanted to get married right then. I still can't talk about much of it...
    lakeside2 lakeside2 46-50, F 2 Responses Mar 11, 2012

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    Younger women dating older men mainly

    because younger women are attracted older men. older men mature, confident, stable .Mature guys always know how to treat their women.These younger women are looking for their age gap love romance.For older men, Younger women older men relationships will surely make an older man...
    adeleccaa adeleccaa 26-30, F Dec 21, 2014

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    I Was Abused By My Boyfriend And His Best Friend

    I am 14 years old and I have been dating this boy on and off since I was 11 and he was 14. Things were all just great back then. "Dan" was just as sweet as could be and I loved him. Last year we didn't date at all and I became close friends with his best buddy "Dyl" Dyl is two...
    aloneandafraid2 aloneandafraid2 13-15 5 Responses Mar 21, 2011

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    #WhyIStayed #WhyILeft is it

    just me or are there any others, that while finding relatable experiences being put forth under both hashtags (in light of the Rice case).... also find that it triggers some really difficult emotions to deal with? Maybe (not maybe) it's PTSD rearing its ugly head with me of...
    VerveMum VerveMum 36-40, F 1 Response Sep 9, 2014

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    I could get into the whole story behind

    why I feel what I feel now though I think that would defeat the purpose of my goal. I'm trying to live both in the present and look towards the future. Every day is a struggle even three months after we broke up. I ask myself "Why me?" every day I ask myself "Would things have...
    TheWicked TheWicked 26-30, F 1 Response Dec 21, 2014

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    No One Deserves to Be Put Down

    My marriage lasted for over 16 years, but it wasn't happy.  It was full of mood swings, ups and downs, with usually the downs lasting longest.  There were probably 25 incidents of pushing, grabbing, lifting and dropping, punching in the arm, throwing across the driveway...
    dancingonthehill dancingonthehill 51-55, F 14 Responses Apr 8, 2009

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    I'm Hoping To Call Myself A Survivor...

    I have been married for 4 years to a man I thought I know. We have been together for 14 years. Over the years, he has verbally, amotionally, and physically abused me. For some stupid reason, I have always let it go. I think it's because I never felt likte I could be loved by...
    Lovingmommy Lovingmommy 29, F 4 Responses Jul 21, 2010

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    How I've Turned Into Everything I Hated About You.

    We started talking on a social networking site for a short while before we decided to meet in person. On our first date things went good, and I thought we had really hit it off pretty well. To this day, I still regret how fast things moved along. Immediately after our first date...
    AnywhereButHome AnywhereButHome 18-21 4 Responses May 24, 2011

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    The Dragons Roar

    I am a survivor! You can soon purchase my book under the title: When The Dragons Roar. There are thousands of proclaimed survivors of spousal abuse every year, for that I am so thankful. However, it is my estimation that there are tens of thousands of victims at any given moment...
    whenthedragonsroar whenthedragonsroar 51-55, F Sep 26, 2013

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    I Survived

    I am a 56 year old woman. I spent over 20 years in an abusive relationship. Although I left many times, I seemed to always return, until I finally was able to escape. During my relationship with my abuser, I was isolated, alone, and scared. Before I married my abuser, I had had...
    Gingerlilypad Gingerlilypad 56-60, F 9 Responses Dec 29, 2010

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    What Doesn't Kill You Makes You Stronger..

    I was married to a man who I thought was a loving, caring, sensitive person, until about 5 months into the marriage. He had always been a funny, witty person who had a southern charm and accent that would make anyone melt. we had been dating for about 2 yrs when he...
    singlnurs singlnurs 46-50, F 6 Responses Mar 11, 2009

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    Related Experiences

    I think if I cheated online from my hubby with another man who offered me all sorts of amazing thoughts and fantasy all for the benefit of little old me that would be a form of my...
    louisetiger1 louisetiger1 31-35, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    I'm in a LDR, we've been together now right at a year. We dated years ago, moved apart and lost contact with one another. We are planning to move together this summer. A few months...
    missteen2 missteen2 36-40, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    Guys stop asking me about sexual things or trying to get me to send pictures or sending me pictures. I don't want any part of it. I will block you.
    Indomitable6811 Indomitable6811 18-21, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    There is a growing trend towards violence against female journalists especially online including bloggers. The violence is often sexual. Often little attention is paid to the...
    hasmita hasmita 61-65, M Feb 6

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    Why are men wearing mini-skirts in Turkey? Serious (and sad) question.
    hasmita hasmita 61-65, M Feb 22

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    stay alive stay strong get human lights by your hand with someone's help i am survivor of sexually abused by father i am survivor of phisically abused by mother i am domestic...
    JerryJerryA JerryJerryA 31-35, F Feb 9

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    survivor! NOT a victim, but in fact a survivor! If you are reading this and are being abused, you CAN get out.theres always a way out. dont let the abuser cut you down to...
    amtired amtired 22-25, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    Explore Experiences Ask Questions Find People Post TheBratPrincess3439 Me Share on Facebook Share on Google+ I Am a Child Abuse Survivor The Devil Died On Easter There once was a...
    Phoenix3439 Phoenix3439 18-21, F Feb 12

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    Nothing But Pain And Questions My parents were never bad parents. They weren't alcoholics, they never hit me and they always made sure there was food on the table. But I always...
    CoopSmith CoopSmith 26-30, M 2 Responses Feb 24

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    I've known for a long time that I was emotionally abused by my mom and dad. Separately. Recently though I've started having memories slowly leak in that tell me that I was sexually...
    chococat159 chococat159 18-21 2 Responses Feb 14

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    I was abused from the time that I was 4 until 21 years old. I was sexually abused when I was 4 years old. When I tried to tell my mom, she threatened to beat me. Then I was...
    KateMorrow92 KateMorrow92 22-25, F 2 Responses Feb 9

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    This story is part of my healing process. I thought I had beaten this years ago. I never thought about how much damage was caused by the men in my life. From the age of 4 things...
    valfree8121 valfree8121 41-45, F Feb 24

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    I have shared the details of my nightmarish childhood in a previous post. But as I was looking over my profile page and saw this group I had to be thankful that while I was abused...
    LadyHawke68 LadyHawke68 46-50, F 2 Responses a week ago

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    Am I the only one that feels this way? I was sexually abused at a young age, and then about three years ago I was abused by my brother in law when living with my sister. I lived...
    MissSeaGal452 MissSeaGal452 22-25, F 3 Responses Feb 19

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    i against all kind of sexual abuse and abuse. NO means NO. There are NO excuses for that.
    JerryJerryA JerryJerryA 31-35, F Feb 9

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    Many do not understand regression. Oh, they know the definition, but when a child or adult regresses a desire to understand the root cause is usually overcome by discomfort and a...
    brokenat5 brokenat5 61-65, M 1 Response 5 days ago

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    i am survivor of sexually abused by my father. my mother and sisters always beated me up and called me useless,you are joke,ugly,nothing. ...i live alone now. flash back is...
    JerryJerryA JerryJerryA 31-35, F Feb 8

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    I had been sexually abused by my father. Is there anyone just like me here??
    JerryJerryA JerryJerryA 31-35, F 2 Responses Feb 14

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    I have so many abuses being child, I don't know what to say..
    xRohit xRohit 31-35, M 1 Response Feb 16

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    It started as far back as I can remember. My dad first, touching me where I shouldn't be touched. Then my brother raping me when I was 9. It went on for many years, but when I...
    darebearsworld darebearsworld 16-17, F 2 Responses 5 days ago