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I Am a Survivor of Spousal Abuse

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    Important To Love Yourself

    God Loves you, with undeserved Grace - unconditionally. He promised to never leave nor forsake you. The Word also tells us to love thy neighbor as thyself. You should put as much energy into loving yourself as much as you do into trying to make someone else love you the right...
    Zerich Zerich 66-70, M Apr 10, 2012

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    How I've Turned Into Everything I Hated About You.

    We started talking on a social networking site for a short while before we decided to meet in person. On our first date things went good, and I thought we had really hit it off pretty well. To this day, I still regret how fast things moved along. Immediately after our first date...
    AnywhereButHome AnywhereButHome 18-21 4 Responses May 24, 2011

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    What Doesn't Kill You Makes You Stronger..

    I was married to a man who I thought was a loving, caring, sensitive person, until about 5 months into the marriage. He had always been a funny, witty person who had a southern charm and accent that would make anyone melt. we had been dating for about 2 yrs when he...
    singlnurs singlnurs 46-50, F 6 Responses Mar 11, 2009

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    Sad But True

    I was with a man I loved more than anything for 5 years. We had our ups and downs....over all it "seemed" like a good relationship and it wasn’t until the end that I really realized it was the worst mistake of my life. He came from a bad family background....and I always...
    melmel22 melmel22 26-30, F 1 Response Feb 21, 2011

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    I Survived

    I am a 56 year old woman. I spent over 20 years in an abusive relationship. Although I left many times, I seemed to always return, until I finally was able to escape. During my relationship with my abuser, I was isolated, alone, and scared. Before I married my abuser, I had had...
    Gingerlilypad Gingerlilypad 56-60, F 9 Responses Dec 29, 2010

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    Younger women dating older men mainly

    because younger women are attracted older men. older men mature, confident, stable .Mature guys always know how to treat their women.These younger women are looking for their age gap love romance.For older men, Younger women older men relationships will surely make an older man...
    adeleccaa adeleccaa 26-30, F 1 day ago

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    I Was Abused By My Boyfriend And His Best Friend

    I am 14 years old and I have been dating this boy on and off since I was 11 and he was 14. Things were all just great back then. "Dan" was just as sweet as could be and I loved him. Last year we didn't date at all and I became close friends with his best buddy "Dyl" Dyl is two...
    aloneandafraid2 aloneandafraid2 13-15 5 Responses Mar 21, 2011

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    Well, I Was Just a Girlfriend

    But I couldn't find "Abusive boyfriend" so I figured this would do. I fell for a guy 12 years older than I when I was 18. I knew that the odds against the relationship were high, but I was really committed to making it work. I dated this guy for a few months and...
    Voodoolou Voodoolou 22-25, F 4 Responses Jul 18, 2009

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    I Am Not One Yet, But Hope To Be

    Hello, I need some help. I am married to my husband for the second time. He is currently incarcerated for domestic battery, and I am the victim. I fought for him to get work release because he is the sole supporter of our family. I am the only one able to drive him back and forth...
    kimberlyanngray kimberlyanngray 46-50 3 Responses Oct 29, 2011

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    No One Deserves to Be Put Down

    My marriage lasted for over 16 years, but it wasn't happy.  It was full of mood swings, ups and downs, with usually the downs lasting longest.  There were probably 25 incidents of pushing, grabbing, lifting and dropping, punching in the arm, throwing across the driveway...
    dancingonthehill dancingonthehill 51-55, F 14 Responses Apr 8, 2009

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    I Got Out

    After two years, I got out. I am still trying to make sense of it all. I finally realized that there was no making him understand, I was a professional, just out of really bad marriage, fell for guy that wanted to get married right then. I still can't talk about much of it...
    lakeside2 lakeside2 46-50, F 2 Responses Mar 11, 2012

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    The Dragons Roar

    I am a survivor! You can soon purchase my book under the title: When The Dragons Roar. There are thousands of proclaimed survivors of spousal abuse every year, for that I am so thankful. However, it is my estimation that there are tens of thousands of victims at any given moment...
    whenthedragonsroar whenthedragonsroar 51-55, F Sep 26, 2013

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    #WhyIStayed #WhyILeft is it

    just me or are there any others, that while finding relatable experiences being put forth under both hashtags (in light of the Rice case).... also find that it triggers some really difficult emotions to deal with? Maybe (not maybe) it's PTSD rearing its ugly head with me of...
    VerveMum VerveMum 36-40, F 1 Response Sep 9

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    Does This Count?

     I am just his friend. We aren't even dating. I couldn't find anything like this one so here goes. I have a crush on my best guy friend. He's 15 and I'm 14. The first time he hit me when it wasn't just horseplay it wasn't really a hit. He put me in a head lock. He held me...
    aloneandafraid2 aloneandafraid2 13-15 4 Responses Jul 26, 2010

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    Oh God Help Me, Still Waiting

    i got pregnant to my first boyfriend when he took me to a picnic and said that the only way back home was to sleep with him.  I hated him but i couldnt tell anyone. the prgnancy caused my parents to demand marriage. he beat me really bad the night before the wedding, i was...
    elliepenelly elliepenelly 51-55 3 Responses Sep 29, 2010

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    Should I Trust This Guy?

    i started talkin to this guy on the computer and me and him were playin around and jokein and stff and he ask me to send him a pic of me and he would send one of himself.i asked how old he was he said 18 i told him i didnt know that i had sent a pic o myself and it turned out...
    concernedchick94 concernedchick94 13-15, F 1 Response Sep 4, 2009

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    Spousal Addictions and What It Can Do to You

    I've often thought about writing a book to help others to regain their confidence and self-worth because of what I went through.  However, I feel it would really hurt my children and they have been through so much.  I thought about (still thinking) about witnessing to...
    Betterforleaving Betterforleaving 51-55 6 Responses Jun 3, 2009

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    I'm Hoping To Call Myself A Survivor...

    I have been married for 4 years to a man I thought I know. We have been together for 14 years. Over the years, he has verbally, amotionally, and physically abused me. For some stupid reason, I have always let it go. I think it's because I never felt likte I could be loved by...
    Lovingmommy Lovingmommy 29, F 4 Responses Jul 21, 2010

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    So Many Times..........

     I can't, won't go into them now.    Too much pain involved, but needless to say, if you are in one now... get out.  Never look back, they don't know the meaning of love if they beat you and in the next breath say it's cause they love you.  There...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Mar 12, 2009

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    No One Knows

    I get asked all the time why I stayed. I married him because I love him. I told a friend today it was like boiling a frog. I ve heard that if you drop a frog in boiling water he immediately jumps out but if you put him water normal temperature and gradually increase the...
    lakeside2 lakeside2 46-50, F 4 Responses Mar 12, 2012

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    Just Stressed

    I grew up in a house with an alcoholic mother. One of five, we faced violence, threats to be killed, lack of food, electricity, just the basics I suppose. I was not looked after, constantly had nits, holes in my clothes. etc These experiences have really messed me up. Now as a 3...
    TheSpectral TheSpectral 31-35, F 1 Response Apr 3, 2012

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    What Makes Me A Survivor

    I am a survivor. I have gotten out. I found help and used it. I don't think about the past as much as I used to. I have moved on with my life. I have found a great support group. I have found happiness. I am healthy again in my mind. I can say that its not my fault...
    jcue1976 jcue1976 31-35, F 7 Responses Sep 16, 2011

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    I could get into the whole story behind

    why I feel what I feel now though I think that would defeat the purpose of my goal. I'm trying to live both in the present and look towards the future. Every day is a struggle even three months after we broke up. I ask myself "Why me?" every day I ask myself "Would things have...
    TheWicked TheWicked 26-30, F 1 day ago

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    Related Experiences

    I guess I can't quite say that I'm a survivor of emotional abuse since I am still in the relationship. By the time I knew what emotional abuse was or that it even existed I already...
    LOMD LOMD 31-35, M 3 Responses Nov 22

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    If you were to see me walking down the street, or in the grocery store, you would never realize that I am a survivor. The physical scars have healed, yet the mental and emotional...
    nuwbnprincess nuwbnprincess 31-35, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    So sitting alone at a restaurant and watching loving couples come and go. kissung and touching. my mind goes back to where we use to sit like that all the time. no end to the...
    justlikejessejames justlikejessejames 36-40, M 2 Responses 19 hrs ago

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    "You are absolutely useless." "She's a failure, she can't do anything right." "I'm so tempted to just kick her out on the streets." "You don't do anything I say, you don't help...
    BlackSnakex BlackSnakex 13-15, F 9 hrs ago

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    My mother married a terrible guy in my tween years. I remember meeting him for the first time and telling my mom that I didn't like him. I remember feeling really uncomfortable...
    2infinityandbeyond 2infinityandbeyond 26-30, F 2 Responses Dec 13

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    I've realized something. Something horrible. It makes me want to cry, puke and scream. I don't know how I didn't see it before. I remembered something last night and it's...
    Cranksta Cranksta 18-21, F 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    Chrissy Grass between my toes and sun shining on my dark head, I was at peace. I loved and lived in the moment. I had no understanding of the past or the future. I only knew of...
    Punchinginadream Punchinginadream 18-21, F 1 Response Nov 27

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    I am not a child anymore but I still put up with abuse. I have no family nor friends as far as I am concerned. Not on this earth anyway. Junior high school and high school was...
    creativegal82 creativegal82 31-35, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    My cousin molested me since i was to young to remember. I started to realize it was wrong around the ages of 7-8. He slept over all the time practically lived with me. I started to...
    Prettygurl234 Prettygurl234 16-17, F 10 Responses Nov 22

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    Tomorrow I start an intense 8 week program at a local hospital. The program is for adult women who survived childhood trauma and abuse. I was sexually abused when I was 6 - 9 years...
    Etheros Etheros 46-50, F 5 Responses Nov 23

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    I have a story like all of you been through the therapy of remembering more than I ever wanted too. but I found ways to cope then survive now i'm trying to thrive. my coping was...
    hopeful72 hopeful72 41-45, F 3 Responses Dec 12

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    I have a soul of emotional abuse survivor. I dont know why they all hurt my soul, my spirit and my mind. Thruh the years first it was my mother, then classmates disliked me, i...
    angel8i angel8i 31-35 1 Response 5 days ago

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    Abuse is one of the most tragic things to happen in anyone's life! Unless you've been through it you could never know the gravity of the situation for them! How could other humans...
    purtylilcountrythang purtylilcountrythang 13-15, F 21 hrs ago

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    24 hours a day 7 days a week 4 weeks a month 12 month's a year, I have to live with my verbal abuser and no adult will stand up for me or believe me.... i am stuck here...
    nomnommings nomnommings 16-17, F 2 Responses 12 hrs ago

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    I think that she emotionally abused me but it doesn't seem real. It was when she hit me that everything felt more real, when I realized that she had intended to hurt me with all of...
    desculpa desculpa 22-25, F 2 Responses 1 hr ago

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    I’m a survivor. I’ve been sexualy abused by my father many yrs.. My mother also beated me up every single day. After i grew up,i told police third times what happened to me so...
    juryandrews juryandrews 31-35, F 3 Responses Nov 24

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    I was abused from the ages of 4-6. Pretty much everything under the sun, including child *********** and child grooming. Rape, etc.
    Punchinginadream Punchinginadream 18-21, F 2 Responses Nov 26

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    I was sexually abused as a child for over 10 years by my own family
    Skittlesrox94 Skittlesrox94 18-21, F 6 Responses Dec 4

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    This week has been full of nightmares and flashbacks. I've been working with severely disabled children, some of whom were physically abused by their parents. It brings everything...
    ScarredScared ScarredScared 22-25, F 2 Responses Dec 6

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    Today is the end of week 3 of 8 in the childhood abuse and trauma recovery program I'm in. The first week was difficult just learning the schedule, meeting all the facilitators...
    Etheros Etheros 46-50, F 1 Response Dec 11

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    I was sexualy abused my my mother when i was a very young child, i would let just say very intence n special oral sex and yet i enjoyed her n being with her and remembering all of...
    howard1945 howard1945 51-55, M Dec 12

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    I was sexualy abused by my mother when i was a child
    howard1945 howard1945 51-55, M 2 Responses Dec 12

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    I was sexually abused as a BABY I was burned with cigarettes as a 2 year old. I still have the scars on my chest. My biological mother tried to drown me in the toilet. I've...
    throwawaychild throwawaychild 46-50, M 8 Responses Dec 12

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    Is there any survivor who was abused by different people all the years? Please tell me im not the one!
    angel8i angel8i 31-35 2 Responses Dec 13

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    Since I was a young tyke, my father and mother have been fighting because of marriage issues. My father used to be a drunk who would hit her when she talk back to her. I remember...
    Marik13 Marik13 13-15 2 Responses a week ago

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