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I Am a Survivor

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    Victim - Perpetrator Dynamics (And Re-Victimization In Abuse Survivors).

    Hi everyone, I hope my story is at the right place here, as I don't want to be insensitive, but thought it would be interesting to share what I've learned as an abuse (sexual and emotional) survivor in my struggle to recover from what happened. For years I've struggled with my...
    Scarcollection Scarcollection 22-25, F 10 Responses Jul 21, 2013

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    I Am Fine

    A Lot of people off late have asked me “How are you?”. A Lot of them have offered help and courage in one way or the other and I am thankful. But, it got me thinking that in order to really answer the question, I should elaborate the situation in a little more graphic...
    rohitmac rohitmac 31-35, M Oct 6, 2013

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    I Am Lucky

    Many times I here people say how they were the victims of physical/domestic/sexual abuse.  They are not victims, the victims died.  We are the survivors. On average, two women are killed every week by a current or former male partner. (www.homeoffice.gov.uk/crime...
    phoenixdestiny phoenixdestiny 26-30, F 4 Responses Jan 22, 2008

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    Through The Fire

    Out of all the experiences that I have wrote on this site, this is one story that I have always tried to not think about because of all the emotions involved but if I'm ever going to get over this than I need to admit that this event did happen in my life and it does need to be...
    ladyinrage ladyinrage 46-50, F 1 Response Oct 19, 2013

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    Hurricane Katrina

    yes thats right i survived hurricane katrina  back in 2005 it was a hard and scary thing i had to go through and even though it has been almost 2 years the coast is not anywhere back to what it should be plus there is alot of depression still going on around here because...
    missy2486 missy2486 21-25, F 2 Responses Apr 2, 2007

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    I met my first true love at the age of 20.

    His hair was red, curly and he is Scottish. We had serious heat that lasted til today. I was going to collage so I told him it was over. I found out I was pregnant and called him and he loved me. I think the best and only memories I enjoyed of him was in Edmonton in August 2003...
    somethingwrong somethingwrong 26-30 Feb 19

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    I am a survivor of rape.

    I got pregnant as a result and was in a terrible emotional breakdown, but thanks to my cousin (a psychologist) I recovered, and I have considered myself as a survivor of rape, not a victim. I am definately happy that after these long years, the police has found the guy that...
    LolitaChrisbell LolitaChrisbell 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 23

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    I once hit rock bottom

    where I was going to end it all. I couldn't take anymore I couldn't cry anymore I couldn't cut anymore I was so tired. No one can possibly understand that pain unless they're in that situation but that was a year ago. I look back and I realize that I never again want to become...
    nottheaveragegirl nottheaveragegirl 16-17, F 2 Responses Mar 17

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    Never Call Me Victim

    I am a survivor. Don't bother to berate me into trying to use the word victim. I was 13...got that...13 years old. I was raped. When I had the audacity to fight back...I was beaten unconcsious. I was unconcsious for more than two days. In thehospital several more. And home...
    Toby2day Toby2day 51-55, F 11 Responses May 15, 2010

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    Laban Nang Buhay Para Sa Pamilya

    Lumaki ako na isang batang papa's girls.subrang lapit ako sa kanya masaya kami,kahit sipli lang ang buhay.Pero nagbago yon nang mag grade 5 ako.Nag simulang mang babae si papa.Subrang nasaktang ako, dahil hindi ko matanggap.Tinanong ko ang sarili,suguro may kulang sa kin sa amin...
    CATYMAE CATYMAE 22-25, F Sep 23, 2013

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    Moving Forward

    I am almost there- I can feel it. I can feel it in my heart. There are whispers of impending success, and although I am daunted by the enormity of the tasks in front of me, I am excited to try. I still hear the whispers of doubt you placed in my mind- how your eroded my self...
    DinahMoeHumm DinahMoeHumm 41-45, F Oct 14, 2012

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    You bet I am. I always had to be a fighter.

    My sister was quite the bully when we were younger. She's a much better person now. But that wasn't always the case. She was abusive. She attacked me frequently when we were younger. I was scared. I thought she would kill me. But that wasn't the end of the story. I didn't want...
    RuthieAnja RuthieAnja 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 4

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    No One Can Take That From Me

    I'm free now like I never thought I would be. I can breathe for the first time in a long time without fear. No more being held down by those who wish me nothing but misery and pain. No more living with a monster. You say I deserve this? Well no one deserves to be treated like...
    nwilla nwilla 18-21, F 1 Response Nov 10, 2013

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    yesterday i attempted suicide.

    i OD'd. lemme just say, don' try to OD. its horrid to get cleansed out and everything from it. my mom called 911. the police and ambulance came. everything happened all so fast, that i don't remember much. i do remember the ER's asking me questions and sitting behind the...
    fxithxo fxithxo 16-17, F Mar 7

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    What Ever Is Necessary

    A survivor is someone that goes through a horrible experience and doesn't give up. Someone who does what ever is necessary to make it through.During the abuse as a child I never thought of myself as a survivor. Well, when the attempt to kill me failed I kind of felt like a...
    lyricaldemise lyricaldemise 36-40 Sep 14, 2013

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    Thankfully!

    As many of you know my business life was rocked terribly early this month.  Looking back over the last couple of weeks though I am proud of myself. Instead of curling up in a ball, beaten and broken. I have picked up the pieces...redirected and have begun a new adventure...
    Lexus Lexus 36-40, F 2 Responses Jan 27, 2008

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    From My Past

    My childhood was filled with mental and emotional abuse. I was molested by my own brother and called a lier for telling my mother. Two weeks after my 18th birthday I attempted suicide I shot myself with a 44 Mg. Luckily I was so drunk that I thought i was pointing the gun at my...
    Girl69girl Girl69girl 41-45, F Sep 14, 2013

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    I am not a victim. Last April does not define

    me. When I was sobbing begging him to stop telling him this has happened before...... how did he not stop. How did he continue to hurt me....a monster Oh what one year has done to me. I would ask him if it was worth it.. if he ever thinks about me... if he knows the damage he...
    lookingformyself88 lookingformyself88 18-21, F 2 Responses Mar 12

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    Please Don't Tell Me That

    A s a survivor of abuse, please don't tell me "what doesn't kill us makes us stronger".. I fight depression and reliving memories that choose when they want to surface. That is not what I need or want to hear. I appreciate wanting to help me. That tells me your very...
    WarriorMom WarriorMom 51-55, F 27 Responses Sep 11, 2008

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    A Year Ago Today.....

    My life was such a mess and I was in such a bad place in all facets of my life. NOTHING was right, NOTHING was in any way that I wanted things to be and NOTHING seemed to work no matter WHAT I did....so a year ago I was ready to give up...I considered suicide, seriously...
    Kat47 Kat47 46-50, F 2 Responses Nov 8, 2013

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    I've Survived.. So Far.

    Hi guys.. not sure if I should post my story here, or a part of it, or whatever, but I can not walk alone with it any longer.. I can feel it destroying me, slowly tearing me apart. I have been mentally, physically and sexually abused for as long as I can remember by people who...
    MalakimSilvertongue MalakimSilvertongue 16-17, F 6 Responses Jul 22, 2013

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    I survived a car explosion i was ten second

    earlier than the blast wich is why i am here
    soran13 soran13 26-30, M Dec 9, 2013

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    Survivor

    I have been a person who has been dealt some pretty extreme things. They range from sexual abuse, a child of an addicted parent, abusive situations of my own and a person who has seen a lot of abuse in their life. I am on here in hopes to help anyone and everyone who needs...
    breefer breefer 26-30, F Jun 14, 2013

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    As a Survivor of Abuse, Please Don't

    As a survivor of abuse, please don't tell me "what doesn't kill us makes us stronger"..  I fight depression and reliving memories that choose when they want to surface.  That is not what I need or want to hear.  I appreciate wanting to help me. ...
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Aug 22, 2008

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    I got so sick and tired of the constant

    fighting, screaming, crying in my home. In fact, i couldn't even call it a home, but a hell. I was so hurt of the yells past back and forth, I just went either to my room, or the bathroom to cut myself. Once, i cut myself directly in my vein, and my wrist was bleeding nonstop. I...
    victoria368 victoria368 18-21 2 Responses Jan 27

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    Rise!

    “Suffering and joy teach us, if we allow them, how to make the leap of empathy, which transports us into the soul and heart of another person. In those transparent moments we know other people’s joys and sorrows, and we care about their concerns as if they were our own...
    HiPpIeRoNiN HiPpIeRoNiN 31-35, M 5 Responses Jul 26, 2012

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    I use my past experiences to help people.

    I bet that I've done at least one thing that you have or are going through. Ask me about it!
    EmmyC EmmyC 13-15, F Apr 10

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    Perspective Of Mine

    I am a survivor of many things in this life. There are those who survive and then spend the rest of their life complaining about it and all that they have gone through and then those who use it for a positive goal in life and that is to help other people by their experiences...
    Lavender007 Lavender007 36-40, F 5 Responses Oct 9, 2013

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    And Stronger For It

    I am certainly a survivor.  I have lived many times when I should have died.  I have overcome things in my life that would have crippled a lot of people.  I am proud to say no longer can you call me a victim because you can’t be a victim when you are a...
    fungirlmmm fungirlmmm 41-45, F 18 Responses Jul 16, 2008

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    Roll With The Punches

    I was knocked for a loop when I tore up my knee playing basketball. I was playing professionally in Europe when it happened and I was going to the NBA the next season but somehow I knew that wasn't going to happen when I felt my knee give way. Change of plans. I started my own...
    mark247 mark247 41-45, M 45 Responses Apr 19, 2011

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    Inside My Mind

    I know I need to move on But no matter how it feels it can never do wrong I’m barely holdin’ on actin’ like a fool wit’ out a clue like a dodo I’m on the edge nerves wrecked If you stress me I don’t know what I may do next But it will surely leave regret Maybe I...
    Sufri84 Sufri84 26-30, M Jun 12, 2013

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    One Day I Will Become The Warrior I Am Destined To Be

    Lately with each day that passes I’m feeling stronger and stronger, and more like the warrior I long to be. I signed up to this site not to give my sob story or to get people to feel sorry for me, but to help people in situations similar to any that I’ve faced. Life is...
    jake12341 jake12341 18-21, M 1 Response Aug 24, 2013

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    Risk

    I have played Risk many times. Many times have I won the game of Risk. If any of you think you're going to beat me at Risk, well...you have got another thing comin'!
    Blitz28 Blitz28 26-30, M Nov 10, 2013

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    Making A Difference

    I've had struggles that most can relate to. Things like retiring from a gang and my fight to survive. If I've ever really brought it up, it was to help someone see that even in hard times such as those, you don't have to carry the burden of that past all your life. Over time, I...
    PartyCrazyGenius PartyCrazyGenius 18-21, M 2 Responses Oct 15, 2013

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    My Neckless

    For you to under stand this story you will need a little background info. Every day I wear a neckless that I made, it's called a HOG's tooth. A HOG's tooth is a bullet, it's a military term. A HOG is a Hunter Of Gunman, to get a HOG's tooth you have to kill some one who was about...
    Amandakellyxoxo Amandakellyxoxo 18-21, F Nov 4, 2013

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    I seem to have a bright light in my soul

    which keeps me directed on the right path. I love to be inspired, but best of all I think I've inspired myself with the amount of strength I have. I feel like I can say that I love me, and I wasn't to blame for what happened to me. Whoever is reading this, my message to you is...
    frankielou frankielou 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 23

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    My dad has abused me

    for as long as I can remember. My mom has always been by my side to help me though, which I think is the reason why I'm still alive. I've been through some hard times. Of course the abuse has damaged me a lot. Also being very premature having been to the hospital many times as...
    rabbitheart rabbitheart 16-17, F 4 Responses Dec 30, 2013

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    Surviving With Support And Will

    I am 46 and I had been sexual abused by my older brother. I was about 6 when it started. He was 13. It lasted for about 5 years. It has really effected me as an adult. I suffer from an eating disorder, guilt, anger, anxiety, fear and relationships. I have been in therapy for...
    KW25 KW25 46-50, F Jun 2, 2013

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    Weathering The Storm

    As a lady who went through being sexually assaulted at the age of 4 through 9, being physically beaten with extention cords, broom or mop handles, their fist or whatever my mom and dad got their hands on, humiliated by my family and their playing favorites between me and my...
    ladyinrage ladyinrage 46-50, F 3 Responses Oct 12, 2013

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    Scary Car Accident

    It was 3am and I was sleeping in the back seat of the car without wearing a seatbelt.  The car was doing about 140 km/h.  It flipped over twice (single car accident) and I flew out and landed on the concrete. When I was delivered to the ER I had a Glasgow coma scale...
    BlackCat08 BlackCat08 21-25, F 2 Responses Aug 30, 2007

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    I Survived All the Hurricanes In Fla

    I SURVIVED ALL THE HURRICANES IN FLA 1988-2005 WOW 2004 WAS A BAD HURRICANE YEAR IVEAN CHARRLEY, FRANCIS,4 IN A ROLL IT STARTED FRIDAY THE 13TH
    lunnas lunnas 41-45, F 2 Responses Jan 27, 2008

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    All My Life

    Ive been a suvivor as long as i can remember. Ive been sexually, physically, verbally, and emotionally abused since as early as the age of 5. I found my own mother dead. I spent 4 years in Child Protective Services. I even used to be a suicidal cutter. But through all the...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Sep 16, 2013

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    HPV-Now What?

    When I was seventeen years old, I was diagnosed with Human Papilloma Virus, or HPV. At the time, I had no idea what it was or where it came from and what to do about it. My doctor was less than helpful, but in her defense, she didn't have the capacity to do much for me. I had...
    Bassbabe Bassbabe 19-21, F 4 Responses Dec 24, 2007

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    I Flip The script, Some Call Me A Survivor

    I hesitated to join this experinece group and then once I joined it the thought of posting a story for it was even more detestable to my sensibilities. However, upon reflection and some brutallly honest processing and searching with in I decided it is what it is. I have lived a...
    libra604 libra604 26-30, M 7 Responses Mar 25, 2012

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    To Survive

    It has taken me a long time to see it but I guess I could not handle it when it happened. I can not say at what moment I knew everything I had worked for was shattered. It seemed to culminate at the end of a dream at the end of a cul de sac... but it had started long before...
    jenvice jenvice 41-45, F 1 Response May 6, 2012

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    Related Experiences

    I am a survivor and will continue to be so. Robbed of my peace of mind and treated like crap, I lived through it. I can live through almost anything now. I would rather it had not...
    Thatredheadchick Thatredheadchick 46-50, F 2 Responses Apr 7

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    Stage 4 melanoma survivor :)
    Ilovemykids77 Ilovemykids77 36-40, F 3 Responses Mar 20

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    I have deep hatred for the MAN abused me sexually when I was just a little kid. I was only 4-5 years old when this guy, this so called relatives sexually abused me. I din't know...
    nobodyn234 nobodyn234 26-30, M 3 Responses Mar 25

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    I was 26 years old when I got GBS. I was a new mom of a four month old baby girl. Before she was born I had taught 1st grade. The plan was to take a year off from teaching then go...
    mommabrick5 mommabrick5 46-50, F 1 Response Apr 7

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    Among them family who were in concentration camps, mostly Treblinka, but I know at least a few went to Dachau and Stutthof. I have seen only Treblinka and Dachau. Also, various...
    seitanist seitanist 22-25, F 4 days ago

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    Unfortunately I can't even do that right.
    xoMegan xoMegan 18-21, F 6 Responses 2 hrs ago

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    My mom was going to abort me when I was 8 months in the womb. But the doctor told her it was too late. And now she still wants to abort me. :(
    KaitlynUchiha KaitlynUchiha 22-25, F 1 Response Mar 20

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    My story I keep asking myself when it all started. If there was a specific day or a specific event to be able to pinpoint when I started to loose myself. There is no day or...
    NoDavid NoDavid 46-50 1 Response Mar 22

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    I was with "him" for almost 30 years. In the beginning I did notice that he was somewhat controlling. Also he could be manipulative. However in those times these actions were...
    Freedom425 Freedom425 46-50, F 1 Response Mar 23

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    I think that most of the things I allow sexually had to do with me being sexually abuse when I was younger I need professional help
    Reynastaxx Reynastaxx 26-30, F 3 Responses Mar 24

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