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I Am a Victim of Domestic Violence

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    Even though I left him,

    he still has control over me. We are still friends on facebook. Why? Because of safety reasons. And I'm afraid to make any moves, by removing him, due to his threats in the past. It has been 4 years and I'm still scared of him. You would think that I should be over it by now. I...
    CreoleItalianwoman CreoleItalianwoman 31-35, F 2 Responses Mar 6

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    A Year Has Passed

    A Year has Passed Like Socrates said, “Wonder brings wisdom.” If you do not wonder about something how will you ever learn?My abuser did not want me to have knowledge, because knowledge is powerful, and that is what he took away from me, because he wanted power and control...
    awarren98 awarren98 36-40, F 15 Responses Jun 3, 2011

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    My bf beats me and broje my arm.

    I need surgery again and he doesn't care.
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Jun 18

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    I just filed a protection order.

    I'm finally going to be free of him. I'm empowered, yet terrified.
    findinghome90 findinghome90 22-25, F 5 Responses Oct 21, 2014

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    I was sexually abused

    as a child by multiple men. I grew up in a verbally abusive house hold. Struggled with self esteem issues all my life. Witnessed domestic abuse in my home. Then I fell in love. I feel in love with a woman and it felt like she saved me from what I knew as the world. I felt safe...
    fortheloveoflu fortheloveoflu 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 19

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    I Am No Longer a Victim

     "I'm sorry, you just make me so mad". How many times I've heard that, I thought as I rubbed my swollen cheek.   It started out perfect, I met a man that was handsome, smart, and could make anyone laugh. He was the life of the party. Everyone thought he was...
    vanilla vanilla 26-30, F 15 Responses Jul 8, 2007

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    When you've been a victim of domestic violence

    your whole world turns upside down. There is nothing more condradictory than the man who professes to love you harming you physically and emtionally. As all your thoughts are picked apart you begin to question everything....even you're reality... It's part denial.. It's hard to...
    Catsoutdabag Catsoutdabag 31-35, F 19 Responses May 3, 2014

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    I just want to make one comment on this subject.

    I was in an abusive relationship for 5 years and through four of those years I was abused almost on a daily basis. If it wasn't mental, it was physical. If it wasn't physical, it was mental. It's hard talking about it right now even after all these years because the mental and...
    goodwitch011070 goodwitch011070 41-45, F 3 Responses Mar 9

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    what if I am living the life I have always

    wanted... i was crazy in love with someone for one year, got engaged for another and now we're married for 3 years...he is the live of my life...so kind, supportive and considerate...everyday we get closer...he get me flowers and takes care of me very well...treating me like a...
    Sj1287 Sj1287 22-25, F 1 Response May 17

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    I am going through a very messy break up at the

    moment and I need help and guidance. I have started a blog with all my experiences: diariesofdomesticviolence.blogspot.com.au/ I have been abused both sexually and physically by my Indian partner for nearly 5 years and even by his mum and his sister. He is also a policeman...
    melek1 melek1 22-25, F Jun 21

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    why do I feel guilty

    that my abuser is in jail facing prison charges? I miss him and what I thought we had. should I refuse to testify? he's done this to others but the dropped charges. part of me hates him for hurting me ..
    justinsneedow justinsneedow 46-50, F 3 Responses Mar 22

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    It Came Out In Clumps

    The next day I washed my hair. It came out in clumps, some with skin still attached. I saved one and gave it to him. He looked at it squeamishly, like I had handed him a dead rat. He dropped it on the floor in disgust. “What?” I asked, “You tore it out, I thought you...
    lulabelle138 lulabelle138 31-35, F 2 Responses Sep 29, 2013

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    I am unpopular. I am misunderstood.

    I am held down. I am hurt. I cry. I feel like it's my fault. I am confused. I am none of these things in the outside world, I am all of these things in my home. I am excellent at making things look like the shiny life that it is not. I am a sister, a lover, a friend, a...
    PKFM30 PKFM30 26-30, F Jun 8

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    Lingering Effects

    I have written many stories. I have shared my pain and hopefully some of you have found some comfort or identify with the issues I have and am facing.  It has been several years since I physically left my abuser.  I tried to be civil and just go with the flow for a couple...
    flodials flodials 41-45, F 7 Responses Nov 28, 2012

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    In Love With An Abuser, Trying to Lose the Love

    I thought it was love, an over the top tenderness, a magnetic sensuality that kept me waiting for the next time we were alone.... At first it wasn't abusive, just angry sometimes, what's a little insult with a bit of a slap or hair pulling???  But it got worse...
    dancingonthehill dancingonthehill 51-55, F 57 Responses Apr 3, 2009

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    I found out my husband is a cheater

    and so he beat me yesterday
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jun 13

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    I was with my x for 12 years

    and I wasn't even a human in those days you could feel the air blowing through me I was hollow and I have been away from him for the past two years I love it and my only regret is not leaving sooner I often wonder if I'll ever be able to love again but I'm still learning how to...
    Pammiii Pammiii 51-55 4 Responses Mar 28

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    They are forcing my abuser to come to my

    daughter's birthday party tomorrow. They say that I'm not thinking about her, because I didn't invite him. He's a dead beat dad and does nothing for her. And now my family is forcing me to do something that does not feel right. He's always breaking promises. And my daughter's at...
    CreoleItalianwoman CreoleItalianwoman 31-35, F 2 Responses Mar 7

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    when I met my Bf I had just separated from my

    husband and here comes this extremely good looking blue eyed tall hansom guy that two of my really good friend's introduce me to. He had ho's **** together and I'm not saying my husband didn't, but my husband just liked to party on the weekends way to much looking back on it...
    sissieblue sissieblue 31-35, F Mar 6

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    Well, Not Anymore

    My ex husband was abusive, physically, mentally and emotionally. I spent 5 years getting my *** beat, being put down, being forced to do things i didnt want to. Being raped on a regular basis. Yes ladies, your husband CAN rape you. It was pure hell. I ran when I had the right...
    kittylove30 kittylove30 31-35, F 9 Responses Jul 12, 2013

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    I can't seem to let go of the person I love

    with all my heart, even though inside he wishes he could smash my face So much he hates everything about me yet he won't leave.
    brokenh8rt brokenh8rt 26-30, F 2 Responses Jul 2, 2014

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    Stop the Hate!

    This is a blog i wrote on March 3 on my myspace. I was so tired of hearing beaten women bashed!! I am a huge DV activist in my hometown and hope that by informing the masses beaten women can avoid further humiliation. STOP CALLING WOMEN WHO  ARE BEING BEATEN AND ABUSED...
    amyjo3 amyjo3 26-30, F 12 Responses Mar 23, 2009

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    my abuser is in jail.

    I cry everyday that I put him there. my ex H who remained a good friend has stepped in for support but doesn't understand my tears. I am full of guilt . my ex is a great person, father wants me back. why can't I get the man that beat me, who's scars and pain I see and feel...
    twofourgone twofourgone 46-50, F 4 Responses Apr 5

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    Take The Night Back All They've Stolen All We Took From You

    I just wanted to stop by and drop a little song of support for y'all.  You all are inspirations to other s who need help.  I was suffering with some memories of a past situation and found this site and this group and through your words and wisdom you helped me past a dark part...
    Aether71 Aether71 36-40, M 6 Responses Jul 29, 2011

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    Am I The Only Male

    I read quite a few of your stories and I find it interesting, but not surprising that I have not read one story by a male.  This sort of goes with my experience as a victim of domestic violence.  I was married very young to my high school sweetheart.  Everything...
    Aether71 Aether71 36-40, M 48 Responses Jun 3, 2010

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    There are numerous older men in the world

    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    alisoncc11 alisoncc11 26-30, F Mar 5

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    IM FINALLY FREE FROM MY PARTNER OF ALMOST 15

    YEARS OF EMOTIONAL AND MENTAL ABUSE , I ALMOST STAYED OUT OF FEAR OF THE UNKNOWN BUT WITH A LOT OF POSITIVE FEEDBACK I WAS ABLE TO OVERCOME MY WORST FEARS WHICH WAS TAKING THE FIRST STEP TODAY I WOKE UP FEELING LOST BUT IM FREE AND I KNOW ITS GOING TO TAKE TIME TO GET OVER HIM...
    shela61 shela61 46-50, F 3 Responses Mar 5

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    Wow. Every day is worse He is being

    so mean I don't wanna live.
    gidget9204 gidget9204 31-35, F 16 Responses Apr 9

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    My mom. Every girl wants a woman they can look

    up to and depend on. Share secrets and do makeovers. Talk about boy problems. My mom, she's nothing like that. She was in a car accident 22 years ago. Since then she's been on every drug in the book and is very addicted to them. For the last three years it's gotten really...
    thefallenones thefallenones 13-15, F 5 Responses Sep 9, 2014

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    There are numerous older men in the world

    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    kyliecc11 kyliecc11 26-30, F Jun 10

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    Still Terrified....

    it is hard to talk about but I want help... When I was 14 years old I met this guy who I instantly fell for. He was 16 at the time. I was a virgin, he wasn't. He cheated on me because I wouldn't have sex with him. But about five months in I gave in. A week later he went to jail...
    babymama16 babymama16 18-21, F 9 Responses Nov 3, 2013

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    For the past 2 years I have been in a

    physically abusive relationship. It has been a cycle of fighting and making up. I have called the police numerous times and now my abuser is facing jail time. 8 months ago, we had a beautiful baby girl, and now for some reason I feel horrible that he is going to be incarcerated...
    korya901 korya901 22-25, F 3 Responses Mar 22

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    I Didn't See It Coming . . .

    When I met my husband, he couldn't do enough for me.  He was wonderful.  But as soon as the vows were taken he changed, slowly and subtly at first, then it sped up and became more obvious.  He isolated me from my friends and my family.  He constantly...
    LCLM LCLM 41-45, F 10 Responses Feb 19, 2008

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    I'm feeling very hopeless

    and overwhelmed. I've been married for almost 17 years to an emotionally abusive narcissistic alcoholic. It wasn't until about four years ago that I realized there was something wrong. That it wasn't all my fault and me not being enough. Everyone else loves him. He's very good...
    kmn789 kmn789 36-40, F 3 Responses Aug 22, 2014

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    Life can sometimes be very tough

    and I belive that making mistakes gives you a chance to learn from them. I had my son when I was young and even though he is the best thing that ever happened to me his dad was the worst! he abused me and controlled me. I was lucky enough to see what he was doing and I left him...
    CB2788 CB2788 26-30, F 2 Responses Jun 9

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    Still Alive

    It has been 3 years now since I left my abusive husband of 16 years and my life is completely different. It was the hardest thing I have ever done in my life to just take our child and run, but I did it. I can honestly say that my daughter and I are both happy, healthy and...
    KCecil73 KCecil73 41-45, F 4 Responses Nov 5, 2013

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    Finally stayed at a new lovely home.

    I watched sunset from my big windows last night. It was an amazing view. I am lucky! Still my ex bothers me. Text like thousand times a day. He even show up at my work. He realized that he lost me but refused to accept that. He use my money to buy many movies. S h I t. I had...
    girlyloveorange girlyloveorange 31-35, F 4 Responses Nov 19, 2014

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    Do you like scrambled eggs?

    This morning I made him scrambled eggs. I've cooked them several times throughout my life never had any complaints; oh this time it was different. He reacted by complaining basically told me they tasted like sh#?! Then he proceeds to get up after more complaining. I say calmly...
    gidget9204 gidget9204 31-35, F 6 Responses Apr 12

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    :(

    I have for many years now been putting up with domestic voilence.. It has ground me down so much i do want to die some times:( i dont know why I have stuck it for so long I think its coz I feel i could never live on my own. I feel very trapped by my husband and his hold he has...
    mamdo2 mamdo2 36-40, F 44 Responses Nov 8, 2012

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    I Did It.

    I called the police. He's in a cell right now. Court in 4 hours. I'll never let this happen again.
    AlexSparky AlexSparky 18-21, F 9 Responses Sep 13, 2013

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    My friends made me feel safe.

    I called my only two friends after my husband had thrown the supper I'd cooked him in the bed with me while I slept. I called the wife(my bff's are married to each other) and she calmed me down and got me to stop crying. It was very late and she was very patient and sweet. She...
    Catsoutdabag Catsoutdabag 31-35, F 1 Response Feb 27, 2014

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    Enduring A Monster...

    I was unprepared for the nightmare I got myself into when I was 18-years-old. Back then...they really didn't talk about abuse within romantic relationships like they do now. I was naive...very wet behind the ears...and not expecting a guy who said he loved me to treat me in such...
    KassieKat KassieKat 46-50, F 19 Responses Apr 25, 2011

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    Hello all. I am new to this site

    but would like to share my story. I have been in a emotional, verbal, and physical abusive relationship for 8 years. Just a few months ago, I escaped and tried to move on with my life by dating my co-worker who eventually turned out to be extremely emotional and verbal abusive...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses May 20

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    Was wondering whether you ever truly get over

    it? It is difficult when you have feelings of guilt, despair and sadness. Anyone heard of narcissists pretty much sums my ex up to a T. How do you think about yourself and put you first?? I find it very difficult as he blamed me for everything and also wanted to try and change...
    Brightheart89 Brightheart89 22-25, F 6 Responses Mar 26

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    Hi, Few months after moved out.

    I love my place to be alone and peace. It is a beautiful thing. Until...... It is about to start to analyze myself and daily routines to work and my daily home. I got stressed panic!. I got few other issues going on. I realized.... omg he effected me so much. I am so badly...
    girlyloveorange girlyloveorange 31-35, F 4 Responses Mar 21

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    I was severely beaten last night.

    .. Because I said I have a fu**ing migraine and can he stop banging on the fuc**ing pan... Sent him into a full blown rage.. I am beat from top to bottom. He choked me so hard and so many times I think there is damage... It hurts to swallow.. I have his hand prints around my...
    Deadinside74 Deadinside74 36-40, F 1 Response Jun 9

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