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I Am a Victim of Domestic Violence

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    It started nearly a year ago,

    I lied to my mom to pick up my long distance boyfriend from Missouri, about 17 hours away from where I live. I was in love and naive, yes, i didn't care about the consequences as long as I was with him. 3 months into living at my moms house with him we would argue and he would...
    renilani renilani 18-21, F 4 Responses Aug 19

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    it's been two months plus.

    he is still in jail and we are headed to another hearing. I'm getting weaker. I don't want to do this. I want it to go away. I want my life back. I miss him so much. I want to hear his voice. I'm so sorry this happened. everydY is a fake. every night I still cry. he has to hate...
    twofourgone twofourgone 46-50, F 2 Responses May 9

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    Enduring A Monster...

    I was unprepared for the nightmare I got myself into when I was 18-years-old. Back then...they really didn't talk about abuse within romantic relationships like they do now. I was naive...very wet behind the ears...and not expecting a guy who said he loved me to treat me in such...
    KassieKat KassieKat 46-50, F 19 Responses Apr 25, 2011

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    12 month sober from what felt like the most

    dramatic, painful, irrecoverable 2 years and a half of my life. Yet the worst part is I could have walked away before it got out of hand But like an addiction.. the deeper the love grows the harder it is to walk away. I am writing this to tell you my story so I can...
    ffjpp ffjpp 18-21, F Jul 5

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    My husband beats me at least

    once a month. I'm used to this now, but I know I shoudn't. I love him so much that I don't care, but I wish he stops beating me.
    alinediniz alinediniz 22-25, F 5 Responses Aug 9

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    There are numerous older men in the world

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    kyliecc11 kyliecc11 26-30, F Jun 10

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    I Didn't See It Coming . . .

    When I met my husband, he couldn't do enough for me.  He was wonderful.  But as soon as the vows were taken he changed, slowly and subtly at first, then it sped up and became more obvious.  He isolated me from my friends and my family.  He constantly...
    LCLM LCLM 41-45, F 10 Responses Feb 19, 2008

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    I spent years with a charismatic

    and very violent man. I even ended up marrying him..on our wedding night he was arrested, dragging me up the street by my hair. He was charged with grevious bodily harm just before I managed to leave, but the charges didn't stick because he wouldn't let me leave the house to...
    saravonpein saravonpein 36-40, F 3 Responses Jul 10

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    In Love With An Abuser, Trying to Lose the Love

    I thought it was love, an over the top tenderness, a magnetic sensuality that kept me waiting for the next time we were alone.... At first it wasn't abusive, just angry sometimes, what's a little insult with a bit of a slap or hair pulling???  But it got worse...
    dancingonthehill dancingonthehill 51-55, F 57 Responses Apr 3, 2009

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    It Came Out In Clumps

    The next day I washed my hair. It came out in clumps, some with skin still attached. I saved one and gave it to him. He looked at it squeamishly, like I had handed him a dead rat. He dropped it on the floor in disgust. “What?” I asked, “You tore it out, I thought you...
    lulabelle138 lulabelle138 31-35, F 2 Responses Sep 29, 2013

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    Do you like scrambled eggs?

    This morning I made him scrambled eggs. I've cooked them several times throughout my life never had any complaints; oh this time it was different. He reacted by complaining basically told me they tasted like sh#?! Then he proceeds to get up after more complaining. I say calmly...
    gidget9204 gidget9204 31-35, F 6 Responses Apr 12

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    Finally stayed at a new lovely home.

    I watched sunset from my big windows last night. It was an amazing view. I am lucky! Still my ex bothers me. Text like thousand times a day. He even show up at my work. He realized that he lost me but refused to accept that. He use my money to buy many movies. S h I t. I had...
    girlyloveorange girlyloveorange 31-35, F 4 Responses Nov 19, 2014

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    When you've been a victim of domestic violence

    your whole world turns upside down. There is nothing more condradictory than the man who professes to love you harming you physically and emtionally. As all your thoughts are picked apart you begin to question everything....even you're reality... It's part denial.. It's hard to...
    Catsoutdabag Catsoutdabag 31-35, F 19 Responses May 3, 2014

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    Am I The Only Male

    I read quite a few of your stories and I find it interesting, but not surprising that I have not read one story by a male.  This sort of goes with my experience as a victim of domestic violence.  I was married very young to my high school sweetheart.  Everything...
    Aether71 Aether71 36-40, M 48 Responses Jun 3, 2010

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    Still Alive

    It has been 3 years now since I left my abusive husband of 16 years and my life is completely different. It was the hardest thing I have ever done in my life to just take our child and run, but I did it. I can honestly say that my daughter and I are both happy, healthy and...
    KaseyBee KaseyBee 41-45, F 4 Responses Nov 5, 2013

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    My story is similar to those on here

    but it's not as bad. He hasn't assaulted me yet. And that's why I got out. When we met it was amazing, we both have the same sick sense of humor an would laugh for hours. Being in different states made us spend hours talking over the phone, but which also meant I didn't get to...
    jesselizabethjw jesselizabethjw 26-30, F 3 Responses Feb 28, 2014

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    Yelling and screaming,

    that's all that ever happened for 18 years, yelling and screaming until that Sunday afternoon after church on March 2nd. Our anniversary actually. He totally melted down. He hit me in the chest and it knocked me off balance and I fell backwards hitting my shoulder on the cat...
    Scottishgirl65 Scottishgirl65 46-50, F Feb 2

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    Lingering Effects

    I have written many stories. I have shared my pain and hopefully some of you have found some comfort or identify with the issues I have and am facing.  It has been several years since I physically left my abuser.  I tried to be civil and just go with the flow for a couple...
    flodials flodials 41-45, F 7 Responses Nov 28, 2012

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    My bf beats me and broje my arm.

    I need surgery again and he doesn't care.
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Jun 18

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    I Am No Longer a Victim

     "I'm sorry, you just make me so mad". How many times I've heard that, I thought as I rubbed my swollen cheek.   It started out perfect, I met a man that was handsome, smart, and could make anyone laugh. He was the life of the party. Everyone thought he was...
    vanilla vanilla 26-30, F 15 Responses Jul 8, 2007

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    I can't seem to let go of the person I love

    with all my heart, even though inside he wishes he could smash my face So much he hates everything about me yet he won't leave.
    brokenh8rt brokenh8rt 26-30, F 2 Responses Jul 2, 2014

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    I was with my bf for 7.

    5 years sense we were 14, we decided to move in together about 2 years ago today. When we lived together he became controlling at first over small things, he would constantly tell me things like "he's the only one there for me" and he would constantly remind me of how crappy my...
    SummerK267 SummerK267 22-25, F 2 Responses Jul 16

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    My mom. Every girl wants a woman they can look

    up to and depend on. Share secrets and do makeovers. Talk about boy problems. My mom, she's nothing like that. She was in a car accident 22 years ago. Since then she's been on every drug in the book and is very addicted to them. For the last three years it's gotten really...
    thefallenones thefallenones 13-15, F 5 Responses Sep 9, 2014

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    A Year Has Passed

    A Year has Passed Like Socrates said, “Wonder brings wisdom.” If you do not wonder about something how will you ever learn?My abuser did not want me to have knowledge, because knowledge is powerful, and that is what he took away from me, because he wanted power and control...
    awarren98 awarren98 36-40, F 15 Responses Jun 3, 2011

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    I went to DVIS in my town today ; they called

    3-4 shelters for me and they're ALL full. Lost yet another job have a black eye bruises Idk what to do.
    gidget9204 gidget9204 31-35, F 1 Response May 26

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    I have been with my abusive husband

    for 21years from the age of 16 (he was then 18). For a long time he was so charming and he wanted to see me everyday, he told me i was his world, i made his life wonderful. I had finished my final year at school and one day he got up from watching tv with me on the sofa at my...
    KirstyF KirstyF 36-40, F 8 Responses Dec 8, 2013

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    my abuser is in jail.

    I cry everyday that I put him there. my ex H who remained a good friend has stepped in for support but doesn't understand my tears. I am full of guilt . my ex is a great person, father wants me back. why can't I get the man that beat me, who's scars and pain I see and feel...
    twofourgone twofourgone 46-50, F 4 Responses Apr 5

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    Hey my name is Shay-ellen osborne

    and when i was younger i saw my mum get bashed by her partner in the street. This was 10 years ago but now im still feeling the effects i am currently doing research project and based it on domestic violence and the effect it had on children. I was wondering if anyone could...
    shaybaylittlebay shaybaylittlebay 16-17, F 1 Response Aug 13

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    I am going through a very messy break up at the

    moment and I need help and guidance. I have started a blog with all my experiences: diariesofdomesticviolence.blogspot.com.au/ I have been abused both sexually and physically by my Indian partner for nearly 5 years and even by his mum and his sister. He is also a policeman...
    melek1 melek1 22-25, F 1 Response Jun 21

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    So me and my fiancé had an argument earlier,

    this came up because one of his friends had beat up his girlfriend and she ended up posting the pictures on Facebook. Then he tells me look at her face now that's actually abuse, what I do to you is nothing compared to that she has bruises and she's bleeding. So basically he...
    jazzysymone6 jazzysymone6 18-21, F 1 Response Jun 30

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    I Did It.

    I called the police. He's in a cell right now. Court in 4 hours. I'll never let this happen again.
    AlexSparky AlexSparky 18-21, F 9 Responses Sep 13, 2013

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    Well, Not Anymore

    My ex husband was abusive, physically, mentally and emotionally. I spent 5 years getting my *** beat, being put down, being forced to do things i didnt want to. Being raped on a regular basis. Yes ladies, your husband CAN rape you. It was pure hell. I ran when I had the right...
    kittylove30 kittylove30 31-35, F 9 Responses Jul 12, 2013

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    I am a victim who was fortunate to survivor

    and thrive after abuse. Unfortunately, my close friend is now in a similar situation and I can't get through to her. She knows my story, has admitted he's toxic, and will tell me she needs out of the relationship when she's not around him. As soon as she goes back to him (to end...
    JennSadai JennSadai 36-40 2 Responses Aug 20

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    I was in a physically abusive relationship

    for about a year. Now that we are no longer together it feels like he has some kind of hold on me. I really love this man but I gotta let these feelings go. I have no one to talk to and I feel like I'm losing my mind
    pillowprincess34 pillowprincess34 36-40 4 Responses Jul 18

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    what if I am living the life I have always

    wanted... i was crazy in love with someone for one year, got engaged for another and now we're married for 3 years...he is the live of my life...so kind, supportive and considerate...everyday we get closer...he get me flowers and takes care of me very well...treating me like a...
    Sj1287 Sj1287 22-25, F 1 Response May 17

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    Stop the Hate!

    This is a blog i wrote on March 3 on my myspace. I was so tired of hearing beaten women bashed!! I am a huge DV activist in my hometown and hope that by informing the masses beaten women can avoid further humiliation. STOP CALLING WOMEN WHO  ARE BEING BEATEN AND ABUSED...
    amyjo3 amyjo3 26-30, F 12 Responses Mar 23, 2009

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    I just want to make one comment on this subject.

    I was in an abusive relationship for 5 years and through four of those years I was abused almost on a daily basis. If it wasn't mental, it was physical. If it wasn't physical, it was mental. It's hard talking about it right now even after all these years because the mental and...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Mar 9

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    Wow. Every day is worse He is being

    so mean I don't wanna live.
    gidget9204 gidget9204 31-35, F 14 Responses Apr 9

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    JennSadai JennSadai 36-40 Aug 10

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    I'm feeling very hopeless

    and overwhelmed. I've been married for almost 17 years to an emotionally abusive narcissistic alcoholic. It wasn't until about four years ago that I realized there was something wrong. That it wasn't all my fault and me not being enough. Everyone else loves him. He's very good...
    kmn789 kmn789 36-40, F 3 Responses Aug 22, 2014

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    I was with my x for 12 years

    and I wasn't even a human in those days you could feel the air blowing through me I was hollow and I have been away from him for the past two years I love it and my only regret is not leaving sooner I often wonder if I'll ever be able to love again but I'm still learning how to...
    Pammiii Pammiii 51-55 4 Responses Mar 28

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    My boyfriend and I haven't

    even been together for a year yet and violence has already started. I've gotten hit, choked, slapped, dragged, literally stepped on, kicked and hair pulled. He's even spat in my face before. He's never punched me though and he justifies his actions by saying he doesn't even...
    seeyajess seeyajess 22-25, F 4 Responses Jul 25

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    My friends made me feel safe.

    I called my only two friends after my husband had thrown the supper I'd cooked him in the bed with me while I slept. I called the wife(my bff's are married to each other) and she calmed me down and got me to stop crying. It was very late and she was very patient and sweet. She...
    Catsoutdabag Catsoutdabag 31-35, F 1 Response Feb 27, 2014

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    Life can sometimes be very tough

    and I belive that making mistakes gives you a chance to learn from them. I had my son when I was young and even though he is the best thing that ever happened to me his dad was the worst! he abused me and controlled me. I was lucky enough to see what he was doing and I left him...
    CB2788 CB2788 26-30, F 2 Responses Jun 9

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    I was married to my abuser

    for 14 years. We divorced in 2002 and he has always hassled me off and on - maybe once in 12 months - since then. Unfortunately, I got back on his radar this Spring and since then, his 'visits' have been almost fortnightly. He beats me and forces me to have sex with him. I am...
    2ndtrombone 2ndtrombone 46-50, F 4 Responses Jul 22

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