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I Am a Victim of Domestic Violence

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    I've only told 2 of my friends,

    and my mom (and my mom has done nothing about it.) I am 17 years old, female and a junior in high school. There are so many things I could say that my dad has said and done, and just so many stories of things that has happened to me. I will not be able to remember everything to...
    runninggal999 runninggal999 16-17, F 3 Responses Mar 15

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    When you've been a victim of domestic violence

    your whole world turns upside down. There is nothing more condradictory than the man who professes to love you harming you physically and emtionally. As all your thoughts are picked apart you begin to question everything....even you're reality... It's part denial.. It's hard to...
    Catsoutdabag Catsoutdabag 31-35, F 21 Responses May 3

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    When I was little, my parents physically fought.

    And one day my dad beat me with a red plastic chair. I've had black eyes and bruises bc of him
    raykay1998 raykay1998 16-17, F 3 Responses Mar 20

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    My story is similar to those on here

    but it's not as bad. He hasn't assaulted me yet. And that's why I got out. When we met it was amazing, we both have the same sick sense of humor an would laugh for hours. Being in different states made us spend hours talking over the phone, but which also meant I didn't get to...
    jesselizabethjw jesselizabethjw 22-25, F 3 Responses Feb 28

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    I can't seem to let go of the person I love

    with all my heart, even though inside he wishes he could smash my face So much he hates everything about me yet he won't leave.
    brokenh8rt brokenh8rt 26-30, F 1 Response Jul 2

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    Take The Night Back All They've Stolen All We Took From You

    I just wanted to stop by and drop a little song of support for y'all.  You all are inspirations to other s who need help.  I was suffering with some memories of a past situation and found this site and this group and through your words and wisdom you helped me past a dark part...
    Aether71 Aether71 36-40, M 6 Responses Jul 29, 2011

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    My older brother takes his anger out on me ,

    he has been for years. Mostly verbal abuse he uses some seriously ugly words just to bring me down and make sure I'm as miserable as he wants me to be at that time. Other than that he's pushed me down the stairs into the garage and sent me to the hospital with a hurt ankle. I...
    Van1015 Van1015 18-21, F 5 Responses Mar 25

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    He was perfect from the beginning kind patient

    sweet. He moved in with me and I was totally in love he was my first true love. I ended up falling pregnant and it all started just lies and manipulation I was constantly critisized for wanting love or closeness. After a 6 month break up we decided to give it 100% we had a son...
    leeleelou leeleelou 26-30, F 5 Responses Mar 28

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    He was arrested just two days ago.

    Earlier in the day we were talking wedding plans and then something snapped. In two years he never laid a hand on me and promised me he never would, because he loves me that much. Two days ago that changed. My heart is in a million pieces and I want to go and bond him out. I...
    cleo01 cleo01 46-50, F 1 Response May 25

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    I Didn't See It Coming . . .

    When I met my husband, he couldn't do enough for me.  He was wonderful.  But as soon as the vows were taken he changed, slowly and subtly at first, then it sped up and became more obvious.  He isolated me from my friends and my family.  He constantly...
    LCLM LCLM 41-45, F 10 Responses Feb 19, 2008

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    Helens Story

    My first husband I got involved with at the age of 16. My dad was dieing of cancer. I just wanted to be an adult so I moved out of my fathers trailor to move in with a man that has ruined my life. I was with Scott for 13 and a half years. With being with him so young I tolerated...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Oct 9, 2013

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    EmoGirl286 EmoGirl286 13-15, F 1 Response Mar 14

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    Is not knowing easier?

    My mother is a victim of DV and me and my sister are affected by it because we grew up in a very stressful environment. It still is stressful now but even more so now that I know what's really happening. I have developed anxiety due to the unpredictability of my household. My...
    ElaineLovesSmiles ElaineLovesSmiles 18-21, F 1 Response May 27

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    I met a man at work. He chased me around like a

    school boy and seemed really interested. We started spending lunches together and time together outside of work. Next thing I know he was talking about moving in together and pushing me to do so. He was broke, living at his parents paying off back bills. I got me, him and my...
    Imnotdillusional Imnotdillusional 31-35, F 4 Responses May 3

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    My fiancé slapped me today.

    He got fired yesterday but told me a lie about how they laid him off because they couldn't afford it. I could tell he was lying, so last night I looked at his email to see what really happened. While on there, I found he had been browsing online dating sites. I confronted him...
    missmanamana missmanamana 26-30, F 7 Responses Mar 25

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    The Unfortunate Family...

    sexually molested [step dad, uncle, babysitter (M)] and verbally/emotionally abused (mom). it lasts the rest of your life. with me, i try everyday to move forward and i do bit by bit. feel really bad about myself from time to time. but whatever does not kill me outright i battle...
    MuscleDjinn MuscleDjinn 41-45, M 4 Responses Aug 16, 2007

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    I Am No Longer a Victim

     "I'm sorry, you just make me so mad". How many times I've heard that, I thought as I rubbed my swollen cheek.   It started out perfect, I met a man that was handsome, smart, and could make anyone laugh. He was the life of the party. Everyone thought he was...
    vanilla vanilla 26-30, F 14 Responses Jul 8, 2007

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    I Am Afraid of a New Abuse

    He was so tender and calm at the beginning of our marriage . Cared for me . As soon as I became pregnant everything changed . At first he started yelling  , insulting me  . Soon he punched me first time . I still remember it  - that was really a...
    leontiya leontiya 31-35, F 7 Responses Sep 5, 2009

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    How Domestic Violence Affected My Life.

    Fourteen years ago, my brother went to jail for the murder of my mother. In fact, He had probably planned the murder and his lover did the act. His lover went to jail for the murder and he got out on lack of evidence.   The murder was brutal. My to-be-husband (at that...
    jroth jroth 36-40, F 10 Responses Oct 9, 2006

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    :(

    I have for many years now been putting up with domestic voilence.. It has ground me down so much i do want to die some times:( i dont know why I have stuck it for so long I think its coz I feel i could never live on my own. I feel very trapped by my husband and his hold he has...
    mamdo2 mamdo2 36-40, F 46 Responses Nov 8, 2012

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    The Last Tear

    Is love about heartache and pain? Lately my tears fall like rain. Is love about name calling and embarrassment? I try the best I can, but honestly he doesn't.. Is love about arguing and fighting everyday? He doesn't know how far he's pushed me away.. Is love about backstabbing...
    dream32 dream32 31-35, F 1 Response Oct 7, 2013

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    I am in a domestic violence relationship.

    When my bf gets angry he insults me & pushes me. He has slapped me once. It is mostly bruises I've had and him hitting my head or throwing objects at me. He has punched holes in the walls and broke things. I get scared whenever we argue an I have punched him before too. But when...
    sarahhunnix3 sarahhunnix3 18-21, F 7 Responses Apr 19

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    My friends made me feel safe.

    I called my only two friends after my husband had thrown the supper I'd cooked him in the bed with me while I slept. I called the wife(my bff's are married to each other) and she calmed me down and got me to stop crying. It was very late and she was very patient and sweet. She...
    Catsoutdabag Catsoutdabag 31-35, F 1 Response Feb 27

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    I Did It.

    I called the police. He's in a cell right now. Court in 4 hours. I'll never let this happen again.
    AlexSparky AlexSparky 18-21, F 9 Responses Sep 13, 2013

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    What Now???

    So I was with this man for over 5 years....  I married him August 16, 2007.  I left for my honeymoon literally the day after my wedding to Hawaii.  Well, two weeks after we got back the name calling started.. Your fat... you don't do it for me anymore...
    pitbu11lover pitbu11lover 26-30, F 15 Responses Mar 12, 2009

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    Im still here still breathing

    but I have been on the run from my husband since 2011. We were together for 12yrs since I was 16yrs old. We separated since 2010 we had 3kids. He was abusive to us all. He still tries to locate us I have had to move 5 times since 2011. its hard watching my kids adapt every time...
    Hidd3nWithinM3 Hidd3nWithinM3 31-35 1 Response Apr 29

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    I left my abuser when I found out I was

    pregnant again, since he beat me previously causing my child to die. Now my son is 16 and is abusing me too. I can't take it anymore! I am tired, broken and done......
    dumbwhore dumbwhore 36-40, F 3 Responses Mar 24

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    Just want to know plz help my bf Is from

    Afghanistan i been with him 10 months and he has stop me from uni he has stop me from wearing tight jeans he dont even allow me to the shop or talk to my boy cousins his always shouting at me if I don't talk to him nicely and saying he well kill me if he catches me even talking...
    ayesha290388 ayesha290388 26-30, F 5 Responses Mar 25

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    Amen. I am a victim of it from BOTH ends.

    I was abused as a child and THEN abused my multiple partners. I survived though. And I live to tell about it so, Gods good.
    pinkkcotton pinkkcotton 26-30, F 1 Response Mar 20

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    In Love With An Abuser, Trying to Lose the Love

    I thought it was love, an over the top tenderness, a magnetic sensuality that kept me waiting for the next time we were alone.... At first it wasn't abusive, just angry sometimes, what's a little insult with a bit of a slap or hair pulling???  But it got worse...
    dancingonthehill dancingonthehill 51-55, F 59 Responses Apr 3, 2009

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    My ex is still controlling me even

    after we split. We also share a 2 year old daughter. I recently told him i was with someone ive known for awhile due to the court ordering it. He keeps threatening me by saying "if you bring him around our daughter without me meeting him you will see a side of me you never...
    TinaBuddie TinaBuddie 22-25, F 1 Response May 14

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    Listen God to my prayer; Do not hide from my

    pleading; Hear me and give answer. If an enemy had reviled me, That I could bear. If my foe had viewed me with contempt, From that I could hide. But it was you, my other self, my comrade and friend, You, whose company I enjoyed, at whose side I walked in procession in the...
    Catsoutdabag Catsoutdabag 31-35, F 3 Responses Mar 7

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    No blood I can still stand,

    I get some bruises or scratches. But really does it make a difference, I get kicked in my legs hard, hit hard, things thrown at me. I've learned to be tough, so I stand up for myself. But what if I wasn't capable of standing up for myself? Would he let himself go and take out...
    Anna85xo Anna85xo 26-30, F 1 Response Jun 26

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    Search I Am a Victim of Domestic Violence My

    boyfriends alot older than me I was 18 he was 29 he is a alcohol and when we first got together I noticed he was sooo extremely possesive of me he had to know where I am all the time what im doing he hated me hanging around with his friends he would think im sleeping with them...
    BlondieBabyMwahX BlondieBabyMwahX 18-21, F 2 Responses May 14

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    Lived With An Abusive Man For 6 Years

    I guess I was too stupid to leave... or many I was too desperate to have a man... a good-looking man.  So I put up with physical, mental and sexual abuse for 6 years.  I would go to work with black eyes, he had a rock band, and had me service his bandmates in a sexual way...
    REC0VERED REC0VERED 41-45, F 17 Responses Apr 30, 2007

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    Lingering Effects

    I have written many stories. I have shared my pain and hopefully some of you have found some comfort or identify with the issues I have and am facing.  It has been several years since I physically left my abuser.  I tried to be civil and just go with the flow for a couple...
    flodials flodials 41-45, F 7 Responses Nov 28, 2012

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    '3 years ago, I dated a guy,

    a guy I thought would Love me and my family . But in that 3 years I guess I was wrong. It was like a fairy tale, but the Handsome Prince was the evil one. I didn't have a beautiful Happily Ever After ending like every girl wants.I can still smell the blood printed against the...
    VictoriaVite23 VictoriaVite23 18-21, F 1 Response May 23

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    What did I do to deserve this?

    I loved him and was always there for him, even when he would scream at me or hit me. I never did anything to deserve this, in my mind, but whenever I asked anything from him or questioned him he would become angry so I tried to avoid asking ANYTHING of him or questioned him. Do...
    LtngBug67 LtngBug67 46-50, F 5 Responses Mar 30

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    I Am a Victim of Domestic Violence

    I have been with my ex husband for 8 years, When i meet him i was 19 years old. I got pregant with own first child. i thought that this ment that things would be great. we then got married.  My ex is a haivy drinker at frist i though he would stop. This went well for a while...
    TAG TAG 26-30, F 9 Responses Apr 16, 2007

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    I have been with my abusive husband

    for 21years from the age of 16 (he was then 18). For a long time he was so charming and he wanted to see me everyday, he told me i was his world, i made his life wonderful. I had finished my final year at school and one day he got up from watching tv with me on the sofa at my...
    KirstyF KirstyF 36-40, F 8 Responses Dec 8, 2013

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    Never in my life would I have imagined myself

    being a victim of domestic violence. My boyfriend & I were perfect once upon a time, & things went so wrong so fast. I loved him, & a part of me still does. But I can't go back. He'll do it again....and again....and again...Like always
    HeartbrokenHeroine HeartbrokenHeroine 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 11

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    A Year Has Passed

    A Year has Passed Like Socrates said, “Wonder brings wisdom.” If you do not wonder about something how will you ever learn?My abuser did not want me to have knowledge, because knowledge is powerful, and that is what he took away from me, because he wanted power and control...
    awarren98 awarren98 31-35, F 15 Responses Jun 3, 2011

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    Am I The Only Male

    I read quite a few of your stories and I find it interesting, but not surprising that I have not read one story by a male.  This sort of goes with my experience as a victim of domestic violence.  I was married very young to my high school sweetheart.  Everything...
    Aether71 Aether71 36-40, M 48 Responses Jun 3, 2010

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    Stop the Hate!

    This is a blog i wrote on March 3 on my myspace. I was so tired of hearing beaten women bashed!! I am a huge DV activist in my hometown and hope that by informing the masses beaten women can avoid further humiliation. STOP CALLING WOMEN WHO  ARE BEING BEATEN AND ABUSED...
    amyjo3 amyjo3 26-30, F 12 Responses Mar 23, 2009

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    It Came Out In Clumps

    The next day I washed my hair. It came out in clumps, some with skin still attached. I saved one and gave it to him. He looked at it squeamishly, like I had handed him a dead rat. He dropped it on the floor in disgust. “What?” I asked, “You tore it out, I thought you...
    lulabelle138 lulabelle138 31-35, F 2 Responses Sep 29, 2013

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    I am a survivor, after being in a relationship

    for 10 years with it turning violent after almost 3 years, I can say that I'm finally leaving. It's scary and I know its going to be hard cause I've been with my ex for a long time and we have children together. He was my everything and I became nothing to myself. Which is...
    lavendershade lavendershade 31-35, F 4 Responses Mar 20

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    My boyfriends alot older

    than me I was 18 he was 29 he is a alcohol and when we first got together I noticed he was sooo extremely possesive of me he had to know where I am all the time what im doing he hated me hanging around with his friends he would think im sleeping with them when im not!! his...
    BlondieBabyMwahX BlondieBabyMwahX 18-21, F 1 Response May 14

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    Well, Not Anymore

    My ex husband was abusive, physically, mentally and emotionally. I spent 5 years getting my *** beat, being put down, being forced to do things i didnt want to. Being raped on a regular basis. Yes ladies, your husband CAN rape you. It was pure hell. I ran when I had the right...
    kittylove30 kittylove30 31-35, F 4 Responses Jul 12, 2013

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    mewmew1234 mewmew1234 31-35, F 2 Responses Mar 25

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    Survivor

    That's what my social worker tells me when we visit and talk. Your not a victim your a survivor.    I see women who are TRUE survivors.  The ones who survive horrors.  I don't see myself as that.  I know women wear it like a proud badge of strength in some cases.  A...
    flodials flodials 41-45, F 8 Responses Jul 11, 2012

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    $217 to Hit Your Wife With a Truck, Then Teach University Ethics In Idaho

    No one believes that Jim could be violent.  He's a white male philosophy professor.  No one could believe that I would be the kind of woman who would participate in the abuse.  I'm bright and outspoken.    There were several episodes of...
    Learning Learning 46-50, F 7 Responses Sep 14, 2007

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    My name is Gina And I am a victim of Domestic

    Abuse by a man who is my common law husband with both mental health and substance abuse issues and I need and want out, as much as I love this man I cannot do this anymore. I am lying to my family to be with him and he obviously either refuses to or is unable to appreciate that...
    ginaherms ginaherms 46-50, F May 26

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    My eyes hurt my whole face is,

    there is broken glass everywhere...but my cheek is really swollen could someone please talk to me
    Anna85xo Anna85xo 26-30, F 2 Responses Jul 5

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