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I Am a Victim of Domestic Violence

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    I'm feeling very hopeless

    and overwhelmed. I've been married for almost 17 years to an emotionally abusive narcissistic alcoholic. It wasn't until about four years ago that I realized there was something wrong. That it wasn't all my fault and me not being enough. Everyone else loves him. He's very good...
    kmn789 kmn789 36-40, F 3 Responses Aug 22, 2014

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    Stop the Hate!

    This is a blog i wrote on March 3 on my myspace. I was so tired of hearing beaten women bashed!! I am a huge DV activist in my hometown and hope that by informing the masses beaten women can avoid further humiliation. STOP CALLING WOMEN WHO  ARE BEING BEATEN AND ABUSED...
    amyjo3 amyjo3 26-30, F 13 Responses Mar 23, 2009

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    I was with my x for 12 years

    and I wasn't even a human in those days you could feel the air blowing through me I was hollow and I have been away from him for the past two years I love it and my only regret is not leaving sooner I often wonder if I'll ever be able to love again but I'm still learning how to...
    Pammiii Pammiii 51-55 4 Responses Mar 28, 2015

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    Yelling and screaming,

    that's all that ever happened for 18 years, yelling and screaming until that Sunday afternoon after church on March 2nd. Our anniversary actually. He totally melted down. He hit me in the chest and it knocked me off balance and I fell backwards hitting my shoulder on the cat...
    Scottishgirl65 Scottishgirl65 46-50, F 1 Response Feb 2, 2015

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    Im having a hard time dealing with this maybe

    because its the first time ive ever had to. My fiance punched me three times today. im froze in shock i cant believe it. idk what to do or what it means. is this really only gonna get worse .... im heartbroken
    wishingforbetterdaysx wishingforbetterdaysx 22-25, F 9 Responses Oct 26, 2015

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    Finally stayed at a new lovely home.

    I watched sunset from my big windows last night. It was an amazing view. I am lucky! Still my ex bothers me. Text like thousand times a day. He even show up at my work. He realized that he lost me but refused to accept that. He use my money to buy many movies. S h I t. I had...
    girlyloveorange girlyloveorange 31-35, F 4 Responses Nov 19, 2014

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    It started nearly a year ago,

    I lied to my mom to pick up my long distance boyfriend from Missouri, about 17 hours away from where I live. I was in love and naive, yes, i didn't care about the consequences as long as I was with him. 3 months into living at my moms house with him we would argue and he would...
    renilani renilani 18-21, F 4 Responses Aug 19, 2015

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    I Did It.

    I called the police. He's in a cell right now. Court in 4 hours. I'll never let this happen again.
    AlexSparky AlexSparky 18-21, F 9 Responses Sep 13, 2013

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    Take The Night Back All They've Stolen All We Took From You

    I just wanted to stop by and drop a little song of support for y'all.  You all are inspirations to other s who need help.  I was suffering with some memories of a past situation and found this site and this group and through your words and wisdom you helped me past a dark part...
    Aether71 Aether71 36-40, M 6 Responses Jul 29, 2011

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    :(

    I have for many years now been putting up with domestic voilence.. It has ground me down so much i do want to die some times:( i dont know why I have stuck it for so long I think its coz I feel i could never live on my own. I feel very trapped by my husband and his hold he has...
    mamdo2 mamdo2 36-40, F 42 Responses Nov 8, 2012

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    In Love With An Abuser, Trying to Lose the Love

    I thought it was love, an over the top tenderness, a magnetic sensuality that kept me waiting for the next time we were alone.... At first it wasn't abusive, just angry sometimes, what's a little insult with a bit of a slap or hair pulling???  But it got worse...
    dancingonthehill dancingonthehill 51-55, F 57 Responses Apr 3, 2009

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    Enduring A Monster...

    I was unprepared for the nightmare I got myself into when I was 18-years-old. Back then...they really didn't talk about abuse within romantic relationships like they do now. I was naive...very wet behind the ears...and not expecting a guy who said he loved me to treat me in such...
    KassieKat KassieKat 46-50, F 19 Responses Apr 25, 2011

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    My mom. Every girl wants a woman they can look

    up to and depend on. Share secrets and do makeovers. Talk about boy problems. My mom, she's nothing like that. She was in a car accident 22 years ago. Since then she's been on every drug in the book and is very addicted to them. For the last three years it's gotten really...
    thefallenones thefallenones 13-15, F 5 Responses Sep 9, 2014

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    I just filed a protection order.

    I'm finally going to be free of him. I'm empowered, yet terrified.
    findinghome90 findinghome90 22-25, F 5 Responses Oct 21, 2014

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    Wow. Every day is worse He is being

    so mean I don't wanna live.
    gidget9204 gidget9204 31-35, F 12 Responses Apr 9, 2015

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    I just got out of the abusive relationship I

    was in for 3 and a half years! I fell in love with this guy, but little did I know, he was mentally and physically abusive. He called me every horrible name you can think of. He would pull me by my hair, chock me, grab me and throw me on the floor, punch me, and so much more...
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Nov 11, 2015

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    $217 to Hit Your Wife With a Truck, Then Teach University Ethics In Idaho

    No one believes that Jim could be violent.  He's a white male philosophy professor.  No one could believe that I would be the kind of woman who would participate in the abuse.  I'm bright and outspoken.    There were several episodes of...
    Learning Learning 46-50, F 7 Responses Sep 14, 2007

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    Lingering Effects

    I have written many stories. I have shared my pain and hopefully some of you have found some comfort or identify with the issues I have and am facing.  It has been several years since I physically left my abuser.  I tried to be civil and just go with the flow for a couple...
    flodials flodials 41-45, F 6 Responses Nov 28, 2012

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    I recently left my ex,

    again. This is the last. In past few years, he choked me..slapped me.... Threw me... Kicked me... And other things too. The Last Time I saw him he said he's gonna bash my brains in. He threw me across his living room . I went flying. He kept calling me a dog. He held his fists...
    amtired amtired 26-30, F 7 Responses Jul 16, 2015

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    I dont even know where to start

    while writing this i cant even begin to explain the pain thats been afflicted on me by a man that claims he loves me for FOUR WHOLE YEARS he decided what i wear if o meet with friends and where i would be spending my holidays the only time i began to feel any normality in my...
    DutchLove DutchLove 26-30, F 2 Responses Oct 21, 2015

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    It Came Out In Clumps

    The next day I washed my hair. It came out in clumps, some with skin still attached. I saved one and gave it to him. He looked at it squeamishly, like I had handed him a dead rat. He dropped it on the floor in disgust. “What?” I asked, “You tore it out, I thought you...
    lulabelle138 lulabelle138 31-35, F 2 Responses Sep 29, 2013

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    Multiple15 Multiple15 36-40, M 1 Response Sep 2, 2015

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    During the first few days

    after I left my abuser, I felt so free, so happy. It's been less then a month and I feel like I'm spinning out of control. It hurts all the time. I feel like I'm just doing any thing and everything just to stop the pain.
    PoohRules PoohRules 36-40, F 2 Responses Dec 3, 2015

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    One of the first things I was kind of surprised

    to find after becoming an unwilling "victim" of domestic violence is that everyone's story is very different. Although it was varying degrees of the same crime and there were familiar bits and peices, to this day, I still haven't found a story I could personally relate to, that...
    lovememorenow lovememorenow 46-50, F 5 Responses Sep 21, 2015

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    I Am No Longer a Victim

     "I'm sorry, you just make me so mad". How many times I've heard that, I thought as I rubbed my swollen cheek.   It started out perfect, I met a man that was handsome, smart, and could make anyone laugh. He was the life of the party. Everyone thought he was...
    vanilla vanilla 26-30, F 15 Responses Jul 8, 2007

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    Well, Not Anymore

    My ex husband was abusive, physically, mentally and emotionally. I spent 5 years getting my *** beat, being put down, being forced to do things i didnt want to. Being raped on a regular basis. Yes ladies, your husband CAN rape you. It was pure hell. I ran when I had the right...
    kittylove30 kittylove30 31-35, F 8 Responses Jul 12, 2013

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    I got to know this really sweet gentle boy of

    22 years old when he first came to Singapore. He was cheerful, joyous and full of life. Now that he is back in France, things changed. I went to visit him in December 2015 and I was beaten there by him. Beaten, manhandled and almost dragged out of the apartment a few times when...
    VicMarie VicMarie 36-40, F 2 Responses Jan 23

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    I am a victim who was fortunate to survivor

    and thrive after abuse. Unfortunately, my close friend is now in a similar situation and I can't get through to her. She knows my story, has admitted he's toxic, and will tell me she needs out of the relationship when she's not around him. As soon as she goes back to him (to end...
    JennSadai JennSadai 36-40 3 Responses Aug 20, 2015

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    i am a victim of domestic violence i was with a

    man for a lil over five years we met just a few days after i turned 16 we had a long distance relationship for the first year n he spent six months of that year in jail i didnt know real well before he went but i felt a connection so i stayed with him n very faithful shortly...
    arianapage arianapage 22-25, F 2 Responses Nov 24, 2015

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    I have just started trying to get help

    for the situation with my abusive husband. Because we have kids, it is complicated for me. I am afraid that if I leave, which is what I want to do, that he will retaliate against me by hurting the children. Maybe he won't, but I just don't know and these things happen. I...
    ch1970 ch1970 41-45, F 4 Responses Jan 23

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    mylifesucks25 mylifesucks25 26-30, F 3 Responses Aug 21, 2015

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    It truly is a vicious cycle,

    it started from when I was a toddler. I had to have surgery at the age of 2 years old for nearly being beaten to death. After that it all went down hill. From being raped and molested by many men. To being in abusive relationships as an adult. Sometimes I am afraid, I will never...
    TheQuirkyOne TheQuirkyOne 18-21, F 5 Responses Dec 26, 2015

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    Still Terrified....

    it is hard to talk about but I want help... When I was 14 years old I met this guy who I instantly fell for. He was 16 at the time. I was a virgin, he wasn't. He cheated on me because I wouldn't have sex with him. But about five months in I gave in. A week later he went to jail...
    babymama16 babymama16 18-21, F 9 Responses Nov 3, 2013

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    I was kicked from our house today.

    Not without a scretch of course. He wants a divorce and the custody of our daughter. I just don't know what to do...
    alinediniz alinediniz 22-25, F 6 Responses Aug 12, 2015

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    A Year Has Passed

    A Year has Passed Like Socrates said, “Wonder brings wisdom.” If you do not wonder about something how will you ever learn?My abuser did not want me to have knowledge, because knowledge is powerful, and that is what he took away from me, because he wanted power and control...
    awarren98 awarren98 36-40, F 15 Responses Jun 3, 2011

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    My story is similar to those on here

    but it's not as bad. He hasn't assaulted me yet. And that's why I got out. When we met it was amazing, we both have the same sick sense of humor an would laugh for hours. Being in different states made us spend hours talking over the phone, but which also meant I didn't get to...
    jesselizabethjw jesselizabethjw 26-30, F 3 Responses Feb 28, 2014

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    Well, I left my abuser,

    yet again, for about the hundredth time. I am struggling. He had choked me, kicked me, slapped me , threw me, restrained me, over the past few years. He also held his fists in my face, saying hes gonna bash my skull in . He also said he wants to lock me in a basement. He also...
    amtired amtired 26-30, F 3 Responses Dec 8, 2015

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    What Now???

    So I was with this man for over 5 years....  I married him August 16, 2007.  I left for my honeymoon literally the day after my wedding to Hawaii.  Well, two weeks after we got back the name calling started.. Your fat... you don't do it for me anymore...
    pitbu11lover pitbu11lover 26-30, F 15 Responses Mar 12, 2009

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    Ok so this experience follows on from some of

    the other stuff I've posted on here about growing up in a home with domestic violence. If there's anyone who's been in a similar situation then I hope, despite maybe different circumstances, that you take some comfort from my story and I sincerely hope that in your future you...
    Daydreamz Daydreamz 18-21, F 1 Response Oct 24, 2015

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    I have been with my abusive husband

    for 21years from the age of 16 (he was then 18). For a long time he was so charming and he wanted to see me everyday, he told me i was his world, i made his life wonderful. I had finished my final year at school and one day he got up from watching tv with me on the sofa at my...
    KirstyF KirstyF 36-40, F 8 Responses Dec 8, 2013

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    i was in a relationship

    for a year with a guy who beat me when i didn't do as he said would drag me across the floor by my hair because i was being a smart ***.. and would beat me some more if he found out i was trying to leave him... between the emotional and physical abuse i felt like i was losing it...
    Laneicea1 Laneicea1 18-21, F 1 Response Oct 10, 2015

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    My boyfriend, I guess ex now,

    is verbally and emotionally abusive. Last week he not only verbally attacked me, but he called our daughter horrible names. He's called me a bit*h, c*nt ... And I've stayed. But after he called my daughters those names too... I said enough is enough. I left with our children...
    MariaBella2015 MariaBella2015 31-35, F 4 Responses Nov 9, 2015

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    Today I finally got out!

    I know this is just the beginning of a brand new start. my ex boyfriend abused me for almost 11 months. - controlling my where abouts. - how I dressed and even when I could bath . - couldn't have friends, go anywhere I just felt so isolated and we'd get in physical fights. he...
    jazzyphay2 jazzyphay2 22-25, F 3 Responses Nov 28, 2015

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    bettyccaa bettyccaa 26-30, F Sep 6, 2015

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    Am I The Only Male

    I read quite a few of your stories and I find it interesting, but not surprising that I have not read one story by a male.  This sort of goes with my experience as a victim of domestic violence.  I was married very young to my high school sweetheart.  Everything...
    Aether71 Aether71 36-40, M 46 Responses Jun 3, 2010

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