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I Am a Victim of Domestic Violence

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    $217 to Hit Your Wife With a Truck, Then Teach University Ethics In Idaho

    No one believes that Jim could be violent.  He's a white male philosophy professor.  No one could believe that I would be the kind of woman who would participate in the abuse.  I'm bright and outspoken.    There were several episodes of...
    Learning Learning 46-50, F 6 Responses Sep 14, 2007

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    Today, I face my ex boyfriend in court.

    I'm so nervous and scared but I'm going to go in there, standing tall, and giving that loser what he deserves! I know he will try and act like the good guy in front of the judge but there are so many people who don't believe his side of the story, including the police who...
    clc20 clc20 18-21, F 2 Responses Feb 11

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    My older brother takes his anger out on me ,

    he has been for years. Mostly verbal abuse he uses some seriously ugly words just to bring me down and make sure I'm as miserable as he wants me to be at that time. Other than that he's pushed me down the stairs into the garage and sent me to the hospital with a hurt ankle. I...
    kim95164 kim95164 18-21, F 6 Responses Mar 25

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    Still Terrified....

    it is hard to talk about but I want help... When I was 14 years old I met this guy who I instantly fell for. He was 16 at the time. I was a virgin, he wasn't. He cheated on me because I wouldn't have sex with him. But about five months in I gave in. A week later he went to jail...
    babymama16 babymama16 18-21, F 8 Responses Nov 3, 2013

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    Lingering Effects

    I have written many stories. I have shared my pain and hopefully some of you have found some comfort or identify with the issues I have and am facing.  It has been several years since I physically left my abuser.  I tried to be civil and just go with the flow for a couple...
    flodials flodials 41-45, F 4 Responses Nov 28, 2012

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    How Domestic Violence Affected My Life.

    Fourteen years ago, my brother went to jail for the murder of my mother. In fact, He had probably planned the murder and his lover did the act. His lover went to jail for the murder and he got out on lack of evidence.   The murder was brutal. My to-be-husband (at that...
    jroth jroth 36-40, F 10 Responses Oct 9, 2006

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    I had court today to face my ex boyfriend with

    assault charges, he denied he even laid a finger on me, pleaded not guilty, gave me the dirtiest look I've ever seen and got it postponed until 3 weeks from now. That means I have to wait even longer until I can go back to my home. God, why did he do this to me? How can someone...
    clc20 clc20 18-21, F 6 Responses Feb 11

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    I am a survivor of domestic violence,

    but it doesnt feel like it. Every where I go, something reminds me. Every one I meet, something reminds me. Ever since the abuse started I dont think ive really had a good nights sleep. Mostly trouble falling asleep and staying asleep. I just feel like im locked in these chains...
    morgofaith morgofaith 18-21, F 2 Responses Mar 1

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    Lived With An Abusive Man For 6 Years

    I guess I was too stupid to leave... or many I was too desperate to have a man... a good-looking man.  So I put up with physical, mental and sexual abuse for 6 years.  I would go to work with black eyes, he had a rock band, and had me service his bandmates in a sexual way...
    REC0VERED REC0VERED 41-45, F 17 Responses Apr 30, 2007

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    My friends made me feel safe.

    I called my only two friends after my husband had thrown the supper I'd cooked him in the bed with me while I slept. I called the wife(my bff's are married to each other) and she calmed me down and got me to stop crying. It was very late and she was very patient and sweet. She...
    Catsoutdabag Catsoutdabag 31-35, F 2 Responses Feb 27

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    Well, Not Anymore

    My ex husband was abusive, physically, mentally and emotionally. I spent 5 years getting my *** beat, being put down, being forced to do things i didnt want to. Being raped on a regular basis. Yes ladies, your husband CAN rape you. It was pure hell. I ran when I had the right...
    kittylove30 kittylove30 31-35, F 3 Responses Jul 12, 2013

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    I'm new here and need someone to talk to about

    my feelings. I posted my story on here about my abusive ex. The abuse only turned physical 2 days ago and it was the first time he has ever hit me. I left him, he got arrested but was released. I can't stop thinking about him. I love him and miss him so much but I know I shouldn...
    clc20 clc20 18-21, F 2 Responses Feb 10

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    When I was little, my parents physically fought.

    And one day my dad beat me with a red plastic chair. I've had black eyes and bruises bc of him
    raykay1998 raykay1998 13-15, F 3 Responses Mar 20

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    In Love With An Abuser, Trying to Lose the Love

    I thought it was love, an over the top tenderness, a magnetic sensuality that kept me waiting for the next time we were alone.... At first it wasn't abusive, just angry sometimes, what's a little insult with a bit of a slap or hair pulling???  But it got worse...
    dancingonthehill dancingonthehill 51-55, F 58 Responses Apr 3, 2009

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    Listen God to my prayer; Do not hide from my

    pleading; Hear me and give answer. If an enemy had reviled me, That I could bear. If my foe had viewed me with contempt, From that I could hide. But it was you, my other self, my comrade and friend, You, whose company I enjoyed, at whose side I walked in procession in the...
    Catsoutdabag Catsoutdabag 31-35, F 3 Responses Mar 7

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    I've only told 2 of my friends,

    and my mom (and my mom has done nothing about it.) I am 17 years old, female and a junior in high school. There are so many things I could say that my dad has said and done, and just so many stories of things that has happened to me. I will not be able to remember everything to...
    runninggal999 runninggal999 16-17, F 3 Responses Mar 15

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    I Am Afraid of a New Abuse

    He was so tender and calm at the beginning of our marriage . Cared for me . As soon as I became pregnant everything changed . At first he started yelling  , insulting me  . Soon he punched me first time . I still remember it  - that was really a...
    leontiya leontiya 31-35, F 7 Responses Sep 5, 2009

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    let me start with my self.

    Am only 21 with 2 children a 3month old and a 2 year old boys.I been in a domestic violence relationship and he has kicked me out many tiimes.But i cant leave because i have no where to go with 2 kids and have no money to do so..I do want him to see i can finacially support my...
    mariiamendozaa mariiamendozaa 18-21, F 7 Responses Feb 19

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    The Sheep That Turned Into A Lion(Ess) - Story Dedicated To All Abused Male And Female Victims

    Ladies, to all of you out there living in (verbal, physical, economic) abusive relationships, please, hear me: God gave us freedom, it is the most precious jewel of all jewels, no one has the authority to take from you what God granted you with. Find the courage in your hearts...
    TNTandCHOCOLATE TNTandCHOCOLATE 31-35 3 Responses Jul 8, 2013

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    What Now???

    So I was with this man for over 5 years....  I married him August 16, 2007.  I left for my honeymoon literally the day after my wedding to Hawaii.  Well, two weeks after we got back the name calling started.. Your fat... you don't do it for me anymore...
    pitbu11lover pitbu11lover 26-30, F 14 Responses Mar 12, 2009

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    Hi all! I need some advice of how to get my

    abusive ex boyfriend off my lease. I have posted my story and how I have been feeling but something is really bugging me. He is STILL in my home and wont leave! I have called my landlord and he hasnt gotten back to me yet but I want him out now. I miss my home, I just want...
    clc20 clc20 18-21, F 2 Responses Feb 12

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    Amen. I am a victim of it from BOTH ends.

    I was abused as a child and THEN abused my multiple partners. I survived though. And I live to tell about it so, Gods good.
    pinkkcotton pinkkcotton 26-30, F 1 Response Mar 20

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    Its been happening as long

    as I can remember. My parents abused me. But when I was 17, something huge happened. The man I thought was my best friend- my boyfriend, even... Beat me. Raped me. He was hopelessly drunk- but that doesn't excuse it. I'm willing to go into details, but I don't think anyone...
    FrenchRotterdammer FrenchRotterdammer 18-21, F 7 Responses Mar 1

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    I Didn't See It Coming . . .

    When I met my husband, he couldn't do enough for me.  He was wonderful.  But as soon as the vows were taken he changed, slowly and subtly at first, then it sped up and became more obvious.  He isolated me from my friends and my family.  He constantly...
    LCLM LCLM 41-45, F 9 Responses Feb 19, 2008

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    I have been with my abusive husband

    for 21years from the age of 16 (he was then 18). For a long time he was so charming and he wanted to see me everyday, he told me i was his world, i made his life wonderful. I had finished my final year at school and one day he got up from watching tv with me on the sofa at my...
    KirstyF KirstyF 36-40, F 8 Responses Dec 8, 2013

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    My fiancé slapped me today.

    He got fired yesterday but told me a lie about how they laid him off because they couldn't afford it. I could tell he was lying, so last night I looked at his email to see what really happened. While on there, I found he had been browsing online dating sites. I confronted him...
    missmanamana missmanamana 26-30, F 6 Responses Mar 25

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    I am a survivor, after being in a relationship

    for 10 years with it turning violent after almost 3 years, I can say that I'm finally leaving. It's scary and I know its going to be hard cause I've been with my ex for a long time and we have children together. He was my everything and I became nothing to myself. Which is...
    lavendershade lavendershade 31-35, F 4 Responses Mar 20

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    I was with my boyfriend

    for 4 years and we have a 22 month old daughter together. I wanted to keep or family together at all costs because I'm not close with my own family. I was also feeling pressure about me not being married when my daughter was born. I stood by him even though I knew he was a lair...
    sbr1990 sbr1990 22-25, F 4 Responses Mar 3

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    I left my abuser when I found out I was

    pregnant again, since he beat me previously causing my child to die. Now my son is 16 and is abusing me too. I can't take it anymore! I am tired, broken and done......
    dumbwhore dumbwhore 36-40, F 3 Responses Mar 24

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    He was perfect from the beginning kind patient

    sweet. He moved in with me and I was totally in love he was my first true love. I ended up falling pregnant and it all started just lies and manipulation I was constantly critisized for wanting love or closeness. After a 6 month break up we decided to give it 100% we had a son...
    leeleelou leeleelou 26-30, F 5 Responses Mar 28

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    It Came Out In Clumps

    The next day I washed my hair. It came out in clumps, some with skin still attached. I saved one and gave it to him. He looked at it squeamishly, like I had handed him a dead rat. He dropped it on the floor in disgust. “What?” I asked, “You tore it out, I thought you...
    lulabelle138 lulabelle138 31-35, F 2 Responses Sep 29, 2013

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    Am I The Only Male

    I read quite a few of your stories and I find it interesting, but not surprising that I have not read one story by a male.  This sort of goes with my experience as a victim of domestic violence.  I was married very young to my high school sweetheart.  Everything...
    Aether71 Aether71 36-40, M 49 Responses Jun 3, 2010

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    Take The Night Back All They've Stolen All We Took From You

    I just wanted to stop by and drop a little song of support for y'all.  You all are inspirations to other s who need help.  I was suffering with some memories of a past situation and found this site and this group and through your words and wisdom you helped me past a dark part...
    Aether71 Aether71 36-40, M 6 Responses Jul 29, 2011

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    Survivor

    That's what my social worker tells me when we visit and talk. Your not a victim your a survivor.    I see women who are TRUE survivors.  The ones who survive horrors.  I don't see myself as that.  I know women wear it like a proud badge of strength in some cases.  A...
    flodials flodials 41-45, F 8 Responses Jul 11, 2012

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    I Am No Longer a Victim

     "I'm sorry, you just make me so mad". How many times I've heard that, I thought as I rubbed my swollen cheek.   It started out perfect, I met a man that was handsome, smart, and could make anyone laugh. He was the life of the party. Everyone thought he was...
    vanilla vanilla 26-30, F 14 Responses Jul 8, 2007

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    I Am a Victim of Domestic Violence

    I have been with my ex husband for 8 years, When i meet him i was 19 years old. I got pregant with own first child. i thought that this ment that things would be great. we then got married.  My ex is a haivy drinker at frist i though he would stop. This went well for a while...
    TAG TAG 26-30, F 9 Responses Apr 16, 2007

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    EmoGirl286 EmoGirl286 13-15, F Mar 14

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    Helens Story

    My first husband I got involved with at the age of 16. My dad was dieing of cancer. I just wanted to be an adult so I moved out of my fathers trailor to move in with a man that has ruined my life. I was with Scott for 13 and a half years. With being with him so young I tolerated...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Oct 9, 2013

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    Stop the Hate!

    This is a blog i wrote on March 3 on my myspace. I was so tired of hearing beaten women bashed!! I am a huge DV activist in my hometown and hope that by informing the masses beaten women can avoid further humiliation. STOP CALLING WOMEN WHO  ARE BEING BEATEN AND ABUSED...
    amyjo3 amyjo3 26-30, F 12 Responses Mar 23, 2009

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    You Make The Call

    So, do you want to know the question to NEVER ask a victim of domestic violence? It is a well-meaning question, but it serves as an indictment. If you are asking the question the answer doesn't really matter. "Did you call the cops?" It seems like a logical question--a...
    Amywatson90 Amywatson90 41-45, F 4 Responses Oct 17, 2013

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    A Year Has Passed

    A Year has Passed Like Socrates said, “Wonder brings wisdom.” If you do not wonder about something how will you ever learn?My abuser did not want me to have knowledge, because knowledge is powerful, and that is what he took away from me, because he wanted power and control...
    awarren98 awarren98 31-35, F 15 Responses Jun 3, 2011

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    This is my story. I'am a 20 year old female

    who just got out of an abusive relationship. I wasted almost 3 years on the jerk and ended it the other night because his emotional abuse turned violent. Most of the time he was nice and then his mother would get involved, and we would start fighting. Anything from putting me...
    clc20 clc20 18-21, F 4 Responses Feb 10

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    It’s been a year and a month

    since he was arrested. A few days after New Years Eve 2013 I stood on my balcony with an officer and watched another pull my boyfriend out of my apartment in handcuffs. I was holding a bag of frozen cauliflower on my cheek. My back hurt. I was frightened. Inside the apartment...
    Echolalia Echolalia 31-35, F 2 Responses Feb 26

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    I am hoping to end 2013 with a renewed spirit.

    I am the consummate procrastinator, as this year marks twenty three years since I escaped my first of two abusers. At eighteen, I met my first abuser. He was as damaged as I have become, and I have long since forgiven him. What I have never done, is forgive myself. My...
    sdawn sdawn 41-45, F 2 Responses Dec 31, 2013

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    He let me fall in love with him.

    I believed his lies, how much he loved me. I was a fool in love, what can I say? Then, it was so sudden. It's like I fell from Cloud 9. He suddenly started abusing me, first verbally. When we bickered, he said pretty nasty stuff a guy shouldn't tell his "beloved". But I was...
    emiiQueen emiiQueen 18-21, F 6 Responses Feb 3

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    My story is similar to those on here

    but it's not as bad. He hasn't assaulted me yet. And that's why I got out. When we met it was amazing, we both have the same sick sense of humor an would laugh for hours. Being in different states made us spend hours talking over the phone, but which also meant I didn't get to...
    jesselizabethjw jesselizabethjw 22-25, F 4 Responses Feb 28

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    I came to US from my home country,

    India upon marriage. My husband and I are in the same profession although he is ahead of me; he has a job, while I am staying at home and still studying. My husband constantly nags me. I study and do things at my own pace. He always has some suggestion about everything and I...
    minerva6 minerva6 31-35, F 4 Responses Mar 7

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    Just want to know plz help my bf Is from

    Afghanistan i been with him 10 months and he has stop me from uni he has stop me from wearing tight jeans he dont even allow me to the shop or talk to my boy cousins his always shouting at me if I don't talk to him nicely and saying he well kill me if he catches me even talking...
    ayesha290388 ayesha290388 26-30, F 6 Responses Mar 25

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    :(

    I have for many years now been putting up with domestic voilence.. It has ground me down so much i do want to die some times:( i dont know why I have stuck it for so long I think its coz I feel i could never live on my own. I feel very trapped by my husband and his hold he has...
    mamdo2 mamdo2 36-40, F 48 Responses Nov 8, 2012

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    I am in a domestic violence relationship.

    When my bf gets angry he insults me & pushes me. He has slapped me once. It is mostly bruises I've had and him hitting my head or throwing objects at me. He has punched holes in the walls and broke things. I get scared whenever we argue an I have punched him before too. But when...
    sarahhunnix3 sarahhunnix3 18-21, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    mewmew1234 mewmew1234 31-35, F 2 Responses Mar 25

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    Hi I am after advice please.

    . I have been in a violent relationship since 2009 & left in 2011 for 3 months though still together seeing each other & then moved in with him.. I left my home I bought on the 6th of September 2012 & I didn't want to because I didn't love him it was that I was scared & got the...
    marznprincess marznprincess 31-35, F 4 Responses Feb 6

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    The Unfortunate Family...

    sexually molested [step dad, uncle, babysitter (M)] and verbally/emotionally abused (mom). it lasts the rest of your life. with me, i try everyday to move forward and i do bit by bit. feel really bad about myself from time to time. but whatever does not kill me outright i battle...
    MuscleDjinn MuscleDjinn 41-45, M 3 Responses Aug 16, 2007

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    I'm at my dad's house now,

    he's freaking out at my younger step siblings and he tells me I don't have to help clean the livingroom/kitchen because I didn't help make the mess, so I sat on the couch and he comes storming down the hallway, he grabs my by the wrist, slaps me and screams "I said you have to...
    HikariOkaga HikariOkaga 16-17, M 1 Response Feb 1

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    I Did It.

    I called the police. He's in a cell right now. Court in 4 hours. I'll never let this happen again.
    AlexSparky AlexSparky 18-21, F 9 Responses Sep 13, 2013

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    What did I do to deserve this?

    I loved him and was always there for him, even when he would scream at me or hit me. I never did anything to deserve this, in my mind, but whenever I asked anything from him or questioned him he would become angry so I tried to avoid asking ANYTHING of him or questioned him. Do...
    LtngBug67 LtngBug67 46-50, F 5 Responses Mar 30

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