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I Am a Victim of Domestic Violence

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    The Unfortunate Family...

    sexually molested [step dad, uncle, babysitter (M)] and verbally/emotionally abused (mom). it lasts the rest of your life. with me, i try everyday to move forward and i do bit by bit. feel really bad about myself from time to time. but whatever does not kill me outright i battle...
    MuscleDjinn MuscleDjinn 41-45, M 4 Responses Aug 16, 2007

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    I have been with my abusive husband

    for 21years from the age of 16 (he was then 18). For a long time he was so charming and he wanted to see me everyday, he told me i was his world, i made his life wonderful. I had finished my final year at school and one day he got up from watching tv with me on the sofa at my...
    KirstyF KirstyF 36-40, F 8 Responses Dec 8, 2013

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    I find it unbelievable how cruel people are

    towards abused women. How little real help there is for such a very serious and rampant social issue. I cannot tell you how many times I have heard no one can help you but you. You choose this. You allow this to happen. Well for the record I never allowed or choose this...
    anibee1230 anibee1230 36-40, F Nov 9

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    I have been a victim of domestic violence 2

    times, I feel so depressed, no friends to talk to. My life feels stuck and I don't know what to do, where to go, I don't even know me HELP
    Grace8grace Grace8grace 31-35, F 6 Responses Sep 22

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    I just filed a protection order.

    I'm finally going to be free of him. I'm empowered, yet terrified.
    findinghome90 findinghome90 22-25, F 4 Responses Oct 21

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    Stop the Hate!

    This is a blog i wrote on March 3 on my myspace. I was so tired of hearing beaten women bashed!! I am a huge DV activist in my hometown and hope that by informing the masses beaten women can avoid further humiliation. STOP CALLING WOMEN WHO  ARE BEING BEATEN AND ABUSED...
    amyjo3 amyjo3 26-30, F 12 Responses Mar 23, 2009

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    So im gonna finally get this off my chest.

    Its been a dark cloud over my head for months. I want to change something that i cannot change. I am a victim of domestic violence. Its been haunting me for the past 6 months even though hes in prison now. I still miss him. Hes the father of my child and i do still love him. I...
    Heyababe Heyababe 18-21, F 4 Responses 20 hrs ago

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    The Sheep That Turned Into A Lion(Ess) - Story Dedicated To All Abused Male And Female Victims

    Ladies, to all of you out there living in (verbal, physical, economic) abusive relationships, please, hear me: God gave us freedom, it is the most precious jewel of all jewels, no one has the authority to take from you what God granted you with. Find the courage in your hearts...
    TNTandCHOCOLATE TNTandCHOCOLATE 31-35 3 Responses Jul 8, 2013

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    Im always bullied at home And often get hit i

    want to move out but how dveryone blames everything in me nd im scared i hardly get given food now and i hate how i feel im always crying at home aat can i do to mke muself feel better im always get hit with metal sticks and frying pan
    sabina331 sabina331 18-21, F 1 Response Nov 7

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    Enduring A Monster...

    I was unprepared for the nightmare I got myself into when I was 18-years-old. Back then...they really didn't talk about abuse within romantic relationships like they do now. I was naive...very wet behind the ears...and not expecting a guy who said he loved me to treat me in such...
    KassieKat KassieKat 46-50, F 20 Responses Apr 25, 2011

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    The Last Tear

    Is love about heartache and pain? Lately my tears fall like rain. Is love about name calling and embarrassment? I try the best I can, but honestly he doesn't.. Is love about arguing and fighting everyday? He doesn't know how far he's pushed me away.. Is love about backstabbing...
    dream32 dream32 31-35, F 2 Responses Oct 7, 2013

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    I feel so alone at moments,

    even though I know that I have my family. I have loved this man for four years now but it has been the hardest thing in my life. There is not a day where he does not complain. He says I **** up everyday. I don't know what to do. I know there is help I can get..... and I feel so...
    strongwoman517 strongwoman517 22-25, F 6 Responses Oct 11

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    Last year I met this guy,

    who I fell in love with two months into "talking." We worked together. He would talk to me during work hours but after I wouldn't receive a cal or text. And if I ever did, it was late night at 12 (he worked over night as well) or if he wanted me to come over for a movie night...
    TVel94 TVel94 18-21, F Dec 8

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    I wonder if I will ever forget him.

    I'm sure the answer is no. It's unfortunate but it's how it is. I wonder if he ever thinks of me and if so what he thinks. I want to know how he's doing. I want to talk to him. I was to unblock him on FB and see how he's doing. But most of all I want to forget. I want to...
    Jeradactyl Jeradactyl 22-25, F 2 Responses Nov 10

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    It's almost 1 AM and I can't sleep.

    I began scrolling through Instagram. Clicking on profiles of those I used to know. I found my rapist. I went to his profile. After scrolling through I went to his followers. There he was. I hadn't seen him in so long. My abusive ex. I knew I shouldn't but I clicked on his...
    Jeradactyl Jeradactyl 22-25, F 1 day ago

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    Lingering Effects

    I have written many stories. I have shared my pain and hopefully some of you have found some comfort or identify with the issues I have and am facing.  It has been several years since I physically left my abuser.  I tried to be civil and just go with the flow for a couple...
    flodials flodials 41-45, F 7 Responses Nov 28, 2012

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    It Came Out In Clumps

    The next day I washed my hair. It came out in clumps, some with skin still attached. I saved one and gave it to him. He looked at it squeamishly, like I had handed him a dead rat. He dropped it on the floor in disgust. “What?” I asked, “You tore it out, I thought you...
    lulabelle138 lulabelle138 31-35, F 2 Responses Sep 29, 2013

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    I shared my story on another account on EP

    but I'd like to have a anonymous account to. If u want to know my story u can just chat me.
    Justanothergirl2000 Justanothergirl2000 13-15, F 1 Response Sep 12

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    I searched everywhere online to find a place to

    vent my story. I hope I finally found it. I am a victim of domestic violence. I wish I could could replace the word "victim" with the word "survivor". unfortunately my story has not currently ended. I was abused as a child sexually and physically by my father. a man I adored as...
    imsolost14 imsolost14 26-30, F 6 Responses Nov 8

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    So basically, when I got pregnant

    for my boyfriend, yes I was young. We were stupid, but we were in love. When we told his mother, she flipped out and started asking for a DNA test. Everyone in my family had been confused because the baby was his. And he agreed too. During my fourth month of my pregnancy, we...
    SincerelyRae SincerelyRae 16-17, F 2 Responses Nov 23

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    I Did It.

    I called the police. He's in a cell right now. Court in 4 hours. I'll never let this happen again.
    AlexSparky AlexSparky 18-21, F 9 Responses Sep 13, 2013

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    I Didn't See It Coming . . .

    When I met my husband, he couldn't do enough for me.  He was wonderful.  But as soon as the vows were taken he changed, slowly and subtly at first, then it sped up and became more obvious.  He isolated me from my friends and my family.  He constantly...
    LCLM LCLM 41-45, F 10 Responses Feb 19, 2008

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    Just curious if others felt crazy

    while living in an abusive situation? The one minute he is helpful and nice and trying to the I live with a monster to the I just feel numb inside too the I want to run to the I want to die. How did you overcome the roller coaster of emotions and leave if you have left or how...
    anibee1230 anibee1230 36-40, F 1 Response Nov 7

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    I Am No Longer a Victim

     "I'm sorry, you just make me so mad". How many times I've heard that, I thought as I rubbed my swollen cheek.   It started out perfect, I met a man that was handsome, smart, and could make anyone laugh. He was the life of the party. Everyone thought he was...
    vanilla vanilla 26-30, F 15 Responses Jul 8, 2007

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    Do you stick up for yourself

    and get beaten worse or just take it in and beat yourself up on the inside. I chose to stick up for myself. Im left with tear stained cheeks, a jaw I cannot move, a chipped tooth and bruises everywhere. It was worth it. I needed him to know I am strong and he is not breaking me...
    itsmemargret itsmemargret 18-21 5 Responses Nov 6

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    Finally stayed at a new lovely home.

    I watched sunset from my big windows last night. It was an amazing view. I am lucky! Still my ex bothers me. Text like thousand times a day. He even show up at my work. He realized that he lost me but refused to accept that. He use my money to buy many movies. S h I t. I had...
    girlyloveorange girlyloveorange 31-35, F 3 Responses Nov 19

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    I'm reluctant to share my story.

    When a man assaults a woman, he is a monster. When a woman assaults a man, apparently it's the man's fault. I left her because she was abusive. I was tired of bruises, bite marks, and public humiliation. That is all I want to say. I left; I'm glad I left; I wish her well. I...
    PhresnoPhoenix PhresnoPhoenix 36-40, M 1 Response Dec 6

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    My friends made me feel safe.

    I called my only two friends after my husband had thrown the supper I'd cooked him in the bed with me while I slept. I called the wife(my bff's are married to each other) and she calmed me down and got me to stop crying. It was very late and she was very patient and sweet. She...
    Catsoutdabag Catsoutdabag 31-35, F 1 Response Feb 27

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    My mom. Every girl wants a woman they can look

    up to and depend on. Share secrets and do makeovers. Talk about boy problems. My mom, she's nothing like that. She was in a car accident 22 years ago. Since then she's been on every drug in the book and is very addicted to them. For the last three years it's gotten really...
    Madis9957 Madis9957 13-15, F 5 Responses Sep 9

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    How do you leave with kids?

    How do you make it? Where do you go? My head is such a mess it seems impossible to sort anything out!
    anibee1230 anibee1230 36-40, F 3 Responses Nov 2

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    I've decided to share my most resent experience

    and I need help. My mom made fun of another disabled person yesterday and I stood up to her again and she got really mad. We started yelling at each other. She slapped me in the face and told me to get in the car. After about an hour of her yelling we got home and the fight...
    Madis9957 Madis9957 13-15, F 2 Responses Sep 24

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    When you've been a victim of domestic violence

    your whole world turns upside down. There is nothing more condradictory than the man who professes to love you harming you physically and emtionally. As all your thoughts are picked apart you begin to question everything....even you're reality... It's part denial.. It's hard to...
    Catsoutdabag Catsoutdabag 31-35, F 20 Responses May 3

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    So the other day I was at my friends house

    and she started to braid my hair. I freaked out and moved away. She looked at me and asked my I don't like people touching my hair. I didn't know why so I just said I didn't like it. Later that night I was up at 2 in the morning. Nothing unusual. I finally fell asleep and I had...
    Madis9957 Madis9957 13-15, F 1 Response Sep 27

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    Take The Night Back All They've Stolen All We Took From You

    I just wanted to stop by and drop a little song of support for y'all.  You all are inspirations to other s who need help.  I was suffering with some memories of a past situation and found this site and this group and through your words and wisdom you helped me past a dark part...
    Aether71 Aether71 36-40, M 6 Responses Jul 29, 2011

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    '3 years ago, I dated a guy,

    a guy I thought would Love me and my family . But in that 3 years I guess I was wrong. It was like a fairy tale, but the Handsome Prince was the evil one. I didn't have a beautiful Happily Ever After ending like every girl wants.I can still smell the blood printed against the...
    VictoriaVite23 VictoriaVite23 22-25, F 2 Responses May 23

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    A Year Has Passed

    A Year has Passed Like Socrates said, “Wonder brings wisdom.” If you do not wonder about something how will you ever learn?My abuser did not want me to have knowledge, because knowledge is powerful, and that is what he took away from me, because he wanted power and control...
    awarren98 awarren98 36-40, F 15 Responses Jun 3, 2011

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    Survivor

    That's what my social worker tells me when we visit and talk. Your not a victim your a survivor.    I see women who are TRUE survivors.  The ones who survive horrors.  I don't see myself as that.  I know women wear it like a proud badge of strength in some cases.  A...
    flodials flodials 41-45, F 8 Responses Jul 11, 2012

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    I got this welt on my head today.

    My boyfriend has been putting ice to it but here I sit alone now that he's at work.... Wondering why I still deal with it. We get violent at least two times a month. I let myself go through it. I feel weak
    sarahhunnix3 sarahhunnix3 18-21, F 1 Response Oct 16

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    My story is similar to those on here

    but it's not as bad. He hasn't assaulted me yet. And that's why I got out. When we met it was amazing, we both have the same sick sense of humor an would laugh for hours. Being in different states made us spend hours talking over the phone, but which also meant I didn't get to...
    jesselizabethjw jesselizabethjw 26-30, F 3 Responses Feb 28

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    I am having a difficult time deciding

    if my situation is as serious as everyone tells me it is. I keep going back and forth, almost on a daily basis. I've been with my husband for 8 years and we have 3 kids. He has physically hurt me on several occasions, but they happen so infrequently that it seems like I should...
    htb1025 htb1025 31-35, F 1 Response Nov 21

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    What Now???

    So I was with this man for over 5 years....  I married him August 16, 2007.  I left for my honeymoon literally the day after my wedding to Hawaii.  Well, two weeks after we got back the name calling started.. Your fat... you don't do it for me anymore...
    pitbu11lover pitbu11lover 26-30, F 14 Responses Mar 12, 2009

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    There seems to be a black cloud

    that follows me everywhere I go. I tried to leave my abusive boyfriend yesterday. I already had a bag packed and hidden away. We got into a huge fight over me being just 14 minutes late from the grocery store. He proceeded to scream at me like a child in front of our 11...
    BrandNewChic BrandNewChic 41-45, F 4 Responses Sep 16

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    Well, Not Anymore

    My ex husband was abusive, physically, mentally and emotionally. I spent 5 years getting my *** beat, being put down, being forced to do things i didnt want to. Being raped on a regular basis. Yes ladies, your husband CAN rape you. It was pure hell. I ran when I had the right...
    kittylove30 kittylove30 31-35, F 7 Responses Jul 12, 2013

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    I have been married for three years

    and have known my husband for four. When we met, it was an instant connection where I could with him about anything and be myself. We started to date and two months into our relationship, he cheated on me. I forgave him and the next month, we found out we were pregnant with our...
    btmama1108 btmama1108 22-25, F 5 Responses Oct 18

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    $217 to Hit Your Wife With a Truck, Then Teach University Ethics In Idaho

    No one believes that Jim could be violent.  He's a white male philosophy professor.  No one could believe that I would be the kind of woman who would participate in the abuse.  I'm bright and outspoken.    There were several episodes of...
    Learning Learning 46-50, F 7 Responses Sep 14, 2007

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    I can't seem to let go of the person I love

    with all my heart, even though inside he wishes he could smash my face So much he hates everything about me yet he won't leave.
    brokenh8rt brokenh8rt 26-30, F 1 Response Jul 2

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    I wake up to my boyfriend whispering in my ear

    your stupid, fat, ugly and no one will ever love you. I look around our apartment were going to lose soon and there's a hole in every door and there's still my blood stains in the closet. I hate being there it reminds me of all the times he's pulled my hair, kicked me, punched...
    phantom44a phantom44a 18-21, F 2 Responses Dec 3

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    Helens Story

    My first husband I got involved with at the age of 16. My dad was dieing of cancer. I just wanted to be an adult so I moved out of my fathers trailor to move in with a man that has ruined my life. I was with Scott for 13 and a half years. With being with him so young I tolerated...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Oct 9, 2013

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    Still Terrified....

    it is hard to talk about but I want help... When I was 14 years old I met this guy who I instantly fell for. He was 16 at the time. I was a virgin, he wasn't. He cheated on me because I wouldn't have sex with him. But about five months in I gave in. A week later he went to jail...
    babymama16 babymama16 18-21, F 8 Responses Nov 3, 2013

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    I was engaged to who I thought I was going to

    spend the rest of my life with. I didn't realize how much abuse I was receiving until I had him arrested. He finally hit me and I had enough. It started out with us arguing and him pinning me down on the bed, which he had done before. Once he hit me in my face, that was it. I...
    stacyda30 stacyda30 31-35, F Sep 10

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    In Love With An Abuser, Trying to Lose the Love

    I thought it was love, an over the top tenderness, a magnetic sensuality that kept me waiting for the next time we were alone.... At first it wasn't abusive, just angry sometimes, what's a little insult with a bit of a slap or hair pulling???  But it got worse...
    dancingonthehill dancingonthehill 51-55, F 58 Responses Apr 3, 2009

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