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I Am a Victim of Domestic Violence

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    Do you stick up for yourself

    and get beaten worse or just take it in and beat yourself up on the inside. I chose to stick up for myself. Im left with tear stained cheeks, a jaw I cannot move, a chipped tooth and bruises everywhere. It was worth it. I needed him to know I am strong and he is not breaking me...
    itsmemargret itsmemargret 18-21 5 Responses Nov 6, 2014

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    I just got out of an abusive relationship.

    Can't believe it took me this long to see that yes, it was abuse. Not just him "losing control". And the most crazy part? I miss him. When things were good, they were really good. But when things were bad... I'm afraid. I guess I just need time to get over him.
    rachg87 rachg87 26-30, F 4 Responses 6 days ago

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    I am a man who has been a victim of domestic

    violence. I have never lifted a hand and hit a woman, or man for that matter. I married a woman who had a background of domestic violence, first from her father and then from an abusive ex husband of 20 years who was ex army. When we got together I knew of her background but...
    alan61a alan61a 51-55, M 5 Responses Feb 19

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    My mom. Every girl wants a woman they can look

    up to and depend on. Share secrets and do makeovers. Talk about boy problems. My mom, she's nothing like that. She was in a car accident 22 years ago. Since then she's been on every drug in the book and is very addicted to them. For the last three years it's gotten really...
    thefallenones thefallenones 13-15, F 5 Responses Sep 9, 2014

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    And it was awful. My ex wife used to go crazy

    when she had pmt. she would cause and create all manner of situations that would have me cowering in a corner or doing anything to avoid a conflict. I started showing up at work with facial bruising and one day my manager took me aside and said she could tell what was going on...
    picklebobble picklebobble 46-50, M 1 Response Nov 7, 2014

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    He hit me again. No he grabbed me by my shirt

    threw me on the ground kicked me punched me in my head flicked my nose drug me across the floor picked me up about 3 more times threw me on the ground. I walked downstairs he follows me grabs me throws me an drags me up the stairs rips my shirt off and slams my head on the floor...
    lis924 lis924 22-25, F 2 Responses Jan 24

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    I'm glad i had enough strength to realize

    that there are too many men in the world to allow this ONE to belittle me..No more why didn't I call or pick up the phone..no more soon as i walk in the door getting slapped...never thought it would be me but it WAS--not anymore..
    learningLessons14 learningLessons14 18-21, F Dec 7, 2014

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    For the last 2 years I've been in

    and out of both an emotionally and physically abusive relationship. Recently we split up because I finally had enough! But I'm not at all over what has happened, which is why I do not classify myself a surviver. Im also afraid that if I don't find a way to deal with this that I...
    nosleep08 nosleep08 22-25, F 3 Responses Feb 21

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    I am having a difficult time deciding

    if my situation is as serious as everyone tells me it is. I keep going back and forth, almost on a daily basis. I've been with my husband for 8 years and we have 3 kids. He has physically hurt me on several occasions, but they happen so infrequently that it seems like I should...
    htb1025 htb1025 31-35, F 1 Response Nov 21, 2014

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    I'm going through a custody battle.

    Unfortunately I have very little evidence of abuse. Just a couple of people who saw the bruises. Has anyone else gone through this? I'm in need of advice.
    taq1992 taq1992 22-25, F 1 Response 2 hrs ago

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    Still Terrified....

    it is hard to talk about but I want help... When I was 14 years old I met this guy who I instantly fell for. He was 16 at the time. I was a virgin, he wasn't. He cheated on me because I wouldn't have sex with him. But about five months in I gave in. A week later he went to jail...
    babymama16 babymama16 18-21, F 8 Responses Nov 3, 2013

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    Am I The Only Male

    I read quite a few of your stories and I find it interesting, but not surprising that I have not read one story by a male.  This sort of goes with my experience as a victim of domestic violence.  I was married very young to my high school sweetheart.  Everything...
    Aether71 Aether71 36-40, M 48 Responses Jun 3, 2010

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    Has anyone else had friends

    and family treat you like its your fault you are abused because you just don't walk out?
    anibee1230 anibee1230 36-40, F 6 Responses Nov 6, 2014

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    I am a victim of physical

    and emotional abuse, I am 25 and met him when I was 19. As many people say, they are charming at first and seemed very clever and manipulative with his words. It was an unhealthy relationship but we kept at it. Although I only really knew that I was a victim of emotional abuse...
    Brightheart89 Brightheart89 22-25, F 4 Responses Jan 16

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    So im gonna finally get this off my chest.

    Its been a dark cloud over my head for months. I want to change something that i cannot change. I am a victim of domestic violence. Its been haunting me for the past 6 months even though hes in prison now. I still miss him. Hes the father of my child and i do still love him. I...
    Heyababe Heyababe 18-21, F 6 Responses Dec 17, 2014

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    Enduring A Monster...

    I was unprepared for the nightmare I got myself into when I was 18-years-old. Back then...they really didn't talk about abuse within romantic relationships like they do now. I was naive...very wet behind the ears...and not expecting a guy who said he loved me to treat me in such...
    KassieKat KassieKat 46-50, F 20 Responses Apr 25, 2011

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    I just filed a protection order.

    I'm finally going to be free of him. I'm empowered, yet terrified.
    findinghome90 findinghome90 22-25, F 5 Responses Oct 21, 2014

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    The Unfortunate Family...

    sexually molested [step dad, uncle, babysitter (M)] and verbally/emotionally abused (mom). it lasts the rest of your life. with me, i try everyday to move forward and i do bit by bit. feel really bad about myself from time to time. but whatever does not kill me outright i battle...
    MuscleDjinn MuscleDjinn 41-45, M 4 Responses Aug 16, 2007

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    My friends made me feel safe.

    I called my only two friends after my husband had thrown the supper I'd cooked him in the bed with me while I slept. I called the wife(my bff's are married to each other) and she calmed me down and got me to stop crying. It was very late and she was very patient and sweet. She...
    Catsoutdabag Catsoutdabag 31-35, F 1 Response Feb 27, 2014

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    I've been a victim for 3 years

    and I couldn't let go of him until last month... I've been too scared to bring up the subject of breaking up but I did it last month. I felt proud. After years of being beaten and cheated on and raped by someone I thought I loved...
    tristful tristful 18-21, F 3 Responses Jan 26

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    My story is similar to those on here

    but it's not as bad. He hasn't assaulted me yet. And that's why I got out. When we met it was amazing, we both have the same sick sense of humor an would laugh for hours. Being in different states made us spend hours talking over the phone, but which also meant I didn't get to...
    jesselizabethjw jesselizabethjw 26-30, F 3 Responses Feb 28, 2014

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    A Year Has Passed

    A Year has Passed Like Socrates said, “Wonder brings wisdom.” If you do not wonder about something how will you ever learn?My abuser did not want me to have knowledge, because knowledge is powerful, and that is what he took away from me, because he wanted power and control...
    awarren98 awarren98 36-40, F 15 Responses Jun 3, 2011

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    I Am No Longer a Victim

     "I'm sorry, you just make me so mad". How many times I've heard that, I thought as I rubbed my swollen cheek.   It started out perfect, I met a man that was handsome, smart, and could make anyone laugh. He was the life of the party. Everyone thought he was...
    vanilla vanilla 26-30, F 15 Responses Jul 8, 2007

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    What is it about DV that just sticks with us

    for so long? I think it affects every relationship that I experience...maybe this is not a bad thing. I am wiser and just more aware-I move on everyday. Oh, by the way, I read this great book on Domestic Violence the other day "Beneath Dreary" (got it on google books).... Anyway...
    AramatLynn AramatLynn 46-50, F 3 Responses Jan 25

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    What Now???

    So I was with this man for over 5 years....  I married him August 16, 2007.  I left for my honeymoon literally the day after my wedding to Hawaii.  Well, two weeks after we got back the name calling started.. Your fat... you don't do it for me anymore...
    pitbu11lover pitbu11lover 26-30, F 14 Responses Mar 12, 2009

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    Jeradactyl Jeradactyl 22-25, F 4 Responses Nov 7, 2014

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    Helens Story

    My first husband I got involved with at the age of 16. My dad was dieing of cancer. I just wanted to be an adult so I moved out of my fathers trailor to move in with a man that has ruined my life. I was with Scott for 13 and a half years. With being with him so young I tolerated...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Oct 9, 2013

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    I Didn't See It Coming . . .

    When I met my husband, he couldn't do enough for me.  He was wonderful.  But as soon as the vows were taken he changed, slowly and subtly at first, then it sped up and became more obvious.  He isolated me from my friends and my family.  He constantly...
    LCLM LCLM 41-45, F 10 Responses Feb 19, 2008

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    I wake up to my boyfriend whispering in my ear

    your stupid, fat, ugly and no one will ever love you. I look around our apartment were going to lose soon and there's a hole in every door and there's still my blood stains in the closet. I hate being there it reminds me of all the times he's pulled my hair, kicked me, punched...
    phantom44a phantom44a 18-21, F 3 Responses Dec 3, 2014

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    When you've been a victim of domestic violence

    your whole world turns upside down. There is nothing more condradictory than the man who professes to love you harming you physically and emtionally. As all your thoughts are picked apart you begin to question everything....even you're reality... It's part denial.. It's hard to...
    Catsoutdabag Catsoutdabag 31-35, F 20 Responses May 3, 2014

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    It's almost 1 AM and I can't sleep.

    I began scrolling through Instagram. Clicking on profiles of those I used to know. I found my rapist. I went to his profile. After scrolling through I went to his followers. There he was. I hadn't seen him in so long. My abusive ex. I knew I shouldn't but I clicked on his...
    Jeradactyl Jeradactyl 22-25, F 1 Response Dec 17, 2014

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    I'M A VICTIM OF DV, AND I JUST REALIZED THAT

    HISTORY REPEATED ITSELF I'M LIVING MY MOTHER NIGHTMARE, RIP .
    shela61 shela61 46-50, F Jan 25

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    Stop the Hate!

    This is a blog i wrote on March 3 on my myspace. I was so tired of hearing beaten women bashed!! I am a huge DV activist in my hometown and hope that by informing the masses beaten women can avoid further humiliation. STOP CALLING WOMEN WHO  ARE BEING BEATEN AND ABUSED...
    amyjo3 amyjo3 26-30, F 12 Responses Mar 23, 2009

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    The Last Tear

    Is love about heartache and pain? Lately my tears fall like rain. Is love about name calling and embarrassment? I try the best I can, but honestly he doesn't.. Is love about arguing and fighting everyday? He doesn't know how far he's pushed me away.. Is love about backstabbing...
    dream32 dream32 31-35, F 2 Responses Oct 7, 2013

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    I Did It.

    I called the police. He's in a cell right now. Court in 4 hours. I'll never let this happen again.
    AlexSparky AlexSparky 18-21, F 9 Responses Sep 13, 2013

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    Yelling and screaming,

    that's all that ever happened for 18 years, yelling and screaming until that Sunday afternoon after church on March 2nd. Our anniversary actually. He totally melted down. He hit me in the chest and it knocked me off balance and I fell backwards hitting my shoulder on the cat...
    Scottishgirl65 Scottishgirl65 46-50, F 2 Responses Feb 2

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    Survivor

    That's what my social worker tells me when we visit and talk. Your not a victim your a survivor.    I see women who are TRUE survivors.  The ones who survive horrors.  I don't see myself as that.  I know women wear it like a proud badge of strength in some cases.  A...
    flodials flodials 41-45, F 8 Responses Jul 11, 2012

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    Im always bullied at home And often get hit i

    want to move out but how dveryone blames everything in me nd im scared i hardly get given food now and i hate how i feel im always crying at home aat can i do to mke muself feel better im always get hit with metal sticks and frying pan
    sabina331 sabina331 18-21, F 2 Responses Nov 7, 2014

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    I searched everywhere online to find a place to

    vent my story. I hope I finally found it. I am a victim of domestic violence. I wish I could could replace the word "victim" with the word "survivor". unfortunately my story has not currently ended. I was abused as a child sexually and physically by my father. a man I adored as...
    imsolost14 imsolost14 26-30, F 6 Responses Nov 8, 2014

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    My moms boyfriend has been in the picture

    for almost all my life and I'm 22. I can't really remember a time of peace in my moms house. I know we lived in a domestic violence shelter for a while until she decided to go back to him. That's when my eyes were actually opened. I must of been about 7 when I said something...
    PurpleHoneyBee PurpleHoneyBee 22-25, F 2 Responses Feb 10

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    my best friend had it rough.

    . her mother suffered from domestic violence, her father used to beat her up. Ofcourse that affected her, she only told me the story once, not biograophy like (just facts and a storyline). I know what its like, trying to just tell the story but cant help get into details, having...
    KatherineSnow KatherineSnow 18-21, F Feb 3

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    I can't seem to let go of the person I love

    with all my heart, even though inside he wishes he could smash my face So much he hates everything about me yet he won't leave.
    brokenh8rt brokenh8rt 26-30, F 2 Responses Jul 2, 2014

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    Well, Not Anymore

    My ex husband was abusive, physically, mentally and emotionally. I spent 5 years getting my *** beat, being put down, being forced to do things i didnt want to. Being raped on a regular basis. Yes ladies, your husband CAN rape you. It was pure hell. I ran when I had the right...
    kittylove30 kittylove30 31-35, F 8 Responses Jul 12, 2013

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    Finally stayed at a new lovely home.

    I watched sunset from my big windows last night. It was an amazing view. I am lucky! Still my ex bothers me. Text like thousand times a day. He even show up at my work. He realized that he lost me but refused to accept that. He use my money to buy many movies. S h I t. I had...
    girlyloveorange girlyloveorange 31-35, F 4 Responses Nov 19, 2014

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    Just curious if others felt crazy

    while living in an abusive situation? The one minute he is helpful and nice and trying to the I live with a monster to the I just feel numb inside too the I want to run to the I want to die. How did you overcome the roller coaster of emotions and leave if you have left or how...
    anibee1230 anibee1230 36-40, F 1 Response Nov 7, 2014

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    I am in a very bad situation.

    I have been verbally, emotionally, financially and physically abused by my ex for the past 5 years. I moved away from the U.S.A. to Argentina to be with him and work in his business. I left everyone and everything to be with him. Then I made the mistake to let my family come...
    sumaura85 sumaura85 26-30, F Jan 21

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    Lingering Effects

    I have written many stories. I have shared my pain and hopefully some of you have found some comfort or identify with the issues I have and am facing.  It has been several years since I physically left my abuser.  I tried to be civil and just go with the flow for a couple...
    flodials flodials 41-45, F 7 Responses