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I Am a Victim of Domestic Violence

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    I'm feeling very hopeless

    and overwhelmed. I've been married for almost 17 years to an emotionally abusive narcissistic alcoholic. It wasn't until about four years ago that I realized there was something wrong. That it wasn't all my fault and me not being enough. Everyone else loves him. He's very good...
    kmn789 kmn789 36-40, F 3 Responses Aug 22

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    My brother was abused by our

    so called "father" ever since he was a kid ;when my parents got divorced and my brother started mistreating me.I have been thrown against walls,I've been slapped and I have had his hand around my neck multiple times;I still remember his face while he was trying to choke my in my...
    crazcat97 crazcat97 13-15, F 2 Responses Aug 13

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    Glass everywhere. Blood tipping from the top of

    my head to the bottom of my toes. I can't see anything but a full wrecked house. I told myself to "Calm Down and that everything was going to be fine" . She stood there like a DEVIL. I felt weak. To weak to even breath. There was nothing I could do but lye there in the dark...
    queenlekxie04 queenlekxie04 13-15, F 2 Responses Jul 21

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    A Year Has Passed

    A Year has Passed Like Socrates said, “Wonder brings wisdom.” If you do not wonder about something how will you ever learn?My abuser did not want me to have knowledge, because knowledge is powerful, and that is what he took away from me, because he wanted power and control...
    awarren98 awarren98 31-35, F 15 Responses Jun 3, 2011

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    Its never love when he calls you a *****

    or a *****. Because no respectable man would ever call his woman names, especially ***** or *****. Is he truly sorry for leaving scars on your face and heart? How many times has he hurt you? If he is being verbally abusive, do you honestly think he would never hit you? Think...
    Inherownwords Inherownwords 31-35, F 2 Responses Aug 20

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    He through water in my face

    and on my 11 month old face , because I was Leaving him !! :'(
    Yuri1396 Yuri1396 16-17, F 2 Responses Aug 10

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    :(

    I have for many years now been putting up with domestic voilence.. It has ground me down so much i do want to die some times:( i dont know why I have stuck it for so long I think its coz I feel i could never live on my own. I feel very trapped by my husband and his hold he has...
    mamdo2 mamdo2 36-40, F 45 Responses Nov 8, 2012

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    No blood I can still stand,

    I get some bruises or scratches. But really does it make a difference, I get kicked in my legs hard, hit hard, things thrown at me. I've learned to be tough, so I stand up for myself. But what if I wasn't capable of standing up for myself? Would he let himself go and take out...
    Anna85xo Anna85xo 26-30, F 3 Responses Jun 26

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    I met a man at work. He chased me around like a

    school boy and seemed really interested. We started spending lunches together and time together outside of work. Next thing I know he was talking about moving in together and pushing me to do so. He was broke, living at his parents paying off back bills. I got me, him and my...
    Imnotdillusional Imnotdillusional 31-35, F 4 Responses May 3

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    My friends made me feel safe.

    I called my only two friends after my husband had thrown the supper I'd cooked him in the bed with me while I slept. I called the wife(my bff's are married to each other) and she calmed me down and got me to stop crying. It was very late and she was very patient and sweet. She...
    Catsoutdabag Catsoutdabag 31-35, F 1 Response Feb 27

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    Take The Night Back All They've Stolen All We Took From You

    I just wanted to stop by and drop a little song of support for y'all.  You all are inspirations to other s who need help.  I was suffering with some memories of a past situation and found this site and this group and through your words and wisdom you helped me past a dark part...
    Aether71 Aether71 36-40, M 6 Responses Jul 29, 2011

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    I think about Janay Rice.

    I pray I'll have the strength to leave any abuser ... whether emotional, physical or sexual. I've done it before and know I am stronger because of what I've been through, and will not let anyone have that power over me. I now love myself more than I hate being single and on my...
    easynuh easynuh 26-30, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    It Came Out In Clumps

    The next day I washed my hair. It came out in clumps, some with skin still attached. I saved one and gave it to him. He looked at it squeamishly, like I had handed him a dead rat. He dropped it on the floor in disgust. “What?” I asked, “You tore it out, I thought you...
    lulabelle138 lulabelle138 31-35, F 2 Responses Sep 29, 2013

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    My eyes hurt my whole face is,

    there is broken glass everywhere...but my cheek is really swollen could someone please talk to me
    Anna85xo Anna85xo 26-30, F 4 Responses Jul 5

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    How Domestic Violence Affected My Life.

    Fourteen years ago, my brother went to jail for the murder of my mother. In fact, He had probably planned the murder and his lover did the act. His lover went to jail for the murder and he got out on lack of evidence.   The murder was brutal. My to-be-husband (at that...
    jroth jroth 36-40, F 10 Responses Oct 9, 2006

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    The Unfortunate Family...

    sexually molested [step dad, uncle, babysitter (M)] and verbally/emotionally abused (mom). it lasts the rest of your life. with me, i try everyday to move forward and i do bit by bit. feel really bad about myself from time to time. but whatever does not kill me outright i battle...
    MuscleDjinn MuscleDjinn 41-45, M 4 Responses Aug 16, 2007

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    Im still here still breathing

    but I have been on the run from my husband since 2011. We were together for 12yrs since I was 16yrs old. We separated since 2010 we had 3kids. He was abusive to us all. He still tries to locate us I have had to move 5 times since 2011. its hard watching my kids adapt every time...
    Hidd3nWithinM3 Hidd3nWithinM3 31-35 1 Response Apr 29

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    When you've been a victim of domestic violence

    your whole world turns upside down. There is nothing more condradictory than the man who professes to love you harming you physically and emtionally. As all your thoughts are picked apart you begin to question everything....even you're reality... It's part denial.. It's hard to...
    Catsoutdabag Catsoutdabag 31-35, F 20 Responses May 3

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    I Am No Longer a Victim

     "I'm sorry, you just make me so mad". How many times I've heard that, I thought as I rubbed my swollen cheek.   It started out perfect, I met a man that was handsome, smart, and could make anyone laugh. He was the life of the party. Everyone thought he was...
    vanilla vanilla 26-30, F 14 Responses Jul 8, 2007

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    Is not knowing easier?

    My mother is a victim of DV and me and my sister are affected by it because we grew up in a very stressful environment. It still is stressful now but even more so now that I know what's really happening. I have developed anxiety due to the unpredictability of my household. My...
    ElaineLovesSmiles ElaineLovesSmiles 18-21, F 2 Responses May 27

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    My mom. Every girl wants a woman they can look

    up to and depend on. Share secrets and do makeovers. Talk about boy problems. My mom, she's nothing like that. She was in a car accident 22 years ago. Since then she's been on every drug in the book and is very addicted to them. For the last three years it's gotten really...
    Madis9957 Madis9957 13-15, F 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    Search I Am a Victim of Domestic Violence My

    boyfriends alot older than me I was 18 he was 29 he is a alcohol and when we first got together I noticed he was sooo extremely possesive of me he had to know where I am all the time what im doing he hated me hanging around with his friends he would think im sleeping with them...
    BlondieBabyMwahX BlondieBabyMwahX 18-21, F 2 Responses May 14

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    Never in my life would I have imagined myself

    being a victim of domestic violence. My boyfriend & I were perfect once upon a time, & things went so wrong so fast. I loved him, & a part of me still does. But I can't go back. He'll do it again....and again....and again...Like always
    HeartbrokenHeroine HeartbrokenHeroine 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 11

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    I Did It.

    I called the police. He's in a cell right now. Court in 4 hours. I'll never let this happen again.
    AlexSparky AlexSparky 18-21, F 9 Responses Sep 13, 2013

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    I was engaged to who I thought I was going to

    spend the rest of my life with. I didn't realize how much abuse I was receiving until I had him arrested. He finally hit me and I had enough. It started out with us arguing and him pinning me down on the bed, which he had done before. Once he hit me in my face, that was it. I...
    stacyda30 stacyda30 31-35, F 5 days ago

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    He was arrested just two days ago.

    Earlier in the day we were talking wedding plans and then something snapped. In two years he never laid a hand on me and promised me he never would, because he loves me that much. Two days ago that changed. My heart is in a million pieces and I want to go and bond him out. I...
    cleo01 cleo01 46-50, F 1 Response May 25

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    What did I do to deserve this?

    I loved him and was always there for him, even when he would scream at me or hit me. I never did anything to deserve this, in my mind, but whenever I asked anything from him or questioned him he would become angry so I tried to avoid asking ANYTHING of him or questioned him. Do...
    LtngBug67 LtngBug67 46-50, F 5 Responses Mar 30

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    The Last Tear

    Is love about heartache and pain? Lately my tears fall like rain. Is love about name calling and embarrassment? I try the best I can, but honestly he doesn't.. Is love about arguing and fighting everyday? He doesn't know how far he's pushed me away.. Is love about backstabbing...
    dream32 dream32 31-35, F 1 Response Oct 7, 2013

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    I have been with my abusive husband

    for 21years from the age of 16 (he was then 18). For a long time he was so charming and he wanted to see me everyday, he told me i was his world, i made his life wonderful. I had finished my final year at school and one day he got up from watching tv with me on the sofa at my...
    KirstyF KirstyF 36-40, F 8 Responses Dec 8, 2013

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    Survivor

    That's what my social worker tells me when we visit and talk. Your not a victim your a survivor.    I see women who are TRUE survivors.  The ones who survive horrors.  I don't see myself as that.  I know women wear it like a proud badge of strength in some cases.  A...
    flodials flodials 41-45, F 8 Responses Jul 11, 2012

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    Still Terrified....

    it is hard to talk about but I want help... When I was 14 years old I met this guy who I instantly fell for. He was 16 at the time. I was a virgin, he wasn't. He cheated on me because I wouldn't have sex with him. But about five months in I gave in. A week later he went to jail...
    babymama16 babymama16 18-21, F 9 Responses Nov 3, 2013

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    Helens Story

    My first husband I got involved with at the age of 16. My dad was dieing of cancer. I just wanted to be an adult so I moved out of my fathers trailor to move in with a man that has ruined my life. I was with Scott for 13 and a half years. With being with him so young I tolerated...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Oct 9, 2013

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    My name is Gina And I am a victim of Domestic

    Abuse by a man who is my common law husband with both mental health and substance abuse issues and I need and want out, as much as I love this man I cannot do this anymore. I am lying to my family to be with him and he obviously either refuses to or is unable to appreciate that...
    ginaherms ginaherms 46-50, F 1 Response May 26

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    $217 to Hit Your Wife With a Truck, Then Teach University Ethics In Idaho

    No one believes that Jim could be violent.  He's a white male philosophy professor.  No one could believe that I would be the kind of woman who would participate in the abuse.  I'm bright and outspoken.    There were several episodes of...
    Learning Learning 46-50, F 7 Responses Sep 14, 2007

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    I am in a domestic violence relationship.

    When my bf gets angry he insults me & pushes me. He has slapped me once. It is mostly bruises I've had and him hitting my head or throwing objects at me. He has punched holes in the walls and broke things. I get scared whenever we argue an I have punched him before too. But when...
    sarahhunnix3 sarahhunnix3 18-21, F 7 Responses Apr 19

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    My story is similar to those on here

    but it's not as bad. He hasn't assaulted me yet. And that's why I got out. When we met it was amazing, we both have the same sick sense of humor an would laugh for hours. Being in different states made us spend hours talking over the phone, but which also meant I didn't get to...
    jesselizabethjw jesselizabethjw 26-30, F 3 Responses Feb 28

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    I am a survivor, after being in a relationship

    for 10 years with it turning violent after almost 3 years, I can say that I'm finally leaving. It's scary and I know its going to be hard cause I've been with my ex for a long time and we have children together. He was my everything and I became nothing to myself. Which is...
    lavendershade lavendershade 31-35, F 4 Responses Mar 20

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    In Love With An Abuser, Trying to Lose the Love

    I thought it was love, an over the top tenderness, a magnetic sensuality that kept me waiting for the next time we were alone.... At first it wasn't abusive, just angry sometimes, what's a little insult with a bit of a slap or hair pulling???  But it got worse...
    dancingonthehill dancingonthehill 51-55, F 59 Responses Apr 3, 2009

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    I shared my story on another account on EP

    but I'd like to have a anonymous account to. If u want to know my story u can just chat me.
    Justanothergirl2000 Justanothergirl2000 13-15, F 3 days ago

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    What Now???

    So I was with this man for over 5 years....  I married him August 16, 2007.  I left for my honeymoon literally the day after my wedding to Hawaii.  Well, two weeks after we got back the name calling started.. Your fat... you don't do it for me anymore...
    pitbu11lover pitbu11lover 26-30, F 14 Responses Mar 12, 2009

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    The Sheep That Turned Into A Lion(Ess) - Story Dedicated To All Abused Male And Female Victims

    Ladies, to all of you out there living in (verbal, physical, economic) abusive relationships, please, hear me: God gave us freedom, it is the most precious jewel of all jewels, no one has the authority to take from you what God granted you with. Find the courage in your hearts...
    TNTandCHOCOLATE TNTandCHOCOLATE 31-35 3 Responses Jul 8, 2013

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    Am I The Only Male

    I read quite a few of your stories and I find it interesting, but not surprising that I have not read one story by a male.  This sort of goes with my experience as a victim of domestic violence.  I was married very young to my high school sweetheart.  Everything...
    Aether71 Aether71 36-40, M 48 Responses Jun 3, 2010

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    I am sitting here, and I do not know

    where to start. For 21 long years I have been living a lie. Thinking that what he has done to me was "normal". My heart is racing because this topic troubles me so deeply. Tears welt up in my eyes, I promised I wouldn't cry but it is really hard thinking and typing this out. My...
    WonderingJazmine WonderingJazmine 18-21 Aug 12

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    I can't seem to let go of the person I love

    with all my heart, even though inside he wishes he could smash my face So much he hates everything about me yet he won't leave.
    brokenh8rt brokenh8rt 26-30, F 1 Response Jul 2

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    Stop the Hate!

    This is a blog i wrote on March 3 on my myspace. I was so tired of hearing beaten women bashed!! I am a huge DV activist in my hometown and hope that by informing the masses beaten women can avoid further humiliation. STOP CALLING WOMEN WHO  ARE BEING BEATEN AND ABUSED...
    amyjo3 amyjo3 26-30, F 12 Responses Mar 23, 2009

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    There seems to be a black cloud

    that follows me everywhere I go. I tried to leave my abusive boyfriend yesterday. I already had a bag packed and hidden away. We got into a huge fight over me being just 14 minutes late from the grocery store. He proceeded to scream at me like a child in front of our 11...
    BrandNewChic BrandNewChic 41-45, F 2 Responses 3 hrs ago

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    I Didn't See It Coming . . .

    When I met my husband, he couldn't do enough for me.  He was wonderful.  But as soon as the vows were taken he changed, slowly and subtly at first, then it sped up and became more obvious.  He isolated me from my friends and my family.  He constantly...
    LCLM LCLM 41-45, F 10 Responses Feb 19, 2008

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    My boyfriends alot older

    than me I was 18 he was 29 he is a alcohol and when we first got together I noticed he was sooo extremely possesive of me he had to know where I am all the time what im doing he hated me hanging around with his friends he would think im sleeping with them when im not!! his...
    BlondieBabyMwahX BlondieBabyMwahX 18-21, F 1 Response May 14

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    Enduring A Monster...

    I was unprepared for the nightmare I got myself into when I was 18-years-old. Back then...they really didn't talk about abuse within romantic relationships like they do now. I was naive...very wet behind the ears...and not expecting a guy who said he loved me to treat me in such...
    KassieKat KassieKat 46-50, F 20 Responses Apr 25, 2011

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    '3 years ago, I dated a guy,

    a guy I thought would Love me and my family . But in that 3 years I guess I was wrong. It was like a fairy tale, but the Handsome Prince was the evil one. I didn't have a beautiful Happily Ever After ending like every girl wants.I can still smell the blood printed against the...
    VictoriaVite23 VictoriaVite23 18-21, F 1 Response May 23

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    Yes, I was sexually abused.

    I am also new to this site (give me some grace haha :) and this is my first post. I am 14 and the incident happened about six months ago. When I told my counselor therapist about my abuse, they blamed it on me. The conv with my counselor and therapist was like "so you let him...
    lbflame lbflame 13-15, F 7 Responses Jun 12

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    30 Things I’ve Learned About Love from My

    Emotionally Abusive, Narcissistic, Alcoholic Husband 1. If you trust someone, they will repay you with suspicion and jealously. 2. If you offer someone a sincere compliment or express gratitude, your words will be met with suspicion, then rejected and spat on. In exchange you...
    KMarie789 KMarie789 31-35, F 1 Response Aug 21

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    My ex is still controlling me even

    after we split. We also share a 2 year old daughter. I recently told him i was with someone ive known for awhile due to the court ordering it. He keeps threatening me by saying "if you bring him around our daughter without me meeting him you will see a side of me you never...
    TinaBuddie TinaBuddie 22-25, F 1 Response May 14

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