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I Am a Victim of Emotional Abuse

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    convertihd convertihd 46-50, M Mar 22

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    What Is Emotional Abuse.

    What is Emotional Abuse? I've asked myself this question a million times. I never knew the answers and for a long time I was too afraid to find them, I was afraid of what I'd discover. About myself, about my spouse, about our life. Then for some reason in the last couple of weeks...
    UndeniablyConfused UndeniablyConfused 26-30, F 66 Responses Dec 1, 2008

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    I just walked out of an abusive relationship

    funny he forced me to leave the last thing he said was either you blame all of the abuse on yourself or gtfo i finally came to terms that he never loved me... I feel ok (safe)
    rossp24 rossp24 22-25, F 5 Responses Mar 11, 2014

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    This wonderful kind man (so I thought)came into

    my life and charmed me beyond belief, he was so kind and emotionally supportive of me. But the criticism and threats of leaving me started, and I love him so much, but I know what is going on it has happened in every romantic relationship I have ever had. I was physically and...
    meramera1 meramera1 36-40, F 3 Responses Apr 6

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    Just Because Its Not Visible Does Not Mean Its Not There

    I know there are many examples of emotional/mental abuse on here, and each one is important. I also know that this form of abuse can come from both men and women. I happened to be on the receiving end of emotional abuse from my wife. She is now my ex..   As a little back story...
    Army0917 Army0917 31-35, M 9 Responses Mar 19, 2011

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    Not True

    ***** do this and ***** do that that's what I got woke up to everyday. Your nothing but a worthless **** no one will ever want you. Your retarted! You can't do anything right. Your nasty your ugly. This is what emotional abuse is. After hearing it so long you think its true. I'm...
    holehearted79 holehearted79 31-35, F 4 Responses Jul 15, 2013

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    As a male victim of an emotionally & verbally

    abusive marriage, I had a hard time finding people who would listen and help, especially in the Christian church world. As the target of abuse, the main questions I needed to discuss and/or have answered were, "Why did you (my wife) treat me in the cruel ways that you did...
    bwDVOWRD bwDVOWRD 26-30, M 4 Responses Sep 29, 2014

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    I am a man, and my wife is.

    .. it's hard to say it and feel like I'm really telling the truth, but she's my abuser. She treats my questions as though they have obvious answers. She treats me like I'm just a participant in our life, not a partner. She treats me like my opinion on something, or my desire...
    Felixthestoat Felixthestoat 22-25, T 11 Responses Apr 18, 2014

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    If I could tell any female going through

    emotional abuse I would say learn to love yourself. Accept your own flaws and embrace them. Do not accept or get used to any male putting your self esteem more like your soul down with wordss. Words leave scars! If it doesnt feel right or hurts to much leave. Listen to your...
    love9494 love9494 18-21 Apr 4

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    There is no valid excuse

    for my behavior today. Just as arrogant and assuming and egocentric as my father. I'm incredibly disappointed in myself and it's burning me up from the inside out.
    bakeittwice bakeittwice 18-21, M 3 Responses Feb 19

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    So I ran away a couple of days ago,

    and they made me come back (they= police and family). They said they were gonna change and so far that's bullshit. I am leaving when I turn 17 whether they like it or not, they cannot make me stay. I am done with my mother telling me that I am a mean and ugly ***** . She says...
    nomnommings nomnommings 16-17, F 2 Responses Feb 18

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    I learned a lot of things

    while i was married to an abusive man for 10yrs.. I learned that i am not strong enough to take care of myself.. and so i stopped and let him I learned that i am not smart enough to make any decisions on my own because everything i did was wrong. .and so i stopped and let him...
    sweetpea6200 sweetpea6200 31-35, F 9 Responses Apr 21, 2014

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    Dear ******* Who Hurt Me

    for Four Years, I am no longer your emotional slave. You hurts me so bad that I was diagnosed with PTSD. You drove me out of the state, 1000 miles away from my hometown. I left because I was so incredibly scared of you, scared you would come back and hurt me, and say things...
    sarahtorrella sarahtorrella 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 15, 2014

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    I believed the words you threw at me.

    They bore down deep into my soul. To my very core I believed I was unworthy of your respect. That I deserved every horrible name you uttered. Thought it was acceptable to not be allowed to see my family or friends. Even believed that not seeing them was better for our...
    Happinessismine Happinessismine 31-35, F 4 Responses Mar 31

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    I am unsure at this point

    if it is verbal abuse or if I deserve it bc of my unstable emotions and what I do. Most the time I am truly not doing anything wrong. That's what I genuinely feel but I find different quickly. I am often called a *****, retarded, slow. I also am told to "grow up" and that if I'm...
    defeatthemind defeatthemind 22-25, F 1 Response Feb 14

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    She was so mean to me

    but I still love her and miss her everyday
    desculpa desculpa 22-25, F 1 Response Feb 19

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    How does she find a way to hurt me

    even when we aren't talking.
    desculpa desculpa 22-25, F Mar 16

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    It hurts so much. There's not a day I don't cry.

    I hate when it's close to the time he will get home. Not to mention how much I dread weekends(he's off Friday, Saturday and Sunday). He will gripe, scream, belittle me, tell me how stupid I am, tell me I'm a grown woman stop the stupid crying no one cares, there's nothing I can...
    Txwoman123 Txwoman123 41-45, F 10 Responses Feb 15

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    ...

    and it makes it really hard to have normal relationships once you're damaged goods... because now everything makes us feel vulnerable and easily hurt. And so, even if it's emotional intimacy that we want most, we can't even begin to enjoy it because we're so hurt, so scarred, so...
    CrazyHippieChick CrazyHippieChick 70+, F 4 Responses Dec 8, 2013

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    I need some help.... I've been with my partner

    3 years and ever since our son was born 9 months ago I've been treated like dirt. I can understand pregnancy hormones but everything Is do is wrong. I'm called vile and disgusting and told I make the women In fell in love withs skin crawl. I work really hard to provide for my...
    bighugstoall bighugstoall 26-30, M 3 Responses Mar 20

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    Part 2: Well it's now been 6 years.

    I am the crazy one and he is mr perfect to his friends and family! A few times we went out with friends and he was mr chatty to everyone but me and it made me feel so hurt and upset that I went off on him in front of everyone. I feel stupid but he drove me to it. And then when I...
    snw1980 snw1980 31-35, F 1 Response Jul 18, 2014

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    I have to spend 3 whole days with my dad

    while on vacation. I had to sit in a car with him for about 8 hours so far, and it felt like torture!! I don't know how I'm going to survive this week. I already feel like crying. :/
    Hipstercatlover Hipstercatlover 16-17, F 2 Responses Mar 31

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    All she did was make me feel terrible,

    she tells me I didn't do enough and I didn't care enough, that I wasn't good enough. But all I want is her, I'm so desperate, and so alone without her. I would do anything even to be back in her twisted, abusive, manipulative embrace.
    Phantom7835 Phantom7835 26-30, M 1 Response Mar 17

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    Physical aggression by a man toward his partner

    is abuse, even if it happens only once. If he raises a fist; punches a hole in the wall; throws things at you; blocks your way; restrains you; grabs, pushes, or pokes you; or threatens to hurt you, that’s physical abuse. He is creating fear and using your need for physical...
    Lostnalone22 Lostnalone22 31-35, F 4 Responses Jul 31, 2014

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    My mom is emotionally abusive to me she keeps

    nagging me about my weight and keeps telling me I can't be with my boyfriend and marry him because of his emotional impairment and my physical disability and that I give her stress
    Cowgirl1992 Cowgirl1992 22-25, F 3 Responses Feb 13

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    Drained By A Vampire

    No, not the fictional variety, but the emotional variety. More and more was asked of me, I gave and gave. I gave not only time but trust. And I lost so much of myself in the process. First it all seemed so caring, so I gave freely of myself, my trust. But then it began.  The...
    DinahMoeHumm DinahMoeHumm 41-45, F 4 Responses Aug 2, 2012

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    Growing up, my mother would have these "moods"

    where she would get angry at some small mistake or mishap and scream and yell at anyone within her sight. She would always blame me or my father for whatever was wrong. I grew up hearing how I was a "bad child", how I couldn't do anything right, how I was never gonna amount to...
    bookworm2014 bookworm2014 22-25, F 6 Responses Jan 13, 2014

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    The Art Of Emotional Abuse

    ~THE ART OF EMOTIONAL ABUSE~ THE CANVAS How do you become the victim of emotional abuse? Why don’t you just get out? I’ve been asked “What did he do to you?” BRUSH STROKES There are no concrete answers to that question. No physical wounds to prove the damage. It’s so...
    Breeziiee Breeziiee 41-45, F 21 Responses Aug 8, 2013

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    My Story #2 Mental/Physical/Emotional/Verbal Abuse

    I DON'T REALLY KNOW HOW TO START THIS, BUT I CAN TRY. I HAVE BEEN MENTALLY/EMOTIONALLY/VERBALLY/PHYSICALLY ABUSED BY MY EX BOYFRIEND FOR A LONG LONG TIME. I HAVE DECIDED TO SHARE THIS BECAUSE I HAVE GOTTEN TO THE POINT WHERE IT WILL HELP ME THROUGH MY PROCESS. I LOST MYSELF TO...
    mellymel30 mellymel30 26-30, F 2 Responses Apr 5, 2013

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    Nothing like waking up

    and being called lazy and useless. I don't recall those being words of affirmation :(
    TCL009 TCL009 41-45, F 2 Responses Aug 8, 2014

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    I don't understand abuse within a relationship.

    If you truly love someone why would you want to hurt them with words or actions. When you love someone you want to see them smile, be happy, you aim to bring out the best in them because you are a team. I don't understand why you want to hurt me. Do you enjoy seeing tears...
    Searchingforreallove Searchingforreallove 26-30, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    I've noticed more and more lately

    that I am uncomfortable in my own home.everytime I come back,I am scared of what my mother is going to lay on me.if it's not chores,it's usually an insult.i think she just looks to find things about me to complain about.like my room.its my room,why does it matter what it looks...
    loftydreamer18 loftydreamer18 22-25, F 1 Response Nov 18, 2014

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    I'm a first time mom,

    and stupidly I believed my SO when he said he would change.... thought it would get better when we had our beautiful baby boy.... but it's only gotten worse.... are there any other moms out there struggling with a lazy, selfish baby daddy who does nothing but complain about...
    FTMandLost FTMandLost 26-30, F 2 Responses Apr 2

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    if someone is treating you badly

    who has a mental illness (bipolar w schizophrenia symptoms,ptsd .he takes meds 4 it) , should you just to some degree let it go because it can be attributed to the illness , or can it possibly be willful of them to do that? my bf is always calling me mean names ,belittes me...
    foxyoxy123 foxyoxy123 26-30, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    Mongolians have calumniated me grossly possibly

    attempted material damage of me, and possibly Mongolian soldiers have sexually abused me when I advertised to Soyombo newspaper to seek marriage, throughout there has been gross exploitation of my Love and this has gone on for 21 years, is there some way this people can be...
    inezaltar inezaltar 36-40 1 Response Mar 9

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    I feel like I need to share the truth about my

    relationship somewhere. I have been in a relationship with a guy who has made me feel isolated, like a disgusting animal, a stupid child, and depressed for more than 3 years. None of the ugly came out in him until after I was committed and emotional invested in him. We were...
    myselffirst myselffirst 22-25, F 7 Responses Jun 26, 2014

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    Vindicated!! It was a small win,

    but at couples therapy tonight the therapist told my wife that no matter what I offer her in gestures or attempts, she only gets angry or ridicules me. My wife got very upset and almost walked out accusing the therapist of being unsafe and biased. The therapist was able to talk...
    deepbreathneeded deepbreathneeded 36-40, M 2 Responses Sep 22, 2014

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    Emotional abuse is just

    as bad I think because it causes undue stress. Stress can kill you. It will cause you to make poor decisions. I am victimized at times even at the age of 30 by the older generations. older folks that act like kids teasing and laughing like idiots. It is Hard to deal with. I was...
    jamielove7777 jamielove7777 26-30, F 1 Response Mar 31

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    With my being in love with a loser has caused a

    lot of agony. Being cheated on over and over. Being told that he didn't like what I had on and that I was crazy. Yea i was damn crazy for loving such a jackass. I WAS a victim of emotional abuse. I finally got the strength to leave. It was for the best.
    SentimentalMood SentimentalMood 36-40, F 3 Responses Nov 12, 2014

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    I feel like it was my fault,

    like I needed to be there for her more
    desculpa desculpa 22-25, F Feb 21

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    Oh wow.I'm finally free.

    finally! Eh.. But eh.... Whew! Whatta unnecessary rollercoaster THAT was! Phew! Jeez!
    amtired amtired 22-25, F 7 Responses Nov 21, 2014

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    I never considered emotional abuse

    as an option until a couselor
    Reinventmyself Reinventmyself 46-50, F 1 Response Mar 20

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    i'm hurting. his words are vicious,

    cruel, disgusting, and couldn't be farther from the truth. yet i give in to his bs and swallow it. absorb it. in the same sentence he will tell me that he loves me, but then call me a crazy, psycho, wh*re b*tch. he disrepects my family when it's just me and him. but to them...
    mermaid81 mermaid81 31-35, F 5 Responses Nov 21, 2014

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    Tale of Two Husbands: Dr. Jekyl & Mr. Hyde

    I can't believe it happened to me. I thought I was too smart, too wise. I'd had therapy. Hell, my husband had worked as a mental health therapist for 10 years, and we both have PhDs. Here's my realization:  That I'd been excusing his "moods" and assuming he'd...
    FormerDoorMat FormerDoorMat 51-55, F 61 Responses Mar 12, 2009

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    Well, technically I was.

    But it leaves scars. Scars so deep and infected, time refuses to heal them. Scars so bad reopening them takes but a word, or a sentence and they take days to close up again. They leave you so affrais f bleeding out that you burn bridges and cut yourself off from people who can't...
    bluecupcakes bluecupcakes 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 20

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