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I Am a Victim of Emotional Abuse

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    What do you do when someone constantly

    threatens you with self harm and suicide everytime you try to break the bonds with them or even just take a step back to look after yourself for a change rather than always being there for them. He threatens to go back on drugs or to give up on this life and that I'm all he has...
    Mari3028 Mari3028 31-35, F 4 Responses Aug 20

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    My parents were divorced about a decade ago.

    The Cause: my mom and dad would have terrible fights. It was horrible. I was an only child. My mom would sometimes sleep in my room when she was upset with my dad. She didn't have much control in the house; my dad oversaw everything. My dad has a terrible temper. He would get...
    Novuko129 Novuko129 16-17, F 2 Responses Jul 22

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    I just not to sure about expose my experience.

    .first time talking about it and also I apologize for my broken English this is not easy for my..dam I dont even started and broke on crying my boyfriend living with me since 3 years he have been on jail not once at 3 times. .I think he is taking drugs cause he comes from his...
    lyd238 lyd238 41-45, F 2 Responses Aug 9

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    i'm hurting. his words are vicious,

    cruel, disgusting, and couldn't be farther from the truth. yet i give in to his bs and swallow it. absorb it. in the same sentence he will tell me that he loves me, but then call me a crazy, psycho, wh*re b*tch. he disrepects my family when it's just me and him. but to them...
    mermaid81 mermaid81 31-35, F 5 Responses Nov 21, 2014

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    Hi, I'm Gianna and I'm currently 15.

    I'm sorry if anything I say offends you in any way, but I tend to be very blunt because that's the way I've been talked to. I have been emotionally abused by my grandfather for years ever since I came to live with him since my father died when I was seven. I don't know exactly...
    CagedBird1778 CagedBird1778 13-15, F 1 Response Jul 22

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    Dear ******* Who Hurt Me

    for Four Years, I am no longer your emotional slave. You hurts me so bad that I was diagnosed with PTSD. You drove me out of the state, 1000 miles away from my hometown. I left because I was so incredibly scared of you, scared you would come back and hurt me, and say things...
    sarahtorrella sarahtorrella 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 15, 2014

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    I feel like I need to share the truth about my

    relationship somewhere. I have been in a relationship with a guy who has made me feel isolated, like a disgusting animal, a stupid child, and depressed for more than 3 years. None of the ugly came out in him until after I was committed and emotional invested in him. We were...
    myselffirst myselffirst 22-25, F 7 Responses Jun 26, 2014

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    Physical aggression by a man toward his partner

    is abuse, even if it happens only once. If he raises a fist; punches a hole in the wall; throws things at you; blocks your way; restrains you; grabs, pushes, or pokes you; or threatens to hurt you, that’s physical abuse. He is creating fear and using your need for physical...
    Beautifulnlost22 Beautifulnlost22 31-35, F 4 Responses Jul 31, 2014

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    Having found a very good video,

    I wish to share it.
    berangere berangere 66-70, F 1 Response Aug 4

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    I believed the words you threw at me.

    They bore down deep into my soul. To my very core I believed I was unworthy of your respect. That I deserved every horrible name you uttered. Thought it was acceptable to not be allowed to see my family or friends. Even believed that not seeing them was better for our...
    Happinessismine Happinessismine 31-35, F 7 Responses Mar 31

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    I've never verbally told anyone about my

    depression or emotional abuse due to the extreme sensitivity of the topics. But within the next week that's gonna change because I have to do it with my band teacher. Just the thought of it makes me nervous and shake, but after doing it I'm sure I'll feel so much more relieved...
    Hipstercatlover Hipstercatlover 16-17, F 2 Responses Aug 19

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    my father . he , never stops yelling at me

    for the slightest things . I left my shoes out in the middle of our garage and he tripped on them and he nearly snapped and physically snapped on me . So tonight , i was on instagram , doing rates ( because i was bored ) with my 17 year old cousin .. so i sent him a picture...
    NotMyselfAtAll NotMyselfAtAll 16-17, M 1 Response Aug 20

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    To my mom who has tortured me

    for years I'm taking my life back. I am not worthless and I have people who love me even if you don't. In three months I'm leaving you will not make my senior year hell. I am not scared of you anymore. You will not keep me from see in my friends and family. I'm sick of being...
    Bellamey1 Bellamey1 16-17, F 1 Response Jul 21

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    I was in love with him from the very start,

    but he never reciprocated. We became friends, though. It all started when my other friend came to me and said he knew I was in love with him and, furthermore, he was mocking my feelings behind my back. I asked him about it, and he said she was lying to me. We grew closer and...
    papergirl1 papergirl1 18-21, F Aug 13

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    Coming Up For Air

    I loved the attention.After being ignored for so many years I loved that someone thought that I was worth listening to, that what I had to say mattered.I loved that I felt attractive again, that I felt desired.I loved that I felt loved.He never hit me. He rarely said an unkind...
    Quintesse Quintesse 51-55, F 66 Responses Aug 19, 2011

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    Vindicated!! It was a small win,

    but at couples therapy tonight the therapist told my wife that no matter what I offer her in gestures or attempts, she only gets angry or ridicules me. My wife got very upset and almost walked out accusing the therapist of being unsafe and biased. The therapist was able to talk...
    deepbreathneeded deepbreathneeded 36-40, M 2 Responses Sep 22, 2014

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    ...

    and it makes it really hard to have normal relationships once you're damaged goods... because now everything makes us feel vulnerable and easily hurt. And so, even if it's emotional intimacy that we want most, we can't even begin to enjoy it because we're so hurt, so scarred, so...
    CrazyHippieChick CrazyHippieChick 22-25 5 Responses Dec 8, 2013

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    In the beginning my now husband was very sweet

    always opening the door for me and always putting me before everything else. There was a time i actually felt like he loved me. After he came home from Iraq he was a different man. He always proceeded to make me cry, to put me down, and to threaten to beat me so hard that i...
    Sexygirl8807 Sexygirl8807 26-30 29 Responses Dec 13, 2013

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    As a male victim of an emotionally & verbally

    abusive marriage, I had a hard time finding people who would listen and help, especially in the Christian church world. As the target of abuse, the main questions I needed to discuss and/or have answered were, "Why did you (my wife) treat me in the cruel ways that you did...
    bwDVOWRD bwDVOWRD 26-30, M 4 Responses Sep 29, 2014

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    I need help leaving an abusive relationship.

    He controls all the money so I can't afford to leave. My family won't help because they are afraid of him and I can find no resources. I was told I could live in a shelter but will not do that to my kids! I need help and suggestions. I can't go on any longer
    cmabbott14 cmabbott14 22-25, F 10 Responses Aug 2

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    I just walked out of an abusive relationship

    funny he forced me to leave the last thing he said was either you blame all of the abuse on yourself or gtfo i finally came to terms that he never loved me... I feel ok (safe)
    rossp24 rossp24 22-25, F 5 Responses Mar 11, 2014

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    So after I wrote on here last night about

    trying to escape this abusive relationship my partner snooped through my phone and found it. So scared
    cmabbott14 cmabbott14 22-25, F 1 Response 23 hrs ago

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    For five years, I was in a relationship with a

    domineering man, who controlled everything I did. I was not allowed to be myself with him. He didn't care about what I wanted or what I needed. He let me starve while he pigged out. He made me feel stupid, incompetent, ugly and dirty. He made me feel like I could not take care...
    Bluebutterflywings Bluebutterflywings 26-30, F 3 Responses Jun 15, 2014

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    My mom constantly abuses me emotionally

    and mentally. She physically abused me once, as well. I tried to kill myself once and it didn't work. I don't know what else to do.
    suicidalbieber suicidalbieber 16-17, F 2 Responses Aug 15

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    Just Because Its Not Visible Does Not Mean Its Not There

    I know there are many examples of emotional/mental abuse on here, and each one is important. I also know that this form of abuse can come from both men and women. I happened to be on the receiving end of emotional abuse from my wife. She is now my ex..   As a little back story...
    Army0917 Army0917 31-35, M 9 Responses Mar 19, 2011

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    Growing up, my mother would have these "moods"

    where she would get angry at some small mistake or mishap and scream and yell at anyone within her sight. She would always blame me or my father for whatever was wrong. I grew up hearing how I was a "bad child", how I couldn't do anything right, how I was never gonna amount to...
    bookworm2014 bookworm2014 22-25, F 5 Responses Jan 13, 2014

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    I was with my man for seven years.

    in that time his family made it abundantly clear they couldn't stand me His mom told us she "preferred " we not marry. she like when I said it wasn't her choice. At every turn she put me down. Her other son also decided to follow in her footsteps and torment me I would get...
    moonstar312 moonstar312 41-45, F 1 Response Aug 15

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    Gofundme.com/needoutnow Just set this up trying

    to get out of this horrible relationship. Just got released from the hospital from a failed suicide attempt! Not letting him take my life!
    cmabbott14 cmabbott14 22-25, F Aug 11

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    I tried to kill myself with pills didn't work

    then I pulled out a gun to shoot myself! Matt his the bullets so guess it wasn't meant to be. Now at hospital and perhaps moves to psych ward
    cmabbott14 cmabbott14 22-25, F 2 Responses Aug 6

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    Why do I still put value on things

    that I do know are invaluable? Like my relationships with family and society in general , it only ends in disappointments. Being rejected by society is just dehumanizing af. I can't seem to break away completely from it and I don't think it will ever be possible. I am just...
    BodyOfWar BodyOfWar 22-25, F 7 Responses Jul 16

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    I learned a lot of things

    while i was married to an abusive man for 10yrs.. I learned that i am not strong enough to take care of myself.. and so i stopped and let him I learned that i am not smart enough to make any decisions on my own because everything i did was wrong. .and so i stopped and let him...
    sweetpea6200 sweetpea6200 31-35, F 7 Responses Apr 21, 2014

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    With my being in love with a loser has caused a

    lot of agony. Being cheated on over and over. Being told that he didn't like what I had on and that I was crazy. Yea i was damn crazy for loving such a jackass. I WAS a victim of emotional abuse. I finally got the strength to leave. It was for the best.
    SentimentalMood SentimentalMood 36-40, F 3 Responses Nov 12, 2014

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    Not True

    ***** do this and ***** do that that's what I got woke up to everyday. Your nothing but a worthless **** no one will ever want you. Your retarted! You can't do anything right. Your nasty your ugly. This is what emotional abuse is. After hearing it so long you think its true. I'm...
    holehearted79 holehearted79 36-40, F 4 Responses Jul 15, 2013

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    Part 2: Well it's now been 6 years.

    I am the crazy one and he is mr perfect to his friends and family! A few times we went out with friends and he was mr chatty to everyone but me and it made me feel so hurt and upset that I went off on him in front of everyone. I feel stupid but he drove me to it. And then when I...
    snw1980 snw1980 31-35, F 1 Response Jul 18, 2014

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    I am stuck. I can't leave

    or will lose my career and possibly my life. I'm dying inside and no one knows because I live with a charismatic narcissist who people love but have no clue what they are really like. I'm isolated and lonely and feel like I am sinking into the abyss
    AnnDroid7 AnnDroid7 41-45, F 6 Responses Aug 16

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    Drained By A Vampire

    No, not the fictional variety, but the emotional variety. More and more was asked of me, I gave and gave. I gave not only time but trust. And I lost so much of myself in the process. First it all seemed so caring, so I gave freely of myself, my trust. But then it began.  The...
    DinahMoeHumm DinahMoeHumm 41-45, F 4 Responses Aug 2, 2012

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    I want him gone I want him out of my house I

    can't stand him any more is getting worse and worse he keeps saying all these mean horrible things to me I can't take it any more he thinks he is perfect and does not do anything wrong when he does all the time I'm done can't do it no more he blames me for everything all the...
    LuvLostSoul LuvLostSoul 26-30, F 3 Responses Jul 20

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    I am a man, and my wife is.

    .. it's hard to say it and feel like I'm really telling the truth, but she's my abuser. She treats my questions as though they have obvious answers. She treats me like I'm just a participant in our life, not a partner. She treats me like my opinion on something, or my desire...
    Felixthestoat Felixthestoat 22-25, T 11 Responses Apr 18, 2014

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    Tale of Two Husbands: Dr. Jekyl & Mr. Hyde

    I can't believe it happened to me. I thought I was too smart, too wise. I'd had therapy. Hell, my husband had worked as a mental health therapist for 10 years, and we both have PhDs. Here's my realization:  That I'd been excusing his "moods" and assuming he'd...
    FormerDoorMat FormerDoorMat 51-55, F 62 Responses Mar 12, 2009

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    I tiptoe on eggshells around you darling,

    I try not to remind myself of the heartache, The pain too real to pretend it never happened. Don’t you see, he destroyed who I was. Kicking me to the ground, Leaving bruises on my collarbones, And now I’m terrified of letting myself go again. Babe, don’t stand close to me...
    chronicfiend chronicfiend 22-25, F a week ago

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    My Story #2 Mental/Physical/Emotional/Verbal Abuse

    I DON'T REALLY KNOW HOW TO START THIS, BUT I CAN TRY. I HAVE BEEN MENTALLY/EMOTIONALLY/VERBALLY/PHYSICALLY ABUSED BY MY EX BOYFRIEND FOR A LONG LONG TIME. I HAVE DECIDED TO SHARE THIS BECAUSE I HAVE GOTTEN TO THE POINT WHERE IT WILL HELP ME THROUGH MY PROCESS. I LOST MYSELF TO...
    mellymel30 mellymel30 31-35, F 2 Responses Apr 5, 2013

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    And the wealthy promote it.

    Conquest is promoted. And king of the hill. And luxury. Not quality Not equality Unless slaves. Not health Unless paid for fake fixes Not honesty Unless its to attack the upset foe of wealth. Why no solar country. A chinese guy built a solar city. On a...
    Converted Converted 46-50, M 1 Response Jul 16

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    I was once alone... I was isolated from the

    outside world, my family, my friends. He wanted that to be. I did not want them to see. I was filled with shame, shame on me. I was beaten down, told I was nothing. I was stupid. I did not want them to see. I did not want them to see me, how stupid I could be... I was...
    Mm8335 Mm8335 36-40, F 4 Responses Aug 25, 2014

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    let's see so the other day I was called lazy

    and I don't want to do anything with my life just because it's taking me a lot of time to find a job well guess what he doesn't work either he actually quit his job I told him it wasn't a good idea but he wanted to because he was tired of the way his coworkers and his boss was...
    LuvLostSoul LuvLostSoul 26-30, F 1 Response Jul 19

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    Nothing like waking up

    and being called lazy and useless. I don't recall those being words of affirmation :(