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I Am a Victim of Emotional Abuse

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    As a male victim of an emotionally & verbally

    abusive marriage, I had a hard time finding people who would listen and help, especially in the Christian church world. As the target of abuse, the main questions I needed to discuss and/or have answered were, "Why did you (my wife) treat me in the cruel ways that you did...
    bwDVOWRD bwDVOWRD 26-30, M 4 Responses Sep 29, 2014

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    For five years, I was in a relationship with a

    domineering man, who controlled everything I did. I was not allowed to be myself with him. He didn't care about what I wanted or what I needed. He let me starve while he pigged out. He made me feel stupid, incompetent, ugly and dirty. He made me feel like I could not take care...
    Bluebutterflywings Bluebutterflywings 26-30, F 3 Responses Jun 15, 2014

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    Dear ******* Who Hurt Me

    for Four Years, I am no longer your emotional slave. You hurts me so bad that I was diagnosed with PTSD. You drove me out of the state, 1000 miles away from my hometown. I left because I was so incredibly scared of you, scared you would come back and hurt me, and say things...
    sarahtorrella sarahtorrella 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 15, 2014

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    i'm hurting. his words are vicious,

    cruel, disgusting, and couldn't be farther from the truth. yet i give in to his bs and swallow it. absorb it. in the same sentence he will tell me that he loves me, but then call me a crazy, psycho, wh*re b*tch. he disrepects my family when it's just me and him. but to them...
    mermaid81 mermaid81 31-35, F 5 Responses Nov 21, 2014

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    I wish to share this video with all victims of

    abuse,I hope it will be of help on your road to healing and recovery.
    berangere berangere 66-70, F May 15

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    My first wife left me

    and my two year old. I was devastated to say the least. I met my current wife when he was four. She has helped me raise him and we have a 17 year old son together. I made a promise to stand by her no matter what. She can be a very angry person and wants everything her way. My...
    jaymic64 jaymic64 51-55, M 6 Responses Mar 26

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    I just walked out of an abusive relationship

    funny he forced me to leave the last thing he said was either you blame all of the abuse on yourself or gtfo i finally came to terms that he never loved me... I feel ok (safe)
    rossp24 rossp24 22-25, F 5 Responses Mar 11, 2014

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    I had to pull myself out of suicidal thoughts

    alone tonight. My parents will never accept the fact that they are part of the problem.
    sassycastiel sassycastiel 18-21, F 2 Responses May 20

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    To my father & abuser

    for 25 years: I am writing to inform you that I know exactly who and what you are. (A Malignant Narcissist, psychopath, antisocial, hateful, wife beater, child abuser, blackmailer, emotional terrorist, pathological liar, manipulator, coward, adult bully & emotional rapist - a...
    wowodeals wowodeals 26-30, F 4 Responses 6 hrs ago

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    Part 2: Well it's now been 6 years.

    I am the crazy one and he is mr perfect to his friends and family! A few times we went out with friends and he was mr chatty to everyone but me and it made me feel so hurt and upset that I went off on him in front of everyone. I feel stupid but he drove me to it. And then when I...
    snw1980 snw1980 31-35, F 1 Response Jul 18, 2014

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    My Story #2 Mental/Physical/Emotional/Verbal Abuse

    I DON'T REALLY KNOW HOW TO START THIS, BUT I CAN TRY. I HAVE BEEN MENTALLY/EMOTIONALLY/VERBALLY/PHYSICALLY ABUSED BY MY EX BOYFRIEND FOR A LONG LONG TIME. I HAVE DECIDED TO SHARE THIS BECAUSE I HAVE GOTTEN TO THE POINT WHERE IT WILL HELP ME THROUGH MY PROCESS. I LOST MYSELF TO...
    mellymel30 mellymel30 31-35, F 2 Responses Apr 5, 2013

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    I was previously married.

    It was an experience for lack of better words. This week I have felt the need to read over my old blog that I kept privately to keep me sane. I just cried reading it. To think of how much I went through and the emotional pain I was in. Like being trapped in a cage and having to...
    Elpis11 Elpis11 31-35, F 5 Responses Jun 20

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    One of the hardest things about my situation of

    emotional abuse is, my dad is the abuser, and I can't really get away from it except leaving the house which I can't really do because I don't have a car that I can just drive away in. I've told a very trusted teacher of mine (Of 3 years going on 4) and my new best friend about...
    Hipstercatlover Hipstercatlover 16-17, F 5 Responses Jun 6

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    well....theres not much to say.

    i feel my story is inferior to those who have spent their entire lives being abused. mine was a short 2 months with a boyfriend. i didn't understand what happened. before we got together he would phone me every night for hours. after we got together, he'd never phone me. he'd...
    Lizzy90242 Lizzy90242 16-17, F 3 Responses May 27

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    You Are not alone. I know how you feel

    and I know what it is like when those thoughts and feelings creep in. Remember, we actually don't have to believe everything we think. Due to trying to build an intimate relationship with someone who turned out to be very passive aggressive and manipulative I now go through a...
    mariayoga mariayoga 31-35, F 1 Response May 14

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    Just Because Its Not Visible Does Not Mean Its Not There

    I know there are many examples of emotional/mental abuse on here, and each one is important. I also know that this form of abuse can come from both men and women. I happened to be on the receiving end of emotional abuse from my wife. She is now my ex..   As a little back story...
    Army0917 Army0917 31-35, M 9 Responses Mar 19, 2011

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    Hi everyone! After 25 years of being financially

    and emotionally abused by my father I am suing him and finding the process a bit overwhelming. Even more overwhelming is seeing how deep the abuse goes, finding out im not the messed up person he has always made me think I am, finding out how mentally unstable he is and the...
    amaykate amaykate 22-25 Jun 10

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    Hurt Is The Understatement of the Millenia by

    Leymi It was a mistake, it was a lie Our past based on deciet You and me, no longer anything You lied to me, made me feel loved And why? To hurt me? Congratulations. You did. I've never hurt this bad, My heart has never been torn from my chest And my skin has never been...
    Beautifulnlost22 Beautifulnlost22 31-35, F 2 Responses May 15

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    berangere berangere 66-70, F 2 Responses Apr 30

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    i was nine years old ,

    when my friend's mum got sick and my mother asked to go for a sleep over to keep her company as her mum was very sick. she had her own bedroom but her mum that night her mum asked to come to sleep in her bedroom though she had a boyfriend and he was sleeping with her on their...
    filante filante 26-30, F 1 Response May 7

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    From the outside, my life at home looks

    fabulous. I couldn't have a better mom and dad. I go to university, which they help pay for, and I live in my moms house. My parents are divorced and both remarried. My moms house is quite large. My mom also eats out a lot, so it looks like we are well-off financially. On the...
    emilie021 emilie021 18-21, F 4 Responses Jun 20

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    I was once alone... I was isolated from the

    outside world, my family, my friends. He wanted that to be. I did not want them to see. I was filled with shame, shame on me. I was beaten down, told I was nothing. I was stupid. I did not want them to see. I did not want them to see me, how stupid I could be... I was...
    Mm8335 Mm8335 36-40, F 4 Responses Aug 25, 2014

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    I am depressed.people say the meanest things

    sometimes. Especially my abusive ex. He made fun of me almost daily. If I was so bad in his opinion, why'd he talk to me? I don't understand. I want to give up on life. I can't handle it. I have no energy to do anything. What should I do? Sigh... I really don't like mean people...
    amtired amtired 22-25, F 3 Responses Jun 18

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    When I was growing up I hated her

    and my stepfather being at home. She always shouted for one reason or another and he was quiet and when he made remarks they were awful. Fast forward 30 years and I have a son now. She came to visit wanting to play grandmother. I have told her million times that I feel nervous...
    Loveart8 Loveart8 41-45, F 1 Response Jun 23

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    Coming Up For Air

    I loved the attention.After being ignored for so many years I loved that someone thought that I was worth listening to, that what I had to say mattered.I loved that I felt attractive again, that I felt desired.I loved that I felt loved.He never hit me. He rarely said an unkind...
    Quintesse Quintesse 51-55, F 66 Responses Aug 19, 2011

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    Learned Helplessness They say These clever

    scientist folks, That there is such a thing As learned helplessness; Cage a rat Subject it To repeated trauma Until it is so tired of fighting It will lie in the corner And take the pain Not leaving Even when the door is opened I know this to be true This has been me Cowering...
    Beautifulnlost22 Beautifulnlost22 31-35, F 1 Response May 10

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    What Is Emotional Abuse.

    What is Emotional Abuse? I've asked myself this question a million times. I never knew the answers and for a long time I was too afraid to find them, I was afraid of what I'd discover. About myself, about my spouse, about our life. Then for some reason in the last couple of weeks...
    UndeniablyConfused UndeniablyConfused 26-30, F 65 Responses Dec 1, 2008

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    he told me I was a *****

    and that's all I am. that's not very nice. especially when I already feel like crap about myself. in church once a pastor said that a relationship is like a gas tank. it starts out full. but once you have a heart ache it slowly empties. sure something good can happen and you try...
    yesitsme123 yesitsme123 31-35 2 Responses May 18

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    Vindicated!! It was a small win,

    but at couples therapy tonight the therapist told my wife that no matter what I offer her in gestures or attempts, she only gets angry or ridicules me. My wife got very upset and almost walked out accusing the therapist of being unsafe and biased. The therapist was able to talk...
    deepbreathneeded deepbreathneeded 36-40, M 2 Responses Sep 22, 2014

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    Drained By A Vampire

    No, not the fictional variety, but the emotional variety. More and more was asked of me, I gave and gave. I gave not only time but trust. And I lost so much of myself in the process. First it all seemed so caring, so I gave freely of myself, my trust. But then it began.  The...
    DinahMoeHumm DinahMoeHumm 41-45, F 4 Responses Aug 2, 2012

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    With my being in love with a loser has caused a

    lot of agony. Being cheated on over and over. Being told that he didn't like what I had on and that I was crazy. Yea i was damn crazy for loving such a jackass. I WAS a victim of emotional abuse. I finally got the strength to leave. It was for the best.
    SentimentalMood SentimentalMood 36-40, F 3 Responses Nov 12, 2014

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    Not True

    ***** do this and ***** do that that's what I got woke up to everyday. Your nothing but a worthless **** no one will ever want you. Your retarted! You can't do anything right. Your nasty your ugly. This is what emotional abuse is. After hearing it so long you think its true. I'm...
    holehearted79 holehearted79 31-35, F 4 Responses Jul 15, 2013

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    My parents emotionally abuse me.

    Never physical, just words. Over today my dad has called us (me and my sisters) names 17 times, dropped curse words over 4 dozen, and overall made me feel like crap. I don't know what to do. My mom never defends us but goes right along with him. Honestly, I hate my home life and...
    TheCupcakeQueen TheCupcakeQueen 13-15, F 1 Response May 16

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    Nothing like waking up

    and being called lazy and useless. I don't recall those being words of affirmation :(
    TheCunylinguist TheCunylinguist 41-45, F 2 Responses Aug 8, 2014

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    I believed the words you threw at me.

    They bore down deep into my soul. To my very core I believed I was unworthy of your respect. That I deserved every horrible name you uttered. Thought it was acceptable to not be allowed to see my family or friends. Even believed that not seeing them was better for our...
    Happinessismine Happinessismine 31-35, F 5 Responses Mar 31

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    bateine ki baat hein ?

    nehi to? e meri apni hein. e koi nehi le sakte hein humse. e.. humara hein... humara i rahe ga. jab jau.. dusri gaw .. dusri dofa vogoban.. jab puse humko... "ANJALEE..." tum itna sari baat mere liye rakh liya? Kui, beti? Batao.. aramse.. dor na maat. tab batau.. eai HUMARA...
    apsebatienhuye apsebatienhuye 56-60, F Jun 16

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    I had an abusive boyfriend

    who manipulated me
    JadeHunter JadeHunter 13-15, F May 14

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    ~THE ART OF EMOTIONAL ABUSE~ THE CANVAS How do

    you become the victim of emotional abuse? Why don’t you just get out? I’ve been asked “What did he do to you?” BRUSH STROKES There are no concrete answers to that question. No physical wounds to prove the damage. It’s so subtle & pervasive, as not to be described by a...
    Breeziiee Breeziiee 41-45, F 5 Responses Feb 20, 2014

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    I don't know where else to ask.

    Is this also abuse? I come home from working 3pm to 11pm at a nursing home where I care for people with Alzheimer's and Dementia. I love my job but it is demanding. My husband is a big hockey fan. His team did not make it to the finals. He gets angry when they lost and I am...
    mom4ce mom4ce 51-55, F 2 Responses Jun 13

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    Ive been picked on all of my life aswell,

    as i read the stories of users in this group. This is something that ruined my self esteem and my life pretty much. With my old EP account i was writing a diary about my bullying life. I dont think it helped somebody because my stories were simply ignored. But i will not be...
    lonely4560 lonely4560 31-35, F 4 Responses Jun 17

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    Tale of Two Husbands: Dr. Jekyl & Mr. Hyde

    I can't believe it happened to me. I thought I was too smart, too wise. I'd had therapy. Hell, my husband had worked as a mental health therapist for 10 years, and we both have PhDs. Here's my realization:  That I'd been excusing his "moods" and assuming he'd...
    FormerDoorMat FormerDoorMat 51-55, F 62 Responses Mar 12, 2009

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    Yasmin567 Yasmin567 22-25, F 3 Responses Jun 2

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    Growing up, my mother would have these "moods"

    where she would get angry at some small mistake or mishap and scream and yell at anyone within her sight. She would always blame me or my father for whatever was wrong. I grew up hearing how I was a "bad child", how I couldn't do anything right, how I was never gonna amount to...
    bookworm2014 bookworm2014 22-25, F 5 Responses Jan 13, 2014

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    I feel like I need to share the truth about my

    relationship somewhere. I have been in a relationship with a guy who has made me feel isolated, like a disgusting animal, a stupid child, and depressed for more than 3 years. None of the ugly came out in him until after I was committed and emotional invested in him. We were...
    myselffirst myselffirst 22-25, F 7 Responses Jun 26, 2014

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    One day, I'm going to do it.

    I am going to end my life. I don't want to be abused anymore. And I realize there's no hope for me. When I die, I will be free. The world is better off without me.
    CreoleItalianwoman CreoleItalianwoman 31-35, F 7 Responses May 10

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    I don't even know if I am a victim of emotional

    abuse. I feel like all the relationship problems between us are my fault but I'm doing my best otherwise. Apparently I'm self centered and I don't listen to his emotions but how can I when he almost never tells me how he's feeling??
    thatonecxnt thatonecxnt 22-25, F 2 Responses May 16

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