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I Am a Victim of Emotional Abuse

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    Every day unfortunately.

    He degrades me, berates me, humiliates me... Threatens and intimidates me... Makes me feel about an inch tall. Worthless, useless, hopeless...
    Drechavo Drechavo 31-35, F 4 Responses Jun 27

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    Is someone please available to talk?

    I really could use someone to talk to. I had a recent breakup with an abuser. I feel shattered. I feel weak. I feel so alone. He beat me physically and emotionally.
    amtired amtired 22-25 8 Responses Aug 18

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    Men Can Be Abused Too...

    I've been in emotionally abusive relationships all my life...including growing up with my mother. She still does it to me. I'm 39 and my mother still has the ability to **** with my head. I'm an only child so I don't have other siblings to share the torture with. I try to write...
    Trevoc3 Trevoc3 36-40, M 2 Responses Oct 23, 2013

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    Coming Up For Air

    I loved the attention.After being ignored for so many years I loved that someone thought that I was worth listening to, that what I had to say mattered.I loved that I felt attractive again, that I felt desired.I loved that I felt loved.He never hit me. He rarely said an unkind...
    Quintesse Quintesse 46-50, F 69 Responses Aug 19, 2011

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    Yes, not a pretty thing this,

    at all. Nor is it something I can look back at and laugh, though I've made a big effort to put it where it belongs, long long in the past.
    sometimeslonelytoo sometimeslonelytoo 41-45, M 2 Responses Aug 16

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    I recently learned that domestic abuse isn't

    limited to couples , I would never guessed it was also roommates as well. I did a lot of research into this before I figured out that I was actually a victim of domestic abuse. I've been having to deal with a circle of the some type of behavior, tension build up (things like not...
    Lunnaku Lunnaku 26-30 1 Response Aug 3

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    I just walked out of an abusive relationship

    funny he forced me to leave the last thing he said was either you blame all of the abuse on yourself or gtfo i finally came to terms that he never loved me... I feel ok (safe)
    rossp24 rossp24 18-21, F 5 Responses Mar 11

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    About maybe four years ago it started,

    I had really gave my love to a guy of my dreams, but I was so young and foolish, and he went out with me for a couple years and then just stopped talking to me. That same year I started middle school, and I liked another guy, and he embarrassed me in front of everyone at school...
    Zoex3 Zoex3 13-15, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    Can my dad be abusing me

    and not know it? I mean...is it possible he has no clue?
    atmarie atmarie 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 25

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    Why is it that when people hurt us we think

    something is wrong with us? -Joyce Meyer
    Rebecca321 Rebecca321 22-25, F 1 Response Jan 16

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    Nothing like waking up

    and being called lazy and useless. I don't recall those being words of affirmation :(
    TheCunylinguist TheCunylinguist 41-45, F 3 Responses Aug 8

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    14 Things You'll Hear In A Dangerous Relationship

    1. "You don't really love me." 2. "It's a two-way street, and you're not doing your part." 3. "I've done so much more for you." 4. "Why are you so selfish?" 5. "You're making yourself sad, not me." 6. "Stop being so sensitive, it was just a joke." 7. "If you loved me, you would...
    adreamingheart adreamingheart 18-21, F 6 Responses Nov 19, 2013

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    I need to get away from the abuse I wish some

    one would help me I need someone to love me and give me a place to call home
    Mallexx Mallexx 18-21, F 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    I am a man, and my wife is.

    .. it's hard to say it and feel like I'm really telling the truth, but she's my abuser. She treats my questions as though they have obvious answers. She treats me like I'm just a participant in our life, not a partner. She treats me like my opinion on something, or my desire...
    Felixthestoat Felixthestoat 22-25, T 10 Responses Apr 18

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    Not True

    ***** do this and ***** do that that's what I got woke up to everyday. Your nothing but a worthless **** no one will ever want you. Your retarted! You can't do anything right. Your nasty your ugly. This is what emotional abuse is. After hearing it so long you think its true. I'm...
    holehearted79 holehearted79 31-35, F 4 Responses Jul 15, 2013

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    I need help so bad. I don't know how my life

    could end up so destroyed. I am 34. I have been emotionally abused since I was 17. I was raped at 16. The same person I met at 17 I stayed with. He was so insecure with himself that he put me down frequently to keep me 'put'. We were married in 2004. I have 2 autoimmune...
    dolly454 dolly454 31-35, F 2 Responses Jul 28

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    For five years, I was in a relationship with a

    domineering man, who controlled everything I did. I was not allowed to be myself with him. He didn't care about what I wanted or what I needed. He let me starve while he pigged out. He made me feel stupid, incompetent, ugly and dirty. He made me feel like I could not take care...
    Bluebutterflywings Bluebutterflywings 26-30, F 2 Responses Jun 15

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    I still don't quite understand this

    but if you ask my ex psychologists they'll vouch for me
    Alylovespuppies Alylovespuppies 16-17, F 1 Response Aug 7

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    ..when you over care about the ones you love .

    .try your best to protect them and then they forget whatever you done as soon as you do one simple mistake .. Believe me its the worst feeling ..like if all your efforts were tossed in the trash . And when you fall deeply in love with someone who doesn't feel the same to you...
    ludee94 ludee94 18-21, F Apr 9

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    The Art Of Emotional Abuse

    ~THE ART OF EMOTIONAL ABUSE~ THE CANVAS How do you become the victim of emotional abuse? Why don’t you just get out? I’ve been asked “What did he do to you?” BRUSH STROKES There are no concrete answers to that question. No physical wounds to prove the damage. It’s so...
    Breeziiee Breeziiee 41-45, F 20 Responses Aug 8, 2013

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    Growing up, my mother would have these "moods"

    where she would get angry at some small mistake or mishap and scream and yell at anyone within her sight. She would always blame me or my father for whatever was wrong. I grew up hearing how I was a "bad child", how I couldn't do anything right, how I was never gonna amount to...
    bookworm2014 bookworm2014 22-25, F 6 Responses Jan 13

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    I thinks it's worst than physical.

    Although I have not experienced the physical. Sounds heal. Harsh words stick with you for a lifetime. My question is why do I find who are emotionally abusive? Do they smell my vulnerability? The last guy I was in a serious relationship with. I was engaged to him. He was...
    Prettygirl8726 Prettygirl8726 26-30, F 3 Responses 4 days ago

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    ~THE ART OF EMOTIONAL ABUSE~ THE CANVAS How do

    you become the victim of emotional abuse? Why don’t you just get out? I’ve been asked “What did he do to you?” BRUSH STROKES There are no concrete answers to that question. No physical wounds to prove the damage. It’s so subtle & pervasive, as not to be described by a...
    Breeziiee Breeziiee 41-45, F 3 Responses Feb 20

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    We'll my situation isn't really

    that bad I don't think. This has been going on for about 3 years and married for the last one of those years. I recently have been reading a lot and am starting to come to the realization that I may be in an emotionally abusive relationship. Everything I've read describes our...
    vana240 vana240 26-30, F 3 Responses Jul 16

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    Dear ******* Who Hurt Me

    for Four Years, I am no longer your emotional slave. You hurts me so bad that I was diagnosed with PTSD. You drove me out of the state, 1000 miles away from my hometown. I left because I was so incredibly scared of you, scared you would come back and hurt me, and say things...
    sarahtorrella sarahtorrella 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 15

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    I was in an emotionally abusive relationship

    for nearly a year back in 2012. It was my first real relationship, and he was the first guy I fell in love with (ironically). Needless to say, it was terrible and left me pretty shattered. Since then I've dated a few guys, but each time I catch myself doing some of the same...
    bluebubblebug bluebubblebug 22-25, F 4 Responses Jun 27

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    Drained By A Vampire

    No, not the fictional variety, but the emotional variety. More and more was asked of me, I gave and gave. I gave not only time but trust. And I lost so much of myself in the process. First it all seemed so caring, so I gave freely of myself, my trust. But then it began.  The...
    DinahMoeHumm DinahMoeHumm 41-45, F 4 Responses Aug 2, 2012

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    My dad has been emotionally abusing me

    for as long as I can remember. I want to move out but I have younger siblings who love me. I can't leave them. He doesn't do those things to them but I just can't let them down like that. Please pray for me. I feel very trapped.
    atmarie atmarie 18-21, F Jul 25

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    Part 1: I have been married 6 1/2 yrs together

    for 8. He is so subtle that I am just now realizing what it truly going on. I thought I married the perfect guy until not long after we got married. He changed very slowly and I wasn't sure what was going on. I thought he just worked too much or was depressed. The first thing...
    snw1980 snw1980 31-35, F 2 Responses Jul 18

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    Robyn64 Robyn64 46-50, F 2 Responses Jul 20

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    I am frustrated with myself.

    I am now seeing the pain of my years spent with my Narcissistic X playing out in my 22 year old daughter.   I lived for 20 years with this man thinking I was doing the best thing for my family.  Keep it together for the kids.  I can hide and pretend for the sake of my family...
    flodials flodials 41-45, F 2 Responses Dec 5, 2013

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    I Was Emotionally, Mentally, And Verbally Abused.

      I was abused by my father, sister, and brother. My parents got divorced when I was 9. That's when my life turned into a living hell. My mom left my dad because each day he would come home from work and yell at everyone. My mom couldn't handle it anymore, so she left. My...
    CrystalViolet7 CrystalViolet7 13-15, F 1 Response Mar 15, 2013

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    I recently got out of a verbal

    and emotionally abusive relationship but rather than share the actual story...for I am not up to recounting it...I thought I'd share the signs that I gathered and used to diagnose the problem. I had figured under 15 of these could be just normal relationship stress...but...
    theodore2324 theodore2324 22-25, M 7 Responses Jan 24

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    Tale of Two Husbands: Dr. Jekyl & Mr. Hyde

    I can't believe it happened to me. I thought I was too smart, too wise. I'd had therapy. Hell, my husband had worked as a mental health therapist for 10 years, and we both have PhDs. Here's my realization:  That I'd been excusing his "moods" and assuming he'd...
    FormerDoorMat FormerDoorMat 51-55, F 62 Responses Mar 12, 2009

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    I am not one to write on forums,

    blogs or message boards but after 9 months of trying everything else--- drugs, alcohol, dating, a shrink-- here I am. I want to tell my story and I hope that getting it off my chest and into cyberspace will give me the closure that I need to move on. I met my ex-fiancé about...
    arw2014 arw2014 26-30, F 2 Responses Jul 7

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    He told me to kill myself.

    .over and over and over.....and over....
    amtired amtired 22-25 9 Responses Aug 21

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    People who really know me know

    that I have a big heart underneath a tough shell. All of my life, I have felt the burden of emotions that I did not want. The primary offender is sadness. I will never forget walking out of the movie Bambi when I was a child and Bambi's mom was taken by a hunter. I have...
    MaunaLani13 MaunaLani13 46-50, M Jul 24

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    I'm only 14. I've had depression,

    technically, since I was about 8 or 9 (when I realized just how big of an a**hole my dad was), but it's only been a problem for about a year or so, right when my parents started getting divorced. I was all for the divorce, like I said my dad (and his family) was a terrible...
    bandfreak26 bandfreak26 13-15, F 4 Responses Jun 28

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    I'm conditioned like an animal to watch my

    phone. If I ever miss her call, all hell breaks loose. If I don't respond to a message in less than three minutes, "you don't care about me." But I'm more conditioned to tear up whenever I hear the word "think." She uses it as an imperative. "Think! You can't be this stupid...
    petitambition petitambition 26-30, M 3 Responses Aug 7

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    Physical aggression by a man toward his partner

    is abuse, even if it happens only once. If he raises a fist; punches a hole in the wall; throws things at you; blocks your way; restrains you; grabs, pushes, or pokes you; or threatens to hurt you, that’s physical abuse. He is creating fear and using your need for physical...
    Lostnalone22 Lostnalone22 31-35, F 1 Response Jul 31

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    In the beginning my now husband was very sweet

    always opening the door for me and always putting me before everything else. There was a time i actually felt like he loved me. After he came home from Iraq he was a different man. He always proceeded to make me cry, to put me down, and to threaten to beat me so hard that i...
    Sexygirl8807 Sexygirl8807 26-30 32 Responses Dec 13, 2013

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    A Little Poem About My Ex Abuser....

    SOMEONE I AM SEEING TOLD ME TO WRITE THIS SO I THOUGHT I WOULD SHARE IT WITH YOU GUYS...HERE IT GOES... I REMEMBER THE MINI TRIPS WE WENT ON I REMEMBER THE FUN WE USE TO HAVE JUST DOING ANYTHING I REMEMBER THE THINGS YOU WOULD DO TO MAKE ME LAUGH I REMEMBER THE PROM I...
    mellymel30 mellymel30 26-30, F 3 Responses Jul 10, 2013

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    The Emotional Abuse That I Have Endured For Years.

    I am an emotional abused victim . Till one day I decided that enough is enough! I let a man who I loved and cherished with all my heart . I let him erode my sense of self esteem and he literally had a hold of my mind , to where my self worth shrunk so much I no longer dared to...
    1SouthernBella 1SouthernBella 46-50, F 22 Responses Apr 26, 2013

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    Maybe I should kill myself.

    .I....I. Don't know how to handle this..,.. I.... AAaaaaaaaaaaaAAAAAAH. Going crazy.I can't let psycho people get to me... :/ I dno anymore
    amtired amtired 22-25 4 Responses a week ago

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    Part 2: Well it's now been 6 years.

    I am the crazy one and he is mr perfect to his friends and family! A few times we went out with friends and he was mr chatty to everyone but me and it made me feel so hurt and upset that I went off on him in front of everyone. I feel stupid but he drove me to it. And then when I...
    snw1980 snw1980 31-35, F 2 Responses Jul 18

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    Trapped No More

    You are nobody now. I deny you You played mind games Which drove me to insanity It wasnt meant to be like that. But I could not change you. I was weak unaware and naive And didnt you play that card well? There were times I stayed out at work Not to come home to hear it again...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses May 13, 2012

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    I was once alone... I was isolated from the

    outside world, my family, my friends. He wanted that to be. I did not want them to see. I was filled with shame, shame on me. I was beaten down, told I was nothing. I was stupid. I did not want them to see. I did not want them to see me, how stupid I could be... I was...
    Mm8335 Mm8335 31-35, F 3 Responses 4 days ago

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    What Is Emotional Abuse.

    What is Emotional Abuse? I've asked myself this question a million times. I never knew the answers and for a long time I was too afraid to find them, I was afraid of what I'd discover. About myself, about my spouse, about our life. Then for some reason in the last couple of weeks...
    UndeniablyConfused UndeniablyConfused 26-30, F 69 Responses Dec 1, 2008

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    Just Because Its Not Visible Does Not Mean Its Not There

    I know there are many examples of emotional/mental abuse on here, and each one is important. I also know that this form of abuse can come from both men and women. I happened to be on the receiving end of emotional abuse from my wife. She is now my ex..   As a little back story...
    Army0917 Army0917 31-35, M 9 Responses Mar 19, 2011

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    ...

    and it makes it really hard to have normal relationships once you're damaged goods... because now everything makes us feel vulnerable and easily hurt. And so, even if it's emotional intimacy that we want most, we can't even begin to enjoy it because we're so hurt, so scarred, so...
    CrazyHippieChick CrazyHippieChick 18-21, F 4 Responses Dec 8, 2013

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    I learned a lot of things

    while i was married to an abusive man for 10yrs.. I learned that i am not strong enough to take care of myself.. and so i stopped and let him I learned that i am not smart enough to make any decisions on my own because everything i did was wrong. .and so i stopped and let him...
    sweetpea6200 sweetpea6200 31-35, F 9 Responses Apr 21

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    My Story #2 Mental/Physical/Emotional/Verbal Abuse

    I DON'T REALLY KNOW HOW TO START THIS, BUT I CAN TRY. I HAVE BEEN MENTALLY/EMOTIONALLY/VERBALLY/PHYSICALLY ABUSED BY MY EX BOYFRIEND FOR A LONG LONG TIME. I HAVE DECIDED TO SHARE THIS BECAUSE I HAVE GOTTEN TO THE POINT WHERE IT WILL HELP ME THROUGH MY PROCESS. I LOST MYSELF TO...
    mellymel30 mellymel30 26-30, F 2 Responses Apr 5, 2013

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    I need someone to talk to.

    Just to know some one is listening. He can be so sweet at times, but the things he says when he's mad..... I don't know why I stay. I'm so sad all the time. I use to be such a happy person, now I feel like there is a brick in my stomach. He says he loves me, he says he is happy...
    person411 person411 18-21, F 5 Responses Aug 9

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