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I Am a Victim of Emotional Abuse

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    ~THE ART OF EMOTIONAL ABUSE~ THE CANVAS How do

    you become the victim of emotional abuse? Why don’t you just get out? I’ve been asked “What did he do to you?” BRUSH STROKES There are no concrete answers to that question. No physical wounds to prove the damage. It’s so subtle & pervasive, as not to be described by a...
    Breeziiee Breeziiee 41-45, F 5 Responses Feb 20

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    Is there any survivor

    who was abused by different people all the years? Please tell me im not the one!
    angel8i angel8i 31-35 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    Good news coming, new laws are being put in

    place to outlaw any types of abuse in relationships this is just what we need! please check out this brilliant article! http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/uknews/law-and-order/11244275/New-domestic-violence-law-will-outlaw-coercive-control.html
    LindaMabelle LindaMabelle 36-40, F 2 Responses Nov 23

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    Tale of Two Husbands: Dr. Jekyl & Mr. Hyde

    I can't believe it happened to me. I thought I was too smart, too wise. I'd had therapy. Hell, my husband had worked as a mental health therapist for 10 years, and we both have PhDs. Here's my realization:  That I'd been excusing his "moods" and assuming he'd...
    FormerDoorMat FormerDoorMat 51-55, F 61 Responses Mar 12, 2009

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    ...

    and it makes it really hard to have normal relationships once you're damaged goods... because now everything makes us feel vulnerable and easily hurt. And so, even if it's emotional intimacy that we want most, we can't even begin to enjoy it because we're so hurt, so scarred, so...
    CrazyHippieChick CrazyHippieChick 22-25, F 4 Responses Dec 8, 2013

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    Just Because Its Not Visible Does Not Mean Its Not There

    I know there are many examples of emotional/mental abuse on here, and each one is important. I also know that this form of abuse can come from both men and women. I happened to be on the receiving end of emotional abuse from my wife. She is now my ex..   As a little back story...
    Army0917 Army0917 31-35, M 9 Responses Mar 19, 2011

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    In the beginning my now husband was very sweet

    always opening the door for me and always putting me before everything else. There was a time i actually felt like he loved me. After he came home from Iraq he was a different man. He always proceeded to make me cry, to put me down, and to threaten to beat me so hard that i...
    Sexygirl8807 Sexygirl8807 26-30 31 Responses Dec 13, 2013

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    As a male victim of an emotionally & verbally

    abusive marriage, I had a hard time finding people who would listen and help, especially in the Christian church world. As the target of abuse, the main questions I needed to discuss and/or have answered were, "Why did you (my wife) treat me in the cruel ways that you did...
    bwDVOWRD bwDVOWRD 26-30, M 4 Responses Sep 29

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    I hate this. I hope I get completely over his

    dumbass soon. I wish I could speed up the healling process. I hope he can read this to see whatta jacckass he really is.. he beat me up... then everytime said i was overreacting. one time he said he blacked out from driiinking and doesnt remember it :/ I feel so veryy...
    amtired amtired 22-25 1 Response Nov 24

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    My Story #2 Mental/Physical/Emotional/Verbal Abuse

    I DON'T REALLY KNOW HOW TO START THIS, BUT I CAN TRY. I HAVE BEEN MENTALLY/EMOTIONALLY/VERBALLY/PHYSICALLY ABUSED BY MY EX BOYFRIEND FOR A LONG LONG TIME. I HAVE DECIDED TO SHARE THIS BECAUSE I HAVE GOTTEN TO THE POINT WHERE IT WILL HELP ME THROUGH MY PROCESS. I LOST MYSELF TO...
    mellymel30 mellymel30 26-30, F 2 Responses Apr 5, 2013

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    I am a man, and my wife is.

    .. it's hard to say it and feel like I'm really telling the truth, but she's my abuser. She treats my questions as though they have obvious answers. She treats me like I'm just a participant in our life, not a partner. She treats me like my opinion on something, or my desire...
    Felixthestoat Felixthestoat 22-25, T 11 Responses Apr 18

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    I learned a lot of things

    while i was married to an abusive man for 10yrs.. I learned that i am not strong enough to take care of myself.. and so i stopped and let him I learned that i am not smart enough to make any decisions on my own because everything i did was wrong. .and so i stopped and let him...
    sweetpea6200 sweetpea6200 31-35, F 10 Responses Apr 21

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    For five years, I was in a relationship with a

    domineering man, who controlled everything I did. I was not allowed to be myself with him. He didn't care about what I wanted or what I needed. He let me starve while he pigged out. He made me feel stupid, incompetent, ugly and dirty. He made me feel like I could not take care...
    Bluebutterflywings Bluebutterflywings 26-30, F 3 Responses Jun 15

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    Trapped No More

    You are nobody now. I deny you You played mind games Which drove me to insanity It wasnt meant to be like that. But I could not change you. I was weak unaware and naive And didnt you play that card well? There were times I stayed out at work Not to come home to hear it again...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses May 13, 2012

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    I feel like I need to share the truth about my

    relationship somewhere. I have been in a relationship with a guy who has made me feel isolated, like a disgusting animal, a stupid child, and depressed for more than 3 years. None of the ugly came out in him until after I was committed and emotional invested in him. We were...
    myselffirst myselffirst 18-21, F 8 Responses Jun 26

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    I experienced Verbal Attacks / Emotional

    Abuse/Isolation/Minimizing, Denying, and Blaming ..., and one day i will talk about it ..
    pipitta pipitta 26-30, F 1 Response Dec 8

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    I have an abusive sister.

    My sister is 4 years older than me & it seems like she has always been competitive, jealous or holds resentment towards me...whenever she talks to me she always says rude inappropriate things. It may be a comment about my children, my grandchildren, my parents, my illness or...
    MarylouD MarylouD 51-55, F 2 Responses Dec 1

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    My parents and boyfriend are planning a way

    for me to leave this abusive home tomorrow. I'm too sick and depressed to even function, so I am so thankful for them. I hope I can start to believe the things people love me tell me about myself, and eventually forget this hurt. Through it all, I'm sad I'm leaving. I feel...
    mea95 mea95 18-21, F 2 Responses Nov 23

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    My ex boyfriend and I broke up

    because he had to go to jail for the assult and strangulation of his ex girlfriend from a couple years ago... Still talking to him supporting him... Just found out that while he was out he was fukking someone else and she might be pregnant... He says it's my fault because I used...
    funluvz funluvz 26-30, F 4 Responses 3 days ago

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    My, now ex, just came clean about being with

    another women while we were together. He was emotionally abusive, called ever name in the book (sl$t, troll, family hates me for a reason, the devl). Said it was my fault the relationship failed and that it was "like I was a prost!tute" because he thought every guy was after me...
    funluvz funluvz 26-30, F 5 Responses 6 days ago

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    this post is going to be super long.

    also excuse the random jewish phrases i will try to translate them... my sister wrote this on a public blog about her therapist and this is the conversation she had with my father via email when he saw it. i copied it verbatim it is long but if you want a good laugh and to see a...
    Anaihsohs Anaihsohs 18-21, F Nov 19

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    http://www.byui.edu/counseling-center/self-help/abusive-relationships
    amtired amtired 22-25 Nov 25

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    Nothing hurts more than going downstairs

    after not having eaten since a small breakfast in the early hours then being told no one cares if your hungry go upstairs No one cares ...By your own mother
    RunawayBelle3 RunawayBelle3 13-15, F 1 Response Nov 22

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    "I used to really respect you,

    but then I got to know you and was disappointed" I'm almost glad I've been told things like this. I'm inspired to be the kindest person I know. If I'm labeled "the nice girl" and nothing else, I will be so happy.
    mea95 mea95 18-21, F 1 Response Nov 22

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    Coming Up For Air

    I loved the attention.After being ignored for so many years I loved that someone thought that I was worth listening to, that what I had to say mattered.I loved that I felt attractive again, that I felt desired.I loved that I felt loved.He never hit me. He rarely said an unkind...
    Quintesse Quintesse 51-55, F 69 Responses Aug 19, 2011

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    Last year I met this guy,

    who I fell in love with two months into "talking." We worked together. He would talk to me during work hours but after I wouldn't receive a cal or text. And if I ever did, it was late night at 12 (he worked over night as well) or if he wanted me to come over for a movie night...
    TVel94 TVel94 18-21, F 2 Responses Dec 8

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    Nothing like waking up

    and being called lazy and useless. I don't recall those being words of affirmation :(
    TCL009 TCL009 41-45, F 3 Responses Aug 8

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    Life It is not easy to write my painful

    situation. Yesterday, I was shattered . My hear broke. My marriage is a mistake. I married my friend – we used to work together. The reason for the marriage was bonding of love. It’s weak now. He changed a lot. We didn’t have much similarity other than same working area...
    sdstalks sdstalks 31-35, F 3 Responses Dec 2

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    Growing up, my mother would have these "moods"

    where she would get angry at some small mistake or mishap and scream and yell at anyone within her sight. She would always blame me or my father for whatever was wrong. I grew up hearing how I was a "bad child", how I couldn't do anything right, how I was never gonna amount to...
    bookworm2014 bookworm2014 22-25, F 6 Responses Jan 13

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    My dad's always been emotionally abusing me,

    my mom, and my brother. My mom wants a divorce (since he's also cheating on her), but she's too afraid as to what to do. What can I do to help her? What does she need to do...? She's afraid that my father has the power to either kick us out of the house or take me and my brother...
    hoseki hoseki 18-21, F 2 Responses Nov 30

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    A Little Poem About My Ex Abuser....

    SOMEONE I AM SEEING TOLD ME TO WRITE THIS SO I THOUGHT I WOULD SHARE IT WITH YOU GUYS...HERE IT GOES... I REMEMBER THE MINI TRIPS WE WENT ON I REMEMBER THE FUN WE USE TO HAVE JUST DOING ANYTHING I REMEMBER THE THINGS YOU WOULD DO TO MAKE ME LAUGH I REMEMBER THE PROM I...
    mellymel30 mellymel30 26-30, F 3 Responses Jul 10, 2013

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    Vindicated!! It was a small win,

    but at couples therapy tonight the therapist told my wife that no matter what I offer her in gestures or attempts, she only gets angry or ridicules me. My wife got very upset and almost walked out accusing the therapist of being unsafe and biased. The therapist was able to talk...
    deepbreathneeded deepbreathneeded 36-40, M 3 Responses Sep 22

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    Tonight I'm really not happy,

    but I'm not too sad either. I'm pretty borderline between the two. It's just.. My house that I live in with my dad feels empty. (My mom even said so too) Theres nothing to do here, theres hardly anything hanging on the walls, my brother pretty much lives with my mom, I NEVER...
    Hipstercatlover Hipstercatlover 16-17, F 2 Responses Nov 12

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    My childhood was dysfunctional,

    a fact I didn't really figure out until I was about 15. Since then, I can't say my life has improved much. I went away for college but immediately began the worst relationship of my life and suffered even more emotional abuse for four years. By the end of that relationship, I...
    ediskrad ediskrad 26-30, F 1 Response Nov 13

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    I've noticed more and more lately

    that I am uncomfortable in my own home.everytime I come back,I am scared of what my mother is going to lay on me.if it's not chores,it's usually an insult.i think she just looks to find things about me to complain about.like my room.its my room,why does it matter what it looks...
    loftydreamer18 loftydreamer18 22-25, F Nov 18

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    I recently got out of a verbal

    and emotionally abusive relationship but rather than share the actual story...for I am not up to recounting it...I thought I'd share the signs that I gathered and used to diagnose the problem. I had figured under 15 of these could be just normal relationship stress...but...
    theodore2324 theodore2324 26-30, M 8 Responses Jan 24

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    i'm hurting. his words are vicious,

    cruel, disgusting, and couldn't be farther from the truth. yet i give in to his bs and swallow it. absorb it. in the same sentence he will tell me that he loves me, but then call me a crazy, psycho, wh*re b*tch. he disrepects my family when it's just me and him. but to them...
    mermaid81 mermaid81 31-35, F 7 Responses Nov 21

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    Physical aggression by a man toward his partner

    is abuse, even if it happens only once. If he raises a fist; punches a hole in the wall; throws things at you; blocks your way; restrains you; grabs, pushes, or pokes you; or threatens to hurt you, that’s physical abuse. He is creating fear and using your need for physical...
    Lostnalone22 Lostnalone22 31-35, F 3 Responses Jul 31

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    Sticks and stones just break bones But your

    words have burnt a whole in my heart No matter what any one else says I blame myself for this relationship broken apart And Why why why why why why Did you change your mind about me Why why why why why why why Did you decide I wasn't worth your time or your kindness or your...
    mea95 mea95 18-21, F 4 Responses Nov 21

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    Because of my work schedule (I work very long

    days + long commute) I try to stay connected with my daughters throughout the week by little creative reminders that I love them and am thinking about them. One of the things I will do is put a note in my oldest's lunchbox so when she gets to school she'll have a surprise. I...
    deepbreathneeded deepbreathneeded 36-40, M 5 Responses Dec 7

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    ok sorry people. Im still struggling.

    I left the guy but... why do I feel I need to go back? I need to not care. But I feel like Iwas owned or something. I am afraid of him.... but I miss him? its because it wasnt always terror. sometimes it was nice. But was it real ? or just a facade.... to keep me trapped...
    amtired amtired 22-25 6 Responses Nov 30

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    With my being in love with a loser has caused a

    lot of agony. Being cheated on over and over. Being told that he didn't like what I had on and that I was crazy. Yea i was damn crazy for loving such a jackass. I WAS a victim of emotional abuse. I finally got the strength to leave. It was for the best.
    SentimentalMood SentimentalMood 36-40, F 5 Responses Nov 12

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    I was bullied as a kid,

    ignored as a teen, and put down by most every guy I dated until recently. I grew up in a home where my father emotionally and physically abused my mom and to this day won't let her have friends. I don't feel like I learned how to accept and love myself ever. I don't know if I...
    hoobityhobbity hoobityhobbity 26-30, F 7 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    I joined this experience,

    not because I am a victim of emotional abuse by somebody else, but because I am emotional abuse's victim. in other words, I am the emotional abuser. I hate it. I feel terrible and I've tried so hard to change. when I was a child, my mother physically abused my sisters and...
    WeArePilots WeArePilots 18-21, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    Not True

    ***** do this and ***** do that that's what I got woke up to everyday. Your nothing but a worthless **** no one will ever want you. Your retarted! You can't do anything right. Your nasty your ugly. This is what emotional abuse is. After hearing it so long you think its true. I'm...
    holehearted79 holehearted79 31-35, F 4 Responses Jul 15, 2013

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    Drained By A Vampire

    No, not the fictional variety, but the emotional variety. More and more was asked of me, I gave and gave. I gave not only time but trust. And I lost so much of myself in the process. First it all seemed so caring, so I gave freely of myself, my trust. But then it began.  The...
    DinahMoeHumm DinahMoeHumm 41-45, F 4 Responses Aug 2, 2012

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    Dear ******* Who Hurt Me

    for Four Years, I am no longer your emotional slave. You hurts me so bad that I was diagnosed with PTSD. You drove me out of the state, 1000 miles away from my hometown. I left because I was so incredibly scared of you, scared you would come back and hurt me, and say things...
    sarahtorrella sarahtorrella 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 15

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    Oh wow.I'm finally free.

    finally! Eh.. But eh.... Whew! Whatta unnecessary rollercoaster THAT was! Phew! Jeez!
    amtired amtired 22-25 6 Responses Nov 21

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    The Art Of Emotional Abuse

    ~THE ART OF EMOTIONAL ABUSE~ THE CANVAS How do you become the victim of emotional abuse? Why don’t you just get out? I’ve been asked “What did he do to you?” BRUSH STROKES There are no concrete answers to that question. No physical wounds to prove the damage. It’s so...
    Breeziiee Breeziiee 41-45, F 21 Responses Aug 8, 2013

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    Part 2: Well it's now been 6 years.

    I am the crazy one and he is mr perfect to his friends and family! A few times we went out with friends and he was mr chatty to everyone but me and it made me feel so hurt and upset that I went off on him in front of everyone. I feel stupid but he drove me to it. And then when I...
    snw1980 snw1980 31-35, F 1 Response Jul 18

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    14 Things You'll Hear In A Dangerous Relationship

    1. "You don't really love me." 2. "It's a two-way street, and you're not doing your part." 3. "I've done so much more for you." 4. "Why are you so selfish?" 5. "You're making yourself sad, not me." 6. "Stop being so sensitive, it was just a joke." 7. "If you loved me, you would...
    adreamingheart adreamingheart 18-21, F 6 Responses Nov 19, 2013

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