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I Am a Victim of Emotional Abuse

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    Just got back from a three day biz trip.

    W was at the computer as usual "working" on her gym's marketing that she is so utterly devoted to. She managed a low "hi" without turning around. I almost went upstairs without engaging her because I knew it wouldn't end well. Should have trusted my gut, but I don't want to...
    deepbreathneeded deepbreathneeded 36-40, M 7 Responses Nov 19

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    I'm like a sore thumb in my family.

    I stick out, I don't belong and I definitely didn't feel welcome when I used to live with them.. I was the child that was nagged and pushed until I was brought to tears, I was humiliated, mocked and criticized all my life. I guess that could explain my social anxiety that has...
    christismyguide christismyguide 22-25, F 7 Responses Oct 25

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    Friday saw him at a social function.

    .5 yrs of this same story...SATURDAY (SAME FUNCTION) he says come here I have something for you...I go...flowers and a latte. ..ohhhh he loves me...I lie to myself ..I tell him..pointing at my finger..I want a ring. He promises by TUESDAY.he says ok . remember..I have a secret...
    dhanadevereaux dhanadevereaux 56-60 Oct 26

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    ~THE ART OF EMOTIONAL ABUSE~ THE CANVAS How do

    you become the victim of emotional abuse? Why don’t you just get out? I’ve been asked “What did he do to you?” BRUSH STROKES There are no concrete answers to that question. No physical wounds to prove the damage. It’s so subtle & pervasive, as not to be described by a...
    Breeziiee Breeziiee 41-45, F 5 Responses Feb 20

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    Sticks and stones just break bones But your

    words have burnt a whole in my heart No matter what any one else says I blame myself for this relationship broken apart And Why why why why why why Did you change your mind about me Why why why why why why why Did you decide I wasn't worth your time or your kindness or your...
    mea95 mea95 18-21, F 4 Responses a week ago

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    My childhood was dysfunctional,

    a fact I didn't really figure out until I was about 15. Since then, I can't say my life has improved much. I went away for college but immediately began the worst relationship of my life and suffered even more emotional abuse for four years. By the end of that relationship, I...
    ediskrad ediskrad 26-30, F 1 Response Nov 13

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    A Little Poem About My Ex Abuser....

    SOMEONE I AM SEEING TOLD ME TO WRITE THIS SO I THOUGHT I WOULD SHARE IT WITH YOU GUYS...HERE IT GOES... I REMEMBER THE MINI TRIPS WE WENT ON I REMEMBER THE FUN WE USE TO HAVE JUST DOING ANYTHING I REMEMBER THE THINGS YOU WOULD DO TO MAKE ME LAUGH I REMEMBER THE PROM I...
    mellymel30 mellymel30 26-30, F 3 Responses Jul 10, 2013

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    Nothing like waking up

    and being called lazy and useless. I don't recall those being words of affirmation :(
    TCL009 TCL009 41-45, F 3 Responses Aug 8

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    this post is going to be super long.

    also excuse the random jewish phrases i will try to translate them... my sister wrote this on a public blog about her therapist and this is the conversation she had with my father via email when he saw it. i copied it verbatim it is long but if you want a good laugh and to see a...
    Anaihsohs Anaihsohs 18-21, F Nov 19

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    Part 2: Well it's now been 6 years.

    I am the crazy one and he is mr perfect to his friends and family! A few times we went out with friends and he was mr chatty to everyone but me and it made me feel so hurt and upset that I went off on him in front of everyone. I feel stupid but he drove me to it. And then when I...
    snw1980 snw1980 31-35, F 1 Response Jul 18

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    "I used to really respect you,

    but then I got to know you and was disappointed" I'm almost glad I've been told things like this. I'm inspired to be the kindest person I know. If I'm labeled "the nice girl" and nothing else, I will be so happy.
    mea95 mea95 18-21, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    I don't understand why.

    . But I am still suffering. I feel I need my damn ex to live. Now he's gone I'm falling apart. I am extremely depressed.too much pain. WhyYyYyYyYY? He liked to call me retarted. He does hard drugs. He physically hurt me. He took my money. He didn't want me to go to school. He...
    amtired amtired 22-25 5 Responses Nov 6

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    Tonight I'm really not happy,

    but I'm not too sad either. I'm pretty borderline between the two. It's just.. My house that I live in with my dad feels empty. (My mom even said so too) Theres nothing to do here, theres hardly anything hanging on the walls, my brother pretty much lives with my mom, I NEVER...
    Hipstercatlover Hipstercatlover 16-17, F 2 Responses Nov 12

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    I Was Emotionally, Mentally, And Verbally Abused.

      I was abused by my father, sister, and brother. My parents got divorced when I was 9. That's when my life turned into a living hell. My mom left my dad because each day he would come home from work and yell at everyone. My mom couldn't handle it anymore, so she left. My...
    CrystalViolet7 CrystalViolet7 13-15, F 1 Response Mar 15, 2013

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    I've noticed more and more lately

    that I am uncomfortable in my own home.everytime I come back,I am scared of what my mother is going to lay on me.if it's not chores,it's usually an insult.i think she just looks to find things about me to complain about.like my room.its my room,why does it matter what it looks...
    loftydreamer18 loftydreamer18 22-25, F Nov 18

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    The Art Of Emotional Abuse

    ~THE ART OF EMOTIONAL ABUSE~ THE CANVAS How do you become the victim of emotional abuse? Why don’t you just get out? I’ve been asked “What did he do to you?” BRUSH STROKES There are no concrete answers to that question. No physical wounds to prove the damage. It’s so...
    Breeziiee Breeziiee 41-45, F 21 Responses Aug 8, 2013

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    I'm in an emotionally abusive relationship,

    and I just realized it a week ago. I have all of these feelings inside of me and I wonder would it be a good thing to share them with him. I'm okay with the fact that he might not get it but I feel like it is weighing on my heart and mind and I need to let it out. He doesn't...
    danielle221 danielle221 18-21, F 2 Responses Oct 26

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    I feel like I need to share the truth about my

    relationship somewhere. I have been in a relationship with a guy who has made me feel isolated, like a disgusting animal, a stupid child, and depressed for more than 3 years. None of the ugly came out in him until after I was committed and emotional invested in him. We were...
    myselffirst myselffirst 18-21, F 9 Responses Jun 26

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    Not True

    ***** do this and ***** do that that's what I got woke up to everyday. Your nothing but a worthless **** no one will ever want you. Your retarted! You can't do anything right. Your nasty your ugly. This is what emotional abuse is. After hearing it so long you think its true. I'm...
    holehearted79 holehearted79 31-35, F 4 Responses Jul 15, 2013

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    Here is my experience.

    . still experiencing.. My 21 year old daughter met a man on Christian Mingle. 2 weeks later she was asking us to meet him and gave some details about him that immediately set some red flags. He is 36, unemployed, disabled, has 50% custody of a baby and his ex left him 3 months...
    mrdesoto918 mrdesoto918 36-40, M 2 Responses Oct 30

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    What Is Emotional Abuse.

    What is Emotional Abuse? I've asked myself this question a million times. I never knew the answers and for a long time I was too afraid to find them, I was afraid of what I'd discover. About myself, about my spouse, about our life. Then for some reason in the last couple of weeks...
    UndeniablyConfused UndeniablyConfused 26-30, F 70 Responses Dec 1, 2008

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    I just walked out of an abusive relationship

    funny he forced me to leave the last thing he said was either you blame all of the abuse on yourself or gtfo i finally came to terms that he never loved me... I feel ok (safe)
    rossp24 rossp24 18-21, F 5 Responses Mar 11

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    In the beginning my now husband was very sweet

    always opening the door for me and always putting me before everything else. There was a time i actually felt like he loved me. After he came home from Iraq he was a different man. He always proceeded to make me cry, to put me down, and to threaten to beat me so hard that i...
    Sexygirl8807 Sexygirl8807 26-30 31 Responses Dec 13, 2013

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    Physical aggression by a man toward his partner

    is abuse, even if it happens only once. If he raises a fist; punches a hole in the wall; throws things at you; blocks your way; restrains you; grabs, pushes, or pokes you; or threatens to hurt you, that’s physical abuse. He is creating fear and using your need for physical...
    Lostnalone22 Lostnalone22 31-35, F 3 Responses Jul 31

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    Dear ******* Who Hurt Me

    for Four Years, I am no longer your emotional slave. You hurts me so bad that I was diagnosed with PTSD. You drove me out of the state, 1000 miles away from my hometown. I left because I was so incredibly scared of you, scared you would come back and hurt me, and say things...
    sarahtorrella sarahtorrella 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 15

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    As a male victim of an emotionally & verbally

    abusive marriage, I had a hard time finding people who would listen and help, especially in the Christian church world. As the target of abuse, the main questions I needed to discuss and/or have answered were, "Why did you (my wife) treat me in the cruel ways that you did...
    bwDVOWRD bwDVOWRD 26-30, M 4 Responses Sep 29

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    ...

    and it makes it really hard to have normal relationships once you're damaged goods... because now everything makes us feel vulnerable and easily hurt. And so, even if it's emotional intimacy that we want most, we can't even begin to enjoy it because we're so hurt, so scarred, so...
    CrazyHippieChick CrazyHippieChick 22-25, F 4 Responses Dec 8, 2013

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    So.. I am suffering.

    Again.sorry people. I just dont know what to do to recover. What do i do now that hes gone?Ifeel too broken to do anything. I feel too weak to be the strong independent girl I once was. I dont know what happened. I feel i need him for survival... Even though he nearly killed me...
    amtired amtired 22-25 5 Responses Nov 13

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    My parents and boyfriend are planning a way

    for me to leave this abusive home tomorrow. I'm too sick and depressed to even function, so I am so thankful for them. I hope I can start to believe the things people love me tell me about myself, and eventually forget this hurt. Through it all, I'm sad I'm leaving. I feel...
    mea95 mea95 18-21, F 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    Home That Doesn't Feel Like Home

    I'am a victim of emotional abuse. Ever since I was a kid my parents would emotionally abuse me. They will say how worthless I am in the family, how I just should quit school for being stupid and whole bunch of stuff. And since I am a kid, it grew on me. I cry a lot and wish I was...
    kmisfit123 kmisfit123 16-17, F 17 Responses Jul 15, 2013

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    Worrying yourself sick is a thing,

    as the day approaches that I will have to confront and leave my abuser, I get so anxious it consumes me. I was in bed for 6 hours today with a terrible migraine. I just want to go home to my family now.
    mea95 mea95 18-21, F 3 Responses 5 days ago

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    Coming Up For Air

    I loved the attention.After being ignored for so many years I loved that someone thought that I was worth listening to, that what I had to say mattered.I loved that I felt attractive again, that I felt desired.I loved that I felt loved.He never hit me. He rarely said an unkind...
    Quintesse Quintesse 51-55, F 69 Responses Aug 19, 2011

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    Growing up, my mother would have these "moods"

    where she would get angry at some small mistake or mishap and scream and yell at anyone within her sight. She would always blame me or my father for whatever was wrong. I grew up hearing how I was a "bad child", how I couldn't do anything right, how I was never gonna amount to...
    bookworm2014 bookworm2014 22-25, F 6 Responses Jan 13

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    I'm leaving my abuser (my boss,

    I live with his family) but I haven't told him yet. My family and boyfriend support me in leaving, and say none of it is my fault, but I still feel an overwhelming guilt that the broken relationship between me and his family is my fault. Like, if I was just good enough, he would...
    mea95 mea95 18-21, F 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    I grew up with a lot of abuse in general,

    and there are so many consequences that I had to work through in order to come out above the ‘programming’ of the mind, which often happens when a person is subjected to long term abuse. It has a way of re-wiring not only our thinking, but even our very brain’s...
    phoenix66 phoenix66 46-50, F 4 Responses Oct 24

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    Trapped No More

    You are nobody now. I deny you You played mind games Which drove me to insanity It wasnt meant to be like that. But I could not change you. I was weak unaware and naive And didnt you play that card well? There were times I stayed out at work Not to come home to hear it again...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses May 13, 2012

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    Sometimes the intentional silence can be the

    worst abuse of them all. It makes you feel invisible, unimportant, and wonder what you did wrong to deserve this treatment. It can drive you mad if not careful.
    Maihowl Maihowl 22-25, F 3 Responses Oct 23

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    Nothing hurts more than going downstairs

    after not having eaten since a small breakfast in the early hours then being told no one cares if your hungry go upstairs No one cares ...By your own mother
    RunawayBelle3 RunawayBelle3 13-15, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    I hate this. I hope I get completely over his

    dumbass soon. I wish I could speed up the healling process. I hope he can read this to see whatta jacckass he really is.. he beat me up... then everytime said i was overreacting. one time he said he blacked out from driiinking and doesnt remember it :/ I feel so veryy...
    amtired amtired 22-25 1 Response 4 days ago

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    Good news coming, new laws are being put in

    place to outlaw any types of abuse in relationships this is just what we need! please check out this brilliant article! http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/uknews/law-and-order/11244275/New-domestic-violence-law-will-outlaw-coercive-control.html
    LindaMabelle LindaMabelle 36-40, F 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    My Story #2 Mental/Physical/Emotional/Verbal Abuse

    I DON'T REALLY KNOW HOW TO START THIS, BUT I CAN TRY. I HAVE BEEN MENTALLY/EMOTIONALLY/VERBALLY/PHYSICALLY ABUSED BY MY EX BOYFRIEND FOR A LONG LONG TIME. I HAVE DECIDED TO SHARE THIS BECAUSE I HAVE GOTTEN TO THE POINT WHERE IT WILL HELP ME THROUGH MY PROCESS. I LOST MYSELF TO...
    mellymel30 mellymel30 26-30, F 2 Responses Apr 5, 2013

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    I am a 41 year old male whom has been a victim

    of emotional abuse to a sometimes extreme and severe level for almost 23 years with the slow but effective transition up until today where my entire self assessment of my own capabilities has been controlled by my partner in what has been a very skilful success of abuse as she...
    emotionally114 emotionally114 41-45, M 2 Responses Nov 10

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    Tale of Two Husbands: Dr. Jekyl & Mr. Hyde

    I can't believe it happened to me. I thought I was too smart, too wise. I'd had therapy. Hell, my husband had worked as a mental health therapist for 10 years, and we both have PhDs. Here's my realization:  That I'd been excusing his "moods" and assuming he'd...
    FormerDoorMat FormerDoorMat 51-55, F 61 Responses Mar 12, 2009

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    I recently got out of a verbal

    and emotionally abusive relationship but rather than share the actual story...for I am not up to recounting it...I thought I'd share the signs that I gathered and used to diagnose the problem. I had figured under 15 of these could be just normal relationship stress...but...
    theodore2324 theodore2324 26-30, M 8 Responses Jan 24

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    Drained By A Vampire

    No, not the fictional variety, but the emotional variety. More and more was asked of me, I gave and gave. I gave not only time but trust. And I lost so much of myself in the process. First it all seemed so caring, so I gave freely of myself, my trust. But then it began.  The...
    DinahMoeHumm DinahMoeHumm 41-45, F 4 Responses Aug 2, 2012

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    "How was the day?" "Fine" "How are the girls?

    " "Fine" "Did they have a good day at school?" "Yep, normal Monday?" "Can you share anything interesting about their day?" "Not right now at 10 o'clock at night while I'm working." Typical conversation between me and my wife about life. I hate the silent treatment. She...
    deepbreathneeded deepbreathneeded 36-40, M 3 Responses Oct 27

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    I been emotional abused by my mother

    since long ago.. It was a long story.. She been addicted to gambling since long ago.. I and 4 of my siblings were having problem to live healthily in terms of emotional because her old fashion value. We are staying with her and she is the key person at home. It's been 20 over...
    tarachoo tarachoo 26-30, F Oct 29

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    With my being in love with a loser has caused a

    lot of agony. Being cheated on over and over. Being told that he didn't like what I had on and that I was crazy. Yea i was damn crazy for loving such a jackass. I WAS a victim of emotional abuse. I finally got the strength to leave. It was for the best.
    SentimentalMood SentimentalMood 36-40, F 4 Responses Nov 12

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    14 Things You'll Hear In A Dangerous Relationship

    1. "You don't really love me." 2. "It's a two-way street, and you're not doing your part." 3. "I've done so much more for you." 4. "Why are you so selfish?" 5. "You're making yourself sad, not me." 6. "Stop being so sensitive, it was just a joke." 7. "If you loved me, you would...
    adreamingheart adreamingheart 18-21, F 6 Responses Nov 19, 2013

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    Oh wow.I'm finally free.

    finally! Eh.. But eh.... Whew! Whatta unnecessary rollercoaster THAT was! Phew! Jeez!
    amtired amtired 22-25 5 Responses 6 days ago

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    Vindicated!! It was a small win,

    but at couples therapy tonight the therapist told my wife that no matter what I offer her in gestures or attempts, she only gets angry or ridicules me. My wife got very upset and almost walked out accusing the therapist of being unsafe and biased. The therapist was able to talk...
    deepbreathneeded deepbreathneeded 36-40, M 3 Responses Sep 22

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