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I Am a Victim of Emotional Abuse

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    I hate mydamn ex so much i want to hurt him.

    he deserves to suffer.I want revenge.solo much pain he caused.I feel broken down with no strength.so I kept going back because I felt so weak.I still feel weak. Very weak and broken.like I need him to survive or something. What's happening? I'm going crazy.I want to hurt him...
    amtired amtired 22-25 8 Responses Nov 7

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    Part 2: Well it's now been 6 years.

    I am the crazy one and he is mr perfect to his friends and family! A few times we went out with friends and he was mr chatty to everyone but me and it made me feel so hurt and upset that I went off on him in front of everyone. I feel stupid but he drove me to it. And then when I...
    snw1980 snw1980 31-35, F 1 Response Jul 18

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    Just Because Its Not Visible Does Not Mean Its Not There

    I know there are many examples of emotional/mental abuse on here, and each one is important. I also know that this form of abuse can come from both men and women. I happened to be on the receiving end of emotional abuse from my wife. She is now my ex..   As a little back story...
    Army0917 Army0917 31-35, M 9 Responses Mar 19, 2011

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    He says that he is stressed.

    So that gives him te right to treat and talk to me like I am a no good junk yard dog. Then he has the gall to send me an sms asking me what my problem is and blames me for the atmosphere in the house. Atmosphere meaning...me trying to be invisible, not looking at him, trying to...
    Christa44 Christa44 41-45, F 2 Responses Oct 30

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    I am a man, and my wife is.

    .. it's hard to say it and feel like I'm really telling the truth, but she's my abuser. She treats my questions as though they have obvious answers. She treats me like I'm just a participant in our life, not a partner. She treats me like my opinion on something, or my desire...
    Felixthestoat Felixthestoat 22-25, T 11 Responses Apr 18

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    Tale of Two Husbands: Dr. Jekyl & Mr. Hyde

    I can't believe it happened to me. I thought I was too smart, too wise. I'd had therapy. Hell, my husband had worked as a mental health therapist for 10 years, and we both have PhDs. Here's my realization:  That I'd been excusing his "moods" and assuming he'd...
    FormerDoorMat FormerDoorMat 51-55, F 61 Responses Mar 12, 2009

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    What Is Emotional Abuse.

    What is Emotional Abuse? I've asked myself this question a million times. I never knew the answers and for a long time I was too afraid to find them, I was afraid of what I'd discover. About myself, about my spouse, about our life. Then for some reason in the last couple of weeks...
    UndeniablyConfused UndeniablyConfused 26-30, F 70 Responses Dec 1, 2008

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    You know your abuser is damn good at what they

    do when you blame yourself for feeling ****** despite knowing that it's all their doing.
    roguish roguish 16-17, F 3 Responses Oct 23

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    14 Things You'll Hear In A Dangerous Relationship

    1. "You don't really love me." 2. "It's a two-way street, and you're not doing your part." 3. "I've done so much more for you." 4. "Why are you so selfish?" 5. "You're making yourself sad, not me." 6. "Stop being so sensitive, it was just a joke." 7. "If you loved me, you would...
    adreamingheart adreamingheart 18-21, F 6 Responses Nov 19, 2013

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    Friday saw him at a social function.

    .5 yrs of this same story...SATURDAY (SAME FUNCTION) he says come here I have something for you...I go...flowers and a latte. ..ohhhh he loves me...I lie to myself ..I tell him..pointing at my finger..I want a ring. He promises by TUESDAY.he says ok . remember..I have a secret...
    dhanadevereaux dhanadevereaux 56-60 Oct 26

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    Growing up, my mother would have these "moods"

    where she would get angry at some small mistake or mishap and scream and yell at anyone within her sight. She would always blame me or my father for whatever was wrong. I grew up hearing how I was a "bad child", how I couldn't do anything right, how I was never gonna amount to...
    bookworm2014 bookworm2014 22-25, F 6 Responses Jan 13

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    I suffer bad anxiety about 13 years cos i was

    abused, dumped and ignored. I dont see any changes for me. How do u cope with anxiety? Without meds?
    angel8i angel8i 31-35, F 7 Responses Oct 21

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    It took me a very long time to realize

    that I was being abused. I am a college student now and I am working on a project to try to show my fellow students what emotional abuse looks like and sounds like. I am collecting anonymous submissions that will be the basis of an art installation project. let your voice be...
    insideourheads insideourheads 18-21, F 3 Responses Oct 13

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    Vindicated!! It was a small win,

    but at couples therapy tonight the therapist told my wife that no matter what I offer her in gestures or attempts, she only gets angry or ridicules me. My wife got very upset and almost walked out accusing the therapist of being unsafe and biased. The therapist was able to talk...
    deepbreathneeded deepbreathneeded 36-40, M 3 Responses Sep 22

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    Coming Up For Air

    I loved the attention.After being ignored for so many years I loved that someone thought that I was worth listening to, that what I had to say mattered.I loved that I felt attractive again, that I felt desired.I loved that I felt loved.He never hit me. He rarely said an unkind...
    Quintesse Quintesse 51-55, F 69 Responses Aug 19, 2011

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    Mary the victim was my predator.

    She tries to act like she never is at fault by making me the villain. The only reason she has to hate me is because I betrayed her a single time, but that was after nearly a year of emotional abuse. At first, Mary seemed like such a kind person. Mary was more interesting and...
    FunnyLookingCorpse FunnyLookingCorpse 18-21 1 Response Oct 12

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    I been emotional abused by my mother

    since long ago.. It was a long story.. She been addicted to gambling since long ago.. I and 4 of my siblings were having problem to live healthily in terms of emotional because her old fashion value. We are staying with her and she is the key person at home. It's been 20 over...
    tarachoo tarachoo 26-30, F Oct 29

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    Home That Doesn't Feel Like Home

    I'am a victim of emotional abuse. Ever since I was a kid my parents would emotionally abuse me. They will say how worthless I am in the family, how I just should quit school for being stupid and whole bunch of stuff. And since I am a kid, it grew on me. I cry a lot and wish I was...
    kmisfit123 kmisfit123 18-21, F 17 Responses Jul 15, 2013

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    Sometimes the intentional silence can be the

    worst abuse of them all. It makes you feel invisible, unimportant, and wonder what you did wrong to deserve this treatment. It can drive you mad if not careful.
    Maihowl Maihowl 22-25, F 3 Responses Oct 23

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    I grew up with a lot of abuse in general,

    and there are so many consequences that I had to work through in order to come out above the ‘programming’ of the mind, which often happens when a person is subjected to long term abuse. It has a way of re-wiring not only our thinking, but even our very brain’s...
    phoenix66 phoenix66 46-50, F 3 Responses Oct 24

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    Men Can Be Abused Too...

    I've been in emotionally abusive relationships all my life...including growing up with my mother. She still does it to me. I'm 39 and my mother still has the ability to **** with my head. I'm an only child so I don't have other siblings to share the torture with. I try to write...
    Trevoc3 Trevoc3 36-40, M 4 Responses Oct 23, 2013

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    My childhood was dysfunctional,

    a fact I didn't really figure out until I was about 15. Since then, I can't say my life has improved much. I went away for college but immediately began the worst relationship of my life and suffered even more emotional abuse for four years. By the end of that relationship, I...
    ediskrad ediskrad 26-30, F 1 Response a week ago

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    For five years, I was in a relationship with a

    domineering man, who controlled everything I did. I was not allowed to be myself with him. He didn't care about what I wanted or what I needed. He let me starve while he pigged out. He made me feel stupid, incompetent, ugly and dirty. He made me feel like I could not take care...
    Bluebutterflywings Bluebutterflywings 26-30, F 3 Responses Jun 15

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    In the beginning my now husband was very sweet

    always opening the door for me and always putting me before everything else. There was a time i actually felt like he loved me. After he came home from Iraq he was a different man. He always proceeded to make me cry, to put me down, and to threaten to beat me so hard that i...
    Sexygirl8807 Sexygirl8807 26-30 31 Responses Dec 13, 2013

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    I Was Emotionally, Mentally, And Verbally Abused.

      I was abused by my father, sister, and brother. My parents got divorced when I was 9. That's when my life turned into a living hell. My mom left my dad because each day he would come home from work and yell at everyone. My mom couldn't handle it anymore, so she left. My...
    CrystalViolet7 CrystalViolet7 13-15, F 1 Response Mar 15, 2013

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    Nothing like waking up

    and being called lazy and useless. I don't recall those being words of affirmation :(
    TCL009 TCL009 41-45, F 3 Responses Aug 8

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    Sometimes I wish he physically abused me

    than mentally. The emotional abuse will not leave your brain. I feel like I am constantly being beaten again and again. Why can't I get over his words? I am strong. I am good. I am worthy of loving and being loved. I got all of the positive affirmations down. However, his...
    RedXSue RedXSue 51-55, F 5 Responses Oct 11

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    Here is my experience.

    . still experiencing.. My 21 year old daughter met a man on Christian Mingle. 2 weeks later she was asking us to meet him and gave some details about him that immediately set some red flags. He is 36, unemployed, disabled, has 50% custody of a baby and his ex left him 3 months...
    mrdesoto918 mrdesoto918 36-40, M 2 Responses Oct 30

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    I am a 41 year old male whom has been a victim

    of emotional abuse to a sometimes extreme and severe level for almost 23 years with the slow but effective transition up until today where my entire self assessment of my own capabilities has been controlled by my partner in what has been a very skilful success of abuse as she...
    emotionally114 emotionally114 41-45, M 2 Responses Nov 10

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    Eh. This sucks.will I ever recover from his bs?

    And also bs other people have thrown at me too?
    amtired amtired 22-25 3 Responses Oct 21

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    I just walked out of an abusive relationship

    funny he forced me to leave the last thing he said was either you blame all of the abuse on yourself or gtfo i finally came to terms that he never loved me... I feel ok (safe)
    rossp24 rossp24 18-21, F 5 Responses Mar 11

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    As a male victim of an emotionally & verbally

    abusive marriage, I had a hard time finding people who would listen and help, especially in the Christian church world. As the target of abuse, the main questions I needed to discuss and/or have answered were, "Why did you (my wife) treat me in the cruel ways that you did...
    bwDVOWRD bwDVOWRD 26-30, M 4 Responses Sep 29

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    So.. I am suffering.

    Again.sorry people. I just dont know what to do to recover. What do i do now that hes gone?Ifeel too broken to do anything. I feel too weak to be the strong independent girl I once was. I dont know what happened. I feel i need him for survival... Even though he nearly killed me...
    amtired amtired 22-25 5 Responses a week ago

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    "How was the day?" "Fine" "How are the girls?

    " "Fine" "Did they have a good day at school?" "Yep, normal Monday?" "Can you share anything interesting about their day?" "Not right now at 10 o'clock at night while I'm working." Typical conversation between me and my wife about life. I hate the silent treatment. She...
    deepbreathneeded deepbreathneeded 36-40, M 3 Responses Oct 27

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    I learned a lot of things

    while i was married to an abusive man for 10yrs.. I learned that i am not strong enough to take care of myself.. and so i stopped and let him I learned that i am not smart enough to make any decisions on my own because everything i did was wrong. .and so i stopped and let him...
    sweetpea6200 sweetpea6200 31-35, F 9 Responses Apr 21

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    ~THE ART OF EMOTIONAL ABUSE~ THE CANVAS How do

    you become the victim of emotional abuse? Why don’t you just get out? I’ve been asked “What did he do to you?” BRUSH STROKES There are no concrete answers to that question. No physical wounds to prove the damage. It’s so subtle & pervasive, as not to be described by a...
    Breeziiee Breeziiee 41-45, F 5 Responses Feb 20

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    I feel like I need to share the truth about my

    relationship somewhere. I have been in a relationship with a guy who has made me feel isolated, like a disgusting animal, a stupid child, and depressed for more than 3 years. None of the ugly came out in him until after I was committed and emotional invested in him. We were...
    myselffirst myselffirst 18-21, F 9 Responses Jun 26

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    I was a victim since childhood

    and it continued all my life. Im a victim for life. One started to bully me and the others continued. I didnt deserved that. I feel like ghost in this world. I think i lost my mind long ago and my true pesonality. I dont know who i am aymore. Only that i am a victim of...
    angel8i angel8i 31-35, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    Not True

    ***** do this and ***** do that that's what I got woke up to everyday. Your nothing but a worthless **** no one will ever want you. Your retarted! You can't do anything right. Your nasty your ugly. This is what emotional abuse is. After hearing it so long you think its true. I'm...
    holehearted79 holehearted79 31-35, F 4 Responses Jul 15, 2013

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    I was in a relationship with someone

    who is my teacher and also my superior at work. At first it was an extended honeymoon, but more and more she seemed to be intent on pushing me off of the pedestal she'd put me on and beating me down emotionally. Eventually it became so that I didn't know from day-to-day or hour...
    brightflame brightflame 31-35, F 1 Response Oct 12

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    I'm like a sore thumb in my family.

    I stick out, I don't belong and I definitely didn't feel welcome when I used to live with them.. I was the child that was nagged and pushed until I was brought to tears, I was humiliated, mocked and criticized all my life. I guess that could explain my social anxiety that has...
    christismyguide christismyguide 22-25, F 6 Responses Oct 25

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    My ex just told me he wants half of our chattel

    property (I don't know if the term is right; I mean everything that is not real property; the things you can take with you, like tables, computers, etc.) He hates that I don't care about his new girlfriend and that he cannot control me through money anymore. I'm devastated. I...
    bettyajz bettyajz 36-40, F 2 Responses Oct 14

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    Physical aggression by a man toward his partner

    is abuse, even if it happens only once. If he raises a fist; punches a hole in the wall; throws things at you; blocks your way; restrains you; grabs, pushes, or pokes you; or threatens to hurt you, that’s physical abuse. He is creating fear and using your need for physical...
    Lostnalone22 Lostnalone22 31-35, F 3 Responses Jul 31

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    this post is going to be super long.

    also excuse the random jewish phrases i will try to translate them... my sister wrote this on a public blog about her therapist and this is the conversation she had with my father via email when he saw it. i copied it verbatim it is long but if you want a good laugh and to see a...
    Anaihsohs Anaihsohs 18-21, F 21 hrs ago

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    The Art Of Emotional Abuse

    ~THE ART OF EMOTIONAL ABUSE~ THE CANVAS How do you become the victim of emotional abuse? Why don’t you just get out? I’ve been asked “What did he do to you?” BRUSH STROKES There are no concrete answers to that question. No physical wounds to prove the damage. It’s so...
    Breeziiee Breeziiee 41-45, F 21 Responses Aug 8, 2013

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    A Little Poem About My Ex Abuser....

    SOMEONE I AM SEEING TOLD ME TO WRITE THIS SO I THOUGHT I WOULD SHARE IT WITH YOU GUYS...HERE IT GOES... I REMEMBER THE MINI TRIPS WE WENT ON I REMEMBER THE FUN WE USE TO HAVE JUST DOING ANYTHING I REMEMBER THE THINGS YOU WOULD DO TO MAKE ME LAUGH I REMEMBER THE PROM I...
    mellymel30 mellymel30 26-30, F 3 Responses Jul 10, 2013

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    I don't understand why.

    . But I am still suffering. I feel I need my damn ex to live. Now he's gone I'm falling apart. I am extremely depressed.too much pain. WhyYyYyYyYY? He liked to call me retarted. He does hard drugs. He physically hurt me. He took my money. He didn't want me to go to school. He...
    amtired amtired 22-25 5 Responses Nov 6

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    Trapped No More

    You are nobody now. I deny you You played mind games Which drove me to insanity It wasnt meant to be like that. But I could not change you. I was weak unaware and naive And didnt you play that card well? There were times I stayed out at work Not to come home to hear it again...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses May 13, 2012

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    Just got back from a three day biz trip.

    W was at the computer as usual "working" on her gym's marketing that she is so utterly devoted to. She managed a low "hi" without turning around. I almost went upstairs without engaging her because I knew it wouldn't end well. Should have trusted my gut, but I don't want to...
    deepbreathneeded deepbreathneeded 36-40, M 7 Responses 22 hrs ago

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    ...

    and it makes it really hard to have normal relationships once you're damaged goods... because now everything makes us feel vulnerable and easily hurt. And so, even if it's emotional intimacy that we want most, we can't even begin to enjoy it because we're so hurt, so scarred, so...
    CrazyHippieChick CrazyHippieChick 22-25, F 4 Responses Dec 8, 2013

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    Dear ******* Who Hurt Me

    for Four Years, I am no longer your emotional slave. You hurts me so bad that I was diagnosed with PTSD. You drove me out of the state, 1000 miles away from my hometown. I left because I was so incredibly scared of you, scared you would come back and hurt me, and say things...
    sarahtorrella sarahtorrella 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 15

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