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I Am a Victim of Emotional Abuse

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    As a victim myself, and

    as somebody who has studied emotional abuse very closely, I know it when I see it. And I definitely see an abuser in both my brother and in his wife. They treat my niece horribly; they degrade her and scream at her over nothing; they expect so ridiculously much of her when she's...
    d0vahkiin d0vahkiin 16-17, F 3 Responses Sep 30

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    You know your home life is bad

    when school is the high light of your day. I'm not sure how much more I can take
    Flyyer73 Flyyer73 16-17, F 1 Response Sep 28

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    Just Because Its Not Visible Does Not Mean Its Not There

    I know there are many examples of emotional/mental abuse on here, and each one is important. I also know that this form of abuse can come from both men and women. I happened to be on the receiving end of emotional abuse from my wife. She is now my ex..   As a little back story...
    Army0917 Army0917 31-35, M 9 Responses Mar 19, 2011

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    Vindicated!! It was a small win,

    but at couples therapy tonight the therapist told my wife that no matter what I offer her in gestures or attempts, she only gets angry or ridicules me. My wife got very upset and almost walked out accusing the therapist of being unsafe and biased. The therapist was able to talk...
    deepbreathneeded deepbreathneeded 36-40, M 3 Responses Sep 22

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    I just want her to love me the way I do her (

    my partner) I mean she is always saying I'm stupid I don't deserve her and I should go kill my self I want to leave but i can't I love to much for my own good her words stick in my head there slowly killing me I'm a ***** I'm a nobody and no one would care if I died
    TheForgotenAnimator TheForgotenAnimator 18-21, F 3 Responses Oct 11

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    What Is Emotional Abuse.

    What is Emotional Abuse? I've asked myself this question a million times. I never knew the answers and for a long time I was too afraid to find them, I was afraid of what I'd discover. About myself, about my spouse, about our life. Then for some reason in the last couple of weeks...
    UndeniablyConfused UndeniablyConfused 26-30, F 69 Responses Dec 1, 2008

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    Drained By A Vampire

    No, not the fictional variety, but the emotional variety. More and more was asked of me, I gave and gave. I gave not only time but trust. And I lost so much of myself in the process. First it all seemed so caring, so I gave freely of myself, my trust. But then it began.  The...
    DinahMoeHumm DinahMoeHumm 41-45, F 4 Responses Aug 2, 2012

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    My Story #2 Mental/Physical/Emotional/Verbal Abuse

    I DON'T REALLY KNOW HOW TO START THIS, BUT I CAN TRY. I HAVE BEEN MENTALLY/EMOTIONALLY/VERBALLY/PHYSICALLY ABUSED BY MY EX BOYFRIEND FOR A LONG LONG TIME. I HAVE DECIDED TO SHARE THIS BECAUSE I HAVE GOTTEN TO THE POINT WHERE IT WILL HELP ME THROUGH MY PROCESS. I LOST MYSELF TO...
    mellymel30 mellymel30 26-30, F 2 Responses Apr 5, 2013

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    Trapped No More

    You are nobody now. I deny you You played mind games Which drove me to insanity It wasnt meant to be like that. But I could not change you. I was weak unaware and naive And didnt you play that card well? There were times I stayed out at work Not to come home to hear it again...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses May 13, 2012

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    Yesterday my dad caught me with my boyfriend.

    My parents said I'm a sneaky *****, worthless and now the biggest disappoint of their lives. They won't let me have any contact with my boyfriend of a year and a half. I'm having seriously bad thoughts
    Flyyer73 Flyyer73 16-17, F 2 Responses Sep 21

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    For five years, I was in a relationship with a

    domineering man, who controlled everything I did. I was not allowed to be myself with him. He didn't care about what I wanted or what I needed. He let me starve while he pigged out. He made me feel stupid, incompetent, ugly and dirty. He made me feel like I could not take care...
    Bluebutterflywings Bluebutterflywings 26-30, F 3 Responses Jun 15

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    I was in a relationship with someone

    who is my teacher and also my superior at work. At first it was an extended honeymoon, but more and more she seemed to be intent on pushing me off of the pedestal she'd put me on and beating me down emotionally. Eventually it became so that I didn't know from day-to-day or hour...
    brightflame brightflame 31-35, F 1 Response Oct 12

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    I suffer bad anxiety about 13 years cos i was

    abused, dumped and ignored. I dont see any changes for me. How do u cope with anxiety? Without meds?
    angel8i angel8i 31-35, F 6 Responses 1 day ago

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    The Art Of Emotional Abuse

    ~THE ART OF EMOTIONAL ABUSE~ THE CANVAS How do you become the victim of emotional abuse? Why don’t you just get out? I’ve been asked “What did he do to you?” BRUSH STROKES There are no concrete answers to that question. No physical wounds to prove the damage. It’s so...
    Breeziiee Breeziiee 41-45, F 20 Responses Aug 8, 2013

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    Used to be sexual...then father died at age 7.

    ...mother fell apart for a year or so...never got out of bed...5 year old lil brother...couldn't trust her with him...missed a lotta school... To look after lil bro, do the cooking, cleaning, grocery shopping e.t.c....then....physically abused my teen years....used to sleep rough...
    cherryjar cherryjar 26-30, F 1 Response Sep 20

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    Growing up, my mother would have these "moods"

    where she would get angry at some small mistake or mishap and scream and yell at anyone within her sight. She would always blame me or my father for whatever was wrong. I grew up hearing how I was a "bad child", how I couldn't do anything right, how I was never gonna amount to...
    bookworm2014 bookworm2014 22-25, F 6 Responses Jan 13

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    At home it's so hard to stay positive

    when you're surrounded by negativity.
    Hipstercatlover Hipstercatlover 16-17, F 2 Responses Oct 6

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    Nothing like waking up

    and being called lazy and useless. I don't recall those being words of affirmation :(
    TCL009 TCL009 41-45, F 3 Responses Aug 8

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    I Was Emotionally, Mentally, And Verbally Abused.

      I was abused by my father, sister, and brother. My parents got divorced when I was 9. That's when my life turned into a living hell. My mom left my dad because each day he would come home from work and yell at everyone. My mom couldn't handle it anymore, so she left. My...
    CrystalViolet7 CrystalViolet7 13-15, F 1 Response Mar 15, 2013

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    I just walked out of an abusive relationship

    funny he forced me to leave the last thing he said was either you blame all of the abuse on yourself or gtfo i finally came to terms that he never loved me... I feel ok (safe)
    rossp24 rossp24 18-21, F 5 Responses Mar 11

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    Tale of Two Husbands: Dr. Jekyl & Mr. Hyde

    I can't believe it happened to me. I thought I was too smart, too wise. I'd had therapy. Hell, my husband had worked as a mental health therapist for 10 years, and we both have PhDs. Here's my realization:  That I'd been excusing his "moods" and assuming he'd...
    FormerDoorMat FormerDoorMat 51-55, F 61 Responses Mar 12, 2009

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    A Little Poem About My Ex Abuser....

    SOMEONE I AM SEEING TOLD ME TO WRITE THIS SO I THOUGHT I WOULD SHARE IT WITH YOU GUYS...HERE IT GOES... I REMEMBER THE MINI TRIPS WE WENT ON I REMEMBER THE FUN WE USE TO HAVE JUST DOING ANYTHING I REMEMBER THE THINGS YOU WOULD DO TO MAKE ME LAUGH I REMEMBER THE PROM I...
    mellymel30 mellymel30 26-30, F 3 Responses Jul 10, 2013

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    Although it's been a yr in August,

    I am still replaying the words that has haunted me. I masked the pain, hardly ever talk to people about my DV case. I mainly keep to myself these days, because people downplay my situation a lot. I've had women say oh that wouldn't be me! But how can they be so sure? I was once...
    NewLife0817 NewLife0817 26-30, F 1 Response Oct 2

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    My wife has been emotionally abusing me

    for about 9 months. It started when she abandoned our relationship completely when she began training for a figure competition in January. During this time, she became obsessive about the gym and her trainer, and completely detached from me - physically and emotionally. This...
    deepbreathneeded deepbreathneeded 36-40, M 3 Responses Sep 21

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    I've endured. I've survived.

    I'd like to thank the following: God (for protecting me and seeing me through) Friends & family (for being the listening ears when I was trying to sort it out) Books (I've read plenty to open my eyes to my situation. Namely "Why Does He Do That" and "The Verbally Abusive...
    NotFiction NotFiction 31-35, F 4 Responses Oct 9

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    Physical aggression by a man toward his partner

    is abuse, even if it happens only once. If he raises a fist; punches a hole in the wall; throws things at you; blocks your way; restrains you; grabs, pushes, or pokes you; or threatens to hurt you, that’s physical abuse. He is creating fear and using your need for physical...
    Lostnalone22 Lostnalone22 31-35, F 2 Responses Jul 31

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    It took me a very long time to realize

    that I was being abused. I am a college student now and I am working on a project to try to show my fellow students what emotional abuse looks like and sounds like. I am collecting anonymous submissions that will be the basis of an art installation project. let your voice be...
    insideourheads insideourheads 18-21, F 2 Responses Oct 13

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    I feel like I need to share the truth about my

    relationship somewhere. I have been in a relationship with a guy who has made me feel isolated, like a disgusting animal, a stupid child, and depressed for more than 3 years. None of the ugly came out in him until after I was committed and emotional invested in him. We were...
    myselffirst myselffirst 18-21, F 8 Responses Jun 26

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    As a male victim of an emotionally & verbally

    abusive marriage, I had a hard time finding people who would listen and help, especially in the Christian church world. As the target of abuse, the main questions I needed to discuss and/or have answered were, "Why did you (my wife) treat me in the cruel ways that you did...
    bwDVOWRD bwDVOWRD 26-30, M 4 Responses Sep 29

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    I have a boyfriend I have been with

    for nearly 4 years. At the start of our relationship he made me feel so loved and was so caring. But then he started being shady he'd lie to me about a lot of things, hide things from me and when I would find out and confront him he'd deny it or lie even more. He stopped letting...
    lon12 lon12 22-25, F 2 Responses Sep 21

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    Dear ******* Who Hurt Me

    for Four Years, I am no longer your emotional slave. You hurts me so bad that I was diagnosed with PTSD. You drove me out of the state, 1000 miles away from my hometown. I left because I was so incredibly scared of you, scared you would come back and hurt me, and say things...
    sarahtorrella sarahtorrella 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 15

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    My ex just told me he wants half of our chattel

    property (I don't know if the term is right; I mean everything that is not real property; the things you can take with you, like tables, computers, etc.) He hates that I don't care about his new girlfriend and that he cannot control me through money anymore. I'm devastated. I...
    bettyajz bettyajz 36-40, F 2 Responses Oct 14

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    Mary the victim was my predator.

    She tries to act like she never is at fault by making me the villain. The only reason she has to hate me is because I betrayed her a single time, but that was after nearly a year of emotional abuse. At first, Mary seemed like such a kind person. Mary was more interesting and...
    FunnyLookingCorpse FunnyLookingCorpse 18-21 1 Response Oct 12

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    I learned a lot of things

    while i was married to an abusive man for 10yrs.. I learned that i am not strong enough to take care of myself.. and so i stopped and let him I learned that i am not smart enough to make any decisions on my own because everything i did was wrong. .and so i stopped and let him...
    sweetpea6200 sweetpea6200 31-35, F 9 Responses Apr 21

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    Part 2: Well it's now been 6 years.

    I am the crazy one and he is mr perfect to his friends and family! A few times we went out with friends and he was mr chatty to everyone but me and it made me feel so hurt and upset that I went off on him in front of everyone. I feel stupid but he drove me to it. And then when I...
    snw1980 snw1980 31-35, F 1 Response Jul 18

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    I was all my life a victim of bullies,

    better to say female bullies. Its hard to believe why female will hurt the same female for no reason. Girls should support each other and not hate. As i showed girls kindness they treated me like crap. Totally strange then maybe people doesnt liked me cos im kind? Whats better...
    angel8i angel8i 31-35, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    Home That Doesn't Feel Like Home

    I'am a victim of emotional abuse. Ever since I was a kid my parents would emotionally abuse me. They will say how worthless I am in the family, how I just should quit school for being stupid and whole bunch of stuff. And since I am a kid, it grew on me. I cry a lot and wish I was...
    kmisfit123 kmisfit123 18-21, F 17 Responses Jul 15, 2013

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    Men Can Be Abused Too...

    I've been in emotionally abusive relationships all my life...including growing up with my mother. She still does it to me. I'm 39 and my mother still has the ability to **** with my head. I'm an only child so I don't have other siblings to share the torture with. I try to write...
    Trevoc3 Trevoc3 36-40, M 4 Responses Oct 23, 2013

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    phoenixprincess phoenixprincess 70+, F 3 Responses Oct 11

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    Everyday is a balancing act.

    I try as hard as I can to not drown in my own bitterness. I begin and end each day with the same thought, how can I get away from this man. I've been married for 16 soul crushing years. My husband has never laid a hand on me. He has cheated on me, made fun of my sensitivity...
    tianatlc tianatlc 36-40, F 5 Responses Sep 17

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    Not True

    ***** do this and ***** do that that's what I got woke up to everyday. Your nothing but a worthless **** no one will ever want you. Your retarted! You can't do anything right. Your nasty your ugly. This is what emotional abuse is. After hearing it so long you think its true. I'm...
    holehearted79 holehearted79 31-35, F 4 Responses Jul 15, 2013

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    It sounds silly, because I'm a guy.

    I just broke free from an emotional abusive relationship, but I don't know if I've really broken free. I find myself sad at night, I wake up from vivid dreams of her just coming in to my house and holding me. That was the thing that made me the happiest, just wrapping my arms...
    rustyhouston rustyhouston 31-35, M 7 Responses Sep 11

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    In the beginning my now husband was very sweet

    always opening the door for me and always putting me before everything else. There was a time i actually felt like he loved me. After he came home from Iraq he was a different man. He always proceeded to make me cry, to put me down, and to threaten to beat me so hard that i...
    Sexygirl8807 Sexygirl8807 26-30 32 Responses Dec 13, 2013

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    Sometimes I wish he physically abused me

    than mentally. The emotional abuse will not leave your brain. I feel like I am constantly being beaten again and again. Why can't I get over his words? I am strong. I am good. I am worthy of loving and being loved. I got all of the positive affirmations down. However, his...
    RedXSue RedXSue 51-55, F 3 Responses Oct 11

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    Coming Up For Air

    I loved the attention.After being ignored for so many years I loved that someone thought that I was worth listening to, that what I had to say mattered.I loved that I felt attractive again, that I felt desired.I loved that I felt loved.He never hit me. He rarely said an unkind...
    Quintesse Quintesse 51-55, F 69 Responses Aug 19, 2011

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    ...

    and it makes it really hard to have normal relationships once you're damaged goods... because now everything makes us feel vulnerable and easily hurt. And so, even if it's emotional intimacy that we want most, we can't even begin to enjoy it because we're so hurt, so scarred, so...
    CrazyHippieChick CrazyHippieChick 22-25, F 4 Responses Dec 8, 2013

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    I recently got out of a verbal

    and emotionally abusive relationship but rather than share the actual story...for I am not up to recounting it...I thought I'd share the signs that I gathered and used to diagnose the problem. I had figured under 15 of these could be just normal relationship stress...but...
    theodore2324 theodore2324 26-30, M 7 Responses Jan 24

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    I've finally come to terms

    that what I have been experiencing from this man these last 7 years is emotional abuse. This is the first time I've used this term. It's so frightening and yet freeing at the same time to be able admit this, even if it's just in an online forum. He has been to a few counseling...
    whatsleftofme01 whatsleftofme01 26-30, F 2 Responses Oct 4

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    We need to stand for something,

    even if we can only get to our knees.
    KeiHamilton KeiHamilton 16-17 Sep 20

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    I wonder, how it would have been

    if I was raised in a normal family. My mother is a narcissistic person (NPD) and my dad was and is her enabler. I was raised with the burden of having to accommodate every single unreasonable requests from my mother. When I tried to say no, I was thought I was selfish and...
    pistacchia pistacchia 46-50, F 4 Responses Sep 16

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    I am a man, and my wife is.

    .. it's hard to say it and feel like I'm really telling the truth, but she's my abuser. She treats my questions as though they have obvious answers. She treats me like I'm just a participant in our life, not a partner. She treats me like my opinion on something, or my desire...
    Felixthestoat Felixthestoat 22-25, T 11 Responses Apr 18

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    I keep asking myself

    if he really loves me? Does he mean what he says? Why was it so good in the beginning and then turned so ugly....my boyfriend, he came from a broken family, he would see his mom get hit and his dad left him. He started living on his own with his brother... I didn't really know...
    AndreaaG AndreaaG 18-21, F 2 Responses Sep 14

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    Eh. This sucks.will I ever recover from his bs?

    And also bs other people have thrown at me too?
    amtired amtired 22-25 3 Responses 1 day ago

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