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I Am a Victim of Emotional Abuse

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    and it makes it really hard to have normal relationships once you're damaged goods... because now everything makes us feel vulnerable and easily hurt. And so, even if it's emotional intimacy that we want most, we can't even begin to enjoy it because we're so hurt, so scarred, so...
    CrazyHippieChick CrazyHippieChick 22-25 5 Responses Dec 8, 2013

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    well....theres not much to say.

    i feel my story is inferior to those who have spent their entire lives being abused. mine was a short 2 months with a boyfriend. i didn't understand what happened. before we got together he would phone me every night for hours. after we got together, he'd never phone me. he'd...
    Lizzy90242 Lizzy90242 16-17, F 3 Responses May 27

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    Vindicated!! It was a small win,

    but at couples therapy tonight the therapist told my wife that no matter what I offer her in gestures or attempts, she only gets angry or ridicules me. My wife got very upset and almost walked out accusing the therapist of being unsafe and biased. The therapist was able to talk...
    deepbreathneeded deepbreathneeded 36-40, M 2 Responses Sep 22, 2014

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    he told me I was a *****

    and that's all I am. that's not very nice. especially when I already feel like crap about myself. in church once a pastor said that a relationship is like a gas tank. it starts out full. but once you have a heart ache it slowly empties. sure something good can happen and you try...
    yesitsme123 yesitsme123 31-35 2 Responses May 18

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    As a male victim of an emotionally & verbally

    abusive marriage, I had a hard time finding people who would listen and help, especially in the Christian church world. As the target of abuse, the main questions I needed to discuss and/or have answered were, "Why did you (my wife) treat me in the cruel ways that you did...
    bwDVOWRD bwDVOWRD 26-30, M 4 Responses Sep 29, 2014

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    Hi ok so I have been a victim of emotional

    and mental nd a little bit of physical abuse in the past. I have been in about 4 relationships that were like that not all were physical mostly just mental and emotional abuse and it was so hard and it hurts so much. My boyfriend that I'm with now abuses me emotionally and...
    LuvLostSoul LuvLostSoul 26-30, F 1 Response Jun 26

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    Is my mom a Narcissist?

    I'm so sad right now. My whole life, she has always been an abuser of false hope and broken promises, and it's primed me for an abusive relationship in addition to destroying my optimism in the world. She will say anything you want to hear and promises you the moon, but...
    wowodeals wowodeals 26-30, F 1 Response Jul 6

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    I don't know where else to ask.

    Is this also abuse? I come home from working 3pm to 11pm at a nursing home where I care for people with Alzheimer's and Dementia. I love my job but it is demanding. My husband is a big hockey fan. His team did not make it to the finals. He gets angry when they lost and I am...
    mom4ce mom4ce 51-55, F 2 Responses Jun 13

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    bateine ki baat hein ?

    nehi to? e meri apni hein. e koi nehi le sakte hein humse. e.. humara hein... humara i rahe ga. jab jau.. dusri gaw .. dusri dofa vogoban.. jab puse humko... "ANJALEE..." tum itna sari baat mere liye rakh liya? Kui, beti? Batao.. aramse.. dor na maat. tab batau.. eai HUMARA...
    apsebatienhuye apsebatienhuye 56-60, F Jun 16

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    Hi everyone! After 25 years of being financially

    and emotionally abused by my father I am suing him and finding the process a bit overwhelming. Even more overwhelming is seeing how deep the abuse goes, finding out im not the messed up person he has always made me think I am, finding out how mentally unstable he is and the...
    amaykate amaykate 22-25 Jun 10

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    I want him gone I want him out of my house I

    can't stand him any more is getting worse and worse he keeps saying all these mean horrible things to me I can't take it any more he thinks he is perfect and does not do anything wrong when he does all the time I'm done can't do it no more he blames me for everything all the...
    LuvLostSoul LuvLostSoul 26-30, F 3 Responses Jul 20

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    berangere berangere 66-70, F 2 Responses Apr 30

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    In the beginning my now husband was very sweet

    always opening the door for me and always putting me before everything else. There was a time i actually felt like he loved me. After he came home from Iraq he was a different man. He always proceeded to make me cry, to put me down, and to threaten to beat me so hard that i...
    Sexygirl8807 Sexygirl8807 26-30 29 Responses Dec 13, 2013

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    So I'm out of it now.

    I left.Yeah I was being abused for years.I recently left. He always called me retarted, and slow. He made me watch videos of people dying. he started saying he wants to beat my brains in. A few times, he held his fists in my face. Also, a few times he beat the crap out of his...
    amtired amtired 22-25, F 3 Responses Jun 24

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    Growing up, my mother would have these "moods"

    where she would get angry at some small mistake or mishap and scream and yell at anyone within her sight. She would always blame me or my father for whatever was wrong. I grew up hearing how I was a "bad child", how I couldn't do anything right, how I was never gonna amount to...
    bookworm2014 bookworm2014 22-25, F 5 Responses Jan 13, 2014

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    Drained By A Vampire

    No, not the fictional variety, but the emotional variety. More and more was asked of me, I gave and gave. I gave not only time but trust. And I lost so much of myself in the process. First it all seemed so caring, so I gave freely of myself, my trust. But then it began.  The...
    DinahMoeHumm DinahMoeHumm 41-45, F 4 Responses Aug 2, 2012

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    One of the hardest things about my situation of

    emotional abuse is, my dad is the abuser, and I can't really get away from it except leaving the house which I can't really do because I don't have a car that I can just drive away in. I've told a very trusted teacher of mine (Of 3 years going on 4) and my new best friend about...
    Hipstercatlover Hipstercatlover 16-17, F 4 Responses Jun 6

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    I am a college student

    and I have a puppy. My roommate wanted a dog about a month ago, and she was going to go to a puppy store. I told her that she should adopt if she wanted a puppy. I thought it would be great because my dog could have company and we could help each other. Well, I went to a...
    Lithium619 Lithium619 18-21, F 3 Responses Jul 11

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    And the wealthy promote it.

    Conquest is promoted. And king of the hill. And luxury. Not quality Not equality Unless slaves. Not health Unless paid for fake fixes Not honesty Unless its to attack the upset foe of wealth. Why no solar country. A chinese guy built a solar city. On a...
    Converted Converted 46-50, M 1 Response Jul 16

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    Not True

    ***** do this and ***** do that that's what I got woke up to everyday. Your nothing but a worthless **** no one will ever want you. Your retarted! You can't do anything right. Your nasty your ugly. This is what emotional abuse is. After hearing it so long you think its true. I'm...
    holehearted79 holehearted79 36-40, F 4 Responses Jul 15, 2013

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    i'm hurting. his words are vicious,

    cruel, disgusting, and couldn't be farther from the truth. yet i give in to his bs and swallow it. absorb it. in the same sentence he will tell me that he loves me, but then call me a crazy, psycho, wh*re b*tch. he disrepects my family when it's just me and him. but to them...
    mermaid81 mermaid81 31-35, F 5 Responses Nov 21, 2014

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    This has bothered me my entire life.

    My entire life my mom has had a tendency to ignore me. I can't remember a time where she has ever done anything for me, she only does for herself. But she does tell at me and belittle me every chance She gets. She hasn't even raised me, my grandfather did because she was too...
    UnwantedUseless UnwantedUseless 16-17, F 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    I am a man, and my wife is.

    .. it's hard to say it and feel like I'm really telling the truth, but she's my abuser. She treats my questions as though they have obvious answers. She treats me like I'm just a participant in our life, not a partner. She treats me like my opinion on something, or my desire...
    Felixthestoat Felixthestoat 22-25, T 11 Responses Apr 18, 2014

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    I had to pull myself out of suicidal thoughts

    alone tonight. My parents will never accept the fact that they are part of the problem.
    sassycastiel sassycastiel 18-21, F 2 Responses May 20

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    With my being in love with a loser has caused a

    lot of agony. Being cheated on over and over. Being told that he didn't like what I had on and that I was crazy. Yea i was damn crazy for loving such a jackass. I WAS a victim of emotional abuse. I finally got the strength to leave. It was for the best.
    SentimentalMood SentimentalMood 36-40, F 3 Responses Nov 12, 2014

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    Physical aggression by a man toward his partner

    is abuse, even if it happens only once. If he raises a fist; punches a hole in the wall; throws things at you; blocks your way; restrains you; grabs, pushes, or pokes you; or threatens to hurt you, that’s physical abuse. He is creating fear and using your need for physical...
    Beautifulnlost22 Beautifulnlost22 31-35, F 4 Responses Jul 31, 2014

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    Why do I still put value on things

    that I do know are invaluable? Like my relationships with family and society in general , it only ends in disappointments. Being rejected by society is just dehumanizing af. I can't seem to break away completely from it and I don't think it will ever be possible. I am just...
    decentraIized decentraIized 22-25, F 7 Responses Jul 16

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    My Story #2 Mental/Physical/Emotional/Verbal Abuse

    I DON'T REALLY KNOW HOW TO START THIS, BUT I CAN TRY. I HAVE BEEN MENTALLY/EMOTIONALLY/VERBALLY/PHYSICALLY ABUSED BY MY EX BOYFRIEND FOR A LONG LONG TIME. I HAVE DECIDED TO SHARE THIS BECAUSE I HAVE GOTTEN TO THE POINT WHERE IT WILL HELP ME THROUGH MY PROCESS. I LOST MYSELF TO...
    mellymel30 mellymel30 31-35, F 2 Responses Apr 5, 2013

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    My mother met my stepfather

    when I was 8. He was OK at first, besides the constant rambling about his four "perfect" sons, who all played various sports. My brother and I were almost their complete opposites. I'm a science-y, peace-loving, atheistic, booklover, and my brother is a gamer. After six years...
    newtonscamander newtonscamander 13-15, F May 19

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    Nothing like waking up

    and being called lazy and useless. I don't recall those being words of affirmation :(
    TheCunylinguist TheCunylinguist 41-45, F 2 Responses Aug 8, 2014

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    For five years, I was in a relationship with a

    domineering man, who controlled everything I did. I was not allowed to be myself with him. He didn't care about what I wanted or what I needed. He let me starve while he pigged out. He made me feel stupid, incompetent, ugly and dirty. He made me feel like I could not take care...
    Bluebutterflywings Bluebutterflywings 26-30, F 3 Responses Jun 15, 2014

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    From the outside, my life at home looks

    fabulous. I couldn't have a better mom and dad. I go to university, which they help pay for, and I live in my moms house. My parents are divorced and both remarried. My moms house is quite large. My mom also eats out a lot, so it looks like we are well-off financially. On the...
    emilie021 emilie021 18-21, F 5 Responses Jun 20

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    Dear ******* Who Hurt Me

    for Four Years, I am no longer your emotional slave. You hurts me so bad that I was diagnosed with PTSD. You drove me out of the state, 1000 miles away from my hometown. I left because I was so incredibly scared of you, scared you would come back and hurt me, and say things...
    sarahtorrella sarahtorrella 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 15, 2014

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    My parents were divorced about a decade ago.

    The Cause: my mom and dad would have terrible fights. It was horrible. I was an only child. My mom would sometimes sleep in my room when she was upset with my dad. She didn't have much control in the house; my dad oversaw everything. My dad has a terrible temper. He would get...
    Novuko129 Novuko129 16-17, F 2 Responses Jul 22

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    Part 2: Well it's now been 6 years.

    I am the crazy one and he is mr perfect to his friends and family! A few times we went out with friends and he was mr chatty to everyone but me and it made me feel so hurt and upset that I went off on him in front of everyone. I feel stupid but he drove me to it. And then when I...
    snw1980 snw1980 31-35, F 1 Response Jul 18, 2014

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    I personally think that emotional abuse is

    worse then physical abuse. I've been through both and emotional hurt more for me.
    Suicidekisses Suicidekisses 18-21, F 4 Responses Jun 19

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    Coming Up For Air

    I loved the attention.After being ignored for so many years I loved that someone thought that I was worth listening to, that what I had to say mattered.I loved that I felt attractive again, that I felt desired.I loved that I felt loved.He never hit me. He rarely said an unkind...
    Quintesse Quintesse 51-55, F 66 Responses Aug 19, 2011

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    Yasmin567 Yasmin567 22-25, F 2 Responses Jun 2

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    Tale of Two Husbands: Dr. Jekyl & Mr. Hyde

    I can't believe it happened to me. I thought I was too smart, too wise. I'd had therapy. Hell, my husband had worked as a mental health therapist for 10 years, and we both have PhDs. Here's my realization:  That I'd been excusing his "moods" and assuming he'd...
    FormerDoorMat FormerDoorMat 51-55, F 62 Responses Mar 12, 2009

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    Just Because Its Not Visible Does Not Mean Its Not There

    I know there are many examples of emotional/mental abuse on here, and each one is important. I also know that this form of abuse can come from both men and women. I happened to be on the receiving end of emotional abuse from my wife. She is now my ex..   As a little back story...
    Army0917 Army0917 31-35, M 9 Responses Mar 19, 2011

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    I believed the words you threw at me.

    They bore down deep into my soul. To my very core I believed I was unworthy of your respect. That I deserved every horrible name you uttered. Thought it was acceptable to not be allowed to see my family or friends. Even believed that not seeing them was better for our...
    Happinessismine Happinessismine 31-35, F 6 Responses Mar 31

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    I just walked out of an abusive relationship

    funny he forced me to leave the last thing he said was either you blame all of the abuse on yourself or gtfo i finally came to terms that he never loved me... I feel ok (safe)
    rossp24 rossp24 22-25, F 5 Responses Mar 11, 2014

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    I learned a lot of things

    while i was married to an abusive man for 10yrs.. I learned that i am not strong enough to take care of myself.. and so i stopped and let him I learned that i am not smart enough to make any decisions on my own because everything i did was wrong. .and so i stopped and let him...
    sweetpea6200 sweetpea6200 31-35, F 7 Responses Apr 21, 2014

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    To my father & abuser

    for 25 years: I am writing to inform you that I know exactly who and what you are. (A Malignant Narcissist, psychopath, antisocial, hateful, wife beater, child abuser, blackmailer, emotional terrorist, pathological liar, manipulator, coward, adult bully & emotional rapist - a...
    wowodeals wowodeals 26-30, F 4 Responses Jul 1

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    I am depressed.people say the meanest things

    sometimes. Especially my abusive ex. He made fun of me almost daily. If I was so bad in his opinion, why'd he talk to me? I don't understand. I want to give up on life. I can't handle it. I have no energy to do anything. What should I do? Sigh... I really don't like mean people...
    amtired amtired 22-25, F 2 Responses Jun 18

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    ~THE ART OF EMOTIONAL ABUSE~ THE CANVAS How do

    you become the victim of emotional abuse? Why don’t you just get out? I’ve been asked “What did he do to you?” BRUSH STROKES There are no concrete answers to that question. No physical wounds to prove the damage. It’s so subtle & pervasive, as not to be described by a...
    Breeziiee Breeziiee 41-45, F 5 Responses Feb 20, 2014

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