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I Am a Victim of Emotional Abuse

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    It hurts so much. There's not a day I don't cry.

    I hate when it's close to the time he will get home. Not to mention how much I dread weekends(he's off Friday, Saturday and Sunday). He will gripe, scream, belittle me, tell me how stupid I am, tell me I'm a grown woman stop the stupid crying no one cares, there's nothing I can...
    Txwoman123 Txwoman123 41-45, F 10 Responses Feb 15

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    Yep, been there done that,

    got the bloody t shirt. Abuse needs to end now. Not just emotional - physical, mental, sexual, financial too.
    krystalkool84 krystalkool84 31-35, F 2 Responses Feb 18

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    Coming Up For Air

    I loved the attention.After being ignored for so many years I loved that someone thought that I was worth listening to, that what I had to say mattered.I loved that I felt attractive again, that I felt desired.I loved that I felt loved.He never hit me. He rarely said an unkind...
    Quintesse Quintesse 51-55, F 66 Responses Aug 19, 2011

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    My Story #2 Mental/Physical/Emotional/Verbal Abuse

    I DON'T REALLY KNOW HOW TO START THIS, BUT I CAN TRY. I HAVE BEEN MENTALLY/EMOTIONALLY/VERBALLY/PHYSICALLY ABUSED BY MY EX BOYFRIEND FOR A LONG LONG TIME. I HAVE DECIDED TO SHARE THIS BECAUSE I HAVE GOTTEN TO THE POINT WHERE IT WILL HELP ME THROUGH MY PROCESS. I LOST MYSELF TO...
    mellymel30 mellymel30 26-30, F 2 Responses Apr 5, 2013

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    Nothing like waking up

    and being called lazy and useless. I don't recall those being words of affirmation :(
    TCL009 TCL009 41-45, F 2 Responses Aug 8, 2014

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    I believed the words you threw at me.

    They bore down deep into my soul. To my very core I believed I was unworthy of your respect. That I deserved every horrible name you uttered. Thought it was acceptable to not be allowed to see my family or friends. Even believed that not seeing them was better for our...
    Happinessismine Happinessismine 31-35, F 4 Responses Mar 31

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    Thedepressedgirlatthewindow Thedepressedgirlatthewindow 16-17, F 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    In the beginning my now husband was very sweet

    always opening the door for me and always putting me before everything else. There was a time i actually felt like he loved me. After he came home from Iraq he was a different man. He always proceeded to make me cry, to put me down, and to threaten to beat me so hard that i...
    Sexygirl8807 Sexygirl8807 26-30 30 Responses Dec 13, 2013

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    Someone said that happiness is a choice.

    You cannot change your past but the future is in your hands. Your reaction is Your responsibility.
    jamielove7777 jamielove7777 26-30, F Mar 31

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    Tale of Two Husbands: Dr. Jekyl & Mr. Hyde

    I can't believe it happened to me. I thought I was too smart, too wise. I'd had therapy. Hell, my husband had worked as a mental health therapist for 10 years, and we both have PhDs. Here's my realization:  That I'd been excusing his "moods" and assuming he'd...
    FormerDoorMat FormerDoorMat 51-55, F 61 Responses Mar 12, 2009

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    I am a man, and my wife is.

    .. it's hard to say it and feel like I'm really telling the truth, but she's my abuser. She treats my questions as though they have obvious answers. She treats me like I'm just a participant in our life, not a partner. She treats me like my opinion on something, or my desire...
    Felixthestoat Felixthestoat 22-25, T 11 Responses Apr 18, 2014

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    Physical aggression by a man toward his partner

    is abuse, even if it happens only once. If he raises a fist; punches a hole in the wall; throws things at you; blocks your way; restrains you; grabs, pushes, or pokes you; or threatens to hurt you, that’s physical abuse. He is creating fear and using your need for physical...
    Lostnalone22 Lostnalone22 31-35, F 4 Responses Jul 31, 2014

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    if someone is treating you badly

    who has a mental illness (bipolar w schizophrenia symptoms,ptsd .he takes meds 4 it) , should you just to some degree let it go because it can be attributed to the illness , or can it possibly be willful of them to do that? my bf is always calling me mean names ,belittes me...
    foxyoxy123 foxyoxy123 26-30, F 3 Responses 6 days ago

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    ~THE ART OF EMOTIONAL ABUSE~ THE CANVAS How do

    you become the victim of emotional abuse? Why don’t you just get out? I’ve been asked “What did he do to you?” BRUSH STROKES There are no concrete answers to that question. No physical wounds to prove the damage. It’s so subtle & pervasive, as not to be described by a...
    Breeziiee Breeziiee 41-45, F 5 Responses Feb 20, 2014

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    ...

    and it makes it really hard to have normal relationships once you're damaged goods... because now everything makes us feel vulnerable and easily hurt. And so, even if it's emotional intimacy that we want most, we can't even begin to enjoy it because we're so hurt, so scarred, so...
    CrazyHippieChick CrazyHippieChick 70+, F 4 Responses Dec 8, 2013

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    Dear ******* Who Hurt Me

    for Four Years, I am no longer your emotional slave. You hurts me so bad that I was diagnosed with PTSD. You drove me out of the state, 1000 miles away from my hometown. I left because I was so incredibly scared of you, scared you would come back and hurt me, and say things...
    sarahtorrella sarahtorrella 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 15, 2014

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    My first wife left me

    and my two year old. I was devastated to say the least. I met my current wife when he was four. She has helped me raise him and we have a 17 year old son together. I made a promise to stand by her no matter what. She can be a very angry person and wants everything her way. My...
    jaymic64 jaymic64 51-55, M 6 Responses Mar 26

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    I learned a lot of things

    while i was married to an abusive man for 10yrs.. I learned that i am not strong enough to take care of myself.. and so i stopped and let him I learned that i am not smart enough to make any decisions on my own because everything i did was wrong. .and so i stopped and let him...
    sweetpea6200 sweetpea6200 31-35, F 9 Responses Apr 21, 2014

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    Growing up, my mother would have these "moods"

    where she would get angry at some small mistake or mishap and scream and yell at anyone within her sight. She would always blame me or my father for whatever was wrong. I grew up hearing how I was a "bad child", how I couldn't do anything right, how I was never gonna amount to...
    bookworm2014 bookworm2014 22-25, F 6 Responses Jan 13, 2014

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    I feel like it was my fault,

    like I needed to be there for her more
    desculpa desculpa 22-25, F Feb 21

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    I never considered emotional abuse

    as an option until a couselor
    Reinventmyself Reinventmyself 46-50, F 1 Response Mar 20

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    How does she find a way to hurt me

    even when we aren't talking.
    desculpa desculpa 22-25, F Mar 16

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    Emotional abuse is just

    as bad I think because it causes undue stress. Stress can kill you. It will cause you to make poor decisions. I am victimized at times even at the age of 30 by the older generations. older folks that act like kids teasing and laughing like idiots. It is Hard to deal with. I was...
    jamielove7777 jamielove7777 26-30, F 1 Response Mar 31

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    If I could tell any female going through

    emotional abuse I would say learn to love yourself. Accept your own flaws and embrace them. Do not accept or get used to any male putting your self esteem more like your soul down with wordss. Words leave scars! If it doesnt feel right or hurts to much leave. Listen to your...
    love9494 love9494 18-21 Apr 4

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    Part 2: Well it's now been 6 years.

    I am the crazy one and he is mr perfect to his friends and family! A few times we went out with friends and he was mr chatty to everyone but me and it made me feel so hurt and upset that I went off on him in front of everyone. I feel stupid but he drove me to it. And then when I...
    snw1980 snw1980 31-35, F 1 Response Jul 18, 2014

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    I've noticed more and more lately

    that I am uncomfortable in my own home.everytime I come back,I am scared of what my mother is going to lay on me.if it's not chores,it's usually an insult.i think she just looks to find things about me to complain about.like my room.its my room,why does it matter what it looks...
    loftydreamer18 loftydreamer18 22-25, F 1 Response Nov 18, 2014

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    With my being in love with a loser has caused a

    lot of agony. Being cheated on over and over. Being told that he didn't like what I had on and that I was crazy. Yea i was damn crazy for loving such a jackass. I WAS a victim of emotional abuse. I finally got the strength to leave. It was for the best.
    SentimentalMood SentimentalMood 36-40, F 3 Responses Nov 12, 2014

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    I need advice from any former victims of high

    school bullying. I've been out of high school for about seven years now (class of '08), but I can't seem to stop dwelling on how I was treated back then. I have some pretty bad self esteem issues nowadays, and they all seem to lead back to the verbal and emotional abuse I...
    PassionEarth9 PassionEarth9 22-25, F 2 Responses Mar 26

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    This wonderful kind man (so I thought)came into

    my life and charmed me beyond belief, he was so kind and emotionally supportive of me. But the criticism and threats of leaving me started, and I love him so much, but I know what is going on it has happened in every romantic relationship I have ever had. I was physically and...
    meramera1 meramera1 36-40, F 3 Responses Apr 6

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    After having been molested

    as a child, I always considered myself "damaged" and "abused" but today I refuse to be a victim so I'm unchecking this. It is my brain.
    syntheticrhyme syntheticrhyme 46-50, F Feb 22

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    Drained By A Vampire

    No, not the fictional variety, but the emotional variety. More and more was asked of me, I gave and gave. I gave not only time but trust. And I lost so much of myself in the process. First it all seemed so caring, so I gave freely of myself, my trust. But then it began.  The...
    DinahMoeHumm DinahMoeHumm 41-45, F 4 Responses Aug 2, 2012

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    I'm a first time mom,

    and stupidly I believed my SO when he said he would change.... thought it would get better when we had our beautiful baby boy.... but it's only gotten worse.... are there any other moms out there struggling with a lazy, selfish baby daddy who does nothing but complain about...
    FTMandLost FTMandLost 26-30, F 2 Responses Apr 2

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    convertihd convertihd 46-50, M 1 Response Mar 22

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    The Art Of Emotional Abuse

    ~THE ART OF EMOTIONAL ABUSE~ THE CANVAS How do you become the victim of emotional abuse? Why don’t you just get out? I’ve been asked “What did he do to you?” BRUSH STROKES There are no concrete answers to that question. No physical wounds to prove the damage. It’s so...
    Breeziiee Breeziiee 41-45, F 21 Responses Aug 8, 2013

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    She was so mean to me

    but I still love her and miss her everyday
    desculpa desculpa 22-25, F 1 Response Feb 19

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    I just walked out of an abusive relationship

    funny he forced me to leave the last thing he said was either you blame all of the abuse on yourself or gtfo i finally came to terms that he never loved me... I feel ok (safe)
    rossp24 rossp24 22-25, F 5 Responses Mar 11, 2014

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    Oh wow.I'm finally free.

    finally! Eh.. But eh.... Whew! Whatta unnecessary rollercoaster THAT was! Phew! Jeez!
    amtired amtired 22-25, F 7 Responses Nov 21, 2014

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    All she did was make me feel terrible,

    she tells me I didn't do enough and I didn't care enough, that I wasn't good enough. But all I want is her, I'm so desperate, and so alone without her. I would do anything even to be back in her twisted, abusive, manipulative embrace.
    Phantom7835 Phantom7835 26-30, M 1 Response Mar 17

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    I have to spend 3 whole days with my dad

    while on vacation. I had to sit in a car with him for about 8 hours so far, and it felt like torture!! I don't know how I'm going to survive this week. I already feel like crying. :/
    Hipstercatlover Hipstercatlover 16-17, F 2 Responses Mar 31

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    What Is Emotional Abuse.

    What is Emotional Abuse? I've asked myself this question a million times. I never knew the answers and for a long time I was too afraid to find them, I was afraid of what I'd discover. About myself, about my spouse, about our life. Then for some reason in the last couple of weeks...
    UndeniablyConfused UndeniablyConfused 26-30, F 66 Responses Dec 1, 2008

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    Well, technically I was.

    But it leaves scars. Scars so deep and infected, time refuses to heal them. Scars so bad reopening them takes but a word, or a sentence and they take days to close up again. They leave you so affrais f bleeding out that you burn bridges and cut yourself off from people who can't...
    bluecupcakes bluecupcakes 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 20

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    There is no valid excuse

    for my behavior today. Just as arrogant and assuming and egocentric as my father. I'm incredibly disappointed in myself and it's burning me up from the inside out.
    bakeittwice bakeittwice 18-21, M 3 Responses Feb 19

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    Vindicated!! It was a small win,

    but at couples therapy tonight the therapist told my wife that no matter what I offer her in gestures or attempts, she only gets angry or ridicules me. My wife got very upset and almost walked out accusing the therapist of being unsafe and biased. The therapist was able to talk...
    deepbreathneeded deepbreathneeded 36-40, M 2 Responses Sep 22, 2014

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    I don't understand abuse within a relationship.

    If you truly love someone why would you want to hurt them with words or actions. When you love someone you want to see them smile, be happy, you aim to bring out the best in them because you are a team. I don't understand why you want to hurt me. Do you enjoy seeing tears...
    Searchingforreallove Searchingforreallove 26-30, F 2 Responses Apr 17

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    I recently got out of a verbal

    and emotionally abusive relationship but rather than share the actual story...for I am not up to recounting it...I thought I'd share the signs that I gathered and used to diagnose the problem. I had figured under 15 of these could be just normal relationship stress...but...
    theodore2324 theodore2324 26-30, M 7 Responses Jan 24, 2014

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    Not True

    ***** do this and ***** do that that's what I got woke up to everyday. Your nothing but a worthless **** no one will ever want you. Your retarted! You can't do anything right. Your nasty your ugly. This is what emotional abuse is. After hearing it so long you think its true. I'm...
    holehearted79 holehearted79 31-35, F 5 Responses Jul 15, 2013

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