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I Am a Victim of Emotional Abuse

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    I'm not quite sure what to do.

    I am in love with an abusive alcoholic. I have built a life with this man. I know what I'm going to hear, so I'm hoping that there may be a sympathetic ear out there... I feel like I can't leave. I have no way to survive without him. He's only started to be physical in the...
    kevans1906 kevans1906 26-30, F 13 Responses Jan 15

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    i'm hurting. his words are vicious,

    cruel, disgusting, and couldn't be farther from the truth. yet i give in to his bs and swallow it. absorb it. in the same sentence he will tell me that he loves me, but then call me a crazy, psycho, wh*re b*tch. he disrepects my family when it's just me and him. but to them...
    mermaid81 mermaid81 31-35, F 8 Responses Nov 21, 2014

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    So I ran away a couple of days ago,

    and they made me come back (they= police and family). They said they were gonna change and so far that's bullshit. I am leaving when I turn 17 whether they like it or not, they cannot make me stay. I am done with my mother telling me that I am a mean and ugly ***** . She says...
    nomnommings nomnommings 16-17, F 2 Responses Feb 18

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    Recently left a pretty dangerous

    abusive/manipulative relationship in a pretty explosive way. I publicly called out my abuser for what she did, along with three other people who put me through hell. Part of me feels guilty for being public about it, but the rest of me is just angry and hurt, even though it's...
    starspeck starspeck 16-17 2 Responses Feb 6

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    My Story #2 Mental/Physical/Emotional/Verbal Abuse

    I DON'T REALLY KNOW HOW TO START THIS, BUT I CAN TRY. I HAVE BEEN MENTALLY/EMOTIONALLY/VERBALLY/PHYSICALLY ABUSED BY MY EX BOYFRIEND FOR A LONG LONG TIME. I HAVE DECIDED TO SHARE THIS BECAUSE I HAVE GOTTEN TO THE POINT WHERE IT WILL HELP ME THROUGH MY PROCESS. I LOST MYSELF TO...
    mellymel30 mellymel30 26-30, F 2 Responses Apr 5, 2013

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    Trapped No More

    You are nobody now. I deny you You played mind games Which drove me to insanity It wasnt meant to be like that. But I could not change you. I was weak unaware and naive And didnt you play that card well? There were times I stayed out at work Not to come home to hear it again...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses May 13, 2012

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    As a male victim of an emotionally & verbally

    abusive marriage, I had a hard time finding people who would listen and help, especially in the Christian church world. As the target of abuse, the main questions I needed to discuss and/or have answered were, "Why did you (my wife) treat me in the cruel ways that you did...
    bwDVOWRD bwDVOWRD 26-30, M 4 Responses Sep 29, 2014

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    A Little Poem About My Ex Abuser....

    SOMEONE I AM SEEING TOLD ME TO WRITE THIS SO I THOUGHT I WOULD SHARE IT WITH YOU GUYS...HERE IT GOES... I REMEMBER THE MINI TRIPS WE WENT ON I REMEMBER THE FUN WE USE TO HAVE JUST DOING ANYTHING I REMEMBER THE THINGS YOU WOULD DO TO MAKE ME LAUGH I REMEMBER THE PROM I...
    mellymel30 mellymel30 26-30, F 3 Responses Jul 10, 2013

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    So my ex moved about two hours away to start

    anew about 4 months ago. He magically got a car of his own right before this but I don't want to think about right now. 10 years together. 10 years of being belittled into a stupor of self doubt just to be told I was no fun. *****, ****, cow. It doesn't bring out anything in me...
    calamitymom calamitymom 36-40, F 1 Response Jan 2

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    She was so mean to me

    but I still love her and miss her everyday
    desculpa desculpa 22-25, F 1 Response Feb 19

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    It hurts so much. There's not a day I don't cry.

    I hate when it's close to the time he will get home. Not to mention how much I dread weekends(he's off Friday, Saturday and Sunday). He will gripe, scream, belittle me, tell me how stupid I am, tell me I'm a grown woman stop the stupid crying no one cares, there's nothing I can...
    Txwoman123 Txwoman123 41-45, F 7 Responses Feb 15

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    I feel like I need to share the truth about my

    relationship somewhere. I have been in a relationship with a guy who has made me feel isolated, like a disgusting animal, a stupid child, and depressed for more than 3 years. None of the ugly came out in him until after I was committed and emotional invested in him. We were...
    myselffirst myselffirst 18-21, F 8 Responses Jun 26, 2014

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    Oh wow.I'm finally free.

    finally! Eh.. But eh.... Whew! Whatta unnecessary rollercoaster THAT was! Phew! Jeez!
    amtired amtired 22-25, F 7 Responses Nov 21, 2014

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    The Art Of Emotional Abuse

    ~THE ART OF EMOTIONAL ABUSE~ THE CANVAS How do you become the victim of emotional abuse? Why don’t you just get out? I’ve been asked “What did he do to you?” BRUSH STROKES There are no concrete answers to that question. No physical wounds to prove the damage. It’s so...
    Breeziiee Breeziiee 41-45, F 21 Responses Aug 8, 2013

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    For five years, I was in a relationship with a

    domineering man, who controlled everything I did. I was not allowed to be myself with him. He didn't care about what I wanted or what I needed. He let me starve while he pigged out. He made me feel stupid, incompetent, ugly and dirty. He made me feel like I could not take care...
    Bluebutterflywings Bluebutterflywings 26-30, F 3 Responses Jun 15, 2014

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    At age 51, I finally told a member of my family

    (my sister) that I was bullied very badly as a child. Her response was one of disbelief. She thought I was lying or exaggerating to justify the struggles I've had in my life. She could not understand why I had never told anyone when it was happening. The truth is that I was...
    DarkPathos DarkPathos 51-55, M 5 Responses Jan 24

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    For as long as I can remember,

    my parents have emotionally and mentally abused me. Over the years, I've developed some serious issues with anxiety and depression due to the abuse. According to them I am abnormal; a freak, a nobody who is going nowhere . Sometimes I feel like I should just give up and just...
    DarkDesires019 DarkDesires019 18-21, F 3 Responses Jan 28

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    Vindicated!! It was a small win,

    but at couples therapy tonight the therapist told my wife that no matter what I offer her in gestures or attempts, she only gets angry or ridicules me. My wife got very upset and almost walked out accusing the therapist of being unsafe and biased. The therapist was able to talk...
    deepbreathneeded deepbreathneeded 36-40, M 3 Responses Sep 22, 2014

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    Hello again everyone!

    I've been married 8 yrs now, legally. However I am no longer residing with my spouse. The last straw for me was when he would not allow my children and I to enter our home after returning from my mom's house. He had also made some comments about my sons and not wanting them in...
    nicam2g nicam2g 26-30, F 6 Responses Jan 2

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    With my being in love with a loser has caused a

    lot of agony. Being cheated on over and over. Being told that he didn't like what I had on and that I was crazy. Yea i was damn crazy for loving such a jackass. I WAS a victim of emotional abuse. I finally got the strength to leave. It was for the best.
    SentimentalMood SentimentalMood 36-40, F 3 Responses Nov 12, 2014

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    Nothing like waking up

    and being called lazy and useless. I don't recall those being words of affirmation :(
    TCL009 TCL009 41-45, F 2 Responses Aug 8, 2014

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    I recently got out of a verbal

    and emotionally abusive relationship but rather than share the actual story...for I am not up to recounting it...I thought I'd share the signs that I gathered and used to diagnose the problem. I had figured under 15 of these could be just normal relationship stress...but...
    theodore2324 theodore2324 26-30, M 7 Responses Jan 24, 2014

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    Just Because Its Not Visible Does Not Mean Its Not There

    I know there are many examples of emotional/mental abuse on here, and each one is important. I also know that this form of abuse can come from both men and women. I happened to be on the receiving end of emotional abuse from my wife. She is now my ex..   As a little back story...
    Army0917 Army0917 31-35, M 9 Responses Mar 19, 2011

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    Dear ******* Who Hurt Me

    for Four Years, I am no longer your emotional slave. You hurts me so bad that I was diagnosed with PTSD. You drove me out of the state, 1000 miles away from my hometown. I left because I was so incredibly scared of you, scared you would come back and hurt me, and say things...
    sarahtorrella sarahtorrella 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 15, 2014

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    I learned a lot of things

    while i was married to an abusive man for 10yrs.. I learned that i am not strong enough to take care of myself.. and so i stopped and let him I learned that i am not smart enough to make any decisions on my own because everything i did was wrong. .and so i stopped and let him...
    sweetpea6200 sweetpea6200 31-35, F 9 Responses Apr 21, 2014

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    ...

    and it makes it really hard to have normal relationships once you're damaged goods... because now everything makes us feel vulnerable and easily hurt. And so, even if it's emotional intimacy that we want most, we can't even begin to enjoy it because we're so hurt, so scarred, so...
    CrazyHippieChick CrazyHippieChick 22-25, F 4 Responses Dec 8, 2013

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    Hi everyone, I've been in an abusive

    relationship for 6 years and the busier is now wanting out he got a good steady job makes good money and made up wt his mom and step dad and best friend. So now he says he wants to settle down wt someone else and a pretty and Simone who will take care of him. Now I'm just crap...
    tempura15 tempura15 26-30, F 1 Response Feb 13

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    I just walked out of an abusive relationship

    funny he forced me to leave the last thing he said was either you blame all of the abuse on yourself or gtfo i finally came to terms that he never loved me... I feel ok (safe)
    rossp24 rossp24 22-25, F 5 Responses Mar 11, 2014

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    You know it's an issue

    when your friends and family have to tell you that he put you through emotional abuse. That moment when you realize the lies, and the empty words. It puts a whole new spin on "love is blind"
    Maihowl Maihowl 22-25, F 1 Response Jan 7

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    Growing up, my mother would have these "moods"

    where she would get angry at some small mistake or mishap and scream and yell at anyone within her sight. She would always blame me or my father for whatever was wrong. I grew up hearing how I was a "bad child", how I couldn't do anything right, how I was never gonna amount to...
    bookworm2014 bookworm2014 22-25, F 6 Responses Jan 13, 2014

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    My mom is emotionally abusive to me she keeps

    nagging me about my weight and keeps telling me I can't be with my boyfriend and marry him because of his emotional impairment and my physical disability and that I give her stress
    Cowgirl1992 Cowgirl1992 22-25, F 4 Responses Feb 13

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    my family constantly put me down

    and call me names.. my mother has even told me im a waste of life. i feel depressed and have very low self esteem... i just want healthy relationships with... somebody.... feel so alone.
    TommiStarr TommiStarr 26-30, F 4 Responses Feb 7

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    Coming Up For Air

    I loved the attention.After being ignored for so many years I loved that someone thought that I was worth listening to, that what I had to say mattered.I loved that I felt attractive again, that I felt desired.I loved that I felt loved.He never hit me. He rarely said an unkind...
    Quintesse Quintesse 51-55, F 66 Responses Aug 19, 2011

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    One is emotionally mature IF: You are able to

    see each situation as unique and you can adapt your style accordingly. You take responsibility for your own life. You understand that your current circumstances are a result of the decisions you have taken up to now. When something goes wrong, you do not rush to blame others...
    BeyondIllusions BeyondIllusions 56-60, F 6 Responses Jan 25

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    I finally got out of it.

    But I miss him terribly. I'm so afraid of things though. Like I can't speak my mind because I feel like I'm one will care. I afraid to do certain things because I know he wouldn't like them. He called me on Friday and asked for me back, still blaming things on me. He used to say...
    brookew brookew 16-17, F 4 Responses Feb 1

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    I feel like it was my fault,

    like I needed to be there for her more
    desculpa desculpa 22-25, F Feb 21

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    Physical aggression by a man toward his partner

    is abuse, even if it happens only once. If he raises a fist; punches a hole in the wall; throws things at you; blocks your way; restrains you; grabs, pushes, or pokes you; or threatens to hurt you, that’s physical abuse. He is creating fear and using your need for physical...
    Lostnalone22 Lostnalone22 31-35, F 4 Responses Jul 31, 2014

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    Not True

    ***** do this and ***** do that that's what I got woke up to everyday. Your nothing but a worthless **** no one will ever want you. Your retarted! You can't do anything right. Your nasty your ugly. This is what emotional abuse is. After hearing it so long you think its true. I'm...
    holehearted79 holehearted79 31-35, F 4 Responses Jul 15, 2013

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    I am unsure at this point

    if it is verbal abuse or if I deserve it bc of my unstable emotions and what I do. Most the time I am truly not doing anything wrong. That's what I genuinely feel but I find different quickly. I am often called a *****, retarded, slow. I also am told to "grow up" and that if I'm...
    defeatthemind defeatthemind 22-25, F 2 Responses Feb 14

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    I know when its coming!

    I know im in for abuse by the look he gives me when we are in company of other people. If I say or do something he doesnt approve of he gives me this glance and without a word I know hes angry with me. I know what il have to put up with when we're alone again. The room could be...
    hopeless0 hopeless0 26-30, F 3 Responses Feb 2

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    amtired amtired 22-25, F 1 Response Jan 14

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    ~THE ART OF EMOTIONAL ABUSE~ THE CANVAS How do

    you become the victim of emotional abuse? Why don’t you just get out? I’ve been asked “What did he do to you?” BRUSH STROKES There are no concrete answers to that question. No physical wounds to prove the damage. It’s so subtle & pervasive, as not to be described by a...
    Breeziiee Breeziiee 41-45, F 5 Responses Feb 20, 2014

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    Yep, been there done that,

    got the bloody t shirt. Abuse needs to end now. Not just emotional - physical, mental, sexual, financial too.
    krystalkool84 krystalkool84 26-30, F 2 Responses Feb 18

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    To put it simply, I'm a 19 year old suffering

    from anxiety and depression, I have an older brother who has been physically abusive, a younger brother who is autistic and I am a mother to (practically), a father who committed suicide and a mother who is my abuser. As far as I can remember, me and my mother have never been...
    CPJS CPJS 18-21, F 6 Responses Jan 9

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    After having been molested

    as a child, I always considered myself "damaged" and "abused" but today I refuse to be a victim so I'm unchecking this. It is my brain.
    syntheticrhyme syntheticrhyme 46-50, F Feb 22

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    Tale of Two Husbands: Dr. Jekyl & Mr. Hyde

    I can't believe it happened to me. I thought I was too smart, too wise. I'd had therapy. Hell, my husband had worked as a mental health therapist for 10 years, and we both have PhDs. Here's my realization:  That I'd been excusing his "moods" and assuming he'd...
    FormerDoorMat FormerDoorMat 51-55, F 61 Responses Mar 12, 2009

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    I am suffering. again.

    I dont know what to do anymore. He said he loved me but treated me like dirt. I was choked and kicked and slapped.... annd called names. and put down. so How could he love me if he treated me that way? Everything was always my fault according to him.
    amtired amtired 22-25, F 7 Responses