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I Am a Victim of Emotional Abuse

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    You know your home life is bad

    when school is the high light of your day. I'm not sure how much more I can take
    Flyyer73 Flyyer73 16-17, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    I am frustrated with myself.

    I am now seeing the pain of my years spent with my Narcissistic X playing out in my 22 year old daughter.   I lived for 20 years with this man thinking I was doing the best thing for my family.  Keep it together for the kids.  I can hide and pretend for the sake of my family...
    flodials flodials 41-45, F 2 Responses Dec 5, 2013

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    I recently got out of a verbal

    and emotionally abusive relationship but rather than share the actual story...for I am not up to recounting it...I thought I'd share the signs that I gathered and used to diagnose the problem. I had figured under 15 of these could be just normal relationship stress...but...
    theodore2324 theodore2324 26-30, M 7 Responses Jan 24

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    For five years, I was in a relationship with a

    domineering man, who controlled everything I did. I was not allowed to be myself with him. He didn't care about what I wanted or what I needed. He let me starve while he pigged out. He made me feel stupid, incompetent, ugly and dirty. He made me feel like I could not take care...
    Bluebutterflywings Bluebutterflywings 26-30, F 3 Responses Jun 15

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    I keep asking myself

    if he really loves me? Does he mean what he says? Why was it so good in the beginning and then turned so ugly....my boyfriend, he came from a broken family, he would see his mom get hit and his dad left him. He started living on his own with his brother... I didn't really know...
    AndreaaG AndreaaG 18-21, F 2 Responses Sep 14

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    About maybe four years ago it started,

    I had really gave my love to a guy of my dreams, but I was so young and foolish, and he went out with me for a couple years and then just stopped talking to me. That same year I started middle school, and I liked another guy, and he embarrassed me in front of everyone at school...
    Zoex3 Zoex3 13-15, F 1 Response Aug 26

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    Coming Up For Air

    I loved the attention.After being ignored for so many years I loved that someone thought that I was worth listening to, that what I had to say mattered.I loved that I felt attractive again, that I felt desired.I loved that I felt loved.He never hit me. He rarely said an unkind...
    Quintesse Quintesse 46-50, F 70 Responses Aug 19, 2011

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    I am a man, and my wife is.

    .. it's hard to say it and feel like I'm really telling the truth, but she's my abuser. She treats my questions as though they have obvious answers. She treats me like I'm just a participant in our life, not a partner. She treats me like my opinion on something, or my desire...
    Felixthestoat Felixthestoat 22-25, T 11 Responses Apr 18

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    Again. I really could use someone to talk to.

    .yet again? : I'm sorry people...I just could really use support rite now. I am recovering. But not as quick as I had hoped. I feel hopeless. Extremely hopeless. And highly depressed. I just wanna die. My ex abuser is gone now. But I now feel.... Empty...
    amtired amtired 22-25 1 Response Sep 10

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    I Was Emotionally, Mentally, And Verbally Abused.

      I was abused by my father, sister, and brother. My parents got divorced when I was 9. That's when my life turned into a living hell. My mom left my dad because each day he would come home from work and yell at everyone. My mom couldn't handle it anymore, so she left. My...
    CrystalViolet7 CrystalViolet7 13-15, F 1 Response Mar 15, 2013

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    ~THE ART OF EMOTIONAL ABUSE~ THE CANVAS How do

    you become the victim of emotional abuse? Why don’t you just get out? I’ve been asked “What did he do to you?” BRUSH STROKES There are no concrete answers to that question. No physical wounds to prove the damage. It’s so subtle & pervasive, as not to be described by a...
    Breeziiee Breeziiee 41-45, F 4 Responses Feb 20

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    Yesterday my dad caught me with my boyfriend.

    My parents said I'm a sneaky *****, worthless and now the biggest disappoint of their lives. They won't let me have any contact with my boyfriend of a year and a half. I'm having seriously bad thoughts
    Flyyer73 Flyyer73 16-17, F 2 Responses Sep 21

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    Not True

    ***** do this and ***** do that that's what I got woke up to everyday. Your nothing but a worthless **** no one will ever want you. Your retarted! You can't do anything right. Your nasty your ugly. This is what emotional abuse is. After hearing it so long you think its true. I'm...
    holehearted79 holehearted79 31-35, F 4 Responses Jul 15, 2013

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    In the beginning my now husband was very sweet

    always opening the door for me and always putting me before everything else. There was a time i actually felt like he loved me. After he came home from Iraq he was a different man. He always proceeded to make me cry, to put me down, and to threaten to beat me so hard that i...
    Sexygirl8807 Sexygirl8807 26-30 32 Responses Dec 13, 2013

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    It sounds silly, because I'm a guy.

    I just broke free from an emotional abusive relationship, but I don't know if I've really broken free. I find myself sad at night, I wake up from vivid dreams of her just coming in to my house and holding me. That was the thing that made me the happiest, just wrapping my arms...
    rustyhouston rustyhouston 31-35, M 7 Responses Sep 11

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    Right now I'm like sobbing my eyes out

    as I write this. My dad and I don't get along too well. All he does is complain, yell at me, threaten to hit/abuse me ALL THE TIME. (Even In front of people at the grocery store, and people actually give me a worried look) It's gotten so bad to the point where I went to school...
    Hipstercatlover Hipstercatlover 16-17, F 2 Responses Aug 30

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    14 Things You'll Hear In A Dangerous Relationship

    1. "You don't really love me." 2. "It's a two-way street, and you're not doing your part." 3. "I've done so much more for you." 4. "Why are you so selfish?" 5. "You're making yourself sad, not me." 6. "Stop being so sensitive, it was just a joke." 7. "If you loved me, you would...
    adreamingheart adreamingheart 18-21, F 6 Responses Nov 19, 2013

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    I thinks it's worst than physical.

    Although I have not experienced the physical. Sounds heal. Harsh words stick with you for a lifetime. My question is why do I find who are emotionally abusive? Do they smell my vulnerability? The last guy I was in a serious relationship with. I was engaged to him. He was...
    Prettygirl8726 Prettygirl8726 26-30, F 5 Responses Aug 26

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    As a male victim of an emotionally & verbally

    abusive marriage, I had a hard time finding people who would listen and help, especially in the Christian church world. As the target of abuse, the main questions I needed to discuss and/or have answered were, "Why did you (my wife) treat me in the cruel ways that you did...
    bwDVOWRD bwDVOWRD 26-30, M 4 Responses 2 days ago

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    Used to be sexual...then father died at age 7.

    ...mother fell apart for a year or so...never got out of bed...5 year old lil brother...couldn't trust her with him...missed a lotta school... To look after lil bro, do the cooking, cleaning, grocery shopping e.t.c....then....physically abused my teen years....used to sleep rough...
    cherryjar cherryjar 26-30, F 1 Response Sep 20

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    Maybe I should kill myself.

    .I....I. Don't know how to handle this..,.. I.... AAaaaaaaaaaaaAAAAAAH. Going crazy.I can't let psycho people get to me... :/ I dno anymore
    amtired amtired 22-25 6 Responses Aug 22

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    Tale of Two Husbands: Dr. Jekyl & Mr. Hyde

    I can't believe it happened to me. I thought I was too smart, too wise. I'd had therapy. Hell, my husband had worked as a mental health therapist for 10 years, and we both have PhDs. Here's my realization:  That I'd been excusing his "moods" and assuming he'd...
    FormerDoorMat FormerDoorMat 51-55, F 61 Responses Mar 12, 2009

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    Drained By A Vampire

    No, not the fictional variety, but the emotional variety. More and more was asked of me, I gave and gave. I gave not only time but trust. And I lost so much of myself in the process. First it all seemed so caring, so I gave freely of myself, my trust. But then it began.  The...
    DinahMoeHumm DinahMoeHumm 41-45, F 4 Responses Aug 2, 2012

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    Part 2: Well it's now been 6 years.

    I am the crazy one and he is mr perfect to his friends and family! A few times we went out with friends and he was mr chatty to everyone but me and it made me feel so hurt and upset that I went off on him in front of everyone. I feel stupid but he drove me to it. And then when I...
    snw1980 snw1980 31-35, F 1 Response Jul 18

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    Nobody is powerless. “Be not the slave of

    your own past - plunge into the sublime seas, dive deep, and swim far, so you shall come back with new self-respect, with new power, and with an advanced experience that shall explain and overlook the old.” ― Ralph Waldo Emerson We can all gain from our experiences, we are...
    PurpleGlassPalace PurpleGlassPalace 26-30, M 1 Response Sep 5

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    Trapped No More

    You are nobody now. I deny you You played mind games Which drove me to insanity It wasnt meant to be like that. But I could not change you. I was weak unaware and naive And didnt you play that card well? There were times I stayed out at work Not to come home to hear it again...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses May 13, 2012

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    Growing up, my mother would have these "moods"

    where she would get angry at some small mistake or mishap and scream and yell at anyone within her sight. She would always blame me or my father for whatever was wrong. I grew up hearing how I was a "bad child", how I couldn't do anything right, how I was never gonna amount to...
    bookworm2014 bookworm2014 22-25, F 6 Responses Jan 13

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    As a victim myself, and

    as somebody who has studied emotional abuse very closely, I know it when I see it. And I definitely see an abuser in both my brother and in his wife. They treat my niece horribly; they degrade her and scream at her over nothing; they expect so ridiculously much of her when she's...
    d0vahkiin d0vahkiin 16-17, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    I am not really sure

    if anyone is going to read this, but I need to get this off my chest. I started dating my now ex-boyfriend my freshman year of college. We exchanged numbers one week and the next we jumped into a relationship. Everything started off fast, and I was so thrilled to be with him...
    kburrs kburrs 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 10

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    He told me to kill myself.

    .over and over and over.....and over....
    amtired amtired 22-25 10 Responses Aug 21

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    Dear ******* Who Hurt Me

    for Four Years, I am no longer your emotional slave. You hurts me so bad that I was diagnosed with PTSD. You drove me out of the state, 1000 miles away from my hometown. I left because I was so incredibly scared of you, scared you would come back and hurt me, and say things...
    sarahtorrella sarahtorrella 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 15

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    I need to get away from the abuse I wish some

    one would help me I need someone to love me and give me a place to call home
    Mallexx Mallexx 18-21, F 3 Responses Aug 27

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    I wonder, how it would have been

    if I was raised in a normal family. My mother is a narcissistic person (NPD) and my dad was and is her enabler. I was raised with the burden of having to accommodate every single unreasonable requests from my mother. When I tried to say no, I was thought I was selfish and...
    pistacchia pistacchia 46-50, F 3 Responses Sep 16

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    I just walked out of an abusive relationship

    funny he forced me to leave the last thing he said was either you blame all of the abuse on yourself or gtfo i finally came to terms that he never loved me... I feel ok (safe)
    rossp24 rossp24 18-21, F 5 Responses Mar 11

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    I haven't really figured out how this works

    but i guess i just have to write about it. Well. I remember being abused by my mother. I haven't really talked about it with anyone and i guess i'm trying to block it out of my memory but i keep remembering it and it just hurts. I would never hate her for that. I couldn't. But...
    leaskyy leaskyy 18-21, F 5 Responses Sep 18

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    I feel like I need to share the truth about my

    relationship somewhere. I have been in a relationship with a guy who has made me feel isolated, like a disgusting animal, a stupid child, and depressed for more than 3 years. None of the ugly came out in him until after I was committed and emotional invested in him. We were...
    myselffirst myselffirst 18-21, F 7 Responses Jun 26

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    I am going crazy. My abusive ex found someone

    new. So why do I care? He nearly killed me.aAaaaah I wanna die
    amtired amtired 22-25 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    How can a person say

    that she loves you and yet emotionally abuses you? Threaten to sue me for god knows what. Threaten to reveal to my family and friends about the secrets I shared with her all these years. Kicked me out of her house multiple times when I was with her (we had LDR for a while...
    HeyHiHelloOla HeyHiHelloOla 26-30, F 1 Response Sep 6

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    Imgoin insane. I'm still recovering from abuse.

    sTILL. Its frustrating. And some people (only a few,) tell me crap that just makes me feel worse. But I HAVE found a lot of nice people on here:-) thanks:-) he would hit himself in the head with a empty 40oz bottle.once he sent me pictures of the bloody bottle,as well as pic...
    amtired amtired 22-25 4 Responses Sep 9

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    ..when you over care about the ones you love .

    .try your best to protect them and then they forget whatever you done as soon as you do one simple mistake .. Believe me its the worst feeling ..like if all your efforts were tossed in the trash . And when you fall deeply in love with someone who doesn't feel the same to you...
    ludee94 ludee94 18-21, F Apr 9

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    Since i was young i never really had a family

    along with my fathers physical and sexual abuse he emotionally abused me. He'd yell and call me a worthless piece of **** ***** and a ****, stupid, you name it he's called me it. Every name in the book he's done it. He guilt trips me for leaving and i keep going back i'm 17 now...
    EmoNekoNiki EmoNekoNiki 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 23

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    Everyday is a balancing act.

    I try as hard as I can to not drown in my own bitterness. I begin and end each day with the same thought, how can I get away from this man. I've been married for 16 soul crushing years. My husband has never laid a hand on me. He has cheated on me, made fun of my sensitivity...
    tianatlc tianatlc 36-40, F 3 Responses Sep 17

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    I learned a lot of things

    while i was married to an abusive man for 10yrs.. I learned that i am not strong enough to take care of myself.. and so i stopped and let him I learned that i am not smart enough to make any decisions on my own because everything i did was wrong. .and so i stopped and let him...
    sweetpea6200 sweetpea6200 31-35, F 9 Responses Apr 21

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    Men Can Be Abused Too...

    I've been in emotionally abusive relationships all my life...including growing up with my mother. She still does it to me. I'm 39 and my mother still has the ability to **** with my head. I'm an only child so I don't have other siblings to share the torture with. I try to write...
    Trevoc3 Trevoc3 36-40, M 3 Responses Oct 23, 2013

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    So today I did the most hardest thing in my

    life.. I left my abusive boyfriend. I sat there going back and forth in my mind, questioning whether I am doing the right thing. For so long, time after time he's broken up with me during his abusive moments and every time I'd take him back when he'd want me back a day or two...
    lon12 lon12 22-25, F 5 Responses 6 days ago

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    What Is Emotional Abuse.

    What is Emotional Abuse? I've asked myself this question a million times. I never knew the answers and for a long time I was too afraid to find them, I was afraid of what I'd discover. About myself, about my spouse, about our life. Then for some reason in the last couple of weeks...
    UndeniablyConfused UndeniablyConfused 26-30, F 69 Responses Dec 1, 2008

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    A Little Poem About My Ex Abuser....

    SOMEONE I AM SEEING TOLD ME TO WRITE THIS SO I THOUGHT I WOULD SHARE IT WITH YOU GUYS...HERE IT GOES... I REMEMBER THE MINI TRIPS WE WENT ON I REMEMBER THE FUN WE USE TO HAVE JUST DOING ANYTHING I REMEMBER THE THINGS YOU WOULD DO TO MAKE ME LAUGH I REMEMBER THE PROM I...
    mellymel30 mellymel30 26-30, F 3 Responses Jul 10, 2013

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    Home That Doesn't Feel Like Home

    I'am a victim of emotional abuse. Ever since I was a kid my parents would emotionally abuse me. They will say how worthless I am in the family, how I just should quit school for being stupid and whole bunch of stuff. And since I am a kid, it grew on me. I cry a lot and wish I was...
    kmisfit123 kmisfit123 16-17, F 17 Responses Jul 15, 2013

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    So I'm losing my full respect

    for my family. My dad and brother are extremely verbally abusive towards me. My sister and mother are always on their side. Look, I really am starting not to care for my family. I feel no ways when they're mad at me anymore. They always blame me for something I didn't even do...
    damjenny damjenny 16-17, F 2 Responses Sep 10

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    I was once alone... I was isolated from the

    outside world, my family, my friends. He wanted that to be. I did not want them to see. I was filled with shame, shame on me. I was beaten down, told I was nothing. I was stupid. I did not want them to see. I did not want them to see me, how stupid I could be... I was...
    Mm8335 Mm8335 31-35, F 3 Responses Aug 25

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    My wife has been emotionally abusing me

    for about 9 months. It started when she abandoned our relationship completely when she began training for a figure competition in January. During this time, she became obsessive about the gym and her trainer, and completely detached from me - physically and emotionally. This...
    deepbreathneeded deepbreathneeded 36-40, M 2 Responses Sep 21

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    Vindicated!! It was a small win,

    but at couples therapy tonight the therapist told my wife that no matter what I offer her in gestures or attempts, she only gets angry or ridicules me. My wife got very upset and almost walked out accusing the therapist of being unsafe and biased. The therapist was able to talk...
    deepbreathneeded deepbreathneeded 36-40, M 2 Responses Sep 22

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    ...

    and it makes it really hard to have normal relationships once you're damaged goods... because now everything makes us feel vulnerable and easily hurt. And so, even if it's emotional intimacy that we want most, we can't even begin to enjoy it because we're so hurt, so scarred, so...
    CrazyHippieChick CrazyHippieChick 22-25, F 4 Responses Dec 8, 2013