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I Am a Victim of Emotional Abuse

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    Thatbrokengirl1 Thatbrokengirl1 16-17, F 3 Responses 5 days ago

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    ~THE ART OF EMOTIONAL ABUSE~ THE CANVAS How do

    you become the victim of emotional abuse? Why don’t you just get out? I’ve been asked “What did he do to you?” BRUSH STROKES There are no concrete answers to that question. No physical wounds to prove the damage. It’s so subtle & pervasive, as not to be described by a...
    Breeziiee Breeziiee 41-45, F 3 Responses Feb 20

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    (No lie, true story of me) The first time I was

    sexually abused by my father was when I was about 6. He came into my room and took off my pants, then yeah.. The other times was in his room, or living room when nobody was home.. He wasn't a great father, he would ********** about everyday, and I've walked in on him a few times...
    Missmayicx Missmayicx 16-17, F 5 Responses Apr 15

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    Trapped No More

    You are nobody now. I deny you You played mind games Which drove me to insanity It wasnt meant to be like that. But I could not change you. I was weak unaware and naive And didnt you play that card well? There were times I stayed out at work Not to come home to hear it again...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses May 13, 2012

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    I learned a lot of things

    while i was married to an abusive man for 10yrs.. I learned that i am not strong enough to take care of myself.. and so i stopped and let him I learned that i am not smart enough to make any decisions on my own because everything i did was wrong. .and so i stopped and let him...
    sweetpea6200 sweetpea6200 31-35, F 7 Responses 2 days ago

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    Why did he take it all?

    I was not smart. I knew I was not smart because I was told that every day. Sometimes with words and sometimes it was said with a look or a certain shrug. I couldn’t possibly set any goals because I knew I would fail. Trying new things felt too scary and failure was too...
    NoDavid NoDavid 46-50 Apr 13

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    I keep following a dangerous path.

    Spending time with guys who say they are good and in the end they use me. I am tired of it all.
    eessbb16 eessbb16 18-21, F 3 Responses Apr 15

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    A Little Poem About My Ex Abuser....

    SOMEONE I AM SEEING TOLD ME TO WRITE THIS SO I THOUGHT I WOULD SHARE IT WITH YOU GUYS...HERE IT GOES... I REMEMBER THE MINI TRIPS WE WENT ON I REMEMBER THE FUN WE USE TO HAVE JUST DOING ANYTHING I REMEMBER THE THINGS YOU WOULD DO TO MAKE ME LAUGH I REMEMBER THE PROM I...
    mellymel30 mellymel30 26-30, F 2 Responses Jul 10, 2013

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    im new to this , im in a verbal

    and mental abuse relationship , im 45 yrs old , im waiting on my ssi case to be done , no matter what I do , everything is always my fault , I have no family here and he has ran every friend I had off , he needs mental help but refuses to get it , he says its normal for him to...
    melinda2014 melinda2014 41-45, F 2 Responses Apr 5

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    I Thought Leaving Would Stop The Abuse...i Was Wrong!

    It's been 8 months now that I chose to walk away from my 8 year relationship of emotional abuse. For a while I felt relief and free, and really proud of myself for taking the steps to end the continuous torment!I am now faced with another abuser that is not as easy to walk away...
    Wiltingflower Wiltingflower 36-40, F 8 Responses Sep 9, 2011

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    I just walked out of an abusive relationship

    funny he forced me to leave the last thing he said was either you blame all of the abuse on yourself or gtfo i finally came to terms that he never loved me... I feel ok (safe)
    rossp24 rossp24 18-21, F 6 Responses Mar 11

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    I don't like the word "victim,

    "I'm not a victim, I am a strong survivor who went through emotional abuse for a short period of time with a boyfriend who I dumped before it ever really touched me. But now I can recognize it so clearly and so quickly I hope that what I learned from that relationship can help...
    learningtolovemyself7 learningtolovemyself7 22-25, F 3 Responses Dec 21, 2013

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    Not True

    ***** do this and ***** do that that's what I got woke up to everyday. Your nothing but a worthless **** no one will ever want you. Your retarted! You can't do anything right. Your nasty your ugly. This is what emotional abuse is. After hearing it so long you think its true. I'm...
    holehearted79 holehearted79 31-35, F 4 Responses Jul 15, 2013

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    Is this your abuser too?

    Hello. Recognize me? I am the one who came along and built you up when you were down, employed you when you needed a job, showed the way when you were lost, offered confidence when you were doubting, made you laugh when you were blue, sparked your interest when you were bored...
    Valkirey Valkirey 22-25, F 2 Responses Dec 24, 2011

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    my mom has been emotionally abusing me

    for about 21 years. seeing how I'm only 22 you could see how my life has just been a daily struggle. others in my family abuse me as wellł, yelling and drama quickly causes me to break down and go into a dark place in my mind. which causes my mom and everyone to yell at me or...
    thelostgirl25 thelostgirl25 22-25, F 3 Responses Mar 7

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    I grew up with a mother

    who had a hatred for men. I was her only son out of 4 kids and I was the recipient of her anguish. I now suffer from PTSD and struggle with it every single day. I don't by any means hate my mother as I love her very much. We are all victims of emotional abuse and it needs to...
    kpax81 kpax81 31-35, M 3 Responses Apr 5

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    My whole entire life everyone has belittled me

    in all kinds of ways. I'm too clumsy, I'm not smart enough, I'm not pretty enough. I'm just never enough.
    SorrybutIamnolongerhere SorrybutIamnolongerhere 16-17, F 6 Responses Mar 4

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    I had a great day at a sci fi expo,

    and when I came home I found out that my school event was cancelled (it's our school holidays at the moment) my dad freaked out that he didn't tell me sooner, even though I found out minutes before I told him. He just wouldn't stop screaming, I just cried and tried to reason...
    Japanne Japanne 18-21, F 1 Response Apr 13

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    I have been with my boyfriend

    for almost 4 years now. He used to be extremely loving and caring, always picking me up from work even when its late and sending me all the way home even though he lives very far from me. I used to think it was sweet and how lucky I was to have someone who cared about me that...
    silentaxegirl silentaxegirl 22-25, F 5 Responses Mar 5

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    What Is Emotional Abuse.

    What is Emotional Abuse? I've asked myself this question a million times. I never knew the answers and for a long time I was too afraid to find them, I was afraid of what I'd discover. About myself, about my spouse, about our life. Then for some reason in the last couple of weeks...
    UndeniablyConfused UndeniablyConfused 26-30, F 68 Responses Dec 1, 2008

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    I Am On A Mission To Find The Angel Who Brought My Family To Safety One Horrific Night.

    EXCERPT from my book, The Power of Addicted Love, written by Teresa Hamilton. I was married to a drug addict, alcoholic and an abuser for 14 years. During this time........I met an angel. I want to thank this angel and I am on a mission to find her. “Outside the house, I...
    mylilsaab mylilsaab 46-50, F 1 Response Nov 4, 2013

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    7 Years. Of those 7 years I was only happy

    for about 3 years. 7 years with a man who gave me so much joy in the beginning. Now it's like he lives to tear me down. To humiliate me. To treat me like a child. Abuse? Me? "No Way" I told myself but now I realize it's true. Yet why does the world "victim" bother me so much. I...
    bmichelleb bmichelleb 26-30, F 7 Responses Apr 10

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    Growing up, my mother would have these "moods"

    where she would get angry at some small mistake or mishap and scream and yell at anyone within her sight. She would always blame me or my father for whatever was wrong. I grew up hearing how I was a "bad child", how I couldn't do anything right, how I was never gonna amount to...
    bookworm2014 bookworm2014 22-25, F 5 Responses Jan 13

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    I am a man, and my wife is.

    .. it's hard to say it and feel like I'm really telling the truth, but she's my abuser. She treats my questions as though they have obvious answers. She treats me like I'm just a participant in our life, not a partner. She treats me like my opinion on something, or my desire...
    Felixthestoat Felixthestoat 18-21 8 Responses 6 days ago

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    Tale of Two Husbands: Dr. Jekyl & Mr. Hyde

    I can't believe it happened to me. I thought I was too smart, too wise. I'd had therapy. Hell, my husband had worked as a mental health therapist for 10 years, and we both have PhDs. Here's my realization:  That I'd been excusing his "moods" and assuming he'd...
    FormerDoorMat FormerDoorMat 51-55, F 62 Responses Mar 12, 2009

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    So.. I must vent. People tell me I seem ok.

    . but i am not. please don't judge. We are all human. So... my ex has driven me to the point of near insanity. I wish I never met him. I wish he was dead. .. yet.. Iam going through withdrawl from his dumbass. What's going on?! I... am so emotionally exhausted its not even...
    amtired amtired 22-25 8 Responses Mar 8

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    I just left a three year relationship

    that has took the life out of me. During this last year he has cheated continuously, physically and emotionally abused me. I stayed and went back each time because I believed him when he said he wanted to work things out. Just to find out that this other girl is pregnant. Don't...
    mariishurt mariishurt 31-35, F 5 Responses Mar 31

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    I didn't know about it untill I read a

    questionaire about it and found out that it is possible that my internet boyfriend is like this. He would get mad at me for the smallest things and yell and berate me(I think). Just today he got mad cause I wasn't fast enough at eating and didn't tell him cause I became...
    UglyGhostGirl UglyGhostGirl 22-25, F 10 Responses Apr 7

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    Just Because Its Not Visible Does Not Mean Its Not There

    I know there are many examples of emotional/mental abuse on here, and each one is important. I also know that this form of abuse can come from both men and women. I happened to be on the receiving end of emotional abuse from my wife. She is now my ex..   As a little back story...
    Army0917 Army0917 31-35, M 9 Responses Mar 19, 2011

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    Hi. I had recently left an abusive relationship.

    Help?! I know he was so cruel.. but now.. I miss him. Whyyy ? I don't know what to do. I feel very alone. I feel lost without him... even though I know he never cared... :/
    amtired amtired 22-25 8 Responses Mar 13

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    I was really pissed off yesterday.

    My fiancé took me and his dad to steakhouse but he was annoyed because his dad was drinking. All I did was ask him to just put down his phone and talk to me. He just got up and left. HE GOT IN HIS CAR AND LEFT!!! He left me in a restaurant with his drunk father! He wouldn't...
    anzii anzii 26-30, F 6 Responses Apr 14

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    My Story #2 Mental/Physical/Emotional/Verbal Abuse

    I DON'T REALLY KNOW HOW TO START THIS, BUT I CAN TRY. I HAVE BEEN MENTALLY/EMOTIONALLY/VERBALLY/PHYSICALLY ABUSED BY MY EX BOYFRIEND FOR A LONG LONG TIME. I HAVE DECIDED TO SHARE THIS BECAUSE I HAVE GOTTEN TO THE POINT WHERE IT WILL HELP ME THROUGH MY PROCESS. I LOST MYSELF TO...
    mellymel30 mellymel30 26-30, F 2 Responses Apr 5, 2013

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    Alot of people assume emotional abuse comes

    from boyfriends or significant others. My story is different. My abuser lived right next door. She was my "best friend" The following things are what I experienced from first grade up untill my junior year of highschool. If I wanted to hang out with my friends she would get...
    stellaj16 stellaj16 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 2

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    Smile

    I was and still am. But I'm strong.
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Sep 16, 2013

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    ..when you over care about the ones you love .

    .try your best to protect them and then they forget whatever you done as soon as you do one simple mistake .. Believe me its the worst feeling ..like if all your efforts were tossed in the trash . And when you fall deeply in love with someone who doesn't feel the same to you...
    ludee94 ludee94 18-21, F Apr 9

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    It continues- I've been emotionally abused my

    whole life by my parents and other family members not to mention how I was bullied at school. But I never felt like a victim till one day while meeting up with my dad to come home from school (college) my dad started to yell at me and belittle me, my friend was with me and she...
    secretlyfelix secretlyfelix 18-21, F 2 Responses Mar 5

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    14 Things You'll Hear In A Dangerous Relationship

    1. "You don't really love me." 2. "It's a two-way street, and you're not doing your part." 3. "I've done so much more for you." 4. "Why are you so selfish?" 5. "You're making yourself sad, not me." 6. "Stop being so sensitive, it was just a joke." 7. "If you loved me, you would...
    adreamingheart adreamingheart 18-21, F 6 Responses Nov 19, 2013

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    The Emotional Abuse That I Have Endured For Years.

    I am an emotional abused victim . Till one day I decided that enough is enough! I let a man who I loved and cherished with all my heart . I let him erode my sense of self esteem and he literally had a hold of my mind , to where my self worth shrunk so much I no longer dared to...
    1SouthernBella 1SouthernBella 46-50, F 21 Responses Apr 26, 2013

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    madbutterfly madbutterfly 13-15, F 3 Responses Mar 7

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    My dad is my abuser and I didn't know

    why I felt so dysfunctional until recently. My mom is amazing, and she is a survivor of horrible abuse herself so I never knew that emotional abuse was a real thing until she suggested that the reason for my issues with self-esteem, etc, had to do with him. He's abused her for...
    katieowl katieowl 18-21, F 3 Responses Apr 15

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    I recently got out of a verbal

    and emotionally abusive relationship but rather than share the actual story...for I am not up to recounting it...I thought I'd share the signs that I gathered and used to diagnose the problem. I had figured under 15 of these could be just normal relationship stress...but...
    theodore2324 theodore2324 22-25, M 4 Responses Jan 24

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    Home That Doesn't Feel Like Home

    I'am a victim of emotional abuse. Ever since I was a kid my parents would emotionally abuse me. They will say how worthless I am in the family, how I just should quit school for being stupid and whole bunch of stuff. And since I am a kid, it grew on me. I cry a lot and wish I was...
    kaaat101 kaaat101 16-17, F 17 Responses Jul 15, 2013

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    I Was Emotionally, Mentally, And Verbally Abused.

      I was abused by my father, sister, and brother. My parents got divorced when I was 9. That's when my life turned into a living hell. My mom left my dad because each day he would come home from work and yell at everyone. My mom couldn't handle it anymore, so she left. My...
    CrystalViolet7 CrystalViolet7 13-15, F 1 Response Mar 15, 2013

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    Inspired By A Dear Friend.

    I've posted experience before, but had taken it down after having become frustrated and removing all of my experiences. But I've been completely inspired by a dear friend who found the courage to share her story. It may come as a shock to some people, but while women do seem to...
    Omnomonymous Omnomonymous 26-30, M 10 Responses Dec 27, 2010

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    I have been through a couple guys lately

    and my roommates/friends had enough so now they refuse to speak to me. So for the next two weeks I am distancing myself and not speaking to them. To make it better once schools ends I get to celebrate my birthday alone.
    eessbb16 eessbb16 18-21, F 3 days ago

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    Drained By A Vampire

    No, not the fictional variety, but the emotional variety. More and more was asked of me, I gave and gave. I gave not only time but trust. And I lost so much of myself in the process. First it all seemed so caring, so I gave freely of myself, my trust. But then it began.  The...
    DinahMoeHumm DinahMoeHumm 41-45, F 4 Responses Aug 2, 2012

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    Unfortunately, the act of "emailing" him was

    further participation of the abusive cycle. Part 1 Destroying Healthy Communication My emails came about very early in the game, I was about 15 or 16. When all healthy communication was taken from me—face to face, eye contact—when all secondary communication was taken from...
    authenticexistence authenticexistence 18-21, F 2 Responses Mar 20

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    His family helped me get on my feet,

    and I love them. But we fight constantly. I hate him. I can't tell whose the bad guy in this situation anymore. I hate him.
    caitlinisnifty caitlinisnifty 18-21, F 2 Responses Mar 20

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    ...

    and it makes it really hard to have normal relationships once you're damaged goods... because now everything makes us feel vulnerable and easily hurt. And so, even if it's emotional intimacy that we want most, we can't even begin to enjoy it because we're so hurt, so scarred, so...
    CrazyHippieChick CrazyHippieChick 18-21, F 4 Responses Dec 8, 2013

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    I am currently dating (almost 2 years now) a man

    who suffers from BPD (Borderline personality disorder). Every month he has episodes of intense anxiety and depression due to this disorder. He copes with these episodes by binge drinking. When he binge drinks the most horrible incidents happen. Just a week ago was the worst...
    melissac2983 melissac2983 31-35, F 3 Responses 2 days ago

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    Men Can Be Abused Too...

    I've been in emotionally abusive relationships all my life...including growing up with my mother. She still does it to me. I'm 39 and my mother still has the ability to **** with my head. I'm an only child so I don't have other siblings to share the torture with. I try to write...
    Trevoc3 Trevoc3 36-40, M 2 Responses Oct 23, 2013

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    Coming Up For Air

    I loved the attention.After being ignored for so many years I loved that someone thought that I was worth listening to, that what I had to say mattered.I loved that I felt attractive again, that I felt desired.I loved that I felt loved.He never hit me. He rarely said an unkind...
    Quintesse Quintesse 46-50, F 69 Responses Aug 19, 2011

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    In the beginning my now husband was very sweet

    always opening the door for me and always putting me before everything else. There was a time i actually felt like he loved me. After he came home from Iraq he was a different man. He always proceeded to make me cry, to put me down, and to threaten to beat me so hard that i...
    Sexygirl8807 Sexygirl8807 26-30 38 Responses Dec 13, 2013

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    I am frustrated with myself.

    I am now seeing the pain of my years spent with my Narcissistic X playing out in my 22 year old daughter.   I lived for 20 years with this man thinking I was doing the best thing for my family.  Keep it together for the kids.  I can hide and pretend for the sake of my family...
    flodials flodials 41-45, F 2 Responses Dec 5, 2013

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    The Art Of Emotional Abuse

    ~THE ART OF EMOTIONAL ABUSE~ THE CANVAS How do you become the victim of emotional abuse? Why don’t you just get out? I’ve been asked “What did he do to you?” BRUSH STROKES There are no concrete answers to that question. No physical wounds to prove the damage. It’s so...
    Breeziiee Breeziiee 41-45, F 20 Responses Aug 8, 2013

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    all my mom does it hurt me.

    not just physically, but emotionally. I can't take it anymore. sometimes I just wanna leave this lifetime. I wanna go to heaven and I wanna see my grandma, the only one who ever understood me or I could talk to. I have no one right now, and I just can't take it anymore.
    haiitzamanda haiitzamanda 13-15, F 3 Responses Mar 6