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I Am a Victim of Emotional Abuse

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    One is emotionally mature IF: You are able to

    see each situation as unique and you can adapt your style accordingly. You take responsibility for your own life. You understand that your current circumstances are a result of the decisions you have taken up to now. When something goes wrong, you do not rush to blame others...
    BeyondIllusions BeyondIllusions 56-60, F 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    I am a married man 17 years.

    I am screamed at often by the wife, who has no respect for me. I will not leave my two daughters (ages 14 to 11) and that is the main reason I am not seeking to move. I can do this for a few more years until they are off to college. I cannot think about not being around my...
    OklaMe OklaMe 46-50, M 4 Responses Dec 29, 2014

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    Drained By A Vampire

    No, not the fictional variety, but the emotional variety. More and more was asked of me, I gave and gave. I gave not only time but trust. And I lost so much of myself in the process. First it all seemed so caring, so I gave freely of myself, my trust. But then it began.  The...
    DinahMoeHumm DinahMoeHumm 41-45, F 4 Responses Aug 2, 2012

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    I am a man, and my wife is.

    .. it's hard to say it and feel like I'm really telling the truth, but she's my abuser. She treats my questions as though they have obvious answers. She treats me like I'm just a participant in our life, not a partner. She treats me like my opinion on something, or my desire...
    Felixthestoat Felixthestoat 22-25, T 11 Responses Apr 18, 2014

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    So my ex moved about two hours away to start

    anew about 4 months ago. He magically got a car of his own right before this but I don't want to think about right now. 10 years together. 10 years of being belittled into a stupor of self doubt just to be told I was no fun. *****, ****, cow. It doesn't bring out anything in me...
    calamitymom calamitymom 36-40, F Jan 2

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    At age 51, I finally told a member of my family

    (my sister) that I was bullied very badly as a child. Her response was one of disbelief. She thought I was lying or exaggerating to justify the struggles I've had in my life. She could not understand why I had never told anyone when it was happening. The truth is that I was...
    DarkPathos DarkPathos 51-55, M 3 Responses 4 days ago

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    Not True

    ***** do this and ***** do that that's what I got woke up to everyday. Your nothing but a worthless **** no one will ever want you. Your retarted! You can't do anything right. Your nasty your ugly. This is what emotional abuse is. After hearing it so long you think its true. I'm...
    holehearted79 holehearted79 31-35, F 4 Responses Jul 15, 2013

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    Tale of Two Husbands: Dr. Jekyl & Mr. Hyde

    I can't believe it happened to me. I thought I was too smart, too wise. I'd had therapy. Hell, my husband had worked as a mental health therapist for 10 years, and we both have PhDs. Here's my realization:  That I'd been excusing his "moods" and assuming he'd...
    FormerDoorMat FormerDoorMat 51-55, F 61 Responses Mar 12, 2009

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    Trapped No More

    You are nobody now. I deny you You played mind games Which drove me to insanity It wasnt meant to be like that. But I could not change you. I was weak unaware and naive And didnt you play that card well? There were times I stayed out at work Not to come home to hear it again...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses May 13, 2012

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    ...

    and it makes it really hard to have normal relationships once you're damaged goods... because now everything makes us feel vulnerable and easily hurt. And so, even if it's emotional intimacy that we want most, we can't even begin to enjoy it because we're so hurt, so scarred, so...
    CrazyHippieChick CrazyHippieChick 22-25, F 4 Responses Dec 8, 2013

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    To put it simply, I'm a 19 year old suffering

    from anxiety and depression, I have an older brother who has been physically abusive, a younger brother who is autistic and I am a mother to (practically), a father who committed suicide and a mother who is my abuser. As far as I can remember, me and my mother have never been...
    CPJS CPJS 18-21, F 5 Responses Jan 9

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    The Art Of Emotional Abuse

    ~THE ART OF EMOTIONAL ABUSE~ THE CANVAS How do you become the victim of emotional abuse? Why don’t you just get out? I’ve been asked “What did he do to you?” BRUSH STROKES There are no concrete answers to that question. No physical wounds to prove the damage. It’s so...
    Breeziiee Breeziiee 41-45, F 21 Responses Aug 8, 2013

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    14 Things You'll Hear In A Dangerous Relationship

    1. "You don't really love me." 2. "It's a two-way street, and you're not doing your part." 3. "I've done so much more for you." 4. "Why are you so selfish?" 5. "You're making yourself sad, not me." 6. "Stop being so sensitive, it was just a joke." 7. "If you loved me, you would...
    adreamingheart adreamingheart 18-21, F 6 Responses Nov 19, 2013

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    mylife is a mess. i guess its upto me to change

    it. eh. im recovering from abuse. and i hung out with my abusive ex last week. he smoked meth the whole time. gross. i dont knowmuch about meth. but It seems disgusting.
    amtired amtired 22-25 1 Response Jan 10

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    I feel like I need to share the truth about my

    relationship somewhere. I have been in a relationship with a guy who has made me feel isolated, like a disgusting animal, a stupid child, and depressed for more than 3 years. None of the ugly came out in him until after I was committed and emotional invested in him. We were...
    myselffirst myselffirst 18-21, F 8 Responses Jun 26, 2014

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    I was bullied as a kid,

    ignored as a teen, and put down by most every guy I dated until recently. I grew up in a home where my father emotionally and physically abused my mom and to this day won't let her have friends. I don't feel like I learned how to accept and love myself ever. I don't know if I...
    hoobityhobbity hoobityhobbity 26-30, F 8 Responses Dec 18, 2014

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    Vindicated!! It was a small win,

    but at couples therapy tonight the therapist told my wife that no matter what I offer her in gestures or attempts, she only gets angry or ridicules me. My wife got very upset and almost walked out accusing the therapist of being unsafe and biased. The therapist was able to talk...
    deepbreathneeded deepbreathneeded 36-40, M 3 Responses Sep 22, 2014

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    With my being in love with a loser has caused a

    lot of agony. Being cheated on over and over. Being told that he didn't like what I had on and that I was crazy. Yea i was damn crazy for loving such a jackass. I WAS a victim of emotional abuse. I finally got the strength to leave. It was for the best.
    SentimentalMood SentimentalMood 36-40, F 6 Responses Nov 12, 2014

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    I can't handle it all.

    my dad always calls me names and just treats me like a scum of the earth. I don't think he understands that if you tell someone for long enough that they're pathetic they will come to believe that. I feel like parts of me/self-esteem are being destroyed and the only way I can...
    thisistina thisistina 16-17 3 Responses Dec 29, 2014

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    For five years, I was in a relationship with a

    domineering man, who controlled everything I did. I was not allowed to be myself with him. He didn't care about what I wanted or what I needed. He let me starve while he pigged out. He made me feel stupid, incompetent, ugly and dirty. He made me feel like I could not take care...
    Bluebutterflywings Bluebutterflywings 26-30, F 3 Responses Jun 15, 2014

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    i'm hurting. his words are vicious,

    cruel, disgusting, and couldn't be farther from the truth. yet i give in to his bs and swallow it. absorb it. in the same sentence he will tell me that he loves me, but then call me a crazy, psycho, wh*re b*tch. he disrepects my family when it's just me and him. but to them...
    mermaid81 mermaid81 31-35, F 7 Responses Nov 21, 2014

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    What Is Emotional Abuse.

    What is Emotional Abuse? I've asked myself this question a million times. I never knew the answers and for a long time I was too afraid to find them, I was afraid of what I'd discover. About myself, about my spouse, about our life. Then for some reason in the last couple of weeks...
    UndeniablyConfused UndeniablyConfused 26-30, F 70 Responses Dec 1, 2008

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    Nothing like waking up

    and being called lazy and useless. I don't recall those being words of affirmation :(
    TCL009 TCL009 41-45, F 3 Responses Aug 8, 2014

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    You know it's an issue

    when your friends and family have to tell you that he put you through emotional abuse. That moment when you realize the lies, and the empty words. It puts a whole new spin on "love is blind"
    Maihowl Maihowl 22-25, F 1 Response Jan 7

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    I learned a lot of things

    while i was married to an abusive man for 10yrs.. I learned that i am not strong enough to take care of myself.. and so i stopped and let him I learned that i am not smart enough to make any decisions on my own because everything i did was wrong. .and so i stopped and let him...
    sweetpea6200 sweetpea6200 31-35, F 9 Responses Apr 21, 2014

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    It took me 6 years to realize

    that I am a victim of emotional abuse. As a teenager I also said that I would never be "one of those girls" and be in a relationship that destroyed who you were. Little did I know, up until recently, that is exactly what I became. I met my ex and father of my son the year...
    Laniemae45 Laniemae45 22-25, F 3 Responses Dec 23, 2014

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    Why do I hate my bf who is an emotional abuser

    when he is happy? Why do I feel like sh*t when he gets to smile and laugh when he has no clue how *****d I am inside. :/ why
    love9494 love9494 18-21 1 Response Dec 21, 2014

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    Part 2: Well it's now been 6 years.

    I am the crazy one and he is mr perfect to his friends and family! A few times we went out with friends and he was mr chatty to everyone but me and it made me feel so hurt and upset that I went off on him in front of everyone. I feel stupid but he drove me to it. And then when I...
    snw1980 snw1980 31-35, F 1 Response Jul 18, 2014

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    Coming Up For Air

    I loved the attention.After being ignored for so many years I loved that someone thought that I was worth listening to, that what I had to say mattered.I loved that I felt attractive again, that I felt desired.I loved that I felt loved.He never hit me. He rarely said an unkind...
    Quintesse Quintesse 51-55, F 66 Responses Aug 19, 2011

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    love9494 love9494 18-21 2 Responses Dec 20, 2014

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    Why has being in an emotional abuse

    relationship caused me to become distant with my family? Like I feel like I am unable to fully engage with them ? :/
    love9494 love9494 18-21 2 Responses Dec 28, 2014

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    My ex friend, basically ruined me -.

    - First he started calling me names, humiliating me, ignoring me, and ended up ditching me and leaving me all alone which resulted in depression. Yeah thanks ******. And now he acts really really normal around me like wtf no go **** your online girlfriends.
    PsychologyNerd PsychologyNerd 13-15, F 2 Responses Dec 27, 2014

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    Dear ******* Who Hurt Me

    for Four Years, I am no longer your emotional slave. You hurts me so bad that I was diagnosed with PTSD. You drove me out of the state, 1000 miles away from my hometown. I left because I was so incredibly scared of you, scared you would come back and hurt me, and say things...
    sarahtorrella sarahtorrella 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 15, 2014

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    I have no where to turn.

    I've been married 15 years. My husband is emotionally and sexually abusive. The way he speaks to me is unbelievable. He even does it in front of others. I watch as people's jaws drop when he says things to me. He's so abrasive and disrespectful. It's my fault for living...
    innerstrength44 innerstrength44 41-45, F 8 Responses Jan 1

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    My ex boyfriend and I broke up

    because he had to go to jail for the assult and strangulation of his ex girlfriend from a couple years ago... Still talking to him supporting him... Just found out that while he was out he was fukking someone else and she might be pregnant... He says it's my fault because I used...
    funluvz funluvz 26-30, F 4 Responses Dec 14, 2014

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    I'm not quite sure what to do.

    I am in love with an abusive alcoholic. I have built a life with this man. I know what I'm going to hear, so I'm hoping that there may be a sympathetic ear out there... I feel like I can't leave. I have no way to survive without him. He's only started to be physical in the...
    kevans1906 kevans1906 26-30, F 13 Responses Jan 15

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    My Story #2 Mental/Physical/Emotional/Verbal Abuse

    I DON'T REALLY KNOW HOW TO START THIS, BUT I CAN TRY. I HAVE BEEN MENTALLY/EMOTIONALLY/VERBALLY/PHYSICALLY ABUSED BY MY EX BOYFRIEND FOR A LONG LONG TIME. I HAVE DECIDED TO SHARE THIS BECAUSE I HAVE GOTTEN TO THE POINT WHERE IT WILL HELP ME THROUGH MY PROCESS. I LOST MYSELF TO...
    mellymel30 mellymel30 26-30, F 2 Responses Apr 5, 2013

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    Growing up, my mother would have these "moods"

    where she would get angry at some small mistake or mishap and scream and yell at anyone within her sight. She would always blame me or my father for whatever was wrong. I grew up hearing how I was a "bad child", how I couldn't do anything right, how I was never gonna amount to...
    bookworm2014 bookworm2014 22-25, F 6 Responses Jan 13, 2014

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    I have lived with my aunt

    since my parents died when I was 3. She has always been very strict with me and not with my 4 girl cousins who are younger than me. She has always kind of put me down and made me feel like I wasn’t as good as they are. Maybe because they are her real kids. It hurts because...
    meneme1996 meneme1996 18-21, M 3 Responses Jan 7

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    Just Because Its Not Visible Does Not Mean Its Not There

    I know there are many examples of emotional/mental abuse on here, and each one is important. I also know that this form of abuse can come from both men and women. I happened to be on the receiving end of emotional abuse from my wife. She is now my ex..   As a little back story...
    Army0917 Army0917 31-35, M 9 Responses Mar 19, 2011

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    amtired amtired 22-25 Jan 14

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    I am suffering. again.

    I dont know what to do anymore. He said he loved me but treated me like dirt. I was choked and kicked and slapped.... annd called names. and put down. so How could he love me if he treated me that way? Everything was always my fault according to him.
    amtired amtired 22-25 6 Responses Jan 6

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    Why do I feel like if I leave I am losing,

    like my "love" justifys everything else. Why do I feel I won't find someone better & scared to be alone.
    love9494 love9494 18-21 2 Responses Dec 21, 2014

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    In the beginning my now husband was very sweet

    always opening the door for me and always putting me before everything else. There was a time i actually felt like he loved me. After he came home from Iraq he was a different man. He always proceeded to make me cry, to put me down, and to threaten to beat me so hard that i...
    Sexygirl8807 Sexygirl8807 26-30 31 Responses Dec 13, 2013

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    I recently got out of a verbal

    and emotionally abusive relationship but rather than share the actual story...for I am not up to recounting it...I thought I'd share the signs that I gathered and used to diagnose the problem. I had figured under 15 of these could be just normal relationship stress...but...
    theodore2324 theodore2324 26-30, M 8 Responses Jan 24, 2014

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    I was married to a woman

    who emotionally abused me. We have kids and she does it still through them or the silent treatment I'm not the type to stay with ex girlfriends If it's over I move on I don't see them and I do my thing. I'm feeling trapped here And I don't know how to get away from her And...
    cutie7710 cutie7710 36-40, F 3 Responses Dec 19, 2014

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    Hello again everyone!

    I've been married 8 yrs now, legally. However I am no longer residing with my spouse. The last straw for me was when he would not allow my children and I to enter our home after returning from my mom's house. He had also made some comments about my sons and not wanting them in...
    nicam2g nicam2g 26-30, F 5 Responses Jan 2

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    As a male victim of an emotionally & verbally

    abusive marriage, I had a hard time finding people who would listen and help, especially in the Christian church world. As the target of abuse, the main questions I needed to discuss and/or have answered were, "Why did you (my wife) treat me in the cruel ways that you did...
    bwDVOWRD bwDVOWRD 26-30, M 4 Responses Sep 29, 2014

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    so.. Im STILL SUFFERING.

    EXTREMELY. AAAAH HELP?????!!!!!!!! I FEEL I AM LOSING IT. GBUSHGIDASCHXWDBNIUEIOHJIHWVFDIUHEIWPHEWPIU!!!!!!!!!!!!!! FUUUUAAACK! EH. ****** abuse. sigh. Im suffering. I go to therapy.. so ... wtf?! :(
    amtired amtired 22-25 1 Response Dec 27, 2014

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    I just walked out of an abusive relationship

    funny he forced me to leave the last thing he said was either you blame all of the abuse on yourself or gtfo i finally came to terms that he never loved me... I feel ok (safe)
    rossp24 rossp24 18-21, F 5 Responses Mar 11, 2014

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    Physical aggression by a man toward his partner

    is abuse, even if it happens only once. If he raises a fist; punches a hole in the wall; throws things at you; blocks your way; restrains you; grabs, pushes, or pokes you; or threatens to hurt you, that’s physical abuse. He is creating fear and using your need for physical...
    Lostnalone22 Lostnalone22 31-35, F 3 Responses Jul 31, 2014

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