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I Am a Victim of Emotional Abuse

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    Tale of Two Husbands: Dr. Jekyl & Mr. Hyde

    I can't believe it happened to me. I thought I was too smart, too wise. I'd had therapy. Hell, my husband had worked as a mental health therapist for 10 years, and we both have PhDs. Here's my realization:  That I'd been excusing his "moods" and assuming he'd...
    FormerDoorMat FormerDoorMat 51-55, F 61 Responses Mar 12, 2009

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    In the beginning my now husband was very sweet

    always opening the door for me and always putting me before everything else. There was a time i actually felt like he loved me. After he came home from Iraq he was a different man. He always proceeded to make me cry, to put me down, and to threaten to beat me so hard that i...
    Sexygirl8807 Sexygirl8807 26-30 29 Responses Dec 13, 2013

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    I believed the words you threw at me.

    They bore down deep into my soul. To my very core I believed I was unworthy of your respect. That I deserved every horrible name you uttered. Thought it was acceptable to not be allowed to see my family or friends. Even believed that not seeing them was better for our...
    Happinessismine Happinessismine 31-35, F 5 Responses Mar 31

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    i'm hurting. his words are vicious,

    cruel, disgusting, and couldn't be farther from the truth. yet i give in to his bs and swallow it. absorb it. in the same sentence he will tell me that he loves me, but then call me a crazy, psycho, wh*re b*tch. he disrepects my family when it's just me and him. but to them...
    mermaid81 mermaid81 31-35, F 5 Responses Nov 21, 2014

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    if someone is treating you badly

    who has a mental illness (bipolar w schizophrenia symptoms,ptsd .he takes meds 4 it) , should you just to some degree let it go because it can be attributed to the illness , or can it possibly be willful of them to do that? my bf is always calling me mean names ,belittes me...
    foxyoxy123 foxyoxy123 26-30, F 4 Responses Apr 19

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    The Art Of Emotional Abuse

    ~THE ART OF EMOTIONAL ABUSE~ THE CANVAS How do you become the victim of emotional abuse? Why don’t you just get out? I’ve been asked “What did he do to you?” BRUSH STROKES There are no concrete answers to that question. No physical wounds to prove the damage. It’s so...
    Breeziiee Breeziiee 41-45, F 20 Responses Aug 8, 2013

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    I wish to share this video with all victims of

    abuse,I hope it will be of help on your road to healing and recovery.
    berangere berangere 66-70, F May 15

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    Part 2: Well it's now been 6 years.

    I am the crazy one and he is mr perfect to his friends and family! A few times we went out with friends and he was mr chatty to everyone but me and it made me feel so hurt and upset that I went off on him in front of everyone. I feel stupid but he drove me to it. And then when I...
    snw1980 snw1980 31-35, F 1 Response Jul 18, 2014

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    You Are not alone. I know how you feel

    and I know what it is like when those thoughts and feelings creep in. Remember, we actually don't have to believe everything we think. Due to trying to build an intimate relationship with someone who turned out to be very passive aggressive and manipulative I now go through a...
    mariayoga mariayoga 31-35, F 1 Response May 14

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    ~THE ART OF EMOTIONAL ABUSE~ THE CANVAS How do

    you become the victim of emotional abuse? Why don’t you just get out? I’ve been asked “What did he do to you?” BRUSH STROKES There are no concrete answers to that question. No physical wounds to prove the damage. It’s so subtle & pervasive, as not to be described by a...
    Breeziiee Breeziiee 41-45, F 5 Responses Feb 20, 2014

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    I was physically, verbally

    and emotionally abused as a child...Im bipolar and have to deal with anixiety and depression issues..As an adult I was almost free from all of the abuse because I lived with my grandmother and then she died of cancer and that brought on heavy depression/anxiety/panic attacks...I...
    serenityshadow serenityshadow 18-21, F 3 Responses Apr 12

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    How do I know if my Dad is truly emotionally

    abusing me? I just feel so confused....I've hated him since I was at least 9 or 10. Truly hated him, with a cold fury. The trouble is I've suppressed alot so everything gets jumbled up in my head when I try to remember the way he used to behave (my mum has finally managed to...
    HappyKitty18 HappyKitty18 18-21, F 5 Responses Apr 30

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    I just heard the front door open

    and it terrifies me...Im in my room, but Im filled with overwhelming fear and anxiety...I know that they wont physically abuse me, but I was badly physically abused in my childhood by my family and last night brought up all of my fear again...They get drunk every night and Im...
    serenityshadow serenityshadow 18-21, F 2 Responses Apr 12

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    This wonderful kind man (so I thought)came into

    my life and charmed me beyond belief, he was so kind and emotionally supportive of me. But the criticism and threats of leaving me started, and I love him so much, but I know what is going on it has happened in every romantic relationship I have ever had. I was physically and...
    meramera1 meramera1 36-40, F 3 Responses Apr 6

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    Yasmin567 Yasmin567 22-25, F 3 Responses 12 hrs ago

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    My first wife left me

    and my two year old. I was devastated to say the least. I met my current wife when he was four. She has helped me raise him and we have a 17 year old son together. I made a promise to stand by her no matter what. She can be a very angry person and wants everything her way. My...
    jaymic64 jaymic64 51-55, M 7 Responses Mar 26

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    Coming Up For Air

    I loved the attention.After being ignored for so many years I loved that someone thought that I was worth listening to, that what I had to say mattered.I loved that I felt attractive again, that I felt desired.I loved that I felt loved.He never hit me. He rarely said an unkind...
    Quintesse Quintesse 51-55, F 66 Responses Aug 19, 2011

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    I had to pull myself out of suicidal thoughts

    alone tonight. My parents will never accept the fact that they are part of the problem.
    sassycastiel sassycastiel 18-21, F 2 Responses May 20

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    I just walked out of an abusive relationship

    funny he forced me to leave the last thing he said was either you blame all of the abuse on yourself or gtfo i finally came to terms that he never loved me... I feel ok (safe)
    rossp24 rossp24 22-25, F 5 Responses Mar 11, 2014

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    I don't understand abuse within a relationship.

    If you truly love someone why would you want to hurt them with words or actions. When you love someone you want to see them smile, be happy, you aim to bring out the best in them because you are a team. I don't understand why you want to hurt me. Do you enjoy seeing tears...
    Searchingforreallove Searchingforreallove 26-30, F 2 Responses Apr 17

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    For five years, I was in a relationship with a

    domineering man, who controlled everything I did. I was not allowed to be myself with him. He didn't care about what I wanted or what I needed. He let me starve while he pigged out. He made me feel stupid, incompetent, ugly and dirty. He made me feel like I could not take care...
    Bluebutterflywings Bluebutterflywings 26-30, F 3 Responses Jun 15, 2014

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    Not just by my step-mom,

    but my biological dad. Through emails and hand written letters, I've come to terms with the abuse. I much rather be hit, kicked, punched, and bruised all over than deal with mental abuse any day...
    XxxFallenAngelxxX XxxFallenAngelxxX 22-25, F May 19

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    As a male victim of an emotionally & verbally

    abusive marriage, I had a hard time finding people who would listen and help, especially in the Christian church world. As the target of abuse, the main questions I needed to discuss and/or have answered were, "Why did you (my wife) treat me in the cruel ways that you did...
    bwDVOWRD bwDVOWRD 26-30, M 4 Responses Sep 29, 2014

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    I'm a first time mom,

    and stupidly I believed my SO when he said he would change.... thought it would get better when we had our beautiful baby boy.... but it's only gotten worse.... are there any other moms out there struggling with a lazy, selfish baby daddy who does nothing but complain about...
    FTMandLost FTMandLost 26-30, F 2 Responses Apr 2

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    With my being in love with a loser has caused a

    lot of agony. Being cheated on over and over. Being told that he didn't like what I had on and that I was crazy. Yea i was damn crazy for loving such a jackass. I WAS a victim of emotional abuse. I finally got the strength to leave. It was for the best.
    SentimentalMood SentimentalMood 36-40, F 3 Responses Nov 12, 2014

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    I don't even know if I am a victim of emotional

    abuse. I feel like all the relationship problems between us are my fault but I'm doing my best otherwise. Apparently I'm self centered and I don't listen to his emotions but how can I when he almost never tells me how he's feeling??
    thatonecxnt thatonecxnt 22-25, F 2 Responses May 16

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    Nothing like waking up

    and being called lazy and useless. I don't recall those being words of affirmation :(
    TheCunylinguist TheCunylinguist 41-45, F 2 Responses Aug 8, 2014

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    Just Because Its Not Visible Does Not Mean Its Not There

    I know there are many examples of emotional/mental abuse on here, and each one is important. I also know that this form of abuse can come from both men and women. I happened to be on the receiving end of emotional abuse from my wife. She is now my ex..   As a little back story...
    Army0917 Army0917 31-35, M 9 Responses Mar 19, 2011

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    What Is Emotional Abuse.

    What is Emotional Abuse? I've asked myself this question a million times. I never knew the answers and for a long time I was too afraid to find them, I was afraid of what I'd discover. About myself, about my spouse, about our life. Then for some reason in the last couple of weeks...
    UndeniablyConfused UndeniablyConfused 26-30, F 66 Responses Dec 1, 2008

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    Drained By A Vampire

    No, not the fictional variety, but the emotional variety. More and more was asked of me, I gave and gave. I gave not only time but trust. And I lost so much of myself in the process. First it all seemed so caring, so I gave freely of myself, my trust. But then it began.  The...
    DinahMoeHumm DinahMoeHumm 41-45, F 4 Responses Aug 2, 2012

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    I have to spend 3 whole days with my dad

    while on vacation. I had to sit in a car with him for about 8 hours so far, and it felt like torture!! I don't know how I'm going to survive this week. I already feel like crying. :/
    Hipstercatlover Hipstercatlover 16-17, F 2 Responses Mar 31

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    One day, I'm going to do it.

    I am going to end my life. I don't want to be abused anymore. And I realize there's no hope for me. When I die, I will be free. The world is better off without me.
    CreoleItalianwoman CreoleItalianwoman 31-35, F 7 Responses May 10

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    Growing up, my mother would have these "moods"

    where she would get angry at some small mistake or mishap and scream and yell at anyone within her sight. She would always blame me or my father for whatever was wrong. I grew up hearing how I was a "bad child", how I couldn't do anything right, how I was never gonna amount to...
    bookworm2014 bookworm2014 22-25, F 5 Responses Jan 13, 2014

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    ...

    and it makes it really hard to have normal relationships once you're damaged goods... because now everything makes us feel vulnerable and easily hurt. And so, even if it's emotional intimacy that we want most, we can't even begin to enjoy it because we're so hurt, so scarred, so...
    CrazyHippieChick CrazyHippieChick 70+ 5 Responses Dec 8, 2013

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    Learned Helplessness They say These clever

    scientist folks, That there is such a thing As learned helplessness; Cage a rat Subject it To repeated trauma Until it is so tired of fighting It will lie in the corner And take the pain Not leaving Even when the door is opened I know this to be true This has been me Cowering...
    Lostnalone22 Lostnalone22 31-35, F 1 Response May 10

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    I had an abusive boyfriend

    who manipulated me
    JadeHunter JadeHunter 13-15, F May 14

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    My Story #2 Mental/Physical/Emotional/Verbal Abuse

    I DON'T REALLY KNOW HOW TO START THIS, BUT I CAN TRY. I HAVE BEEN MENTALLY/EMOTIONALLY/VERBALLY/PHYSICALLY ABUSED BY MY EX BOYFRIEND FOR A LONG LONG TIME. I HAVE DECIDED TO SHARE THIS BECAUSE I HAVE GOTTEN TO THE POINT WHERE IT WILL HELP ME THROUGH MY PROCESS. I LOST MYSELF TO...
    mellymel30 mellymel30 31-35, F 2 Responses Apr 5, 2013

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    well....theres not much to say.

    i feel my story is inferior to those who have spent their entire lives being abused. mine was a short 2 months with a boyfriend. i didn't understand what happened. before we got together he would phone me every night for hours. after we got together, he'd never phone me. he'd...
    Lizzy90242 Lizzy90242 16-17, F 2 Responses a week ago

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    I believe because of my nature

    and my father was very angry a lot and verbally abusive to me when I was a kid, that I have always been vulnerable to more abuse and manipulation. From bullies at school and especially from men.
    aileen2 aileen2 26-30, F 1 Response Apr 27

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    he told me I was a *****

    and that's all I am. that's not very nice. especially when I already feel like crap about myself. in church once a pastor said that a relationship is like a gas tank. it starts out full. but once you have a heart ache it slowly empties. sure something good can happen and you try...
    yesitsme123 yesitsme123 31-35 2 Responses May 18

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    Someone said that happiness is a choice.

    You cannot change your past but the future is in your hands. Your reaction is Your responsibility.
    jamielove7777 jamielove7777 26-30, F Mar 31

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    Not True

    ***** do this and ***** do that that's what I got woke up to everyday. Your nothing but a worthless **** no one will ever want you. Your retarted! You can't do anything right. Your nasty your ugly. This is what emotional abuse is. After hearing it so long you think its true. I'm...
    holehearted79 holehearted79 31-35, F 5 Responses Jul 15, 2013

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    I am a man, and my wife is.

    .. it's hard to say it and feel like I'm really telling the truth, but she's my abuser. She treats my questions as though they have obvious answers. She treats me like I'm just a participant in our life, not a partner. She treats me like my opinion on something, or my desire...
    Felixthestoat Felixthestoat 22-25, T 11 Responses Apr 18, 2014

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    i was nine years old ,

    when my friend's mum got sick and my mother asked to go for a sleep over to keep her company as her mum was very sick. she had her own bedroom but her mum that night her mum asked to come to sleep in her bedroom though she had a boyfriend and he was sleeping with her on their...
    filante filante 26-30, F 1 Response May 7

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    Dear ******* Who Hurt Me

    for Four Years, I am no longer your emotional slave. You hurts me so bad that I was diagnosed with PTSD. You drove me out of the state, 1000 miles away from my hometown. I left because I was so incredibly scared of you, scared you would come back and hurt me, and say things...
    sarahtorrella sarahtorrella 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 15, 2014

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    Vindicated!! It was a small win,

    but at couples therapy tonight the therapist told my wife that no matter what I offer her in gestures or attempts, she only gets angry or ridicules me. My wife got very upset and almost walked out accusing the therapist of being unsafe and biased. The therapist was able to talk...
    deepbreathneeded deepbreathneeded 36-40, M 2 Responses Sep 22, 2014

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