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I Am a Victim of Emotional Abuse

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    and it makes it really hard to have normal relationships once you're damaged goods... because now everything makes us feel vulnerable and easily hurt. And so, even if it's emotional intimacy that we want most, we can't even begin to enjoy it because we're so hurt, so scarred, so...
    CrazyHippieChick CrazyHippieChick 22-25 5 Responses Dec 8, 2013

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    I was once alone... I was isolated from the

    outside world, my family, my friends. He wanted that to be. I did not want them to see. I was filled with shame, shame on me. I was beaten down, told I was nothing. I was stupid. I did not want them to see. I did not want them to see me, how stupid I could be... I was...
    Mm8335 Mm8335 36-40, F 4 Responses Aug 25, 2014

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    Why am so afraid to leave

    when I know I have too. Wish I had some support and finances he doesn't give me a penny
    cmabbott14 cmabbott14 22-25, F 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    With my being in love with a loser has caused a

    lot of agony. Being cheated on over and over. Being told that he didn't like what I had on and that I was crazy. Yea i was damn crazy for loving such a jackass. I WAS a victim of emotional abuse. I finally got the strength to leave. It was for the best.
    SentimentalMood SentimentalMood 36-40, F 3 Responses Nov 12, 2014

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    I was emotionally abused an damaged

    as an adult. No one knows my story and i know i need to start telling it. I dont know how or where
    damagedk1 damagedk1 26-30, F 3 Responses Aug 20

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    I believed the words you threw at me.

    They bore down deep into my soul. To my very core I believed I was unworthy of your respect. That I deserved every horrible name you uttered. Thought it was acceptable to not be allowed to see my family or friends. Even believed that not seeing them was better for our...
    Happinessismine Happinessismine 31-35, F 7 Responses Mar 31

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    Physical aggression by a man toward his partner

    is abuse, even if it happens only once. If he raises a fist; punches a hole in the wall; throws things at you; blocks your way; restrains you; grabs, pushes, or pokes you; or threatens to hurt you, that’s physical abuse. He is creating fear and using your need for physical...
    Beautifulnlost22 Beautifulnlost22 31-35, F 4 Responses Jul 31, 2014

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    Looking for good advice on how to leave abusive

    relationship. Someone who can give advice and listen open mindedly
    cmabbott14 cmabbott14 22-25, F 4 Responses 6 days ago

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    cmabbott14 cmabbott14 22-25, F 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    Not True

    ***** do this and ***** do that that's what I got woke up to everyday. Your nothing but a worthless **** no one will ever want you. Your retarted! You can't do anything right. Your nasty your ugly. This is what emotional abuse is. After hearing it so long you think its true. I'm...
    holehearted79 holehearted79 36-40, F 4 Responses Jul 15, 2013

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    Coming Up For Air

    I loved the attention.After being ignored for so many years I loved that someone thought that I was worth listening to, that what I had to say mattered.I loved that I felt attractive again, that I felt desired.I loved that I felt loved.He never hit me. He rarely said an unkind...
    Quintesse Quintesse 51-55, F 66 Responses Aug 19, 2011

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    I am a man, and my wife is.

    .. it's hard to say it and feel like I'm really telling the truth, but she's my abuser. She treats my questions as though they have obvious answers. She treats me like I'm just a participant in our life, not a partner. She treats me like my opinion on something, or my desire...
    Felixthestoat Felixthestoat 22-25, T 11 Responses Apr 18, 2014

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    Hi, I'm Gianna and I'm currently 15.

    I'm sorry if anything I say offends you in any way, but I tend to be very blunt because that's the way I've been talked to. I have been emotionally abused by my grandfather for years ever since I came to live with him since my father died when I was seven. I don't know exactly...
    CagedBird1778 CagedBird1778 13-15, F 1 Response Jul 22

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    I feel like I need to share the truth about my

    relationship somewhere. I have been in a relationship with a guy who has made me feel isolated, like a disgusting animal, a stupid child, and depressed for more than 3 years. None of the ugly came out in him until after I was committed and emotional invested in him. We were...
    myselffirst myselffirst 22-25, F 7 Responses Jun 26, 2014

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    In the beginning my now husband was very sweet

    always opening the door for me and always putting me before everything else. There was a time i actually felt like he loved me. After he came home from Iraq he was a different man. He always proceeded to make me cry, to put me down, and to threaten to beat me so hard that i...
    Sexygirl8807 Sexygirl8807 26-30 29 Responses Dec 13, 2013

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    berangere berangere 66-70, F 2 Responses Apr 30

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    My parents were divorced about a decade ago.

    The Cause: my mom and dad would have terrible fights. It was horrible. I was an only child. My mom would sometimes sleep in my room when she was upset with my dad. She didn't have much control in the house; my dad oversaw everything. My dad has a terrible temper. He would get...
    Novuko129 Novuko129 16-17, F 2 Responses Jul 22

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    I was in love with him from the very start,

    but he never reciprocated. We became friends, though. It all started when my other friend came to me and said he knew I was in love with him and, furthermore, he was mocking my feelings behind my back. I asked him about it, and he said she was lying to me. We grew closer and...
    papergirl1 papergirl1 18-21, F Aug 13

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    Why do I still put value on things

    that I do know are invaluable? Like my relationships with family and society in general , it only ends in disappointments. Being rejected by society is just dehumanizing af. I can't seem to break away completely from it and I don't think it will ever be possible. I am just...
    BodyOfWar BodyOfWar 22-25, F 7 Responses Jul 16

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    I just walked out of an abusive relationship

    funny he forced me to leave the last thing he said was either you blame all of the abuse on yourself or gtfo i finally came to terms that he never loved me... I feel ok (safe)
    rossp24 rossp24 22-25, F 5 Responses Mar 11, 2014

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    As a male victim of an emotionally & verbally

    abusive marriage, I had a hard time finding people who would listen and help, especially in the Christian church world. As the target of abuse, the main questions I needed to discuss and/or have answered were, "Why did you (my wife) treat me in the cruel ways that you did...
    bwDVOWRD bwDVOWRD 26-30, M 4 Responses Sep 29, 2014

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    I want him gone I want him out of my house I

    can't stand him any more is getting worse and worse he keeps saying all these mean horrible things to me I can't take it any more he thinks he is perfect and does not do anything wrong when he does all the time I'm done can't do it no more he blames me for everything all the...
    LuvLostSoul LuvLostSoul 26-30, F 3 Responses Jul 20

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    Emotional, mental, verbal.

    And I still miss him and love him. I can't sleep. It's been two days now since his dad called. 8 months since I saw him, touched him, smelled him. My heart still wants him. I don't know how much of this is *normal* for a victim of abuse to feel, or if I just really love him this...
    auroraunicorn auroraunicorn 36-40, F 1 Response Aug 15

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    I learned a lot of things

    while i was married to an abusive man for 10yrs.. I learned that i am not strong enough to take care of myself.. and so i stopped and let him I learned that i am not smart enough to make any decisions on my own because everything i did was wrong. .and so i stopped and let him...
    sweetpea6200 sweetpea6200 31-35, F 7 Responses Apr 21, 2014

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    Part 2: Well it's now been 6 years.

    I am the crazy one and he is mr perfect to his friends and family! A few times we went out with friends and he was mr chatty to everyone but me and it made me feel so hurt and upset that I went off on him in front of everyone. I feel stupid but he drove me to it. And then when I...
    snw1980 snw1980 31-35, F 1 Response Jul 18, 2014

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    I tiptoe on eggshells around you darling,

    I try not to remind myself of the heartache, The pain too real to pretend it never happened. Don’t you see, he destroyed who I was. Kicking me to the ground, Leaving bruises on my collarbones, And now I’m terrified of letting myself go again. Babe, don’t stand close to me...
    chronicfiend chronicfiend 22-25, F Aug 23

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    I recently got out of a verbal

    and emotionally abusive relationship but rather than share the actual story...for I am not up to recounting it...I thought I'd share the signs that I gathered and used to diagnose the problem. I had figured under 15 of these could be just normal relationship stress...but...
    theodore2324 theodore2324 26-30, M 8 Responses Jan 24, 2014

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    Drained By A Vampire

    No, not the fictional variety, but the emotional variety. More and more was asked of me, I gave and gave. I gave not only time but trust. And I lost so much of myself in the process. First it all seemed so caring, so I gave freely of myself, my trust. But then it began.  The...
    DinahMoeHumm DinahMoeHumm 41-45, F 4 Responses Aug 2, 2012

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    I don't understand abuse within a relationship.

    If you truly love someone why would you want to hurt them with words or actions. When you love someone you want to see them smile, be happy, you aim to bring out the best in them because you are a team. I don't understand why you want to hurt me. Do you enjoy seeing tears...
    Searchingforreallove Searchingforreallove 36-40, F 2 Responses Apr 17

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    To my mom who has tortured me

    for years I'm taking my life back. I am not worthless and I have people who love me even if you don't. In three months I'm leaving you will not make my senior year hell. I am not scared of you anymore. You will not keep me from see in my friends and family. I'm sick of being...
    Bellamey1 Bellamey1 16-17, F 1 Response Jul 21

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    Having found a very good video,

    I wish to share it.
    berangere berangere 66-70, F 1 Response Aug 4

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    What do you do when someone constantly

    threatens you with self harm and suicide everytime you try to break the bonds with them or even just take a step back to look after yourself for a change rather than always being there for them. He threatens to go back on drugs or to give up on this life and that I'm all he has...
    Mari3028 Mari3028 31-35, F 4 Responses Aug 20

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    So, I have issues opening up to people in

    person. I don't have any friends to begin with. So I figured I'd just come online. Although I've suffered from emotional abuse, and still continue to just like everyone here, I still feel alone. Really alone. For starters, my emotional abuse did not just come from parents. It...
    BudLilly BudLilly 18-21, F 2 Responses Aug 2

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    Tale of Two Husbands: Dr. Jekyl & Mr. Hyde

    I can't believe it happened to me. I thought I was too smart, too wise. I'd had therapy. Hell, my husband had worked as a mental health therapist for 10 years, and we both have PhDs. Here's my realization:  That I'd been excusing his "moods" and assuming he'd...
    FormerDoorMat FormerDoorMat 51-55, F 62 Responses Mar 12, 2009

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    so I'm lost on my own bubble.

    ... I don't no what to do anymore where to turn to only way out seems like death but I have a son he is 3 yrs.... I feel like I'm better of having nobody worry about me I found my step dad dead my little sister and brothers father at age of 10 overdosed on drugs I get flashback...
    Ineedoutofthishellhole Ineedoutofthishellhole 22-25, M 1 Response 3 days ago

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    For five years, I was in a relationship with a

    domineering man, who controlled everything I did. I was not allowed to be myself with him. He didn't care about what I wanted or what I needed. He let me starve while he pigged out. He made me feel stupid, incompetent, ugly and dirty. He made me feel like I could not take care...
    Bluebutterflywings Bluebutterflywings 26-30, F 3 Responses Jun 15, 2014

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    I'm not a loud or confrontational person.

    I was kicked out of my family and disowned because my mother and my brother were abusing my brothers kids. My mother is the one that brought the abuse to my attention so I thought her pattern of abuse had stopped. When the two-year mark from me being disowned by my whole family...
    letters2mymother letters2mymother 41-45, F Aug 25

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    Vindicated!! It was a small win,

    but at couples therapy tonight the therapist told my wife that no matter what I offer her in gestures or attempts, she only gets angry or ridicules me. My wife got very upset and almost walked out accusing the therapist of being unsafe and biased. The therapist was able to talk...
    deepbreathneeded deepbreathneeded 36-40, M 2 Responses Sep 22, 2014

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    The Art Of Emotional Abuse

    ~THE ART OF EMOTIONAL ABUSE~ THE CANVAS How do you become the victim of emotional abuse? Why don’t you just get out? I’ve been asked “What did he do to you?” BRUSH STROKES There are no concrete answers to that question. No physical wounds to prove the damage. It’s so...
    Breeziiee Breeziiee 41-45, F 21 Responses Aug 8, 2013

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    I need help leaving an abusive relationship.

    He controls all the money so I can't afford to leave. My family won't help because they are afraid of him and I can find no resources. I was told I could live in a shelter but will not do that to my kids! I need help and suggestions. I can't go on any longer
    cmabbott14 cmabbott14 22-25, F 10 Responses Aug 2

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    Growing up, my mother would have these "moods"

    where she would get angry at some small mistake or mishap and scream and yell at anyone within her sight. She would always blame me or my father for whatever was wrong. I grew up hearing how I was a "bad child", how I couldn't do anything right, how I was never gonna amount to...
    bookworm2014 bookworm2014 22-25, F 5 Responses Jan 13, 2014

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    i'm hurting. his words are vicious,

    cruel, disgusting, and couldn't be farther from the truth. yet i give in to his bs and swallow it. absorb it. in the same sentence he will tell me that he loves me, but then call me a crazy, psycho, wh*re b*tch. he disrepects my family when it's just me and him. but to them...
    mermaid81 mermaid81 31-35, F 5 Responses Nov 21, 2014

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    Just Because Its Not Visible Does Not Mean Its Not There

    I know there are many examples of emotional/mental abuse on here, and each one is important. I also know that this form of abuse can come from both men and women. I happened to be on the receiving end of emotional abuse from my wife. She is now my ex..   As a little back story...
    Army0917 Army0917 31-35, M 9 Responses Mar 19, 2011

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    let's see so the other day I was called lazy

    and I don't want to do anything with my life just because it's taking me a lot of time to find a job well guess what he doesn't work either he actually quit his job I told him it wasn't a good idea but he wanted to because he was tired of the way his coworkers and his boss was...
    LuvLostSoul LuvLostSoul 26-30, F 1 Response Jul 19

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    I've never verbally told anyone about my

    depression or emotional abuse due to the extreme sensitivity of the topics. But within the next week that's gonna change because I have to do it with my band teacher. Just the thought of it makes me nervous and shake, but after doing it I'm sure I'll feel so much more relieved...
    Hipstercatlover Hipstercatlover 16-17, F 2 Responses Aug 19

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    The trouble with emotional abuse is,

    it leaves no visible scars. You can't prove it. Iv'e managed to escape my abusers, but escaping the lingering feelings of worthlessness and guilt will be a lot harder.