I Am a Victim of Emotional Abuse

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    My husband wasn't like this

    when we met it started about 4 years after we got married yelling name calling putting down spending my money threatening to beat me he has never hit me so far But yesterday he got mad because he couldn't find his wallet hr accused me of letting someone in our house while he was...
    beautifulangel35 beautifulangel35
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Mar 4, 2016

    What Is Emotional Abuse.

    What is Emotional Abuse? I've asked myself this question a million times. I never knew the answers and for a long time I was too afraid to find them, I was afraid of what I'd discover. About myself, about my spouse, about our life. Then for some reason in the last couple of weeks...
    UndeniablyConfused UndeniablyConfused
    26-30, F
    64 Responses Dec 1, 2008

    My grandparents are narcissists.

    One is covert, one is overt.I was their first grandchild. For a long time I felt like they loved me, but that's just because I remember them smiling and laughing all the time when I was around them. It turned out they were on meth/speed and marijuana every chance they got their...
    NarcissismSurvivor NarcissismSurvivor
    26-30, F
    1 Response Feb 25, 2016

    Why are there so many resources

    for veterans with ptsd but nothing for the spouses who are the recipient of the abuse when they happen to be married to a sufferer who has become a hateful, nasty, vitrol spewing violent alcoholic? We need help too! The worst is, I can't find a job to take my daughter away from...
    jsef jsef
    31-35, F
    Jan 18, 2016

    My Story #2 Mental/Physical/Emotional/Verbal Abuse

    mellymel30 mellymel30
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Apr 5, 2013

    I recently broke up for probably the hundredth

    time with my boyfriend.We were in relationship for nearly six years. I want help in actually understanding what is actually going on, am i being manipulated or is it normal issues. But before that i would like to share my childhood because i assume it might help you all...
    deleted deleted
    2 Responses Apr 12, 2016

    Im married to an alcoholic abusive husband.

    He swears at me, lies, drinks everyday etc etc. He is so used to doing this that he actually gets angry at me when I try to stand up for myself. When I try saying its not okay that you swear at me, he says you deserve it. You shouldn't **** me off. When I try telling him about...
    westu86 westu86
    31-35, F
    Mar 17, 2016

    My partner likes to do anything to get a

    reaction out of me. A few days ago I felt depressed because of my career, so I told him and I cried. He said to me this is what happens if you make wrong life decisions and his final responds was "Try to control your emotions". I felt alone, but this was not the first time. I...
    Triangless Triangless
    22-25, F
    Mar 14, 2016

    I am a man, and my wife is.

    .. it's hard to say it and feel like I'm really telling the truth, but she's my abuser. She treats my questions as though they have obvious answers. She treats me like I'm just a participant in our life, not a partner. She treats me like my opinion on something, or my desire...
    Felixthestoat Felixthestoat
    22-25, T
    10 Responses Apr 18, 2014

    As a male victim of an emotionally & verbally

    abusive marriage, I had a hard time finding people who would listen and help, especially in the Christian church world. As the target of abuse, the main questions I needed to discuss and/or have answered were, "Why did you (my wife) treat me in the cruel ways that you did...
    31-35, M
    4 Responses Sep 29, 2014

    Growing up, my mother would have these "moods"

    where she would get angry at some small mistake or mishap and scream and yell at anyone within her sight. She would always blame me or my father for whatever was wrong. I grew up hearing how I was a "bad child", how I couldn't do anything right, how I was never gonna amount to...
    bookworm2014 bookworm2014
    26-30, F
    4 Responses Jan 13, 2014

    Sexual abuser's target was my body

    but body hurts the least it get healed quick mostly but what actually remain damaged n get raped is our emotional and mental health.You carry the burden till death. Just like that being in relation with sociopaths and psychopaths is i feel like I've been robbed of my person, my...
    moonii moonii
    22-25, F
    5 Responses Nov 9, 2015

    When you stand up to your emotional abuser it's

    simultaneously the most terrifying and empowering thing all at the same time. And so, POS discovers that it’s only $50 that I've transferred to her. I do admit it's an insult, not just to a Narcissist but indeed to anybody. The figure she was expecting? $400-$500. Sorry...
    koh72 koh72
    41-45, M
    2 Responses Oct 12, 2015

    My goal here, sharing part of my emotional

    abuse story with you, is to help anyone who feels like they're alone in what they're going through. The beginning was amazing. I had met this guy who just adored me, wanted to be with me all the time and seemed to genuinely care about how I felt. As a young 20 year old I was...
    missyorkk1 missyorkk1
    18-21, F
    1 Response Jan 30, 2016

    I was verbally and emotionally abused growing up

    and try so hard to get past it, but still struggle every day with self esteem issues. Words can hurt and leave forever scars.
    1jeni 1jeni
    51-55, F
    1 Response Mar 23, 2016


    and it makes it really hard to have normal relationships once you're damaged goods... because now everything makes us feel vulnerable and easily hurt. And so, even if it's emotional intimacy that we want most, we can't even begin to enjoy it because we're so hurt, so scarred, so...
    CrazyHippieChick CrazyHippieChick
    5 Responses Dec 8, 2013

    I feel like I need to share the truth about my

    relationship somewhere. I have been in a relationship with a guy who has made me feel isolated, like a disgusting animal, a stupid child, and depressed for more than 3 years. None of the ugly came out in him until after I was committed and emotional invested in him. We were...
    myselffirst myselffirst
    22-25, F
    7 Responses Jun 26, 2014

    I recently got out of a verbal

    and emotionally abusive relationship but rather than share the actual story...for I am not up to recounting it...I thought I'd share the signs that I gathered and used to diagnose the problem. I had figured under 15 of these could be just normal relationship stress...but...
    theodore2324 theodore2324
    26-30, M
    9 Responses Jan 24, 2014

    I remember being called stupid,

    do e and useless on many occasions. I grew up thinking I was stupid, it took helping others in my life where I realized one day hoe intelligent I was and that I can be a used to others, now I encourage other young men and women to love themselves. it's not easy, but when u...
    deleted deleted
    Sep 9, 2015


    tashibee11 tashibee11
    31-35, F
    1 Response Jan 27, 2016

    I could use someone to talk to?

    I am still recovering from abuse. He said he was gonna lock me in a basement. who says that?! he said he's gonna smash my skull in. I witnessed him beating his friends head into the pavement. Sigh.. That could a been me. Now, I am trying to survive.. I feel very alone I...
    amnotthattired amnotthattired
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Jan 19, 2016

    Just Because Its Not Visible Does Not Mean Its Not There

    I know there are many examples of emotional/mental abuse on here, and each one is important. I also know that this form of abuse can come from both men and women. I happened to be on the receiving end of emotional abuse from my wife. She is now my ex..   As a little back story...
    Army0917 Army0917
    31-35, M
    8 Responses Mar 19, 2011

    Physical aggression by a man toward his partner

    is abuse, even if it happens only once. If he raises a fist; punches a hole in the wall; throws things at you; blocks your way; restrains you; grabs, pushes, or pokes you; or threatens to hurt you, that’s physical abuse. He is creating fear and using your need for physical...
    deleted deleted
    3 Responses Jul 31, 2014

    For five years, I was in a relationship with a

    domineering man, who controlled everything I did. I was not allowed to be myself with him. He didn't care about what I wanted or what I needed. He let me starve while he pigged out. He made me feel stupid, incompetent, ugly and dirty. He made me feel like I could not take care...
    Bluebutterflywings Bluebutterflywings
    31-35, F
    3 Responses Jun 15, 2014

    I learned a lot of things

    while i was married to an abusive man for 10yrs.. I learned that i am not strong enough to take care of myself.. and so i stopped and let him I learned that i am not smart enough to make any decisions on my own because everything i did was wrong. .and so i stopped and let him...
    deleted deleted
    6 Responses Apr 21, 2014

    I'm so far in the pit of denial

    that my parents have been emotionally abusing me for so long even though multiple people tell me they are, that i don't know if I'll ever crawl back out and stop being numb. I can't wait to move out.
    bookworm342 bookworm342
    18-21, F
    1 Response Feb 6, 2016


    you become the victim of emotional abuse? Why don’t you just get out? I’ve been asked “What did he do to you?” BRUSH STROKES There are no concrete answers to that question. No physical wounds to prove the damage. It’s so subtle & pervasive, as not to be described by a...
    Breeziiee Breeziiee
    46-50, F
    5 Responses Feb 20, 2014

    For any of you that have read my story

    so far and have time, would you spread this around for me? I could use all of the help I can get. Thank you so much! https://www.gofundme.com/puzyek9u
    mousecatt mousecatt
    22-25, F
    Apr 20, 2016

    I don't know if being emotionally cold towards

    someone who hurt you is a good idea or not but what else can a person do when the one who hurt them is bigger stronger and your forced to live with them? what else can you do? turn away from the person only to get scolded by your mom for being rude?
    deleted deleted
    Apr 1, 2016

    I just walked out of an abusive relationship

    funny he forced me to leave the last thing he said was either you blame all of the abuse on yourself or gtfo i finally came to terms that he never loved me... I feel ok (safe)
    rossp24 rossp24
    22-25, F
    4 Responses Mar 11, 2014

    started with a 'let's hang out',

    then moved to a 'can I stay at your house?', a friendship. a strong friendship. one I never thought would end up like this. so many years of emotional abuse. being told I'm not good enough, being told I'm the reason everything goes wrong, being told everything is my fault and I...
    Trvplord92 Trvplord92
    22-25, F
    Mar 20, 2016

    Abusive parents can say "I love you" Abusive

    parents can give their kids an allowance, gifts, toys and nice things sometimes. Abusive parents can seem like parent of the year to outsiders. Abusive parents can defend their children from outside threats and get them in all the best schools and programs and deal with school...
    MissQueenB MissQueenB
    22-25, F
    5 Responses Jan 9, 2016

    Actually, to be honest.

    .I'm not sure yet. I believe that my family means well and I do not believe that they would intentionally do me or other members of my family harm but something needs to change. my parents got into it the other night and though this time around wasn't outside the realm of their...
    mousecatt mousecatt
    22-25, F
    4 Responses Apr 12, 2016

    i'm hurting. his words are vicious,

    cruel, disgusting, and couldn't be farther from the truth. yet i give in to his bs and swallow it. absorb it. in the same sentence he will tell me that he loves me, but then call me a crazy, psycho, wh*re b*tch. he disrepects my family when it's just me and him. but to them...
    mermaid81 mermaid81
    36-40, F
    5 Responses Nov 21, 2014

    Coming Up For Air

    I loved the attention.After being ignored for so many years I loved that someone thought that I was worth listening to, that what I had to say mattered.I loved that I felt attractive again, that I felt desired.I loved that I felt loved.He never hit me. He rarely said an unkind...
    Quintesse Quintesse
    51-55, F
    63 Responses Aug 19, 2011

    My Mum was married to a violent alcoholic

    and I'm their daughter. He left when I was 1 and her saviour quickly turned up to help her with me and my older brother. The next 25 years I was brainwashed by him and he damaged many parts of my life. It was only a few months ago I finally woke up to the truth. My mother is...
    AnxiousAnnie2424 AnxiousAnnie2424
    31-35, F
    1 Response Apr 13, 2016

    I was very naive and he was my very first

    boyfriend, first EVERYTHING. As we started our relationship, he began to change... He had anger issues. He would snap... Call me horrible names.. & I would cry and cry and he will just say " I'm sorry forgive me " I would always forgive him . I found out he was using drugs and...
    AndreaaG AndreaaG
    22-25, F
    4 Responses Jan 31, 2016

    In the beginning my now husband was very sweet

    always opening the door for me and always putting me before everything else. There was a time i actually felt like he loved me. After he came home from Iraq he was a different man. He always proceeded to make me cry, to put me down, and to threaten to beat me so hard that i...
    Sexygirl8807 Sexygirl8807
    29 Responses Dec 13, 2013

    I'm 21 years old Asian

    and i'm emotionally abused by my parents my entire life and it was just recently that i realized that. They always tell me that it is totally enough for them that they provide me food and education, every other aspect of my life is on my own. My wants and needs are ignored, they...
    UnluckyGiftedGuy UnluckyGiftedGuy
    18-21, M
    3 Responses Apr 6, 2016

    First post after just finding this site.

    .. Nor have I really read anything as yet partially because I'll lose my nerve to do this. I apologise for this likely seeming to ramble typing as I think (minus some spelling ammendments) I just feel like really need to vent this somewhere for a change -usually just isolate...
    Ryst93 Ryst93
    22-25, M
    2 Responses Feb 23, 2016

    since my childhood, first my parents abused me

    mentally and physically, then my friends bullied me, well so called friends, later I got a good time of three years...my golden era...then life and god bullied and victimised me emotionally like hell and now I am all alone with my sad past and lonely personality. I am so numb...
    thedivich1 thedivich1
    22-25, M
    3 Responses Feb 24, 2016

    Part 2: Well it's now been 6 years.

    I am the crazy one and he is mr perfect to his friends and family! A few times we went out with friends and he was mr chatty to everyone but me and it made me feel so hurt and upset that I went off on him in front of everyone. I feel stupid but he drove me to it. And then when I...
    snw1980 snw1980
    36-40, F
    1 Response Jul 18, 2014

    Vindicated!! It was a small win,

    but at couples therapy tonight the therapist told my wife that no matter what I offer her in gestures or attempts, she only gets angry or ridicules me. My wife got very upset and almost walked out accusing the therapist of being unsafe and biased. The therapist was able to talk...
    deepbreathneeded deepbreathneeded
    36-40, M
    2 Responses Sep 22, 2014

    And lately that has been bugging the crap out

    of me! It has been nearly two and a half weeks since I left home and I still cannot seem to wrap my head around the idea that any of this is real. I feel like I'm dreaming, I am scared to death that at the end of all of this is will turn out that I am "crazy" and that nothing...
    mousecatt mousecatt
    22-25, F
    Apr 20, 2016

    I was once alone... I was isolated from the

    outside world, my family, my friends. He wanted that to be. I did not want them to see. I was filled with shame, shame on me. I was beaten down, told I was nothing. I was stupid. I did not want them to see. I did not want them to see me, how stupid I could be... I was...
    Mm8335 Mm8335
    36-40, F
    4 Responses Aug 25, 2014

    The Art Of Emotional Abuse

    ~THE ART OF EMOTIONAL ABUSE~ THE CANVAS How do you become the victim of emotional abuse? Why don’t you just get out? I’ve been asked “What did he do to you?” BRUSH STROKES There are no concrete answers to that question. No physical wounds to prove the damage. It’s so...
    Breeziiee Breeziiee
    46-50, F
    20 Responses Aug 8, 2013
    berangere berangere
    66-70, F
    1 Response Apr 30, 2015

    for the last 5 months i have been in an out of

    an extremely mentally abusive relationship. she is my ex from 1997 where she would be with me for a month then dump me, then a week later take me back then a week later dump me again. if i didn't start treating her like crap at that point she would of kept on doing it. anyway...
    theimortal1974 theimortal1974
    41-45, M
    1 Response Mar 19, 2016

    I'm not really sure that I am a victim of

    emotional abuse. I've lived with my parents in the same house for twenty years, aside from the three semesters I spent in college, which they had helped pay for up until now. I'll list a few things I feel are relevant instances of what I believe are signs of emotional abuse: 1...
    krcb krcb
    22-25, F
    1 Response Jan 31, 2016

    I Gained a few pounds

    after my dad... i wanted to know if the things my mom is saying to me is emotional abouse you need to loose weight look at your arms look at your waist when are u going to exercise what are you eating you dont have any idea how bad i feel
    Shawntel14 Shawntel14
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Feb 13, 2016

    Just recently starting to see how big of an

    issue this is for me.. Battling with severe anxiety.. And coming to terms with the fact that growing up, my father has turned me in to a resenting, guilty, emotionless, and distant person. I'm at a crossroad where I don't know what to thing for myself anymore. What's right and...
    deleted deleted
    Feb 24, 2016

    Not True

    ***** do this and ***** do that that's what I got woke up to everyday. Your nothing but a worthless **** no one will ever want you. Your retarted! You can't do anything right. Your nasty your ugly. This is what emotional abuse is. After hearing it so long you think its true. I'm...
    WhisperingEchoes WhisperingEchoes
    36-40, F
    3 Responses Jul 15, 2013

    You?re just a memory,

    and I?d prefer to keep you that way. I could never handle having you back in my life. Taking you back would be like signing my own death sentence by heart and constant mental breakdowns. I just can?t handle that. I?ve made excuses for you when you couldn?t get to work on time...
    46-50, F
    2 Responses Mar 14, 2016

    he tries to turn what I say

    and what he has said against me and I hate that my memory isn't the greatest! why can't he just stop and just be together and happy
    figmentoftheirimagination figmentoftheirimagination
    31-35, F
    3 Responses Mar 18, 2016

    Please could anyone who has been in a domestic

    abuse situation with children fill in my short anonymous survey :- http://www.smartsurvey.co.uk/s/ZID51/ it is for a research project and I would be very grateful :)
    hereat hereat
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Mar 1, 2016

    Tale of Two Husbands: Dr. Jekyl & Mr. Hyde

    I can't believe it happened to me. I thought I was too smart, too wise. I'd had therapy. Hell, my husband had worked as a mental health therapist for 10 years, and we both have PhDs. Here's my realization:  That I'd been excusing his "moods" and assuming he'd...
    FormerDoorMat FormerDoorMat
    51-55, F
    61 Responses Mar 12, 2009

    I believed the words you threw at me.

    They bore down deep into my soul. To my very core I believed I was unworthy of your respect. That I deserved every horrible name you uttered. Thought it was acceptable to not be allowed to see my family or friends. Even believed that not seeing them was better for our...
    deleted deleted
    7 Responses Mar 31, 2015

    Aaah so Im trying to not talk to my ex abuser.

    Um. He was so mean called me names threatened me always said I was dumb . he held his fists in my face and said he'd bash my skull in. So I m really trying to not talk to him I just wish he'd change.
    amnotthattired amnotthattired
    26-30, F
    1 Response Mar 11, 2016

    Drained By A Vampire

    No, not the fictional variety, but the emotional variety. More and more was asked of me, I gave and gave. I gave not only time but trust. And I lost so much of myself in the process. First it all seemed so caring, so I gave freely of myself, my trust. But then it began.  The...
    DinahMoeHumm DinahMoeHumm
    41-45, F
    4 Responses Aug 2, 2012

    *****Edit/update******** Well,

    a followup to the roller coaster I haven't been able to escape....he texted me today asking if I could come watch the dogs because he needed rest. He said he had "horrible flashbacks and a meltdown earlier today and barely made it out of bed to take his meds. And can't cope...
    mizmandytn mizmandytn
    41-45, F
    3 Responses Jan 20, 2016
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