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I Am a Victim of Emotional Abuse

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    Dear ******* Who Hurt Me

    for Four Years, I am no longer your emotional slave. You hurts me so bad that I was diagnosed with PTSD. You drove me out of the state, 1000 miles away from my hometown. I left because I was so incredibly scared of you, scared you would come back and hurt me, and say things...
    sarahtorrella sarahtorrella 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 15, 2014

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    I've noticed more and more lately

    that I am uncomfortable in my own home.everytime I come back,I am scared of what my mother is going to lay on me.if it's not chores,it's usually an insult.i think she just looks to find things about me to complain about.like my room.its my room,why does it matter what it looks...
    loftydreamer18 loftydreamer18 22-25, F 1 Response Nov 18, 2014

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    Yep, been there done that,

    got the bloody t shirt. Abuse needs to end now. Not just emotional - physical, mental, sexual, financial too.
    krystalkool84 krystalkool84 26-30, F 2 Responses Feb 18

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    I finally got out of it.

    But I miss him terribly. I'm so afraid of things though. Like I can't speak my mind because I feel like I'm one will care. I afraid to do certain things because I know he wouldn't like them. He called me on Friday and asked for me back, still blaming things on me. He used to say...
    brookew brookew 16-17, F 4 Responses Feb 1

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    ...

    and it makes it really hard to have normal relationships once you're damaged goods... because now everything makes us feel vulnerable and easily hurt. And so, even if it's emotional intimacy that we want most, we can't even begin to enjoy it because we're so hurt, so scarred, so...
    CrazyHippieChick CrazyHippieChick 70+, F 4 Responses Dec 8, 2013

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    I recently got out of a verbal

    and emotionally abusive relationship but rather than share the actual story...for I am not up to recounting it...I thought I'd share the signs that I gathered and used to diagnose the problem. I had figured under 15 of these could be just normal relationship stress...but...
    theodore2324 theodore2324 26-30, M 7 Responses Jan 24, 2014

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    I feel like it was my fault,

    like I needed to be there for her more
    desculpa desculpa 22-25, F Feb 21

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    I learned a lot of things

    while i was married to an abusive man for 10yrs.. I learned that i am not strong enough to take care of myself.. and so i stopped and let him I learned that i am not smart enough to make any decisions on my own because everything i did was wrong. .and so i stopped and let him...
    sweetpea6200 sweetpea6200 31-35, F 9 Responses Apr 21, 2014

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    One is emotionally mature IF: You are able to

    see each situation as unique and you can adapt your style accordingly. You take responsibility for your own life. You understand that your current circumstances are a result of the decisions you have taken up to now. When something goes wrong, you do not rush to blame others...
    BeyondIllusions BeyondIllusions 56-60, F 5 Responses Jan 25

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    With my being in love with a loser has caused a

    lot of agony. Being cheated on over and over. Being told that he didn't like what I had on and that I was crazy. Yea i was damn crazy for loving such a jackass. I WAS a victim of emotional abuse. I finally got the strength to leave. It was for the best.
    SentimentalMood SentimentalMood 36-40, F 3 Responses Nov 12, 2014

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    Hi everyone, I've been in an abusive

    relationship for 6 years and the busier is now wanting out he got a good steady job makes good money and made up wt his mom and step dad and best friend. So now he says he wants to settle down wt someone else and a pretty and Simone who will take care of him. Now I'm just crap...
    tempura15 tempura15 26-30, F 1 Response Feb 13

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    So I ran away a couple of days ago,

    and they made me come back (they= police and family). They said they were gonna change and so far that's bullshit. I am leaving when I turn 17 whether they like it or not, they cannot make me stay. I am done with my mother telling me that I am a mean and ugly ***** . She says...
    nomnommings nomnommings 16-17, F 2 Responses Feb 18

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    I just walked out of an abusive relationship

    funny he forced me to leave the last thing he said was either you blame all of the abuse on yourself or gtfo i finally came to terms that he never loved me... I feel ok (safe)
    rossp24 rossp24 22-25, F 5 Responses Mar 11, 2014

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    Drained By A Vampire

    No, not the fictional variety, but the emotional variety. More and more was asked of me, I gave and gave. I gave not only time but trust. And I lost so much of myself in the process. First it all seemed so caring, so I gave freely of myself, my trust. But then it began.  The...
    DinahMoeHumm DinahMoeHumm 41-45, F 4 Responses Aug 2, 2012

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    For as long as I can remember,

    my parents have emotionally and mentally abused me. Over the years, I've developed some serious issues with anxiety and depression due to the abuse. According to them I am abnormal; a freak, a nobody who is going nowhere . Sometimes I feel like I should just give up and just...
    DarkDesires019 DarkDesires019 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 28

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    My first wife left me

    and my two year old. I was devastated to say the least. I met my current wife when he was four. She has helped me raise him and we have a 17 year old son together. I made a promise to stand by her no matter what. She can be a very angry person and wants everything her way. My...
    jaymic64 jaymic64 51-55, M 3 Responses 3 days ago

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    I need advice from any former victims of high

    school bullying. I've been out of high school for about seven years now (class of '08), but I can't seem to stop dwelling on how I was treated back then. I have some pretty bad self esteem issues nowadays, and they all seem to lead back to the verbal and emotional abuse I...
    PassionEarth9 PassionEarth9 22-25, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    A Little Poem About My Ex Abuser....

    SOMEONE I AM SEEING TOLD ME TO WRITE THIS SO I THOUGHT I WOULD SHARE IT WITH YOU GUYS...HERE IT GOES... I REMEMBER THE MINI TRIPS WE WENT ON I REMEMBER THE FUN WE USE TO HAVE JUST DOING ANYTHING I REMEMBER THE THINGS YOU WOULD DO TO MAKE ME LAUGH I REMEMBER THE PROM I...
    mellymel30 mellymel30 26-30, F 3 Responses Jul 10, 2013

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    I am a man, and my wife is.

    .. it's hard to say it and feel like I'm really telling the truth, but she's my abuser. She treats my questions as though they have obvious answers. She treats me like I'm just a participant in our life, not a partner. She treats me like my opinion on something, or my desire...
    Felixthestoat Felixthestoat 22-25, T 11 Responses Apr 18, 2014

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    I never considered emotional abuse

    as an option until a couselor
    Reinventmyself Reinventmyself 46-50, F 1 Response Mar 20

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    Well, technically I was.

    But it leaves scars. Scars so deep and infected, time refuses to heal them. Scars so bad reopening them takes but a word, or a sentence and they take days to close up again. They leave you so affrais f bleeding out that you burn bridges and cut yourself off from people who can't...
    bluecupcakes bluecupcakes 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 20

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    Oh wow.I'm finally free.

    finally! Eh.. But eh.... Whew! Whatta unnecessary rollercoaster THAT was! Phew! Jeez!
    amtired amtired 22-25, F 7 Responses Nov 21, 2014

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    Nothing like waking up

    and being called lazy and useless. I don't recall those being words of affirmation :(
    TCL009 TCL009 41-45, F 2 Responses Aug 8, 2014

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    My mom is emotionally abusive to me she keeps

    nagging me about my weight and keeps telling me I can't be with my boyfriend and marry him because of his emotional impairment and my physical disability and that I give her stress
    Cowgirl1992 Cowgirl1992 22-25, F 4 Responses Feb 13

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    She was so mean to me

    but I still love her and miss her everyday
    desculpa desculpa 22-25, F 1 Response Feb 19

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    Trapped No More

    You are nobody now. I deny you You played mind games Which drove me to insanity It wasnt meant to be like that. But I could not change you. I was weak unaware and naive And didnt you play that card well? There were times I stayed out at work Not to come home to hear it again...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses May 13, 2012

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    After having been molested

    as a child, I always considered myself "damaged" and "abused" but today I refuse to be a victim so I'm unchecking this. It is my brain.
    syntheticrhyme syntheticrhyme 46-50, F Feb 22

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    How does she find a way to hurt me

    even when we aren't talking.
    desculpa desculpa 22-25, F Mar 16

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    ~THE ART OF EMOTIONAL ABUSE~ THE CANVAS How do

    you become the victim of emotional abuse? Why don’t you just get out? I’ve been asked “What did he do to you?” BRUSH STROKES There are no concrete answers to that question. No physical wounds to prove the damage. It’s so subtle & pervasive, as not to be described by a...
    Breeziiee Breeziiee 41-45, F 5 Responses Feb 20, 2014

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    Physical aggression by a man toward his partner

    is abuse, even if it happens only once. If he raises a fist; punches a hole in the wall; throws things at you; blocks your way; restrains you; grabs, pushes, or pokes you; or threatens to hurt you, that’s physical abuse. He is creating fear and using your need for physical...
    Lostnalone22 Lostnalone22 31-35, F 4 Responses Jul 31, 2014

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    All she did was make me feel terrible,

    she tells me I didn't do enough and I didn't care enough, that I wasn't good enough. But all I want is her, I'm so desperate, and so alone without her. I would do anything even to be back in her twisted, abusive, manipulative embrace.
    Phantom7835 Phantom7835 26-30, M 1 Response Mar 17

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    Mongolians have calumniated me grossly possibly

    attempted material damage of me, and possibly Mongolian soldiers have sexually abused me when I advertised to Soyombo newspaper to seek marriage, throughout there has been gross exploitation of my Love and this has gone on for 21 years, is there some way this people can be...
    inezaltar inezaltar 36-40 1 Response Mar 9

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    The Art Of Emotional Abuse

    ~THE ART OF EMOTIONAL ABUSE~ THE CANVAS How do you become the victim of emotional abuse? Why don’t you just get out? I’ve been asked “What did he do to you?” BRUSH STROKES There are no concrete answers to that question. No physical wounds to prove the damage. It’s so...
    Breeziiee Breeziiee 41-45, F 22 Responses Aug 8, 2013

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    It hurts so much. There's not a day I don't cry.

    I hate when it's close to the time he will get home. Not to mention how much I dread weekends(he's off Friday, Saturday and Sunday). He will gripe, scream, belittle me, tell me how stupid I am, tell me I'm a grown woman stop the stupid crying no one cares, there's nothing I can...
    Txwoman123 Txwoman123 41-45, F 7 Responses Feb 15

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    Vindicated!! It was a small win,

    but at couples therapy tonight the therapist told my wife that no matter what I offer her in gestures or attempts, she only gets angry or ridicules me. My wife got very upset and almost walked out accusing the therapist of being unsafe and biased. The therapist was able to talk...
    deepbreathneeded deepbreathneeded 36-40, M 2 Responses Sep 22, 2014

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    What Is Emotional Abuse.

    What is Emotional Abuse? I've asked myself this question a million times. I never knew the answers and for a long time I was too afraid to find them, I was afraid of what I'd discover. About myself, about my spouse, about our life. Then for some reason in the last couple of weeks...
    UndeniablyConfused UndeniablyConfused 26-30, F 67 Responses Dec 1, 2008

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    I am unsure at this point

    if it is verbal abuse or if I deserve it bc of my unstable emotions and what I do. Most the time I am truly not doing anything wrong. That's what I genuinely feel but I find different quickly. I am often called a *****, retarded, slow. I also am told to "grow up" and that if I'm...
    defeatthemind defeatthemind 22-25, F 1 Response Feb 14

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    As a male victim of an emotionally & verbally

    abusive marriage, I had a hard time finding people who would listen and help, especially in the Christian church world. As the target of abuse, the main questions I needed to discuss and/or have answered were, "Why did you (my wife) treat me in the cruel ways that you did...
    bwDVOWRD bwDVOWRD 26-30, M 4 Responses Sep 29, 2014

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    help?Im recovering from abuse.

    still.He made a story about killing a girl. it had gross details. then he made a story about me. All about me! How frickin romantic, rite? no.. it was about me... killing myself.. I .. I wish he would die.
    amtired amtired 22-25, F 3 Responses Feb 2

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    To be scolded at first thing in the morning

    and lastly before bed... To be put on the back burner to tv, friends, and alcohol... To never get even a 99 cent or handmade card on anniversaries, birthdays, or holidays... To be called lazy, selfish, dumb, ignorant, and annoying... To be told to shut up daily and even during...
    snm1991 snm1991 18-21, F 2 Responses Mar 11

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    I feel like I need to share the truth about my

    relationship somewhere. I have been in a relationship with a guy who has made me feel isolated, like a disgusting animal, a stupid child, and depressed for more than 3 years. None of the ugly came out in him until after I was committed and emotional invested in him. We were...
    myselffirst myselffirst 18-21, F 8 Responses Jun 26, 2014

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    Not True

    ***** do this and ***** do that that's what I got woke up to everyday. Your nothing but a worthless **** no one will ever want you. Your retarted! You can't do anything right. Your nasty your ugly. This is what emotional abuse is. After hearing it so long you think its true. I'm...
    holehearted79 holehearted79 31-35, F 4 Responses Jul 15, 2013

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    Recently left a pretty dangerous

    abusive/manipulative relationship in a pretty explosive way. I publicly called out my abuser for what she did, along with three other people who put me through hell. Part of me feels guilty for being public about it, but the rest of me is just angry and hurt, even though it's...
    starspeck starspeck 16-17 2 Responses Feb 6

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    Coming Up For Air

    I loved the attention.After being ignored for so many years I loved that someone thought that I was worth listening to, that what I had to say mattered.I loved that I felt attractive again, that I felt desired.I loved that I felt loved.He never hit me. He rarely said an unkind...
    Quintesse Quintesse 51-55, F 66 Responses Aug 19, 2011

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    I know when its coming!

    I know im in for abuse by the look he gives me when we are in company of other people. If I say or do something he doesnt approve of he gives me this glance and without a word I know hes angry with me. I know what il have to put up with when we're alone again. The room could be...
    hopeless0 hopeless0 26-30, F 3 Responses Feb 2

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    My mother thinks she's good to me,

    tells me I'm a 'great child', but when I truly need her it's like I don't exist. She brushes me off and tells me I'm selfish, forces me to apologise for 'embarrassing' her in public by asking for her to simply use male pronouns. I feel like I'm a handbag she carries for the...
    Cappycausedit Cappycausedit 18-21, T 1 Response Feb 4

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