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I Am a Victim of Emotional Abuse

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    Vindicated!! It was a small win,

    but at couples therapy tonight the therapist told my wife that no matter what I offer her in gestures or attempts, she only gets angry or ridicules me. My wife got very upset and almost walked out accusing the therapist of being unsafe and biased. The therapist was able to talk...
    deepbreathneeded deepbreathneeded 36-40, M 2 Responses Sep 22, 2014

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    I recently got out of a verbal

    and emotionally abusive relationship but rather than share the actual story...for I am not up to recounting it...I thought I'd share the signs that I gathered and used to diagnose the problem. I had figured under 15 of these could be just normal relationship stress...but...
    theodore2324 theodore2324 26-30, M 9 Responses Jan 24, 2014

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    As a male victim of an emotionally & verbally

    abusive marriage, I had a hard time finding people who would listen and help, especially in the Christian church world. As the target of abuse, the main questions I needed to discuss and/or have answered were, "Why did you (my wife) treat me in the cruel ways that you did...
    bwDVOWRD bwDVOWRD 26-30, M 4 Responses Sep 29, 2014

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    I feel so suffocated here

    and there's not much I can do about it. He yells at me to the point where I'm crying every fricken' morning, won't let me take naps anymore, takes my phone at night, and never cleans up any of his messes he makes. We don't even interact unless he's yelling. I look at other...
    Hipstercatlover Hipstercatlover 16-17, F 2 Responses Feb 2

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    I learned a lot of things

    while i was married to an abusive man for 10yrs.. I learned that i am not strong enough to take care of myself.. and so i stopped and let him I learned that i am not smart enough to make any decisions on my own because everything i did was wrong. .and so i stopped and let him...
    deleted deleted 26-30 7 Responses Apr 21, 2014

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    *****Edit/update******** Well,

    a followup to the roller coaster I haven't been able to escape....he texted me today asking if I could come watch the dogs because he needed rest. He said he had "horrible flashbacks and a meltdown earlier today and barely made it out of bed to take his meds. And can't cope...
    mizmandytn mizmandytn 36-40, F 3 Responses Jan 20

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    TIRED OF PEOPLE WHO THINK THEY ARE BETTER THAN

    THE NEXT BECAUSE THEY HAD A BIG BREAK IN LIFE WHILE OTHERS SIT BACK AND DEAL WITH THE STRUGGLES OF THEIR REALITY
    tashibee11 tashibee11 26-30, F 1 Response Jan 27

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    Well im playing clean up

    now that the relationship is over. and would have to say me personally feel a physical injury would be more bearable than emotionally ripping my heart out. but that's me
    wendysport2 wendysport2 46-50, F 2 Responses Jan 17

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    Sometimes I feel like I dont know

    who I am anymore. I never in a million years thought that I would find myself in this type of situation. I was raised in a 2 parent home.. had a wonderful childhood. I know what healthy and happy love looks like .. I just cant seem to achieve it for myself. I have always been...
    purplelavenderrain purplelavenderrain 26-30, F 7 Responses Jan 10

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    My goal here, sharing part of my emotional

    abuse story with you, is to help anyone who feels like they're alone in what they're going through. The beginning was amazing. I had met this guy who just adored me, wanted to be with me all the time and seemed to genuinely care about how I felt. As a young 20 year old I was...
    missyorkk1 missyorkk1 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 30

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    I just walked out of an abusive relationship

    funny he forced me to leave the last thing he said was either you blame all of the abuse on yourself or gtfo i finally came to terms that he never loved me... I feel ok (safe)
    rossp24 rossp24 22-25, F 5 Responses Mar 11, 2014

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    I am a man, and my wife is.

    .. it's hard to say it and feel like I'm really telling the truth, but she's my abuser. She treats my questions as though they have obvious answers. She treats me like I'm just a participant in our life, not a partner. She treats me like my opinion on something, or my desire...
    Felixthestoat Felixthestoat 22-25, T 10 Responses Apr 18, 2014

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    I was very naive and he was my very first

    boyfriend, first EVERYTHING. As we started our relationship, he began to change... He had anger issues. He would snap... Call me horrible names.. & I would cry and cry and he will just say " I'm sorry forgive me " I would always forgive him . I found out he was using drugs and...
    AndreaaG AndreaaG 22-25, F 4 Responses Jan 31

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    My Story #2 Mental/Physical/Emotional/Verbal Abuse

    I DON'T REALLY KNOW HOW TO START THIS, BUT I CAN TRY. I HAVE BEEN MENTALLY/EMOTIONALLY/VERBALLY/PHYSICALLY ABUSED BY MY EX BOYFRIEND FOR A LONG LONG TIME. I HAVE DECIDED TO SHARE THIS BECAUSE I HAVE GOTTEN TO THE POINT WHERE IT WILL HELP ME THROUGH MY PROCESS. I LOST MYSELF TO...
    mellymel30 mellymel30 31-35, F 2 Responses Apr 5, 2013

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    am sat here wondering

    where to start....where it all went wrong. But I'm gonna try my best! It all started when my ex years ago decided to leave me and our 9 month old son....for another man. Yes another man!! That experience destroyed me...until I met my husband who I have been with for nearly 8...
    Dotty2016 Dotty2016 31-35, F 1 Response Jan 3

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    berangere berangere 66-70, F 1 Response Apr 30, 2015

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    Sexual abuser's target was my body

    but body hurts the least it get healed quick mostly but what actually remain damaged n get raped is our emotional and mental health.You carry the burden till death. Just like that being in relation with sociopaths and psychopaths is i feel like I've been robbed of my person, my...
    moonii moonii 18-21, F 6 Responses Nov 9, 2015

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    I was once alone... I was isolated from the

    outside world, my family, my friends. He wanted that to be. I did not want them to see. I was filled with shame, shame on me. I was beaten down, told I was nothing. I was stupid. I did not want them to see. I did not want them to see me, how stupid I could be... I was...
    Mm8335 Mm8335 36-40, F 5 Responses Aug 25, 2014

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    ...

    and it makes it really hard to have normal relationships once you're damaged goods... because now everything makes us feel vulnerable and easily hurt. And so, even if it's emotional intimacy that we want most, we can't even begin to enjoy it because we're so hurt, so scarred, so...
    CrazyHippieChick CrazyHippieChick 22-25 5 Responses Dec 8, 2013

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    Not True

    ***** do this and ***** do that that's what I got woke up to everyday. Your nothing but a worthless **** no one will ever want you. Your retarted! You can't do anything right. Your nasty your ugly. This is what emotional abuse is. After hearing it so long you think its true. I'm...
    WhisperingEchoes WhisperingEchoes 36-40, F 4 Responses Jul 15, 2013

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    I'm so far in the pit of denial

    that my parents have been emotionally abusing me for so long even though multiple people tell me they are, that i don't know if I'll ever crawl back out and stop being numb. I can't wait to move out.
    bookworm342 bookworm342 18-21, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    When you stand up to your emotional abuser it's

    simultaneously the most terrifying and empowering thing all at the same time. And so, POS discovers that it’s only $50 that I've transferred to her. I do admit it's an insult, not just to a Narcissist but indeed to anybody. The figure she was expecting? $400-$500. Sorry...
    koh72 koh72 41-45, M 3 Responses Oct 12, 2015

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    I feel lost, confused,

    torn. I disassociate due to childhood trauma, so when things go wrong I "space" it somewhere away from my normal consciousness. I believe this is making it more difficult to evaluate what I'm going through in my relationship. Or maybe it's just denial. I have been with my...
    dreamingofstorms dreamingofstorms 26-30, F 2 Responses Jan 8

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    ~THE ART OF EMOTIONAL ABUSE~ THE CANVAS How do

    you become the victim of emotional abuse? Why don’t you just get out? I’ve been asked “What did he do to you?” BRUSH STROKES There are no concrete answers to that question. No physical wounds to prove the damage. It’s so subtle & pervasive, as not to be described by a...
    Breeziiee Breeziiee 46-50, F 5 Responses Feb 20, 2014

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    i'm hurting. his words are vicious,

    cruel, disgusting, and couldn't be farther from the truth. yet i give in to his bs and swallow it. absorb it. in the same sentence he will tell me that he loves me, but then call me a crazy, psycho, wh*re b*tch. he disrepects my family when it's just me and him. but to them...
    mermaid81 mermaid81 31-35, F 5 Responses Nov 21, 2014

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    Today was one hell of a day

    for me, probably one of the worst I've had in a long time. This morning my dad yelled at me, almost hit me, got mad over the smallest things, and was slamming doors trying to get me up. Because of that, I went to school bawling my eyes out, not be able to sit through my first...
    Hipstercatlover Hipstercatlover 16-17, F 1 Response Jan 7

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    I'm 28, I've been a single mother

    since my son was 3wks old, he is now 7.... I've always left relationships when I felt I had to, and was fine with it after... I moved on, I was always able to move on.. But my last one emotionally damaged me so much I feel like I want to give up, I'm so exhausted, so tired of...
    HisMomma08 HisMomma08 26-30, F 2 Responses Dec 20, 2015

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    Why are there so many resources

    for veterans with ptsd but nothing for the spouses who are the recipient of the abuse when they happen to be married to a sufferer who has become a hateful, nasty, vitrol spewing violent alcoholic? We need help too! The worst is, I can't find a job to take my daughter away from...
    jsef jsef 26-30, F Jan 18

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    well she finished me off today.

    I have nothing left. thank God there is 2 years left on my order of protection. thats probably how long it will take for me to be whole again. this makes me feel like my spirit has been broken into tiny little pieces. being with someone who always tells you they dont want...
    wendysport2 wendysport2 46-50, F 1 Response Jan 9

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    I hate what she did to me I hate her!

    How do you say you love someone and then mess with their head so bad they feel like killing themselves? no way. not cool. so much to type.....
    wendysport2 wendysport2 46-50, F 3 Responses Jan 7

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    I dated my ex for eight months

    and knew him for about a year. I fell so in love with him that I ignored how hateful and cold he could be. It'd be whenever we would fight that he would say real cruel things and towards the end of the relationship he just became mean for no reason. He would point out my flaws...
    Kimayo Kimayo 18-21, F 4 Responses Dec 22, 2015

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    Hi. I was wondering if someone could please

    chat with me? Im recovering from years ofabuse, almost four years. He put me down so much, I have almost no confidence now. I think everyones out to get me. I also think Im worthless. Hed tell me so many times,how worthless i am.. Also, He had threatened me so many times...
    amtired amtired 26-30, F 4 Responses Dec 1, 2015

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    Growing up, my mother would have these "moods"

    where she would get angry at some small mistake or mishap and scream and yell at anyone within her sight. She would always blame me or my father for whatever was wrong. I grew up hearing how I was a "bad child", how I couldn't do anything right, how I was never gonna amount to...
    bookworm2014 bookworm2014 26-30, F 4 Responses Jan 13, 2014

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    I feel like I need to share the truth about my

    relationship somewhere. I have been in a relationship with a guy who has made me feel isolated, like a disgusting animal, a stupid child, and depressed for more than 3 years. None of the ugly came out in him until after I was committed and emotional invested in him. We were...
    myselffirst myselffirst 22-25, F 7 Responses Jun 26, 2014

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    The Day I Accepted that I was a Victim of

    Emotional Abuse My husband threatened to kill himself and my son. He did this to manipulate me. He thought he was exploiting my biggest weakness. He was wrong. He was touching on my biggest strength, and it woke me up. About two months later, I was referred to a domestic...
    4minidove 4minidove 31-35, F 6 Responses Dec 12, 2015

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    Tale of Two Husbands: Dr. Jekyl & Mr. Hyde

    I can't believe it happened to me. I thought I was too smart, too wise. I'd had therapy. Hell, my husband had worked as a mental health therapist for 10 years, and we both have PhDs. Here's my realization:  That I'd been excusing his "moods" and assuming he'd...
    FormerDoorMat FormerDoorMat 51-55, F 62 Responses Mar 12, 2009

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    In the beginning my now husband was very sweet

    always opening the door for me and always putting me before everything else. There was a time i actually felt like he loved me. After he came home from Iraq he was a different man. He always proceeded to make me cry, to put me down, and to threaten to beat me so hard that i...
    Sexygirl8807 Sexygirl8807 26-30 29 Responses Dec 13, 2013

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    Drained By A Vampire

    No, not the fictional variety, but the emotional variety. More and more was asked of me, I gave and gave. I gave not only time but trust. And I lost so much of myself in the process. First it all seemed so caring, so I gave freely of myself, my trust. But then it began.  The...
    DinahMoeHumm DinahMoeHumm 41-45, F 4 Responses Aug 2, 2012

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    I'm not really sure that I am a victim of

    emotional abuse. I've lived with my parents in the same house for twenty years, aside from the three semesters I spent in college, which they had helped pay for up until now. I'll list a few things I feel are relevant instances of what I believe are signs of emotional abuse: 1...
    krcb krcb 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 31

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    I could use someone to talk to?

    I am still recovering from abuse. He said he was gonna lock me in a basement. who says that?! he said he's gonna smash my skull in. I witnessed him beating his friends head into the pavement. Sigh.. That could a been me. Now, I am trying to survive.. I feel very alone I...
    amtired amtired 26-30, F 5 Responses Jan 19

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    I remember being called stupid,

    do e and useless on many occasions. I grew up thinking I was stupid, it took helping others in my life where I realized one day hoe intelligent I was and that I can be a used to others, now I encourage other young men and women to love themselves. it's not easy, but when u...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Sep 9, 2015

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    When I was 13, this girl was supposed to be my

    "best friend" yet that girl nearly killed me as she dragged me to the deep end of the swimming pool even though I can't swim, she would make me feel worthless and just bully me ;-: But you know what? I won. Even though I still live with the trauma; I've managed to get a...
    sadnessweeps sadnessweeps 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 8

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    Coming Up For Air

    I loved the attention.After being ignored for so many years I loved that someone thought that I was worth listening to, that what I had to say mattered.I loved that I felt attractive again, that I felt desired.I loved that I felt loved.He never hit me. He rarely said an unkind...
    Quintesse Quintesse 51-55, F 67 Responses Aug 19, 2011

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    Abusive parents can say "I love you" Abusive

    parents can give their kids an allowance, gifts, toys and nice things sometimes. Abusive parents can seem like parent of the year to outsiders. Abusive parents can defend their children from outside threats and get them in all the best schools and programs and deal with school...
    MissQueenB MissQueenB 18-21, F 6 Responses Jan 9

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    Just Because Its Not Visible Does Not Mean Its Not There

    I know there are many examples of emotional/mental abuse on here, and each one is important. I also know that this form of abuse can come from both men and women. I happened to be on the receiving end of emotional abuse from my wife. She is now my ex..   As a little back story...
    Army0917 Army0917 31-35, M 9 Responses Mar 19, 2011

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