I Am A Victim Of Spiritual Abuse

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 58 People

    I do belong to an organized religion

    but I don't blame organized religion for the abuse. I blame the individuals who perpetuated the abuse. There's nothing in the doctrine of my faith that advocates this sort of treatment, but some human beings do tend to become abusive when they are put into positions of power.
    utahwriter utahwriter
    41-45, M
    1 Response May 2, 2014

    I'm joining this group,

    not to take on a 'victim mentality' as the psychology folk would call it, but to share with others who have similar experiences. This is all for the sake of recovering, of course.
    GreenButtercup GreenButtercup
    36-40, F
    1 Response Mar 31, 2014

    What's After The Abuse Is Over?

    I was raised in a cult, a so-called, "Christian" cult.  Of course, they do not call themselves a cult. I experienced many nightmares, many "abduction" type experiences, while a member and for years afterward.  I think that one of the things that they "trained" me to do...
    deleted deleted
    2 Responses Sep 19, 2010

    (Survivor.) When a church leader grabbed my

    hand and put it on people during the service, and commanded me to 'impart' power to other people, I refused. 'But you're a Christian, aren't you?' he asked, shocked. 'We're all supposed to be ministering to people through the grace that has been given to us from God. We're...
    GreenButtercup GreenButtercup
    36-40, F
    4 Responses Apr 22, 2014

    The Subtle Power Of Spiritual Abuse (a very

    good book by Jeff Vondervan) I survived 12 years of spiritual abuse in an American Fundamental Baptist church in Mannheim, Germany. You have to understand, I come from a troubled past, and I still have the tendency to end up in abusive relationships. Unfortunately this was one...
    LockieLeonard LockieLeonard
    70+, M
    7 Responses Dec 28, 2013

    How Do You Recognize Spiritual Abuse?

    How do you recognize spiritual abuse? Below are some common signs: 1. Authoritarian, dictatorial leaders that make themselves to be almost godlike -- ex, they "hear" from God FOR you. 2. No real accountability 3. Shun and/or shame those who leave or who are not submissive to...
    deleted deleted
    3 Responses Nov 3, 2010

    Won't go into too much detail,

    but they all lied to me, made me feel little and stupid, told me I was nothing and had no authority. The confused my logic of right and wrong, fed me lies to keep me in my place. Got angry at things I though were right. They told me that as a woman, I am nothing, and I believed...
    Destinyyy Destinyyy
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Apr 23, 2014

    I was no raised in a church,

    but I got saved after reading the bible in my early 20's....I went to church a lot over the next 4-5 years, but got very disenchanted with what I saw as people striving to make their own empires, people misusing and abusing authority, people using religion as a mask for their...
    windynight54321 windynight54321
    36-40, M
    2 Responses Mar 29, 2014

    Fanaticism A Form Of Mental Illness?

    I had a religious fanatic mother who negelected me and abused me, I spent most of my childhood in a childrens home and foster care. My parents are both mental and split up when I was about 7, Around this time I was put in a childrens home. My mother is a hypocrite. She didn't...
    LovelyChris71 LovelyChris71
    46-50, F
    9 Responses Apr 8, 2011

    Last night i was collared.

    He had his way with me. I was manipulated against my will. Why is he doing this to himself? Why did he give everything up? Tonight i am collared. There is nothing i can do. He is already here. There is nothing i want to feel. But i feel numb with pain. An aching heart; for him...
    Destinyyy Destinyyy
    18-21, F
    1 Response Oct 2, 2015

    Hello All. I want to thank each of your

    for your participation in this group. I started it several years ago and then resigned membership, but let it continue to see what happened. It has grown somewhat and I hope that its presence has made people aware that this kind of abuse exists, as well as been of comfort to...
    fln38 fln38
    51-55, M
    1 Response Apr 10, 2016

    Survivor. And I sure don't like being

    victimized, any more than anyone else likes it. Part of the problem with spiritually abusive people, is that they prey on people who are already disadvantaged in some way. Sick, poor, disabled, newly bereaved or divorced, or whatever circumstances make a person particularly...
    GreenButtercup GreenButtercup
    36-40, F
    May 1, 2014

    The Real Battle As I wrote about in the

    previous entitled article Demon Possession and the Real Battle, I discovered that the spiritual battle did not involve yelling and screaming, shaking people, anointing with oil, etc, but it was a battle of truth - truth about oneself, truth about others, truth about God. I was...
    fln38 fln38
    51-55, M
    3 Responses Mar 29, 2014

    Demon Possession and the Real Battle I

    shouldn't be, but I am constantly amazed by the stories of spiritual abuse, not only in this group, but in others. One of the recurring themes is that of demon possession. Although I have seen demons supposedly "cast out," I personally don't know if demon possession actually...
    fln38 fln38
    51-55, M
    2 Responses Mar 29, 2014

    The Brain

    A couple of days ago I did some work for a psychiatrist. While at his home, a lady came by to give him some Christmas cookies and he began explaining a piece of sculpture that he had. It had something to do with trauma and the amygdala. He said that when children are abused...
    deleted deleted
    Dec 19, 2010

    The Aftermath Of Spiritual Abuse

    There is a lot I can say here but I would like to make it brief and straight to the point. If I were to give out every detail of what I went through it would probably be the size of a book. Awhile back I joined a Christian ministry that was heavily centered on evangelism. Now...
    UsernameEntered UsernameEntered
    26-30, M
    3 Responses Nov 16, 2013

    Most spiritually abusive people are not

    out-and-out villains. (Some are, but not most.) They are people who have been taught that they can or should obtain control over other people and do whatever it takes to maintain that control. It's Machiavellian I suppose. They think the end justifies the means.
    GreenButtercup GreenButtercup
    36-40, F
    1 Response May 1, 2014

    I was spiritually abused by two people

    who originally meant well, but got so caught up in their own insecurities, narrow thinking, greed, manipulation, and control issues that they did almost irreparable harm to several students, including myself. They isolated us, guilted us, spied on us, used sensitive information...
    flameoffire flameoffire
    22-25, F
    4 Responses Feb 8, 2014

    my beliefs are not respected by many people

    around me but that makes them stronger because i feel i have the right to believe anything i want without harming anyone just like everyone else
    deleted deleted
    May 9, 2015

    If you want to have some context

    as to where I am coming from with this post, please read my last entry here: EP Link … I can’t take it anymore. I really can’t. I think about what happened to me everyday. I’m frustrated, confused, sad, and angry. I feel alone. I had a person in my church tell me that...
    UsernameEntered UsernameEntered
    26-30, M
    4 Responses Apr 6, 2014

    The Truth The phrase,

    "the truth," is held in high esteem by most churches. Orthodox churches teach that there is TRUTH and then there is truth. In this article, I am addressing truth with a little "t" and it was truth for me, but may not apply to you at all. First, the lie -- the lie that held me...
    fln38 fln38
    51-55, M
    1 Response Mar 29, 2014

    Repeat experiences of being told I was a

    jezebel... that I was controlled by a python spirit... that I was poessed by satan. Ive been prayed out. Voted out and asked to leave. Ive ran church baised housing projects. A church ran homeless shelter. Clothing pantries and even just asked if I could help do the dishes once...
    jacobsigns jacobsigns
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Feb 16, 2014

    Fake cult bible class & every "Christian"

    church I try to join turns out to be a cult nowadays. I just stay home & pray & read the bible.
    otad12 otad12
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Apr 28, 2014
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