Post
Experience Project iOS Android Apps | Download EP for your Mobile Device

I Am a Victim of Verbal Abuse

Discussion groups for women who are verbally and emotionally abused by their spouse 1,663 People

    I just want to share my story

    for those women and girls that feel trapped... I just ended things with my boyfriend of 1 year and 6 months and I cannot recall the last time that I felt this kind of peace. Everything was perfect, until around 8 months into the relationship. He became verbally abusive. At...
    euphorian euphorian 16-17, F 2 Responses Oct 18

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I was married for 14 years to a verbally

    abusive man. The words he said left me feeling unloved, unsupported, dirty, and doubting everything I have ever known or believed about myself. I left him 5 years ago and it was the best thing that I've ever done. I've remarried the most loving and kind man, but am now...
    ka555 ka555 56-60, F 3 Responses Apr 23

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I know I'm in an emotionally abusive

    relationship. 50% of the time it's really good and 50% of the time it is not. There's so much information on how to leave an abusive relationship, but not much for those of us who chose to stay for certain reasons. Is there anyone who is staying in a relationship that is...
    lmcarter74 lmcarter74 36-40, F 4 Responses Oct 29

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I can't ******* take anyone anymore,

    everyone is always screaming at each other, blaming one person, talking about about everyone there is to talk about then lying and saying they never said anything about them, everyone making you want to do so many things, hurt them, slash your wrists, bang your head against the...
    FlipFlap98 FlipFlap98 16-17, F May 23

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Want Out!

    I've been married 10 years to a verbally abusive man. It sucks. I have 2 kids and don't want this for them. I am scared to leave for so mnay reasons, all of them excuses really. I hate the way he screams and yells, calls me names and one he gets it off his chest his fine and...
    chadanna chadanna 41-45, F 12 Responses Jun 2, 2009

    Your Response

    Cancel

    SHHHHH!!!

    If you speak when you are ANGERY you will make the greatest speech you will ever REGRET.
    dranbear dranbear 22-25, F 4 Responses Jan 6, 2011

    Your Response

    Cancel

    When I Was a Kid........

    ~ It was REALLY bad. I'm an adult now, so it isn't as nasty. I'm still called names, & picked on, but it's mostly myself doing it. =[ I kept every nasty thing ever said to me inside...........Makes for a nasty surprise sometimes. I can be feeling really good about...
    deleted deleted 26-30 12 Responses Mar 21, 2009

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I didn't even know that my life wasn't normal.

    To me, it had become so normal. I was with my husband for 9 years. Things started out great, he was nice, seemed like he cared about me. Then, he gradually started yelling at me and calling me names. Always under the guise of I did something to not make him happy. I am a pleaser...
    romancandle16 romancandle16 31-35, F 3 Responses Aug 17

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Each day I analyze my situation

    and ask myself, what is going on in my marriage? Is this abuse? Do I stay or do I go? I am 33 years old and now a mother of three. I feel like this is my last chance at a successful relationship/marriage and if this marriage fails, then I am doomed. I have a nine year old son...
    Meriposa1980 Meriposa1980 31-35, F 5 Responses Jan 8

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I am new to this and it's very hard

    for me to open up. My wife is verbally abusive toward me. I can't take it anymore I just don't know who to talk to about it so I thought I'd give this a try.
    315tatfan 315tatfan 26-30, M 3 Responses Jul 16

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Mother And Brother

    I have been verbally,emotionally and physically abused for most of my life. From about the age of 7 to about 18, my brother often physically abused me. Between being bullied at school and beaten up at home, my upper body was often covered in bruises. As bad as the physical abuse...
    Lilly292 Lilly292 41-45 2 Responses Oct 11, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    My secondary school English teacher.

    He was one of the youngest teachers on the board of this school. What was worse, it was one of the oldest schools in Poland. I think every teacher wanted to keep a good name, good picture and good lookup of the school. We can say that there is a true that a sign of any company...
    michalmos michalmos 31-35, M Aug 15

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I work as a promo model.

    (Live Image for several brands) My boyfriend has said that getting paid to show my looks is not right. Literally call me a slu* when I told him i was going to work on spring break. What do you think? I dont think i do anything offensive or immoral.
    Lorenasanlo Lorenasanlo 26-30, F 1 Response Mar 5

    Your Response

    Cancel

    This is a good article

    for whatever kind of abusive relationship you may be in. Mine currently just happens to be verbal and emotional. And for those of you who want to whine about all the man bashing, most of us have good reason to. Anyone who posts any idiotic or insensitive comments will be...
    trayomis trayomis 31-35, F 6 days ago

    Your Response

    Cancel

    For years now my stepdad has been rude to me.

    He calls me stupid every chance he gets and I have a 90% average. He says I'm even though I weigh 120 pounds. he calls me ugly and says I will never be his daughter, he has raised me for over 10 years. He makes fun of my heritage, I am metis. He tears me down every chance he...
    lilypod68 lilypod68 13-15, F 2 Responses Feb 26

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Long story short: The things my parents say

    bring me down and I feel like I'm in a dungeon in my house.
    AriannaMariee AriannaMariee 16-17, F May 29

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Destructive

    My father is a very destructive man. Anything he sees that does not go the way he likes, he destroys it. He destroyed my childhood, for one. He would always yell at me and hit me. He'd drag me across the floor and beat me until he was satisfied. He threatened to kill me multiple...
    duClo duClo 18-21, T 2 Responses Aug 20, 2012

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I am currently in a verbally abusive

    and mentally abusive relationship. I want out, but don't know the first steps to take. I have 4 kids and I want to divorce their dad (the abuser). Help!!! Any advice would help! TIA!
    llk84 llk84 26-30, F 1 day ago

    Your Response

    Cancel

    My Boyfriend Is A Monster.

    We met at the tattoo shop he worked at 2 years ago. He is 9 years older than me, which at first i thought was great because he was mature but that didn't last long. I suffer from severe depression because of this man. He has hit me, pushed me and verbally abused me for 18 months...
    swimorsink swimorsink 18-21, F 2 Responses Aug 30, 2011

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I told my counselor everything.

    ..I didn't know the consequences it would entail though. She mentioned social services...and my parents freaked. My mom yelled at me saying I did it on purpose...she thinks I told her to get back at her. She says she wants a divorce in front of me and my little sister....she says...
    danixy danixy 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 22

    Your Response

    Cancel

    There have been so many incidences

    that I no longer want to remember them. I don't want to disclose the people who did that but It bruised me and made me a loner and introvert. I go back into my shell as soon as I sense aggressiveness in a person. I have been accused of being distant and cold. I do not want to be...
    Susana1985 Susana1985 26-30, F 5 Responses Apr 21

    Your Response

    Cancel
    popstardiva popstardiva 13-15 1 Response Mar 15

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Hi I am a new member

    and being verbally abused by my husband. I am locked up (not literally) in a foreign country, controlled in every way and my self-esteem is minus 10000. I am 'just' a mum of two little sons, 'good for nothing' according to my husband. He is the important money maker in the...
    Smartina Smartina 36-40, F 1 Response Mar 15

    Your Response

    Cancel

    My dad and I had an argument again.

    . nothing new. I wouldn't even consider it abuse anymore because now I fight back but the fact that after more than 15 years I still have to deal with this and no matter how much I do fight back he never admits any of his faults, not that I want him to at this point.. but when...
    korilakkuma korilakkuma 22-25, F 2 Responses Mar 30

    Your Response

    Cancel

    If you are question why you feel the way you do

    and feel you're also a victim of verbal abuse maybe this link will help http://everydaylife.globalpost.com/verbal-abuse-relationships-between-parents-children-14117.html
    calllmecoco calllmecoco 16-17, F Mar 7

    Your Response

    Cancel

    The pen and sword and tongue thing.

    Sharper and sharpest. Am proof. Disabled proof. Able to be proof that it disables.
    OddlyScintilating OddlyScintilating 46-50, M Jul 16

    Your Response

    Cancel

    24 hours a day 7 days a week 4 weeks a month 12

    month's a year, I have to live with my verbal abuser and no adult will stand up for me or believe me.... i am stuck here...
    nomnommings nomnommings 16-17, F 1 Response 1 hr ago

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Last year I met this guy,

    who I fell in love with two months into "talking." We worked together. He would talk to me during work hours but after I wouldn't receive a cal or text. And if I ever did, it was late night at 12 (he worked over night as well) or if he wanted me to come over for a movie night...
    TVel94 TVel94 18-21, F Dec 8

    Your Response

    Cancel

    It's funny how it happens

    so slowly... One minute they're your Prince Charming and the next, you're full of anxiety just wondering what will set him off next. Is the house the "right" way? Did I do "enough" today to be able to answer all of his inquisitions? Will he yell tonight? Call me names? Then...
    Lostrainbow Lostrainbow 31-35, F 1 Response Nov 4

    Your Response

    Cancel
    amzaa amzaa 41-45, F 5 Responses Oct 20, 2011

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I'm done trying to be happy

    for people who (don't) even care about me! I just want to End it all I have been Cutting my Arms,Legs,Hips and not only that I have been drinking wine non stop for weeks and I can't stop my Heart is beating faster than normal. And I have been smoking. I never lost control like...
    KristinaChero KristinaChero 13-15, F 2 Responses Dec 2

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I can't yell back.- One of the perks of being

    voiceless is I can scream in your face when you yell at me. I can never get through to people. The only way I can is by sign language. And no one in my house can do that. SO I'm on my own here. No voice. I sucks. Especially my foster mom is trying to talk to me. She seems to...
    VoicelessAngel VoicelessAngel 16-17, F Dec 8, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Women

    all,y life i have been put down by women..women are complete savages.when i was in school they called me names for no reason and then again when i "thought" all of them was not the same.when they seem to all be the same..they seem to get enjoyment out of always putting a guy down...
    irongrenadier irongrenadier 26-30, M 3 Responses Feb 8, 2012

    Your Response

    Cancel

    My ex fiancé was my world.

    They say when you move in together you get to really know your partner... Oh they were right. The amount of times I went to sleep crying because he would belittle me and make me feel like **** because we were at different ends of the spectrum of life... I walked out on him once...
    asilentheart asilentheart 22-25, F 2 Responses Jun 25

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Some of you know that my mother

    and I have problems, if not feel free to read my other stories. I'm sharing this one because I want people to know what's really going on. My mom and my older sister never got along. My sister is adopted like me and she has RAD (reactive attachment disorder). All it really...
    Madis9957 Madis9957 13-15, F 2 Responses Sep 25

    Your Response

    Cancel

    My Parents Don't Love Me.

    The title says it all. They verbally fight me and eachother. I have never heard them say I love you to me.
    Ami73 Ami73 16-17, F 3 Responses Jan 19, 2012

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Trying To Keep Strong To Ensure I Don't Let My Emotionally And Verbally Abusive Husband Wheedle Back In

    I have been living with my husband for almost 11 years and Ive recently woken up to the reality he has been abusing me and my kids. We got together very quickly after I left my first husband and my two boys were then aged 11 and 7 years. When we were based in my house (first few...
    Fluffie63 Fluffie63 51-55, F 4 Responses Sep 1, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Internet trolls are harassing me!

    Thousands of them. Calling my work. In my FB Why? What did I do wrong?
    tarkovsky tarkovsky 26-30, M Nov 9

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Abuse

    I share those feelings of not ever being good enough. When I was little I was abused and now I just got out of an abusive relationship with a man who abused and betrayed me. I am grateful to be out of it, but I am still trying to get on day by day with these feelings.
    lucky26 lucky26 26-30, F 9 Responses May 18, 2009

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Well. My parents currently think I am stupid,

    pathetic, a loser, and everything is my fault. Sometimes I want to run away in the woods miles and miles away from my house and plug in my ear phones and blast my music till everybody in town will be listening to rock and roll. But i can't. I just sit in my room, quietly draw or...
    Emilygrace238 Emilygrace238 13-15, F 2 Responses Jun 23

    Your Response

    Cancel

    My dad Verbally abuses my mom,

    sisters and I. He calls me names. And makes me feel like i'm going insane. I used to self harm and he would make fun of me for it. He hurts me everyday and I just have to shut out his voice when he talks.
    LillyBailey LillyBailey 13-15, F 2 Responses Jan 14

    Your Response

    Cancel

    My husband is an alcoholic

    and verbally abusive
    cbamy cbamy 41-45, F 2 Responses Jul 16

    Your Response

    Cancel

    My Love, My Abuser.

    My love, I understand you have issues with your anxiety. I understand you have bad days. What I don't think you understand is that you become very abusive with your words when you feel this way. When you feel anger, you lash out on me. Do you forget I am the only one you've...
    redrider48189 redrider48189 26-30 1 Response May 14, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel
    freespiritgal2777 freespiritgal2777 26-30, F 1 Response Mar 5

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I think I am. I would like to know what you

    think. Here's my story... For as long as I can remember me and my dad have fought. He has a very bad temper. These are some of the things he said to me. 1) "I'll slap you straight across the face!" I'm sure he says this the most often, he's never hit me, but he isn't afraid to...
    Seekingknowledgeforlater Seekingknowledgeforlater 13-15, F 3 Responses Feb 5

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Been with same person 9 yrs.

    ..lived with th for 7.....been like a roller coaster....sometimes I get verbally abused for no reason...just really depressed...I'm on a sinking ship ....& getting no help
    reeny1 reeny1 51-55, F 1 Response Jun 25

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Related Experiences

    A long story spread over about 10 years so i'll keep it short. My wife is divorcing me on the grounds of abuse. I've never physically hurt her btw. For those years she and my...
    johnpbatchelor johnpbatchelor 41-45, M Dec 8

    Your Response

    Cancel
    Life It is not easy to write my painful situation. Yesterday, I was shattered . My hear broke. My marriage is a mistake. I married my friend – we used to work together. The...
    sdstalks sdstalks 31-35, F 3 Responses Dec 2

    Your Response

    Cancel
    well that's one way of putting it... funny thing about emotional/verbal abuse... you don't really know if it's valid. well maybe you do but I don't I still think I'm j just an...
    blackscribbles blackscribbles 22-25, F 2 Responses 6 days ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    Every week we had to see him, and every week he would beat us up, we would hide before he would arrive, I remember one of my siblings running down the drive and he chased her and I...
    Couldhelp Couldhelp 18-21, M 1 Response Dec 10

    Your Response

    Cancel
    So sitting alone at a restaurant and watching loving couples come and go. kissung and touching. my mind goes back to where we use to sit like that all the time. no end to the...
    justlikejessejames justlikejessejames 36-40, M 2 Responses 8 hrs ago

    Your Response