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I Am a Victim of Verbal Abuse

Discussion groups for women who are verbally and emotionally abused by their spouse 1,355 People

    I can't yell back.- One of the perks of being

    voiceless is I can scream in your face when you yell at me. I can never get through to people. The only way I can is by sign language. And no one in my house can do that. SO I'm on my own here. No voice. I sucks. Especially my foster mom is trying to talk to me. She seems to...
    VoicelessAngel VoicelessAngel 16-17, F 1 Response Dec 8, 2013

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    SHHHHH!!!

    If you speak when you are ANGERY you will make the greatest speech you will ever REGRET.
    dranbear dranbear 22-25, F 4 Responses Jan 6, 2011

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    Where can i start ? A person whom i always was

    inspired by and looked up to degraded me in the worst way possible . That person is my mother , constantly picking fights and finding reasons to tell at me for anything . She is more vicious with me then she is with my own sister . I feel i am the black sheep in the family . An...
    jezebelx jezebelx 22-25, F 1 Response Dec 23, 2013

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    A Long Story

    I've been verbally/emotionally abused by two people in my life. It's a very sad thing, as they were both people who are supposed to be there to lift you up, not put you down. And their actions ended up affecting my life for a very long time. My mother had been verbally abusive...
    ashelmo ashelmo 18-21, F 2 Responses Sep 15, 2013

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    Men In My Life

    when i lived in south africa my grandmother came to visit from england.  she came twice before she died, once when i was about 9 and once when i was about 15. when i was 15 she told me she hated the way my dad (her son) treated me.  i didn't understand.  when i...
    TheFunHasGone TheFunHasGone 36-40, F 4 Responses Jul 1, 2009

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    Just Now Recognizing Verbal And Emotional Abuse In Our Marriage Of 15 Years

    I hardly know where to start. I am in my forties, and married almost 15 years. Shortly after my DH and I were married, one of my aunts, who had only met DH once or twice, called to ask if "everything was okay," and she meant how I was doing with the marriage. She seemed...
    teacherlymom teacherlymom 41-45 2 Responses May 17, 2012

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    My relationship with my husband started off on

    a bad note. I was a 21 year old virgin who held tight to ideals of falling in love and living happily ever after. My spouse, a drug/alcohol/video game/**** addict with 2 children and violent tendencies. At first, everything was semi-okay. I helped him get sober, but the more...
    endlessdreamer09 endlessdreamer09 22-25, F 3 Responses Dec 14, 2013

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    Over Eater

    i try live up to the expectations of a lot of people i always fail for atleast one including myself i am seventeen and 275 pounds i am bigger than my mom and my dad and i hear about it frequenly my bmi is over morbily obese and i blame my self for no self control i feel i need to...
    ittalianbaby2013 ittalianbaby2013 16-17 1 Response Jan 15, 2012

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    freespiritgal2777 freespiritgal2777 26-30, F 1 Response Mar 5

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    Broken And Confused

    i have just broken of with someone who from the start was verbelly abusive and easily angered , he would call me all sorts of discusting names and yell and be little me in front of his mates and my daughter and some of my younger family members . i would jusy cry and ask him what...
    mellyr mellyr 36-40, F 1 Response Jul 31, 2010

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    Suprise! You've Been In An Abusive Relationship!

    I met him in June of  2008. He saw me and my friend getting her kids ready to go to the pool, we had our new swim wear on. He went to my friend and asked if she could get him my number. So she asked and I gave it to him. He was cute. But I didn't get his number. That night I...
    Lovemegoofy Lovemegoofy 22-25 Oct 2, 2010

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    So Sad

    I am 45 and have been verbally abused from child hood from my father till toda from my husbad of20 years. I have been physically abused off and on for the 20 yearswith myhusband and nw my worst night mare has ccme to light my son verbaly abuses me  his father and couins in...
    hopeliss hopeliss 41-45, F 3 Responses Aug 31, 2009

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    My Parents Don't Love Me.

    The title says it all. They verbally fight me and eachother. I have never heard them say I love you to me.
    Ami73 Ami73 16-17, F 3 Responses Jan 19, 2012

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    It Just Never Was Enough!

      It was never enough, I had been in circle with the same man for over 4 years. I was the bread winner of the partnership  and I could never provide enough money to support us. For that I got verbally abused. I was called out if I didn't help at the drop of a dime...
    Blessedtobetostressed Blessedtobetostressed 22-25, F 4 Responses Jan 19, 2010

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    My Boyfriend Is A Monster.

    We met at the tattoo shop he worked at 2 years ago. He is 9 years older than me, which at first i thought was great because he was mature but that didn't last long. I suffer from severe depression because of this man. He has hit me, pushed me and verbally abused me for 18 months...
    swimorsink swimorsink 18-21, F 2 Responses Aug 30, 2011

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    I Was Verbally Abused Last Night By My "boyfriend"

    I put boyfriend in quotes because what kind of bf would do that to someone he loved? He was at a concert I didn't want to go to. He called me and chewed me out for being passive aggressive. Called me every name in the book. I think he was doing this because he was having a bad...
    MarySimonsen MarySimonsen 36-40, F 5 Responses Feb 20, 2010

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    Mom

    My mom has always been verbally abusive. It never ends. I know it could be worse, and she could be physically abusive. Honestly, I'd rather be beaten.. In my opinion, physical pain hurts less than words.
    JustCammy JustCammy 16-17, F 1 Response Oct 7, 2013

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    Si

    My mom had a boyfriend, whom which moved in with us, and lived with us for years.. I was abused verbally, mentally, and physically. He molested my sister, I saw it happening to her one night, it enraged me. I went to my grandmas, and talked to her. I am now my sisters hero. He...
    xScreamOfTheButterflyx xScreamOfTheButterflyx 22-25, F 4 Responses Mar 22, 2009

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    I'm verbally abused by my own father ever

    since I was at the age of 10. Abused by him, his girlfriend and his girlfriends daughter. I am screamed at constantly, told I'm worthless and basically a ton of ****. Trust me, I love the guy, without him I wouldn't even be here... But now? I'm taking my "father" to court to...
    TrichKid TrichKid 13-15, F 1 Response Dec 18, 2013

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    I work as a promo model.

    (Live Image for several brands) My boyfriend has said that getting paid to show my looks is not right. Literally call me a slu* when I told him i was going to work on spring break. What do you think? I dont think i do anything offensive or immoral.
    Lorenasanlo Lorenasanlo 26-30, F 1 Response Mar 5

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    popstardiva popstardiva 13-15 Mar 15

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    Verbally Abused And Not Liking It!

    Right now I am at my wits end about my husband's abusive behaviour. He was like this ever since I met him. When he asked me to marry him, I hesitated and was scared. But then I thought that he is the only one I ever loved and his family loves me and they will help our marriage...
    klegall klegall 41-45, F 1 Response Dec 15, 2011

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    Hi I am a new member

    and being verbally abused by my husband. I am locked up (not literally) in a foreign country, controlled in every way and my self-esteem is minus 10000. I am 'just' a mum of two little sons, 'good for nothing' according to my husband. He is the important money maker in the...
    Smartina Smartina 36-40, F Mar 15

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    Trying To Keep Strong To Ensure I Don't Let My Emotionally And Verbally Abusive Husband Wheedle Back In

    I have been living with my husband for almost 11 years and Ive recently woken up to the reality he has been abusing me and my kids. We got together very quickly after I left my first husband and my two boys were then aged 11 and 7 years. When we were based in my house (first few...
    Fluffie63 Fluffie63 46-50, F 3 Responses Sep 1, 2013

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    Black Or White?

    does complexion really matter? i do not know. . . school life has been a nightmare for me. taunts, comments, jokes on my color got on my nerves... i am glad that i do not miss my childhood...
    nealbrute nealbrute 22-25, F 4 Responses Sep 28, 2013

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    last night was intense.

    i don't know what i did to trigger the onslaught of terrible things that was said. it wasn't until i started to cry that he actually called me names and stuff... saying that my cry was fake and i'm just looking for attention and how he's on the verge of leaving me because of it...
    gretagrace gretagrace 18-21, F 3 Responses Jan 26

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    Verbal Abuse Vs. Normal Marital Conflict?

    I have only been married to my husband for 1.5 years and together almost 3 years. I don't know if my husband is emotionally abusive but I know he seems often irritated and I feel he often snaps at me. The snapping is usually in response to something I ask him to do like...
    toddlermommy toddlermommy 26-30, F 2 Responses Aug 27, 2013

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    My Day Starts Here

    Tuesday June 19, 2012 Today I went to my first womens support group for abused women and I came home feeling really good about committing myself to this group. Actually to correct myself this was not officially my first group, but it was the first one I have been to in five years...
    mamabutterfly mamabutterfly 36-40, F 2 Responses Jun 19, 2012

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    Women

    all,y life i have been put down by women..women are complete savages.when i was in school they called me names for no reason and then again when i "thought" all of them was not the same.when they seem to all be the same..they seem to get enjoyment out of always putting a guy down...
    irongrenadier irongrenadier 26-30, M 3 Responses Feb 8, 2012

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    Destructive

    My father is a very destructive man. Anything he sees that does not go the way he likes, he destroys it. He destroyed my childhood, for one. He would always yell at me and hit me. He'd drag me across the floor and beat me until he was satisfied. He threatened to kill me multiple...
    duClo duClo 18-21, F 2 Responses Aug 20, 2012

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    Abuse

    I share those feelings of not ever being good enough. When I was little I was abused and now I just got out of an abusive relationship with a man who abused and betrayed me. I am grateful to be out of it, but I am still trying to get on day by day with these feelings.
    lucky26 lucky26 26-30, F 9 Responses May 18, 2009

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    Each day I analyze my situation

    and ask myself, what is going on in my marriage? Is this abuse? Do I stay or do I go? I am 33 years old and now a mother of three. I feel like this is my last chance at a successful relationship/marriage and if this marriage fails, then I am doomed. I have a nine year old son...
    Meriposa1980 Meriposa1980 31-35, F 5 Responses Jan 8

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    Am Confused

    I ve been in a rocky relationship for two years now. On n off again Ot started of great. I felt i met the love of my Life ..then things begsn to change I have a lot of male friends and he became jealous of that. So for him i let a lot of them go . I also like to go out be...
    gurlnexdoor11 gurlnexdoor11 36-40, F 4 Responses Sep 23, 2013

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    I Would Like To Immigrate To Australia

    I would like to immigrate to Australia , I am not happy where I live. I would like more personal information cause the web site doesn't answer my questions. I hope someone can give me any recommendation !! Thanks
    Caridad17 Caridad17 36-40, F 1 Response Jul 21, 2013

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    If you are question why you feel the way you do

    and feel you're also a victim of verbal abuse maybe this link will help http://everydaylife.globalpost.com/verbal-abuse-relationships-between-parents-children-14117.html
    calllmecoco calllmecoco 16-17, F Mar 7

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    Is This Abuse?

    Normally i wouldnt do anything like this but I feel like i need to ask and share this. On a regular day me and my partner of only 9 months or fine but ever since i found out that he was talking to his ex who has a child with his ex best friend. He has called me names like Hoe...
    AJW1995 AJW1995 18-21, F 3 Responses Nov 21, 2013

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    Another Day Another Rampage

    So today, my husband was getting ready for hockey and asked when i was planning to take the drapes to hem. We've had them for a while but we have had other things going on, new floors, renovations, flood on top of the normal cleaning cooking, laundry, kids activites. It was not...
    trixie21 trixie21 41-45, F 3 Responses Nov 7, 2013

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    amzaa amzaa 41-45, F 5 Responses Oct 20, 2011

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    After my engagement, she showed her true

    character and face, She got so rude and vent her anger that i had tears in my eyes on my birthday. She pushed me back and got out of the building just because i did do what she said. She did like what i like she always want me to change myself to her way. Because of her my...
    ionezation ionezation 26-30, M 2 Responses Jan 26

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    18 Years....

    I am free now, its been just over a year since i left. Best feeling ever to be without him, but it sure hurts to look back. The hardest part of looking back is realizing how long it took me to notice that how he was treating me wasn't right. I was 16 and he was 22 when we got...
    marleyjayne marleyjayne 31-35, F 1 Response Mar 30, 2012

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    When I Was a Kid........

    ~ It was REALLY bad. I'm an adult now, so it isn't as nasty. I'm still called names, & picked on, but it's mostly myself doing it. =[ I kept every nasty thing ever said to me inside...........Makes for a nasty surprise sometimes. I can be feeling really good about...
    deleted deleted 26-30 12 Responses Mar 21, 2009

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    The Scars You Can't See

    I think that verbal and emotional abuse is the worst kind. If someone beat you up, you will heal, your wounds will dissapair, but when someone says something that really sting, it will last forever, it will suddenly without any warning pop up in your head, and than be on repeate...
    NotAllScarsCanBeSeen NotAllScarsCanBeSeen 18-21, F 3 Responses Nov 13, 2013

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    I Let A Monster Sink Its Fangs In Me,i Left Him But He Still Abuses Me

    They say f you are in abusive relationship you should leave if there is no way of making things better.I have done that,i have served him with divorce papers.But he still has his fangs deep in me.I cant turn without feeling his grip,he abuses me from a distance.We have two kids...
    Flolin Flolin 36-40 6 Responses Feb 23, 2012

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    My dad and I had an argument again.

    . nothing new. I wouldn't even consider it abuse anymore because now I fight back but the fact that after more than 15 years I still have to deal with this and no matter how much I do fight back he never admits any of his faults, not that I want him to at this point.. but when...
    korilakkuma korilakkuma 22-25, F 1 Response Mar 30

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    I Don't Know, But..

    I don't really "belong" in this group....but I can share my own story, a little bit...I have never been married, that is a whole story in itself..there are many reasons for that.  But I have been abused in many ways....I don't want to get to detailed because I...
    stigmafree stigmafree 31-35 2 Responses Jan 7, 2010

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    Verbal Abuse

    i am sick and tired of the verbal abuse. i cant think, laugh, enjoy life. i know that i have to leave this person. i feel that this person is the devil himself. i want out. i want him to leave. i need to take care of my four children. i have a hs diploma only. i fear this man...
    ire66 ire66 46-50, F 3 Responses Jun 22, 2012

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    My dad Verbally abuses my mom,

    sisters and I. He calls me names. And makes me feel like i'm going insane. I used to self harm and he would make fun of me for it. He hurts me everyday and I just have to shut out his voice when he talks.
    LillyBailey LillyBailey 13-15, F 1 Response Jan 14

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    I met my fiance when i was 17,

    im 21 now. We got engaged 3 years ago. I got pregnant 3-4 months after we got together. Had our son when i was just about to turn 18. For as long as i can remember hes had bad anger and had always called me names whens he stressed and mad. Like every name you can think of. Slu...
    lace000 lace000 18-21, F 2 Responses Feb 1

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    My husband's family lives overseas.

    He has just returned from visiting them it's been a week. Everyday of this week has been like living in a minefield. Never knowing what will set him off. Before he would yell at me once every few months. Now it's every day. I can do no right. I cooked loads of different dishes...
    beckybex beckybex 26-30, F 3 Responses Jan 6

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    My mom calls me names

    and always say I never do anything right and that it is better if I was born a dog, is that verbal abuse or? I don't know I try not to let it et to me but I does, it makes me feel like I'm not doing anything right sometimes at school, and not confident how I used to be in school...
    lilay98 lilay98 16-17, F 1 Response Mar 23

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    For years now my stepdad has been rude to me.

    He calls me stupid every chance he gets and I have a 90% average. He says I'm even though I weigh 120 pounds. he calls me ugly and says I will never be his daughter, he has raised me for over 10 years. He makes fun of my heritage, I am metis. He tears me down every chance he...
    lilypod68 lilypod68 13-15, F 2 Responses Feb 26

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    I Am A Man And A Victim Of Verbal Abuse

    When i was a teen - 1963 to 1970 approximately - my father and mother ( both immigrants, like myself ) would taunt me verbally, cause they didn't either understand or approve my behaviour. they thought i was weird and crazy. but it was them that were out of touch, since i was...
    Elieli Elieli 56-60, M Jan 7, 2010

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    Like He Doesn't Even Care Or Remember!!!

    I can't even begin to remember how or why! I use to smile all of the time but now it is gone!! I don't even know which way to go and nothing I do is right ever!! He'll get mad if I can't remember what he said or if I'm too slow!! I'm not perfect in his world when he wants to know...
    far0down far0down 31-35, F 3 Responses Mar 25, 2012

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    Want Out!

    I've been married 10 years to a verbally abusive man. It sucks. I have 2 kids and don't want this for them. I am scared to leave for so mnay reasons, all of them excuses really. I hate the way he screams and yells, calls me names and one he gets it off his chest his fine and...
    chadanna chadanna 41-45, F 12 Responses Jun 2, 2009

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    I think I am. I would like to know what you

    think. Here's my story... For as long as I can remember me and my dad have fought. He has a very bad temper. These are some of the things he said to me. 1) "I'll slap you straight across the face!" I'm sure he says this the most often, he's never hit me, but he isn't afraid to...
    Seekingknowledgeforlater Seekingknowledgeforlater 13-15, F 3 Responses Feb 5

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    I HATE MY MOTHER

    It is only fair to let you all know that I dropped out of college after one year and started abusing drugs at the age of 19 and continued to do so until  February 15, 2010. During that time my mother has done nothing but put me down and say some of the most horrible things one...
    Resentfulgirl Resentfulgirl 31-35 2 Responses Sep 29, 2011

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    As a closeted teenage boy I often have trouble

    communicating with my parents. I was raised by my mother because my father was the bread winner of the house. When I was 8 they divorced, everything went well afterwards until I reached 10. I had hit puberty and being raised in a strict Christian family I couldn't really share...
    Megamac2000 Megamac2000 16-17, M 1 Response Jan 6

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