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I Am a Victim of Verbal Abuse

Discussion groups for women who are verbally and emotionally abused by their spouse 1,903 People

    Trying To Keep Strong To Ensure I Don't Let My Emotionally And Verbally Abusive Husband Wheedle Back In

    I have been living with my husband for almost 11 years and Ive recently woken up to the reality he has been abusing me and my kids. We got together very quickly after I left my first husband and my two boys were then aged 11 and 7 years. When we were based in my house (first few...
    Fluffie63 Fluffie63 51-55, F 4 Responses Sep 1, 2013

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    SHHHHH!!!

    If you speak when you are ANGERY you will make the greatest speech you will ever REGRET.
    dranbear dranbear 22-25, F 4 Responses Jan 6, 2011

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    This more of a question,

    but I was hoping someone else from here might be able to answer my question. That question is: "Is my father emotionally/verbally abusive?" This stems from the fact of someone of the things my father does, and a couple close friends of mine have told me that my father is...
    SomePineapple SomePineapple 16-17, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    My dad Verbally abuses my mom,

    sisters and I. He calls me names. And makes me feel like i'm going insane. I used to self harm and he would make fun of me for it. He hurts me everyday and I just have to shut out his voice when he talks.
    LillyBailey LillyBailey 16-17, F 2 Responses Jan 14, 2014

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    I am new to this and it's very hard

    for me to open up. My wife is verbally abusive toward me. I can't take it anymore I just don't know who to talk to about it so I thought I'd give this a try.
    315tatfan 315tatfan 26-30, M 3 Responses Jul 16, 2014

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    When I Was a Kid........

    ~ It was REALLY bad. I'm an adult now, so it isn't as nasty. I'm still called names, & picked on, but it's mostly myself doing it. =[ I kept every nasty thing ever said to me inside...........Makes for a nasty surprise sometimes. I can be feeling really good about...
    deleted deleted 26-30 11 Responses Mar 21, 2009

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    My ex fiancé was my world.

    They say when you move in together you get to really know your partner... Oh they were right. The amount of times I went to sleep crying because he would belittle me and make me feel like **** because we were at different ends of the spectrum of life... I walked out on him once...
    asilentheart asilentheart 22-25, F 2 Responses Jun 25, 2014

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    I was abused for 14 years by my father.

    I feel bad for anyone who has ever had to go through that hell.
    AnarchyOfAthena AnarchyOfAthena 16-17, F 2 Responses Jan 18

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    Autumn02 Autumn02 13-15, F 3 Responses May 7

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    deleted deleted 26-30 Jan 18

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    I can't ******* take anyone anymore,

    everyone is always screaming at each other, blaming one person, talking about about everyone there is to talk about then lying and saying they never said anything about them, everyone making you want to do so many things, hurt them, slash your wrists, bang your head against the...
    FlipFlap98 FlipFlap98 16-17, F May 23, 2014

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    Mother And Brother

    I have been verbally,emotionally and physically abused for most of my life. From about the age of 7 to about 18, my brother often physically abused me. Between being bullied at school and beaten up at home, my upper body was often covered in bruises. As bad as the physical abuse...
    Lilly292 Lilly292 41-45 1 Response Oct 11, 2013

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    I was married for 14 years to a verbally

    abusive man. The words he said left me feeling unloved, unsupported, dirty, and doubting everything I have ever known or believed about myself. I left him 5 years ago and it was the best thing that I've ever done. I've remarried the most loving and kind man, but am now...
    ka555 ka555 56-60, F 3 Responses Apr 23, 2014

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    I can't yell back.- One of the perks of being

    voiceless is I can scream in your face when you yell at me. I can never get through to people. The only way I can is by sign language. And no one in my house can do that. SO I'm on my own here. No voice. I sucks. Especially my foster mom is trying to talk to me. She seems to...
    VoicelessAngel VoicelessAngel 18-21, F Dec 8, 2013

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    So I ran away a couple of days ago,

    and they made me come back (they= police and family). They said they were gonna change and so far that's bullshit. I am leaving when I turn 17 whether they like it or not, they cannot make me stay. I am done with my mother telling me that I am a mean and ugly ***** . She says...
    nomnommings nomnommings 16-17, F Feb 18

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    My Love, My Abuser.

    My love, I understand you have issues with your anxiety. I understand you have bad days. What I don't think you understand is that you become very abusive with your words when you feel this way. When you feel anger, you lash out on me. Do you forget I am the only one you've...
    redrider48189 redrider48189 26-30 1 Response May 14, 2013

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    This is a good article

    for whatever kind of abusive relationship you may be in. Mine currently just happens to be verbal and emotional. And for those of you who want to whine about all the man bashing, most of us have good reason to. Anyone who posts any idiotic or insensitive comments will be...
    trayomis trayomis 31-35, F Dec 15, 2014

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    Whoever made up that rhyme about “sticks

    and stones will break my bones but names will never hurt me” was just plain wrong! Words do hurt. People who are subjected to verbal abuse suffer. People who are subjected to it over time can get so used to it that they lose their sense of themselves as people worth loving...
    areYoureallyhere areYoureallyhere 22-25, F 4 Responses May 10

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    I was verbally abused

    for years by my spouse, one day, I decided enough already, so I told myself, next time it happens again, it's war, felt better and been doing that Ever since.
    tigerlo2 tigerlo2 61-65, M 1 Response Mar 21

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    I am currently in a verbally abusive

    and mentally abusive relationship. I want out, but don't know the first steps to take. I have 4 kids and I want to divorce their dad (the abuser). Help!!! Any advice would help! TIA!
    llk84 llk84 31-35, F 2 Responses Dec 21, 2014

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    popstardiva popstardiva 13-15 Mar 15, 2014

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    24 hours a day 7 days a week 4 weeks a month 12

    month's a year, I have to live with my verbal abuser and no adult will stand up for me or believe me.... i am stuck here...
    nomnommings nomnommings 16-17, F 2 Responses Dec 22, 2014

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    I have been verbally abuse

    and everyone looks at me like I'm crazy I have God on my side.
    unhappyperson707 unhappyperson707 18-21, F 1 Response Apr 10

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    Destructive

    My father is a very destructive man. Anything he sees that does not go the way he likes, he destroys it. He destroyed my childhood, for one. He would always yell at me and hit me. He'd drag me across the floor and beat me until he was satisfied. He threatened to kill me multiple...
    duClo duClo 18-21, T 2 Responses Aug 20, 2012

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    What Now?

    I left him a year ago after ten years of verbal abuse. My trigger words, "repulsive", "disrespectful", "incapable", followed by, " you disgust me"... They still are a part of me. At times, I don't believe them. Then, I get scared and think maybe he was right. I want to scream!
    3 Responses Jan 26, 2013

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    My dad and I had an argument again.

    . nothing new. I wouldn't even consider it abuse anymore because now I fight back but the fact that after more than 15 years I still have to deal with this and no matter how much I do fight back he never admits any of his faults, not that I want him to at this point.. but when...
    korilakkuma korilakkuma 22-25, F 1 Response Mar 30, 2014

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    Guys I think I need help.

    Like yeah I've been verbally abused but I think I'm verbally abusive to other people too.
    XxAllixX XxAllixX 18-21, F 3 Responses Feb 5

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    Internet trolls are harassing me!

    Thousands of them. Calling my work. In my FB Why? What did I do wrong?
    AndreiTarkovsky AndreiTarkovsky 26-30, M Nov 9, 2014

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    I am 98 % invisible 1 % drama to friends

    and family 1 % hated and used by her.
    needworth needworth 36-40, M Jan 18

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    I'm done trying to be happy

    for people who (don't) even care about me! I just want to End it all I have been Cutting my Arms,Legs,Hips and not only that I have been drinking wine non stop for weeks and I can't stop my Heart is beating faster than normal. And I have been smoking. I never lost control like...
    KristinaChero KristinaChero 13-15, F 1 Response Dec 2, 2014

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    I'm verbally abused when I do the littlest

    thing wrong. it could be I didn't clean something quick enough. I'm called every name in the book. and sometimes he even spits at me and threatens to kick me out.. I don't know what to do. I feel like I'm nothing. I can't think of one thing I'm good at anymore... and have no...
    Cupcakejunky Cupcakejunky 22-25, F 3 Responses Mar 25

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    I think I am. I would like to know what you

    think. Here's my story... For as long as I can remember me and my dad have fought. He has a very bad temper. These are some of the things he said to me. 1) "I'll slap you straight across the face!" I'm sure he says this the most often, he's never hit me, but he isn't afraid to...
    Seekingknowledgeforlater Seekingknowledgeforlater 16-17, F 4 Responses Feb 5, 2014

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    I have friend . It is immaterial

    whether it is him/her . If we got for a coffee or lunch or dinner and the food or service is bad . I am not allowed to complain . If i complain that person walks out of the place and calls me i am an as-hole Infront of public. That person believes one never should complain . Now...
    olivetree1969 olivetree1969 41-45, M 1 Response Jan 4

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    I told my counselor everything.

    ..I didn't know the consequences it would entail though. She mentioned social services...and my parents freaked. My mom yelled at me saying I did it on purpose...she thinks I told her to get back at her. She says she wants a divorce in front of me and my little sister....she says...
    danixy danixy 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 22, 2014

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    Abuse

    I share those feelings of not ever being good enough. When I was little I was abused and now I just got out of an abusive relationship with a man who abused and betrayed me. I am grateful to be out of it, but I am still trying to get on day by day with these feelings.
    lucky26 lucky26 26-30, F 8 Responses May 18, 2009

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    PuckDrop PuckDrop 18-21, M Jan 18

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    Some of you know that my mother

    and I have problems, if not feel free to read my other stories. I'm sharing this one because I want people to know what's really going on. My mom and my older sister never got along. My sister is adopted like me and she has RAD (reactive attachment disorder). All it really...
    thefallenones thefallenones 13-15, F 2 Responses Sep 25, 2014

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    I was a victim not am .

    he tried to tell me it was normal and I was just experiencing what happens in other peoples relationships behind closed doors . I was too sensitive , to bitchy or whatever. while it was a long time ago the feeling I remember was my heart shattering when he spoke to me like...
    blonde10 blonde10 36-40, F 1 Response May 4

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    I feel worthless as my wife has abused me

    verbally for over a yr. I feel less than human.
    needworth needworth 36-40, M 2 Responses Jan 18

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    Yesterday was a horrible day.

    I just can't believe how much I'm getting bullied by my own family. They aren't helping with my depression at all. They worsen the whole situation especially my self-image. I wish they knew how much they're hurting me, how much damage they're causing, how much they're drowning...
    AndreaCulea AndreaCulea 22-25, F 2 Responses Apr 12

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    Each day I analyze my situation

    and ask myself, what is going on in my marriage? Is this abuse? Do I stay or do I go? I am 33 years old and now a mother of three. I feel like this is my last chance at a successful relationship/marriage and if this marriage fails, then I am doomed. I have a nine year old son...
    Meriposa1980 Meriposa1980 31-35, F 5 Responses Jan 8, 2014

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    I didn't even know that my life wasn't normal.

    To me, it had become so normal. I was with my husband for 9 years. Things started out great, he was nice, seemed like he cared about me. Then, he gradually started yelling at me and calling me names. Always under the guise of I did something to not make him happy. I am a pleaser...
    romancandle16 romancandle16 31-35, F 2 Responses Aug 17, 2014

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    I know I'm in an emotionally abusive

    relationship. 50% of the time it's really good and 50% of the time it is not. There's so much information on how to leave an abusive relationship, but not much for those of us who chose to stay for certain reasons. Is there anyone who is staying in a relationship that is...
    lmcarter74 lmcarter74 36-40, F 5 Responses Oct 29, 2014

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    my mum and dad devorced

    when i was seven, i used to live with my mum and now i live with my dad due to school, living with him is not as fun as it used to when i was with my mum...my stepmom keeps on telling me that if i don't work around the house i will go back and live with my "**** mum"...she tells...
    scp17 scp17 16-17, M May 13

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    Well. My parents currently think I am stupid,

    pathetic, a loser, and everything is my fault. Sometimes I want to run away in the woods miles and miles away from my house and plug in my ear phones and blast my music till everybody in town will be listening to rock and roll. But i can't. I just sit in my room, quietly draw or...
    Emilygrace238 Emilygrace238 13-15, F 2 Responses Jun 23, 2014

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    It's funny how it happens

    so slowly... One minute they're your Prince Charming and the next, you're full of anxiety just wondering what will set him off next. Is the house the "right" way? Did I do "enough" today to be able to answer all of his inquisitions? Will he yell tonight? Call me names? Then...
    Lostrainbow Lostrainbow 31-35, F 2 Responses Nov 4, 2014

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