I Am a Victim of Verbal Abuse

Discussion groups for women who are verbally and emotionally abused by their spouse 2,027 People

    My dad and I had an argument again.

    . nothing new. I wouldn't even consider it abuse anymore because now I fight back but the fact that after more than 15 years I still have to deal with this and no matter how much I do fight back he never admits any of his faults, not that I want him to at this point.. but when...
    korilakkuma korilakkuma
    22-25, F
    1 Response Mar 30, 2014


    If you speak when you are ANGERY you will make the greatest speech you will ever REGRET.
    dranbear dranbear
    22-25, F
    1 Response Jan 6, 2011

    Ok just let me know when you get here.

    I woke up this morning screaming at my sister "you need to die bi@@@". "I should just ki@@ her right now. Flucking bi@@@ Wh@@@. Can't keep your legs closed or your mouth. I was screaming. God then I realized that she was sceaming and yelling at my mom.
    deleted deleted
    Sep 9, 2015

    Guys I think I need help.

    Like yeah I've been verbally abused but I think I'm verbally abusive to other people too.
    XxAllixX XxAllixX
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Feb 5, 2015

    my mum and dad devorced

    when i was seven, i used to live with my mum and now i live with my dad due to school, living with him is not as fun as it used to when i was with my mum...my stepmom keeps on telling me that if i don't work around the house i will go back and live with my "**** mum"...she tells...
    scp17 scp17
    18-21, M
    May 13, 2015


    I share those feelings of not ever being good enough. When I was little I was abused and now I just got out of an abusive relationship with a man who abused and betrayed me. I am grateful to be out of it, but I am still trying to get on day by day with these feelings.
    lucky26 lucky26
    26-30, F
    8 Responses May 18, 2009

    My mother just ranted to me about how boys

    can't change to be girls and that gender neutral things are stupid. I think I will go cry now.
    rowanr5rocks rowanr5rocks
    13-15, F
    1 Response Sep 13, 2015

    The physical abuse stopped 13 years ago

    and the verbal/ emotional abuse began. I'm not the same person I use to be. I had friends, family, and I was such a friendly outgoing person. When your called names or yelled at for everything on a daily basis it really changes you and you start to believe you are as bad as he...
    1melody79 1melody79
    36-40, F
    4 Responses Dec 7, 2015

    I think I am. I would like to know what you

    think. Here's my story... For as long as I can remember me and my dad have fought. He has a very bad temper. These are some of the things he said to me. 1) "I'll slap you straight across the face!" I'm sure he says this the most often, he's never hit me, but he isn't afraid to...
    Seekingknowledgeforlater Seekingknowledgeforlater
    16-17, F
    2 Responses Feb 5, 2014

    I'm done trying to be happy

    for people who (don't) even care about me! I just want to End it all I have been Cutting my Arms,Legs,Hips and not only that I have been drinking wine non stop for weeks and I can't stop my Heart is beating faster than normal. And I have been smoking. I never lost control like...
    KristinaChero KristinaChero
    16-17, F
    1 Response Dec 2, 2014

    I dealt with verbal abuse from my family

    and bullying at school. I am very anti-social and scared everyday. I can no longer function or survive in a public school. I am depressed a lot and ready to die.
    Jesusislove777 Jesusislove777
    16-17, F
    1 Response Mar 7

    Today my dad walked in

    and just screamed at me. Right from the front door. I have no idea what he said, but he just screamed at me and this is like every day. 😡
    AnonymousAngel13 AnonymousAngel13
    22-25, F
    1 Response Aug 9, 2015

    When I Was a Kid........

    ~ It was REALLY bad. I'm an adult now, so it isn't as nasty. I'm still called names, & picked on, but it's mostly myself doing it. =[ I kept every nasty thing ever said to me inside...........Makes for a nasty surprise sometimes. I can be feeling really good about...
    deleted deleted
    11 Responses Mar 21, 2009

    24 hours a day 7 days a week 4 weeks a month 12

    month's a year, I have to live with my verbal abuser and no adult will stand up for me or believe me.... i am stuck here...
    nomnommings nomnommings
    16-17, F
    2 Responses Dec 22, 2014

    There have been so many incidences

    that I no longer want to remember them. I don't want to disclose the people who did that but It bruised me and made me a loner and introvert. I go back into my shell as soon as I sense aggressiveness in a person. I have been accused of being distant and cold. I do not want to be...
    Susana1985 Susana1985
    31-35, F
    3 Responses Apr 21, 2014

    *gets yelled at for not getting ready*

    *gets ready* *gets yelled at for getting ready*
    toxiccpastelss toxiccpastelss
    16-17, F
    4 Responses Jan 3

    I have friend . It is immaterial

    whether it is him/her . If we got for a coffee or lunch or dinner and the food or service is bad . I am not allowed to complain . If i complain that person walks out of the place and calls me i am an as-hole Infront of public. That person believes one never should complain . Now...
    olivetree1969 olivetree1969
    46-50, M
    1 Response Jan 4, 2015

    My mom says the nastiest things about me

    and to me. 😢 the person who gave birth to me.
    Ayers010 Ayers010
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Dec 14, 2015

    Whoever made up that rhyme about “sticks

    and stones will break my bones but names will never hurt me” was just plain wrong! Words do hurt. People who are subjected to verbal abuse suffer. People who are subjected to it over time can get so used to it that they lose their sense of themselves as people worth loving...
    areYoureallyhere areYoureallyhere
    22-25, F
    2 Responses May 10, 2015

    This more of a question,

    but I was hoping someone else from here might be able to answer my question. That question is: "Is my father emotionally/verbally abusive?" This stems from the fact of someone of the things my father does, and a couple close friends of mine have told me that my father is...
    SomePineapple SomePineapple
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Jul 2, 2015

    I was a victim not am .

    he tried to tell me it was normal and I was just experiencing what happens in other peoples relationships behind closed doors . I was too sensitive , to bitchy or whatever. while it was a long time ago the feeling I remember was my heart shattering when he spoke to me like...
    blonde10 blonde10
    36-40, F
    1 Response May 4, 2015

    I have been verbally abuse

    and everyone looks at me like I'm crazy I have God on my side.
    unhappyperson707 unhappyperson707
    18-21, F
    1 Response Apr 10, 2015
    deleted deleted
    Jan 18, 2015

    I can't ******* take anyone anymore,

    everyone is always screaming at each other, blaming one person, talking about about everyone there is to talk about then lying and saying they never said anything about them, everyone making you want to do so many things, hurt them, slash your wrists, bang your head against the...
    FlipFlap98 FlipFlap98
    16-17, F
    May 23, 2014

    My husband is an alcoholic

    and verbally abusive
    cbamy cbamy
    41-45, F
    1 Response Jul 16, 2014

    Well. My parents currently think I am stupid,

    pathetic, a loser, and everything is my fault. Sometimes I want to run away in the woods miles and miles away from my house and plug in my ear phones and blast my music till everybody in town will be listening to rock and roll. But i can't. I just sit in my room, quietly draw or...
    Emilygrace238 Emilygrace238
    13-15, F
    2 Responses Jun 23, 2014

    I was married for 14 years to a verbally

    abusive man. The words he said left me feeling unloved, unsupported, dirty, and doubting everything I have ever known or believed about myself. I left him 5 years ago and it was the best thing that I've ever done. I've remarried the most loving and kind man, but am now...
    ka555 ka555
    56-60, F
    3 Responses Apr 23, 2014

    My ex fiancé was my world.

    They say when you move in together you get to really know your partner... Oh they were right. The amount of times I went to sleep crying because he would belittle me and make me feel like **** because we were at different ends of the spectrum of life... I walked out on him once...
    asilentheart asilentheart
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Jun 25, 2014

    I didn't even know that my life wasn't normal.

    To me, it had become so normal. I was with my husband for 9 years. Things started out great, he was nice, seemed like he cared about me. Then, he gradually started yelling at me and calling me names. Always under the guise of I did something to not make him happy. I am a pleaser...
    romancandle16 romancandle16
    31-35, F
    1 Response Aug 17, 2014


    all,y life i have been put down by women..women are complete savages.when i was in school they called me names for no reason and then again when i "thought" all of them was not the same.when they seem to all be the same..they seem to get enjoyment out of always putting a guy down...
    irongrenadier irongrenadier
    26-30, M
    2 Responses Feb 8, 2012

    I tried to explain to my mom what her

    fat-shaming does to me mentally and she showed no emotion until I accused her of not caring, then proceeded to yell and fat shame me more. eventually she sat down and ignored me as I went back up to my room to cry. sometimes I wish she would just beat me instead, because then...
    bailurs bailurs
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Jul 25, 2015
    deleted deleted
    1 Response May 7, 2015

    Trying To Keep Strong To Ensure I Don't Let My Emotionally And Verbally Abusive Husband Wheedle Back In

    I have been living with my husband for almost 11 years and Ive recently woken up to the reality he has been abusing me and my kids. We got together very quickly after I left my first husband and my two boys were then aged 11 and 7 years. When we were based in my house (first few...
    Fluffie63 Fluffie63
    51-55, F
    4 Responses Sep 1, 2013

    I know I'm in an emotionally abusive

    relationship. 50% of the time it's really good and 50% of the time it is not. There's so much information on how to leave an abusive relationship, but not much for those of us who chose to stay for certain reasons. Is there anyone who is staying in a relationship that is...
    lmcarter74 lmcarter74
    41-45, F
    5 Responses Oct 29, 2014

    my mom tells me that I ruin her life

    and her happiness. I haven't done anything to upset her either, she just takes her anger out on me. not only that, but she also gives me dirty looks all the time for nothing.
    toxiccpastelss toxiccpastelss
    16-17, F
    2 Responses Dec 29, 2015

    I am new to this and it's very hard

    for me to open up. My wife is verbally abusive toward me. I can't take it anymore I just don't know who to talk to about it so I thought I'd give this a try.
    315tatfan 315tatfan
    26-30, M
    2 Responses Jul 16, 2014

    I can't yell back.- One of the perks of being

    voiceless is I can scream in your face when you yell at me. I can never get through to people. The only way I can is by sign language. And no one in my house can do that. SO I'm on my own here. No voice. I sucks. Especially my foster mom is trying to talk to me. She seems to...
    VoicelessAngel VoicelessAngel
    18-21, F
    Dec 8, 2013

    It's funny how it happens

    so slowly... One minute they're your Prince Charming and the next, you're full of anxiety just wondering what will set him off next. Is the house the "right" way? Did I do "enough" today to be able to answer all of his inquisitions? Will he yell tonight? Call me names? Then...
    Lostrainbow Lostrainbow
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Nov 4, 2014

    Yes I am Verbally and emotionally abused by my

    parents, and it is a long time struggle for me. I have been praying to God to change my situation, but I am still in the same rut. But there are things that God made realize. 1. You cannot choose your family. 2. Your parents only love you the best way they know how. 3. Satan...
    codeyellow codeyellow
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Jan 18, 2015

    I'm verbally abused when I do the littlest

    thing wrong. it could be I didn't clean something quick enough. I'm called every name in the book. and sometimes he even spits at me and threatens to kick me out.. I don't know what to do. I feel like I'm nothing. I can't think of one thing I'm good at anymore... and have no...
    Cupcakejunky Cupcakejunky
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Mar 25, 2015

    I just want to share my story

    for those women and girls that feel trapped... I just ended things with my boyfriend of 1 year and 6 months and I cannot recall the last time that I felt this kind of peace. Everything was perfect, until around 8 months into the relationship. He became verbally abusive. At...
    euphorian euphorian
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Oct 18, 2014

    I am 98 % invisible 1 % drama to friends

    and family 1 % hated and used by her.
    needworth needworth
    36-40, M
    Jan 18, 2015

    My dad Verbally abuses my mom,

    sisters and I. He calls me names. And makes me feel like i'm going insane. I used to self harm and he would make fun of me for it. He hurts me everyday and I just have to shut out his voice when he talks.
    LillyBailey LillyBailey
    16-17, F
    1 Response Jan 14, 2014

    Each day I analyze my situation

    and ask myself, what is going on in my marriage? Is this abuse? Do I stay or do I go? I am 33 years old and now a mother of three. I feel like this is my last chance at a successful relationship/marriage and if this marriage fails, then I am doomed. I have a nine year old son...
    Meriposa1980 Meriposa1980
    31-35, F
    4 Responses Jan 8, 2014
    PuckDrop PuckDrop
    22-25, M
    Jan 18, 2015

    So I ran away a couple of days ago,

    and they made me come back (they= police and family). They said they were gonna change and so far that's bullshit. I am leaving when I turn 17 whether they like it or not, they cannot make me stay. I am done with my mother telling me that I am a mean and ugly ***** . She says...
    nomnommings nomnommings
    16-17, F
    Feb 18, 2015

    I was abused for 14 years by my father.

    I feel bad for anyone who has ever had to go through that hell.
    AnarchyOfAthena AnarchyOfAthena
    16-17, F
    1 Response Jan 18, 2015

    I was verbally abused

    for years by my spouse, one day, I decided enough already, so I told myself, next time it happens again, it's war, felt better and been doing that Ever since.
    tigerlo2 tigerlo2
    61-65, M
    1 Response Mar 21, 2015

    I feel worthless as my wife has abused me

    verbally for over a yr. I feel less than human.
    needworth needworth
    36-40, M
    2 Responses Jan 18, 2015

    My Love, My Abuser.

    My love, I understand you have issues with your anxiety. I understand you have bad days. What I don't think you understand is that you become very abusive with your words when you feel this way. When you feel anger, you lash out on me. Do you forget I am the only one you've...
    redrider48189 redrider48189
    1 Response May 14, 2013

    I am currently in a verbally abusive

    and mentally abusive relationship. I want out, but don't know the first steps to take. I have 4 kids and I want to divorce their dad (the abuser). Help!!! Any advice would help! TIA!
    llk84 llk84
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Dec 21, 2014


    My father is a very destructive man. Anything he sees that does not go the way he likes, he destroys it. He destroyed my childhood, for one. He would always yell at me and hit me. He'd drag me across the floor and beat me until he was satisfied. He threatened to kill me multiple...
    duClo duClo
    18-21, T
    2 Responses Aug 20, 2012

    The Scars You Can't See

    I think that verbal and emotional abuse is the worst kind. If someone beat you up, you will heal, your wounds will dissapair, but when someone says something that really sting, it will last forever, it will suddenly without any warning pop up in your head, and than be on repeate...
    NotAllScarsCanBeSeen NotAllScarsCanBeSeen
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Nov 13, 2013

    I am a subject of verbal abuse 75% of the time

    60% kids 15% parents. I can not be emancipated due to me not reviewing any money. I would have to work to fund my private school, and my life would be terrible. A kid beat me up and threatened to kill me if I cried. My father said that I was only acting sad for attention and...
    13-15, M
    1 Response Oct 21, 2015

    What Now?

    I left him a year ago after ten years of verbal abuse. My trigger words, "repulsive", "disrespectful", "incapable", followed by, " you disgust me"... They still are a part of me. At times, I don't believe them. Then, I get scared and think maybe he was right. I want to scream!
    3 Responses Jan 26, 2013
    popstardiva popstardiva
    Mar 15, 2014

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