I Am a Virgin Forum & Chat Board | What temptations have you faced concerning you virginity?

My friend was adamant I would give up my virginity if I was ever tempted by a female, nude and all (I've never done anything remotely sexual with a female) so I thought: "If the temptation were there would I be able to resist or would I be lost in a moment of passion?" I would like to think I have great self-control, but what about you? Have you had an instance in your life where you were on the verge of giving in? Have you given in? Or under what circumstances do you think you would? i.e the world will end in five mintues lets bonk, etc.

 

Well to start off your friends are idiots.lol But I believe if you have enough self control and you truly want to wait you don't put yourself in those types of positions. For example you know that nothing good will ever come out of heavily making out in the backseat of the drive in with a very hot girl. So you wouldn't do that to yourself, because that's just setting yourself up for failure. I myself am a virgin 20 years old and it's something to be proud of i believe. especially since i have so many pregnant friends now a days. But i recently was a great disappointment to myself because I started hanging out with my ex bf again thinking we could just hangout. (Now the reason we broke up was because he was a lot more sexually experienced than me, and i didn't want to do anything.) So we started hanging out and everything just fell right back into place. But we condoned in oral sex and i have the feeling of not really caring or thinking about it like i though i would. I really enjoyed it, and im kind of mad at myself for enjoying it. Because i always told myself that i wanted to give my husband all of me and nobody would touch me and all that stuff. So i guess you could save i have a guilty conscience now. But that is the only temptation i have faced. But being with him has made me consider giving in and i have even thought while in the moment " Just let him put it in, it will feel good, and you wont regret it" and that seriously scares me when i think like that.

 

I have been close several times...as in, guy and I have great chemistry just talking. We start kissing...and 5 minutes later he's got me on the bed...him on top...sometimes clothes start flying off. I have also had "sleep overs" with a select few guys. Funny though, it isn't moments like those that prove to be the greatest temptations for me. Maybe I've just gotten to a point where I've become afraid now, because I can break out of the "moment of passion" very quickly once I realize my guy is losing his control to passion. Unfortunate for the guy, but I am able to un-sexify the atmosphere. If that's even a word. 

Anyway, my greatest temptation comes from my failing love life. It's unbelievable how many guys have left me because of my choice to wait. Even though they give me all the sh*t about being willing to wait and blah blah in the beginning. No. I guess it's harder than they think...or I'm just not worth all that trouble. It also doesn't help that my closest friends are very sexually active. While they support me for my choice...it's hard not to see the difference. Me = single all my life with short "flings" here and there. Sexually active friends = in long term relationships...some about to tie the knot.

I have met maybe 2 guys in my life I would have been willing to sleep with to just "get it over with." And I think I could have been fine with it, because they were gorgeous and I had nothing but physical lust for them. I have yet to give in to any form of sex. Part of me is afraid to do it even with the opportunity right in my face...and part of me is afraid that I will one day give in...just seems like everyone's doing it...it's fun and doesn't harm anyone...why not? Well, I've been strong so far. I want sex to be special. And I want to believe I am worthwhile...someone that not just any guy can have.

 

Well Raynna I'm probaly in no place to be giving you advice, being that i have had little sexual encounters, but I am technically still a virgin no matter what anyone says. But I have alot of friends that tell me everyday how much they wish they wouldve waited for that special one. I don't have a single friend that doesnt regret losing their virginity which is sad. and that is the thing that makes me break out of the "moment of passion" or just plain old temptation. A lot of times i feel like that as well, like let me just find somebody that im sexually attracted to and just do it. But giving your virginity away to someone is such a personal thing you dont want to just give it to anyone. and many times i find myself asking am i being punished for keeping my legs closed? I know I'm a beautiful girl so i don't understand. well the thing is that most men want something that is easy to get, not a lot of men are up for the challenge. They think they are in the beginning Ive heard the " Oh you"re a virgin?! That"s amazing, of course I can wait for you" then my relationship slowly fades. But the way you know youve found the one, is when they are willing to seriously get to know you and love you for who you are on the inside. So cliche i know, but its soo true I also have many of married friends who waited until they got married to loose their virginity and they are so much more happier and truely in love than ever. and they tell me that once you fall in love without physical thing it makes the sexual that much more intimate when it does happen. and that says so much to me and makes me want that connection with someone someday. If you think about it there aren't that many virgins out there today, so it should make you feel important and unique from every other girl out there. Good luck to you and i hope i was some kind of help:)

 

Thanks Jojo! It's nice to know I'm not alone. And you know what...if I get all technical, I wouldn't consider oral as something that takes away ones virginity. However, I have been told that my simple desire/thought for sex = lost virginity O.o Extreme much? Nowadays, I think it's just so hard to find other virgins out there...who are also dating around. So it's good to know I'm not that much of a black sheep :P

Be strong too, girl! Don't let guys pushed you past your border. I've met a few guys who've tried, telling me things like..."you're a virgin?...and then your first ever experience is going to be full on all the way...how are you going to handle it if you've never tried anything in between?" Well, whatever. I was angry that he said those things to me so he could try to get closer to my v-flower. Makes me think sometimes...but I'm really not worried about not ever having tried the "other bases." I trust it will not be a problem once I've found my man.

 

My temptation is constantly seeking for pure love....I end up been expose to things dat makes me wanna give in sumtimes