I Am a Widower, Does It Get Better

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    hi, everyone, I'm new here,

    my wife past away on 12th jan 2016, just under 2 months ago, after 36 years marrage,im finding everyday with out her so painfull, s down cant stop breaking down, will get ay easyer
    ronnie1956 ronnie1956
    61-65, M
    Mar 4, 2016

    Yes It Does!

    You will never forget a part of yourself is missing, but you will add lots of new parts to your life. These new parts have enriched and added - not supplanted - my cherished memories.
    deleted deleted
    Nov 1, 2010

    A Bit About Me.

    Ten years ago late one night I asked my wife to pick me up some cigarettes, on her way home from work. As she was driving back home she was hit by a drunk driver.  I blame myself If I had waited til the morning to buy my own cigarettes she would have been home by then.  I gave...
    GreyMadison GreyMadison
    51-55, M
    1 Response Sep 25, 2013

    Of Course It Does...

    My hot, sexy, wife died in 2003.  That is what I wanted and that is what I found.  I didn't know what to put for my first story, but I guess this is it.  Yeh, I invested my life in Huntington's Disease, I knew there was no hope but if you love someone dont think twice.  Sure...
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Jan 2, 2011

    Time to step out & do what I want & need.

    No explanations needed..being widow I'm going to embrace no explanations needed. Just do what makes me & my loved ones happy. But I have to start putting myself first.
    NotperfectEver NotperfectEver
    41-45, F
    Aug 8, 2015

    Broken Heart

    Its been almost 20 years and i feel like it was yesterday!
    beeuuty beeuuty
    56-60, F
    Feb 2, 2013

    Christmas Tears

    I broke down in a store buying Christmas cards. My wife of 37 years died of cancer last January. Christmas was her favorite holiday and she did it to the nines. She left seven large plastic tubs of Christmas stuff plus three decorated trees.My son pulled it all together and it...
    ratbrandt ratbrandt
    2 Responses Dec 10, 2012

    Dazed and Confused

    It's been a little over 7 months since I lost my wife of 6 years. I thought I was doing well in my moving forward, but, now that all the planning and finalizations are done, I'm finding myself feeling more lost and adrift than before. Being recently laid off doesn't help I know...
    wingedim wingedim
    1 Response Jul 6, 2009

    Living Alone

    My wife died very suddenly 14 years ago this week. She was only 58 and my four children were stll quite young. I made a ecsion thta if my children did not have a mother at least they would always have a  home. Since then they have all moved on  .I changed jobs and have...
    Fulke Fulke
    70+, M
    3 Responses Nov 3, 2009


    I woke up early this morning and it suddenly dawned on me just how alone I really am!  Of couse I have work colleagues/friends (most of whom are married and have their own families) who I sometimes go out with on occasions, but not what I would call 'close' friends...
    shadow111 shadow111
    51-55, F
    Aug 8, 2010

    First Time Writing About This:

    I lost my wife of three years in 2006, while I was 5,000 miles away in Iraq. I have had issues with sleeping, anger, relationships, trust, etc ever since. I am getting better, but only because I got tired of being broken, and definitely NOT because I received any help from the...
    divinemisanthrope divinemisanthrope
    31-35, M
    2 Responses Jul 23, 2011

    My Princess passed away just 10 months ago,

    i still feel her laying down next to me on the bed, i close my eyes and still see her beautiful smile and cute perfect eyes looking at me while she tells me she loves me......... I miss her so much my chest hurts, i miss her cute little lips, and her dimples..... please if you...
    dasher73 dasher73
    41-45, M
    3 Responses Aug 6, 2014

    What Now?

    I actually know that it will get better. My first wife died shortly before our twentieth wedding anniversary and it took a couple years for the agony to wane. Now my second wife has died just last month-we were together for 19 years, married for 15. I know that there will be good...
    chessguy chessguy
    4 Responses Feb 16, 2009

    For 18years

    My wife died very suddenly at the age of 58, 18years ago this week. I was in deep shock and all my children have been affected in one way or another. I am now getting old and realise that most couples have a partner to share tieir declining years with whereas I do not and I have...
    deleted deleted
    2 Responses Nov 10, 2013

    Alone After So Many Years Together

    It's hard to describe what's going on. The big house is filled with her presence and yet it feels so empty. Last night I saw her again in more than one dream. At one point I asked her to call my cell phone and leave me a message just so I could hear her voice again. There is...
    ripvanr ripvanr
    4 Responses Mar 27, 2011

    It Does

    I am here to tell all of you that it does get better with time. This year, on July 2nd, we would have celebrated our 40th anniversary. I've been thinking a lot about her lately. We were married in 1972--both of us in our early 20s--and spent a year and a half traveling the world...
    oceanblue72 oceanblue72
    61-65, M
    4 Responses Jun 27, 2012

    I just passed the two year mark of being a

    widower. Now starting on year 3 it gets different but I wouldn't say it is getting any better. I am finding that the 22 years I had with my wife were the anomaly. She was my first girlfriend, my first relationship in my late 20's, and she was my wife for over 20 years. I...
    lonelyinroc lonelyinroc
    51-55, M
    Jun 29, 2015

    Wonderful Memories

    I was widowed In May 06 after almost 17 years of Marriage. My lads would like me to meet someone and often ask when I will do so.They say you need a man by yourside.But it is not easy to find someone who can adjust to a family with teen kids -who are lovely but teens.I want...
    Ruthonly Ruthonly
    Mar 12, 2009

    Whats Wrong?

    I lost my husband to cancer almost 3 years ago. I am in charge of my life and the life 2 daughters that I love with all my heart. I am , though, lonely. I need someone to talk to, to tell about my day, to love. I need a companion. My family and friends just dont get it. Saying...
    widwr517 widwr517
    4 Responses Nov 27, 2011


    I am writing this today because i am feeling heavy and want to vent off my pressure. This starts app. eight years back when I decided to give up the job and start my own business. Started this with full consent of my family. my family means my wife and my children. For this I...
    KDSharma KDSharma
    51-55, M
    1 Response May 3, 2012

    I Am A Widower At 24

    I recently lost my wife of 3 years 2 a fatal car crash in trinidad and tobago on december 20,2009, leaving behind our 2 year old daughter who has no idea wat has happened. I am devastaed and frankly I don't know if I can go on........she was also my best friend of 6 years..
    need2heal need2heal
    22-25, F
    5 Responses Jan 5, 2010

    My Story

      It was 2001 and I was barely 6 months out of college when I met my wife. We met the old fashioned way, being setup through mutual friends M and K. It seemed an almost instant connection between us and we hit it off well. We had our first kiss that first weekend late...
    RandomWanderer RandomWanderer
    31-35, M
    1 Response Oct 3, 2009

    Missing Her

     My wife of 16 1/2 years died June 9 2009 at the age of 37.  Each day I wake up and know that I will not  get to touch her or watch her sleep anymore.  It has been a very rough 20 days since she died.  I feel very lost not if the decision I make we...
    wishing72 wishing72
    41-45, M
    2 Responses Jun 29, 2009

    Maybe In Time

    I'm a three tour nam vet. Blown up, gut shot and stabbed. My wife and I lost our seven year old son, back in 1981. Our marriage survived this ndeath, most do not. I lost my wife of 35 years in 2007. She was never sick. Eight days after hospital(er) visit she passed on. In time...
    kbar kbar
    3 Responses Aug 20, 2009

    Trying To Move Forward

    I lost my husband June 2008. We were married 36 years. I am just completely lost, not sure where to go from here? I feel at times I am just 'doing time'. I am lucky in that I have a good relationship with my son who lives with his girlfriend and little boy. But, I realize they...
    shadow111 shadow111
    51-55, F
    1 Response Nov 24, 2009

    Just Became a Widow After 26 Years

    My husband of 26 years just died 3 weeks ago.  We did EVERYTHING together, so it's so very hard to get used to the idea that now I'm alone in everything.  I need to develop a new network of friends, but I'm not sure what is the best way to do that.  If anyone here...
    leopard28 leopard28
    8 Responses Mar 3, 2009

    Just Hurt

    its been about two years now. second birthday, second christmas. i have no interest in dating. i wonder if thats normal. i not only miss him but i feel like everyone around me thinks that i should be over him by now. so, i no longer am honest about my feelings, i hide them which...
    cricket21 cricket21
    51-55, F
    Jan 16, 2013

    Celebrating Her Life

    The party's over, the guests from out of town have all been packed off and bid farewell, with earnest assurances that we will stay in touch, that I am always welcome at their door ... that everything, somehow, will be the same as it always was. Not so. We had the blessing...
    windlion windlion
    56-60, M
    11 Responses Nov 2, 2008

    Missing Her

     My wife of 16 1/2 years dies June 9 2009 at the age of 37.  Each day I wake up and know that I will not  get to touch her or watch her sellp anymore.  It has been a very rough 20 days since she died.  I feel very lost not if the decision I make we...
    wishing72 wishing72
    41-45, M
    2 Responses Jun 29, 2009

    I Just Don't Know.....

    I am sad, lost alone, broken, no I am just not here anymore. My wife passed away this year on 2nd April at 2.40pm from kidney cancer. I feel as if I died that day too but I am unable to rest in peace. She was taken from us aged way too young at 33. I will never forget sitting...
    iwillloveyoualways iwillloveyoualways
    31-35, M
    6 Responses Dec 1, 2011

    Catching Up

    I got married when i was 15 and was married with the same man for 40 years.He was 17 years older.All my life i was just a mother and wife,my husband provided for our every need that when he passed away two years ago to kidney cancer i was shocked to discover that i have to be in...
    Ednasy Ednasy
    56-60, F
    Aug 18, 2012

    35 Years With My College Sweetheart

    I met my husband in 1973 my junior year of college.  I knew immediately that I would spend my life with him.  We went into business shortly after college and molded a life that gave us the opportunity to share most of the aspects of our lives together.  We lived...
    GlamourMom GlamourMom
    51-55, F
    5 Responses Feb 7, 2009

    Psychology Research Study

    The University of Liverpool are looking for widowed women of all ages to talk about their experience of widowhood. This research looks at the social effects of widowhood. We are interested to hear about your relationships with family and friends, your social activities and...
    UniversityResearch UniversityResearch
    18-21, F
    Oct 15, 2012
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