I Am A Wife In A Sexless Marriage

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 75 People

    To Stay Or To Go.

    I have been married once before this sexless marriage. My first husband could have sex standing on his head chewing gum. It was a no brainer and next to eating and video games and shopping it was definitely important. My husband now never wants to have sex again. Does not even...
    misseslr misseslr
    51-55, F
    May 27, 2013

    So what is the public consensus on the top

    reasons for a man not wanting or needing a physical relationship with his wife? Or vice versa.
    Inspireme1 Inspireme1
    46-50, F
    6 Responses Aug 2, 2014

    It will be 14 years of marriage in August

    and 3 sons together ages 11 & 10 yo twins. Problems started roughly 3 years ago. We've been together 5 times within the 3 year period and I think I only enjoyed it once because I felt he wasn't into it. He was my first ( I waited until marriage ) because I didnt want to share...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    6 Responses Jul 13, 2015

    I'm in a sexless marriage.

    The last time we had sex was 7+ years ago and I'm in my early 40s. At first there were always excuses...we were fighting...money issues...small kids were in the house....etc. Now I'm just frustrated and pissed that things have gone on this long. The biggest issue with ending...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    2 Responses Mar 27, 2016

    I have been married for 13 years-since I was 20

    years old. I've always heard that a woman's sexual peak is In her 30's but if that's true I wouldn't know. I do know that I am a physical person. I am very sexual and love physical intimacy. I crave it. My husband knows this too but he does not fulfill my physical needs. When...
    danibaby8 danibaby8
    36-40, F
    3 Responses Dec 21, 2013

    I have the challenge of living with someone

    with Aspergers. He was not always like this but now it is horrible. Besides a quick thoughtless kisses goodbye or good night there is no affection or intimacy. Thing is, as a man with Aspergers he does not need it or desire it like I do. It is not really his fault, just the way...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response May 13, 2014

    I have been in a sexless partnership

    for 5 years. I am at the point now where I think I should break free. He will allow me to take care of his needs and will not help take care of mine. Says he loves me then won't touch me yet will take hand jobs and blow jobs from me no problem. I am angry hurt and feeling...
    Bikermom13 Bikermom13
    41-45, F
    2 Responses Sep 13, 2015

    I am a male living in London away from my

    family from last 4 years. We both are bankers and shd got this life time opportunity in New York, hence she had to move. We hardly have time to meet each other due to our busy schedule. Virtually we had no sex in last 4 years and I feel so uncontrolled to succumb to some other...
    unsatisfiedwives unsatisfiedwives
    31-35, M
    1 Response May 25, 2015

    i'm into an affair with a married man,

    i know this is terribly wrong, but how can something so wrong made me feel so right? i love his touches... it brings me back to live... but... i want to stay with my husband, sadly he has no desire of me, it's like staying with my brother for the last 2 decades.... i cried...
    amconfused amconfused
    46-50, F
    7 Responses Sep 13, 2014

    I spent a great day with one of my closest

    friends today. While I am disappointed with the short term results, I think I have to choose my love over my passion. At least until I have exhausted every avenue to adjust his behavior. That being said, my constantly traveling husband has just notified me that in addition to...
    Candymaker Candymaker
    46-50, F
    1 Response Jul 31, 2014

    New Home for the ILIASM Community Folks

    dealing with sexless marriages have -- for years -- sought and offered support at the Experience Project in the experience “I Live In A Sexless Marriage” and related experiences. Member of “ILIASM” comprise all ages, walks of life, economic classes, and nationalities...
    ILIASMAllie ILIASMAllie
    46-50, F
    1 Response Apr 3, 2016

    I just turned 40 years old - have been married

    since I was 21, have one son 8 years old, the first years of my marriage was full of passion but still somehow I always felt that my husband desire is much lesser than mine. then we started having sex once a month..It wasnt enough for me, but I learned to live with this and...
    EvaNY73 EvaNY73
    41-45, F
    1 Response Feb 21, 2014

    Why does something so simple

    and basic have to be so complicated? I mean, sex is part of the marriage deal is it not? Either we're married and in love and are lovers trying to love each other, or we're not. When you get stuck and in a rut without sex, what's next? What does this say about him? What...
    Heartfelt38 Heartfelt38
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Aug 6, 2015

    Feeling isolated and lonely.

    Lots of energy bundled up inside me and ready to burst. Frustrations eating away at me, pulling me down into a fuzzy hell...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    3 Responses Jun 11, 2014

    Why

    Why would you marry some one and not want an intimate relationship???
    misseslr misseslr
    51-55, F
    3 Responses May 26, 2013

    I don't think I can keep up this act of no sex

    no intimacy - much longer. At breaking point. It's too painful. I'm such a free spirit/extravert. I must make an exit plan. Never ever wanted to separate, but I'm too miserable to keep on this way. : _ [
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    4 Responses Sep 20, 2014

    I am also ADD. I take Adderall XR30 every

    morning. As it happens with us ADD'ers we misplace and forget things, so I ran out of my meds and had to take a lower dose that I keep on hand for evening events. During these three weeks, my husband was very relaxed and happy and affectionate. (Still no sex). When my meds...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    4 Responses Jun 6, 2015

    I have been a sexless marriage

    for years with sex coming and going a few times a year. But now even this is gone. My husband now sleeps in another room altogether. There is no discussion with me- it just is this way now. I am the primary wage earner in the family and have been for years. I was told by...
    Christina6581 Christina6581
    46-50, F
    2 Responses May 2, 2015

    I'm bummed tonight. I sat down with my grandma,

    swore her secrecy, and asked her advice about what I should do. She told me to lose weight, wear makeup and do my hair.
    Candymaker Candymaker
    46-50, F
    1 Response Jul 30, 2014

    I can help with this.

    .. even am looking for new experience... plz inbox me if ur interested
    nycguy1a nycguy1a
    26-30, M
    May 9, 2015

    Ok. I posted in another category

    when I was pretty upset. Now I'm doing much better, but there is still something bothering me. My husband and I opened our marriage because (according to him) his sex drive is really low and mine is really high... Long story short, I found someone that was everything I want in a...
    renae85 renae85
    31-35
    3 Responses Jul 18, 2014
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