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I Am a Woman In a Sexless Marriage

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 4,081 People

    It just sucks! It's a situation

    that apparently none of my closest gf's can comprehend. They don't believe that two ppl can live in the same house as basically housemates and NEVER have any physical contact. Their responses and attitudes towards my explanation of what has been going on, or rather lack of what...
    deleted deleted 26-30 8 Responses Sep 14

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    So after spending so much time alone,

    lonely and frustrated, I started smoking again about 5 months ago. After quitting for 7 years. I have kept it from my H since he traveled so much. Now he has been home from travel for weeks and he finally put it together. He went in my purse this morning and found my cigarettes...
    Candymaker Candymaker 41-45, F 1 Response Aug 25

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    I have been with my husband

    since I was 17, I am now 38 years old. We have been married for 16 years. I have been struggling with the lack of sex for a long time. He has always been this way so I am not sure why this is really starting to bug me so much. I have never felt beautiful or wanted. I am just a...
    artsysunflower artsysunflower 36-40, F 1 Response Aug 28

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    So today we had the Discussion

    after months of not really talking to each other and me sleeping in the couch. In six years we have had this same talk six times , every year. And again he says he doesn't know why he doesn't want sex with me, he thinks it takes two to make relationship work( well HELLO...
    Imoveryou Imoveryou 26-30, F 4 Responses Nov 4

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    I have been married for almost 17 years

    and having an affair with the same person for almost 8 years, off and on.
    funlecy1 funlecy1 46-50, F 11 Responses Sep 23

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    What is your advice in how to deal with being

    outcasted by refusers family and friends as the bad or crazy girlfriend? He is very good at being the victim and it pains me everyone thinks I'm crazy, or a ***** because I am leaving him. I don't know what he has told them but I know I wasn't invited to yearly thing and a...
    Imoveryou Imoveryou 26-30, F 2 Responses Dec 6

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    Not Completely

    Me and my hubby don't have sex as much as I would like. But its both of our faults - he's not as interested as a younger more vibrant man might be, and I simply don't get the pleasure out of it anymore. I'm so glad we're in an open marriage and I can get what I need elsewhere...
    HotwifeKelly31 HotwifeKelly31 31-35, F 9 Responses Nov 7, 2013

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    I am grateful for reading other stories

    and that I am not alone! My husband and I have been married for 9 years. The sex is always great, but has NEVER been frequent. There was always an excuse as to why not. Now all of the excuses have been disproven and the truth is he has no idea why he has no sex drive. We have...
    frustratedbb frustratedbb 26-30, F 9 Responses Jan 6

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    In a sexless relationship

    for six years with otherwise wonderful man. Yesterday was our last anniversary because I have decided to leave this trap. I loved him with all my heart but feeble excuses and endless promises about changing and asking me to be patient are not enough anymore, rather I see through...
    Imoveryou Imoveryou 26-30, F 27 Responses Oct 1

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    TeddyboyUK72 TeddyboyUK72 41-45, M Oct 26

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    We Had The "talk", And What A Shock!

    So I finally worked up the courage to sit hubby down and have yet another “talk”, with him. The kids were both at sleepovers, and I thought this was the perfect time.  I just started out by saying I love him dearly, but these last few years I have felt more and more lonely...
    itsAmysturn itsAmysturn 41-45, F 48 Responses May 19, 2011

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    I have been married for almost three years now.

    My husband and I have not had sex in months. I believe he enjoys his video game and social media instead. I've talked to him about it, asked if there was someone else. I am dedicated to my husband and our marriage. It's not like he has a wife who says no, I don't feel like it...
    MrsEG MrsEG 41-45, F 5 Responses Sep 22

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    Deedle623 Deedle623 51-55, F 3 Responses Sep 18

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    I'm a woman age 40 in a sexless marriage.

    Married almost four years and I bet we haven't even had sex two dozen times; sleep in separate beds, but I love him still. Well, I've been toying around with the idea of having a fling with an ex-coworker. He's in the same boat in his marriage...he's 44. We actually has lunch...
    blondi73 blondi73 41-45, F 10 Responses Aug 14

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    Just Tired

    I think that I am over this sexless marriage... I have been married for 5 years now... I have tried everything to get him to want me sexually.. I don't want to waste another 5 years living this way.... I feel so rejected and my pride is hurt... I take care of myself and I get hit...
    Cy0521 Cy0521 36-40, F 7 Responses Oct 17, 2013

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    My husband and I have been married

    for two years. Before we got married we talked about how important sex was to me, and he agreed. We had a great sex life up until we got married. As it stands now, the last time we had sex was three days after our wedding. I have tried everything, crying, begging, anger...
    janesdoe111 janesdoe111 41-45, F 12 Responses Dec 7, 2013

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    I met my husband in the 7th grade

    but we didn't connect until high school. I became pregnant in our Senior year and we were married while still in school (a week to the day after we found out I was pregnant) - basically pushed into marriage by my mother (she promised to help us w/money etc...which she didn't...
    olderbutnotdead olderbutnotdead 51-55, F 4 Responses Aug 25

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    Sexless Or Loveless..?

    I don't mean to pry into this group, but it was suggested to post original from 'I live in a sexless marriage' group. We Live In a Sexless Marriage...   Aside from real physical, medical and or psychological reasons for not having sex with your spouse, I do believe the...
    lonewolf11 lonewolf11 41-45, M 41 Responses Mar 16, 2008

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    If You Think It's Worth Save'n

    To all of you out there in this situation.My husband is in fact my best friend.He knows me better than anyone on earth.We have a wonderful family!But sexualy our relationship has never been a romantic sexual one.And like alot of couples,we thought there must be something wrong...
    DivaReba DivaReba 31-35, F 20 Responses Oct 10, 2012

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    it's been quite awhile

    since I have posted on here...probably months now...last time I had just had a really bad day and vented on here and got some really hurtful private messages and nasty comments, so much so that I went off the site for awhile..it actually made a very dark time in my life that...
    suenit suenit 56-60, F 9 Responses Aug 16

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    I have been married for nearly 27 years.

    We were only intimate during the years trying to have babies. I had 3 miscarriages and was able to have two kids. One going to be a senior in college and one junior in high school. We probably had less than 50 times of being intimate out of 27 years! I work full time all these...
    SoLost63 SoLost63 51-55, F 5 Responses May 13

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    TeddyboyUK72 TeddyboyUK72 41-45, M Nov 24

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    Finally, I Moved Out...

    Folks,It’s really rather ironical but it was a marriage counselor with 37 years of expertise, who advised me to walk out of my marriage.My husband obviously is very upset with her but I finally see that my marriage is not going to last no matter what I do.I have moved out and...
    horny39 horny39 41-45, F 35 Responses Mar 16, 2011

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    I am currently quite emotional,

    being lonely from inside is killing me, as much as outside.. dying without being wanted needed furthermore loved.. I know that's not reason, but how about all my youth, my years of physical service as a wife, giving you beautiful kids to be proud of, being everything in our...
    081275fizz 081275fizz 36-40, F 3 Responses Dec 1

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    I'm looking for a girl to ****.

    Soooo damn horny right now. My hole is throbbing. Lets make Eachother drip.
    slutalone slutalone 26-30, F Sep 1

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    I am seeing a lawyer.

    I need support and validation and to hear other peoples stories who went through the terror of divorce and found contentment on the other side
    selfcompassion selfcompassion 51-55, F 10 Responses Sep 6

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    In My Own Words

    I can't even tell you how long it's been since we've had romance in our marriage.Been so long,the last time he even tried to be romantic.It just gave me the creeps.I went long for just a short time.And I finaly told him to please stop.I took his hand,and I placed over his penis.I...
    DivaReba DivaReba 31-35, F 15 Responses Jul 27, 2012

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    I am a man interested in the thoughts of WIaSM.

    For those of you who feel you are not ready to leave your marriage (for what ever reason - financial, children, other), how do you care for your needs? Accept? Outsource? Channel? What works?
    BradsBitts BradsBitts 36-40, M 4 Responses Oct 5

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    So, my home team was playing on MNF.

    I am out of town, on my own. Told h I was going to bar to watch game. Game's been over 2 hours, having a great time (we won). Men flirting with me, feeling the power of Woman. H texts why aren't u home? Said I'm leaving when my playlist on jukebox is over. He's sulking and...
    Candymaker Candymaker 41-45, F 4 Responses Sep 9

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    I'm a 43 yrs, educated,

    decent, gentle person trapped in a sexless marriage. I'm looking for a woman who wants intimate friendship with love care and emotions. She could be widowed,divorced single, separated anything. Every time I look for someone it's for money. I'm from Chandigarh. Any suggestions...
    Raajan71 Raajan71 41-45, M 1 Response Oct 16

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    youngerolderdating youngerolderdating 26-30, F 4 Responses Oct 10

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    I Pretend

    I fake to get along with my husband ..... - I would try to talk to him about why there is no sex in our marriage ... - I complained constantly, about his lack of envolment, why he wont do anything with me, or go anywhere with me ... - For 2 years I tried, but he is happy to...
    westsideblues1 westsideblues1 41-45, F 14 Responses Jun 10, 2012

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    My husband is around 20 years older

    than me. We were both divorced when we met each other. I'd been cheated on and he'd been with a wife who never wanted to find a job (to make a long story short). We were attracted to each other because I knew he could be faithful and he knew that I was a financially independant...
    coincee coincee 31-35, F 6 Responses Oct 29

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    I am trying to learn to cope in a sexless

    marriage, And was wondering if there are any other couples out there that would like to talk and relate with.
    ooomooo ooomooo 18-21, F 4 Responses Sep 3

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    I Live In A Sexless Marriage Already... But I'm Getting Married In July...

    I hope that in writing this, I'm not sending all of my heart into the open, only to get nothing in return... I have raked the internet for any and all hope and help for our relationship, and somehow I was led to this site. I hope this was not a coincidence. A bit about me...
    WillowD WillowD 22-25, F 72 Responses Mar 26, 2011

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    My husband and I are just married this year.

    He comes from a strict religious upbringing and so he was a virgin at the time we married. I was not. Anyway, he wanted to “save himself”, his virginity that is, until our wedding night and so we never had sex before that time. When I agreed to marry him, I was aware and...
    deleted deleted 26-30 5 Responses Aug 31

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    Is there any woman out there

    who lived in a sexless marriage and they were able to fix this problem? I just don't want to believe that my only option is divorce! WTF?
    Brownie27 Brownie27 26-30, F 5 Responses Aug 25

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    Guilt

    This always happens. We had a confrontation today. Well if you could call it that. It started with me calling him out on some really PA behavior. Then one thing led to another. I told him how I felt about some things including his total inability to be intimate with me...
    annhath annhath 46-50, F 10 Responses Nov 20, 2013

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    Letter To My Husband

    The following is the letter that I plan to give my H on Monday. He has a therapy appointment on Monday. I am hoping his therapist can help him deal with it all. Dear H, I have decided to write to you so that I can get my feelings/thoughts across in a clear manner.     I...
    ANewLife4Me ANewLife4Me 46-50, F 19 Responses Feb 4, 2012

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    I Feel Terribly Guilty About Admitting This, But...

    Just putting the words out there makes me sick to my stomach...I am in a sexless marriage. Wow, I feel as if I failed...that somehow it's my destiny to be incredibly lonely and unwanted. I think it all started when i found out I was pregnant with my daughter over 11 years ago. I...
    tinkerbell71 tinkerbell71 41-45, F 16 Responses Jul 8, 2013

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    Love the Man, Miss the Intimacy.

    We have been married 4 years, together 6. In 4 years, we have had sex 1 time.  I pledged through good times and bad - but this is driving me crazy. He is wonderful, and I can say honestly i have NEVER gotten along as well with anyone else in my life - ever.  I trust...
    Sommerville Sommerville 36-40, F 32 Responses Sep 12, 2007

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    Im 12yrs Younger Then My Hubby

    I was married to my husband it was going 7yrs, I was wanting a baby, the amount of sex I was getting from him would never had lead to a Baby, plus he was really good, and his **** was really small, 5incher. We were living with my girlfriend she was few yrs younger then I, she had...
    sluttyteresa76 sluttyteresa76 31-35, F 5 Responses Jun 4, 2011

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    geordiecraig geordiecraig 31-35, M 2 Responses Nov 5

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    I Need To Get Out

    I know my marriage is over. I'm just so afraid of actually doing something about it. We haven't had sex in 4 years. I'm so over being alone in this relationship. I'm just terrified to take the first step. I know he cheats, so that should make it easier right? It's not that easy...
    SouthernGirl1968 SouthernGirl1968 46-50, F 30 Responses Jul 16, 2013

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    Not For Long!

    I am actually on my way out.  My move out date is December 26th, yippee!  The sexlessness was just a symptom of our greater problems, but it was the one symptom that made me wake up and smell the coffee.  We have two beautiful boys that I want not to grow up...
    texaschickie texaschickie 31-35, F 25 Responses Dec 10, 2007

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    my husband has a very libido the last few

    months due to work related stress and lack of sleep on a daily basis. we've talked about it and he knows how drastic the change is and is working on it.. but other than getting a new job we don't really know how to increase it again.. any ideas?
    bakerv bakerv 22-25, F 3 Responses Sep 1

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    This Is What A Sexless Marriage Feels Like

    I found this on the internet. I wish I was wise enough to write this. I am not, Please read the following. It is one of the best stories I ever read. If you read it post a comment. Thank you This is What a Sexless Marriage Feels Like This post is not about virtue. It is not an...
    OutOfPatience OutOfPatience 61-65, M 67 Responses Oct 20, 2011

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    I am 32 and have 2 kids.

    .life is good and normal...but I have this one problem that I cannot fathom... Have any of u felt this way..my hubby n I had loads of issues first few years of marriage that we got past..but everytime he touches me I am.not aroused at all..usually he will never make a move..in...
    NatKey NatKey 31-35, F 9 Responses Apr 19

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    Last night my husband asked me

    if we could try again. He wants to start over and get to know each other again, romantically and physically. He reminisced the first time he saw me. He remembered that I was wearing a red dress. I was new to the agency and trying to learn about the different departments, so...
    Deedle623 Deedle623 51-55, F 6 Responses Sep 19

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    I never thought it would get to this point of

    my life where I end up in a marriage without sex. Im a newlywed so of course I thought we would be having tons of sex but no. The problem is that I think my husband has an addiction to **** and I find that he prefers to ********** more than sex with me. It makes me feel like im...
    trina1012000 trina1012000 26-30, F 12 Responses Oct 26

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    I'm slowly drifting away.

    That once loyal wife I prided myself in being, is coming to a hault. Does he see it in my eyes? Can he sense it? I'm not sure & a big part of me doesn't care. Has he turned me into a hater of intimacy? So many things running through my head on this Sunday night
    gracehopepeace gracehopepeace 31-35, F 9 Responses Feb 2

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