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I Am a Woman In a Sexless Marriage

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 4,027 People

    Just Tired

    I think that I am over this sexless marriage... I have been married for 5 years now... I have tried everything to get him to want me sexually.. I don't want to waste another 5 years living this way.... I feel so rejected and my pride is hurt... I take care of myself and I get hit...
    Cy0521 Cy0521
    36-40, F
    6 Responses Oct 17, 2013

    I posted this elsewhere

    but looking for support from women who may be in the same position - Please excuse my rambling...I just need to get this out. I'm not looking for advice or people to tell me to "get out" I know what I should do it's just a matter of getting up the courage to do so. I've been...
    asterinight asterinight
    31-35, F
    10 Responses May 14, 2014

    Not For Long!

    I am actually on my way out.  My move out date is December 26th, yippee!  The sexlessness was just a symptom of our greater problems, but it was the one symptom that made me wake up and smell the coffee.  We have two beautiful boys that I want not to grow up...
    texaschickie texaschickie
    31-35, F
    21 Responses Dec 10, 2007

    Love the Man, Miss the Intimacy.

    We have been married 4 years, together 6. In 4 years, we have had sex 1 time.  I pledged through good times and bad - but this is driving me crazy. He is wonderful, and I can say honestly i have NEVER gotten along as well with anyone else in my life - ever.  I trust...
    Sommerville Sommerville
    36-40, F
    30 Responses Sep 12, 2007

    This Is What A Sexless Marriage Feels Like

    I found this on the internet. I wish I was wise enough to write this. I am not, Please read the following. It is one of the best stories I ever read. If you read it post a comment. Thank you This is What a Sexless Marriage Feels Like This post is not about virtue. It is not an...
    OutOfPatience OutOfPatience
    61-65, M
    62 Responses Oct 20, 2011

    I Need To Get Out

    I know my marriage is over. I'm just so afraid of actually doing something about it. We haven't had sex in 4 years. I'm so over being alone in this relationship. I'm just terrified to take the first step. I know he cheats, so that should make it easier right? It's not that easy...
    SouthernGirl1968 SouthernGirl1968
    46-50, F
    27 Responses Jul 16, 2013

    I am 32 and have 2 kids.

    .life is good and normal...but I have this one problem that I cannot fathom... Have any of u felt this hubby n I had loads of issues first few years of marriage that we got past..but everytime he touches me I am.not aroused at all..usually he will never make a
    NatKey NatKey
    31-35, F
    8 Responses Apr 19, 2014

    i am not this, i would love to have fun with a

    married girl and show her what she is missing from her man. if you want an on line affair with me please feel to message me , i will also send you a gift on here and down the road i will send you a gift in real life
    mad316 mad316
    41-45, M
    2 Responses Jan 4, 2015

    Do you think that if a man is coming up with

    excuses to not have sex: I'm really tired from work and just want to cuddle, I don't feel good, let's watch tv (knowing they will fall asleep). Is that normal??It seems to me that they may be getting it from somewhere else. Or is it a myth that guys want sex all the time?
    georgiana12 georgiana12
    31-35, F
    7 Responses Aug 17, 2014

    Hi I am a 28year old woman married to a 50 year

    old man that I do not love or have sex with neither does he have any feelings for me. I was a good girl when we got married while he had an inmoral life before which I did not find out until after I married him. He convinced me to marry him somehow and after we got married he...
    deleted deleted
    8 Responses Sep 16, 2014

    I am grateful for reading other stories

    and that I am not alone! My husband and I have been married for 9 years. The sex is always great, but has NEVER been frequent. There was always an excuse as to why not. Now all of the excuses have been disproven and the truth is he has no idea why he has no sex drive. We have...
    frustratedbb frustratedbb
    31-35, F
    7 Responses Jan 6, 2014

    Finally, I Moved Out...

    Folks,It’s really rather ironical but it was a marriage counselor with 37 years of expertise, who advised me to walk out of my marriage.My husband obviously is very upset with her but I finally see that my marriage is not going to last no matter what I do.I have moved out and...
    horny39 horny39
    41-45, F
    31 Responses Mar 16, 2011

    So today we had the Discussion

    after months of not really talking to each other and me sleeping in the couch. In six years we have had this same talk six times , every year. And again he says he doesn't know why he doesn't want sex with me, he thinks it takes two to make relationship work( well HELLO...
    Imoveryou Imoveryou
    26-30, F
    5 Responses Nov 4, 2014

    Letter To My Husband

    The following is the letter that I plan to give my H on Monday. He has a therapy appointment on Monday. I am hoping his therapist can help him deal with it all. Dear H, I have decided to write to you so that I can get my feelings/thoughts across in a clear manner.     I...
    ANewLife4Me ANewLife4Me
    46-50, F
    17 Responses Feb 4, 2012

    It just sucks! It's a situation

    that apparently none of my closest gf's can comprehend. They don't believe that two ppl can live in the same house as basically housemates and NEVER have any physical contact. Their responses and attitudes towards my explanation of what has been going on, or rather lack of what...
    deleted deleted
    6 Responses Sep 14, 2014

    I met my husband in the 7th grade

    but we didn't connect until high school. I became pregnant in our Senior year and we were married while still in school (a week to the day after we found out I was pregnant) - basically pushed into marriage by my mother (she promised to help us w/money etc...which she didn't...
    olderbutnotdead olderbutnotdead
    56-60, F
    2 Responses Aug 25, 2014

    I have been married for almost 17 years

    and having an affair with the same person for almost 8 years, off and on.
    funlecy1 funlecy1
    46-50, F
    10 Responses Sep 23, 2014
    deleted deleted
    2 Responses Sep 18, 2014

    I am trying to learn to cope in a sexless

    marriage, And was wondering if there are any other couples out there that would like to talk and relate with.
    ooomooo ooomooo
    22-25, F
    4 Responses Sep 3, 2014

    I have been married for nearly 27 years.

    We were only intimate during the years trying to have babies. I had 3 miscarriages and was able to have two kids. One going to be a senior in college and one junior in high school. We probably had less than 50 times of being intimate out of 27 years! I work full time all these...
    SoLost63 SoLost63
    51-55, F
    4 Responses May 13, 2014

    I have been married for almost three years now.

    My husband and I have not had sex in months. I believe he enjoys his video game and social media instead. I've talked to him about it, asked if there was someone else. I am dedicated to my husband and our marriage. It's not like he has a wife who says no, I don't feel like it...
    MrsEG MrsEG
    41-45, F
    4 Responses Sep 22, 2014

    So after spending so much time alone,

    lonely and frustrated, I started smoking again about 5 months ago. After quitting for 7 years. I have kept it from my H since he traveled so much. Now he has been home from travel for weeks and he finally put it together. He went in my purse this morning and found my cigarettes...
    Candymaker Candymaker
    46-50, F
    1 Response Aug 25, 2014

    Not Completely

    Me and my hubby don't have sex as much as I would like. But its both of our faults - he's not as interested as a younger more vibrant man might be, and I simply don't get the pleasure out of it anymore. I'm so glad we're in an open marriage and I can get what I need elsewhere...
    HotwifeKelly31 HotwifeKelly31
    31-35, F
    7 Responses Nov 7, 2013

    I'm looking for a girl to ****.

    Soooo damn horny right now. My hole is throbbing. Lets make Eachother drip.
    slutalone slutalone
    26-30, F
    Sep 1, 2014

    What is your advice in how to deal with being

    outcasted by refusers family and friends as the bad or crazy girlfriend? He is very good at being the victim and it pains me everyone thinks I'm crazy, or a ***** because I am leaving him. I don't know what he has told them but I know I wasn't invited to yearly thing and a...
    Imoveryou Imoveryou
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Dec 6, 2014
    TeddyboyUK72 TeddyboyUK72
    41-45, M
    Oct 26, 2014

    Sexless Or Loveless..?

    I don't mean to pry into this group, but it was suggested to post original from 'I live in a sexless marriage' group. We Live In a Sexless Marriage...   Aside from real physical, medical and or psychological reasons for not having sex with your spouse, I do believe the...
    lonewolf11 lonewolf11
    41-45, M
    41 Responses Mar 16, 2008

    I Live In A Sexless Marriage Already... But I'm Getting Married In July...

    I hope that in writing this, I'm not sending all of my heart into the open, only to get nothing in return... I have raked the internet for any and all hope and help for our relationship, and somehow I was led to this site. I hope this was not a coincidence. A bit about me...
    WillowD WillowD
    22-25, F
    69 Responses Mar 26, 2011
    TeddyboyUK72 TeddyboyUK72
    41-45, M
    Nov 24, 2014

    my husband has a very libido the last few

    months due to work related stress and lack of sleep on a daily basis. we've talked about it and he knows how drastic the change is and is working on it.. but other than getting a new job we don't really know how to increase it again.. any ideas?
    bakerv bakerv
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Sep 1, 2014

    Last night my husband asked me

    if we could try again. He wants to start over and get to know each other again, romantically and physically. He reminisced the first time he saw me. He remembered that I was wearing a red dress. I was new to the agency and trying to learn about the different departments, so...
    deleted deleted
    6 Responses Sep 19, 2014
    geordiecraig geordiecraig
    36-40, M
    2 Responses Nov 5, 2014


    This always happens. We had a confrontation today. Well if you could call it that. It started with me calling him out on some really PA behavior. Then one thing led to another. I told him how I felt about some things including his total inability to be intimate with me...
    annhath annhath
    46-50, F
    8 Responses Nov 20, 2013

    I've been married for nearly 10 years.

    I'm 35, he's 47...we have two children. In my early 20's I started experiencing high libido. Once I hit 30 the hormone flood gates burst and I have been "acting like a man" (my husband's words) since! He suffers from Low T and takes injections monthly (only agreed to this...
    BlueLacey BlueLacey
    36-40, F
    4 Responses Aug 22, 2014

    My husband and I have been married

    for two years. Before we got married we talked about how important sex was to me, and he agreed. We had a great sex life up until we got married. As it stands now, the last time we had sex was three days after our wedding. I have tried everything, crying, begging, anger...
    janesdoe111 janesdoe111
    41-45, F
    11 Responses Dec 7, 2013

    I am seeing a lawyer.

    I need support and validation and to hear other peoples stories who went through the terror of divorce and found contentment on the other side
    selfcompassion selfcompassion
    51-55, F
    7 Responses Sep 6, 2014

    am married for almost 3 years now.

    it was an arrange husband wasn't into sex from day one. I tried talking to him after a lot of frustation. When I discuss it with him be starts giving excuses like he is tired or some problems at office or financially in last three years we hardly were intimate for...
    Wannarunawayfar Wannarunawayfar
    31-35, F
    4 Responses Jun 29, 2015

    So, my home team was playing on MNF.

    I am out of town, on my own. Told h I was going to bar to watch game. Game's been over 2 hours, having a great time (we won). Men flirting with me, feeling the power of Woman. H texts why aren't u home? Said I'm leaving when my playlist on jukebox is over. He's sulking and...
    Candymaker Candymaker
    46-50, F
    4 Responses Sep 9, 2014

    Am a Woman In a Sexless Marriage I Pretend - I

    fake to get along with my husband ..... I would try to talk to him about why there is no sex in our marriage ... I complained constantly, about his lack of envolment, why he wont do anything with me, or go anywhere with me ... For 2 years I tried, but he is happy to sit in his...
    westsideblues1 westsideblues1
    56-60, F
    11 Responses Jul 9, 2014

    We Had The "talk", And What A Shock!

    So I finally worked up the courage to sit hubby down and have yet another “talk”, with him. The kids were both at sleepovers, and I thought this was the perfect time.  I just started out by saying I love him dearly, but these last few years I have felt more and more lonely...
    itsAmysturn itsAmysturn
    41-45, F
    39 Responses May 19, 2011

    I'm a woman age 40 in a sexless marriage.

    Married almost four years and I bet we haven't even had sex two dozen times; sleep in separate beds, but I love him still. Well, I've been toying around with the idea of having a fling with an ex-coworker. He's in the same boat in his marriage...he's 44. We actually has lunch...
    blondi73 blondi73
    41-45, F
    7 Responses Aug 14, 2014

    Is there any woman out there

    who lived in a sexless marriage and they were able to fix this problem? I just don't want to believe that my only option is divorce! WTF?
    deleted deleted
    3 Responses Aug 25, 2014

    My husband and I are just married this year.

    He comes from a strict religious upbringing and so he was a virgin at the time we married. I was not. Anyway, he wanted to “save himself”, his virginity that is, until our wedding night and so we never had sex before that time. When I agreed to marry him, I was aware and...
    deleted deleted
    5 Responses Aug 31, 2014

    I am 38 and do not have children.

    I got married when I was 23 years old. I have been married for 15 years in a sexless marriage. I had two affairs to fill the void. My husband is a wonderful and successful man but he is not interested in sex. After these two affairs, I have decided life is too short to wait...
    deleted deleted
    Jun 7, 2015

    My husband is around 20 years older

    than me. We were both divorced when we met each other. I'd been cheated on and he'd been with a wife who never wanted to find a job (to make a long story short). We were attracted to each other because I knew he could be faithful and he knew that I was a financially independant...
    coincee coincee
    31-35, F
    4 Responses Oct 29, 2014

    I live with my husband

    for 7 months, and since then we had sex couple times , something like once a month, in december we got married and after that, we never had sex again. at first I used to get excited and share that with him, try to get him in the "mood", but he just ignores... now I got used to...
    berkanabass berkanabass
    22-25, F
    15 Responses Jan 22, 2014

    I'm slowly drifting away.

    That once loyal wife I prided myself in being, is coming to a hault. Does he see it in my eyes? Can he sense it? I'm not sure & a big part of me doesn't care. Has he turned me into a hater of intimacy? So many things running through my head on this Sunday night
    gracehopepeace gracehopepeace
    36-40, F
    9 Responses Feb 2, 2014

    In a sexless relationship

    for six years with otherwise wonderful man. Yesterday was our last anniversary because I have decided to leave this trap. I loved him with all my heart but feeble excuses and endless promises about changing and asking me to be patient are not enough anymore, rather I see through...
    Imoveryou Imoveryou
    26-30, F
    24 Responses Oct 1, 2014

    I never thought it would get to this point of

    my life where I end up in a marriage without sex. Im a newlywed so of course I thought we would be having tons of sex but no. The problem is that I think my husband has an addiction to **** and I find that he prefers to ********** more than sex with me. It makes me feel like im...
    trina1012000 trina1012000
    26-30, F
    11 Responses Oct 26, 2014

    I have been with my husband

    since I was 17, I am now 38 years old. We have been married for 16 years. I have been struggling with the lack of sex for a long time. He has always been this way so I am not sure why this is really starting to bug me so much. I have never felt beautiful or wanted. I am just a...
    artsysunflower artsysunflower
    41-45, F
    1 Response Aug 28, 2014

    I can do this right? I can walk away from a

    $150k plus income and 3 houses and maybe lose my business (that doesn't make any real money) and live on less than 50k and survive? Right? Because I want sex. And intimacy. And independence. I am strong enough, right?
    Candymaker Candymaker
    46-50, F
    6 Responses Aug 21, 2014

    So, my fiancé and I got married.

    That was seven years ago. That is the day my whole world changed. It is almost like after marrying, my husband thought....... I got her now. I can be myself and let my true self out, along with all my secrets and there is nothing she can do about it but accept it. It's like he...
    Confucius125 Confucius125
    36-40, F
    22 Responses Dec 26, 2013

    it's been quite awhile

    since I have posted on here...probably months now...last time I had just had a really bad day and vented on here and got some really hurtful private messages and nasty comments, so much so that I went off the site for actually made a very dark time in my life that...
    suenit suenit
    61-65, F
    6 Responses Aug 16, 2014

    I Pretend

    I fake to get along with my husband ..... - I would try to talk to him about why there is no sex in our marriage ... - I complained constantly, about his lack of envolment, why he wont do anything with me, or go anywhere with me ... - For 2 years I tried, but he is happy to...
    westsideblues1 westsideblues1
    56-60, F
    18 Responses Jun 10, 2012
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