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I Am a Young Widow

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    I've never done anything like this before

    but I am struggling to find anyone who can relate and/or give me advice on how to cope or even just make me feel like I am not alone. Next week would have been my husband and my 5th anniversary. Next month will mark 4 years since he passed away. We were high school sweethearts...
    ForeverIsntLongEnough ForeverIsntLongEnough 22-25, F 2 Responses Apr 2

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    Reprise. The Perpetual Why All

    who grieve resound the heart of humanity's biggest WHY. All of heaven remains silent as we wrestle and wonder. What do we do with the whys of this life? God is not a God of easy answers and ready assurance. That's not how grief works. Grief is a process, not an event. Our...
    stiltcourt stiltcourt 41-45, F 6 Responses May 8

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    I will have to move out of my house soon,

    my father-in law owns more of the property them I do. I know I need to be living day by day. but I also so lost about moving. Where do I go? the whole moving process hasn't even started...There are time when I think about packing a bag, grabbing my passport and walk out the...
    Mcrossbrand Mcrossbrand 41-45, F 1 Response Jun 22

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    Those of you who have lost a spouse some years

    ago and if you post here how you coped with your loss since then would help those of us who have lost our spouse recently. It helps to know how others cope in similar situations and how they pick up the pieces of their lives after such a devastating loss. Thanks.
    TRMT TRMT 51-55 1 Response Dec 8, 2014

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    Seems Like Just Yesterday

    My husband passed away almost 5yrs ago after an extremely brief battle with lung cancer. I was 35yrs old when he passed away and my four children ranged in age from 16 to 3. I can't explain the shock and grief that happens when you lose someone so suddenly. He had been fighting...
    coffeemom73 coffeemom73 36-40, F 3 Responses Jan 17, 2013

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    It is one week away from being 4 months

    since he left me, I always refer to it as he left me. I am not doing well in any sense and in any way. We have no family and no you. He was sick with what we were told 6 days earlier as viral, he was given a zpack and cough medicine then sent home, they failed to tell us he had...
    tdrwTexas tdrwTexas 41-45, F 2 Responses May 18

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    I'm not yet. But I will be.

    I'm 38. I met my husband when I was 19 but we didn't really even talk until I was about 21, he was 42. We began talking and it was off to the races. One date and I don't think a day went by we didn't see each other. I KNEW the feelings I had were different and it had to love. We...
    Amginn Amginn 36-40 4 Responses Jul 14, 2014

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    "Can I find love again?

    " When you lose your spouse you often re-examine what love really is. You may feel unlovable and even be afraid that you will never be in love again. This fear can be overwhelming. Here it is - I'm going to talk about sex, that forbidden topic that no one wants to bring up. What...
    stiltcourt stiltcourt 41-45, F 4 Responses Jan 5

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    I was one of those crying humanity's perpetual

    "WHY?". I wanted to know so badly why my husband had to go so sudden, so soon. I was not ready. If only I had the answer, then I could rest my case. No amount of explanation could ever satisfy. After years of being stucked, on the eve of his 4th death anniversary, as I was...
    stiltcourt stiltcourt 41-45, F 7 Responses Jan 14

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    My husband passed away April 18th.

    He was my life. We had such a wonderful relationship. He was only 37 and I don't know how to deal with this.
    sadlori sadlori 36-40, F 4 Responses May 7

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    I found true love when I met my wife.

    We laughed talked about deep thing as well as stupid thing. We would dance in our bathroom, she was there when I lost my dad last December and she truly loved me as I did her.she passed away in her sleep feb 23, it been a true hell without her. She was the best woman I've ever...
    Jmurphy5 Jmurphy5 46-50, M Jun 9

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    I lost my beloved husband this past August to

    lung cancer. He was 49 years old. He was diagnosed at Stage IV, terminal. When we were given the diagnosis that he had 2 years at the outside, it seemed like the sky had fallen. It didn't make sense; it seemed utterly cruel and impossible. We huddled together in bed and we were...
    TRMT TRMT 51-55 2 Responses Dec 3, 2014

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    29 Year Old Widow

    Hello all, i came upon this site when looking for a group to talk with that have experienced the same heartache, life changing, most difficult thing that has happened to me that I experienced a month ago.  My husband and I just got married in September and in the...
    hisforeverandalways hisforeverandalways 26-30, F 33 Responses Dec 5, 2009

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    I am 25 years old and I lost my soul mate,

    best friend and husband almost three weeks ago to suicide. Although that is what it looked like, I know in my heart that it was an accident. My husband left me with our two small children, a 6 year old girl and a 2 year old boy. We met when I was 16 and he was 18, and got...
    jcamacho2189 jcamacho2189 26-30, F 8 Responses Oct 17, 2014

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    I am 21 years old and I lost my husband in a

    freak accident, I am having trouble accepting it, I miss him so much.
    mariibella mariibella 22-25, F 5 Responses Aug 29, 2014

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    I lost my husband to stomach cancer Oct 2013.

    He was 44 when he passed ans i just turned 40 this summer. I still stuggle with the grief but I think knowing his destiny and having almost a year and 1/2 to prepare (if there is such a thing) I have been able to cope. So I have been dating someone who was a great friend during...
    mslady02 mslady02 36-40, F Feb 2

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    Change...Change...Change When I was a fresh

    widow, people would comment, "You will marry again...you're still young." It would p.i.s.s me off or set me into self-pity; judging how insensitive people could get. It was annoying to listen to someone about grief esp. when that someone hasn't experienced it. As a defense to...
    stiltcourt stiltcourt 41-45, F 6 Responses Mar 6

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    My wife died 8 years ago.

    Was a hard time but my 2 daughters help me come through it. And now we 3 are closer then most families due to this. Still misses my wife but I am now glad for what she brought to me and I see her in my daughters everyday.
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Jun 23

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    I lost my soulmate of over a decade years (but

    married for less than 2 years) when he got into an accident overseas. That was in July 2014. My biggest regret is being rude and irritable in our last messages, and opting not to call him the night before he passed, thinking that I would tell him all the nice stuff face to face...
    MrsC0314 MrsC0314 31-35, F 2 Responses Jun 10

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    Hello

    my wife died 10th jan 2010 from brain tumor aged 35 I have two children 6 and three and after not doing to bad for the first month I am starting to find it a lot harder
    gjww gjww 31-35, M 3 Responses Feb 23, 2010

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    I saw the new Avengers movie Age of Ultron.

    I remember the great days when wifey was alive and taking my angel to see transformers 3. I told her it was a romantic comedy an I could see her getting more an more confused in cinema. After a time I noticed she appeared quite angry so I placated her with the robots fall in...
    Widower1 Widower1 31-35 Apr 25

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    Young Widow With 4 Kids

    We lost my husband on Dec. 29th, 2009. He was 37yrs old. We have 4 beautiful children that miss him very much. I am 32yrs old and feel like I am so alone. I know that I have to start living again but I just seem to be going through the motions right now...
    amyleighann amyleighann 31-35, F 21 Responses Jan 13, 2010

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    WIdow At 30 With 3 Children

    Hello everyone, I'm hoping to share my story and grief with young widows. I lost my husband on 1/19/09 to suicide. At first I was angry and confused and it later turned into guilt to later sadness. I feel like I'm going crazy because ALL i think about is HIM and how...
    roth429 roth429 26-30, F 10 Responses Feb 8, 2009

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    Reflections of Grace "There are extraordinary

    moments in our lives when we are certain a divine hand has brushed our cheeks, wiped our tears, and graced our hearts with a glimpse of eternity." In the wake of husband, abundance of floral arrangements and cards filled every corner and every wall of the funeral home's family...
    stiltcourt stiltcourt 41-45, F 8 Responses May 12

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    Loneliness is a resilient,

    persistent little beast. For most of the year, those of us who live alone can rub along pretty well. We tell ourselves everything is fine, that it's better to live alone than in a loveless relationship, that we enjoy the peace and quiet and the freedom, and the ability to sleep...
    stiltcourt stiltcourt 41-45, F 2 Responses Dec 24, 2014

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    I lost my husband in an accident on March 1.

    I dont know how to live live without him. I just want to stay in bed
    Mcrossbrand Mcrossbrand 41-45, F 1 Response Jun 22

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    My husband was an alcoholic.

    He'd been drinking socially since he was a teenager, and he started drinking really heavily when he could legally buy it for himself at age 21. He'd had health problems (issues with cholesterol and heart-related problems) his whole life. At the age of 25, less than four years...
    Mollywobbles225 Mollywobbles225 26-30, F 4 Responses Feb 25

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    Gone Too Soon

    It has been 9mo since my husband died of a brain tumor. He was 36 and so am I. I miss him so much it physically hurts sometimes. He fought for 17 months...surgery, chemo, radiation, etc...I still have such a hard time just accepting that he is not coming back. I am trying to pick...
    samp77 samp77 36-40, F 2 Responses Sep 14, 2013

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    And the Great Loneliness - it seems we must go

    through, when life as we have known it is over, and yet we don't know who we are supposed to become. All we know is that something bigger is calling us to change. And though we must make the journey alone, and even if pain is our only companion, what wants to live in you may be...
    stiltcourt stiltcourt 41-45, F 2 Responses Feb 28

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    Pecan butter cupcakes frosted with cream cheese,

    topped with candied lemon. Every Christmas day, I visit an old widow, twenty years my senior. When we first met, she talked about her life being a faded glory, lonely, forgotten by relatives and friends. On New Year's eve, she would stand by the porch alone by herself, and...
    stiltcourt stiltcourt 41-45, F 2 Responses Dec 23, 2014

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    I have written my three Christmas cards: to my

    bf, who lives 200 miles away, to John the postman; and to the dustbin men. A lovely trio who often bypass my house because I have so little rubbish. I have done my Christmas food shop. There I was in my local supermarket, surrounded by harassed mums with lists longer than their...
    stiltcourt stiltcourt 41-45, F 1 Response Dec 17, 2014

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    I lost my husband just 3 weeks ago.

    I do not even feel like the word husband begins to explain our relationship. He was my best friend, my soulmate, my everything. Oh yea, and I'm 25. He was 24 and died of pnemonia. We were only married 2 years, but we've been a part of each other lives for 7 solid years. I...
    biscuitforeva biscuitforeva 22-25, F 2 Responses Feb 17

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    Never Saw This Coming, Still Can't Believe It's Happening To Me.

    My husband Dual died on June 21, 2013 after a year long battle with stage 4 kidney cancer. He died almost a month to the day after our fourth wedding anniversary. What makes this whole story just a little bit worse is that he wasn't home when he died, he was at his mother's...
    terrishaun terrishaun 46-50, F 16 Responses Oct 3, 2013

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    Why Did You Leave Me Here

    why did you leave me here all alone .....you know my heart still beats but its cold ...you were my everything my soul and my heart you own ...you took a very big piece of it with you that day ....and i can not get it backĀ  till i go though the pearly white gates ..i hate waiting...
    goodseemore goodseemore 41-45, F 23 Responses Feb 2, 2011

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    I lost my husband on 3/13/08

    when I was 31. I was pregnant with our son who is now five. I still miss him so much. I have had a few relationships that haven't worked out, but I still have hope I can love like that again.
    purplegallinule purplegallinule 36-40, F 2 Responses Nov 29, 2013

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    I still remember the way your eyes sparkle

    when you smile. The sound of your lazy morning voice. I remember the weight of your body on mine. and how small my hands are in yours. I remember the way you smell. I still smell you sometimes. Not often. Less now than before. My fingers remember tracing the lines next to...
    Thekidsmom Thekidsmom 36-40, F 7 Responses Sep 1, 2014

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    I've read a number of different posts re.

    widowhood, where others are really struggling and are quick to point out they simply cannot comprehend how others "move on" from the loss. I never like to use the phrase "move on," because I don't think I will "move on." EVER. But I will move forward and continue to grow and...
    stiltcourt stiltcourt 41-45, F 3 Responses May 6

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    I carry your heart, I carry it in my heart.

    I am 30 years old and I lost my husband to a long battle with addiction early on Halloween of 2013. He was 29 years old. People try to comfort me by saying "it takes time" or "time heals all wounds" it's just not true. I met him when I was 11 years old. He was my everything. I...
    desireediane desireediane 31-35, F 2 Responses Mar 5, 2014

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    I a 36 year old lady.

    My husband passed away two weeks ago. I miss him very much. I am looking for support and friends .
    Melodyjoy36 Melodyjoy36 36-40, F 6 Responses Jun 21

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    My husband loved life.

    He always said he never wanted to die. We had our future planned. He was funny and sweet and he took care of me. He loved me. Then, he was gone. The list time I saw him was at the wreck. but I was taken away, and didn't get to talk to him. We were both flown to Wichita and in...
    Mcrossbrand Mcrossbrand 41-45, F Jun 22

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    I read a quote the other day

    that I love (Of course, now I can't find it). It went something like "I know I'm having a hard day, but so far my success rate at getting through tough moments is 100%." And that's true. I've done it this Christmas holiday. And I will have to do it again. 'Tho I will find myself...
    stiltcourt stiltcourt 41-45, F 3 Responses Dec 26, 2014

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    I became a widow at 29 years young.

    I lost the love of my life on Sept. 24, 2014 after he fought so hard for six months to heal from a severe brain bleed in his right frontal lobe caused by an AVM (A malformation of veins in the brain that he had since birth but was completely unaware of). The bleed left him...
    MarleighJane MarleighJane 26-30, F 5 Responses 4 days ago

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    My head spins. My heart aches My soul is

    hurting like I never knew it could. My hopes are crushed My dreams are shattered. My beliefs are completely deranged My spirit will never be the same. My drive is lost My world is unfamiliar. My intentions have become unintentional My existence has been turned upside...
    Ipleadthe5th Ipleadthe5th 41-45, F 11 Responses Dec 5, 2014

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    First New Year Alone

    Never did I imagine I would hate christmas and new year...it was always such a happy time, but this year how different....new years day tommorow, 2 weeks to the day that my soulmate was buried....the weathers been horrendous, bad storms, powercuts, so scary to be on my own...the...
    soulsearchingforever soulsearchingforever 31-35, F 7 Responses Dec 31, 2012

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    A Love That's Once-in-a-Lifetime...By Lon's Baby Pie

    I met Lon in Apr. of 2004. The day we met was the day we became a couple. I had finally met my soulmate and finally knew what true love was. We moved out of town shortly after we met for his job. We were happy there for awhile. Got married there after a year and a half. We both...
    soulmateinheaven soulmateinheaven 46-50, F 3 Responses Mar 1, 2013

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    I became a widow this last May,

    2013. My husband had a cardiac arrest on our front lawn just three months after our first child was born. It is weird being widowed at a young age, I just turned 25, and I am in need of some people who understand.
    Heartforheaven Heartforheaven 26-30, F 6 Responses Jan 22, 2014

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