I Am Adopted and Have Never Met My Parents

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 265 People

    I found out earlier. I asked my adoptive parents

    who my birth parents are. They said they didn't know. I have so many questions. It's frustrating to have been lied to. I think I might run away. Only for a little bit.
    MrPoolofsouls MrPoolofsouls
    16-17, M
    3 Responses Dec 20, 2015

    My Story

    The family that adopted me are great they can't have kids and adopted 2 sisters, me and a toddler. Their super people. But i was adopted from Lviv, Ukraine when i was 7 had to learn English and moved to Alaska. I guess i should be used to it by now being here but I'm not and i...
    ChasePandaKiD ChasePandaKiD
    16-17, M
    8 Responses Oct 12, 2013

    It's a pain in the *** to not know my real

    parents. I've been searching 4 years now together with the parents which i'm adopted by. Originally i'm from the phillipines, magallanes. I got so many questions about myself which my mom in the phillipines only can answer. Like my personality, my looks. I'm really curious to...
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Jan 1

    Korean Born Australian

    I wonder about my birth mother and I hope she found happiness in life. I'd want her to know I don't resent being put up for adoption and that I understand it was necessary. I wish the government authorities had done a better job screening for families. I know of too many adopted...
    AskB82 AskB82
    31-35, F
    Dec 1, 2013

    I have never met my biological parents (ones

    dead, and ones in jail). I don't really struggle with not knowing them because I live with two loving parents now. I struggle with whether or not my biological parents would be proud of who I am today.
    tbotset tbotset
    18-21, M
    2 Responses Apr 1, 2015

    i have not met my biological dad.

    I am 35. When i was born he was 17. I found him, i got pictures from his niece i even spoke to my half sister. They all like me and i like them. We all have the same smile. My half sister wanted to meet me with the support from her mom but her dad; my biological dad, did...
    candiceblankerosa candiceblankerosa
    36-40, F
    1 Response Apr 24, 2015

    I wish I could meet them

    and I love my adoptive parents but they do carpal punishments. I hate this part but I love them with all my heart.
    deleted deleted
    6 Responses Jun 1, 2014

    I am adopted and I never knew

    who adopted me. They left me on a busy street when I was a baby. I've always wondered what happened or what they look like. I got no letter, no anything. I sometimes feel everyone else knows exactly everything about their parents. I love my adoptive parents, but I wish..
    giathedancer giathedancer
    13-15, F
    2 Responses Jul 7, 2015

    I was adopted as an infant.

    I'm 25 now and I've never met my real parents. My adopted parents gave me sooo much love and care, but I've never felt close to any of my adopted family other than my parents. Sometimes it's hard because it makes me feel like I'm all alone in the world it's even harder for me to...
    starry25 starry25
    26-30, F
    1 Response Aug 10, 2014

    My Sister And I Were Adopted

    This is a long story and it’s still not over. I am the older of the two, we were adopted because my adoptive parents couldn't have kids and they really felt like they can give us love in return for nothing. Or so I thought. Later I found out my mother, adopted us so that we...
    deleted deleted
    5 Responses Aug 13, 2010

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    johnkmolloy johnkmolloy
    22-25, M
    Feb 2

    Adopted (closed) and will never met my "real

    parents". Earlier this week I was excited to finally acquire my original birth certificate but kind of regret... Finding out it lists no father and after much research finding out my "real" mother passed away in 2005 with no other information whatsoever.. So I guess that's it...
    Justhereagainn Justhereagainn
    26-30, M
    1 Response Nov 2, 2014

    To all those out there with this same problem.

    .. I've been thru hell and back and I'm stronger than ever. It's manageable being adopted and not knowing your parents, it's whether you let that get you down or allow you to become a warrior that matters.
    DeAundreVP DeAundreVP
    18-21, M
    2 Responses Mar 23, 2014

    It Hurts

    Why did you let CAS take me? Why was I put into a family where I could never fit in? I ruined their family with my issues. Do you know how guilty I feel? Should I look for you now mom? What if you dont want to know me? That would be so ackward. Did you love me at all? Where is my...
    ShineLikeJewelz ShineLikeJewelz
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Mar 3, 2013

    I was adopted when I was a newborn,

    in fact, I would not have existed if it weren't for my parents. My birth mother wanted to abort me, but luckily, my mom and dad were looking for a baby to adopt. And man, am I lucky they chose me. The only thing I know about my birth mother is that she was unmarried, around 30...
    inwarddispositions inwarddispositions
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Aug 21, 2014

    It's still my biggest question.

    Who are my parents, how do they look. Do i have anything in common. Do i look like one of them. I'm struggling with these questions for 5 years now. Tried to find out, but never got any further than my real mothers name and what happened.
    deleted deleted
    Jan 25

    **** sucks. Everyone gets to know their traits

    from their parents and who looks like who. I don't even know if I have siblings, because I was born in China and left on a street cause I'm a girl.. But oh well. Life is good, it just bothers me and if this sounds pathetic, I'm sorry, but it kinda hurts sometimes
    giathedancer giathedancer
    13-15, F
    1 Response Dec 30, 2015

    I'm adopted and every

    since I was little I would always write letters to my birth parents then throw them away. I think I'm ready now to actually send one, but I'm scared...I'm scared what my birth side will be thinking, like if they even want to reconnect with me and such. I really want to write...
    ShawnaMarie17 ShawnaMarie17
    18-21, F
    1 Response Dec 15, 2015

    I was born in the Philippines.

    As a baby I was adopted by my Swiss parents. I've always been told I've been a foundling and my biological parents probably died in a storm or earthquake or something like that. So, to be honest I never gave much thought about finding my parents. Of course I sometimes asked...
    MentallyVibrating MentallyVibrating
    36-40, F
    1 Response Jan 31, 2015


    Before I start this, I need to say that: For me, adoption isn't some strange life event that separates me from my family. It was just an alternative route for me to arrive where I am today. My parents are my PARENTS. My mom, my dad--they're not biological, but they're my parents...
    thescarletparade thescarletparade
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Jun 18, 2013

    Is It Wrong?

    I'm 15 and I was adopted when I was 2 months old. My adoptive parents have told me I have two older brothers who also got put up for fostering/adoption when I was born because my biological mother couldn't cope with 3 children. She has only ever told me my real mothers name...
    deleted deleted
    4 Responses Feb 26, 2013

    I was adopted at birth,

    and have a letter from my birth mom explaining why she gave me to, which she wrote while still pregnant with me. I recently found out her full name and got in contact with her daughter (my half sister) and her husband via email. I'm super excited to meet her, but I'm quite...
    encore23 encore23
    36-40, M
    1 Response Apr 30, 2015

    My mother had a one night stand

    and got pregnant. When I was two she left me with my aunt who raised me as her own until she died. (I was nine). I was put into care but luckily adopted soon after. I consider my adopted family as my real family as they have been around to guide me through my difficult teenage...
    AnnieJF AnnieJF
    18-21, F
    Oct 27, 2014

    I was adopted at birth to the best family

    and I am so lucky. My mom told me that if I wanted to at 18 I could meet my birth mother and she would help me. But my birth mother didn't want to. I'm a little disappointed ill admit, but at least I have the best mom in the whole world.
    thatgirlkay thatgirlkay
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Mar 22, 2014

    I was put into foster care at two days old.

    My first foster parents adopted me at nine and a half months. I only know my birth mother was scitzofrentic (however you spell that) and bipolar. I also know my birth father was narrowed down to three men. I don't want to know anything else.I accept my parents as the people who...
    charlottedoyle charlottedoyle
    31-35, F
    Jan 17, 2015

    Sometimes I just wonder

    why did they just give me away like that. Sure I may have a good life now with my adoptive family but money isn't really everything. I'd rather be emotionally supported than financially supported. Its hard.
    burb3rrysunni3s burb3rrysunni3s
    16-17, F
    2 Responses Dec 11, 2015

    Adopted Very Young

    I was adopted at only 3 days. Well actually i was brought to my parents home and it was official six months later but you know. I grew up with foster siblings but never had any real siblings since my wasnt able to have children. When i was 7ish my parents stopped foster care to...
    storyland321 storyland321
    2 Responses Oct 17, 2011

    Today I am meeting my biological family

    for the first time at my biological sisters wedding and only our biological mother knows I'm in the state. she will be shocked
    kaps105 kaps105
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Jul 26, 2015

    I feel like my parents are keeping me from

    finding out who my real parents are. My brother and sister dont really care but I want to find my biological parents very badly. I dont get why they wont let me find them already. I wanna see what they look like n if i look like them and if i have any other siblings or something...
    LiLJunie LiLJunie
    16-17, F
    Jan 24

    I was adopted at a very young age

    and had visitation till I was six but I barely remember them. I have some older siblings and a younger sister but have never met them.
    SeanDR SeanDR
    16-17, M
    1 Response Aug 28, 2015

    I feel so lonely. I never have gotten along

    with my "mom". I don't feel like I belong anywhere. I don't want to find out because I always just assumed they were dead.
    Mariekillz Mariekillz
    18-21, F
    Jan 26, 2014

    Still Believing

    Im 15 years old I was adopted right when I was born As you can guess I am african american I won't answer to anything else. I never met my parents. But im working on that I had undeveloped lungs and was 3 months premature My real mum discharged from the hospital 3 days after I...
    Areisal Areisal
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Apr 2, 2013

    Hi.. I'm Daniel, I'm 16.

    When I was 12 I left my last terrible foster family.. They were mean and they didn't really take care of me at all.. I used to hide in the basement cause the dad always got really mad when I did something wrong.. Anyway I moved to California and I got new foster parents, they...
    Daniel997 Daniel997
    18-21, M
    8 Responses Mar 2, 2014

    Not In Person...

    Hello, I was adopted at birth, and of course have not met my birth parents in person. However, I did manage to find them. My mother turned out to be pretty nice, but my birth father is a mean womanizer who said he loved me, then ignored me, and now he hates me... You really gotta...
    WolfyWillow WolfyWillow
    18-21, F
    1 Response Sep 26, 2013

    Adopted And Loving It ; P

    Couldn't halp but see some stories about adopted people being miserable and wondering what their real birth parents are like. I think you should stop wondering and consider yourselves very lucky. We are adopted because our parents CHOSE to love us. They werent force to love us...
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Feb 28, 2013

    I'M Not Quite Over It

    Hi! I was born in 1999 in Cambodia. Cambodia is in South East Asia close to Thailand. Not many people know about it. Anyway, I don't know what city I am from. I was one of the last baby's to be adopted. I've never met my birth mother or birth father and I'm not sure if I ever...
    xomiriaml xomiriaml
    16-17, F
    Aug 16, 2013

    It never mattered to me

    until I started having some pretty serious health issues that I'm told are genetic. I decided to not search for my birth parents. I can understand those who do but by the same token I don't believe in being invasive unless for instance you have a medical issue were having your...
    son2who son2who
    51-55, M
    2 Responses Apr 13, 2014

    Struggling For A Family

    I often look in the mirror and wonder "who do I look like?" or "who do I act like?" is there anyone in the world who is related to me?...I mean blood related. What if my birth parents were drug addicts...There is no father listed on my birth certificate, so only my birth mom...
    Snarf75 Snarf75
    Mar 16, 2011

    For some strange reason I was initially

    surprised such a forum exists. I actually thought I was the only one. Who knew?
    mrjordan13 mrjordan13
    41-45, M
    Jan 17, 2015

    I'm an interracial adoptee from Africa,

    adopted by a white family. These last few years I've been thinking about the stories my adoptive parents have told me about what happened to my biological parents- that my father was 'somehow' killed on the road and my mother was just sick and couldn't keep me and gave me up...
    Tearystar1027 Tearystar1027
    5 Responses Sep 1, 2015

    I wanna know my birth parents

    but I'm scared to ask about them in front of my foster mom who has adopted me
    Itsmiprada Itsmiprada
    18-21, F
    1 Response Jan 7, 2015
    nbdash nbdash
    18-21, M
    Jan 24, 2015

    How Do I Overcome My Longing To Meet My Birth Mother?

    i dont have an intense miraculous story like some people. i was put into a great home at birth never went through social services or foster homes. staight to the loving caring wonderful arms of my parents. however i do have questions. i believe or think that theres some...
    forareason forareason
    16-17, F
    3 Responses Jun 12, 2010


    i was adopted around the age of three and even moved out of the state! Never met my parents, but i have located one of my real-half sisters on my real father's side.. She talks to me everyday but that isn't enough! I want to know where my parents are..
    MybasedAccount MybasedAccount
    13-15, F
    1 Response May 9, 2012

    Never met my real parents,

    it's kinda sad but I don't really care all that much about the topic. I'm seeing that one movie about that white man with a black daughter that's coming out soon. Ugh, forgot the title of the movie! Oh well. At least I'll be able to relate to it.
    CallMeDanny CallMeDanny
    16-17, M
    1 Response Jan 24, 2015

    I am adopted and have never met my birth parents

    and struggle with it everyday.
    deleted deleted
    2 Responses Dec 13, 2014

    I was adopted from Guatemala

    and brought to the U.S. I was given up at birth I think. I don't know why my mom gave me up for adoption. All the records are in Spanish so I can't read them. There is nothing in the records about my dad. No name, no picture, nothing. My adoptive parents said that the lawyer...
    deleted deleted
    Aug 4, 2015

    I Just Want My Questions Answered

    I didnt use to care, i was so happy and i believed i was special which is why they chose me, i didnt really think about it, but then i found it and now everything has changed. When i wake up i sit in front of my mirror and i always ask myelf the same questions... who am i really...
    shoelover345 shoelover345
    18-21, F
    Jun 11, 2011

    Okay, so the title explains it all.

    I was adopted at birth. I love my adoptive mother, and her family has made me feel like I belong and that I am not adopted. The topic of adoption is not always talked about, but when it is, I try not to to sound unappreciative or ungrateful but it really does hurt to know that...
    FreeSpirit420 FreeSpirit420
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Dec 6, 2014
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