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I Am Afraid I Can't Have Kids

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    I Can't Have Children

    I'm only 17 and I found out that I cant have children. Although i'm not sure about wanting them right now I have Always wanted children and I love children but I have 3 friends all under 16 that have children or are pregnant and its not fait. there is nothing that they can do for...
    axbcz axbcz 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 26, 2013

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    At My Prime...

    Let me start off by saying, I never wanted to have children until I was 30 and I had my life stable. Well me and my husband have been married since we were 19, we've never avoided having children, it was just when it happens it happens. So when we were 25 we decided to start...
    illicitdolphin illicitdolphin 31-35, F Aug 7, 2013

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    I Hope God Bless Me

    Im 19 n me n my first love have been having unprotected sex for all most a year ...im scared I can't have kids it will kill me inside if I can't ..at first I wasn't ready n didn't worry about it but now I want one just to no I can its so many bad mother out here I know ill b a...
    letmebirth letmebirth 18-21 2 Responses Aug 19, 2012

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    I Think I'd Be a Great Mom If I Get the Chance.

    my name is Lj, i'm 28 years old and i am completely afraid that i will never have a  child.i just got engaged in december  of 08' so i've been thinking about our life together and children alot.i have 4 bros and one sis all of whom have children,even my younger...
    nicencheeki3 nicencheeki3 26-30, F 7 Responses Feb 12, 2009

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    I'm Scared I Can't Have Baby's.

    I've been trying for a long time and haven't got pregnant yet! Me and my boyfriend really want a baby and it's just not happening, I have discharge that comes out but it's not to stretchy like it's supposed to be, I am worried that I can't have any kids because I took the depo...
    Kkay903 Kkay903 18-21, F 1 Response Nov 26, 2013

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    A Life Long Fear and the Unknown...

    Since I was a little girl, I always knew that I wanted children.. I continued to play with dolls long after girls my age thought it was cool. I even slept with my babydolls next to me, pretending they were real. I even went as far as wrapping up a warm water bottle in a blanket...
    weeblegrrl weeblegrrl 21-25, F 6 Responses Jan 8, 2008

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    Im Worried, Help...

    Im afraid that i cant have children, as i have been having unprotected sex dilibretly to get pregnant for months, Im a mature and ready for this with my long term prtner, but now were both scared it might never happen, how do we get checked for this?
    Hopelessx Hopelessx 18-21, F 1 Response Oct 10, 2009

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    I Was Put On This Earth To Have Children, But Now There Is A Huge Possibility I Can't...

    Well, when my husband and i first met he told me about his vasectomy and i accepted him for it, because i didn't even want children... But then, a few years later (a few months ago), i want them badly, i am so in love with my husband and i want to share that experience with him...
    MidnightAmethyst MidnightAmethyst 22-25, F Sep 9, 2013

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    My Dreams Were Crushed...

    my dreams of being an amazing mother, and giving my children everything that I didn't have, and be the joy in someone's life, was crushed about four years ago, sitting in a doctors office, when my doctor spoke those words to me, "you won't be able to have a baby, and if you...
    deleted deleted 26-30 6 Responses Nov 9, 2009

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    My Loss, I Wish I Died

    When I read your stories it reminded me of mine.. I wish to share as I am running out of options my life , well what ever you wish to call this is eating me alive. I was told from my doctor at the age of 16 that if I wanted kids I better make that quickly because... he never...
    belgianpain belgianpain 36-40, F 3 Responses Feb 21, 2013

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    Life Passing Me By !

    Hi Everyone,Came upon these experiences and had to add my voice to it. My family and I realized early on that I will not be have kids (wont go into why). Now I come from a traditional country where a woman's place is centered on having children. One gets married at the "right...
    smallworld987 smallworld987 31-35 Jul 5, 2011

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    Never Will I Be A Mother

    Let me start buy saying I'm 24 the love of my life is 28 we started dating when I was 16 were grown up now and have been trying to have a baby but we never had that OMG I'M LATE feeling as we started trying it became more clear that something was wrong so we did the blame game...
    neverwillI neverwillI 26-30 1 Response Apr 2, 2012

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    I'M Scared.

    Since I was eight. I have had a series of psychological disorders. Anxiety, depression, ocd, eating disorders whatever. Last year when I was thirteen and I know I sound young, but I am very mature for my age. That is what all the psychologists have said, you see I had to deal...
    BarbieBrooke BarbieBrooke 13-15, T 1 Response Mar 18, 2013

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    Its Sad

    I was told five years ago that I cannot have kids. So I worked with my doctor took the meds the steroids everything and to no avail. I've been getting pretty depressed over the past few months; all my friends having kids and their excitement. I know I'm a dude and this is...
    wonderingkenadian wonderingkenadian 26-30, M Oct 28, 2013

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    I know this is an old post

    but the comments are just so familiar to me I have to add mine. I am turning 23 in a few months....have been sexually active for almost 4 years and have never once used protection. Yes, I have been checked and no I do not have a disease. I am at the age where 8 out of 10 people...
    crazyqueenslander crazyqueenslander 22-25 Dec 27, 2013

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    Why Can't I Have Kids?

    My name is Elizabeth and im 17 years old and I can't ha ve kids and I don't know why but I want kids in the future and come to find out from my doctor that I can't and im reallly upset and scared but I plan to adopt a beautiful little girl if I can when I at least turn about 20...
    baby102 baby102 16-17, F Jun 22, 2010

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    Too Sick

    I am 31 years old. I suffer from multiple chronic pain/central nervous system disorders...my Husband had a vasectomy 12 years ago, but is willing to reverse it. I don't know if my body could handle it though. What if I had kids and was always too sick? what if I passed these...
    bruiseviolet bruiseviolet 31-35, F 2 Responses Dec 3, 2010

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    Babies

    I new from the time i hit 15 i wanted to be a mom when i got older. i started to babysit when i was about 11 till i was about 16 i have always had that motherly instinct. As i hit the age 21 my mom past away i never thought that would happen she always told me i would be a good...
    missrunyon09 missrunyon09 22-25, F 2 Responses Oct 5, 2009

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    The Life Of A 16 Year Old

    I am 16 years old and I have been trying to concieve with my boyfriend that i have been with for 3 years  for a very long time now. I been raped so many times and I am very scared that i will never have children. I have a dream of being married with at 4 children, but I am...
    MrsCarter42511 MrsCarter42511 16-17 Jun 10, 2012

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    10 Years Of Hell

    I was told 10 years ago that I had Cervical Cancer and that it had spread to my Lymph nodes and eventually had to have a Hysterectomy at the age of 28 years. I always desperately wanted Children and at the time it didnt hit me the true extent of the situation. I have an older...
    tonks2112 tonks2112 36-40, F Jun 14, 2010

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    Its Too Late

    I can't find anyone suitable... i have server health problems ... with my back and hip and heart and blood issues... I dont see me marrying ... its too late... I dont see me having relationships at all....
    czaristacrystals czaristacrystals 36-40, F Jul 10, 2011

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    My Story

    Hi, My name is Maddy and I'm 17 years old. I was first diagnosed with Hodgkin's lymphoma ( a form of blood cancer) at age 14 on valentines day 2011. I was treated with 4 low dose cycles of chemo, and 4 weeks of radiation therapy. I was told that I would be able to have kids...
    Poshtotti Poshtotti 18-21, F 2 Responses Oct 29, 2013

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    So Scared Rant...

    The one thing we want and im afraid i cant give it to him! Why does it have to be so hard for some people?!?! I dont understand? It drives me crazy!! It seems like i fail at everything in life!!! I wanna jus except this an move on but it jus eats at me! i wanna be a mom i wanna...
    RainbowsStuff RainbowsStuff 18-21, F 3 Responses Apr 16, 2012

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    A Painful Reminder,tried Anyways For Yrs And No Luck

    i have tried for years with my husband with nothing but few days late ,sadness. i have been sick ever since i was a child ,the pain my own parents put in has cause so of this and its out of my control. i have made myself stronger and i figure my purpose is to adopt.i would...
    lilredhead24 lilredhead24 26-30, F 1 Response Apr 19, 2010

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    I'm So Depressed

    I am 38, with no children, I, more than anything need children. I have been really depressed the last mth or so. I truly don't care if I live or die. I know there is in-vetro and adoption, but we cant afford that. I have no friends and not to much of...
    sadeara sadeara 36-40, F 3 Responses Jan 5, 2009

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    I Should Be Happy, But I'm Secretly Jealous

    I hate to admit this, but I have to vent somewhere... First of all, I am afraid that I won't be able to get pregnant...for different medical reasons. I used to think I would be okay with that. I used to think a lot of things that I don't think now. When I was with my ex...
    thinkingmythoughts thinkingmythoughts 22-25, F 5 Responses Nov 11, 2011

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    Someone To Love

    Hi, I'm 22 and my temper is sooooo bad...but I have a sweet spot in my heart and soul for babies. I really think by having a baby my whole outlook on life will change. I attend college and also work I'm doing great in life but "having that sweet precious soft bundle of joy " will...
    brownieT brownieT 22-25, F 1 Response Nov 18, 2012

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    I've been married 9 years,

    and have no children, but want them. The holidays are really hard for me, seeing all the kids and the joy they get, and give with Christmas. It leaves me pretty down. My husband is great but I'm alone alot. I'm not sure we'll be able to adopt either, so I've been trying to...
    if1478 if1478 31-35, F 3 Responses Dec 23, 2013

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    I Wish I Could Have Kids

    I am 20 me and my boy friend have been together since we were 16, we broke up for a year and he impregnated this other girl. Before he had his baby we got back together, I never really wanted kids until he had his little girl because I suppose to been his first everything so I...
    Misskayjay Misskayjay 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 10, 2012

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    My Story

    Hi, My name is Maddy and I'm 17 years old. I was first diagnosed with Hodgkin's lymphoma ( a form of blood cancer) at age 14 on valentines day 2011. I was treated with 4 low dose cycles of chemo, and 4 weeks of radiation therapy. I was told that I would be able to have kids...
    Poshtotti Poshtotti 18-21, F Oct 29, 2013

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    Dont Give Up Ladies!

    Due to health issues I was told (and believed) that i would not be able to have children. Iwas so upset by this that i became obsessed with trying to have a baby. At one point in time i did get pregnant and miscarried. That experience was one of the saddest days of my life but...
    miraclemommy miraclemommy 18-21 3 Responses Apr 15, 2011

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    Cancer, Weight And Family

    Im afraid I cant have children. I have been trying with my husband for over two years now and have not even had a late period. When I was a child of three years old I had leukimea (cancer) and had to have many treatments including radiation to the head. My mother was warned then...
    cazivywright cazivywright 22-25, F Aug 2, 2011

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    I Pretend That It's Ok

    I've been trying to get pregnant for 16 years.  We can't afford much more than Clomid treatments so we tried that years ago to no avail.  I have PCOS, rarely ovulate (maybe once every 18 months, or so), I am obese and I pretend that NOT having a child is my choice so...
    LaughingSun LaughingSun 36-40, F 1 Response Apr 19, 2010

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    Just Venting

    I have been married for 4 years, and we have been trying, but I can't get pregnant.  I have had one miscarriage.  I have a lot of medical problems, and I'm afraid that those plus the meds that I'm on are making it difficult if not preventing it.  I'm also afraid that if I do...
    RubyInTheSkyWithCheetos RubyInTheSkyWithCheetos 31-35, F 4 Responses Sep 23, 2011

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    Will I Ever Have A Baby?

    Ima 26year old Ive always wanted to have just one baby. Ive been ta two doctors they asured me that I could,but it hasnt happened its all I think about.I feel hopeless will it ever happen for me??
    childlessme childlessme 26-30, F Mar 21, 2010

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    Im Scared....

    im 18 and a virgin, and my periods have always been irregular, but never like this.... 2012 i only have had 2 periods, 1.5 to 2 weeks apart in march and early april.... i have always thought, maybe i cant have kids, but never seriously. i finally made a decision about 6 months...
    alexc36 alexc36 18-21, F 1 Response Apr 22, 2012

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    The Last And Most Painful Story About This...

    I have had endometriosis  [ http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Endometriosis ] for over 16 years now and only 3 full sexual partners of any duration since the age of 19. I am almost 32 and my pain increases with each cycle. I've been on Microgynon (30mg Estrogen pill) continuously...
    TheRealWoman TheRealWoman 31-35, F 13 Responses Nov 9, 2009

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    "why Me"

    I'm 23 years old, at age 16 my mother made a doctors appointment because I hadn't started my period yet. Sitting in the waiting room everything was so quiet. My mom & dad held my hands, as the doctor walked in you could tell something was wrong. "What" Said mom, the doctor said a...
    TT73187 TT73187 22-25, F 1 Response Jul 10, 2011

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    Our Family Medical History

    I'm not infertile, but family medical history makes me not want to curse my kids with the problems. Diabetes runs in my family: my mom, three grandparents, and two uncles all have/had diabetes. I have history on both sides of the family so I'm at risk for it and so would my kids...
    caitiebug1119 caitiebug1119 18-21, F 1 Response Nov 12, 2013

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    I'm Afraid Children Are Not In Our Future

    Hello my name is Aly I'm 30 years old and I have been married for 10 years. I and my husband have been trying for children for 21/2 years now; I have been off all birth control for 5 years we always just thought we would leave it up to fate. It seems that fate has a cruel sense...
    AlyAnonymous AlyAnonymous 26-30, F 2 Responses Oct 30, 2010

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    What The H*ll Is Wrong With Me

    I feel so angry and hurt inside, I am 28 and have had 3 miscarrages that I know of. It makes me so mad because there are incapeable people all around me that can drop their pants and squeeze out children one after the other and they can't even take care of them. I know i would be...
    Christen28 Christen28 26-30, F 4 Responses Nov 9, 2009

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    Scared

    well am 26 years old and i been married 2 years and  we been trying to have a baby for like 5 years now and  we cant seem too what am ii doing wrong why cant i have a baby i been a get mom and i want to get to chance to be one but i don't know how or if i will happened  
    sd4life sd4life 26-30 Sep 27, 2011

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    I Have More Love To Share

    Me and my husband have been trying to conceive for nearly a year now and so far nothing. Every month I am brokenhearted to see a negative pregnancy test and my period. We are young and I never thought it would be this hard to start our family. I have talked with people/family and...
    HisHobbes HisHobbes 22-25, F 1 Response Nov 6, 2012

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    Related Experiences

    I am in love with my friends brother in law. He is gorgeous and has the sweetest personality. The one problem is he has a girl friend who has emotional problems. He tries to smile...
    staky85 staky85 26-30 Jul 6

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    ...i cried now and thinking that this is unfair...why i need to fall in love with him...why he stares and look at me through the eyes that almost touches my soul on our first...
    hannagrace hannagrace 31-35, F 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    I become jolly whenever I see her, but it breaks my heart to think that I can't have that angel.
    eratosthenes eratosthenes 18-21, M 3 Responses Jun 28

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    ...just had a telephone conversation with him today...but i imagine his eyes and felt his sadness...i miss him and we can't have the opportunity to see each other...ours is a...
    hannagrace hannagrace 31-35, F 1 Response Jul 5

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    837 miles separate us. We met on tumblr and 7 months later we met in person. The minute his hands were around my waist hugging me I knew I was going to fall for him. The way he...
    slizzer slizzer 16-17, F 3 Responses 4 days ago

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    I love a her and she loves me too But i can't have her because she already have a boyfriend. And she's scared that our friendship might be ruin if we follow our feelings
    Harukami Harukami 16-17, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    I'm gay and it's hard enough to find people where I live, I found a guy or he found me on the computer and it was a long distance relationship, which I knew would be terrible in...
    EricRadliffe EricRadliffe 18-21, M 1 Response 1 hr ago

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    I'm probably one of them with my track record. I'm great with other peoples kids and other peoples life's but I can always give the kids back etc but the accolades go on and on...
    jadedover101 jadedover101 22-25 1 Response Jul 3

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    I believe that some people should have kids too. I know this lady that beats her autistic child because she can't handle how different he is. She also makes her kids lie about her...
    Samaccino Samaccino 16-17, F 2 Responses