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I Am Afraid I Have Intimacy Issues

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 225 People

    I don't find that I miss people

    as much as I should
    magnamino magnamino 36-40, M 2 Responses Feb 15

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    Lost Now

     i am pretty sure I have intimacy issues, i want to avoid sex at all costs, and it scares me to death that i will be pressured for sex, and if i do have sex i will be direspected and disgarded afterwarsd,its happened before, and i also have experienced a sexual assult and...
    sweetstacey sweetstacey 26-30, F 3 Responses Aug 6, 2008

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    Hard to Use the "L" Word

    It's hard for me to tell others I LOVE them! Even friends and family. And especially my hubby. Why is this? I DON'T KNOW?? My parents were certainly not adverse to saying and showing Love to us kids growing up! My grandparents never let us leave their homes without a hug, kiss...
    emerald emerald 36-40, F 17 Responses Apr 23, 2008

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    It feels like I have this wall around me.

    Anyone even tries and they get deflected. It's especially bad when its s3xual (seriously EP quit with the stupid censoring). Anyway, when I am with a guy I don't feel anything. My mind is off somewhere else. Thing is, the body can be aroused independent of the mind, so being...
    Lov3intheasylum Lov3intheasylum 31-35, F Jan 31

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    Araid Of Being Loved

    i have never been in a proper relationship that has lasted over a month... whenever things start to look good or are going well, i find a reason to end the relationship, and the guys i choose are never really people i feel strongly for anyway so i feel no remorse when i end it. I...
    JibaJaba JibaJaba 18-21, F Jul 3, 2011

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    I'm So Lonely And Yearn For Connection, But Am So Afraid

    I'm 22 years old. I'm attractive, smart (when it comes to school), and friendly. All my life I have dealt with failure, rejection, bullying, and disappointment. I think because of that, i am very insecure with myself. I have never had a boyfriend before, although I've dated a...
    Gymgirl89 Gymgirl89 22-25 8 Responses Dec 29, 2011

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    Difficulty W/intimacy, Isolation & expression

    I have come to learn about myself in the past few weeks that I have a real problem with intimacy and expressing the intimate feeling I have inside.  I instead tend to run and hide, and unfortunately isolate myself for the person I should be expressing these feelings to. ...
    needadvice001 needadvice001 26-30 6 Responses Jul 4, 2008

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    I Can't Kiss My Husband

    I am so frustrated, sad, confused, etc....  I'm having huge issues with intimacy and can't nail down why.  I recently discovered that I am okay with having sex with my husband but not with foreplay.  I don't want to do all of the kissing and heavy petting. ...
    BCoonce BCoonce 33, F 7 Responses Apr 15, 2010

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    Issues With Other Peoples Intimacy Rules...

    Reasons why I have not been the one (and dumped): People don't share their hearts. They close off. Some treat me like a villain. They only love the idea of being in love. I am not their parent. I know trust is hard to give, but I am not planning on dying tomorrow. We have...
    TheWomanWhoDid TheWomanWhoDid 36-40 Jan 30, 2013

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    I Know I Do

    I can't get close to anyone. I can't let them touch me, and it makes me uncomfortable if they stare too long. I don't like to be flirted with, I don't know how to respond. I dislike being touched, even when it's someone I know. I don't like to be looked at, and the very idea of...
    SpiritOfTheRabbit SpiritOfTheRabbit 31-35, F 1 Response Mar 20, 2013

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    I fear and crave intimacy simultaneously.

    So many times break my own heart by letting fear win out. I may lose someone very special to me if I continue with this problem for one moment longer. All my life, I have this pattern of getting involved in lukewarm relationships where I don't have many feelings for the other...
    NamelessNomad NamelessNomad 22-25, F Jan 4

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    Will She Push Me Away?

    Maybe it's just me but the thought of being pushed away while being intimate with a woman...scares me.
    Ichilicious Ichilicious 26-30, M 3 Responses Dec 8, 2011

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    Brainfreeze

    Sometimes people say they get brainfreeze eating icecream. I never get it in the head though, but in the back between my shoulderblades. It is kinda painfull, but it is not like I wanna touch the place while it hurt... It's like that when I see someone, another person. All the...
    Barlong Barlong 22-25, F Jan 8, 2012

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    I Am Afraid I Have Intimacy Issues Looking For A Female For A Loving Anr In An Adult Nursing Relationship In Tampa Bay, Fl.

    I am a Single White Male Searching For Open Minded Female In Tampa Bay, Fl . i am a single white male age 58 searching for an open minded female in tampa bay, florida. if you are out there give me a buzz so that we can chat?
    deleted deleted 26-30 Nov 22, 2013

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    Always Afraid...

    Whenever my boyfriend and I kiss...and I mean KISS, not some little lip action, but full-out tongue-twisting, groping, sprawled on the bed kiss...I get this panicky feeling deep inside my chest, constricting my breath, making me want to push him away and curl up into a ball...
    LiquidFire89 LiquidFire89 18-21, F 4 Responses Sep 7, 2007

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    I am so afraid for people to get close to me,

    physically, emotionally, sexually, because I expect them to hurt me, it means that I keep a barrier around me, and that keeps people away...And yet I long to be 'normal' and be able to have that closeness so that I don't have to be afraid to be alone
    Wi5huponastar Wi5huponastar 26-30, F Mar 6, 2014

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    I dont like cuddling,

    kissing, hugging in public.. It feels embarassing to me
    feebiechichi feebiechichi 31-35, F Feb 26, 2014

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    Please Help Me!!!!

    I am engaged to a woman whom I love very much.  She has issues of her own, but has come a long way and has worked very hard to survive and overcome.  The problem is that she says that I don't make her feel like a woman.  She tells me that she loves me with all...
    IndyNudist IndyNudist 46-50, M 16 Responses Feb 12, 2010

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    Saying i have "trust issues", is probably a massive understatement. Because while i do in fact find it hard to trust people on the most basic level, it goes much deeper than that...
    DropsofJupiter1 DropsofJupiter1 18-21, F 17 Responses Feb 9

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    I don't have anger issues but I hit people once they scary me. I do it by mistake and don't realize it. I slapped my mom on her back. I thought I saw a waterbug that was burnt. I...
    lorrena19 lorrena19 18-21, F Feb 15

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    I have daddy issues. Due to my father being absent growing up, I make the wrong choices when it comes to men.
    PrettyUnique47 PrettyUnique47 22-25, F 5 days ago

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    it's not my fault that I have trust issues. I can't have faith in people when they let me down time after time. if you can't understand that then why are you still here? it's not...
    KitCatBar14 KitCatBar14 18-21, F 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    I have trust issues because I get cheated on over and over again.
    bribra1091 bribra1091 13-15, F 5 Responses 15 hrs ago

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    Raisin cookies that look like chocolate chip cookies are the reason I have trust issues
    puggy64 puggy64 13-15, F 2 Responses 14 hrs ago

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    There is a nightingale deep within me with a reddish tail like a Valentine and a melody that wants to be free Her muffled tune will only catch the ear of that gardener who stills...
    blueyedreamer blueyedreamer 46-50, F 3 Responses Feb 15

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    sometimes even i had already fallen to a guy, i can't simply give him my "yes". am so afraid to let myself go out of my comfort zone. i have lots of "if" in my mind.
    kraine17 kraine17 22-25, F Feb 17

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    Today i learned that the person you expect who will most understand will be the first to drag you down and spit on you... I have always always carried my problems alone mainly...
    dearestL dearestL 22-25 1 Response 2 days ago

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    The thing is, I could join a group like "I have a bad relationship with my father," but calling it "daddy issues" is more fitting. I really am just another sap whose daddy didn't...
    consistentshift consistentshift 18-21, F Feb 12

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    My trust issues are so large I can't even trust myself. oh how the mental hospitals are beckoning me with their paddedwalls....
    thebladeisbae0718 thebladeisbae0718 13-15, F 12 Responses Feb 5

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    You trust your friends and tell them everything- your stress, issues or anything of the sort. Then it all starts to shatter when they simply say "Okay then. Should I care? Because...
    Macyyyy Macyyyy 18-21, F 7 Responses Feb 9

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    because just recently learned that I have had unresolved issues with my Dad. I felt all my life my Dad has never really been there for me. I think there were only a few times when...
    Sara600 Sara600 56-60, F Feb 11

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    I have so many trust issues I had to check if the cocoa puffs were actually cereal and not dog food before eating it...
    thephilosipher thephilosipher 18-21, F 2 Responses Feb 13

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    I am recently divorced and in a new relationship. May marriage failed for various reasons but I would like to tell myself that the most important was the removal of affection. My...
    Pappasierra Pappasierra 41-45, F 2 Responses Feb 14

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    just experiences in the past that ive had has made me had some trust issues.
    PeaceAndLove1 PeaceAndLove1 16-17, F Feb 16

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    I have issues with people saying that I'm angry .
    Alylovespuppies Alylovespuppies 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 16

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    I have very bad trust issues with my fiancé. I've caught him messaging other girls about sex. Texting them about being w them. Asking to meet up. Asking to see them. Saying how...
    lis924 lis924 22-25, F 10 Responses 4 days ago

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    My father is an alcoholic, in recovery for close to 25 years. While I am proud of the fact that is sober now, I am still so angry with him for never apologizing for making my...
    lemonista lemonista 36-40, F 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    So I love my best friend more than anything, more than my family and more than myself, at the moment he is helping me through a very difficult period in my life. (I have depression...
    louisr louisr 16-17, M 2 Responses Feb 2

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    I have been going out with my girlfriend for about 5 months.. before we started dating I knew she had a male friend for over 20 years. they would go to the movies go to his house...
    ihavesomeissues ihavesomeissues 41-45, M 1 Response Feb 8

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    It's hard for me to trust people enough to be myself around them. Once I can get to that point it's fine, but getting there is very much. This is stopping me from making new...
    ElaineLovesSmiles ElaineLovesSmiles 18-21, F 2 Responses Feb 11

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    Well I am off too go meet with my dad. Wish me luck cause I really need it..I just want him too try harder..I want him too at least want me and not just do this cause he has too..I...
    ThePeebs ThePeebs 18-21, F 4 Responses Feb 11

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    i think i do but i have no one to talk to about it
    mysteriousnite mysteriousnite 13-15, F Feb 11

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    My anger comes from my past. I have a horrible past with men. I am likely to start something with someone if they say a rude comment about me. I start shaking. Then I burst out...
    WhooDatGirl WhooDatGirl 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 15

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    I can love unconditionally, I can smile, and laugh but I can never accept those feelings from others. Ive never been in a relationship where I wasn't cheated on. I may have even...
    Phoenix3439 Phoenix3439 18-21, F Feb 16

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    like i feel like i cant believe things ppl tell me. like if they dont make logical sense. i assume they are lying to me. something tonight i asked this person about. i asked them...
    WickedlilAngel WickedlilAngel 31-35, F 5 Responses Feb 16

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    Its very hard to believe someone ,everyone pretending to be nice and stab on your back .Very few people around me who are truly mean what they say . I need time to have faith in...
    lifenoteasy lifenoteasy 26-30, M Feb 16

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