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I Am Afraid I Have Intimacy Issues

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    I fear and crave intimacy simultaneously.

    So many times break my own heart by letting fear win out. I may lose someone very special to me if I continue with this problem for one moment longer. All my life, I have this pattern of getting involved in lukewarm relationships where I don't have many feelings for the other...
    NamelessNomad NamelessNomad 22-25, F Jan 4

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    Please Help Me!!!!

    I am engaged to a woman whom I love very much.  She has issues of her own, but has come a long way and has worked very hard to survive and overcome.  The problem is that she says that I don't make her feel like a woman.  She tells me that she loves me with all...
    IndyNudist IndyNudist 46-50, M 16 Responses Feb 12, 2010

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    It feels like I have this wall around me.

    Anyone even tries and they get deflected. It's especially bad when its s3xual (seriously EP quit with the stupid censoring). Anyway, when I am with a guy I don't feel anything. My mind is off somewhere else. Thing is, the body can be aroused independent of the mind, so being...
    Lov3intheasylum Lov3intheasylum 31-35, F Jan 31

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    Hard to Use the "L" Word

    It's hard for me to tell others I LOVE them! Even friends and family. And especially my hubby. Why is this? I DON'T KNOW?? My parents were certainly not adverse to saying and showing Love to us kids growing up! My grandparents never let us leave their homes without a hug, kiss...
    emerald emerald 36-40, F 16 Responses Apr 23, 2008

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    I Am Afraid I Have Intimacy Issues Looking For A Female For A Loving Anr In An Adult Nursing Relationship In Tampa Bay, Fl.

    I am a Single White Male Searching For Open Minded Female In Tampa Bay, Fl . i am a single white male age 58 searching for an open minded female in tampa bay, florida. if you are out there give me a buzz so that we can chat?
    deleted deleted 26-30 Nov 22, 2013

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    Difficulty W/intimacy, Isolation & expression

    I have come to learn about myself in the past few weeks that I have a real problem with intimacy and expressing the intimate feeling I have inside.  I instead tend to run and hide, and unfortunately isolate myself for the person I should be expressing these feelings to. ...
    needadvice001 needadvice001 26-30 5 Responses Jul 4, 2008

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    I Can't Kiss My Husband

    I am so frustrated, sad, confused, etc....  I'm having huge issues with intimacy and can't nail down why.  I recently discovered that I am okay with having sex with my husband but not with foreplay.  I don't want to do all of the kissing and heavy petting. ...
    BCoonce BCoonce 31-35, F 6 Responses Apr 15, 2010

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    Lost Now

     i am pretty sure I have intimacy issues, i want to avoid sex at all costs, and it scares me to death that i will be pressured for sex, and if i do have sex i will be direspected and disgarded afterwarsd,its happened before, and i also have experienced a sexual assult and...
    sweetstacey sweetstacey 26-30, F 3 Responses Aug 6, 2008

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    I am so afraid for people to get close to me,

    physically, emotionally, sexually, because I expect them to hurt me, it means that I keep a barrier around me, and that keeps people away...And yet I long to be 'normal' and be able to have that closeness so that I don't have to be afraid to be alone
    Wi5huponastar Wi5huponastar 26-30, F Mar 6, 2014

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    I Know I Do

    I can't get close to anyone. I can't let them touch me, and it makes me uncomfortable if they stare too long. I don't like to be flirted with, I don't know how to respond. I dislike being touched, even when it's someone I know. I don't like to be looked at, and the very idea of...
    SpiritOfTheRabbit SpiritOfTheRabbit 31-35, F 1 Response Mar 20, 2013

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    Very, very afraid. Rejection

    and abuse have probably played a big part. From both family and everyone else. An unwanted sexual encounter at 14 with an older woman also kind of made me fearful I guess. I guess it's really very difficult to peg down exactly. But for a long time I've always been very selective...
    zeframcochrane zeframcochrane 18-21 Aug 16

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    I dont like cuddling,

    kissing, hugging in public.. It feels embarassing to me
    feebiechichi feebiechichi 31-35, F Feb 26, 2014

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    I don't find that I miss people

    as much as I should
    magnamino magnamino 36-40, M 2 Responses Feb 15

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    Always Afraid...

    Whenever my boyfriend and I kiss...and I mean KISS, not some little lip action, but full-out tongue-twisting, groping, sprawled on the bed kiss...I get this panicky feeling deep inside my chest, constricting my breath, making me want to push him away and curl up into a ball...
    LiquidFire89 LiquidFire89 18-21, F 4 Responses Sep 7, 2007

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    Will She Push Me Away?

    Maybe it's just me but the thought of being pushed away while being intimate with a woman...scares me.
    Ichilicious Ichilicious 26-30, M 2 Responses Dec 8, 2011

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    I'm So Lonely And Yearn For Connection, But Am So Afraid

    I'm 22 years old. I'm attractive, smart (when it comes to school), and friendly. All my life I have dealt with failure, rejection, bullying, and disappointment. I think because of that, i am very insecure with myself. I have never had a boyfriend before, although I've dated a...
    Gymgirl89 Gymgirl89 22-25 8 Responses Dec 29, 2011

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    Brainfreeze

    Sometimes people say they get brainfreeze eating icecream. I never get it in the head though, but in the back between my shoulderblades. It is kinda painfull, but it is not like I wanna touch the place while it hurt... It's like that when I see someone, another person. All the...
    Barlong Barlong 22-25, F Jan 8, 2012

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    Araid Of Being Loved

    i have never been in a proper relationship that has lasted over a month... whenever things start to look good or are going well, i find a reason to end the relationship, and the guys i choose are never really people i feel strongly for anyway so i feel no remorse when i end it. I...
    JibaJaba JibaJaba 18-21, F Jul 3, 2011

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    Issues With Other Peoples Intimacy Rules...

    Reasons why I have not been the one (and dumped): People don't share their hearts. They close off. Some treat me like a villain. They only love the idea of being in love. I am not their parent. I know trust is hard to give, but I am not planning on dying tomorrow. We have...
    TheWomanWhoDid TheWomanWhoDid 36-40 Jan 30, 2013

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    Just to say where the level of issues is at; my brother was telling that he was planning on marrying his girlfriend. But he also said that he isn't going to invite our father or...
    GodIHateLife GodIHateLife 16-17, F 10 hrs ago

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    i am a female, of course I have hormone issues!!! lol
    StreetgirlnamedDesire504 StreetgirlnamedDesire504 36-40 3 days ago

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    I believe family is there to guide you on the track of life that you're supposed to be on. But I also feel like they hold you back from the life you could have had.
    Abcdefghijessy Abcdefghijessy 18-21, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    When I'm drunk I share a lot of things, all you have to do is ask the right questions... So... My friends dad realised that I have pretty serious issues with the past and with my...
    ImBatmanShhh ImBatmanShhh 16-17, T 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    So I was just at my boyfriends house. And all I ever want to do is cuddle and kiss. But all he wants to do is touch me and have sex. I tell him to stop but he just keeps doing it...
    kxtrinx kxtrinx 13-15, F 8 Responses 4 days ago

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    I've been hurt so much in my past relationships that I feel like I may never be able to trust someone with my heart again.
    BrittBratz BrittBratz 31-35, F 5 Responses 4 days ago

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    Waaaaaahhhhh I think I have pimple brrak outs! Like I dunno what to do with! I never had this issue last year! But lately my menstrual cycle changed. Like I only get my period...
    AnneDee84 AnneDee84 31-35, F 4 days ago

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    I tend to trust people way too much and when things fall through it absolutely crushes me
    Nyx5 Nyx5 16-17, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    I never told anyone I know.. but I have trust issues. My hole life i had never trusted anyone. I never said my secrets to ANYONE. I really don't know what's wrong with me.
    unseeen unseeen 16-17, F 4 Responses 5 days ago

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    i hate having these trust issues...it destroyed my last relationship i was in. i need help on how to overcome these issue before i go in to another relationship.
    LONELYGUY95 LONELYGUY95 18-21, M 3 Responses 6 days ago

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    My trust issues hurt my current relationship, despite how much I love them.
    SimplyPanic SimplyPanic 13-15, T 5 Responses 6 days ago

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    I have major trust issues. I can't trust my very own floor anymore. IT MADE ME SLIP. so I decided to attack it backwards. (never trusted the floor again) and that's how people...
    aliveness aliveness 16-17, F a week ago

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    Constantly i have been feeling like my boyfriend is cheating on me. I mean so much adds up to make it seem that way. He always has his phone or has to be on it, he was never like...
    whenyourheartwonders whenyourheartwonders 18-21, F 10 Responses Aug 24

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    People say, Anger can destroy the person and drag him to hell, But I feel anger won't destroy any person if he know how to use it properly. In my view it's like a weapon, if you...
    bak4u bak4u 26-30, M 1 Response Aug 24

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    It can be extremely difficult to find people who actually have good intentions. I've been taken advantage of so much that I don't take the time out to allow myself to get close to...
    wasabilola wasabilola 18-21, F 11 Responses Aug 23

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    I'm so effing pissed this stupid app won't let me say curse words so I can express my anger. I THOUGHT THIS WAS A SUPPORT GROUP!
    nataly13 nataly13 13-15, F Aug 23

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    I'm so angry right now. I'm supposed to move in like a week. The money that I was supposed to save up was taken by somebody u suppose to trust. Now I'm broke and hurt...
    LadyHeyward LadyHeyward 41-45, F 2 Responses Aug 23

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    Not afraid to commit actually, I'm full on board if/when the time comes. I guess the "non commital" part comes from the fact I'm afraid I'll never make him happy for one. Two, we...
    Lov3intheasylum Lov3intheasylum 31-35, F Aug 22

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    Considering how trustworthy I am, along with how open and honest I am...it surprises people when they realise that I find it immensely difficult to trust people in fact it'd be...
    AlreadyOwned7379 AlreadyOwned7379 36-40, F 2 Responses Aug 22

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    What does it feel like? When im raging I feel invincible. All I see is red, you can't stop me and I am not backing down for nothing. Im not scared of anyone or anything. Feels...
    anonamanda001 anonamanda001 18-21, F Aug 21

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    I don't even know if he's still my friend, because he ignores me a lot. Since most girls are attracted to him, he spends time talking to them instead of me. He also spends time...
    GhettoMemeing GhettoMemeing 13-15, F 1 Response Aug 20

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    I hate how people judge me and don't look at there self before they start judging me. I'm proud of the lips I have at least I don't got your lips And like my real friend say if...
    annierys20 annierys20 13-15, F 1 Response Aug 19

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