I Am Afraid I Have Intimacy Issues

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 262 People

    I Know I Do

    I can't get close to anyone. I can't let them touch me, and it makes me uncomfortable if they stare too long. I don't like to be flirted with, I don't know how to respond. I dislike being touched, even when it's someone I know. I don't like to be looked at, and the very idea of...
    SpiritOfTheRabbit SpiritOfTheRabbit
    31-35, F
    1 Response Mar 20, 2013

    I don't find that I miss people

    as much as I should
    magnamino magnamino
    36-40, M
    2 Responses Feb 15, 2015

    Always Afraid...

    Whenever my boyfriend and I kiss...and I mean KISS, not some little lip action, but full-out tongue-twisting, groping, sprawled on the bed kiss...I get this panicky feeling deep inside my chest, constricting my breath, making me want to push him away and curl up into a ball...
    LiquidFire89 LiquidFire89
    18-21, F
    4 Responses Sep 7, 2007

    I have spent years of my life trying to fill

    the holes in my stability with sex. it leaves me feeling empty and insecure. I don't even know how to start a relationship. When someone shows me interest, I recoil or put out. There are times when I have sex that my partner will touch me intimately or look at me in that sweet...
    howdoigetthere howdoigetthere
    22-25, F
    Apr 1

    I am unwell somehow. I am in love

    for the first time ever in my life but I keep imagining failure, so I keep predicting and have broken up twice with this boyfriend. I don't even want to do it. I did it twice.
    Adventurousprofiler Adventurousprofiler
    46-50, F
    Mar 1

    Issues With Other Peoples Intimacy Rules...

    Reasons why I have not been the one (and dumped): People don't share their hearts. They close off. Some treat me like a villain. They only love the idea of being in love. I am not their parent. I know trust is hard to give, but I am not planning on dying tomorrow. We have...
    TheWomanWhoDid TheWomanWhoDid
    Jan 30, 2013

    I am so afraid for people to get close to me,

    physically, emotionally, sexually, because I expect them to hurt me, it means that I keep a barrier around me, and that keeps people away...And yet I long to be 'normal' and be able to have that closeness so that I don't have to be afraid to be alone
    Wi5huponastar Wi5huponastar
    26-30, F
    Mar 6, 2014
    KaidaKat KaidaKat
    22-25, F
    Nov 1, 2015

    Araid Of Being Loved

    i have never been in a proper relationship that has lasted over a month... whenever things start to look good or are going well, i find a reason to end the relationship, and the guys i choose are never really people i feel strongly for anyway so i feel no remorse when i end it. I...
    JibaJaba JibaJaba
    18-21, F
    Jul 3, 2011

    I fear and crave intimacy simultaneously.

    So many times break my own heart by letting fear win out. I may lose someone very special to me if I continue with this problem for one moment longer. All my life, I have this pattern of getting involved in lukewarm relationships where I don't have many feelings for the other...
    NamelessNomad NamelessNomad
    26-30, F
    Jan 4, 2015

    I dont like cuddling,

    kissing, hugging in public.. It feels embarassing to me
    feebiechichi feebiechichi
    31-35, F
    Feb 26, 2014

    My exboyfriend had intimacy issues.

    We dated three times for several months each. I loved him deeply but just couldn't wait any longer for the sex. I didn't actually say it but I'm sure he could sense it. He picked a ridiculous fight to break us up and I can't believe he just threw me away like that because I...
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Sep 27, 2015

    I find it difficult to be close to anybody.

    . To make or keep friends, "loving" my family, sometimes I even feel my intimacy issues with my dog, who I am trying to form emotions for. I am an emotionless person unless it is tears from watching a movie or something.. I have never loved a man or boy and I am just as bad as...
    LilVixen17 LilVixen17
    18-21, F
    4 Responses Feb 1

    I'm So Lonely And Yearn For Connection, But Am So Afraid

    I'm 22 years old. I'm attractive, smart (when it comes to school), and friendly. All my life I have dealt with failure, rejection, bullying, and disappointment. I think because of that, i am very insecure with myself. I have never had a boyfriend before, although I've dated a...
    Gymgirl89 Gymgirl89
    10 Responses Dec 29, 2011

    Difficulty W/intimacy, Isolation & expression

    I have come to learn about myself in the past few weeks that I have a real problem with intimacy and expressing the intimate feeling I have inside.  I instead tend to run and hide, and unfortunately isolate myself for the person I should be expressing these feelings to. ...
    needadvice001 needadvice001
    5 Responses Jul 4, 2008

    It feels like I have this wall around me.

    Anyone even tries and they get deflected. It's especially bad when its s3xual (seriously EP quit with the stupid censoring). Anyway, when I am with a guy I don't feel anything. My mind is off somewhere else. Thing is, the body can be aroused independent of the mind, so being...
    Lov3intheasylum Lov3intheasylum
    31-35, F
    Jan 31, 2015

    I Can't Kiss My Husband

    I am so frustrated, sad, confused, etc....  I'm having huge issues with intimacy and can't nail down why.  I recently discovered that I am okay with having sex with my husband but not with foreplay.  I don't want to do all of the kissing and heavy petting. ...
    BCoonce BCoonce
    31-35, F
    6 Responses Apr 15, 2010


    Sometimes people say they get brainfreeze eating icecream. I never get it in the head though, but in the back between my shoulderblades. It is kinda painfull, but it is not like I wanna touch the place while it hurt... It's like that when I see someone, another person. All the...
    Barlong Barlong
    26-30, F
    Jan 8, 2012

    Please Help Me!!!!

    I am engaged to a woman whom I love very much.  She has issues of her own, but has come a long way and has worked very hard to survive and overcome.  The problem is that she says that I don't make her feel like a woman.  She tells me that she loves me with all...
    IndyNudist IndyNudist
    46-50, M
    16 Responses Feb 12, 2010

    Very, very afraid. Rejection

    and abuse have probably played a big part. From both family and everyone else. An unwanted sexual encounter at 14 with an older woman also kind of made me fearful I guess. I guess it's really very difficult to peg down exactly. But for a long time I've always been very selective...
    zeframcochrane zeframcochrane
    Aug 16, 2015

    Lost Now

     i am pretty sure I have intimacy issues, i want to avoid sex at all costs, and it scares me to death that i will be pressured for sex, and if i do have sex i will be direspected and disgarded afterwarsd,its happened before, and i also have experienced a sexual assult and...
    sweetstacey sweetstacey
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Aug 6, 2008

    I Am Afraid I Have Intimacy Issues Looking For A Female For A Loving Anr In An Adult Nursing Relationship In Tampa Bay, Fl.

    I am a Single White Male Searching For Open Minded Female In Tampa Bay, Fl . i am a single white male age 58 searching for an open minded female in tampa bay, florida. if you are out there give me a buzz so that we can chat?
    deleted deleted
    Nov 22, 2013
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