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I Am Afraid I Have Intimacy Issues

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 227 People

    I Can't Kiss My Husband

    I am so frustrated, sad, confused, etc....  I'm having huge issues with intimacy and can't nail down why.  I recently discovered that I am okay with having sex with my husband but not with foreplay.  I don't want to do all of the kissing and heavy petting. ...
    BCoonce BCoonce 31-35, F 7 Responses Apr 15, 2010

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    I don't find that I miss people

    as much as I should
    magnamino magnamino 36-40, M 2 Responses Feb 15

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    I Know I Do

    I can't get close to anyone. I can't let them touch me, and it makes me uncomfortable if they stare too long. I don't like to be flirted with, I don't know how to respond. I dislike being touched, even when it's someone I know. I don't like to be looked at, and the very idea of...
    SpiritOfTheRabbit SpiritOfTheRabbit 31-35, F 1 Response Mar 20, 2013

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    Difficulty W/intimacy, Isolation & expression

    I have come to learn about myself in the past few weeks that I have a real problem with intimacy and expressing the intimate feeling I have inside.  I instead tend to run and hide, and unfortunately isolate myself for the person I should be expressing these feelings to. ...
    needadvice001 needadvice001 26-30 6 Responses Jul 4, 2008

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    Issues With Other Peoples Intimacy Rules...

    Reasons why I have not been the one (and dumped): People don't share their hearts. They close off. Some treat me like a villain. They only love the idea of being in love. I am not their parent. I know trust is hard to give, but I am not planning on dying tomorrow. We have...
    TheWomanWhoDid TheWomanWhoDid 36-40 Jan 30, 2013

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    Will She Push Me Away?

    Maybe it's just me but the thought of being pushed away while being intimate with a woman...scares me.
    Ichilicious Ichilicious 26-30, M 2 Responses Dec 8, 2011

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    Lost Now

     i am pretty sure I have intimacy issues, i want to avoid sex at all costs, and it scares me to death that i will be pressured for sex, and if i do have sex i will be direspected and disgarded afterwarsd,its happened before, and i also have experienced a sexual assult and...
    sweetstacey sweetstacey 26-30, F 3 Responses Aug 6, 2008

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    I'm So Lonely And Yearn For Connection, But Am So Afraid

    I'm 22 years old. I'm attractive, smart (when it comes to school), and friendly. All my life I have dealt with failure, rejection, bullying, and disappointment. I think because of that, i am very insecure with myself. I have never had a boyfriend before, although I've dated a...
    Gymgirl89 Gymgirl89 22-25 8 Responses Dec 29, 2011

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    I fear and crave intimacy simultaneously.

    So many times break my own heart by letting fear win out. I may lose someone very special to me if I continue with this problem for one moment longer. All my life, I have this pattern of getting involved in lukewarm relationships where I don't have many feelings for the other...
    NamelessNomad NamelessNomad 22-25, F Jan 4

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    Please Help Me!!!!

    I am engaged to a woman whom I love very much.  She has issues of her own, but has come a long way and has worked very hard to survive and overcome.  The problem is that she says that I don't make her feel like a woman.  She tells me that she loves me with all...
    IndyNudist IndyNudist 46-50, M 16 Responses Feb 12, 2010

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    Araid Of Being Loved

    i have never been in a proper relationship that has lasted over a month... whenever things start to look good or are going well, i find a reason to end the relationship, and the guys i choose are never really people i feel strongly for anyway so i feel no remorse when i end it. I...
    JibaJaba JibaJaba 18-21, F Jul 3, 2011

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    It feels like I have this wall around me.

    Anyone even tries and they get deflected. It's especially bad when its s3xual (seriously EP quit with the stupid censoring). Anyway, when I am with a guy I don't feel anything. My mind is off somewhere else. Thing is, the body can be aroused independent of the mind, so being...
    Lov3intheasylum Lov3intheasylum 31-35, F Jan 31

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    Always Afraid...

    Whenever my boyfriend and I kiss...and I mean KISS, not some little lip action, but full-out tongue-twisting, groping, sprawled on the bed kiss...I get this panicky feeling deep inside my chest, constricting my breath, making me want to push him away and curl up into a ball...
    LiquidFire89 LiquidFire89 18-21, F 4 Responses Sep 7, 2007

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    I am so afraid for people to get close to me,

    physically, emotionally, sexually, because I expect them to hurt me, it means that I keep a barrier around me, and that keeps people away...And yet I long to be 'normal' and be able to have that closeness so that I don't have to be afraid to be alone
    Wi5huponastar Wi5huponastar 26-30, F Mar 6, 2014

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    Brainfreeze

    Sometimes people say they get brainfreeze eating icecream. I never get it in the head though, but in the back between my shoulderblades. It is kinda painfull, but it is not like I wanna touch the place while it hurt... It's like that when I see someone, another person. All the...
    Barlong Barlong 22-25, F Jan 8, 2012

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    I Am Afraid I Have Intimacy Issues Looking For A Female For A Loving Anr In An Adult Nursing Relationship In Tampa Bay, Fl.

    I am a Single White Male Searching For Open Minded Female In Tampa Bay, Fl . i am a single white male age 58 searching for an open minded female in tampa bay, florida. if you are out there give me a buzz so that we can chat?
    deleted deleted 26-30 Nov 22, 2013

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    Hard to Use the "L" Word

    It's hard for me to tell others I LOVE them! Even friends and family. And especially my hubby. Why is this? I DON'T KNOW?? My parents were certainly not adverse to saying and showing Love to us kids growing up! My grandparents never let us leave their homes without a hug, kiss...
    emerald emerald 36-40, F 16 Responses Apr 23, 2008

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    I dont like cuddling,

    kissing, hugging in public.. It feels embarassing to me
    feebiechichi feebiechichi 31-35, F Feb 26, 2014

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    I have jealousy issues and I can't make sense of where the roots are I believe that if you know where a problem comes from then that's one major step to change and I want to change...
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    Not your typical trust issues though. I trust people too much, and I trust until I have a reason to not trust them. It's an issue because people easily lie to me, and I constantly...
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    I'm really starting to question who I can trust anymore. In the past 8 months I've seen so many people who I considered friends and who I thought I knew really well, slowly reveal...
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    Ever since I was little I've always been afraid of trusting people;afraid that once I let them in they'd do something and hurt me. Now I give my trust to people and they use it...
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    My father was someone I looked up to when ever I was younger. Even though he was abusive and cheated on my mother. I came to learn that when I was on his side he would keep me at...
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    Struggling with trust today. Trust hurts. But i do not want to lose the ability to trust or take the chance in missing out on something amazing because of my lack of it. i do not...
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    I have issues with depression and anger. Sometimes I just feel like I am hated by everyone and nobody likes me. And sometimes I freak out if I even think someone is hating on me...
    happyguyrak08 happyguyrak08 22-25, M Apr 28

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    I have issues growing up without dad figures.. i dont know much about how to know about man..i have difficulties needs and wants..i am very independent..i have issues build...
    myselfhere myselfhere 22-25, F Apr 29

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    I have no issue with my issues. Anytime I second guess my cynicism Im proven right every time. Only two things in my life are certain; regretting attachment and picking myself up...
    Socalsunset Socalsunset 22-25, F 1 Response Apr 29

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    Its like they don't even see me as a human anymore. Yes, we have a lot of issues, but most of them only seem to hurt me. They hate me. My father has even told me to kill myself to...
    LostInElizabeth LostInElizabeth 16-17, F May 1

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    Trust issues are not rare. They are sane. The wealthy created crimes. The poor copied those crimes. And trust got rare.
    convertihd convertihd 46-50, M 2 Responses May 2

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    Yes there is stigma out there that women are the ones who suffer from well no, Guys like myself suffer from daddy issues. You see I had a father but he still lives but he is dead...
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    There's too many reasons to list why I have a hard time trusting. I'm in a relationship and I fear that I will lose my best friend because of this. He has done nothing to me to...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response May 13

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    I have huge daddy issues!!
    CatalinaPetrova CatalinaPetrova 16-17, F 1 Response May 14

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    Yep. And mommy issues. I just have problems with both of my parents. I was destined for psychological failure, sigh.
    PinkMellow PinkMellow 18-21, F 2 Responses May 14

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    I used to trust so easily. Things have changed quite a bit. I think it's safe to say that I am more aware than I used to be. Trust issues at such an early age? I don't even know...
    CyanideY CyanideY 70+, F 2 Responses May 16

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