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I Am Afraid I Have Intimacy Issues

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 235 People

    I am so afraid for people to get close to me,

    physically, emotionally, sexually, because I expect them to hurt me, it means that I keep a barrier around me, and that keeps people away...And yet I long to be 'normal' and be able to have that closeness so that I don't have to be afraid to be alone
    Wi5huponastar Wi5huponastar 26-30, F Mar 6, 2014

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    I don't find that I miss people

    as much as I should
    magnamino magnamino 36-40, M 2 Responses Feb 15

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    Issues With Other Peoples Intimacy Rules...

    Reasons why I have not been the one (and dumped): People don't share their hearts. They close off. Some treat me like a villain. They only love the idea of being in love. I am not their parent. I know trust is hard to give, but I am not planning on dying tomorrow. We have...
    TheWomanWhoDid TheWomanWhoDid 36-40 Jan 30, 2013

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    Always Afraid...

    Whenever my boyfriend and I kiss...and I mean KISS, not some little lip action, but full-out tongue-twisting, groping, sprawled on the bed kiss...I get this panicky feeling deep inside my chest, constricting my breath, making me want to push him away and curl up into a ball...
    LiquidFire89 LiquidFire89 18-21, F 4 Responses Sep 7, 2007

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    I fear and crave intimacy simultaneously.

    So many times break my own heart by letting fear win out. I may lose someone very special to me if I continue with this problem for one moment longer. All my life, I have this pattern of getting involved in lukewarm relationships where I don't have many feelings for the other...
    NamelessNomad NamelessNomad 22-25, F Jan 4

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    Difficulty W/intimacy, Isolation & expression

    I have come to learn about myself in the past few weeks that I have a real problem with intimacy and expressing the intimate feeling I have inside.  I instead tend to run and hide, and unfortunately isolate myself for the person I should be expressing these feelings to. ...
    needadvice001 needadvice001 26-30 5 Responses Jul 4, 2008

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    I dont like cuddling,

    kissing, hugging in public.. It feels embarassing to me
    feebiechichi feebiechichi 31-35, F Feb 26, 2014

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    I'm So Lonely And Yearn For Connection, But Am So Afraid

    I'm 22 years old. I'm attractive, smart (when it comes to school), and friendly. All my life I have dealt with failure, rejection, bullying, and disappointment. I think because of that, i am very insecure with myself. I have never had a boyfriend before, although I've dated a...
    Gymgirl89 Gymgirl89 22-25 8 Responses Dec 29, 2011

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    Please Help Me!!!!

    I am engaged to a woman whom I love very much.  She has issues of her own, but has come a long way and has worked very hard to survive and overcome.  The problem is that she says that I don't make her feel like a woman.  She tells me that she loves me with all...
    IndyNudist IndyNudist 46-50, M 16 Responses Feb 12, 2010

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    Will She Push Me Away?

    Maybe it's just me but the thought of being pushed away while being intimate with a woman...scares me.
    Ichilicious Ichilicious 26-30, M 2 Responses Dec 8, 2011

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    Hard to Use the "L" Word

    It's hard for me to tell others I LOVE them! Even friends and family. And especially my hubby. Why is this? I DON'T KNOW?? My parents were certainly not adverse to saying and showing Love to us kids growing up! My grandparents never let us leave their homes without a hug, kiss...
    emerald emerald 36-40, F 16 Responses Apr 23, 2008

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    Araid Of Being Loved

    i have never been in a proper relationship that has lasted over a month... whenever things start to look good or are going well, i find a reason to end the relationship, and the guys i choose are never really people i feel strongly for anyway so i feel no remorse when i end it. I...
    JibaJaba JibaJaba 18-21, F Jul 3, 2011

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    Brainfreeze

    Sometimes people say they get brainfreeze eating icecream. I never get it in the head though, but in the back between my shoulderblades. It is kinda painfull, but it is not like I wanna touch the place while it hurt... It's like that when I see someone, another person. All the...
    Barlong Barlong 22-25, F Jan 8, 2012

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    I Know I Do

    I can't get close to anyone. I can't let them touch me, and it makes me uncomfortable if they stare too long. I don't like to be flirted with, I don't know how to respond. I dislike being touched, even when it's someone I know. I don't like to be looked at, and the very idea of...
    SpiritOfTheRabbit SpiritOfTheRabbit 31-35, F 1 Response Mar 20, 2013

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    I Am Afraid I Have Intimacy Issues Looking For A Female For A Loving Anr In An Adult Nursing Relationship In Tampa Bay, Fl.

    I am a Single White Male Searching For Open Minded Female In Tampa Bay, Fl . i am a single white male age 58 searching for an open minded female in tampa bay, florida. if you are out there give me a buzz so that we can chat?
    deleted deleted 26-30 Nov 22, 2013

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    It feels like I have this wall around me.

    Anyone even tries and they get deflected. It's especially bad when its s3xual (seriously EP quit with the stupid censoring). Anyway, when I am with a guy I don't feel anything. My mind is off somewhere else. Thing is, the body can be aroused independent of the mind, so being...
    Lov3intheasylum Lov3intheasylum 31-35, F Jan 31

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    I Can't Kiss My Husband

    I am so frustrated, sad, confused, etc....  I'm having huge issues with intimacy and can't nail down why.  I recently discovered that I am okay with having sex with my husband but not with foreplay.  I don't want to do all of the kissing and heavy petting. ...
    BCoonce BCoonce 31-35, F 6 Responses Apr 15, 2010

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    Lost Now

     i am pretty sure I have intimacy issues, i want to avoid sex at all costs, and it scares me to death that i will be pressured for sex, and if i do have sex i will be direspected and disgarded afterwarsd,its happened before, and i also have experienced a sexual assult and...
    sweetstacey sweetstacey 26-30, F 3 Responses Aug 6, 2008

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    Related Experiences

    I used to . I knew it is because of my child abuse experience and later on my self esteem was low and I got depressed. I failed to love myself and all I had is : hatred, disgust...
    StrongWoman9 StrongWoman9 26-30, F 1 day ago

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    Because I've been lied to an Cheated on so many times! I wouldn't say that I have totally Trust issues..Naw sum that's all but hey I will give u a chance to prove yourself, Unlike...
    yvettemae48 yvettemae48 46-50, F 1 day ago

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    I have trust issues and I know that. I'm working on it, but it's up to the world to stop helping to **** it up.
    moonlight1989 moonlight1989 26-30, F 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    chavacc11 chavacc11 26-30, F 3 days ago

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    I've had these issues for a long time. Now, unfortunately after having the same experience over and over and over again, I've come to understand. I tend to date the same man...
    boompowsplat boompowsplat 26-30, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    I Have Trust Issues Because My Family Talks To Me And Then Tell My Business I Try To Tell Everyone That I Think I Can Trust Whats Going On And They Just Think Im A Liar They Hate...
    Clarial Clarial 13-15, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    No one has really ever lied to me that badly, I just find it really hard to believe things. Things like compliments are hard to take because I'm scared of being seen as a fool. I...
    probablyjessica probablyjessica 16-17, F 3 Responses 5 days ago

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    I'm not entirely sure what is wrong with me. Doctors have ran tons of tests but they are as confused as me. All I can do is pray to God and believe He can heal me. I'm just glad...
    MrMenShow MrMenShow 18-21, F 5 days ago

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    I really wish this wasn't an issue for me! I used to be so naive- when people would tell me about hard times in their lives- I would be so thankful that I was so blessed and didn't...
    trying2hard trying2hard 36-40, F 5 Responses 5 days ago

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    I'm not really sure what to believe I've been lied to so many times and it just causes issues in my relationships cuz they just can't understand why I don't fully trust
    BlairGrace BlairGrace 13-15, F 3 Responses 5 days ago

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    I have been betrayed by many people in the past even by my own parents so I find it extremely hard to trust anyone nowadays.
    StephBlakeIsInfinite StephBlakeIsInfinite 18-21, F 3 Responses 6 days ago

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    I have been lied to and let down by many people, so to trust, is to be hurt. Do I think everyone is untrustworthy? No! However, I do believe that some of us either attract or...
    LonesumnTx LonesumnTx 51-55, F 6 days ago

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    I honestly don't really expect a response to this. I just need to vent. I have been really paranoid with my boyfriend lately. He is always so worried about me cheating on him or...
    dance40415 dance40415 18-21, F 3 Responses a week ago

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    Is everyone perfect or not? I have NEVER met a person who confess their faults up front. I believe this is why the world is in this terrible condition today. A woman can meet a man...
    Babeondwy Babeondwy 41-45, F a week ago

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    so I lived with my dad for about 2 years..and he raped me continuously...well I'm 18 now and anytime I have sex I get scared..well the other night. I had sex with a guy that I...
    Ana1amber Ana1amber 18-21, F 6 Responses Jul 23

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    this should not be a surprise because how the world is now. You cannot trust anyone really. It all depends on what you are trusting them for. As far as my experiences most really...
    Babeondwy Babeondwy 41-45, F Jul 23

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    my trust issues aren't just paranoia, my trust issues are because so many people have proven time and time again that they can't be trusted.
    SilverSpiritWolf32 SilverSpiritWolf32 31-35, F 5 Responses Jul 23

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    I have extreme jealously issues , like to the point where I want to scream cry , throw a complete temper tantrum .. Depending on the situation . Or I get extremely hurt , my heart...
    Rs668009 Rs668009 18-21, F Jul 22

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    I have been wanting a "father figure/ boyfriend" in my life... Almost like a dad I can f*** the **** out of. They take care of you but manhandle you at the same time. Oh how I'm...
    ashlenteran ashlenteran 18-21, F 7 Responses Jul 22

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    I don't really know where to begin but my family have always been messed up when it comes to figuring out what's appropriate. They always fought, it was never new. When I was...
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Jul 22

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    I read on here about someone having trust issues. And thought I would write to see if anyone could offer me some advice. I have fallen deeply in love with my best friend whom I...
    Jacqualiner Jacqualiner 36-40, F 4 Responses Jul 22

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    I've only known them for about 9 months, but they've been friends for years. I am starting to have feelings for him, and getting jealous of how close she is to him.
    CamdenCoffee CamdenCoffee 26-30, F Jul 22

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    There are numerous older men in the world who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to...
    chriscc11 chriscc11 26-30, F Jul 21

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    trust issues come from being f*cked over.
    raiee raiee 26-30 Jul 19

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    I am trying to trust someone. It's extremely difficult. I play out all the scenarios in my head of ways he could be lying to me. It's put me into a ball of anxiety. I realize this...
    kitticat007 kitticat007 31-35, F 6 Responses Jul 19