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I Am Afraid I Have Intimacy Issues

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 202 People

    Always Afraid...

    Whenever my boyfriend and I kiss...and I mean KISS, not some little lip action, but full-out tongue-twisting, groping, sprawled on the bed kiss...I get this panicky feeling deep inside my chest, constricting my breath, making me want to push him away and curl up into a ball...
    LiquidFire89 LiquidFire89 18-21, F 4 Responses Sep 7, 2007

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    I'm So Lonely And Yearn For Connection, But Am So Afraid

    I'm 22 years old. I'm attractive, smart (when it comes to school), and friendly. All my life I have dealt with failure, rejection, bullying, and disappointment. I think because of that, i am very insecure with myself. I have never had a boyfriend before, although I've dated a...
    Gymgirl89 Gymgirl89 22-25 8 Responses Dec 29, 2011

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    Araid Of Being Loved

    i have never been in a proper relationship that has lasted over a month... whenever things start to look good or are going well, i find a reason to end the relationship, and the guys i choose are never really people i feel strongly for anyway so i feel no remorse when i end it. I...
    JibaJaba JibaJaba 18-21, F Jul 3, 2011

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    I Know I Do

    I can't get close to anyone. I can't let them touch me, and it makes me uncomfortable if they stare too long. I don't like to be flirted with, I don't know how to respond. I dislike being touched, even when it's someone I know. I don't like to be looked at, and the very idea of...
    SpiritOfTheRabbit SpiritOfTheRabbit 31-35, F 1 Response Mar 20, 2013

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    Difficulty W/intimacy, Isolation & expression

    I have come to learn about myself in the past few weeks that I have a real problem with intimacy and expressing the intimate feeling I have inside.  I instead tend to run and hide, and unfortunately isolate myself for the person I should be expressing these feelings to. ...
    needadvice001 needadvice001 26-30 6 Responses Jul 4, 2008

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    Please Help Me!!!!

    I am engaged to a woman whom I love very much.  She has issues of her own, but has come a long way and has worked very hard to survive and overcome.  The problem is that she says that I don't make her feel like a woman.  She tells me that she loves me with all...
    IndyNudist IndyNudist 46-50, M 16 Responses Feb 12, 2010

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    I am so afraid for people to get close to me,

    physically, emotionally, sexually, because I expect them to hurt me, it means that I keep a barrier around me, and that keeps people away...And yet I long to be 'normal' and be able to have that closeness so that I don't have to be afraid to be alone
    Wi5huponastar Wi5huponastar 26-30, F Mar 6

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    I Am Afraid I Have Intimacy Issues Looking For A Female For A Loving Anr In An Adult Nursing Relationship In Tampa Bay, Fl.

    I am a Single White Male Searching For Open Minded Female In Tampa Bay, Fl . i am a single white male age 58 searching for an open minded female in tampa bay, florida. if you are out there give me a buzz so that we can chat?
    deleted deleted 26-30 Nov 22, 2013

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    Issues With Other Peoples Intimacy Rules...

    Reasons why I have not been the one (and dumped): People don't share their hearts. They close off. Some treat me like a villain. They only love the idea of being in love. I am not their parent. I know trust is hard to give, but I am not planning on dying tomorrow. We have...
    TheWomanWhoDid TheWomanWhoDid 36-40 Jan 30, 2013

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    Brainfreeze

    Sometimes people say they get brainfreeze eating icecream. I never get it in the head though, but in the back between my shoulderblades. It is kinda painfull, but it is not like I wanna touch the place while it hurt... It's like that when I see someone, another person. All the...
    Barlong Barlong 22-25, F Jan 8, 2012

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    Will She Push Me Away?

    Maybe it's just me but the thought of being pushed away while being intimate with a woman...scares me.
    Ichilicious Ichilicious 26-30, M 3 Responses Dec 8, 2011

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    I dont like cuddling,

    kissing, hugging in public.. It feels embarassing to me
    feebiechichi feebiechichi 31-35, F Feb 26

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    Lost Now

     i am pretty sure I have intimacy issues, i want to avoid sex at all costs, and it scares me to death that i will be pressured for sex, and if i do have sex i will be direspected and disgarded afterwarsd,its happened before, and i also have experienced a sexual assult and...
    sweetstacey sweetstacey 26-30, F 3 Responses Aug 6, 2008

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    Hard to Use the "L" Word

    It's hard for me to tell others I LOVE them! Even friends and family. And especially my hubby. Why is this? I DON'T KNOW?? My parents were certainly not adverse to saying and showing Love to us kids growing up! My grandparents never let us leave their homes without a hug, kiss...
    emerald emerald 36-40, F 17 Responses Apr 23, 2008

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    I Can't Kiss My Husband

    I am so frustrated, sad, confused, etc....  I'm having huge issues with intimacy and can't nail down why.  I recently discovered that I am okay with having sex with my husband but not with foreplay.  I don't want to do all of the kissing and heavy petting. ...
    BCoonce BCoonce 33, F 7 Responses Apr 15, 2010

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    I do have trust issues. But most of the time I'm the one that's not trustworthy... :/
    ifearsnowmen ifearsnowmen 18-21, M 1 Response Sep 9

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    Yes ,I have trust issues,maybe every person who came to my life whom I loved hurt me one way or another.but again sometimes trust or no trust,I feel every person come in life with...
    dawnordusk dawnordusk 31-35, F 1 Response Sep 20

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    I won't invest my time into something that I don't know the outcome to, hence why I have trust issues. I rarely put my guard down. I'm always on the lookout. I like to have control...
    anitamigna anitamigna 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 23

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    I think I have commitment issues. I find it hard to stay with one person for any longer than 2 months. It's really annoying because I am with a really amazing guy but I can't help...
    Butterflyfairy23 Butterflyfairy23 18-21, F 3 Responses Sep 24

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    I have huge trouble opening up to boyfriends so my relationships are never as open, intimate and real as they should be. Im always afraid that as soon as I let them in they will...
    miloks miloks 26-30, F 5 Responses Sep 2

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    Sarcasm is a defense mechanism its a way for me to exist without revealing real emotions. Its part of the reason I try not to interact outside of face to face because I can't read...
    CassieWithAnO CassieWithAnO 13-15, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    Yes I have major trust issues. I have been burned too many times in the past to trust any friend or boyfriend. Boys they lie and cheat and are very secretive. A friend they tend...
    Dsanders13 Dsanders13 16-17, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    Ive noticed it. Ive denied it for a long while but soon came to accept it. My mom have noticed my anger issues but yet, she still gets mee pissed off on purpose. My anger goes as...
    MeeeKazz MeeeKazz 16-17, F 3 Responses Sep 2

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    I have been in my relationship for almost 3 years, with an amzing man, that has never given me any reason to not trust him. we have two kids. we rushed in to things quickly, but we...
    ooomooo ooomooo 18-21, F 5 Responses Sep 4

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    I have trouble trusting people which stops me from having any kind of relationship. I want someone to talk to but I know I won't open up at all. I had to talk myself to putting...
    BoMolly BoMolly 18-21, F 3 Responses Sep 5

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    So I don't really talk about this, but I felt like confessing, I guess. So.. These brother issues occurred because of absence of a brother figure. Now.. I do have a brother, but I...
    MissClueless MissClueless 16-17, F 2 Responses Sep 11

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    My boyfriend broke up with me because he said ' my trust issues are getting worse' well it's not my fault he cheated on me twice, is it? No. The other day he yelled at me because I...
    Allofthemeanpeople Allofthemeanpeople 16-17, F 8 Responses Sep 23

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    I just want that comfort feeling of having a father. Someone to help me and catch my back when I fall and guide me. I feel as if I'll never have that feeling again.
    whidel6 whidel6 22-25, F 3 Responses Sep 3

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    I get mad over the littlest stuff and when I do, it's not just as if I get frustrated it's blind rage that I don't know how to handle or control. It's caused my parents to offer me...
    Jareb Jareb 16-17, M Sep 4

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    I don't know anything anymore, who to trust or who not to trust... I mean, taking some guy's word who I barely have talked to, who's basically sleeping with an engaged woman, over...
    XxxFallenAngelxxX XxxFallenAngelxxX 22-25, F 5 Responses Sep 7

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    Always when I have to speak in front of many people my face turns red and I speak weird. My friends call me shy. But I just think it's not my people.
    Ramakichi Ramakichi 18-21, F Sep 10

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    I have this problem where my face gets flushed with redness way too easily. If I'm embarrassed or laughing, it'd turn red. When it's hot, my face turns red. When I laugh at a...
    JAD01 JAD01 31-35, F Sep 12

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    I am on my way to cincinatti to start a new life. My husband bonded out of jailed after beating me and i dont want him back. I have filed for divorce and he has been served. He...
    jennaveivea jennaveivea 36-40, F 10 Responses Sep 13

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    I get mad over the STUPIDEST stuff but when I should get mad, I don't. I really need to work on that, but don't we all have something we have to work on?
    picses2222 picses2222 13-15, F Sep 13

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    I'm just laying on my bed right now thinking about all of the people who I thought cared about me, but when the truth came out, they didn't care one but. That happened a lot this...
    GrandGizzard GrandGizzard 18-21, M 1 Response Sep 14

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    I have been betrayed by literally everyone. :(
    joy98 joy98 16-17, F 1 Response Sep 20

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    This might be my downfall, but I admit. I always see the good in people. I trust people. As naive as it may sound, I do. I used to think I'm a good judge of character, I can...
    anhourglass anhourglass 36-40, F 2 Responses Sep 24

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    I have been with the same guy for 2 years now and I still don't trust him and I really don't know why, I ALWAYS get mad/jealous if I see a girl talk to him, or I always want to...
    cnw1 cnw1 18-21, F 4 Responses a week ago

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    A couple of weeks later mother was out late again. We had just finished dinner and were washing up. When you look out our kitchen window you can see off in the distance the main...
    Guilty1982 Guilty1982 31-35, F 5 days ago

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    I have always had this issue. I been hurt since the day i was born. Awarded to the state as a teen after being abused and cheated on over and over again as a young Mother of my...
    wickedone72 wickedone72 41-45, F 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    OK. So my life in a paragraph ... As far back as I can remember I have cross dressed and wanted to be female. Sexually abused by a male family member as a child, mentally abused by...
    Christinamarie3095 Christinamarie3095 41-45, T 3 days ago

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    This will be there until i find that one person who i trust. I have found her but i am not fully trusting right now
    AustinmMurdock AustinmMurdock 16-17, M 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    What does it feel like to commit yourself to another human being? Do you have expectations of that person going into a relationship? What are you hoping to gain from that...
    AquariusLife AquariusLife 26-30, F 4 Responses 2 days ago

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    I have been dating my boyfriend for two years now. He just told me a month ago he cheated on me two times, and when he was away at college, was someone else. Whenever I visited him...
    grey9 grey9 18-21, F 4 Responses Sep 3

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    I didn't have a perfect childhood. I know there are many like me that didn't. My childhood could have been worse, I'm sure. This is my story. I'll write it in parts because its...
    Guilty1982 Guilty1982 31-35, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    Went to my first class today, I'm so very happy I went!
    OneTooManyTears OneTooManyTears 36-40, F Sep 2

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    So my dad was NEVER. There for me and my big brother. And so I got a request from him now. I'm 18. And now you ******* show up?