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I Am Afraid I Have Intimacy Issues

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 227 People

    I'm So Lonely And Yearn For Connection, But Am So Afraid

    I'm 22 years old. I'm attractive, smart (when it comes to school), and friendly. All my life I have dealt with failure, rejection, bullying, and disappointment. I think because of that, i am very insecure with myself. I have never had a boyfriend before, although I've dated a...
    Gymgirl89 Gymgirl89 22-25 8 Responses Dec 29, 2011

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    I Can't Kiss My Husband

    I am so frustrated, sad, confused, etc....  I'm having huge issues with intimacy and can't nail down why.  I recently discovered that I am okay with having sex with my husband but not with foreplay.  I don't want to do all of the kissing and heavy petting. ...
    BCoonce BCoonce 31-35, F 6 Responses Apr 15, 2010

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    Hard to Use the "L" Word

    It's hard for me to tell others I LOVE them! Even friends and family. And especially my hubby. Why is this? I DON'T KNOW?? My parents were certainly not adverse to saying and showing Love to us kids growing up! My grandparents never let us leave their homes without a hug, kiss...
    emerald emerald 36-40, F 16 Responses Apr 23, 2008

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    Issues With Other Peoples Intimacy Rules...

    Reasons why I have not been the one (and dumped): People don't share their hearts. They close off. Some treat me like a villain. They only love the idea of being in love. I am not their parent. I know trust is hard to give, but I am not planning on dying tomorrow. We have...
    TheWomanWhoDid TheWomanWhoDid 36-40 Jan 30, 2013

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    Always Afraid...

    Whenever my boyfriend and I kiss...and I mean KISS, not some little lip action, but full-out tongue-twisting, groping, sprawled on the bed kiss...I get this panicky feeling deep inside my chest, constricting my breath, making me want to push him away and curl up into a ball...
    LiquidFire89 LiquidFire89 18-21, F 4 Responses Sep 7, 2007

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    I don't find that I miss people

    as much as I should
    magnamino magnamino 36-40, M 2 Responses Feb 15

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    Lost Now

     i am pretty sure I have intimacy issues, i want to avoid sex at all costs, and it scares me to death that i will be pressured for sex, and if i do have sex i will be direspected and disgarded afterwarsd,its happened before, and i also have experienced a sexual assult and...
    sweetstacey sweetstacey 26-30, F 3 Responses Aug 6, 2008

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    I dont like cuddling,

    kissing, hugging in public.. It feels embarassing to me
    feebiechichi feebiechichi 31-35, F Feb 26, 2014

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    It feels like I have this wall around me.

    Anyone even tries and they get deflected. It's especially bad when its s3xual (seriously EP quit with the stupid censoring). Anyway, when I am with a guy I don't feel anything. My mind is off somewhere else. Thing is, the body can be aroused independent of the mind, so being...
    Lov3intheasylum Lov3intheasylum 31-35, F Jan 31

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    Difficulty W/intimacy, Isolation & expression

    I have come to learn about myself in the past few weeks that I have a real problem with intimacy and expressing the intimate feeling I have inside.  I instead tend to run and hide, and unfortunately isolate myself for the person I should be expressing these feelings to. ...
    needadvice001 needadvice001 26-30 5 Responses Jul 4, 2008

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    I Know I Do

    I can't get close to anyone. I can't let them touch me, and it makes me uncomfortable if they stare too long. I don't like to be flirted with, I don't know how to respond. I dislike being touched, even when it's someone I know. I don't like to be looked at, and the very idea of...
    SpiritOfTheRabbit SpiritOfTheRabbit 31-35, F 1 Response Mar 20, 2013

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    I Am Afraid I Have Intimacy Issues Looking For A Female For A Loving Anr In An Adult Nursing Relationship In Tampa Bay, Fl.

    I am a Single White Male Searching For Open Minded Female In Tampa Bay, Fl . i am a single white male age 58 searching for an open minded female in tampa bay, florida. if you are out there give me a buzz so that we can chat?
    deleted deleted 26-30 Nov 22, 2013

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    Araid Of Being Loved

    i have never been in a proper relationship that has lasted over a month... whenever things start to look good or are going well, i find a reason to end the relationship, and the guys i choose are never really people i feel strongly for anyway so i feel no remorse when i end it. I...
    JibaJaba JibaJaba 18-21, F Jul 3, 2011

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    Please Help Me!!!!

    I am engaged to a woman whom I love very much.  She has issues of her own, but has come a long way and has worked very hard to survive and overcome.  The problem is that she says that I don't make her feel like a woman.  She tells me that she loves me with all...
    IndyNudist IndyNudist 46-50, M 16 Responses Feb 12, 2010

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    Will She Push Me Away?

    Maybe it's just me but the thought of being pushed away while being intimate with a woman...scares me.
    Ichilicious Ichilicious 26-30, M 2 Responses Dec 8, 2011

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    I fear and crave intimacy simultaneously.

    So many times break my own heart by letting fear win out. I may lose someone very special to me if I continue with this problem for one moment longer. All my life, I have this pattern of getting involved in lukewarm relationships where I don't have many feelings for the other...
    NamelessNomad NamelessNomad 22-25, F Jan 4

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    Brainfreeze

    Sometimes people say they get brainfreeze eating icecream. I never get it in the head though, but in the back between my shoulderblades. It is kinda painfull, but it is not like I wanna touch the place while it hurt... It's like that when I see someone, another person. All the...
    Barlong Barlong 22-25, F Jan 8, 2012

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    I am so afraid for people to get close to me,

    physically, emotionally, sexually, because I expect them to hurt me, it means that I keep a barrier around me, and that keeps people away...And yet I long to be 'normal' and be able to have that closeness so that I don't have to be afraid to be alone
    Wi5huponastar Wi5huponastar 26-30, F Mar 6, 2014

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    I wish I didn't, but I constantly put up walls, and can never fully let people in you know? I have this mindset that if I am able to prevent heartbreak, depression, and everything...
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    I DOOOOO ...I Have them ...WHY??!!
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    and once again I know why. You took one month and 5 days to build up trust , to paint a picture of a future, to make me fall for you . To make me feel involved in your life...
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    We're in an LDR and recently, its been getting more and more difficult since ive started getting busy. Both of us are busy now. Its not easy. Really, its not. I wish i could see...
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    I know this man could give me everything I wanted he's amazing he'd do anything for me...he said so himself...he's got a beautiful mind....and he said I am wonderful a goddess...he...
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    I used to have really bad anger problems when I was in first grade. Like whenever someone would try to talk to me I would just be like "get out of my face I don't like you". I was...
    lifesacruelgame lifesacruelgame 16-17, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    Because the people who I'm supposed to depend on to be there for me have let me down.
    foreveralone22 foreveralone22 22-25, F 5 Responses 3 days ago

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    have you ever been in a situation where you have so much anxiety because you don't want something to happen so bad so you can't help but be so fidgety and nervous ? these are my...
    giselleevelyn giselleevelyn 18-21, F a week ago

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    My boyfriend just told me he keeps his family and me separate. He said it's to avoid conflict because they have issues with how close we are. That's why he doesn't kiss me in front...
    Greengurl22 Greengurl22 18-21, F 1 Response a week ago

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    I have a bad temper I get dizzy sometimes I have to pray daily to keep and give it to God
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    It may be true that you cannot learn to trust and relinquish control that you simply have to have faith and push yourself to take risk and learn from observing your own behavior...
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    Found out close to a year ago that my father wasn't meant to see my brothers and I until we were 18 due to a protection order, which we could choose to renew when we reached 18...
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    The smallest things to people are always the biggest things to me. I try to not let the obscenity get to me but some people don't know how to ******* stop. I don't even think this...
    QuietKitten QuietKitten 18-21, F 1 Response Jun 20

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    how do you let go of everything you have known ever learned and start fresh and trust I don't have the answer and I'm not sure there is one
    deleted deleted 26-30 Jun 19

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    I do,but id rather be cautious than naive any day and if someone can't understand that,that's there problem.This is why i don't like getting close to anyone or getting my hopes up...
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    How to believe a pal known for years. Cared about. Supported by heart and mind. If she fibs about a loan by sis. What other fibs have been told.
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    so a few months back I met my boyfriend everything was well he was sweet he was fun he was reallt caring, then about 3 weeks or 2 into our relationship I found out he wanted to be...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jun 17

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    I have really big trust issues and it sucks . A couple years ago these people became really close to my family and they went to my church . They came over my house at least 5 times...
    Callmequasha Callmequasha 18-21, F 2 Responses Jun 17

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    And I'm Trying Not To Let Them Affect Me.. I'm not really sure what triggered it. It could be a number of things from the time frame I developed them. Abandonment from those I...
    SnowStorm00 SnowStorm00 18-21, F Jun 17

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    My dad has autism. The diagnosis came when my siblings and I had already reached adulthood, and by that point (having grown up with our dad), we already knew he was different. We...
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