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I Am Afraid I Have Intimacy Issues

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    I Can't Kiss My Husband

    I am so frustrated, sad, confused, etc....  I'm having huge issues with intimacy and can't nail down why.  I recently discovered that I am okay with having sex with my husband but not with foreplay.  I don't want to do all of the kissing and heavy petting. ...
    BCoonce BCoonce 33, F 7 Responses Apr 15, 2010

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    I dont like cuddling,

    kissing, hugging in public.. It feels embarassing to me
    feebiechichi feebiechichi 26-30, F 1 Response Feb 26

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    Lost Now

     i am pretty sure I have intimacy issues, i want to avoid sex at all costs, and it scares me to death that i will be pressured for sex, and if i do have sex i will be direspected and disgarded afterwarsd,its happened before, and i also have experienced a sexual assult and...
    sweetstacey sweetstacey 26-30, F 3 Responses Aug 6, 2008

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    I Know I Do

    I can't get close to anyone. I can't let them touch me, and it makes me uncomfortable if they stare too long. I don't like to be flirted with, I don't know how to respond. I dislike being touched, even when it's someone I know. I don't like to be looked at, and the very idea of...
    SpiritOfTheRabbit SpiritOfTheRabbit 31-35, F 1 Response Mar 20, 2013

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    Araid Of Being Loved

    i have never been in a proper relationship that has lasted over a month... whenever things start to look good or are going well, i find a reason to end the relationship, and the guys i choose are never really people i feel strongly for anyway so i feel no remorse when i end it. I...
    JibaJaba JibaJaba 18-21, F Jul 3, 2011

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    Brainfreeze

    Sometimes people say they get brainfreeze eating icecream. I never get it in the head though, but in the back between my shoulderblades. It is kinda painfull, but it is not like I wanna touch the place while it hurt... It's like that when I see someone, another person. All the...
    Barlong Barlong 22-25, F Jan 8, 2012

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    Difficulty W/intimacy, Isolation & expression

    I have come to learn about myself in the past few weeks that I have a real problem with intimacy and expressing the intimate feeling I have inside.  I instead tend to run and hide, and unfortunately isolate myself for the person I should be expressing these feelings to. ...
    needadvice001 needadvice001 26-30 6 Responses Jul 4, 2008

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    I am so afraid for people to get close to me,

    physically, emotionally, sexually, because I expect them to hurt me, it means that I keep a barrier around me, and that keeps people away...And yet I long to be 'normal' and be able to have that closeness so that I don't have to be afraid to be alone
    Wi5huponastar Wi5huponastar 22-25, F Mar 6

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    Issues With Other Peoples Intimacy Rules...

    Reasons why I have not been the one (and dumped): People don't share their hearts. They close off. Some treat me like a villain. They only love the idea of being in love. I am not their parent. I know trust is hard to give, but I am not planning on dying tomorrow. We have...
    TheWomanWhoDid TheWomanWhoDid 36-40 Jan 30, 2013

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    Hard to Use the "L" Word

    It's hard for me to tell others I LOVE them! Even friends and family. And especially my hubby. Why is this? I DON'T KNOW?? My parents were certainly not adverse to saying and showing Love to us kids growing up! My grandparents never let us leave their homes without a hug, kiss...
    emerald emerald 36-40, F 17 Responses Apr 23, 2008

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    I'm So Lonely And Yearn For Connection, But Am So Afraid

    I'm 22 years old. I'm attractive, smart (when it comes to school), and friendly. All my life I have dealt with failure, rejection, bullying, and disappointment. I think because of that, i am very insecure with myself. I have never had a boyfriend before, although I've dated a...
    Gymgirl89 Gymgirl89 22-25 8 Responses Dec 29, 2011

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    Always Afraid...

    Whenever my boyfriend and I kiss...and I mean KISS, not some little lip action, but full-out tongue-twisting, groping, sprawled on the bed kiss...I get this panicky feeling deep inside my chest, constricting my breath, making me want to push him away and curl up into a ball...
    LiquidFire89 LiquidFire89 18-21, F 4 Responses Sep 7, 2007

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    Will She Push Me Away?

    Maybe it's just me but the thought of being pushed away while being intimate with a woman...scares me.
    Ichilicious Ichilicious 22-25, M 3 Responses Dec 8, 2011

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    I really don't know why I have trust issues. It doesn't make sense why I do. I mean, I don't think I had them before I met my friend Isaac. But I can't be sure. Isaac has been my...
    DeJeKlu DeJeKlu 18-21, F Mar 29

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    My ex always said I could trust him. Then he started to hurt me. Said he had the trust issues when I never said anything about him but he started rumors. So now I have trust issues...
    Loveisupsetting Loveisupsetting 13-15, F Mar 29

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    I have marriage issues, but who doesn't?So for years my spouse has asked me to open up, to tell him what I really feel. He asked me a question and although I started off joking, it...
    2O5E4 2O5E4 22-25, F Mar 24

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    I have trust issues because of my bullying from 1st grade to 9th grade. It was a bad experience.
    Done453 Done453 16-17, F 2 Responses Mar 31

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    Yes I have trust issues only because I grew up most of my child hood- early teen years being lied too from people I loved. But my trust has definitely gotten stronger the older I...
    kaseymwt kaseymwt 22-25, F Apr 10

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    Every time I get into a relationship, a couple of days later, I just feel like I'm not good enough and it just makes me want to break it off. I'm either out of their social class...
    MaryRiddle3 MaryRiddle3 13-15, F a week ago

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    I have daddy issues because my dad was forced out I the house because of me now it's been over a year since I talked to him! I miss him so much so now I'm attracted to older men...
    lifeishurtful lifeishurtful 13-15, F 4 Responses a week ago

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    I feel like whoever I talk to, whether it be teachers or acquaintances or people on EP or even best friends, that i'm just being a burden on them. In my head, I believe that they...
    urbanparadigm urbanparadigm 16-17, M 4 Responses 2 days ago

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    I mostly have trust issues because of bad past relationships. In my entire 18 years of living, I've dated 3 people. The first guy I dated for 2 years and he broke up with me via...
    agm0829 agm0829 18-21, F 1 Response Apr 5

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    Nobody understands why I push them away but I push them away because I'm afraid of being hurt by someone I love
    deadwolvesdodance deadwolvesdodance 13-15, F 1 Response Apr 4

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    Ever since I experienced a lot regarding friendship and stuff, and my environment felt like it forced me to, I began to doubt people. I know I changed a lot, but this doubting...
    13robert13 13robert13 13-15, M Apr 5

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    Its really frustrating. I want to let this person all the way in.. But im terrified because of the stuff from my past. Im afraid if i let this person in even a little, i will be...
    Ellebasor Ellebasor 18-21, F Apr 8

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    I have huge trust issues. 1: my dad, ever since he came home drunk when I was 12 and had to call the cops on him. He spent a few months away from the family. He even missed my...
    broadwaybabe99 broadwaybabe99 13-15, F 1 Response Mar 31

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    The thing about me is that I need to be ABSOLUTELY sure that you will be true to your word. I don't want to find out you have lied to me next day. I've had trust issues since I was...
    Kitzami Kitzami 13-15, M Mar 21

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    Trust issues are a serious thing. It angers me when people just expect me to trust them right off the bat. Not just me, but no one should do that. It's like the person doesn't...
    JustCammy JustCammy 16-17, F 2 Responses Mar 29

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    I hate having trust issues. It sucks. Especially when you're in a long distance relationship. I hate being on edge.
    Amydenson1 Amydenson1 16-17, F 2 Responses Mar 30

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    Letting Go Of Him Because He Cannot Let Go Of Her- Self-condemnation is the gateway to drug abuse,suicide,and worse. When I get sick of being the child of a drug addict,convicted...
    2ndGenPuppet 2ndGenPuppet 18-21, F Mar 31

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    My issues come from being left so many times. Also they stem from being cheated on. How will I ever be able to trust anyone again?
    BiO811HazarD BiO811HazarD 18-21, M 4 Responses Apr 1

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    To be honest I do have some jealousy issues with my bestfriend.. And when I do I start acting all mean and I don't mean to but I don't know.. What should I do?
    itzlexx itzlexx 13-15, F 3 days ago

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    As I type this tonight, I find myself wishing I could turn back the clock and yet i realize that we are all here in this moment for a reason. From me writing this to you reading...
    PeterBGood PeterBGood 36-40, M 1 Response Apr 5

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    I have very bad anger issues the littlest things set me off! I have gotten into many fights and in a ton of trouble because of my anger! I have been threatened to get sent to...
    Justanobody17 Justanobody17 16-17, F Apr 6

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    I have anger management issues, which I have been working on since I've noticed them. However, no matter how long and hard someone has been working on controlling their anger...
    faeriefate faeriefate 18-21 a week ago

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    My boyfriends, john, best friend,Paul, died in a car accident in November. Paul was going to marry a girl. Now my boyfriend and her talk often. Which is understandable but lately...
    dixie201425 dixie201425 18-21, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    Help me my dad always hates it when i play on my laptop and my dad now comes in and says you should be doing your homework. I said "I am (and I'm telling the truth)" He says "well...
    BlockyEnder BlockyEnder 18-21, M 2 Responses Mar 20

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    I used to be so naive and only believed in innocence. But then people turned out to be not what I thought they were. So now it's very hard for me to trust people cuz history does...
    azngirl123 azngirl123 13-15, F 1 Response Mar 20

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    fionacc11 fionacc11 26-30, F Mar 21

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    I have had three lovers who were confidential informants set me up to be arrested and prosecuted by law enforcement, in order to get out of their own felony charges.
    miles2gob4isleep miles2gob4isleep 56-60, F 3 Responses Mar 21

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    I don't know how to explain this. I mean, I know my dad loves me and cares about me but he doesn't show that. I'm not a bad daughter. Yes, I have defects, but I'm not on drugs, I...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Mar 21

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    It has occurred to me that there is something about my father I have been repressing....the night he was arrested. I remember him only vaguely. He was tall with pale eyes and he...
    2ndGenPuppet 2ndGenPuppet 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 22

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    This has come as a shock to me since, I have never had this "jealousy" problem before. I have been married and divorced twice, cheated on, beaten and made fun of and anything else...
    Calibabe84 Calibabe84 26-30, F 3 Responses Mar 23

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    I have a hard time falling in love . I've dated a guy for months but I never fell in love with him. He was in love with me because I was his first real girlfriend . Any guy I've...
    REALWORDS823 REALWORDS823 16-17, F 1 Response Mar 23

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    I have a really bad anger and dont know to keep it under control
    welch1995 welch1995 18-21, F Mar 23

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    My relationship with my father is all wrong. I was the eldest. I was the one he always took out his anger on. I usually had honestly not done anything wrong, or, even if I had, it...
    NekroNomikon NekroNomikon 18-21, F 3 Responses Mar 24

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    Im done with trying to help my parents. I dont want to be selfish but I also dont want my older brother to remain a good for nothing or my parents to owe a lot of money. Our...
    NoobLove NoobLove 22-25, F 2 Responses Mar 26

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    I can say that all of the people around me say that their dads shared a lot of joy and love towards their sons...but me was different as when dad used to stay at home...he kept...
    Egyptianguy34 Egyptianguy34 31-35, M 1 Response Mar 27

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    He Allowed It All-After my father's arrest conflict broke out between his mother and my mother. My mother wanted a divorce&to return to America with us kids. My grandmother wanted...
    2ndGenPuppet 2ndGenPuppet 18-21, F Mar 27

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    Sometimes it can be the smallest thing that sets me off. Anyone have any effective anger management techniques? o.O
    Whoami30 Whoami30 26-30, M 1 Response Mar 30

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    Confused Little Girl- I did not even know I had a biological father until a judge ordered me to his custody in Europe. Before that I lived with my widowed stepfather. My mother had...
    StandoffishBrat StandoffishBrat 18-21 Apr 1

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    Every guy I have ever liked in my entire life has either not felt the same way as me, has ended up being a total jerk, has used me, forgotten me, hurt me, or has simply tossed me...
    Sapphire14 Sapphire14 22-25, F 4 Responses Apr 1

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