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I Am Afraid I Have Intimacy Issues

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    I am so afraid for people to get close to me,

    physically, emotionally, sexually, because I expect them to hurt me, it means that I keep a barrier around me, and that keeps people away...And yet I long to be 'normal' and be able to have that closeness so that I don't have to be afraid to be alone
    Wi5huponastar Wi5huponastar 26-30, F Mar 6

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    Brainfreeze

    Sometimes people say they get brainfreeze eating icecream. I never get it in the head though, but in the back between my shoulderblades. It is kinda painfull, but it is not like I wanna touch the place while it hurt... It's like that when I see someone, another person. All the...
    Barlong Barlong 22-25, F Jan 8, 2012

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    I Can't Kiss My Husband

    I am so frustrated, sad, confused, etc....  I'm having huge issues with intimacy and can't nail down why.  I recently discovered that I am okay with having sex with my husband but not with foreplay.  I don't want to do all of the kissing and heavy petting. ...
    BCoonce BCoonce 33, F 7 Responses Apr 15, 2010

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    Hard to Use the "L" Word

    It's hard for me to tell others I LOVE them! Even friends and family. And especially my hubby. Why is this? I DON'T KNOW?? My parents were certainly not adverse to saying and showing Love to us kids growing up! My grandparents never let us leave their homes without a hug, kiss...
    emerald emerald 36-40, F 17 Responses Apr 23, 2008

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    Will She Push Me Away?

    Maybe it's just me but the thought of being pushed away while being intimate with a woman...scares me.
    Ichilicious Ichilicious 26-30, M 3 Responses Dec 8, 2011

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    Issues With Other Peoples Intimacy Rules...

    Reasons why I have not been the one (and dumped): People don't share their hearts. They close off. Some treat me like a villain. They only love the idea of being in love. I am not their parent. I know trust is hard to give, but I am not planning on dying tomorrow. We have...
    TheWomanWhoDid TheWomanWhoDid 36-40 Jan 30, 2013

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    I'm So Lonely And Yearn For Connection, But Am So Afraid

    I'm 22 years old. I'm attractive, smart (when it comes to school), and friendly. All my life I have dealt with failure, rejection, bullying, and disappointment. I think because of that, i am very insecure with myself. I have never had a boyfriend before, although I've dated a...
    Gymgirl89 Gymgirl89 22-25 8 Responses Dec 29, 2011

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    Difficulty W/intimacy, Isolation & expression

    I have come to learn about myself in the past few weeks that I have a real problem with intimacy and expressing the intimate feeling I have inside.  I instead tend to run and hide, and unfortunately isolate myself for the person I should be expressing these feelings to. ...
    needadvice001 needadvice001 26-30 6 Responses Jul 4, 2008

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    Lost Now

     i am pretty sure I have intimacy issues, i want to avoid sex at all costs, and it scares me to death that i will be pressured for sex, and if i do have sex i will be direspected and disgarded afterwarsd,its happened before, and i also have experienced a sexual assult and...
    sweetstacey sweetstacey 26-30, F 3 Responses Aug 6, 2008

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    Always Afraid...

    Whenever my boyfriend and I kiss...and I mean KISS, not some little lip action, but full-out tongue-twisting, groping, sprawled on the bed kiss...I get this panicky feeling deep inside my chest, constricting my breath, making me want to push him away and curl up into a ball...
    LiquidFire89 LiquidFire89 18-21, F 4 Responses Sep 7, 2007

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    I Am Afraid I Have Intimacy Issues Looking For A Female For A Loving Anr In An Adult Nursing Relationship In Tampa Bay, Fl.

    I am a Single White Male Searching For Open Minded Female In Tampa Bay, Fl . i am a single white male age 58 searching for an open minded female in tampa bay, florida. if you are out there give me a buzz so that we can chat?
    deleted deleted 26-30 Nov 22, 2013

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    I dont like cuddling,

    kissing, hugging in public.. It feels embarassing to me
    feebiechichi feebiechichi 31-35, F Feb 26

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    Araid Of Being Loved

    i have never been in a proper relationship that has lasted over a month... whenever things start to look good or are going well, i find a reason to end the relationship, and the guys i choose are never really people i feel strongly for anyway so i feel no remorse when i end it. I...
    JibaJaba JibaJaba 18-21, F Jul 3, 2011

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    I Know I Do

    I can't get close to anyone. I can't let them touch me, and it makes me uncomfortable if they stare too long. I don't like to be flirted with, I don't know how to respond. I dislike being touched, even when it's someone I know. I don't like to be looked at, and the very idea of...
    SpiritOfTheRabbit SpiritOfTheRabbit 31-35, F 1 Response Mar 20, 2013

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    Please Help Me!!!!

    I am engaged to a woman whom I love very much.  She has issues of her own, but has come a long way and has worked very hard to survive and overcome.  The problem is that she says that I don't make her feel like a woman.  She tells me that she loves me with all...
    IndyNudist IndyNudist 46-50, M 16 Responses Feb 12, 2010

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    Uncertain153 Uncertain153 26-30, M 2 hrs ago

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    Why I'm afraid. I'm afraid of being vulnerable. I used to think i had no control beyond my own skin. That all I could control.. I inflicted on myself. The pain I caused. Before...
    BelleRaven BelleRaven 18-21, F 2 Responses Nov 1

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    My parents split up when I was 9, I saw it coming but I had to grow up and be strong for my mum and little sister.. My dad moved out, and well I was never really the affectionate...
    ttn159 ttn159 16-17, F 5 Responses Oct 26

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    So my dad returned to drinking,and I'm afraid of him.And believe me,I find it stupid that I'm afraid of my own dad,when he's done nothing to harm me.he lives somewhere else and I...
    belovedcandy belovedcandy 26-30, F 1 Response Oct 30

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    My trust go back to childhood. I haven't always been one to trust people. I had a lot of friends growing up that back stabbed me. Growing up I would say I was a little depressed...
    feelinglost84 feelinglost84 26-30, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    I was in a relationship with my highschool sweetheart for 5 years, and in that period of time, I realized that I did not know how to be a girlfriend and I did not know how to be in...
    thisgirl92 thisgirl92 18-21, F 2 Responses Nov 8

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    I feel I need to start talking about this to atleast just feel a bit better. My BF and I have been together for approx 6 months now. At the start when we were simply seeing each...
    Bells83 Bells83 31-35, F 1 Response Oct 22

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    I joined this website about four years ago absolutely angry with men, with real serious issues that have pushed me towards favouring girls. I don't feel the same now, I sometimes...
    MissGaga MissGaga 22-25, F 20 Responses Oct 31

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    I need to learn to control my jealousy issues but I don't know how. I'm pushing my boyfriend away but I can't keep my mouth shut when something is bothering me. This is going to be...
    mbroderson mbroderson 26-30, F 2 Responses Nov 4

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    I do. Serious trust issues. It's just like, you hurt me how can I expect the next person not to do the same too? But then again it kind of weaves into my "humanity is scum...
    ThereIsNoName ThereIsNoName 31-35, F 2 Responses Nov 14

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    But posting cures most. A member has profiles. That member seems decent. Me looks for common facets. And posts. Regardless of pals or not. Trust is altered by...
    OddlyScintilating OddlyScintilating 46-50, M 5 days ago

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    Looking for girl who has daddy issues
    rightwayside rightwayside 26-30, M 5 days ago

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    I've been dealing with anger and emotional issues for a long time. Im tired of being angry and emotional. I want someone else to be angry!!!!!!!!
    lunaLuna30 lunaLuna30 26-30, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    Is there anyone else dealing with anger or has overcome their issues with anger? If so would you mind messaging me?
    DarkGoddesss DarkGoddesss 16-17, F 4 Responses 4 days ago

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    Jealousy is irritating .... I have had so many jealousy issues this past week it's so hard to control it all ... Eh...
    hitthelightsnow hitthelightsnow 22-25, F 2 Responses Oct 24

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    My dad never told me he loved me only that "he likes me very much". The only times he's even hugged me in the past 10 years or so has been because he emotionally needed one. He was...
    lokiirs lokiirs 16-17, F Oct 26

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    I have been told that I am needy but that is because I have got attachment issues and it really effects my relationships
    deleted deleted 26-30 Oct 27

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    I feel like screaming somebody save me. Anybody? Save me! Please save me from myself. Or am I actually the one that needs saving? Am I really in the wrong here or does the blame...
    SimplicityJai SimplicityJai 26-30, F 3 Responses Nov 13

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    My ex-wife was raped, twice, by the same man on different days. From time to time, I imagine tracking him down, chaining him to a metal bed, and holding a torch to his clothes; he...
    PhresnoPhoenix PhresnoPhoenix 36-40, M 3 Responses a week ago

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    I once in a while find someone I feel trust with. Someone I begin to open up to. I never open up completely, but I start. Then when I am away from them I begin to question why...
    cocanola cocanola 41-45, F 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    After I fount out my baby daddy cheated on me I still forgave give. that lead me to getting pregnant. I went thru the pregnancy alone. I was hurt. which is why I have been single...
    Samantha956 Samantha956 22-25, F 3 Responses Oct 22

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    Trust is a valuable thing. I believe in the restoration and making a new of all things lost, forgotten or broken. Time, love, care and 'Patience' are key. We walk out of every...
    Qwert143 Qwert143 22-25 2 Responses Oct 22

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    I have been lied to, played and used so many times, that no matter who you are, you'll never have my complete trust. I won't go into a relationship because of this issue.
    white701 white701 18-21, M 1 Response Oct 23

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    It is funny In this type of world where you know what kind of people exist. The moment you go to a house and ask them a simple question, how they stare suspiciously at you and ask...
    aproudwoman aproudwoman 46-50, F 3 Responses Oct 27

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    Me and my Boyf have been together 2 years, I've lived with him and moved out an several occasions. I've moved in again and when I packing my stuff I found condoms stuffed in a...
    littlefox6 littlefox6 18-21, F 1 Response Oct 27

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    I have my mother to blame for this, she has broken so many promises when I was a child and continues to break promises. I don't think I can't trust the family politician with...
    Profweird Profweird 18-21, M 3 Responses Oct 27

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    I think I have trusted people too much and I was let down badly by them.I don't know why I still trust people.Trusting less may mean getting hurt less.
    restored87 restored87 46-50, F 12 Responses Oct 29

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