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I Am Afraid I Have Intimacy Issues

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 202 People

    Hard to Use the "L" Word

    It's hard for me to tell others I LOVE them! Even friends and family. And especially my hubby. Why is this? I DON'T KNOW?? My parents were certainly not adverse to saying and showing Love to us kids growing up! My grandparents never let us leave their homes without a hug, kiss...
    emerald emerald 36-40, F 17 Responses Apr 23, 2008

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    I Can't Kiss My Husband

    I am so frustrated, sad, confused, etc....  I'm having huge issues with intimacy and can't nail down why.  I recently discovered that I am okay with having sex with my husband but not with foreplay.  I don't want to do all of the kissing and heavy petting. ...
    BCoonce BCoonce 33, F 7 Responses Apr 15, 2010

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    I Am Afraid I Have Intimacy Issues Looking For A Female For A Loving Anr In An Adult Nursing Relationship In Tampa Bay, Fl.

    I am a Single White Male Searching For Open Minded Female In Tampa Bay, Fl . i am a single white male age 58 searching for an open minded female in tampa bay, florida. if you are out there give me a buzz so that we can chat?
    deleted deleted 26-30 Nov 22, 2013

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    Lost Now

     i am pretty sure I have intimacy issues, i want to avoid sex at all costs, and it scares me to death that i will be pressured for sex, and if i do have sex i will be direspected and disgarded afterwarsd,its happened before, and i also have experienced a sexual assult and...
    sweetstacey sweetstacey 26-30, F 3 Responses Aug 6, 2008

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    Difficulty W/intimacy, Isolation & expression

    I have come to learn about myself in the past few weeks that I have a real problem with intimacy and expressing the intimate feeling I have inside.  I instead tend to run and hide, and unfortunately isolate myself for the person I should be expressing these feelings to. ...
    needadvice001 needadvice001 26-30 6 Responses Jul 4, 2008

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    Issues With Other Peoples Intimacy Rules...

    Reasons why I have not been the one (and dumped): People don't share their hearts. They close off. Some treat me like a villain. They only love the idea of being in love. I am not their parent. I know trust is hard to give, but I am not planning on dying tomorrow. We have...
    TheWomanWhoDid TheWomanWhoDid 36-40 Jan 30, 2013

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    Will She Push Me Away?

    Maybe it's just me but the thought of being pushed away while being intimate with a woman...scares me.
    Ichilicious Ichilicious 26-30, M 3 Responses Dec 8, 2011

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    I'm So Lonely And Yearn For Connection, But Am So Afraid

    I'm 22 years old. I'm attractive, smart (when it comes to school), and friendly. All my life I have dealt with failure, rejection, bullying, and disappointment. I think because of that, i am very insecure with myself. I have never had a boyfriend before, although I've dated a...
    Gymgirl89 Gymgirl89 22-25 8 Responses Dec 29, 2011

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    Please Help Me!!!!

    I am engaged to a woman whom I love very much.  She has issues of her own, but has come a long way and has worked very hard to survive and overcome.  The problem is that she says that I don't make her feel like a woman.  She tells me that she loves me with all...
    IndyNudist IndyNudist 46-50, M 16 Responses Feb 12, 2010

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    I am so afraid for people to get close to me,

    physically, emotionally, sexually, because I expect them to hurt me, it means that I keep a barrier around me, and that keeps people away...And yet I long to be 'normal' and be able to have that closeness so that I don't have to be afraid to be alone
    Wi5huponastar Wi5huponastar 26-30, F Mar 6

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    Brainfreeze

    Sometimes people say they get brainfreeze eating icecream. I never get it in the head though, but in the back between my shoulderblades. It is kinda painfull, but it is not like I wanna touch the place while it hurt... It's like that when I see someone, another person. All the...
    Barlong Barlong 22-25, F Jan 8, 2012

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    I dont like cuddling,

    kissing, hugging in public.. It feels embarassing to me
    feebiechichi feebiechichi 31-35, F Feb 26

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    I Know I Do

    I can't get close to anyone. I can't let them touch me, and it makes me uncomfortable if they stare too long. I don't like to be flirted with, I don't know how to respond. I dislike being touched, even when it's someone I know. I don't like to be looked at, and the very idea of...
    SpiritOfTheRabbit SpiritOfTheRabbit 31-35, F 1 Response Mar 20, 2013

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    Always Afraid...

    Whenever my boyfriend and I kiss...and I mean KISS, not some little lip action, but full-out tongue-twisting, groping, sprawled on the bed kiss...I get this panicky feeling deep inside my chest, constricting my breath, making me want to push him away and curl up into a ball...
    LiquidFire89 LiquidFire89 18-21, F 4 Responses Sep 7, 2007

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    Araid Of Being Loved

    i have never been in a proper relationship that has lasted over a month... whenever things start to look good or are going well, i find a reason to end the relationship, and the guys i choose are never really people i feel strongly for anyway so i feel no remorse when i end it. I...
    JibaJaba JibaJaba 18-21, F Jul 3, 2011

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    I seriously think I have anger issues.. My my mom hasn't ever done anything about it, she doesn't believe in medication or anything, When I get really mad I start to shake a...
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    I am a very giving man when it comes to the woman i choose to be with and give all my trust and benefit of the doubt right from the start but when you break that trust especial...
    dom8869 dom8869 22-25, M 1 Response a week ago

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    Yes ,I have trust issues,maybe every person who came to my life whom I loved hurt me one way or another.but again sometimes trust or no trust,I feel every person come in life with...
    dawnordusk dawnordusk 31-35, F 1 Response Sep 20

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    I won't invest my time into something that I don't know the outcome to, hence why I have trust issues. I rarely put my guard down. I'm always on the lookout. I like to have control...
    anitamigna anitamigna 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 23

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    I think I have commitment issues. I find it hard to stay with one person for any longer than 2 months. It's really annoying because I am with a really amazing guy but I can't help...
    Butterflyfairy23 Butterflyfairy23 18-21, F 3 Responses Sep 24

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    I have trust issues. I haven't always had them but they came from my ex. Three years ago I was dating my best friend, I had grown up with him and our whole teenage lives we talked...
    misspaperwait misspaperwait 22-25, F 2 Responses Oct 6

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    I have trust issues.....I trust to easily and always get hurt....
    Indeciciveme Indeciciveme 16-17, F 6 Responses Oct 7

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    Had issues with anger since I was 10, kicked out of several schools. Not as bad now I'm older however this guy in my class is ******* me off. I'm in my last year if college and I'm...
    Adam352 Adam352 18-21, M 1 Response 6 hrs ago

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    Sarcasm is a defense mechanism its a way for me to exist without revealing real emotions. Its part of the reason I try not to interact outside of face to face because I can't read...
    CassieWithAnO CassieWithAnO 13-15, F 1 Response Sep 25

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    Im in a relationship and Im so so so so so so afraid to get hurt. I feel like if things don't work out im never gonna wanna be with anybody ever again
    mdkp mdkp 22-25, F 3 Responses a week ago

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    Yes I have major trust issues. I have been burned too many times in the past to trust any friend or boyfriend. Boys they lie and cheat and are very secretive. A friend they tend...
    Dsanders13 Dsanders13 16-17, F 1 Response Sep 30

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    I've been dating this guy for over a year. He had just ended things in his previous relationship but the girl wasn't taking it well and he being kind tried to help her with her...
    seesaw69 seesaw69 26-30 11 Responses 2 days ago

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    It's gotten to the point where I constantly break things and punch the walls so hard that I end up bruising my knuckles. I even curse my mom out and say **** I shouldn't be saying...
    XCameronnXx XCameronnXx 13-15, M 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    If there is anyone out there who has body issues, check out this beautiful big girl on YouTube, Sarah Rae Vargas. She gives great advice and is very inspiring. This is just one...
    RoseC67 RoseC67 46-50, F 3 days ago

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    My boyfriend broke up with me because he said ' my trust issues are getting worse' well it's not my fault he cheated on me twice, is it? No. The other day he yelled at me because I...
    Allofthemeanpeople Allofthemeanpeople 16-17, F 8 Responses Sep 23

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    Now that I have been hurt by my first love... And betrayed... Not only in relationships but with friends as well.. I now have major trust issues with starting another possible...
    mayks3 mayks3 13-15, F 2 Responses Oct 3

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    The way to manage trust issues and still live your life is to not have expectations. The ones who love you are not supposed to hurt you. But they do. If you accept that possibility...
    satellite42 satellite42 36-40, F 5 Responses Oct 10

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    trust issues ? I have lots of those (;
    6ABEBABE 6ABEBABE 13-15, M a week ago

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    I should really learn how to control myself but it's often so hard. Unfortunately my anger issues have gone to a level where I'm actually scared of what I might do to other people...
    Cuffsx Cuffsx 18-21, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    1. I don't believe in playing victim. 2. I'm not a little girl just saying she has commitment issues to make up for her lack or responsibility in relationships. But honestly...
    Curtneus25 Curtneus25 22-25, F 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    I've just had a bit of an eye opening week, I thought I'd share it here and maybe find someone who can relate. I'm going to try and keep it positive. I'm not sure about other...
    viviq66 viviq66 18-21, F 3 Responses 2 days ago

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    I have been betrayed by literally everyone. :(
    joy98 joy98 16-17, F 1 Response Sep 20

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    This might be my downfall, but I admit. I always see the good in people. I trust people. As naive as it may sound, I do. I used to think I'm a good judge of character, I can...
    anhourglass anhourglass 36-40, F 3 Responses Sep 24

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    I have been with the same guy for 2 years now and I still don't trust him and I really don't know why, I ALWAYS get mad/jealous if I see a girl talk to him, or I always want to...
    cnw1 cnw1 18-21, F 4 Responses Sep 24

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    I didn't have a perfect childhood. I know there are many like me that didn't. My childhood could have been worse, I'm sure. This is my story. I'll write it in parts because its...
    Guilty1982 Guilty1982 31-35, F 1 Response Sep 26

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    A couple of weeks later mother was out late again. We had just finished dinner and were washing up. When you look out our kitchen window you can see off in the distance the main...
    Guilty1982 Guilty1982 31-35, F Sep 26

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    I have always had this issue. I been hurt since the day i was born. Awarded to the state as a teen after being abused and cheated on over and over again as a young Mother of my...
    wickedone72 wickedone72 41-45, F 1 Response Sep 26

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    OK. So my life in a paragraph ... As far back as I can remember I have cross dressed and wanted to be female. Sexually abused by a male family member as a child, mentally abused by...
    Christinamarie3095 Christinamarie3095 41-45, T Sep 28

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    This will be there until i find that one person who i trust. I have found her but i am not fully trusting right now
    AustinmMurdock AustinmMurdock 16-17, M 2 Responses Sep 29

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    What does it feel like to commit yourself to another human being? Do you have expectations of that person going into a relationship? What are you hoping to gain from that...
    AquariusLife AquariusLife 26-30, F 4 Responses Sep 30

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    I always have problems trusting people and now I don't trust my boyfriend.. I don't know what's wrong but I've been like this since I was young. Someone give so e advice pls?
    nerdylizz nerdylizz 18-21, F 6 Responses Oct 5

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    It all began last year when I started dating my fuel manger at my store. I fell in what I thought was love with this man. I did everything for him, and always managed to put him...
    missmorgan3400 missmorgan3400 18-21, F 1 Response Oct 6

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    Serious ones I'll show you here by writing what I think about when angry. Your happiness is an insult to me. Your words of comfort that there will be a future is like a curse...
    Concerto Concerto 22-25, F 1 Response Oct 6

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    And sometimes it makes me feel insane. When I was little my dad was a heavy drinker. So I was always left to take care of my brother or my grandma would take me from my dad. Then...
    TempingTheMind TempingTheMind 16-17, F 1 Response