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I Am Afraid I Have Intimacy Issues

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    Brainfreeze

    Sometimes people say they get brainfreeze eating icecream. I never get it in the head though, but in the back between my shoulderblades. It is kinda painfull, but it is not like I wanna touch the place while it hurt... It's like that when I see someone, another person. All the...
    Barlong Barlong 22-25, F Jan 8, 2012

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    Hard to Use the "L" Word

    It's hard for me to tell others I LOVE them! Even friends and family. And especially my hubby. Why is this? I DON'T KNOW?? My parents were certainly not adverse to saying and showing Love to us kids growing up! My grandparents never let us leave their homes without a hug, kiss...
    emerald emerald 36-40, F 17 Responses Apr 23, 2008

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    Please Help Me!!!!

    I am engaged to a woman whom I love very much.  She has issues of her own, but has come a long way and has worked very hard to survive and overcome.  The problem is that she says that I don't make her feel like a woman.  She tells me that she loves me with all...
    IndyNudist IndyNudist 46-50, M 16 Responses Feb 12, 2010

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    Difficulty W/intimacy, Isolation & expression

    I have come to learn about myself in the past few weeks that I have a real problem with intimacy and expressing the intimate feeling I have inside.  I instead tend to run and hide, and unfortunately isolate myself for the person I should be expressing these feelings to. ...
    needadvice001 needadvice001 26-30 6 Responses Jul 4, 2008

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    I Know I Do

    I can't get close to anyone. I can't let them touch me, and it makes me uncomfortable if they stare too long. I don't like to be flirted with, I don't know how to respond. I dislike being touched, even when it's someone I know. I don't like to be looked at, and the very idea of...
    SpiritOfTheRabbit SpiritOfTheRabbit 31-35, F 1 Response Mar 20, 2013

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    I Can't Kiss My Husband

    I am so frustrated, sad, confused, etc....  I'm having huge issues with intimacy and can't nail down why.  I recently discovered that I am okay with having sex with my husband but not with foreplay.  I don't want to do all of the kissing and heavy petting. ...
    BCoonce BCoonce 33, F 7 Responses Apr 15, 2010

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    I'm So Lonely And Yearn For Connection, But Am So Afraid

    I'm 22 years old. I'm attractive, smart (when it comes to school), and friendly. All my life I have dealt with failure, rejection, bullying, and disappointment. I think because of that, i am very insecure with myself. I have never had a boyfriend before, although I've dated a...
    Gymgirl89 Gymgirl89 22-25 8 Responses Dec 29, 2011

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    Lost Now

     i am pretty sure I have intimacy issues, i want to avoid sex at all costs, and it scares me to death that i will be pressured for sex, and if i do have sex i will be direspected and disgarded afterwarsd,its happened before, and i also have experienced a sexual assult and...
    sweetstacey sweetstacey 26-30, F 3 Responses Aug 6, 2008

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    I dont like cuddling,

    kissing, hugging in public.. It feels embarassing to me
    feebiechichi feebiechichi 26-30, F Feb 26

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    I Am Afraid I Have Intimacy Issues Looking For A Female For A Loving Anr In An Adult Nursing Relationship In Tampa Bay, Fl.

    I am a Single White Male Searching For Open Minded Female In Tampa Bay, Fl . i am a single white male age 58 searching for an open minded female in tampa bay, florida. if you are out there give me a buzz so that we can chat?
    deleted deleted 26-30 Nov 22, 2013

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    Always Afraid...

    Whenever my boyfriend and I kiss...and I mean KISS, not some little lip action, but full-out tongue-twisting, groping, sprawled on the bed kiss...I get this panicky feeling deep inside my chest, constricting my breath, making me want to push him away and curl up into a ball...
    LiquidFire89 LiquidFire89 18-21, F 4 Responses Sep 7, 2007

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    Araid Of Being Loved

    i have never been in a proper relationship that has lasted over a month... whenever things start to look good or are going well, i find a reason to end the relationship, and the guys i choose are never really people i feel strongly for anyway so i feel no remorse when i end it. I...
    JibaJaba JibaJaba 18-21, F Jul 3, 2011

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    I am so afraid for people to get close to me,

    physically, emotionally, sexually, because I expect them to hurt me, it means that I keep a barrier around me, and that keeps people away...And yet I long to be 'normal' and be able to have that closeness so that I don't have to be afraid to be alone
    Wi5huponastar Wi5huponastar 26-30, F Mar 6

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    Will She Push Me Away?

    Maybe it's just me but the thought of being pushed away while being intimate with a woman...scares me.
    Ichilicious Ichilicious 26-30, M 3 Responses Dec 8, 2011

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    Issues With Other Peoples Intimacy Rules...

    Reasons why I have not been the one (and dumped): People don't share their hearts. They close off. Some treat me like a villain. They only love the idea of being in love. I am not their parent. I know trust is hard to give, but I am not planning on dying tomorrow. We have...
    TheWomanWhoDid TheWomanWhoDid 36-40 Jan 30, 2013

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    I know that I have hormone issues about 10 days before my period or earlier. I had read it up on the internet about the period. It quite normal to have hormone issues. It has tips...
    mother1983 mother1983 26-30, F 5 days ago

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    The guys that I've known in my life have always asked me why I have trust issues. And here's why: well because, my first heartbreak lead me to that. I was used by the guy I liked...
    LaBrenditaa LaBrenditaa 16-17, F 1 Response Aug 17

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    Between my parents yes we have family issues. My mom is basically the man of the house While my stupid dad just lays back and worries about nothing He doesn't care about bills just...
    andreaespe andreaespe 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 19

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    I have major trust issues I can't let my bf rest in peace because all I do is think he is gonna cheat or do something that I won't know about when I'm at work and he's not .. Ugh...
    20andinkedxxx 20andinkedxxx 18-21, F 4 Responses Aug 27

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    Raisin cookies that look like chocolate chip cookies are the main reason I have trust issues.
    tami1330 tami1330 51-55, F 2 Responses Aug 18

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    Of course I have trust issues. My ex didn't really like me, but the fact that I had a job and a car. She used me, draining my bank account, and I was too stupid to believe it, even...
    AgentSickler AgentSickler 18-21, M 3 Responses Aug 18

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    My dad used to do drugs and was abusive to my mom and my little brother and I. We used to run away from him growing up. Never been stable. Have mental issues. When he drinks...
    roselani2005 roselani2005 26-30, F 1 Response Aug 21

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    Anyone will say anything to get you to believe them. Everyone lies . They will say anything to make themselves look good or to make they look less suspicious. So I think it is okay...
    Amerson20 Amerson20 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 23

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    I have trust issues but I don't consider it a problem because I am usually safer by not trusting. Love all, trust a few, do wrong to none.
    laxprincess laxprincess 13-15, F 1 Response Aug 23

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    I do have trust issues. But most of the time I'm the one that's not trustworthy... :/
    ifearsnowmen ifearsnowmen 18-21, M 1 Response a week ago

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    A few months back I met a girl that I fell for pretty quickly, and a few months later I found out she liked me, things were going pretty well, but as soon as we got to the point...
    Sulka19 Sulka19 18-21, M 2 Responses Aug 24

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    I dislike the idea of being physically and emotionally close to someone. The idea makes me panic. I actually had a panic attack when someone asked me out once because I was...
    Avotica Avotica 18-21, F Aug 20

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    I have huge trouble opening up to boyfriends so my relationships are never as open, intimate and real as they should be. Im always afraid that as soon as I let them in they will...
    miloks miloks 26-30, F 5 Responses Sep 2

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    The issues my family and I have are huge. Too big for me to feel comfortable talking about specifics. My real question is this: If you have come to the realization that this...
    JaidIsAWildflower JaidIsAWildflower 18-21, F 3 Responses Aug 21

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    I'm really starting to believe I trust issues
    bemmie bemmie 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 28

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    Ppl have told me I'm the angriest person they know. I can't control my anger. Today is not good for my anger issues
    barefootlover7890 barefootlover7890 13-15, M Aug 29

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    TRUST issues comes from being ****** over
    BrutallyHonest316 BrutallyHonest316 22-25, F 2 Responses Aug 31

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    I've had trust issues for about 5 years now, no matter how much people tell me they care for me, or love me I question them, I might not say anything, but I'm always expecting the...
    Lily449 Lily449 18-21, F 3 Responses Sep 1

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    By daddy issues, I mean my dad and I do not get along, and that we have a complicated relationship. Not that I have no morals and sleep around to **** him off. Just so the creeps...
    Nobodysdaughter10 Nobodysdaughter10 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 1

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    Ive noticed it. Ive denied it for a long while but soon came to accept it. My mom have noticed my anger issues but yet, she still gets mee pissed off on purpose. My anger goes as...
    MeeeKazz MeeeKazz 16-17, F 3 Responses Sep 2

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    I have been in my relationship for almost 3 years, with an amzing man, that has never given me any reason to not trust him. we have two kids. we rushed in to things quickly, but we...
    ooomooo ooomooo 18-21, F 5 Responses Sep 4

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    I have trouble trusting people which stops me from having any kind of relationship. I want someone to talk to but I know I won't open up at all. I had to talk myself to putting...
    BoMolly BoMolly 18-21, F 3 Responses Sep 5

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    So I don't really talk about this, but I felt like confessing, I guess. So.. These brother issues occurred because of absence of a brother figure. Now.. I do have a brother, but I...
    MissClueless MissClueless 16-17, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    My parents seem to favor my older sister. She's 2 years older than me. I have noticed it for a quite while now, but currently is getting worse. She's about to start college and...
    elenaml elenaml 16-17, F 2 Responses Aug 19

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    There's no real way to make this long story short-but I could use some advice. My husband and I had a baby before we even started dating. One night stand. Anyway-he was a real...
    parismonkey parismonkey 22-25, F 5 Responses Aug 19

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    I am sorry i didn't get into uni. I'm sorry that I wasn't an A* student. I'm sorry. I will always be a failure in your eyes. instead of being positive and helping me get through...
    Ghostpage Ghostpage 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 20

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    I feel like every time I think my family is just about to hit a golden era, it just gets worse. I feel like the glue that keeps them together but no one really sees the glue do...
    LoverOfAllSouls LoverOfAllSouls 13-15, F Aug 20

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    My boyfriend doesnt deal with our personal problems with me, he talks horribly about me to his friends to vent out his frustration and I only found out last week. He apologised and...
    idealorious idealorious 18-21, F 10 Responses Aug 21

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    With all the people that have hurt me in my life i don't trust anyone. I don't need to feel any worse than what already do and i don't need to be falsely happy again.
    laserabe1 laserabe1 16-17, M Aug 21

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    As someone who grew up without a father, I can undertand the tremendous void in can leave in one's life, as well as the pain and disappointment it can cause. For that reason, I...
    FollowMyLead FollowMyLead 31-35, M Aug 23

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    So recently at work this customer has asked for my number I have him it. It's a bit older than me 21 years older. We get on really well but I just can't let my trust can ruined...
    rebecca1624 rebecca1624 22-25, F 1 Response Aug 24

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    My ability to trust is dead. I have tried to trust, open my heart, be optimistic about the idea that I can trust people...but it's all useless. I just can't. Feeling this way makes...
    misscoffee misscoffee 22-25, F 3 Responses Aug 24

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    I noticed right after i gave birth, im always depressed when i have my period. It sickens me coz all i want to do is just stay at home and sleep.
    Elleshore81 Elleshore81 31-35, F 5 Responses Aug 25

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    every time I trust someone it blows up in my face. I trust fairly easily tho. plus I have such low self esteem I think I'm fat.... ugly.... a mistake..... hurt everyone I meet
    ashleysokolik ashleysokolik 13-15, F 4 Responses Aug 26