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I Am Afraid I Have Intimacy Issues

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 227 People

    I Can't Kiss My Husband

    I am so frustrated, sad, confused, etc....  I'm having huge issues with intimacy and can't nail down why.  I recently discovered that I am okay with having sex with my husband but not with foreplay.  I don't want to do all of the kissing and heavy petting. ...
    BCoonce BCoonce 31-35, F 7 Responses Apr 15, 2010

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    I don't find that I miss people

    as much as I should
    magnamino magnamino 36-40, M 2 Responses Feb 15

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    Always Afraid...

    Whenever my boyfriend and I kiss...and I mean KISS, not some little lip action, but full-out tongue-twisting, groping, sprawled on the bed kiss...I get this panicky feeling deep inside my chest, constricting my breath, making me want to push him away and curl up into a ball...
    LiquidFire89 LiquidFire89 18-21, F 4 Responses Sep 7, 2007

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    Hard to Use the "L" Word

    It's hard for me to tell others I LOVE them! Even friends and family. And especially my hubby. Why is this? I DON'T KNOW?? My parents were certainly not adverse to saying and showing Love to us kids growing up! My grandparents never let us leave their homes without a hug, kiss...
    emerald emerald 36-40, F 16 Responses Apr 23, 2008

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    Araid Of Being Loved

    i have never been in a proper relationship that has lasted over a month... whenever things start to look good or are going well, i find a reason to end the relationship, and the guys i choose are never really people i feel strongly for anyway so i feel no remorse when i end it. I...
    JibaJaba JibaJaba 18-21, F Jul 3, 2011

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    Issues With Other Peoples Intimacy Rules...

    Reasons why I have not been the one (and dumped): People don't share their hearts. They close off. Some treat me like a villain. They only love the idea of being in love. I am not their parent. I know trust is hard to give, but I am not planning on dying tomorrow. We have...
    TheWomanWhoDid TheWomanWhoDid 36-40 Jan 30, 2013

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    I fear and crave intimacy simultaneously.

    So many times break my own heart by letting fear win out. I may lose someone very special to me if I continue with this problem for one moment longer. All my life, I have this pattern of getting involved in lukewarm relationships where I don't have many feelings for the other...
    NamelessNomad NamelessNomad 22-25, F Jan 4

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    Lost Now

     i am pretty sure I have intimacy issues, i want to avoid sex at all costs, and it scares me to death that i will be pressured for sex, and if i do have sex i will be direspected and disgarded afterwarsd,its happened before, and i also have experienced a sexual assult and...
    sweetstacey sweetstacey 26-30, F 3 Responses Aug 6, 2008

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    Will She Push Me Away?

    Maybe it's just me but the thought of being pushed away while being intimate with a woman...scares me.
    Ichilicious Ichilicious 26-30, M 2 Responses Dec 8, 2011

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    I am so afraid for people to get close to me,

    physically, emotionally, sexually, because I expect them to hurt me, it means that I keep a barrier around me, and that keeps people away...And yet I long to be 'normal' and be able to have that closeness so that I don't have to be afraid to be alone
    Wi5huponastar Wi5huponastar 26-30, F Mar 6, 2014

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    Please Help Me!!!!

    I am engaged to a woman whom I love very much.  She has issues of her own, but has come a long way and has worked very hard to survive and overcome.  The problem is that she says that I don't make her feel like a woman.  She tells me that she loves me with all...
    IndyNudist IndyNudist 46-50, M 16 Responses Feb 12, 2010

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    I'm So Lonely And Yearn For Connection, But Am So Afraid

    I'm 22 years old. I'm attractive, smart (when it comes to school), and friendly. All my life I have dealt with failure, rejection, bullying, and disappointment. I think because of that, i am very insecure with myself. I have never had a boyfriend before, although I've dated a...
    Gymgirl89 Gymgirl89 22-25 8 Responses Dec 29, 2011

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    Brainfreeze

    Sometimes people say they get brainfreeze eating icecream. I never get it in the head though, but in the back between my shoulderblades. It is kinda painfull, but it is not like I wanna touch the place while it hurt... It's like that when I see someone, another person. All the...
    Barlong Barlong 22-25, F Jan 8, 2012

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    Difficulty W/intimacy, Isolation & expression

    I have come to learn about myself in the past few weeks that I have a real problem with intimacy and expressing the intimate feeling I have inside.  I instead tend to run and hide, and unfortunately isolate myself for the person I should be expressing these feelings to. ...
    needadvice001 needadvice001 26-30 6 Responses Jul 4, 2008

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    It feels like I have this wall around me.

    Anyone even tries and they get deflected. It's especially bad when its s3xual (seriously EP quit with the stupid censoring). Anyway, when I am with a guy I don't feel anything. My mind is off somewhere else. Thing is, the body can be aroused independent of the mind, so being...
    Lov3intheasylum Lov3intheasylum 31-35, F Jan 31

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    I Am Afraid I Have Intimacy Issues Looking For A Female For A Loving Anr In An Adult Nursing Relationship In Tampa Bay, Fl.

    I am a Single White Male Searching For Open Minded Female In Tampa Bay, Fl . i am a single white male age 58 searching for an open minded female in tampa bay, florida. if you are out there give me a buzz so that we can chat?
    deleted deleted 26-30 Nov 22, 2013

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    I Know I Do

    I can't get close to anyone. I can't let them touch me, and it makes me uncomfortable if they stare too long. I don't like to be flirted with, I don't know how to respond. I dislike being touched, even when it's someone I know. I don't like to be looked at, and the very idea of...
    SpiritOfTheRabbit SpiritOfTheRabbit 31-35, F 1 Response Mar 20, 2013

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    I dont like cuddling,

    kissing, hugging in public.. It feels embarassing to me
    feebiechichi feebiechichi 31-35, F Feb 26, 2014

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    It's really weird because although I have trust issues I open up to people wayyy too often and then regret it later asking myself "did I say too much?". I got screwed over by...
    MsScaredOfLonely MsScaredOfLonely 26-30, F Apr 12

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    I have trust issues and it gets in the way a lor
    lostbrokeheart lostbrokeheart 18-21, F 6 Responses Apr 6

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    the way people have treated me is why I have trust issues and keep my close circle small, some people think they're in it but they really aren't..
    iamblackvelvet iamblackvelvet 22-25, F Apr 10

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    is it any wonder I have trust Issues? You close yourself off from people because you've been betrayed enough times that you throw up walls to protect yourself. Then somebody...
    RestlessWarrior1 RestlessWarrior1 46-50, M 1 Response Apr 13

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    is it any wonder I have trust Issues? You close yourself off from people because you've been betrayed enough times that you throw up walls to protect yourself. Then somebody...
    RestlessWarrior1 RestlessWarrior1 46-50, M 2 Responses Apr 13

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    I don't trust men. I am afraid of them. I have never never been sexually abused. But I have had a psychologically abusive relationship with my dad for most of my life. I can't...
    mgkatie mgkatie 18-21, F 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    Why do I only want someone until I have them? I hate this feeling, I want to be with someone but, often, when I get them I start to feel detached. It's gotten to the point that I...
    RobertE22 RobertE22 31-35 1 Response Apr 5

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    I don't get angry with anyone but my siblings. It's not the normal 'love-hate' relationship most kids share. I can't stand to here them talk ever. I hate being near them, the way...
    WeWereImaginary WeWereImaginary 13-15, F 1 Response a week ago

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    For someone who has such huge commitment issues that stem from trust issues, I'm surprised I've managed to stay in a relationship for this long.
    ErraticallyGrey ErraticallyGrey 22-25, F 1 Response Apr 7

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    I've had personal insecurity issues pretty much for as long as I can remember. Then for the past 8 years I've been dealing with trust issues after the woman I was with ended up...
    mattywheels25 mattywheels25 26-30, M Apr 10

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    Anyone ever hurt by someone before them has trust issues, how deep they lie and how and if they control your life is the battle people fight every day. Who really wins the battle...
    Yeahbaybey Yeahbaybey 46-50, F 1 Response Mar 30

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    My issues with trust stem from my experiences with adult figures. Whenever i felt like i was safe or loved or thought of as an equal or even thinking maybe they meant it when they...
    thatonekid07 thatonekid07 16-17, M 2 Responses Mar 31

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    The thing with jealousy is that it eats you inside out. You feel there is something amiss with how hungry he seemed for her in that photo. That tiny grain of bad feeling nags you...
    VinylEyes VinylEyes 70+, F 1 Response Apr 1

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    Major anger issues**...sigh! When i get really frustrated and mad id just punch the living **** out of my bedroom wall till my knuckles get swollen or busted.. then I'd start...
    TheLeftBehind TheLeftBehind 18-21, M 1 Response Apr 6

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    I think my trust issues starts with me not believing in myself. When people start showing interest I get very paranoid and avoid them
    strawberrycreamcake strawberrycreamcake 18-21, F 4 Responses Apr 10

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    My trust issues started when I started dating and realised people can screw you over
    jorgoth jorgoth 16-17, M 1 Response Apr 10

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    I had a role model to whom I have trusted blindly to have our best interest at heart, only to have seen the ugly truth of who they truly are unfold chapter after the another. At...
    RestlessFlame RestlessFlame 18-21, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    My boyfriend went on a business trip and last night he text me goodnight. I called him right after he texted me and he didn't answer phone. I called him 6 more times within 10...
    nclo8907 nclo8907 26-30, F 3 Responses Mar 28

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    i am outcast and i have a lot of anger. i hit my head against the wall and now there's a dent in from yesterday. i need to pay for it. i feel like a bad person. i was so out of...
    db174 db174 31-35, F 4 Responses Mar 31

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    my bf has pushed away from me completely... sometimes he shows me love but most of the time i cant even get him to sit in the house with me, could he be entertaining someone else...
    sheenbean23 sheenbean23 18-21, F 8 Responses Apr 4

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    So I had a cousin who is literally almost like a sister. Our fathers are brothers and our moms are sisters. They had a double wedding. Since we were younger we would talk 24/7. We...
    VGASR VGASR 18-21, F 2 Responses Apr 5

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    Is anyone really surprised? With as many times as I've been lied to and used should I even trust anyone? Maybe I'm just bitter and getting cynical the older I get but I feel as if...
    XxDazzle XxDazzle 18-21, M 1 Response Apr 5

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    I have a hard time trusting guys with my feelings because a douche bag I knew for seven years flirted with me and became so close to me that I thought he was finally going to ask...
    shamrok11 shamrok11 13-15, F 1 Response Apr 6

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    I have anger problems and I can't control when I blow up and I black out.
    gavyboi6 gavyboi6 18-21, M 1 Response Apr 7

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    I've had them since I can remember, after all I am an observer and noticing how much people get backstabbed I've come to try not to get close to anyone. I probably only have a few...
    Meirin Meirin 18-21, F Apr 10

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