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I Am Afraid I Have Intimacy Issues

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 202 People

    I dont like cuddling,

    kissing, hugging in public.. It feels embarassing to me
    feebiechichi feebiechichi 31-35, F Feb 26

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    Will She Push Me Away?

    Maybe it's just me but the thought of being pushed away while being intimate with a woman...scares me.
    Ichilicious Ichilicious 26-30, M 3 Responses Dec 8, 2011

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    Difficulty W/intimacy, Isolation & expression

    I have come to learn about myself in the past few weeks that I have a real problem with intimacy and expressing the intimate feeling I have inside.  I instead tend to run and hide, and unfortunately isolate myself for the person I should be expressing these feelings to. ...
    needadvice001 needadvice001 26-30 6 Responses Jul 4, 2008

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    Always Afraid...

    Whenever my boyfriend and I kiss...and I mean KISS, not some little lip action, but full-out tongue-twisting, groping, sprawled on the bed kiss...I get this panicky feeling deep inside my chest, constricting my breath, making me want to push him away and curl up into a ball...
    LiquidFire89 LiquidFire89 18-21, F 4 Responses Sep 7, 2007

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    Araid Of Being Loved

    i have never been in a proper relationship that has lasted over a month... whenever things start to look good or are going well, i find a reason to end the relationship, and the guys i choose are never really people i feel strongly for anyway so i feel no remorse when i end it. I...
    JibaJaba JibaJaba 18-21, F Jul 3, 2011

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    I'm So Lonely And Yearn For Connection, But Am So Afraid

    I'm 22 years old. I'm attractive, smart (when it comes to school), and friendly. All my life I have dealt with failure, rejection, bullying, and disappointment. I think because of that, i am very insecure with myself. I have never had a boyfriend before, although I've dated a...
    Gymgirl89 Gymgirl89 22-25 8 Responses Dec 29, 2011

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    I am so afraid for people to get close to me,

    physically, emotionally, sexually, because I expect them to hurt me, it means that I keep a barrier around me, and that keeps people away...And yet I long to be 'normal' and be able to have that closeness so that I don't have to be afraid to be alone
    Wi5huponastar Wi5huponastar 26-30, F Mar 6

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    Please Help Me!!!!

    I am engaged to a woman whom I love very much.  She has issues of her own, but has come a long way and has worked very hard to survive and overcome.  The problem is that she says that I don't make her feel like a woman.  She tells me that she loves me with all...
    IndyNudist IndyNudist 46-50, M 16 Responses Feb 12, 2010

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    I Can't Kiss My Husband

    I am so frustrated, sad, confused, etc....  I'm having huge issues with intimacy and can't nail down why.  I recently discovered that I am okay with having sex with my husband but not with foreplay.  I don't want to do all of the kissing and heavy petting. ...
    BCoonce BCoonce 33, F 7 Responses Apr 15, 2010

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    I Know I Do

    I can't get close to anyone. I can't let them touch me, and it makes me uncomfortable if they stare too long. I don't like to be flirted with, I don't know how to respond. I dislike being touched, even when it's someone I know. I don't like to be looked at, and the very idea of...
    SpiritOfTheRabbit SpiritOfTheRabbit 31-35, F 1 Response Mar 20, 2013

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    Lost Now

     i am pretty sure I have intimacy issues, i want to avoid sex at all costs, and it scares me to death that i will be pressured for sex, and if i do have sex i will be direspected and disgarded afterwarsd,its happened before, and i also have experienced a sexual assult and...
    sweetstacey sweetstacey 26-30, F 3 Responses Aug 6, 2008

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    Issues With Other Peoples Intimacy Rules...

    Reasons why I have not been the one (and dumped): People don't share their hearts. They close off. Some treat me like a villain. They only love the idea of being in love. I am not their parent. I know trust is hard to give, but I am not planning on dying tomorrow. We have...
    TheWomanWhoDid TheWomanWhoDid 36-40 Jan 30, 2013

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    Brainfreeze

    Sometimes people say they get brainfreeze eating icecream. I never get it in the head though, but in the back between my shoulderblades. It is kinda painfull, but it is not like I wanna touch the place while it hurt... It's like that when I see someone, another person. All the...
    Barlong Barlong 22-25, F Jan 8, 2012

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    Hard to Use the "L" Word

    It's hard for me to tell others I LOVE them! Even friends and family. And especially my hubby. Why is this? I DON'T KNOW?? My parents were certainly not adverse to saying and showing Love to us kids growing up! My grandparents never let us leave their homes without a hug, kiss...
    emerald emerald 36-40, F 17 Responses Apr 23, 2008

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    I Am Afraid I Have Intimacy Issues Looking For A Female For A Loving Anr In An Adult Nursing Relationship In Tampa Bay, Fl.

    I am a Single White Male Searching For Open Minded Female In Tampa Bay, Fl . i am a single white male age 58 searching for an open minded female in tampa bay, florida. if you are out there give me a buzz so that we can chat?
    deleted deleted 26-30 Nov 22, 2013

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    My trust issues began when I was 13. My mom was my hero as a kid. I could talk to her about anything. Then one day she reviled a secret to me. My mom was cheating on my dad with...
    BFRM BFRM 18-21, F Dec 3

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    People brag about having trust issues but that's how I can tell who does or does not have them because those of us who really have trust issues are at war with it. We don't like it...
    SheIsHealing SheIsHealing 18-21, F 4 Responses Nov 24

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    I have trust issues when people message on here, no I don't want to see any nudity!
    jbm1984 jbm1984 31-35, F 1 Response Dec 1

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    - course I do and the smart people always have trust issues. Only fools, naive and gullible people tend to fall for everything. Obviously since it's the net fooling and messing...
    Ic3Queen Ic3Queen 22-25, F 1 Response Dec 3

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    free Wi-Fi that Makes you pay after it has said its free,is the reason i have trust issues.
    Woudziniska Woudziniska 26-30, F 2 Responses Dec 5

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    Just to be fair i have trust issues with everyone.
    lehcar1977 lehcar1977 36-40, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    i do have anger issues that i blame myself for. i pushed my therapist and psychiatrist away. i haven't seen my therapist in over two weeks and i haven't seen my doctor in two...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Nov 22

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    I have trust issues, and honestly I don't think that's such a bad thing. The base instinct for humans is our impulse to protect ourselves. Think about it. Every time you lie, cheat...
    TheBlasphemousOptimist TheBlasphemousOptimist 18-21, F 3 Responses Dec 12

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    It sucks but not trusting people is very much apart of me. I have notice every time I open up to someone I hear myself say "Shut up, Don't trust them! You know what happened last...
    LoveisBeautiful5013 LoveisBeautiful5013 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 1

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    I'm so tired of this... I'm constantly afraid and constantly second guessing. I don't know how much longer I can do this. I know I should trust him but after everything I feel...
    LostWanderer97 LostWanderer97 16-17 Dec 7

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    My friend keeps asking me who I like and i say it is classified then he says he won't talk to me so most likely he won't be talking to me tomorrow and I'm afraid if I tell him he...
    isabelamejia5562 isabelamejia5562 13-15, F 2 Responses Nov 30

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    Because of a disease that is stable in essence, but can change almost instantly, I am pretty much forced to live day by day. I hardly plan anything more than a month ahead and...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Nov 22

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    I've never been cheated on. I rarely get lied to (face to face). And people say they can trust me. But still I find it hard to trust people back. I don't want them to know my...
    Zim0 Zim0 18-21, M 1 Response Dec 1

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    I 'HAD' TRUST ISSUES thought I'd write a little something in here before I leave this group.. for a long time now I have had trust issues, I have been betrayed an lied to left...
    J41LBIRD93 J41LBIRD93 18-21, F Dec 1

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    I don't know when it happened in my life, but I have some serious trust issues when it comes to relationships! The first time I was ever asked out was when I was little, and I...
    bluespoon bluespoon 18-21 Dec 12

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    I feel like I need to say something. Ever since a child, I've had severe trust issues. I was put through foster care, which was really hard. My approve mother was abusive and I...
    iwuvmusic iwuvmusic 22-25, F 3 Responses Nov 29

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    I'm trying to deal with my trust issues but it's so hard when all I want to do is just be mad and tell him I hate him for putting me through this. I don't think he understands how...
    lalaholly lalaholly 22-25, F 4 Responses Dec 3

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    My brain is wired in such a way that my feelings for sensations are heightened. So loud noises really bother me, as do really bright lights. I find that being touched and touching...
    wordsmeansomething wordsmeansomething 46-50, M Dec 9

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    I'm sorry to disappoint everyone, having surgery did not resolve my anger issues. To all those who thought my pain was the reason I'm an angry raging *****, sorry. I'm now pain...
    Missjayne1 Missjayne1 31-35, F 1 Response Dec 9

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    My experiences growing up haven't been good ones I was befriended a lot and didn't have anyone to take care of me I came from a broken family and didn't care much about myself. My...
    Bella70 Bella70 41-45, F 1 Response Nov 27

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    So tomorrow is another therapy session and i am not looking forward to it. i have a lot of issues and some goals to bring up with her. i haven't seen my therapist in several weeks...
    db174 db174 31-35, F 1 Response Nov 30

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    All my relationships - dating, family and friends. I've been lied to and cheated it, made feel unimportant, verbally and mentally abused to the point where i have a hard time...
    bestofme85 bestofme85 26-30, F Dec 4

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    I have severe trust issues since I have been raped twice. I am not here to date any male. If you guys do not understand that then I will block you. I do not trust others easily...
    joanwilliams joanwilliams 36-40, F 4 Responses Dec 4

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    I have always wandered and questioned what the relationship between myself and mother means to either of us. I have this over whelming sadness due to the fact that even though she...
    Sproetjies3 Sproetjies3 22-25, F 1 Response Dec 8

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    I have had trust issues for a long time but I can trust all my friends now but I'm having some difficulties trusting my friends boyfriend. He smokes, he's only 10 and my friend is...
    nomorelies13 nomorelies13 13-15, F 1 Response Dec 12

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    So, I have this friend, he's my best friend, and I like to believe that he is someone I can trust. Every time I tell him something personal, that I've even hesitated to tell him...
    Skuggington Skuggington 13-15, M 1 Response Nov 24

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    I have horrible anger problems ughhh
    Heyababe Heyababe 18-21, F 4 Responses Nov 25

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    Keeping my private times private w my male friend and his male dog Hi ther Shame ur too far for me I don't travel Looking to b serviced by male and male dog If you find or know any...
    Sammy403 Sammy403 61-65, M Nov 25

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    I find it sadly ironic that the people who often ridicule or belittle you for having low self esteem are the ones who play the biggest part in damaging any you may have left.
    AirleasAyres AirleasAyres 31-35, F 1 Response Nov 26

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    Yes I do it makes me upset with myself i have been able to cope with it but sometimes I burst into a firecracker and I just feel terrible. :(
    yeahis18 yeahis18 18-21, F Nov 27

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    A new survey has revealed that one 25% of women prefer to be with men 10+ years older than they are, while one third of men prefer to be with women 10+ years younger than them.The...
    Katycc11 Katycc11 26-30, F Nov 27

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    A new survey has revealed that one 25% of women prefer to be with men 10+ years older than they are, while one third of men prefer to be with women 10+ years younger than them.The...
    Katycc11 Katycc11 26-30, F Nov 27

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