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I Am Afraid I Have Intimacy Issues

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    Difficulty W/intimacy, Isolation & expression

    I have come to learn about myself in the past few weeks that I have a real problem with intimacy and expressing the intimate feeling I have inside.  I instead tend to run and hide, and unfortunately isolate myself for the person I should be expressing these feelings to. ...
    needadvice001 needadvice001 26-30 6 Responses Jul 4, 2008

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    I dont like cuddling,

    kissing, hugging in public.. It feels embarassing to me
    feebiechichi feebiechichi 26-30, F Feb 26

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    Lost Now

     i am pretty sure I have intimacy issues, i want to avoid sex at all costs, and it scares me to death that i will be pressured for sex, and if i do have sex i will be direspected and disgarded afterwarsd,its happened before, and i also have experienced a sexual assult and...
    sweetstacey sweetstacey 26-30, F 3 Responses Aug 6, 2008

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    I'm So Lonely And Yearn For Connection, But Am So Afraid

    I'm 22 years old. I'm attractive, smart (when it comes to school), and friendly. All my life I have dealt with failure, rejection, bullying, and disappointment. I think because of that, i am very insecure with myself. I have never had a boyfriend before, although I've dated a...
    Gymgirl89 Gymgirl89 22-25 8 Responses Dec 29, 2011

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    I Am Afraid I Have Intimacy Issues Looking For A Female For A Loving Anr In An Adult Nursing Relationship In Tampa Bay, Fl.

    I am a Single White Male Searching For Open Minded Female In Tampa Bay, Fl . i am a single white male age 58 searching for an open minded female in tampa bay, florida. if you are out there give me a buzz so that we can chat?
    thisthatcurious thisthatcurious 56-60 Nov 22, 2013

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    I Can't Kiss My Husband

    I am so frustrated, sad, confused, etc....  I'm having huge issues with intimacy and can't nail down why.  I recently discovered that I am okay with having sex with my husband but not with foreplay.  I don't want to do all of the kissing and heavy petting. ...
    BCoonce BCoonce 33, F 7 Responses Apr 15, 2010

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    Araid Of Being Loved

    i have never been in a proper relationship that has lasted over a month... whenever things start to look good or are going well, i find a reason to end the relationship, and the guys i choose are never really people i feel strongly for anyway so i feel no remorse when i end it. I...
    JibaJaba JibaJaba 18-21, F Jul 3, 2011

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    I Know I Do

    I can't get close to anyone. I can't let them touch me, and it makes me uncomfortable if they stare too long. I don't like to be flirted with, I don't know how to respond. I dislike being touched, even when it's someone I know. I don't like to be looked at, and the very idea of...
    SpiritOfTheRabbit SpiritOfTheRabbit 31-35, F 1 Response Mar 20, 2013

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    Brainfreeze

    Sometimes people say they get brainfreeze eating icecream. I never get it in the head though, but in the back between my shoulderblades. It is kinda painfull, but it is not like I wanna touch the place while it hurt... It's like that when I see someone, another person. All the...
    Barlong Barlong 22-25, F Jan 8, 2012

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    I am so afraid for people to get close to me,

    physically, emotionally, sexually, because I expect them to hurt me, it means that I keep a barrier around me, and that keeps people away...And yet I long to be 'normal' and be able to have that closeness so that I don't have to be afraid to be alone
    Wi5huponastar Wi5huponastar 26-30, F Mar 6

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    Issues With Other Peoples Intimacy Rules...

    Reasons why I have not been the one (and dumped): People don't share their hearts. They close off. Some treat me like a villain. They only love the idea of being in love. I am not their parent. I know trust is hard to give, but I am not planning on dying tomorrow. We have...
    TheWomanWhoDid TheWomanWhoDid 36-40 Jan 30, 2013

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    Hard to Use the "L" Word

    It's hard for me to tell others I LOVE them! Even friends and family. And especially my hubby. Why is this? I DON'T KNOW?? My parents were certainly not adverse to saying and showing Love to us kids growing up! My grandparents never let us leave their homes without a hug, kiss...
    emerald emerald 36-40, F 17 Responses Apr 23, 2008

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    Please Help Me!!!!

    I am engaged to a woman whom I love very much.  She has issues of her own, but has come a long way and has worked very hard to survive and overcome.  The problem is that she says that I don't make her feel like a woman.  She tells me that she loves me with all...
    IndyNudist IndyNudist 46-50, M 16 Responses Feb 12, 2010

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    Will She Push Me Away?

    Maybe it's just me but the thought of being pushed away while being intimate with a woman...scares me.
    Ichilicious Ichilicious 22-25, M 3 Responses Dec 8, 2011

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    Always Afraid...

    Whenever my boyfriend and I kiss...and I mean KISS, not some little lip action, but full-out tongue-twisting, groping, sprawled on the bed kiss...I get this panicky feeling deep inside my chest, constricting my breath, making me want to push him away and curl up into a ball...
    LiquidFire89 LiquidFire89 18-21, F 4 Responses Sep 7, 2007

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    I have trust issues. I haven't ways had them, in my younger years I trusted without fear of pain or betrayals but I can't function like that anymore. When I was 19 I started...
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    I have never been in a long term relationship because i dont trust men. Its to the point i will ignore and reject every man that shows interest. Id like to date but i just cant be...
    tb2985 tb2985 26-30, F 3 Responses Jun 27

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    Having Trust Issues Is The Part Of Being In A Relationship For Me I Been Through Alot Of Heart Breaks But still I Mage to love someone but still not trust em
    YvetteBaby21 YvetteBaby21 16-17, F 1 Response Jun 28

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    I really hate that my uncle came over today, and I feel worse instead of better. I hate that I can't trust someone who's always been kind to me, and never broken his promise. I...
    luna1912 luna1912 18-21, F Jul 1

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    I was completely betrayed by my best friend almost 15 years ago. She is responsible for my trust issues, because of her I have mates and not friends. I'm happy to listen to and...
    Littlemissshy7 Littlemissshy7 41-45, F 3 Responses Jul 1

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    I have major trust issues. And I am pretty much always oblivious to signs. For example, if you tell me you like me or compliment me while holding a big *** neon sign above and Mila...
    scarredbutrelentless scarredbutrelentless 18-21, M 4 Responses Jul 3

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    I want to trust people. I really do! I've been backstabbed by my closest and bestest friends during high school. I stood up for them, I would have fought for them( was about to too...
    ReachingSoul ReachingSoul 22-25, F Jul 12

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    Since I was young trust was hard to come by. I was 9 when my mother left us she just up and left me and my 5 brothers and then it's been a downward spiral I have no faith in anyone...
    xchelseydawnx xchelseydawnx 22-25, F 4 Responses Jun 24

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    Never tell your problems to anyone. 20% don't care and the other 80% are glad you have them.
    tepidly tepidly 22-25, F 10 Responses Jun 25

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    My (ex) fiancée would hang out and talk to his ex's all the time when he knows how jealous and upset I'd get. He would also talk "smack" on me to his ex's when we would have a...
    sevenoclock10 sevenoclock10 18-21, F 1 Response Jun 26

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    I can't do this. I can't let anyone get close to me. Lately, I've met some people. People I really connect with. People who are excited to talk with me, hang out with me. And I...
    AlleywayGospel AlleywayGospel 26-30, F 2 Responses Jun 28

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    The older I get and the more I look back at my childhood the more I realize my mother was not ready to have children
    katieexx333 katieexx333 18-21, F 2 Responses Jun 28

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    The issue that I have is that I never had a daughter. It would be nice to experience this.
    NuclearELDER NuclearELDER 41-45, M Jun 30

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    He has the weirdest ways of showing his love, including hitting me for not letting him into my private life. I have a 10pm curfew and I'm 21... He is not my favorite person but I...
    fajphummie1 fajphummie1 18-21, F 1 Response Jun 30

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    Every time I trust I end up betrayed. My last act of trust was when I trusted my ex concerning our two young children. He wanted to see them,be a part of their lives,and act like...
    BabylessMommy BabylessMommy 41-45, F 1 Response Jul 1

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    Honestly, It's hard to trust others. Everytime when I do, I realize that the person just wanted something I had and they take it or use me and walk away. Walk away like it was easy...
    strawberry38 strawberry38 36-40, F 2 Responses Jul 1

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    I've been let down by so many people that I've trusted and I take it out on people that don't deserve it. My current bf and I haven't been together very long, but we've worked...
    vlrjspn vlrjspn 22-25, F Jul 2

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    I've spent the last 10 years of my life in back to back long term relationships. The first one, we just weren't right for each other. The second, I lived with all my heart. In...
    dolceharajuku dolceharajuku 26-30, F 2 Responses Jul 2

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    I don't like to trust people to quickly I have been used to many times. I like getting to know people quicker.
    samdavis3 samdavis3 16-17, M 1 Response Jul 6

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    I lose it, it's kinda hard especially since I'm a teen. So I have to be a role model for young kids. I hope it gets better for all yall, not just me
    Troubledfixer Troubledfixer 13-15, M 2 Responses Jul 7

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    I have such a hard time believing guys actually want something serious with me. I always think that everything they're doing such as sweet talking & spoiling me is to only get in...
    rangek rangek 18-21, F 39 Responses 4 days ago

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    I am comfortable here on EP and texting, I just don't want to get any closer. The last guy I met here couldn't understand that, I should have never given him my phone number just...
    jamieis jamieis 18-21, F 4 Responses 13 hrs ago

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    I wouldn't call it an issue. It just is what it is. I have a hard time letting people in, I always assume they have a ulterior motive.
    Teeze22 Teeze22 18-21, F 6 Responses Jun 25

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    So well my brain goes to overdrive analyzing why I don't have the kinda relationship with my mother that most women have. It's always been a love hate relationship. Maybe something...
    Mysticme Mysticme 26-30, F 1 Response Jun 27

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    I can't have a normal relationship with a guy because of the crappy male figures I've had in my life I don't exactly have much respect for the male population.
    kat990 kat990 13-15 2 Responses Jun 28

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    My dad is a total A**hole. He has emotionally abused me to the fact where I have thought about commuting suicide more then once. I don't respect him at all and he doesn't respect...
    freesoul365 freesoul365 16-17, F 2 Responses Jun 28

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    I'm just a naturally quiet person. I don't have a lot of friends because in the past I have been hurt by people. A lot of times I have been brave enough to be open and keep it real...
    genuine94 genuine94 18-21, F Jul 2

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    I don't know if i like this topi for this story but yea, whatevers,. Why do people pretend to like you or be into you , only to get what they really wanted from you int he first...
    cbeneath cbeneath 22-25, F Jul 12

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    My boyfriends ex girlfriend is his best friend ... They talk every day ... They text hourly ..: they have pet names for each other. And now she wants to have a child through...
    Jezzebel143 Jezzebel143 26-30, F 6 Responses Jul 12

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    I have been asking for a daddy to help TAKE CARE of my needs. I would like for him to PROTECT and SUPPORT me. I'd like a young daddy who is mature... this is just my ideal though...
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