I Am Afraid I Have Intimacy Issues

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    My exboyfriend had intimacy issues.

    We dated three times for several months each. I loved him deeply but just couldn't wait any longer for the sex. I didn't actually say it but I'm sure he could sense it. He picked a ridiculous fight to break us up and I can't believe he just threw me away like that because I...
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    1 Response Sep 27, 2015

    Araid Of Being Loved

    i have never been in a proper relationship that has lasted over a month... whenever things start to look good or are going well, i find a reason to end the relationship, and the guys i choose are never really people i feel strongly for anyway so i feel no remorse when i end it. I...
    JibaJaba JibaJaba
    18-21, F
    Jul 3, 2011

    I fear and crave intimacy simultaneously.

    So many times break my own heart by letting fear win out. I may lose someone very special to me if I continue with this problem for one moment longer. All my life, I have this pattern of getting involved in lukewarm relationships where I don't have many feelings for the other...
    NamelessNomad NamelessNomad
    26-30, F
    Jan 4, 2015

    I Can't Kiss My Husband

    I am so frustrated, sad, confused, etc....  I'm having huge issues with intimacy and can't nail down why.  I recently discovered that I am okay with having sex with my husband but not with foreplay.  I don't want to do all of the kissing and heavy petting. ...
    BCoonce BCoonce
    31-35, F
    6 Responses Apr 15, 2010

    I am so afraid for people to get close to me,

    physically, emotionally, sexually, because I expect them to hurt me, it means that I keep a barrier around me, and that keeps people away...And yet I long to be 'normal' and be able to have that closeness so that I don't have to be afraid to be alone
    Wi5huponastar Wi5huponastar
    26-30, F
    Mar 6, 2014

    Please Help Me!!!!

    I am engaged to a woman whom I love very much.  She has issues of her own, but has come a long way and has worked very hard to survive and overcome.  The problem is that she says that I don't make her feel like a woman.  She tells me that she loves me with all...
    IndyNudist IndyNudist
    46-50, M
    16 Responses Feb 12, 2010

    Always Afraid...

    Whenever my boyfriend and I kiss...and I mean KISS, not some little lip action, but full-out tongue-twisting, groping, sprawled on the bed kiss...I get this panicky feeling deep inside my chest, constricting my breath, making me want to push him away and curl up into a ball...
    LiquidFire89 LiquidFire89
    18-21, F
    4 Responses Sep 7, 2007

    Issues With Other Peoples Intimacy Rules...

    Reasons why I have not been the one (and dumped): People don't share their hearts. They close off. Some treat me like a villain. They only love the idea of being in love. I am not their parent. I know trust is hard to give, but I am not planning on dying tomorrow. We have...
    TheWomanWhoDid TheWomanWhoDid
    Jan 30, 2013

    Very, very afraid. Rejection

    and abuse have probably played a big part. From both family and everyone else. An unwanted sexual encounter at 14 with an older woman also kind of made me fearful I guess. I guess it's really very difficult to peg down exactly. But for a long time I've always been very selective...
    zeframcochrane zeframcochrane
    Aug 16, 2015

    I don't find that I miss people

    as much as I should
    magnamino magnamino
    36-40, M
    2 Responses Feb 15, 2015

    Lost Now

     i am pretty sure I have intimacy issues, i want to avoid sex at all costs, and it scares me to death that i will be pressured for sex, and if i do have sex i will be direspected and disgarded afterwarsd,its happened before, and i also have experienced a sexual assult and...
    sweetstacey sweetstacey
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Aug 6, 2008

    I dont like cuddling,

    kissing, hugging in public.. It feels embarassing to me
    feebiechichi feebiechichi
    31-35, F
    Feb 26, 2014

    I'm So Lonely And Yearn For Connection, But Am So Afraid

    I'm 22 years old. I'm attractive, smart (when it comes to school), and friendly. All my life I have dealt with failure, rejection, bullying, and disappointment. I think because of that, i am very insecure with myself. I have never had a boyfriend before, although I've dated a...
    Gymgirl89 Gymgirl89
    10 Responses Dec 29, 2011

    I find it difficult to be close to anybody.

    . To make or keep friends, "loving" my family, sometimes I even feel my intimacy issues with my dog, who I am trying to form emotions for. I am an emotionless person unless it is tears from watching a movie or something.. I have never loved a man or boy and I am just as bad as...
    LilVixen17 LilVixen17
    18-21, F
    4 Responses Feb 1, 2016

    I have spent years of my life trying to fill

    the holes in my stability with sex. it leaves me feeling empty and insecure. I don't even know how to start a relationship. When someone shows me interest, I recoil or put out. There are times when I have sex that my partner will touch me intimately or look at me in that sweet...
    howdoigetthere howdoigetthere
    22-25, F
    Apr 1, 2016

    I Know I Do

    I can't get close to anyone. I can't let them touch me, and it makes me uncomfortable if they stare too long. I don't like to be flirted with, I don't know how to respond. I dislike being touched, even when it's someone I know. I don't like to be looked at, and the very idea of...
    SpiritOfTheRabbit SpiritOfTheRabbit
    36-40, F
    1 Response Mar 20, 2013


    Sometimes people say they get brainfreeze eating icecream. I never get it in the head though, but in the back between my shoulderblades. It is kinda painfull, but it is not like I wanna touch the place while it hurt... It's like that when I see someone, another person. All the...
    Barlong Barlong
    26-30, F
    Jan 8, 2012

    Difficulty W/intimacy, Isolation & expression

    I have come to learn about myself in the past few weeks that I have a real problem with intimacy and expressing the intimate feeling I have inside.  I instead tend to run and hide, and unfortunately isolate myself for the person I should be expressing these feelings to. ...
    needadvice001 needadvice001
    5 Responses Jul 4, 2008

    I am unwell somehow. I am in love

    for the first time ever in my life but I keep imagining failure, so I keep predicting and have broken up twice with this boyfriend. I don't even want to do it. I did it twice.
    Adventurousprofiler Adventurousprofiler
    46-50, F
    Mar 1, 2016

    It feels like I have this wall around me.

    Anyone even tries and they get deflected. It's especially bad when its s3xual (seriously EP quit with the stupid censoring). Anyway, when I am with a guy I don't feel anything. My mind is off somewhere else. Thing is, the body can be aroused independent of the mind, so being...
    Lov3intheasylum Lov3intheasylum
    36-40, F
    Jan 31, 2015

    I Am Afraid I Have Intimacy Issues Looking For A Female For A Loving Anr In An Adult Nursing Relationship In Tampa Bay, Fl.

    I am a Single White Male Searching For Open Minded Female In Tampa Bay, Fl . i am a single white male age 58 searching for an open minded female in tampa bay, florida. if you are out there give me a buzz so that we can chat?
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    Nov 22, 2013
    KaidaKat KaidaKat
    22-25, F
    Nov 1, 2015
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