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I Am Afraid I Have Intimacy Issues

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    I Can't Kiss My Husband

    I am so frustrated, sad, confused, etc....  I'm having huge issues with intimacy and can't nail down why.  I recently discovered that I am okay with having sex with my husband but not with foreplay.  I don't want to do all of the kissing and heavy petting. ...
    BCoonce BCoonce 33, F 7 Responses Apr 15, 2010

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    I Am Afraid I Have Intimacy Issues Looking For A Female For A Loving Anr In An Adult Nursing Relationship In Tampa Bay, Fl.

    I am a Single White Male Searching For Open Minded Female In Tampa Bay, Fl . i am a single white male age 58 searching for an open minded female in tampa bay, florida. if you are out there give me a buzz so that we can chat?
    deleted deleted 26-30 Nov 22, 2013

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    I Know I Do

    I can't get close to anyone. I can't let them touch me, and it makes me uncomfortable if they stare too long. I don't like to be flirted with, I don't know how to respond. I dislike being touched, even when it's someone I know. I don't like to be looked at, and the very idea of...
    SpiritOfTheRabbit SpiritOfTheRabbit 31-35, F 1 Response Mar 20, 2013

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    Always Afraid...

    Whenever my boyfriend and I kiss...and I mean KISS, not some little lip action, but full-out tongue-twisting, groping, sprawled on the bed kiss...I get this panicky feeling deep inside my chest, constricting my breath, making me want to push him away and curl up into a ball...
    LiquidFire89 LiquidFire89 18-21, F 4 Responses Sep 7, 2007

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    Brainfreeze

    Sometimes people say they get brainfreeze eating icecream. I never get it in the head though, but in the back between my shoulderblades. It is kinda painfull, but it is not like I wanna touch the place while it hurt... It's like that when I see someone, another person. All the...
    Barlong Barlong 22-25, F Jan 8, 2012

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    I'm So Lonely And Yearn For Connection, But Am So Afraid

    I'm 22 years old. I'm attractive, smart (when it comes to school), and friendly. All my life I have dealt with failure, rejection, bullying, and disappointment. I think because of that, i am very insecure with myself. I have never had a boyfriend before, although I've dated a...
    Gymgirl89 Gymgirl89 22-25 8 Responses Dec 29, 2011

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    Please Help Me!!!!

    I am engaged to a woman whom I love very much.  She has issues of her own, but has come a long way and has worked very hard to survive and overcome.  The problem is that she says that I don't make her feel like a woman.  She tells me that she loves me with all...
    IndyNudist IndyNudist 46-50, M 16 Responses Feb 12, 2010

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    Lost Now

     i am pretty sure I have intimacy issues, i want to avoid sex at all costs, and it scares me to death that i will be pressured for sex, and if i do have sex i will be direspected and disgarded afterwarsd,its happened before, and i also have experienced a sexual assult and...
    sweetstacey sweetstacey 26-30, F 3 Responses Aug 6, 2008

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    Hard to Use the "L" Word

    It's hard for me to tell others I LOVE them! Even friends and family. And especially my hubby. Why is this? I DON'T KNOW?? My parents were certainly not adverse to saying and showing Love to us kids growing up! My grandparents never let us leave their homes without a hug, kiss...
    emerald emerald 36-40, F 17 Responses Apr 23, 2008

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    I dont like cuddling,

    kissing, hugging in public.. It feels embarassing to me
    feebiechichi feebiechichi 26-30, F Feb 26

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    Issues With Other Peoples Intimacy Rules...

    Reasons why I have not been the one (and dumped): People don't share their hearts. They close off. Some treat me like a villain. They only love the idea of being in love. I am not their parent. I know trust is hard to give, but I am not planning on dying tomorrow. We have...
    TheWomanWhoDid TheWomanWhoDid 36-40 Jan 30, 2013

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    I am so afraid for people to get close to me,

    physically, emotionally, sexually, because I expect them to hurt me, it means that I keep a barrier around me, and that keeps people away...And yet I long to be 'normal' and be able to have that closeness so that I don't have to be afraid to be alone
    Wi5huponastar Wi5huponastar 26-30, F Mar 6

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    Difficulty W/intimacy, Isolation & expression

    I have come to learn about myself in the past few weeks that I have a real problem with intimacy and expressing the intimate feeling I have inside.  I instead tend to run and hide, and unfortunately isolate myself for the person I should be expressing these feelings to. ...
    needadvice001 needadvice001 26-30 6 Responses Jul 4, 2008

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    Araid Of Being Loved

    i have never been in a proper relationship that has lasted over a month... whenever things start to look good or are going well, i find a reason to end the relationship, and the guys i choose are never really people i feel strongly for anyway so i feel no remorse when i end it. I...
    JibaJaba JibaJaba 18-21, F Jul 3, 2011

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    Will She Push Me Away?

    Maybe it's just me but the thought of being pushed away while being intimate with a woman...scares me.
    Ichilicious Ichilicious 22-25, M 3 Responses Dec 8, 2011

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    I have major trust issues I can't let my bf rest in peace because all I do is think he is gonna cheat or do something that I won't know about when I'm at work and he's not .. Ugh...
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    I used to have trust issues with guys because my whole life I have dated the biggest ********. But then I dated my best friend and he was the sweetest guy ever. However, since all...
    thequ3enpree thequ3enpree 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 31

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    The guys that I've known in my life have always asked me why I have trust issues. And here's why: well because, my first heartbreak lead me to that. I was used by the guy I liked...
    LaBrenditaa LaBrenditaa 16-17, F 1 Response Aug 17

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    Between my parents yes we have family issues. My mom is basically the man of the house While my stupid dad just lays back and worries about nothing He doesn't care about bills just...
    andreaespe andreaespe 18-21, F 1 Response a week ago

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    I have trust issues with people period. I don't care if it's my family (Who don't care about ******* you over) friends, or boyfriend. I want to change, but it's hard.
    NicoleMeagan NicoleMeagan 22-25, F 1 Response Jul 28

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    I don't like talking about it but yea I have daddy issues, dead beat ******* dad who's never there for you and doesn't do **** for you.
    countrygirlISTaylor countrygirlISTaylor 13-15, F 2 Responses Jul 28

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    There is a reason I have trust issues
    Kelnea Kelnea 13-15, F 3 Responses Aug 12

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    I'm going to be 20 tomorrow. My current boyfriend is 23 and has had plenty of girlfriends, and is friends with lots of girls. I have trust issues because for a long time I was...
    GoogleMaps GoogleMaps 18-21, F 3 Responses Aug 12

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    Raisin cookies that look like chocolate chip cookies are the main reason I have trust issues.
    acidblue02 acidblue02 18-21, F 4 Responses Aug 14

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    Raisin cookies that look like chocolate chip cookies are the main reason I have trust issues.
    tami1330 tami1330 51-55, F 2 Responses Aug 18

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    Of course I have trust issues. My ex didn't really like me, but the fact that I had a job and a car. She used me, draining my bank account, and I was too stupid to believe it, even...
    AgentSickler AgentSickler 18-21, M 3 Responses Aug 18

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    My dad used to do drugs and was abusive to my mom and my little brother and I. We used to run away from him growing up. Never been stable. Have mental issues. When he drinks...
    roselani2005 roselani2005 26-30, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    Anyone will say anything to get you to believe them. Everyone lies . They will say anything to make themselves look good or to make they look less suspicious. So I think it is okay...
    Amerson20 Amerson20 18-21, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    I have trust issues but I don't consider it a problem because I am usually safer by not trusting. Love all, trust a few, do wrong to none.
    laxprincess laxprincess 13-15, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    My dad ripped our family apart when he cheated on my mom and although my dad mostly provided physical needs for my brother and I, when it came time for the emotional needs he just...
    ashricard ashricard 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 8

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    A few months back I met a girl that I fell for pretty quickly, and a few months later I found out she liked me, things were going pretty well, but as soon as we got to the point...
    Sulka19 Sulka19 18-21, M 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    I dislike the idea of being physically and emotionally close to someone. The idea makes me panic. I actually had a panic attack when someone asked me out once because I was...
    Avotica Avotica 18-21, F a week ago

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    I used to be so naive. Sometimes I wish I could have that innocence back...to be able to see the world through the eyes of a girl who only knew of sheltered happiness. Of course...
    SupernovaxGirl SupernovaxGirl 26-30 1 Response Aug 12

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    I'm weary, and wary, of people after some issues when I was a teenager. I think deeply about the things asked of me.
    Lecuyer90 Lecuyer90 22-25, F 2 Responses Aug 5

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    Any tips or things you've done to help overcome attachment issues?
    AlleywayGospel AlleywayGospel 26-30, F Aug 6

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    It will take alot for me to trust people because I've got trust issues, it's not as bad as it use to be but it's still bad enough to make a difference.
    Matchitehew Matchitehew 18-21, M 3 Responses Aug 7

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    How can I over come my commitment issues? I'm currently single and looking but when someone comes around I want out of it faster then lightning. I have no idea where it all started...
    theshellofthesea theshellofthesea 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 9

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    I have lost my faith in true love. It doesn't exist actually, not among the humans. They're all so shallow inside. If you look deep down, they're way too selfish. Everyone is with...
    Xyanii Xyanii 22-25, F 8 Responses Aug 13

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    The issues my family and I have are huge. Too big for me to feel comfortable talking about specifics. My real question is this: If you have come to the realization that this...
    JaidIsAWildflower JaidIsAWildflower 18-21, F 3 Responses 5 days ago

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    I have a guy who is my best friend and my brother but he gets a little mean and scares me what am I going to do I'm to scared to so anything
    100BlackRoses 100BlackRoses 13-15, F 2 Responses Jul 27

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    It's because of them I lost my friends. It's because of them I'm living without a computer. It's because of them that my mom hates me. It's because of them I have a horrible first...
    oOMissDiorOo oOMissDiorOo 13-15, F Jul 30

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    It's like I have two settings. Calm, or intense rage. There is no gray area for me. There's a slight build up of annoyance at first, but then there's sheer anger. When I was...
    n0ceur n0ceur 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 30

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    Im ok most of the time but as soon as i hear something i don't want to hear i flip out and lose my temper. Some jock at my school picked on me and instead of walking away i lost my...
    laserabe1 laserabe1 16-17, M 1 Response Jul 31

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    You have them and they are just not working with us anymore....ladies....its will never work anymore... your just not ambitious women to us.......your not popular all your cnn...
    wearethechampions5050 wearethechampions5050 46-50, F 1 Response Aug 1

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    It's true , my dad might as well not have been around because all he's ever done to this day is give me money. Growing up, all I ever wanted was his attention and love, to this day...
    angelicahcah angelicahcah 18-21, F 3 Responses Aug 11

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    my husband have cheated on me and I can't seen to move past it he has does things and shows the same behavior without fully cheating with something else would you be ok with your...
    mixedfeelings2014 mixedfeelings2014 26-30, F 5 Responses Aug 14

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    There's no real way to make this long story short-but I could use some advice. My husband and I had a baby before we even started dating. One night stand. Anyway-he was a real...
    parismonkey parismonkey 22-25, F 5 Responses a week ago

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    I am sorry i didn't get into uni. I'm sorry that I wasn't an A* student. I'm sorry. I will always be a failure in your eyes. instead of being positive and helping me get through...
    Ghostpage Ghostpage 18-21, F 1 Response a week ago

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    My boyfriend doesnt deal with our personal problems with me, he talks horribly about me to his friends to vent out his frustration and I only found out last week. He apologised and...
    idealorious idealorious 18-21, F 10 Responses 6 days ago