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I Am Afraid I Have Intimacy Issues

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 211 People

    Please Help Me!!!!

    I am engaged to a woman whom I love very much.  She has issues of her own, but has come a long way and has worked very hard to survive and overcome.  The problem is that she says that I don't make her feel like a woman.  She tells me that she loves me with all...
    IndyNudist IndyNudist 46-50, M 16 Responses Feb 12, 2010

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    I Can't Kiss My Husband

    I am so frustrated, sad, confused, etc....  I'm having huge issues with intimacy and can't nail down why.  I recently discovered that I am okay with having sex with my husband but not with foreplay.  I don't want to do all of the kissing and heavy petting. ...
    BCoonce BCoonce 33, F 7 Responses Apr 15, 2010

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    Always Afraid...

    Whenever my boyfriend and I kiss...and I mean KISS, not some little lip action, but full-out tongue-twisting, groping, sprawled on the bed kiss...I get this panicky feeling deep inside my chest, constricting my breath, making me want to push him away and curl up into a ball...
    LiquidFire89 LiquidFire89 18-21, F 4 Responses Sep 7, 2007

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    I dont like cuddling,

    kissing, hugging in public.. It feels embarassing to me
    feebiechichi feebiechichi 31-35, F Feb 26, 2014

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    Will She Push Me Away?

    Maybe it's just me but the thought of being pushed away while being intimate with a woman...scares me.
    Ichilicious Ichilicious 26-30, M 3 Responses Dec 8, 2011

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    I Know I Do

    I can't get close to anyone. I can't let them touch me, and it makes me uncomfortable if they stare too long. I don't like to be flirted with, I don't know how to respond. I dislike being touched, even when it's someone I know. I don't like to be looked at, and the very idea of...
    SpiritOfTheRabbit SpiritOfTheRabbit 31-35, F 1 Response Mar 20, 2013

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    I'm So Lonely And Yearn For Connection, But Am So Afraid

    I'm 22 years old. I'm attractive, smart (when it comes to school), and friendly. All my life I have dealt with failure, rejection, bullying, and disappointment. I think because of that, i am very insecure with myself. I have never had a boyfriend before, although I've dated a...
    Gymgirl89 Gymgirl89 22-25 8 Responses Dec 29, 2011

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    Brainfreeze

    Sometimes people say they get brainfreeze eating icecream. I never get it in the head though, but in the back between my shoulderblades. It is kinda painfull, but it is not like I wanna touch the place while it hurt... It's like that when I see someone, another person. All the...
    Barlong Barlong 22-25, F Jan 8, 2012

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    Araid Of Being Loved

    i have never been in a proper relationship that has lasted over a month... whenever things start to look good or are going well, i find a reason to end the relationship, and the guys i choose are never really people i feel strongly for anyway so i feel no remorse when i end it. I...
    JibaJaba JibaJaba 18-21, F Jul 3, 2011

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    I am so afraid for people to get close to me,

    physically, emotionally, sexually, because I expect them to hurt me, it means that I keep a barrier around me, and that keeps people away...And yet I long to be 'normal' and be able to have that closeness so that I don't have to be afraid to be alone
    Wi5huponastar Wi5huponastar 26-30, F Mar 6, 2014

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    I Am Afraid I Have Intimacy Issues Looking For A Female For A Loving Anr In An Adult Nursing Relationship In Tampa Bay, Fl.

    I am a Single White Male Searching For Open Minded Female In Tampa Bay, Fl . i am a single white male age 58 searching for an open minded female in tampa bay, florida. if you are out there give me a buzz so that we can chat?
    deleted deleted 26-30 Nov 22, 2013

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    Difficulty W/intimacy, Isolation & expression

    I have come to learn about myself in the past few weeks that I have a real problem with intimacy and expressing the intimate feeling I have inside.  I instead tend to run and hide, and unfortunately isolate myself for the person I should be expressing these feelings to. ...
    needadvice001 needadvice001 26-30 6 Responses Jul 4, 2008

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    Lost Now

     i am pretty sure I have intimacy issues, i want to avoid sex at all costs, and it scares me to death that i will be pressured for sex, and if i do have sex i will be direspected and disgarded afterwarsd,its happened before, and i also have experienced a sexual assult and...
    sweetstacey sweetstacey 26-30, F 3 Responses Aug 6, 2008

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    Hard to Use the "L" Word

    It's hard for me to tell others I LOVE them! Even friends and family. And especially my hubby. Why is this? I DON'T KNOW?? My parents were certainly not adverse to saying and showing Love to us kids growing up! My grandparents never let us leave their homes without a hug, kiss...
    emerald emerald 36-40, F 17 Responses Apr 23, 2008

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    It feels like I have this wall around me.

    Anyone even tries and they get deflected. It's especially bad when its s3xual (seriously EP quit with the stupid censoring). Anyway, when I am with a guy I don't feel anything. My mind is off somewhere else. Thing is, the body can be aroused independent of the mind, so being...
    Lov3intheasylum Lov3intheasylum 31-35, F 3 hrs ago

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    I fear and crave intimacy simultaneously.

    So many times break my own heart by letting fear win out. I may lose someone very special to me if I continue with this problem for one moment longer. All my life, I have this pattern of getting involved in lukewarm relationships where I don't have many feelings for the other...
    NamelessNomad NamelessNomad 22-25, F Jan 4

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    Issues With Other Peoples Intimacy Rules...

    Reasons why I have not been the one (and dumped): People don't share their hearts. They close off. Some treat me like a villain. They only love the idea of being in love. I am not their parent. I know trust is hard to give, but I am not planning on dying tomorrow. We have...
    TheWomanWhoDid TheWomanWhoDid 36-40 Jan 30, 2013

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    I have trust issues because i found out my first real boyfriend, my first love used to say horrible things about me behind my back. I was quite young then and to love struck to see...
    destinyx3 destinyx3 13-15, F 1 Response 1 hr ago

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    I think everyone has a little bit of trust issues. I have trust issues because of my experience with people. It's very traumatizing. People lie and with lying comes power and...
    Ghostprojection Ghostprojection 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 6

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    I think we all have trust issues. I've been to he'll and back, knocked to my knees, confidence blown to he'll. sometimes I wonder if I even fit into.humanity, society. I'm still...
    ck1964 ck1964 46-50, F 2 Responses Jan 14

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    I always have attachment issues ever since i was a little girl.I get myself attached to people that i know is gonna broke my heart.They were my former therapists,teachers,college...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Jan 16

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    It's hard for me to trust other women it really is.Most women and girls ive met havent been the nicest to me,so i usually trust men more easily.The only girl i trust to a certain...
    simpleandpossible simpleandpossible 22-25, F 2 Responses Jan 20

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    I AM AFRAID TO SHARE IT WITH EP.....I SHARED IT WITH THE OUTSIDE WORLD AND THEY CALLED ME CRAZY, EVIL, SATAN, A FALSE PROPHET........I NO LONGER TRUST ANYBODY WITH MY AWESOME AND...
    LadySweetness LadySweetness 41-45, F 5 Responses Jan 18

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    I am sitting in a rest room at one corner and looking at group of people who are laughing and enjoying. I could join them but i cant. I have seen horrible past about people. I am...
    esteem29 esteem29 26-30, M 1 Response Jan 8

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    I have some pretty deep rooted trust issues that come from the fact that I was molested when I was 13 by a very close friend, Im not gonna go into a ton of detail there because i...
    Sulka19 Sulka19 18-21, M 1 Response Jan 4

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    Just realized that I do tend to have an attitude. I've always known I had it but I wasn't mature enough to understand how it affects my relationships. I'm beyond stubborn. If it's...
    SheIsHealing SheIsHealing 22-25, F 1 Response Dec 31, 2014

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    Ever since I was little my family has told me that I'm too big and I need to lose weight , it's all I've ever been told , that I'm too big and I look horrible. Today I went...
    abby816 abby816 22-25, F 3 Responses Jan 2

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    I have serious trust issues all because of one boy. Its crazy how one person can leave a big impact on your life
    amberloves16 amberloves16 16-17, F 3 Responses Jan 10

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    01. I've been cheated on in the past more than once, and I took him back every time. My trust issues are because of myself.. Because I took him back. 10 years later and he's...
    CharlotteTeller CharlotteTeller 26-30, F 3 Responses Jan 10

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    but who doesnt? you can be my nrw daddy n we can settle our issues right now... ;) xoxo
    jennyisaslut jennyisaslut 16-17, F 2 Responses Jan 11

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    Sometimes I make it worse by trying to rely on people who have shown themselves to be untrustworthy. So, it becomes a circle that feeds on itself. Meet the untrustable, believe...
    Myfairlady1 Myfairlady1 46-50, F 3 Responses Jan 11

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    I believe we all have some sort of trust issues, mine tend to be severe. Sometimes I let my guard down, but it always hurts. But on some level it's better to feel the pain than...
    AnarchyOfAthena AnarchyOfAthena 16-17, F Jan 18

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    I only have self esteem issues when it comes to my job. I don't always feel like I'm right for this job. Maybe it's just the way some people treat me in regards to my job. Trust...
    ttbridge ttbridge 36-40, F Jan 19

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    I have major trust issues. Unfortunately, most people don't understand and that causes me to lose a lot of friends. Luckily, I've been working to overcome this. Maybe one day I can...
    Leofflaed Leofflaed 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 22

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    I'm really upset right now. I have had major trust issues before in my relationships until I found my now fiancé. I just had a baby and of course my hormones were all over the...
    deadmeadowaltz deadmeadowaltz 26-30, F 7 Responses a week ago

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    I have huge trust issues with 99.999999999999999999% of all males regardless of age using the internet and specifically those using this EP website. I am very careful what I say...
    mominlingerie mominlingerie 36-40, F 3 Responses 6 days ago

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    I had a horrible friend through junior high and high school, i opened up and told a lot about myself...my dreams .. my desires..my future...my fantasies. ..everything...little did...
    jbm1984 jbm1984 31-35, F 2 Responses Jan 5

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    I do... and I don't... Like, I think my problem is that I trust people TO much. I put my complete trust into some people, tell them everything, and put faith into them, just for...
    BananaSmoothiee BananaSmoothiee 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 5

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    I've trusted to many people and yet I have gotten hurt. I have isolated myself from society. I thought I could trust one girl and she proved me wrong. I feel as if I can be...
    Ginger1313 Ginger1313 13-15, F 1 Response Jan 7

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    My parents split before I was born and I am now trying to track down my father. It is so exhausting. I have managed to find some names on what little info I have to go on. I...
    niteowl84 niteowl84 31-35, F Jan 8

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    We have been fighting for a long time now. I think about 8 years ago. About when my mom got sick
    Jayroame Jayroame 18-21, M Jan 9

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    I live in a place where usual things are not allowed, for example having a bf, let alone chatting with men on the phone. I am a virgin coz obviously not married. So I live in my...
    Sajanova Sajanova 26-30, F 2 Responses Jan 9

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    Every time I feel I may be getting closer to someone, I feel like a warning goes off in my head, and I suddenly wish I had never shared any information about myself. I start to...
    misscoffee misscoffee 22-25, F 3 Responses Jan 9

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    Beautiful man. Everyone seems to want you, even other men. You say you're mine but are you really? I won't let myself get too close to you. I want to... But I've been let down so...
    aanicole aanicole 18-21, F 3 Responses Jan 9

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    I have only 2 people in my family. My mom and my brother. My mom has attempted suicide and is severely depressed, she also has cancer. And my brother has attempted suicide twice...
    mightymouse69 mightymouse69 16-17, F 1 Response Jan 10

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    I can be the nicest guy to people, and can I hate getting upset, but I have a very short fuse. It's one of the worse aspects of myself.
    Marcus010 Marcus010 18-21, M 2 Responses Jan 10

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    My older sister has a habit of becoming snooty with me. She actually makes this face where she turns her nose up at me. It's very frustrating. I actually am a very smart and...
    SheSaidx SheSaidx 22-25, F 1 Response Jan 11

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