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I Am Afraid I Will Never Find Someone to Really Love Me

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    Well as the title says,

    I'm afraid I will never find anyone to really love me, I know I'm very young and all but most of my friends already had their first kiss, their first relationship, their first "mutual" feelings with the person they liked... Anyways I just feel really anxious every time I...
    IHateUsernames0 IHateUsernames0 13-15, M 5 Responses Apr 24

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    Nothing Worthy Of Love

    I have been 'single' for over a year now and I finally allowed myself to truly open up and care about someone. I told him of my childhood, details I have not even told my therapist, I shared my desires, my dreams, my secrets. I allowed him to see me, to know me.....very few get...
    wickedties wickedties 41-45, F 68 Responses Feb 1, 2011

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    Varmintgetter68 Varmintgetter68 41-45, M 4 Responses Jan 12

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    Everyone I meet that is a guy

    and I date usually just dates me to get over someone or just thinks I'm hot... I know I'm still young but even teenagers need to feel like they are loved not just by family or friends.
    laultman78 laultman78 16-17, F 2 Responses Jun 13

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    I am very afraid of this actually.

    I feel like I have found love, but it's one sided. If this isn't love I don't know what is? Please don't give me the you're to young speech, I am just really concerned I don't be loved. I hate this feeling it leaves me curled up crying on my kitchen floor sometimes as screaming...
    LoverOfAllSouls LoverOfAllSouls 13-15, F Aug 27

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    annah1 annah1 46-50, F 4 Responses Sep 1

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    I am 20 and i know im young,

    but i feel like a hopeless romantic. Ive only been in love once and we were together 5yrs. I want to meet someone and fall in love for the last time but im not sure if i will. Been having nothing but bad luck with guys so doesnt seem like ill ever find my twin flame if i even...
    lovelybutterfly123 lovelybutterfly123 18-21, F 2 Responses Feb 1

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    Spent the last 6 years with someone

    who I didn't love. The sad part is that because it didn't work out I was hopeless of ever finding someone I could genuinely fall in love with. Well I did. I fell in love with someone and I fell hard. Guess who's scrapping their knees trying to get back up? Welcome karma. I feel...
    Shey12 Shey12 18-21, F 33 Responses Jul 7

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    It's because I am mentally ill.

    There really isn't any other explanation besides that. I am mentally ill and no one wants to deal with it. Well, guess what? I DO. Yes, me. I DEAL WITH IT, SO YOU DONT HAVE TO. Meds, boring sessions with my psychiatrist and psychologist and case worker, I handle that part. I don...
    Lov3intheasylum Lov3intheasylum 31-35, F 3 Responses Aug 31

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    In those past 5 years .

    .. I traveled, I asked friends, I even tried the internet, the results were always the same "What I look for couldn't be found". My demands and standards are high, which if I have seen anything wrong in them then I would have changed them, but they are fine so I am living by them...
    Alip900 Alip900 22-25, M 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    I Wanted My Friends To Know The Real Me

    I screwed up bad a couple days ago and I now know that I probably never will find that special man who will really love me for me.As I cried myself to sleep last night I made a realization.  My grandkids, my hubby, my best friend Marji (ep) and RL (also ep),  are the only...
    teri58 teri58 51-55, F 4 Responses Dec 31, 2011

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    I'm 19 I've never had anyone take an interest

    in me where I come from it's all about looks just once I want a girl to actually say she has feelings for me and mean and not just toy with my emotions and for someone to actually show the signs of being interested in me I know I'm only 19 but It should have happened at least...
    Dynamite500 Dynamite500 18-21, M 4 Responses Jun 13

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    It's not really a matter of afraid,

    it's like a realization. It's so hard when someone says they love you and your heart won't accept those words as truth. I'm far from lonely. It's more the matter of me keeping a special woman around long enough to really find out if she loves me. Trust is more than a five...
    wisemanj47 wisemanj47 22-25, M 3 Responses Aug 5

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    Just Another Girl With Something To Say

    When everyone around you seems to be in relationships it's hard not to think ...what's wrong with me? What do these people have that I don't? At the risk of sounding like just another single girl complaining about how no one loves her, It's challenging to realise that you might...
    nadiney nadiney 18-21, F 15 Responses Dec 1, 2011

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    123tomcat 123tomcat 51-55, M Aug 20

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    Seems to me that alot of men I am around want

    it all A wife , a mistress , a freak , a mommy , a nurse I can only be ten things at one time I'm afraid I will never find a man who will say he really loves me back because he can get what ever he wants from several women I stay confused If I have standards .... I'm...
    applesnbananas applesnbananas 51-55, F 3 Responses Aug 29

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    I am bpd and I have trouble not rejecting

    someone else at the first sign that they may find me anything other than perfect. So far nobody has believed I truly cannot control this reaction.
    xandrif xandrif 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 17

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    This is so true. I've been through

    so many guys but none is the right one.
    dropdeadwilma dropdeadwilma 16-17, F 9 Responses Aug 31

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    Trying to date in your late 20's early 30's is

    torture enough, but I swear it's even worse if you're not a dog person and you have no interest in having kids. I'm at an impasse in my life where I'm attracting men, just not the type I'm looking for. I wish there were more men out there who didn't want children...
    BleuGardenia BleuGardenia 26-30, F 1 Response Aug 17

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    I heard about EP and I thought it might help me,

    because nothing else has. I'm currently 16 years old living in Matthews, North Carolina. I've always been the kind of kid that put up walls, I never knew what it was like to have a friend...except for one girl but I'll get to that in a little bit. I never thought I needed...
    Justjonathan Justjonathan 16-17, M 1 Response 2 days ago

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    Ladies hit me up. I already love you but.

    .. Who says I can't love a lil more?
    DreadlockJesus DreadlockJesus 31-35, M 1 Response Aug 5

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    My greatest fear in life is

    that I'll never find someone to love me.
    lookingformyself88 lookingformyself88 18-21, F 5 Responses May 10

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    Yeah...

    How can I explain this? I just...I feel like there's nothing especially special about me, or anything that will keep someone around. I feel like any guy who expresses interest in me will do it purely to get into my pants, and for no reason other than that. And then, once they get...
    livingalie1 livingalie1 22-25, F 27 Responses Dec 30, 2011

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    i just haven't had any luck with men.

    idk why. i just feel like I will end up alone when i'm older...
    lss0807 lss0807 18-21, F 5 Responses Jul 12

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    lifeschallenge lifeschallenge 22-25, F 3 Responses Aug 5

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    I know we are all complicated beings

    and I'm no different. However I complicate my life further by not being honest about my sexual orientation. I can admit to close friends that I'm bi-sexual. Now these are friends who generally will not be in an intimate relationship with me. So if I'm with gay men I state I'm...
    licwineoffurbody licwineoffurbody 41-45, M 2 Responses Aug 25

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    Not me personally, but I know this girl

    who was approaching 40 and she could never find the right guy who could really love her. She spent countless amount of hours on the internet searching for the right guy on dating sites, she was a virgin at the time, and because of her religious beliefs she could only marry a guy...
    sheherme83 sheherme83 31-35, F 1 Response Aug 15

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    im very miserable girl ,

    im always loosing ppl and i have no friends im good at nothing! i met very nice guy and he was the best thing ever happened to me, he was good friend but im always telling and saying stupid things and then regret it and telling my self never again but i do and say the **** again...
    lulutaa lulutaa 22-25, F 2 Responses Sep 9

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    ouatnatalie ouatnatalie 13-15, F 6 days ago

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    Going to sleep alone

    and waking up alone could may just be one of the hardest things to get over. It's been a long time since I've shared my bed with someone that I'm starting to think it will never happen again. I don't know what's wrong with me. No one is interested in me:( my biggest fear is I'll...
    GivenToFly182 GivenToFly182 26-30, F 6 Responses Jul 12

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    ksgirl11 ksgirl11 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 30

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    Everyone around me is falling in love,

    getting married, having kids, and then their is me... All I want is someone to be with, someone to love me, someone to talk to, someone to just sit in at a Friday night and watch Netflix but no, I can't have that
    KolbySC KolbySC 18-21, M 4 Responses Aug 24

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    Should I Just Give Up?

    I am generally an optimistic guy, but as I enter yet another year alone I am on the verge of giving up hope of ever finding someone to share my life with. I don't know what the problem with me is, I am at a minimum an average looking guy, I make a decent wage, treat people...
    UniquebutnotAlone UniquebutnotAlone 26-30, M 18 Responses Dec 31, 2011

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    Sometimes It Takes Longer...

    or that is what I am telling myself. After 8 years of marriage, my husband and I parted ways, knowing that the future was uncertain but being lonely by myself was better than being alone in a twosome. Now I am 33, in strange city, far from family and with few acquaintances let...
    Dea9 Dea9 31-35, F 4 Responses Jul 16, 2013

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    Whenever I think about love,

    it's so hard for me to think that it could happen for me. That I don't really see it happening for me. I try to be hopeful but it's so hard when you're constantly surrounded by others who so easily find it and have it in their grasp. I don't know, it's just whenever I think...
    emelon12 emelon12 18-21, F 4 Responses Jul 7

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    Nobody Wants Me

    My love is not good enough. Any girl I have had a crush on. Any girl that's I've liked. Anyone I've loved .. or even wanted to love .. has made that perfectly clear. Nobody wants me. Nobody wants to touch me. Nobody .. my love isn't wanted. I'm not wanted. Oh of course, I've...
    Cursedboy Cursedboy 36-40, M 84 Responses Nov 5, 2008

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    This is actual a question : I think my girl

    friend is a young **** because she's to young to do it and she had in her room sex stuff.what do I do?😔
    Anthonyverdin Anthonyverdin 13-15, M 3 Responses Aug 15

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    I just met him a couple hours ago

    and idk I just can't stop thinking about him I've been thing about him the whole night and he's the first person I really have feelings for and idk if he likes me back cuz we just met and idk I'm in love or I really like him and I just can't stop thinking about him and that's...
    DiegoPR13 DiegoPR13 13-15, M Aug 20

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    I'm afraid that will never find someone

    that clicks with me... Someone who can understand my train of thought. Someone that wants to take the time to know me and raise me up so I can do the same for them. Someone that won't shut me out and push me away as much as I do. Someone that will find his way into my...
    minidisaster minidisaster 18-21, F 10 Responses Dec 17, 2013

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    You know I really worry I'll never find someone

    ...my someone is gone I though I had found the one you know .... I mean I lost her and I couldn't even see her on her last moments I tried but I didn't know I was going to see her but she was gone I took to long ..we battled cancer together both had it twice but only one made...
    Ale93 Ale93 18-21, M 5 Responses May 3

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    Unknown.

    While I am an independent, pretty-ish, in shape, educated, funny, and (generally) a sparkly person in real life, I am terrified that I will never find someone that will really love me.  At the same time, I'm terrified that I'll never find someone that I can really love AND that...
    snappingzero snappingzero 26-30, F 7 Responses Apr 5, 2012

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    I can't articulate my feelings better

    than Warsan Shire in her poem titled 'for women who are 'difficult' to love' you are a horse running alone and he tries to tame you compares you to an impossible highway to a burning house says you are blinding him that he could never leave you forget you want anything but you...
    sonarlove sonarlove 22-25, F 1 Response Aug 10

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    “There are two basic motivating forces: fear

    and love. When we are afraid, we pull back from life. When we are in love, we open to all that life has to offer with passion, excitement, and acceptance. We need to learn to love ourselves first, in all our glory and our imperfections. If we cannot love ourselves, we cannot...
    QuinnMalcom QuinnMalcom 31-35, M 1 Response May 25

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    At 20 I Don't Think I Should Even Be Worried

    About Things Like This... But The Thought Of Possibly Being Alone Forever Scares Me... Im Scared That I Will Find Someone That Really Wants To Be With Me.. But Im Going To Push Them Away Because I Have My Guard Up.. But I Don't Want To Take My Guard Down.. And Get Hurt Again So...
    HopelessLoveHer HopelessLoveHer 18-21, F 7 Responses Aug 14

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    Honestly during high school two different times

    I've had someone say something along the lines of "id date you but I don't date black girls" I don't know it sounds petty but it really hurts me deep down inside. I'm also a thick girl and I'm scared that no one would ever love me.
    kaelabee kaelabee 18-21, F 2 Responses Sep 9

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    It just seems every time I develop strong

    feelings for someone I'm always let down. I truly believed that this time was different. I thought he was really the one. I've been involved in a long distance relationship but there's been lack of communication on his part for quite sometime now. He told me that he hasn't...
    brady120378 brady120378 31-35, M 2 Responses Mar 3

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    I'm Such An Idiot

    I got married when I was 23 years old, to a man who has never once in our time together told me he loves me.  I'm sitting here 20 years later trying to figure out why.  We have 2 great kids that I wouldn't trade the world for.  If I hadn't married this man, they...
    goddessone goddessone 41-45, F 39 Responses Mar 9, 2008

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    I'm afraid I will never find somebody to really

    love me because they won't be ably to handle my career choice.. I'm in the USAF, and every single woman has either cheated on me, or left me because I'm always working.. Imma be a retired 38 year old with 50 dogs D:
    theHuntedOne14 theHuntedOne14 18-21, M Sep 7

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    fuglygirlonthebench fuglygirlonthebench 18-21, F 2 Responses Aug 19

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    KITsune78 KITsune78 16-17, M 1 Response Sep 6

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    I am afraid, there will be no one ever to love

    me. All I find around me are people who abuse my kindness. People who use me. It was like that ever since I remember and that's why I am afraid that I will be alone.
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Aug 25

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    I think it's one of those moments

    where you see everyone around you finding someone and you're here alone. I'm always wondering if someday i'll find someone who'll love me. I guess i'm not the kind of girl guys wants to be with.
    Dreamsooz Dreamsooz 18-21, F 3 Responses Aug 14

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    I just broke up with a gf of 4 years.

    We lived together for 2 years. She is a bi and she has fallen in love with a guy at work. I am crushed when I caught her lying to cover up her date with him. She told me she wanted a normal relationship, something she need not hide from anyone about. We are both in the closet...
    miknat miknat 31-35, F 4 Responses Mar 25

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