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I Am Afraid I Will Never Find Someone to Really Love Me

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    I Did But Lost Him :-(

    I never thought that after all I've been threw in my life that I would ever find someone who really loved me. But I did! Only it cant be, hes unavailable! So now ive lost not only my best friend but also the only guy who has ever really loved me. I wont ever find someone else...
    gem1969 gem1969 41-45, F 6 Responses Oct 10, 2013

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    I just turned 18, I know I'm still young,

    but I'm scared nobody will ever truly love me. I've only had one serious bf and he ended up hurting me.
    1brokenemo 1brokenemo 18-21, F 1 Response Apr 1

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    I wish I could find someone around my age

    who would be able to love me and not just my body. For once I just want a sincere " I love you"
    Excuseme1357 Excuseme1357 13-15, F Feb 7

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    Well,what can i do,i mean,

    if i were someone else,i wouldn't love me either
    AmberLovesRabbits AmberLovesRabbits 13-15, F 3 Responses Feb 20

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    I am 20 and i know im young,

    but i feel like a hopeless romantic. Ive only been in love once and we were together 5yrs. I want to meet someone and fall in love for the last time but im not sure if i will. Been having nothing but bad luck with guys so doesnt seem like ill ever find my twin flame if i even...
    lovelybutterfly123 lovelybutterfly123 18-21, F 2 Responses Feb 1

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    Sometimes It Takes Longer...

    or that is what I am telling myself. After 8 years of marriage, my husband and I parted ways, knowing that the future was uncertain but being lonely by myself was better than being alone in a twosome. Now I am 33, in strange city, far from family and with few acquaintances let...
    Dea9 Dea9 31-35, F 4 Responses Jul 16, 2013

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    BeYoungBeDopeBeProud BeYoungBeDopeBeProud 13-15, F 3 Responses Jan 23

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    Nobody Wants Me

    My love is not good enough. Any girl I have had a crush on. Any girl that's I've liked. Anyone I've loved .. or even wanted to love .. has made that perfectly clear. Nobody wants me. Nobody wants to touch me. Nobody .. my love isn't wanted. I'm not wanted. Oh of course, I've...
    Cursedboy Cursedboy 36-40, M 80 Responses Nov 5, 2008

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    I want somebody to love me

    and everything i guess im not gonna find that never !!
    paola93 paola93 18-21, F 4 Responses Jan 14

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    After a 30 years of an isolating abusive

    and degrading and a disloyal womanizing man he runs off to have fun with yet another few women he had on the side Ruined my credit left me at fifty laughing at what my age was he walked out the four if the 2nd foreclosed home he cared none to do to me How can I feel But...
    kimy51 kimy51 51-55, F 4 Responses Mar 3

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    I Wish For It to Happen..

    It kind of is the only thing that keeps me alive.. finding someone to truely love and have kids with and all... very naive I know.. but as long as it's something that keeps me alive I'm okay with it..
    deleted deleted 26-30 8 Responses Dec 27, 2007

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    I just broke up with a gf of 4 years.

    We lived together for 2 years. She is a bi and she has fallen in love with a guy at work. I am crushed when I caught her lying to cover up her date with him. She told me she wanted a normal relationship, something she need not hide from anyone about. We are both in the closet...
    miknat miknat 31-35, F 2 Responses Mar 25

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    I'm really scared that I will end up alone.

    The thing is, is that everyone wants to know about you, your dark secrets, and they expect you to tell them. I would like to, I would. But I am so utterly disappointed in myself for the things that I have done that it's almost impossible for me to open up and tell people things...
    buttoneyes108 buttoneyes108 22-25, F 1 Response Mar 17

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    Despite that I am in a wonderful loving

    relationship, I am expecting it to fail, because good things just do not happen to me, and if something good does come along, it doesn't stay, I'm always left in the dark, alone once again. It hurts, but it is something that I have come to accept. I am afraid that I am going to...
    NYSlilAngel NYSlilAngel 26-30, F 4 Responses Mar 21

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    Should I Just Give Up?

    I am generally an optimistic guy, but as I enter yet another year alone I am on the verge of giving up hope of ever finding someone to share my life with. I don't know what the problem with me is, I am at a minimum an average looking guy, I make a decent wage, treat people...
    UniquebutnotAlone UniquebutnotAlone 26-30, M 18 Responses Dec 31, 2011

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    I'm Such An Idiot

    I got married when I was 23 years old, to a man who has never once in our time together told me he loves me.  I'm sitting here 20 years later trying to figure out why.  We have 2 great kids that I wouldn't trade the world for.  If I hadn't married this man, they...
    goddessone goddessone 41-45, F 39 Responses Mar 9, 2008

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    Thoughts Of You By Athena C. Beauchamp

    IF I WOULD ADD A VISAGE OF YOU THAT WOULD HAUNT ME IN MY LONLINESS LIKE A NIGHTMARE IN MY DREAMS, IT WOULD BE YOURS. YOU ARE THE ONE I FEAR TO MEET EACH DAY BUT CANNOT WAIT TILL I DO. IF BENEATH MY TREMBLING PEN A FORM OF A MAN WOULD FORM THAT ONCE WAS KNOWN WARM AND LOVING...
    attybea attybea 51-55, F 3 Responses Jan 30, 2013

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    The Real Me

    If guys only go after apperance I probably have nothing to worry about. The thing is, I know they don't, not when it comes to love. I wonder if someone will ever love me for who I am. A human being. Nothing more, nothing less. Someone whom will love my good sides, bad sides...
    Lola91 Lola91 16-17, F 6 Responses Aug 10, 2008

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    Varmintgetter68 Varmintgetter68 41-45, M 3 Responses Jan 12

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    Lost Hope

    My relationship track record is not the cleanest. I tend to fall for anyone who gives me the slightest bit of extra attention, and it's never ended well. I still talk to my first love almost every day. The second boyfriend I had I was convinced (and am still trying to get over...
    chelelell chelelell 18-21, F 5 Responses Oct 16, 2013

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    I am afraid. It's never really bothered me

    before, until now. I've completed University, I have graduated, I am currently in need of a job/career. I suddenly regret pushing those guys away, the ones who asked to take me out but I never paid them any attention. I am a Christian too, and nowadays...well lets admit it, the...
    JulysDiamond JulysDiamond 18-21, F 10 Responses Dec 29, 2013

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    Nothing Worthy Of Love

    I have been 'single' for over a year now and I finally allowed myself to truly open up and care about someone. I told him of my childhood, details I have not even told my therapist, I shared my desires, my dreams, my secrets. I allowed him to see me, to know me.....very few get...
    wickedties wickedties 41-45, F 70 Responses Feb 1, 2011

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    I just need someone to hold me & say

    that everything will be fine, someone who can express their true feelings, someone to drink with, someone who will love me inside & out, someone who can hold that homophobic douche while I knock him out lol :) most of all I need someone who needs me <3
    DefineLines DefineLines 18-21, M 1 Response Apr 3

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    It just seems every time I develop strong

    feelings for someone I'm always let down. I truly believed that this time was different. I thought he was really the one. I've been involved in a long distance relationship but there's been lack of communication on his part for quite sometime now. He told me that he hasn't...
    brady120378 brady120378 31-35, M 2 Responses Mar 3

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    So I was recently cheated on.

    He said he wanted kids, marriage, a house, the whole nine yards. I was all for it. I thought I was in love with him, he started to pull away and I found out he was "entertaining" some other girl. He wouldn't admit to it and kept getting mad at me and said I was ruining our...
    LookItsKinz LookItsKinz 22-25, F 2 Responses Jan 23

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    Unrequited Love

    I've dated numerous guys and never felt the slightest connection or attraction and was about to just accept the fact I wasn't capable of loving anyone in a romantic way. I was a senior in college before losing my virginity for this same reason, because I never felt close or...
    Myamberromance Myamberromance 22-25, F 3 Responses Jun 4, 2013

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    Im about to be 21 (i know "omg youre still

    young") I have gone on 3 "real dates" and ALL three of then have taken me to their house/apt on the first day...no I do not dress provocatively and I don't even give guys any reason to think I would do anything with them on the first date!! (Or second or third etc) Something all...
    reuqse93 reuqse93 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 21

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    I think it's probably a silly,

    pointless fear, but I still fear it. I think I'm more afraid that I'll find someone to really love me and then they'll stop loving me.
    couldbeheaven couldbeheaven 26-30, F 1 Response Apr 1

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    I fear this more then anything.

    Im 23 and have never had a girlfriend, I'm starting to think women don't even know I exist.
    Dannylove90 Dannylove90 22-25, M 4 Responses Feb 5

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    I have a lot of self esteem issues

    and body image issues and such and all this has really got me to the conclusion that being like this i'll never find someone who will love me
    mattywheels25 mattywheels25 26-30, M 2 Responses Jan 26

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    This thought really scares me!

    I dont know if i will ever find a man who will love me for me and my baldness.
    AchingSoul AchingSoul 22-25, F 4 Responses Feb 9

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    Just Another Girl With Something To Say

    When everyone around you seems to be in relationships it's hard not to think ...what's wrong with me? What do these people have that I don't? At the risk of sounding like just another single girl complaining about how no one loves her, It's challenging to realise that you might...
    nadiney nadiney 18-21, F 17 Responses Dec 1, 2011

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    I am an attractive person

    and honestly guys do like me but the kind of guys I want don't seem to stick around. I'm afraid I will have to settle for a guy that really loves and adores me but I won't really feel the same. I hope that doesn't sound horrible. But there seems to be only those two choices... a...
    mimileelee mimileelee 36-40, F 2 Responses Apr 1

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    Everyone else my age seems to have had hundreds

    of boyfriends or girlfriends. Some are now in serious long term relationships, others have had babies... and there I am, still single, with no future guy in sight. When will someone come along who is right for me?
    deleted deleted 26-30 7 Responses Jan 28

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    BigChallangeSam BigChallangeSam 36-40, F 4 Responses Mar 10

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    I'm afraid that will never find someone

    that clicks with me... Someone who can understand my train of thought. Someone that wants to take the time to know me and raise me up so I can do the same for them. Someone that won't shut me out and push me away as much as I do. Someone that will find his way into my...
    minidisaster minidisaster 18-21, F 10 Responses Dec 17, 2013

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    Turning 40 Next Year, Never Been In Love With Anyone Who Loved Me Back

    My childhood was the pits, and I have abandonment issues. I have never been married or felt as though I was in a mutually loving relationship. I am coming out of a long-term relationship with a guy I have two children with. He probably never should have been with me, there's...
    Serialcrush Serialcrush 36-40 2 Responses Jul 16, 2012

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    Very certain that I will never experience the

    touch of a man again. That I will spend my remaining time on earth alone....in a perpetual state of disappointment.
    sassyg1rl sassyg1rl 36-40, F 1 Response Mar 22

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    I am a m-f pre-op transsexual living fulltime

    as female. I feel I will never find true love because of it.
    LoriQ LoriQ 51-55, T 3 Responses Feb 20

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    I've been pushing away.

    I do like some guys, but when they actually take on the urge to ask me out. I get scared, afraid. So i reject them on the spot regardless if i hurt them or not. I use my school studies as an excuse and that i'm too young to date, but i'm honestly afraid. I'm afraid they won't...
    Dapperness Dapperness 16-17, F 1 Response Mar 24

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    This Is Going To Sound Stupid.

    Okay so i know I'm only 16 and I shouldn't be worrying about being forever alone yet but I am. I mean no boys like me.. No one has ever liked me. I've kissed guys before but they were only hook ups.. Like its not normal to be 16 and to never had have a boyfriend.. Maybe it's...
    Aimeebee Aimeebee 18-21, F 31 Responses Jan 30, 2013

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    Yeah...

    How can I explain this? I just...I feel like there's nothing especially special about me, or anything that will keep someone around. I feel like any guy who expresses interest in me will do it purely to get into my pants, and for no reason other than that. And then, once they get...
    livingalie1 livingalie1 22-25, F 27 Responses Dec 30, 2011

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    Unknown.

    While I am an independent, pretty-ish, in shape, educated, funny, and (generally) a sparkly person in real life, I am terrified that I will never find someone that will really love me.  At the same time, I'm terrified that I'll never find someone that I can really love AND that...
    snappingzero snappingzero 26-30, F 7 Responses Apr 5, 2012

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    Not Meant to Be, I Guess

    I though I had found someone who loved me twice in my life, but I was wrong both times.   The first time I though that I had found someone who loved me was when I was 18.  We talked on the phone constantly and saw each other when ever we could, but...
    deleted deleted 26-30 8 Responses Dec 26, 2007

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    I have a rocky past and the world is full of

    judgement. I genuinely feel like I'll be alone. And that devastates me. I've always dreamed of being a wife and mother. I'm not as pretty or thin as most men prefer, and it seems like that's all that matters in this shallow world. I hope that I can find that one in a million...
    reneeo11314 reneeo11314 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 27

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    But I found him. In a place

    where I didn't think there was ever going to be any kind of love. I met him where most people cannot even carry on a conversation. I met him and I fell in love and I knew that things in my life were about to change. And they are about to change because in about six months he...
    Canadianwithirish Canadianwithirish 16-17, F 1 Response Jan 25

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    I am afraid of being alone

    for the rest of my life because I can never get a girl to like me half as much as I like her
    Easye215 Easye215 13-15, M Apr 1

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    I have a fear that I will never have someone

    love me friendly and romantically.. A person who was very close to me from my pass once told me I would never find someone and I hope that they are not true
    musicgurl11 musicgurl11 16-17, F 4 Responses Apr 1

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    I'm a Nice Person - Why Does Love Elude Me?

    I'm a 38 year old gay man. I've had a small handful of partners in my time. Some have been relationships, most didn't get past first base. I don't really know why other than perhaps I scared them. I'd much prefer to have a steady relationship than a one-night-stand. None of...
    deleted deleted 26-30 6 Responses Jul 13, 2009

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    tonygreen123 tonygreen123 16-17, M Mar 17

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    I'm more afraid of finding

    that guy who really does love me and then just feeling like the love has run out. Nothing is forever, not even love.
    KeithPrice94 KeithPrice94 18-21, M Apr 1

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    True Love? Such A Thing?

    Call me a cynic but I am beginning to doubt there is such a thing.I mean what is love anyway? It is mainly for poets and philosophers to spout about.Its made up in the movies to make blockbuster hits. Romance novels sell by the billions but all of it is just an illusion.Love is...
    terahrae1973 terahrae1973 36-40, F 22 Responses Mar 27, 2011

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    Finding someone who actually wants to be with

    me in a real relationship is the thing I want most. I want someone who won't be lying when they tell me that they love me. I've been looking for a long time, but have only found heartbreak and pain.
    DotNM DotNM 26-30, M 1 Response Jan 24

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    I Have Nothing To Offer..

    I think about this all the time. How no one loves me and no one is ever going to love me. I have felt this way my whole life. I suppose it stems from having an alcoholic/drug addicted father and a mother who neglected me emotionally... and I think I may have some repressed...
    best0fme best0fme 22-25, F 6 Responses Aug 8, 2011

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    I Wanted My Friends To Know The Real Me

    I screwed up bad a couple days ago and I now know that I probably never will find that special man who will really love me for me.As I cried myself to sleep last night I made a realization.  My grandkids, my hubby, my best friend Marji (ep) and RL (also ep),  are the only...
    teri58 teri58 51-55, F 4 Responses Dec 31, 2011

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