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I Am Afraid I Will Never Find Someone to Really Love Me

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    When I get too close to someone.

    ..I always mess it up..smh
    sisi19 sisi19 18-21, F 2 Responses a week ago

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    i just haven't had any luck with men.

    idk why. i just feel like I will end up alone when i'm older...
    lss0807 lss0807 18-21, F 6 Responses Jul 12

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    Yeah...

    How can I explain this? I just...I feel like there's nothing especially special about me, or anything that will keep someone around. I feel like any guy who expresses interest in me will do it purely to get into my pants, and for no reason other than that. And then, once they get...
    livingalie1 livingalie1 22-25, F 27 Responses Dec 30, 2011

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    Everyone I meet that is a guy

    and I date usually just dates me to get over someone or just thinks I'm hot... I know I'm still young but even teenagers need to feel like they are loved not just by family or friends.
    laultman78 laultman78 13-15, F 2 Responses Jun 13

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    Let's try an experiment I've read about.

    .. Here is my real photo... Use ur life previous experiment and Analyze me... For example for me people who wear black r usually architects! U may ask me any question or giving me an imagination of something u believe I love or I do from via watching my photo and let's see if u...
    Ramyarcher Ramyarcher 31-35, M 1 Response Jun 21

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    I am 20 and i know im young,

    but i feel like a hopeless romantic. Ive only been in love once and we were together 5yrs. I want to meet someone and fall in love for the last time but im not sure if i will. Been having nothing but bad luck with guys so doesnt seem like ill ever find my twin flame if i even...
    lovelybutterfly123 lovelybutterfly123 18-21, F 2 Responses Feb 1

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    i have so much problem with my parents.

    i'm the only child and since i was born i had no one to play with me and now i never wanna come back to past even one day because i never enjoyed my life with my parents and they always make me cry and i don't know why but my mom love my dad more than me. i'm not saying that they...
    caroline688 caroline688 13-15, F Jun 13

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    Should I Just Give Up?

    I am generally an optimistic guy, but as I enter yet another year alone I am on the verge of giving up hope of ever finding someone to share my life with. I don't know what the problem with me is, I am at a minimum an average looking guy, I make a decent wage, treat people...
    UniquebutnotAlone UniquebutnotAlone 26-30, M 18 Responses Dec 31, 2011

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    sneipen89 sneipen89 22-25, F 8 Responses May 31

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    I'm scared I will never find the one.

    .. The only time I've though I was falling for someone something happens
    Bizzlequeen Bizzlequeen 16-17, F Jun 8

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    I have just been very unlucky at love

    but very lucky at sex. All my adult relationships including a marriage have been unsuccessful at best. I mentioned the sex because it has been part of the problem at times. I've always been able to get laid and at times that has kept me from even trying to be in a relationship...
    curtbgood curtbgood 56-60, M a week ago

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    My fears, I do not feel are very irrational.

    I'm only 19, but in my past experiences I have always dated people who either I only liked a little, or people I knew would hurt me. It's like psychologically I don't feel like I deserve to be loved properly, so I put a wall between myself and the people I could date, if someone...
    Xeniabolton Xeniabolton 18-21, F 2 Responses Jun 13

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    No one really ever cares about me.

    I dunno how to react when someone shows interest in me, so I kind of just shut down when that happens. I'm used to being alone, or me being someone's listener, but sometimes I wonder what it's like to have someone that genuinely loves me...
    dinorap1 dinorap1 13-15, F 3 Responses 12 hrs ago

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    No one cares about me.

    I have no family because they all abused me. My friends are always too busy for me so I'm just not gonna bother asking if we can hang out anymore. I try to be strong but sometimes I just want to give up.
    gardengirl17 gardengirl17 22-25, F 1 Response 12 hrs ago

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    I'm Such An Idiot

    I got married when I was 23 years old, to a man who has never once in our time together told me he loves me.  I'm sitting here 20 years later trying to figure out why.  We have 2 great kids that I wouldn't trade the world for.  If I hadn't married this man, they...
    goddessone goddessone 41-45, F 39 Responses Mar 9, 2008

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    Going to sleep alone

    and waking up alone could may just be one of the hardest things to get over. It's been a long time since I've shared my bed with someone that I'm starting to think it will never happen again. I don't know what's wrong with me. No one is interested in me:( my biggest fear is I'll...
    GivenToFly182 GivenToFly182 26-30, F 7 Responses Jul 12

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    It just seems every time I develop strong

    feelings for someone I'm always let down. I truly believed that this time was different. I thought he was really the one. I've been involved in a long distance relationship but there's been lack of communication on his part for quite sometime now. He told me that he hasn't...
    brady120378 brady120378 31-35, M 2 Responses Mar 3

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    Spent the last 6 years with someone

    who I didn't love. The sad part is that because it didn't work out I was hopeless of ever finding someone I could genuinely fall in love with. Well I did. I fell in love with someone and I fell hard. Guess who's scrapping their knees trying to get back up? Welcome karma. I feel...
    Shey12 Shey12 18-21, F 36 Responses Jul 7

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    It started when I was younger

    and all of my friends were just discovering relationships.. I always told them how pointless it was. I would say, "I'm fine alone. I'm going to wait until I'm old enough to know that there's a possibility that it could last." I did this for so long, that I build a wall around...
    amberooo amberooo 16-17, F 2 Responses Jul 3

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    “There are two basic motivating forces: fear

    and love. When we are afraid, we pull back from life. When we are in love, we open to all that life has to offer with passion, excitement, and acceptance. We need to learn to love ourselves first, in all our glory and our imperfections. If we cannot love ourselves, we cannot...
    QuinnMalcom QuinnMalcom 31-35, M 1 Response May 25

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    Everyone I have met the past three years have

    been awful. Awful dating, they seem interested and then disappear....I don't understand these people! I met someone who seemed awesome, always did stuff together, calling/seemed interested...normal date stuff. We got along great and it seemed like he was into me...then he said...
    dawnfawn dawnfawn 31-35 2 Responses Jun 22

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    I feel this way everyday.

    It makes me sad when I see everyone around me so happy and in love. I am 23 and have never had a serious boyfriend. Never been loved romantically, or been in love. I am not awful person; quite the opposite, actually. I think I am a genuinely good person, but I am painfully shy...
    livingmemory livingmemory 22-25, F 12 Responses a week ago

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    I'm 18, and I've never had a girlfriend.

    I never imagined I'd be "that guy" who never had a girlfriend throughout the whole of high school but it's happened. I'm going to university this coming October and I'm absolutely scared to death that I won't find anyone to love during then or life beyond. I find myself getting...
    DeanMart1n DeanMart1n 18-21, M 4 Responses May 18

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    Love is so dang hard to find

    and accept nowadays,I'll just opt for lust.I know I won't be getting anywhere with that kinda' mindset,but eh,it passes time.
    McKnight94 McKnight94 18-21, M a week ago

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    I understand I'm only 15

    but I've been broken hearted by people so much that I don't even think I can date again. I've already been in an abusive relationship that made me relapse and cut again and I just can't deal with it anymore to be quite honest.
    IWannaBeWithU IWannaBeWithU 22-25, M 3 Responses May 18

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    Just Another Girl With Something To Say

    When everyone around you seems to be in relationships it's hard not to think ...what's wrong with me? What do these people have that I don't? At the risk of sounding like just another single girl complaining about how no one loves her, It's challenging to realise that you might...
    nadiney nadiney 18-21, F 16 Responses Dec 1, 2011

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    You know I really worry I'll never find someone

    ...my someone is gone I though I had found the one you know .... I mean I lost her and I couldn't even see her on her last moments I tried but I didn't know I was going to see her but she was gone I took to long ..we battled cancer together both had it twice but only one made...
    Ale93 Ale93 18-21, M 5 Responses May 3

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    I'm 19 I've never had anyone take an interest

    in me where I come from it's all about looks just once I want a girl to actually say she has feelings for me and mean and not just toy with my emotions and for someone to actually show the signs of being interested in me I know I'm only 19 but It should have happened at least...
    Dynamite500 Dynamite500 18-21, M 4 Responses Jun 13

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    Nobody Wants Me

    My love is not good enough. Any girl I have had a crush on. Any girl that's I've liked. Anyone I've loved .. or even wanted to love .. has made that perfectly clear. Nobody wants me. Nobody wants to touch me. Nobody .. my love isn't wanted. I'm not wanted. Oh of course, I've...
    Cursedboy Cursedboy 36-40, M 83 Responses Nov 5, 2008

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    Just a random thought of the day:/ I'm not

    afraid of ending up alone but I just wanna feel love. That you truly love someone and that someone loves you back as much as you do...
    FinnyFunny FinnyFunny 18-21, F 2 Responses Jun 20

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    I'm never going to find someone

    that truly loves me
    iluvgirls282726 iluvgirls282726 13-15, M 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    I'm more afraid of finding

    that guy who really does love me and then just feeling like the love has run out. Nothing is forever, not even love.
    KeithPrice94 KeithPrice94 18-21, M Apr 1

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    I am not afraid i wont find anyone to love me.

    I chose to live my life to the fullest and just be here to help people in need. Plus finding someone to love you these day doesnt last half of the time, because not everyone is willing to work it out or cheat.
    Atlchris Atlchris 16-17 12 hrs ago

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    I'm afraid that will never find someone

    that clicks with me... Someone who can understand my train of thought. Someone that wants to take the time to know me and raise me up so I can do the same for them. Someone that won't shut me out and push me away as much as I do. Someone that will find his way into my...
    minidisaster minidisaster 18-21, F 10 Responses Dec 17, 2013

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    Nothing Worthy Of Love

    I have been 'single' for over a year now and I finally allowed myself to truly open up and care about someone. I told him of my childhood, details I have not even told my therapist, I shared my desires, my dreams, my secrets. I allowed him to see me, to know me.....very few get...
    wickedties wickedties 41-45, F 69 Responses Feb 1, 2011

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    Sometimes It Takes Longer...

    or that is what I am telling myself. After 8 years of marriage, my husband and I parted ways, knowing that the future was uncertain but being lonely by myself was better than being alone in a twosome. Now I am 33, in strange city, far from family and with few acquaintances let...
    Dea9 Dea9 31-35, F 4 Responses Jul 16, 2013

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    I Wanted My Friends To Know The Real Me

    I screwed up bad a couple days ago and I now know that I probably never will find that special man who will really love me for me.As I cried myself to sleep last night I made a realization.  My grandkids, my hubby, my best friend Marji (ep) and RL (also ep),  are the only...
    teri58 teri58 51-55, F 4 Responses Dec 31, 2011

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    I am afraid. It's never really bothered me

    before, until now. I've completed University, I have graduated, I am currently in need of a job/career. I suddenly regret pushing those guys away, the ones who asked to take me out but I never paid them any attention. I am a Christian too, and nowadays...well lets admit it, the...
    deleted deleted 26-30 10 Responses Dec 29, 2013

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    I don't think anyone wants me it this world.

    I don't think they truly love me. I always get mad at myself for thinking that. Yes I have some friends and family that love but I want a boy to love me for who am even if I am ugly and fat. But it seems no want me everyone wants a pretty girl with a pretty face and a sexy body...
    FighterWolf FighterWolf 13-15, F 3 Responses Jun 22

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    Whenever I think about love,

    it's so hard for me to think that it could happen for me. That I don't really see it happening for me. I try to be hopeful but it's so hard when you're constantly surrounded by others who so easily find it and have it in their grasp. I don't know, it's just whenever I think...
    emelon12 emelon12 18-21, F 4 Responses Jul 7

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    What if I'm just not enough?

    What if everything I have and everything I am is just not good enough. Yeah this sucks.
    RebeccaLouise224 RebeccaLouise224 16-17, F 8 Responses Jul 7

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    I've told one of my closest friends

    that I have had a crush on her for over a year, she seems to just ignore when I say it, she always talks about her relationships and stuff to me and it bothers me a lot but I want to be there for her so I keep helping her
    appleapple09 appleapple09 13-15, M 3 Responses Jun 20

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    Unknown.

    While I am an independent, pretty-ish, in shape, educated, funny, and (generally) a sparkly person in real life, I am terrified that I will never find someone that will really love me.  At the same time, I'm terrified that I'll never find someone that I can really love AND that...
    snappingzero snappingzero 26-30, F 7 Responses Apr 5, 2012

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    yea i was afraid that i wouldn't ever find

    someone but i did... his name is Jake.... i love him.. a lot...... its weird i know but its 100% true..... he is just so.. prefect... even with his flaws
    loveyanoone loveyanoone 16-17, F 1 Response Jun 26

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    Well as the title says,

    I'm afraid I will never find anyone to really love me, I know I'm very young and all but most of my friends already had their first kiss, their first relationship, their first "mutual" feelings with the person they liked... Anyways I just feel really anxious every time I...
    IHateUsernames0 IHateUsernames0 13-15, M 5 Responses Apr 24

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    thatgirlluvsred thatgirlluvsred 13-15, F 13 hrs ago

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    My greatest fear in life is

    that I'll never find someone to love me.
    lookingformyself88 lookingformyself88 18-21, F 5 Responses May 10

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    I'm a Nice Person - Why Does Love Elude Me?

    I'm a 38 year old gay man. I've had a small handful of partners in my time. Some have been relationships, most didn't get past first base. I don't really know why other than perhaps I scared them. I'd much prefer to have a steady relationship than a one-night-stand. None of...
    deleted deleted 26-30 6 Responses Jul 13, 2009

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    Varmintgetter68 Varmintgetter68 41-45, M 5 Responses Jan 12

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    I am 27 and at the rate things are going in my

    life, I feel like I'll never be able to go explore the world and maybe find that special someone.
    dinaramash dinaramash 26-30, F 7 Responses Jun 21

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