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I Am Afraid of Becoming Too Close to Others

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    My Fear

    I have never been close to anyone in my life. My parents hate me and I'm sure they hate me now more then they did before. I'm an only child, so I don't have that bond siblings sometimes have.Friends or at least real life friends are out of the question too. I've always been...
    InmemoryofLifelessStar InmemoryofLifelessStar 18-21, F 1 Response May 10, 2011

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    A Loner?

    For as long as I can remember I've been afraid of getting to close to others, simply cause I always end up with a knife in my back, punch in the stomach or a broken heart..just now, a guy that I really like stopped talking to me..I really liked him and we were really close..oh...
    beautifulbaby069 beautifulbaby069 18-21, F 8 Responses Apr 8, 2012

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    Big Time...

    I am actually terrifeid about getting close to others. I am scared to let somoene in, and let them get close to me. Recently I have regretted big time letting almost everyone that I am close to, because I got hurt really bad. I am so scared of getting hurt, and so scared that...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Dec 17, 2009

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    Raw Action.

    And here's my story...when I was younger..I was molested by my cousin. I really didn't think it effected me that much and really didn't change much when I was younger. I've always been a chubby kid and always got picked on. I never really got close to anyone because everyone...
    beautifulbaby069 beautifulbaby069 18-21, F 1 Response May 21, 2012

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    I don't feel like getting my feelings hurt

    or being judged for being different. I don't want to be taken advantage of because I don't want others to be see me as weak and vulnerable. I don't trust very much and I doubt most people's intentions. I say I'll reject them before they get a chance to reject me.
    ajrestless ajrestless 22-25, F Sep 1

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    The Possibility

    Its been going on a few months changes quickly to come in and out of my life. Makes me feel even more sensitive to the point I take absolutely most people who I encounter and talk to, to what they say to me too seriously. I haven't been like this in as long as I can remember. I...
    Xenasdreams Xenasdreams 22-25, F 2 Responses Oct 11, 2013

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    I Dont Get Too Close Anymore

    Recently so many people have mistreated me in ways that hurts me. I don't know if they're aware of what they're doing to me or they just don't give a ****. Either way, I believe I know what they did to me. In so little time people have not treated me with honesty or the respect...
    noaht43 noaht43 41-45, T 1 Response Nov 11, 2013

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    I Am Afraid Of Becoming Too Close To Others Looking For A Female For A Loving Anr In An Adult Nursing Relationship In Tampa Bay, Fl.

    I am a Single White Male Searching For Open Minded Female In Tampa Bay, Fl . i am a single white male age 58 searching for an open minded female in tampa bay, florida. if you are out there give me a buzz so that we can chat?
    deleted deleted 26-30 Nov 22, 2013

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    Scared.

    ive been afraid to be close to people because my first bestfriend betrayed me, and pretty much every other friend ive had has. or they have walked out of my life. i have a very hard time expressing myself to my boyfriend because im afraid ill say something stupid and he will...
    atreyuxo atreyuxo 16-17 2 Responses Dec 16, 2009

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    No Clue

    MY FAMILY HAS NO CLUE TO HOW THIS MEDICAL AND MENTAL ISSUES HAS TAKEN OVER MY LIFE.I DON'T HAVE FRIENDS AND DONT ASSOCIATE WITH FAMILY OTHER THAN MY MOTHER AND MAYBE 2 OF MY SISTERS OUT THE 4.MY SON HAS AUSTISM AND ADHD AND HE TELLS ME HE LOVES ME ONE MINUTE AND HATES ME THE NEXT...
    ccstruggledaily ccstruggledaily 36-40, F 2 Responses Mar 25, 2012

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    Yes, Abandoment Issues.

    It's been my personal experience that whenever I get close to someone, they will disappear from my life.  My mother left me when i was 6, and I lived with my aunt and uncle for the next 9 years.  Then they decided to ship me halfway across the country to a different...
    chocchipkookie93 chocchipkookie93 18-21, F 1 Response Jun 25, 2008

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    I'm Just Such a Private Person

    I'm a private person in many ways.  It takes me a while to get close to people and to trust them, but once I do, I open up and I'm fine.  The thing is, the closer I get to someone, the more I let them in and divulge private info about myself, the more vulnerable I feel...
    trixi trixi 41-45, F 4 Responses Feb 12, 2008

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    Call It What You Want

    Some say that my "spiritual ability" is a curse. I dont think they understand. Being tormented by demons, harassed by those of black magic, it is all tolerable if, there is someone there for you. someone who knows pretty much everything about you. someone you love. Now, lots of...
    Celea136 Celea136 13-15, F 1 Response May 3, 2012

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    Reasons..

    I am afraid of becoming too close to others for a few reasons that all tie into each other: I cannot trust people. I am afraid that if I trust people they'll let me down. Every act of kindness towards me I skew into "they don't care, they're doing it for their own good...
    DisasterSitcom DisasterSitcom 13-15, F 1 Response Jul 15, 2009

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    Its Just Not Worth It

     letting people get close to you, in the end they hurt you or leave you or both.its happened so often Ive grown used to it.I expect you to disappoint me, abandon me. if i do, then i wont be so hurt when you leave right? right? it wont hurt so much right? after all i expected...
    kittycat101303 kittycat101303 18-21, F 2 Responses Dec 17, 2009

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    Betrayed

    my beat friend leaved me all alone . i used to trust her more than myself now i would not trust any one so easily
    mystyraine mystyraine 16-17, F Apr 24, 2013

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    I'm Really Selective.

    Every time I trust someone, they give me so many reasons why I shouldn't. So I just don't trust anybody. And it's more difficult than people may realize, but it's the only way it's been getting me by. A lot of people say that they'll be together forever, but forever ends too soon...
    xxbangbangxx xxbangbangxx 13-15, F 1 Response Jul 17, 2013

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    Line

    There is always a line.  It is there and it changes all the time.  For some the line is very clear, for others it is harder to see, even by me.  It may even be almost invisible.  Sometimes I forget about the line altogether.  When I trust someone, I...
    moreandless moreandless 56-60, M Jun 1, 2010

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    Stay Back

     I always distance myself from others. I fear getting too close to others because then they can really hurt me when they disappear. I find it hard to trust.  Sometimes it does get really sad living a life like this. I yearn for that closeness too but when I try, it...
    reset reset 18-21, F 2 Responses Dec 16, 2009

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    Can you blame me? Father walked out on us

    when I was 3, I was molested by a relative at 8, bullied from elementary school up until HS. String of intensely close friendships where they ended up disappearing or bullied by their gf's to end the friendship with me, many many many lovers who of course never stuck around...
    Lov3intheasylum Lov3intheasylum 31-35, F 1 Response Aug 28

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    The Broken Hearted

    i am afraid to get to get too close to a women because im tired of getting hurt
    mrleonford mrleonford 26-30 Apr 8, 2013

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    Goodbyes....

    No-one wants them to last and they never want to say it to some people they love. I am one of them but I did say it but haven't survived saying it yet, people always in the end leave me, when I feel I have someone a friend/family member/boyfriend who I love with all my life and...
    LoveLife05 LoveLife05 18-21, F Jan 25, 2011

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    It Never Lasts For Long.

    I feel like the moment I've started getting close to someone, they end up pushing me away.  It just always seems to happen that way. I think I know why...  I'm just too nosy for people and I guess I'm not trustworthy enough.  In addition, most people like...
    oliveoil2007 oliveoil2007 18-21, F 2 Responses Feb 11, 2008

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    I Always Put My Ugly Face On

    I will be mean, and push you away. Its like a defense mechanism, i don't want you to hurt me. So people that want to be apart of my life will have to work a lil harder for me to open up. I've meet ****** people and trusted ****** people and then you get **** on. I don't want it...
    UnderTheBridge UnderTheBridge 22-25, F May 10, 2011

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    Related Experiences

    I never let any boy get too close. I the last time I opened up and let my guard down, he cheated on me. I'm afraid to get hurt again.
    ericaxjean ericaxjean 13-15, F 2 days ago

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    It's kind of like a defense mechanism. It just happens. Like there's this alarm inside of me that goes off, and shoots the razor wire walls up so I don't get close and I can cut...
    TheRisingPhoenix TheRisingPhoenix 16-17, F Dec 9

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    the walls are already up. I do however reinforce them constantly. yes my lack of trust in human nature is to blame.
    RememberingSunday22 RememberingSunday22 36-40, F Dec 9

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    Anywhere Except Here-The lightest touch of my hair or hand reached too closely into my personal space has always caused a reaction. Often a hasty violent jerk away from the person...
    Orionthelesser Orionthelesser 18-21, F Dec 10

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    I like helping people, and being someone they can turn to without the fear of judgment. But at times I find people who get a bit too close to me. I to them am someone with enough...
    onewhosupplants onewhosupplants 22-25, M 6 days ago

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    iwant that someone to talk to again. someone that’ll listen & not judge cause I get more than enough of that already. nothing is ever rainbows & butterflies. a modern fairy tale...
    defiantlittlewolf defiantlittlewolf 22-25, F 3 Responses Nov 28

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    Even though I used to have a lot of friends, I was never close with any of them. Lost 90% of them and those that are left still aren't too close.. It's like I can't connect with...
    fagit20 fagit20 13-15, M Dec 2

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    That is definitely a major benefit of creating a plugin. But one of the other significant points is always that Google ranks very well Web sites that have totally free tools or...
    Matthis936h6fu1 Matthis936h6fu1 31-35, M 1 Response Dec 13

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    I think we spend too much time worrying about how we're perceived by others. We worry about our physical appearance. We focus on trying to change what we dislike about ourselves...
    chilldude82 chilldude82 18-21, M 2 Responses 3 hrs ago

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    Do you have this desire too? I am a 53 year male cross dresser with desire to be a woman full time.
    calliejo calliejo 51-55, T 15 hrs ago

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    Everyone fears, everyone has fears, anxieties which fuel so many of their actions, Irrational or not. They exist within all of us. They’re a significant part of our lives, and so...
    BrokenWingedDove BrokenWingedDove 16-17 1 Response Dec 4

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    I'm sorry for the lengthy post... I just watched Geography Club and it got me regretting how long it took me to come out, and then explore as to why that was.... One of the things...
    jbar291 jbar291 18-21, M Dec 12

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    By love I don't mean guys or anything...and I don't mean losing people to death. But I am afraid of losing my friends and family, that they will stop caring about me or I will do...
    prznaroosak prznaroosak 26-30, F 1 Response Dec 6

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    I am very aftaid because hes perfect ...he can get any person he wants and im afraid he leaves me for someone else and thats why i dont let him be like on ep because of the people...
    MartinJust MartinJust 13-15, M 1 hr ago

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    I have been at a university for a few years now and at the beginning I had a friend who I somewhat trusted so much. We confided in each other all the time yet we fought a lot but...
    crimsonreggie crimsonreggie 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 14

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    Ok after some hard thinking about this one I think I see this in a few ways, if your talking about EP then you can either put yourself out there without fear or prejudice and let...
    xxSTEVE7xx xxSTEVE7xx 31-35, M 1 Response 21 hrs ago

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    I think like we are only making our life complicated. Take for example its really easy to forgive others but we rather hold grudge which is rather very difficult hence making our...
    mohitd23 mohitd23 22-25, M 15 hrs ago

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    I've been bisexual for a while now.I recently one of my closest friends that I was bi, but I was still afraid of what her reaction was.She said "That's great" and said she would...
    ItsYourBoyTony ItsYourBoyTony 13-15 1 Response 6 days ago

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    I walk with my head down. I've become weak. I've become soft. I can't think straight anymore. I get angry very easily...or sad. I don't have any pride in myself. I have petty...
    thatbobguy thatbobguy 56-60, M 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    After I have an argument with someone I tend to rethink it in my head over and over..I have been thinking about an argument I had with my sister yesterday on Christmas eve. It was...
    nicolasan77 nicolasan77 26-30, F 1 Response 4 hrs ago

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    I'm not even going to go into great length in this ep, i've addressed my opinion several times. But i really find it so frustrating how many ignorance people have towards muslims...
    sidraa sidraa 16-17, F 2 Responses Nov 29

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    I always fear that I will be judged by others if I fail at something. I feel like I let others down, when in reality it is me who I have let down and that should be the only person...
    tormentedinternally tormentedinternally 26-30, M 1 Response Dec 11

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    I think I am becoming more grateful for my Everything/ Needed family, friends, the world and life itself. I think I am becoming more accepting of my faults and flaws, and those who...
    RegretfullySO RegretfullySO 18-21, F 1 day ago

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    My third anniversary on EP was in August 2014. I am a bit behind. You know how life keeps you busy. So it is time for me to share what I have learned in this past year. I hope you...
    PoetryNEmotion PoetryNEmotion 51-55, F 22 Responses Nov 27

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