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I Am Afraid of Becoming Too Close to Others

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    My Fear

    I have never been close to anyone in my life. My parents hate me and I'm sure they hate me now more then they did before. I'm an only child, so I don't have that bond siblings sometimes have.Friends or at least real life friends are out of the question too. I've always been...
    InmemoryofLifelessStar InmemoryofLifelessStar 18-21, F 1 Response May 10, 2011

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    deleted deleted 26-30 Nov 22, 2013

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    Stay Back

     I always distance myself from others. I fear getting too close to others because then they can really hurt me when they disappear. I find it hard to trust.  Sometimes it does get really sad living a life like this. I yearn for that closeness too but when I try, it...
    reset reset 18-21, F 2 Responses Dec 16, 2009

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    Big Time...

    I am actually terrifeid about getting close to others. I am scared to let somoene in, and let them get close to me. Recently I have regretted big time letting almost everyone that I am close to, because I got hurt really bad. I am so scared of getting hurt, and so scared that...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Dec 17, 2009

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    Line

    There is always a line.  It is there and it changes all the time.  For some the line is very clear, for others it is harder to see, even by me.  It may even be almost invisible.  Sometimes I forget about the line altogether.  When I trust someone, I...
    moreandless moreandless 56-60, M Jun 1, 2010

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    Its Just Not Worth It

     letting people get close to you, in the end they hurt you or leave you or both.its happened so often Ive grown used to it.I expect you to disappoint me, abandon me. if i do, then i wont be so hurt when you leave right? right? it wont hurt so much right? after all i expected...
    kittycat101303 kittycat101303 18-21, F 2 Responses Dec 17, 2009

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    Yes, Abandoment Issues.

    It's been my personal experience that whenever I get close to someone, they will disappear from my life.  My mother left me when i was 6, and I lived with my aunt and uncle for the next 9 years.  Then they decided to ship me halfway across the country to a different...
    chocchipkookie93 chocchipkookie93 18-21, F 1 Response Jun 25, 2008

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    Can you blame me? Father walked out on us

    when I was 3, I was molested by a relative at 8, bullied from elementary school up until HS. String of intensely close friendships where they ended up disappearing or bullied by their gf's to end the friendship with me, many many many lovers who of course never stuck around...
    Lov3intheasylum Lov3intheasylum 31-35, F 1 Response Aug 28, 2014

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    Scared.

    ive been afraid to be close to people because my first bestfriend betrayed me, and pretty much every other friend ive had has. or they have walked out of my life. i have a very hard time expressing myself to my boyfriend because im afraid ill say something stupid and he will...
    atreyuxo atreyuxo 16-17 2 Responses Dec 16, 2009

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    No Clue

    MY FAMILY HAS NO CLUE TO HOW THIS MEDICAL AND MENTAL ISSUES HAS TAKEN OVER MY LIFE.I DON'T HAVE FRIENDS AND DONT ASSOCIATE WITH FAMILY OTHER THAN MY MOTHER AND MAYBE 2 OF MY SISTERS OUT THE 4.MY SON HAS AUSTISM AND ADHD AND HE TELLS ME HE LOVES ME ONE MINUTE AND HATES ME THE NEXT...
    ccstruggledaily ccstruggledaily 36-40, F 2 Responses Mar 25, 2012

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    I'm Really Selective.

    Every time I trust someone, they give me so many reasons why I shouldn't. So I just don't trust anybody. And it's more difficult than people may realize, but it's the only way it's been getting me by. A lot of people say that they'll be together forever, but forever ends too soon...
    xxbangbangxx xxbangbangxx 13-15, F 1 Response Jul 17, 2013

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    A Loner?

    For as long as I can remember I've been afraid of getting to close to others, simply cause I always end up with a knife in my back, punch in the stomach or a broken heart..just now, a guy that I really like stopped talking to me..I really liked him and we were really close..oh...
    beautifulbaby069 beautifulbaby069 18-21, F 8 Responses Apr 8, 2012

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    Call It What You Want

    Some say that my "spiritual ability" is a curse. I dont think they understand. Being tormented by demons, harassed by those of black magic, it is allĀ tolerableĀ if, there is someone there for you. someone who knows pretty much everything about you. someone you love. Now, lots of...
    Celea136 Celea136 13-15, F 1 Response May 3, 2012

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    Reasons..

    I am afraid of becoming too close to others for a few reasons that all tie into each other: I cannot trust people. I am afraid that if I trust people they'll let me down. Every act of kindness towards me I skew into "they don't care, they're doing it for their own good...
    DisasterSitcom DisasterSitcom 13-15, F 1 Response Jul 15, 2009

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    I Always Put My Ugly Face On

    I will be mean, and push you away. Its like a defense mechanism, i don't want you to hurt me. So people that want to be apart of my life will have to work a lil harder for me to open up. I've meet ****** people and trusted ****** people and then you get **** on. I don't want it...
    UnderTheBridge UnderTheBridge 22-25, F May 10, 2011

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    Goodbyes....

    No-one wants them to last and they never want to say it to some people they love. I am one of them but I did say it but haven't survived saying it yet, people always in the end leave me, when I feel I have someone a friend/family member/boyfriend who I love with all my life and...
    LoveLife05 LoveLife05 18-21, F Jan 25, 2011

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    Betrayed

    my beat friend leaved me all alone . i used to trust her more than myself now i would not trust any one so easily
    mystyraine mystyraine 16-17, F Apr 24, 2013

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    I don't feel like getting my feelings hurt

    or being judged for being different. I don't want to be taken advantage of because I don't want others to be see me as weak and vulnerable. I don't trust very much and I doubt most people's intentions. I say I'll reject them before they get a chance to reject me.
    ajrestless ajrestless 22-25, F Sep 1, 2014

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    The Possibility

    Its been going on a few months changes quickly to come in and out of my life. Makes me feel even more sensitive to the point I take absolutely most people who I encounter and talk to, to what they say to me too seriously. I haven't been like this in as long as I can remember. I...
    Xenasdreams Xenasdreams 22-25, F 2 Responses Oct 11, 2013

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    I Dont Get Too Close Anymore

    Recently so many people have mistreated me in ways that hurts me. I don't know if they're aware of what they're doing to me or they just don't give a ****. Either way, I believe I know what they did to me. In so little time people have not treated me with honesty or the respect...
    noaht43 noaht43 41-45, T 1 Response Nov 11, 2013

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    I'm Just Such a Private Person

    I'm a private person in many ways.  It takes me a while to get close to people and to trust them, but once I do, I open up and I'm fine.  The thing is, the closer I get to someone, the more I let them in and divulge private info about myself, the more vulnerable I feel...
    trixi trixi 41-45, F 4 Responses Feb 12, 2008

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    It Never Lasts For Long.

    I feel like the moment I've started getting close to someone, they end up pushing me away.  It just always seems to happen that way. I think I know why...  I'm just too nosy for people and I guess I'm not trustworthy enough.  In addition, most people like...
    oliveoil2007 oliveoil2007 18-21, F 2 Responses Feb 11, 2008

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    Raw Action.

    And here's my story...when I was younger..I was molested by my cousin. I really didn't think it effected me that much and really didn't change much when I was younger. I've always been a chubby kid and always got picked on. I never really got close to anyone because everyone...
    beautifulbaby069 beautifulbaby069 18-21, F 1 Response May 21, 2012

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    The Broken Hearted

    i am afraid to get to get too close to a women because im tired of getting hurt
    mrleonford mrleonford 26-30 Apr 8, 2013

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    Related Experiences

    Not that I am afraid but rather I know someone who is afraid of getting close to me. We met online and right from the start we connected. We had a great time chatting online and...
    freestyler605 freestyler605 22-25, M Jan 3

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    Since I was a kid, I always had this fear that I will be attached to someone so much and when they hurt me or break my trust, I won't ever get over it. I used to push the ones I...
    Bahar123 Bahar123 18-21, F 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    I will always keep a conversation geared on you. When you ask me questions about myself I will answer discretely and reverse it. Ill let you get to know me under the condition that...
    Rihe Rihe 18-21, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    I've been lied to and I've been hurt a lot throughout my life. I worry that I will never be able to trust people again. I'm afraid to bring new people into my life, I'm afraid to...
    smileyryley smileyryley 13-15, F 5 Responses Jan 3

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    I feel like when people get close they won't like what they'll see ive made quite a few mistakes and i always feel like im gonna be judged for them. i am also intense and it can...
    TheWickedJester TheWickedJester 26-30, M 3 Responses Dec 28, 2014

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    Every time I let someone get too close to me...I end up getting hurt. They usually don't stick around to help pick up the pieces...they've moved on. I try and be friendly but I'm...
    submissivelittlewoman submissivelittlewoman 41-45, F 1 day ago

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    Diabolical flying rats they are. They can get almost anywhere, they poop on everything, they're annoying with their cooing noises, but the worst offense of all- they are good at...
    iamFrightened iamFrightened 18-21, M Dec 30, 2014

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    I choose to be a passionate person. Each day I live my life from that perspective. I tend to be intense on conversation and when listening. Even when flirting with a woman I am...
    RC4blue RC4blue 46-50, M 1 Response 5 hrs ago

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    I can't stand people who try to change me for their own benefit. I have one man that I've been talking over Skype to for a year now whom I'm starting to believe is becoming...
    Cutiepeachpie Cutiepeachpie 18-21, F 1 Response 3 hrs ago

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    We don't want to be patient anymore. We are becoming reluctant to exercise forgiveness. We hesitate to give second chances. It is no longer efficient or economical to FORGIVE If...
    DarkPathos DarkPathos 51-55, M 8 Responses 3 days ago

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    I have ADHD but most of the time it isnt things around me that distract me, its my thoughts. I have these thoughts that lead to others and others creating this weird web of kind of...
    LandonS LandonS 16-17, M 4 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    I am writing this incase anyone else finds themselves in a similar situation . . . Please do not worry about me, I have been free of this relationship for 7 years now. I am a lot...
    elimarie7 elimarie7 31-35, F 1 Response Dec 31, 2014

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    It's a joy helping others, idk, I just get a warm feeling when I put a smile on someone's face. It's too much mess and stress going on so I try to help when I can. :P
    ViolaDaisy ViolaDaisy 18-21, F 2 Responses 20 mins ago

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    I find it really hard to express how I feel but I really want to give it a shot since I'm really struggling here. There's a guy that I have a crush on and its been lasting for...
    keilyn18 keilyn18 16-17, F 2 Responses Jan 3

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    My boyfriend told me today that he wants to live in my city...halfway across the globe from where he lives. It made me so happy, as it was what I was hoping for because it means...
    Cranksta Cranksta 18-21, F 2 Responses 17 hrs ago

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    am so pretty and tasty but i like some girls but am afraid to talk to dem sometimes
    sexyloveles sexyloveles 18-21, F 12 hrs ago

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    I'm so afraid of people getting close to me. I mean I want it but I'm kind of afraid, because once I have that bonding with someone or even relationship and it's gone or they leave...
    t3rriv t3rriv 16-17, F 2 Responses Dec 29, 2014

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    After many years amassing countless hours rummaging through a variety of WebMD articles online, and any ruling out a multitude of various rare medical conditions based on a...
    bluemountains36 bluemountains36 36-40, M 2 Responses Jan 16

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    This is the first time I've ever done this. I noticed my affinity towards men and women when I was young. I was adopted at the age of two and I remember around five or six really...
    busydreaming busydreaming 26-30, F Jan 10

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    I feel sad when people not able to hold their emotions and bursting out in tears to their loved ones or their trusted companions when they have that need But at the same time I am...
    psycruler psycruler 31-35, M 4 Responses 3 days ago

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    Story Time: (Warning: This is kinda long) I will not be saying anyone's names in case anyone on here goes to my school. These are wonderful people, inspiring people, and I respect...
    xCrowSong xCrowSong 13-15, F 1 Response Jan 11

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    As a child and now as an adult, I openly share my feelings about myself. I am not afraid of what I say. If those who do not like what I have to say, they can just move on. I am...
    mominlingerie mominlingerie 36-40, F 2 days ago

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    I think I am subconsciously.. Whenever I meet new people I like talking to them but then after a while I start losing interest. Its never their fault but I know it must be a bit...
    VintageIndigo VintageIndigo 16-17, F 2 Responses Dec 28, 2014

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    Too many of us hide behind a mask afraid to show the world who we are out of fear and the possibility of rejection. The people that are unabashedly themselves despite what others...
    lavendersea lavendersea 41-45, F 3 Responses Jan 8

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