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I Am Afraid of Becoming Too Close to Others

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    Goodbyes....

    No-one wants them to last and they never want to say it to some people they love. I am one of them but I did say it but haven't survived saying it yet, people always in the end leave me, when I feel I have someone a friend/family member/boyfriend who I love with all my life and...
    LoveLife05 LoveLife05 18-21, F Jan 25, 2011

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    Big Time...

    I am actually terrifeid about getting close to others. I am scared to let somoene in, and let them get close to me. Recently I have regretted big time letting almost everyone that I am close to, because I got hurt really bad. I am so scared of getting hurt, and so scared that...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Dec 17, 2009

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    Call It What You Want

    Some say that my "spiritual ability" is a curse. I dont think they understand. Being tormented by demons, harassed by those of black magic, it is all tolerable if, there is someone there for you. someone who knows pretty much everything about you. someone you love. Now, lots of...
    Celea136 Celea136 13-15, F 1 Response May 3, 2012

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    Sadness...

    Don't get to close if your going to leave,Hold me tight but let me breath,Don't just sit there and watch me cry,Wipe my tears until they are dry! x
    BrokenAngel35 BrokenAngel35 31-35, F Sep 26, 2013

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    A Loner?

    For as long as I can remember I've been afraid of getting to close to others, simply cause I always end up with a knife in my back, punch in the stomach or a broken heart..just now, a guy that I really like stopped talking to me..I really liked him and we were really close..oh...
    beautifulbaby069 beautifulbaby069 18-21, F 9 Responses Apr 8, 2012

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    I'm Just Such a Private Person

    I'm a private person in many ways.  It takes me a while to get close to people and to trust them, but once I do, I open up and I'm fine.  The thing is, the closer I get to someone, the more I let them in and divulge private info about myself, the more vulnerable I feel...
    trixi trixi 41-45, F 4 Responses Feb 12, 2008

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    I Always Put My Ugly Face On

    I will be mean, and push you away. Its like a defense mechanism, i don't want you to hurt me. So people that want to be apart of my life will have to work a lil harder for me to open up. I've meet ****** people and trusted ****** people and then you get **** on. I don't want it...
    UnderTheBridge UnderTheBridge 22-25, F May 10, 2011

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    I Dont Get Too Close Anymore

    Recently so many people have mistreated me in ways that hurts me. I don't know if they're aware of what they're doing to me or they just don't give a ****. Either way, I believe I know what they did to me. In so little time people have not treated me with honesty or the respect...
    noaht43 noaht43 41-45, T Nov 11, 2013

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    Scared.

    ive been afraid to be close to people because my first bestfriend betrayed me, and pretty much every other friend ive had has. or they have walked out of my life. i have a very hard time expressing myself to my boyfriend because im afraid ill say something stupid and he will...
    atreyuxo atreyuxo 16-17 2 Responses Dec 16, 2009

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    It Never Lasts For Long.

    I feel like the moment I've started getting close to someone, they end up pushing me away.  It just always seems to happen that way. I think I know why...  I'm just too nosy for people and I guess I'm not trustworthy enough.  In addition, most people like...
    oliveoil2007 oliveoil2007 18-21, F 2 Responses Feb 11, 2008

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    Yes, Abandoment Issues.

    It's been my personal experience that whenever I get close to someone, they will disappear from my life.  My mother left me when i was 6, and I lived with my aunt and uncle for the next 9 years.  Then they decided to ship me halfway across the country to a different...
    chocchipkookie93 chocchipkookie93 18-21, F 1 Response Jun 25, 2008

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    Betrayed

    my beat friend leaved me all alone . i used to trust her more than myself now i would not trust any one so easily
    mystyraine mystyraine 16-17, F Apr 24, 2013

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    I'm Really Selective.

    Every time I trust someone, they give me so many reasons why I shouldn't. So I just don't trust anybody. And it's more difficult than people may realize, but it's the only way it's been getting me by. A lot of people say that they'll be together forever, but forever ends too soon...
    FieldHockey57 FieldHockey57 13-15, F 1 Response Jul 17, 2013

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    The Possibility

    Its been going on a few months changes quickly to come in and out of my life. Makes me feel even more sensitive to the point I take absolutely most people who I encounter and talk to, to what they say to me too seriously. I haven't been like this in as long as I can remember. I...
    Xenasdreams Xenasdreams 22-25, F 1 Response Oct 11, 2013

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    No Clue

    MY FAMILY HAS NO CLUE TO HOW THIS MEDICAL AND MENTAL ISSUES HAS TAKEN OVER MY LIFE.I DON'T HAVE FRIENDS AND DONT ASSOCIATE WITH FAMILY OTHER THAN MY MOTHER AND MAYBE 2 OF MY SISTERS OUT THE 4.MY SON HAS AUSTISM AND ADHD AND HE TELLS ME HE LOVES ME ONE MINUTE AND HATES ME THE NEXT...
    ccstruggledaily ccstruggledaily 36-40, F 2 Responses Mar 25, 2012

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    Its Just Not Worth It

     letting people get close to you, in the end they hurt you or leave you or both.its happened so often Ive grown used to it.I expect you to disappoint me, abandon me. if i do, then i wont be so hurt when you leave right? right? it wont hurt so much right? after all i expected...
    kittycat101303 kittycat101303 18-21, F 2 Responses Dec 17, 2009

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    Stay Back

     I always distance myself from others. I fear getting too close to others because then they can really hurt me when they disappear. I find it hard to trust.  Sometimes it does get really sad living a life like this. I yearn for that closeness too but when I try, it...
    reset reset 18-21, F 2 Responses Dec 16, 2009

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    Raw Action.

    And here's my story...when I was younger..I was molested by my cousin. I really didn't think it effected me that much and really didn't change much when I was younger. I've always been a chubby kid and always got picked on. I never really got close to anyone because everyone...
    beautifulbaby069 beautifulbaby069 18-21, F 3 Responses May 21, 2012

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    My Fear

    I have never been close to anyone in my life. My parents hate me and I'm sure they hate me now more then they did before. I'm an only child, so I don't have that bond siblings sometimes have.Friends or at least real life friends are out of the question too. I've always been...
    InmemoryofLifelessStar InmemoryofLifelessStar 18-21, F 1 Response May 10, 2011

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    The Broken Hearted

    i am afraid to get to get too close to a women because im tired of getting hurt
    mrleonford mrleonford 26-30 Apr 8, 2013

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    Related Experiences

    I am beyond afraid to get too close to others. It has never been a good thing in the past when I have got close to someone, and let someone in. I always end up hurt, or...
    NYSlilAngel NYSlilAngel 26-30, F 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    I've been hurt so many times by my friends, family, and everyone else. I don't know if I can take the chance of getting too close, getting too much hope. What if they hurt me too...
    LostAngel12 LostAngel12 13-15, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    "Getting in too deep" I'm deeply afraid to get too close to my boyfriend. Don't get me wrong, I am truly head over heels for him, and I haven't felt this way in a long time since...
    takethispain takethispain 18-21, F 2 days ago

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    I'm not good at getting close to people. Well scratch that I'm good at getting close to people but I'm not good at letting people get close to me. I just don't know how- I think it...
    kxCobra kxCobra 18-21, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    The moon must have felt my pain that night it turned blood red. After months of staring at the moon, wondering you're looking too, maybe it was my sign ti stop bleeding for someone...
    NefelibataAggression NefelibataAggression 18-21, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    Open up to someone and they might just take advantage of you...start to care and they might just lead you on....I made the mistake of trusting something thinking they cared about...
    BlessedMommy08 BlessedMommy08 22-25, F 2 days ago

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    Every time I open up and let down a wall or two. Someone stomps all over me. I don't trust people, and I'm beginning to think I never will.
    Kat51 Kat51 18-21, F 7 Responses 2 days ago

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    I'm a horrible person . . . I despise myself and all I am . . . All I can do is hurt others. I tell them to stay away from me, but they don't listen. I threaten them, tell them...
    AVampireGirl AVampireGirl 13-15, F 1 Response Mar 23

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    I'm scared to fet too close. Whenever I do get close to anyone, I alway end up losing them over self doubt. I always wonder, "why did you choose me? i'm nothing special." And i'm...
    foolishlylovingthee foolishlylovingthee 16-17, F Mar 30

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    I refuse to get too close to someone because there is always the chance they will let me down or reject me. I make it so that if they were to disappear from my life, the damage...
    redmidget redmidget 22-25, F 2 Responses Apr 8

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    Actually, I've always been single, never had a girlfriend and I'm 18 and already going to a university, and it is embarrasing. It makes me feel like I'm not worth for any girl. I...
    DeniedWings DeniedWings 18-21, M 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    1. Pain is part of growing. Sometimes life closes doors because it’s time to move forward. And that’s a good thing because we often won’t move unless circumstances force us...
    EnigmatiK EnigmatiK 22-25, M 3 Responses 6 days ago

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    I used to be , but then I realised life is too short to be living somebody else's life . So **** the haters ! I am this way , and I will stay this way ..whether you like it or not...
    Norajean1109 Norajean1109 18-21, F 2 hrs ago

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    I know there are people who do love me very much, and I really care about them too, but I can't think of anyone at all that I'm 100% comfortable with.
    almaera almaera 18-21, F 9 hrs ago

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    I am afraid of becoming an alcoholic. Its a main reason why I try not to drink so much. When I lost my daughter, I did not handle it the best way. Instead of turning to my friends...
    NYSlilAngel NYSlilAngel 26-30, F Mar 21

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    Ever since this girl first walked into our school for the first time, I couldn't take my eyes off her, and I know I probably wasn't the only one gazing at her beauty. Through my...
    elugo123456789 elugo123456789 18-21, M Apr 3

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    Well for the last 10 years I have been married and over the last 3 years I now fear my wife emotionally. Since we had our first child life has slowly gone to ****. After our first...
    cyborg333 cyborg333 36-40, M 2 Responses Apr 9

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    I can sense negativity in the things i say. It may come across as rude, and i notice almost immediately, but i am too awkward and anxious to smoothly correct the statement, i just...
    theMETAmonologue theMETAmonologue 18-21, F Mar 20

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    I know thats not very good and we should not care about others opinion, but I really cant.. I feel that everyday I have to sit exams and get accepted by the society. I am afraid to...
    greekguy24 greekguy24 18-21, M 4 Responses Mar 25

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    Ever since this girl first walked into our school for the first time, I couldn't take my eyes off her, and I know I probably wasn't the only one gazing at her beauty. Through my...
    elugo123456789 elugo123456789 18-21, M Apr 4

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    A woman who is afraid of driving – the men would chuckle amongst themselves, and other women would tsk-tsk for me living up to the stereotypes (Don't you just hate that? Getting...
    EmmaLong EmmaLong 26-30, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    Those people who give a **** about what others think will suffer terribly. Don't live your life the way other people want you to, it's your fucken life do what ever the **** you...
    JustMe123468 JustMe123468 18-21, F 4 Responses 8 hrs ago

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    I've been pushing away. I do like some guys, but when they actually take on the urge to ask me out. I get scared, afraid. So i reject them on the spot regardless if i hurt them or...
    Dapperness Dapperness 16-17, F 1 Response Mar 24

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    I drink, often alone, mainly just to calm down my nerves. And I love that feeling. Drinking gets me calm, worrying about less. Can't seem to relax totally and properly without it...
    dysfori dysfori 16-17, M 1 Response Mar 26

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    I find it incredibly difficult to open up to people, especially lately because everyone I've ever been close to has left. Now I just keep the majority of my thoughts and feelings...
    hollylynn91 hollylynn91 22-25, F Mar 26

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    "Ask and ye shall recieve." I help others because I believe it to be moral behavior, and enjoy it mostly in a 'I'm doing the right thing' kind of way. When I was deciding what to...
    TragicMonkey TragicMonkey 31-35, M 4 Responses Mar 28

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    I don't even know why? Im ok with being alone I even needed at times a break from people,but after a while of not talking to the people im close to or care about I start to get...
    seeminglypossible seeminglypossible 22-25, F Apr 5

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    I enjoy that warm feeling you get, and the fact that it helps numb your senses. I've got problems with depression, so alcohol helps me numb the pain. I suppose it's a good thing I...
    JHomesick JHomesick 18-21, M Apr 8

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    I don't mind caring about other people but i hate it when I loose that person. When i show my caring side towards them I just can't stop thinking about them.... When I try to text...
    drs0307 drs0307 16-17, F Apr 2

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    Ever since this girl first walked into our school for the first time, I couldn't take my eyes off her, and I know I probably wasn't the only one gazing at her beauty. Through my...
    elugo123456789 elugo123456789 18-21, M Apr 4

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    I am afraid that I'll end up alone. I have loved and been loved. But sometimes love just isn't enough. Not when you push that person away... When you push them away so much that...
    maraselene maraselene 16-17, F 2 Responses Apr 6

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    I used to compare myself against the benchmarks of others, and the expectations of society (i.e., salary, material possessions, title/position, etc.) but the older I get, the more...
    shoehorny shoehorny 41-45, M 2 Responses Apr 9

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    I believe that a healthy relationship consist of a "real" man should have a "real" woman. A "real" man knows his woman's worth. He knows his heart when he wants to protect her...
    james0123 james0123 31-35, M Mar 20