I Am Afraid of Becoming Too Close to Others

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    It Never Lasts For Long.

    I feel like the moment I've started getting close to someone, they end up pushing me away.  It just always seems to happen that way. I think I know why...  I'm just too nosy for people and I guess I'm not trustworthy enough.  In addition, most people like...
    oliveoil2007 oliveoil2007
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Feb 11, 2008

    I'm Just Such a Private Person

    I'm a private person in many ways.  It takes me a while to get close to people and to trust them, but once I do, I open up and I'm fine.  The thing is, the closer I get to someone, the more I let them in and divulge private info about myself, the more vulnerable I feel...
    trixi trixi
    41-45, F
    4 Responses Feb 12, 2008

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    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Nov 22, 2013

    My mother used to say that

    if you don't let people get too close, then they can't hurt you. I've found that to be true many times in my life.
    DaydreamingSleepwalker DaydreamingSleepwalker
    41-45, F
    1 Response Mar 18

    Call It What You Want

    Some say that my "spiritual ability" is a curse. I dont think they understand. Being tormented by demons, harassed by those of black magic, it is allĀ tolerableĀ if, there is someone there for you. someone who knows pretty much everything about you. someone you love. Now, lots of...
    Celea136 Celea136
    18-21, F
    1 Response May 3, 2012
    DowngyvedDante DowngyvedDante
    18-21, M
    1 Response Mar 10, 2015

    Reasons..

    I am afraid of becoming too close to others for a few reasons that all tie into each other: I cannot trust people. I am afraid that if I trust people they'll let me down. Every act of kindness towards me I skew into "they don't care, they're doing it for their own good...
    DisasterSitcom DisasterSitcom
    13-15, F
    1 Response Jul 15, 2009

    Line

    There is always a line.  It is there and it changes all the time.  For some the line is very clear, for others it is harder to see, even by me.  It may even be almost invisible.  Sometimes I forget about the line altogether.  When I trust someone, I...
    moreandless moreandless
    56-60, M
    Jun 1, 2010

    I'm afraid, ok? I admit it,

    I'm afraid, Afraid of what you may ask? I don't know, Afraid of knowing, Afraid of having the chance to get hurt, That's why I never let people come close to me, Let alone, make physical contact, I end up hurting them just to keep them away, I don't want to, It just happens, I'm...
    nivanvc nivanvc
    36-40, M
    1 Response Feb 7

    Scared.

    ive been afraid to be close to people because my first bestfriend betrayed me, and pretty much every other friend ive had has. or they have walked out of my life. i have a very hard time expressing myself to my boyfriend because im afraid ill say something stupid and he will...
    atreyuxo atreyuxo
    16-17
    2 Responses Dec 16, 2009

    I Always Put My Ugly Face On

    I will be mean, and push you away. Its like a defense mechanism, i don't want you to hurt me. So people that want to be apart of my life will have to work a lil harder for me to open up. I've meet ****** people and trusted ****** people and then you get **** on. I don't want it...
    UnderTheBridge UnderTheBridge
    22-25, F
    May 10, 2011

    Goodbyes....

    No-one wants them to last and they never want to say it to some people they love. I am one of them but I did say it but haven't survived saying it yet, people always in the end leave me, when I feel I have someone a friend/family member/boyfriend who I love with all my life and...
    LoveLife05 LoveLife05
    18-21, F
    Jan 25, 2011

    And afraid of being open to them.

    ..sometimes, I can be too open and too honest. And that's when people usually find me too depressing and too weird to be with. So they eventually leave me...AND YET I still do it!...I just want a friend who can be there for me when I need it.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Nov 10, 2015

    Its Just Not Worth It

     letting people get close to you, in the end they hurt you or leave you or both.its happened so often Ive grown used to it.I expect you to disappoint me, abandon me. if i do, then i wont be so hurt when you leave right? right? it wont hurt so much right? after all i expected...
    kittycat101303 kittycat101303
    18-21, F
    1 Response Dec 17, 2009

    Betrayed

    my beat friend leaved me all alone . i used to trust her more than myself now i would not trust any one so easily
    mystyraine mystyraine
    16-17, F
    Apr 24, 2013

    If only I thought that you never cared

    for me once or ever wanted something with me, I guess thatd be better..like things were when it was just the start, always easier.
    nirvsemp nirvsemp
    18-21, F
    Feb 8

    The Broken Hearted

    i am afraid to get to get too close to a women because im tired of getting hurt
    mrleonford mrleonford
    26-30
    Apr 8, 2013

    Raw Action.

    And here's my story...when I was younger..I was molested by my cousin. I really didn't think it effected me that much and really didn't change much when I was younger. I've always been a chubby kid and always got picked on. I never really got close to anyone because everyone...
    beautifulbaby069 beautifulbaby069
    18-21, F
    May 21, 2012

    Big Time...

    I am actually terrifeid about getting close to others. I am scared to let somoene in, and let them get close to me. Recently I have regretted big time letting almost everyone that I am close to, because I got hurt really bad. I am so scared of getting hurt, and so scared that...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Dec 17, 2009

    I'm afraid of too much attaching to people.

    its not like I'm hating them or something.it just I hate ended up getting heart broken.I broke up so many times and each time it felt like somebody take a piece of my heart with them.I told my close friends about it and all they said to me that you gotta find who is worth ended...
    felicia123angel felicia123angel
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Feb 9

    I Dont Get Too Close Anymore

    Recently so many people have mistreated me in ways that hurts me. I don't know if they're aware of what they're doing to me or they just don't give a ****. Either way, I believe I know what they did to me. In so little time people have not treated me with honesty or the respect...
    noaht43 noaht43
    41-45, T
    1 Response Nov 11, 2013

    I think it's better to have a wall surrounding

    your heart and soul so that your heart and soul don't get taken away and taken advantage of.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Jan 24

    No Clue

    MY FAMILY HAS NO CLUE TO HOW THIS MEDICAL AND MENTAL ISSUES HAS TAKEN OVER MY LIFE.I DON'T HAVE FRIENDS AND DONT ASSOCIATE WITH FAMILY OTHER THAN MY MOTHER AND MAYBE 2 OF MY SISTERS OUT THE 4.MY SON HAS AUSTISM AND ADHD AND HE TELLS ME HE LOVES ME ONE MINUTE AND HATES ME THE NEXT...
    ccstruggledaily ccstruggledaily
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Mar 25, 2012

    A Loner?

    For as long as I can remember I've been afraid of getting to close to others, simply cause I always end up with a knife in my back, punch in the stomach or a broken heart..just now, a guy that I really like stopped talking to me..I really liked him and we were really close..oh...
    beautifulbaby069 beautifulbaby069
    18-21, F
    8 Responses Apr 8, 2012

    Can you blame me? Father walked out on us

    when I was 3, I was molested by a relative at 8, bullied from elementary school up until HS. String of intensely close friendships where they ended up disappearing or bullied by their gf's to end the friendship with me, many many many lovers who of course never stuck around...
    Lov3intheasylum Lov3intheasylum
    31-35, F
    Aug 28, 2014

    I've never actually had a real relationship.

    no girlfriend or boyfriend nothing. I've done everything else but never committed. It freaks me out. I feel like I'm claustrophobic when people become attached. I know I need to change but ive yet to find someone who inspires me to change.
    artemicionmoon artemicionmoon
    26-30, M
    1 Response Feb 8

    I'm Really Selective.

    Every time I trust someone, they give me so many reasons why I shouldn't. So I just don't trust anybody. And it's more difficult than people may realize, but it's the only way it's been getting me by. A lot of people say that they'll be together forever, but forever ends too soon...
    xxbangbangxx xxbangbangxx
    16-17, F
    1 Response Jul 17, 2013

    Yes, Abandoment Issues.

    It's been my personal experience that whenever I get close to someone, they will disappear from my life.  My mother left me when i was 6, and I lived with my aunt and uncle for the next 9 years.  Then they decided to ship me halfway across the country to a different...
    chocchipkookie93 chocchipkookie93
    18-21, F
    1 Response Jun 25, 2008

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