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I Am Afraid of Becoming Too Close to Others

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    My Fear

    I have never been close to anyone in my life. My parents hate me and I'm sure they hate me now more then they did before. I'm an only child, so I don't have that bond siblings sometimes have.Friends or at least real life friends are out of the question too. I've always been...
    InmemoryofLifelessStar InmemoryofLifelessStar 18-21, F 1 Response May 10, 2011

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    I Dont Get Too Close Anymore

    Recently so many people have mistreated me in ways that hurts me. I don't know if they're aware of what they're doing to me or they just don't give a ****. Either way, I believe I know what they did to me. In so little time people have not treated me with honesty or the respect...
    noaht43 noaht43 41-45, T 1 Response Nov 11, 2013

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    The Broken Hearted

    i am afraid to get to get too close to a women because im tired of getting hurt
    mrleonford mrleonford 26-30 Apr 8, 2013

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    Yes, Abandoment Issues.

    It's been my personal experience that whenever I get close to someone, they will disappear from my life.  My mother left me when i was 6, and I lived with my aunt and uncle for the next 9 years.  Then they decided to ship me halfway across the country to a different...
    chocchipkookie93 chocchipkookie93 18-21, F 1 Response Jun 25, 2008

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    I'm Just Such a Private Person

    I'm a private person in many ways.  It takes me a while to get close to people and to trust them, but once I do, I open up and I'm fine.  The thing is, the closer I get to someone, the more I let them in and divulge private info about myself, the more vulnerable I feel...
    trixi trixi 41-45, F 4 Responses Feb 12, 2008

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    Scared.

    ive been afraid to be close to people because my first bestfriend betrayed me, and pretty much every other friend ive had has. or they have walked out of my life. i have a very hard time expressing myself to my boyfriend because im afraid ill say something stupid and he will...
    atreyuxo atreyuxo 16-17 2 Responses Dec 16, 2009

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    Raw Action.

    And here's my story...when I was younger..I was molested by my cousin. I really didn't think it effected me that much and really didn't change much when I was younger. I've always been a chubby kid and always got picked on. I never really got close to anyone because everyone...
    beautifulbaby069 beautifulbaby069 18-21, F 1 Response May 21, 2012

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    Can you blame me? Father walked out on us

    when I was 3, I was molested by a relative at 8, bullied from elementary school up until HS. String of intensely close friendships where they ended up disappearing or bullied by their gf's to end the friendship with me, many many many lovers who of course never stuck around...
    Lov3intheasylum Lov3intheasylum 31-35, F 1 Response Aug 28, 2014

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    Betrayed

    my beat friend leaved me all alone . i used to trust her more than myself now i would not trust any one so easily
    mystyraine mystyraine 16-17, F Apr 24, 2013

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    Line

    There is always a line.  It is there and it changes all the time.  For some the line is very clear, for others it is harder to see, even by me.  It may even be almost invisible.  Sometimes I forget about the line altogether.  When I trust someone, I...
    moreandless moreandless 56-60, M Jun 1, 2010

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    It Never Lasts For Long.

    I feel like the moment I've started getting close to someone, they end up pushing me away.  It just always seems to happen that way. I think I know why...  I'm just too nosy for people and I guess I'm not trustworthy enough.  In addition, most people like...
    oliveoil2007 oliveoil2007 18-21, F 2 Responses Feb 11, 2008

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    Its Just Not Worth It

     letting people get close to you, in the end they hurt you or leave you or both.its happened so often Ive grown used to it.I expect you to disappoint me, abandon me. if i do, then i wont be so hurt when you leave right? right? it wont hurt so much right? after all i expected...
    kittycat101303 kittycat101303 18-21, F 2 Responses Dec 17, 2009

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    Big Time...

    I am actually terrifeid about getting close to others. I am scared to let somoene in, and let them get close to me. Recently I have regretted big time letting almost everyone that I am close to, because I got hurt really bad. I am so scared of getting hurt, and so scared that...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Dec 17, 2009

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    I don't feel like getting my feelings hurt

    or being judged for being different. I don't want to be taken advantage of because I don't want others to be see me as weak and vulnerable. I don't trust very much and I doubt most people's intentions. I say I'll reject them before they get a chance to reject me.
    ajrestless ajrestless 22-25, F Sep 1, 2014

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    Reasons..

    I am afraid of becoming too close to others for a few reasons that all tie into each other: I cannot trust people. I am afraid that if I trust people they'll let me down. Every act of kindness towards me I skew into "they don't care, they're doing it for their own good...
    DisasterSitcom DisasterSitcom 13-15, F 1 Response Jul 15, 2009

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    I Am Afraid Of Becoming Too Close To Others Looking For A Female For A Loving Anr In An Adult Nursing Relationship In Tampa Bay, Fl.

    I am a Single White Male Searching For Open Minded Female In Tampa Bay, Fl . i am a single white male age 58 searching for an open minded female in tampa bay, florida. if you are out there give me a buzz so that we can chat?
    deleted deleted 26-30 Nov 22, 2013

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    I'm Really Selective.

    Every time I trust someone, they give me so many reasons why I shouldn't. So I just don't trust anybody. And it's more difficult than people may realize, but it's the only way it's been getting me by. A lot of people say that they'll be together forever, but forever ends too soon...
    xxbangbangxx xxbangbangxx 13-15, F 1 Response Jul 17, 2013

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    Goodbyes....

    No-one wants them to last and they never want to say it to some people they love. I am one of them but I did say it but haven't survived saying it yet, people always in the end leave me, when I feel I have someone a friend/family member/boyfriend who I love with all my life and...
    LoveLife05 LoveLife05 18-21, F Jan 25, 2011

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    A Loner?

    For as long as I can remember I've been afraid of getting to close to others, simply cause I always end up with a knife in my back, punch in the stomach or a broken heart..just now, a guy that I really like stopped talking to me..I really liked him and we were really close..oh...
    beautifulbaby069 beautifulbaby069 18-21, F 8 Responses Apr 8, 2012

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    I Always Put My Ugly Face On

    I will be mean, and push you away. Its like a defense mechanism, i don't want you to hurt me. So people that want to be apart of my life will have to work a lil harder for me to open up. I've meet ****** people and trusted ****** people and then you get **** on. I don't want it...
    UnderTheBridge UnderTheBridge 22-25, F May 10, 2011

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    Call It What You Want

    Some say that my "spiritual ability" is a curse. I dont think they understand. Being tormented by demons, harassed by those of black magic, it is allĀ tolerableĀ if, there is someone there for you. someone who knows pretty much everything about you. someone you love. Now, lots of...
    Celea136 Celea136 13-15, F 1 Response May 3, 2012

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    No Clue

    MY FAMILY HAS NO CLUE TO HOW THIS MEDICAL AND MENTAL ISSUES HAS TAKEN OVER MY LIFE.I DON'T HAVE FRIENDS AND DONT ASSOCIATE WITH FAMILY OTHER THAN MY MOTHER AND MAYBE 2 OF MY SISTERS OUT THE 4.MY SON HAS AUSTISM AND ADHD AND HE TELLS ME HE LOVES ME ONE MINUTE AND HATES ME THE NEXT...
    ccstruggledaily ccstruggledaily 36-40, F 2 Responses Mar 25, 2012

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    Stay Back

     I always distance myself from others. I fear getting too close to others because then they can really hurt me when they disappear. I find it hard to trust.  Sometimes it does get really sad living a life like this. I yearn for that closeness too but when I try, it...
    reset reset 18-21, F 2 Responses Dec 16, 2009

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    I say I'm afraid, but it always happens doesn't it? People grow apart and we move on. I guess that's why I wait so long to form a bond with people. When they leave, it's easier to...
    Xamad Xamad 22-25, M 1 Response Jan 28

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    I mean I know I won't be, or at least it's highly unlikely. I'm only 19, I have plenty of time left. But every time I start liking someone, I give up before anything starts. I'm...
    StrangelyWrinkledMammal StrangelyWrinkledMammal 18-21, F 27 Responses Jan 31

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    I'm afraid to get close to my dad because I fear that he would push me away like he always dose.
    awayoflife123 awayoflife123 18-21, F 6 Responses 1 day ago

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    I have pushed a lot of potential friends away. My reason is because of lack of trust. I have a hard time letting people get too close to me. Betrayal is a big thing, and it hurts...
    SentimentalMood SentimentalMood 36-40, F 5 Responses a week ago

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    I say I am open minded about things. I tell other people about my views and I am open to theirs too. I don't like the feeling that I somehow open things up about my life with...
    MaggieAndTheFerociousBeast MaggieAndTheFerociousBeast 18-21, F 12 hrs ago

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    So I'm ignoring a lot of notifications to post this right quick: I'm filling out a medical history form. I am pissed off about some of the questions. They want to know how many...
    adianoeta adianoeta 26-30, F 4 Responses 8 hrs ago

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    I have a very small circle. I left high school in sophomore year and left everyone else there because of the bullying. I've ran into some people I used to talk to. I've tried...
    endofalldays endofalldays 18-21, F 3 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    I used to think something was wrong with me, that I couldn't make close friends because I wasn't interesting enough. It's been difficult at times but if I tell myself that it isn't...
    AriaPeace AriaPeace 22-25, F 2 Responses 8 hrs ago

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    My ex broke up with her bf, finally. She actually kicked him out too. This was a long time coming and I'm so proud of her for standing up for herself. She's been texting me every...
    itscake itscake 22-25, F 3 Responses 8 hrs ago

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    My boyfriend told me today that he wants to live in my city...halfway across the globe from where he lives. It made me so happy, as it was what I was hoping for because it means...
    Cranksta Cranksta 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 27

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    The mistake of "Deep Beliefs", is Lack of Tolerance, of others Beliefs. Education is the solution to all differences, however, too often, a small faction of mal-learners, fail to...
    RojoJeepNut RojoJeepNut 70+, M 1 day ago

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    I've never been in a relationship because whenever I try to start one, I back out of it last second. I'm afraid of commitment and I can't get my mind off of my childhood friend. I...
    meeplabip meeplabip 16-17, F 1 Response 2 hrs ago

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    I haven't been afraid all of my life, because I can remember some bits of happiness in my childhood, but even as far back as elementary, I was afraid of failing, middle school...
    LoquaciouslyLucid LoquaciouslyLucid 16-17, M Feb 3

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    No matter how hard I try I can't bring myself to honestly confide in another person. I feel as if they will judge me, or that they think they can no longer view me as someone they...
    FirstSnowFall FirstSnowFall 18-21, F Feb 8

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    I hate crying in front of anyone. I'm usually pretty good at controlling what emotions I show, but that's the one thing I find infuriatingly hard to suppress. My tactics are pretty...
    EverythingYouNeverKnew EverythingYouNeverKnew 13-15, F 1 Response 12 hrs ago

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    My Happy Word ... is "Hope". "You refuse to give up on anyone, including yourself. You see the best in others. You think happiness should be shared. You spread your message of...
    TheDarkVerse TheDarkVerse 26-30, M 7 hrs ago

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    thought I'd Create "this" group, as an Alternative to the Other group - I am Very open minded. It IS True for me too; I HAVE my beliefs I WON'T Bend On.
    desireindisguise desireindisguise 56-60 45 mins ago

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    My story begins a month before my 18th birthday. I was in an accident. shattered my spine, and became paralyzed. After doing physical therapy for two years I was able to regain...
    awais87 awais87 26-30, M 3 Responses Jan 31

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    I grew up as a religious child. My Father was a pastor at several churches for most of his life and my siblings and I grew up within the church to the point where I actually spent...
    TucanSam200 TucanSam200 22-25, M 1 Response Feb 12

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    Yesterday, I took a pregnancy test and discovered that I am pregnant. There was someone who posted something telling me that I should not be getting pregnant, but instead, focusing...
    JanaElisabeth JanaElisabeth 16-17, F 1 Response Feb 19

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    I'm tired of getting hurt and bothering others I just want to be alone
    savigirl14 savigirl14 16-17, F 1 Response Feb 3

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    now that im turning 26 i cant help but thinking of whats ahead for those of us who are almost 30. oh man its so scary to think that as we get older the option of marriage comes...
    Angel021389vancouver Angel021389vancouver 22-25, F Feb 9

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    Today was an average if not good Tuesday, up until the evening. I live with six others and a dog. The dog belongs to one of the others and is his companion pet; not yet certified...
    Surilian Surilian 26-30, M Feb 11

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    When it comes to guys I always let them go. Every time I like a guy and I think they like me (which is obvious in some ways on how they act) I start talking to them more and more...
    endmypainn endmypainn 13-15, F 1 day ago

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    It isn't that I am afraid of failing, it is that I am afraid of disappointing others with my failures. I have a desire to make everyone happy and sometimes that just isn't possible...
    1Fortnight 1Fortnight 16-17, T 3 Responses Feb 6

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