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I Am Afraid of Becoming Too Close to Others

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    I am actually terrifeid about getting close to others. I am scared to let somoene in, and let them get close to me. Recently I have regretted big time letting almost everyone that I am close to, because I got hurt really bad. I am so scared of getting hurt, and so scared that...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Dec 17, 2009

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    A Loner?

    For as long as I can remember I've been afraid of getting to close to others, simply cause I always end up with a knife in my back, punch in the stomach or a broken heart..just now, a guy that I really like stopped talking to me..I really liked him and we were really close..oh...
    beautifulbaby069 beautifulbaby069 18-21, F 8 Responses Apr 8, 2012

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    My Fear

    I have never been close to anyone in my life. My parents hate me and I'm sure they hate me now more then they did before. I'm an only child, so I don't have that bond siblings sometimes have.Friends or at least real life friends are out of the question too. I've always been...
    InmemoryofLifelessStar InmemoryofLifelessStar 18-21, F 1 Response May 10, 2011

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    The Broken Hearted

    i am afraid to get to get too close to a women because im tired of getting hurt
    mrleonford mrleonford 26-30 Apr 8, 2013

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    No Clue

    MY FAMILY HAS NO CLUE TO HOW THIS MEDICAL AND MENTAL ISSUES HAS TAKEN OVER MY LIFE.I DON'T HAVE FRIENDS AND DONT ASSOCIATE WITH FAMILY OTHER THAN MY MOTHER AND MAYBE 2 OF MY SISTERS OUT THE 4.MY SON HAS AUSTISM AND ADHD AND HE TELLS ME HE LOVES ME ONE MINUTE AND HATES ME THE NEXT...
    ccstruggledaily ccstruggledaily 36-40, F 2 Responses Mar 25, 2012

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    Yes, Abandoment Issues.

    It's been my personal experience that whenever I get close to someone, they will disappear from my life.  My mother left me when i was 6, and I lived with my aunt and uncle for the next 9 years.  Then they decided to ship me halfway across the country to a different...
    chocchipkookie93 chocchipkookie93 18-21, F 1 Response Jun 25, 2008

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    Goodbyes....

    No-one wants them to last and they never want to say it to some people they love. I am one of them but I did say it but haven't survived saying it yet, people always in the end leave me, when I feel I have someone a friend/family member/boyfriend who I love with all my life and...
    LoveLife05 LoveLife05 18-21, F Jan 25, 2011

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    Scared.

    ive been afraid to be close to people because my first bestfriend betrayed me, and pretty much every other friend ive had has. or they have walked out of my life. i have a very hard time expressing myself to my boyfriend because im afraid ill say something stupid and he will...
    atreyuxo atreyuxo 16-17 2 Responses Dec 16, 2009

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    Reasons..

    I am afraid of becoming too close to others for a few reasons that all tie into each other: I cannot trust people. I am afraid that if I trust people they'll let me down. Every act of kindness towards me I skew into "they don't care, they're doing it for their own good...
    DisasterSitcom DisasterSitcom 13-15, F 1 Response Jul 15, 2009

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    Line

    There is always a line.  It is there and it changes all the time.  For some the line is very clear, for others it is harder to see, even by me.  It may even be almost invisible.  Sometimes I forget about the line altogether.  When I trust someone, I...
    moreandless moreandless 56-60, M Jun 1, 2010

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    I'm Really Selective.

    Every time I trust someone, they give me so many reasons why I shouldn't. So I just don't trust anybody. And it's more difficult than people may realize, but it's the only way it's been getting me by. A lot of people say that they'll be together forever, but forever ends too soon...
    xxbangbangxx xxbangbangxx 13-15, F 1 Response Jul 17, 2013

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    It Never Lasts For Long.

    I feel like the moment I've started getting close to someone, they end up pushing me away.  It just always seems to happen that way. I think I know why...  I'm just too nosy for people and I guess I'm not trustworthy enough.  In addition, most people like...
    oliveoil2007 oliveoil2007 18-21, F 2 Responses Feb 11, 2008

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    I'm Just Such a Private Person

    I'm a private person in many ways.  It takes me a while to get close to people and to trust them, but once I do, I open up and I'm fine.  The thing is, the closer I get to someone, the more I let them in and divulge private info about myself, the more vulnerable I feel...
    trixi trixi 41-45, F 4 Responses Feb 12, 2008

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    Stay Back

     I always distance myself from others. I fear getting too close to others because then they can really hurt me when they disappear. I find it hard to trust.  Sometimes it does get really sad living a life like this. I yearn for that closeness too but when I try, it...
    reset reset 18-21, F 2 Responses Dec 16, 2009

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    Its Just Not Worth It

     letting people get close to you, in the end they hurt you or leave you or both.its happened so often Ive grown used to it.I expect you to disappoint me, abandon me. if i do, then i wont be so hurt when you leave right? right? it wont hurt so much right? after all i expected...
    kittycat101303 kittycat101303 18-21, F 2 Responses Dec 17, 2009

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    Raw Action.

    And here's my story...when I was younger..I was molested by my cousin. I really didn't think it effected me that much and really didn't change much when I was younger. I've always been a chubby kid and always got picked on. I never really got close to anyone because everyone...
    beautifulbaby069 beautifulbaby069 18-21, F 2 Responses May 21, 2012

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    Call It What You Want

    Some say that my "spiritual ability" is a curse. I dont think they understand. Being tormented by demons, harassed by those of black magic, it is all tolerable if, there is someone there for you. someone who knows pretty much everything about you. someone you love. Now, lots of...
    Celea136 Celea136 13-15, F 1 Response May 3, 2012

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    I Dont Get Too Close Anymore

    Recently so many people have mistreated me in ways that hurts me. I don't know if they're aware of what they're doing to me or they just don't give a ****. Either way, I believe I know what they did to me. In so little time people have not treated me with honesty or the respect...
    noaht43 noaht43 41-45, T Nov 11, 2013

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    I Always Put My Ugly Face On

    I will be mean, and push you away. Its like a defense mechanism, i don't want you to hurt me. So people that want to be apart of my life will have to work a lil harder for me to open up. I've meet ****** people and trusted ****** people and then you get **** on. I don't want it...
    UnderTheBridge UnderTheBridge 22-25, F May 10, 2011

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    deleted deleted 26-30 Nov 22, 2013

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    The Possibility

    Its been going on a few months changes quickly to come in and out of my life. Makes me feel even more sensitive to the point I take absolutely most people who I encounter and talk to, to what they say to me too seriously. I haven't been like this in as long as I can remember. I...
    Xenasdreams Xenasdreams 22-25, F 2 Responses Oct 11, 2013

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    Betrayed

    my beat friend leaved me all alone . i used to trust her more than myself now i would not trust any one so easily
    mystyraine mystyraine 16-17, F Apr 24, 2013

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    Related Experiences

    I know how it is especially growing up and maybe some people can relate. I had a trampoline and a pool when I was younger. Most kids liked to hang out because I invited them over...
    RedScythe RedScythe 22-25, M Aug 5

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    I don't have any close friends or family. Whenever I do get close to someone I always find some way of f*cking it up. I'm so tired of being lonely but at the same time afraid that...
    gochickinparty gochickinparty 16-17, F Aug 7

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    Hi guys in need of some advice about my boyfriend and the relationship he has with his sister. Myself and my boyfriend have been together for just under 3 months, although have...
    angrykid123 angrykid123 22-25, F 2 Responses Aug 9

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    i do have problems but i dont usually tell anyone aha. to embarassing
    newaccountquinnmac newaccountquinnmac 13-15, F 2 Responses Aug 3

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    I've been through a lot. The worst is over but because of my past I don't completely trust anybody.
    gardengirl17 gardengirl17 22-25, F Aug 3

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    I have seen how it is when you start to grow up. You get more responsibilities and some of them can be good but there are others like paying for insurance, paying for bills and all...
    Culinaryman23 Culinaryman23 22-25, M 1 hr ago

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    They say that in our teenage years we become more sensitive towards what we are told, what is said about us and how we perceive what others think. We become aware that are actions...
    xogymfish xogymfish 16-17, F 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    A Bridge Across the Pain. I remember one morning when I was three and sitting across the table from my father at breakfast, just he and I, when for no reason I could think of he...
    Steffi97 Steffi97 16-17, F 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    My ex was horrible... Cheated on me and lied about it... We were together for over 4 year! The guy before that cheated on me too. I don't know if it's me. But it hurts all the same...
    BriannaSimpson BriannaSimpson 31-35, F 1 hr ago

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    I'm a bi and I've confessed to a girl. She gave me no response. She has been close with her guy friend recently and she will definitely be in a relationship with him soon. It...
    greenflapper greenflapper 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 29

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    Why can’t I just be me? Do I have to always measure myself against what others will think of me? Sometimes I just think on things too much, I guess we all do. But why do I worry...
    MatildaEve MatildaEve 41-45, F 3 Responses Jul 24

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    I feel like I'm becoming cold hearted. With the way people treat me I don't see why I should be nice to anyone. Like yesterday this slutty girl from my school j walked across the...
    superabe11 superabe11 16-17, M 2 Responses Jul 27

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    So, as I said on my past experience, I'm still heartbroken over my ex. It's been 5 months, almost 6 since we broke up and to be honest I know it's time to move on. I've met a lot...
    Gabs96 Gabs96 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 25

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    I am 14 and I'm currently in the closet. I've always had a feminine behavior, and I've shared many of the same interests as girls. I didn't realize that I was truly gay until 6th...
    Koreku Koreku 13-15, M 3 Responses 3 days ago

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    I love helping others it's a part if life
    Amberpeacein Amberpeacein 16-17, F 3 Responses 2 hrs ago

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    I have known I liked girls since about 3rd grade. I am now a 23 year old college grad who had never even kissed a girl. In fact I have been in a heterosexual relationship for 6...
    lowfatyogurt lowfatyogurt 22-25, F 2 Responses a week ago

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    I am afraid of rejection because I am gay. I am 18, still in high school and I hate being gay. And as much as I hate the term, I'll use it: I am "in the closet." And I just can't...
    MyNameIsntJimSteele MyNameIsntJimSteele 18-21, M 10 Responses 6 hrs ago

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    It's the first time that I talk about it 'out loud'. I only talk about this by message but well I need to do it some day so...here I am! :D I'm 17 and I know it since I had around...
    Bral05 Bral05 16-17, M 1 Response 18 hrs ago

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    So when I'm home alone or taking a walk in the dark outside, I'm always afraid of being kidnapped or raped for some reason, and people who are aware of it happening to men too, don...
    thedaydreamer1020 thedaydreamer1020 18-21, F Jul 22

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    I've become to comfortable with sadness. I wear it around my shoulders like a winter coat, to keep me warm. How is it that this sorrow has become my comfort? My home? I am afraid...
    kewailehua kewailehua 16-17, F 1 Response Jul 24

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    Put a brake on your mind: It is said that one of the most dreadful disease among humans living in 21st century is "Overthinking". As per estimates, an average person has around 70...
    rajblr1970 rajblr1970 41-45, M 3 Responses Jul 26

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    So 10,000 people are afraid. I'm not sure I should really enlighten my thought process, but what the heck, I've been doing it enough lately. Last week (or was it week before, can't...
    Faust76 Faust76 36-40, M Aug 12

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    It seems worthless to be afraid of something that everyone will eventually go through. An if you're worried no one will remember you, you're right. The Second Law of Thermodynamics...
    PercyJacksonisAWESOME PercyJacksonisAWESOME 18-21, F Aug 13

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    Self esteem or a sense of worth is a very fragile thing for me. I am not competent to comment on others' feelings on the same matter, but some words (even if spoken in a different...
    pretender2687 pretender2687 26-30, M 1 day ago

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    I have an intense fear of rejection. I've reached the point where I don't even try to make new friends because I'm afraid if they don't like me then they'll judge me or make fun of...
    CJHall1234 CJHall1234 16-17, M 1 Response Jul 23

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    An incredible Resolution is to put in a sealer once the flagstone continues to be mounted. A advised sealer is really a drinking water-dependent-natural-sealer, which makes it...
    Kit1739qm Kit1739qm 31-35, M 1 Response 17 hrs ago

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    I have struggled with depression and self harm for several years now. I always feel so alone but I know part of that is my fault, because no matter how hard I try I can never let...
    mmccarth mmccarth 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 23

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