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I Am Afraid of Becoming Too Close to Others

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    I Dont Get Too Close Anymore

    Recently so many people have mistreated me in ways that hurts me. I don't know if they're aware of what they're doing to me or they just don't give a ****. Either way, I believe I know what they did to me. In so little time people have not treated me with honesty or the respect...
    noaht43 noaht43 41-45, T Nov 11, 2013

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    No Clue

    MY FAMILY HAS NO CLUE TO HOW THIS MEDICAL AND MENTAL ISSUES HAS TAKEN OVER MY LIFE.I DON'T HAVE FRIENDS AND DONT ASSOCIATE WITH FAMILY OTHER THAN MY MOTHER AND MAYBE 2 OF MY SISTERS OUT THE 4.MY SON HAS AUSTISM AND ADHD AND HE TELLS ME HE LOVES ME ONE MINUTE AND HATES ME THE NEXT...
    ccstruggledaily ccstruggledaily 36-40, F 2 Responses Mar 25, 2012

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    Goodbyes....

    No-one wants them to last and they never want to say it to some people they love. I am one of them but I did say it but haven't survived saying it yet, people always in the end leave me, when I feel I have someone a friend/family member/boyfriend who I love with all my life and...
    LoveLife05 LoveLife05 18-21, F Jan 25, 2011

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    Its Just Not Worth It

     letting people get close to you, in the end they hurt you or leave you or both.its happened so often Ive grown used to it.I expect you to disappoint me, abandon me. if i do, then i wont be so hurt when you leave right? right? it wont hurt so much right? after all i expected...
    kittycat101303 kittycat101303 18-21, F 2 Responses Dec 17, 2009

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    Scared.

    ive been afraid to be close to people because my first bestfriend betrayed me, and pretty much every other friend ive had has. or they have walked out of my life. i have a very hard time expressing myself to my boyfriend because im afraid ill say something stupid and he will...
    atreyuxo atreyuxo 16-17 2 Responses Dec 16, 2009

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    Can you blame me? Father walked out on us

    when I was 3, I was molested by a relative at 8, bullied from elementary school up until HS. String of intensely close friendships where they ended up disappearing or bullied by their gf's to end the friendship with me, many many many lovers who of course never stuck around...
    Lov3intheasylum Lov3intheasylum 31-35, F Aug 28

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    Big Time...

    I am actually terrifeid about getting close to others. I am scared to let somoene in, and let them get close to me. Recently I have regretted big time letting almost everyone that I am close to, because I got hurt really bad. I am so scared of getting hurt, and so scared that...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Dec 17, 2009

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    I don't feel like getting my feelings hurt

    or being judged for being different. I don't want to be taken advantage of because I don't want others to be see me as weak and vulnerable. I don't trust very much and I doubt most people's intentions. I say I'll reject them before they get a chance to reject me.
    ajrestless ajrestless 22-25, F Sep 1

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    The Broken Hearted

    i am afraid to get to get too close to a women because im tired of getting hurt
    mrleonford mrleonford 26-30 Apr 8, 2013

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    Reasons..

    I am afraid of becoming too close to others for a few reasons that all tie into each other: I cannot trust people. I am afraid that if I trust people they'll let me down. Every act of kindness towards me I skew into "they don't care, they're doing it for their own good...
    DisasterSitcom DisasterSitcom 13-15, F 1 Response Jul 15, 2009

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    I'm Just Such a Private Person

    I'm a private person in many ways.  It takes me a while to get close to people and to trust them, but once I do, I open up and I'm fine.  The thing is, the closer I get to someone, the more I let them in and divulge private info about myself, the more vulnerable I feel...
    trixi trixi 41-45, F 4 Responses Feb 12, 2008

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    Stay Back

     I always distance myself from others. I fear getting too close to others because then they can really hurt me when they disappear. I find it hard to trust.  Sometimes it does get really sad living a life like this. I yearn for that closeness too but when I try, it...
    reset reset 18-21, F 2 Responses Dec 16, 2009

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    I Always Put My Ugly Face On

    I will be mean, and push you away. Its like a defense mechanism, i don't want you to hurt me. So people that want to be apart of my life will have to work a lil harder for me to open up. I've meet ****** people and trusted ****** people and then you get **** on. I don't want it...
    UnderTheBridge UnderTheBridge 22-25, F May 10, 2011

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    Line

    There is always a line.  It is there and it changes all the time.  For some the line is very clear, for others it is harder to see, even by me.  It may even be almost invisible.  Sometimes I forget about the line altogether.  When I trust someone, I...
    moreandless moreandless 56-60, M Jun 1, 2010

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    Raw Action.

    And here's my story...when I was younger..I was molested by my cousin. I really didn't think it effected me that much and really didn't change much when I was younger. I've always been a chubby kid and always got picked on. I never really got close to anyone because everyone...
    beautifulbaby069 beautifulbaby069 18-21, F 2 Responses May 21, 2012

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    Call It What You Want

    Some say that my "spiritual ability" is a curse. I dont think they understand. Being tormented by demons, harassed by those of black magic, it is all tolerable if, there is someone there for you. someone who knows pretty much everything about you. someone you love. Now, lots of...
    Celea136 Celea136 13-15, F 1 Response May 3, 2012

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    I'm Really Selective.

    Every time I trust someone, they give me so many reasons why I shouldn't. So I just don't trust anybody. And it's more difficult than people may realize, but it's the only way it's been getting me by. A lot of people say that they'll be together forever, but forever ends too soon...
    xxbangbangxx xxbangbangxx 13-15, F 1 Response Jul 17, 2013

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    I Am Afraid Of Becoming Too Close To Others Looking For A Female For A Loving Anr In An Adult Nursing Relationship In Tampa Bay, Fl.

    I am a Single White Male Searching For Open Minded Female In Tampa Bay, Fl . i am a single white male age 58 searching for an open minded female in tampa bay, florida. if you are out there give me a buzz so that we can chat?
    deleted deleted 26-30 Nov 22, 2013

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    The Possibility

    Its been going on a few months changes quickly to come in and out of my life. Makes me feel even more sensitive to the point I take absolutely most people who I encounter and talk to, to what they say to me too seriously. I haven't been like this in as long as I can remember. I...
    Xenasdreams Xenasdreams 22-25, F 2 Responses Oct 11, 2013

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    Yes, Abandoment Issues.

    It's been my personal experience that whenever I get close to someone, they will disappear from my life.  My mother left me when i was 6, and I lived with my aunt and uncle for the next 9 years.  Then they decided to ship me halfway across the country to a different...
    chocchipkookie93 chocchipkookie93 18-21, F 1 Response Jun 25, 2008

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    My Fear

    I have never been close to anyone in my life. My parents hate me and I'm sure they hate me now more then they did before. I'm an only child, so I don't have that bond siblings sometimes have.Friends or at least real life friends are out of the question too. I've always been...
    InmemoryofLifelessStar InmemoryofLifelessStar 18-21, F 1 Response May 10, 2011

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    A Loner?

    For as long as I can remember I've been afraid of getting to close to others, simply cause I always end up with a knife in my back, punch in the stomach or a broken heart..just now, a guy that I really like stopped talking to me..I really liked him and we were really close..oh...
    beautifulbaby069 beautifulbaby069 18-21, F 8 Responses Apr 8, 2012

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    It Never Lasts For Long.

    I feel like the moment I've started getting close to someone, they end up pushing me away.  It just always seems to happen that way. I think I know why...  I'm just too nosy for people and I guess I'm not trustworthy enough.  In addition, most people like...
    oliveoil2007 oliveoil2007 18-21, F 2 Responses Feb 11, 2008

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    Betrayed

    my beat friend leaved me all alone . i used to trust her more than myself now i would not trust any one so easily
    mystyraine mystyraine 16-17, F Apr 24, 2013

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    I lost one of my best friends a few years back and I'm so afraid of becoming that close to people again 😢
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    Hey! It's been a while. I have came out of the closet. Well, to myself, and a few select people. The ones that are important. It all started New Year's Eve of last year, 2013. I...
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    It seems that when I trust and love people leave, so I don't like to get too close to anyone.
    gardengirl17 gardengirl17 22-25, F 1 Response Oct 13

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    I never let people get too close to me in fear they would betray and leave me or just won't understand me. But hopefully in the future I'll find someone, a friend or lover, who I...
    Catina25 Catina25 16-17, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    Hey guys, so today I went to the 'The Private Clinic' @ Surry Hills to get an pregnancy termination. We got there around 10:12am and as soon as we we're walking in some protestors...
    x3myonewish x3myonewish 18-21, F 2 Responses 46 mins ago

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    I love helping creatures! the moment when I see an animal or bug need help, I'm always free to help! any kind of animal! even if they're dangerous! dangerous animals? you say. well...
    shadowhunter221 shadowhunter221 13-15, M 1 hr ago

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    I'm Jacob, 18 years old and have a pathological fear of rejection. From about the age of 9, my parents - especially my mum - would compare me to other kids in my class. She...
    JacobStark JacobStark 18-21, M 8 Responses Oct 4

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    I am afraid that it's becoming my grandmothers time to go. I'm so far away from her and when my grandpa was dying I couldn't be there. I honestly can't imaging a life without my...
    chanel0408 chanel0408 18-21, F 3 Responses Oct 18

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    I am reading a book right now called, Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work. It's a great book, and I was glad to find out that we're doing at least the first four principles...
    YourFriendRyan YourFriendRyan 36-40 4 days ago

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    Don't judge, its really hard, but just think about it before you do. I got judged so much, I am afraid of being myself, everyone thinks I am a lonely introvert, but the truth is, i...
    mariahluh mariahluh 51-55, T Oct 21

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    I have a straight guy friend who is always vain and so noisy in our class, we became so close because we are always together in our hobbies ,that we even share our stories every...
    Andrai55 Andrai55 18-21 Oct 14

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    I think I am or I wish I am becoming that way. All I ever wanted in life is to feel loved and believe in it. To be loved unconditionally, now I think f**** it! I'm going to...
    SwanNual SwanNual 22-25, F Oct 10

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    When I abandoned this place several months ago, I promised myself that all of the things I wouldn't be able to say to the next person I'll be admiring should be written in a...
    kixisback kixisback 22-25 3 hrs ago

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    Hi all, been awhile since I have been on here. I have been suffering with CP since 2/2012. There have been some months in there where I was okay but for the most part not a day...
    Dani521 Dani521 31-35, F Oct 2

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    I wanted him to stay in my life. Even though I’ve cried, felt like I was going to die, and drank alcohol a few times before over someone I was in love with not loving me, I’ve...
    Roshunn Roshunn 26-30, F Oct 13

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    I'm pretty laid back. I like to think I have a good sense of humor. I can laugh at myself. I don't mind being the butt of the joke, as long as it isn't cruel. And if it is, I can...
    smarmybrat smarmybrat 26-30, F 1 Response Oct 5

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    I haven't had a girlfriend since I was in the 7th grade and I only went out with her for 2 weeks and we never talked anyway. I feel like im almost afraid of women that im attracted...
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    “I call this an amazing life we’re all living.”Possessed By Paul JamesIt’s sweet and bitter, constantly felt and occasionally understood. The foundation of...
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    I guess that I'm becoming more and more comfortable with who I am. I think that people around me like coworkers and my family can tell that there is a little something different...
    brady120378 brady120378 31-35, M 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    I myself am not afraid of dying. I would hate to be widowed, though. I fear I would go crazy.. Like go off the deep end. I am very close to my husband. Spending one night away from...
    ShimmerSquirrels13 ShimmerSquirrels13 22-25, F 1 Response Oct 4

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    the pic is for those who don't know what I look like, so here ya go! :D I think I've said this on here or not, maybe I forgot, but .... yes ... I AM GAY I found out that I...
    Rasengxn Rasengxn 16-17, M 3 Responses Oct 7

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    This is because people sometimes expect too much and get hurt when I can't meet them.
    restored87 restored87 46-50, F 4 Responses Oct 15

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    I'm not sure if my best friend is still my best friend. 3 years ago I started to become really good friends with her at school because we had common interest and were basically the...
    rachel0817 rachel0817 16-17 Oct 20

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    I'm really afraid of coming out since I'm afraid of what everyone will think and what everyone will say to me or if they will start to ignore me or hate me. Also I have no idea...
    bvbandmcr bvbandmcr 13-15, F Oct 20

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    I am currently in a bad situation. It's not because I'm stupid, or I'm from a bad background; it's because I made very poor decisions. I have had depression (just the reason, not...
    milehighHeartbreak milehighHeartbreak 31-35, M a week ago

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    It was pretty embarrassing but I chose to share it here :) So here's what happened: I was having an afternoon nap at my bf's place on his bed with him, things got a little...
    TetraZL TetraZL 13-15, F 2 Responses