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I Am Afraid of Being Abandoned

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    If You Put Your Finger In the Fire and Get Burned, You Won't Put It In Again....right? Wrong!

    Some of us learn lessons the easy way.  We make mistakes, learn from them, and try to never repeat them.  We live, learn, we move on.  The rest of us are doomed to repeat our mistakes, desperately trying to fill a bottomless hole but never quite making it. We...
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Sep 27, 2009

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    It's Awful...

    I only have a handful of friends that are actually around physically and I hardly see them because they are busy. My parents are interstate, my other relatives only see me in emergencies. I spend most of my day online, because that's where I am given support. I wish the built...
    TheRealWoman TheRealWoman 31-35, F 9 Responses Apr 12, 2008

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    Left Behind So Many Times... (REVISED)

    My response to this:  "Unfortunately some people do toss away what was cherished, carelessly push away the very thing they so longed for, and foolishly walk away from it in pursuit of the end of a rainbow that will only serve to elude them. So reckless is the impetuous man." I...
    AceofPentacles AceofPentacles 46-50, F 1 Response Oct 18, 2011

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    This Comes From Where ?

     My friend the social worker will tell me it comes from  the place  of not being protected as a child by those who were responsible  for protecting me from harm and were the biggest contributors to harm of little me.  But why,oh why as an adult...do I...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Mar 22, 2009

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    Every single person in my life has abandoned me

    so far. Every friend, my family. I'm getting restless, and urgent. Thinking I might just start walking and not stop. I guess I don't really care what happens to me now...
    TaleOfTwoMinds TaleOfTwoMinds 16-17, F 2 Responses Oct 12, 2014

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    Offered And Rejected

    So, you were offered something. You tried and tasted it then decided to reject it. You threw it all away. To all of you who threw me away and deemed me worthless. I am not worthless. I can give you more than you imagine. I am not a crippled, dark thing. I have brightness and joy...
    DancingFox DancingFox 31-35, F 3 Responses Mar 19, 2011

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    Out of interests sake,

    if someone was treating you really badly for no reason, and you had a friend that was close with both you and the person who was being nasty, would you expect the person to have your back? Or just ignore it and continue to be both people's friend?
    TaleOfTwoMinds TaleOfTwoMinds 16-17, F 1 Response Nov 12, 2014

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    Broken

    Yes I am that broken toy on the shelf.Shoved way in the back,moved up once in a while.You know the doll that doesn't smile,or has a torn dress or missing her shoes.You all go by and pick me up look and put me down.I once had a real home,honest I did.Nobody wanted a misfit.So...
    BrokenFairytale BrokenFairytale 26-30, F Sep 8, 2012

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    Why Did You Abandone Me!

    It happened when my oldest was just a few months old.  His father and I were married and he would just get up and leave and not come back for days!  It was really killing me.  I would sit at home with his son and cry!  My brother died in an...
    tks tks 36-40, F 17 Responses Mar 22, 2009

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    It's already happened

    so many times before. And it feels like it's getting continually worse. Now that my dad's 3 years has been served, so many things have changed... I just don't know. I know I've been posting a lot of depressing things, but maybe that's how I feel. I'm afraid of being abandoned...
    MyNameMeansLight MyNameMeansLight 16-17, F 2 Responses Jul 3, 2014

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    Fear of Abandonment!One of my biggest fears is

    being abandoned by people around me especially in my time of need!I dislike people leaving me especially when they mean so much to me and are close to me!It's the thought of its out of your control and there's nothing you can do about it so cant stop it from happening or can't...
    MilweePetite MilweePetite 22-25, F 2 Responses Sep 21, 2014

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    Dissociate

    I get easily attached to people, I've noticed. Once someone seems to like me, we are all of a sudden best friends in my mind. We should be able to talk about things that I've never talked about with anyone. They should want to hang out with me. I should be their best friend as...
    OfADifferentColor OfADifferentColor 18-21, F Feb 23, 2013

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    Well I've always been rejected

    and treated badly by my ex boyfriends and bad friends. I've steeled my heart so I'm used to those emotions but I try not to get used and bullied again though. I don't think I deserved it but sometimes I think I do for some reasons. It's never nice being rejected so I understand...
    Myalee Myalee 41-45, F 1 Response Mar 2

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    If You Go Away

    Before I go any further, I know what I am about to write is irrational, and that these feelings have lessened as my life has progressed, but they still surface despite myself.I have always had this little voice nagging away at the back that I am not worthy of people's time, love...
    mizzen123 mizzen123 46-50, M 3 Responses Jan 5, 2012

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    Aww

    My daughter has that little mumble stuffed animal in the group picture. Aww. I feel sad about him being alone in the woods and left behind. I also get nervous about my daughter bringing a stuffed animal to the park. We always have to check if she still has it. I even...
    Tekkamaki Tekkamaki 31-35 2 Responses Oct 23, 2008

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    Abandonment.

    This is quite literally my biggest fear, and the one the directly affects my life. When I was a freshman, I fell in love with my senior best friend, who strung me along for 10 months. Little did I know- he was sleeping with my theatre teacher. Anyway, when he graduated, we...
    cayjunshrimp cayjunshrimp 16-17, F Nov 26, 2013

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    My second worst fear.

    I can't stand the idea of someone I'm bonded to leaving me. It hurts to share my best friends too.
    rosesandcharlie rosesandcharlie 13-15, F 1 Response Feb 28

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    .

    This afternoon, as a filler, I got the kids to write down a new year's resolution and a new year's wish for their family and the world. They're quite a caring and very cute bunch, and all said they wanted everyone to be happy and have a good 2012. I didn't hear Nathan's until...
    MrsLalaninjacakes MrsLalaninjacakes 26-30, F 8 Responses Jan 5, 2012

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    Im so scared to get close to people.

    My mom is a drunk and my dad abuses her. All i had was my brother. But whenever i needed him he was never there. He'd come home, see my mom drunk and leave me to deal with her at age 6. All i wanted was for him to love me. And now he's married and never talks to me. It hurts so...
    Slowlydying16 Slowlydying16 16-17, F 2 Responses Jun 29, 2014

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    Fear Of Abandonment

    I am afraid of being abandoned. It's a huge fear of mine. The thing is fears are suppose to be irrational- very unlikely to happen, etc.My fear here is not. It's a known fact, that everyone and everything abandones me. I have such a fear of things ending now. It prevents me from...
    Mediocre Mediocre 22-25, F 4 Responses Mar 12, 2011

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    I Thought I Got Over You

    I thought I got over your touch, I thought I got over hearing your voice on the phone, I thought I got over looking forward to seeing you even if we were so tired that we just feel asleep on the couch, I thought I got over wanting you around for the Holidays, I thought I got over...
    dreamerinus dreamerinus 26-30 1 Response Dec 9, 2010

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    I had a rough childhood,

    like many Im sure. I don't like to exclude people and what they might have been through. Pain is pain. Abuse is abuse. It just comes indifferent forms is all. My mom and dad were good parents. They did the best they could, I try to believe that al least. Both my grandparents, my...
    TEMPERANCE12 TEMPERANCE12 31-35, F Mar 9

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    My Fear

    When i was three years old my mom took me and my two little brothers to florida.She found it no longer safe for us to live there with my father. He was constantly hitting her and putting her in the hospital. He was drinking and selling drugs. One day my mom said she woke up in...
    BlackroseVsWhiterose BlackroseVsWhiterose 16-17, F 3 Responses Mar 8, 2012

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    More Like Absolutely Petrified....

      So I do whatever I have to in order to make sure those I love, love me back. I don't "rock the boat", I don't argue, disagree or show any anger about anything. At least I try. Momma is the only one I fight with & even then it takes A LOT to get me to the point where I will...
    WynsHeart WynsHeart 36-40, F 1 Response May 29, 2011

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    Worst fears have been realised.

    I have not one friend in this world
    TaleOfTwoMinds TaleOfTwoMinds 16-17, F 1 Response Jan 9

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    ~sigh~

    This post is a tough one. Its hard to explain it. Its hard to put into how I am feeling. I am suffering from severe abandonment issues. I am so afraid to get close to people right now, because lately it seems like whenever I get close to someone, they end of leaving me...
    deleted deleted 26-30 6 Responses Nov 2, 2012

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    I did a lot of growing up on my own, and probably grew up too quickly. I won't blame my parents for what happened to me as a child, as there were situations out of their hands. My sister became ill when I was 12. I use that term loosly and without wanting too because I don...
    MrsLalaninjacakes MrsLalaninjacakes 26-30, F 49 Responses Sep 16, 2009

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    Kinda Childish But...

    Although I fear being abandoned by my loved ones, I know that it's probably just me worrying for nothing.
    Ichilicious Ichilicious 26-30, M 1 Response Nov 26, 2011

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    Never Did I Imagin

    you shouldn't have done it.. or you should tell me.. how do you do something like this to the person you claim to love with your life? you promised me you'd never hurt me.. never hurt me means never hurt me.. doesn't mean, i'll never hurt you if.. this, or that. it means never...
    Amiera Amiera 26-30, F Apr 14, 2012

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    Almost Always

    I often get so scared deep inside myside myself its hard to get out of my own head to function. I am in a very devoted relationship on both sides but I'm so scared he might find some stupid little wh**e to run off with that I panic even if I have no reason as of late I'm learning...
    trinarose trinarose 26-30, F Feb 25, 2009

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    I Thought And I Realize....

    From this moment, I thought of a few realizations about my life.   First I thought that I had forgotten my unwanted past experiences. Now I realize that I'm just pretending to be a happy person -- that I am becoming a better person as day passed by. But I am wrong because I...
    mysteryfate16 mysteryfate16 16-17, F Dec 4, 2010

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    I just want people to be

    as afraid to lose me as I am to lose them
    PbSamwich PbSamwich 18-21, F 3 Responses Jan 30

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    A Series: Chippy Whiny Post Numero Uno

    Yeah. Abandonment. That's a very real fear for me. The thought that people can and already have abandoned me in the past is terrifying. But I work hard to overcome the disappointment. But the possibility that it can happen again controls my thoughts and makes me even more upset...
    CrazyHippieChick CrazyHippieChick 70+, F May 21, 2011

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    This Is My Number One Fear

    This  is my biggest fear in my life... I have a insane fear that everyone in my life is going to leave me and i will be alone friends family and loved ones (boyfriends especially).  I hate feeling like everyone is going to do it and it makes it hard for me to trust...
    Starbuck82 Starbuck82 26-30, F 8 Responses Jun 9, 2010

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    It's always there in the back of my mind.

    .It's a pretty big fear of mine.Once I get close to someone I'm always afraid they're going to leave,sometimes in the beginning of me getting close to them i start thinking how it might be better to push them away before they leave on there own..I just haven't really had too many...
    simpleandpossible simpleandpossible 22-25, F 4 Responses Nov 16, 2014

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    Everyone Leaves...

    I feel like Everyone leaves all the time. Whenever I get really close to someone, they either end up leaving, or something happens, and they no longer want anything to do with me. People say, I have an abandonment issue, because of my abuse by my parents, and I never really had...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Aug 4, 2009

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    Don't Leave Me I've always been afraid of been

    left alone. I liked someone who finally liked me back and he left me when I needed him. my friends have all left me at one time or another. I broke up with my ex because the distance between us was hurting us(long distance relationship), but he's like my best friend. ill always...
    wishingforrecovery wishingforrecovery 16-17, F 1 Response Dec 28, 2013

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    After growing up learning my parents arent my

    biological. And my friends coming and going. If I ever say I love you. I FUCKEN MEAN IT. Don't leave me!
    londonbr1dge londonbr1dge 16-17, F Feb 3

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    My mom got married to my biological father at a

    young age, he was abusive and controlling, during the divorce and custody battle he kidnapped me and my older sibling, when his wife ( the woman he cheated on my mom with ) said she didn't want us he left us at a homeless shelter with our real mom, I've always had issues with...
    LunaValentine LunaValentine 18-21, M Jul 15, 2014

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    I been abandoned my whole life...it's to the point that i can't even really give people my all. I always push people away. People that truly cared for me. I put barriers with...
    sfdrboy sfdrboy 22-25, M 1 Response Mar 12

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    I was always the one that eats the slowest and my mom never had the patience for me. We were supposed to be going to the beach. Because I ate too slow, I was left behind. The rest...
    YesIAmAsian YesIAmAsian 18-21 a week ago

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    This believe it or not once a thriving living home...was left abandoned for years in my neighborhood in downtown...yes, downtown Belmont. lol! It was bought and now being converted...
    bemyvalentine bemyvalentine 56-60, F 1 Response 4 hrs ago

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    I sometimes feel so afraid of what to come. Anything, when I drove to gym in the heavy rain, I talked to myself, that was the only way, it's a silly fear no one else could...
    Mangostrawberrybanana Mangostrawberrybanana 31-35, F 1 Response 57 mins ago

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    I am almost 25 years old. I am married and I have a beautiful 5 yr old daughter. My husband is handsome and perfect in almost every way possible. I have a beautiful 4 bedroom house...
    MrsRoker MrsRoker 22-25, F 17 mins ago

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    I dont know but I miss one of my abusive ex's hes been there for me when no one has been and he makes me happy. But i'm afraid he'll abuse me again like he did in the past? help? i...
    Unknowngirl2015 Unknowngirl2015 16-17, F 1 Response 7 hrs ago

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    I am currently in the throes of rejection. The thing is, he didn't have the decency to end it properly. He just ignored, kept it open-ended until I got the hint. Im not crazy, and...
    lullPalooza lullPalooza 22-25, F 6 Responses a week ago