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I Am Afraid of Being Abandoned

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    This Is My Number One Fear

    This  is my biggest fear in my life... I have a insane fear that everyone in my life is going to leave me and i will be alone friends family and loved ones (boyfriends especially).  I hate feeling like everyone is going to do it and it makes it hard for me to trust...
    Starbuck82 Starbuck82 26-30, F 8 Responses Jun 9, 2010

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    My Fear

    When i was three years old my mom took me and my two little brothers to florida.She found it no longer safe for us to live there with my father. He was constantly hitting her and putting her in the hospital. He was drinking and selling drugs. One day my mom said she woke up in...
    BlackroseVsWhiterose BlackroseVsWhiterose 16-17, F 3 Responses Mar 8, 2012

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    Almost Always

    I often get so scared deep inside myside myself its hard to get out of my own head to function. I am in a very devoted relationship on both sides but I'm so scared he might find some stupid little wh**e to run off with that I panic even if I have no reason as of late I'm learning...
    trinarose trinarose 26-30, F Feb 25, 2009

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    This afternoon, as a filler, I got the kids to write down a new year's resolution and a new year's wish for their family and the world. They're quite a caring and very cute bunch, and all said they wanted everyone to be happy and have a good 2012. I didn't hear Nathan's until...
    MrsLalaninjacakes MrsLalaninjacakes 26-30, F 8 Responses Jan 5, 2012

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    Why Did You Abandone Me!

    It happened when my oldest was just a few months old.  His father and I were married and he would just get up and leave and not come back for days!  It was really killing me.  I would sit at home with his son and cry!  My brother died in an...
    tks tks 36-40, F 17 Responses Mar 22, 2009

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    Listener Here

    If you have stuff you want to talk about or vent about, feel free to contact me. I usually am the listener in my crowd and don't mind it. I tend to really want to hear people's stories and experiences.No judgments. I am also pretty open minded so there won't be much that I find I...
    Sowyfeil Sowyfeil 31-35, F Jun 19, 2013

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    Terrified..

    I only have a few people left.. that's it. Only one of them actually cares. I am terrified of being alone. I've been alone before, with nobody there for me when I needed someone the most. It's not fun.. it's a horrible, horrible feeling. I don't ever want to experience it again...
    deletedd deletedd 16-17, F Oct 13, 2009

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    I Thought I Got Over You

    I thought I got over your touch, I thought I got over hearing your voice on the phone, I thought I got over looking forward to seeing you even if we were so tired that we just feel asleep on the couch, I thought I got over wanting you around for the Holidays, I thought I got over...
    dreamerinus dreamerinus 26-30 1 Response Dec 9, 2010

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    Abandonment.

    This is quite literally my biggest fear, and the one the directly affects my life. When I was a freshman, I fell in love with my senior best friend, who strung me along for 10 months. Little did I know- he was sleeping with my theatre teacher. Anyway, when he graduated, we...
    cayjunshrimp cayjunshrimp 16-17, F 1 Response Nov 26, 2013

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    Dissociate

    I get easily attached to people, I've noticed. Once someone seems to like me, we are all of a sudden best friends in my mind. We should be able to talk about things that I've never talked about with anyone. They should want to hang out with me. I should be their best friend as...
    OfADifferentColor OfADifferentColor 18-21, F Feb 23, 2013

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    Its A Very Big Fear Of Mine...

    Being abandoned is a very big fear for me, I am always scared that my friends will just "Walk away" I have learned the hard way, that it does happen, and its very hurtful when it does. Its a big reason why it takes me so long to get so close to my friends, and let them in...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Jan 17, 2010

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    Offered And Rejected

    So, you were offered something. You tried and tasted it then decided to reject it. You threw it all away. To all of you who threw me away and deemed me worthless. I am not worthless. I can give you more than you imagine. I am not a crippled, dark thing. I have brightness and joy...
    DancingFox DancingFox 31-35, F 3 Responses Mar 19, 2011

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    Everyone Leaves...

    I feel like Everyone leaves all the time. Whenever I get really close to someone, they either end up leaving, or something happens, and they no longer want anything to do with me. People say, I have an abandonment issue, because of my abuse by my parents, and I never really had...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Aug 4, 2009

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    Left Behind So Many Times... (REVISED)

    My response to this:  "Unfortunately some people do toss away what was cherished, carelessly push away the very thing they so longed for, and foolishly walk away from it in pursuit of the end of a rainbow that will only serve to elude them. So reckless is the impetuous man." I...
    AceofPentacles AceofPentacles 46-50, F 1 Response Oct 18, 2011

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    This Comes From Where ?

     My friend the social worker will tell me it comes from  the place  of not being protected as a child by those who were responsible  for protecting me from harm and were the biggest contributors to harm of little me.  But why,oh why as an adult...do I...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Mar 22, 2009

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    Fear Of Abandonment

    I am afraid of being abandoned. It's a huge fear of mine. The thing is fears are suppose to be irrational- very unlikely to happen, etc.My fear here is not. It's a known fact, that everyone and everything abandones me. I have such a fear of things ending now. It prevents me from...
    Mediocre Mediocre 22-25, F 3 Responses Mar 12, 2011

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    ...

    this is a fear that stops me from letting people know me entirely, i also dont let myself trust anyone entirely either. unlike some people i know why i am this way, my father commited suicide weeks before my birthday. i didnt see it coming and it changed my life, i dint even...
    juans juans 22-25, M 1 Response Feb 22, 2010

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    ~sigh~

    This post is a tough one. Its hard to explain it. Its hard to put into how I am feeling. I am suffering from severe abandonment issues. I am so afraid to get close to people right now, because lately it seems like whenever I get close to someone, they end of leaving me...
    deleted deleted 26-30 5 Responses Nov 2, 2012

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    If You Put Your Finger In the Fire and Get Burned, You Won't Put It In Again....right? Wrong!

    Some of us learn lessons the easy way.  We make mistakes, learn from them, and try to never repeat them.  We live, learn, we move on.  The rest of us are doomed to repeat our mistakes, desperately trying to fill a bottomless hole but never quite making it. We...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Sep 27, 2009

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    It Might Just Happen One Day

    paranoid about it actually. It so bad that whenever my boyfriend leaves while im alseep even to just go to the bathroom i wake up and panic cause im not sure how long hes been gone for or where he is. He usually come back to bed and I feel stupid for feeling so anxious about...
    YoucancallmeJuliet YoucancallmeJuliet 26-30, F Mar 6, 2010

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    Everyone Leaves....

    I feel like Everyone leaves all the time. Whenever I get really close to someone, they either end up leaving, or something happens, and they no longer want anything to do with me. People say, I have an abandonment issue, because of my abuse by my parents, and I never really had...
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Oct 13, 2009

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    My Couple

    Have an amazing relationship, and I love watching them together.  Sometimes I'm afraid they are going to leave me for another, though there has been no indication of it.  I'm not used to this....and hate feeling so insecure.
    ifeelbadly ifeelbadly 31-35, F 1 Response Feb 6, 2010

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    It's Awful...

    I only have a handful of friends that are actually around physically and I hardly see them because they are busy. My parents are interstate, my other relatives only see me in emergencies. I spend most of my day online, because that's where I am given support. I wish the built...
    TheRealWoman TheRealWoman 31-35, F 9 Responses Apr 12, 2008

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    Never Did I Imagin

    you shouldn't have done it.. or you should tell me.. how do you do something like this to the person you claim to love with your life? you promised me you'd never hurt me.. never hurt me means never hurt me.. doesn't mean, i'll never hurt you if.. this, or that. it means never...
    Amiera Amiera 26-30, F Apr 14, 2012

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    Im so scared to get close to people.

    My mom is a drunk and my dad abuses her. All i had was my brother. But whenever i needed him he was never there. He'd come home, see my mom drunk and leave me to deal with her at age 6. All i wanted was for him to love me. And now he's married and never talks to me. It hurts so...
    Slowlydying16 Slowlydying16 16-17, F 2 Responses Jun 29

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    It's already happened

    so many times before. And it feels like it's getting continually worse. Now that my dad's 3 years has been served, so many things have changed... I just don't know. I know I've been posting a lot of depressing things, but maybe that's how I feel. I'm afraid of being abandoned...
    MyNameMeansLight MyNameMeansLight 16-17, F 1 Response Jul 3

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    Yes

    Because I have never been one for popular things, and because I was hyperactive when I was little, I never got much practice with people (neither of which I had any control over really).  There's a lot I don't know, so I make mistakes.In a way, it's sorta like if an airline...
    lesshissMORECAT lesshissMORECAT 31-35 3 Responses Jan 7, 2010

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    Don't Leave Me I've always been afraid of been

    left alone. I liked someone who finally liked me back and he left me when I needed him. my friends have all left me at one time or another. I broke up with my ex because the distance between us was hurting us(long distance relationship), but he's like my best friend. ill always...
    wishingforrecovery wishingforrecovery 16-17, F 1 Response Dec 28, 2013

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    Aww

    My daughter has that little mumble stuffed animal in the group picture. Aww. I feel sad about him being alone in the woods and left behind. I also get nervous about my daughter bringing a stuffed animal to the park. We always have to check if she still has it. I even...
    Tekkamaki Tekkamaki 31-35 2 Responses Oct 23, 2008

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    More Like Absolutely Petrified....

      So I do whatever I have to in order to make sure those I love, love me back. I don't "rock the boat", I don't argue, disagree or show any anger about anything. At least I try. Momma is the only one I fight with & even then it takes A LOT to get me to the point where I will...
    WynsHeart WynsHeart 36-40, F 1 Response May 29, 2011

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    I did a lot of growing up on my own, and probably grew up too quickly. I won't blame my parents for what happened to me as a child, as there were situations out of their hands. My sister became ill when I was 12. I use that term loosly and without wanting too because I don...
    MrsLalaninjacakes MrsLalaninjacakes 26-30, F 50 Responses Sep 16, 2009

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    Broken

    Yes I am that broken toy on the shelf.Shoved way in the back,moved up once in a while.You know the doll that doesn't smile,or has a torn dress or missing her shoes.You all go by and pick me up look and put me down.I once had a real home,honest I did.Nobody wanted a misfit.So...
    BrokenFairytale BrokenFairytale 26-30, F Sep 8, 2012

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    This.

    Is probably one of my worst insecurities.  To let myself go completely, to let the other person see all of me for what I am, for me to love them so very much, for them to not love me the same way, or for them to not believe in the us factor, or for them to believe we're...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Mar 22, 2010

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    Kinda Childish But...

    Although I fear being abandoned by my loved ones, I know that it's probably just me worrying for nothing.
    Ichilicious Ichilicious 22-25, M 1 Response Nov 26, 2011

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    I Thought And I Realize....

    From this moment, I thought of a few realizations about my life.   First I thought that I had forgotten my unwanted past experiences. Now I realize that I'm just pretending to be a happy person -- that I am becoming a better person as day passed by. But I am wrong because I...
    mysteryfate16 mysteryfate16 16-17, F Dec 4, 2010

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    My mom got married to my biological father at a

    young age, he was abusive and controlling, during the divorce and custody battle he kidnapped me and my older sibling, when his wife ( the woman he cheated on my mom with ) said she didn't want us he left us at a homeless shelter with our real mom, I've always had issues with...
    LunaValentine LunaValentine 18-21, M Jul 15

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    If You Go Away

    Before I go any further, I know what I am about to write is irrational, and that these feelings have lessened as my life has progressed, but they still surface despite myself.I have always had this little voice nagging away at the back that I am not worthy of people's time, love...
    mizzen123 mizzen123 46-50, M 2 Responses Jan 5, 2012

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    A Series: Chippy Whiny Post Numero Uno

    Yeah. Abandonment. That's a very real fear for me. The thought that people can and already have abandoned me in the past is terrifying. But I work hard to overcome the disappointment. But the possibility that it can happen again controls my thoughts and makes me even more upset...
    CrazyHippieChick CrazyHippieChick 18-21, F May 21, 2011

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    Related Experiences

    In fact I love it it's something sexy about seeing people on here being themselves and sharing all sorts of mature content.
    Shh84 Shh84 26-30, M 2 hrs ago

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    I'm scared of my emotions, and I don't know what to do. I try to fight them, to lock them away, or eliminate them, but no matter what I do, no matter how logical I try to be, I can...
    Nix0 Nix0 16-17, M 1 Response Jul 12

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    This really is my favorite show on TV, and I am sure that my friends are sick of me talking about it. I can't believe this group has so few members. I am really hoping to find...
    kathyrice kathyrice 41-45, F 1 Response 6 hrs ago

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    WHY ARE WE ABANDON BY THOSE WHO SAY THEY CARED. THEY PUT SO MUCH TIME AND EFFORT IN TO GET WHO THEY WANTED. THE PAIN THEY NOW CAUSE TREATING THE ONES THEY LOVED LIKE AN OLD...
    imgreywlf imgreywlf 56-60, M 3 Responses 4 days ago

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    I like going visiting old abandoned jails and prisons because they are always haunted. The prisoners that have been killed or died in the old jails and prisons are still doing time...
    jon2403 jon2403 56-60, M Jul 10

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    I am afraid of being rejected like I'm afraid of being open about my fetish. It's a terrifying experience when I think I'm gonna be rejected to the point that I won't do certain...
    ILF777 ILF777 18-21, M 3 Responses Jul 23

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    Now I tend to find being alone all the time isn't as fun loving as some folks see it. Now the other night I was sat down at the pub bar, drinking vodka & coke. Now I ain't a beer...
    ilikenetflix ilikenetflix 26-30, M 2 hrs ago

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    Does this experience sound pathetic? Never mind, you can say yes. Come on, no one likes being rejected. This happened to me like so many times. The truth is, I’m afraid to fall...
    HikoukiGumo HikoukiGumo 18-21, F 3 Responses Jul 18

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    In spite of how cruel this world can be, there are certainly truly kind people you can find. When you find them, keep them around you. Keep yourself surrounded with people who have...
    ziwen ziwen 16-17, F 6 hrs ago

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    Afraid about friends I am afraid about my friends. Anybody that I have been close to has died. In 1991, my teacher suddenly died. I was close to her and hero-worshipped her. I...
    aproudwoman aproudwoman 41-45, F 2 days ago

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    For various reasons: I'm afraid of child birth, I'm afraid of raising them wrong and not being able to care for them properly, and when I'm being honest with myself, sometimes I'm...
    NoYourComstock NoYourComstock 22-25, F 1 Response Jul 19

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    I have an intense fear of rejection. I've reached the point where I don't even try to make new friends because I'm afraid if they don't like me then they'll judge me or make fun of...
    CJHall1234 CJHall1234 16-17, M 1 Response Jul 23

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    For some reason, I have become afraid of almost everything. I'm afraid of eye contact, and I am afraid to speak up in public. Wherever I go, I can't help but feel afraid. Whenever...
    PastaPyro567 PastaPyro567 13-15, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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