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I Am Afraid of Being Too Needy

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    i'm not afraid of being needy. it's just that being needy sucks. it's a real downer, very depressing. i love my independence, it means everything to me. but.. we're all needy at times. some too much vs some not enough and bounding back and forth between Until Balance is Finally...
    justwhatever123 justwhatever123 26-30, F Jan 5, 2011

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    Fear?

    I don't think I am afraid of being too needy. I think I AM needy. I am starting to think that actually, its perfectly reasonable. Its a fact and it's just how things are at the moment. I have a hell of a lot I am trying to deal with and I am not a strong person. I try, but I am...
    jellibeanz jellibeanz 26-30, F 3 Responses Feb 11, 2011

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    Even Though I Like Living Alone

    When I lived at home, I had my mom, dad, sister, brothers, and assorted pets. I never thought I could cope alone. It's been three and half years now where I've been living in this apartment . It's a block and a half from my childhood home, in the same neighborhood...but Mom and...
    MaryJanine MaryJanine 56-60, F Sep 14, 2013

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    I Want People To Talk To Me, But I Am Scared

    Maybe I am just codependent and independent at the same time...IDK. I want to talk to someone, and I look froward to contact with others (like literally, I say "1,1,1, please let me have 1" or something like that when I get here, like one orange thing or mail) Because I want...
    Naliruns Naliruns 18-21, F 3 Responses Jan 18, 2011

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    Worry

    I need to talk stuff out and have a friend more then people know even online but i'm afraid if I bug someone they'll be annoyed and not like me :(
    Jason255 Jason255 16-17, M 2 Responses Nov 28, 2013

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    The Reason

    I have this need for people. I have this need to feel needed or wanted. I try so hard to control this need. I won't initiate a conversation with somebody for weeks in fear of appearing too needy. When I was dating my (now) ex, I was so afraid of coming off as needy. He was...
    SavedByHim SavedByHim 18-21, F May 11, 2012

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    Needy And Introverted

    Well... I don't really know where to start. I am just a very clingy person, and I can't help it. I'm a very introverted, very to-myself type of girl... I have friends, but not friends I hang out with on a regular basis and I'm not really close with them. My cupcake is my best...
    MPDGirl MPDGirl 31-35, F 2 Responses Feb 26, 2013

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    Warning: This Is A Needy Post.

    I have been scarred by my past. As I look over my 30 years of existence, I am saddened by all of the times that people who said that they loved me and always would be there for me went back on their word. These relationships have left behind me a lifetime littered with...
    PrincessPumpkin81 PrincessPumpkin81 31-35, F 3 Responses Jul 1, 2012

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    I Think I Am Too Needy

    At least, Im having a needy patch right now.  I apologise in advance for being incredibly self indulgent and pitying.   In fact, its sooo pathetic Im stuggling to write it.   I dont want to be so - reliant, on other peoples opinions.  But I can't seem to...
    auroraaustralis auroraaustralis 22-25 7 Responses Jun 4, 2009

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    So I've been talking to this guy Sam.

    He kinda makes my day perfect. He's the only thing I look forward to. When we're not together we are almost always texting. But there are sometimes where he just doesn't text me. I break down during these times. I get really sad and overreact when he doesn't text me. Like for...
    Imjustdone Imjustdone 16-17, M Apr 24, 2014

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    Why am I so needy? Why am I

    so dependent on him? When he doesn't talk to me it tears me apart. When I'm not with him I get really depressed really quick. All I want to do is just be with him all the time. I can't do this though. This doesn't surprise me. I don't deserve to be happy even ways.
    Imjustdone Imjustdone 16-17, M 1 Response Apr 27, 2014

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    I’m Not Talking About Material Need; I’m Talking About The Emotional Kind

    i've been on the receiving end of needy before. i know how stifling it feels to be needed by someone when you don't feel that symbiotic need in return. the unfulfilled need of another can leave a host with a sense its life force is being drained—it’s worse to me, even, than...
    WoobieTuesday WoobieTuesday 36-40, F 10 Responses Apr 24, 2011

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    Probably Because I've Been Called Needy

                                       ~~~~  I know that I can across as very needy & dependent. I've...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Apr 6, 2009

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    So Desperate

    I am so desperate for reassurance right now I could scream.  In the past I would have been having a complete meltdown, but through hard work I am gaining insight into my emotions.  I want someone to tell me what to do, when to do it, and exactly how to do it.  I have no...
    soleil321 soleil321 31-35 Aug 10, 2011

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    I need advice.. My bf is an international

    graduate student. He says he doesn't have much time for me because school is so demanding. We see each other once, sometimes twice a week for dinner and he usually sends me only 1 text a day. He told me things would be better once the spring semester begins because he needs to...
    mary1277 mary1277 26-30, F Jan 19, 2014

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    Owning It...

    No one wants to be, but the truth is all of us are. Some of us need reassurance. Some of us need love. Some of us need acceptance. Some of us need all of that because they tend to go hand in hand. Some of us need attention. Some of us need to feel wanted. Some of us need to...
    kittysoftpaws kittysoftpaws 36-40, F Mar 14, 2013

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    I don't know how to stop feeling like this I really need help :( my boyfriend hardly gives me time I only have lik a hour or two long text conversation per day I see him like 3-4...
    sabzzzz sabzzzz 16-17, F May 4

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    So my boyfriend of 2 months Brock up with me. He said I'm too needy and he can't deal with that. The funny part about that is that I work long hrs. After work I spend time with my...
    DayDreamingAngel DayDreamingAngel 31-35, F 2 Responses May 1

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    When I am upset and someone tells me to calm down ( or cheer up ), it is like throwing gasoline on a fire. It's not helpful, and it actually fuels my anger or frustration. To me...
    atpeacewithme atpeacewithme 31-35 1 Response Apr 28

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    A person once told me that in order to live more you must take the risk of getting hurt. I thought it was right at first but now I disagree. The problem with this is that I've been...
    Cutiepeachpie Cutiepeachpie 18-21, F a week ago

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    As a result of my life experiences, I'm overly honest. People say "everyone tells lies", I don't know how I feel about this. Is there such a thing as being too honest?
    ATLsLadyLuck ATLsLadyLuck 36-40, F 4 Responses 5 days ago

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    I'm afraid of life. I mean who isn't ? Life is so mysterious that it's impossible not to be afraid. The difference between winners and losers lies simply in the reason that creates...
    MeAndMySelf98 MeAndMySelf98 16-17, M 2 hrs ago

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    Needy and clingy men,I really hate them I can't stand them i stay the hell away from them.Like for example,when a guy I'm just barely getting to know is already acting clingy and...
    simpleandpossible simpleandpossible 22-25, F 1 Response May 5

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    Hi I go by fruity punch on here. I would like to share a personal experience.So I hope its okay if I vent a little.I hate being Ignore by my spouse.Lately he comes home angry and...
    Fruitypunch15 Fruitypunch15 31-35 12 hrs ago

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    I'm afraid that I will be single forever, but I have no courage to meet a new guy
    whatwillibe whatwillibe 31-35, F 6 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    I am very afraid. I live in turmoil every single day. I depend upon a theory that I substituted my own definition for and this theory is “Mind Over Matter”. The substitution...
    ONESTARRYSTARRYNIGHT ONESTARRYSTARRYNIGHT 26-30, F May 1

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    No matter who I meet or what age I was all I can remember is being told : you talk a lot, ever stop for breath?, wow breath or something like that I am a person who talks a lot and...
    CuteButTheDevil CuteButTheDevil 16-17, F 2 Responses 6 hrs ago

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    Sometimes I feel like a dog. Being loyal and chasing for only this one guy attention. This makes me fell really pathetic. Sometimes I feel that I deserves better. but somehow I am...
    ijustdontlikehumanbehaviour ijustdontlikehumanbehaviour 22-25, F 2 Responses May 4

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    At first I feel just sorry for him because of his condition, he is suffering from Asperger's disorder, a sort of autistic kind of thing. And he told me that since 4 he was in a lot...
    nbsbgal nbsbgal 22-25, F Apr 22

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    My dad wants me to be a doctor and I wanted to be a doctor too, but i'm starting to doubt myself. I'm not good with socializing, i'm kind of a introvert. My memory is pretty bland...
    Garcinia Garcinia 16-17, F 7 Responses Apr 26

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    About a year ago , I got really drunk after receiving some bad news , I then got it into my head to sleep with a man I did not know without using protection During our encounter...
    babina8 babina8 31-35, F 1 Response May 6

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    No matter how upset I am with someone, I'll always empathise with them. I wonder what they might have been through, that made them behave like that? And then greet them as though...
    Aryg Aryg 36-40, F 3 Responses May 9

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    I've been with 4 guys and loved it but sometimes feel guilty too.
    wyoguy1110 wyoguy1110 22-25, M 7 hrs ago

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    I'm realizing I keep attracting manipulators. A site quotes that a manipulator gets you to compromise your values and lowers your self worth! How many times has this happened to...
    HigherCalling HigherCalling 26-30, F 1 Response May 12

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    and so I push people away.. I have lots of things I want to say, at the same time, I don't know what to say.. I am not good with poeple and so I NEVER had any friends, like 0...
    FallingWind FallingWind 18-21, F 1 Response May 12

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    Too afraid, but know that I am only hurting myself by being so. I have to go out and do something rather than just sit inside this comfort zone I have built for myself. I only end...
    asert12345678 asert12345678 31-35, M May 12

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    Why should you be afraid? That darkness is a part of you. You should just accept it. To be afraid of it is the same as being afraid of one of your own limbs. we all have darkness...
    alienatedvirus alienatedvirus 18-21, M May 8

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    I most likely will be. I'm not desperate to find someone... but it'd be nice to have someone to develop love for and hold closely in my arms. I'm very surprised by how I can't...
    ChellyRocker ChellyRocker 22-25, F 7 Responses May 11

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    I had bullies in high school, but they were mainly this group of guys. The reason they bullied me was because I didn't take kindly to their racist humor. So the worst of it was my...
    behavedmisfit behavedmisfit 18-21, F 8 hrs ago

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    You know a long time ago I thought family was evrything... but I was wrong Yet I can't do anything about since it's not my choice in the matter right? every single day I and hurt...
    Shrous Shrous 16-17, M 1 Response Apr 28

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    I am a duality of peoples; cold and passionate; smart and stupid; light and dark. I have failed so completely to climb aboard a unified picture of myself that I simply present a...
    MrWinstonSmith MrWinstonSmith 22-25, M Apr 29

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    I have been reading people's posts every now and then today, and even written what I wanted to comment, but couldn't make myself click the post button. I made excuses like this was...
    LFSomething LFSomething 22-25, M May 3

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