I Am Afraid of Being Too Needy

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    I feel so alone. I feel like my friend group is

    almost non-existent, and my boyfriend and I aren't connecting consistently and idk how to support myself. I know that sounds terrible but it's true. I've gotten so used to talking to others and getting advice/support that I don't know how to do those things for myself anymore...
    Lookingforsupportivefriends Lookingforsupportivefriends
    22-25, F
    1 Response Nov 11, 2015

    Probably Because I've Been Called Needy

                                       ~~~~  I know that I can across as very needy & dependent. I've...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    3 Responses Apr 6, 2009

    I need advice.. My bf is an international

    graduate student. He says he doesn't have much time for me because school is so demanding. We see each other once, sometimes twice a week for dinner and he usually sends me only 1 text a day. He told me things would be better once the spring semester begins because he needs to...
    mary1277 mary1277
    26-30, F
    Jan 19, 2014

    Whenever I open up to someone I feel

    embarrassed, as if they've seen me naked. I don't like being a bother or annoying, so I just act fine all the time. I don't want to be needy or a burden.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    2 Responses Nov 11, 2015

    I’m Not Talking About Material Need; I’m Talking About The Emotional Kind

    i've been on the receiving end of needy before. i know how stifling it feels to be needed by someone when you don't feel that symbiotic need in return. the unfulfilled need of another can leave a host with a sense its life force is being drained—it’s worse to me, even, than...
    WoobieTuesday WoobieTuesday
    36-40, F
    8 Responses Apr 24, 2011

    I didnt have a dad in my life growing up

    and all I've ever known about him was how awful he was to my mom. I recently just met him and its alright. I went through a lot a few years ago when it was really new. Its not really a problem. Its just have every time I see him in reminded of the life I missed out on. There's...
    captivating23 captivating23
    22-25, F
    Dec 27, 2015

    I think I want so bad to find someone,

    and it feels wrong for me! I can't be in a relationship feeling this way, I'll always get frustrated... damn... I thought I was finally feeling ok till last week. suddenly I started to feel very lonely and it's been hard for me to deal with this. I need to find my balance all...
    blackberries blackberries
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Jul 12, 2015

    Warning: This Is A Needy Post.

    I have been scarred by my past. As I look over my 30 years of existence, I am saddened by all of the times that people who said that they loved me and always would be there for me went back on their word. These relationships have left behind me a lifetime littered with...
    PrincessPumpkin81 PrincessPumpkin81
    31-35, F
    3 Responses Jul 1, 2012

    So Desperate

    I am so desperate for reassurance right now I could scream.  In the past I would have been having a complete meltdown, but through hard work I am gaining insight into my emotions.  I want someone to tell me what to do, when to do it, and exactly how to do it.  I have no...
    soleil321 soleil321
    31-35
    Aug 10, 2011

    I am not afraid to admit this.

    I am not needy in the sense that I need someone to take care of me, however, I am needy in the sense that I need communication and attention. It doesn't have to be constant, but it must be there.
    ToughKitty ToughKitty
    31-35, F
    8 Responses Mar 15

    I have problems asking

    for help or reaching out when I know I need to. I put a super-human cape + complex on and try to tackle the world on my own but in reality I am no different than any other human being that struggles...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Mar 15

    Worry

    I need to talk stuff out and have a friend more then people know even online but i'm afraid if I bug someone they'll be annoyed and not like me :(
    Jason255 Jason255
    16-17, M
    2 Responses Nov 28, 2013

    i guess after reading other experiences,

    i feel the same. i hate to impose on anyone for anything. i always feel ashamed if i were to ask for help. Does anyone think this may make us stronger?
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Nov 16, 2015

    I didnt have a dad in my life growing up

    and all I've ever known about him was how awful he was to my mom. I recently just met him and its alright. I went through a lot a few years ago when it was really new. Its not really a problem. Its just have every time I see him in reminded of the life I missed out on. There's...
    captivating23 captivating23
    22-25, F
    Dec 27, 2015

    Well

    i'm not afraid of being needy. it's just that being needy sucks. it's a real downer, very depressing. i love my independence, it means everything to me. but.. we're all needy at times. some too much vs some not enough and bounding back and forth between Until Balance is Finally...
    justwhatever123 justwhatever123
    26-30, F
    Jan 5, 2011

    I've never been very good at admitting I need

    another person...I'm unlikely to tell you..but inside I'm just one big mass of craving. I want to sink into your skin and wrap myself around your insides...and that still wouldn't be close enough.
    kuronekko kuronekko
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Mar 15

    Why am I so needy? Why am I

    so dependent on him? When he doesn't talk to me it tears me apart. When I'm not with him I get really depressed really quick. All I want to do is just be with him all the time. I can't do this though. This doesn't surprise me. I don't deserve to be happy even ways.
    Imjustdone Imjustdone
    18-21, M
    1 Response Apr 27, 2014

    Owning It...

    No one wants to be, but the truth is all of us are. Some of us need reassurance. Some of us need love. Some of us need acceptance. Some of us need all of that because they tend to go hand in hand. Some of us need attention. Some of us need to feel wanted. Some of us need to...
    kittysoftpaws kittysoftpaws
    36-40, F
    Mar 14, 2013
    Niceguy890 Niceguy890
    26-30, M
    Mar 16

    Fear?

    I don't think I am afraid of being too needy. I think I AM needy. I am starting to think that actually, its perfectly reasonable. Its a fact and it's just how things are at the moment. I have a hell of a lot I am trying to deal with and I am not a strong person. I try, but I am...
    jellibeanz jellibeanz
    26-30, F
    4 Responses Feb 11, 2011

    The Reason

    I have this need for people. I have this need to feel needed or wanted. I try so hard to control this need. I won't initiate a conversation with somebody for weeks in fear of appearing too needy. When I was dating my (now) ex, I was so afraid of coming off as needy. He was...
    SavedByHim SavedByHim
    18-21, F
    2 Responses May 11, 2012

    I Think I Am Too Needy

    At least, Im having a needy patch right now.  I apologise in advance for being incredibly self indulgent and pitying.   In fact, its sooo pathetic Im stuggling to write it.   I dont want to be so - reliant, on other peoples opinions.  But I can't seem to...
    auroraaustralis auroraaustralis
    22-25
    7 Responses Jun 4, 2009

    So I've been talking to this guy Sam.

    He kinda makes my day perfect. He's the only thing I look forward to. When we're not together we are almost always texting. But there are sometimes where he just doesn't text me. I break down during these times. I get really sad and overreact when he doesn't text me. Like for...
    Imjustdone Imjustdone
    18-21, M
    Apr 24, 2014

    I'm needy, and I know it.

    I get really attached and all I want is for you to want to be with me as much as I want to be with you. I want you to try and communicate with me as much as possible. And I want you to not tell me one thing and then not follow through. I'm so aggravated but I'm silent.
    itcuddles itcuddles
    18-21, F
    9 Responses Dec 29, 2015

    I'm pretty much all or nothing.

    If we are friends or in a relationship, I'm all in. The whole goal is to last. So yes, I like messages. Not every two seconds but I will wait all day on people. I won't complain or get mad, I will just wait. I want to talk to you and be there all the time. I need people there...
    LoserLibbySama LoserLibbySama
    16-17, F
    Dec 30, 2015

    Needy And Introverted

    Well... I don't really know where to start. I am just a very clingy person, and I can't help it. I'm a very introverted, very to-myself type of girl... I have friends, but not friends I hang out with on a regular basis and I'm not really close with them. My cupcake is my best...
    MPDGirl MPDGirl
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Feb 26, 2013

    Omg this is one of the emotions I hate the most

    is to feel needy, I cant explain it but it drives me insane . 99% of the time I just keep it to myself you would have to really be paying attention an know me very well to pick up on it.
    beautifullybroken29 beautifullybroken29
    26-30, F
    1 Response Dec 28, 2015

    I didnt have a dad in my life growing up

    and all I've ever known about him was how awful he was to my mom. I recently just met him and its alright. I went through a lot a few years ago when it was really new. Its not really a problem. Its just have every time I see him in reminded of the life I missed out on. There's...
    captivating23 captivating23
    22-25, F
    Dec 27, 2015

    Even Though I Like Living Alone

    When I lived at home, I had my mom, dad, sister, brothers, and assorted pets. I never thought I could cope alone. It's been three and half years now where I've been living in this apartment . It's a block and a half from my childhood home, in the same neighborhood...but Mom and...
    MaryJanine MaryJanine
    61-65, F
    Sep 14, 2013

    I Want People To Talk To Me, But I Am Scared

    Maybe I am just codependent and independent at the same time...IDK. I want to talk to someone, and I look froward to contact with others (like literally, I say "1,1,1, please let me have 1" or something like that when I get here, like one orange thing or mail) Because I want...
    Naliruns Naliruns
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Jan 18, 2011

    if I really get attached to someone I get

    separation anxiety and sometimes it comes off as me being needy. just wish I didn't feel that way sometimes
    Alexismarie9314 Alexismarie9314
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Dec 28, 2015
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