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I Am Afraid of Being Too Needy

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    Needy And Introverted

    Well... I don't really know where to start. I am just a very clingy person, and I can't help it. I'm a very introverted, very to-myself type of girl... I have friends, but not friends I hang out with on a regular basis and I'm not really close with them. My cupcake is my best...
    MPDGirl MPDGirl 31-35, F 1 Response Feb 26, 2013

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    I’m Not Talking About Material Need; I’m Talking About The Emotional Kind

    i've been on the receiving end of needy before. i know how stifling it feels to be needed by someone when you don't feel that symbiotic need in return. the unfulfilled need of another can leave a host with a sense its life force is being drained—it’s worse to me, even, than...
    WoobieTuesday WoobieTuesday 36-40, F 10 Responses Apr 24, 2011

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    Well

    i'm not afraid of being needy. it's just that being needy sucks. it's a real downer, very depressing. i love my independence, it means everything to me. but.. we're all needy at times. some too much vs some not enough and bounding back and forth between Until Balance is Finally...
    justwhatever123 justwhatever123 26-30, F Jan 5, 2011

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    I need advice.. My bf is an international

    graduate student. He says he doesn't have much time for me because school is so demanding. We see each other once, sometimes twice a week for dinner and he usually sends me only 1 text a day. He told me things would be better once the spring semester begins because he needs to...
    mary1277 mary1277 26-30, F Jan 19

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    I Want People To Talk To Me, But I Am Scared

    Maybe I am just codependent and independent at the same time...IDK. I want to talk to someone, and I look froward to contact with others (like literally, I say "1,1,1, please let me have 1" or something like that when I get here, like one orange thing or mail) Because I want...
    Naliruns Naliruns 18-21, F 3 Responses Jan 18, 2011

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    Why am I so needy? Why am I

    so dependent on him? When he doesn't talk to me it tears me apart. When I'm not with him I get really depressed really quick. All I want to do is just be with him all the time. I can't do this though. This doesn't surprise me. I don't deserve to be happy even ways.
    Imjustdone Imjustdone 16-17, M 1 Response Apr 27

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    The Reason

    I have this need for people. I have this need to feel needed or wanted. I try so hard to control this need. I won't initiate a conversation with somebody for weeks in fear of appearing too needy. When I was dating my (now) ex, I was so afraid of coming off as needy. He was...
    SavedByHim SavedByHim 18-21, F May 11, 2012

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    Owning It...

    No one wants to be, but the truth is all of us are. Some of us need reassurance. Some of us need love. Some of us need acceptance. Some of us need all of that because they tend to go hand in hand. Some of us need attention. Some of us need to feel wanted. Some of us need to...
    kittysoftpaws kittysoftpaws 36-40, F Mar 14, 2013

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    I Think I Am Too Needy

    At least, Im having a needy patch right now.  I apologise in advance for being incredibly self indulgent and pitying.   In fact, its sooo pathetic Im stuggling to write it.   I dont want to be so - reliant, on other peoples opinions.  But I can't seem to...
    auroraaustralis auroraaustralis 22-25 7 Responses Jun 4, 2009

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    So Desperate

    I am so desperate for reassurance right now I could scream.  In the past I would have been having a complete meltdown, but through hard work I am gaining insight into my emotions.  I want someone to tell me what to do, when to do it, and exactly how to do it.  I have no...
    soleil321 soleil321 31-35 Aug 10, 2011

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    Even Though I Like Living Alone

    When I lived at home, I had my mom, dad, sister, brothers, and assorted pets. I never thought I could cope alone. It's been three and half years now where I've been living in this apartment . It's a block and a half from my childhood home, in the same neighborhood...but Mom and...
    MaryJanine MaryJanine 56-60, F Sep 14, 2013

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    Probably Because I've Been Called Needy

                                       ~~~~  I know that I can across as very needy & dependent. I've...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Apr 6, 2009

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    Warning: This Is A Needy Post.

    I have been scarred by my past. As I look over my 30 years of existence, I am saddened by all of the times that people who said that they loved me and always would be there for me went back on their word. These relationships have left behind me a lifetime littered with...
    PrincessPumpkin81 PrincessPumpkin81 31-35, F 3 Responses Jul 1, 2012

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    So I've been talking to this guy Sam.

    He kinda makes my day perfect. He's the only thing I look forward to. When we're not together we are almost always texting. But there are sometimes where he just doesn't text me. I break down during these times. I get really sad and overreact when he doesn't text me. Like for...
    Imjustdone Imjustdone 16-17, M Apr 24

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    Fear?

    I don't think I am afraid of being too needy. I think I AM needy. I am starting to think that actually, its perfectly reasonable. Its a fact and it's just how things are at the moment. I have a hell of a lot I am trying to deal with and I am not a strong person. I try, but I am...
    jellibeanz jellibeanz 26-30, F 3 Responses Feb 11, 2011

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    Worry

    I need to talk stuff out and have a friend more then people know even online but i'm afraid if I bug someone they'll be annoyed and not like me :(
    Jason255 Jason255 16-17, M 2 Responses Nov 28, 2013

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    I don't know what to say. I push people away so this doesn't happen :(
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    I hate it but it's not going to change.
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    I hate it but it's not going to change.
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    Okay... I like being a girl sometimes.. But im gonna tell you what it's really like being a women... CONS/ Periods: don't even get me started<--- haha get it? Anyways... It...
    Angelwuvsyu Angelwuvsyu 16-17, F 4 Responses Aug 26

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    When a guy is being too friendly to me and is very funny i usually think im falling for him and how we look like in bed.
    Elleshore81 Elleshore81 31-35, F 1 Response Aug 24

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    I feel like this is my worst character trait and it makes me feel like a real freak. I'm not sure if it was because of my rape at 14.. Or if it's because years later after the rape...
    SubmissiveSecrets SubmissiveSecrets 18-21, F 3 Responses Aug 26

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    Okay so I feels as if boys don't have to try as hard to ask girls out because it's considered the norm in our society, like with proposals and stuff it's normally the male. However...
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    Can you blame me? Father walked out on us when I was 3, I was molested by a relative at 8, bullied from elementary school up until HS. String of intensely close friendships where...
    Lov3intheasylum Lov3intheasylum 31-35, F Aug 28

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    I have a date on Saturday. The guy's cute and nice and whatever I guess, but I am so afraid. He's pretty muscular because of basic training and I don't know why but when guys are...
    sarcasm4427 sarcasm4427 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 3

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    I am not afraid to let go. I am not afraid to cut negative people out of my life. I am not afraid to love myself because you failed to do so. But I am afraid of never feeling the...
    brokenhearted7108 brokenhearted7108 31-35, F Aug 26

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    Or do I? Has anyone ever felt like they should lie because being honest can cause more fuss than it's worth? I often refuse to censor my language and you would drown in all the...
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    Okay first off, I'm not homeless poor but I also struggle. I'm still in high school, and I don't have a job at the time being. I feel like expressing myself right now, so if I...
    sapphireveins sapphireveins 16-17, F 2 Responses Aug 18

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    I'm afraid of dying a virgin. I'm afraid of dying without anyone to cry and miss me. I don't open to females. I'm not good enough. I haven't kissed a girl, seen a girl nude, been...
    CJCA CJCA 18-21, M 1 Response Aug 26

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    This is a silly thing to fear. I'm 39 years old, a veteran of two wars, and all sorts of other things that ought to make me fearless. Still, I'm afraid of rejection. It isn't...
    PhresnoPhoenix PhresnoPhoenix 36-40, M 4 Responses Aug 26

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    I am afraid of showing my true self to the world... I sincerely show my feeling to my friends but.. I am afraid of being me.. I don't hate me but I'm afraid other people would hate...
    hooncaramello hooncaramello 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 27

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    I'm afraid of being me, i'm always afraid of getting rejected , i'm afraid that no one will like me, i'm afraid they will judge me and hate me i'm scared to go somewhere because of...
    ActuallyGrace ActuallyGrace 13-15, F 3 Responses Aug 29

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    I just have too many things happening in my life right now to deal with people's sob stories. I can't handle it. Nobody wants to know about them but I would tolerate it for close...
    sociableTim sociableTim 31-35, M Aug 21

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    Christmas day 2013 4:00 am I arrived at the hospital due to an inability to sleep, anxiety, and a side pain. I was told I had an infection and that is was severe. They were going...
    LastofmyKind LastofmyKind 26-30, F 1 Response Aug 31

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    Im terribly afraid of dying alone not because I can't attract women i have met lots of girls that like me but I'm too cold hearted to like them back. There was this one girl who I...
    Youngnerd Youngnerd 16-17, M Sep 1

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    But really, how much would you charge if you'd been drawing artwork, with at least 18+ years of experience? If you had the skill to draw portraits, cartoon characters, book and...
    ArtofSunrise ArtofSunrise 22-25 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    For me, I don't like when people get close because I don't want them to know anything about me, not because I'm afraid of being hurt. I actually wish I was more talkative and had...
    Selphira Selphira 16-17, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    I am Very afraid of being rejected. You would think as often as I have been rejected though that it would be an easy thing to get over now. It is not. When I want to be with...
    Raptax231 Raptax231 18-21, M 1 Response 1 day ago

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    Before I start, please know I try to do all I can to be a great mom to my SD. I am involved with her school/ activities, homework, I take her places, make her meals, buy her...
    MargeSimpson31 MargeSimpson31 31-35, F 3 Responses Aug 29

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    I love someone, he was once my close friend, we sometimes spend our times together, swimming, bicycling, and many more. Everytime i looked at his face, i just want to say, i love...
    Freimm Freimm 16-17, F 1 Response Sep 7

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    Once i get my hopes togheter it falls apart , i'm afraid to love people i'm afraid to get my hopes togheter again , i'm afraid that i will expect to much
    ActuallyGrace ActuallyGrace 13-15, F Sep 7

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    I have a friend who is truly not afraid to be herself. She's blunt with her interests and doesn't care what others think. The first time she met my sister openly told her she was...
    blueamber blueamber 22-25, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    Afraid my entire life that I never went forward; so much that I always ran away even when I was approached. Finally, two months ago, I decided to do something about it. I was sick...
    asert12345678 asert12345678 31-35, M 3 Responses Aug 25

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    Some years ago I took part in a workshop called Actualization - focusing on supporting people to be more "actual" - or, actually who they are - no more no less. This doesnt mean...
    ToniaMV ToniaMV 31-35, F 3 Responses Aug 30

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    This is what I found, posted one year ago. Things have changed, but I believed we would be the ones to work out. "The One The Works Out Sometimes it works out. I'm a work in...
    chasinglesun chasinglesun 18-21, F 3 Responses Sep 1

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    Because of something bad happening to me. There was a time when I trusted everyone, but now I don't trust anyone. It might be, because I have been taken advantage of by women and...
    Sara600 Sara600 56-60, F 2 Responses Aug 22

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    So it's been a while since I've been here, it's almost the end of summer, and that means it's time to look back and reminisce. I've again stumbled upon something that has been...
    Zoey09 Zoey09 16-17, F Aug 24

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    I know we are all complicated beings and I'm no different. However I complicate my life further by not being honest about my sexual orientation. I can admit to close friends that I...
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