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I Am Afraid of Being Too Needy

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 300 People

    I’m Not Talking About Material Need; I’m Talking About The Emotional Kind

    i've been on the receiving end of needy before. i know how stifling it feels to be needed by someone when you don't feel that symbiotic need in return. the unfulfilled need of another can leave a host with a sense its life force is being drained—it’s worse to me, even, than...
    WoobieTuesday WoobieTuesday 36-40, F 10 Responses Apr 24, 2011

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    Well

    i'm not afraid of being needy. it's just that being needy sucks. it's a real downer, very depressing. i love my independence, it means everything to me. but.. we're all needy at times. some too much vs some not enough and bounding back and forth between Until Balance is Finally...
    justwhatever123 justwhatever123 26-30, F Jan 5, 2011

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    Owning It...

    No one wants to be, but the truth is all of us are. Some of us need reassurance. Some of us need love. Some of us need acceptance. Some of us need all of that because they tend to go hand in hand. Some of us need attention. Some of us need to feel wanted. Some of us need to...
    kittysoftpaws kittysoftpaws 36-40, F Mar 14, 2013

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    So Desperate

    I am so desperate for reassurance right now I could scream.  In the past I would have been having a complete meltdown, but through hard work I am gaining insight into my emotions.  I want someone to tell me what to do, when to do it, and exactly how to do it.  I have no...
    soleil321 soleil321 31-35 Aug 10, 2011

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    Warning: This Is A Needy Post.

    I have been scarred by my past. As I look over my 30 years of existence, I am saddened by all of the times that people who said that they loved me and always would be there for me went back on their word. These relationships have left behind me a lifetime littered with...
    PrincessPumpkin81 PrincessPumpkin81 31-35, F 3 Responses Jul 1, 2012

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    The Reason

    I have this need for people. I have this need to feel needed or wanted. I try so hard to control this need. I won't initiate a conversation with somebody for weeks in fear of appearing too needy. When I was dating my (now) ex, I was so afraid of coming off as needy. He was...
    SavedByHim SavedByHim 18-21, F May 11, 2012

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    Why am I so needy? Why am I

    so dependent on him? When he doesn't talk to me it tears me apart. When I'm not with him I get really depressed really quick. All I want to do is just be with him all the time. I can't do this though. This doesn't surprise me. I don't deserve to be happy even ways.
    Imjustdone Imjustdone 16-17, M 1 Response Apr 27

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    I need advice.. My bf is an international

    graduate student. He says he doesn't have much time for me because school is so demanding. We see each other once, sometimes twice a week for dinner and he usually sends me only 1 text a day. He told me things would be better once the spring semester begins because he needs to...
    mary1277 mary1277 26-30, F Jan 19

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    I Think I Am Too Needy

    At least, Im having a needy patch right now.  I apologise in advance for being incredibly self indulgent and pitying.   In fact, its sooo pathetic Im stuggling to write it.   I dont want to be so - reliant, on other peoples opinions.  But I can't seem to...
    auroraaustralis auroraaustralis 22-25 7 Responses Jun 4, 2009

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    Probably Because I've Been Called Needy

                                       ~~~~  I know that I can across as very needy & dependent. I've...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Apr 6, 2009

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    I Want People To Talk To Me, But I Am Scared

    Maybe I am just codependent and independent at the same time...IDK. I want to talk to someone, and I look froward to contact with others (like literally, I say "1,1,1, please let me have 1" or something like that when I get here, like one orange thing or mail) Because I want...
    Naliruns Naliruns 18-21, F 3 Responses Jan 18, 2011

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    Needy And Introverted

    Well... I don't really know where to start. I am just a very clingy person, and I can't help it. I'm a very introverted, very to-myself type of girl... I have friends, but not friends I hang out with on a regular basis and I'm not really close with them. My cupcake is my best...
    MPDGirl MPDGirl 31-35, F 1 Response Feb 26, 2013

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    Worry

    I need to talk stuff out and have a friend more then people know even online but i'm afraid if I bug someone they'll be annoyed and not like me :(
    Jason255 Jason255 16-17, M 2 Responses Nov 28, 2013

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    Even Though I Like Living Alone

    When I lived at home, I had my mom, dad, sister, brothers, and assorted pets. I never thought I could cope alone. It's been three and half years now where I've been living in this apartment . It's a block and a half from my childhood home, in the same neighborhood...but Mom and...
    MaryJanine MaryJanine 56-60, F Sep 14, 2013

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    So I've been talking to this guy Sam.

    He kinda makes my day perfect. He's the only thing I look forward to. When we're not together we are almost always texting. But there are sometimes where he just doesn't text me. I break down during these times. I get really sad and overreact when he doesn't text me. Like for...
    Imjustdone Imjustdone 16-17, M Apr 24

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    I only notice it when it's too late.

    It naturally drives people away and I can't help but understand that nobody wants to be latched onto. Hell, even I don't. So what's the deal you ask? I couldn't tell you even if I wanted to. All I can do at this point is guess that it stems from a lack of security as a child or...
    Cyborg123 Cyborg123 22-25, M 1 Response a week ago

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    Fear?

    I don't think I am afraid of being too needy. I think I AM needy. I am starting to think that actually, its perfectly reasonable. Its a fact and it's just how things are at the moment. I have a hell of a lot I am trying to deal with and I am not a strong person. I try, but I am...
    jellibeanz jellibeanz 26-30, F 3 Responses Feb 11, 2011

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    I am ready to have friends hang out but im afraid its too late..meh :(
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    Is there such thing as being too nice? Yes. I believe people think I'm a creep when I'm being too nice. That has caused a lot of them to stop talking to me. I'm sorry though, but...
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    I used to worry about being too heavy until I started to think that being chubby was hot and decided to get much fatter. Since then I've gained over 50 lbs and getting bigger. I...
    iamflabby iamflabby 16-17, M 2 Responses Dec 12

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    15 years old and 5 flat. What happened to the me that used to be complimented for being too tall for her age? (I swear they all jinxed me.)
    TheSociallyAwkwardTurtle TheSociallyAwkwardTurtle 13-15, F Dec 7

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    I try to do the opposite when I feel needy...step back hide my feelings but sometimes it's really hard
    StoneWall77 StoneWall77 36-40, F 5 hrs ago

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    ...but I am. I have not just fallen. It's more like the whole damn cliff just gave way beneath me. Emotional walls that no one else has come close to breaching have absolutely...
    EmeraldDreams12 EmeraldDreams12 18-21 1 Response 6 hrs ago

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    Hello. I am very interested in being an online slave to a mistress. I am naturally submissive and will follow all orders given to me. I desire to be humiliated and controlled...
    763evann 763evann 18-21, M 6 hrs ago

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    I think maybe I learned how to be afraid when I was really little. Afraid of my dad coming home. Afraid of the big kids on the playground. Afraid that I wouldn't ever have a lot of...
    cyclone80 cyclone80 31-35, M 2 Responses a week ago

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    why would someone be afraid of coming across mature content? I mean, it's not like it's going to shoot you in the face if you look at it. :p
    MeowOnMe MeowOnMe 18-21, F 8 Responses 6 hrs ago

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    I'm sorry for the lengthy post... I just watched Geography Club and it got me regretting how long it took me to come out, and then explore as to why that was.... One of the things...
    jbar291 jbar291 18-21, M Dec 12

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    I'm sorry for the lengthy post... I just watched Geography Club and it got me regretting how long it took me to come out, and then explore as to why that was.... One of the things...
    jbar291 jbar291 18-21, M 2 Responses Dec 12

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    The below all happened because I think and look into things far to much and the person that this is meant for I am sorry x This week has been such a rollacoaster of a week well...
    Sirwithherkey Sirwithherkey 31-35, M 1 Response Nov 21

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    By love I don't mean guys or anything...and I don't mean losing people to death. But I am afraid of losing my friends and family, that they will stop caring about me or I will do...
    prznaroosak prznaroosak 26-30, F 1 Response Dec 6

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    Don't compare me to anyone.Their lives are different from mine. We have different stories. Yes,i am hurt. I thought you're different but like the others,you doubted me too. Again...
    LamPake LamPake 26-30, F 48 mins ago

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    Please do not add me if you are overly needy.I'm sorry if you message me 20 times a day ,and i don't respond to all your PM's .I try to respond to everyone but it gets hard...
    1prettygirl 1prettygirl 36-40, F 9 Responses Nov 21

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    I was looking through my experiences, and they are chock full of I want this, I want that, all related to a close friend or person of the opposite sex, and I realized that I'm...
    4EVRANDEVR 4EVRANDEVR 16-17, F Dec 10

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    my name is Daniel,i live in kiserian kenya and deal with needy kids,last month we recorded more than 200 girls who did their primary education examination and now need to get to...
    KISERIAN KISERIAN 36-40, M Dec 12

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    You may mess up, but you are not a mess up. You may make a mistake, but you are not a mistake. You may screw up, but you are not a screw up. You may fail, but you...
    torr62 torr62 13-15, F 6 days ago

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    Afraid I'm afraid to write the words that i feel because of the grip that they have on my soul. Afraid to know that what and who I love is the wrong thing. Afraid of losing my...
    taurusboi23 taurusboi23 22-25, M Nov 23

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    "But the world needs more people like you!" Really? More unassertive, socially anxious, idealistic dreamers? People who don't like to compete because you're too afraid of...
    BigBlittleb123 BigBlittleb123 16-17, M 1 Response Nov 25

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    I bottle everything up. I'm not very talkative. I'm not how I used to be. I don't tell secrets to many people. I don't like but I do like getting close to people. I like to read...
    ForeverANomad ForeverANomad 13-15, F 2 Responses Dec 2

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    I've always felt afraid to let people get close to me both physically and emotionally. I think this is why I have never dated someone or I get choked up when someone asks me on a...
    LilFA LilFA 18-21, F 2 Responses Nov 22

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    I thought I wrote this here before, but I guess I was mistaken. It’s probably buried somewhere on my hard drive. Either way, it's on my mind and I'm going to write about it again...
    GiantKaiju GiantKaiju 22-25, M Dec 8

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    So I've been an only child for my whole life, and I've been happy. Change is the only thing I have ever really feared. But. . .today my mother told told me she's pregnant, and...
    PadfootPandora PadfootPandora 16-17, F 1 day ago

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    I've grown up being as heavy as I am now (obviously I didn't pop out the womb at 280 but you get my point lol) and it used to bother the marbles out of me. it started when I was...
    lmcrepsley lmcrepsley 18-21, T 2 Responses a week ago

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    There is this guy I used to work with that I have been liking for some time now. He is somebody different from the guys that I usually would date, which is a good thing. I told him...
    whitnaye whitnaye 18-21, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    not sure if I'm afraid anymore...I'm just used to it right now, I've been rejected by every girl I ever liked or cared about (possibly loved), people says "have confidence"...well...
    Muramasa Muramasa 18-21, M 1 Response 22 hrs ago

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