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I Am Afraid of Being Too Needy

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    I Want People To Talk To Me, But I Am Scared

    Maybe I am just codependent and independent at the same time...IDK. I want to talk to someone, and I look froward to contact with others (like literally, I say "1,1,1, please let me have 1" or something like that when I get here, like one orange thing or mail) Because I want...
    Naliruns Naliruns 18-21, F 3 Responses Jan 18, 2011

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    Owning It...

    No one wants to be, but the truth is all of us are. Some of us need reassurance. Some of us need love. Some of us need acceptance. Some of us need all of that because they tend to go hand in hand. Some of us need attention. Some of us need to feel wanted. Some of us need to...
    kittysoftpaws kittysoftpaws 36-40, F Mar 14, 2013

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    Needy And Introverted

    Well... I don't really know where to start. I am just a very clingy person, and I can't help it. I'm a very introverted, very to-myself type of girl... I have friends, but not friends I hang out with on a regular basis and I'm not really close with them. My cupcake is my best...
    MPDGirl MPDGirl 31-35, F 1 Response Feb 26, 2013

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    Probably Because I've Been Called Needy

                                       ~~~~  I know that I can across as very needy & dependent. I've...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Apr 6, 2009

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    I’m Not Talking About Material Need; I’m Talking About The Emotional Kind

    i've been on the receiving end of needy before. i know how stifling it feels to be needed by someone when you don't feel that symbiotic need in return. the unfulfilled need of another can leave a host with a sense its life force is being drained—it’s worse to me, even, than...
    WoobieTuesday WoobieTuesday 36-40, F 10 Responses Apr 24, 2011

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    The Reason

    I have this need for people. I have this need to feel needed or wanted. I try so hard to control this need. I won't initiate a conversation with somebody for weeks in fear of appearing too needy. When I was dating my (now) ex, I was so afraid of coming off as needy. He was...
    SavedByHim SavedByHim 18-21, F May 11, 2012

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    So Desperate

    I am so desperate for reassurance right now I could scream.  In the past I would have been having a complete meltdown, but through hard work I am gaining insight into my emotions.  I want someone to tell me what to do, when to do it, and exactly how to do it.  I have no...
    soleil321 soleil321 31-35 Aug 10, 2011

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    I need advice.. My bf is an international

    graduate student. He says he doesn't have much time for me because school is so demanding. We see each other once, sometimes twice a week for dinner and he usually sends me only 1 text a day. He told me things would be better once the spring semester begins because he needs to...
    mary1277 mary1277 26-30, F Jan 19

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    Warning: This Is A Needy Post.

    I have been scarred by my past. As I look over my 30 years of existence, I am saddened by all of the times that people who said that they loved me and always would be there for me went back on their word. These relationships have left behind me a lifetime littered with...
    RoxannaDW RoxannaDW 31-35, F 4 Responses Jul 1, 2012

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    Worry

    I need to talk stuff out and have a friend more then people know even online but i'm afraid if I bug someone they'll be annoyed and not like me :(
    Jason255 Jason255 13-15, M 2 Responses Nov 28, 2013

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    Even Though I Like Living Alone

    When I lived at home, I had my mom, dad, sister, brothers, and assorted pets. I never thought I could cope alone. It's been three and half years now where I've been living in this apartment . It's a block and a half from my childhood home, in the same neighborhood...but Mom and...
    MaryJanine MaryJanine 56-60, F Sep 14, 2013

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    Well

    i'm not afraid of being needy. it's just that being needy sucks. it's a real downer, very depressing. i love my independence, it means everything to me. but.. we're all needy at times. some too much vs some not enough and bounding back and forth between Until Balance is Finally...
    justwhatever123 justwhatever123 26-30, F Jan 5, 2011

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    Fear?

    I don't think I am afraid of being too needy. I think I AM needy. I am starting to think that actually, its perfectly reasonable. Its a fact and it's just how things are at the moment. I have a hell of a lot I am trying to deal with and I am not a strong person. I try, but I am...
    jellibeanz jellibeanz 26-30, F 3 Responses Feb 11, 2011

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    I Think I Am Too Needy

    At least, Im having a needy patch right now.  I apologise in advance for being incredibly self indulgent and pitying.   In fact, its sooo pathetic Im stuggling to write it.   I dont want to be so - reliant, on other peoples opinions.  But I can't seem to...
    auroraaustralis auroraaustralis 22-25 7 Responses Jun 4, 2009

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    Yesterday he went to church with some girl went to go get her at her car brought her in sat with her and took her back to her car so say goodbye. We aren't official but we do...
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    I am a loser for love. I easily fall in love and people take advantage of that when they see it happening. It sucks though. Because I just want to be in a relationship where there...
    rosaserick rosaserick 16-17, M 1 Response Apr 12

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    Part 1. All my life I have been a people pleaser - even when I was little as I was the youngest in the family I was a "go-for" I very rarely said no and I just did as I was told. I...
    cailinAlainn cailinAlainn 36-40, F 3 hrs ago

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    Well as the title says, I'm afraid I will never find anyone to really love me, I know I'm very young and all but most of my friends already had their first kiss, their first...
    IHateUsernames0 IHateUsernames0 13-15, M 4 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    2 years ago, I met a boy, someone I really loved, yet being young I couldnt even recognise love let alone grasp the concept. So anyway things between me and him were great for a...
    missyy27 missyy27 16-17, F 4 Responses 8 hrs ago

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    I used to be active, but the energy is gone. I want to do things, but it seems, I cannot find the motivation to get out and do things. The exertion necessary to leave the house and...
    wiegehts wiegehts 36-40 6 hrs ago

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    Ever since this girl first walked into our school for the first time, I couldn't take my eyes off her, and I know I probably wasn't the only one gazing at her beauty. Through my...
    elugo123456789 elugo123456789 18-21, M Apr 4

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    Ever since this girl first walked into our school for the first time, I couldn't take my eyes off her, and I know I probably wasn't the only one gazing at her beauty. Through my...
    elugo123456789 elugo123456789 18-21, M Apr 3

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    Ever since this girl first walked into our school for the first time, I couldn't take my eyes off her, and I know I probably wasn't the only one gazing at her beauty. Through my...
    elugo123456789 elugo123456789 18-21, M Apr 4

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    Ever since this girl first walked into our school for the first time, I couldn't take my eyes off her, and I know I probably wasn't the only one gazing at her beauty. Through my...
    elugo123456789 elugo123456789 18-21, M Apr 7

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    how can I improve sex with my husband?i love him but sex..?..leaves much to be desired.I like what he doing with me or intends to do but is always too rough or too slow....he...
    whiteangel69 whiteangel69 41-45, F 1 Response 7 hrs ago

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    It sucks when you're ignored by the person whose attention is the only thing you want in the world. Ever since this girl first walked into our school, I couldn’t take my eyes...
    elugo123456789 elugo123456789 18-21, M Apr 2

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    I'm a 16 year old girl. My whole life I have been trying to make my parents proud, but I've never been able to socialize properly with kids my age, I was always numb or upset...
    AGirlSearchingForAnswers AGirlSearchingForAnswers 16-17, F 1 Response Apr 10

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    I get intense feelings that turn into anxiety/panic attacks every time I think about dying. And it's over the silliest of things, I could be looking down at my hands and just...
    boyda12 boyda12 18-21, F 1 Response Apr 3

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    I'm afraid I'll be alone because I mess up any opportunities I've managed to get. Being shy and not very attractive didn't help me in school. I never had a date until I was 21 and...
    itssmee itssmee 18-21, F 4 Responses Apr 4

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    "Getting in too deep" I'm deeply afraid to get too close to my boyfriend. Don't get me wrong, I am truly head over heels for him, and I haven't felt this way in a long time since...
    takethispain takethispain 18-21, F a week ago

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    She balanced precariously on the razor's edge, looking back, trying to decide if she was at the tipping point. A voice called to her and she turned her gaze on to him. He was...
    chastewhisperer chastewhisperer 41-45, F 6 hrs ago

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    I don't even know why? Im ok with being alone I even needed at times a break from people,but after a while of not talking to the people im close to or care about I start to get...
    seeminglypossible seeminglypossible 22-25, F 1 Response Apr 5

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    Honestly like, I hate guys who just come right out and are instantly like attatched to you. Like don't get me wrong, I don't want there to be someone else, i want to be the only...
    kxCobra kxCobra 18-21, F 5 Responses Apr 12

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    And I wish I was one of those people, I wish I can be honest about my feelings with people without being afraid to hurt them. I hide my negative feelings from people, I don't want...
    Alitakate Alitakate 18-21, F 10 Responses Mar 28

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    They say you have to love yourself and being alone with yourself before you can truly appreciate life and love other people. I have been stuck in an unhappy relationship for two...
    narwhal92 narwhal92 22-25, F 3 Responses Apr 2

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    ***Post of the Day*** Find out more at: www.facebook.com/FavorUponYou It's funny - I'm actually a #Muslim! The term used to conjure up images of backward Bedouin Arabs living far...
    FavorUponYou FavorUponYou 22-25, M 1 Response 4 days ago

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    I am afraid that I'll end up alone. I have loved and been loved. But sometimes love just isn't enough. Not when you push that person away... When you push them away so much that...
    maraselene maraselene 16-17, F 2 Responses Apr 6

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    BRAVO! Nothing worst than someone conforming to peer pressure and being like "sisters" by copying and being exactly like their friends - imitating the same behavior and do what...
    MilweePisces MilweePisces 18-21, F 1 Response Apr 9

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    My wife spends all her time with her like they are married. There is nothing wrong with my mother in law. She has always been pampered and my wife takes it hook line and sinker...
    beachesr beachesr 36-40, M Apr 9

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    Well for the last 10 years I have been married and over the last 3 years I now fear my wife emotionally. Since we had our first child life has slowly gone to ****. After our first...
    cyborg333 cyborg333 36-40, M 2 Responses Apr 9

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    But is that really a bad thing? He makes me feel like I'm crazy. Like I shouldn't be so dependent on him. But if he felt that way about me, it would make me so happy. He never felt...
    acidxxxfire acidxxxfire 18-21, F 4 Responses 3 days ago

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    I am somewhat afraid I will end up alone because I know that when I get bored in relationships I get bored and there is usually no going back...until I've alone for a few months...
    windynight54321 windynight54321 31-35, M Apr 4

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    I used to be so afraid of having an opinion or speaking my mind; just so so afraid of being wrong and then being made fun of/rejected. it was one of my greatest fears considering...
    aftersomeday aftersomeday 13-15, F 1 Response Apr 8

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    I'm afraid of losing my father , not least because he is family, but also because I did not want to lose it all , I love my dad , but I love my mom too, both are the best we have...
    ferrer95 ferrer95 18-21, F 1 Response Apr 13

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    A woman who is afraid of driving – the men would chuckle amongst themselves, and other women would tsk-tsk for me living up to the stereotypes (Don't you just hate that? Getting...
    EmmaLong EmmaLong 26-30, F 1 Response a week ago

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    I think life is too short to live in someone else's shadow. Therefore, I respect people who are proud of who they are, and don't bother trying to blend in with everybody else. I...
    lifeisatest lifeisatest 22-25, M 1 Response 3 days ago

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    I've been pushing away. I do like some guys, but when they actually take on the urge to ask me out. I get scared, afraid. So i reject them on the spot regardless if i hurt them or...
    Dapperness Dapperness 16-17, F 1 Response Mar 24

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    I do adore people who are not afraid to share their true feelings and emotions about things. I have always been someone who has always had a hard time sharing my thoughts and...
    NYSlilAngel NYSlilAngel 26-30, F 3 Responses Mar 26

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    Which I shouldn't be. I've been told I am fairly attractive. With that said, I don't look like a model. I live in a very shallow city. If you aren't supermodel in shape, and...
    ozwyn ozwyn 31-35, F 1 Response Apr 7

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    Fear of the unknown. It’s a vexing quality that nearly every person seems to possess. It’s a fear that has stifled the lives of all that have known it. I’m certainly no...
    GiantKaiju GiantKaiju 22-25, M 3 Responses Apr 11

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    I don't know why I'm afraid of men. But my best friend pointed it out today that I always have dreams where men are trying to get me. Just last night I had a dream that my friend...
    yourguardianangel9613 yourguardianangel9613 16-17, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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