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I Am Afraid of Being Too Needy

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    Why am I so needy? Why am I

    so dependent on him? When he doesn't talk to me it tears me apart. When I'm not with him I get really depressed really quick. All I want to do is just be with him all the time. I can't do this though. This doesn't surprise me. I don't deserve to be happy even ways.
    Imjustdone Imjustdone 16-17, M 1 Response Apr 27

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    So Desperate

    I am so desperate for reassurance right now I could scream.  In the past I would have been having a complete meltdown, but through hard work I am gaining insight into my emotions.  I want someone to tell me what to do, when to do it, and exactly how to do it.  I have no...
    soleil321 soleil321 31-35 Aug 10, 2011

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    Even Though I Like Living Alone

    When I lived at home, I had my mom, dad, sister, brothers, and assorted pets. I never thought I could cope alone. It's been three and half years now where I've been living in this apartment . It's a block and a half from my childhood home, in the same neighborhood...but Mom and...
    MaryJanine MaryJanine 56-60, F Sep 14, 2013

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    So I've been talking to this guy Sam.

    He kinda makes my day perfect. He's the only thing I look forward to. When we're not together we are almost always texting. But there are sometimes where he just doesn't text me. I break down during these times. I get really sad and overreact when he doesn't text me. Like for...
    Imjustdone Imjustdone 16-17, M Apr 24

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    Needy And Introverted

    Well... I don't really know where to start. I am just a very clingy person, and I can't help it. I'm a very introverted, very to-myself type of girl... I have friends, but not friends I hang out with on a regular basis and I'm not really close with them. My cupcake is my best...
    MPDGirl MPDGirl 31-35, F 1 Response Feb 26, 2013

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    Well

    i'm not afraid of being needy. it's just that being needy sucks. it's a real downer, very depressing. i love my independence, it means everything to me. but.. we're all needy at times. some too much vs some not enough and bounding back and forth between Until Balance is Finally...
    justwhatever123 justwhatever123 26-30, F Jan 5, 2011

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    I’m Not Talking About Material Need; I’m Talking About The Emotional Kind

    i've been on the receiving end of needy before. i know how stifling it feels to be needed by someone when you don't feel that symbiotic need in return. the unfulfilled need of another can leave a host with a sense its life force is being drained—it’s worse to me, even, than...
    WoobieTuesday WoobieTuesday 36-40, F 10 Responses Apr 24, 2011

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    I Want People To Talk To Me, But I Am Scared

    Maybe I am just codependent and independent at the same time...IDK. I want to talk to someone, and I look froward to contact with others (like literally, I say "1,1,1, please let me have 1" or something like that when I get here, like one orange thing or mail) Because I want...
    Naliruns Naliruns 18-21, F 3 Responses Jan 18, 2011

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    The Reason

    I have this need for people. I have this need to feel needed or wanted. I try so hard to control this need. I won't initiate a conversation with somebody for weeks in fear of appearing too needy. When I was dating my (now) ex, I was so afraid of coming off as needy. He was...
    SavedByHim SavedByHim 18-21, F May 11, 2012

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    I Think I Am Too Needy

    At least, Im having a needy patch right now.  I apologise in advance for being incredibly self indulgent and pitying.   In fact, its sooo pathetic Im stuggling to write it.   I dont want to be so - reliant, on other peoples opinions.  But I can't seem to...
    auroraaustralis auroraaustralis 22-25 7 Responses Jun 4, 2009

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    Owning It...

    No one wants to be, but the truth is all of us are. Some of us need reassurance. Some of us need love. Some of us need acceptance. Some of us need all of that because they tend to go hand in hand. Some of us need attention. Some of us need to feel wanted. Some of us need to...
    kittysoftpaws kittysoftpaws 36-40, F Mar 14, 2013

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    Worry

    I need to talk stuff out and have a friend more then people know even online but i'm afraid if I bug someone they'll be annoyed and not like me :(
    Jason255 Jason255 13-15, M 2 Responses Nov 28, 2013

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    Probably Because I've Been Called Needy

                                       ~~~~  I know that I can across as very needy & dependent. I've...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Apr 6, 2009

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    I need advice.. My bf is an international

    graduate student. He says he doesn't have much time for me because school is so demanding. We see each other once, sometimes twice a week for dinner and he usually sends me only 1 text a day. He told me things would be better once the spring semester begins because he needs to...
    mary1277 mary1277 26-30, F Jan 19

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    Warning: This Is A Needy Post.

    I have been scarred by my past. As I look over my 30 years of existence, I am saddened by all of the times that people who said that they loved me and always would be there for me went back on their word. These relationships have left behind me a lifetime littered with...
    PrincessPumpkin81 PrincessPumpkin81 31-35, F 3 Responses Jul 1, 2012

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    Fear?

    I don't think I am afraid of being too needy. I think I AM needy. I am starting to think that actually, its perfectly reasonable. Its a fact and it's just how things are at the moment. I have a hell of a lot I am trying to deal with and I am not a strong person. I try, but I am...
    jellibeanz jellibeanz 26-30, F 3 Responses Feb 11, 2011

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    I'm killing the last vestige of self-respect I have left, And I'm feeling completely stupid for it, But, I'm so needy today, Please, Talk with me.
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