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I Am Afraid of Being Too Needy

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 310 People

    Why am I so needy? Why am I

    so dependent on him? When he doesn't talk to me it tears me apart. When I'm not with him I get really depressed really quick. All I want to do is just be with him all the time. I can't do this though. This doesn't surprise me. I don't deserve to be happy even ways.
    Imjustdone Imjustdone 16-17, M 1 Response Apr 27, 2014

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    I Want People To Talk To Me, But I Am Scared

    Maybe I am just codependent and independent at the same time...IDK. I want to talk to someone, and I look froward to contact with others (like literally, I say "1,1,1, please let me have 1" or something like that when I get here, like one orange thing or mail) Because I want...
    Naliruns Naliruns 18-21, F 3 Responses Jan 18, 2011

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    So I've been talking to this guy Sam.

    He kinda makes my day perfect. He's the only thing I look forward to. When we're not together we are almost always texting. But there are sometimes where he just doesn't text me. I break down during these times. I get really sad and overreact when he doesn't text me. Like for...
    Imjustdone Imjustdone 16-17, M Apr 24, 2014

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    I need advice.. My bf is an international

    graduate student. He says he doesn't have much time for me because school is so demanding. We see each other once, sometimes twice a week for dinner and he usually sends me only 1 text a day. He told me things would be better once the spring semester begins because he needs to...
    mary1277 mary1277 26-30, F Jan 19, 2014

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    Fear?

    I don't think I am afraid of being too needy. I think I AM needy. I am starting to think that actually, its perfectly reasonable. Its a fact and it's just how things are at the moment. I have a hell of a lot I am trying to deal with and I am not a strong person. I try, but I am...
    jellibeanz jellibeanz 26-30, F 3 Responses Feb 11, 2011

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    I Think I Am Too Needy

    At least, Im having a needy patch right now.  I apologise in advance for being incredibly self indulgent and pitying.   In fact, its sooo pathetic Im stuggling to write it.   I dont want to be so - reliant, on other peoples opinions.  But I can't seem to...
    auroraaustralis auroraaustralis 22-25 7 Responses Jun 4, 2009

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    So Desperate

    I am so desperate for reassurance right now I could scream.  In the past I would have been having a complete meltdown, but through hard work I am gaining insight into my emotions.  I want someone to tell me what to do, when to do it, and exactly how to do it.  I have no...
    soleil321 soleil321 31-35 Aug 10, 2011

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    Needy And Introverted

    Well... I don't really know where to start. I am just a very clingy person, and I can't help it. I'm a very introverted, very to-myself type of girl... I have friends, but not friends I hang out with on a regular basis and I'm not really close with them. My cupcake is my best...
    MPDGirl MPDGirl 31-35, F 1 Response Feb 26, 2013

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    I only notice it when it's too late.

    It naturally drives people away and I can't help but understand that nobody wants to be latched onto. Hell, even I don't. So what's the deal you ask? I couldn't tell you even if I wanted to. All I can do at this point is guess that it stems from a lack of security as a child or...
    Cyborg123 Cyborg123 22-25, M 1 Response Dec 14, 2014

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    I’m Not Talking About Material Need; I’m Talking About The Emotional Kind

    i've been on the receiving end of needy before. i know how stifling it feels to be needed by someone when you don't feel that symbiotic need in return. the unfulfilled need of another can leave a host with a sense its life force is being drained—it’s worse to me, even, than...
    WoobieTuesday WoobieTuesday 36-40, F 10 Responses Apr 24, 2011

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    Owning It...

    No one wants to be, but the truth is all of us are. Some of us need reassurance. Some of us need love. Some of us need acceptance. Some of us need all of that because they tend to go hand in hand. Some of us need attention. Some of us need to feel wanted. Some of us need to...
    kittysoftpaws kittysoftpaws 36-40, F Mar 14, 2013

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    Warning: This Is A Needy Post.

    I have been scarred by my past. As I look over my 30 years of existence, I am saddened by all of the times that people who said that they loved me and always would be there for me went back on their word. These relationships have left behind me a lifetime littered with...
    PrincessPumpkin81 PrincessPumpkin81 31-35, F 3 Responses Jul 1, 2012

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    Well

    i'm not afraid of being needy. it's just that being needy sucks. it's a real downer, very depressing. i love my independence, it means everything to me. but.. we're all needy at times. some too much vs some not enough and bounding back and forth between Until Balance is Finally...
    justwhatever123 justwhatever123 26-30, F Jan 5, 2011

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    Probably Because I've Been Called Needy

                                       ~~~~  I know that I can across as very needy & dependent. I've...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Apr 6, 2009

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    Even Though I Like Living Alone

    When I lived at home, I had my mom, dad, sister, brothers, and assorted pets. I never thought I could cope alone. It's been three and half years now where I've been living in this apartment . It's a block and a half from my childhood home, in the same neighborhood...but Mom and...
    MaryJanine MaryJanine 56-60, F Sep 14, 2013

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    Worry

    I need to talk stuff out and have a friend more then people know even online but i'm afraid if I bug someone they'll be annoyed and not like me :(
    Jason255 Jason255 16-17, M 2 Responses Nov 28, 2013

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    The Reason

    I have this need for people. I have this need to feel needed or wanted. I try so hard to control this need. I won't initiate a conversation with somebody for weeks in fear of appearing too needy. When I was dating my (now) ex, I was so afraid of coming off as needy. He was...
    SavedByHim SavedByHim 18-21, F May 11, 2012

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    I lack friends because I can't stop thinking or worrying. it causes me to text or facebook message everyday. i know distance is good for friendships but i still think of a question...
    Selflesswarrior Selflesswarrior 26-30, M 1 Response Dec 29, 2014

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    It does not help that I have high anxiety . If I'm giving you my time . I need your attention . I try not to act like that but I cant help it
    Alylovespuppies Alylovespuppies 18-21, F 3 Responses Dec 28, 2014

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    Or rather that am never going to meet a cool, attractive, skinny girl. Ideally she'd be into something positive, something artistic and be into it passionately and not afraid of...
    Photons Photons 31-35, M 1 Response Jan 16

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    No man is an island. It is vital for our survival to belong, to fit in. However, not to the extent of being too alike with each other. We are called individuals for a reason. We...
    malipatient malipatient 26-30, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    Yeah, but no matter what I'll be judged like having too big boobs a bum, being too short being black :(
    ashleyrocksxoxo ashleyrocksxoxo 13-15, F 3 Responses Dec 28, 2014

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    One of the best things that I discovered while being alone is that you have a greater perception of things and people around you. You see them as they are, you observe their work...
    TheMisanthropeOtaku TheMisanthropeOtaku 18-21, M Jan 6

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    I wasn't all alone. I had support. But they didn't understand. They didn't hear the crying and moans. They didn't ride in taxis at 2am. They didnt feel the fear and didn't breathe...
    Acebo Acebo 18-21, F 2 Responses Dec 28, 2014

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    But I let her know it. So she's already the second one, among all the crushes I had, who knew that I am crushing on them. This one's from school. This is illogical but I get...
    kixisback kixisback 22-25 1 Response a week ago

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    I'm someone who is really friendly, I don't really say no to a good time. I work hard, I try to be as talented as I can, and I do a lot of things but no one seems to care. I just...
    LusiusBlack LusiusBlack 18-21, M 5 hrs ago

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    I'm not necessarily sure how to deal with my situation. Since I first met this guy I have always loved his personality, he is a genuine guy who cares for his future and is...
    Gonzalez0430 Gonzalez0430 16-17, F 6 hrs ago

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    I traveled to Kauai when I was 21 years old with $20 and a one way ticket to the airport. I wore my only foot wear, yellow haviannas, my yellow Jansport backpack, and hitch hiked...
    amberlaree amberlaree 22-25, F 4 hrs ago

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    After many years amassing countless hours rummaging through a variety of WebMD articles online, and any ruling out a multitude of various rare medical conditions based on a...
    bluemountains36 bluemountains36 36-40, M 2 Responses Jan 16

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    Putting it bluntly, love sucks. It hurts way too much. It is painful. Beyond anything that a person should ever have to deal with. I was in love once. Even though I was 19, it was...
    ManinNY ManinNY 41-45, M 1 Response Jan 13

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    We don't want to be patient anymore. We are becoming reluctant to exercise forgiveness. We hesitate to give second chances. It is no longer efficient or economical to FORGIVE If...
    DarkPathos DarkPathos 51-55, M 8 Responses 1 day ago

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    I feel no need to play head games or pretend.What you see is what you get if you like me great if not "have a nice day" I'm not changing who I am to please anyone for the sake of...
    AfanOfbigNaturals AfanOfbigNaturals 41-45, M Dec 26, 2014

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    Can We Break Free From the Fear of Missing Out? ------------------------------------------------------ Here’s a test you might enjoy: rate these scenarios on a number scale...
    AllStarcrushNate AllStarcrushNate 26-30, M 1 Response Dec 30, 2014

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    My ex beat my on multiple occasions over nothing. He has his issues but I really don't care to explain away his behaviors anymore. All I know is that he brutalized me, over and...
    thirdgirl thirdgirl 26-30, F 1 Response Jan 2

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    Hey! :) So yes as u probably had already seen im gay, well actualy im the only one who knows so i think it doesnt count... :p I fell deeply depressed some times because of this...
    Bral05 Bral05 18-21, M 2 Responses Jan 5

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    I’m really unclear as to why this has to be a group for women only. Are we pretending now that men never use power tools or are we just afraid to stand beside them and show that...
    ClaudNine ClaudNine 18-21, F 6 Responses 4 days ago

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    I am not afraid of dying, due to being suicidal in the past. I am not afraid of sadness because of depression. I am not afraid of being alone because I'm a loner. I'm not afraid to...
    tormentedinternally tormentedinternally 26-30, M 9 hrs ago

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    i met someone on other site couple of months ago and i attracted to one man. he is always sweet,gentle,we have similar interests..great talk. we got close to each other gradually...
    juryandrews juryandrews 31-35, F 3 Responses Jan 4

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    I'm afraid to grow up. I'm scared everything will fall. I'm terrified that I'll end up poor and become a failure. I'm afraid I'll be in debt my whole life. I barely even know what...
    HannahMarieX HannahMarieX 18-21 Jan 10

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    I am horribly, pathetically, afraid of this little being inside of me. Ever since I was young I loved being alone, everybody knew it and they didn't mind. Nowadays, it's like a...
    00Wieme00 00Wieme00 22-25, F 1 Response Jan 11

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    …and I never get bored of myself or hate myself... I love being myself at all times; perhaps I am a little narcissistic... Oh well, better than self hating, no? Although I don't...
    MissGaga MissGaga 22-25, F 3 Responses Jan 15

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    I'm afraid of settling with my boyfriend of eight years now. We've been living at his parents house since the beginning of our relationship, and things have remained exactly the...
    EmmyChi EmmyChi 22-25 Jan 12

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    This may be a slight tangent to the norm, but I am afraid of rejection, just not what one might normally consider when they think of this topic. I am deathly afraid of being...
    anna0593 anna0593 18-21, F Dec 26, 2014

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    I am afraid of many things in life. I am afraid of failure/success. I am afraid of being loved. I am getting better at learning to be loved. I am not sure what I am doing to make...
    socialskillstraining socialskillstraining 31-35, M Dec 30, 2014

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    Story Time: (Warning: This is kinda long) I will not be saying anyone's names in case anyone on here goes to my school. These are wonderful people, inspiring people, and I respect...
    xCrowSong xCrowSong 13-15, F 1 Response Jan 11

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    Sometimes, a life mainly around boys can lead to a frame of mind that's only interested in just what's practical or even quick to shove on approach when it comes to dressing. Kinda...
    Joanne0chan Joanne0chan 31-35 1 Response Jan 14

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    I'm so afraid of people getting close to me. I mean I want it but I'm kind of afraid, because once I have that bonding with someone or even relationship and it's gone or they leave...
    t3rriv t3rriv 16-17, F 2 Responses Dec 29, 2014

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