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I Am Afraid of Being Too Needy

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 281 People

    I Want People To Talk To Me, But I Am Scared

    Maybe I am just codependent and independent at the same time...IDK. I want to talk to someone, and I look froward to contact with others (like literally, I say "1,1,1, please let me have 1" or something like that when I get here, like one orange thing or mail) Because I want...
    Naliruns Naliruns 18-21, F 3 Responses Jan 18, 2011

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    Warning: This Is A Needy Post.

    I have been scarred by my past. As I look over my 30 years of existence, I am saddened by all of the times that people who said that they loved me and always would be there for me went back on their word. These relationships have left behind me a lifetime littered with...
    PrincessPumpkin81 PrincessPumpkin81 31-35, F 3 Responses Jul 1, 2012

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    Owning It...

    No one wants to be, but the truth is all of us are. Some of us need reassurance. Some of us need love. Some of us need acceptance. Some of us need all of that because they tend to go hand in hand. Some of us need attention. Some of us need to feel wanted. Some of us need to...
    kittysoftpaws kittysoftpaws 36-40, F Mar 14, 2013

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    Needy And Introverted

    Well... I don't really know where to start. I am just a very clingy person, and I can't help it. I'm a very introverted, very to-myself type of girl... I have friends, but not friends I hang out with on a regular basis and I'm not really close with them. My cupcake is my best...
    MPDGirl MPDGirl 31-35, F 1 Response Feb 26, 2013

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    I’m Not Talking About Material Need; I’m Talking About The Emotional Kind

    i've been on the receiving end of needy before. i know how stifling it feels to be needed by someone when you don't feel that symbiotic need in return. the unfulfilled need of another can leave a host with a sense its life force is being drained—it’s worse to me, even, than...
    WoobieTuesday WoobieTuesday 36-40, F 10 Responses Apr 24, 2011

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    The Reason

    I have this need for people. I have this need to feel needed or wanted. I try so hard to control this need. I won't initiate a conversation with somebody for weeks in fear of appearing too needy. When I was dating my (now) ex, I was so afraid of coming off as needy. He was...
    SavedByHim SavedByHim 18-21, F May 11, 2012

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    So I've been talking to this guy Sam.

    He kinda makes my day perfect. He's the only thing I look forward to. When we're not together we are almost always texting. But there are sometimes where he just doesn't text me. I break down during these times. I get really sad and overreact when he doesn't text me. Like for...
    Imjustdone Imjustdone 16-17, M Apr 24

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    Worry

    I need to talk stuff out and have a friend more then people know even online but i'm afraid if I bug someone they'll be annoyed and not like me :(
    Jason255 Jason255 16-17, M 2 Responses Nov 28, 2013

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    Well

    i'm not afraid of being needy. it's just that being needy sucks. it's a real downer, very depressing. i love my independence, it means everything to me. but.. we're all needy at times. some too much vs some not enough and bounding back and forth between Until Balance is Finally...
    justwhatever123 justwhatever123 26-30, F Jan 5, 2011

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    Fear?

    I don't think I am afraid of being too needy. I think I AM needy. I am starting to think that actually, its perfectly reasonable. Its a fact and it's just how things are at the moment. I have a hell of a lot I am trying to deal with and I am not a strong person. I try, but I am...
    jellibeanz jellibeanz 26-30, F 3 Responses Feb 11, 2011

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    Probably Because I've Been Called Needy

                                       ~~~~  I know that I can across as very needy & dependent. I've...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Apr 6, 2009

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    Even Though I Like Living Alone

    When I lived at home, I had my mom, dad, sister, brothers, and assorted pets. I never thought I could cope alone. It's been three and half years now where I've been living in this apartment . It's a block and a half from my childhood home, in the same neighborhood...but Mom and...
    MaryJanine MaryJanine 56-60, F Sep 14, 2013

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    Why am I so needy? Why am I

    so dependent on him? When he doesn't talk to me it tears me apart. When I'm not with him I get really depressed really quick. All I want to do is just be with him all the time. I can't do this though. This doesn't surprise me. I don't deserve to be happy even ways.
    Imjustdone Imjustdone 16-17, M 1 Response Apr 27

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    So Desperate

    I am so desperate for reassurance right now I could scream.  In the past I would have been having a complete meltdown, but through hard work I am gaining insight into my emotions.  I want someone to tell me what to do, when to do it, and exactly how to do it.  I have no...
    soleil321 soleil321 31-35 Aug 10, 2011

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    I need advice.. My bf is an international

    graduate student. He says he doesn't have much time for me because school is so demanding. We see each other once, sometimes twice a week for dinner and he usually sends me only 1 text a day. He told me things would be better once the spring semester begins because he needs to...
    mary1277 mary1277 26-30, F Jan 19

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    I Think I Am Too Needy

    At least, Im having a needy patch right now.  I apologise in advance for being incredibly self indulgent and pitying.   In fact, its sooo pathetic Im stuggling to write it.   I dont want to be so - reliant, on other peoples opinions.  But I can't seem to...
    auroraaustralis auroraaustralis 22-25 7 Responses Jun 4, 2009

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    I hate this about myself!!! I was never like this until my met my current boyfriend, hes my first love. I even get annoyed with how much I want him near me. Its sad to say but I do...
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    This is like praising your own self... How can anyone call themselves nice ?? Probably it's possible that I feel am being too nice but am I really nice ? I maybe a little nice...
    uselessguy uselessguy 36-40, M Nov 7

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    i believe if people knows too much about ur life then they might take an advantage of it and we might suffer later in life for being too open to someone who are not family..
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    My love is 23 years older than me. We met a few years ago online via AgeMeet.com. It was totally platonic but I broke off contact due to doing other things in my life, I wasn't...
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    I'm afraid of the truth so live my life in the dark. I don't find answers to questions. I just dwell on them and think of the what ifs. I'm afraid that if I find out what's real...
    bhabhablacksheep bhabhablacksheep 22-25, F 24 mins ago

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    Okay, so I know internet is full of depressed 9 year old's bullcrapples but that won't stop me from writing this, so if you're gonna criticize me from being bothered by "silly...
    WeirdMoon WeirdMoon 22-25, F 1 Response 16 hrs ago

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    I've only met a few people in life who really are free to be themself at a younger age. You find it more in older people that don't have anything to lose or to hide, those that don...
    lunarincantations lunarincantations 70+, F 6 Responses 4 hrs ago

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    You got a big mouth friendzone. that's why...All you tube sabotage duplicates too us and boyfriend protector gave us Dan Louie tracks What she told h this morning we have...
    letsgo2234 letsgo2234 51-55, F 2 Responses 12 hrs ago

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    I haven't had a girlfriend since I was in the 7th grade and I only went out with her for 2 weeks and we never talked anyway. I feel like im almost afraid of women that im attracted...
    green555f green555f 22-25, M 12 Responses Oct 27

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    When I abandoned this place several months ago, I promised myself that all of the things I wouldn't be able to say to the next person I'll be admiring should be written in a...
    kixisback kixisback 22-25 Oct 30

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    There's a lot more to be afraid of, in this world filled with evil.I don't fear much,Cancer took a shot at me last year and I'm now Cancer free.If I die,I die and when I do...
    bigbustluver bigbustluver 41-45, M 4 days ago

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    It's funny how you feel the darkness coming over your life. Some part of you want the darkness to just come over you and stay. My dream has always been to go to sleep but sleep...
    ptsdlady ptsdlady 26-30, F 1 Response Nov 1

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    The below all happened because I think and look into things far to much and the person that this is meant for I am sorry x This week has been such a rollacoaster of a week well...
    Sirwithherkey Sirwithherkey 31-35, M 1 Response 2 days ago

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    Sunday morning: Still caged. Making my wife breakfast in bed after having given her a morning of toothless adoration. One of the great things about now being a denture wearer is...
    Ledertal1933 Ledertal1933 51-55, M 17 hrs ago

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    Everybody knows that life is so short...in between birth and death,we do many things.In this things,The most common one is thinking about others..example..he has got good house,car...
    vithun vithun 18-21, M Nov 6

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    I love my boyfriend, but sometimes I feel like I'm doing this because I don't want to be alone. I care for him when he's sick. I appreciate the little things he does and the big...
    tinywoman tinywoman 18-21, F 1 Response 37 mins ago

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    I'm feeling needy. Insecure. Wanting to be reassured (by this special someone) again and again that he's into me. I feel like banging my head against the wall because I hate...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 2 Responses Oct 27

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    I'm afraid to fall in love because of my trust issues. When I love. I love hard. I make you the center of my world. I am known to be the type of girl that isn't clingy, but I do...
    Solrentia Solrentia 18-21, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    Please do not add me if you are overly needy.I'm sorry if you message me 20 times a day ,and i don't respond to all your PM's .I try to respond to everyone but it gets hard...
    1prettygirl 1prettygirl 36-40, F 10 Responses 2 days ago

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    My ex is messaging my friends and family and telling them that very messed up things about me that he has dreamed up in order to compel me to speak to him again. He messages them...
    CustomRedFury CustomRedFury 22-25 1 Response Nov 2

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    There's something odd about being 22. It's a year where you've reached a social maturity, having passed the legal age of 21. By now, you and your friends reach a mutual...
    RoxannaM RoxannaM 22-25, F 6 days ago

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    Why do we let fear control so much of our lives? What is it that makes us hold back or pull back, specially when it comes to something we desire deeply? Are we afraid of being...
    diablesse34 diablesse34 46-50, F 13 Responses Nov 8

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    It's always there in the back of my mind..It's a pretty big fear of mine.Once I get close to someone I'm always afraid they're going to leave,sometimes in the beginning of me...
    seeminglypossible seeminglypossible 22-25, F 5 Responses 6 days ago

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    I was reminded sadly last week they life is way to short so not to waste what time we do have....... So I ask would you rather be on your own and ok with that it with someone that...
    crazychick76 crazychick76 36-40, F 6 days ago

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    I've always felt afraid to let people get close to me both physically and emotionally. I think this is why I have never dated someone or I get choked up when someone asks me on a...
    LilFA LilFA 18-21, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    it took time,,but now It's just natural,you do the same things,just do them nude,
    bluesky52 bluesky52 51-55, M 15 hrs ago

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    I know this is a problem and probably the reason guys loved me in high school and older men love me, and guys who want to get serious don't. I can't share as easily, I pick and...
    Theworldisminenow Theworldisminenow 18-21, F Oct 30

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    I'm going though a separation with my wife right now. We're still in contact with one another, but she's been telling me about how much she enjoys being alone. I, on the other hand...
    aimless1too aimless1too 31-35, M Nov 1