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I Am Afraid of Change

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 162 People

    Yes And No

    I've always been afraid of change - I like the routine my seemingly uncomplicated life brings me -, but I also need it.  And that is the big paradox in my life: fear versus longing.  So when will I be able to let go of that fear and make the changes that could finally...
    KittyKatty KittyKatty 31-35, F 1 Response Jan 8, 2010

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    Change

    I like status quo. You already know what is in store for you. Sometimes though, it's not good enough and changes must be effected. Most of the time, changes are done by force.I feel a lot of changes right now. Changes in the house, changes in the family, changes in the tasks...
    mareliberum mareliberum 26-30 Jan 23, 2013

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    Safe...

    As 'safe' doesn't apply to me anymore, I 'settle' in rituals, patterns false security etc. Change, it is not familiar to me, so I see it as being a burden, taking me to a place where I am not prepared. I can't not be prepared, I need to plan for anything, and when it gets to a...
    hurtandpain hurtandpain 18-21, F 2 Responses Feb 18, 2010

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    So I've been an only child

    for my whole life, and I've been happy. Change is the only thing I have ever really feared. But. . .today my mother told told me she's pregnant, and being sixteen years old I should have taken it better than I did. When I heard my mom tell me, I broke down crying for reasons I...
    PadfootPandora PadfootPandora 16-17, F 17 mins ago

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    Really Afraid Of Change

    I've spent the past three weeks in a deep depression, because my sister's dog died (after more than 10 years), my sister left for the navy in October, my dad is 51 this year, and I'm in my junior year of high school and going to be 17 in two months. In my mind it felt like...
    toohonestforowngood toohonestforowngood 18-21, F Dec 28, 2009

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    My Husband Is Changing... I Am Afraid

    I have been married to a wonderful man for 19 years.  We have always seemed to be a good match.  Yes, we've had our arguments, we are both stubborn and headstrong, but I have always thought we were a good match.  In the past few years we have gone through some...
    musing musing 41-45, F 3 Responses May 1, 2009

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    Its An Obsession Of Mine

    the last time i changed, my life fell to hell. and everyone i use to love, hated me. So i have a good reason to fear it. not that i can stop it from happening though, lol, so its a pointless ******* fear.
    kittycat101303 kittycat101303 18-21, F Oct 21, 2010

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    I Am Afraid...

    I am afraid of change because I think something bad will come from it. However, I know that change can make things less boring. I dont like going outside, so I am always on the computer. I decided that I would start having conversations with people online for once. Now I am...
    bellaunq bellaunq 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 12, 2011

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    Not Change So Much...

    Change requires making a decision and making a decision requires taking a chance and doing something. The change that I can affect I don't and the change that just happens leaves me stressed and insecure.
    Tuva Tuva 31-35, M Dec 7, 2010

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    Cha Cha Changes.....

    I used to love change. The excitement of venturing out and trying something new. Or did I? I have come to realize that live is all about perception. What I perceive a situation to be is what I decide it actually is.Right now I am in a place of things changing. I’m about to get...
    30Forward 30Forward 31-35 1 Response Apr 4, 2011

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    Certain Changes

    I do not do well with change. I don't like change.
    emipurple emipurple 18-21, F 1 Response Nov 7, 2013

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    Something New

    I honestly am the type of person that likes to have life figured out. now, the day to day stuff I am fine with something spontaneous happening .. I actually love that, but as for my future I'm pretty set on the way I want things to be.. and it's so scary because I recently just...
    thedancer03 thedancer03 18-21, F Nov 7, 2013

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    I Need A Push

    This is the one thing about me which truly bothers me the most. I am so scared of change and it completely rules my life. I am not driven to have a career (or even get a job) or go any study or just about do anything! This is turning in such a big issue for me it's insane. When...
    EverSparkling EverSparkling 18-21, F Nov 2, 2011

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    Why Must It Change?

    I can deal with little changes, except when there's a big change involved. If something big changes, I notice every little change that happens in my life. At some point it'll become to much and I break down and cry, though this doesn't happen often. I just can't see why such big...
    ReginaMeK ReginaMeK 13-15, F Dec 1, 2010

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    Staying the same is my comfort zone!I guess I'm afraid of change because every change i've had that i know of has been bad...I always like planning and always been organised so...
    MilweePetite MilweePetite 18-21, F 2 Responses Dec 7

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    I'm sorry for the lengthy post... I just watched Geography Club and it got me regretting how long it took me to come out, and then explore as to why that was.... One of the things...
    jbar291 jbar291 18-21, M a week ago

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    I can't change the world and I'd be crazy thinking I can! I can only change myself for the better and at best hope others will do the same. It all comes down to a matter of choice...
    LilChickadee LilChickadee 22-25, F 1 Response 10 hrs ago

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    The last few months of my life have been absolute hell. I've felt so alone and trapped by the sadness inside. For a 13 year old girl my personality is very mature, sarcastic and...
    JewelClara4 JewelClara4 13-15, F 5 Responses 4 hrs ago

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    i am 20 yrs old. I have anxiety. I still live with my parents. I feel like I am afraid to express myself. i am too afraid of what my parents will think or say if I make a change. I...
    Louder4life Louder4life 18-21, F 3 days ago

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    I'm very much afraid of guys/men and I want to overcome this fear and avoidance. I can never remember not having this anxiety. From even before being enrolled in my first year of...
    2openmind 2openmind 18-21, F Nov 23

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    I changed my user name since I haven't been hiking all that much...... The mountains have been taking a toll on my lower extremities. Knees, hips, etc. so to stay in shape I have...
    LiftingGuy LiftingGuy 46-50, M 5 Responses 10 hrs ago

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    strangers -> best friends -> strangers again.. wow this happens f*****g frequently in my life :/ I'm tired of losing my friends.. I'm just wondering how can a person change so...
    amazingmoment90 amazingmoment90 18-21, F 2 Responses 9 hrs ago

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    I am bi but sometimes i think i might be a lesbian.. I dont really know.. i couldnt talk to any lgbt.. I guess im shy or im scared that talking to one,,i feel like learning...
    jetboyjetgirl jetboyjetgirl 18-21, F 2 Responses Dec 1

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    I'm afraid of being hurt by someone I care about so I block everyone out. I want to change so badly, I don't know how to though. I've tried so hard but I still push people away.
    meganleslie meganleslie 13-15, F 2 Responses Dec 1

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    So soon I will take a walk down a path I always wanted to go down and so far I have met those that have walked it. This path will risk my inner demons and sinful pleasures. I am...
    onewhosupplants onewhosupplants 22-25, M Dec 7

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    Afraid I'm afraid to write the words that i feel because of the grip that they have on my soul. Afraid to know that what and who I love is the wrong thing. Afraid of losing my...
    taurusboi23 taurusboi23 22-25, M Nov 23

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    I'm afraid of the truth so live my life in the dark. I don't find answers to questions. I just dwell on them and think of the what ifs. I'm afraid that if I find out what's real...
    bhabhablacksheep bhabhablacksheep 22-25, F Nov 23

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    I've always felt afraid to let people get close to me both physically and emotionally. I think this is why I have never dated someone or I get choked up when someone asks me on a...
    LilFA LilFA 18-21, F 2 Responses Nov 22

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    I bottle everything up. I'm not very talkative. I'm not how I used to be. I don't tell secrets to many people. I don't like but I do like getting close to people. I like to read...
    ForeverANomad ForeverANomad 13-15, F 2 Responses Dec 2

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    By love I don't mean guys or anything...and I don't mean losing people to death. But I am afraid of losing my friends and family, that they will stop caring about me or I will do...
    prznaroosak prznaroosak 26-30, F 1 Response Dec 6

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    I am afraid of relationships. I think I always have been. I can't remember a time when I was able to give myself to someone without second thought or with uninhibited trust. I'm...
    shanequea shanequea 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 10

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    I used to have nightmares about him fulfilling the promise he made before he went to prison all the time. he told me he would come back to find me, and hurt everyone I know. that...
    jess7892 jess7892 18-21, F 1 Response Nov 19

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    I'm afraid to fall in love because of my trust issues. When I love. I love hard. I make you the center of my world. I am known to be the type of girl that isn't clingy, but I do...
    Solrentia Solrentia 18-21, F 1 Response Nov 19

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    how do i get away from a man that i love with every ounce of my soul. a man that doesn't deserve any part of me. a man who beats me and cheats and lies and tells me every day he...
    mfox3579 mfox3579 31-35, F 5 Responses Nov 26

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    My father has always been judgemental, inattentive, and verbally & emotionally abusive (at one pt. lunging to hit me, but changed his mind). I have this innate distrust of males...
    equestrianmad equestrianmad 22-25, F 2 Responses Dec 1

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    I don't get how you girls can change your mind so fast.. I can Never understand why u can't tell how you feel lol
    Lilwayne1993 Lilwayne1993 18-21, M 10 Responses Dec 2

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    There is no way people are going to change my mind. I have already lost some of my skinny friends because they don't agree with gaining weight but I am ok, there are plenty of fat...
    coolsean1 coolsean1 18-21, M 1 Response Dec 2

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    God forbid if I'm in this state for another year. I've never been a risk taker but something needs to change and New York is calling my name.
    abcdefgh19 abcdefgh19 22-25, F Dec 3

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    I have been with my partner for a year and a half but have known him for 13 years he is my first boyfriend he had a head injury in Feb i understand he injured himself but he should...
    FaithH0peL0ve FaithH0peL0ve 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 9

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    We know deep down that life is short, and that death will happen to all of us eventually, and yet we are infinitely surprised when it happens to someone we know. LIVE your life...
    raquel80 raquel80 31-35, F 8 Responses Dec 10

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    I don't know where to start this off, but I'll just first say that I can't do anything remarkable. I'm not special. I'm not good at anything. I'm just ordinary. I try so hard to...
    torr62 torr62 13-15, F 4 Responses 5 days ago

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    I don't know where to start this off, but I'll just first say that I can't do anything remarkable. I'm not special. I'm not good at anything. I'm just ordinary. I try so hard to...
    torr62 torr62 13-15, F 6 Responses 5 days ago

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    I don't know where to start this off, but I'll just first say that I can't do anything remarkable. I'm not special. I'm not good at anything. I'm just ordinary. I try so hard to...
    torr62 torr62 13-15, F 5 days ago

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    Some Things Need To Change ..
    FlawsAndAll FlawsAndAll 18-21, F 3 days ago

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    Everyone thought afraidtodisobey was some kink thing which it wasn't! So now I won't have to deal with that anymore haha
    Mselisa Mselisa 16-17, F 6 Responses 2 days ago

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    I am afraid of looking in to the mirror also. but for 2 reasons. 1) I don't like the way I look. 2) I have this irrational fear that the person looking back will try to grab me...
    Gr3mL1N Gr3mL1N 31-35, M 2 Responses Nov 25

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    So this guy is threatening and I am so afraid, even though I don't want to be. I am so afraid.
    sproetje sproetje 18-21, F 1 Response Nov 26

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