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I Am Afraid of Change

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    Yes And No

    I've always been afraid of change - I like the routine my seemingly uncomplicated life brings me -, but I also need it.  And that is the big paradox in my life: fear versus longing.  So when will I be able to let go of that fear and make the changes that could finally...
    KittyKatty KittyKatty 31-35, F 1 Response Jan 8, 2010

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    I Need A Push

    This is the one thing about me which truly bothers me the most. I am so scared of change and it completely rules my life. I am not driven to have a career (or even get a job) or go any study or just about do anything! This is turning in such a big issue for me it's insane. When...
    EverSparkling EverSparkling 18-21, F Nov 2, 2011

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    Change

    I like status quo. You already know what is in store for you. Sometimes though, it's not good enough and changes must be effected. Most of the time, changes are done by force.I feel a lot of changes right now. Changes in the house, changes in the family, changes in the tasks...
    mareliberum mareliberum 26-30 Jan 23, 2013

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    Not Change So Much...

    Change requires making a decision and making a decision requires taking a chance and doing something. The change that I can affect I don't and the change that just happens leaves me stressed and insecure.
    Tuva Tuva 31-35, M Dec 7, 2010

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    Safe...

    As 'safe' doesn't apply to me anymore, I 'settle' in rituals, patterns false security etc. Change, it is not familiar to me, so I see it as being a burden, taking me to a place where I am not prepared. I can't not be prepared, I need to plan for anything, and when it gets to a...
    hurtandpain hurtandpain 18-21, F 2 Responses Feb 18, 2010

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    Certain Changes

    I do not do well with change. I don't like change.
    emipurple emipurple 18-21, F 1 Response Nov 7, 2013

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    Its An Obsession Of Mine

    the last time i changed, my life fell to hell. and everyone i use to love, hated me. So i have a good reason to fear it. not that i can stop it from happening though, lol, so its a pointless ******* fear.
    kittycat101303 kittycat101303 18-21, F Oct 21, 2010

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    Cha Cha Changes.....

    I used to love change. The excitement of venturing out and trying something new. Or did I? I have come to realize that live is all about perception. What I perceive a situation to be is what I decide it actually is.Right now I am in a place of things changing. I’m about to get...
    30Forward 30Forward 31-35 1 Response Apr 4, 2011

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    Why Must It Change?

    I can deal with little changes, except when there's a big change involved. If something big changes, I notice every little change that happens in my life. At some point it'll become to much and I break down and cry, though this doesn't happen often. I just can't see why such big...
    ReginaMeK ReginaMeK 13-15, F Dec 1, 2010

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    My Husband Is Changing... I Am Afraid

    I have been married to a wonderful man for 19 years.  We have always seemed to be a good match.  Yes, we've had our arguments, we are both stubborn and headstrong, but I have always thought we were a good match.  In the past few years we have gone through some...
    musing musing 41-45, F 3 Responses May 1, 2009

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    Really Afraid Of Change

    I've spent the past three weeks in a deep depression, because my sister's dog died (after more than 10 years), my sister left for the navy in October, my dad is 51 this year, and I'm in my junior year of high school and going to be 17 in two months. In my mind it felt like...
    toohonestforowngood toohonestforowngood 18-21, F Dec 28, 2009

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    Something New

    I honestly am the type of person that likes to have life figured out. now, the day to day stuff I am fine with something spontaneous happening .. I actually love that, but as for my future I'm pretty set on the way I want things to be.. and it's so scary because I recently just...
    thedancer03 thedancer03 18-21, F Nov 7, 2013

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    I Am Afraid...

    I am afraid of change because I think something bad will come from it. However, I know that change can make things less boring. I dont like going outside, so I am always on the computer. I decided that I would start having conversations with people online for once. Now I am...
    bellaunq bellaunq 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 12, 2011

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    in changing my life right now i mean i want to rewind my life right now and change some things that i've done and things that have happened so that the outcome of rewinding can be...
    moanaj moanaj 16-17, F 36 mins ago

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    I'm very much afraid of guys/men and I want to overcome this fear and avoidance. I can never remember not having this anxiety. From even before being enrolled in my first year of...
    2openmind 2openmind 18-21, F 3 days ago

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    I'm going though a separation with my wife right now. We're still in contact with one another, but she's been telling me about how much she enjoys being alone. I, on the other hand...
    aimless1too aimless1too 31-35, M Nov 1

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    All too often, people try in vain to be something other than who they are. The reasons are plentiful... to impress someone, to hide from their imperfections, to keep people at a...
    WithGracefulness WithGracefulness 46-50, F 12 Responses Nov 15

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    My last relationship ended badly, let's just leave it at that. My situation hasn't changed, I'm in college so it'd be long distance a lot of time anyway. I just don't want to screw...
    lights11 lights11 18-21, M Nov 16

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    I really need change in my life. I need to get out there and experience life. I need to stop being afraid. I need to show the world who I really am. My talents. My loving and...
    AcousticSoul17 AcousticSoul17 16-17, F Nov 12

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    Afraid I'm afraid to write the words that i feel because of the grip that they have on my soul. Afraid to know that what and who I love is the wrong thing. Afraid of losing my...
    taurusboi23 taurusboi23 22-25, M 1 Response 2 days ago

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    I'm afraid of the truth so live my life in the dark. I don't find answers to questions. I just dwell on them and think of the what ifs. I'm afraid that if I find out what's real...
    bhabhablacksheep bhabhablacksheep 22-25, F 2 days ago

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    I've always felt afraid to let people get close to me both physically and emotionally. I think this is why I have never dated someone or I get choked up when someone asks me on a...
    LilFA LilFA 18-21, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    So I broke up with this guy years ago and after that something inside me changed.. I decided to focus on my career for at least 3years and during that time I became cold.. Like...
    AaliyahLove AaliyahLove 18-21, F 3 Responses Nov 1

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    Sometimes I am really scared of being singer all my life.. I am 16yo ( 17yo in December).. and I have never kissed a guy, and never had a boyfriend. all of my friend are in a...
    goldringss goldringss 16-17, F 1 Response Nov 1

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    When I got out of college, I got a job doing sales. I really enjoyed this job and the people that I worked with, until I messed up. I had a roommate who didn't really support me...
    JimmySprites JimmySprites 22-25, M 1 Response Nov 6

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    I've never dated.. I've only had like four guys ever seem to like me but they apparently changed their minds.. They don't even talk to me anymore ._.
    KuroKitsune KuroKitsune 13-15, F 7 Responses Nov 9

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    If you see my face in his car, With the windows fogging from by breath, I will be bound for the slaughterhouse, Bound for the slaughterhouse, If you find my garments torn, My hair...
    ONESTARRYSTARRYNIGHT ONESTARRYSTARRYNIGHT 26-30, F Nov 11

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    I have several friends who are truly wonderful Muslims. They fear speaking out about the extremist elements within Islam because they worry about being targeted themselves. It's...
    LOMD LOMD 31-35, M 3 Responses Nov 14

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    I used to have nightmares about him fulfilling the promise he made before he went to prison all the time. he told me he would come back to find me, and hurt everyone I know. that...
    jess7892 jess7892 18-21, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    There's a lot more to be afraid of, in this world filled with evil.I don't fear much,Cancer took a shot at me last year and I'm now Cancer free.If I die,I die and when I do...
    bigbustluver bigbustluver 41-45, M 6 days ago

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    I'm afraid to fall in love because of my trust issues. When I love. I love hard. I make you the center of my world. I am known to be the type of girl that isn't clingy, but I do...
    Solrentia Solrentia 18-21, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    I've only met a few people in life who really are free to be themself at a younger age. You find it more in older people that don't have anything to lose or to hide, those that don...
    lunarincantations lunarincantations 70+, F 8 Responses 2 days ago

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    im always afraid to lose someone I love , I wonder if anyones afraid to lose me ? :(
    belllla belllla 18-21, F 1 Response Oct 27

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    I haven't had a girlfriend since I was in the 7th grade and I only went out with her for 2 weeks and we never talked anyway. I feel like im almost afraid of women that im attracted...
    green555f green555f 22-25, M 12 Responses Oct 27

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    I've always been afraid of losing people i love. Sometimes i wonder, is there anyone out there afraid to lose me?
    LoveHadassah LoveHadassah 18-21, F Oct 28

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    I'm scared to have sex. Sure I've done some stuff, but I've never had sex. Never have let it go all the way through. I'm freaked out about it. I'm 21 and I'm scared. I'm scared to...
    LionPrincess03 LionPrincess03 18-21, F 2 Responses Nov 9

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    im not afraid of rejection rather i expect it. it doesn't surprise me when the doors slam in my face weather i need it or want it to stay open. i am afraid more of acceptance...
    TheAnonymous99 TheAnonymous99 18-21, F Nov 12

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    I was raped about 2 months ago I am very scared i am pregnant with his child. he does not have contact with. I would get an abortion but am afraid of the outlook from people, now I...
    taylordevorce taylordevorce 22-25, F 3 Responses Nov 12

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    I'm afraid of rejection. I'm afraid that if I tell the one person I want to tell things too, that it will all just completely back fire on me and they won't even want to know me...
    ExPButterfly ExPButterfly 16-17, F 3 Responses Nov 12

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    Years ago, I happily welcomed death with open arms but now that my pubescent years are behind me I am more afraid to die. The thought of not knowing what happens after scares me...
    Gemz2411 Gemz2411 18-21, F 1 Response Nov 14

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    being afraid of rejection is something I am no stranger to, I guess its the inner fear of trying to achieve something whether it is in love or anything else, that your trying to...
    xxSTEVE7xx xxSTEVE7xx 31-35, M 2 Responses Nov 15

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    I am. I am often afraid to really speak about how things make me feel. Or just to speak my mind. I don't know. Even now. It's something I developed in or rather after high school...
    UselessNobody UselessNobody 31-35, F 1 Response Nov 16

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    I am afraid of looking in to the mirror also. but for 2 reasons. 1) I don't like the way I look. 2) I have this irrational fear that the person looking back will try to grab me...
    Gr3mL1N Gr3mL1N 31-35, M 1 Response 1 day ago

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    I'm having a really hard time to stop smoking and drinking so much. I stay up too late and drink myself to sleep. I have every reason in the world to live and I'm afraid that I...
    pablohoney415 pablohoney415 41-45, M Oct 27

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    I'm afraid of love cuz i don't wanna get hurt... i don't wanna lose the one i love... it hurts when you love someone so much and they just don't feel the same, they fall out of...
    lovebug19980 lovebug19980 18-21, F Oct 27

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    I look in society and see so many people happy and it makes me jealous and hurt. I don't think that I'll never find that person that will be interested in me like I'm interested...
    brady120378 brady120378 31-35, M 2 Responses Oct 28

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    What's wrong with me? Why can't I be like all those other girls that everyone even the sweet guys want. I was dumped in a voicemail over the summer because of his parents; but now...
    Maihowl Maihowl 22-25, F 5 Responses Oct 30