I Am Afraid of Change

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    As 'safe' doesn't apply to me anymore, I 'settle' in rituals, patterns false security etc. Change, it is not familiar to me, so I see it as being a burden, taking me to a place where I am not prepared. I can't not be prepared, I need to plan for anything, and when it gets to a...
    hurtandpain hurtandpain
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Feb 18, 2010

    Certain Changes

    I do not do well with change. I don't like change.
    emipurple emipurple
    18-21, F
    1 Response Nov 7, 2013

    Not Change So Much...

    Change requires making a decision and making a decision requires taking a chance and doing something. The change that I can affect I don't and the change that just happens leaves me stressed and insecure.
    Tuva Tuva
    31-35, M
    Dec 7, 2010

    The only constant in ones life is

    that everything is ever-changing. Sometimes I find myself paralyzed by the thought of change. Although I'm outgoing and spontaneous (at times) I am also a creature of habit. The fear of making the wrong decision, and the impact it will have on my future often deters me from...
    itsallnewstome itsallnewstome
    26-30, F
    1 Response Mar 4, 2015

    Yes And No

    I've always been afraid of change - I like the routine my seemingly uncomplicated life brings me -, but I also need it.  And that is the big paradox in my life: fear versus longing.  So when will I be able to let go of that fear and make the changes that could finally...
    KittyKatty KittyKatty
    31-35, F
    1 Response Jan 8, 2010

    Cha Cha Changes.....

    I used to love change. The excitement of venturing out and trying something new. Or did I? I have come to realize that live is all about perception. What I perceive a situation to be is what I decide it actually is.Right now I am in a place of things changing. I’m about to get...
    30Forward 30Forward
    31-35, F
    Apr 4, 2011

    Really Afraid Of Change

    I've spent the past three weeks in a deep depression, because my sister's dog died (after more than 10 years), my sister left for the navy in October, my dad is 51 this year, and I'm in my junior year of high school and going to be 17 in two months. In my mind it felt like...
    toohonestforowngood toohonestforowngood
    22-25, F
    Dec 28, 2009

    My Husband Is Changing... I Am Afraid

    I have been married to a wonderful man for 19 years.  We have always seemed to be a good match.  Yes, we've had our arguments, we are both stubborn and headstrong, but I have always thought we were a good match.  In the past few years we have gone through some...
    musing musing
    41-45, F
    3 Responses May 1, 2009

    Change is an extremely difficult thing

    for me to accept and face. Empathy is a very strong trait within my personality, I am the type of person that always gets fond of people and places, therefore when I need to say goodbye to someone or someplace, it is extremely difficult and I usually have a very hard time...
    Maniueru Maniueru
    26-30, M
    Sep 13, 2015

    Something New

    I honestly am the type of person that likes to have life figured out. now, the day to day stuff I am fine with something spontaneous happening .. I actually love that, but as for my future I'm pretty set on the way I want things to be.. and it's so scary because I recently just...
    thedancer03 thedancer03
    18-21, F
    Nov 7, 2013

    I Need A Push

    This is the one thing about me which truly bothers me the most. I am so scared of change and it completely rules my life. I am not driven to have a career (or even get a job) or go any study or just about do anything! This is turning in such a big issue for me it's insane. When...
    EverSparkling EverSparkling
    18-21, F
    Nov 2, 2011

    I thought moving away from California

    when I turned 18 would be ideal. I went to Texas to stay with my Aunt in hopes of making a better life for myself. instead i found the same dysfunction as I had when I was living with my parents in California. I ended up doing meth and getting myself into debt. i am now back in...
    halohaley halohaley
    18-21, F
    Feb 7, 2015


    I like status quo. You already know what is in store for you. Sometimes though, it's not good enough and changes must be effected. Most of the time, changes are done by force.I feel a lot of changes right now. Changes in the house, changes in the family, changes in the tasks...
    mareliberum mareliberum
    Jan 23, 2013

    Its An Obsession Of Mine

    the last time i changed, my life fell to hell. and everyone i use to love, hated me. So i have a good reason to fear it. not that i can stop it from happening though, lol, so its a pointless ******* fear.
    kittycat101303 kittycat101303
    18-21, F
    Oct 21, 2010

    I Am Afraid...

    I am afraid of change because I think something bad will come from it. However, I know that change can make things less boring. I dont like going outside, so I am always on the computer. I decided that I would start having conversations with people online for once. Now I am...
    bellaunq bellaunq
    18-21, F
    1 Response Feb 12, 2011

    Why Must It Change?

    I can deal with little changes, except when there's a big change involved. If something big changes, I notice every little change that happens in my life. At some point it'll become to much and I break down and cry, though this doesn't happen often. I just can't see why such big...
    ReginaMeK ReginaMeK
    13-15, F
    Dec 1, 2010

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