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I Am Afraid of Change

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    I honestly am the type of person that likes to have life figured out. now, the day to day stuff I am fine with something spontaneous happening .. I actually love that, but as for my future I'm pretty set on the way I want things to be.. and it's so scary because I recently just...
    thedancer03 thedancer03 18-21, F Nov 7, 2013

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    I Am Afraid...

    I am afraid of change because I think something bad will come from it. However, I know that change can make things less boring. I dont like going outside, so I am always on the computer. I decided that I would start having conversations with people online for once. Now I am...
    bellaunq bellaunq 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 12, 2011

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    Safe...

    As 'safe' doesn't apply to me anymore, I 'settle' in rituals, patterns false security etc. Change, it is not familiar to me, so I see it as being a burden, taking me to a place where I am not prepared. I can't not be prepared, I need to plan for anything, and when it gets to a...
    hurtandpain hurtandpain 18-21, F 2 Responses Feb 18, 2010

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    I'm a pretty big, strong man.

    But change is hard for me. I just closed on a condo and will be living on my own for the first time. But I have already been a renter and have always lived with someone, so this is new to me. I walked into my new home today and felt anxious instead of excited. I have never...
    BigHryRomeo BigHryRomeo 36-40, M 2 Responses Mar 26

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    Certain Changes

    I do not do well with change. I don't like change.
    emipurple emipurple 18-21, F 1 Response Nov 7, 2013

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    Really Afraid Of Change

    I've spent the past three weeks in a deep depression, because my sister's dog died (after more than 10 years), my sister left for the navy in October, my dad is 51 this year, and I'm in my junior year of high school and going to be 17 in two months. In my mind it felt like...
    toohonestforowngood toohonestforowngood 18-21, F Dec 28, 2009

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    My Husband Is Changing... I Am Afraid

    I have been married to a wonderful man for 19 years.  We have always seemed to be a good match.  Yes, we've had our arguments, we are both stubborn and headstrong, but I have always thought we were a good match.  In the past few years we have gone through some...
    musing musing 41-45, F 3 Responses May 1, 2009

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    The only constant in ones life is

    that everything is ever-changing. Sometimes I find myself paralyzed by the thought of change. Although I'm outgoing and spontaneous (at times) I am also a creature of habit. The fear of making the wrong decision, and the impact it will have on my future often deters me from...
    itsallnewstome itsallnewstome 26-30, F 1 Response Mar 4

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    Why Must It Change?

    I can deal with little changes, except when there's a big change involved. If something big changes, I notice every little change that happens in my life. At some point it'll become to much and I break down and cry, though this doesn't happen often. I just can't see why such big...
    ReginaMeK ReginaMeK 13-15, F Dec 1, 2010

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    Yes And No

    I've always been afraid of change - I like the routine my seemingly uncomplicated life brings me -, but I also need it.  And that is the big paradox in my life: fear versus longing.  So when will I be able to let go of that fear and make the changes that could finally...
    KittyKatty KittyKatty 31-35, F 1 Response Jan 8, 2010

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    I thought moving away from California

    when I turned 18 would be ideal. I went to Texas to stay with my Aunt in hopes of making a better life for myself. instead i found the same dysfunction as I had when I was living with my parents in California. I ended up doing meth and getting myself into debt. i am now back in...
    halohaley halohaley 18-21, F Feb 7

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    Its An Obsession Of Mine

    the last time i changed, my life fell to hell. and everyone i use to love, hated me. So i have a good reason to fear it. not that i can stop it from happening though, lol, so its a pointless ******* fear.
    kittycat101303 kittycat101303 18-21, F Oct 21, 2010

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    I Need A Push

    This is the one thing about me which truly bothers me the most. I am so scared of change and it completely rules my life. I am not driven to have a career (or even get a job) or go any study or just about do anything! This is turning in such a big issue for me it's insane. When...
    EverSparkling EverSparkling 18-21, F Nov 2, 2011

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    Cha Cha Changes.....

    I used to love change. The excitement of venturing out and trying something new. Or did I? I have come to realize that live is all about perception. What I perceive a situation to be is what I decide it actually is.Right now I am in a place of things changing. I’m about to get...
    30Forward 30Forward 31-35 1 Response Apr 4, 2011

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    Not Change So Much...

    Change requires making a decision and making a decision requires taking a chance and doing something. The change that I can affect I don't and the change that just happens leaves me stressed and insecure.
    Tuva Tuva 31-35, M Dec 7, 2010

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    Change

    I like status quo. You already know what is in store for you. Sometimes though, it's not good enough and changes must be effected. Most of the time, changes are done by force.I feel a lot of changes right now. Changes in the house, changes in the family, changes in the tasks...
    mareliberum mareliberum 26-30 Jan 23, 2013

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    and i fot caught...i was traveling and didnt have time to pull over and change as traffic was horrible. i git caught ib rushhour,traffic. .complete stop. was kinda naughty. but...
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    I'm seriously trying to accept I can not change her mind. I'm trying to accept I'm a failure as a husband and father. I'm trying to accept the fact she was never really attracted...
    heartbreakhurts heartbreakhurts 36-40, M 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    My grandma passed away Sunday and my family is trying to kill my mom because she got all of her possessions and the full inheritance, meanwhile up here my stepdad and me are...
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    For the longest time, I've been in my comfort zone, afraid to chase what I truly wanted to do, but finally got the courage to step out. I'm terribly afraid of what's awaiting me...
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    Hi I am a newbie on here and a little nervous. I have been with my partner for four and a half years. We have had ups and downs but overall we have had some great times. Last...
    monty9944 monty9944 41-45, M 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    Pretty sure this either causes or is caused by my social anxiety. I can't talk to people properly because I'm so afraid they'll just give me a 'wtf why would you even approach me...
    conflictinglives conflictinglives 13-15, M 6 Responses a week ago

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    My divorce will be finalized soon. I'm trying to cope wort the fact that I failed. Maybe I left too soon. Maybe he could've changed. Maybe one day I would've been happy. Just don't...
    sugarcoat01 sugarcoat01 26-30, F 8 Responses Aug 19

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    I am not afraid of it and honestly thats mainly what I am here for. My friend told me about this site because it helped her explore her sexuality and talk to a lot of cool people...
    emmastewart emmastewart 18-21, F 9 Responses Aug 19

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    It really does depend, but I generally feel very very uncomfortable if I am in a room with men only or if a guy is near me. I am gay and am attracted to men but I am afraid of them...
    chemistry6 chemistry6 18-21, M Aug 19

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