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I Am Afraid of Change

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    Certain Changes

    I do not do well with change. I don't like change.
    emipurple emipurple 18-21, F 1 Response Nov 7, 2013

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    Yes And No

    I've always been afraid of change - I like the routine my seemingly uncomplicated life brings me -, but I also need it.  And that is the big paradox in my life: fear versus longing.  So when will I be able to let go of that fear and make the changes that could finally...
    KittyKatty KittyKatty 31-35, F 1 Response Jan 8, 2010

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    Its An Obsession Of Mine

    the last time i changed, my life fell to hell. and everyone i use to love, hated me. So i have a good reason to fear it. not that i can stop it from happening though, lol, so its a pointless ******* fear.
    kittycat101303 kittycat101303 18-21, F Oct 21, 2010

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    Change

    I like status quo. You already know what is in store for you. Sometimes though, it's not good enough and changes must be effected. Most of the time, changes are done by force.I feel a lot of changes right now. Changes in the house, changes in the family, changes in the tasks...
    mareliberum mareliberum 26-30 Jan 23, 2013

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    I thought moving away from California

    when I turned 18 would be ideal. I went to Texas to stay with my Aunt in hopes of making a better life for myself. instead i found the same dysfunction as I had when I was living with my parents in California. I ended up doing meth and getting myself into debt. i am now back in...
    halohaley halohaley 18-21, F Feb 7

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    Safe...

    As 'safe' doesn't apply to me anymore, I 'settle' in rituals, patterns false security etc. Change, it is not familiar to me, so I see it as being a burden, taking me to a place where I am not prepared. I can't not be prepared, I need to plan for anything, and when it gets to a...
    hurtandpain hurtandpain 18-21, F 2 Responses Feb 18, 2010

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    I Need A Push

    This is the one thing about me which truly bothers me the most. I am so scared of change and it completely rules my life. I am not driven to have a career (or even get a job) or go any study or just about do anything! This is turning in such a big issue for me it's insane. When...
    EverSparkling EverSparkling 18-21, F Nov 2, 2011

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    I Am Afraid...

    I am afraid of change because I think something bad will come from it. However, I know that change can make things less boring. I dont like going outside, so I am always on the computer. I decided that I would start having conversations with people online for once. Now I am...
    bellaunq bellaunq 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 12, 2011

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    I'm a pretty big, strong man.

    But change is hard for me. I just closed on a condo and will be living on my own for the first time. But I have already been a renter and have always lived with someone, so this is new to me. I walked into my new home today and felt anxious instead of excited. I have never...
    BigHryRomeo BigHryRomeo 36-40, M 2 Responses Mar 26

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    Really Afraid Of Change

    I've spent the past three weeks in a deep depression, because my sister's dog died (after more than 10 years), my sister left for the navy in October, my dad is 51 this year, and I'm in my junior year of high school and going to be 17 in two months. In my mind it felt like...
    toohonestforowngood toohonestforowngood 18-21, F Dec 28, 2009

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    My Husband Is Changing... I Am Afraid

    I have been married to a wonderful man for 19 years.  We have always seemed to be a good match.  Yes, we've had our arguments, we are both stubborn and headstrong, but I have always thought we were a good match.  In the past few years we have gone through some...
    musing musing 41-45, F 3 Responses May 1, 2009

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    Something New

    I honestly am the type of person that likes to have life figured out. now, the day to day stuff I am fine with something spontaneous happening .. I actually love that, but as for my future I'm pretty set on the way I want things to be.. and it's so scary because I recently just...
    thedancer03 thedancer03 18-21, F Nov 7, 2013

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    Why Must It Change?

    I can deal with little changes, except when there's a big change involved. If something big changes, I notice every little change that happens in my life. At some point it'll become to much and I break down and cry, though this doesn't happen often. I just can't see why such big...
    ReginaMeK ReginaMeK 13-15, F Dec 1, 2010

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    Cha Cha Changes.....

    I used to love change. The excitement of venturing out and trying something new. Or did I? I have come to realize that live is all about perception. What I perceive a situation to be is what I decide it actually is.Right now I am in a place of things changing. I’m about to get...
    30Forward 30Forward 31-35 1 Response Apr 4, 2011

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    Not Change So Much...

    Change requires making a decision and making a decision requires taking a chance and doing something. The change that I can affect I don't and the change that just happens leaves me stressed and insecure.
    Tuva Tuva 31-35, M Dec 7, 2010

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    The only constant in ones life is

    that everything is ever-changing. Sometimes I find myself paralyzed by the thought of change. Although I'm outgoing and spontaneous (at times) I am also a creature of habit. The fear of making the wrong decision, and the impact it will have on my future often deters me from...
    itsallnewstome itsallnewstome 26-30, F 1 Response Mar 4

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    It is an irrational fear of mine, just like how I am afraid to swallow pills even for medical reasons. The fear of rejection is a big part of it. Being told I'm not good enough...
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    About five years ago I lived downtown in a major city in the US. I’ve always been a night person, so I would often find myself bored after my roommate, who was decidedly not a...
    InvinsibleViper InvinsibleViper 22-25, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    I believe I am in s emotionally abusive relationship with my husband who I love more than just about anything in the world, this time I went back home to visit family and I could...
    wash02 wash02 31-35, F 8 Responses 3 days ago

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    It is very hard ... to accept you exist in my work place. At this point of my life, I just wish God will just wipe you off and let you get lost. No I don't hate you but I hate...
    StrongWoman9 StrongWoman9 26-30, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    Don't run, but the idea of death has always fascinated me, just the idea that there is nothing, like you can't even think or anything (as you can tell I have no religious views on...
    poppytippy poppytippy 13-15, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    we are stuck in this point in tune when not everyone wants change because they are afraid of it. but change is us becoming better so ay this point something must give I wonder...
    Johnnyboy57 Johnnyboy57 18-21 1 Response 6 days ago

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    So, i dated this guy. I've known him most of my life. And we used to be so comfortable with each other even before we were friends, because our sisters were best friends, and our...
    selfh8ter98 selfh8ter98 16-17, F a week ago

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    I'm afraid to grow old due to more people dying and the physical effects of it, but I'm also afraid to die because at the same time I also want to live a long, healthy life and...
    Emsickles Emsickles 13-15, F 3 Responses Jul 20

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    So I passed my test last month and a week after, I got my first car from my Dad. When I look back at my driving test, I did really well but I feel like it was a spot of luck as it...
    loubylou93 loubylou93 18-21, F Jul 20

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    This long-term relationship started back in 2012. I said yes to him when he asked if i can be her girlfriend. One year later, i found out that my long time crush and his gf broke...
    xazygreece xazygreece 22-25, F 2 Responses Jul 19

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    I first joined EP- I think- four years ago. I was a lonely and miserable girl stuck in the house all the time, afraid to step outside. I had all these fears and ghosts from the...
    Demonizer Demonizer 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 19

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    LyraAlluse LyraAlluse 26-30, F Jul 19

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    At the very beginning of this summer, I decided to reward myself from a difficult week of final exams with a night spent talking with someone I worked with a year before. (We had...
    dvdkrz dvdkrz 18-21, M 2 Responses Jul 18

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    I am not afraid that I have lost my salvation, I know that I have and yes I am afraid because of that. I gave my life to the Lord in 2008 I had a major encounter with God, I had...
    Coloursearching Coloursearching 22-25 5 Responses Jul 18

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    'Ignorant', 'too nice', 'weird', 'opinionated' etc. I admire those of you who are aware you have different qualities but don't give a flying **** to change it for anyone. It takes...
    anon0109 anon0109 22-25, F 6 Responses Jul 18

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    You don't have to and just don't have to change yourself for anyone else, just stay the way you are and be your self. 😊
    Gladtobehere55 Gladtobehere55 22-25, M 1 Response Jul 17

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    This was the worst trauma of my childhood. In my church they preached vivid sermons about the horrors of hell and the infinite intensity and duration of the suffering. I was...
    AlanOliver AlanOliver 46-50, M 2 Responses Jul 15

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    About five years ago I lived downtown in a major city in the US. I’ve always been a night person, so I would often find myself bored after my roommate, who was decidedly not a...
    TheBionicViper TheBionicViper 22-25, F 1 Response Jul 14

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    I've never been overly comfortable, even when I was a child, I was quite nervous about it, but once I was up in the air, I was fine. But that changed a few years ago, now I'm...
    usernameinneed usernameinneed 26-30, M Jul 14

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    I'm afraid to let someone in. What if the dark side of me is just to ugly? What if someone doesn't love every part of me that makes me who I am? What if they see every part of...
    Aflame22 Aflame22 18-21, F Jul 14

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    I am afraid of rejection, from people in my everyday life. The last few months I have built a box around myself for protection from more hurt. This week I'm going to try to start...
    karen2015 karen2015 41-45, F 7 Responses Jul 13

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    My best friend has small breast, so she wants to do breast augmentation. She thinks if she has huge breast, she could get a PERFECT husband. I do not know if big breast is...
    fitwealth fitwealth 26-30, F Jul 13

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