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I Am Afraid of Change

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    As 'safe' doesn't apply to me anymore, I 'settle' in rituals, patterns false security etc. Change, it is not familiar to me, so I see it as being a burden, taking me to a place where I am not prepared. I can't not be prepared, I need to plan for anything, and when it gets to a...
    hurtandpain hurtandpain 18-21, F 2 Responses Feb 18, 2010

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    I Need A Push

    This is the one thing about me which truly bothers me the most. I am so scared of change and it completely rules my life. I am not driven to have a career (or even get a job) or go any study or just about do anything! This is turning in such a big issue for me it's insane. When...
    EverSparkling EverSparkling 18-21, F Nov 2, 2011

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    Its An Obsession Of Mine

    the last time i changed, my life fell to hell. and everyone i use to love, hated me. So i have a good reason to fear it. not that i can stop it from happening though, lol, so its a pointless ******* fear.
    kittycat101303 kittycat101303 18-21, F Oct 21, 2010

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    I Am Afraid...

    I am afraid of change because I think something bad will come from it. However, I know that change can make things less boring. I dont like going outside, so I am always on the computer. I decided that I would start having conversations with people online for once. Now I am...
    bellaunq bellaunq 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 12, 2011

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    Yes And No

    I've always been afraid of change - I like the routine my seemingly uncomplicated life brings me -, but I also need it.  And that is the big paradox in my life: fear versus longing.  So when will I be able to let go of that fear and make the changes that could finally...
    KittyKatty KittyKatty 31-35, F 1 Response Jan 8, 2010

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    Change

    I like status quo. You already know what is in store for you. Sometimes though, it's not good enough and changes must be effected. Most of the time, changes are done by force.I feel a lot of changes right now. Changes in the house, changes in the family, changes in the tasks...
    mareliberum mareliberum 26-30 Jan 23, 2013

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    Certain Changes

    I do not do well with change. I don't like change.
    emipurple emipurple 18-21, F 1 Response Nov 7, 2013

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    Why Must It Change?

    I can deal with little changes, except when there's a big change involved. If something big changes, I notice every little change that happens in my life. At some point it'll become to much and I break down and cry, though this doesn't happen often. I just can't see why such big...
    ReginaMeK ReginaMeK 13-15, F Dec 1, 2010

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    Really Afraid Of Change

    I've spent the past three weeks in a deep depression, because my sister's dog died (after more than 10 years), my sister left for the navy in October, my dad is 51 this year, and I'm in my junior year of high school and going to be 17 in two months. In my mind it felt like...
    toohonestforowngood toohonestforowngood 18-21, F Dec 28, 2009

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    I thought moving away from California

    when I turned 18 would be ideal. I went to Texas to stay with my Aunt in hopes of making a better life for myself. instead i found the same dysfunction as I had when I was living with my parents in California. I ended up doing meth and getting myself into debt. i am now back in...
    halohaley halohaley 18-21, F Feb 7

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    Not Change So Much...

    Change requires making a decision and making a decision requires taking a chance and doing something. The change that I can affect I don't and the change that just happens leaves me stressed and insecure.
    Tuva Tuva 31-35, M Dec 7, 2010

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    My Husband Is Changing... I Am Afraid

    I have been married to a wonderful man for 19 years.  We have always seemed to be a good match.  Yes, we've had our arguments, we are both stubborn and headstrong, but I have always thought we were a good match.  In the past few years we have gone through some...
    musing musing 41-45, F 3 Responses May 1, 2009

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    Something New

    I honestly am the type of person that likes to have life figured out. now, the day to day stuff I am fine with something spontaneous happening .. I actually love that, but as for my future I'm pretty set on the way I want things to be.. and it's so scary because I recently just...
    thedancer03 thedancer03 18-21, F Nov 7, 2013

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    Cha Cha Changes.....

    I used to love change. The excitement of venturing out and trying something new. Or did I? I have come to realize that live is all about perception. What I perceive a situation to be is what I decide it actually is.Right now I am in a place of things changing. I’m about to get...
    30Forward 30Forward 31-35 1 Response Apr 4, 2011

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    Related Experiences

    I don't just want to change my life i want to change me. I have had a really horrible childhood & my adolescent years were no better but i don't think that gives me an excuse to...
    flyingblossom flyingblossom 26-30, F 9 hrs ago

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    I feel like everyone around me is moving. I don't understand why in life things need to change. Change can be a good thing but Why can't it all just be the same. And everyone just...
    Canadianchick94 Canadianchick94 18-21, F 3 Responses 15 hrs ago

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    He never even did anything to me I'm not sure he really knew I was sick. He doesn't know how much he changed me. I never wanted this much for myself and he made me want it. To...
    LastofmyPeople LastofmyPeople 31-35, F 1 hr ago

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    It is hard to accept change, to "let go" because we become attached to these things. We see them as our only source of happiness, or they give us security. Change is chaotic and...
    curiosi curiosi 51-55, F 6 Responses 2 days ago

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    I have changed I believe. I use to be very shy, scared all the time, afraid of everything, apologetic for everything, not very lively, and always sad. Now I lock away my feelings...
    wedgieshurtalot wedgieshurtalot 16-17, F 1 Response Feb 7

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    So I know it's early, but I have to say it. DON'T be afraid to show the world who you really are. DON'T be afraid to be different because you think people will judge. Let them...
    BrokenCorpse BrokenCorpse 13-15, F 1 Response Feb 3

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    So I'm 22 and still in college which ****** me off so much . There so many things inside of me I wanna express but I'm afraid . I feel like a failure because when I look at myself...
    ish1234567 ish1234567 22-25, M 8 Responses Feb 4

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    I grew up as a religious child. My Father was a pastor at several churches for most of his life and my siblings and I grew up within the church to the point where I actually spent...
    TucanSam200 TucanSam200 22-25, M 1 Response Feb 12

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    I wonder, why do we fear what we do not have any control over? I think this is the reason why people might choose to live in a zone of comfort and when it becomes a habit, it is...
    harmony226 harmony226 26-30, M Feb 16

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    I haven't been afraid all of my life, because I can remember some bits of happiness in my childhood, but even as far back as elementary, I was afraid of failing, middle school...
    LoquaciouslyLucid LoquaciouslyLucid 16-17, M Feb 3

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    I'm not afraid of heights, I'm afraid of falling. I'm not afraid of the dark, I afraid of what's in it. I'm not afraid to love, I'm afraid of not being loved back.
    MysteriousGirl15 MysteriousGirl15 13-15, F 3 Responses Feb 19

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    Someone please change the cover pic for this Experience! Scared me to death!!
    ChiaXUno ChiaXUno 18-21, F Feb 1

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    i know this sounds kinda stupid for those older than me maybe even those younger than me but i really feel like a failure. got wait listed to my dream college and i feel like...
    youngandinexperienced youngandinexperienced 16-17, F 2 Responses Feb 6

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    Not yet, but I am going to. I think its time. I realized today that I am no longer lost--I know who I am and what my needs are, and I am not afraid to own up to it. I will be...
    Winterwolf1231 Winterwolf1231 46-50, M 9 Responses Feb 9

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    Day in and day out, I save myself the embarrassment of failure by simply staying at a distance. Not moving up. I can read a verdict before it's even been handed down. You can claim...
    LifeIsBeatingMe LifeIsBeatingMe 26-30, M 2 Responses Feb 12

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    I'm not a believer in Friday the 13th being unlucky at all. I have been to supposedly hunted houses in the past and told the "ghosts" to Foff and even insulted them to see if they...
    louisetiger1 louisetiger1 31-35, F Feb 13

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    Something I wrote in my diary few weeks ago, and it always crosses my mind: “I don’t fear much things but I hate to admit that being hurt is one of my fears, because if I did...
    SmartnDangerous SmartnDangerous 22-25, F 2 Responses Feb 14

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    I believe God has told me that I have truly lost my salvation. When I was young I prayed to God asking Jesus into my heart, (though not feeling any conversion or conviction), I did...
    unsaveable unsaveable 18-21, M 3 Responses Feb 15

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    Been through a few relationships.. None of which ended well or very long.. I wish things would change but everything is bleak.
    FemboyAurora FemboyAurora 13-15, M 1 Response Feb 19

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    I'm still afraid of driving and even people who sits in my car was afraid too , I hope the driving coach won't freak out teaching me to drive (if Only the coach is available) . Oh...
    minniekoala minniekoala 22-25, F Feb 20

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    "You and I should stay in tonight, and have a thr.ees0me with LOVE" -Jonny Ox- My girl sent this to me, i don't like the word three n a some,but this change a lot lmao
    FaitAccomp1i FaitAccomp1i 70+, M 3 Responses 4 days ago

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    I am starting to give up on life. Each day I grow emotionally weaker and weaker. Every crush that I have ever has ended up in failure which makes me think that I'm a failure. I...
    elugo12345 elugo12345 18-21, M 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    My FAKE Mother... Obviously, you can conclude that she is not my biological Mother. My Mother was killed and had her identity stolen by an INDIAN genocide. This morning, this...
    ONESTARRYSTARRYNIGHT ONESTARRYSTARRYNIGHT 26-30, F Feb 1

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    I'm not afraid to die. If I should die, then I guess I'll die, but I'm just not concerned about an afterlife or anything such as that. I'm just gunna try my hardest and live my...
    Varjo Varjo 16-17, F Feb 1

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    It comes and goes, but yesterday I went through some flashbacks, and last night had night terrors, so today I'm really feeling afraid. I want to go to sleep, but I'm afraid to...
    brokenat5 brokenat5 61-65, M Feb 1

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    I was always afraid of rejection. I rarely show people the 'real' me though I'm not so sure who's the 'real' me. I'm afraid that once they found out the other side of me, they'll...
    deleted deleted 26-30 8 Responses Feb 4

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    I was in a relationship for 6 years. I thought he was the one. I gave him everything. I asked for nothing in return but to be loved by him and only him. He left me for a kid half...
    GayDad1975 GayDad1975 36-40, M 1 Response Feb 5

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    It isn't that I am afraid of failing, it is that I am afraid of disappointing others with my failures. I have a desire to make everyone happy and sometimes that just isn't possible...
    1Fortnight 1Fortnight 16-17, T 3 Responses Feb 6

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    I'm actually afraid to love too hard... You think your love can push someone away? Or even scare them away? It's scary to really express someone how you feel because you're afraid...
    sadgurl2015 sadgurl2015 18-21, F 2 Responses Feb 12

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    I didn't know that one day I will lost my job because of my anxiety and I didn't know that I will have anxiety. And starting my life from the start is so hard. I'm afraid of...
    perrilive perrilive 26-30, F 1 Response Feb 13

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    oh my god, today i had swim regional's. I was so scared i was going to have a panic attack in the 200, i was afraid i was gonna disappoint everyone on my team. I placed 3rd (out of...
    Nightlover223 Nightlover223 13-15, F 2 Responses Feb 14

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    Eeergh. I'm almost finished with my four years. I'm going to get a BFA in illustration from a small-ish art school. Professors and students say I will be fine, based on the...
    ArtRhinoceros ArtRhinoceros 18-21, F Feb 15

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